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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah, Darling.

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Speaker 2: I seen once you evolved in because I got the

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Speaker 2: the talking. You love the Cardy sitting Bercardy, loved the

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Speaker 2: the time, baby and by bograss Shane Darling, I seen

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Speaker 2: when you volved in, like at the drinking stuff to coffin.

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Speaker 2: Usually I'm not throwing the talking talking. He loved party

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Speaker 2: sit BEMBERCTI bro love the Mollies shining, I got some

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Speaker 3: Welcome back. It's meal in the house Erica.

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Speaker 4: And this is good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 3: And that was Pray Legends Sundress season featuring Keith Lawson.

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Speaker 4: And that's pretty popping.

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Speaker 5: I'm feeling.

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Speaker 4: I'm feeling it for the summer.

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Speaker 5: Bembaccartdy Bro love the money. I'm about the action.

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Speaker 4: I'm that's probably really wrong.

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Speaker 3: I fuck up lyrics religiously, even like songs I've heard

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Speaker 3: one million times.

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Speaker 5: But I can feel I feel like that's like a

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Speaker 5: cool like day party, chilling, drinking like some like punch,

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Speaker 4: Of drank summer dress wearing. Yeah, that's why I chose it.

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Speaker 4: So thanks, Pray appreciate you.

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Speaker 3: Oh, speaking of Prey, I actually know him personally, so

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Speaker 3: I appreciate you for letting us use your music. But

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Speaker 3: he was in he's from Jersey. He's my young Booze cousin,

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Speaker 3: his younger cousin, so he's really young. He came in

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Speaker 3: town this week and he hit me. Sorry I didn't

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Speaker 3: hit me and was like, Yo, what's up with all

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Speaker 3: the mills? I felt old as fuck, so ground up

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Speaker 3: all the mills, and I was like, I should be offended,

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Speaker 3: but he's like twenty two, so I'm not.

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Speaker 4: I guess that's a compliment.

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Speaker 6: I'm accepting it.

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Speaker 3: I'm taking it.

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Speaker 4: I mean, we're old, bitch, we're mills.

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Speaker 5: I'm not old. You know what. Mila's having like a

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Speaker 5: fucking major crisis with turning thirty, Like she is freaking

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Speaker 5: the fuck out, And I'm not going to join you

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Speaker 5: on this thirty year old depression party.

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Speaker 6: I am glad I'm thirty. I was excited to turn thirty.

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Speaker 4: You weren't depressed at all?

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Speaker 5: No, Wow, I was ready to get out of my twenties.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's a good way to look at it. I'm

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Speaker 6: I just felt like thirties could only get be better.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean that's true, but I did. I did

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Speaker 3: have a like I don't even know if you could

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Speaker 3: It was like a quarter life crisis is and a half.

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Speaker 3: And I was having a fucking excity technic. My shit's

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Speaker 6: On No one's shit is all the way together, you

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Speaker 5: Like when we're young and we look in thirty, we

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Speaker 3: For sure, adult for sure. Yeah, and it's like, no,

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Speaker 3: Like no, I think that's what's scary. I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 5: Like most of my friends would have kids, you know

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Speaker 6: Have any friends with kids.

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Speaker 7: That for me.

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Speaker 6: But by the way, on that note of pers.

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Speaker 5: Anyway. I was just saying that if you have any

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Speaker 3: We want to listen, and you never know, you might

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Speaker 4: No that only applies to music artists.

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Speaker 6: We are not discriminating. And also, my daughter's in the

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Speaker 5: She starts school tomorrow.

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Speaker 4: By the way, give me a mom, a school mom.

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Speaker 6: I know a girl mom, girl mochool mom.

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Speaker 3: School mom, girl school mom. How was your weekend, Erica.

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Speaker 4: Oh, you went to the full festival yesterday?

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Speaker 7: How was that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I went to the Smoking Groove Festival in Long Beach

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Speaker 5: and it was dope. I saw Miguel, I saw Anderson

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Speaker 5: Here you go, hold it, hold it. Eric A Badou,

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Speaker 5: who's like my queen, an obsession with her since I

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Speaker 5: I love Sis.

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Speaker 6: I'm not trying to compare them because they're both. They're

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Speaker 5: I think it compares their black and they have big hair.

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Speaker 5: Yeah right now hers definitely. She's more like sexy bedroom music.

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Speaker 5: And she fucking plays the electric guitar. She came out

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Speaker 5: Girl can sing. She literally kind of sounds like Lauren Hill.

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Speaker 5: She even sang a Lauren Hill song. And I was

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Speaker 5: like like, I don't need Lauren.

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Speaker 6: I can't have her.

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Speaker 4: No, I Goeta, I mean I downloaded her music.

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Speaker 5: But it was so good and Miguel killed it.

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Speaker 4: Miguel's a good performer.

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Speaker 5: He's so good. It's so crazy because when he first

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Speaker 3: I think he's Lauren himself. I feel like he gives

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Speaker 6: Nobody has a song like drugs.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's what came on next. No, but it was

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Speaker 5: I kind of have a connect to them.

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Speaker 8: So you need to know to note to stuff. Erica

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she nas it's cutful.

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Speaker 3: She's really beautiful. I like her hair.

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Speaker 5: And then The Roads performed.

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Speaker 3: I loved The Roads different Philly they were.

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Speaker 5: It was really unfortunate though, because there were no attractive men.

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Speaker 5: I did not see like one at the festival. None

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Speaker 6: It was definitely general mission.

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Speaker 6: But everyone was bowed up or like they just wasn't it.

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Speaker 3: I feel like concerts, as much as you want to

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Speaker 4: They're always with someone.

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Speaker 3: And keep in mind, Erica bought these VIP tickets shortly

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm not doing it's for real anyone day.

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Speaker 5: VIP tickets weren't.

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Speaker 3: Enough for me.

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Speaker 4: No, it was still too much.

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Speaker 5: It was still like I need to just I need

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Speaker 3: I need to lounge concert, yeah, but it was still fun.

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Speaker 5: I went with actually Anisha, my and too of my

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Speaker 5: I do? It was baby Daddy's birthday, so I took

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Speaker 5: but my pride. When I got that bill, I was like, okay,

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Speaker 6: Dollars, that's what because you want to pay for it

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Speaker 5: I was like, no, it's fine.

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Speaker 6: I got it in my mind.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, fuck, that probably will get you every time

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Speaker 3: if it's been like here you.

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Speaker 1: Go, bo.

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Speaker 6: But that's why today is Father's Day and I for

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Speaker 4: Happy Father's Day.

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Speaker 5: And I'm like, look, you know your birthday and Father's

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Speaker 5: Day are like three days from like separated, Like look.

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Speaker 6: When you could either get one or the other.

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Speaker 4: Is he a Gemini?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Is it crazy?

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Speaker 6: Like Mama, yeah, the daughter has headphones and so she does.

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Speaker 5: When I'm talking about her father.

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Speaker 6: By the way, in case you're judging.

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Speaker 3: Me, stop judging. That's what you get because you're wrong.

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Speaker 3: You're wrong.

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Speaker 7: Wrong.

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Speaker 6: She can't hear shit right now.

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Speaker 5: She can't even hurt hear me fucking Cursuh. Yeah, he's

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Speaker 5: a Gemini, and yes, Geminis are all crazy. Kanye West

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Speaker 5: is a Gemini, Tupac's a Gemini, Donald Trump is a Gemini.

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Speaker 5: The list goes on and on.

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Speaker 6: There's a lot of crazy men that are Gemini.

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Speaker 5: And I happened to fall in love with one and

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Speaker 3: And that's just it.

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Speaker 4: You're just, period, point blank.

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Speaker 6: Pescially not crazy.

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Speaker 5: He just has definitely two different personalities yet but I

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Speaker 6: And people be like, you don't see the two personalities,

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Speaker 6: doesn't have it. I was like, no, not with me.

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Speaker 3: Wrong he does?

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Speaker 5: Ye? Yeah, he was living a life right right then?

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Speaker 3: Yeah they are miss that's what they're mysterious. They're fun,

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Speaker 4: Cancers and libras are not fucking compatible at all. Just

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Speaker 5: Know I well to see. When I got with him,

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Speaker 5: of it, astrology Zone is the ship. Definitely check out

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Speaker 5: astrology zone dot com. She's like an astrologist that I've

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Speaker 6: But what is it astrologyzone dot com. Okay, and her

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Speaker 5: And she also has a compatibility like part of her

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Speaker 6: This is that situation. And then I'm like, oh, we don't.

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Speaker 3: That's true, jemis Well, can't can't be consistent, they can't

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Speaker 3: be faithful. There are two people, so how can you

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Speaker 6: You mad?

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Speaker 4: Oh no, no, I love Gemini.

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Speaker 3: forged my signature on my tax return and took my

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Speaker 5: I'm calling you.

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Speaker 3: I did my mail hose.

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Speaker 6: Oh she like got to people she could check.

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Speaker 3: I don't know where this. She was a thief.

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Speaker 4: I was gonna buy a car. I was like, I'm

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Speaker 6: That's a lot of money now, yeah, yeah, money, I

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Speaker 3: Geminis are a piece of shit. Oh no, I mean, well,

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Speaker 5: I can be mean.

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Speaker 6: People think I mean all the time.

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Speaker 5: We send me this this meme meme the Asternoyer two

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Speaker 5: It was like, what did it said?

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Speaker 4: It was like, oh my god, it's so funny.

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Speaker 3: Your face looks so unapproachable, like we look so unapproachable.

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Speaker 4: And then it says, but still here we are.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 5: The person was like customer, oh my god, he looks

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Speaker 6: I'm mad, angry, uninterested, I'm like, this is my fucking face.

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Speaker 5: I love sorry that I don't want to smile all

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Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, take it or leave it, bitch, not just smile. Okay,

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Speaker 5: And that's when men's come up to me like you

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Speaker 6: I'm like, nigadbye, it didn't work.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. If you're a man listening to this, don't ever

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Speaker 3: Or why are you single?

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Speaker 4: You're so pretty? You're too pretty to be single, nigga,

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Speaker 4: Am I still pretty?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: So that was my weekend.

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Speaker 5: I think what else I do? That's it? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I just freaked out about becoming the and pulled

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Speaker 4: I didn't give my nails in No, I just cried

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Speaker 3: The poor lady was like tissue.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm a with g ass bitch sometimes very rarely though.

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Speaker 4: Also Jay Z and Beyonce snuck dropped an aw bum

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Speaker 4: on us. Me and Erica are both too cheap to download.

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Speaker 5: Look, I know there's so many women women and men's

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Speaker 5: because we have some male followers. It's called everything is love?

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Speaker 3: No, No, what is the what is there thing?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Title? We're too cheap to download title?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I know half of our listeners more than half

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Speaker 5: A lot of people have it, though I'm not. I

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Speaker 5: I'm like one or the other.

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Speaker 5: Up.

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Speaker 3: Okay, me and Erica might still have to be bitter

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, that's right. Yeah, I haven't listened to it.

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Speaker 5: My friend called me before we started recording right now

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Speaker 6: And I was like, is it good or not?

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Speaker 3: That's what my best friend said. It's exactly the same thing.

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Speaker 3: There's three bangers. The video for Blah Blah Blah is great,

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Speaker 3: and I also heard Beyonce's rapping and nobody wants to

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Speaker 3: hear you rap. You are a singer, a gospel singer,

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Speaker 3: can stay in your lane. Okay, let jay Z fucking

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Speaker 3: rap you gospel sing in the back.

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Speaker 5: And stopped emasculating her husband. You can't do it all, but.

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Speaker 4: I could do it too, and I can gangster rap.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, well, I mean I'll be see. All

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Speaker 5: their visuals are amazing. They shot it in like the

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Speaker 4: And they're billionaires.

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Speaker 3: Okay, honestly, how much you think it costs to shut

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Speaker 5: A lot? Men or maybe nothing. They probably are think

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Speaker 3: Sally, Hello, Sally, do you think we can come by

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Speaker 6: Yeah, they probably Okay, get at like ten pm to

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Speaker 3: We're we're right up.

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Speaker 4: We'll come right over in our care.

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Speaker 6: That's the one and only time that will ever happen.

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Speaker 4: No one's ever had a video.

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Speaker 3: In the loop.

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Speaker 5: But it looks like the visuals are always dope. I mean,

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Speaker 5: I have no interest in going to On the Run

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Speaker 5: Tour two. Apparently it's the same as On the Run

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Speaker 5: Tour one, but maybe now that they have new music,

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Speaker 3: I think they're gonna just tweak it for the remainder

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Speaker 3: another tour after this.

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Speaker 6: I mean, Beyonce is the ship.

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Speaker 5: Jay Z's the ship. It's gonna be the ship. They're

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Speaker 3: Yeah, in the end. I mean, I know everybody's gonna

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Speaker 3: I respect her. She's bombed, she's rich, she's been doing

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Speaker 6: And a lot of robotish.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, very robotish, and I'm not Yeah, I don't need

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Speaker 6: Have you ever seen her life?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I was at Coachella.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, so, but I've seen her before then too.

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Speaker 5: I feel like even Coachella was kind of difficult because

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Speaker 6: Whereas I've been in Beyonce. I like Beyonce.

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Speaker 5: I've always loved us. I was a super big dusty

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Speaker 4: He drove Jackson her.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, we need to get our kids in

447
00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:13,840
Speaker 3: long offense. If we do write Miam, they might be

448
00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:15,959
Speaker 3: the next Channon or Michael. And Beyonce too.

449
00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:18,160
Speaker 6: I think Solange inspires her to be more human.

450
00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:19,000
Speaker 4: I think so too.

451
00:19:19,040 --> 00:19:21,880
Speaker 3: I think they're like total opposite and I think Solange

452
00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:24,639
Speaker 3: got the like the better end of the stick in

453
00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:28,280
Speaker 3: the sense that she is like herself, yeah, and Papa.

454
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Speaker 3: Because she was the younger siblings, she didn't get like

455
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Speaker 3: she didn't have much to lose.

456
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Speaker 5: Beyonce felt like she was going to lose her white

457
00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:36,640
Speaker 5: fan base, her sponsors. Now she's so high in her career.

458
00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:38,000
Speaker 5: I think she's at the point now where she feels

459
00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:39,800
Speaker 5: comfortable enough that she's like, I don't care.

460
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Speaker 4: Did you see her little booty thung picture with jay

461
00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:43,240
Speaker 4: Z on the bed?

462
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Speaker 6: Yeah?

