1 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:16,640 Speaker 1: Would you. 2 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:28,480 Speaker 2: Pieces, guys, gowns, don binary pals. 3 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:37,560 Speaker 1: Welcome to a bonusode of Bananas, The Bananas Podcast, where 4 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 1: we give you advice, we answer questions. I think it's 5 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: mostly advice though at this point I'm here, of course, 6 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:44,760 Speaker 1: with Scottylandish. 7 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:46,880 Speaker 3: Scottie, that's Kurt Brown Oller. 8 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 4: We saw each other last night at a holiday party. 9 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 4: It was a very very fun time, well done party. 10 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: Yes, it was super fun. There was bowling. Anytime there's 11 00:00:56,000 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 1: bowling at a party, you know, it's a good partying. 12 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, you're rated. It's very fun. It's getting too expensive 13 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:08,679 Speaker 4: in a lot of places. It's like those fancy bowling 14 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 4: alleys that cost you one hundred dollars to bowl two games, 15 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 4: so ridiculous. It's a working man's sport, it's a blue 16 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 4: collar sport. 17 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 3: It should be cheap. You should eat bad food, but last. 18 00:01:20,440 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 4: Night we ate great food. It was very fun. I 19 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 4: walked up to the bartender and ordered two vodka sodas 20 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 4: as my first order, and that set the tone for 21 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:31,559 Speaker 4: a very fun evening. 22 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 1: I remember the bowling alleys we used to go to 23 00:01:36,400 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 1: in Jersey. Yeah, classic high school activity in Jersey because 24 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: there's nothing to do. Does it go to the mall 25 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:45,319 Speaker 1: or bowl or go to a diner. Those were our 26 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: three things pretty good. But then when I got to 27 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: college and I would come home for like Thanksgiving or Christmas, 28 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: we would go bowling, and then all of a sudden 29 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: I could drink and it was what a duh light 30 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 1: to get? And that's where I started drinking. Do you 31 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: remember these these Michelo bottles in the nineties that were 32 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:14,800 Speaker 1: like shaped almost like like a curvy, like a curvy 33 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: butt plug. 34 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 3: A long curvy butt plug. 35 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 4: Remember those classy bottle Michelobe. 36 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 3: That was the ultra It was. 37 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:26,400 Speaker 1: It was like it started started narrow, got a little fatter, 38 00:02:26,639 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: and then came back in again. I think I was 39 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: supposed to be like a curvy lady that you're drinking 40 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: out of the top of her head. 41 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:35,919 Speaker 3: I love those bottles. 42 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:39,519 Speaker 4: Michelobe had gold label and then michelob Light had silver labels, 43 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 4: and they looked like bowling pins a little bit in 44 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:46,240 Speaker 4: their own way. That's a fun that is it's fun 45 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 4: bowls the day after Thanksgiving because Baltimore is a big bowling. 46 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:55,240 Speaker 1: City and it has very weird bowling duck. 47 00:02:55,160 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 4: Pin, which is small pins three balls instead of two 48 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 4: big art two rolls of two I guess whether tenpin 49 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 4: balls or whatever they're called, but yeah, duckpin bowling is 50 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 4: the It's very regional. It's really hard to get a strike, 51 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 4: but you get to roll three balls. They are about 52 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 4: as big as a grapefruit. It's very fun because kids 53 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,680 Speaker 4: can do it as well as adults. Yeah, And apparently 54 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 4: in like the fifty sixties and seventies, in over the weekends, 55 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 4: they had something called Bowling for Dollars that was like 56 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 4: a public TV show. Oh and you got like a 57 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 4: dollar for every pin you knocked down over ten frames 58 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 4: and people would just watch people making you know, one 59 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 4: hundred and ten dollars. 60 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 3: I like that, wouldn't you watch that now if it. 61 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: Was ten bucks a pin nowadays? 62 00:03:42,240 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 4: Wah? Yeah, I wonder if we could get KTLA to 63 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 4: let you host bowling for dollars? 64 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean the thing is is that what I mean? Like, so, 65 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 1: how many games would you want? Do you remember the 66 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 1: TV show? 67 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 4: It was a little before my time, but it was 68 00:03:57,280 --> 00:04:00,040 Speaker 4: apparently a hit, Like people really look forward to it 69 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 4: and it would just be like regular folks and you'd 70 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 4: go duckpin bowling and yeah, you know, you get a 71 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 4: seven and you made seven dollars. 72 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 2: I love. 73 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 3: That's fun. 74 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 1: Look, I mean we don't need to get KTLA to 75 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 1: do it. We can make that show right now and 76 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: put it up. 77 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 3: Right we could. 78 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 4: I mean also, if we just did it for a 79 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 4: dollar pin, we could afford to do it right now. 80 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:24,040 Speaker 3: We could just. 81 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, right, that's the issue. 82 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 3: We need the money, we need the budget, we need 83 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 3: a sponsor. 84 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 4: So if you want to sponsor the Banana Boys filming 85 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 4: a I don't know, we could tie it to charity somehow. 86 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 3: But hell yeah, a bowling for dollars out here? 87 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 1: What if you're bowling for charity? I mean, like that's 88 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:43,599 Speaker 1: the way you tie it to charity, right. 89 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, that would be fun. Anyways, is so fun, And 90 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 4: it's like, you know, the close Pickwick Bowl. 91 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:53,040 Speaker 1: I know. I was just gonna say, do you remember 92 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:55,600 Speaker 1: that night that we went to Pickwick Bowl. We had 93 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 1: a drink across the street and I was like, let's 94 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:00,359 Speaker 1: go bowling, and we went across the street. We bold 95 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 1: They had a bar that was like walking into a 96 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:08,720 Speaker 1: cross between pulp fiction and the Wild West. It and 97 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:12,760 Speaker 1: it was empty. Yeah, and that's why I pick Quick closed. 98 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:16,280 Speaker 1: But it was delightful Yeah, it was fun. 99 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:20,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, saloon doors. It had weird like patent leather, red 100 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 4: booze and old woodwork, and yeah, you could get a 101 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:26,359 Speaker 4: beer and greasy food for nothing. It is funny that 102 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 4: you said that though, like so many things that I 103 00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:30,960 Speaker 4: love that close, my memories are the reason I love them, 104 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 4: he says. 105 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 3: Nobody was there. 106 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:35,839 Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, and you're like, oh yeah, business takes income. 107 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 4: You have to make a profit. That is how capitalism works. 108 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 1: And favorite places are always the empty ones, and that 109 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: is I'm see. We're supporting them though, we're trying to 110 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:47,760 Speaker 1: keep them alive. 111 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,480 Speaker 4: Twice a year, I'd go there and spend seventeen dollars. 