Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. I feel like I
Speaker 2: haven't seen well, I've seen you, but I feel like
Speaker 2: we haven't done the podcast in a minute because we
Speaker 2: kind of did.
Speaker 3: An early one last week. That's right, so it's been
Speaker 3: a minute.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I like doing a podcast on a different day,
Speaker 4: though it was different energy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's fun, good times. Great to see you.
Speaker 4: Great to see you. Good I'm doing I'm tired, Okay,
Speaker 4: I'm into well, no, I'm really into this new Jude show.
Speaker 4: It's not new, it's old. It's called Yellow Jackets, but
Speaker 4: it's new to me and I stayed up till eleven
Speaker 4: thirty watching it last night.
Speaker 3: You're a bad, bad girl.
Speaker 4: No, it's like, yeah, on an early morning next day
Speaker 4: for work, so it's really a problem.
Speaker 2: But there's there's not there's how many seasons, like two, three, two,
Speaker 2: so you could be caught up pretty soon and get on.
Speaker 5: It's in its second season.
Speaker 4: Okay currently, oh currently, Yeah, you know, it's so funny.
Speaker 4: So we got showtime just to watch this show, Okay,
Speaker 4: but we don't want to keep having showtime because I
Speaker 4: don't want to watch anything else on show time. So
Speaker 4: I put in my calendar for a month to like
Speaker 4: be activated thing. But I don't know if we're going
Speaker 4: to get it all in by that.
Speaker 1: Time, like last night. That's going to help, right, Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I got to push through.
Speaker 3: Yeah, these nights are going to be big for you
Speaker 3: the eleven thirties.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because I'm so annoyed, like I don't want one
Speaker 4: more streaming service that I have to buy.
Speaker 1: But the nice thing about the streaming services is that
Speaker 1: you can have it for a month and cancel it.
Speaker 1: By the way, if somebody's really strapped for cash, on
Speaker 1: these you can stop Netflix for a month and then
Speaker 1: get it again in a month. You know you can
Speaker 1: do that.
Speaker 4: You can just going.
Speaker 3: I was going to ask you. I was trying to
Speaker 3: find it and I couldn't figure out what on showtime?
Speaker 4: You have to download another app on your TV?
Speaker 3: My do I have energy? I don't know? And to
Speaker 3: like take the risk. What if I don't like the show,
Speaker 3: you will You said that about a lot of shows
Speaker 3: that I know.
Speaker 1: It's so good.
Speaker 4: It's a little darker than I usually like I am
Speaker 4: in a.
Speaker 1: Darker face because also breaking bad very Wow.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't watched it. Don't tell me.
Speaker 1: Are you not caught up?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: Okay, it's gotten starting with episode four, which is mind blowing.
Speaker 1: It's incredible.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Anyway, so great Yellow Jackets. I watched the pilot. It's
Speaker 1: really good.
Speaker 4: It's really good.
Speaker 2: All right, Well, I got some you got some backup
Speaker 2: in here, although they also liked Ted Lasso and Dreary Duty.
Speaker 1: So you know, you're in the minority, not just in
Speaker 1: this room.
Speaker 3: But the world.
Speaker 2: But I'm just saying, like I it's hard to say, like, oh,
Speaker 2: Tanya loves it, so I'm gonna love it. You know,
Speaker 2: I don't, unfortunately, feel the trust in that. That's okay,
Speaker 2: it's more on me though it's not your fault.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So I went to last time we talked.
Speaker 2: I was gonna I was like going to surprise Haley
Speaker 2: for in Denver, and she was like, I knew it
Speaker 2: when she saw because I I snuck onto the bus
Speaker 2: to surprise her.
Speaker 6: And then I had.
Speaker 2: Brought her friend Monica and she was in the room
Speaker 2: and so I go on the bus and he was
Speaker 2: like I knew it, and I'm like, no, you did not,
Speaker 2: because I made up this whole elaborate thing that I
Speaker 2: had to go to San Diego for work and it
Speaker 2: was awkward.
Speaker 4: That's probably why she knew it.
Speaker 2: No, she was I told her I had to go
Speaker 2: with this girl that I didn't know very well and
Speaker 2: we had to share a room because I was trying
Speaker 2: to figure out how I could like be in the
Speaker 2: hotel without being in the room, so she didn't see Monica,
Speaker 2: and so I was like, I'm staying with this girl
Speaker 2: I don't know, Like it's kind of awkward, and so
Speaker 2: I'm just kind of to like come out in the
Speaker 2: hallway and talk to you. And she's like, I can't
Speaker 2: believe they made you stay like with someone that you
Speaker 2: don't know, Like that's so uncomfortable. So like she was
Speaker 2: totally one thousand percent bought my scheme.
Speaker 4: I don't know if she did, though she did.
Speaker 3: She admitted it. She was like I had lost hope
Speaker 3: when you So then how did she know?
Speaker 2: I think she just always had a feeling maybe I
Speaker 2: show up, or like held on hope.
Speaker 4: That I show up, or maybe she you were gonna
Speaker 4: show up but not exactly when you did.
Speaker 2: No, I think she just had like a feeling because
Speaker 2: we had talked about like, oh, we'll see each other.
Speaker 2: That'll be like around the two week mark, so we'll
Speaker 2: see each other around then and so anyways, but she
Speaker 2: didn't know that Monica was there, so that got the tears.
Speaker 3: That was the surprise.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it wasn't a complete fail on the surprise aspect.
Speaker 4: But she was so happy.
Speaker 3: She was so happy. But she spends really sick.
Speaker 2: She's had like a sinus infection that like will not
Speaker 2: go away, so she has not been able to catch
Speaker 2: up on like sleep because you sleeping on the bus.
Speaker 3: And yeah, I don't know how. I don't know how
Speaker 3: people do this lifestyle, right, it's.
Speaker 4: Terrible, Like think about let's just say the Jonas brothers.
Speaker 4: They're gone because they're going back out on tour, did they?
Speaker 2: But they probably all have their own bus like they
Speaker 2: probable the bus.
Speaker 4: The bus is a bus is a bus.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think when you have your whole bus
Speaker 2: to yourself, it's a little more comfortable than sharing it
Speaker 2: with like however many sixteen people or whatever.
Speaker 4: I don't know about that. Yeah, either way, it's not
Speaker 4: sixteen people.
Speaker 3: I think there's like seven or something. A bus there's
Speaker 3: sixteen people, not two buses.
Speaker 4: No, how do you fit that many beds in there?
Speaker 3: They're just two three toward each other.
Speaker 4: I've never seen a bus that big.
Speaker 6: Well it's a.
