WEBVTT - All Hands On Deck 0:00:00.720 --> 0:00:04.960 Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:14.200 Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. I feel like I 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:15.880 haven't seen well, I've seen you, but I feel like 0:00:15.880 --> 0:00:17.440 we haven't done the podcast in a minute because we 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:18.560 kind of did. 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:20.560 An early one last week. That's right, so it's been 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:21.040 a minute. 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:23.840 Yeah. I like doing a podcast on a different day, 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:25.320 though it was different energy. 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:29.360 Yeah, it's fun, good times. Great to see you. 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:33.599 Great to see you. Good I'm doing I'm tired, Okay, 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:36.280 I'm into well, no, I'm really into this new Jude show. 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:38.839 It's not new, it's old. It's called Yellow Jackets, but 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:41.720 it's new to me and I stayed up till eleven 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:42.959 thirty watching it last night. 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:44.680 You're a bad, bad girl. 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:48.760 No, it's like, yeah, on an early morning next day 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:51.320 for work, so it's really a problem. 0:00:51.440 --> 0:00:55.080 But there's there's not there's how many seasons, like two, three, two, 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:57.240 so you could be caught up pretty soon and get on. 0:00:57.480 --> 0:00:58.760 It's in its second season. 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:02.440 Okay currently, oh currently, Yeah, you know, it's so funny. 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:06.080 So we got showtime just to watch this show, Okay, 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:08.000 but we don't want to keep having showtime because I 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:09.360 don't want to watch anything else on show time. So 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:10.959 I put in my calendar for a month to like 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:12.720 be activated thing. But I don't know if we're going 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:14.080 to get it all in by that. 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:18.520 Time, like last night. That's going to help, right, Yeah. 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:19.360 Yeah, I got to push through. 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:21.160 Yeah, these nights are going to be big for you 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:22.080 the eleven thirties. 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:24.319 Yeah, because I'm so annoyed, like I don't want one 0:01:24.440 --> 0:01:26.880 more streaming service that I have to buy. 0:01:27.000 --> 0:01:29.520 But the nice thing about the streaming services is that 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:31.360 you can have it for a month and cancel it. 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:33.760 By the way, if somebody's really strapped for cash, on 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:36.360 these you can stop Netflix for a month and then 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:37.959 get it again in a month. You know you can 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:38.240 do that. 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:39.400 You can just going. 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:41.600 I was going to ask you. I was trying to 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:44.000 find it and I couldn't figure out what on showtime? 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:47.040 You have to download another app on your TV? 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:49.840 My do I have energy? I don't know? And to 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:51.960 like take the risk. What if I don't like the show, 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:54.960 you will You said that about a lot of shows 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:55.280 that I know. 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:57.560 It's so good. 0:01:57.720 --> 0:02:00.480 It's a little darker than I usually like I am 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:00.960 in a. 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:05.760 Darker face because also breaking bad very Wow. 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:07.960 Yeah, I don't watched it. Don't tell me. 0:02:08.000 --> 0:02:08.760 Are you not caught up? 0:02:08.840 --> 0:02:09.000 No? 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:12.240 Okay, it's gotten starting with episode four, which is mind blowing. 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:13.040 It's incredible. 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:14.200 Yeah. 0:02:14.240 --> 0:02:17.200 Anyway, so great Yellow Jackets. I watched the pilot. It's 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:17.600 really good. 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:18.280 It's really good. 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:21.040 All right, Well, I got some you got some backup 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:24.400 in here, although they also liked Ted Lasso and Dreary Duty. 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:28.080 So you know, you're in the minority, not just in 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:28.720 this room. 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:29.240 But the world. 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:33.880 But I'm just saying, like I it's hard to say, like, oh, 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:35.600 Tanya loves it, so I'm gonna love it. You know, 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:39.640 I don't, unfortunately, feel the trust in that. That's okay, 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:41.360 it's more on me though it's not your fault. 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:41.760 Yeah. 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:42.720 Yeah. 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:44.800 So I went to last time we talked. 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:47.040 I was gonna I was like going to surprise Haley 0:02:47.080 --> 0:02:51.360 for in Denver, and she was like, I knew it 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:53.520 when she saw because I I snuck onto the bus 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:54.320 to surprise her. 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:55.239 And then I had. 0:02:55.080 --> 0:02:57.760 Brought her friend Monica and she was in the room 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:00.359 and so I go on the bus and he was 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:02.760 like I knew it, and I'm like, no, you did not, 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:05.000 because I made up this whole elaborate thing that I 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:06.840 had to go to San Diego for work and it 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:07.400 was awkward. 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:08.639 That's probably why she knew it. 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:11.680 No, she was I told her I had to go 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:13.200 with this girl that I didn't know very well and 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:14.560 we had to share a room because I was trying 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:16.440 to figure out how I could like be in the 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:19.320 hotel without being in the room, so she didn't see Monica, 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:20.800 and so I was like, I'm staying with this girl 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:22.760 I don't know, Like it's kind of awkward, and so 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:24.680 I'm just kind of to like come out in the 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:26.600 hallway and talk to you. And she's like, I can't 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:28.440 believe they made you stay like with someone that you 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:31.360 don't know, Like that's so uncomfortable. So like she was 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:35.280 totally one thousand percent bought my scheme. 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:37.080 I don't know if she did, though she did. 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:39.080 She admitted it. She was like I had lost hope 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:40.520 when you So then how did she know? 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:43.600 I think she just always had a feeling maybe I 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:45.320 show up, or like held on hope. 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:46.720 That I show up, or maybe she you were gonna 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:48.040 show up but not exactly when you did. 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:51.960 No, I think she just had like a feeling because 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:53.680 we had talked about like, oh, we'll see each other. 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:55.720 That'll be like around the two week mark, so we'll 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:58.360 see each other around then and so anyways, but she 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:01.200 didn't know that Monica was there, so that got the tears. 