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Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Girl. Hi, friends,

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Speaker 1: welcome back to I Choose Me. This podcast is all

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Speaker 1: about the choices we make and how they truly shape

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Speaker 1: our lives. Today, I am welcoming a trailblazer, someone who

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Speaker 1: didn't just join the entertainment world, she changed it. We

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Speaker 1: are talking about the iconic Daisy Fuantes. Daisy didn't just

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Speaker 1: find a seat at the table, She built an entirely

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Speaker 1: new wing. She became MTV's first Latina vij and the

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Speaker 1: first Latina to ever Land a global Revlon contract That

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Speaker 1: is historic right there, you guys. Daisy has been her

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Speaker 1: entire career choosing boldness and self belief, using her visibility

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Speaker 1: not just for success, but for service as well. Now

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Speaker 1: here's what I love. In her latest chapter, Miss Flint

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Speaker 1: does is choosing health over hustle and presence over pressure.

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Speaker 1: She's simplified her life. She's embraced a beautiful, leguan lifestyle

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Speaker 1: with her husband, the renowned Richard Marx, and is finding

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Speaker 1: pure joy in cooking, learning, and soaking up as many

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Speaker 1: sunsets as possible. It is my immense joy to welcome

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Speaker 1: Daisy Flints. Daisy Daisy Daisy, what a long and glorious

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Speaker 1: career you have forged for yourself.

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Speaker 2: Oh who knew? You must have? I really didn't. I

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Speaker 2: really didn't know. I was not one of those people

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Speaker 2: who kind of had the vision of what I wanted

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Speaker 2: to do. I always envied those kids in school who

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Speaker 2: knew from a very young age, Oh, I'm going to

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Speaker 2: be a teacher, I'm going to be a doctor, I'm

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Speaker 2: going to be a law And I never knew what

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Speaker 2: I wanted to do. Yeah, I never knew what I

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Speaker 2: was good at. And I really think that my career

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Speaker 2: truly came to me from pure manifestation. Really, I really think.

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Speaker 1: So at what point were you like, this is what

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Speaker 1: I want to do. I want to go and get

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Speaker 1: it a start model because you started modeling.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but that was also a fluke. I didn't go

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Speaker 2: out and search for it. It came to you. It

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Speaker 2: came to me. Was My next door neighbor was short

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Speaker 2: in a model. One day, her little sister used to

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Speaker 2: play with my little sister, and I guess she'd seen

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Speaker 2: me around and she came knocking at the door and

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Speaker 2: asked my mom if she would allow me to go

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Speaker 2: with her. Because two of her models called in sick.

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Speaker 2: She was doing a photo shoot. She knew I would

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Speaker 2: fit into the clothes and that's how that and I thought, Mommy, please,

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Speaker 2: I've gotta go do this. This is what I've been manifying.

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Speaker 2: I used to go through the magazines and imagine myself

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Speaker 2: in the editorials, literally like without thinking, oh, I want

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Speaker 2: to do this one day, I would just think, gosh,

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Speaker 2: it must be so great, Like what a great life

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Speaker 2: this girl has shows up for work and this is

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Speaker 2: her situation. If I were there, I would certainly enjoy it,

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Speaker 2: and I would oh and I could also I would

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Speaker 2: literally put myself in the page, which is manifestation.

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Speaker 1: And I realized that's what I was doing. Absolutely. Wow,

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Speaker 1: it worked even back then before it was cool.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, listen, that's the thing with manifestation is that

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Speaker 2: I truly believe, like I know it's working. It works

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Speaker 2: because everything is energy and vibration, So it's working whether

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Speaker 2: you believe in it or not, whether you understand it

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Speaker 2: or not. It's not about believing it, it's about understanding it.

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Speaker 1: You are speaking my language. What's the difference between believing

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Speaker 1: and understanding?

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Speaker 2: Because I think when you say I believe in it,

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Speaker 2: you're also saying it's possible to not believe in it, right,

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Speaker 2: it can be. It doesn't matter whether you believe in

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Speaker 2: it or not. It's there. It's happening, whether you understand

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Speaker 1: So true, right, yes, whether you noticed it or not,

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Speaker 1: Like whether you're you pay attention, yes, because it's happening

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Speaker 2: The minute you start paying attention, you realize how you're

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Speaker 2: manifesting things that you don't want, right even.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, I've been there. Yeah. I mean when you

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Speaker 1: look back at all that you have accomplished, all of

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Speaker 1: that first contract, that global cosmetic contract, that first VJ

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Speaker 2: I mean?

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Speaker 1: Was there a moment you realize I'm not just succeeding

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Speaker 2: I didn't realize that until I was told. You know,

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Speaker 2: I was genuinely doing what I do. I was living

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Speaker 2: when I started doing that on camera, it was apparently

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Speaker 2: just like many of us live like this, in this country.

