1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:03,440 Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. If 2 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:07,120 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex, 3 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: on parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to 4 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM and click submit Strawberry Letter and we 5 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:17,800 Speaker 1: could be reading your letter live on the air and 6 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:20,640 Speaker 1: helping you out, just like we're gonna do for this 7 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: person right here. Buggle up, hold on tight, we got 8 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 1: it for you and Strawberry letter at all? All right, 9 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:36,879 Speaker 1: subject one big happy family or nothing at all. Dear 10 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I've been dating a man for three years 11 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: and we get a long great We've talked about getting married, 12 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 1: but we have to work out a few kinks first. 13 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 1: Both of us have teenage kids from previous relationships, and 14 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:53,120 Speaker 1: I spend a lot of time with his kids every 15 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: other weekend. He is always around my kids because I 16 00:00:56,480 --> 00:01:00,120 Speaker 1: have sole custody of them. We always joke about his 17 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:03,920 Speaker 1: his kids out excuse me. We always joke about how 18 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:07,479 Speaker 1: his kids like hanging out with me more than him. 19 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,480 Speaker 1: If I am doing something for my kids, I include 20 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 1: his kids. I buy them gifts for birthdays, Christmas, or 21 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: just because I buy them gifts, and there's no separation 22 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:22,319 Speaker 1: to me. But over the weekend I had the strangest 23 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:26,759 Speaker 1: conversation with my boyfriend about the kids. He told me 24 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:31,039 Speaker 1: that this Christmas he plans to focus more on his 25 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 1: kids and spend quality time with them alone during the holidays. 26 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: I was shocked to hear this. Over the years, he's 27 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: been good to my kids, but I do see a 28 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: difference in how he treats them and how he treats 29 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: his own kids. My kids love him, so I never 30 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: make a big deal out of it. The fact that 31 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 1: he is trying to make a big distinction between the 32 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: kids really hurts my feelings. Blended families are tricky and 33 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: we've been trying to make it work, but this was 34 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: a harsh reality check. My kids come first, but I'm 35 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: able to love his kids as my own. Now I 36 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 1: have doubts about marriage. Am I overthinking this? Stephen Shirley, 37 00:02:11,560 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: what do you think? No, you are not overthinking anything. 38 00:02:16,919 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: I say go with what you see and what you know, 39 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: because when people show you and in this case, tell 40 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:27,080 Speaker 1: you who they are, please believe them. I mean, Okay, 41 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:30,119 Speaker 1: let's look at the facts. This man that you've been 42 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: with for three years told you that this Christmas he 43 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:38,920 Speaker 1: just wants to spend quality time with his kids alone 44 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: during the holidays. What else do you need to hear? 45 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:46,079 Speaker 1: It's the holidays, that's the time when you and your 46 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: man and kids. You know, you guys are supposed to 47 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 1: spend family time together, not apart. So again, what else 48 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 1: is it that you need to hear? I mean, he 49 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:59,399 Speaker 1: doesn't want to be with you, and he doesn't want 50 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 1: to be with you and your kids for Christmas. Okay, 51 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: in this relationship, you're all in. You are just everything. 52 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:09,640 Speaker 1: In this relationship, you have accepted as teenage kids. You 53 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 1: spend a lot of time with them, You remember their 54 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: birthdays and other special occasions. You buy them gifts and stuff. He, 55 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:19,000 Speaker 1: on the other hand, makes a difference between his kids 56 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 1: and your kids, and you're right. In order for a 57 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:25,119 Speaker 1: blended family to work, you have to show love to everyone, 58 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:27,679 Speaker 1: even if in your heart you love your own kids more. 59 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:30,160 Speaker 1: And I think that's pretty normal to feel that way. 60 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: You have a special bond with your kids, you carried 61 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: them in all of that. But you know you're fair 62 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: and loving on the outside. But your man is not 63 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:40,520 Speaker 1: doing that and he's not trying to hide it. Even 64 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: though you say your kids love him, and you haven't 65 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 1: made a big deal out of it. It is a 66 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 1: big deal because he sounds like he has checked out 67 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 1: of this relationship and on his way out of this relationship. 