Speaker 1: Find down with Janey Cramer and Michael Coffin, and I'm
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Speaker 2: And and I just feel like I'm already assumed the role,
Speaker 2: so let's just keep going. I know, she, I know it,
Speaker 2: said Sarah grets And you're like not the only person
Speaker 2: to do that. So that's why it's so funny that.
Speaker 3: I just, oh, God, thank you for the vibes. Thank
Speaker 3: you for putting on in the universe. Anyone who's ever
Speaker 3: met me that put me in their phone is Sarah Gretzky.
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Speaker 1: Hi.
Speaker 2: We're in La. This is fun. I'm so happy you
Speaker 2: guys are here. It is And by the way, we're
Speaker 2: working out the technical issues about the microphones in Nashville.
Speaker 2: We know that it's been a little challenging, but we
Speaker 2: are working on it.
Speaker 1: We're figuring it out.
Speaker 2: I know, I'm happy that we're all sitting here. But
Speaker 2: this is so fun to be back in La. I know,
Speaker 2: although I'm a little sad to be away from the babies,
Speaker 2: of course, but you're not.
Speaker 1: I'm kid. No which has changed the plans before. No, no, okay,
Speaker 1: it was like nine o'clock at night, We're finishing up,
Speaker 1: getting ready to go to bed with early flight, and
Speaker 1: she was like, you know what can we bring Joe
Speaker 1: Link She has some music gigs this weekend too. She's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: because she can come with me. But I'm like no, no,
Speaker 1: she says no. I'm like, who's gonna watch her? Sai Michelle,
Speaker 1: our old nanny. Yeah, here in a I'm like no.
Speaker 1: I'm like, let's go and be kidless.
Speaker 2: This is good for you, guys.
Speaker 1: Honestly it is.
Speaker 2: I don't think so, because after this we have therapy
Speaker 2: and we're not great right now. Oh god, It's.
Speaker 1: Like really, as a producer, me fooled.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, the Nashville water is just
Speaker 2: running through their systems. They're like amazing.
Speaker 1: Dana's not the only one that connect. Oh.
Speaker 2: I was kind of kidding, But.
Speaker 3: Then I guess this is not a good time to
Speaker 3: ask you on wedding advice. So let's just get into that.
Speaker 2: I will say I have something I want to talk
Speaker 2: to you about.
Speaker 1: I'm scared, let's hear it.
Speaker 2: Let's hear it, because my feelings kind of got hurt.
Speaker 3: Oh, I know where we're going, and I was waiting,
Speaker 3: but okay, no, but because you said you didn't have
Speaker 3: many friends and I never expected to be a bridesmaid ever.
Speaker 3: Oh like ever in a million years, yeah, ever, ever, ever,
Speaker 3: Like I really truly want you to know that, Like
Speaker 3: I never actually like thought I was going to be.
Speaker 3: But when you said we don't have any friends, I
Speaker 3: was like, I'm your friend, I thought, and that like
Speaker 3: hurt my feelings.
Speaker 2: I just want to say, but you don't live here
Speaker 2: in La. I met, like, we don't have friends in
Speaker 2: La Like still the same thing. No, no, no no,
Speaker 2: but I mean, like on a Friday night, Tyane, I
Speaker 2: aren't like you were talking about your like party and
Speaker 2: you're like, we don't have any friends. Yeah, like you
Speaker 2: are my friend.
Speaker 3: So I guess I'll do this over the air, which
Speaker 3: I was going to ask you, But have you ever
Speaker 3: heard of house parties? It's a Southern thing, Okay, So
Speaker 3: I'm having a house party and I want you to
Speaker 3: be in my house party. I had a whole little
Speaker 3: package and like a letter and a little thing I
Speaker 3: was sending to your house.
Speaker 2: But I'll just ask you now and then you can
Speaker 2: get it at your house.
Speaker 1: What do you mean?
Speaker 2: So do you want to be my house party? It's like,
Speaker 2: don't understand. Okay, it's very honestly, it depends.
Speaker 3: So like a house party is most people prefer a
Speaker 3: house party because you don't have to do the dumb
Speaker 3: bridesmaid Okay.
Speaker 2: So like house party will like get ready to no
Speaker 2: because I mean for me, like I hate being a bridesmaid.
Speaker 2: Like sorry to people whose weddings I've been in.
Speaker 3: Second no, I mean, don't have you been in a
Speaker 3: you had a like a very interesting experience, like you
Speaker 3: had to travel far for that one, weren't you?
Speaker 2: Ad was? I was?
Speaker 1: No, that was amazing?
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah yeah, I like I don't know what
Speaker 2: it is is I and then I got I was
Speaker 2: another maid of honor for my friend Lisa. But besides that,
Speaker 2: that's it.
Speaker 3: So I've been a bridesmaid quite a few times, and
Speaker 3: it's just like kind of like I felt bad when
Speaker 3: I asked my bridesmaids to be I felt bad, which
Speaker 3: is we because I just know that it's like they're
Speaker 3: paying for a lot. They're paying for well, uh, they're.
Speaker 2: Paying for a lot, and I don't care whatever is.
Speaker 1: I'd love to be a part.
Speaker 3: Okay, so you are going to be a part of it.
Speaker 3: So like you're gonna get ready with me. Sorry, so
Speaker 3: you're like you are, so a house party is going
Speaker 3: to be like you and like three of my other girlfriends.
Speaker 1: Yay.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I kind of you when the day of yes,
Speaker 3: and like you do all the other So like if
Speaker 3: you there's showers, I mean you don't live here, but
Speaker 3: like if you want to fly in for showers, like
Speaker 3: you're a part of everything, except for you don't have
Speaker 3: to wear the ugly dress, which like we know my
Speaker 3: dress won't be ugly, and you don't have to walk
Speaker 3: down the aisle.
Speaker 2: I mean, I just I love you either way. I
Speaker 2: wasn't like trying to know you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: But it was just like the FRA. I was just
Speaker 2: like I thought we were friends, not because I know
Speaker 2: you're coming on like you're involved in.
Speaker 3: Every way, Okay, except for Jill called me the night
Speaker 3: before and be like I don't want to leave Julie.
Speaker 2: I know, I totally got out of my last one
Speaker 2: and I didn't mean to. I just was like I
Speaker 2: missed my kids and so I left. It was just
Speaker 2: the Vegas, I know. No, I was just like I mean,
Speaker 2: granted I had like a twelve week old Yeah, that's different,
Speaker 2: and I feel like it's different. I don't maybe even
Speaker 2: younger than that. I think he was younger.
Speaker 1: I think he was like eight werette.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like I love it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think Cabo because Ty wants to go like skiing, Yeah,
Speaker 3: the month everything, just like he wants to go skied.
Speaker 2: Well, what can I help plan since I'm I mean,
Speaker 2: you've actually already done like a lot things like you
Speaker 2: really have. I had like all these questions last night.
Speaker 2: I was like so stressed.
Speaker 3: It's like up all night trying to find a freaking videographer.
Speaker 3: A videographer. It's very important.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 3: That's what everyone says. That's why I'm really stressed, almost
Speaker 3: better than the pictures. No, you guys are like the
Speaker 3: fifth couple to tell me that. So it's putting a
Speaker 3: lot of pressure.
Speaker 2: Were you really involved in wedding planning ours? Yeah? Like
Speaker 2: did you not like in a meet like some guys
Speaker 2: just like don't care, Like did you care about.
Speaker 1: Because Janet wanted to Elope? You did? Wait?
Speaker 2: What I did not want a wedding? That's shocking because
Speaker 2: of how much you love planning. I love. I think
Speaker 2: in my next life, I want to be a wedding plan,
Speaker 2: No one, Mike and I have already like created your
Speaker 2: company for you. Absolutely, Wait you want why did you
Speaker 2: want to Elope?
Speaker 1: Because it was the third Okay, No, I didn't mean
Speaker 1: it that way. That was part of it.
Speaker 2: Not really what I said was that. Okay, For those
Speaker 2: that don't know my history, the first one I went
Speaker 2: through a drive through in Vegas' count doesn't count at all.