463
00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:46,280
Speaker 3: I immediately text me and be like, I want to

464
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Speaker 3: reenact this picture. Thank you? Fine, Na, I think tweaks that,

465
00:19:52,840 --> 00:19:56,320
Speaker 3: but I love it like everybody else, I like in

466
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Speaker 3: the photos, No, like, oh yeah for sure? Oh yeah, okay, yeah,

467
00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:01,600
Speaker 3: I guess everybody's doing it. Fucking yeah.

468
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Speaker 5: I mean you're right to actually definitely works her ass

469
00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:08,080
Speaker 5: off in exercises, but she'd been doing a little yeah and.

470
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Speaker 6: Then at.

471
00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:12,760
Speaker 3: Those sound effects in case you're wondering, that was sucking

472
00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:14,520
Speaker 3: it out and then putting it back again.

473
00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:24,199
Speaker 4: What else happened this week? Oh, it's very we live

474
00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:25,080
Speaker 4: have been a shit country.

475
00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:27,960
Speaker 3: I know everybody would like to think of the America's

476
00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:30,040
Speaker 3: the Land of the Free and all that bullshit.

477
00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:31,399
Speaker 6: I don't think anyone thinks that anymore.

478
00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:33,320
Speaker 4: Okay, good because it's not true.

479
00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:39,680
Speaker 3: I've always been anti government, but this just proves my

480
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Speaker 3: point further.

481
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Speaker 5: There's been some yeah, there's been all these there's about

482
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Speaker 5: two thousand children separated from their family at the borders

483
00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 5: because they've entered illegally. And Jeff Sessions and Donald Trump.

484
00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:54,359
Speaker 5: Donald Trump went on the news and said that this

485
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Speaker 5: is a law that Democrats enacted.

486
00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:57,840
Speaker 6: But no, it's not the truth. It's just crazy.

487
00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:02,720
Speaker 3: How there were not two thousand trucking parentless children at

488
00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:04,879
Speaker 3: the at the borders prior to.

489
00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:07,720
Speaker 4: Trump and he's a.

490
00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:08,200
Speaker 3: Piece of shit.

491
00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:10,440
Speaker 6: Well there, it's there. What's the law. It's called like

492
00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:13,760
Speaker 6: the No Nonsense Tolerance Law or something like.

493
00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:15,800
Speaker 5: And they're saying this is not a new law, like

494
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:18,120
Speaker 5: children are always separated from their parents if they commit

495
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Speaker 5: a crime.

496
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Speaker 3: I wonder how many like Swiss immigrants or kids are

497
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:24,600
Speaker 3: waiting or Canadian kids are waiting for their parents. And

498
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Speaker 3: I bet you ainting two thousand, right, And I bet

499
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Speaker 3: you if they ain't brown and wouldn't be this, And.

500
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Speaker 5: They're the way that they're they're in these like cages

501
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:38,280
Speaker 5: with these aluminum foil blankets and water bottles and chips

502
00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:41,080
Speaker 5: dispersed all over the floor. And they're like some of

503
00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:44,000
Speaker 5: them are tricking these parents. Like they'll be like, we're

504
00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:45,280
Speaker 5: gonna go take a picture of your child in the

505
00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:46,879
Speaker 5: other room, and then they come back in the room

506
00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:48,760
Speaker 5: and their child is gone and they're separated from them.

507
00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:50,640
Speaker 5: They're like, oh, now you're under arrest and your child

508
00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:54,360
Speaker 5: will be taken into you know, homeland security government services.

509
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:58,160
Speaker 5: Can you imagine? Like no, children are like as young

510
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Speaker 5: as one years old and they don't know where their

511
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:01,479
Speaker 5: parents are.

512
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 6: Like strangers are changing their diapers.

513
00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:07,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, and like one girl was saying she was taking

514
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Speaker 3: care of a child.

515
00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:09,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, a teenager was saying she's been taking care of

516
00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:12,439
Speaker 5: a child that she doesn't know and that she had

517
00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 5: to show them on her phone how to change a diaper.

518
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 6: Like the people that are running the facility like.

519
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 3: They're lucky if they don't get first of all, Yeah,

520
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:23,879
Speaker 3: that's just all like how do you not have a like,

521
00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 3: how do.

522
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Speaker 5: You not not have a heart? And then Jeff Session

523
00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:30,040
Speaker 5: has the nerve to use the Bible as a reason that.

524
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Speaker 4: This is all justifiable.

525
00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:37,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, if you use fucking Jesus, okay to like justify

526
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 3: some obviously dark and fed up shit.

527
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Speaker 5: The first of what happened to the separation of church

528
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:45,760
Speaker 5: and state in our government. That's like one of the

529
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,840
Speaker 5: founding like ideas of our government. That was such a

530
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 5: huge thing. We're not supposed to talk about fucking religion.

531
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Speaker 3: That's religious freedom. This is what we're here for, religious freedom,

532
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:58,679
Speaker 3: political freedom, all this other stuff. And yeah, Republicans are

533
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 3: did dirty, dirty white privilege Bible frump them?

534
00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:05,920
Speaker 5: Mother? I just like I know that there's some good

535
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 5: Republicans out there. I just want them to speak up

536
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 5: against it. They're so worried about getting their cause pushed

537
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:14,119
Speaker 5: forward that they won't speak on other really important causes

538
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:15,119
Speaker 5: because they're worried it's.

539
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Speaker 4: Gonna like dismantle their progress.

540
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Speaker 8: Yeah.

541
00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:21,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's pussy. It is pussy, and I

542
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,800
Speaker 3: think it's I think it's inhumane, and especially like if

543
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:26,639
Speaker 3: you're a parent, doesn't matter, Like I didn't mean to

544
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,880
Speaker 3: see Bible something like I like people, so I don't

545
00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:32,680
Speaker 3: care what your religion is, but don't use don't use

546
00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,639
Speaker 3: the Bible. Don't use religion to justify things that are

547
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:39,840
Speaker 3: obviously immoral, and like it's just so dark, that's why

548
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,399
Speaker 3: I don't really like religion because people use it as

549
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:45,199
Speaker 3: an excuse from like to excuse right from wrong, when

550
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:48,959
Speaker 3: it's a very simple don't take kids from their parents.

551
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:52,440
Speaker 3: You have no right to designate where a human is.

552
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,440
Speaker 3: Can you know, can travel and wander on the earth.

553
00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 3: God put is here there. I don't believe in borders

554
00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,280
Speaker 3: to begin with. It's bullshit.

555
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:04,159
Speaker 6: It's just it's just really sad. I mean, there's got

556
00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:06,360
Speaker 6: to be a better way of handling this situation.

557
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,800
Speaker 5: You know, these kids don't have some of these kids

558
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 5: don't have any family here and or or in Mexico

559
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:14,680
Speaker 5: and they're being sent Then there was this one case

560
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 5: where this kid was sent It was like he was

561
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 5: sent deported back to Mexico, had no family there, and

562
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 5: was murdered the week that he was deported there by

563
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:29,320
Speaker 5: like the gangs in that city because he didn't know

564
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Speaker 5: where the fuck he was at, you know what, he

565
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 5: didn't know how to move there because he's American.

566
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Speaker 6: And it's just like, you can't do that.

567
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,880
Speaker 5: When a kid has been like raised from one years

568
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:40,879
Speaker 5: old till he was seventeen here, you can't send him

569
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Speaker 5: back to fucking Chihuahua, Mexico, right, fuck he was, And

570
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,879
Speaker 5: just because he's Mexican, he's just supposed to know how

571
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:49,000
Speaker 5: to operate in that in that country. You know, it's

572
00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 5: not how it works. That's like us getting sent back

573
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Speaker 5: to Africa right now, I would be like, I've never

574
00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 5: been here, you know, even though I'd be very happy

575
00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 5: for this free trip, but.

576
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Speaker 3: I want to go to the Motherland really bad. But yeah,

577
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:04,359
Speaker 3: I think it's fed up, and I think it's just

578
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:08,200
Speaker 3: you know what, I don't really get political because I

579
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:09,800
Speaker 3: think at the end of the day, it's it's mostly

580
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 3: monetarily driven and there's like there's an agenda, and I

581
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:15,159
Speaker 3: don't like voting doesn't actually to do with it.

582
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 4: Like, at the end of the day, there's an agenda.

583
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 6: There's a lot of it.

584
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:19,240
Speaker 3: There's a small percentage of very rich people who have

585
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 3: their own agenda to push and they don't give a

586
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 3: fuck about anybody else, clearly, And that's why.

587
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Speaker 4: I try not I try not to put too much

588
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 4: energy into it. But I think that sometimes things need

589
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:28,480
Speaker 4: to be.

590
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 3: Brought to the light. And karma is a bitch. Trump

591
00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:33,920
Speaker 3: and Republicans and the rest of y'all.

592
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Speaker 5: And the thing though, like we live in a country

593
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Speaker 5: that is governed by a government, so like for you

594
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:42,159
Speaker 5: to not be a part of it, you have to

595
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,320
Speaker 5: be honestly like, I know that you don't like it,

596
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 5: but like I have to vote because I need to

597
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 5: make sure that these people do not stay in power.

598
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:51,359
Speaker 6: But honestly, that's the reason why no.

599
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 3: I completely agree, and I don't believe in that. I

600
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,159
Speaker 3: don't believe in this like the thought like, oh my

601
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 3: one vote won't count, or I believe every like if

602
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:00,400
Speaker 3: there wasn't for like what if Martin Luther came, those

603
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:02,720
Speaker 3: two Malcolm X, those two people didn't exist. There's like

604
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 3: there's key players that changed the game. So I never

605
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 3: have that attitude like one person can't change things, because

606
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 3: that's true. However, when I say that, I mean that

607
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:15,159
Speaker 3: American government is corrupt for sure. I would like to

608
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 3: think that we have a diplomatic whatever system, and that's

609
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:24,480
Speaker 3: just not the case. There's some very dark, shady, weird

610
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:28,639
Speaker 3: you know. I'm a conspiracy theorist witch craftery going on,

611
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 3: and I think that it's it's bigger than us, and

612
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:34,600
Speaker 3: it's it's fucked up, but it's much larger than us.

613
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 3: And and I hope that that that that changes and that.

614
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 6: It okay okay, and my text message is you can't.

615
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 3: Read and but actually it's just corrupt. I think it's corrupt,

616
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 3: just like our jail system is corrupt, and things that

617
00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:56,880
Speaker 3: are put in place that even if we don't vote,

618
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 3: if we do or don't vote for them, what they

619
00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:00,679
Speaker 3: want to happen will happen. That's why they're lobbyists. That's

620
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 3: why people are paying people off. That's why pharmaceutical companies

621
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,639
Speaker 3: are making billions of dollars and people are dying. If

622
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,440
Speaker 3: that she wasn't like, if it was all like it's

623
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:10,640
Speaker 3: true moral and for the people, and the people vote

624
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 3: can vote counted, then none of that shit would exist.

625
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 6: It's true, but I feel like, yes, some of it

626
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:15,359
Speaker 6: is rigged.

627
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 5: But I think also like the government and the news

628
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:20,920
Speaker 5: and everything they like to disillusion people of color to

629
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 5: think that it doesn't matter, because it's mostly like my

630
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,360
Speaker 5: black friends, brown friends that feel like whatever, I don't

631
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:29,959
Speaker 5: give a fuck, Like when an election comes up, they

632
00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:32,159
Speaker 5: like are like, either they're going to vote or they're not.

633
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:36,400
Speaker 5: And that's why so many, that's why so many, that's

634
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 5: why we're in the position.

635
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 3: We are right now.

636
00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:40,400
Speaker 4: I mean and I'm not I'm not disputing that because

637
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 4: that could be true.

638
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,720
Speaker 5: We have to just come to the fact, like, come

639
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 5: to the realization, this is the government that we've been dulled,

640
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 5: this is what we have. It's probably not going to change,

641
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 5: so we kind of have to get on board with

642
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 5: it and try to at least make some sort of change.

643
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, I think we're right. The history of

644
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 3: like black and brown people in this country is has

645
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,160
Speaker 3: been not so I don't want to say defeated, because

646
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,920
Speaker 3: I hate that word, but the rhetoric and the just

647
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 3: the attitude towards us in general so blatantly has blatantly

648
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 3: been fuck y'all on so many levels. Just the fact

649
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,440
Speaker 3: that you're separating kids from their parents and saying and

650
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 3: then referring to Bible versus is bullshit, you know, Like

651
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 3: it's like slavery. It's like slavery when slaves came.

652
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,399
Speaker 4: They're like, here, take this Christian Bible.

653
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 3: This is the God, good Lord Jesus said the Jesus

654
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 3: had slaves, and we're like okay, and then we're all

655
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 3: praising the white Jesus with the blue eyes and it's

656
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:34,160
Speaker 3: all good, and it's like, nah, God, this is something

657
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 3: a little odd and weird and off about this, not

658
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 3: to say that Jesus doesn't exist. And you know, for

659
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 3: some people that's the Savior and that that's that he

660
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 3: was a saint or he was like a disciple and

661
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 3: a good person. But the truth of the matter is

662
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,239
Speaker 3: like the Bible is like a buffet, and people give

663
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 3: and take what's convenient for them. And for sure you

664
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Speaker 3: have question, yeah, for sure.

665
00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 4: Oh God, that makes me really mad inside. I'm angry.

666
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 3: I can be an angry American woman, you know what

667
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 3: I'm angry.

668
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 6: About, which is totally off topic of the government.

669
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 9: I was on the shade room and I was looking

670
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 9: I was at my news source the shade room, and

671
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 9: I was looking at like that.

672
00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 6: Sometimes they post like it's a snack or is it

673
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 6: a meal?

674
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 5: Like is he fine as hell?

675
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 3: Or is he like what ever?

676
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 6: And they posted fabulous. And I've been seeing them.

677
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 5: Post him more and more.

678
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 3: I'm just like, he's a rat trap.

679
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 5: Niggas forget that he beat the fuck out of Emily

680
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 5: beat like and I just and then I see nahs

681
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 5: like they posted him like shout out to all the

682
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 5: great fathers out there, Happy Father's Day. When calis says

683
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 5: that he's not even he's basically not even part of

684
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:45,400
Speaker 5: his son's life that we have together. No, like she

685
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 5: basically she's given him every opportunity to show up, and

686
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 5: he only shows up when he wants to show up.

687
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 3: That is so sad, being as though he looks like

688
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 3: such a meal. He's Yeah, God, that's just such a

689
00:29:58,440 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 3: sad thing.

690
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 6: Fab was to never been a meal.

691
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 4: Fabulous has never even been a snack.

692
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, and Fabulous, let's be clear, has not even had

693
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 3: a snacky single in five fucking years.

694
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 5: So why so, he.