Speaker 2: Double decker, but they're all the buses are on the
Speaker 2: same level. Anyways, it's exhausting. I don't know how she
Speaker 2: does it. And it was great to see her. And
Speaker 2: then she's in La tomorrow.
Speaker 4: So just a little longer.
Speaker 2: She on tour until like June or something June at
Speaker 2: the beginning of June, forgot what month.
Speaker 3: We were like into May, but June is in the
Speaker 3: getting of June.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's like so two three weeks. Yeah, she has
Speaker 4: so you're in the home stretch. Yeah, and I really
Speaker 4: felt great, Like I'm a little concerned about that little
Speaker 4: dark spell I had.
Speaker 2: Why because she came in like a wrecking ball, and
Speaker 2: she stirred some things up, and then she went away,
Speaker 2: and so now I'm like, will it come back unexpectedly
Speaker 2: or am I good? I don't know.
Speaker 4: Well what triggered it was the fact that she was away,
Speaker 4: so you might be triggered for a while.
Speaker 2: Right, and being in Europe thing, the time zone thing
Speaker 2: really shook me up.
Speaker 3: That was really bad. Don't recommend that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Hannah and I were actually talking about it because
Speaker 2: we we went to we had a date night on
Speaker 2: a Friday night. It was so fun and we were
Speaker 2: talking about because your ex you were long distance but
Speaker 2: same time zone, and that was still hard.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I couldn't do it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's very it's very weird, like it messes.
Speaker 2: It messed with my head in a way that I
Speaker 2: wasn't expecting it to.
Speaker 4: So it happens.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
Speaker 4: It's okay.
Speaker 2: I can't believe you did long distance with your first
Speaker 2: like your long term relation.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but that was just San Diego, San Diego, La.
Speaker 4: So it's like long distance because we're not in the
Speaker 4: same city. We couldn't see each other in Arizona. He
Speaker 4: ended up moving to Arizona. Yeah, but like the first
Speaker 4: two years was La to San Diego.
Speaker 3: Still, So, y'all never actually lived in the same city.
Speaker 4: Never. No, that's shocking, Mom, what's clinging?
Speaker 1: How do I.
Speaker 3: She said it first?
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's true though, Like I could not imagine, like
Speaker 4: if Robbie lived in San Diego, that would be horrendous
Speaker 4: for me at this point in my life. But I
Speaker 4: think at the point of my life when I was
Speaker 4: dating my ex. I was started out working for the
Speaker 4: morning show, and like I was there twelve hours a day,
Speaker 4: so it almost was better because I wasn't able to
Speaker 4: commit my time to anything else but work. So it
Speaker 4: was like I worked Monday through Friday and then I
Speaker 4: would leave first thing after I finished working, and I
Speaker 4: had all weekend with him.
Speaker 2: That I mean, when you're busy, when you have stuff
Speaker 2: going on, Yeah, it makes a very big difference.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I think that's the only reason why it was
Speaker 4: like fine for me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like, I don't even have the capacity, Yes,
Speaker 2: the girlfriend during the week, I'm correct, all right, well
Speaker 2: that makes more sense. But now in these times of
Speaker 2: your life. No, Like I probably was like, I have
Speaker 2: to move to London for a year, what would you do?
Speaker 4: See if I could do the show out in London? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Wow, she went straight to.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know what I mean. If it was
Speaker 4: for a year, I think I would be able to, Like,
Speaker 4: if there was like a start in an end time,
Speaker 4: I think I'd be okay with it. Okay, But if
Speaker 4: it was like in perpetuity, not knowing when he'd be back,
Speaker 4: that would be a major problem.
Speaker 3: Great like big word throwing right there.
Speaker 4: Which one.
Speaker 3: What was it?
Speaker 1: Perpetuity?
Speaker 4: Perpetunity often? Oh yeah, word of the day. Yeah, no, perpetuity.
Speaker 4: I don't know why, but I feel like I use
Speaker 4: it often.
Speaker 3: Great.
Speaker 4: Yeah, proud of you.
Speaker 3: Thank you because you did do a comparison.
Speaker 2: Oh, because I post about the Denny Henry thing and
Speaker 2: he said it's like comparing it.
Speaker 4: Was actually perfect.
Speaker 3: Oh what was it again?
Speaker 4: Comparing a watermelon? Comparing Henry to Denny as I comparing
Speaker 4: a watermelon to a penny.
Speaker 3: Yeah, can you explain that, maybe for.
Speaker 4: Because it's not even They're not even the same category.
Speaker 1: Henry and Jeff saying that, so a watermelon Jeff and
Speaker 1: the penny Scott fully agree with that.
Speaker 3: Okay, so so this is what started I posted.
Speaker 2: I said, I have an unpopular opinion Henry's death. I've
Speaker 2: been watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy solid.
Speaker 1: By the way, just newsflash for those of you who.
Speaker 4: Are not watching watching Camilla next week, we do.
Speaker 1: Yeah right, yeah, I'm caught up. Yeah it's really good.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'll gently take your work from that.
Speaker 2: But anyways, I posted that like, Henry's death affected me
Speaker 2: way more than Denny, Like I have never Denny.
Speaker 3: Was like, oh, that's sad. Like I felt bad, but
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 2: Was kind of it because it didn't it wasn't realistic
Speaker 2: in the sense that like they didn't know each other
Speaker 2: outside of of that situation. It just felt very like
Speaker 2: over dramaticized to me. And then I felt like Henry,
Speaker 2: we got to know him, he and Teddy fell in love.
Speaker 2: We got to like watch her fall in love with
Speaker 2: him through their situation. And then it happened unexpectedly. And
Speaker 2: remember when Christina was operating on him but she didn't
Speaker 2: know it was him.
Speaker 3: He died, and then that was messed up. That was
Speaker 3: some dark stuff shot it did.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that was messed up.
Speaker 3: That was some sinister writing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, watch Yellow Jackets, you'll get some dark stuff there too.
Speaker 3: Some shocked that you're into.
Speaker 2: That, me too, but I am so Yeah, I got
Speaker 2: And a lot of people said they agreed with me.
Speaker 3: They're like telling me, is not gonna like this?
Speaker 4: Well, and I, in fact I cantlope no, no. See,
Speaker 4: that's the thing, that's why I didn't choose another fruit
Speaker 4: exactly that they're not.
Speaker 1: Even people like people like candlopes, some people like water.
Speaker 4: They're not even in the same category of fruit. That's
Speaker 4: why I went penny and penny.
Speaker 2: But whuldn't you say, like some people think like the
Speaker 2: value of a penny is worth more than a piece
Speaker 2: of currency.