Speaker 2: It wasn't a wedding second one. Yes, it was a
Speaker 2: beautiful day, Jonathan, lovely, beautiful day. But I just I
Speaker 2: realized how expensive weddings are, how stressful they can be,
Speaker 2: and how it can tear families.
Speaker 1: Apart, check check, check.
Speaker 2: Wedding, and so I just was like, let's I found
Speaker 2: the one I want to be with. It's not about
Speaker 2: the wedding and the dress. I just want to go
Speaker 2: with you. But he wanted the wedding, so you wanted
Speaker 2: the wedding he did did, No, it's just totally I mean,
Speaker 2: Ty is like ready to party, So I get that.
Speaker 1: Right, I did, And that's and that's the thing. But again,
Speaker 1: from what I was saying, it was your third time,
Speaker 1: But I wasn't saying that from a bad place.
Speaker 2: It was but I didn't have a third wedding though
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that.
Speaker 1: I'm saying you've experienced.
Speaker 3: Like you didn't think she would be What can happen
Speaker 3: with the first one? No one knew I was married,
Speaker 3: so that doesn't count regardless.
Speaker 1: You had gone down that path in some way. It's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. If you had never never been married,
Speaker 1: never been any any of that you're telling me when
Speaker 1: we got together and we decided to get married, you'd
Speaker 1: be like, no, I still want to lope.
Speaker 2: No, But if I'm not, I'm not that kind of
Speaker 2: like what the wedding wasn't my thing?
Speaker 1: It was never really regardless, this was I I really
Speaker 1: you wanted the wedding.
Speaker 2: I guess what did family issues? That happened?
Speaker 1: You know we had to pay for ourselves.
Speaker 2: Yep, well, I mean obviously because I think in this
Speaker 2: dand age like my family.
Speaker 1: Like you know, I'm not saying talking about your points
Speaker 1: of it's expensive.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, so all the things that you are afraid
Speaker 3: of having like actually absolutely happened.
Speaker 2: Having said that, it was the most beautiful day ever.
Speaker 2: I know your picture is a flawless but our video
Speaker 2: is the most stunning thing. Ever, I want to see it.
Speaker 2: So that's it on the web. No, probably, oh it is,
Speaker 2: I think I think it is. Oh yeah it is.
Speaker 2: I mean it's it's it's beautiful. It makes me sad,
Speaker 2: but it's beautiful. Yeah. But for your wedding, it's going
Speaker 2: to be absolutely stunning. I cannot wait. I'm just privileged
Speaker 2: to be invited. Oh shut up, No, I really am.
Speaker 2: Like you're like a really good friend, like this is
Speaker 2: not you're like still still. It's kind of like hurts
Speaker 2: love it when you say really good. Oh my god,
Speaker 2: oh my god, I can't win. It's funny when I
Speaker 2: now I know how Mike, I know. No, I mean
Speaker 2: it's funny.
Speaker 1: Because no matter what you say now it's what you
Speaker 1: said first, doesn't don't hear anything.
Speaker 2: But what is crazy that you say that is it's
Speaker 2: so funny because Ty and I were talking and okay,
Speaker 2: it's been seven years. There were so many people who
Speaker 2: were like very much involved. You're one, two, and three
Speaker 2: that are like there's not a chance that they're there,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, So like you came in
Speaker 2: at a really great time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it is crazy here because like we were
Speaker 3: talking about that and I was like, oh, that sucks
Speaker 3: for a lot of people who like were really in
Speaker 3: it with us in the beginning, and then you know,
Speaker 3: like times change, things change, and I just haven't kept
Speaker 3: in touch.
Speaker 2: And yeah, what's your biggest fear with the wedding?
Speaker 3: My biggest fear, Well, I can't really say it without
Speaker 3: giving away something. I'll say, weather, Okay, yeah, I mean
Speaker 3: there's going to be weather everywhere, but I'm like especially
Speaker 3: stressed on people maybe getting stre things. Yes, because the
Speaker 3: weather could be really bad there. It could, Yeah, it
Speaker 3: could at that time. I will walk there if I have.
Speaker 3: And the guy was like telling me and I was like, listen,
Speaker 3: I don't even care, like because he was like.
Speaker 2: You know the what and I'm like, I don't care.
Speaker 2: It'll be great. Here's my passage. Yeah, but that's which
Speaker 2: is something I don't know that's normal or not to
Speaker 2: care about the weather, but.
Speaker 1: It's probably the most Yeah, it's literally the most normal.
Speaker 3: Because I'm a control freak and I feel like I
Speaker 3: can control. I obviously want everyone to have fun. I
Speaker 3: want it to be like an experience, but I feel
Speaker 3: like I'll be able to handle that.
Speaker 2: But like, that's something I just.
Speaker 1: Have no control over. You can't. That's why you just
Speaker 1: you know, if you just don't try to control it,
Speaker 1: it'll be great.
Speaker 2: I've already just kind of like put that out there.
Speaker 2: I'm curious how many dads still pay for weddings, Mark,
Speaker 2: because you have two daughters. You've got two daughters. Is
Speaker 2: that something that you think about.
Speaker 4: Yes, that's something I've thought about. College is more in
Speaker 4: the forefront.
Speaker 2: But yeah, Thomas Rhett just like she was so funny.
Speaker 3: He was like, well, I'm going to be paying for
Speaker 3: three weddings now or something because that was so cute.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know you would.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I mean, is it is that
Speaker 2: still a thing?
Speaker 4: Well, we got married, the family split it all up
Speaker 4: kind of her parents, my parents, her grandparents, wow, all
Speaker 4: kind and then us we kind of split everything four ways.
Speaker 2: I don't know, Like the rule is rehearsal dinner. Rehearsal
Speaker 2: dinner is usually the husbands.
Speaker 1: Family, and then the day is supposed to be the brides.
Speaker 2: Fan bride family. But I mean, my you know, my
Speaker 2: I could never ask I could never ask my dad
Speaker 2: for yeah, you know, because I'm like I've been on
Speaker 2: my own now, working for a while I'm older, and yeah,
Speaker 2: you know not, I don't know. I think it's all
Speaker 2: about But again I would I mean, what do you
Speaker 2: think for for Jolie, I mean just me.
Speaker 1: And my old school. I feel like I plan on
Speaker 1: that we will pay for Joey's wedding, especially.
Speaker 2: Because you have one. I mean maybe if you like
Speaker 2: that's the thing that you have my daughters. Yeah, my
Speaker 2: dad had five daughters, and that's just something where you
Speaker 2: just kind of put it away and it's like you
Speaker 2: just kind of bit it and I'm like I'm the
Speaker 2: last one. I'm like, oh no, but yeah, yeah, yeah no.
Speaker 2: But there are things that I was like, special things, special.
Speaker 3: Extras that I'm like, ill, I'm gonna do myself, like
Speaker 3: what mm things for maybe like I don't know what
Speaker 3: I'm wearing or I don't know, but yeah, so excited.
Speaker 1: So I am.
Speaker 2: So excited.
Speaker 1: See, I was gonna have like the diamond from Titanic
Speaker 1: around her neck.
Speaker 2: Like a Princess Diana crown. No, I won't be wearing
Speaker 2: a crown. I won't.
Speaker 3: I'm not wearing a crown for anyone, wear up or down? Undecided, nided,
Speaker 3: I can't. Probably I'm a dancer. Okay, I'm gonna need
Speaker 3: like a pony tail down for down. Yeah, I'm sure,
Speaker 3: I'm sure both.
Speaker 2: I think most brides like do the half up like
Speaker 2: towards them after the ceremony. Maybe I'm gonna need just
Speaker 2: like full bun. I'm gonna need like a sweaty headband
Speaker 2: working on it. Oh yeah, that's so weird.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 2: I'm so irritated inside inside knowledge.
Speaker 1: That I highly recommend it.
Speaker 3: I think you should, yeah, because I feel like, because
Speaker 3: I'm such a dancer, I definitely have to change.
Speaker 2: I can't be like lugging around like a situation all night.