112 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:55,440 Speaker 4: I mean, that's money in the bank, folks man. But yeah, 113 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:57,719 Speaker 4: last night was fun and they had two bowling lanes 114 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 4: and it was just good. We never lived so much 115 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:03,239 Speaker 4: on Zoom Life doing the podcast that, like even Katie 116 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:05,479 Speaker 4: Levine are a great producer. We never see Katie in 117 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:07,720 Speaker 4: person like four times a year, so it was great 118 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:11,280 Speaker 4: to see everybody, and all the nice people that work 119 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 4: for exactly Right were so lovely to chat to. I 120 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:16,880 Speaker 4: felt like everybody was in a great mood last night. 121 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 1: Also, I was talking with my friend Bobby and he 122 00:06:21,080 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 1: rides a peloton in his basement. 123 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:26,040 Speaker 3: Is he a hashtag animals? 124 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:29,039 Speaker 1: So he joined hashtag ban animals and he's like, there's 125 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 1: like thirty six people in the bananimals Peloton group. If 126 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:38,680 Speaker 1: you're on peloton, you can go get a hashtag Bananimalskurt. 127 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 4: You gotta get on between now in the new year, 128 00:06:39,880 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 4: just hop on one and can you start one. 129 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 3: I don't know how peloton works. How do you make it? 130 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 1: Not like the hashtag is just like you put it 131 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 1: in your user thing. I guess maybe you can just 132 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:53,039 Speaker 1: like send a message to everyone with that hashtag or 133 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 1: something and being like, let's ride on Friday. But it's 134 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 1: not like you see the people or even kind of 135 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 1: know there. I don't think you can go into like 136 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: a private room and only see and only race against 137 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 1: people in your hashtag. But I don't know, because I 138 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 1: got to find out have never done. I have no 139 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: I have no hashtag, I have no group that I'm 140 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: a part of on peloton. 141 00:07:15,880 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 4: I also want to say one more little thing because 142 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 4: where you and I are about to fly to Philly 143 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 4: in Pittsburgh, so this will come out after those I'm 144 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 4: so looking forward to those shows. 145 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 3: Also, they're going to be wintery. It might be snowy. 146 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 4: Witch is going to bring the enthusiasm up. You'd think 147 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,560 Speaker 4: it would put a damper on things, but it won't. Yeah, 148 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 4: because I'm you and I are going to be it's 149 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 4: our last two shows the year. 150 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 3: We're gonna let it. We're gonna burn it out. We're 151 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:38,200 Speaker 3: going to turn it out. 152 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: We're going to burn it out fun. I'm only looking 153 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: forward to it. 154 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 4: What they So, we did a bunch of great shows 155 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 4: this year, and at I think two or three of 156 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 4: those shows, when we were meeting people and taking pics 157 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 4: and stuff afterwards, we had been animals that were like, Hey, 158 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 4: my friend wanted to come, she's a huge fan, or 159 00:07:56,720 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 4: he wanted to come, he's a huge fan. But they 160 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 4: are embarrassed because in twenty twenty, when you had the 161 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 4: banana phone, they relied on you too much, or they 162 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 4: exposed too much, or they it was too parasocial, and 163 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 4: then those people are embarrassing. I just want to say 164 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 4: to anybody who listens to bananas who relied on the 165 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:20,720 Speaker 4: banana phone too much in twenty twenty and twenty twenty one, 166 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 4: don't worry about it. 167 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 3: Don't worry I won't remember. 168 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 4: I have a great memory, not from twenty twenty one 169 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 4: or twenty twenty. If you don't walk up to me 170 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 4: and go, I'm the person that cried to you all 171 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:34,760 Speaker 4: the time. That you don't have to say it. You 172 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 4: are resolved, Yes, CURTI B and I love you. Don't 173 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 4: feel weird. That was the weirdest, most stressful year for 174 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:42,200 Speaker 4: almost all. 175 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 1: Exactly, don't worry about that at all. 176 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 3: You're solved. 177 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:52,560 Speaker 1: In general, everyone no one, no one is thinking about you. Yes, 178 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: they're just thinking about themselves. That's such a freeing thing 179 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 1: to think about. It's really when you leave a party 180 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:04,280 Speaker 1: like no one is saying, I wonder why that person 181 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 1: leaned against the bar for so long and didn't speak 182 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: to anybody. No, they just didn't notice, they didn't they 183 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 1: they're not thinking about you. They're thinking about the thing 184 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:14,440 Speaker 1: they think is embarrassing that they did at the party. 185 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:16,840 Speaker 1: That's it. That's that's everyone's concerned with. 186 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 3: Just that. 187 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:21,080 Speaker 4: Absolutely, that is so real and so yes, if you 188 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:23,680 Speaker 4: don't so anyways, it was like two people that should 189 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:25,360 Speaker 4: have been at live shows having fun with us. You 190 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 4: don't have to tell me who you were or that 191 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:30,319 Speaker 4: you you, you know, went through a horrible t we 192 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 4: all went through. You are forgiven. You're absolved. Come on 193 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 4: out and laugh and you don't have to tell me. 194 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 4: But to the friends who are sweet enough to say 195 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 4: they really love you guys, and so you know they 196 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:44,080 Speaker 4: were embarrassed to come come, we don't care. We you 197 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:48,960 Speaker 4: are forgiven. Weird years. Also, we introduced the phone. It's 198 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:53,200 Speaker 4: on us. So anyways, that's all I want to say, 199 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 4: because it did happen more than once in this last tour, 200 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 4: and I'm like, it's fine, it's three years ago. That 201 00:09:58,520 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 4: is water under the bene on a bridge. 202 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:04,720 Speaker 1: So here is so on these bonusodes we give advice, 203 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 1: and here is our first question for advice. Beautiful, Hi 204 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:12,800 Speaker 1: Curtain Scottie. My name is Rachel. 205 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:15,080 Speaker 5: I'm a thirty nine year old woman who just started 206 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 5: taking karate classes for the first kids. And it's super 207 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:23,040 Speaker 5: fun but also very intense, and I'm a very peaceful person, 208 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 5: so it's weird to learn how to hurt people, you know. Anyway, 209 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:29,040 Speaker 5: We've had two sparring nights so far where we actually 210 00:10:29,080 --> 00:10:32,280 Speaker 5: fight other people, and both times I've broken down crying 211 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 5: after I mean, like full on the sobbing and couldn't 212 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:37,959 Speaker 5: figure out why, Like I wasn't hurt, I wasn't upset. 213 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 5: I don't have any past, you know, like abuse, trauma 214 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:43,679 Speaker 5: that was coming out, nothing like that. It felt more physical, 215 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:46,320 Speaker 5: And so I did some research and found out that 216 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:50,080 Speaker 5: that's how some people release after an adrenaline rush, Like 217 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:52,320 Speaker 5: some people laugh, some people get hungry, some people go 218 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 5: to sleep. Some people cry uncontrollably in the bathroom in shame, 219 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 5: you know. But I hate this because it's embarrassing. I 220 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 5: don't normally cry in front of people. I feel embarrassed 221 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 5: about it, and I feel like it makes me look 222 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 5: weak and like I can't handle it, like oh, poor 223 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:07,200 Speaker 5: little mom can't handle karate. 