Speaker 4: I'd say less people think that.
Speaker 3: Okay, maybe that's the next one.
Speaker 4: Juicy watermelon, nothing better on a summer day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you wouldn't trade a watermelon for a penny.
Speaker 4: No, I don't think I would never trade.
Speaker 2: You're going through in your life. We can't speak for
Speaker 2: everyone in this.
Speaker 7: A mouthful of pennies just hits the spot.
Speaker 1: About Okay, So this week I just want to defend
Speaker 1: Grace for a second. Speaking of Camilla, I love what
Speaker 1: she's got going on right now. There's a really hot
Speaker 1: dude who's laid up there week after week, Sam Sutton.
Speaker 1: Sam Sutton is the patient, he broke ninety three bones,
Speaker 1: and he's very into Joe Joe. Sorry, I am met
Speaker 1: with character names. And so Link's kind of be like, whoa, whoa,
Speaker 1: what's going on here? And I like how this is divine?
Speaker 3: Are they together Joe and Link?
Speaker 1: Not really, they're living together, but they're not an established relationships.
Speaker 3: There's all this there was a whole thing where he.
Speaker 1: Was in love with their feelings on both sides, and
Speaker 1: she kind of was in and then he was like
Speaker 1: not responding that he was in, and she wasn't responding.
Speaker 1: And now he's going to be all in because she's
Speaker 1: like in the attention she's getting from Sam. It's very good.
Speaker 4: It's so annoying that it takes somebody else looking at
Speaker 4: your girl to like make you want to go for
Speaker 4: your girl.
Speaker 1: And and I don't know their names, I'm sorry, the
Speaker 1: new people, the young shepherd, yes, right, and you know
Speaker 1: he's still into I don't know their names. The one
Speaker 1: who's getting married, Yes, it's doctor Griffin.
Speaker 3: Oh oh, who's she married?
Speaker 1: She's married her ex boyfriend. You haven't watched in months?
Speaker 3: No, have it? Yeah? Oh oh.
Speaker 2: So they're trying to make this like April Jackson. They're
Speaker 2: trying to make I don't know, like Denny and Izzy.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I'm really enjoying it. You guys
Speaker 1: are carrying a water melody Penny.
Speaker 4: We'll ask Camilla what she thinks. Was she more devastated
Speaker 4: for Denny's death or Henry's.
Speaker 2: I think she's going to give the popular answer, which
Speaker 2: is Denny, even though if you really go deeper, it's
Speaker 2: not true.
Speaker 4: We'll just have to wait and see, won't we won't we?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Week away?
Speaker 3: What else have you been up to you? Okay? So
Speaker 3: I just never want to know.
Speaker 2: I got back into La from Denver, and my spidy
Speaker 2: senses were like, mm is Tanya in a good place
Speaker 2: or a bad place? Something was tingling and within me
Speaker 2: and I was like, couldn't figure it out. I'm like
Speaker 2: texting her. She is like ghosting me. I got ghosted
Speaker 2: so many times by Tanya this past week that all
Speaker 2: I feel well, I mean, it doesn't feel great, but
Speaker 2: like I moved on.
Speaker 3: You know, I didn't attack you. I just was like, hey,
Speaker 3: everything good. Sometimes you need to be attacked.
Speaker 4: You wanted to be attacked sometimes. Yeah, I do like
Speaker 4: a little extra attention, you know.
Speaker 2: Oh well, I thought me texting and following up was
Speaker 2: like enough attention.
Speaker 3: So do you want to explain yourself? Like what was going?
Speaker 3: Were you just so busy to be honest?
Speaker 4: To be totally honest? Last week, whenever I do things
Speaker 4: on Sundays, we went to American Idol last Sunday, last
Speaker 4: last Sunday. Whenever I do something on a Sunday, it
Speaker 4: really sets my week off too into a like a
Speaker 4: tailspin because I feel like I don't really like on Sundays,
Speaker 4: I need to rest. It's like, really my only rest day,
Speaker 4: and I don't rest. I feel like I've like lost
Speaker 4: myself in this whirlwind of the week. It's so weird. Okay,
Speaker 4: that little tiny like thing. But anyways, so I was
Speaker 4: very busy on Sunday, and then we had a very
Speaker 4: wild Monday at work. We had ed Shecheron in here.
Speaker 3: Oh love him, love him, love him. I've loved him forever,
Speaker 3: but I love him more than ever.
Speaker 1: Nods they're not into him, and I'm really trying to
Speaker 1: turn that on that because he's the best.
Speaker 3: You know what I don't like.
Speaker 4: The thing that's so cool about him is he's not
Speaker 4: trying to be anything but himself, do you know what
Speaker 4: I mean? Like he's not trying to be this pop star.
Speaker 4: He's not like trying to stay cool or relevant. He's
Speaker 4: just being who he is and just take it, take
Speaker 4: it for take it or leave it basically. And I
Speaker 4: love that attitude so much because he's not like trying.
Speaker 2: He just does what he loves and he's like if
Speaker 2: people love it, great, and if they don't, I'm going
Speaker 2: to find a way to keep doing it, because that's
Speaker 2: all I want to do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And he is the cutest wife, and he's so cool.
Speaker 4: She's so cool, and he's so humble, like he shakes
Speaker 4: everyone's hand, he looks everybody in the eye. He's just
Speaker 4: a great human. And sometimes I sit there and I
Speaker 4: really think about the numbers when he's touring stadiums, right,
Speaker 4: I mean, think about the ticket and what his overhead is.
Speaker 4: He just wears his normal clothes and he's got a
Speaker 4: little pedal on the no lasers, no dancers, no costumes. No,
Speaker 4: I mean he has like the big screens. He's probably
Speaker 4: making so much money.
Speaker 7: His last tour is like one of the highest grossing
Speaker 7: toys of all time, The Divide.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because he has no overhead. Think about it, Like,
Speaker 4: think about if you look at Taylor show, She's got
Speaker 4: all those dancers, all those costumes, all those effects, all
Speaker 4: that like pyro and smoke and machines and all that.
Speaker 4: That all costs so much money. Yeah, he has none
Speaker 4: of that.
Speaker 2: You walk away from a tailor show and you're like,
Speaker 2: I'll never ever ever forget this.
Speaker 4: I'm not saying I'm not saying it's not worth it.
Speaker 4: I think I obviously I love Taylor's.
Speaker 3: Anything more for what he's selling or just.
Speaker 2: Something about that aspect is just it really like throws me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, he's great. I love him.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So that was like a lot. And then I just
Speaker 4: feel like I've had something, I had something on top
Speaker 4: of work every single day and.