68 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 1: Someone who's thinking of marriage, of marrying you, would not 69 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: want to be without you on this Christmas Okay, sounds 70 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 1: like he's in a bet with someone else. Steve, Well, Shirley, 71 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 1: I have to agree with you now, So here we go. 72 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 1: This lady been dating this man for three years, everything 73 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 1: going great, talked about getting married, but they need to 74 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:18,919 Speaker 1: work out some kinks. You know, both of them got kids. 75 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: He spends a lot of time and he's always around 76 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: the kids because she got soul custody of them. And 77 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: we joke about how his kids like hanging out with 78 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:31,360 Speaker 1: me more than him, you know. And then you know, 79 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: if I'm doing something for my kids, I include his kids. 80 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: I buy him gifts for birthdays, Christmas. Everything, no separation 81 00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 1: to me. But over the weekend he had a little 82 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:43,159 Speaker 1: conversation with my boyfriend about the kids. He told me, 83 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: he say this Christmas, he playing it on, focusing more 84 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:51,479 Speaker 1: on his kids, spend quality time with them alone during 85 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 1: the holidays. I was shocked to hear this. Over the years, 86 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 1: He's been good to my kids, but I do see 87 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:00,680 Speaker 1: a difference in how he treats them now he treats 88 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: his own kids. My kids love him, so I never 89 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: made a big deal out of the fact that he's 90 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: trying to make a big distinction between the kids. Really 91 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: hurt my feelings, but then the families are tricky. Yes 92 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: they are, and I've been trying to make it work, 93 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: but this is a harsh reality check. My kids come first, 94 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:21,480 Speaker 1: but I'm able to love his kids as my own 95 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: now have doubts about marriage. I'm overthinking this. I think 96 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 1: you all got to sit down and have a conversation. 97 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:32,480 Speaker 1: Something is happening where he's feeling like he's obviously not 98 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:35,800 Speaker 1: paying close enough attention to his own kids. So he 99 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:40,720 Speaker 1: decided this year he goes spend times with his kids alone. 100 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: Somebody that said something to him. He didn't come to 101 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: this conclusion on his own. Somebody said something to him. 102 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 1: Somebody said, you know what the kids feel like, you 103 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 1: just treat everybody better than know they come man, they 104 00:05:57,040 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: feel like you'll step chill. Somebody fed this information to him. 105 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:06,000 Speaker 1: All one of the kids said something to him. That's 106 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:08,040 Speaker 1: the only reason for he to suddenly go like this. 107 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 1: So he's trying to prove that that's not true. So 108 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:16,560 Speaker 1: he gonna be spending a lot of time with just 109 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:20,280 Speaker 1: his kids alone on Christmas and he's been with her 110 00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:22,240 Speaker 1: for three years. Wow. Yeah, I don't know how he 111 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: thinks that's gonna Yeah, he'd been not later, he'd been 112 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: not say that. Nobody didn't lay down. He's gonna mess 113 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,719 Speaker 1: them kids. It didn't lay down. He can't go to 114 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:36,160 Speaker 1: sleep in that house. You can't make that statement. And 115 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 1: didn't go get into bed and start snooze. Now that's 116 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: been to being a temp on your life. You probably 117 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:45,719 Speaker 1: need to wake up. But that was kind of cold though. 118 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, he plans to focus more in his 119 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: kids and spend quality time with them alone during the holiday. 120 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:56,599 Speaker 1: That ain't this word? And you said this. I laughed, 121 00:06:57,160 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Well, hang on part two of your 122 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:02,599 Speaker 1: answers come up. We'll take a short break here and 123 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 1: come back at twenty three after the hours. Subject one 124 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:09,960 Speaker 1: big happy family or nothing at all? This letter is crazy. 125 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 1: Let's recap subject one big happy family or nothing at all. Well, 126 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 1: it look like nothing at all because he want to 127 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: spend this holiday with his kids, spend more time with 128 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 1: his kids alone, time of making your kids have happy Christmas. 129 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 1: Is and my kids over here they lift stuck out. 130 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 1: Now we're not gonna do that this year, Michelle. I 131 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 1: want you to be the wife asking me why we 132 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: can't have this Christmas together, and you're gonna be repeatedly 133 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: keep asking me about this Christmas and I will keep 134 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: giving you different reasons. Okay, Well, honey, I'm so happy 135 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:48,760 Speaker 1: the holidays are here. I can't wait to spend Christmas 136 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: with you. Well, you know, I wish I could say 137 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 1: the same. Well, what do you mean we are spending 138 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 1: it together, aren't we? Well, you know, we're gonna spend 139 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 1: it together, but it's gonna be separate. But separate is 140 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:05,280 Speaker 1: not together, Honey, We're gonna spend Christmas together, right, you, 141 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: me and the kids. Hey, look, you need to keep 142 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:12,280 Speaker 1: saying the word together. I'm just telling you we're gonna 143 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: spend it together. We go, We're gonna be together, but 144 00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: it's gonna be separate. I want to spend it together, 145 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 1: you know, you, me, the kids, us. Hold on, what 146 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: what key is you talking about? I'm talking about our kids, 147 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: my kids and your kids. No, no, no, not that. 148 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:31,160 Speaker 1: So your kids a yr kid, my kid, and me 149 00:08:31,200 --> 00:08:34,640 Speaker 1: and my kids gonna spend this holiday together and alone. 150 00:08:34,960 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 1: But honey, we're together. You know, we're we've been dating 151 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: for three years now, all this, all this important to you. Yes, 152 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: and I thought it was important to you that we 153 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:49,559 Speaker 1: be together. But not like this though, you talking about 154 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:54,080 Speaker 1: all the time I'm talking about during the holidays. Yes, honey, 155 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: I've planned stuff, I've cooked, I've invited people over all 156 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:02,079 Speaker 1: of that, you know, one big happy family. Well, I 157 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 1: don't you know? Baby, damn you know you don't ask 158 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:08,640 Speaker 1: me nothing. Well, we've we've been together for three years. 