224 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 2: I can. 225 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:12,319 Speaker 5: But it's called an adrenaline dump, which is an unfortunate name. 226 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 5: So apparently adrenaline dump by crying. So my question finally 227 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:20,080 Speaker 5: for you, is if I start crying in front of people, which, 228 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 5: like I said, is very embarrassing, makes me feel like 229 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:26,240 Speaker 5: a weakling. Is there some fun bananas explanation I can 230 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 5: give for why I'm suddenly crying that doesn't involve me 231 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 5: giving this whole adrenaline dump explanation that I've given you 232 00:11:32,280 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 5: I would love any advice that you have. Love you guys. 233 00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 1: First off, awesome that you're taking karate with your kids. 234 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:43,880 Speaker 3: That's so cool. I love it so fun Also, who cares? 235 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:47,240 Speaker 4: I mean, I could see why that would be embarrassing, 236 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:49,960 Speaker 4: especially with your child, to maybe be a cool, strong 237 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:53,280 Speaker 4: parent in that situation, but that seems really funny. Also, 238 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:55,600 Speaker 4: when somebody's crying and laughing, it's one of the funniest 239 00:11:55,600 --> 00:11:58,440 Speaker 4: things in the world. Yeah, Like you know, like if 240 00:11:58,440 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 4: you've ever been to a funeral and afterwards you're talking 241 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:03,280 Speaker 4: outside and everybody's still upset, but then it's just like, 242 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 4: should we go do this fun thing? And then you're 243 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:08,520 Speaker 4: laughing crying, It's like actually a beautiful moment when those 244 00:12:08,559 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 4: two things collide. 245 00:12:10,720 --> 00:12:14,360 Speaker 1: I also, you know, I experience adrenaline dumps a lot, 246 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:18,560 Speaker 1: especially on stage. I bet, and then you know, I 247 00:12:18,679 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 1: come down. You know, it's and then of course that's 248 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:23,080 Speaker 1: why it's always hard to do two shows, because you 249 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:25,440 Speaker 1: do one show and then you have this huge dump 250 00:12:25,440 --> 00:12:28,200 Speaker 1: of adrenaline and then you have to just like sit 251 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:31,679 Speaker 1: quietly and reset and then do another hour long show, 252 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: and then you're supposed to expect to just go to bed, 253 00:12:34,480 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 1: especially because you have to then wake up and fly 254 00:12:36,720 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 1: the next day, and it's always the most difficult. And 255 00:12:42,400 --> 00:12:44,440 Speaker 1: I'm not suggesting you deal with it the way I 256 00:12:44,520 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 1: deal with it, which is vodka sodas. That would be 257 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 1: really funny if right after karate you're just pounded vod 258 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:56,840 Speaker 1: Ca sodas. But I you know what you can always 259 00:12:56,880 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 1: say is once you start crying, is you can just say, 260 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:03,520 Speaker 1: I'm not upset. My cheeks are thirsty. That's all. That's 261 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 1: what you can say. I would say. 262 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 4: Yes, But yeah, you can also spin it towards joy. 263 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:13,320 Speaker 4: You could also come up with a childhood story of 264 00:13:13,400 --> 00:13:16,199 Speaker 4: that when you were a child, you were you didn't 265 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:19,360 Speaker 4: have enough money to afford toys, so your grandmother painted 266 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:22,160 Speaker 4: a face on a board, and that board was your 267 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:25,559 Speaker 4: best friend. And every day you carried that board every day. 268 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:28,760 Speaker 4: And then one day a neighborhood kid, a bully, chop 269 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 4: that board in half with his fist. And every time 270 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:33,520 Speaker 4: you do karate and throw a kick or a punch, 271 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:38,600 Speaker 4: it reminds you of your only beloved toy. Maybe his name, 272 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:42,199 Speaker 4: maybe it was just name Maple. Maybe Maple was your 273 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:46,080 Speaker 4: best friend growing up, and it just brings back memories 274 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 4: that make you cry tears of joy thinking back to 275 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:51,440 Speaker 4: a long, long time ago. 276 00:13:51,679 --> 00:13:54,400 Speaker 1: You can also say that when you were a child, 277 00:13:56,280 --> 00:13:58,319 Speaker 1: your parents didn't have a lot of money, and one 278 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:01,560 Speaker 1: year Bruce Lee brought all of your Christmas presents for you. 279 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 3: Yes. 280 00:14:02,240 --> 00:14:05,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, And so every time you do karate, you're reminded 281 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:08,960 Speaker 1: of Bruce Lee's kindness and you're overwhelmed with gratitude. 282 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 4: That's very nice because then they'll be like, I don't 283 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 4: think she's old enough to have been there alive at 284 00:14:15,280 --> 00:14:17,600 Speaker 4: the same time as Bruce Lee. And you can let 285 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:24,320 Speaker 4: them google on the drive home. But also like you can, 286 00:14:25,040 --> 00:14:27,920 Speaker 4: I guess you probably have to wear your karate gee 287 00:14:28,280 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 4: or whatever. They probably make you wear an outfit, but 288 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 4: if not, just make a shirt that say these are 289 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:37,360 Speaker 4: tears of joy. I'm loving this and then karate rolls 290 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 4: on the back and just let people go she's just 291 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:41,160 Speaker 4: having a ball. 292 00:14:41,400 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 3: Oh. 293 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 1: Or you know what we could do is I bet 294 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:49,080 Speaker 1: out there somewhere is like a tiny tea towel in 295 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:51,840 Speaker 1: the shape of a karate g and if you bring 296 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:55,920 Speaker 1: that and then just are dabbing your tears away with 297 00:14:56,000 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 1: a tiny gee and doll's ge. I think that's very funny. 298 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:06,240 Speaker 4: My other belt is a kleenex. Also a good idea 299 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 4: for a shirt, but don't feel bad about it. And 300 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:12,400 Speaker 4: I also, yeah, I can understand you. But also you 301 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 4: could say it so short. You could say when I 302 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 4: get a drenaline when I have an adrenaline dump, I cry. 303 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:20,880 Speaker 4: It's crazy, but it's so funny to me, And then 304 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 4: people go, that is funny. They won't think you're weird. 305 00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:25,680 Speaker 4: I had a friend come over, and I think I 306 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:28,160 Speaker 4: told this on the podcast a while ago, but she 307 00:15:28,960 --> 00:15:33,200 Speaker 4: saw that I had a pellet gun for coyotes, and 308 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 4: she had never shot it. And you gave me those 309 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 4: targets that when you hit the target, it kicked a 310 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 4: can like twenty feet in the air, so fun And 311 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:43,720 Speaker 4: she had never fired any type of weapon ever in 312 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:47,040 Speaker 4: her whole life. And I showed her how and loaded 313 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 4: it and cocked the pellet gun for her, and she 314 00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 4: shot it and the can dan great satisfying sound. Hit 315 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:55,320 Speaker 4: the target can shoots up in the air, and she 316 00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:57,480 Speaker 4: bent over and handed me the gun and sat down 317 00:15:57,840 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 4: because she said she had an orgasm. 318 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: What yeah, what that's amazing. 319 00:16:04,840 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 3: On my deck at the old cabin. Won't name her. 320 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 4: She also might be a guest at some point, just 321 00:16:11,240 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 4: a friend, somebody. I have never had any a single 322 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 4: romantic moment with it all, just a friend. But it 323 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:20,040 Speaker 4: was something about like she was scared to shoot it, 324 00:16:20,080 --> 00:16:22,720 Speaker 4: she had never done it before. Then she did it, 325 00:16:22,840 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 4: and then she hit the target and the response was 326 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:29,200 Speaker 4: so big that she was overcome with feelings of like 327 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 4: joy and satisfaction. And she sat down on an Adirondack 328 00:16:33,600 --> 00:16:36,880 Speaker 4: chair and said, I'm sorry, I just had an orgasm. 