Speaker 2: It's just yeah, yeah, So I blame char And for
Speaker 2: like your ghosting.
Speaker 4: Just blame my time, my Hashi motos.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, we took a turn there. Great.
Speaker 2: But then I got to see what the soccer game
Speaker 2: went to, the Angel City game. Yes, was that your
Speaker 2: first one.
Speaker 4: First soccer game ever?
Speaker 6: Wow?
Speaker 3: What do you think?
Speaker 4: If I'm being honest, I was not super paying attention
Speaker 4: to the game, okay, but I thought it was fun. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm starting to like sporting events. I think it's like
Speaker 4: a cute hang And they had these chimoy dipped uh
Speaker 4: he chimoy dipped gummy bears and peat rings that were divine.
Speaker 3: Delicious, delicious. Yeah.
Speaker 4: I pushed back on my hashymotives test two days so
Speaker 4: that I could get that out of my system because
Speaker 4: I was like, this feels like I should not be
Speaker 4: eating this before I retest all my stuff.
Speaker 1: This was Saturday.
Speaker 4: This was Saturday. I was supposed to retest today Washington, Washington.
Speaker 1: I'm seeing if.
Speaker 4: No, they were in white uniforms.
Speaker 1: Who won.
Speaker 4: Washington?
Speaker 1: Very good, they're undefeated Washington.
Speaker 3: Yeah, good job.
Speaker 1: Washington.
Speaker 3: I felt like Robbie had a great time.
Speaker 2: He was really into the just he loves questions and
Speaker 2: finding out what everything that's going on in the No.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was really surprised when I when you sent
Speaker 4: me the text you want to go to this Angel
Speaker 4: City soccer and asked him. He was like, yeah, that's
Speaker 4: so cool, and I was like, wow, who is such
Speaker 4: a soccer fan.
Speaker 3: He's just a fan.
Speaker 2: He's just happy to be. He's just happy to live, laugh,
Speaker 2: love and watch sports.
Speaker 4: That's very true. That's very true. But you're like a
Speaker 4: regular now.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just like am at the games and just
Speaker 3: go you.
Speaker 4: Know, yeah, hot dogs, nacho Yeah, I just know the.
Speaker 2: Drill when the nacho bar comes out, you know, that's
Speaker 2: the second half.
Speaker 3: Like that's all good, good stuff.
Speaker 4: It is cute, though I do want to make it
Speaker 4: kind of like a thing.
Speaker 3: It's very it's so fun. It's really cool to see
Speaker 3: like a a like special, especially like a women's sports team.
Speaker 3: Being like celebrated and supported.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so Hannah and I went to Okay. So Thursday night,
Speaker 2: I got this paint with diamonds craft and it's just
Speaker 2: like it's like coated and then they send you the
Speaker 2: colors and you just match the colors and you just
Speaker 2: stick them on.
Speaker 4: You made Haley, it was like a watercolor thing.
Speaker 3: That was a painting thing that was so hard.
Speaker 1: You did, say, paint with diamonds, diamond paint?
Speaker 6: That is it called diamond painted?
Speaker 3: Yeah, or like I don't know, are paint. Yeah. Anyways,
Speaker 3: you're like sticking the little diamonds on.
Speaker 2: It's a very mindless, just like relaxing craft, you.
Speaker 1: Know, ires of it. I see what you're saying.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really cool.
Speaker 2: Anyways, I just had a playlist going and the song
Speaker 2: comes on and I just kept hitting repeat, repeat, repeat,
Speaker 2: and finally I look at it and it's Dermick Kennedy,
Speaker 2: which I've heard his name, but I've never like known
Speaker 2: his music or anything. And so I posted and I
Speaker 2: posted on my Instagram like I just heard the song
Speaker 2: for the first time. I'm obsessed, and everyone was like,
Speaker 2: he's amazing, and then people said he's gonna be in
Speaker 2: La tomorrow, Like, you have to go to his show.
Speaker 2: He's incredible live and normally I'm not one to go
Speaker 2: to a show if I don't like.
Speaker 3: Know a lot of the music.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I was like why not?
Speaker 2: So I text Hana because we were dming about him,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, what are you doing tonight?
Speaker 3: And she was like nothing.
Speaker 2: So we went and had a cute dinner and drinks
Speaker 2: and then we went to the show and it was.
Speaker 8: It was amenable. It was like one of the best
Speaker 8: concerts I've ever been to.
Speaker 3: It was this guy, I sent you this s Did
Speaker 3: you listen? No?
Speaker 2: I know you did it because you would have said something, yeah,
Speaker 2: this is this is where we're at in our friendship
Speaker 2: right now. We're in like a little bit of like
Speaker 2: a testy tension area, which is fine, you go through it.
Speaker 2: But but anyways, it was at the YouTube Theater, which
Speaker 2: is by So five. It was my first time.
Speaker 6: My first time too. It was amazing. It was amazing
Speaker 6: a YouTube theater. One night.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it's beautiful, good clean and new so clean.
Speaker 4: A lot of parking around there.
Speaker 2: Great park so then yeah, the parking we pull up
Speaker 2: and we're like, hey, there's a guy standing We're like,
Speaker 2: where's the closest parking to the theater and he's like, well,
Speaker 2: right there, but that's VIP. I had to like pre
Speaker 2: purchase it. And we're like can we can we purchase it?
Speaker 2: And he's like, here's what I'll do. He was like,
Speaker 2: I'm actually I'm scanning your ticket, but if you ven
Speaker 2: me fifty dollars.
Speaker 3: Really, we were like, soul, We're like, you got it.
Speaker 3: We went parked right in front of the theater. It's amazing.
Speaker 6: It was luxury.
Speaker 4: Tried to do that at the Angel City game and
Speaker 4: did not work for me. Oh yeah, but she was no,
Speaker 4: we didn't. We tried to buy that, but she was
Speaker 4: in She was in a booth with like another worker,
Speaker 4: So I don't know.
Speaker 3: Maybe that was this guy was secluded. He may not
Speaker 3: have been a parking attendant.
Speaker 1: We don't know.
Speaker 3: But we had great parking.
Speaker 2: But one thing that Hannah and I talked about is
Speaker 2: that she went on a recent date last weekend and
Speaker 2: I want to talk about it, but we're going to
Speaker 2: take a break first.
Speaker 3: All right, we are back.
Speaker 2: So Hannah went on a date, and this was your
Speaker 2: first date since.
Speaker 8: I broke up with my ex boyfriend, which was when
Speaker 8: about a year ago. So okay, I've been single like
Speaker 8: officially for a year and we dated for about four
Speaker 8: and a half years.
