Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
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Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
Speaker 1: Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering
Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and leave
Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the.
Speaker 2: Beat, PaaS I will tell you my name, but it's
Speaker 2: pretty embarrassing. I admire the woman that you are. I
Speaker 2: follow you, I listen to you. My three little girls
Speaker 2: know who Tiki through that it is well, Chicki's santist now,
Speaker 2: but I know we just have ninety seconds so the
Speaker 2: way see little rapidos, So hopefully you can give me
Speaker 2: some advice. I've been married for sixteen years and basically
Speaker 2: since I've gotten married, it's never been good. But there's
Speaker 2: moments that are good, right, and he's always worn his
Speaker 2: love to me. But Unfortunately, he has cheated on me
Speaker 2: twice that I know of. He has an addictive behavior,
Speaker 2: so he's cheated on me twice. The first time it
Speaker 2: was a three year affair with this girl in Mexico,
Speaker 2: and you know, he has businesses over there, he's well
Speaker 2: off over there, and he's spent that provider in our family.
Speaker 2: But this last time I caught him in a seven
Speaker 2: year affair. He made a whole conversation and told her,
Speaker 2: you know, I'm gonna call you with my wife on
Speaker 2: the phone, and you're gonna say this, and she did.
Speaker 2: She said, oh, yeah, like it's over. You know, I'm
Speaker 2: moving states. And they literally planned this whole charade and
Speaker 2: it wasn't true, and I caught him. That's when we
Speaker 2: went to court put the restraining order because she was
Speaker 2: saying she was going to kill herself if he didn't
Speaker 2: go back with her. Basically, this woman, now this last
Speaker 2: time that I caught them, said that she doesn't have
Speaker 2: anyone else, that she only has him. And if you
Speaker 2: know she has all this debt, how is she going
Speaker 2: to pay for it? That the least that he could do,
Speaker 2: because she's been with him for seven years. The least
Speaker 2: that he could do is pay an insemination for her
Speaker 2: to have a baby, because apparently she's disillusional, thinking she
Speaker 2: has mistress rights, and he la Mandela fret. I don't
Speaker 2: know if it's true or false, but he calls, he
Speaker 2: sobs on the phone. He swears up and down he's
Speaker 2: going to change. He started all these things, and that's
Speaker 2: very convincing. I don't know if you know about narcissistic behavior,
Speaker 2: but I'm starting to think that this is what this is.
Speaker 2: And I wanted to ask you, like, what should I do?
Speaker 2: Should I just really let it go? Because I feel
Speaker 2: like I cannot handle this anymore.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I need to take any breath. I
Speaker 3: need to take a deep breath.
Speaker 1: You guys, I am floored.
Speaker 3: I'm unfounded.
Speaker 1: I I okay, I think you know the answer you're
Speaker 1: asking me because you know and you just want confirmation.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna be your big sister or your little
Speaker 1: sister or whatever it is that you need right now.
Speaker 1: But you are dealing with a narcissist. I'm sorry to
Speaker 1: break it to you, but it does not seem that
Speaker 1: he will change. It's been sixteen years he's had not
Speaker 1: only let's just say it's a one night stand and
Speaker 1: you catch him and dude full on relationships. There has
Speaker 1: been an emotional connection there. One of three years, one
Speaker 1: of seven years. Now this woman, first of all, First
Speaker 1: of all, I'm sorry, but this last one, the seven years.
Speaker 3: Like what are you hell?
Speaker 2: What?
Speaker 3: Where does he find these women?
Speaker 2: First?
Speaker 1: Like that are willing to just be in a secretive
Speaker 1: relationship with a married man, and like she has no
Speaker 1: self worth? Anyways, we're not talking about her. She needs help.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm not trying to be mean. I do
Speaker 1: feel that people can change. But if he did it again, babe,
Speaker 1: and then did it for seven years, and how did
Speaker 1: this woman lie and she wants a baby? Like how
Speaker 1: do we know that he doesn't have babies out there
Speaker 1: in the world. First of all, I think you need
Speaker 1: to grab your shit and you need to leave them.
Speaker 1: That's what I really think you need to do. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: I would tell this to my sister, I would tell
Speaker 1: this to my best friend. I would tell this to
Speaker 1: any woman.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I hope I'm never in that situation. I really hope
Speaker 1: I'm never in that situation. Because I can't even say
Speaker 1: what I would do on this podcast because it just
Speaker 1: it wouldn't be right. It'd probably be in jail. Let's
Speaker 1: just leave it there. But I think you need to
Speaker 1: grab your shit, and I think you need to love
Speaker 1: yourself and you need to divorce him. And you've been
Speaker 1: with him long enough. I don't think you guys have
Speaker 1: a prenup. I think you need to ask for If
Speaker 1: you guys have kids, you need your chouse support, your
Speaker 1: spousal support. You need to get away from this man
Speaker 1: because he's going to do it again.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Unless he's going to therapy and life coaching and has
Speaker 1: someone that's going to keep him accountable. If he's doing
Speaker 1: all of those things and you see a drastic change,
Speaker 1: then okay. But I think it's like he's just telling
Speaker 1: you what you want to hear, and he's going to
Speaker 1: always live another life because he can, because he has
Speaker 1: the money to do so, and because he's finding these
Speaker 1: women that don't value themselves enough to have a man
Speaker 1: that's just theirs.