329 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 4: And she's never said anything remotely like that before or since. 330 00:16:43,880 --> 00:16:48,240 Speaker 4: But something about firing that and releasing that adrena, that boom, 331 00:16:48,760 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 4: it set her. Uh, she was firing away. 332 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:55,800 Speaker 1: And also, I think, Rachel, you can be pretty happy 333 00:16:56,800 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 1: that you cry at your children's karate class rather than 334 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 1: have to go into the bathroom and have an orgasm. 335 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:06,679 Speaker 1: Think about what could happen to you. 336 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:14,560 Speaker 3: I love that make a yes, that's right, difficult to explain. 337 00:17:15,080 --> 00:17:15,640 Speaker 3: That's right. 338 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:19,359 Speaker 4: You're actually doing great crying. It's one of the best responses, 339 00:17:19,520 --> 00:17:19,880 Speaker 4: I think. 340 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:26,560 Speaker 1: So, Yeah, if you could cry, and while you're crying, 341 00:17:26,640 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 1: go I'm happy. 342 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:29,880 Speaker 3: Yes, that's right. 343 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:33,240 Speaker 4: If these are tears of joy, leaning towards the joy 344 00:17:33,280 --> 00:17:35,000 Speaker 4: of it and also, I bet it goes away. 345 00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:36,600 Speaker 3: I bet you get more and more comfortable with it 346 00:17:36,640 --> 00:17:41,480 Speaker 3: and it goes away. You choose. 347 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:51,159 Speaker 1: From all the way around the. 348 00:18:00,359 --> 00:18:00,600 Speaker 4: Pot. 349 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 1: Here's another one. 350 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:10,200 Speaker 6: Hello banana boys. My name is Maggie and I'm in Arizona. 351 00:18:11,040 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 6: I am looking for some banana's advice. I am turning 352 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:16,800 Speaker 6: twenty three next week, and I'm going to be graduating 353 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:21,160 Speaker 6: with my bachelor's in Biokem next month, and so I'm 354 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:23,520 Speaker 6: just kind of having a quarter life crisis. I have 355 00:18:23,640 --> 00:18:26,080 Speaker 6: a really stable wife where I'm at, I have a 356 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:29,720 Speaker 6: full time job lined up for graduation, and we're going 357 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:31,840 Speaker 6: to be here for a while because my long term 358 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:35,480 Speaker 6: boyfriend is going to be starting a PhD program, which, 359 00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:39,200 Speaker 6: as you might have heard, are very long, and I'm 360 00:18:39,240 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 6: kind of just struggling with like what my new goals 361 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 6: are going to be, like like how to make friends here, 362 00:18:44,119 --> 00:18:47,040 Speaker 6: how to be a grown up but also not be boring. 363 00:18:47,240 --> 00:18:49,879 Speaker 6: I don't know, I feel so old, and also like 364 00:18:50,040 --> 00:18:54,960 Speaker 6: I haven't done anything fun for like four years. So yeah, 365 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 6: like any advice on hobbies or how to make good 366 00:18:58,040 --> 00:19:01,159 Speaker 6: friends or do fun things. If I'm spending this a 367 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:04,040 Speaker 6: ton of money because I have two LUNs. Thank you, 368 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:05,200 Speaker 6: and I love the show. 369 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:11,920 Speaker 1: Thank you. Maggie. First and foremost, you're younger than you'll 370 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:15,280 Speaker 1: ever be right now. You are younger than you'll ever 371 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:19,440 Speaker 1: ever be. You'll always be older than you are right now. 372 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:23,040 Speaker 1: So you're not old. You're not old at all. You're 373 00:19:23,080 --> 00:19:27,960 Speaker 1: so so young and Wow exciting you get to go 374 00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:31,480 Speaker 1: out into a city and make friends a city that 375 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:34,320 Speaker 1: you are probably a little bit familiar with, at least 376 00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:36,439 Speaker 1: since you've been there for four years. 377 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:41,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, we live for everything. Sign up for every damn thing. 378 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,400 Speaker 4: Sign up for everything. The way Kurt and I got 379 00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 4: to know each other, I have no interest in being 380 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:50,040 Speaker 4: an actor whatsoever. I saw Kurt perform a few times, 381 00:19:50,119 --> 00:19:52,159 Speaker 4: thought he was so funny. I signed up for his 382 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 4: Level one improv class. 383 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:54,480 Speaker 1: Mm hmm. 384 00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:57,359 Speaker 4: Anybody that knows me knows that that is the equivalent 385 00:19:57,440 --> 00:20:00,520 Speaker 4: of me going to the dentist every day for a year. 386 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:01,879 Speaker 3: I did not. 387 00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:03,959 Speaker 4: Want to be on stage and performing at all, but 388 00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:06,160 Speaker 4: I I was like, I'm gonna take a chance. 389 00:20:06,359 --> 00:20:12,240 Speaker 1: Sign up for Also, my Level one improv class was 390 00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:17,000 Speaker 1: was real, real, theatery, touchy feely. Did I have you 391 00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 1: do that exercise caligula? 392 00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:21,200 Speaker 3: I don't remember where. 393 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:24,040 Speaker 1: Everyone like I think it was everyone just like rolls 394 00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:27,639 Speaker 1: around on the ground together. Do you remember doing that? 395 00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:28,639 Speaker 3: Definitely took at that. 396 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:31,120 Speaker 4: But one time Dion Flynn came in and we all 397 00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:33,760 Speaker 4: ended up shaking our like fourth chakras in the air 398 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:37,679 Speaker 4: and inhaling through our sphincters and then shaking our crotches 399 00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:40,679 Speaker 4: in the air as hard as we could. And some 400 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:42,639 Speaker 4: of the people in that class were like just business 401 00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:45,000 Speaker 4: men that were like, yeah, just getting out of the 402 00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:47,679 Speaker 4: house and doing something. And I just remember them like 403 00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:49,680 Speaker 4: looking at me, like what the hell did I sign 404 00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:50,119 Speaker 4: up for? 405 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:53,640 Speaker 3: But that's so Yeah. 406 00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:57,960 Speaker 4: One thing is is like out here with people that 407 00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:01,440 Speaker 4: are aspiring to be like writers and actors and stuff. 408 00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:04,000 Speaker 4: I always say to them, give yourself until thirty to 409 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 4: figure out what you're great at. So you're twenty three, 410 00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:08,000 Speaker 4: you already have a degree, you have a job, so 411 00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:12,240 Speaker 4: you have a lot of things sort of guaranteed. I 412 00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:15,879 Speaker 4: would encourage you to spend the next seven years trying everything. 413 00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:16,240 Speaker 3: Now. 414 00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:18,440 Speaker 4: I know things cost money. It's not like every day 415 00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,680 Speaker 4: you can jump out of a plane and go skydiving now, 416 00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:23,719 Speaker 4: but if you live near a real city, it is 417 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 4: shocking how many subcultures and things are going on all 418 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:32,400 Speaker 4: around you at all times. You just got to show 419 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 4: up and if you can start to make new friends, 420 00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:37,440 Speaker 4: especially if you have one or two buddies, new friends, 421 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:41,040 Speaker 4: old friends who will say yes to everything. Yeah, man, 422 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 4: go to every gallery opening, go to every live show. 423 00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 4: If there's a dumb thing in the park, if they're 424 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:52,040 Speaker 4: doing city lights, go do city lights. You just if 425 00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:54,000 Speaker 4: they're doing a thing at the zoo where it's the 426 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:58,399 Speaker 4: zoo after hours, go because it's amazing how everybody wants 427 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,440 Speaker 4: to do things and all it ever take this one 428 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:02,640 Speaker 4: person to be like I'm doing this, who wants to come? 429 00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:04,320 Speaker 4: And usually somebody will say yes. 430 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:12,800 Speaker 1: My recommendation would be like, oh, Arizona, Oh get like go, 431 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 1: get sign up for a group that goes hiking, and 432 00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:20,920 Speaker 1: go to some slot canyons. Arizona has amazing slot canyons. 