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Speaker 2: Many of us are, you know, two cultures, two languages,

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Speaker 2: many many many. It just hadn't been there was no

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Speaker 2: And so when it was pointed out to me by

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Speaker 2: of like, oh, you know, you're doing this crossover, and

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Speaker 2: it was a word that I'd never heard before. So

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Speaker 2: that's when I started hearing the word crossover, and I

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Speaker 2: started hearing oh you did. You were the first Hispanic woman,

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Speaker 2: I don't think even at that time I clocked the

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Speaker 2: thought it was, oh, that's cool. You know, you're young,

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Speaker 2: and you don't you're living in the moment. I wasn't

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Speaker 2: trying to do anything extraordinary. I was just so happy

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Speaker 2: to be given the work and to be thriving. I

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Speaker 2: thought it would end. I thought every job I got

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Speaker 2: enjoying it as like this thing, that this opportunity that

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Speaker 1: All in Yes, that's what happens as we get older.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's when you, you know, in hindsight, you start

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Speaker 2: looking at the things that you've done. Yeah, I'm sure

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Speaker 2: you can relate to this, especially you're living an era

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Speaker 2: so in it that you don't really have the time

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Speaker 2: to see what is going on, what you're creating, what

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Speaker 2: you're doing, how people see you, until it's over, until

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Speaker 2: you're a little bit older and you're able to look

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Speaker 2: back and go, wow, I was I killed it. I

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Speaker 2: was a badass.

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Speaker 1: Isn't that the best thing about getting older? Yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like being able to objectively look back at your life, yes,

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Speaker 1: and see all that you've accomplished and all the challenges

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. And also yes, and also look back and go,

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Speaker 2: I was so dumb. How could I have thought I

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Speaker 2: wasn't cute? Or how could I have thought? How could

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Speaker 2: I have been so insecure about this? That and the

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Speaker 2: other thing. It's so true.

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Speaker 1: I look back at my younger self, I'm like, oh

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Speaker 2: She's so hot, like so hot, she's killing I look

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Speaker 2: at her. I'm like, yes, go on, yes, s killing

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Speaker 2: the game and we didn't even know it.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know it. We didn't even listen. No, we

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Speaker 1: took none of that in. We only took the negative

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Speaker 1: and self criticism and the self.

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Speaker 2: Doubst yes, which I still you know, it still creeps

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Speaker 2: remind myself, like, stop it, what are you doing? Stop?

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Speaker 2: Like you look the best that you're going to look

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Speaker 2: from here on, Like you're the youngest that you're we're

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Speaker 1: Right now, Today's the day live it up?

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Speaker 2: So true.

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Speaker 1: What advice would you give someone who feels like the

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Speaker 1: thing that they want doesn't exist, for someone that looks

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Speaker 1: like them or the thing, or they're waiting for permission

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Speaker 2: Oh, the waiting for permission is a big one because

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Speaker 2: again with age comes the power and the wisdom to

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Speaker 2: realize that you're the one that gives yourself permission. You're

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Speaker 2: have to forgive yourself for mistakes. You have to just

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Speaker 2: be okay with it. Like I have this really healthy

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Speaker 1: Will have a voice that goes Oh you can't do that.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh that's twenty calories. Oh you probably shouldn't take

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Speaker 2: that chance. My voice is like, you deserve it. Go

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Speaker 2: for it, do it, have the pizza, have another pizza?

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Speaker 2: What what? What's the worst I can to happen? Just

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Speaker 2: go for it. You deserve it, like you deserve my voice.

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Speaker 2: I've trained that annoying voice in my head the negative

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Speaker 1: You want, You earned it.

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Speaker 2: How'd you do that?

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Speaker 1: How'd you train it?

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Speaker 2: Because I started catching the negativity in it, and I

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Speaker 2: started going, who is that bitch talking? Who is that

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Speaker 2: caught her and I was like you stop, like you

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Speaker 2: and then it sneaks through. But I've kind of trained

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Speaker 2: I love hearing.

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Speaker 1: I love having this conversation with women from all walks

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Speaker 1: You know, CEOs. We all have the same negative track

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Speaker 1: of course, And it's about learning. It's a practice control it.

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Speaker 2: It's a practice, you know, like I used to wear

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Speaker 2: somebody get ready to go out, get in front of

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Speaker 2: I'm so fat, Like this doesn't look right on me,

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Speaker 2: and I switched it to oh I just got to

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Speaker 2: Like I don't even like who cares? Yeah, like, Ohoka,

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Speaker 2: it's not me, Like, yeah, maybe I'm a couple of

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Speaker 2: The thing is like, just put something else on. Look

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Speaker 2: look great and feel good.

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Speaker 1: Stop the queen of self positive talk.

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Speaker 2: It's a practice, Listen. It doesn't work all the time.

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Speaker 2: But no, I'm just putting it out there because I

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Speaker 2: know that we all have that we all have that

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Speaker 2: be nice. We can train her to be a little nicer.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh I love that. It gives me hope and

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Speaker 1: possibilities for everyone listening, it's so good. I think it's

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Speaker 1: safe to say, at least from an outside perspective, that

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Speaker 1: it seems like beauty was your open door it was

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Speaker 1: no shade on that, because you truly defined beauty for

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Speaker 1: so many women out there and really paved the way.