Speaker 3: And yeah, that's that's what I think.
Speaker 1: And I'm sorry, but I think someone needs to tell
Speaker 1: you straight up because you are in a very bad
Speaker 1: situation and you're going to if you stay with this person,
Speaker 1: you're going to maybe have another child, which babies are
Speaker 1: always a blessing, but your life is going to just
Speaker 1: go right by you and you're going to regret not
Speaker 1: doing it sooner. So I think you just need to
Speaker 1: find the courage and pray to God to give you
Speaker 1: the courage and the wisdom to do what you gotta do.
Speaker 1: But you need to love yourself and give yourself your
Speaker 1: place because he's never gonna respect you. And I know
Speaker 1: that sounds harsh, but that is the truth. I hope
Speaker 1: things get better and hopefully you come back and update us,
Speaker 1: and you know, I hope that you take it to
Speaker 1: heart what I'm telling you, because I promise you it's
Speaker 1: I have your best interest at heart. I don't know you,
Speaker 1: but I want the best for you as a woman
Speaker 1: because you deserve it. But you need to know that
Speaker 1: you deserve it. I'm gonna leave it with that, guys. Okay, guys,
Speaker 1: we're gonna move on to our second listener, who is
Speaker 1: also anonymous. Would you ever have someone carry your baby
Speaker 1: a surrogant?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: Hi, straight to the point. I like that, funny enough.
Speaker 1: There is a rumor going around right now that I
Speaker 1: am pregnant, that we are pregnant with the surrogate. That is,
Speaker 1: it's not true. It's completely false. I would not be
Speaker 1: opposed to it. I would be open to it if
Speaker 1: that was the only option I had with the miscarriage
Speaker 1: that I just had. I feel like my body is
Speaker 1: telling me that I can get pregnant. I'm gonna see
Speaker 1: my doctor soon and figure that out. But I wouldn't
Speaker 1: be opposed to it. I mean, Emilio and I have
Speaker 1: talked about it, and he is open to it. He
Speaker 1: just says, I want us to try first and if not,
Speaker 1: then let's do a curguit. So that is that.
Speaker 3: Is my truth. So yeah, we'll see.
Speaker 1: I will keep you updated. Thank you so much for
Speaker 1: your question. Alrighty guys. The last anonymous question, let's see,
Speaker 1: did you ever experience bullying when you were younger in
Speaker 1: your childhood?
Speaker 3: Oh? Good question. I did. I did experience bullying.
Speaker 1: My earliest memory of bullying was in maybe the fifth grade.
Speaker 1: I think that's when it started where I really remembered.
Speaker 1: I was gaining weight, I was going through something that
Speaker 1: no one knew about, which was my sexual abuse. My
Speaker 1: mom wasn't doing well financially and she was like the
Speaker 1: sole provider. So I would have to go to school
Speaker 1: wearing her clothes. And you know, my mom was barely
Speaker 1: learning how to like wash and stuff. She was a
Speaker 1: young mom, so a lot of the clothes had like
Speaker 1: bleach stains on them, and I had to wear them,
Speaker 1: and like, it was a rough time, and I would
Speaker 1: get bullied for my weight and for being poor and
Speaker 1: all this stuff. So yes, and now even as an adult,
Speaker 1: my weight has always been a topic of conversation. So
Speaker 1: I've been bullied for that. So yeah, it's something that's
Speaker 1: very real in my life, and which is why I'm
Speaker 1: a huge advocate for it, because especially now in this
Speaker 1: social media world that we live in, people just feel
Speaker 1: so comfortable and so brave talk shit behind a computer
Speaker 1: or a telephone. And that's why I'm writing a book, guys,
Speaker 1: a children's book about bullying. It's called The Girl who
Speaker 1: Sings to Bees, and it's regarding that bullying because I
Speaker 1: think that's where it starts. It starts in the home,
Speaker 1: of course, but also speaking to these children when they're
Speaker 1: little and showing them that it's not okay, because I
Speaker 1: feel like the people that bully our children that have
Speaker 1: I feel like not a good example at home. And
Speaker 1: there are things going on in their homes. That's my
Speaker 1: personal opinion. But yeah, to answer your question, yes, unfortunately, yes,
Speaker 1: but thank God now I can talk about it and
Speaker 1: help others. So anyways, thank you all for your questions.
Speaker 1: I appreciate it. I'm really listener. Number one, I am
Speaker 1: really praying for you and praying for your heart and
Speaker 1: praying for strength for you. I'm sending you positive energy,
Speaker 1: healing energy. May God give you the courage and the wisdom,
Speaker 1: that security, and that confidence that you need as a
Speaker 1: woman to walk away from this relationship that is not
Speaker 1: serving your highest good. And so it is and so
Speaker 1: it will be.
Speaker 3: Amen.
Speaker 1: Sorry, guys, I just felt they need to pray for her. You, guys,
Speaker 1: thank you for listening. If you have a question, it
Speaker 1: could be about literally anything my personal life. Like you
Speaker 1: saw here, they're asking me different questions. I'm open to
Speaker 1: answering any type of question. There's nothing that scares me,
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