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:02.360 That was the surprise. 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:06.560 Yeah, so it wasn't a complete fail on the surprise aspect. 0:04:06.640 --> 0:04:08.320 But she was so happy. 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:11.520 She was so happy. But she spends really sick. 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:13.840 She's had like a sinus infection that like will not 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.360 go away, so she has not been able to catch 0:04:16.400 --> 0:04:18.320 up on like sleep because you sleeping on the bus. 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:20.920 And yeah, I don't know how. I don't know how 0:04:20.960 --> 0:04:24.360 people do this lifestyle, right, it's. 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:28.320 Terrible, Like think about let's just say the Jonas brothers. 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:31.320 They're gone because they're going back out on tour, did they? 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:33.680 But they probably all have their own bus like they 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:34.680 probable the bus. 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:36.240 The bus is a bus is a bus. 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:38.920 Yeah, but I think when you have your whole bus 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:41.320 to yourself, it's a little more comfortable than sharing it 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:43.880 with like however many sixteen people or whatever. 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.120 I don't know about that. Yeah, either way, it's not 0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:50.120 sixteen people. 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:53.279 I think there's like seven or something. A bus there's 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:55.000 sixteen people, not two buses. 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:57.200 No, how do you fit that many beds in there? 0:04:57.480 --> 0:04:59.440 They're just two three toward each other. 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:01.880 I've never seen a bus that big. 0:05:02.320 --> 0:05:03.640 Well it's a. 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:06.880 Double decker, but they're all the buses are on the 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:10.000 same level. Anyways, it's exhausting. I don't know how she 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:12.039 does it. And it was great to see her. And 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:13.640 then she's in La tomorrow. 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:15.880 So just a little longer. 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:19.440 She on tour until like June or something June at 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:24.839 the beginning of June, forgot what month. 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:28.320 We were like into May, but June is in the 0:05:28.440 --> 0:05:29.320 getting of June. 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:32.000 Yeah, that's like so two three weeks. Yeah, she has 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:34.720 so you're in the home stretch. Yeah, and I really 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:39.440 felt great, Like I'm a little concerned about that little 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:41.440 dark spell I had. 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:46.400 Why because she came in like a wrecking ball, and 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:49.839 she stirred some things up, and then she went away, 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:53.520 and so now I'm like, will it come back unexpectedly 0:05:53.680 --> 0:05:56.240 or am I good? I don't know. 0:05:56.360 --> 0:05:58.719 Well what triggered it was the fact that she was away, 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.360 so you might be triggered for a while. 0:06:01.720 --> 0:06:05.000 Right, and being in Europe thing, the time zone thing 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:06.479 really shook me up. 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:09.360 That was really bad. Don't recommend that. 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:12.200 Yeah, Hannah and I were actually talking about it because 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:13.920 we we went to we had a date night on 0:06:13.960 --> 0:06:17.520 a Friday night. It was so fun and we were 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:19.800 talking about because your ex you were long distance but 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:21.960 same time zone, and that was still hard. 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:22.240 Yeah. 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:22.839 I couldn't do it. 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:25.880 Yeah, it's very it's very weird, like it messes. 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:27.920 It messed with my head in a way that I 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:29.159 wasn't expecting it to. 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:31.360 So it happens. 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:32.760 Thank you so much. 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:33.440 It's okay. 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:37.039 I can't believe you did long distance with your first 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:38.559 like your long term relation. 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:41.800 Yeah, but that was just San Diego, San Diego, La. 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:44.960 So it's like long distance because we're not in the 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:47.359 same city. We couldn't see each other in Arizona. He 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:49.880 ended up moving to Arizona. Yeah, but like the first 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:51.600 two years was La to San Diego. 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:55.000 Still, So, y'all never actually lived in the same city. 0:06:55.279 --> 0:07:00.640 Never. No, that's shocking, Mom, what's clinging? 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:01.080 How do I. 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:04.679 She said it first? 0:07:05.240 --> 0:07:07.479 Yeah, it's true though, Like I could not imagine, like 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:12.080 if Robbie lived in San Diego, that would be horrendous 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:13.840 for me at this point in my life. But I 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:15.360 think at the point of my life when I was 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:18.960 dating my ex. I was started out working for the 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:22.080 morning show, and like I was there twelve hours a day, 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:25.000 so it almost was better because I wasn't able to 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:27.920 commit my time to anything else but work. So it 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:29.840 was like I worked Monday through Friday and then I 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:32.240 would leave first thing after I finished working, and I 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:33.200 had all weekend with him. 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:37.680 That I mean, when you're busy, when you have stuff 0:07:37.720 --> 0:07:40.880 going on, Yeah, it makes a very big difference. 0:07:40.920 --> 0:07:42.400 Yeah. I think that's the only reason why it was 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:43.200 like fine for me. 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:46.120 Yeah, you're like, I don't even have the capacity, Yes, 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:49.720 the girlfriend during the week, I'm correct, all right, well 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:51.880 that makes more sense. But now in these times of 0:07:51.960 --> 0:07:54.440 your life. No, Like I probably was like, I have 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:57.080 to move to London for a year, what would you do? 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:05.000 See if I could do the show out in London? Yeah? 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:06.720 Wow, she went straight to. 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:09.880 Yeah, I don't know what I mean. If it was 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:11.360 for a year, I think I would be able to, Like, 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:13.000 if there was like a start in an end time, 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:14.960 I think I'd be okay with it. Okay, But if 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.520 it was like in perpetuity, not knowing when he'd be back, 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:20.440 that would be a major problem. 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:22.600 Great like big word throwing right there. 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:22.840 Which one. 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:24.280 What was it? 0:08:24.440 --> 0:08:25.040 Perpetuity? 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:30.760 Perpetunity often? Oh yeah, word of the day. Yeah, no, perpetuity. 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:32.080 I don't know why, but I feel like I use 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:32.520 it often. 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:33.600 Great. 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:34.880 Yeah, proud of you. 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:37.439 Thank you because you did do a comparison. 