Speaker 1: Second d. When a guy's nervous for a first date,
Speaker 1: there are certain methods that he can use beforehand to
Speaker 1: help calm his nerves and boost his self confidence. Okay,
Speaker 1: you know, like you can go hit the gym, all right,
Speaker 1: that's a good one. Maybe get a haircut. That's nice too.
Speaker 1: I mean, girls are the same, We're on the same
Speaker 1: list right now. You guys take artificial pills too, No, no,
Speaker 1: or you can do what I do and watch replays
Speaker 1: of MTV spring Break two thousand and four on VHS. Oo. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like a fine wine Daytona Beach back then age as well?
Speaker 1: Does it? Oh yeah? But one of our listeners, Nate,
Speaker 1: has a different strategy that he uses to prepare for
Speaker 1: a big date. And I've never heard of this before.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you there's no way it's better than Daytona
Speaker 1: Beach two thousand and four. So telling me skeptical, but Nate,
Speaker 1: welcome to the show. Hey guys, Okay, I'm I'm intrigued,
Speaker 1: peaked my interest. What do you do before a date?
Speaker 1: Hold on, I need to know. We'll get to the
Speaker 1: pre date strategy in just a second. But first, once
Speaker 1: you tell us about the girl that you went out
Speaker 1: with what's her name? Carolyn? Carol Marlyn. I want to
Speaker 1: you know what I really care about, Nate right now?
Speaker 1: Where did you meet Carolyn? Though we met online? What
Speaker 1: struck you about her? Well, we had a lot in common.
Speaker 1: She's pretty, you know, not beautiful, but pretty. What's the difference.
Speaker 1: She's just like one notch under beautiful. That wasn't here
Speaker 1: you're pickup line on Tinder? But yeah, we met. Maybe
Speaker 1: he could say, yeah, a real catch trick. So why
Speaker 1: were you nervous for the date? I mean, Jeff said
Speaker 1: you did something to like comm your nerves. Why were
Speaker 1: you nervous if she was only pretty? I always get
Speaker 1: nervous for first dates, whether they're beautiful, pretty or cute? Okay,
Speaker 1: so cute's the lowest level ativeness, you know, I just
Speaker 1: know you pretty beautiful? Okay, I can't Yeah, let's let's
Speaker 1: just let's just assume that this is a very attractive
Speaker 1: woman that you went out with. And so tell us
Speaker 1: we said you were nervous. What is your pre date
Speaker 1: strategy to calm yourself? Oh? I just like to preload myself.
Speaker 1: What does that mean not to night? Uh? I think what? Like,
Speaker 1: you know, how people pre party like, I don't pre party.
Speaker 1: I I got loaded the night before so that I
Speaker 1: could be hung over on the day, so you could
Speaker 1: be hungover. Wait? Is that because like when you're hungover,
Speaker 1: you don't care about anything and you're at your absolute worst. Like,
Speaker 1: what what is the I don't understand the strategy here? Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: I don't get nervous about stuff when I'm hungover. I
Speaker 1: just you know th things. I just feel like I
Speaker 1: performed better. Is it so the night before the date
Speaker 1: you got wasted and then you woke up the next
Speaker 1: day hungover ready to go out? Exactly? I mean, looking
Speaker 1: at it, I'm assuming smelling like hell, well, I put
Speaker 1: on extra deodorant so I wouldn't smell. That's usually not
Speaker 1: gonna work. Well, it's all about how you feel, Brooke.
Speaker 1: It's not about how you look or smell. It's a
Speaker 1: feeling inside. And so did it work? Did she notice
Speaker 1: the smell or notice your booming confidence walking in hungover? Well?
Speaker 1: I also put on cologne as well as deodor Okay, alcohol,
Speaker 1: deodorant and cologne all mixed together. Oh, Nate, what was
Speaker 1: the first interaction? Like, let's you walk into the restaurant,
Speaker 1: She's there, how does that go? We just introduced ourselves, hugs,
Speaker 1: I pulled out her chair. Okay, No, we sat down
Speaker 1: and ordered dinner. Okay, okay. Did you get any vibe
Speaker 1: from her during that? Was she noticing your your aroma? No?
Speaker 1: I don't think she noticed anything. It was It was
Speaker 1: actually a flawless dinner, great conversation, good food, tons in common.
Speaker 1: We both loved dogs. You have more drinks to feel better?