433 00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:24,840 Speaker 1: Like the nature in Arizona is actually like breathtaking, leave 434 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 1: beautiful and gorgeous, even if you live in Phoenix, like 435 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,600 Speaker 1: an hour and a half drive away from Phoenix and 436 00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:35,800 Speaker 1: you are a massive nature that's gorgeous. Tucson is also 437 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 1: a really fun place to visit. Go for a weekend 438 00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:43,840 Speaker 1: in Tucson. And then oh, if you like bike riding, 439 00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:45,399 Speaker 1: I don't know. If you do, like look up your 440 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:48,120 Speaker 1: local critical mass and go to that and make friends there. 441 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 1: That's fun. Everybody's riding their bike together. You'll never feel 442 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 1: more free than le like three hundred other bicyclists, like 443 00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:58,800 Speaker 1: going down a main, main thoroughfare in a city at night. 444 00:22:58,880 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: It's so fun. 445 00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,440 Speaker 3: Never turned down a good invitation too. 446 00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:05,800 Speaker 4: It's amazing how many people say they're going to show 447 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:06,720 Speaker 4: up and then don't. 448 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:07,960 Speaker 3: It's actually shocking. 449 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:11,119 Speaker 4: And my good old buddy Steve from way back in 450 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:15,120 Speaker 4: the day said people matter, places don't. And so if 451 00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,200 Speaker 4: a person that you like at all is like, hey, 452 00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:19,000 Speaker 4: I'm doing this thing, and you look and you go, 453 00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:22,359 Speaker 4: oh my god, it's like four hours away, go I 454 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:24,480 Speaker 4: love it. Yeah, you got to go because you're going 455 00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 4: for the person and you're not going like it's so easy. 456 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:30,080 Speaker 4: You're gonna run out of steam one day and you're 457 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,840 Speaker 4: gonna be tired and old, and then you have all 458 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:33,520 Speaker 4: the time in the world to be inside your house. 459 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, and you could read. 460 00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:37,080 Speaker 4: Those books and listen to those records and watch those 461 00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:39,439 Speaker 4: movies right now while you got a little gas in 462 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:42,720 Speaker 4: the tank just doesn't matter. Push yourself to get out 463 00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:46,160 Speaker 4: there and do everything you can do. People matter, places don't. 464 00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 4: It's good advice. 465 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:51,320 Speaker 1: And I would you know what, like I don't. We 466 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,320 Speaker 1: don't know what kind of person you are, right, the 467 00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:56,760 Speaker 1: kind of person I am, the kind of people like 468 00:23:56,880 --> 00:24:00,639 Speaker 1: I took a woodworking class, yeah, and I all I 469 00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,160 Speaker 1: want to do is take more wood working classes hang 470 00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:06,000 Speaker 1: out with those people because I like the type of 471 00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:10,000 Speaker 1: people who are like making things with their hands. And 472 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 1: I like making stuff because it's like my whole life 473 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:17,840 Speaker 1: is spent in my head just thinking and coming up 474 00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:21,560 Speaker 1: with ideas and then to turn that off and just 475 00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:24,399 Speaker 1: have to physically make something. And then at the end 476 00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:26,840 Speaker 1: of the day, like I work, most of most of 477 00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,040 Speaker 1: the projects I work on never see the light of day. 478 00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:32,400 Speaker 1: I work hundreds of hours on them, and then they 479 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,480 Speaker 1: simply disappear because some fucking piece of shit in an 480 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:39,400 Speaker 1: office is likenow. And then to like just go and 481 00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:42,000 Speaker 1: like walk away and come home with even something as 482 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:44,600 Speaker 1: dumb as a cutting board, like that's what I made 483 00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 1: in my woodworking class, and I use it every single day, 484 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:51,399 Speaker 1: and I'm very proud of my dumb cutting board. 485 00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:52,040 Speaker 3: Yeah. 486 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 4: Arts crafts, outdoor activities, indoor activities. Sign up for anything 487 00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,359 Speaker 4: that you've never done that you feel safe doing. It 488 00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,439 Speaker 4: seems like you're in the you're about to hit the 489 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:07,240 Speaker 4: prime of your life. Oh, say yes to everything. 490 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, so everything, you know. 491 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:13,360 Speaker 4: I met a ton of people out here right when 492 00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,160 Speaker 4: I moved out here. A friend of a friend was like, Hey, 493 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:17,320 Speaker 4: we're all going to go see a play that Angela 494 00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:21,000 Speaker 4: Lansbury's in and I go, okay, I like angel Lansbury. 495 00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:23,159 Speaker 4: How old is she? They were like, she's like eighty something. 496 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,320 Speaker 4: And it was called like the Blithe Spirit and it's 497 00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:29,080 Speaker 4: like a farce. Everything falls apart, Like, yeah, it's like 498 00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:32,439 Speaker 4: a it's great. It's sort of a fun play. And 499 00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:35,200 Speaker 4: I went and sat in a row with like ten people. 500 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:39,160 Speaker 4: I didn't home, and afterwards I enjoyed it and I 501 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:41,879 Speaker 4: said hide everybody. And then they were all just circled 502 00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:44,080 Speaker 4: up and I could feel the conversations dwindling. I was like, well, 503 00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:46,679 Speaker 4: nice to meet everybody. And I just walked away and 504 00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,080 Speaker 4: went out and did something else. And it on the 505 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,520 Speaker 4: drive or on the uber to the next place, I 506 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:54,760 Speaker 4: got like two texts like so you just walk away, Huh, 507 00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:57,040 Speaker 4: You're the kind of person. I was like, yeah, I 508 00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,000 Speaker 4: was done with the experience. And then the two people 509 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:01,520 Speaker 4: that texted me are now my like ten year friends 510 00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:03,240 Speaker 4: because they're like, where are you going. 511 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,200 Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm going to Black Cap have a beer. 512 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 3: They're like, can I come? 513 00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:09,199 Speaker 4: And so it was just like my behavior wasn't I 514 00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 4: tried to scrape everything out of it I possibly could. 515 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:14,680 Speaker 4: It's like I had the experience. I politely said hellou 516 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,199 Speaker 4: to everybody. I politely said goodbye to everybody. Yeah, and 517 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 4: two people were like, I like that dude's style. I'm 518 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,480 Speaker 4: going to go hang out with that person. So just 519 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:26,200 Speaker 4: put yourself in those situations, knowing you can always tap your. 520 00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:27,680 Speaker 3: Phone, get a new bern and get out of there. 521 00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:33,080 Speaker 1: That's a thing. Show up like. It's fun too. If 522 00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,760 Speaker 1: you're putting yourself in situations where you feel a little 523 00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,480 Speaker 1: bit uncomfortable, that's probably a good thing. Not we're not 524 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:41,640 Speaker 1: talking about like danger or anything that we're just talking 525 00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:43,080 Speaker 1: about like, oh, I don't know, there's a little out 526 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 1: of my comfort zone. That's but that then you're in 527 00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:46,560 Speaker 1: a good spot. You're in the sweet spot. 528 00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:49,679 Speaker 4: Remember that story. I did it, but I know we 529 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,919 Speaker 4: both loved it. Was the guy in San Francisco that 530 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:53,960 Speaker 4: was just trying to make friends. So he hosted free 531 00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,840 Speaker 4: pancakes one weekend and like one hundred and fifty people 532 00:26:56,880 --> 00:27:00,960 Speaker 4: showed up for pancakes. Yeah, was it Maggie? 533 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:01,680 Speaker 3: Whoever? 