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:40.360 Oh, because I post about the Denny Henry thing and 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:41.959 he said it's like comparing it. 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:42.800 Was actually perfect. 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:44.280 Oh what was it again? 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:47.760 Comparing a watermelon? Comparing Henry to Denny as I comparing 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.000 a watermelon to a penny. 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:50.959 Yeah, can you explain that, maybe for. 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.400 Because it's not even They're not even the same category. 0:08:53.760 --> 0:09:07.760 Henry and Jeff saying that, so a watermelon Jeff and 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:10.200 the penny Scott fully agree with that. 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:12.440 Okay, so so this is what started I posted. 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:16.080 I said, I have an unpopular opinion Henry's death. I've 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:19.240 been watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy solid. 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:21.280 By the way, just newsflash for those of you who. 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:24.000 Are not watching watching Camilla next week, we do. 0:09:24.360 --> 0:09:27.600 Yeah right, yeah, I'm caught up. Yeah it's really good. 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:31.120 Okay, I'll gently take your work from that. 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:34.960 But anyways, I posted that like, Henry's death affected me 0:09:35.200 --> 0:09:37.720 way more than Denny, Like I have never Denny. 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:39.760 Was like, oh, that's sad. Like I felt bad, but 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:40.839 like that. 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:44.520 Was kind of it because it didn't it wasn't realistic 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:47.280 in the sense that like they didn't know each other 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:50.920 outside of of that situation. It just felt very like 0:09:51.200 --> 0:09:55.160 over dramaticized to me. And then I felt like Henry, 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:57.800 we got to know him, he and Teddy fell in love. 0:09:57.880 --> 0:09:59.520 We got to like watch her fall in love with 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:02.960 him through their situation. And then it happened unexpectedly. And 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:05.400 remember when Christina was operating on him but she didn't 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:05.960 know it was him. 0:10:06.640 --> 0:10:10.400 He died, and then that was messed up. That was 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:11.920 some dark stuff shot it did. 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:13.320 Yeah, that was messed up. 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:14.920 That was some sinister writing. 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:19.760 Yeah, watch Yellow Jackets, you'll get some dark stuff there too. 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:22.360 Some shocked that you're into. 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:24.719 That, me too, but I am so Yeah, I got 0:10:24.760 --> 0:10:26.360 And a lot of people said they agreed with me. 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:28.200 They're like telling me, is not gonna like this? 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:32.760 Well, and I, in fact I cantlope no, no. See, 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:35.240 that's the thing, that's why I didn't choose another fruit 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:37.040 exactly that they're not. 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:40.920 Even people like people like candlopes, some people like water. 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:43.160 They're not even in the same category of fruit. That's 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:45.880 why I went penny and penny. 0:10:46.080 --> 0:10:48.480 But whuldn't you say, like some people think like the 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:50.600 value of a penny is worth more than a piece 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:51.719 of currency. 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:53.559 I'd say less people think that. 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:55.719 Okay, maybe that's the next one. 0:10:56.000 --> 0:10:58.520 Juicy watermelon, nothing better on a summer day. 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:01.400 Yeah, you wouldn't trade a watermelon for a penny. 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:03.400 No, I don't think I would never trade. 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.800 You're going through in your life. We can't speak for 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:07.400 everyone in this. 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:13.880 A mouthful of pennies just hits the spot. 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:16.199 About Okay, So this week I just want to defend 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:18.800 Grace for a second. Speaking of Camilla, I love what 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:20.720 she's got going on right now. There's a really hot 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:24.439 dude who's laid up there week after week, Sam Sutton. 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:28.040 Sam Sutton is the patient, he broke ninety three bones, 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:32.600 and he's very into Joe Joe. Sorry, I am met 0:11:32.679 --> 0:11:35.839 with character names. And so Link's kind of be like, whoa, whoa, 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:38.160 what's going on here? And I like how this is divine? 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:39.960 Are they together Joe and Link? 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:43.679 Not really, they're living together, but they're not an established relationships. 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:46.959 There's all this there was a whole thing where he. 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:49.360 Was in love with their feelings on both sides, and 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:50.680 she kind of was in and then he was like 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:53.240 not responding that he was in, and she wasn't responding. 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:55.680 And now he's going to be all in because she's 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:59.080 like in the attention she's getting from Sam. It's very good. 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:01.600 It's so annoying that it takes somebody else looking at 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:03.960 your girl to like make you want to go for 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:04.480 your girl. 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:07.440 And and I don't know their names, I'm sorry, the 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:10.600 new people, the young shepherd, yes, right, and you know 0:12:10.640 --> 0:12:12.760 he's still into I don't know their names. The one 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:15.160 who's getting married, Yes, it's doctor Griffin. 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:17.720 Oh oh, who's she married? 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:20.640 She's married her ex boyfriend. You haven't watched in months? 0:12:20.679 --> 0:12:23.520 No, have it? Yeah? Oh oh. 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:26.280 So they're trying to make this like April Jackson. They're 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:29.200 trying to make I don't know, like Denny and Izzy. 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:31.360 I don't know, but I'm really enjoying it. You guys 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:34.640 are carrying a water melody Penny. 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:39.480 We'll ask Camilla what she thinks. Was she more devastated 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:41.199 for Denny's death or Henry's. 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:45.360 I think she's going to give the popular answer, which 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:48.760 is Denny, even though if you really go deeper, it's 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:49.280 not true. 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:52.040 We'll just have to wait and see, won't we won't we? 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:52.439 Yeah? 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:53.160 Week away? 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:55.280 What else have you been up to you? Okay? So 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:56.760 I just never want to know. 0:12:57.480 --> 0:13:00.760 I got back into La from Denver, and my spidy 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:04.480 senses were like, mm is Tanya in a good place 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:07.080 or a bad place? Something was tingling and within me 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.280 and I was like, couldn't figure it out. I'm like 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:13.680 texting her. She is like ghosting me. I got ghosted 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:15.880 so many times by Tanya this past week that all 0:13:15.920 --> 0:13:19.320 I feel well, I mean, it doesn't feel great, but 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:20.360 like I moved on. 