695
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 3: Obviously has a relationship with the shade. He probably has

696
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: a sidehoe at the Shade Room, because clearly his sidehills

697
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 3: all over the world.

698
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 6: Paying the Shade room to keep his ass relevant.

699
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 4: He's been paying somebody keeps as relevant for hundreds of years.

700
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 3: Because I've still never, ever ever understood why he's still relevant.

701
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 4: I don't either, and why Emily hasn't got the fucking memo.

702
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 6: But I'm just so annoyed that these urban web these urban.

703
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:34,200
Speaker 5: Sits that you know, want to post all these like

704
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 5: empowering things for black people, are then posting these abusive

705
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 5: men on their feed. I'm just like why are we

706
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 5: posting fabulous? We're just gonna really pretend like that shit

707
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 5: did not happen for real. I mean, and you know,

708
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 5: in his defense, Emily took his dumbass back because she's

709
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 5: weak as hell.

710
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 4: She has better moments than she does.

711
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 5: I mean, she's weak, and she's probably doesn't want to

712
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 5: give up the lifestyle that she has or whatever.

713
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 6: But I'm just like, what the fuck? I was so

714
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:07,440
Speaker 6: annoyed looking at that today, I was like, what the fun?

715
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 3: To be honest, completely honest, I don't really feel like

716
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 3: any any of the big major urban sites are for

717
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 3: the better men of black people.

718
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 4: I stopped watching fucking the Vine compilation.

719
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 3: I stopped going like World Star, like I've seen such ignorant,

720
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 3: exploitive shit that that's not something I support. I mean,

721
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 3: and honestly, like, we follow the Shave on Instagram and

722
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 3: I see like here and there, but all in all,

723
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:29,800
Speaker 3: like my friends us on the website and I'm like,

724
00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 3: absolutely the website no world Star.

725
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 5: Oh, I mean I've ever been you know, Sometimes the

726
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:37,000
Speaker 5: Shade will be like we go here to read the

727
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 5: full story.

728
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 3: I'm like, nah, nah no, but I saw like one

729
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 3: really dark thing. It was like a young black couple.

730
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,320
Speaker 3: This is on World Star though this is years ago.

731
00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 3: This is why I never went back on it. It

732
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 3: was on the Vine compilation and there was a girl

733
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 3: who had just like lost her baby. They're in the

734
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 3: fucking hospital. She's in her like a hospital gown, and

735
00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 3: the stupid, probably young, ignorant boyfriend is like, yeah, it's

736
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 3: real sad, and then turns the camera on the girl

737
00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 3: and the baby who's like wrapped in the blanket, like

738
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 3: for them to say their condolences and say goodbye. And

739
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,400
Speaker 3: they included it on the Vine compilation, and I thought,

740
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:14,280
Speaker 3: how absolutely fucking degrading and disgusting can you be to

741
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 3: like put this like this is not for black people,

742
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 3: This is not for the empowerment of anybody. This is disgusting.

743
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 3: And then like the kids fighting and like teenagers fucking

744
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 3: fighting and being ignorant, like there's more important things we

745
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 3: could be, like putting our time and you know, and

746
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 3: energy into so I ain't really into it. And fuck,

747
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 3: even though na is a meal, he can select, you know,

748
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 3: as long as he's beaten asses and not being a

749
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 3: present father, he can He's nothing.

750
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't, I just I just I'm totally like,

751
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 5: I don't know him. I mean, obviously there's two sides

752
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 5: to every story.

753
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:47,200
Speaker 2: Right, But.

754
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 6: I kind of believe her, and I don't think she

755
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:57,320
Speaker 6: has anything to gain from exposing She's been so silent

756
00:32:57,920 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 6: for years about this.

757
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:00,719
Speaker 3: She's like cooking and doing her own thing. She has,

758
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 3: she's married, happily married married. Yeah, Oh wow, he's a fine.

759
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 5: His name is Mike Mora.

760
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 6: He's a photographer.

761
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 5: Oh really, he's fine.

762
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 6: And they have kids over here fucking minding.

763
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 4: I'm like I said, is he black?

764
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 3: Hes mixed of some sort? Because Erica's brought to my

765
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:24,240
Speaker 3: attention that she thinks I'm a rape. She thinks that

766
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 3: I'm biased. That I don't want to repeat it because

767
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 3: it sounds terrible. She thinks that I'm okay with black

768
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 3: women dating outside of their race, and when it comes

769
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:37,160
Speaker 3: to black women dating outside their race, then I'm biased,

770
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 3: which is not true because my best friend, almost girl says,

771
00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:43,520
Speaker 3: my best friend is black, so I'm not a racist.

772
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 3: My best friend is not black and she dates all

773
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 3: the black guys.

774
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 6: But she's not white either, exactly, so she doesn't really

775
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 6: count to me.

776
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 3: If you're not black, you're white.

777
00:33:55,160 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 6: Oh Jesus sweet Jesus help fil kidding, y'all is not

778
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 6: getting up.

779
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 5: No. I think he's mixed of some sort. He looks

780
00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:13,600
Speaker 5: like maybe a little black, maybe he's like Spanish. I don't.

781
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 3: I don't know, it really doesn't.

782
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 6: I know he's fine as hell, and uh and she's

783
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:18,839
Speaker 6: doing just fine.

784
00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:20,759
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I didn't even know she was remarried. And yeah,

785
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 4: who would she have to gain it a lot.

786
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 3: I'm very sad about it, and I wish if she

787
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 3: would have she should be more vocal about it.

788
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 6: Because there was just all this.

789
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 5: I think she finally got tired of all the news

790
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 5: saying like Plice was trying to like milk gnaws for

791
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,759
Speaker 5: more child support and this and that and when really

792
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:35,760
Speaker 5: what she said was like she did this whole interview

793
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 5: like it was like they videotaped it in her backyard.

794
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 6: It was like on Hollywood.

795
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:41,240
Speaker 3: Unlockdown on YouTube that tonight.

796
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 5: It's really interesting. It was like an hour long interview,

797
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 5: and she was just like, you know, I I have

798
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 5: barely gotten a dying from him. He's like, She's like,

799
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 5: I was paying for everything.

800
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 3: He's bitter and even said there was a messic abuse

801
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 3: in the relationship that was a big deal and I

802
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 3: had no idea about that, she.

803
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 6: Said she and she admitted to playing her partner.

804
00:34:58,160 --> 00:34:59,920
Speaker 5: She's like, don't get me wrong, I slapped his ass too,

805
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:03,400
Speaker 5: but I'm a woman, and you don't know it was

806
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 5: he went too far a few different times. And that

807
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 5: like when Rihanna got beat up by Chris Brown, like

808
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:11,680
Speaker 5: she was sitting in her hotewer in Miami, looking in

809
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:13,840
Speaker 5: the mirror with a black eye too, like thinking like

810
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 5: maybe I should speak out, and Nas was looking at

811
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 5: her like, pitch, are you about to speak out or what?

812
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 3: Damn? So I I know I can be what I

813
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 3: want to be if I work hard in it. That

814
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 3: is very sad that he was like a moral good man.

815
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 8: God, that's disappointing the fine ones, though the fine ones

816
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 8: be fucking the bitchesually kidding, that's never okay.

817
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 6: That's why I like unattractive man. I'm just kidding.

818
00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:44,359
Speaker 4: I mean, you got something to it, though, you're gonna

819
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 4: always appreciate you.

820
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 3: Oh. Also, last week's I don't know if you guys

821
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 3: tuned into Jada Pinkett's Red Table talk on Facebook, I do.

822
00:35:57,280 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 3: I didn't see that. I didn't particularly they see this episode,

823
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:01,840
Speaker 3: but I have to move to the rest. So, like,

824
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 3: for all the other single parents who are listening, that's

825
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 3: a dope as show.

826
00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:07,400
Speaker 6: It's like twenty oh yeah, and they just got a

827
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:08,800
Speaker 6: reorder for like twenty two episodes.

828
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 3: Yeah right, yeah, because it's mom. It's like, it's only

829
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 3: twenty minutes. It's a quick watch. I've definitely cried several

830
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:16,359
Speaker 3: times watching it. But most recently there was a little

831
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 3: buzz going on because they discussed Jada Pinkett. Smith said

832
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 3: basically that Will and his ex wife still go on

833
00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 3: vacation together because they, you know, they believe it's important

834
00:36:26,800 --> 00:36:31,360
Speaker 3: for their son to still like see them in a

835
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,840
Speaker 3: healthy relationship and see where that love once was, because

836
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 3: that's important. Even though the son is like twenty, he's

837
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 3: like twenty something because of that, I'm.

838
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:40,959
Speaker 6: Twenty one or something.

839
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:43,920
Speaker 3: Twenty five, yeah, probably twenty five.

840
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:46,359
Speaker 4: That because my we're not that far off an age.

841
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:49,319
Speaker 4: What are your Everybody's like.

842
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 3: Hey, I'm not, uh, because so what are your what

843
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 3: are your thoughts?

844
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 5: My thoughts are I don't I'm not mad at it,

845
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:57,879
Speaker 5: you know, like even like they're not the first people

846
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 5: to do that, Like think about Bruce Well, Bruce willis

847
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:04,239
Speaker 5: and Demi Moore with Ashton Kutcher. I remember that, like

848
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 5: they were like showing up the red carpet and taking

849
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:11,320
Speaker 5: like family photos to support each other's projects.

850
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:16,840
Speaker 3: And like Alicia Alicia, Alicia Keys and Swiss Speeds, and it.

851
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 6: Took a while for them to get there, and took

852
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 6: a while for them to get there.

853
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 3: Ye, honestly, I don't even know how they got there

854
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:24,040
Speaker 3: because I was angry for her.

855
00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 5: For her too. I was like, I was like, oh,

856
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 5: goa show you a bait.

857
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:31,440
Speaker 3: I love your music, but wow, but here's the thing.

858
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:36,560
Speaker 3: We're human and unfortunately it sucks and it sounds shitty.

859
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 6: But like, and we don't know all the details of

860
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:38,439
Speaker 6: these people's lives.

861
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:42,320
Speaker 3: Love happens in really fucked up funny ways sometimes, and

862
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:44,879
Speaker 3: you can't you can like curve it, but you can't

863
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:45,759
Speaker 3: really help what you love.

864
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 4: And who you fall in love with. But I think

865
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 4: it's healthy.

866
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:51,399
Speaker 3: I think that the child should see their parents having

867
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 3: a healthy relationship. And I think you should trust your partner,

868
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:55,840
Speaker 3: and I think you should have an understanding and open communication.

869
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:59,240
Speaker 3: And I think that if you have a solid fucking marriage,

870
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 3: then go on with whoever the fuck you want to

871
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 3: dog and I'll catch you when you get back.

872
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 5: Seriously, I mean, if you can, if you can get

873
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 5: to that place and come together as a family and

874
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:15,279
Speaker 5: really enjoy each other, why not? Why not? Like what

875
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 5: why does society teach us that, Like once you break up,

876
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 5: its separate and it's over and you no longer it's

877
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 5: everything has to be separate.

878
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 6: I feel like forgiveness.

879
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 3: Forgiveness is the best self heal healer. It makes you

880
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:30,800
Speaker 3: be able to move on. And sometimes relationships end sour,

881
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 3: but in time, shit heals. And I think it is

882
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:35,520
Speaker 3: healthy and I think it's healthy for the marriage too,

883
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:40,400
Speaker 3: Like if you trust someone wholeheartedly, then there's really nothing

884
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 3: you can do to like there's no one you can

885
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 3: be around, and then I'm gonna be like second guessing

886
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:48,799
Speaker 3: our relationship. If it's a solid relationship.

887
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:52,279
Speaker 5: It's solid. And also I think expectation plays a really

888
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:54,920
Speaker 5: big role in that. Letting go of your expectations for

889
00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:59,360
Speaker 5: people like you, I feel like that's the beginning of trust.

890
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:03,919
Speaker 5: Also because releasing expectation. Yeah, and I think that's that's

891
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:06,400
Speaker 5: the intro into what we're talking about today.

892
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 3: Topic is expectation and to.

893
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 6: And for me, I think this this month.

894
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 5: It's been really a huge, huge theme theme of my

895
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 5: month and that I've I've tried to really focus on

896
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 5: it this month, and I've been very challenged by it

897
00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 5: this month. I don't know if it's just because I'm

898
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 5: more aware of it or if it's just the universe

899
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 5: throwing me these challenges because the universe knows that, like,

900
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:37,319
Speaker 5: I'm trying to work on this shit, but.

901
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 3: The universe will throw the challenges work.

902
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 5: But literally, like this month, I was like, I have

903
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 5: got to let go of expectation because I continuously get disappointed.

904
00:39:45,160 --> 00:39:47,840
Speaker 5: I'm disappointed all the time, and I need to stop.

905
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:50,400
Speaker 5: Like I've worked so hard on my happiness over the

906
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:53,360
Speaker 5: last eight months, and I feel like expectation is the

907
00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:55,840
Speaker 5: last thing that I have to release in order to

908
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:56,760
Speaker 5: be fully happy.

909
00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 6: Oh girl, And it's it's killing me.

910
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:01,279
Speaker 4: It's it's a it's a constant work.

911
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 3: You're gonna always have the you're gonna be talking to expectations,

912
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 3: and it's just how quickly you can nip it in

913
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:08,000
Speaker 3: the butt like that. That's not realistic, that's stupid. And

914
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 3: I'm only feeling disappointed because I've had expectation to begin with.

915
00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 4: And you know what, this Father's Day. Today, we're recording

916
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 4: on Father's Day.

917
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:18,600
Speaker 3: And this is the best advice my father ever gave me,

918
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:23,240
Speaker 3: and that's he said, don't expect shit from anyone, not friends,

919
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 3: not family.

920
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 4: As soon as you have expectations, you will be disappointed.

921
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 3: That's true because no one's gonna move exactly how you

922
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 3: want them to move, no one's gonna say what you

923
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:34,439
Speaker 3: wanna say, and no one's gonna do what you would

924
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 3: do in the same situation. So you know, if you

925
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 3: love people, you love them.

926
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 5: But it's like it's like when you fall.

927
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:43,760
Speaker 6: In love with someone, you think you're on the same page,

928
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 6: and you think.

929
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 5: You're aligned and in the things that are important to you,

930
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 5: like raising your child or you know your your long

931
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 5: term goals in life, and then suddenly, like those challenges

932
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 5: come up where like you're tested in those things and

933
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 5: you realize you're not aligned. You feel lied to or

934
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 5: something you feel and that's when expectations starts coming in.

935
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:05,879
Speaker 3: Well, and then you just also hit the differentiate between

936
00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 3: lying and expecting.