534 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:07,080 Speaker 4: The yeah caller was Maggie, figure out your pancake? What 535 00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:08,959 Speaker 4: is your pancake? What is the thing you can do 536 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,040 Speaker 4: with friends or your neighbors, or your former students or 537 00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:15,960 Speaker 4: whatever you go. I'm making old al Paso family style 538 00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:19,959 Speaker 4: dinner tacos tonight, and I'm going to make one hundred 539 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,320 Speaker 4: of them. Yeah, if you'd like to come over and 540 00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:28,000 Speaker 4: eat some tacos, I'm making one hundred hardshell gringo tacos 541 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:32,439 Speaker 4: and I invite everybody to come. And if five people come, amazing. 542 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:37,040 Speaker 4: So just find your pancake and start something new and 543 00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:38,720 Speaker 4: watch how fast people join. 544 00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,120 Speaker 1: You find your pancake, Maggie, find your pancake. 545 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:42,120 Speaker 3: Maggie is the next one. 546 00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:47,120 Speaker 7: Hey, banana boys, I would like some advice. I know 547 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:52,600 Speaker 7: you typically don't touch on things like relationships and such, 548 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:59,040 Speaker 7: but I'm recently out of a nine year relationship, and 549 00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:01,880 Speaker 7: every time I hear a cur talk about his long 550 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:07,320 Speaker 7: term relationship before he met his Wifey. It makes me 551 00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:08,800 Speaker 7: feel good like there's. 552 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:12,040 Speaker 1: Something out there for me. Of course, so I would 553 00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:12,880 Speaker 1: like to hear a little. 554 00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:16,600 Speaker 7: Bit more about what cares to say about that. And 555 00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:19,800 Speaker 7: also you can be as bananas as possible and tell 556 00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:22,920 Speaker 7: me what I should do in the interim when I'm 557 00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:27,680 Speaker 7: single until I find the one. Thank you, love the pod, 558 00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:29,040 Speaker 7: You're the best. 559 00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,960 Speaker 1: What an exciting time, very nice. 560 00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:34,000 Speaker 3: Oh the freedom. 561 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:38,239 Speaker 1: Oh and I always think of it like this, Right 562 00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:40,920 Speaker 1: when you get out of a relationship, I think you're 563 00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,160 Speaker 1: on the beach. You know, you are at a time 564 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:45,360 Speaker 1: of transition. You are at a time in between the 565 00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 1: water and the land. You don't know what it is yet. 566 00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,280 Speaker 1: The sand is wet, it can be water, it can 567 00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:55,040 Speaker 1: be dry, but it's not. It's nothing solidified yet. So 568 00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,000 Speaker 1: you are at the beach. You go to the beach 569 00:28:57,080 --> 00:29:00,240 Speaker 1: for a vacation from your life, and this is a 570 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:02,240 Speaker 1: little bit of a vacation from your life. 571 00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:03,320 Speaker 3: And that's so. 572 00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:09,680 Speaker 4: I love that metaphor. I love it so great. That's 573 00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:12,640 Speaker 4: really true. You don't live on the beach, live on 574 00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,000 Speaker 4: the sand. You don't even spend the night there. You 575 00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:17,520 Speaker 4: go there, you escape, and then when it's time to 576 00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:18,040 Speaker 4: go home. 577 00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:18,720 Speaker 3: You do? 578 00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:24,240 Speaker 4: That is so true, my goodness. Well, one, there's no 579 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:25,720 Speaker 4: real timeline to anything. 580 00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:27,640 Speaker 3: No, I think people, you know. 581 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 1: It's almost people invent timelines to stress themselves out. 582 00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 4: Yes, And everybody gets the worst advice is like, here's 583 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,680 Speaker 4: what you need to do. You need to go out 584 00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:39,760 Speaker 4: there and get it on with strangers. And you're like, no, 585 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:42,479 Speaker 4: you don't. That might not be your game or your 586 00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:49,000 Speaker 4: thing at all. Yeah, don't be afraid of dating different 587 00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,560 Speaker 4: types of people, people you've never gone out with before. 588 00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:54,880 Speaker 4: It's just one date, yep, it's you can do it 589 00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:58,360 Speaker 4: by your rules. But there's no rush currentibe And I 590 00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:00,600 Speaker 4: know nothing of the apps, and I know, yes are 591 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:05,320 Speaker 4: now nothing, but I don't know. 592 00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:06,200 Speaker 3: I think people. 593 00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 4: Always rush to like fix problems instead of sitting still 594 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:10,560 Speaker 4: and seeing how they actually feel. 595 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:14,080 Speaker 1: That is, you know, I uh, That's something I learned 596 00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:17,880 Speaker 1: a long time about sadness and about loneliness as well, 597 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,040 Speaker 1: because I think that's the one thing that I struggled 598 00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:24,240 Speaker 1: with the most when I was single, was that, you know, 599 00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:27,440 Speaker 1: around you know, I'd be finishing up a show and 600 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:30,400 Speaker 1: then like ahead of me, what I would have was 601 00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 1: just like to go home and go to bed by myself, 602 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:37,080 Speaker 1: and then there would just be like this thing tugging 603 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:38,840 Speaker 1: at me, or be like, well, may man, I'm going 604 00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:42,520 Speaker 1: to a bar first and see if I can meet somebody. 605 00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:45,320 Speaker 1: Because you're just like, don't want to be alone, and 606 00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:50,160 Speaker 1: yet and yet when you actually just instead of trying 607 00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 1: to push that loneliness away, sit in it, it transforms 608 00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:57,800 Speaker 1: into something else. And after enough time, you actually really 609 00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:03,720 Speaker 1: enjoy being alone. And it's so empowering and pleasant and 610 00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:08,960 Speaker 1: god damn it, when you live alone, what what a 611 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,080 Speaker 1: what a dream? For the for the for the for 612 00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:15,280 Speaker 1: the two years that I lived just on my own 613 00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:19,480 Speaker 1: with no one else. Oh, I loved it. You just 614 00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:22,760 Speaker 1: create your own universe. You're the king or queen, uh 615 00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:27,840 Speaker 1: of or or emperor of your tiny little universe, and 616 00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:30,680 Speaker 1: you write the rules. You're like David Bowie and Labyrinth. 617 00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:33,440 Speaker 1: You can be as weird as you want. It's wonderful. 618 00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:36,440 Speaker 1: Put your genes in the freezer, never take them out. 619 00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:37,760 Speaker 1: It's the best. 620 00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:40,120 Speaker 3: It really is. I know. 621 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,600 Speaker 4: I always have to like I used to be worse 622 00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:44,800 Speaker 4: about it, Like ten years ago, when somebody would be like, yeah, 623 00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:48,680 Speaker 4: we broke up, I'd be like, that's awesome, congratulations like 624 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:50,640 Speaker 4: I used to get too pumped one because I felt 625 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:52,200 Speaker 4: like I was getting a friend back where I could 626 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:53,960 Speaker 4: be like, you want to hang out Thursday, but like, yes, 627 00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:54,480 Speaker 4: I do. 628 00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:54,920 Speaker 3: So. 629 00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:57,280 Speaker 4: Maybe it's time to reconnect with some people you didn't 630 00:31:57,320 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 4: see as much when you were in that nine year relationship. 