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:22.680 You know, I didn't attack you. I just was like, hey, 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:25.240 everything good. Sometimes you need to be attacked. 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:29.600 You wanted to be attacked sometimes. Yeah, I do like 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:31.040 a little extra attention, you know. 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:34.000 Oh well, I thought me texting and following up was 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:34.800 like enough attention. 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:38.040 So do you want to explain yourself? Like what was going? 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:40.400 Were you just so busy to be honest? 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:44.280 To be totally honest? Last week, whenever I do things 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:47.440 on Sundays, we went to American Idol last Sunday, last 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:51.319 last Sunday. Whenever I do something on a Sunday, it 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:55.240 really sets my week off too into a like a 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:58.600 tailspin because I feel like I don't really like on Sundays, 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:01.040 I need to rest. It's like, really my only rest day, 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:03.880 and I don't rest. I feel like I've like lost 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:08.600 myself in this whirlwind of the week. It's so weird. Okay, 0:14:08.720 --> 0:14:12.200 that little tiny like thing. But anyways, so I was 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:15.319 very busy on Sunday, and then we had a very 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:18.280 wild Monday at work. We had ed Shecheron in here. 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:21.760 Oh love him, love him, love him. I've loved him forever, 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:23.000 but I love him more than ever. 0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:26.120 Nods they're not into him, and I'm really trying to 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:27.920 turn that on that because he's the best. 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:29.720 You know what I don't like. 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:32.160 The thing that's so cool about him is he's not 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:34.640 trying to be anything but himself, do you know what 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:38.840 I mean? Like he's not trying to be this pop star. 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:41.800 He's not like trying to stay cool or relevant. He's 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:45.240 just being who he is and just take it, take 0:14:45.280 --> 0:14:47.400 it for take it or leave it basically. And I 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:51.120 love that attitude so much because he's not like trying. 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:54.520 He just does what he loves and he's like if 0:14:54.520 --> 0:14:56.400 people love it, great, and if they don't, I'm going 0:14:56.480 --> 0:14:58.160 to find a way to keep doing it, because that's 0:14:58.160 --> 0:14:58.800 all I want to do. 0:14:58.960 --> 0:15:02.320 Yeah, And he is the cutest wife, and he's so cool. 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:05.880 She's so cool, and he's so humble, like he shakes 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:09.080 everyone's hand, he looks everybody in the eye. He's just 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:11.320 a great human. And sometimes I sit there and I 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:15.800 really think about the numbers when he's touring stadiums, right, 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:19.360 I mean, think about the ticket and what his overhead is. 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.960 He just wears his normal clothes and he's got a 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:26.720 little pedal on the no lasers, no dancers, no costumes. No, 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:30.000 I mean he has like the big screens. He's probably 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:32.080 making so much money. 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:34.480 His last tour is like one of the highest grossing 0:15:34.480 --> 0:15:36.720 toys of all time, The Divide. 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:38.920 Yeah, because he has no overhead. Think about it, Like, 0:15:38.920 --> 0:15:40.880 think about if you look at Taylor show, She's got 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:44.080 all those dancers, all those costumes, all those effects, all 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:47.840 that like pyro and smoke and machines and all that. 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:51.080 That all costs so much money. Yeah, he has none 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:51.360 of that. 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:53.880 You walk away from a tailor show and you're like, 0:15:54.040 --> 0:15:56.160 I'll never ever ever forget this. 0:15:56.400 --> 0:15:58.280 I'm not saying I'm not saying it's not worth it. 0:15:58.360 --> 0:16:00.520 I think I obviously I love Taylor's. 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:03.160 Anything more for what he's selling or just. 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:09.280 Something about that aspect is just it really like throws me. 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:12.040 Yeah, yeah, he's great. I love him. 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:12.720 Yeah. 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:14.920 So that was like a lot. And then I just 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:18.400 feel like I've had something, I had something on top 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:21.720 of work every single day and. 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:26.720 It's just yeah, yeah, So I blame char And for 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:28.080 like your ghosting. 0:16:28.200 --> 0:16:29.800 Just blame my time, my Hashi motos. 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:35.480 Oh wow, we took a turn there. Great. 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:37.120 But then I got to see what the soccer game 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:39.520 went to, the Angel City game. Yes, was that your 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:40.400 first one. 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:41.720 First soccer game ever? 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:42.320 Wow? 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:43.120 What do you think? 0:16:44.600 --> 0:16:48.240 If I'm being honest, I was not super paying attention 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:51.280 to the game, okay, but I thought it was fun. Yeah, 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:53.360 I'm starting to like sporting events. I think it's like 0:16:53.400 --> 0:16:58.280 a cute hang And they had these chimoy dipped uh 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:05.879 he chimoy dipped gummy bears and peat rings that were divine. 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:08.320 Delicious, delicious. Yeah. 0:17:08.480 --> 0:17:10.879 I pushed back on my hashymotives test two days so 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:12.680 that I could get that out of my system because 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:15.439 I was like, this feels like I should not be 0:17:15.520 --> 0:17:17.399 eating this before I retest all my stuff. 0:17:17.560 --> 0:17:18.320 This was Saturday. 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:23.200 This was Saturday. I was supposed to retest today Washington, Washington. 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:25.000 I'm seeing if. 0:17:26.200 --> 0:17:28.560 No, they were in white uniforms. 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:29.840 Who won. 0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:31.960 Washington? 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:35.120 Very good, they're undefeated Washington. 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:37.720 Yeah, good job. 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:39.600 Washington. 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:41.920 I felt like Robbie had a great time. 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:45.280 He was really into the just he loves questions and 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:49.200 finding out what everything that's going on in the No. 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:51.480 Yeah, I was really surprised when I when you sent 0:17:51.560 --> 0:17:53.119 me the text you want to go to this Angel 0:17:53.119 --> 0:17:55.359 City soccer and asked him. He was like, yeah, that's 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:58.840 so cool, and I was like, wow, who is such 0:17:58.880 --> 0:17:59.640 a soccer fan. 0:18:00.320 --> 0:18:01.040 He's just a fan. 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:04.480 He's just happy to be. He's just happy to live, laugh, 0:18:04.600 --> 0:18:06.000 love and watch sports. 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:08.320 That's very true. That's very true. But you're like a 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:09.080 regular now. 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:12.399 Yeah, I just like am at the games and just 0:18:12.440 --> 0:18:12.880 go you. 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:15.359 Know, yeah, hot dogs, nacho Yeah, I just know the. 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:18.360 Drill when the nacho bar comes out, you know, that's 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:19.120 the second half. 0:18:19.200 --> 0:18:20.679 Like that's all good, good stuff. 