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Speaker 1: And cut to here we all are. Here, we are,

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Speaker 1: all these years later, still in the spotlight, both here,

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Speaker 1: still killing it. But the spotlight has changed and aging

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Speaker 1: what was once a very bad thing. I feel like

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Speaker 1: the tides are turning, maybe you know, and now there's

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Speaker 1: a new understanding and a new appreciation for women as

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Speaker 2: I don't know if that appreciation is there or we're

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Speaker 2: it more. Yeah, I don't know that the world has

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Speaker 2: It's not easy, you know, especially those of us who've

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Speaker 2: I think that knowledge, curiosity, kindness is much more important

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Speaker 2: I'm obsessed with learning. I go down every rabbit hole,

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Speaker 1: It's absolutely was there an inner shift moment for you

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Speaker 1: Was there a point in your evolution. Maybe it was

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Speaker 1: Really, I just I could never. I don't want my dad,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to harass my dad. No. Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: A little bit? A little bit. I wasn't like super

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, So I love that you didn't just get

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Speaker 2: Well, you know, when you become popular, when you become

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Speaker 2: sure I could do that privately, I do. And it's

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00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 2: about having the opportunity to speak up for someone that's

438
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 2: really special. So I think that that's a privilege that

439
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 2: we all have, and that's a privilege that frankly, we

440
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 2: all have now because of social media.

441
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:38,160
Speaker 1: Every one of us.

442
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:42,360
Speaker 2: Every one of us has the privilege of saying, oh,

443
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,720
Speaker 2: I found this organization, I went there, I spoke to

444
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:49,600
Speaker 2: this person, this is what I found out. I think ultimately,

445
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 2: we all want to help and it's hard to figure

446
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:56,639
Speaker 2: out who you can trust. So when you hear somebody

447
00:24:56,680 --> 00:24:59,360
Speaker 2: talking about something that they where they've put in the work,

448
00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:03,640
Speaker 2: where they talked with someone, where they learned something, that's

449
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 2: something that we can all share with each other.

450
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:08,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that that's that one of the best

451
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 1: parts of social media, Yeah, one of the Yeah, one

452
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: of the best parts. Let's just say that you stand

453
00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:18,399
Speaker 1: up for our communities that aren't always reached, like the

454
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 1: Latina community specifically facing breast cancer. I'm curious what do

455
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 1: you think the most urgent conversations in the Latina community

456
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:35,160
Speaker 1: around breast cancer awareness, early detection, let's say, equitable care.

457
00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 1: What do you think those conversations need to be.

458
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 2: I think the conversation needs to be still early detection,

459
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 2: being aware of it, and around shame. It's not your fault.

460
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 2: I think that that's still happening. That's still important for

461
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,879
Speaker 2: you to feel like you didn't do anything wrong. You know,

462
00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 2: you didn't miss it, you didn't eat wrong, you didn't

463
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 2: not exercise, you didn't there's still a little bit of

464
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 2: a stigma. I think around shame with women and breast cancer,

465
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:10,960
Speaker 2: that maybe it was somehow their fall.

466
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 1: That's wild.

467
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:15,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean.

468
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 1: I think with anything with any illness or disease, our

469
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 1: minds usually go straight.

470
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 2: To what did I do?

471
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,679
Speaker 1: How did I mess this up? Yes, and look at

472
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: all the people I'm going to upset or disappoint.

473
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 2: I think that's also a female trait.

474
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:34,800
Speaker 1: What a fun trait to carry around?

475
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:37,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, it really is.

476
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you are in what looks like a

477
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 1: very happy marriage. Your husband, the remarkable Richard Mars so

478
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 1: happy to see you so happy in this chapter of

479
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 1: your life. You've talked talked about simplifying your life. You've

480
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:07,360
Speaker 1: talked about embracing a median lifestyle and health so that

481
00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 1: you and he can enjoy as many sunsets as possible.

482
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, now that we have more behind us than ahead

483
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 2: of us.

484
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean you, how would.

485
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:23,040
Speaker 2: You You're younger than your husband, right, yeahty nine, he's

486
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 2: sixty two.

487
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 1: Because nothing I thought. I don't know why. I thought

488
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 1: there was a very difference. I've always seen you as younger.

489
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 1: I don't know why, but you'll always be. I'm one

490
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 1: of those people that has likesaged me sometimes, I think,

491
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 1: so this is like the free you know, very people

492
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 1: are very comfortable around you. People comfortable.

493
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:43,120
Speaker 2: I like that.

494
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:48,680
Speaker 1: What helped you choose contentment and presence and health over

495
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 1: perfectionism and the hustle and you know, I mean, especially

496
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:58,400
Speaker 1: with all those decades in such a high glamour industry.

497
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:08,679
Speaker 2: I think part of it maybe is realizing what I

498
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,159
Speaker 2: just said, that I have more sunsets behind me than

499
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:14,640
Speaker 2: ahead of me, and really figuring out how I want

500
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 2: to spend my time, which is the most precious thing

501
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:22,879
Speaker 2: that we have, which is the most valuable thing that

502
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,960
Speaker 2: we have, and we don't get enough of it, especially

503
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 2: when you meet your person later in life. There's just

504
00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 2: not enough of it. So it's really important to me

505
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 2: to figure out how I want to spend my time.

506
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 2: And I want to spend my time doing things that

507
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 2: make me feel good, being with my family, being with

508
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 2: my friends, creating a beautiful home, traveling with my husband

509
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 2: who's still you know, a traveling, touring pop star, and

510
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 2: I now get to travel with him. Like, how lucky

511
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 2: am I?

512
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 1: That sounds amazing, not just.

513
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 2: That I get to travel with him, but I have

514
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 2: the energy to travel with him, and I look forward

515
00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 2: to it and we have on the fact that I'm

516
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 2: aware of that. I don't want to take that for granted.