Speaker 2: I went to the hospital the day of my wedding.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry that for.
Speaker 1: I was sick. My dad took her to the hospital.
Speaker 2: I couldn't breathe. I had you had like I need
Speaker 2: to have a breathing treatment. Was it like an anxiety
Speaker 2: attacker had brochitis? Oh? I had to get a breathing
Speaker 2: treatment because I woke up and I got to change
Speaker 2: my mind. That's my biggest fear. Oh my god, I
Speaker 2: cannot be sick. Oh my god. I need to call
Speaker 2: like Oprah's doctors and I need to get like the
Speaker 2: whole works. Yeah, oh no, that would be horrible.
Speaker 1: A picture of her and my dad. I got the
Speaker 1: hospital that was so nice.
Speaker 2: I was like, I can't breathe. That's wild. By the way,
Speaker 2: and I was pregnant, so I was like hopped up
Speaker 2: on all his medicine. Yeah, I had no idea.
Speaker 1: We found out a month later.
Speaker 3: Yea, like technically, oh wow, pregnant, you will be getting
Speaker 3: drunk at my wedding. By the way, now not happening,
Speaker 3: cruise happening.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get hammered. No, like it's Halloween story from great.
Speaker 2: I already had this conversation with.
Speaker 1: Myself get hammered, So don't book.
Speaker 2: I don't like daddy hammered because Daddy hammered, Like in
Speaker 2: a cab, then mommy get hammered. Remember with the cab
Speaker 2: in New York. Then the cab in New York. You
Speaker 2: were like, and he's falling in the I'm like, this
Speaker 2: is my night. This We were at a club and drunk.
Speaker 2: It was in Nashville. Let's cal mm down, like it
Speaker 2: was a good sees or something. And we got in
Speaker 2: the cab and you were so drunk you were falling,
Speaker 2: and you're like, can you tell the cab driver stop stopping.
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, honey, if you stop stopping, we are
Speaker 2: going to die. No, it's happening. And and no, he's
Speaker 2: gonna have good time and so are you. Can you
Speaker 2: be happy drunk? Happy drunk? He does this dance? You know. No,
Speaker 2: I already was like.
Speaker 3: Thinking about it myself. I was like, Okay, this is
Speaker 3: going to be night. Like I'm gonna literally get her drunk.
Speaker 3: You don't have to be throwing up and on the
Speaker 3: spins and all that, but like, I feel like, how
Speaker 3: can you not?
Speaker 2: I just want to enjoy it, Like I want to
Speaker 2: be able to remember my conversation with Wayne. I want
Speaker 2: to be remember like the day, you know, I want
Speaker 2: to remember you well and seeing how beautiful you look
Speaker 2: and there were photos. I just I feel like it
Speaker 2: will be my mission to get her drunk, you.
Speaker 1: And me both, we'll team up.
Speaker 2: Your mission is combined the most amazing day. No, it
Speaker 2: will be excited about it. I'm excited. We're going to
Speaker 2: talk more, but first let's take a quick break.
Speaker 1: Interesting topic, okay, and you and I kind of have
Speaker 1: different points of view on this. We're flying this morning,
Speaker 1: and what's your take on reclining your seat etiquette. Oh
Speaker 1: I actually love this topic. I've been meaning to talk
Speaker 1: about this and it's something that I feel very passionate.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, no, I'm so excited. So it literally
Speaker 3: makes my skin and crawl when ty leans all the way.
Speaker 2: Back, it makes my wait, you lean back? Time tired,
Speaker 2: time out. Let's let's just talk about this. A lean backer.
Speaker 2: It's one inch that it leans back. Okay, so I'm
Speaker 2: not friking, Okay.
Speaker 1: One in is about the leg room that we had.
Speaker 3: I just don't understand how it's that much more comfortable.
Speaker 3: I guess because it's an it's to me, I'm like, like,
Speaker 3: it doesn't do anything. But one time, this lady was
Speaker 3: hitting TI and so I'm kind of traumatized because she
Speaker 3: was an older lady and she was really upset that
Speaker 3: he had a seat back, and she kept kicking it
Speaker 3: and kicking it, and finally she stands up and looks
Speaker 3: at him and was like, put.
Speaker 2: Your seat up. Why though, why put your seat up? You? You?
Speaker 2: I agree with you on that, but that just scared
Speaker 2: me from then on. So I'm like, no, but I
Speaker 2: don't know, you're not allowed to recline your seat then
Speaker 2: I guess I'm confirmed.
Speaker 1: Must I'm not saying. I'm not saying. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: you're not allowed to. I'm just saying me personally, I
Speaker 1: feel bad for the person to tell me. Someone in
Speaker 1: front of me, you know how I act. Sometimes I'm
Speaker 1: like stiff arming there started to go back on.
Speaker 2: The only thing I hate is when you have and
Speaker 2: then you're tall. Oh yeah, you're tall.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that you're small in every no matter what airline,
Speaker 1: no matter what seat we're in, everything is first class.
Speaker 2: You're discriminating my smallness.
Speaker 1: Everything's first class for you. You're discriminate my height. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm saying it's etiquette. It's like, you know, we're all
Speaker 1: cramped in they were trying to get from point A
Speaker 1: to point B. Let's just get there as comfortably as
Speaker 1: we can. And the best way to do that is
Speaker 1: I want to just keep your seat up, respect the
Speaker 1: people around you.
Speaker 2: That's like taking shoes class.
Speaker 1: I just told you about when I was fine first class.
Speaker 1: Like we a week or so ago coming back from somewhere,
Speaker 1: and as soon as we got on the plane, I'm
Speaker 1: talking sat down, not even in the air Both people
Speaker 1: in front of me were that's straight back, and the
Speaker 1: flight attendant even time to put it up. I was
Speaker 1: always that person. Yeah, so which there's a there's a
Speaker 1: whole nother story.
Speaker 2: I can't with this in studio side off right now.
Speaker 1: So I'm just I'm saying, it's just like first class
Speaker 1: is a little different cause you have more room. Okay, whatever,
Speaker 1: even I'll do it then with this fume far between
Speaker 1: who we are? So am I the only one that
Speaker 1: mark let's hear.
Speaker 4: Unless it's a red eye, I'll lean back on a
Speaker 4: red Otherwise, never lean my step back because I find
Speaker 4: it rude to the people behind me, and I feel
Speaker 4: like it's rude to me when the person in front
Speaker 4: of me does it.
Speaker 1: Yes, but you bought that seat, yeah right, so I
Speaker 1: don't want someone leaning back in my lap.
Speaker 2: To lean back and be a little bit more.
Speaker 3: The only time it really matters is like Southwest, when
Speaker 3: it's when there's like there's no other where to go,
Speaker 3: Like you can't pay for extual leg room there you
Speaker 3: can't pay for So that's when I'm like, I feel bad,
Speaker 3: and I'm just.
Speaker 4: Like, it is my choice if want to be rude
Speaker 4: to the person behind me.
Speaker 2: Rude though that's the thing I do. But you know
Speaker 2: what we're for flying, we're all uncomfortable. Is it?
Speaker 1: Four to one?
Speaker 5: I've never ever leaned my seat.
Speaker 1: This, get this.
Speaker 5: I don't think there's a problem with it. Like people
Speaker 5: in front of me doing it doesn't bother me. But
Speaker 5: I've always been too nervous. And then one time I
Speaker 5: was like, I'm doing this, I'm doing it, and it
Speaker 5: didn't work.
Speaker 1: It was broken.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm just never going to do this that
Speaker 2: I just don't do it. But then when someone does
Speaker 2: it to me, then I'm irritated. But I just kind
Speaker 2: of I just don't know how. It's not much more comfortable.
Speaker 2: I mean it is a little bit more, you know,
Speaker 2: because you're not sitting straight up. And I usually have
Speaker 2: worked out, but you know, I haven't done it. One
Speaker 2: time because there was this really tall country guy behind me,
Speaker 2: very tall, and him and his wife were fighting and
Speaker 2: he kept hitting my seat and I was so terrified
Speaker 2: to lean back that I stayed up the entire flight, honestly.