0:18:21.000 --> 0:18:22.359 It is cute, though I do want to make it 0:18:22.440 --> 0:18:23.200 kind of like a thing. 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:26.920 It's very it's so fun. It's really cool to see 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:30.480 like a a like special, especially like a women's sports team. 0:18:30.600 --> 0:18:33.199 Being like celebrated and supported. 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:38.240 Yeah, so Hannah and I went to Okay. So Thursday night, 0:18:38.359 --> 0:18:42.479 I got this paint with diamonds craft and it's just 0:18:42.520 --> 0:18:46.080 like it's like coated and then they send you the 0:18:46.119 --> 0:18:47.919 colors and you just match the colors and you just 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:48.600 stick them on. 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:51.840 You made Haley, it was like a watercolor thing. 0:18:52.080 --> 0:18:53.840 That was a painting thing that was so hard. 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:56.640 You did, say, paint with diamonds, diamond paint? 0:18:56.720 --> 0:18:58.480 That is it called diamond painted? 0:18:58.640 --> 0:19:02.200 Yeah, or like I don't know, are paint. Yeah. Anyways, 0:19:02.200 --> 0:19:04.000 you're like sticking the little diamonds on. 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:08.040 It's a very mindless, just like relaxing craft, you. 0:19:07.960 --> 0:19:10.080 Know, ires of it. I see what you're saying. 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:11.000 Yeah, it's really cool. 0:19:11.119 --> 0:19:13.160 Anyways, I just had a playlist going and the song 0:19:13.200 --> 0:19:15.600 comes on and I just kept hitting repeat, repeat, repeat, 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:18.440 and finally I look at it and it's Dermick Kennedy, 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:22.359 which I've heard his name, but I've never like known 0:19:22.440 --> 0:19:25.480 his music or anything. And so I posted and I 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:27.440 posted on my Instagram like I just heard the song 0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:29.199 for the first time. I'm obsessed, and everyone was like, 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:31.800 he's amazing, and then people said he's gonna be in 0:19:31.920 --> 0:19:33.720 La tomorrow, Like, you have to go to his show. 0:19:33.760 --> 0:19:36.320 He's incredible live and normally I'm not one to go 0:19:36.359 --> 0:19:37.680 to a show if I don't like. 0:19:38.119 --> 0:19:39.320 Know a lot of the music. 0:19:39.520 --> 0:19:41.320 Yeah, but I was like why not? 0:19:41.840 --> 0:19:44.240 So I text Hana because we were dming about him, 0:19:44.480 --> 0:19:46.200 and I'm like, what are you doing tonight? 0:19:46.480 --> 0:19:47.560 And she was like nothing. 0:19:47.800 --> 0:19:50.800 So we went and had a cute dinner and drinks 0:19:51.440 --> 0:19:54.679 and then we went to the show and it was. 0:19:55.160 --> 0:19:57.359 It was amenable. It was like one of the best 0:19:57.359 --> 0:19:58.480 concerts I've ever been to. 0:19:58.520 --> 0:20:01.400 It was this guy, I sent you this s Did 0:20:01.400 --> 0:20:02.760 you listen? No? 0:20:03.280 --> 0:20:05.520 I know you did it because you would have said something, yeah, 0:20:05.640 --> 0:20:09.200 this is this is where we're at in our friendship 0:20:09.320 --> 0:20:11.280 right now. We're in like a little bit of like 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:14.919 a testy tension area, which is fine, you go through it. 0:20:15.400 --> 0:20:18.200 But but anyways, it was at the YouTube Theater, which 0:20:18.480 --> 0:20:20.480 is by So five. It was my first time. 0:20:20.640 --> 0:20:23.080 My first time too. It was amazing. It was amazing 0:20:23.520 --> 0:20:24.640 a YouTube theater. One night. 0:20:24.800 --> 0:20:28.520 Yeah, yeah, it's beautiful, good clean and new so clean. 0:20:28.680 --> 0:20:30.200 A lot of parking around there. 0:20:30.119 --> 0:20:33.639 Great park so then yeah, the parking we pull up 0:20:33.680 --> 0:20:35.520 and we're like, hey, there's a guy standing We're like, 0:20:35.520 --> 0:20:38.400 where's the closest parking to the theater and he's like, well, 0:20:38.480 --> 0:20:40.280 right there, but that's VIP. I had to like pre 0:20:40.359 --> 0:20:44.200 purchase it. And we're like can we can we purchase it? 0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:46.840 And he's like, here's what I'll do. He was like, 0:20:46.840 --> 0:20:49.880 I'm actually I'm scanning your ticket, but if you ven 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:51.200 me fifty dollars. 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:54.840 Really, we were like, soul, We're like, you got it. 0:20:55.119 --> 0:20:58.840 We went parked right in front of the theater. It's amazing. 0:20:58.920 --> 0:21:02.320 It was luxury. 0:21:02.960 --> 0:21:05.360 Tried to do that at the Angel City game and 0:21:05.920 --> 0:21:10.040 did not work for me. Oh yeah, but she was no, 0:21:10.119 --> 0:21:13.639 we didn't. We tried to buy that, but she was 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:16.520 in She was in a booth with like another worker, 0:21:16.600 --> 0:21:17.040 So I don't know. 0:21:17.240 --> 0:21:20.720 Maybe that was this guy was secluded. He may not 0:21:20.800 --> 0:21:22.040 have been a parking attendant. 0:21:22.080 --> 0:21:22.640 We don't know. 0:21:23.840 --> 0:21:25.439 But we had great parking. 0:21:25.960 --> 0:21:28.560 But one thing that Hannah and I talked about is 0:21:28.560 --> 0:21:32.199 that she went on a recent date last weekend and 0:21:32.280 --> 0:21:34.639 I want to talk about it, but we're going to 0:21:34.680 --> 0:21:37.120 take a break first. 0:21:54.840 --> 0:21:56.520 All right, we are back. 0:21:56.600 --> 0:22:00.160 So Hannah went on a date, and this was your 0:22:00.200 --> 0:22:01.880 first date since. 0:22:01.880 --> 0:22:04.120 I broke up with my ex boyfriend, which was when 0:22:05.080 --> 0:22:08.760 about a year ago. So okay, I've been single like 0:22:08.840 --> 0:22:11.440 officially for a year and we dated for about four 0:22:11.440 --> 0:22:12.320 and a half years. 0:22:12.520 --> 0:22:14.000 Okay, so this was a big deal. 0:22:14.280 --> 0:22:16.160 And this was, like you were saying, one of your 0:22:16.280 --> 0:22:18.359 just first like actual like a date because you and 0:22:18.400 --> 0:22:19.320 your ex men in college. 0:22:19.359 --> 0:22:22.680 Yeah, one of my first first dates because I met 0:22:22.680 --> 0:22:25.600 my ex in college. And you know, when you're in college, 0:22:25.640 --> 0:22:27.600 you don't actually go on real dates. You just like 0:22:27.600 --> 0:22:29.639 come out at the frat parties. And we got to 0:22:29.720 --> 0:22:33.640 know each other drunk. It wasn't anything romantic at all. 0:22:33.920 --> 0:22:36.040 It was college romance. Yeah, it was college at its 0:22:36.080 --> 0:22:37.040 finest direct. 0:22:37.600 --> 0:22:40.320 Well before you went on this, So y'all, you and 0:22:40.359 --> 0:22:42.280 this guy met up at State. Y'all saw each other 0:22:42.320 --> 0:22:44.840 at stage coach, and you knew each other from like 0:22:45.200 --> 0:22:47.360 from college. You went from college together, but had never 0:22:47.359 --> 0:22:48.000 been out before. 0:22:48.160 --> 0:22:48.840 No, never. 0:22:49.320 --> 0:22:51.840 So we did the podcast we recorded before I went 0:22:51.880 --> 0:22:55.240 to Denver on Thursday, and the date was happening on Saturday. 0:22:55.400 --> 0:22:56.200 Is that right? Saturday? 0:22:56.359 --> 0:22:59.680 So Hannah was very nervous during that. 0:23:00.280 --> 0:23:00.919 Do you remember this? 0:23:01.320 --> 0:23:03.840 Yeah, but we made her nervous, you guys. Yeah, she 0:23:04.040 --> 0:23:06.119 was totally fine until we talked about it. 0:23:06.359 --> 0:23:08.239 Why do we say that made you nervous because we 0:23:08.240 --> 0:23:10.840 were talking about all the alone time in the car 0:23:10.960 --> 0:23:12.920 and what we were going to talk about, and if 0:23:13.000 --> 0:23:14.960 I wanted to escape him, I couldn't. 0:23:15.280 --> 0:23:17.320 I started spiraling. 0:23:17.119 --> 0:23:20.639 So hard after telling you guys, Okay, Well, and I 0:23:20.640 --> 0:23:22.520 don't know if Tanya wants to take this defense, but 0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:24.840 my defense. My thought is like, if I'm going on 0:23:24.880 --> 0:23:27.919 a first date and I'm nervous, I don't know that 0:23:27.960 --> 0:23:30.879 I'm gonna have a whole twenty four hours with that person. 0:23:31.080 --> 0:23:31.359 Yeah. 0:23:31.359 --> 0:23:33.240 I kept going back to the Chicago guy that I 0:23:33.320 --> 0:23:34.840 dated that came in town to visit me, and I 0:23:34.880 --> 0:23:37.080 wanted to like cry after an hour. 0:23:37.400 --> 0:23:40.320 That was doctor screen time for those who have kept up. 0:23:40.440 --> 0:23:43.000 Yeah, so that was my only knee jerk. Is like 0:23:43.000 --> 0:23:44.760 when somebody's traveling to you. 0:23:45.560 --> 0:23:48.480 It definitely felt like a very intense first date. Yeah, 0:23:48.560 --> 0:23:51.359 it wasn't just like dinner. It was a whole It 0:23:51.400 --> 0:23:53.639 was a whole thing. But it ended up being great. 0:23:53.720 --> 0:23:55.000 It ended up being really fun. 0:23:55.080 --> 0:23:55.760 What did y'all do? 0:23:56.200 --> 0:23:58.480 We went to the Warriors and Lakers game, so we 0:23:58.520 --> 0:24:00.360 had an activity to do, which is good. 0:24:00.720 --> 0:24:00.920 Yeah. 0:24:01.359 --> 0:24:05.760 Long, Yeah, and I'm a giant Warriors fan fortune. 0:24:05.880 --> 0:24:09.760 I know, I know, well you guys they also be 0:24:09.840 --> 0:24:11.479 easy yeah, so easy. 0:24:11.600 --> 0:24:13.359 No, but it was it was really fun. 0:24:13.720 --> 0:24:16.360 Oh they're out now, Yeah they lost because they lost 0:24:16.359 --> 0:24:19.400 the Lakers. They're out completely. Yep, that's very devastate. 