517
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: Going back to like the pressures that we put on

518
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 1: ourselves as women, as women in your position, in my position,

519
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 1: how did you manage that? How did you Because there

520
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 1: was a long time when I mismanaged it?

521
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too.

522
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 1: What did that look like when you mismanaged it?

523
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 2: I think just feeling like I needed to do things

524
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 2: the things, and saying a lot of yes to things

525
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 2: instead of really thinking, like picking and choosing your yes.

526
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 2: That's important, realizing what your priorities are, the fact that

527
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 2: the things that you do or things that now you

528
00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 2: choose to do, they're not things that you have to do.

529
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 2: You don't need the spotlight. You're doing things that make

530
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:05,479
Speaker 2: you feel good, that provide you and your family a

531
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 2: little extra security. But we now have that choice. We

532
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 2: always have a choice. There's always a choice. So picking

533
00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 2: and choosing what aligns with you and with your values

534
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 2: and where you are at that particular stage of your

535
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 2: life is definitely always worth considering. Pausing, meditating on it,

536
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 2: feel it out, and also giving yourself permission to change

537
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 2: your mind on things like, oh, I thought this was

538
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 2: going to work. I don't like it, I'm not doing it.

539
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 1: Did you ever have those moments where you say yes

540
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 1: to things and then you know, a couple of weeks

541
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 1: go by and then the thing is there, It's on

542
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 1: the calendar tomorrow, it's happening. Why did I say.

543
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 2: Yes to this the time all the time?

544
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: How do you deal with that?

545
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 2: Do you just have to suck it up and just

546
00:30:58,480 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 2: do it?

547
00:30:59,520 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 1: Yeah?

548
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 2: Sometimes you do, because and then I'm always happy that

549
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 2: I did, Because I always kind of get into the

550
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 2: mood of whether it's socializing or going out or getting

551
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 2: dressed or whatever. It always ends up being fine. But

552
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 2: sometimes I learned my lesson. I'm like, I remember the

553
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 2: last time that I did that, it wasn't worth it.

554
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 2: I am not doing it again.

555
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. If we had that hindsight then.

556
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 2: But we do. But we do do we know.

557
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 1: Even in the moment you're saying we have it, yeah,

558
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 1: I think we now we have Now we have it.

559
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 2: Now we have We didn't always have it. Yeah, but

560
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 2: we've lived so much that we've pretty much done everything. Like, right,

561
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 2: what's anyone going to throw at you that you haven't

562
00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 2: already experienced in one form or another. I mean like.

563
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 1: Nothing, hopefully nothing everything. I think that there's probably a

564
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 1: lot of things out there that I haven't done.

565
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 2: That's because you don't want to do them, since I'm.

566
00:31:57,680 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 1: Not putting myself in that position.

567
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, there are a lot of things I haven't

568
00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 2: done and I won't do because I don't want to

569
00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 2: do them. But we've experienced so much in our lives

570
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 2: at this point, at this stage, we know we can

571
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 2: trust our gut, we can see where something is heading.

572
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 2: We know what's going to happen when you get to

573
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 2: the thing with the people. You know it's going to

574
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 2: be required of you, what's going to be asked of you.

575
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 1: We know it. We didn't know it then.

576
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, we kept hoping for a different outcome. I guess right,

577
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 2: you know.

578
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 1: And sometimes it's just survival. Yeah, I've committed to this,

579
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 1: and that's okay.

580
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 2: But at least you're going in and knowing what you're

581
00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 2: getting into, like, oh, this is my favorite thing to do,

582
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 2: but I'm going to feel good doing it and I

583
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 2: want to do it.

584
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,360
Speaker 1: And also you're probably going to learn something sure, sure

585
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 1: from anything we have.

586
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 2: There's a couple that we go out with a lot,

587
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 2: and every now and then, well we'll make a dinner plan.

588
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 2: We some of us will show up at dinner and

589
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 2: we'll all look at each other and be like, oh

590
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:04,760
Speaker 2: my god, I almost canceled tonight. And they'll be like,

591
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 2: oh my god, we totally almost canceled tonight. I'm so

592
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:08,160
Speaker 2: glad we didn't. We can tell you that because we

593
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 2: feel comfortable with you. But oh, I was hoping you

594
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 2: would cancel. But then I was going to cancel, and

595
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 2: I was, And we do that all the time. But

596
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 2: we really love hanging out with each other, and the

597
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 2: truth is, we'd all be fine if any one of

598
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 2: us cancels, but we're like, no, we really want to

599
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 2: do this. We're not going to get lazy. So it's

600
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:29,640
Speaker 2: really about acknowledging when you're being lazy, because the truth is,

601
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 2: we can just sit around and do nothing, but we

602
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 2: don't want to. We have to push ourselves to do

603
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 2: some of the things that we know we're going to

604
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 2: feel good about doing all the.

605
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 1: Time, right, that are going to bring like new experiences

606
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: or new insights or different perspectives. And you're like, I

607
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 1: have a tendency to stay home a lot, yes, because

608
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 1: this isn't a great love being home. It's the best

609
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 1: I can just be content, right, and it's the best feeling.

610
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: But sometimes I'm like, wait, do I have an issue here, Like, Emma,

611
00:33:58,280 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 1: is this agoraphobia?