Speaker 3: And you don't know how people are going to be
Speaker 3: on flights like I get like, you know, sometimes it's
Speaker 3: a bad day and relationships.
Speaker 1: Videos on the news of people getting kicked off the plane.
Speaker 2: So am I supposed to not put my seat back anymore,
Speaker 2: even though I paid for my seat and it's my
Speaker 2: seat and I can do it. You want about that talks,
Speaker 2: because that's there's the thing. I don't talk on the
Speaker 2: plane unless's Sarah.
Speaker 1: What about that the loud talker.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's talk about that person that's rude to me,
Speaker 2: the loud talker, especially the person the loud guy. Then
Speaker 2: I was flying a red Eye the other night, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, if you're talking to sleep, it is a
Speaker 2: red Eye. I wanted to say that so inappropriate. There's
Speaker 2: just like social cues. So I'm like, how does that like?
Speaker 2: So I'm not the loud talker. I'm the lean backer. Okay,
Speaker 2: loud talker. Since we're on it, let's just keep going.
Speaker 2: And then I got trouble one time for playing cards
Speaker 2: on a plane that my girlfriends got in trouble for
Speaker 2: playing cards. Okay, that's we were shuffling too. Do you
Speaker 2: take your shoes off?
Speaker 1: Yes, it depends if it's if it's a long like yeah,
Speaker 1: if I have socks on shore. If it's a red eye,
Speaker 1: that's that's actually yeah, that's the only time, I will
Speaker 1: if it's a red Eye, and usually it's.
Speaker 2: If we're fortunate, Michael, I'll take my shoes off. If
Speaker 2: I'm next to a stranger, I will not take my
Speaker 2: shoes off.
Speaker 1: If if you want red Eye and we're fortunate enough
Speaker 1: to have, like you know, we're going over a season,
Speaker 1: we were in a pot or something like that. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: well when it's like my ow little world.
Speaker 2: If you're flying Southwest LA to Nashville. And no, having
Speaker 2: said that, though I do put my feet up on
Speaker 2: the thing I do to the bulkhead, I do too,
Speaker 2: but I on.
Speaker 1: So you scroll through the movies with your bare feet.
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's a video. But I wipe down like
Speaker 1: a wiper down.
Speaker 2: And people are always like, oh my god, can I
Speaker 2: have one.
Speaker 1: I'm like you, I'm like, fine, let me let me
Speaker 1: stand off of that real quick. So I don't know
Speaker 1: what it is, right, but when I when I travel,
Speaker 1: I have I have my my stuff, right, I know
Speaker 1: what I'm bringing. I packed for my occasions. I'm prepared.
Speaker 1: I know every time, like clockwork, Jane's like, can you
Speaker 1: throw this in there? Can't throw that in there? And
Speaker 1: I'm just like throw it and where you give me
Speaker 1: something of yours to throw in my.
Speaker 2: Bag, well, because my bag is there's just smaller and I.
Speaker 1: Don't know what. I don't know. I don't know what
Speaker 1: it is. But it's like you I know what I
Speaker 1: have in here. It's like, hey, can you put this
Speaker 1: in there?
Speaker 2: And that I don't know what I don't and you
Speaker 2: offer like you're like, hey, I'll put that in my backpack.
Speaker 2: And I was like, I can throw it my.
Speaker 1: Purse because I know, because I know, I know it's coming.
Speaker 1: I'm on the forefront, I think, girl.
Speaker 2: Though, because I do that to time, like can you
Speaker 2: put my shoes in your back He's.
Speaker 1: Like what, I don't know. But it's just one of
Speaker 1: those things. Just like to your wipes, just like I
Speaker 1: brought these. I'm prepared. Yeah, So it's like this is
Speaker 1: my space, this is my stuff, Like I'm prepared.
Speaker 3: But it's always just mind blown that I'm wiping down.
Speaker 3: I'm like, did you not see that sixteen minutes? Like
Speaker 3: it's twenty nineteen, wiped on the plane? Bring your own wipes.
Speaker 3: If you have a baby, you already have wipes, right,
Speaker 3: stop using my lavender set wipes.
Speaker 1: There you go. There's a video people have seen it.
Speaker 2: Oh my my, I mean it's disgusting.
Speaker 1: It's kind of clever.
Speaker 2: YouTube this who ever.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's up on YouTube, it's on Instagram. It's where
Speaker 1: you have to lean all the way across.
Speaker 2: No, I would never do that.
Speaker 1: That's kind of funny.
Speaker 2: I even use my knuckle when I signed things like
Speaker 2: CVS like, I don't use my be like this to sign.
Speaker 2: I've never done that. No, like the pens you're holding
Speaker 2: onto it so people are sick at, like those pharmacy
Speaker 2: things or anything you sign. I know, it's just why
Speaker 2: I think a.
Speaker 1: Lot discounter, did we wipe it down?
Speaker 2: I'm not like this public Wow, disgusting. Wow, what a topic.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 2: Right. So now I know I'm never going to ask
Speaker 2: to ever put anything in your bag.
Speaker 1: But that's the thing I always do, and I'm willing to.
Speaker 1: It's just I don't know why. It's just something I've
Speaker 1: been introspective. I've realized that it just.
Speaker 2: Well I want to. I don't even bother you, so
Speaker 2: I won't. No, I mean I mean it from a
Speaker 2: good place, like I'm saying like, I won't because if
Speaker 2: it's something that annoys you, I will. I won't do
Speaker 2: that I try to like annoy you the least about
Speaker 2: I feel like I do want now to anyways point
Speaker 2: in times.
Speaker 1: But it's it's it's not it's not a personal thing.
Speaker 1: It's just I don't I don't know what it is.
Speaker 2: I just it's like your O. C.
Speaker 1: D issue. Yeah, yeah, it kind of is. Where I'm prepared.
Speaker 1: I've planned this stuff.
Speaker 2: I have this thing too, like traveling. It's like he
Speaker 2: downloads his movies and saying and I'm like, hey, so
Speaker 2: what about this and then this date because I'm like
Speaker 2: I like to plan work on the plane. He's like,
Speaker 2: I'm trying to watch comedians and cars leave me alone,
Speaker 2: or I'm trying to.
Speaker 1: Play my planes.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I'm asking you a question about travel
Speaker 2: for like our kids and this. I'm like, it's a.
Speaker 3: Very therapeutic time to be in the air and know
Speaker 3: that like no one can get a hold now that.
Speaker 3: I like now that with all this, I do a
Speaker 3: lot of planning. Like of the wedding planning on the planes.
Speaker 2: I mean, how much would we get down on that?
Speaker 2: That was like insane. Yeah, I've never seen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you put her on a plane, she gets everything done.
Speaker 2: It's so It's the greatest thing though, because there's no
Speaker 2: distractions to be able to get everything down playing, and for.
Speaker 1: Me it's I have no distractions of Janna asking me
Speaker 1: to go do something, you know, so I'm like, I
Speaker 1: can watch these movies uninterrupted. And then but here's Jana.
Speaker 1: I wish you guys could see me that are listening.
Speaker 1: She's over there in the seat next to me, like
Speaker 1: in the corner of my eye, being like because she
Speaker 1: knows I hate me and bothered. So she's like, Mike,
Speaker 1: can you have question? It's unreal and I'm just like this.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, he.
Speaker 2: Does, and it's just I'm sorry to interrupt, but this
Speaker 2: is for our kids something. I mean, it's so angry
Speaker 2: at me.
Speaker 1: I was like, go back to your soccer right today.
Speaker 1: She was like, what do you think the measurement on
Speaker 1: the oh the bench for the backyard is what size
Speaker 1: pillow should I get? And in my head, I'm like,
Speaker 1: do you just have to be decided right now in
Speaker 1: this moment on the airplane LA right now?