0:24:21.280 --> 0:24:22.680 But y'all got to go see them. 0:24:22.760 --> 0:24:23.880 We got to go see them. 0:24:24.600 --> 0:24:26.960 It was his first time seeing Lebron James in person, 0:24:27.080 --> 0:24:29.680 so it was really funny. He was like all tickled 0:24:29.680 --> 0:24:32.119 and really excited. Yeah, but I told him he had 0:24:32.119 --> 0:24:34.520 to be a Warriors fan, and every time that the 0:24:34.600 --> 0:24:37.240 Lakers like made a basket, he would get really excited 0:24:37.240 --> 0:24:38.720 and then he'd be like, oh, never mind, like that 0:24:38.800 --> 0:24:43.960 was actually bad. It was funny, endearing yeah, ok, yes, 0:24:44.280 --> 0:24:46.560 cut Yeah, Like it was charming to see him like 0:24:46.560 --> 0:24:51.199 geek out over athletes. Yeah, definitely, so was the conversation 0:24:51.440 --> 0:24:54.600 did a flow? Conversations flowed. It was a good first date. 0:24:54.640 --> 0:24:56.439 I mean, I have nothing to compare it to, but 0:24:56.840 --> 0:24:57.760 I thought it was pretty good. 0:24:57.920 --> 0:25:02.080 Like you'd see him again, yeah, I would, Okay, were 0:25:02.080 --> 0:25:05.040 there any X that happened? 0:25:05.160 --> 0:25:06.719 We talked about this at dinner. 0:25:07.440 --> 0:25:10.439 I I just don't know if I'd actually ever find 0:25:10.480 --> 0:25:12.760 someone that I could both because I get the ick 0:25:13.040 --> 0:25:16.359 so easily. And the biggest thing for me, and I 0:25:16.400 --> 0:25:18.240 know that you guys talk about this a lot. His 0:25:18.320 --> 0:25:22.160 hands and feet, it's like the biggest thing. He didn't 0:25:22.200 --> 0:25:24.000 wear flip flops, thank god, because then I would have 0:25:24.040 --> 0:25:26.440 told him to just go home. Like there's no way 0:25:26.720 --> 0:25:29.080 I would have like hung out with him if he 0:25:29.119 --> 0:25:32.400 showed up in flip flops. But his hands aren't the best, 0:25:33.400 --> 0:25:37.880 and it's it's kind of sh They're just not as 0:25:38.040 --> 0:25:41.960 manly as I would like. And the fingernails are a 0:25:42.040 --> 0:25:43.119 little too short. 0:25:43.200 --> 0:25:47.920 Okay, there's too much skin of the nail. 0:25:49.040 --> 0:25:51.359 He doesn't bite them. I just don't think they grow. 0:25:51.600 --> 0:25:53.560 And it's no they grow. 0:25:53.640 --> 0:25:54.320 He bites them. 0:25:54.480 --> 0:25:59.960 They bite that to person, he may just have short bite, 0:26:00.160 --> 0:26:01.560 and that's a whole other thing. 0:26:02.960 --> 0:26:04.240 I'm like so much of my hands. 0:26:05.280 --> 0:26:07.320 But we were talking about this at dinner, Like it's 0:26:07.320 --> 0:26:09.800 such a fine line. Your nails can't be too short, 0:26:09.840 --> 0:26:11.960 but they also can't be too long. If there's any 0:26:11.960 --> 0:26:14.480 white showing on the nails, I'm freaked out. 0:26:14.720 --> 0:26:16.520 Yeah, can you evaluate my hands? 0:26:17.160 --> 0:26:18.399 No, this is. 0:26:20.080 --> 0:26:20.760 A live showing. 0:26:21.000 --> 0:26:23.239 Take me out of this. Yeah, I'm just looking at 0:26:23.240 --> 0:26:25.560 your hands. Guy, I'm a. 0:26:25.520 --> 0:26:27.760 Guy's doing that. I'm gonna get a picture of a 0:26:27.800 --> 0:26:28.360 good parent. 0:26:28.160 --> 0:26:31.800 Hand and these are my hands, and that's gonna. 0:26:31.560 --> 0:26:33.520 Be nobody knows. 0:26:33.720 --> 0:26:36.280 I think Mark, you have really good hands for a guy. 0:26:36.640 --> 0:26:38.240 They're manly and muscular. 0:26:38.400 --> 0:26:42.080 I haven't had a lot of hard work in my life, labor, 0:26:42.160 --> 0:26:42.560 I don't. 0:26:43.280 --> 0:26:45.879 Okay, though, No, those are good hands. Okay, I'm nervous 0:26:45.960 --> 0:26:47.160 to see Easton's. 0:26:46.760 --> 0:26:52.440 For delicates over here, all. 0:26:52.480 --> 0:26:56.680 Right, staring, she's staring. 0:26:57.760 --> 0:27:01.040 They're not as good as Marks, but they're not horrible. 0:27:01.119 --> 0:27:02.480 They just look a bit too like. 0:27:02.520 --> 0:27:04.960 They're very manicured and nice. 0:27:06.200 --> 0:27:10.720 You'd like that. Let me see that makes you're not muscly. 0:27:11.240 --> 0:27:15.119 No, just takes some squeezing of like. 0:27:17.920 --> 0:27:18.720 Block or anything. 0:27:19.160 --> 0:27:20.880 No, I let me see your's mark. 0:27:20.840 --> 0:27:22.560 All right, let me get out. I got out of 0:27:22.560 --> 0:27:22.880 my chair. 0:27:22.960 --> 0:27:26.480 Okay, I have a picture, but it's not the best angle. 0:27:26.560 --> 0:27:29.760 But I'm just gonna is this if you know who? Yeah, 0:27:30.320 --> 0:27:30.760 let's see. 0:27:30.920 --> 0:27:33.680 I think you both have nice hands. Like I wouldn't 0:27:33.680 --> 0:27:36.560 be like I wouldn't list y'all is like a problem. 0:27:37.160 --> 0:27:39.320 They're not the best at all angle. 0:27:39.119 --> 0:27:40.880 They're they're good hands. 0:27:40.920 --> 0:27:44.480 The only thing and this is personal, it's a little hairy. 0:27:44.280 --> 0:27:45.120 Oh yeah, I like that. 0:27:45.200 --> 0:27:48.440 Yeah, okay, Donny likes a lot of hair, got it. 0:27:48.960 --> 0:27:49.920 I like zero hair. 0:27:50.480 --> 0:27:52.679 So neither mind nor reasons would be deal breakers for 0:27:52.720 --> 0:27:54.679 you on a date if our hands were attention. 0:27:55.040 --> 0:27:57.719 I don't actually think hers is a deal deal breaker. 0:27:57.760 --> 0:27:58.480 It's just something. 0:27:58.640 --> 0:27:59.280 It is something. 0:27:59.320 --> 0:28:00.960 You never look at his hands. 0:28:02.680 --> 0:28:03.560 Did you see his feet? 0:28:03.960 --> 0:28:04.040 No? 0:28:04.240 --> 0:28:06.600 And I'm scared to see his feet. And he's like 0:28:06.800 --> 0:28:10.000 very athletic and goes on a lot of runs, and. 0:28:09.920 --> 0:28:11.400 I'm just worried about. 0:28:12.600 --> 0:28:17.000 Yeah, there be some twisted, contorted situations. 0:28:17.440 --> 0:28:20.560 With the tiny little toenail and the big like what. 0:28:22.920 --> 0:28:25.080 Yeah like or the skin like fully overlapped. 0:28:25.600 --> 0:28:28.000 His fingernails are too short, like. 0:28:28.040 --> 0:28:29.240 A Chris toenail. 0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:32.720 When you said that, I almost blocked. 0:28:32.760 --> 0:28:33.960 I don't think I know that. 0:28:34.119 --> 0:28:36.199 His Instagram he posted on the met Galley. He was like, 0:28:36.240 --> 0:28:38.360 my met Gala looks like you saw this? 0:28:38.760 --> 0:28:43.000 Yeah, you know it feels illegal. 0:28:43.560 --> 0:28:45.360 There was another agch that we talked about. 0:28:46.360 --> 0:28:49.040 The other one. I feel like bad saying this. 0:28:49.160 --> 0:28:54.120 I don't know why, but he keeps sending me my 0:28:54.160 --> 0:28:55.720 god like songs. 0:28:57.160 --> 0:28:57.880 What's wrong with that? 0:28:58.040 --> 0:29:00.720 It's just like, what do I say to that? And 0:29:00.920 --> 0:29:02.480 why are you sending me that. 0:29:04.600 --> 0:29:05.320 They're romantic? 0:29:05.680 --> 0:29:07.240 Like some of them are like some of them are 0:29:07.240 --> 0:29:09.400 songs that we like heard of Stagecoach or whatever, or 0:29:09.520 --> 0:29:10.160 some are. 0:29:10.680 --> 0:29:11.960 Just random songs. 0:29:11.960 --> 0:29:13.000 But what are the lyrics? 0:29:13.160 --> 0:29:16.280 The lyrics, I mean, they're all country songs, so they're. 0:29:16.120 --> 0:29:18.400 Like, they're probably like cute lyrics, but. 0:29:18.480 --> 0:29:19.560 Don't send it to me. 0:29:19.640 --> 0:29:21.480 He's just sending Spotify links and what he said. 0:29:21.640 --> 0:29:24.120 Luckily it's Apple Music, which is a green flag because 0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:25.040 I use Apple Music. 0:29:25.080 --> 0:29:27.480 Oh wow, yeah, name one song? 0:29:30.960 --> 0:29:34.280 Oh goodness, something by Tyler Chiulders. 0:29:34.520 --> 0:29:37.080 Oh, he's pretty emotional and romantic. 0:29:37.120 --> 0:29:39.720 I feel No, it wasn't that. 0:29:39.800 --> 0:29:43.240 It was Shake the Frost, which which is kind of 0:29:43.920 --> 0:29:46.560 my gosh. Now I'm now I'm creeped out thinking about 0:29:46.600 --> 0:29:48.040 him sending me songs. 0:29:48.240 --> 0:29:49.920 What's not Shape the Frost? 0:29:51.080 --> 0:29:51.320 Shake? 0:29:52.000 --> 0:29:57.640 What's his motivation? Is totallylist? 0:29:58.000 --> 0:30:00.360 Yeah, it's probably I think I'm just reading too much 0:30:00.360 --> 0:30:05.920 into probably, but he's sending too many Okay, no like daily, 0:30:06.480 --> 0:30:09.880 no contact, No, not daily, And it hasn't he hasn't 0:30:09.920 --> 0:30:10.240 done it in. 0:30:10.280 --> 0:30:12.320 A couple of days, which is good. But I just 0:30:12.360 --> 0:30:13.560 don't know how to respond to it. 0:30:14.840 --> 0:30:17.080 And you don't think the lyrics are apropos, like, for example, 0:30:17.120 --> 0:30:19.720 with shake the Frost, he's not saying to you, you 0:30:19.800 --> 0:30:22.240 remind me of a Sunday back home in old Kentucky 0:30:22.720 --> 0:30:27.440 with the church choirs. Just belt into the pineys. 0:30:28.800 --> 0:30:29.640 No, I don't know. 0:30:30.120 --> 0:30:33.200 Okay, So I when I first met Haley, I would 0:30:33.200 --> 0:30:34.720 send her songs all the time. So now I'm like, 0:30:34.880 --> 0:30:37.080 I guess I'm lucky she stuck around because I love 0:30:37.200 --> 0:30:39.320 music and if something reminded me of her, i'd send 0:30:39.320 --> 0:30:41.000 it to her. And she's not like a huge like 0:30:41.040 --> 0:30:43.160 she doesn't like love lyrics. 0:30:42.760 --> 0:30:45.960 And music like I do. And so no one honest 0:30:45.960 --> 0:30:46.240 said that. 0:30:46.280 --> 0:30:50.040 I was like, oh, I'm always do that that all 0:30:50.040 --> 0:30:51.239 the time too. I still do that too. 0:30:51.360 --> 0:30:51.520 Yeah. 0:30:51.720 --> 0:30:54.440 I think I'm it's just a personal thing. I'm thinking 0:30:54.520 --> 0:30:56.400 way too much into it. And when guys are too 0:30:56.480 --> 0:30:58.400 nice to me or do things that are a little 0:30:58.440 --> 0:31:00.480 bit romantic, I freak out. 0:31:00.520 --> 0:31:02.720 Well that's a whole other episode. We should get a 0:31:02.760 --> 0:31:03.440 therapist in here. 0:31:04.600 --> 0:31:05.880 That's just walls being up. 0:31:05.880 --> 0:31:10.760 And if I too had these things, so I don't know, maybe. 0:31:11.080 --> 0:31:12.920 Relatable though, I think I think a lot of people 0:31:12.960 --> 0:31:13.920 deal with that. Yeah. 0:31:14.080 --> 0:31:16.320 Yeah, And you can establish these patterns. You do that 0:31:16.480 --> 0:31:18.360 because you are scared of something totally. 0:31:18.560 --> 0:31:20.560 And I think those songs are just I'm thinking about 0:31:20.560 --> 0:31:22.280 you right now. That's sweet. 