937
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,759
Speaker 6: Well, but I don't even know if it's lying. It's

938
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:11,680
Speaker 6: just like they didn't necessarily lie.

939
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,440
Speaker 5: I think they just they that's what they thought they

940
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 5: could do, but then when the challenge actually came about,

941
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 5: they weren't capable of doing it. You know. It's just

942
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 5: and I know for me, like I really thought about

943
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 5: it today because I felt today yesterday. All week, I've

944
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 5: been feeling so fucking annoyed by different people not like

945
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 5: living up to what I think my expectations are of them,

946
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 5: or like what I think they should be doing, or

947
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,320
Speaker 5: like why wouldn't you want to do this? You know,

948
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 5: like hello, like this is for the better of everyone,

949
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 5: Like why wouldn't you want to do that? I think,

950
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 5: like I'm thinking, like where did this expectation come from?

951
00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:54,120
Speaker 5: Why do I feel so strongly about this? I've got

952
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 5: to let this go, and it really I've come what

953
00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:02,080
Speaker 5: I've found. I think it's definitely rooted and my childhood

954
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 5: with my father and him not showing up when he

955
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 5: said he was going to show up, not being a

956
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 5: part of my life for the first three to four

957
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:12,840
Speaker 5: years of my life. I don't even I remember the

958
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:15,920
Speaker 5: first time I met my father, like my first recollection

959
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 5: of him, I was about five, and then just like

960
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:22,320
Speaker 5: not really seeing him often him telling me he was

961
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 5: gonna show up and not showing up like disappointing me constantly,

962
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:30,120
Speaker 5: and me seeing other people's parents and their relationship with

963
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 5: their father and that being like, oh, that's how pop

964
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 5: father's supposed to be. So then I was constantly disappointed

965
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:39,799
Speaker 5: by him, cause I'm like, well, Molly's my dad fucking

966
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 5: goes to her all of her fucking soccer game.

967
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 3: Me I fucking has dinner every night with the whole

968
00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 3: family at seven.

969
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 5: Right, and like, you know, Molly's dad says like I

970
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,080
Speaker 5: love you all the time and this and that, and

971
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:54,040
Speaker 5: it just like that was the beginning of expectation for me.

972
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 5: And I think also my mom, you know, had high

973
00:42:56,440 --> 00:43:00,200
Speaker 5: expectations for me, like as her daughter, and so I

974
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:05,400
Speaker 5: just I've cotten into this habit of establishing expectations for

975
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 5: different people, like I have some low I have lower

976
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 5: expectations for certain people, and then I have higher expectations

977
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:14,360
Speaker 5: for other people. And it's funny, like the people that

978
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:17,800
Speaker 5: I have lower expectations for usually always come through, and

979
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 5: it's the higher ones that can't ever reach.

980
00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 3: That, which is richenses and stop having them, I know,

981
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 3: but and.

982
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 5: It's but it's not that easy. And I was telling

983
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:26,319
Speaker 5: you because you text me.

984
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:28,840
Speaker 6: That today or was that today. Yeah, yeah, because I

985
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 6: was telling you, like, I have got to go these expectations.

986
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 5: I don't know how to, but I know that I

987
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:34,480
Speaker 5: have to. And you're like, well, just let them go,

988
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 5: and I'm like, I can't just like wake up tomorrow

989
00:43:37,760 --> 00:43:40,960
Speaker 5: and just not have expectations like I think. Obviously, it's

990
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 5: something I have to chip away at, which is why

991
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 5: this whole month I'm trying to work on.

992
00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 3: It's it's like it's like a rationalizing in your brain.

993
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 3: It's a constant it's a constant battle. But as soon

994
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 3: as you feel the disappointment, or as soon as you

995
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:54,360
Speaker 3: feel yourself expecting it, you need to sit back and

996
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:57,040
Speaker 3: be like, Okay, why do I feel this way?

997
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 6: That's what I do you feel this way?

998
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 3: What is really? What is really like, Geary, Like, what

999
00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 3: is motivating me to feel disappointed? Why do I feel

1000
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:06,479
Speaker 3: hurt by it? Because a lot because listen, disappointment is hurt.

1001
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:09,439
Speaker 3: There's there's hurt, and a lot of times we mask

1002
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:11,399
Speaker 3: it is anger. I we mask it as these other

1003
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 3: like things, but it really just is just you're hurt.

1004
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 3: Your feelings are hurt. But why you know, we're like

1005
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 3: out of adults, we forget to be like, you hurt

1006
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 3: my feelings because it sounds like it sounds like a

1007
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,920
Speaker 3: little pussy, but not pussy, because pussies are strong.

1008
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 6: But you know what I mean, No, it's true. It's oh, okay,

1009
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:33,400
Speaker 6: you're hot. Yeah okay.

1010
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:40,719
Speaker 3: But definitely, our our childhoods and our parents shape our expectations,

1011
00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 3: especially in relationships, especially with women with their fathers, and

1012
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 3: especially with men with their mothers.

1013
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 4: And I know a lot of men who have.

1014
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 3: Mother mom is women issues because they had mom issues

1015
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:51,960
Speaker 3: and parents that I mean, you know, just absent parents.

1016
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:56,200
Speaker 3: My mom so graciously reminded me that my dad used

1017
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 3: to like leave for days and weeks at a time,

1018
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 3: and I do remember this, and that he would be like,

1019
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:04,319
Speaker 3: we're gonna play hide and go seek, and that would

1020
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 3: tell me to count to a hundred that he was

1021
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:08,799
Speaker 3: gonna go hide, and he would leave, and I would

1022
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 3: sit by the window and count to fucking one hundred

1023
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:12,479
Speaker 3: because I only knew how to count to a hundred.

1024
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 6: I mean, that's prey good.

1025
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:15,840
Speaker 5: And then I would start all over and.

1026
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, ge, Mom, thanks for that reminder.

1027
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I do remember. I remember one Father's Day,

1028
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 3: like he didn't even like stumble on the door till

1029
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 3: like the evening, and I was thinking like me as

1030
00:45:27,200 --> 00:45:30,880
Speaker 3: dad would never do this, right, But now that I

1031
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:32,920
Speaker 3: think back, like I've released it, or maybe I've blocked

1032
00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 3: those memories because they were probably that fucking traumatizing.

1033
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 4: But now my relationship was men.

1034
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:39,799
Speaker 3: Sometimes I'm like too cool and too chill and I'm

1035
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 3: too like, eh, like if we're not you know, if

1036
00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 3: we're not together, like you know, But it's probably because

1037
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:47,359
Speaker 3: I have low expectations of men and of relationships because

1038
00:45:47,360 --> 00:45:50,920
Speaker 3: of like those first those first you know, images imprinting

1039
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 3: on me that like, oh, it's.

1040
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 5: Crazy we have We have two different reactions to our scenarios.

1041
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 5: You have low expectations because your dad disappointed you. I

1042
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 5: have high expectations because my disappointed me.

1043
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 3: It's almost my defense mechanism. It's like I'm not hurt.

1044
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 3: I don't care, you know, like I'm good fuck it,

1045
00:46:06,080 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 3: and then I'll rationalize with myself that I don't care.

1046
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 6: Mine is like I told you about my dad. I

1047
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:12,319
Speaker 6: told you what the fuck you did?

1048
00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:15,640
Speaker 5: And why are you doing it to me? You told

1049
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,600
Speaker 5: me you weren't gonna do this. Why are you doing

1050
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:19,839
Speaker 5: this to me? And it's just like it's not fair

1051
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 5: to the other person. It really isn't, but it's the reality.

1052
00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:25,560
Speaker 5: But it's the reality, and it's just like, oh my god,

1053
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 5: it's so frustrating, like and I'm like, Erica, you have

1054
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:32,560
Speaker 5: got this, Like today I got. I got disappointed. I

1055
00:46:32,640 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 5: got my expectations were not met and I was disappointed

1056
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:38,719
Speaker 5: and I was aware of that. I was like, Okay,

1057
00:46:38,800 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 5: this is the this is this right now is the

1058
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,640
Speaker 5: challenge right here, this is what you're doing this month,

1059
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 5: Like try to put it in an action Erica. So

1060
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:47,320
Speaker 5: I was in the car and I was like, Okay,

1061
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:49,320
Speaker 5: I'm gonna breathe. I'm gonna breathe through this. And I

1062
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 5: was like, I'm still fucking past. I'm still fucking past.

1063
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:52,480
Speaker 5: I'm like, breathe, breathe, fucking pest. And I was like,

1064
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 5: all right, I gotta I need a YouTube video. I

1065
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:56,399
Speaker 5: was like, I gotta look. I bet, I swear to god.

1066
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:57,880
Speaker 5: I was like, I'm about to look up a YouTube

1067
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 5: video youtubing, like, how'd you like go expectations?

1068
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 3: Did you find anything?

1069
00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 5: Yes?

1070
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:03,880
Speaker 6: I found a ted talk with this woman who was

1071
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:06,239
Speaker 6: talking about how she was adopted and.

1072
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 5: You know she was adopted. She lived in Scotland, and

1073
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 5: in Scotland, like you can like find your parents easily.

1074
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:17,239
Speaker 5: It's not like a secret, like at any time, you

1075
00:47:17,320 --> 00:47:19,279
Speaker 5: can find out who your parents are. And so she

1076
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,360
Speaker 5: when she was eighteen, she went and got the papers,

1077
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,600
Speaker 5: but then took another eighteen years to actually go find

1078
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 5: her parents. And in those eighteen years she really tried

1079
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:28,920
Speaker 5: to work on like letting go of expectation, because so

1080
00:47:29,120 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 5: oftentimes when you meet your actual parents, your expectations are

1081
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 5: way too high, like it's going to be this amazing reunion,

1082
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 5: and like it's not like either they didn't they don't

1083
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 5: give a fuck, or like maybe they were their own lives.

1084
00:47:42,120 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 5: Maybe they were alcoholics, maybe they were prostitutes. Like you

1085
00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 5: have all these expectations of who you think they are

1086
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:50,320
Speaker 5: going to be, and it helps a little bit. And

1087
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 5: then I got to where I was going with the

1088
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:57,480
Speaker 5: person who was disappointing me, and I had attitude and

1089
00:47:57,560 --> 00:47:58,400
Speaker 5: I couldn't let it go.

1090
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:00,239
Speaker 6: I had an attitude, and I was like, I gonna

1091
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:01,400
Speaker 6: stop having a fucking attitude.

1092
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 5: You just say you're not gonna like do this right now,

1093
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 5: and eventually like and then we started talking, and then

1094
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 5: I was like I need to talk about expectation with him.

1095
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 5: So I talked, we're talking about my baby Danny, if

1096
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:14,400
Speaker 5: you didn't know, And so we started talking about expectation

1097
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 5: because he has he's always disappointed by his father and

1098
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:20,920
Speaker 5: has all these expectations of him. And I was like, well,

1099
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:23,439
Speaker 5: you need to like all those expectations because your daddy

1100
00:48:23,440 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 5: ain't changing. And I'm like thinking to myself, bitch, so

1101
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 5: do you. And I'm just like, I'm like, I left

1102
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:32,560
Speaker 5: there feeling a little better because I felt like we

1103
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:36,240
Speaker 5: left on better terms. I felt a little like somewhat

1104
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:40,680
Speaker 5: of a release. But I don't know, like I mean,

1105
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 5: it's not even just him, Like I have expectations of

1106
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 5: my mom, my, my friend. It's mostly like family, though

1107
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:50,319
Speaker 5: it's mostly really rooted in like my mom, my dad,

1108
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:55,360
Speaker 5: and him and like some other Pig family members.

1109
00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:59,479
Speaker 3: It's interesting because like me and my mom, we're cool.

1110
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 3: You've had like I mean, like we like. She she's

1111
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:04,879
Speaker 3: the type of person who I think like she plays

1112
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 3: victim a lot and she's like, whoe is me?

1113
00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 7: Me?

1114
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:07,880
Speaker 5: Me? Me?

1115
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:08,440
Speaker 7: Me, me me me.

1116
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 3: But you know what I think made me stop like

1117
00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 3: one of the things that made me stop having expectations

1118
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 3: other than like that one bit you stole from me

1119
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:15,359
Speaker 3: and hurt me really bad.

1120
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 4: She always talks about.

1121
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:20,239
Speaker 3: My dad and what he does and he doesn't show

1122
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 3: up and he doesn't do this, he doesn't do that,

1123
00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 3: And I'm like, hey, bitch, you've known him longer than

1124
00:49:24,800 --> 00:49:27,719
Speaker 3: me and I've got used to it. I love him, sure,

1125
00:49:27,800 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 3: do you love him dearly? We're very close like me

1126
00:49:30,080 --> 00:49:32,279
Speaker 3: and my parents. We were very much like. But I

1127
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:36,799
Speaker 3: don't get disappointed, Like your parents are still married right legally, yeah,

1128
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:38,799
Speaker 3: but they're like doing their own thing, like living together

1129
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:40,960
Speaker 3: since they're like fourteen. My mom was fourteen, my dad

1130
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:42,920
Speaker 3: was seventeen. Sometimes I feel like my mom never developed

1131
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:45,040
Speaker 3: from that fourteen year old self. So there's a lot

1132
00:49:45,080 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 3: of codependency. But it drives me up a wall every time.

1133
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:50,040
Speaker 6: I also, you're the child. You don't want to hear

1134
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:50,279
Speaker 6: all that.

1135
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:51,680
Speaker 4: I don't and for years, from.

1136
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:53,640
Speaker 3: My whole life, I heard it. But it's like hello,

1137
00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:56,080
Speaker 3: I tell her all the time, like Hello, why are

1138
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:59,319
Speaker 3: you still sad? Why are you surprised? I ain't sad?

1139
00:49:59,480 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 5: I ain't.

1140
00:49:59,760 --> 00:50:03,879
Speaker 3: So this nigga's been the same nigga his whole life,

1141
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 3: and he has his own battles and his own shit,

1142
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:08,799
Speaker 3: and that's that's the whole thing. Like maybe seeing her

1143
00:50:08,920 --> 00:50:13,360
Speaker 3: constantly disappointed, constantly crying about it, constantly whining about it.