631 00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:02,600 Speaker 4: Maybe it's about putting yourself back into their lives in 632 00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:06,160 Speaker 4: a way that works for them. Reconnect with friends. Maybe 633 00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:08,360 Speaker 4: there's somebody you've been meaning to respond to a text 634 00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:10,720 Speaker 4: for a year and a half. Well, guess what you 635 00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:13,240 Speaker 4: got all the time in the world. Now, maybe send 636 00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:16,000 Speaker 4: some postcards. What I'm saying is you can reach out 637 00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:17,920 Speaker 4: and think about the other people that might be stuck 638 00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,600 Speaker 4: in the same situation that you feel stuck in, and 639 00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:22,200 Speaker 4: you can be the one that kind of lifts them 640 00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,840 Speaker 4: out of it and in doing so, lift yourself out 641 00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:25,080 Speaker 4: of it. 642 00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,200 Speaker 1: And you know, and that they say all these studies 643 00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,840 Speaker 1: over and over and over again say that when people 644 00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,320 Speaker 1: who are like a hundred look back on the most 645 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:39,280 Speaker 1: meaningful relationships in their lives, it's usually friends that like 646 00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:41,480 Speaker 1: help them the most. Like those are the ones that 647 00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,680 Speaker 1: they're the ones that help the most to continue on 648 00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:50,520 Speaker 1: because friends don't change like relationships might end right, but 649 00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:54,400 Speaker 1: friendships can literally be with you for your entire life, 650 00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:57,520 Speaker 1: and a lifelong friendship is amazing. So yeah, rekindle those friendships. Also, 651 00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:01,440 Speaker 1: bone till the morning light. You know, that's so fun. 652 00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:02,880 Speaker 3: Just do it. 653 00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:06,080 Speaker 1: I don't know what if you're going, you're going, what 654 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:09,240 Speaker 1: your orientation is, but do it up. It's so fun. 655 00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:11,840 Speaker 1: If you stay at the bar until closing, you're gonna 656 00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:15,520 Speaker 1: go home with somebody. That is that is an eternal truth. 657 00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:21,200 Speaker 4: Oh that's true, depending on your city. My mom was 658 00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:23,120 Speaker 4: like a health teacher and she used to do this 659 00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:25,280 Speaker 4: thing sometimes where she would hold up like a meter stick. 660 00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,720 Speaker 4: So you know, meterstick's one hundred centimeters, and she used 661 00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:30,840 Speaker 4: to tell her students, you know, high school's four years, 662 00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:33,080 Speaker 4: and she would point on the meter stick to what 663 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:36,720 Speaker 4: four centimeters is. She goes, this is how long you're 664 00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:41,160 Speaker 4: with me. That's cool, how long you're here. So if 665 00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,360 Speaker 4: you look at your life and you go, hey, maybe 666 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:45,960 Speaker 4: we get a lucky role and I get one hundred years, 667 00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:48,360 Speaker 4: you look at that meter stick and you look at 668 00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:51,960 Speaker 4: nine centimeters compared to that whole thing, you got so 669 00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:55,320 Speaker 4: much more to do out there. You have so many 670 00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:58,400 Speaker 4: centimeters to live, so don't. 671 00:33:57,640 --> 00:33:58,640 Speaker 3: Worry about it. 672 00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:00,680 Speaker 4: The more you get going on with like Kurt said, 673 00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:04,040 Speaker 4: with your friends, the more people are attracted to people 674 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:07,360 Speaker 4: who are doing things. Yes, notice that my whole life. 675 00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:09,560 Speaker 4: If you're the person that goes, oh, we're doing a 676 00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:12,200 Speaker 4: road trip. We're going to Sedona, they go, oh that's cool. 677 00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:14,120 Speaker 4: Can I come? And you go, yeah, oh, I just 678 00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:16,120 Speaker 4: got back. I'm doing this thing. Oh I have a 679 00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:16,840 Speaker 4: cooking class. 680 00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:17,240 Speaker 3: Oh. 681 00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:20,320 Speaker 4: And whenever you have things going on, people want to 682 00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:21,680 Speaker 4: be a part of the thing going on. 683 00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:23,000 Speaker 3: And it doesn't matter what it is. 684 00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:23,680 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. 685 00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:28,200 Speaker 4: So find some new things, reconnect with people, good friends 686 00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:31,120 Speaker 4: that you've just lost touch with naturally. Yeah, and look 687 00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:33,040 Speaker 4: at that meter stick in the corner and go, man, 688 00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:35,760 Speaker 4: nine centimeters. That ain't nothing. 689 00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:40,480 Speaker 1: Oh and just enjoy the beach and enjoy the beach. 690 00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:44,840 Speaker 1: Transitions are fun. You grow so much. 691 00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:45,279 Speaker 3: Oh. 692 00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:48,000 Speaker 1: Also, I would say right, right, right, right, right, like 693 00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:51,799 Speaker 1: get a diary and right because that is especially when 694 00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:54,200 Speaker 1: you're feeling lonely, Like, get that diary out and write 695 00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,560 Speaker 1: it right it, get all those thoughts out. It's almost 696 00:34:56,640 --> 00:35:01,920 Speaker 1: as good as like a therapist. Really like a good diary. Oh, 697 00:35:01,960 --> 00:35:02,960 Speaker 1: it's wonderful. 698 00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:08,200 Speaker 4: I learned to enjoy reading when I was alone in 699 00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 4: a farmhouse at twenty or twenty one. Whoever, I was 700 00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:14,160 Speaker 4: dating a nice woman and her mom passed away, suddenly 701 00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:16,279 Speaker 4: had a heart attack and died. Wow, And so she 702 00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:19,399 Speaker 4: moved back home and was going to come back up. 703 00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:21,000 Speaker 3: But you're going to handle some things. So I was 704 00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:22,759 Speaker 3: alone in a farmhouse. 705 00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:23,680 Speaker 1: With how were you at a farmhouse? 706 00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:25,879 Speaker 4: Well, because I was like a trans she was still 707 00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,800 Speaker 4: taking classes in college and I had moved off. We 708 00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:30,760 Speaker 4: had lost the house that I lived in in school 709 00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:32,920 Speaker 4: because I couldn't afford to live there without four roommates. 710 00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:35,520 Speaker 3: So she and I moved in together for the first time. 711 00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:39,480 Speaker 4: Wo to this quaint cottage with a farm, and it 712 00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,960 Speaker 4: was incredible. We planted a garden and then it all 713 00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:46,239 Speaker 4: went to hell when this horrible thing happened. And so 714 00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:48,080 Speaker 4: I found we were going to cook meals. It was 715 00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:49,799 Speaker 4: going to be a very you know, you're twenty one, 716 00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:52,400 Speaker 4: you're trying to be an adult. Yeah, like Maggie or 717 00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:54,799 Speaker 4: was earlier, and then you look back, you're like, boy, 718 00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:59,560 Speaker 4: was I a little bouncing baby boy? And so I 719 00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:01,480 Speaker 4: didn't really have internet, and if it was, it was 720 00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:03,920 Speaker 4: like dial up on a really crappy old computer. So 721 00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:06,920 Speaker 4: it was just me alone in a house and with 722 00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,080 Speaker 4: the person who I cared about so much of the time. 723 00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:13,080 Speaker 4: Morning somewhere else and I was stuck. And I literally 724 00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:15,759 Speaker 4: walked over to a bookshelf that the renter had had 725 00:36:15,800 --> 00:36:19,640 Speaker 4: in there and picked up a book called Snowy Mountain Passage, 726 00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,360 Speaker 4: I think, and it was like about a different angle 727 00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:24,680 Speaker 4: of the Donner Party, but fictionalized. It was like about 728 00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:28,480 Speaker 4: somebody who left. And I read every damn word. I 729 00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:31,680 Speaker 4: looked at every period, every comics. It was like I 730 00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:35,040 Speaker 4: had never just fallen into a book before and ever since, 731 00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:36,120 Speaker 4: I just chewed through books. 732 00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:37,320 Speaker 3: But it was it took. 733 00:36:37,239 --> 00:36:40,720 Speaker 4: This loneliness and isolation to make me pivot into something 734 00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:43,000 Speaker 4: that honestly, it's the reason I made it as a 735 00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:45,239 Speaker 4: screenwriter is because I suddenly I learned to love to 736 00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,040 Speaker 4: read because I was so incredibly alone. 737 00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,680 Speaker 1: Oh wow, I've really never heard that before. 738 00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:52,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's true, that's true. 739 00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:55,880 Speaker 4: It was beautiful and I probably read ten books that summer. 