Speaker 2: That's actually really funny. It did because I wanted to
Speaker 2: order it because then I would forget about because I
Speaker 2: have souls on your mind on my plate. Yeah that
Speaker 2: I'm going to forget about the cushion if I don't
Speaker 2: order it right now. Because I had a checklist for
Speaker 2: my plane, Like, I love this was my checklist. I
Speaker 2: loved the whole list. I was like, contact restoration, hardware,
Speaker 2: get the cushions, finish the EV for the peanut event
Speaker 2: like and I mean.
Speaker 1: Like, I got the same thing. I got bars and
Speaker 1: coffee to watch. I got stranger things to watch. I
Speaker 1: got strange bunch of things to watch.
Speaker 4: Mark Hot ever sent that's my time to watch stuff
Speaker 4: that I want to watch.
Speaker 2: It's a mad thing.
Speaker 1: We don't have time at home. And what she had
Speaker 1: love of the weekend.
Speaker 4: I did Captain Marvel on the way up and I
Speaker 4: did The Green Book on the way back, and both phenomenal.
Speaker 2: I do love watching movies. If I can catch up
Speaker 2: on a movie, I watch it.
Speaker 1: That's the time to do it.
Speaker 2: Exactly, mind you, I saw five feet away? Have you
Speaker 2: ever seen it get apart? Five feet apart? Oh? Bald
Speaker 2: like a baby. Had to turn it off, like had
Speaker 2: to walk away. Oh, I was going it was real.
Speaker 2: It was about cistic fibrosis, and I had no idea
Speaker 2: about the stick fibrosis. That they have to be like
Speaker 2: two s efforts have to be like five feet apart
Speaker 2: from each other. Oh no, no, no, they can never
Speaker 2: touch or they can. I mean, it's just it's so sad.
Speaker 2: It's a very I can't. I don't cry, so public
Speaker 2: crying is not. Do you think you'll cry on your
Speaker 2: wedding day? Oh for sure? Really, Oh my god, it's
Speaker 2: gonna be the first time I see you crying, because
Speaker 2: because I cry when I think about it. I'll have a.
Speaker 3: Because I cry when I like think about tears. I know, no,
Speaker 3: like literally, and so I feel like I for sure
Speaker 3: I feel like when I see him for the first
Speaker 3: time and my dad, I feel like my Dad's gonna
Speaker 3: make me cry. My dad is for sure going to
Speaker 3: make me cry.
Speaker 2: And I know when I see Time, I'm gonna cry
Speaker 2: because he's gonna cry when he sees me.
Speaker 3: And that you guys like have to understand. I never
Speaker 3: really thought this would happen, Like I really didn't, like honestly, like, I.
Speaker 2: Think Ty will cry. Oh, I know he's gonna cry.
Speaker 2: He cried the hole Engate, the whole proposal. I know
Speaker 2: he's a baby.
Speaker 3: No, no, I know he'll cry when he sees me,
Speaker 3: because it's just like he didn't think he was going
Speaker 3: to see me in a wedding dress. You know, I
Speaker 3: don't know, there's that whole aspect of it, so I
Speaker 3: know that's going to make me cry.
Speaker 4: I cried so hard when I was proposing to my wife.
Speaker 4: She thought I was telling her that I was dying,
Speaker 4: are you.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: We were on the beach in San Simon, across from
Speaker 4: her castle, and I clearly had something important to tell her,
Speaker 4: but I can't even get the words out, and she's like, Oh, no, he's.
Speaker 1: What I've chosen the spot on the beach to tell you.
Speaker 2: I'm Oh my god, did you cry at your wedding?
Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah? When I saw her in the dress.
Speaker 4: My dad was my best man, and he was next
Speaker 4: to me, and he was trying to distract me and
Speaker 4: have me think he's telling me funny things. He's like
Speaker 4: telling me to picture my great grandmother naked and stuff,
Speaker 4: just to try to not be in the moment so much.
Speaker 4: And then up pasted the shush desk and we had
Speaker 4: to stop. But yeah, I was a mess.
Speaker 1: Oh that's so cute. Did you mess? Yeah? I cried.
Speaker 1: We did.
Speaker 5: We did a first look because I was worried about
Speaker 5: the crying, and I cried during that, and then I
Speaker 5: cried when we were up there.
Speaker 3: See I think Ty will cry both times. Are you
Speaker 3: doing it first look? I think so, no, no, don't.
Speaker 2: I don't think you should. But then how do we
Speaker 2: shoot pictures before? Oh you know, you do pictures of
Speaker 2: your party. I cannot do that to Tie.
Speaker 3: I cannot have him see me for the first time
Speaker 3: with all those people.
Speaker 1: He will be.
Speaker 2: Just for me.
Speaker 1: It's that feeling like when I saw Jane turn in
Speaker 1: the corner.
Speaker 3: I know, and oh my god, it's so dramatic the
Speaker 3: way i'll because I can't and I did.
Speaker 1: I never saw her dress, you know, neither is and
Speaker 1: she had this beautiful dress basically flown in like the
Speaker 1: day of the day. It was very it was so beautiful,
Speaker 1: and I mean I can remember it like it was
Speaker 1: like this morning, like it was so in that just
Speaker 1: that feeling like seeing her for the first time, it
Speaker 1: was just like maybe I won't.
Speaker 2: I just I get what people do and no knock
Speaker 2: to first looks. I just think there's something I know,
Speaker 2: But he's going to be a true But that's like
Speaker 2: the part of the wedding.
Speaker 1: That's the part.
Speaker 2: You know, you're not supposed to be super composed and
Speaker 2: presently that's what that's what that's what I'm looking for.
Speaker 2: I want the energy as a person sitting there watching
Speaker 2: this wedding that I'm there for both of you. Like
Speaker 2: I'm holding y'all's emotions, like and it's like I'm gonna
Speaker 2: be bawling too, but I want to cry, but I
Speaker 2: just think that he'll be okay, fine, okay, fine, No.
Speaker 3: I also grandparents are going to make me cry for sure,
Speaker 3: because I don't have my grandparents, but he has one
Speaker 3: on each side, and that that was super important to
Speaker 3: us when we were doing our planning because we really
Speaker 3: want them there. And his grandma's ninety eight and this
Speaker 3: she wore this ring, so we facetimed her when like
Speaker 3: in his grandpa and his dad's side. It's just like
Speaker 3: we really really that's why we're kind of also like
Speaker 3: let's go. But I know and oh, they're going to
Speaker 3: be so excited.
Speaker 1: Even when you talked about like your dad and stuff,
Speaker 1: crying Dad got me tears just thinking about Jolie. I
Speaker 1: can't I'm going to literally melt into the floor in tears.
Speaker 3: When Ty called my dad to ask him, my mom
Speaker 3: was with him, and my mom was like, Sarah, I
Speaker 3: didn't if he wasn't on speaker, and she was like,
Speaker 3: I didn't know what Ty was saying. Dad was crying
Speaker 3: so hard, and I was like what and she was
Speaker 3: like I had not, Like, your dad was crying so hard.
Speaker 3: My dad was crying when I asks him from permission
Speaker 3: and told him that he's gonna she was like it
Speaker 3: was crazy, and I'm like that made me cry.
Speaker 2: Your dad is just like, oh, it's just like walking
Speaker 2: Joey down the aisle.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna slowly just melt into the forth.
Speaker 2: Crazy Jolie's gonna get married one day, one day.
Speaker 1: Right now, God blessed the man whoever that's like monster.
Speaker 1: That's how you know what movie actually gets me? Radio?
Speaker 1: What with Cuba good engr? Is it the acting that
Speaker 1: how dare you? But that's that's just one of the
Speaker 1: examples that came to my mind first, Like there's plenty
Speaker 1: of other movies that get me, even some Disney movies
Speaker 1: have probably got me. But Radio, for whatever reason, just
Speaker 1: remember it just because true story and just there their
Speaker 1: relationship and then this poor kid and just picking on
Speaker 1: someone who's who you know has mental issues and stuff
Speaker 1: like that. I need to.
Speaker 2: I don't care, like even just now, it.
Speaker 1: Just gives me like chill like it. Oh, it bends
Speaker 1: me over, man, it just gives me just thinking about
Speaker 1: just talking about it. It gets me. Wow.