159 00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: It's kind of a given that we spend the holidays together. Yeah, 160 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:14,560 Speaker 1: but you ain't. You ain't like, did nothing special for 161 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 1: the holidays. I've been out here lyning people up. So 162 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:21,360 Speaker 1: we make our move, make our move. I thought we 163 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 1: were gonna just be together. We put the Christmas tree 164 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:28,839 Speaker 1: up and did the decorations and everything. Who all help 165 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: put the Christmas tree? Ask you? Did? He? Well? The kids? Yeah, 166 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:38,280 Speaker 1: ain't nobody help? But to talk kids you don't know 167 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:45,720 Speaker 1: their name? Kid couldn't help out? So where ain't nobody helped? 168 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 1: But the talk kid, excuse me aside, there's an aside, honey, 169 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:52,720 Speaker 1: what did you say, nephews at way about height? Though 170 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:59,120 Speaker 1: even in the letter about he just go on, they 171 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 1: just did. But the show kids, what is they doing? 172 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 1: I don't know what the shot kids. They put all 173 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 1: ornaments on the bottom of the tree and they put 174 00:10:06,640 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: your skirt round it and they shot kids. Water. We 175 00:10:13,400 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 1: got plenty for shall people to do round. Somebody got 176 00:10:17,160 --> 00:10:20,920 Speaker 1: to plug it up every night. Yeah, that way, you 177 00:10:20,960 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: ain't got to being over you you it ain't nothing 178 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:26,720 Speaker 1: shot work, ain't nothing for you. Well, honey, And the 179 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: tree looks so beautiful. I'm so grateful, and I just 180 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 1: wanted to spend it together, you know, you mean us together. 181 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 1: And they hang these balls on the bottom of that 182 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: tree too. I like, I like treat balls at the 183 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:44,840 Speaker 1: bottom of the tree. Okay, ornaments, yes, yeah, them ornaments, 184 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:50,000 Speaker 1: But the balls though. I don't like Christmas ornaments as others, 185 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 1: you know, acorn Christmas tree can I just like ball. 186 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: Don't like all that little angel don't look like an 187 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:02,720 Speaker 1: angel figurines? What about the lights that makes the tree 188 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:07,080 Speaker 1: look so pretty? Yeah, you gotta hear lights. That ornament 189 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:10,280 Speaker 1: you made in school and brought home. But it doesn't 190 00:11:10,320 --> 00:11:12,559 Speaker 1: matter what's on the tree is just as long as 191 00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:15,079 Speaker 1: we're together, honey, and I want to be together for 192 00:11:15,120 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 1: this Christmas? Well, baby, ain't no more? Well why not? 193 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:23,040 Speaker 1: I mean, what's the problem. No, I see you know 194 00:11:23,160 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 1: you just trying to make this something mells. I'm trying 195 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:31,040 Speaker 1: to make this something else. I haven't told you. Don't holler, don't. 196 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 1: That's why we need right here. You don't need to 197 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 1: yell at me. You can't hear. I can hear, just fine, 198 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:40,800 Speaker 1: I just can't hear. Just fine when you can be 199 00:11:40,960 --> 00:11:43,839 Speaker 1: by yourself. But we're gonna be there. How about that? 200 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:48,400 Speaker 1: That's alone, and then we're gonna be the it's my 201 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: house too, yes, clap back? What are you talking about? 202 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 1: I don't pay the mortgage and never will, but it's 203 00:11:57,080 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 1: my house. I don't know who told you that. I 204 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:05,960 Speaker 1: told myself that when we when we first started living together. 205 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:08,199 Speaker 1: Oh well, I'm gonna have to get a restraint and 206 00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:12,079 Speaker 1: order on you. Oh that works both ways. I can 207 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: get one of you too, you know. But we're gonna 208 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 1: be together. That Saint California, this califood. Oh you try 209 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:24,079 Speaker 1: and do me. Oh, we're gonna be together. Well you 210 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:32,720 Speaker 1: want to be right, Cliff? What what? What you do? You? 211 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:34,960 Speaker 1: And I'm gonna do you? And probably had the best 212 00:12:34,960 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: crustmal we ever had. No, I don't think so, honey. 213 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:40,920 Speaker 1: It's not gonna go down like that. We've been together 214 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:43,720 Speaker 1: for three years. We've always spent Christmas together. We're gonna 215 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 1: be together this Christmas, whether you like it or not. 216 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 1: When you cooking, fight whoever you when we ain't gonna 217 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: make it to vote that we ain't gonna make it too. 218 00:12:56,000 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 1: What do you have someone else? Do I have someone me? 219 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:03,120 Speaker 1: Because why wouldn't you want to spend it with me? 220 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:06,439 Speaker 1: You've been spending Christmas with me? All of a sudden, 221 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:10,480 Speaker 1: Oh so you won't folk Christmas is in a road. 222 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:25,720 Speaker 1: Here we go assistently. We'll be together. We're gonna be together. 223 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:29,960 Speaker 1: You're a goal, all right, Today's Strawberry letter. We gotta 224 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 1: get out of here, Steve. That's right. If you need 225 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 1: advice on relationships and work and sex and all that, 226 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:39,160 Speaker 1: just go to Steve Harvey. F M. You're listening to 227 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:40,880 Speaker 1: the Steven Show.