Speaker 1: Oh baby, I'm here to send you on a day
Speaker 1: with a Willita. How do you think? How do you
Speaker 1: think our R and B album is going up?
Speaker 2: What can I tell you?
Speaker 3: Ohico, Maybe we should stick.
Speaker 1: To what we know.
Speaker 2: Look, I really think we have something. What we have
Speaker 2: I have no idea, but we have something.
Speaker 1: If we have something and we're not getting we're gonna
Speaker 1: keep working on it. But in the meantime, shall we
Speaker 1: get down to it.
Speaker 2: Let's get down to business.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, yes, yes, So as we wait for our
Speaker 1: album to drop, Welcome listeners, This is date my aw Alita. First,
Speaker 1: I am your host Vigo or This joined by the
Speaker 1: captivating an incredible songstress will Leana, and soon I'll introduce
Speaker 1: our main dater, and once we have met them, Lilliana
Speaker 1: will sort through three promising contestants before choosing who will
Speaker 1: go on a one on one date with our main
Speaker 1: data and who will head back to the apps.
Speaker 3: You know that those apps are just not an easy
Speaker 3: place to be, so I'm glad we're here to zoop in.
Speaker 2: That's not an easy word for a Latina.
Speaker 1: It's true, It's true, though, I've heard some good times
Speaker 1: in the apps. Back in them days, I might hop
Speaker 1: back in. I'm not sure it seems like work now,
Speaker 1: but we'll see.
Speaker 3: Well, I'm still blocked from all apps, so nothing I
Speaker 3: can do about it, but listen, I want to hear
Speaker 3: all about all of your experiences on the apps.
Speaker 2: Down let's helped someone find love?
Speaker 1: Huh oh absolutely yeah, Arming data this week is an
Speaker 1: old friend, a contestant now turned main dater, Daniel Daniel
Speaker 1: Mission Secuity, No, what a sweetie pie? Well, for those
Speaker 1: of us who don't remember, Daniel is a community advocate
Speaker 1: leading groups focused on homelessness and LGBTQ plus policy, while
Speaker 1: also spending time developing an R and B and rap album.
Speaker 1: Daniel had to spend many years healing from his trauma
Speaker 1: and learning to trust people after being incarcerated as a child,
Speaker 1: but he is confident that he's now in a good
Speaker 1: place to give and receive love. His natural instinct is
Speaker 1: to be a fixer. I feel that my soul, which
Speaker 1: can sometimes lead to his being in relationships with toxic guys.
Speaker 1: Are you into fixers, Alita? Or are you the FIXI? Donita?
Speaker 2: Did you hear me?
Speaker 1: Are you into fixers?
Speaker 4: What?
Speaker 2: What are you talking about?
Speaker 3: Viga was daydreaming about carpenter's hot, sweaty, overall weary carpet.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Oh, wait to bring in Daniel, because you're gonna get
Speaker 1: lost in that day dream real quick.
Speaker 2: Yes, please bring in the daydream, I mean.
Speaker 5: The con.
Speaker 1: Yes, let's welcome Daniel. Welcome Daniel.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hi handsome, how are you. I'm good, Daniel.
Speaker 1: We had such a fun time with you as a contestant,
Speaker 1: so we had to bring you back as a main
Speaker 1: dator and learn more about you. So tell us what
Speaker 1: you're looking for now that you're the main star.
Speaker 6: Well, I guess for me, communication is key.
Speaker 7: So anybody that could communicate how they feel their emotions
Speaker 7: if they're angry, like just kind of staying that because
Speaker 7: I noticed a lot of people that do know how
Speaker 7: to communicate, you know, they kind of just run away
Speaker 7: or they get in their shells and stuff like that
Speaker 7: for whatever reason. So just somebody that could communicate, I
Speaker 7: guess somebody who kind of resembles my culture, my background,
Speaker 7: and so street smarter and books smart.
Speaker 1: Street smart and BookSmart.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: I have a quick follow up question on sharing feelings.
Speaker 1: You said that you want someone that is good at
Speaker 1: communicating that I want to know how do you communicate
Speaker 1: when you're also experiencing big, reactive, intense feelings, and how
Speaker 1: do you want to be held in that space.
Speaker 6: I guess it just depends, you know, like on the situation.
Speaker 7: But sometimes I'll just feel like I need a moment,
Speaker 7: or sometimes I'll be like, fuck off and I want
Speaker 7: to talk to you today, you know. But really, in
Speaker 7: moments of like anger frustration, I like to understand people
Speaker 7: and why they might fill the way they do or
Speaker 7: what I did to make them feel that way or
Speaker 7: vice versus. So like just kind of giving me understanding
Speaker 7: of the situation because I'm not going to like read
Speaker 7: your mind or know what I did wrong, because in
Speaker 7: my eyes it wasn't wrong, you know.
Speaker 3: Okay, Now there's one thing that I need to ask you,
Speaker 3: and it's very very important.
Speaker 2: You are a very busy young man.
Speaker 3: You do advocacy work, you go to acting school, you're
Speaker 3: working on an R and B rap album, and you're
Speaker 3: also a model. How is it that you date? Does
Speaker 3: your assistant do it and then let you know how
Speaker 3: it went?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 7: The thing about me, and you know, some people agree
Speaker 7: and some people don't.
Speaker 6: Put as hard as I work, I live life. You know.
Speaker 7: I'm very spontaneous, you know, and I make time for
Speaker 7: the things that I love because at the end of
Speaker 7: the day, like all this work, like if I die tomorrow,
Speaker 7: it will be meaningless.