740 00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:57,440 Speaker 4: And you know what I did, because I you know, 741 00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:00,479 Speaker 4: I was I was Fais Bueller when I was middle school, 742 00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:02,920 Speaker 4: in high school, I every hall passed. I was in 743 00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,520 Speaker 4: every club, I was on every sport. People knew me, 744 00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:08,919 Speaker 4: teachers wouldn't yell at me, and so I never read 745 00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:09,480 Speaker 4: any books. 746 00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:12,360 Speaker 3: I didn't What really were you a jock? 747 00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:17,120 Speaker 4: I was a great athlete, but I was sort of 748 00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:17,840 Speaker 4: weird I was. 749 00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:20,160 Speaker 3: I wasn't a jock. I was never a bully. 750 00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:22,920 Speaker 1: You were kind of like outside of all the clicks. 751 00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:26,120 Speaker 1: I was just kind of skipped in. So you were 752 00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:28,880 Speaker 1: like Ferris Bueller. Like Farris Bueller was friends with the stoners, 753 00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:30,880 Speaker 1: He's friends with the cool kids, he's friends with the jocks. 754 00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:32,000 Speaker 1: He's a friends with everybody. 755 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:34,319 Speaker 3: So I went and spent the rest of the only 756 00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,320 Speaker 3: place to be. Well. 757 00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,000 Speaker 4: Then I moved to New York and met my people, 758 00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:42,000 Speaker 4: yourself included, and I felt like an alien who had 759 00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:44,279 Speaker 4: suddenly found other people. And we're like, oh, this is 760 00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:46,600 Speaker 4: why we all move here and pursue the arts, because 761 00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:49,800 Speaker 4: we're just this weird satellite that everybody thinks is weird. 762 00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:51,880 Speaker 4: And when they call you weird when you're young and 763 00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,239 Speaker 4: hurt your feelings, and then suddenly you start to build 764 00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:56,040 Speaker 4: a career off it, and then you're like, boy, is 765 00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:57,000 Speaker 4: it good to be weird? 766 00:37:57,080 --> 00:37:57,840 Speaker 3: It's so fun. 767 00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:01,520 Speaker 4: But I read The Great Gatsby, I read I read 768 00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:04,120 Speaker 4: every classic you can read, Pride and Prejudice. I read 769 00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:08,719 Speaker 4: everything I was supposed to have read, and I understood 770 00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:10,799 Speaker 4: them because I was a young adult and not. 771 00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:12,839 Speaker 3: A fourteen year old being forced. 772 00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:14,680 Speaker 4: To read of mice and men and going, I don't 773 00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:16,560 Speaker 4: understand what this is? 774 00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:19,839 Speaker 3: The dust bowl? Yes, I do, you have grapes of wrath. 775 00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,239 Speaker 4: I don't care about the jokes I read that read 776 00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:24,799 Speaker 4: Vonnig I read everything I read, beloved. I like, I 777 00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:27,720 Speaker 4: just read whatever was I was supposed to have read, 778 00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:29,319 Speaker 4: but from an adult's point of view, and I. 779 00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:30,920 Speaker 3: Was like, these are good books. 780 00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:35,040 Speaker 1: Actually, Oh that is such a nice That is a 781 00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:37,480 Speaker 1: nice idea too, to just get into a good but 782 00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:40,120 Speaker 1: I love you know, It's like it's so hard now 783 00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:42,400 Speaker 1: a day is for me to find a book that 784 00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:45,640 Speaker 1: I just like am obsessed with it without it being 785 00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:50,080 Speaker 1: like the trashiest of sci fi. For some reason, the 786 00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:52,719 Speaker 1: trashiest of sci fi is the thing that sucks me in. 787 00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:54,120 Speaker 1: And I'm just like, I got to get back to 788 00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:56,640 Speaker 1: that world. You know, it's got to be smart and everything, 789 00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,480 Speaker 1: but judge it. I mean, I just feel like I'm 790 00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:02,400 Speaker 1: way I'm wasting my brain. But I'm reading right, I'm reading. 791 00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:05,000 Speaker 4: Well, it's see, it's good for your imagination. But yes, 792 00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:07,960 Speaker 4: embrace the beach. You were on the beach of life. 793 00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:09,959 Speaker 4: There will be a time for you to go home. 794 00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:12,359 Speaker 4: There'll be a time for you to body surf. Right now, 795 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:16,080 Speaker 4: just be comfortable taking a little escape from your reality. 796 00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:20,160 Speaker 1: Oh that is wonderful. Well, that is all the advice 797 00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:21,560 Speaker 1: that we have right now. 798 00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:24,200 Speaker 3: That's fun. That is fun. 799 00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:27,440 Speaker 1: Scottie. You're about to go home for the holidays. What 800 00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:28,920 Speaker 1: are you looking forward to the most? 801 00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:32,120 Speaker 4: Well, I can't wait to see the whole family. I 802 00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,800 Speaker 4: do hope it snows, because apparently hasn't really been snowing 803 00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:35,879 Speaker 4: on the East Coast that much. 804 00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:38,200 Speaker 1: That would be amazing if you've got snow. 805 00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:40,719 Speaker 4: Yeah, I want to do some snow tubing with my nephews. 806 00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:44,320 Speaker 4: I want to I want to eat some seafood because 807 00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:47,319 Speaker 4: you know, Marylanders just do crab cakes and steam shrimp right, 808 00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:49,959 Speaker 4: So I'm sure the first night in Land, my parents 809 00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:52,960 Speaker 4: will drive me directly to a place to eat some 810 00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:56,440 Speaker 4: sort of salad of the sea. 811 00:39:56,560 --> 00:40:03,120 Speaker 1: I've been. I just got some raw shramps and just 812 00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,799 Speaker 1: did them up with a little bit of butter and 813 00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:09,240 Speaker 1: garlic and my gott and a little bit of lemon. 814 00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:13,440 Speaker 1: My god, that is a goddamn good meal. It tastes 815 00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:17,880 Speaker 1: so delicious and it's so easy. It takes four minutes 816 00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:18,400 Speaker 1: to cook. 817 00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:19,000 Speaker 3: I know. 818 00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,880 Speaker 4: Shrimp are comically like the thing about shrimp. They're just 819 00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:24,359 Speaker 4: cooking one minute. You're like one minute on the side 820 00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:26,319 Speaker 4: of the grill. Flip it over, great barbecue sauce. 821 00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:26,680 Speaker 3: I'm eating. 822 00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:29,839 Speaker 1: You got some carry gold butter. You are good to go. 823 00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:31,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm looking forward to it. 824 00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:34,440 Speaker 4: But I really am looking so forward to Fillian Pittsburgh 825 00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:36,800 Speaker 4: because their show their afternoon shows, so we're gonna be 826 00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:38,440 Speaker 4: able to go out and get dinners afterwards and you 827 00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:40,680 Speaker 4: can hang out and our friends are coming in. 828 00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:42,480 Speaker 3: It's just good. What a treat. 829 00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:44,080 Speaker 1: What a treat do we get to do this? And 830 00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:46,560 Speaker 1: thank you everybody for listening and for coming out to 831 00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:48,400 Speaker 1: the live shows. We love doing them so much. 832 00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:50,000 Speaker 3: Really, it's nice to meet you. 833 00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you guys have a great, great end of 834 00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:54,919 Speaker 1: the year, and we'll see you next year. 835 00:40:55,719 --> 00:41:13,560 Speaker 4: Happy holidays from the Banana Boys. Bananas is an exactly 836 00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:17,000 Speaker 4: right media production. Our producer and engineer is Katie Levine. 837 00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:20,680 Speaker 4: The catchy Bananas theme song was composed and performed by Kahon. 838 00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:24,240 Speaker 1: Artwork for Bananas was designed by Travis Millard. 839 00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:27,080 Speaker 4: And our benevolent overlords are the great Karen Kilgareff and 840 00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:28,080 Speaker 4: Georgia Hartstart 841 00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:32,480 Speaker 1: And Lisa Maggott is our full human, not a robot intern.