0:31:22.600 --> 0:31:25.280 If he was texting me like thinking of you, would 0:31:25.280 --> 0:31:26.960 that grow like would that give you the ache? 0:31:27.000 --> 0:31:30.240 Or I would appreciate that more than a song, because 0:31:30.280 --> 0:31:34.720 then I could respond in many different ways rather than 0:31:34.800 --> 0:31:35.920 just like what do I say to a song? 0:31:36.000 --> 0:31:38.080 Like it's what would you say that I'm thinking of you? 0:31:38.560 --> 0:31:39.400 Me too? You too? 0:31:40.320 --> 0:31:40.600 Thanks? 0:31:41.400 --> 0:31:42.960 No, you die? 0:31:43.520 --> 0:31:47.880 I am not like a romantic emotion respond. 0:31:47.640 --> 0:31:49.120 Oh I love that song, or oh I don't know 0:31:49.160 --> 0:31:51.640 that one. I'll check it out. Yeah, thanks, that's that's 0:31:51.720 --> 0:31:52.120 just one. 0:31:52.880 --> 0:31:58.200 Back pocketing all these responds for thinking of me? Yeah yeah, okay, 0:31:58.800 --> 0:32:01.080 that's so nice, feels so special. 0:32:01.560 --> 0:32:03.320 No, no, no, don't don't. 0:32:04.760 --> 0:32:06.200 What do you typically say to the song? 0:32:06.240 --> 0:32:06.440 Though? 0:32:06.600 --> 0:32:13.600 You would be my dream. 0:32:13.680 --> 0:32:16.880 I'd be chasing her so hard, but I'd like, she's 0:32:17.000 --> 0:32:18.600 like not giving me anything. 0:32:20.320 --> 0:32:22.000 It's just so not my style. 0:32:22.120 --> 0:32:25.040 But I'm learning, and it's it's uncomfortable for me. But 0:32:25.440 --> 0:32:27.120 those were the two things that stuck out for. 0:32:27.120 --> 0:32:31.280 They're pretty minors freaking out about that feet pending. 0:32:31.400 --> 0:32:34.400 I think this guy's great report back on the feet. 0:32:34.440 --> 0:32:37.000 But are there any guy's feet you're going to be into? 0:32:37.160 --> 0:32:45.640 Like guys grosser, Some guys have pretty cool feet. 0:32:43.080 --> 0:32:43.720 Ready to show. 0:32:49.480 --> 0:32:52.160 It's like I'd rather a guy walk around like with 0:32:52.360 --> 0:32:53.400 socks and no shoes. 0:32:53.440 --> 0:32:54.120 That's your foot. 0:32:54.320 --> 0:32:56.160 Yeah, keep your socks on. 0:32:57.560 --> 0:32:59.200 Gross I'm saying it inaccurate. 0:32:59.240 --> 0:33:01.360 I'm saying Bobby's eat her a treat. 0:33:02.040 --> 0:33:04.480 You said on the last podcast, you were like, his 0:33:04.600 --> 0:33:06.480 are nicer for men's feet. 0:33:06.520 --> 0:33:07.680 But by no means. 0:33:07.440 --> 0:33:10.160 Do I like love I mean, I don't love his 0:33:10.200 --> 0:33:12.080 feet the way I love his hands, but I think 0:33:12.080 --> 0:33:13.880 he has really great feet, Like I'm not grossed out 0:33:13.880 --> 0:33:16.040 by them at all, actually like touch them. 0:33:16.280 --> 0:33:18.640 Does he have like hair on his toes though? Yeah, 0:33:19.400 --> 0:33:23.680 and that's fine with you totally? Then great, Yeah that's perfect. 0:33:23.920 --> 0:33:25.400 More hair, the better, you know. 0:33:26.880 --> 0:33:28.880 I once asked a girl out in college because of 0:33:28.920 --> 0:33:31.480 her hands. Well, I sat behind her in class and 0:33:31.480 --> 0:33:33.000 her hands are so great. I asked her to date 0:33:33.080 --> 0:33:34.760 and she did. She said yes, but then I called 0:33:34.800 --> 0:33:41.120 and she didn't been. Yeah. Yeah. 0:33:41.360 --> 0:33:46.239 You guys though that like bite their nails. It's so 0:33:46.480 --> 0:33:47.400 deep into the skin. 0:33:47.520 --> 0:33:50.720 It's like, just don't I tried biting my nails because 0:33:50.720 --> 0:33:52.200 people have such a hard time quitting it and like 0:33:52.240 --> 0:33:55.200 it must be good, right, let's be fine, right, do it. 0:33:55.200 --> 0:33:56.800 I could not get the hair for you. 0:33:57.080 --> 0:33:59.520 It's like, as soon as you break the habit, because 0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:01.360 I used to buy my nails so bad, and as 0:34:01.400 --> 0:34:03.560 soon as you break them, the thought of that I 0:34:03.600 --> 0:34:06.600 even did that repulses me. That I put my hands 0:34:06.600 --> 0:34:09.640 in my It is disgusting and sorry if you struggle 0:34:09.680 --> 0:34:10.799 with that habit, but a. 0:34:10.719 --> 0:34:12.440 Lot of people do. My daughter is struggling with it 0:34:12.480 --> 0:34:14.480 and she gets sick a lot, and we think that's why. 0:34:14.320 --> 0:34:16.840 It's it makes sense. I have to start getting my 0:34:16.880 --> 0:34:17.640 nails done. 0:34:17.520 --> 0:34:20.759 So I getting her nails done them. 0:34:20.880 --> 0:34:22.440 Well, that's a very expensive. 0:34:23.040 --> 0:34:28.120 Ye got the gross tasting stuff to put on there presses. 0:34:28.160 --> 0:34:30.040 You can put the press on ones that are pretty cheap. 0:34:30.040 --> 0:34:35.799 And thank you for sharing, Hannah. 0:34:35.880 --> 0:34:38.080 But I feel I can't wait for the update because 0:34:38.440 --> 0:34:41.280 I yeah. 0:34:40.800 --> 0:34:43.160 Not just the feed, I want more information from the 0:34:43.200 --> 0:34:44.880 next I just want to see how this goes. To 0:34:44.880 --> 0:34:46.000 track this in real time, you. 0:34:45.960 --> 0:34:46.520 Can track it. 0:34:46.600 --> 0:34:47.360 Yeah, this is great. 0:34:47.840 --> 0:34:50.799 And I had told Tanya at the soccer game, I 0:34:50.840 --> 0:34:52.359 was like, I want Hanna to talk about this and 0:34:52.480 --> 0:34:54.640 Tanya goes, I'm very proud of the place I'm in 0:34:54.640 --> 0:34:57.840 in my life, and I said, same, me too. But 0:34:58.000 --> 0:35:00.680 a lot of people are still dating and having to 0:35:00.719 --> 0:35:04.080 discover their x and turn offs and what they don't like, 0:35:04.160 --> 0:35:04.680 and we're just. 0:35:04.719 --> 0:35:06.560 Lucky that we have found people that we like their 0:35:06.560 --> 0:35:07.200 hands and feet. 0:35:07.440 --> 0:35:09.719 It's true, I would love to be in your guys'. 0:35:09.560 --> 0:35:12.000 Position right now, but I'm just not is always great. 0:35:12.360 --> 0:35:15.040 It's true. It's it's fun to date too, but. 0:35:15.560 --> 0:35:18.600 Because people in relationships always love living through you vicariously 0:35:18.600 --> 0:35:20.759 when you're dating, and the people dating would love to 0:35:20.800 --> 0:35:24.120 be in that committed relationship. Yeah, no one's ever happy. 0:35:25.280 --> 0:35:28.279 We say that again, like the people in relationships like 0:35:28.360 --> 0:35:30.680 us love hearing all the details of her dating life 0:35:31.160 --> 0:35:33.360 go out with like Sistney loves used to love to 0:35:33.400 --> 0:35:36.200 swipe on yours and all that stuff. But the people 0:35:36.320 --> 0:35:38.680 who are dating would love to be in the committed relationship. 0:35:40.160 --> 0:35:40.520 Got it? 0:35:42.840 --> 0:35:43.560 Is that register? 0:35:44.600 --> 0:35:46.720 Yeah? I thought he meant that people who are incommon 0:35:46.760 --> 0:35:48.000 relationships wish they were single. 0:35:50.719 --> 0:35:52.839 You know, someone news fine, you know it's just. 0:35:52.840 --> 0:35:56.480 Intriguing to hear about other people's experiences. 0:35:55.880 --> 0:35:59.960 Right, Yeah, I was never like great at the first date, 0:36:00.400 --> 0:36:02.640 because I'd be like, oh, like, I feel like I'm 0:36:02.760 --> 0:36:07.480 on an interview asking the same questions, and then you 0:36:07.560 --> 0:36:10.279 meet the right person you're like, oh, it wasn't that 0:36:10.440 --> 0:36:15.480 was actually nice. Anyways, all right, we're going to take 0:36:15.520 --> 0:36:38.280 a break and we'll be back with emails. All Right, 0:36:38.800 --> 0:36:41.960 we are back and we have some emails. 0:36:42.360 --> 0:36:44.440 Mark, all right, Becka, thank you very much. And by 0:36:44.440 --> 0:36:46.440 the way, for this first email, it comes with a 0:36:46.480 --> 0:36:50.480 trigger warning for anyone who's experienced disordered eating. Anonymous says, 0:36:50.520 --> 0:36:52.400 I'm seeking advice and what to do about a friend 0:36:52.600 --> 0:36:55.400 who appears to be too thin and unhealthy looking for 0:36:55.480 --> 0:36:57.600 contact with thirty years old. We've known each other and 0:36:57.560 --> 0:37:00.000 best friends in second grade. Well that's beautiful. By the way, 0:37:00.080 --> 0:37:03.040 I love that stuff. We haven't been as close since college, 0:37:03.080 --> 0:37:04.839 but will always be friends no matter what. She's been 0:37:04.840 --> 0:37:06.520 on a health kick, and in my opinion, she's taken 0:37:06.520 --> 0:37:08.600 it too far. If I never knew her and was 0:37:08.600 --> 0:37:10.160 meeting her for the first time, I would think she's 0:37:10.200 --> 0:37:12.719 ill because of how thin she is. She's married, I'm 0:37:12.719 --> 0:37:14.359 not super close with her husband. I do know her 0:37:14.360 --> 0:37:16.080 younger brothers or mom or dad, and they all think 0:37:16.080 --> 0:37:17.760 she's taken it too far, and that she looks awful 0:37:17.880 --> 0:37:21.000 because she looks so sickly thin. She's very close to 0:37:21.040 --> 0:37:23.320 her family, she works in the medical profession. She's a PA, 0:37:23.400 --> 0:37:26.239 so she's very smart and well educated. She'd become so 0:37:26.320 --> 0:37:28.919 thin she doesn't get a period anymore. Do I say 0:37:28.960 --> 0:37:30.600 something to my friend? What do I say? Do I 0:37:30.640 --> 0:37:32.360 talk to her mom? Do I not say anything. 0:37:36.680 --> 0:37:37.719 I've never had to. 0:37:39.680 --> 0:37:42.440 Go through this, but I do think this is a 0:37:42.600 --> 0:37:49.200 very delicate topic and subject. 0:37:50.760 --> 0:37:51.920 Have you ever experienced this. 0:37:52.640 --> 0:37:56.520 We had a friend in college. It was in a 0:37:56.560 --> 0:38:00.480 different eating disorders. She was bullemic, and we sussess expected 0:38:00.560 --> 0:38:02.839 it and we followed her and we saw her doing it. 0:38:03.360 --> 0:38:05.840 So what we did is we got the friend that 0:38:06.000 --> 0:38:10.320 was closest to her to go to her mom to 0:38:10.400 --> 0:38:12.719 tell her to basically get her help. And that's kind 0:38:12.719 --> 0:38:14.920 of how we went about it because it is very tricky. 