612
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 2: Is that what it's called? Yes, I think it's an

613
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 2: I think it's a balance. Okay, don't you think it's

614
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 2: a balance, Because yes, we could totally stay home and

615
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 2: do nothing and that would be fine, and we can

616
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 2: also push ourselves to do too much of the stuff

617
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 2: that we don't really need to do, So It's about

618
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 2: pushing ourselves enough to keep ourselves, you know, energetic, and

619
00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:25,320
Speaker 2: feeling like we are part of the world, and also

620
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:28,040
Speaker 2: taking the time to do nothing when you need it.

621
00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:31,000
Speaker 2: I think it's an important balance and a difficult one.

622
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 2: So true.

623
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean the nervous system and the voice on

624
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 1: repeat is so so strong.

625
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:38,680
Speaker 2: Yeah.

626
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 1: Do you have you know, the craving for those endorphins

627
00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 1: of being that girl, the it girl, the girl that's

628
00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 1: got the flash bulbs going and everybody's wanting her. Did

629
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 1: you do you look back now and recognize that.

630
00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 2: I look back now and thought I should have enjoyed

631
00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 2: that more, because there is a fun part to that. Yeah,

632
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 2: I should have enjoyed that more.

633
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:02,879
Speaker 1: Why weren't you enjoying it?

634
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 2: I was too self conscious. I was too critical of

635
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 2: the photos after I would see them. I was trying

636
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 2: to always wear the perfect thing or always I was

637
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:20,400
Speaker 2: just thinking too much about all the nonsense, instead of

638
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 2: being like, oh, how lucky I am I that I

639
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 2: get to wear like this great dress, look fabulous in it,

640
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 2: and then people want to take my picture like that's

641
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 2: so great, It's so fun. If only I could have

642
00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:31,640
Speaker 2: thought of it that simply.

643
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:35,360
Speaker 1: I don't think the word gratitude.

644
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:37,880
Speaker 2: Was talked about. It wasn't a big thing. I mean,

645
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:41,880
Speaker 2: I remember being grateful, feeling lucky. I remember feeling lucky

646
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 2: to be in the position.

647
00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:46,240
Speaker 1: That I was. Yeah, but I don't there's something different

648
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: between feeling lucky and feeling grateful. I think you're right, Yeah,

649
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 1: because grateful, it's just you are able to step back

650
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 1: and really appreciate everything that you've gotten to do. And

651
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 1: I think again, with age comes that ability.

652
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think with age we're more aware of living

653
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 2: in the moment, of being present and acknowledging what's happening

654
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 2: in that moment. I wasn't able to do that as

655
00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:12,760
Speaker 2: much when I was younger. It was it was so fast.

656
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: You've been a hustler. Yeah, you've been a badass hustler.

657
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 2: I've been going and going and going.

658
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 1: And do you feel like at this stage now, with

659
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:25,280
Speaker 1: your happy marriage and you're you know, began and healthy

660
00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 1: and all these wonderful attributes to this life that the

661
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 1: stage that you're in.

662
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 2: I'm definitely anti hustle culture right now.

663
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 1: You are.

664
00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 2: I am anti hustle everywhere. Oh yeah, it is. I

665
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 2: feel it.

666
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 1: I feel it like I feel like I have to

667
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 1: hustle in order to get to a certain point where

668
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 1: I won't have to hustle anything.

669
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 2: So like, for example, the cold plunges. I tried it,

670
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 2: and then I was like, why in the world would

671
00:36:58,239 --> 00:36:59,680
Speaker 2: I put myself through this?

672
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 1: Or I can't even imagine. So I was like, no, no,

673
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:06,799
Speaker 1: I don't care how good that is for me or

674
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 1: how good you say that is for me. No, I'm

675
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:12,440
Speaker 1: sure it is really good for you, but I cannot

676
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:13,759
Speaker 1: do it. I don't want to do it.

677
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 2: You know how people are saying, you know, you got

678
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:17,240
Speaker 2: to just got to get out of your comfort zone.

679
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:19,239
Speaker 2: You've got to push yourself to do the things that

680
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 2: make you uncomfortable and take challenges. And I'm all, I'm

681
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 2: all for a challenge, like I enjoy a good challenge

682
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 2: every now and then. However, I am in the era

683
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,280
Speaker 2: where I am looking to step deeper into my comfort

684
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 2: zone right now. So do not talk to me about

685
00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 2: getting out of my comfort zone because I've done that

686
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:37,319
Speaker 2: all my life and my.

687
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:42,279
Speaker 1: Life that's right, It's time to stay comfortable, damn right.

688
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 1: I love that. Do you Guys have a lot of

689
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,920
Speaker 1: music going on your house? You like brings you peace?

690
00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 2: What is it?

691
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:56,400
Speaker 1: What does music do for you?

692
00:37:57,000 --> 00:38:02,399
Speaker 2: It sets the mood, It sets the tone. It's when

693
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 2: we have the lights on a timer, so at sunset exactly,

694
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:10,319
Speaker 2: our lights come on and they're dimmed exactly to a

695
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:12,839
Speaker 2: mood that we like all over the house. So it's

696
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:14,799
Speaker 2: like this dim light. The minute that that happens, the

697
00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 2: music comes on and rituals say can I make you

698
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 2: more tini? Like yeah, wow, and we turn our house

699
00:38:21,680 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 2: and our space into like let's welcome the night. And

700
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 2: it just sets the tone. You can delete all the

701
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 2: nonsense from the day, talk about it a little bit,

702
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:33,839
Speaker 2: and then just enjoy the night. And the music helps

703
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:34,600
Speaker 2: us set that tone.