Speaker 6: Okay, so this was a big deal.
Speaker 2: And this was, like you were saying, one of your
Speaker 2: just first like actual like a date because you and
Speaker 2: your ex men in college.
Speaker 8: Yeah, one of my first first dates because I met
Speaker 8: my ex in college. And you know, when you're in college,
Speaker 8: you don't actually go on real dates. You just like
Speaker 8: come out at the frat parties. And we got to
Speaker 8: know each other drunk. It wasn't anything romantic at all.
Speaker 3: It was college romance. Yeah, it was college at its
Speaker 3: finest direct.
Speaker 2: Well before you went on this, So y'all, you and
Speaker 2: this guy met up at State. Y'all saw each other
Speaker 2: at stage coach, and you knew each other from like
Speaker 2: from college. You went from college together, but had never
Speaker 2: been out before.
Speaker 6: No, never.
Speaker 2: So we did the podcast we recorded before I went
Speaker 2: to Denver on Thursday, and the date was happening on Saturday.
Speaker 6: Is that right? Saturday?
Speaker 3: So Hannah was very nervous during that.
Speaker 6: Do you remember this?
Speaker 4: Yeah, but we made her nervous, you guys. Yeah, she
Speaker 4: was totally fine until we talked about it.
Speaker 8: Why do we say that made you nervous because we
Speaker 8: were talking about all the alone time in the car
Speaker 8: and what we were going to talk about, and if
Speaker 8: I wanted to escape him, I couldn't.
Speaker 6: I started spiraling.
Speaker 2: So hard after telling you guys, Okay, Well, and I
Speaker 2: don't know if Tanya wants to take this defense, but
Speaker 2: my defense. My thought is like, if I'm going on
Speaker 2: a first date and I'm nervous, I don't know that
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have a whole twenty four hours with that person.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I kept going back to the Chicago guy that I
Speaker 4: dated that came in town to visit me, and I
Speaker 4: wanted to like cry after an hour.
Speaker 3: That was doctor screen time for those who have kept up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so that was my only knee jerk. Is like
Speaker 4: when somebody's traveling to you.
Speaker 8: It definitely felt like a very intense first date. Yeah,
Speaker 8: it wasn't just like dinner. It was a whole It
Speaker 8: was a whole thing. But it ended up being great.
Speaker 6: It ended up being really fun.
Speaker 3: What did y'all do?
Speaker 8: We went to the Warriors and Lakers game, so we
Speaker 8: had an activity to do, which is good.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 8: Long, Yeah, and I'm a giant Warriors fan fortune.
Speaker 2: I know, I know, well you guys they also be
Speaker 2: easy yeah, so easy.
Speaker 6: No, but it was it was really fun.
Speaker 4: Oh they're out now, Yeah they lost because they lost
Speaker 4: the Lakers. They're out completely. Yep, that's very devastate.
Speaker 3: But y'all got to go see them.
Speaker 6: We got to go see them.
Speaker 8: It was his first time seeing Lebron James in person,
Speaker 8: so it was really funny. He was like all tickled
Speaker 8: and really excited. Yeah, but I told him he had
Speaker 8: to be a Warriors fan, and every time that the
Speaker 8: Lakers like made a basket, he would get really excited
Speaker 8: and then he'd be like, oh, never mind, like that
Speaker 8: was actually bad. It was funny, endearing yeah, ok, yes,
Speaker 8: cut Yeah, Like it was charming to see him like
Speaker 8: geek out over athletes. Yeah, definitely, so was the conversation
Speaker 8: did a flow? Conversations flowed. It was a good first date.
Speaker 8: I mean, I have nothing to compare it to, but
Speaker 8: I thought it was pretty good.
Speaker 3: Like you'd see him again, yeah, I would, Okay, were
Speaker 3: there any X that happened?
Speaker 6: We talked about this at dinner.
Speaker 8: I I just don't know if I'd actually ever find
Speaker 8: someone that I could both because I get the ick
Speaker 8: so easily. And the biggest thing for me, and I
Speaker 8: know that you guys talk about this a lot. His
Speaker 8: hands and feet, it's like the biggest thing. He didn't
Speaker 8: wear flip flops, thank god, because then I would have
Speaker 8: told him to just go home. Like there's no way
Speaker 8: I would have like hung out with him if he
Speaker 8: showed up in flip flops. But his hands aren't the best,
Speaker 8: and it's it's kind of sh They're just not as
Speaker 8: manly as I would like. And the fingernails are a
Speaker 8: little too short.
Speaker 3: Okay, there's too much skin of the nail.
Speaker 6: He doesn't bite them. I just don't think they grow.
Speaker 6: And it's no they grow.
Speaker 4: He bites them.
Speaker 3: They bite that to person, he may just have short bite,
Speaker 3: and that's a whole other thing.
Speaker 5: I'm like so much of my hands.
Speaker 8: But we were talking about this at dinner, Like it's
Speaker 8: such a fine line. Your nails can't be too short,
Speaker 8: but they also can't be too long. If there's any
Speaker 8: white showing on the nails, I'm freaked out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, can you evaluate my hands?
Speaker 6: No, this is.
Speaker 3: A live showing.
Speaker 1: Take me out of this. Yeah, I'm just looking at
Speaker 1: your hands. Guy, I'm a.
Speaker 4: Guy's doing that. I'm gonna get a picture of a
Speaker 4: good parent.
Speaker 1: Hand and these are my hands, and that's gonna.
Speaker 4: Be nobody knows.
Speaker 8: I think Mark, you have really good hands for a guy.
Speaker 8: They're manly and muscular.
Speaker 1: I haven't had a lot of hard work in my life, labor,
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 8: Okay, though, No, those are good hands. Okay, I'm nervous
Speaker 8: to see Easton's.
Speaker 5: For delicates over here, all.
Speaker 3: Right, staring, she's staring.
Speaker 8: They're not as good as Marks, but they're not horrible.
Speaker 6: They just look a bit too like.
Speaker 8: They're very manicured and nice.
Speaker 3: You'd like that. Let me see that makes you're not muscly.
Speaker 2: No, just takes some squeezing of like.
Speaker 5: Block or anything.
Speaker 3: No, I let me see your's mark.
Speaker 1: All right, let me get out. I got out of
Speaker 1: my chair.
Speaker 4: Okay, I have a picture, but it's not the best angle.
Speaker 6: But I'm just gonna is this if you know who? Yeah,
Speaker 6: let's see.
Speaker 2: I think you both have nice hands. Like I wouldn't
Speaker 2: be like I wouldn't list y'all is like a problem.