1144
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 3: It's like I don't want to be that woman. And

1145
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:18,640
Speaker 3: sometimes like even with my baby's daddy, like I go

1146
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:20,320
Speaker 3: through it right now, I'm done him for like fifteen

1147
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 3: years ish more, and I still get caught up. I

1148
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:27,440
Speaker 3: still get disappointed when he calls me a bitch in

1149
00:50:27,520 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 3: a hoe and he calls it, he said it like

1150
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 3: forty million times. So when you would think like it

1151
00:50:31,000 --> 00:50:33,320
Speaker 3: would just like you no, sweat off my brow. But

1152
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:37,280
Speaker 3: it's just the principle. And I find myself like checking

1153
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:41,480
Speaker 3: myself because it's this is who this man is, That

1154
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 3: is who that person is. This that is who that

1155
00:50:43,840 --> 00:50:45,840
Speaker 3: person is, and is who your mom is, that is

1156
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:47,279
Speaker 3: to your dad is, and this is who I am

1157
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,000
Speaker 3: and I and you have to protect yourself in the

1158
00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:55,520
Speaker 3: way that you're not constantly getting sh getting shot, you know,

1159
00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 3: like you're not, because then your emotions are on a

1160
00:50:58,000 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 3: constant roller culster, you know what I'm saying. I'm working

1161
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:02,960
Speaker 3: on it too myself, you know, not getting caught up

1162
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:05,360
Speaker 3: and not being disappointed by people, even when they and

1163
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 3: there's a difference between like expectations.

1164
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 4: And your standards.

1165
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:11,560
Speaker 3: Sometimes you gotta cap motherfuckers off because that's who they are.

1166
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:15,800
Speaker 3: You have to say, like be honest about what you

1167
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:18,480
Speaker 3: can you can tolerate and what you can't, because it's

1168
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 3: I'm not saying expect the words from everybody and allow

1169
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:23,920
Speaker 3: everyone to treat you a certain way. But you know,

1170
00:51:24,160 --> 00:51:26,960
Speaker 3: like with people like your parents, your baby daddy, your

1171
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:29,560
Speaker 3: baby mama, and your brother, you're just your cousin.

1172
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:30,800
Speaker 4: Like those are people who are likely going to be

1173
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:31,359
Speaker 4: in your life.

1174
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:35,959
Speaker 3: So don't be disappointed when people are acting themselves because

1175
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 3: that's who they are. Even like in a long distance relationship,

1176
00:51:41,400 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 3: like not that I'm in one, but like, you know,

1177
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:47,360
Speaker 3: I'm dating my young my young boy, and he's, you know,

1178
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:51,439
Speaker 3: like where's we've been dating? And like I I find

1179
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:54,279
Speaker 3: that he I think it's a man woman thing. He

1180
00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:56,960
Speaker 3: has more expectation of me, like he does things and

1181
00:51:57,040 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 3: he's like what I appreciate about our relationship is that

1182
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:00,360
Speaker 3: he's really honest.

1183
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:01,279
Speaker 4: We're honest with each other.

1184
00:52:01,360 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 3: The communication is really raw, but I find that he

1185
00:52:05,640 --> 00:52:09,360
Speaker 3: it's easy for him to be like honest with me

1186
00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:12,279
Speaker 3: because I am chill. You know, like he went to

1187
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:14,320
Speaker 3: Bonnaroo last weekend. I'm telling him all his business.

1188
00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 6: He's gonna be so mad.

1189
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,440
Speaker 4: Don't listen. This is where you end your listening.

1190
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,479
Speaker 3: He went to Bonner last weekend, like he was getting

1191
00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 3: sucked up, like as you do at a festival. He's

1192
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 3: like twenty six years old, you know, Bonner is like

1193
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:31,160
Speaker 3: the super white boy wasted his festival.

1194
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:37,000
Speaker 6: Maybe no, you can go to your nas okay.

1195
00:52:38,239 --> 00:52:40,399
Speaker 3: And he was like, I hooked up with this chick.

1196
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:41,880
Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, really, you only hooked the

1197
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:43,919
Speaker 3: only made up with her, Like how did that only

1198
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:46,360
Speaker 3: stop there? He's like, oh, because we were in like

1199
00:52:46,480 --> 00:52:49,520
Speaker 3: the concert, and like a few days later he's like, alive,

1200
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:50,880
Speaker 3: I fucked her.

1201
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, no, you don't say.

1202
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:57,320
Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, I figured that. He said I

1203
00:52:57,360 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 3: felt really bad about her. That like it's all good,

1204
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:01,400
Speaker 3: and I, of course I was a little heated. I

1205
00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:02,759
Speaker 3: was a little mad, and I.

1206
00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:03,040
Speaker 2: Was like.

1207
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:07,680
Speaker 6: I didn't hear baby, put your headphones in again.

1208
00:53:08,200 --> 00:53:11,080
Speaker 3: So but I had to rationalize with myself, like why

1209
00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 3: am I feeling jealous? Why am I feeling mad? I'm

1210
00:53:13,800 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 3: not really feeling that. I really don't really care that much,

1211
00:53:15,719 --> 00:53:18,480
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, Like, are you being safe? Like,

1212
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:20,400
Speaker 3: you know, does do you love me any less?

1213
00:53:21,280 --> 00:53:21,480
Speaker 7: You know?

1214
00:53:21,600 --> 00:53:26,240
Speaker 6: I doubt it, so I don't. I removed yes, baby,

1215
00:53:26,280 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 6: hold on?

1216
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:26,919
Speaker 3: Sorry?

1217
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:27,440
Speaker 5: What? Yes?

1218
00:53:27,560 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 6: Can I help you?

1219
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 3: What do you need?

1220
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:30,800
Speaker 5: What?

1221
00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:35,440
Speaker 3: Okay? I removed myself from this situation, you know, I

1222
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:37,480
Speaker 3: remove my feelings from the situation, and I just looked

1223
00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:39,440
Speaker 3: at it for what it was now. On the contrary,

1224
00:53:40,960 --> 00:53:43,600
Speaker 3: I could tell I know that he like, he can't

1225
00:53:43,640 --> 00:53:44,319
Speaker 3: do the same thing.

1226
00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 4: And there's a lot of.

1227
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 3: Different like female male expectation differences, And that's my problem.

1228
00:53:48,840 --> 00:53:50,440
Speaker 3: If you can be able to have your cake and

1229
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:51,960
Speaker 3: eat it too, like you should be able to be

1230
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 3: able to take the honesty on the other side equally

1231
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:54,920
Speaker 3: as much.

1232
00:53:55,840 --> 00:53:58,200
Speaker 4: But I mean just I don't think we should want

1233
00:53:58,239 --> 00:53:59,320
Speaker 4: to own people in general.

1234
00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:01,719
Speaker 5: You know what my thing is is like there's just

1235
00:54:01,840 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 5: this fine line between expectation and accountability. She was like, so,

1236
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:06,719
Speaker 5: where do you like?

1237
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:08,239
Speaker 3: How do I like that?

1238
00:54:09,280 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 5: Like? How do I not?

1239
00:54:10,960 --> 00:54:11,440
Speaker 3: How do I.

1240
00:54:12,920 --> 00:54:15,560
Speaker 5: Be cool and not have any expectations but also still

1241
00:54:15,600 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 5: hold you accountable? You know what I mean? Like, I

1242
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:21,480
Speaker 5: haven't learned that. I haven't figured out that balance, and

1243
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:23,239
Speaker 5: I feel like, yeah, I want to be the cool

1244
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:24,719
Speaker 5: I want to let go and just be like, well,

1245
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:26,840
Speaker 5: this is who this person is. But then also like

1246
00:54:26,880 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 5: I have a child with this person, and I don't

1247
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:31,040
Speaker 5: want her to be affected by it, right, And I mean,

1248
00:54:31,080 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 5: I know we're going to affect her no matter what,

1249
00:54:33,520 --> 00:54:36,600
Speaker 5: but like I still feel like him or my mom,

1250
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 5: just any relationship that I have, I still feel like

1251
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:41,520
Speaker 5: people still need be held accountable in some way. Absolutely,

1252
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:44,440
Speaker 5: like I'm like this dictator. Like actually, when I was

1253
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:46,759
Speaker 5: talking about this today, he would say, you sound like

1254
00:54:46,800 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 5: a slave driver. What Yeah, that's what you told me.

1255
00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:51,279
Speaker 5: And I was like, I think you're like misunderstanding what

1256
00:54:51,360 --> 00:54:53,640
Speaker 5: I'm trying to say. I was like, I'm not trying

1257
00:54:53,680 --> 00:54:55,600
Speaker 5: to tell you what to be or how to be.

1258
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:59,120
Speaker 5: I just feel like some people need to be held

1259
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 5: accountable for their Like yeah, it's one thing to like

1260
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 5: go of expectation and be like you know this, who's.

1261
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:03,920
Speaker 6: That person is?

1262
00:55:04,000 --> 00:55:05,920
Speaker 5: But then also like be like, but you know what,

1263
00:55:06,160 --> 00:55:08,840
Speaker 5: Like you said you were gonna do this, so like

1264
00:55:09,920 --> 00:55:11,400
Speaker 5: you need to know you didn't do it.

1265
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:13,680
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, but it's all about talking about it. And

1266
00:55:13,760 --> 00:55:15,719
Speaker 3: I was like, you, well, I don't appreciate you lying

1267
00:55:15,880 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 3: to me. You know, I'm not mad. I'm not He's like,

1268
00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 3: are you mad?

1269
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm not mad.

1270
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:21,960
Speaker 3: You're a festival. You're fucked up, you fucked. Life goes on,

1271
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:23,960
Speaker 3: like I want you to live your life and have fun,

1272
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:26,799
Speaker 3: but I do want you to know, like megge, you lie,

1273
00:55:27,520 --> 00:55:30,719
Speaker 3: and now I'm holding you a cannibal. But not even

1274
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 3: just that. I mean, there's a thin line between what

1275
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 3: you can take and what you can't take and a

1276
00:55:35,200 --> 00:55:38,080
Speaker 3: liar and someone who's like later like, Okay, I'm gonna

1277
00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 3: be honest about it. I don't think he's a liar.

1278
00:55:39,600 --> 00:55:41,520
Speaker 3: I think that he fucked up, you know what I'm saying. Like,

1279
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:45,399
Speaker 3: and also there's another thing. But if he don't lie,

1280
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:47,960
Speaker 3: if me and you have a relationship and we have

1281
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:49,880
Speaker 3: an understanding like you're not saving anybody else, me and

1282
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 3: him don't have that, So what am I gonna be

1283
00:55:52,680 --> 00:55:54,319
Speaker 3: get my panties all on a bunch of if we're

1284
00:55:54,360 --> 00:55:56,440
Speaker 3: like a guy I'm not in a relationship with. But

1285
00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:59,920
Speaker 3: if we make out these standards, then you are like

1286
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:03,400
Speaker 3: veering from our agreement, and then I don't want to

1287
00:56:03,440 --> 00:56:05,200
Speaker 3: fuck with you or I'm choosing. I'm thinking, lets you know,

1288
00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:06,480
Speaker 3: I'm gonna give you a couple of chances, and then

1289
00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:08,320
Speaker 3: I'm out because then you let me know that you

1290
00:56:08,480 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 3: let me down. You can't stick to an agreement, and

1291
00:56:11,280 --> 00:56:13,080
Speaker 3: that's different than having an expectation.

1292
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:15,839
Speaker 5: Be who'se you agreed to do this, right? I guess

1293
00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:18,239
Speaker 5: the thing is is it's hard to do that when

1294
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:21,640
Speaker 5: you're dealing with someone that's not good at communicating, you

1295
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:24,800
Speaker 5: know what I mean, Like our styles of communication. This

1296
00:56:24,960 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 5: is why we're not together. Like he doesn't like the

1297
00:56:27,600 --> 00:56:30,520
Speaker 5: way I communicate, and I don't think he communicates at all,

1298
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:35,800
Speaker 5: and communication is a shore. Therefore I've stopped communicating because

1299
00:56:35,840 --> 00:56:38,680
Speaker 5: I feel like it goes nowhere and he just doesn't

1300
00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:41,120
Speaker 5: communicate ever anyway. So he's like happy because we don't

1301
00:56:41,160 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 5: have to talk about anything, and.

1302
00:56:43,719 --> 00:56:45,879
Speaker 3: Girl, that's a huge deal. Like even this young guy

1303
00:56:46,239 --> 00:56:49,960
Speaker 3: who's like very mature, but my baby's daddy, I feel

1304
00:56:49,960 --> 00:56:52,400
Speaker 3: like I was talking to a fucking wall like Kanye.

1305
00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 3: When I heard Kanye's interview, I felt like it was

1306
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:58,719
Speaker 3: my baby's daddy. So being able to have a conversation

1307
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:00,880
Speaker 3: with someone and I'm like this hurt my feelings and

1308
00:57:01,040 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 3: he's like, you're right, and I apologize and I lied

1309
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:05,680
Speaker 3: and I apologize. I'm like, oh my god, this is

1310
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:07,319
Speaker 3: the healthiest shit I've ever done in my life.

1311
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:09,920
Speaker 5: Well, what are the plants?

1312
00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:12,960
Speaker 6: It's okay, just go pretend.

1313
00:57:14,960 --> 00:57:25,040
Speaker 3: So yeah, communication can. Communication almost makes expectation disappear, I know.

1314
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 6: So what do you do with someone who doesn't know

1315
00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:27,520
Speaker 6: how to communicate?

1316
00:57:27,600 --> 00:57:28,280
Speaker 4: You cut them off?

1317
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:28,959
Speaker 5: I can't.

1318
00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:29,440
Speaker 4: I mean you don't.

1319
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:32,320
Speaker 3: I mean not like that, not like that, but you

1320
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 3: say what you have to say. But when you I

1321
00:57:34,320 --> 00:57:36,320
Speaker 3: think Eric Abadu has a line like this. I don't

1322
00:57:36,320 --> 00:57:38,040
Speaker 3: know what exactly it says right now. It's a lyric,

1323
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:41,160
Speaker 3: but it's like, don't keep talking to somebody that doesn't

1324
00:57:41,200 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 3: hear you, Like, don't waste your time speaking English to

1325
00:57:44,240 --> 00:57:47,920
Speaker 3: a Japanese speaking motherfucker, because if they don't understand you.

1326
00:57:49,120 --> 00:57:53,640
Speaker 7: No, baby, I'm not putting water in here, because we're

1327
00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:56,720
Speaker 7: gonna take a quick break, guys on one second pause, Yeah,

1328
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 7: sorry about that.

1329
00:58:14,440 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 6: Oh yep, she's probably gonna interrupt again. She's not happy.

1330
00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:19,760
Speaker 5: She's starting school tomorrow and.

1331
00:58:20,120 --> 00:58:22,840
Speaker 3: We're taking it long and st and Lynda's not here because.

1332
00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 5: Anyway, yes, you're right that it's it's it's a waste

1333
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:30,919
Speaker 5: of time communicating. But I hold on to this hope

1334
00:58:31,360 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 5: that we will align.