704
00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 1: It really does. I forget about music and it's power.

705
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 2: Sometimes when I wake up in the morning, I put

706
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:47,800
Speaker 2: on like a yoga meditation music, which is a certain

707
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 2: frequency that is for calming and for being alert and

708
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 2: for relaxation. So it's almost like when you walk into

709
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 2: a spa. Yes, this this almost subliminal.

710
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:03,880
Speaker 1: Oh I just felt it. I just put myself in

711
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 1: a spat thanks. Yeah, So I'm all about that. Like

712
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 1: I want to have the music, I want to have

713
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,720
Speaker 1: the scent. I want to open all the doors.

714
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 2: I want to create an environment for myself all the

715
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 2: time that makes me feel good, you know. And the

716
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 2: truth is, we've worked.

717
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 1: So hard to have these nice homes that we have.

718
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:25,760
Speaker 2: And you know, I can tell that you take pride

719
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 2: in like creating an ambiance and a home that you

720
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 2: feel comfortable in. So why not fully treat ourselves to that.

721
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 2: I'm big on light the candle, do the oil, incense,

722
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 2: the music, and get the nice robe. And I'm all

723
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 2: for that.

724
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:48,840
Speaker 1: Treat yourself home where the heart is deep. I always

725
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,760
Speaker 1: call myself a homemaker. I don't know why. It reminds

726
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 1: me like Betty Crocker.

727
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:54,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you make the home.

728
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 1: But I am a homemaker and I'm not ashamed to

729
00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 1: say it.

730
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but I think most of us are. Most

731
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 2: women MA make the home.

732
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 1: We like to nest.

733
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:05,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, we make we make it pretty, we make it

734
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:10,839
Speaker 2: comfortable for everybody, make it safe. Yep. And one thing

735
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:12,839
Speaker 2: I love about Richard is every now and then he'll

736
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 2: say to me, He'll go, you know what. I know,

737
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 2: I don't say it enough, but I really appreciate how

738
00:40:17,040 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 2: beautiful you've made our home. I'm like, oh my god,

739
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 2: somebody noticed. That's so nice I'm constantly like wanting to

740
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 2: do it, mostly for myself, but I really appreciate it

741
00:40:27,080 --> 00:40:28,359
Speaker 2: when other people notice it.

742
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:33,400
Speaker 1: That's one hundred percent true. Okay, So what would you

743
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:37,760
Speaker 1: tell young Daisy M to not be so self conscious?

744
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 2: Yeah?

745
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 1: Mention that, But what else I would.

746
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 2: Tell her to be more present? I would say, look

747
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:46,839
Speaker 2: at your surroundings. Just stop, look at yourself, look at

748
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 2: where you are, look at what you've done. Stop and

749
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 2: think about how you feel. Think about what you want

750
00:40:56,239 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 2: to do more than what everybody is telling you to do.

751
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,600
Speaker 2: You know, all through my twenties and thirties, I was

752
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:10,320
Speaker 2: hired talent. I was read the teleprompter and liked this video,

753
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:13,919
Speaker 2: do that interview, and dress this way where that don't.

754
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 2: That's too sexy, that's not sexy enough. And I went

755
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 2: with that flow for so long that when I really

756
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 2: stopped to think about it, I didn't know what I wanted.

757
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 2: I didn't know how I wanted to dress. I didn't

758
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:33,279
Speaker 2: know what my deal breakers were. I didn't know what

759
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 2: I stood for. I didn't know what I And that

760
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:41,880
Speaker 2: realization was the beginning of my really coming into my

761
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:46,440
Speaker 2: own and standing up for myself and thinking about you know,

762
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 2: who am I? Because people tell you, like, just be yourself.

763
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:51,920
Speaker 2: My best thing is to be authentic. Just be yourself.

764
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 2: And you're going around thinking that you're being authentic and

765
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 2: being yourself, but nobody tells you how to figure out

766
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 2: who you are are? Like, who are you? So that

767
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 2: you can be authentic? What are the things you need

768
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:05,280
Speaker 2: to ask yourself?

769
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 1: Right?

770
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 2: What are your deal breakers? What do you like? What

771
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 2: do you stand for? What won't you stand for anymore?

772
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:14,319
Speaker 2: What are your boundaries? Like without becoming militant about it,

773
00:42:14,360 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 2: but just a realization for yourself so that you can

774
00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 2: lean a little bit more into who you are. How

775
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 2: can you do that if you don't know who you are?

776
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:27,319
Speaker 1: It's so wild. I think I can only relate to

777
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:30,120
Speaker 1: the industry, growing up in the industry, and like you

778
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 1: and I did, but I feel like we spend so

779
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 1: much time, you know, being directed, told what to do.

780
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 2: Yes.

781
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 1: Then you're all of a sudden, you're out in the world,

782
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 1: like you said, and you have no idea who you

783
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:45,600
Speaker 1: are or what you should be doing. And it takes

784
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 1: a good amount of time to sit with yourself in

785
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,919
Speaker 1: that uncomfortable space of acknowledging the fact that you don't

786
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 1: know who the hell you are. Yeah, you don't know

787
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 1: what you want? Yeah, what age do you think that

788
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 1: happened for you?