Speaker 1: Or did you? Guys? Just were you about the booze? No?
Speaker 1: I kept it clean and you don't. Did you tell her?
Speaker 1: I mean, because you know obviously she's not calling you back,
Speaker 1: that's why you're on the phone with us. I mean,
Speaker 1: did you tell her like, oh, I'm so hungover? Like
Speaker 1: maybe it was like the party vibe. It was a
Speaker 1: turn off for her. Number one rule of getting preloaded.
Speaker 1: Did never tell anyone you're doing it? Yeah, they just
Speaker 1: have to figure it out from the sights and the smells. Dying.
Speaker 1: But it sounds like the date went really well according
Speaker 1: to you, that's amazing. How did it end? It ended
Speaker 1: with the cancer? It was lovely throw up? Yeah? Anything
Speaker 1: hung on? Don't do that makes you feel so much better.
Speaker 1: So why do you think you're not getting a call
Speaker 1: back after this. Then, Well, she had mentioned that she
Speaker 1: had a birthday coming up, and I wanted to do
Speaker 1: something for her. I didn't want to cross any lines
Speaker 1: or do anything like too crazy since we just met,
Speaker 1: but I shot up around and I got her a
Speaker 1: private SPA package and I just email it to her. Wow. Private,
Speaker 1: it's on the line of over the time, right only
Speaker 1: because you're getting naked and getting rubbed down, like I
Speaker 1: just I know, but it's still like that's the thought
Speaker 1: behind me. For sure. Even if I wasn't going to
Speaker 1: go out with him again, I'd probably take it. So
Speaker 1: we all have our opinions on that gift. What did
Speaker 1: Carolyn think when you sent it to her? I could
Speaker 1: she was excited. That's a very good Okay, so has
Speaker 1: she gone to the spa day yet? She went, But
Speaker 1: she didn't thank me for it, you know, And like
Speaker 1: I was worried that maybe something strange had happened. But
Speaker 1: like the place had really good reviews. It didn't seem
Speaker 1: like one of those places that you hear about on
Speaker 1: the news. That's what I I made an appointment at
Speaker 1: one of those spats once and then I went and
Speaker 1: read the Yelp reviews, and the last one was from
Speaker 1: a granddaughter who sent her eighty five year old grandpa
Speaker 1: there and it was I canceled. So you're saying that
Speaker 1: she never thanked you at all. Yeah, she never officially
Speaker 1: thanked me. We texted back and forth and she said, yeah,
Speaker 1: it was good, but this felt the vibe was kind
Speaker 1: of lost. Sounds like she was just accepting the present
Speaker 1: without any thought of maybe wanting to go out with you,
Speaker 1: or maybe she was hoping it was one of those
Speaker 1: shady massage places and was disappointed. It was so nice. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I really relaxed. That's it. Well, let's find out. We're
Speaker 1: gonna play a song, we'll come back, we'll call Carolyn
Speaker 1: for you, and we'll try and get your second date update.
Speaker 1: All right, Nate, all right, thanks, all right, hold on
Speaker 1: if you're just joining us. One of our listeners at
Speaker 1: Nate went out on a great date with a woman
Speaker 1: named Carolyn the other night, and the reason it went
Speaker 1: so well, according to him, is because he got preloaded,
Speaker 1: which apparently means getting trashed the night before. I've never
Speaker 1: heard of that where you purposefully show up to a
Speaker 1: date hungover to try and ease the nerves because most
Speaker 1: people I know, including myself, are just complete garbage when
Speaker 1: they're hung over. I am worthless. I canceled dates when
Speaker 1: I hung over. Yeah, well, there's a few single people
Speaker 1: on this show who maybe should give it a try.
Speaker 1: You're right, actually should follow through that. I'm usually wasted
Speaker 1: on the date exactly. Just fast forward a little. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you gotta start much sooner. And I know this sounds
Speaker 1: a little bit strange, but it did work for Nate.
Speaker 1: In fact, he got a kiss at the end of
Speaker 1: the night, and afterwards he sent Carolyn a private SPA
Speaker 1: package as a birthday present. Does a hangover kiss sound awful?
Speaker 1: I don't know, kid. Yeah, I'll take any kiss personally. Okay,
Speaker 1: I guess I would do. But since then, Carolyn's been
Speaker 1: difficult to reach and Nate, I never even asked you.