1335
00:58:32,520 --> 00:58:34,680
Speaker 3: At some point. You will and you will, you will,

1336
00:58:34,880 --> 00:58:36,000
Speaker 3: But when it's time.

1337
00:58:36,760 --> 00:58:38,840
Speaker 6: It's just hard because he doesn't even ask.

1338
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:45,880
Speaker 5: I. He doesn't even ask me, like and that's nothing.

1339
00:58:45,960 --> 00:58:49,600
Speaker 5: This is an expectation. I keep expecting him to ask

1340
00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:53,320
Speaker 5: me how I'm feeling, what I'm how, what, how am

1341
00:58:53,400 --> 00:58:53,840
Speaker 5: I doing?

1342
00:58:54,480 --> 00:58:54,520
Speaker 3: What?

1343
00:58:55,080 --> 00:58:55,120
Speaker 7: Like?

1344
00:58:55,520 --> 00:58:57,640
Speaker 5: How's your heart? You know what I mean? Are you?

1345
00:58:57,760 --> 00:58:59,000
Speaker 3: Are you doing well? Yeah?

1346
00:58:59,120 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 6: Are you doing well?

1347
00:59:00,240 --> 00:59:01,440
Speaker 5: How was your what did you do?

1348
00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:02,919
Speaker 6: How is your podcast going?

1349
00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 5: How?

1350
00:59:04,480 --> 00:59:04,640
Speaker 3: How?

1351
00:59:04,880 --> 00:59:05,000
Speaker 7: Uh?

1352
00:59:05,720 --> 00:59:08,920
Speaker 6: Just just deeper things than just like how was your day?

1353
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:09,840
Speaker 5: How was the content?

1354
00:59:11,640 --> 00:59:11,800
Speaker 7: I know?

1355
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:14,280
Speaker 5: And I'm just like and I ask all the time,

1356
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:16,920
Speaker 5: hoping that he will reciprocate, and it never happens, and

1357
00:59:16,960 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 5: I'm just like, wow, this is like, this is why

1358
00:59:20,080 --> 00:59:22,760
Speaker 5: our meetings when we do go to lunch and dinner

1359
00:59:22,800 --> 00:59:23,240
Speaker 5: are so off.

1360
00:59:23,280 --> 00:59:24,080
Speaker 6: Wark we have seen to.

1361
00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:26,080
Speaker 5: Talk about it, and it's like I don't even know.

1362
00:59:26,280 --> 00:59:27,800
Speaker 5: I don't even know why he still wants to go

1363
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:30,400
Speaker 5: to lunch with me. It's like the most we're the

1364
00:59:30,440 --> 00:59:32,880
Speaker 5: most boring lunch date of all time. People must stare

1365
00:59:32,880 --> 00:59:35,680
Speaker 5: at us and be like, they are so bored, But.

1366
00:59:36,120 --> 00:59:38,720
Speaker 3: That's because you've you're growing, and he's not. I think

1367
00:59:38,800 --> 00:59:41,200
Speaker 3: he's scared to ask me because he's afraid you're canna

1368
00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:41,600
Speaker 3: tell the truth.

1369
00:59:42,160 --> 00:59:44,160
Speaker 5: He's scared, I'm I don't know if he's scared to

1370
00:59:44,240 --> 00:59:46,160
Speaker 5: I'm happy with someone else or what it is like.

1371
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:49,400
Speaker 5: I don't know what it is. It's like, but it's

1372
00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:51,560
Speaker 5: just blows my mind every time. And I'm like, luck

1373
00:59:51,600 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 5: over the expectation. He's not gonna ask you, so just

1374
00:59:54,360 --> 00:59:56,880
Speaker 5: stop expecting him to ask. And it's the silliest question

1375
00:59:56,920 --> 00:59:59,440
Speaker 5: you would think to be so easy. And I told you, Like,

1376
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:02,880
Speaker 5: somebody asked me how I was feeling recently and I

1377
01:00:03,080 --> 01:00:06,040
Speaker 5: was like wow. I was like, thank you, I appreciate

1378
01:00:06,080 --> 01:00:07,880
Speaker 5: you so much for asking me how I'm feeling.

1379
01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:08,880
Speaker 4: And it dawned on me.

1380
01:00:09,240 --> 01:00:12,640
Speaker 3: I've never had a healthy relationship ever that someone just

1381
01:00:12,760 --> 01:00:15,919
Speaker 3: asking me how I'm feeling made me feel so good

1382
01:00:16,600 --> 01:00:17,360
Speaker 3: and I could cry.

1383
01:00:17,600 --> 01:00:19,240
Speaker 4: I'm really really emotional all this month.

1384
01:00:19,280 --> 01:00:21,280
Speaker 3: I'm usually not that much of a carid baby, but like,

1385
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:23,000
Speaker 3: he asked me how I was feeling, and I was

1386
01:00:23,080 --> 01:00:27,680
Speaker 3: just like wow, what a good guy. Yeah, So it's

1387
01:00:27,800 --> 01:00:29,120
Speaker 3: little small things, you know.

1388
01:00:29,760 --> 01:00:30,400
Speaker 6: No, it's true.

1389
01:00:30,440 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 5: And speaking of this cus it goes for the men.

1390
01:00:32,720 --> 01:00:35,840
Speaker 3: Listening, like, please just ask me woman how she's feeling

1391
01:00:35,880 --> 01:00:38,320
Speaker 3: and she's doing today? Yeah, and no, not even just.

1392
01:00:38,320 --> 01:00:40,040
Speaker 5: How she's doing today? How are you feeling?

1393
01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:40,640
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1394
01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:43,080
Speaker 5: Are you okay? What's your spirit feeling like these days?

1395
01:00:43,080 --> 01:00:43,560
Speaker 2: Are you happy?

1396
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:44,360
Speaker 5: Good? Are you happy?

1397
01:00:44,520 --> 01:00:44,560
Speaker 7: Like?

1398
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 6: What's going on with worth you?

1399
01:00:46,240 --> 01:00:49,240
Speaker 5: Yeah? You know, but you know, the guy that I

1400
01:00:49,320 --> 01:00:52,280
Speaker 5: have been seeing, he does ask me that, and I

1401
01:00:52,400 --> 01:00:54,600
Speaker 5: was just gonna like, but unfortunately, I feel like we're

1402
01:00:54,640 --> 01:00:56,400
Speaker 5: in a long distance relationship.

1403
01:00:55,960 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 3: Like he was fifteen miles away and in La that

1404
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:01,520
Speaker 3: it's equivalent to five hundred.

1405
01:01:02,240 --> 01:01:04,400
Speaker 5: It's not even that. It's just he has a real

1406
01:01:04,520 --> 01:01:08,160
Speaker 5: job and he works five days a week, and you know,

1407
01:01:08,840 --> 01:01:10,720
Speaker 5: so do I. I don't know. I mean, my job

1408
01:01:10,840 --> 01:01:15,040
Speaker 5: is pretty flexible, but like I don't have all the

1409
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:17,880
Speaker 5: help that I would need in the evenings to go

1410
01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:20,320
Speaker 5: and hang out with him. And there's no just like

1411
01:01:20,400 --> 01:01:22,280
Speaker 5: hanging out in the middle of the week, you know

1412
01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:24,400
Speaker 5: what I mean, like at four pm when you get

1413
01:01:24,440 --> 01:01:26,640
Speaker 5: off where it's like sometimes I don't have anything to

1414
01:01:26,680 --> 01:01:29,600
Speaker 5: do on Tuesday at one o'clock, right, But he can't.

1415
01:01:29,920 --> 01:01:32,520
Speaker 5: So it feels like when it's a long distance relationship, because.

1416
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:34,680
Speaker 3: Like how often do I see each other?

1417
01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:38,640
Speaker 5: I'd say like once a week maybe, and.

1418
01:01:38,760 --> 01:01:40,320
Speaker 3: Because sometimes I'm thinking about it and I'm like, damn,

1419
01:01:40,320 --> 01:01:41,640
Speaker 3: I wonder if she's seeing so and so I.

1420
01:01:41,640 --> 01:01:44,600
Speaker 5: Haven't or like once every two weeks, which kind of

1421
01:01:44,680 --> 01:01:47,280
Speaker 5: keeps it like fresh and exciting. But I feel like

1422
01:01:47,320 --> 01:01:48,360
Speaker 5: we have be the point where I'm not kind of

1423
01:01:48,360 --> 01:01:50,680
Speaker 5: annoyed by it. And also I'm annoyed by his schedule,

1424
01:01:50,720 --> 01:01:52,320
Speaker 5: which I shouldn't because it's so stupid.

1425
01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:53,600
Speaker 3: And it's like he's like the most normous.

1426
01:01:53,600 --> 01:01:55,640
Speaker 5: He's like doing what he needs to do. He has

1427
01:01:55,720 --> 01:01:58,360
Speaker 5: his own company, like he's doing he's like doing doing

1428
01:01:58,480 --> 01:02:02,440
Speaker 5: his shit, you know. And but like I'm like, I

1429
01:02:02,520 --> 01:02:04,320
Speaker 5: don't know, I don't even know what it is. But

1430
01:02:05,040 --> 01:02:07,000
Speaker 5: I feel like I'm in a long distance relationship and

1431
01:02:07,040 --> 01:02:09,120
Speaker 5: I have these expectations because of my other partner. He

1432
01:02:09,200 --> 01:02:11,200
Speaker 5: was available to me all the time. Well you know,

1433
01:02:11,400 --> 01:02:15,120
Speaker 5: like he's he's his music. So it's just whatever he

1434
01:02:15,160 --> 01:02:17,080
Speaker 5: feels like doing it, you know what I mean. I'm

1435
01:02:17,160 --> 01:02:20,680
Speaker 5: not I wanted to not date someone within that industry ever, ever,

1436
01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:23,840
Speaker 5: ever again, within any entertainment. But then now I'm not

1437
01:02:24,000 --> 01:02:26,480
Speaker 5: dating someone in that industry, and I'm annoyed a little bit,

1438
01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:30,000
Speaker 5: like by their schedule or let like our schedules don't

1439
01:02:30,000 --> 01:02:34,200
Speaker 5: seem to align every Yeah, and it's that expectation.

1440
01:02:35,440 --> 01:02:38,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I mean, actually, I think long distance

1441
01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:42,600
Speaker 3: quote unquote for you sometimes keeps it a little bit

1442
01:02:42,640 --> 01:02:45,520
Speaker 3: more exciting, and like because I can lose interest really quickly.

1443
01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:48,240
Speaker 3: I'm like, sometimes I find shit wrong with people because

1444
01:02:48,240 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 3: I'm like, it's getting too good, Let's fuck it up.

1445
01:02:52,480 --> 01:02:55,440
Speaker 5: That's how I feel. Now. My friends were asking me, like,

1446
01:02:55,960 --> 01:02:59,160
Speaker 5: how is it, how's you know? And I'm like, and

1447
01:02:59,200 --> 01:03:01,160
Speaker 5: I'm like trying to find all these I like literally

1448
01:03:01,280 --> 01:03:03,280
Speaker 5: named all these reasons not to like him, and they

1449
01:03:03,280 --> 01:03:06,400
Speaker 5: were like, Erica, those are not real, those are not

1450
01:03:06,520 --> 01:03:09,280
Speaker 5: real reasons. Those are all shallow, And I was like,

1451
01:03:09,920 --> 01:03:12,840
Speaker 5: I know perfectly, because I don't want to put all

1452
01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:14,360
Speaker 5: my eggs in one basket, because I've been in a

1453
01:03:14,400 --> 01:03:17,760
Speaker 5: relationship for seven years and I feel like I don't

1454
01:03:17,760 --> 01:03:20,240
Speaker 5: want to like miss out on like maybe the love

1455
01:03:20,280 --> 01:03:22,000
Speaker 5: of my life because I've decided to put all my

1456
01:03:22,000 --> 01:03:24,360
Speaker 5: eggs in this basket and I'm not even sure, you know,

1457
01:03:24,480 --> 01:03:26,720
Speaker 5: I'm just overthinking, I think too.

1458
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:29,640
Speaker 3: But before Youngin got to the concert of the festival,

1459
01:03:29,680 --> 01:03:31,320
Speaker 3: he's like, what do you think about us getting more serious?

1460
01:03:31,360 --> 01:03:32,840
Speaker 3: And he's like, let's talk about when I get back.

1461
01:03:33,160 --> 01:03:35,920
Speaker 3: When he came clean, I was like, I think you're

1462
01:03:35,960 --> 01:03:38,440
Speaker 3: not ready, and let's talk about it when I get

1463
01:03:38,480 --> 01:03:41,000
Speaker 3: out there, because I was like, you fucked that up.

1464
01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:41,760
Speaker 5: How long have you guys been?

1465
01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:46,000
Speaker 3: We met last? We met last year July fourth, so

1466
01:03:46,080 --> 01:03:49,000
Speaker 3: like almost yeah, I mean like not seriously.

1467
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:49,880
Speaker 5: No, but I know, but it's been a while.

1468
01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:51,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, my friends, you know we were being friends?

1469
01:03:51,960 --> 01:03:53,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, because me and me and this dude have not

1470
01:03:54,000 --> 01:03:55,960
Speaker 5: even had that conversation. And honestly, I feel like we

1471
01:03:56,000 --> 01:03:57,680
Speaker 5: could be more honest with each other, but I feel

1472
01:03:57,720 --> 01:03:59,760
Speaker 5: like we don't talk enough to be honest with.

1473
01:03:59,760 --> 01:04:01,760
Speaker 3: Each I okay, so me and him talk about this.

1474
01:04:01,920 --> 01:04:05,360
Speaker 3: This is my weird other defense mechanism. I'm oddly weird, like.

1475
01:04:06,280 --> 01:04:07,080
Speaker 5: Hurt me, hurt me.

1476
01:04:07,360 --> 01:04:10,440
Speaker 3: I want to know all the details about what you

1477
01:04:10,560 --> 01:04:13,920
Speaker 3: do because it allows me to rationalize it, and it allows.

1478
01:04:13,720 --> 01:04:17,200
Speaker 5: Me to keep away like go of expectation, like of expectation, and.

1479
01:04:17,200 --> 01:04:19,439
Speaker 3: Then allows me like of expectation, really to think about

1480
01:04:19,440 --> 01:04:21,040
Speaker 3: how I feel and why I'm feeling it is am

1481
01:04:21,040 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 3: I feeling jealous because for shallow reasons, and also it

1482
01:04:24,240 --> 01:04:26,160
Speaker 3: keeps a wedge. It keeps a wedge just for me

1483
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:28,920
Speaker 3: to get attached and like get all girly and mus

1484
01:04:29,000 --> 01:04:30,680
Speaker 3: she and like wan on relationship because I know I

1485
01:04:30,720 --> 01:04:32,320
Speaker 3: don't really need that or want that, and I know

1486
01:04:32,440 --> 01:04:36,080
Speaker 3: that that doesn't mean anything, like the labels don't mean shit.