789
00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 2: It started happening for me Probably might thirties, because before

790
00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:04,239
Speaker 2: that I was just too busy to even stop to

791
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:08,319
Speaker 2: think about any of it. I was just going we

792
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 2: all get caught up in that. I think. I see

793
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 2: a lot of young women doing it now, and I

794
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 2: guess that's that's the age where you just you go

795
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 2: for it and you take advantage of opportunities that come

796
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 2: your way. You're influenced by your peers, by people who

797
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 2: you look up to, So that's the time to really

798
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:31,399
Speaker 2: take it all in and kind of try everything out.

799
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:35,160
Speaker 2: But it was I wish I'd done it sooner. I

800
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 2: see a lot of young women I have younger friends

801
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 2: and love. I think that women in their twenties are

802
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 2: much more mature these days than they were when I

803
00:43:43,239 --> 00:43:46,440
Speaker 2: was in my twenties, I think rightfully, so. They have

804
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 2: so much more information. They're able to connect with the

805
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 2: entire world. I wasn't.

806
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 1: We're so isolated right in our own heads.

807
00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:57,000
Speaker 2: Yes, So it wasn't really until my thirties that I

808
00:43:57,040 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 2: started thinking about, like I would say, things, and then

809
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 2: I would catch myself going, why do I think that?

810
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 2: Where did I hear that? Who said it? Oh? So

811
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,799
Speaker 2: and so said it, and it resonated, so it must

812
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 2: be true. We did a lot of that. We did

813
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:13,000
Speaker 2: a lot of repeating of the things that we heard

814
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:17,839
Speaker 2: other people who we thought were smarter saying. And that's

815
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 2: when I stopped and I was like, I need to

816
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 2: do my own thinking. Like one of the big things

817
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 2: was religion. So I was like, I know how I

818
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 2: was raised when I mean, I lived in New Jersey

819
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:36,760
Speaker 2: growing up. I was in high school, and I remember

820
00:44:37,080 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 2: something that was great was being surrounded by people of

821
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:44,439
Speaker 2: different different backgrounds. You know, also my friend over here

822
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 2: is Jewish, my friend is Muslim, this girl is Christian.

823
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 2: I was raised Catholic. I'd go to their homes and

824
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 2: there would be different customs and different things, and I

825
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 2: didn't really understand it. And then I remember going, I

826
00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:01,000
Speaker 2: want to learn about all religions. I want to read

827
00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:03,960
Speaker 2: up on religions because when I talk about it, I

828
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:07,479
Speaker 2: want to understand it. When I meet someone who comes

829
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:10,080
Speaker 2: from a different background, I want to have an idea

830
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 2: of how they were brought up, what they believe, what

831
00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:17,360
Speaker 2: they don't what they stand for, and that was fascinating

832
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:19,280
Speaker 2: for That was one of the first times that I thought,

833
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,600
Speaker 2: I need to keep learning about everything everything.

834
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 1: I think we think we know everything about everything at

835
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:25,800
Speaker 1: a certain age.

836
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:28,879
Speaker 2: Oh gosh. No, the older that I get, the more

837
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:32,279
Speaker 2: I realize there's so much I don't know that I

838
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 2: need to know, like immediately I know.

839
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: And then also the revelation that you have no control

840
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:42,040
Speaker 1: over anything. Yeah, is such a just like an opener.

841
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, that helped a little bit, realizing that that you

842
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:48,799
Speaker 2: have no control. That then you can release a little

843
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 2: bit of control. Yeah, because it doesn't matter.

844
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 1: And it's a lot to carry that control. It's very stressful,

845
00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 1: it is, it really is, and it catches up to you.

846
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 2: And it always trying to creep back in there, doesn't it.

847
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:06,200
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, we want control so badly. What do you

848
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: think people can learn from your journey? Oh, so far,

849
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 1: your journey so far, My journey so far. I think

850
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:20,520
Speaker 1: people I would want people to learn to keep open

851
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 1: to opportunities that may come your way. I think it's

852
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:24,879
Speaker 1: great to have an idea of what you want your

853
00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 1: life to be, but also stay open to possibilities because

854
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:32,239
Speaker 1: sometimes the universe has a better plan for you than

855
00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 1: you ever could dream up. Oh I love that. And

856
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 1: and give yourself permission to change your mind on things.

857
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:46,720
Speaker 2: You're allowed to change your mind. You're allowed to uh

858
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:48,960
Speaker 2: not want to do things that you once wanted to do.

859
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:52,560
Speaker 2: You're allowed to not enjoy some things that you once enjoyed.

860
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 2: It's important, in fact, change my mind, change my mind

861
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 2: on things. I welcome people to change my mind, like

862
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:08,399
Speaker 2: I thrive on that. I think it's it's important. One

863
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:17,840
Speaker 2: of the things from my journey is to go with it. Like,

864
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:21,040
Speaker 2: just just go with it. Make the best of the situations.

865
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 2: You know, whether the opportunity is great or not. If

866
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:30,880
Speaker 2: you're at a point in your life where just isn't

867
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:33,880
Speaker 2: what I wanted to do, well, maybe it's leading you

868
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:36,439
Speaker 2: to what you want to do. So always be really

869
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:38,960
Speaker 2: good at it. Whatever it is that you're doing, take

870
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:41,279
Speaker 2: pride in it. Do your best, do your best. Just

871
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 2: take pride in learning and in doing the best that

872
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:48,359
Speaker 2: you can at whatever level you're at. I did learn

873
00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 2: that from my grandfather and then from my parents, and

874
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:55,600
Speaker 2: that was a big thing. Just always always be prideful

875
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 2: in whatever work you're.