Speaker 1: Did you get preloaded yesterday in preparation for this phone call?
Speaker 1: Number one rule of preloading never tell anyone you're doing it. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I forgot the rules. I will say, you are pretty
Speaker 1: low energy, Rachel. It doesn't sound nervous at all of those,
Speaker 1: so it's working. So the one thing I didn't get, Nate,
Speaker 1: I mean, you want to go out with her again,
Speaker 1: or you're mad at her for not thanking you for
Speaker 1: the SPA package. I want to go out with her again.
Speaker 1: I just think that her not thinking me might be
Speaker 1: an indication of her not liking me or something. Okay,
Speaker 1: most be static. Yeah, it's possible that she's preloading though,
Speaker 1: to accept your date the second time around. She's maybe nervous.
Speaker 1: Now that's There's only one way to find out, and
Speaker 1: that's by calling her number. You're ready to do this? Yes,
Speaker 1: I hope she's slurring when we pick up. We're going
Speaker 1: to give it a shot. I'm dialing it right now.
Speaker 1: Here we go, Hello, No, no, no, Yeah, Hey, is
Speaker 1: this is this Carolin? Who is this? My name's jeff
Speaker 1: from the radio show Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 1: We're doing something called a second date update. What's this about?
Speaker 1: This is about somebody that you went on a date
Speaker 1: with recently. He's a friend of our show, and afterwards
Speaker 1: he's been having a hard time getting ahold of you.
Speaker 1: His name's Nate. Ah me, that was weird. No, now
Speaker 1: I want to hear what happened from your perspective? What
Speaker 1: was weird? Yeah, you're saying Nate was weird or the
Speaker 1: date was weird? I mean, I liked him. The date
Speaker 1: was great, We had an awesome time. We had a
Speaker 1: lot of fun. It's just after it got really strange.
Speaker 1: Was it too much? I mean he told us that
Speaker 1: he sent you that birthday gift, like the spa package.
Speaker 1: Was that like over the top for you? No? Actually
Speaker 1: I love that. Like, I thought it was really sweet
Speaker 1: that he remembered my birthday and that means a lot
Speaker 1: to me that he was listening. Oh, what is the
Speaker 1: part that made you say the F word? So I
Speaker 1: went to the spa and I was super excited to
Speaker 1: have this nice, luxurious spa day and everything went amazing.
Speaker 1: And then I come out and they said, so can
Speaker 1: you pay? And I was like, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: This is a gift And they handed me a bill
Speaker 1: of two hundred and fifty dollars. Oh nice? So wait,
Speaker 1: did he only make you an appointment? He didn't buy
Speaker 1: the package? They said it was booked, but he didn't pay.
Speaker 1: Oh that's amazing, happy birthday? Yeah? What the was that? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Did you have a nice time? Though? It's nice he
Speaker 1: got you in for a and I'm not sorry. It's
Speaker 1: kind of funny. I'm sure maybe he didn't realize. Yeah,
Speaker 1: are you saying you think that he didn't pay on purpose?
Speaker 1: I don't know what it was. But on top of that,
Speaker 1: I had to tips I wanted to spending three hundred
Speaker 1: dollars on myself for my birthday. Oh well, you know
Speaker 1: what they say when it seems too good to be true. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he usually is. Well, there's a chance that Nate doesn't
Speaker 1: even know that he didn't pay, right, did you tell him?
Speaker 1: I just left it alone at that point. It was
Speaker 1: too awkward. Yeah. Yeah, no, I would just be like, hey,
Speaker 1: you forgot to pay this. No. No, I would have said, hey,
Speaker 1: you may want to check your bank statement because they
Speaker 1: charged me for the spa day. I just want to
Speaker 1: make sure you didn't get double charged. Oh that's smarty,
Speaker 1: thank you. Yeah. That would have been a good idea
Speaker 1: if we had done this for an awkward Tuesday. Yeah,
Speaker 1: then it would have worked. But we didn't, did we No,
Speaker 1: we didn't. Well here's the thing, Carolyn, I don't even
Speaker 1: know if Nate realizes that he didn't pre pay for
Speaker 1: the massage. I don't know. It just feels to me
Speaker 1: like something you should have handled. Well, maybe we could
Speaker 1: ask him if he knew, because he's actually on the
Speaker 1: other line listening and he wants to talk to you, Carolyn.