1487
01:04:36,160 --> 01:04:38,320
Speaker 3: And I'm trying to like reinforce that with him because

1488
01:04:38,360 --> 01:04:40,840
Speaker 3: he's so he's such a man, and not that he's young,

1489
01:04:40,920 --> 01:04:42,840
Speaker 3: but it's the man thing because when I was like,

1490
01:04:42,920 --> 01:04:44,840
Speaker 3: I told him, like, we're basically in an open relationship

1491
01:04:44,960 --> 01:04:46,480
Speaker 3: because I watched this Netflix special.

1492
01:04:46,560 --> 01:04:49,120
Speaker 4: Everybody should check it out. It's called Explained.

1493
01:04:49,400 --> 01:04:51,800
Speaker 3: They're like twenty minute segments, but one of them is

1494
01:04:51,840 --> 01:04:55,360
Speaker 3: about monogamy and about like naturally which animals we like

1495
01:04:55,920 --> 01:04:59,360
Speaker 3: we replicate most in like nature, and that there's like

1496
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:02,680
Speaker 3: one prime primate, there's one type of monkey that has

1497
01:05:02,760 --> 01:05:04,919
Speaker 3: sex just for the fuck of it, like us, there's

1498
01:05:04,960 --> 01:05:07,840
Speaker 3: only one and then discusses all those really interesting things

1499
01:05:07,880 --> 01:05:10,840
Speaker 3: and I was like trying to like discuss the open relationship,

1500
01:05:10,880 --> 01:05:14,000
Speaker 3: and he got super offended. Like, I don't want anybody

1501
01:05:14,040 --> 01:05:16,360
Speaker 3: i'm with to just be given their love and body

1502
01:05:16,440 --> 01:05:17,080
Speaker 3: to any man.

1503
01:05:17,560 --> 01:05:19,840
Speaker 4: Was like, I think you're thinking about it too deeply.

1504
01:05:20,640 --> 01:05:22,680
Speaker 3: Furthermore, he just told me fucked the bitch a few

1505
01:05:22,720 --> 01:05:24,680
Speaker 3: weeks ago, so.

1506
01:05:26,720 --> 01:05:28,080
Speaker 4: I thought her things weren't.

1507
01:05:30,120 --> 01:05:33,080
Speaker 6: But so I think it's like I have I'm sorry.

1508
01:05:34,720 --> 01:05:38,560
Speaker 3: I think it's like it's also like it's it's socially

1509
01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:40,840
Speaker 3: like men could get away with murdering women can't. But

1510
01:05:40,920 --> 01:05:43,560
Speaker 3: I like to know because seeing me a little bit,

1511
01:05:43,640 --> 01:05:46,040
Speaker 3: so I can just it's sick. I kind of like

1512
01:05:46,120 --> 01:05:46,840
Speaker 3: to keep it that way.

1513
01:05:47,000 --> 01:05:48,640
Speaker 5: So I think I've got in the habit of like

1514
01:05:49,200 --> 01:05:50,960
Speaker 5: out of sight, out of mind, because that's what I

1515
01:05:51,040 --> 01:05:52,640
Speaker 5: had to do in my last relationship because I knew

1516
01:05:52,640 --> 01:05:54,240
Speaker 5: if I went looking, I was gonna find some shit.

1517
01:05:54,520 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 5: So I just was like, and it's like, I don't

1518
01:05:55,840 --> 01:05:56,400
Speaker 5: want to talk about it.

1519
01:05:56,400 --> 01:05:57,120
Speaker 3: I don't have to be more.

1520
01:05:57,240 --> 01:06:00,400
Speaker 5: We're actually me and new dude. We have talked about things,

1521
01:06:00,440 --> 01:06:02,040
Speaker 5: and he knows that i'm you know, I do my

1522
01:06:02,080 --> 01:06:04,960
Speaker 5: thing or whatever. But when I you know, I told him,

1523
01:06:05,080 --> 01:06:07,480
Speaker 5: like recently that I was going to go meet up

1524
01:06:07,520 --> 01:06:09,680
Speaker 5: with a girl, and he got I felt like he

1525
01:06:09,720 --> 01:06:10,360
Speaker 5: got kind of weird.

1526
01:06:10,400 --> 01:06:11,320
Speaker 6: Maybe I was reading into it.

1527
01:06:11,680 --> 01:06:13,840
Speaker 5: Now you're in I felt like he got weird, and

1528
01:06:13,880 --> 01:06:15,120
Speaker 5: then I was That kind of made me feel like, well,

1529
01:06:15,160 --> 01:06:16,400
Speaker 5: now I don't want to want to tell you anything

1530
01:06:16,520 --> 01:06:18,800
Speaker 5: about what I'm doing. You told me you wanted to know.

1531
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:21,440
Speaker 5: You told me it turned you on, But then when

1532
01:06:21,480 --> 01:06:24,040
Speaker 5: I told you there was no turn on, Like, you

1533
01:06:24,080 --> 01:06:25,800
Speaker 5: didn't get all sexy when I told you, you got

1534
01:06:25,880 --> 01:06:27,080
Speaker 5: all like weird. Yeah.

1535
01:06:27,400 --> 01:06:30,280
Speaker 3: So, and if it's a girl, then they're all sexy

1536
01:06:30,320 --> 01:06:32,000
Speaker 3: about it, and if it's a dude, they're like oh oh.

1537
01:06:32,240 --> 01:06:33,760
Speaker 3: But it's like, oh, but you're not going to be

1538
01:06:34,240 --> 01:06:36,000
Speaker 3: making out with another dude, so I'm supposed to just

1539
01:06:36,040 --> 01:06:37,760
Speaker 3: deal with it, you know what I mean. It's a

1540
01:06:37,760 --> 01:06:40,000
Speaker 3: bull shit. I'm not with it. I'm with the equal

1541
01:06:40,080 --> 01:06:43,120
Speaker 3: rights in this bitch. But you know, I don't need

1542
01:06:43,160 --> 01:06:44,400
Speaker 3: to tell you. That's why you don't need to hear,

1543
01:06:44,480 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 3: and I don't need to hear. But I like to ask,

1544
01:06:45,920 --> 01:06:48,640
Speaker 3: and I'm like, was it good? How was that blowjob?

1545
01:06:49,080 --> 01:06:50,680
Speaker 5: Oh? My god? Really, you're do good?

1546
01:06:50,680 --> 01:06:53,720
Speaker 3: That deep? I want to know because so I can

1547
01:06:53,880 --> 01:06:56,240
Speaker 3: rationalize in my head how I feel. And then sometimes

1548
01:06:56,240 --> 01:06:59,440
Speaker 3: I get spiteful I'm like, oh really, And then I'm like,

1549
01:07:01,520 --> 01:07:02,240
Speaker 3: I just don't want.

1550
01:07:02,080 --> 01:07:04,400
Speaker 5: To feel the jealousy. I don't want to comparing myself

1551
01:07:04,480 --> 01:07:06,520
Speaker 5: to the girl and then get on like a crazy

1552
01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:07,240
Speaker 5: stalk remote.

1553
01:07:07,840 --> 01:07:09,560
Speaker 3: I've done it. I've done it. I even told him like,

1554
01:07:09,600 --> 01:07:10,800
Speaker 3: give me that girl. I want to see the girl.

1555
01:07:10,840 --> 01:07:12,240
Speaker 3: And I loved and I said it to all my

1556
01:07:12,320 --> 01:07:14,800
Speaker 3: friends and they like, she looks like mill no a lot.

1557
01:07:14,880 --> 01:07:17,400
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, you should be so jealous.

1558
01:07:17,440 --> 01:07:19,360
Speaker 3: She's so sexy. Look at all her sexy feel I'm like,

1559
01:07:19,360 --> 01:07:21,720
Speaker 3: are you kidding? She's like no, She's like Middle America.

1560
01:07:23,960 --> 01:07:25,000
Speaker 3: That's why I love my friends.

1561
01:07:25,560 --> 01:07:27,680
Speaker 6: I mean, there's not sexy people in Middle America.

1562
01:07:28,000 --> 01:07:33,920
Speaker 3: I just kidding, LA bitches talking ship. There's there's unsexy

1563
01:07:33,960 --> 01:07:38,440
Speaker 3: people in l A too. But I got to I

1564
01:07:38,560 --> 01:07:41,440
Speaker 3: get to I get to face my jealousy and I

1565
01:07:41,520 --> 01:07:44,040
Speaker 3: get to feel that uncomfortable feeling. And then I'll still

1566
01:07:44,080 --> 01:07:45,920
Speaker 3: sit on the phone and talk because I have to

1567
01:07:46,000 --> 01:07:48,240
Speaker 3: get past it. And then and then it's then I

1568
01:07:48,320 --> 01:07:48,720
Speaker 3: release it.

1569
01:07:48,960 --> 01:07:51,200
Speaker 5: I don't know. I'm a I'm a scorpio, so I'm

1570
01:07:51,640 --> 01:07:53,920
Speaker 5: jealousy lives deep within me that I don't need that

1571
01:07:54,640 --> 01:07:56,520
Speaker 5: I don't need. I don't need. I don't I don't

1572
01:07:56,600 --> 01:07:59,040
Speaker 5: need to like enhance it. I don't need to, Like

1573
01:07:59,040 --> 01:07:59,960
Speaker 5: I might need to face.

1574
01:07:59,800 --> 01:08:03,960
Speaker 3: It and release it, Like why dup bitch is not

1575
01:08:04,040 --> 01:08:05,960
Speaker 3: better than me? But then what if I get one

1576
01:08:06,040 --> 01:08:07,920
Speaker 3: this year? Is fine, it's fun. Then I'm gonna be

1577
01:08:07,960 --> 01:08:08,480
Speaker 3: all fucked up.

1578
01:08:08,520 --> 01:08:10,280
Speaker 5: But like, why does she? Why did? But then that's

1579
01:08:10,320 --> 01:08:12,000
Speaker 5: the thing, Like she doesn't even know who you are?

1580
01:08:12,080 --> 01:08:14,640
Speaker 5: Why is it a competition? She don't get Yes, you

1581
01:08:14,720 --> 01:08:16,160
Speaker 5: know what I mean. So then you're hating a girl

1582
01:08:16,200 --> 01:08:17,920
Speaker 5: that don't even know about you, and it's just fucked

1583
01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:18,680
Speaker 5: up to begin with.

1584
01:08:18,960 --> 01:08:25,840
Speaker 3: It's all fucked up. Having a vagina is rough anyway.

1585
01:08:25,880 --> 01:08:27,719
Speaker 5: Speaking of vaginas, we have a horry.

1586
01:08:28,080 --> 01:08:30,760
Speaker 4: Oh okay, first of all, we had Okay, let's let's

1587
01:08:30,800 --> 01:08:31,320
Speaker 4: make this clear.

1588
01:08:31,479 --> 01:08:33,599
Speaker 3: We do have a horry. We're going into our hory segment,

1589
01:08:34,960 --> 01:08:37,160
Speaker 3: but we need to be clear with you all. Damn,

1590
01:08:37,200 --> 01:08:39,000
Speaker 3: I don't even know ever have it on here when

1591
01:08:39,080 --> 01:08:42,040
Speaker 3: it comes to the horries, you guys, you guys gotta

1592
01:08:42,080 --> 01:08:43,000
Speaker 3: come correct. Okay.

1593
01:08:43,160 --> 01:08:46,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, we've had a few tory submissions that are not

1594
01:08:46,400 --> 01:08:48,920
Speaker 5: horri not horri. They're like high school hoard they're like

1595
01:08:49,439 --> 01:08:53,200
Speaker 5: high school stories. They're not gave it be described as

1596
01:08:53,200 --> 01:08:55,559
Speaker 5: a horr like this one girl sent me a horry

1597
01:08:55,680 --> 01:08:58,280
Speaker 5: and she's probably listening and girl, you know much love

1598
01:08:58,360 --> 01:09:00,639
Speaker 5: to you, girl, But that was no hory.

1599
01:09:00,720 --> 01:09:01,519
Speaker 4: Girl, you were horry.

1600
01:09:01,680 --> 01:09:02,960
Speaker 5: No horry that you sent me.

1601
01:09:03,200 --> 01:09:05,320
Speaker 6: I did every weekend in high school.

1602
01:09:05,439 --> 01:09:09,120
Speaker 3: She was like, I was at a party. I thought

1603
01:09:09,160 --> 01:09:12,479
Speaker 3: everybody was sleeping, and basically the lights were off. I

1604
01:09:12,560 --> 01:09:15,880
Speaker 3: had sex on the floor, but basically nobody was sleeping.

1605
01:09:15,920 --> 01:09:17,760
Speaker 3: Like six people heard me have sex, and Erica sent

1606
01:09:17,880 --> 01:09:18,960
Speaker 3: to me. I was like, yeah, I've been like twelve

1607
01:09:19,000 --> 01:09:21,840
Speaker 3: twenty times. She's like, yeah, me too. Nothing.

1608
01:09:22,280 --> 01:09:24,439
Speaker 5: I was like, that was me at every high school party.

1609
01:09:25,040 --> 01:09:27,559
Speaker 5: I thought everybody did that in high school like college

1610
01:09:27,720 --> 01:09:30,719
Speaker 5: like right, like like like no one had a real house,

1611
01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:32,519
Speaker 5: not that like shit on your hory.

1612
01:09:32,600 --> 01:09:35,479
Speaker 4: But like, girl, you're talking to some vets.

1613
01:09:35,600 --> 01:09:37,959
Speaker 5: I need you to I'm gonna need you step.

1614
01:09:37,840 --> 01:09:41,400
Speaker 3: Up your game. Yeah, or or maybe it's US Afica,

1615
01:09:41,560 --> 01:09:45,000
Speaker 3: maybe like our scorpio cancerselves are just too horriy for TVs.

1616
01:09:45,040 --> 01:09:45,080
Speaker 2: No.

1617
01:09:45,200 --> 01:09:47,560
Speaker 5: I refuse to believe that too hory for speaking, I

1618
01:09:47,600 --> 01:09:49,760
Speaker 5: refuse to believe that. I know that there's some I

1619
01:09:49,840 --> 01:09:51,680
Speaker 5: think there's people that are just a little scared to

1620
01:09:51,760 --> 01:09:53,080
Speaker 5: really get in there.

1621
01:09:53,320 --> 01:09:55,280
Speaker 3: Well, we ain't gonna say your name and look at us.