876
00:47:57,000 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 1: Doing, and work hard. I feel like you've worked hard.

877
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 2: I think work ethic is a big thing in my culture.

878
00:48:02,719 --> 00:48:04,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, mine too.

879
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:05,280
Speaker 2: Well.

880
00:48:05,480 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 1: I've loved our conversation so much. But before I let

881
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:11,800
Speaker 1: you go, I have to ask you, Daisy Fuentes, what

882
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:13,560
Speaker 1: was your last I Choose me moment?

883
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 2: I think we I think we talked about it. But

884
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:22,400
Speaker 2: my last I choose I choose me moment was realizing

885
00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 2: that I want to slow down, that I don't want

886
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:29,800
Speaker 2: to do what everybody else thinks I should be doing.

887
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:33,800
Speaker 2: That doesn't feel good to me, like choosing a slow morning.

888
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:37,560
Speaker 2: You know, I keep hearing these women I wake up

889
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:39,680
Speaker 2: at five am, by six am, I've done this and

890
00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 2: I've done that, And I start and I start like hyperventilating,

891
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 2: like my god, I got to wake up at five

892
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 2: am tomorrow and I've got to do And then I

893
00:48:46,640 --> 00:48:53,280
Speaker 2: remember thinking, going, no, no, I don't want to do that.

894
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 2: That doesn't feel good to me. You know, it feels

895
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:57,000
Speaker 2: good to me waking up whenever I want. That's a

896
00:48:57,080 --> 00:49:00,000
Speaker 2: luxury that I have earned at this stage of my life.

897
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:00,279
Speaker 1: Right.

898
00:49:00,960 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 2: Not having to put the along my obviously unless I'm

899
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 2: traveling or doing something I have to do, but not

900
00:49:07,120 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 2: making an appointment for eight or nine am, because I

901
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:13,239
Speaker 2: like that time. I want to get up. I look

902
00:49:13,280 --> 00:49:15,880
Speaker 2: at my birds. I have bird feeders. Oh my gosh,

903
00:49:16,400 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 2: to ride a passage. Oh my god, birds we're up

904
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 2: that age?

905
00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:23,560
Speaker 1: Where were birds all my life? I know, I'm obsessed

906
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 1: with my birds.

907
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 2: I'm obsessed with my birds. And it's so meditative for me.

908
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 2: It's like they don't need me to have them. Do

909
00:49:30,160 --> 00:49:32,760
Speaker 2: you have that? Nobody got to get it with the camera.

910
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:35,320
Speaker 1: Merlin you no, no, this the merlin.

911
00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:36,879
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well you take a picture of the burden

912
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:39,399
Speaker 2: tells you exactly what it is, or you.

913
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:41,560
Speaker 1: Just it listens to the bird and it tells you

914
00:49:41,560 --> 00:49:41,920
Speaker 1: what it is.

915
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:47,080
Speaker 2: Yes, it's oh, we're crazy. No, we're right, We're so

916
00:49:47,200 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 2: not crazy, right, I think we're right. I love I

917
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 2: love having my coffee looking at the window. I like

918
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:56,399
Speaker 2: doing my breathing. I like sitting by the fire when

919
00:49:56,400 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 2: it's cold. I like sitting out in the sun when

920
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:02,239
Speaker 2: it's warm. I don't want to look at emails. I

921
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:04,960
Speaker 2: don't want to be rushed. I want to be present

922
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 2: and have a slow mourning. And that is so.

923
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:09,840
Speaker 1: Anti what everybody's talking about.

924
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 2: That is so anti what everybody thinks that we should

925
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:15,600
Speaker 2: do so. As much as everybody's going on and on

926
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 2: about how like you need to live a week between

927
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:22,480
Speaker 2: five am and nine am, I am here to tell

928
00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:26,359
Speaker 2: you that you can choose you and you can have

929
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:30,760
Speaker 2: a slow morning. I am the president of the Anti

930
00:50:30,920 --> 00:50:32,480
Speaker 2: Hustle Culture Club.

931
00:50:33,040 --> 00:50:35,080
Speaker 1: I'm signing up and I am here for you. I

932
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 1: need to be in your club. I'm so about the

933
00:50:37,640 --> 00:50:41,399
Speaker 1: hustle right now, yes, and I just it's tiring, and

934
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:44,160
Speaker 1: you know, I mean, I feel like at my age

935
00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:47,279
Speaker 1: it's time to hustle or it's time to you know,

936
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:49,080
Speaker 1: be where you are. And I feel like I'm not

937
00:50:49,840 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 1: not ready to allow myself, yeah that much, but I

938
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:56,279
Speaker 1: do feel like I can see for you how you

939
00:50:56,440 --> 00:51:00,120
Speaker 1: have lived this amazing life and you have earned right

940
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:01,120
Speaker 1: where you are right now.

941
00:51:01,320 --> 00:51:04,600
Speaker 2: So have you, So you know, hustle when you want to,

942
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:08,839
Speaker 2: and you don't when you don't. That's it. That's a rap.

943
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:12,680
Speaker 2: Thank you, Daisy, You're awesome.