Speaker 2: I need I don't think I've ever seen it.
Speaker 1: I don't think I have either Ed Harris and and
Speaker 1: Cuba getting Cuba getting Junior. I think the acting is fantastic.
Speaker 2: I've never seen it movie. Yes, I'm just kinda well
Speaker 2: he's struggling right now.
Speaker 1: But even honestly, even Cuba Cuba in Men of Honor,
Speaker 1: that's one of my favorite movie movies of all time.
Speaker 1: Hero Navy, Sa Diver. That movie gets me too. From
Speaker 1: like a motiv happy, it's more of a happy like
Speaker 1: motivational cry.
Speaker 2: Did you cry in Pearl Harbor to when Cuba got
Speaker 2: the medal? I don't know what he takes Sarah, what
Speaker 2: about you? I don't This is gonna be one of
Speaker 2: those things where like right now I can't think, but
Speaker 2: I know, like when I leave.
Speaker 3: I know I.
Speaker 2: I for sure cried in for a while. It was
Speaker 2: always during like wedding sequences and movies. Mm hmm, well yeah,
Speaker 2: because I just didn't know if it was gonna happen. No,
Speaker 2: like I cried in crazy Rich Asian, I'm not her wedding.
Speaker 2: That was good, I cried, and that I'm trying to think.
Speaker 2: I can't think right now, but I know.
Speaker 1: There are mark field of dreams.
Speaker 2: I never saw it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, oh god, yeah, yeah, the point and I don't
Speaker 4: want to spoil it. Yeah, point towards the end that
Speaker 4: just gets you. But because I know it's coming, I'm
Speaker 4: weeping about twenty yes ahead of you, knowing it's coming,
Speaker 4: and then when it handled just in a puddle.
Speaker 2: Really okay, I need to watch that. I think Miracle
Speaker 2: the hockey movie.
Speaker 1: I think so yeah, that's bad. Stuff gets me.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that stuff for sure get to you.
Speaker 1: It gets me.
Speaker 2: I am. I was watching Beaches one time. You were
Speaker 2: seeing Beaches, Oh god, and my my band guy came
Speaker 2: to the back to let me know that it was
Speaker 2: time to go on stage, and he thought someone died
Speaker 2: because I was. I could not breathe. I was crying
Speaker 2: so hard, and that's honestly how I felt about the
Speaker 2: five feet apart. Oh my god, hyper ventilating Marley and me,
Speaker 2: duh done, don on dog. I'm looking up sound movies
Speaker 2: that when.
Speaker 4: I held it in until I couldn't and then you
Speaker 4: try to breathe while holding it like a.
Speaker 2: You know, that's the movie theater that that firefighter movie
Speaker 2: I Only the Brave. Oh, I didn't say God in
Speaker 2: the theater. I was like, I did that exactly. I
Speaker 2: was trying to hold it in and it made I mean,
Speaker 2: I was I was hyperventilating in the movie theater.
Speaker 1: It was funny. Jana and I saw that in like
Speaker 1: a Tuesday afternoon. It was me, Jana and one other
Speaker 1: guy in the movie theater when we saw Only the
Speaker 1: Brave and all three of us are crying. Yeah, that.
Speaker 2: Slaughtered me story.
Speaker 1: That would have been sweet if you had him come
Speaker 1: over and all.
Speaker 2: But it's one of those where you leave and you're
Speaker 2: still going, yeah, oh that was just really get you. Oh,
Speaker 2: walk to remember. Oh my god, I think it first
Speaker 2: time in My Girl Welcome to High School off.
Speaker 5: Oh man, Uh, there's a there's a nb U.
Speaker 1: Be a superhero movie.
Speaker 2: He's like when when thor.
Speaker 5: I mean Avengers Endgame. I cried throughout that. That's like
Speaker 5: the best movie.
Speaker 1: I've ever seen. I sort of got it.
Speaker 5: I did happy and sad. But there's a movie called
Speaker 5: Hereditary that came out last year. That one got me
Speaker 5: pretty good.
Speaker 2: That a scary movie.
Speaker 5: It's scary, scary and sad, very very It hit a
Speaker 5: lot of fears I have about, like caring for children
Speaker 5: and things like that. That that's one of the ones
Speaker 5: where I was like, I left afterwards, and hours later
Speaker 5: I was like, my god, Oh my god.
Speaker 3: What was that Gwyneth Paltrow movie. She was like a
Speaker 3: country singer, country strong.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: Again, let's got out of high school, sir, But listen, no,
Speaker 2: but listen, no, no, no, nook no. But I'm thinking
Speaker 2: about I remember leaving that the that movie and just
Speaker 2: feeling like traumatized.
Speaker 1: Because you're twelve at the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, toris like, I don't remember what went down.
Speaker 2: She killed herself, that's maybe why. Then, Yeah, it was
Speaker 2: very sad.
Speaker 1: Anymore.
Speaker 5: That's Avengersing Game. That's the one I want to I
Speaker 5: want on my tea.
Speaker 2: Ahead.
Speaker 1: When Captain America, I grabbed the hammer I've never seen
Speaker 1: any I have a tear coming down, like and when he.
Speaker 5: Says Avengers assemble, Oh my god, I've been waiting for
Speaker 5: that for ten years.
Speaker 1: So I just went and saw a Spider Man Far
Speaker 1: Far from Home by myself the other night, and.
Speaker 2: Well, mind you, because Michael goes, it was Sunday night
Speaker 2: and he goes, we had full disclosure. We had sex,
Speaker 2: like Sunday afternoon when the kids were napping, we had sex. Oh.
Speaker 2: And then it was Big Little Eye season finale too,
Speaker 2: and so I was like, hey, babe, so what are
Speaker 2: you doing tonight. He's like, I don't know what are
Speaker 2: you doing. I was like, well, I'm watching Big Little Eyes.
Speaker 2: And he's like and I was like, and we've already
Speaker 2: had sex, so I'm good if you want to go
Speaker 2: do something. He's like, wait for real. I was like, really,
Speaker 2: get a movie?
Speaker 1: You want to see her? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I was like all right, it's like all right.
Speaker 1: Later got on Fandango right there and got my ticket. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But when they started playing Whitney Houston, I'll Always Love
Speaker 1: You come on at the opening Marvel credit, I started
Speaker 1: tearing and then it became like a high school like newscast.
Speaker 1: But I was like, I was like, my eyes were watery.
Speaker 1: I'm a song something about say Goodbye and stan Lee and.
Speaker 2: I was just like, okay, moving on. We're going to
Speaker 2: take a break. But so to end this movie stuff,
Speaker 2: We just saw the best movie. Every one should go
Speaker 2: see The Long Shot. This isn't an ad. That was
Speaker 2: one of my favorite comedies I've seen in a.
Speaker 1: Very long and it just came on.
Speaker 2: Maybe I watched from start to end. I watched again.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we'd watch it again.
Speaker 2: All right, quick break? Then emails? Hey, do we have
Speaker 2: any emails?
Speaker 1: Mark? Sure do?
Speaker 4: Marissa says this question from Mike. My fiance is like
Speaker 4: Jana and Love's affection. I, however, do not. I want
Speaker 4: my space and my alone time and my quiet time.
Speaker 4: It really bothers me when he asks for affection and
Speaker 4: I'm busy and wants me to stop what I'm doing
Speaker 4: to give her a himahagara kiss. We've been dating for
Speaker 4: three years, we're recently engaged. We're both twenty two, we
Speaker 4: lived together, we have no kids. How can I get
Speaker 4: him to understand that I don't always want physical affection
Speaker 4: like he does? Jenna, how does it make you feel
Speaker 4: when Mike tells you he can't show affection?
Speaker 2: Mm hmm, Mark, I'm all at Mike's start with us.
Speaker 2: Since it's a.