1622
01:09:55,640 --> 01:09:57,320
Speaker 3: We could see our face. You know our names, and

1623
01:09:57,360 --> 01:10:01,120
Speaker 3: we're telling all of our business. So here's your courage,

1624
01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:04,360
Speaker 3: here's your dos of courage. We're doing it because shit happens,

1625
01:10:04,560 --> 01:10:07,759
Speaker 3: and you know, more power to it, Power to the pussy.

1626
01:10:08,320 --> 01:10:10,080
Speaker 6: But anyway, we have an anonymous Horry.

1627
01:10:12,200 --> 01:10:15,160
Speaker 3: This is a this is Horry's celebrity edition. Yeah, we're

1628
01:10:15,160 --> 01:10:18,240
Speaker 3: gonna have We're gonna have randomly some celebrity editions because

1629
01:10:18,240 --> 01:10:19,360
Speaker 3: some people have pap time to this.

1630
01:10:19,720 --> 01:10:20,320
Speaker 4: Celebrities.

1631
01:10:21,720 --> 01:10:23,000
Speaker 5: Do you want we want to tell her?

1632
01:10:23,040 --> 01:10:23,760
Speaker 6: Do you want me to tell it?

1633
01:10:24,560 --> 01:10:25,360
Speaker 4: We can both tell it.

1634
01:10:25,400 --> 01:10:30,000
Speaker 3: Okay, So this Horry takes place in the Philippines.

1635
01:10:30,040 --> 01:10:33,280
Speaker 5: Takes place in the Philippines. It's very exotic hory and

1636
01:10:33,960 --> 01:10:36,439
Speaker 5: it includes one of your favorite rappers.

1637
01:10:37,400 --> 01:10:38,600
Speaker 6: It's murder.

1638
01:10:39,960 --> 01:10:45,840
Speaker 5: Joba Rule. Yes, one of our followers listeners had sex

1639
01:10:45,880 --> 01:10:47,640
Speaker 5: with jar Roll in the Philippines.

1640
01:10:49,360 --> 01:10:54,680
Speaker 6: Something like this. So she was seventeen, which, by the way,

1641
01:10:54,760 --> 01:10:55,920
Speaker 6: is not legal in the Philippines.

1642
01:10:55,920 --> 01:10:58,439
Speaker 3: I asked her that, but she also she also admitted

1643
01:10:58,479 --> 01:11:00,840
Speaker 3: that she lied and said she was eighteen, so you

1644
01:11:00,960 --> 01:11:04,000
Speaker 3: know she was Okay, so not technically jar rules fault,

1645
01:11:04,200 --> 01:11:04,719
Speaker 3: not his fault.

1646
01:11:04,760 --> 01:11:07,639
Speaker 4: Technically is nobody go after, but the law doesn't care.

1647
01:11:10,800 --> 01:11:14,479
Speaker 3: She's like thirty now, so it's like, yeah, I'm almost

1648
01:11:14,880 --> 01:11:15,599
Speaker 3: five more minutes.

1649
01:11:15,680 --> 01:11:20,400
Speaker 5: This is what you really need to have your headphones in, right, Okay,

1650
01:11:20,479 --> 01:11:21,320
Speaker 5: let me let me.

1651
01:11:21,360 --> 01:11:22,599
Speaker 3: Fix it for you, old please.

1652
01:11:24,960 --> 01:11:28,240
Speaker 4: We don't need the child repeating jar rules sexy ton.

1653
01:11:28,479 --> 01:11:29,200
Speaker 5: Sure don't.

1654
01:11:30,400 --> 01:11:31,240
Speaker 4: They were to make it quick.

1655
01:11:32,120 --> 01:11:35,360
Speaker 3: So this takes places in the Philippines. Basically in the

1656
01:11:35,400 --> 01:11:39,799
Speaker 3: Philippines there's like two classes. There is a very wealthy

1657
01:11:40,320 --> 01:11:43,519
Speaker 3: class and there's like worker class. And basically our seventeen

1658
01:11:43,560 --> 01:11:46,160
Speaker 3: year old friend was like no in the know with

1659
01:11:46,360 --> 01:11:49,759
Speaker 3: like a club owner. He was a promoter club owner

1660
01:11:49,840 --> 01:11:51,639
Speaker 3: and it was a club Embassy.

1661
01:11:51,880 --> 01:11:54,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, Club Embassy apparently that was the pop in. That

1662
01:11:54,439 --> 01:11:55,320
Speaker 5: was the club.

1663
01:11:55,400 --> 01:11:57,200
Speaker 3: So if you were a Manila and ten years ago,

1664
01:11:57,320 --> 01:12:00,559
Speaker 3: you even know about this. So basically they met, they

1665
01:12:00,560 --> 01:12:03,360
Speaker 3: saw a job role and his posse in the cloud.

1666
01:12:03,400 --> 01:12:06,360
Speaker 3: They're on VIP drinking smoking. They were passing around their

1667
01:12:06,479 --> 01:12:09,960
Speaker 3: uh state suede because apparently the filmines someone drinks smokes

1668
01:12:10,000 --> 01:12:15,599
Speaker 3: weed because it sucks. So they're in VIP smoking, chilling, hanging.

1669
01:12:15,960 --> 01:12:17,880
Speaker 5: So then the next day was the actual show. So

1670
01:12:18,000 --> 01:12:20,240
Speaker 5: the show they had, they got tickets because the girl

1671
01:12:20,320 --> 01:12:22,920
Speaker 5: had the plug. She goes that gets tickets. One of

1672
01:12:22,920 --> 01:12:26,920
Speaker 5: the jaw rolls little like hips Hypemin sees them, remembers

1673
01:12:26,960 --> 01:12:29,920
Speaker 5: them from the night before, pulls them backstage.

1674
01:12:30,240 --> 01:12:31,599
Speaker 4: They're partying and having fun.

1675
01:12:33,600 --> 01:12:38,080
Speaker 3: Okay, oh shit, okay, okay, anyway, sorry, we're recording ourselves again.

1676
01:12:38,200 --> 01:12:41,840
Speaker 3: So the camera stopped, but this didn't, so keep using.

1677
01:12:43,600 --> 01:12:47,040
Speaker 3: Just about to get good. They go back to the hotel.

1678
01:12:47,080 --> 01:12:51,000
Speaker 3: They're drinking champagne. Suddenly her friend dips with one of

1679
01:12:51,040 --> 01:12:54,439
Speaker 3: the posse members and she's just with jaw her in

1680
01:12:54,560 --> 01:12:59,519
Speaker 3: jaw I love calling him that or in the room murder.

1681
01:13:00,120 --> 01:13:01,920
Speaker 4: I used to love him so back when davisit in

1682
01:13:02,000 --> 01:13:03,040
Speaker 4: my dream story.

1683
01:13:05,640 --> 01:13:06,519
Speaker 3: Why do we have notes?

1684
01:13:08,200 --> 01:13:09,920
Speaker 4: We literally knows.

1685
01:13:10,800 --> 01:13:12,519
Speaker 3: Anyway, she was high and drunk as fuck.

1686
01:13:12,680 --> 01:13:13,400
Speaker 4: This is a quote.

1687
01:13:15,880 --> 01:13:19,200
Speaker 3: Oh she was also wearing a red Adidas Ada Trap

1688
01:13:19,360 --> 01:13:22,840
Speaker 3: dress and Compact boots and which sounds like a really

1689
01:13:22,880 --> 01:13:25,920
Speaker 3: trendy author right now, this is a fashion repizza that souff.

1690
01:13:26,760 --> 01:13:29,760
Speaker 4: Anyway, she said like they got alone and.

1691
01:13:29,880 --> 01:13:33,280
Speaker 3: Actually that jaw surprisingly with this gangster demeanor. Was a

1692
01:13:33,520 --> 01:13:34,519
Speaker 3: very sweet guy.

1693
01:13:34,880 --> 01:13:37,360
Speaker 6: And you know he used to draw a bathroom.

1694
01:13:37,479 --> 01:13:38,280
Speaker 4: He said, do you want me to.

1695
01:13:38,360 --> 01:13:41,599
Speaker 3: Run you a bath? Which I think is the sweetest

1696
01:13:41,680 --> 01:13:45,679
Speaker 3: thing I've ever heard of. Random horry happened, and never.

1697
01:13:45,760 --> 01:13:47,920
Speaker 5: In my adult life had anyone asked me if they

1698
01:13:47,960 --> 01:13:48,800
Speaker 5: can run me a bath.

1699
01:13:49,320 --> 01:13:51,160
Speaker 3: Okay, this is a real problem men.

1700
01:13:51,320 --> 01:13:53,679
Speaker 4: Again, this is the problem with women.

1701
01:13:53,720 --> 01:13:55,840
Speaker 5: And her seventeen year old self rejected the bath because

1702
01:13:55,840 --> 01:13:56,840
Speaker 5: she didn't appreciate it.

1703
01:13:56,920 --> 01:14:01,160
Speaker 3: She's like, no, I'm good anyway, I'm looking at the

1704
01:14:01,200 --> 01:14:01,840
Speaker 3: notes and quotes.

1705
01:14:01,880 --> 01:14:05,880
Speaker 4: Can I run you the bath? She declined, she.

1706
01:14:05,960 --> 01:14:07,200
Speaker 3: Was too young to appreciate.

1707
01:14:08,160 --> 01:14:09,799
Speaker 5: She really wrote that anyway.

1708
01:14:10,640 --> 01:14:11,599
Speaker 4: Ended up having sex.

1709
01:14:12,960 --> 01:14:15,880
Speaker 3: He ate the box, which is very good to know

1710
01:14:15,960 --> 01:14:17,560
Speaker 3: he's a real man. But now we know darl is

1711
01:14:17,560 --> 01:14:19,120
Speaker 3: a real man, no matter what happened between him and

1712
01:14:19,160 --> 01:14:23,240
Speaker 3: fifty cent, and they had sex and it was good,

1713
01:14:23,320 --> 01:14:26,040
Speaker 3: and she said the peanuts was nice and nice sized,

1714
01:14:26,640 --> 01:14:27,639
Speaker 3: and she slept over.

1715
01:14:27,920 --> 01:14:30,360
Speaker 4: They exchanged numbers and he even texted her that morning.

1716
01:14:30,520 --> 01:14:32,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, he had to leave on a six am flight.

1717
01:14:32,600 --> 01:14:35,000
Speaker 5: So she woke up and he was gone, and there

1718
01:14:35,080 --> 01:14:38,200
Speaker 5: was weed and everything scattered all over the room, and

1719
01:14:38,320 --> 01:14:41,479
Speaker 5: then she had to take that walk of shame. And apparently,

1720
01:14:41,560 --> 01:14:44,040
Speaker 5: because Mandila is such a small town or city, everybody

1721
01:14:44,080 --> 01:14:46,640
Speaker 5: knows everyone knows everyone. So she was walking in a

1722
01:14:46,720 --> 01:14:49,080
Speaker 5: twenty minute walk back to wherever the hell she was going,

1723
01:14:49,560 --> 01:14:53,040
Speaker 5: and her makeup was smeared everywhere, and she was wearing

1724
01:14:53,120 --> 01:14:56,320
Speaker 5: that bright red track shoes tracksuit with those combat boots

1725
01:14:56,360 --> 01:14:57,599
Speaker 5: at six am, walking through.

1726
01:14:57,520 --> 01:15:01,120
Speaker 3: Manila, And little did she know the ten years later

1727
01:15:01,439 --> 01:15:05,920
Speaker 3: her horror story would be live on our podcast as

1728
01:15:05,960 --> 01:15:07,880
Speaker 3: a celebrity horse story.

1729
01:15:08,640 --> 01:15:12,960
Speaker 5: So it's murder, win for you, win for you.

1730
01:15:14,920 --> 01:15:19,439
Speaker 3: Sorry, But she also said that there was no like

1731
01:15:19,760 --> 01:15:23,200
Speaker 3: significant like cookie monster sounds storing the sex, which is

1732
01:15:23,280 --> 01:15:24,760
Speaker 3: kind of disappointing because if I was doing it, I

1733
01:15:24,800 --> 01:15:27,280
Speaker 3: will hope he would say that it's murder, well I'm

1734
01:15:27,360 --> 01:15:27,960
Speaker 3: riding him or.

1735
01:15:27,960 --> 01:15:29,519
Speaker 5: Something, yeah, like put it on me.

1736
01:15:31,960 --> 01:15:35,639
Speaker 4: Ah you ellie, that's what I've definitely the game.

1737
01:15:39,120 --> 01:15:39,560
Speaker 5: I love it.

1738
01:15:40,439 --> 01:15:45,200
Speaker 3: Anyway, that concludes today's episode is gonna kill us.

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01:15:46,880 --> 01:15:48,920
Speaker 4: We're never doing an episode with one child president on

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Speaker 4: the other.

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Speaker 3: It never works. And if you have any real authentic

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Speaker 3: level ten Level ten is important horror stories, horries, please

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Speaker 3: write us you don't have to. That's your name.

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Speaker 4: We could be anonymous d m us.

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Speaker 3: Our email is Parental Advisory gm BC at gmail dot com.

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01:16:06,880 --> 01:16:09,400
Speaker 3: We have a website, you guys, and we just kind

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Speaker 3: of tweaked it.

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Speaker 4: It's kind of cute.

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Speaker 3: It's called ww dot Good Moms, Bad Choices dot com.

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Speaker 6: Www.

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Speaker 3: Oh whatever www dot does.

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Speaker 5: Anyone needs to ws anymore? Goodad Choices dot com.

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Speaker 3: Ship get on the line and put in WW. Just

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Speaker 3: get on the line and put W.

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Speaker 5: And make sure to subscribe to our podcast so that

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Speaker 5: you get alerts when our next episode comes on.

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Speaker 6: Make sure you follow us on Instagram us.

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Speaker 3: Good Moms Underscore Bad Choices.

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Speaker 5: We have a Twitter, but we ain't really bad active.

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Speaker 3: I'm working on we're working on our tweet game because

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Speaker 3: we're not againting. Oh we can't.

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Speaker 4: We can't keep up with so much, so many devices.

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Speaker 3: And also and also don't forget to submit music please

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Speaker 3: and submit topics as we're running out, and also your

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Speaker 3: whole stories. And also check us out on Thursday Thursday

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Speaker 3: because we get real naughty on the ground. Yeah bye,

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Speaker 3: I'll catch you next week. Next week I'll be thirty bye.

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Speaker 5: Put you go, you down my time Maybe just make

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Speaker 5: your b.

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Speaker 2: Bdy sip in the cody. Love the mall shutting. I

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Speaker 2: got some mall cheese, not with the eggs.