Speaker 4: They're not the best at all angle.
Speaker 6: They're they're good hands.
Speaker 8: The only thing and this is personal, it's a little hairy.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, Donny likes a lot of hair, got it.
Speaker 6: I like zero hair.
Speaker 1: So neither mind nor reasons would be deal breakers for
Speaker 1: you on a date if our hands were attention.
Speaker 3: I don't actually think hers is a deal deal breaker.
Speaker 6: It's just something.
Speaker 3: It is something.
Speaker 8: You never look at his hands.
Speaker 3: Did you see his feet?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 8: And I'm scared to see his feet. And he's like
Speaker 8: very athletic and goes on a lot of runs, and.
Speaker 6: I'm just worried about.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there be some twisted, contorted situations.
Speaker 1: With the tiny little toenail and the big like what.
Speaker 3: Yeah like or the skin like fully overlapped.
Speaker 1: His fingernails are too short, like.
Speaker 4: A Chris toenail.
Speaker 3: When you said that, I almost blocked.
Speaker 1: I don't think I know that.
Speaker 4: His Instagram he posted on the met Galley. He was like,
Speaker 4: my met Gala looks like you saw this?
Speaker 8: Yeah, you know it feels illegal.
Speaker 3: There was another agch that we talked about.
Speaker 6: The other one. I feel like bad saying this.
Speaker 8: I don't know why, but he keeps sending me my
Speaker 8: god like songs.
Speaker 4: What's wrong with that?
Speaker 6: It's just like, what do I say to that? And
Speaker 6: why are you sending me that.
Speaker 1: They're romantic?
Speaker 8: Like some of them are like some of them are
Speaker 8: songs that we like heard of Stagecoach or whatever, or
Speaker 8: some are.
Speaker 6: Just random songs.
Speaker 4: But what are the lyrics?
Speaker 8: The lyrics, I mean, they're all country songs, so they're.
Speaker 4: Like, they're probably like cute lyrics, but.
Speaker 6: Don't send it to me.
Speaker 5: He's just sending Spotify links and what he said.
Speaker 8: Luckily it's Apple Music, which is a green flag because
Speaker 8: I use Apple Music.
Speaker 5: Oh wow, yeah, name one song?
Speaker 8: Oh goodness, something by Tyler Chiulders.
Speaker 3: Oh, he's pretty emotional and romantic.
Speaker 6: I feel No, it wasn't that.
Speaker 8: It was Shake the Frost, which which is kind of
Speaker 8: my gosh. Now I'm now I'm creeped out thinking about
Speaker 8: him sending me songs.
Speaker 4: What's not Shape the Frost?
Speaker 3: Shake?
Speaker 1: What's his motivation? Is totallylist?
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's probably I think I'm just reading too much
Speaker 8: into probably, but he's sending too many Okay, no like daily,
Speaker 8: no contact, No, not daily, And it hasn't he hasn't
Speaker 8: done it in.
Speaker 6: A couple of days, which is good. But I just
Speaker 6: don't know how to respond to it.
Speaker 1: And you don't think the lyrics are apropos, like, for example,
Speaker 1: with shake the Frost, he's not saying to you, you
Speaker 1: remind me of a Sunday back home in old Kentucky
Speaker 1: with the church choirs. Just belt into the pineys.
Speaker 6: No, I don't know.
Speaker 2: Okay, So I when I first met Haley, I would
Speaker 2: send her songs all the time. So now I'm like,
Speaker 2: I guess I'm lucky she stuck around because I love
Speaker 2: music and if something reminded me of her, i'd send
Speaker 2: it to her. And she's not like a huge like
Speaker 2: she doesn't like love lyrics.
Speaker 3: And music like I do. And so no one honest
Speaker 3: said that.
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, I'm always do that that all
Speaker 4: the time too. I still do that too.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 8: I think I'm it's just a personal thing. I'm thinking
Speaker 8: way too much into it. And when guys are too
Speaker 8: nice to me or do things that are a little
Speaker 8: bit romantic, I freak out.
Speaker 1: Well that's a whole other episode. We should get a
Speaker 1: therapist in here.
Speaker 3: That's just walls being up.
Speaker 2: And if I too had these things, so I don't know, maybe.
Speaker 1: Relatable though, I think I think a lot of people
Speaker 1: deal with that. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And you can establish these patterns. You do that
Speaker 4: because you are scared of something totally.
Speaker 1: And I think those songs are just I'm thinking about
Speaker 1: you right now. That's sweet.
Speaker 2: If he was texting me like thinking of you, would
Speaker 2: that grow like would that give you the ache?
Speaker 8: Or I would appreciate that more than a song, because
Speaker 8: then I could respond in many different ways rather than
Speaker 8: just like what do I say to a song?
Speaker 3: Like it's what would you say that I'm thinking of you?
Speaker 3: Me too? You too?
Speaker 4: Thanks?
Speaker 3: No, you die?
Speaker 6: I am not like a romantic emotion respond.
Speaker 1: Oh I love that song, or oh I don't know
Speaker 1: that one. I'll check it out. Yeah, thanks, that's that's
Speaker 1: just one.
Speaker 4: Back pocketing all these responds for thinking of me? Yeah yeah, okay,
Speaker 4: that's so nice, feels so special.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, don't don't.
Speaker 5: What do you typically say to the song?
Speaker 1: Though?
Speaker 3: You would be my dream.
Speaker 2: I'd be chasing her so hard, but I'd like, she's
Speaker 2: like not giving me anything.
Speaker 6: It's just so not my style.
Speaker 8: But I'm learning, and it's it's uncomfortable for me. But
Speaker 8: those were the two things that stuck out for.
Speaker 2: They're pretty minors freaking out about that feet pending.
Speaker 6: I think this guy's great report back on the feet.
Speaker 1: But are there any guy's feet you're going to be into?
Speaker 1: Like guys grosser, Some guys have pretty cool feet.
Speaker 3: Ready to show.
Speaker 8: It's like I'd rather a guy walk around like with
Speaker 8: socks and no shoes.
Speaker 4: That's your foot.
Speaker 8: Yeah, keep your socks on.
Speaker 4: Gross I'm saying it inaccurate.
Speaker 3: I'm saying Bobby's eat her a treat.
Speaker 2: You said on the last podcast, you were like, his
Speaker 2: are nicer for men's feet.
Speaker 3: But by no means.
Speaker 4: Do I like love I mean, I don't love his
Speaker 4: feet the way I love his hands, but I think
Speaker 4: he has really great feet, Like I'm not grossed out
Speaker 4: by them at all, actually like touch them.