Speaker 1: Question, it's tough because it's hard for Jana or like
Speaker 1: her fiance to take it not personal because physical affection
Speaker 1: in touch is a personal thing. So how are you
Speaker 1: supposed to tell somebody that you don't want to give
Speaker 1: that to him and them not take it personal? You
Speaker 1: answered them right now, well snorting, Oh my god, we're
Speaker 1: answering this. I have a nice illustration of what we're
Speaker 1: talking about, as Mike's trying to be sensitive and tender, right.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm showing how does that make you feel?
Speaker 2: When I'm doing something you're trying to be sensitive. I
Speaker 2: don't care about I will say something to this though,
Speaker 2: when I'm not affectionate towards you. This is very interesting.
Speaker 2: But this happened the other day, and when I read
Speaker 2: this email on the plane, I was excited to talk
Speaker 2: about it because I was sitting on our little bench
Speaker 2: in our room and you came in and I really
Speaker 2: hadn't been affection that day, not because I was trying
Speaker 2: to prove a point or do anything. I just was
Speaker 2: kind of doing my own thing. You were doing your
Speaker 2: own thing, and you were like, hey, are you okay?
Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, I'm just in here, like
Speaker 2: on my phone doing my stuff, like I'm good, you know,
Speaker 2: but it was like you then started to kind of
Speaker 2: get like because you weren't getting how I normally, and
Speaker 2: I was just like in my own zone, like doing
Speaker 2: my own thing, like and I was still being nice.
Speaker 1: And like right, but with you, when something is wrong,
Speaker 1: you tend to be passive.
Speaker 2: Oh but I really wasn't.
Speaker 1: Though I know about how but in the series of
Speaker 1: our relationship, how am I supposed to know that? So
Speaker 1: naturally I'm going to think that because historically you're passive.
Speaker 2: I get that. I really wasn't. It's just but it's
Speaker 2: like when we stop doing affection, then that's when you
Speaker 2: think something's wrong. And it's like, well, that's how we
Speaker 2: feel sometimes when you don't have affection and then we
Speaker 2: think something's wrong. Does that make sense in a.
Speaker 1: Way, Yeah, in a way. What I'll say to Marissa, though,
Speaker 1: is have the conversation first of all, not when he
Speaker 1: tries to be affectionate. So if he comes and try
Speaker 1: to be affectionate, it don't be like, hey, you know,
Speaker 1: this is how I feel about affection. Do it when
Speaker 1: neither of you are trying to be affectionate and just
Speaker 1: come to him on your own and say, hey, this
Speaker 1: is how I am. I say exactly what she said
Speaker 1: in the email. I enjoy my space. I like my
Speaker 1: lone time in my quiet time. That's just what I
Speaker 1: need as a person. That's what I've realized, you know,
Speaker 1: makes me happy from time to time to recharge or
Speaker 1: whatever your reason is. That doesn't mean anything against you.
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean I don't want to be with you
Speaker 1: or anything like that. That's just how I process things.
Speaker 2: And also, too, like where you just said tell, I
Speaker 2: think what's helpful too is you'll say, like, hey, I'm
Speaker 2: going to go in the other room and I'm just
Speaker 2: gonna unload for a second. Because we can't read y'all's
Speaker 2: minds right, And that's a huge thing because if I'm
Speaker 2: in a excited mood and I want to be physical
Speaker 2: and touchy with you and affectionate, but you're you're just
Speaker 2: maybe you're just having a hard day, or maybe you're tired,
Speaker 2: maybe you didn't sleep with that night, or maybe you
Speaker 2: just want to be alone. That's okay, but we don't
Speaker 2: know that. So if you're sometimes it's like, hey, I'm
Speaker 2: going to go just chill for a second, so we
Speaker 2: know to kind of like back off a little bit.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
Speaker 2: It's a good cue for us so to do it beforehand,
Speaker 2: like you're saying, don't do it in the moment, Like
Speaker 2: when I come up and give you a hug and
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, I don't want to be touched right now.
Speaker 2: It's like that is such a rejection. Is that? Do
Speaker 2: you do that?
Speaker 1: He used to? Yeah, I used to. I don't. But
Speaker 1: that brings up a good point though. If that's happening, say,
Speaker 1: and I haven't had an opportunity. We've just been doing
Speaker 1: stuff and you come up in a couple of times
Speaker 1: you like touch me or something throughout the day. Maybe
Speaker 1: that day, I'm just not feeling all touchy feely. What
Speaker 1: do I do?
Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing is you just did it with
Speaker 2: your body, and it already sending me kind of like
Speaker 2: a chrar like you you it's like it's like my touch,
Speaker 2: it's like my it's like my touch makes skin crawl.
Speaker 2: But then it's just say so, it's just like hey, babe,
Speaker 2: like I just I need a minute, like I love you, honey,
Speaker 2: and like maybe like give a kiss or something, even
Speaker 2: if you don't want to in that moment, Well, you.
Speaker 1: Say in that moment though, it's hard because that's the thing.
Speaker 1: It's not personal, it's not your.
Speaker 2: Touch, it's just but it's hard to distinguish, right, No,
Speaker 2: And I.
Speaker 1: Understand that, and that's this is the the dance here
Speaker 1: is there's some days where that's how touch maybe makes
Speaker 1: me feel in a moment where I'm just like, I
Speaker 1: just I just need my space right now, or.
Speaker 2: I'm less affectionate with you anyways because of that, and
Speaker 2: not in a bad way where I'm just like, it's
Speaker 2: not as affectionate as it used to be, and it's
Speaker 2: just kind of how I've now have to be. I
Speaker 2: guess I don't know to change though, but I'm not
Speaker 2: saying change, but like I'm not like.
Speaker 1: I a gap to each other.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess I do.
Speaker 1: Like me, I'm not just I need my quiet time
Speaker 1: and space every single day. I also want to be affectioned.
Speaker 1: But I also know that Janna, that's her language too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I'll make a point to do things not because
Speaker 1: I want to, but also because I want to make
Speaker 1: my make sure my partner feels loved because I.
Speaker 2: Do over Yeah, it's all a learning process.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I mean, just bring it up to him
Speaker 1: when it's you know, it's not happening in that moment,
Speaker 1: tell him how you feel. But also valdat him is
Speaker 1: you know, it's not about you, it's it's just what
Speaker 1: I need and I love you very much and whatever
Speaker 1: it is.
Speaker 2: You know what we didn't talk about that we did.
Speaker 2: We took the any agreem and any Oh my god,
Speaker 2: how dare we?
Speaker 1: How dare we? We did that on the plane?
Speaker 2: Yeah, on the plane is and it's any say edgram, anyagram, anyagram? Anyagraham?
Speaker 2: Have you done it? Mark? No?
Speaker 4: I have not.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, Sarah, I was like twelve dollars because I
Speaker 2: took this I neigh question dollars. Well, well, the one
Speaker 2: hundred and forty four question we did thirty sixth question. Yeah, man, Sarah,
Speaker 2: was this twenty four bucks.
Speaker 3: I took these screens. But I'm remember two two, which
Speaker 3: like it kind of was shocked. Really well, I don't
Speaker 3: know all of them. I just I did I need
Speaker 3: to do more reading. But I found these screenshots. So
Speaker 3: you were a two, you were an eight the Challenger,
Speaker 3: and I'm a six and I'm like textbook six. My
Speaker 3: sister's an eight. Though that's really funny. I was sending
Speaker 3: her funny memes, but this one okay too. It was
Speaker 3: just like funny little things. You're a grizzly You're a
Speaker 3: grizzly bear, doting, helpful, and protective.
Speaker 2: That's like what describes you. I'm a number six. I'm
Speaker 2: a wolf, loyal to the pack, team player, watchful eight
Speaker 2: is a honey badger, brave, combative and fierce. And then
Speaker 2: this one was funny. It was like type two in
Speaker 2: like Disney characters, and the tailor swift was hilarious. I
Speaker 2: was dying on the plane dying. Your two was a
Speaker 2: snow white. The helper sincere and warm hearted, genuine love
Speaker 2: and care for others. Are you were surprised about that? No? No, no,
Speaker 2: because I thought I feel like you're more of like
Speaker 2: a tough bitch one. But I don't know which one
Speaker 2: that would be because I don't know enough about all
Speaker 2: of them. Once I read it, then I was like, okay, yeah,
Speaker 2: but helper, I guess yeah, how you are because I care.