0:38:14.960 --> 0:38:17.440 You can't ambush them with like a bunch of people, 0:38:19.719 --> 0:38:21.360 and so we felt it was best to go to 0:38:21.680 --> 0:38:24.840 her mom to kind of handle the situation, and the 0:38:24.880 --> 0:38:29.239 mom sent her to rehab, and that's how we dealt 0:38:29.280 --> 0:38:34.440 with it. But it is really really tricky because you know, 0:38:34.680 --> 0:38:39.240 eating disorders. You know, body issues are really really sensitive, 0:38:39.280 --> 0:38:42.560 and I do feel like it could ruin a friendship 0:38:42.640 --> 0:38:47.080 if that person's not accepting of it. So I don't know. 0:38:47.640 --> 0:38:51.640 I was maybe gonna say even suggests maybe anonymously posting 0:38:51.680 --> 0:38:53.520 this in the Facebook group because I know there are 0:38:53.640 --> 0:38:59.040 scrubbers who have experienced disordered eating themselves, and maybe they 0:38:59.080 --> 0:39:01.160 have some insight on a way to approach it that's 0:39:01.200 --> 0:39:06.160 like sensitive and helpful. Yeah, because it says her. 0:39:06.040 --> 0:39:10.440 Family seems to know. She says she's very close, but 0:39:10.480 --> 0:39:14.839 they think she also it's gone too far. So I 0:39:14.840 --> 0:39:18.360 don't know that I have any like helpful advice that 0:39:18.480 --> 0:39:20.200 I would feel comfortable giving. 0:39:21.160 --> 0:39:23.919 Yeah, is it possible she is sick by the way 0:39:23.960 --> 0:39:27.920 that she's not telling you because she's not comfortable through Maybe. 0:39:28.120 --> 0:39:30.400 I mean, I do think maybe there's a conversation of 0:39:30.480 --> 0:39:32.799 like are you doing okay? And maybe it can open 0:39:32.880 --> 0:39:34.719 up the conversation for her to say, like, I've been 0:39:34.760 --> 0:39:38.120 struggling with this, But I think going into it saying 0:39:38.160 --> 0:39:40.879 like you look too thin or worried about you might 0:39:40.920 --> 0:39:43.000 be triggering and it might be too sensitive. But I 0:39:43.040 --> 0:39:45.279 do think maybe there's just a heart to heart conversation 0:39:45.320 --> 0:39:48.160 and maybe she will feel safe to open up. But 0:39:48.960 --> 0:39:54.479 otherwise I think that it's just. 0:39:54.360 --> 0:39:55.799 A very delicate thing. 0:39:56.160 --> 0:39:58.080 Like I said, I have an experience this, so I 0:39:58.120 --> 0:40:01.560 don't feel like the this is a very serious topic. 0:40:01.680 --> 0:40:05.560 I don't feel like, say, like comfortable giving sound advice on. 0:40:07.239 --> 0:40:08.200 So yeah, I don't know. 0:40:08.480 --> 0:40:10.920 I'm sorry that we're not much help, But I do 0:40:11.000 --> 0:40:13.360 think that maybe talking to her mom if you feel 0:40:13.360 --> 0:40:16.440 comfortable having that conversation, and also just giving her maybe 0:40:16.520 --> 0:40:18.839 a conversation to feel safe enough to open up about 0:40:18.880 --> 0:40:20.439 it and see if she does. 0:40:20.880 --> 0:40:23.080 Yeah, I'm really sorry you're going through this. It's really 0:40:23.120 --> 0:40:26.839 really tough, and it does put it does put your 0:40:26.880 --> 0:40:29.920 relationship in a weird position. But all you can do 0:40:30.000 --> 0:40:32.080 is show up for your friend the best that you can. 0:40:34.440 --> 0:40:37.319 All Right, Next up, Anonymous. I feel like I've been 0:40:37.320 --> 0:40:39.560 relating to Becca a lot lately when she talks about 0:40:39.560 --> 0:40:42.040 Haley leaving. I've been with my boyfriend two years now. 0:40:42.080 --> 0:40:44.040 He's the best guy I've ever dated. My ection and 0:40:44.080 --> 0:40:46.359 I are very toxic. He was narcissistic, he always talked 0:40:46.360 --> 0:40:48.400 to other people and made me the crazy one. My 0:40:48.400 --> 0:40:51.160 boyfriend now is understanding. He's patient, he's kind. We see 0:40:51.160 --> 0:40:52.640 each other one the two times a week because I 0:40:52.680 --> 0:40:55.520 live we live forty minutes apart. He's my safe place. 0:40:55.560 --> 0:40:57.080 I would hang out with him twenty four to seven 0:40:57.120 --> 0:40:59.520 if I could. I have an anxious attachment style, and 0:40:59.560 --> 0:41:01.560 he is a really attached so I worry about him 0:41:01.560 --> 0:41:03.360 thinking I'm too much, even though he never makes me 0:41:03.400 --> 0:41:05.920 feel that way. How do you deal with the anxiety 0:41:05.960 --> 0:41:09.080 anxious attachment style or worrying about what they might think. 0:41:09.280 --> 0:41:11.560 My boyfriend knows what goes on in my head, and 0:41:11.600 --> 0:41:13.680 I go to therapy, but I'm naturally a warrior. 0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:17.000 I'm sorry you're going through this. 0:41:17.080 --> 0:41:22.359 It's a crazy mental spiral that you can lead yourself down. 0:41:22.480 --> 0:41:25.400 But I think for me, I've always been more like 0:41:25.440 --> 0:41:29.000 on the avoidant secure attached, so the anxious attachment came 0:41:29.600 --> 0:41:32.320 unexpectedly to me. I think it's been like building probably 0:41:32.360 --> 0:41:36.600 since like the pandemic, because we spent so much time together. 0:41:37.880 --> 0:41:39.520 But I kind of just. 0:41:39.520 --> 0:41:43.279 Had a moment where I remembered that I have I've 0:41:43.320 --> 0:41:50.360 always had such a healthy and like independent life outside 0:41:50.360 --> 0:41:53.160 of my relationship with Haley, and I kind of just 0:41:53.200 --> 0:41:56.279 like snapped into this headspace where I was like I 0:41:56.440 --> 0:42:00.000 have the best friends, I have a really cool job. 0:42:00.280 --> 0:42:02.600 I have things that I like to do outside of 0:42:02.880 --> 0:42:05.080 and things that maybe Haley doesn't like to do, And 0:42:05.120 --> 0:42:07.920 I just like really focused on those things because I 0:42:08.000 --> 0:42:11.839 realized that as I was getting more anxious and spiraling, 0:42:11.960 --> 0:42:14.959 I was just needing her to like validate and hear 0:42:15.040 --> 0:42:17.160 me on the certain things that I was anxious about. 0:42:17.200 --> 0:42:21.479 And as soon as she kind of just understood where 0:42:21.480 --> 0:42:24.319 it was coming from, I felt seen and heard, and 0:42:24.360 --> 0:42:27.280 then I was able to like go back to feeling 0:42:28.120 --> 0:42:31.399 more in a secure headspace. So I think it's it's 0:42:31.560 --> 0:42:34.160 it's like finding the things that you like to do 0:42:34.280 --> 0:42:36.759 with or without him, the things that you obviously you 0:42:36.760 --> 0:42:40.120 would like enjoy everything with him more, maybe because Tanya 0:42:40.120 --> 0:42:43.280 and I always talk about that, how like we would 0:42:43.520 --> 0:42:45.960 like to have our partners with us regardless of what 0:42:46.000 --> 0:42:50.120 we're doing. But I think that if you can find 0:42:50.160 --> 0:42:53.000 those things and like cultivate the other friendships and relationships 0:42:53.040 --> 0:42:56.560 in your life, it really helps just to get in 0:42:56.600 --> 0:43:01.560 a healthier headspace and knowing that, like without him and 0:43:01.600 --> 0:43:04.160 this relationship, you're going to be okay, Because I think 0:43:04.560 --> 0:43:07.000 that's where it gets dark, is like you go, what 0:43:07.560 --> 0:43:09.440 will I do if I don't have this person anymore? 0:43:09.480 --> 0:43:11.319 What will I do if I push them away? And 0:43:12.480 --> 0:43:13.759 that's not what you want? 0:43:14.640 --> 0:43:16.360 Yeah, I think there's a lot of power and beauty 0:43:16.360 --> 0:43:18.120 in a relationship where you can just be open and 0:43:18.160 --> 0:43:20.719 honest about your attachment style. I think there's like a 0:43:20.719 --> 0:43:23.480 lot of benefit coming from just expressing that to your 0:43:23.520 --> 0:43:27.080 partner and saying that it's not necessarily their fault or 0:43:27.120 --> 0:43:29.759 anything they're doing that, Like you just happen to have 0:43:29.920 --> 0:43:33.239 this anxious attachment and just acknowledging it, because if you're 0:43:33.280 --> 0:43:35.680 not speaking it, you're storing it, and that's creating more 0:43:35.719 --> 0:43:38.040 anxiety in you. And so I think just like expressing 0:43:38.080 --> 0:43:42.400 that and hopefully he receives it and doesn't make you 0:43:42.440 --> 0:43:45.120 feel bad about it. But I just think being open 0:43:45.160 --> 0:43:47.120 with him, I think will also give you a lot 0:43:47.160 --> 0:43:47.880 of relief. 0:43:49.160 --> 0:43:51.920 Is Robby secure? What'd you say is a secure attachment? 0:43:52.040 --> 0:43:52.360 Yeah? 0:43:52.400 --> 0:43:53.160 So he doesn't. 0:43:53.520 --> 0:43:56.919 I think it helps when your partner secure because they're 0:43:56.960 --> 0:43:59.560 able to like calm you down, because if they're avoidant, 0:43:59.560 --> 0:44:02.479 they'll just like almost shut down. 0:44:02.680 --> 0:44:02.919 Yeah. 0:44:02.920 --> 0:44:05.320 And like if I'm if I'm having anxiety about something, 0:44:05.360 --> 0:44:07.840 he like knows that it's where it's coming from. He 0:44:07.880 --> 0:44:10.760 doesn't get angry, he doesn't get upset, He just listens 0:44:10.800 --> 0:44:14.040 to me. And so it's I think I think you'll 0:44:14.040 --> 0:44:16.200 feel a lot better if you explain to him what's 0:44:16.200 --> 0:44:16.560 going on. 0:44:18.080 --> 0:44:18.520 Good luck. 0:44:18.560 --> 0:44:21.960 It's it's a very It's not a great place to 0:44:22.000 --> 0:44:25.879 be when you get into that that headspace, but you're 0:44:25.880 --> 0:44:32.480 doing your best. We do have a Thursday episode coming. 0:44:32.280 --> 0:44:33.600 Up, Yes, we do it. 0:44:35.040 --> 0:44:36.160 Well, let us tell. 0:44:35.960 --> 0:44:42.800 You it's gonna be Roxy Diaz, who Kanye has described 0:44:42.840 --> 0:44:45.880 as one of the best hyphe women out there. A 0:44:45.960 --> 0:44:48.520 girl's a girl, she's like your number one fan. 0:44:48.680 --> 0:44:49.480 Huh. Yeah. 0:44:49.520 --> 0:44:52.080 I love her so much. I remember when I was 0:44:52.120 --> 0:44:56.759 doing the E carpets. She was always so welcoming to 0:44:56.800 --> 0:44:59.799 me and like made me always try to lift me 0:44:59.880 --> 0:45:02.240 up and make me feel good, never made me feel bad. 0:45:02.280 --> 0:45:04.800 And I just I've admired her from the very beginning 0:45:04.800 --> 0:45:07.839 when I started working with her. And so she's gonna 0:45:07.840 --> 0:45:09.120 come in and tell us about our story. 0:45:09.600 --> 0:45:10.360 Yay. 0:45:10.960 --> 0:45:13.759 So we will be back on Thursday, and I hope 0:45:13.760 --> 0:45:16.000 you have a great week, and we love you so much. 0:45:16.200 --> 0:45:16.520 Love you. 0:45:16.560 --> 0:45:25.400 Bye.