Speaker 1: He is just sounding pretty stressed. You might need another
Speaker 1: massage soon, But no, I'm serious. Didn't you there? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm here? Oh God, did you Carol? Carolyn? I am
Speaker 1: so sorry? Oh so you you heard what she said
Speaker 1: about the SPA. Yeah. I thought that I had paid
Speaker 1: for it. I thought it was all taking care of
Speaker 1: it clearly. Did you put your credit card information in? Yeah? No,
Speaker 1: I thought it was just automatic. It's automatic. You just
Speaker 1: think it and then you get and then it's paid for.
Speaker 1: I mean that'd be nice to think that way, But
Speaker 1: how could you not think of something like that? Nay,
Speaker 1: are you lying? Are you lying because you got caught
Speaker 1: or have you never before? Honestly I have not. But
Speaker 1: I just messed up, Like I really did mean to
Speaker 1: pay for it. I mean the thought was nice. Just
Speaker 1: I don't understand how you mess that one up. I mean,
Speaker 1: do you want to pay for it now? Oh? I
Speaker 1: mean yeah, like it sound like it. Did you know
Speaker 1: it was going to be like three hundred bucks? Nate? No?
Speaker 1: I mean do you want to split it? Oh? You
Speaker 1: want to sign up for a financial packet. Were you
Speaker 1: preloading when you booked this? That's a good question. That
Speaker 1: is a good question. I probably should have been what
Speaker 1: is preloading? Oh? Yeah, yeah, you want to take this
Speaker 1: preludings when you get real hammered the night before an
Speaker 1: important event, so that you're hungover and just relax. Doesn't
Speaker 1: that sound lovely? Who needs a spa when you can preload?
Speaker 1: Why would you want to do that? No? The point
Speaker 1: is because if you're nervous, it helps ease your nerves
Speaker 1: when you're hungover, according to him, According to call, having
Speaker 1: a glass of wine? Maybe yeah, well yeah, six classes
Speaker 1: of wine? Yeah? Exactly where are we? Are we worried
Speaker 1: about preloading? Now? Are you getting your money back? I
Speaker 1: don't know, boy, I feel like I want to preload though, Well,
Speaker 1: do you want to hang out again? Do you want
Speaker 1: to go on another date? You just asked me if
Speaker 1: I want to pay for half of my spot pocket
Speaker 1: that was supposed to be a birthday gift? Yes, well,
Speaker 1: techn me a half off a birthday page. Yeah, if
Speaker 1: you guys go out again, then Nate can actually show
Speaker 1: you how to properly preload turn it into a date. No,
Speaker 1: you don't get someone a birthday gift and then ask
Speaker 1: if you want to cover half. That's tacky you asked before, say, hey,
Speaker 1: I would love to buy you a spot package if
Speaker 1: you'd like to go halves on it. That's different than
Speaker 1: after great and Nate. If you couldn't afford the three
Speaker 1: hundred dollars, man, that's fine. She wasn't asking for it, Like,
Speaker 1: why didn't you get her something else? Then? Just don't
Speaker 1: get it at all? Right, like a nice bouquet of flowers.
Speaker 1: I'm sure would have been super appreciated. Yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: next time. You know. Look, here's the thing I don't
Speaker 1: know about who's going to pay for that massage? But
Speaker 1: the way that these second date updates work is that
Speaker 1: we offer to pay for the next date. Yeah. So, Carolyn,
Speaker 1: with that being said, would you like to go out
Speaker 1: with Nate one more time? The bill will be on us.
Speaker 1: From the way he answered about splitting the spot package,
Speaker 1: I just that rubs me the wrong way. But that's
Speaker 1: sober Nate talking. You need to go out with pretty low.
Speaker 1: He's the charmer, and you still want one hundred and
Speaker 1: fifty bucks, don't you? I mean no, I don't even
Speaker 1: want his money at this point, like, I'm fine, don't
Speaker 1: want money. I think we can also split the tip
Speaker 1: on top of that too, if you well, are you
Speaker 1: already are you cheap? I mean either, it's fine. We
Speaker 1: just need to know. There's a lot going on right now.
Speaker 1: I just don't feel great because the last night, Hey,
Speaker 1: what are you doing? Rule number one of preloaded. We
Speaker 1: don't talk about what happened when you preloaded. I didn't preload.
Speaker 1: I just got baked much better. Better. It's broken Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the morning.