Speaker 8: Does he have like hair on his toes though? Yeah,
Speaker 8: and that's fine with you totally? Then great, Yeah that's perfect.
Speaker 8: More hair, the better, you know.
Speaker 1: I once asked a girl out in college because of
Speaker 1: her hands. Well, I sat behind her in class and
Speaker 1: her hands are so great. I asked her to date
Speaker 1: and she did. She said yes, but then I called
Speaker 1: and she didn't been. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 4: You guys though that like bite their nails. It's so
Speaker 4: deep into the skin.
Speaker 7: It's like, just don't I tried biting my nails because
Speaker 7: people have such a hard time quitting it and like
Speaker 7: it must be good, right, let's be fine, right, do it.
Speaker 5: I could not get the hair for you.
Speaker 2: It's like, as soon as you break the habit, because
Speaker 2: I used to buy my nails so bad, and as
Speaker 2: soon as you break them, the thought of that I
Speaker 2: even did that repulses me. That I put my hands
Speaker 2: in my It is disgusting and sorry if you struggle
Speaker 2: with that habit, but a.
Speaker 1: Lot of people do. My daughter is struggling with it
Speaker 1: and she gets sick a lot, and we think that's why.
Speaker 3: It's it makes sense. I have to start getting my
Speaker 3: nails done.
Speaker 2: So I getting her nails done them.
Speaker 3: Well, that's a very expensive.
Speaker 1: Ye got the gross tasting stuff to put on there presses.
Speaker 4: You can put the press on ones that are pretty cheap.
Speaker 2: And thank you for sharing, Hannah.
Speaker 3: But I feel I can't wait for the update because
Speaker 3: I yeah.
Speaker 1: Not just the feed, I want more information from the
Speaker 1: next I just want to see how this goes. To
Speaker 1: track this in real time, you.
Speaker 6: Can track it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is great.
Speaker 2: And I had told Tanya at the soccer game, I
Speaker 2: was like, I want Hanna to talk about this and
Speaker 2: Tanya goes, I'm very proud of the place I'm in
Speaker 2: in my life, and I said, same, me too. But
Speaker 2: a lot of people are still dating and having to
Speaker 2: discover their x and turn offs and what they don't like,
Speaker 2: and we're just.
Speaker 3: Lucky that we have found people that we like their
Speaker 3: hands and feet.
Speaker 8: It's true, I would love to be in your guys'.
Speaker 1: Position right now, but I'm just not is always great.
Speaker 3: It's true. It's it's fun to date too, but.
Speaker 1: Because people in relationships always love living through you vicariously
Speaker 1: when you're dating, and the people dating would love to
Speaker 1: be in that committed relationship. Yeah, no one's ever happy.
Speaker 1: We say that again, like the people in relationships like
Speaker 1: us love hearing all the details of her dating life
Speaker 1: go out with like Sistney loves used to love to
Speaker 1: swipe on yours and all that stuff. But the people
Speaker 1: who are dating would love to be in the committed relationship.
Speaker 4: Got it?
Speaker 6: Is that register?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I thought he meant that people who are incommon
Speaker 4: relationships wish they were single.
Speaker 5: You know, someone news fine, you know it's just.
Speaker 8: Intriguing to hear about other people's experiences.
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, I was never like great at the first date,
Speaker 2: because I'd be like, oh, like, I feel like I'm
Speaker 2: on an interview asking the same questions, and then you
Speaker 2: meet the right person you're like, oh, it wasn't that
Speaker 2: was actually nice. Anyways, all right, we're going to take
Speaker 2: a break and we'll be back with emails. All Right,
Speaker 2: we are back and we have some emails.
Speaker 1: Mark, all right, Becka, thank you very much. And by
Speaker 1: the way, for this first email, it comes with a
Speaker 1: trigger warning for anyone who's experienced disordered eating. Anonymous says,
Speaker 1: I'm seeking advice and what to do about a friend
Speaker 1: who appears to be too thin and unhealthy looking for
Speaker 1: contact with thirty years old. We've known each other and
Speaker 1: best friends in second grade. Well that's beautiful. By the way,
Speaker 1: I love that stuff. We haven't been as close since college,
Speaker 1: but will always be friends no matter what. She's been
Speaker 1: on a health kick, and in my opinion, she's taken
Speaker 1: it too far. If I never knew her and was
Speaker 1: meeting her for the first time, I would think she's
Speaker 1: ill because of how thin she is. She's married, I'm
Speaker 1: not super close with her husband. I do know her
Speaker 1: younger brothers or mom or dad, and they all think
Speaker 1: she's taken it too far, and that she looks awful
Speaker 1: because she looks so sickly thin. She's very close to
Speaker 1: her family, she works in the medical profession. She's a PA,
Speaker 1: so she's very smart and well educated. She'd become so
Speaker 1: thin she doesn't get a period anymore. Do I say
Speaker 1: something to my friend? What do I say? Do I
Speaker 1: talk to her mom? Do I not say anything.
Speaker 3: I've never had to.
Speaker 2: Go through this, but I do think this is a
Speaker 2: very delicate topic and subject.
Speaker 3: Have you ever experienced this.
Speaker 4: We had a friend in college. It was in a
Speaker 4: different eating disorders. She was bullemic, and we sussess expected
Speaker 4: it and we followed her and we saw her doing it.
Speaker 4: So what we did is we got the friend that
Speaker 4: was closest to her to go to her mom to
Speaker 4: tell her to basically get her help. And that's kind
Speaker 4: of how we went about it because it is very tricky.
Speaker 4: You can't ambush them with like a bunch of people,
Speaker 4: and so we felt it was best to go to
Speaker 4: her mom to kind of handle the situation, and the
Speaker 4: mom sent her to rehab, and that's how we dealt
Speaker 4: with it. But it is really really tricky because you know,
Speaker 4: eating disorders. You know, body issues are really really sensitive,
Speaker 4: and I do feel like it could ruin a friendship
Speaker 4: if that person's not accepting of it. So I don't know.
Speaker 3: I was maybe gonna say even suggests maybe anonymously posting
Speaker 3: this in the Facebook group because I know there are
Speaker 3: scrubbers who have experienced disordered eating themselves, and maybe they
Speaker 3: have some insight on a way to approach it that's
Speaker 3: like sensitive and helpful. Yeah, because it says her.
Speaker 2: Family seems to know. She says she's very close, but
Speaker 2: they think she also it's gone too far. So I
Speaker 2: don't know that I have any like helpful advice that
Speaker 2: I would feel comfortable giving.
Speaker 1: Yeah, is it possible she is sick by the way
Speaker 1: that she's not telling you because she's not comfortable through Maybe.