Speaker 1: She cares.
Speaker 2: You're writing like any You're right, You're right. It's I
Speaker 2: care about whether people think of me. I care about people.
Speaker 2: I care about helping others, like I'll put I'll put
Speaker 2: aside your for someone else to like to help someone else.
Speaker 2: But then on the other flip side is where I'm like,
Speaker 2: I am bossy, lastic and I am a goal oriented. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so it's that's so funny. Yeah, my Disney character.
Speaker 3: They didn't they posted it this morning, so they didn't
Speaker 3: have hours up yet. But I'm gonna go look right now. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go look right now.
Speaker 2: Probably.
Speaker 3: It's actually really interesting when you, like, did any of
Speaker 3: the questions kind of make you be like, well some
Speaker 3: some of them, I was like, I gotta be honest.
Speaker 2: Well, and here's here's the interesting thing. So I screenshotted
Speaker 2: this one because Michael was taking the test and I
Speaker 2: was overlooking his shoulder and I was like, you're not
Speaker 2: being honest. I had to catch myself a couple of times,
Speaker 2: a couple of moments too, where I was like, oh, no,
Speaker 2: I do kind of I envy people sometime successes and
Speaker 2: that was one of the questions.
Speaker 1: But it's mostly yeah, but there were a few when
Speaker 1: I was doing the long one lean over to Jane
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, which one.
Speaker 2: Was I, No, Michael goes one of them was? I
Speaker 2: often the choices were get lost in my feelings or
Speaker 2: disconnect from my feelings so I can focus. And Michael
Speaker 2: put he gets lost in my feelings, and I was like, honey,
Speaker 2: I mean because I took.
Speaker 1: That as like I get lost to him, so I
Speaker 1: don't know how to deal with them.
Speaker 3: A couple of the questions kind of threw me off,
Speaker 3: and I was just taking it by myself, and I
Speaker 3: was like one of them was like, I'm something about
Speaker 3: being selfish, and I was like, I'm like, you know what,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna say it, I could be selfish. And I
Speaker 3: was like really proud of myself in that moment, for
Speaker 3: in that moment, for owning it.
Speaker 2: What number were you? I'm a six Okay, oh that
Speaker 2: is my last one on mine. That's so funny. We
Speaker 2: don't know it. I was a sixth and then one
Speaker 2: six is my fourth.
Speaker 1: You all take the test. It's actually really interesting.
Speaker 2: It was like, really, yeah, there's a couple of free
Speaker 2: ones in the Enneagram Institute. Is the one that we took?
Speaker 1: Yes, it is.
Speaker 2: It is twelve dollars.
Speaker 3: Because I've taken a couple before and every time it
Speaker 3: would be something like different, and then I kind.
Speaker 2: Of it is interesting though, but it is very It
Speaker 2: talks about how to deal with it explained well, and
Speaker 2: it explains like how they are and operate, but it
Speaker 2: is it's interesting if if I was to take the
Speaker 2: test for Michael and he was to take it for me,
Speaker 2: if we would get the same number.
Speaker 3: Last night, I wanted to take it for Tie and
Speaker 3: I was like it was giving me a headache, and
Speaker 3: I was like I just need him to do it,
Speaker 3: but I don't know what he would be.
Speaker 2: You know these Taylor Swift ones? Okay, what your type two?
Speaker 2: It says, where did it go? Mar? Do you know
Speaker 2: your number? I have no idea you guys, if you
Speaker 2: should do it? Take the free languages?
Speaker 1: How many of these do have to take?
Speaker 2: I know there's a lot with another test. This is
Speaker 2: gonna be my thing though, Like I was like, what's
Speaker 2: your what's your sign? Now I'm gonna be like, what
Speaker 2: what number are you? How can I connect with you?
Speaker 2: Because it really did? It says a lot? It does?
Speaker 2: Did you read like all of it?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: It's good.
Speaker 1: It's good.
Speaker 2: I like it a lot And it's crazy how it
Speaker 2: goes along with like the astrological signs and just like
Speaker 2: I think it helps. I mean, it helps me look
Speaker 2: at myself. And because it said like pros about how
Speaker 2: you are, then I was like, but the cons and
Speaker 2: it was like, yeah, it's a little dark. There's there's
Speaker 2: always ways we can work on ourselves.
Speaker 1: Know what I'm got me and not to turn this,
Speaker 1: uh this little dark. But there's one section that talks
Speaker 1: about out Basically it gives you like one word. It's
Speaker 1: something about like what you seek or something in relationship
Speaker 1: or I don't know what it is, but basically the
Speaker 1: trigger word for an eight was lust in like relationship
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. And I was like, that's like
Speaker 1: that like hit me deep because like the whole addiction
Speaker 1: aspect and everything like that and how I don't personalize
Speaker 1: my relationships and everything was just so that was that.
Speaker 1: Seeing that definitely kind of made me a believer.
Speaker 2: I was like, holy, that's wild.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm looking at Did you notice that?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah you saw that? Yeah, yeah, it was really interesting.
Speaker 2: I describe the lust good question, lust of the mind.
Speaker 1: Lust is uh, I don't know a textbook definition.
Speaker 5: Very strong sexual desire is what Marion Webster says.
Speaker 1: Marion Webster Webster always there to have a back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So it's it's but lust is more of you know,
Speaker 1: when you talking about a relationshial standpoint, it's there's there's
Speaker 1: not connection there. It's just you're you're lusting the concept
Speaker 1: or you're lusting you mean, yeah, an idea of or whatever.
Speaker 1: It's kind of like a fantasy driven sexual desire. So
Speaker 1: there's no other interpersonal connection around lust.
Speaker 3: Interesting, okay. Type two this is just like the generic
Speaker 3: Type two. The helper the functions of empathy and altruism,
Speaker 3: the potential for other directedness, thoughtfulness for others, genuine self sacrifice, generosity,
Speaker 3: and then your negative situation. Here we go are intrusiveness, possessiveness, manipulation.
Speaker 2: And self perception. Don't laugh.
Speaker 3: Oh, but your your title is in the field, so
Speaker 3: you're like a feeling one. So then in mine is
Speaker 3: I'm a sick so mine is in the thinking one.
Speaker 3: The loyalists the functions of trust and perseverance, the potential
Speaker 3: for emotional bonding with others, group identification, sociability, industriousness, loyalty
Speaker 3: to others. Negatively yeah, yeah, here we go, potential for dependency, rebelliousness, anxiety,
Speaker 3: and very already feelings. Okay, and then eight Type eight
Speaker 3: the challenger, the functions of self assertion and leadership, the
Speaker 3: potential for self confidence, self determination, self.
Speaker 2: Oh you're very like self, good for you, Mike's world, and.
Speaker 3: Then negatively potential for domination of others, crude and sensitivity,
Speaker 3: combativeness and ruthlessness, diabolical.
Speaker 2: Did you guys read them before you took the test? Like,
Speaker 2: did you have an idea?
Speaker 1: But I had no idea?
Speaker 3: Who I didn't even know what it was? So someone
Speaker 3: asked me, and I didn't know, so I googled. I googled,
Speaker 3: like what are the nine ones? And I looked him
Speaker 3: up and I was like, oh, okay, I feel like
Speaker 3: I'm going there this or this, And then I took
Speaker 3: it and I was like tech, it was like, you
Speaker 3: answered forty seven questions.
Speaker 1: Right for this one? Were you? Were you spot on
Speaker 1: with what you thought you'd be?
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, textbook?
Speaker 1: All right, Ennea Graham, go take the test. There's a
Speaker 1: free one that's thirty sixquestions to pay twelve dollars to
Speaker 1: do the one hundred and forty four question.
Speaker 2: It's interesting and I'm excited to wind down next week too.
Speaker 2: We got Sarah back next week with us, and we
Speaker 2: have a really awesome guest coming on Great Guess. Yeah,
Speaker 2: great guest. So thanks for winding down. This is fun.