Speaker 2: I mean, I do think maybe there's a conversation of
Speaker 2: like are you doing okay? And maybe it can open
Speaker 2: up the conversation for her to say, like, I've been
Speaker 2: struggling with this, But I think going into it saying
Speaker 2: like you look too thin or worried about you might
Speaker 2: be triggering and it might be too sensitive. But I
Speaker 2: do think maybe there's just a heart to heart conversation
Speaker 2: and maybe she will feel safe to open up. But
Speaker 2: otherwise I think that it's just.
Speaker 3: A very delicate thing.
Speaker 2: Like I said, I have an experience this, so I
Speaker 2: don't feel like the this is a very serious topic.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like, say, like comfortable giving sound advice on.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry that we're not much help, But I do
Speaker 2: think that maybe talking to her mom if you feel
Speaker 2: comfortable having that conversation, and also just giving her maybe
Speaker 2: a conversation to feel safe enough to open up about
Speaker 2: it and see if she does.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm really sorry you're going through this. It's really
Speaker 4: really tough, and it does put it does put your
Speaker 4: relationship in a weird position. But all you can do
Speaker 4: is show up for your friend the best that you can.
Speaker 1: All Right, Next up, Anonymous. I feel like I've been
Speaker 1: relating to Becca a lot lately when she talks about
Speaker 1: Haley leaving. I've been with my boyfriend two years now.
Speaker 1: He's the best guy I've ever dated. My ection and
Speaker 1: I are very toxic. He was narcissistic, he always talked
Speaker 1: to other people and made me the crazy one. My
Speaker 1: boyfriend now is understanding. He's patient, he's kind. We see
Speaker 1: each other one the two times a week because I
Speaker 1: live we live forty minutes apart. He's my safe place.
Speaker 1: I would hang out with him twenty four to seven
Speaker 1: if I could. I have an anxious attachment style, and
Speaker 1: he is a really attached so I worry about him
Speaker 1: thinking I'm too much, even though he never makes me
Speaker 1: feel that way. How do you deal with the anxiety
Speaker 1: anxious attachment style or worrying about what they might think.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend knows what goes on in my head, and
Speaker 1: I go to therapy, but I'm naturally a warrior.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry you're going through this.
Speaker 2: It's a crazy mental spiral that you can lead yourself down.
Speaker 2: But I think for me, I've always been more like
Speaker 2: on the avoidant secure attached, so the anxious attachment came
Speaker 2: unexpectedly to me. I think it's been like building probably
Speaker 2: since like the pandemic, because we spent so much time together.
Speaker 3: But I kind of just.
Speaker 2: Had a moment where I remembered that I have I've
Speaker 2: always had such a healthy and like independent life outside
Speaker 2: of my relationship with Haley, and I kind of just
Speaker 2: like snapped into this headspace where I was like I
Speaker 2: have the best friends, I have a really cool job.
Speaker 2: I have things that I like to do outside of
Speaker 2: and things that maybe Haley doesn't like to do, And
Speaker 2: I just like really focused on those things because I
Speaker 2: realized that as I was getting more anxious and spiraling,
Speaker 2: I was just needing her to like validate and hear
Speaker 2: me on the certain things that I was anxious about.
Speaker 2: And as soon as she kind of just understood where
Speaker 2: it was coming from, I felt seen and heard, and
Speaker 2: then I was able to like go back to feeling
Speaker 2: more in a secure headspace. So I think it's it's
Speaker 2: it's like finding the things that you like to do
Speaker 2: with or without him, the things that you obviously you
Speaker 2: would like enjoy everything with him more, maybe because Tanya
Speaker 2: and I always talk about that, how like we would
Speaker 2: like to have our partners with us regardless of what
Speaker 2: we're doing. But I think that if you can find
Speaker 2: those things and like cultivate the other friendships and relationships
Speaker 2: in your life, it really helps just to get in
Speaker 2: a healthier headspace and knowing that, like without him and
Speaker 2: this relationship, you're going to be okay, Because I think
Speaker 2: that's where it gets dark, is like you go, what
Speaker 2: will I do if I don't have this person anymore?
Speaker 2: What will I do if I push them away? And
Speaker 2: that's not what you want?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think there's a lot of power and beauty
Speaker 4: in a relationship where you can just be open and
Speaker 4: honest about your attachment style. I think there's like a
Speaker 4: lot of benefit coming from just expressing that to your
Speaker 4: partner and saying that it's not necessarily their fault or
Speaker 4: anything they're doing that, Like you just happen to have
Speaker 4: this anxious attachment and just acknowledging it, because if you're
Speaker 4: not speaking it, you're storing it, and that's creating more
Speaker 4: anxiety in you. And so I think just like expressing
Speaker 4: that and hopefully he receives it and doesn't make you
Speaker 4: feel bad about it. But I just think being open
Speaker 4: with him, I think will also give you a lot
Speaker 4: of relief.
Speaker 3: Is Robby secure? What'd you say is a secure attachment?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: So he doesn't.
Speaker 2: I think it helps when your partner secure because they're
Speaker 2: able to like calm you down, because if they're avoidant,
Speaker 2: they'll just like almost shut down.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And like if I'm if I'm having anxiety about something,
Speaker 4: he like knows that it's where it's coming from. He
Speaker 4: doesn't get angry, he doesn't get upset, He just listens
Speaker 4: to me. And so it's I think I think you'll
Speaker 4: feel a lot better if you explain to him what's
Speaker 4: going on.
Speaker 3: Good luck.
Speaker 2: It's it's a very It's not a great place to
Speaker 2: be when you get into that that headspace, but you're
Speaker 2: doing your best. We do have a Thursday episode coming.
Speaker 4: Up, Yes, we do it.
Speaker 3: Well, let us tell.
Speaker 2: You it's gonna be Roxy Diaz, who Kanye has described
Speaker 2: as one of the best hyphe women out there. A
Speaker 2: girl's a girl, she's like your number one fan.
Speaker 3: Huh. Yeah.
Speaker 4: I love her so much. I remember when I was
Speaker 4: doing the E carpets. She was always so welcoming to
Speaker 4: me and like made me always try to lift me
Speaker 4: up and make me feel good, never made me feel bad.
Speaker 4: And I just I've admired her from the very beginning
Speaker 4: when I started working with her. And so she's gonna
Speaker 4: come in and tell us about our story.
Speaker 3: Yay.
Speaker 2: So we will be back on Thursday, and I hope
Speaker 2: you have a great week, and we love you so much.
Speaker 4: Love you.
Speaker 3: Bye.