Speaker 6: And what will have meaning to me is.
Speaker 7: The memories that I create, the emotions that I gave
Speaker 7: to other people, you know. And yeah, I work a lot,
Speaker 7: but my spontaneousness and my happiness is more important than everything.
Speaker 3: But you are looking forward to having a partner and
Speaker 3: having a relationship and someone that you can balance things
Speaker 3: off with.
Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, I'm out a moment in my life
Speaker 7: where I'm getting older. You know, I'm twenty eight and
Speaker 7: it doesn't sound that old, but for me it is
Speaker 7: because I always thought that I would now live to
Speaker 7: the age of eighteen based off you know, the way that.
Speaker 6: We grow up.
Speaker 2: Where did you grow up?
Speaker 7: So every day I just live life in the moment,
Speaker 7: you know, And right now I want to have somebody
Speaker 7: that I could share it with and love, you know.
Speaker 7: And I just keep getting into these toxic relationships because
Speaker 7: for one, I track broken people.
Speaker 6: In two, I like beautiful people. You know, who doesn't
Speaker 6: like a pretty person?
Speaker 7: Right, But usually a lot of beautiful people stats say
Speaker 7: they're very insecure or they're very broken because they've been
Speaker 7: used for that beauty a lot. They've been used for
Speaker 7: how they look versus who they are. So the looks matter,
Speaker 7: do you not necessarily your personality matters more to me,
Speaker 7: you know, than anything.
Speaker 6: You can make me happy.
Speaker 7: You know, I used to not like older men, but
Speaker 7: even now I'm starting to be open to that as well,
Speaker 7: you know, because they know how to have a conversation
Speaker 7: and treat you like I'm a princess. Sometimes I need
Speaker 7: to be treated like a princess. Ship bring me flowers,
Speaker 7: you know, open the door for me.
Speaker 1: You want to be romance? Yeah, I want to know
Speaker 1: a little bit more about you said that you have
Speaker 1: a pattern of finding people that are toxic or people
Speaker 1: that are broken and you want to fix.
Speaker 8: Right.
Speaker 1: What are some qualities that are positive that you have
Speaker 1: found in some of these relationships that you definitely would
Speaker 1: like to see in future ones.
Speaker 7: Well, okay, so, like we show love languages differently, and
Speaker 7: for a lot of the partners that I've had, they
Speaker 7: cook for me and I really like that.
Speaker 6: Honestly, because I hate cooking. I don't have a good
Speaker 6: relationship with.
Speaker 1: Food, so cooking someone that knows how to cook, someone
Speaker 1: that knows their way in the kitchen, that like makes
Speaker 1: you a nice meal. What's the love language that you
Speaker 1: like to give and what's the love language that you
Speaker 1: like to receive?
Speaker 7: Well, as you know, I'm very big off communications, so
Speaker 7: words of affirmation would be one of the love languages
Speaker 7: that I give and gifts, you know, I like to
Speaker 7: give gifts, you know. So I make a lot more
Speaker 7: money usually than a lot of people my age and
Speaker 7: a sad say, but from our community, you know, I
Speaker 7: really I'm a hustler, So I like to like use
Speaker 7: that and like take you out like lying and dying,
Speaker 7: you know, whatever it is. And sometimes it feels like
Speaker 7: I'm a sugar daddy. But if you reciprocate the love
Speaker 7: in different ways that I won't feel that way. But
Speaker 7: if I still use and stuff, then then I start
Speaker 7: getting into that. So it's like a very thin line
Speaker 7: between like my love language and like you're using and
Speaker 7: using it, you know.
Speaker 1: And then a love language that you like to receive.
Speaker 7: I would say I would love somebody could give me
Speaker 7: words of affirmation because I constantly need to hear like
Speaker 7: you're fine, you love me. We're good, you know, not
Speaker 7: in touch. You know, I like to be touched, so
Speaker 7: like hug me, you.
Speaker 1: Know, beautiful. Are you also looking for someone that's down
Speaker 1: to like meet family or like very family oriented, someone
Speaker 1: that is close to their own family, or if they're
Speaker 1: not close to their family, they're down to get close
Speaker 1: to yours. What's the vibe?
Speaker 6: Yeah, all the above, Like I love my family.
Speaker 7: Sometimes I'm just kidding, but yeah, very family kind of person.
Speaker 6: I actually am possibly looking to have a kid soon.
Speaker 1: So very exciting. Is there anything else that would eat
Speaker 1: that that you feel like you might need to know
Speaker 1: before we go ahead and get to know these contestants
Speaker 1: for our lovely mandator.
Speaker 3: Daniel I think, daniel you're an amazing young man. This
Speaker 3: is going to be an easy thing because you are
Speaker 3: such a ray of sunshine and you're such a success
Speaker 3: to life in your community that there's nothing more we
Speaker 3: want than to find you that beautiful partner.
Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, all right, Danielle. Now we're going to bring
Speaker 1: in your contestants, So sit back, relax, and feel what
Speaker 1: it's like to be on the other side. Now, let's
Speaker 1: bring in Zecontosto will be your right back.
Speaker 9: Welcome back to day, Maiawani the first. Okay, so let's
Speaker 9: meet all of you. First, up, we have Jake.
Speaker 1: Jake recently played a potato in a Super Bowl ad.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, the thanks we do for work. But
Speaker 2: listen in the super Bowl. I'd be a potat a salary.
Speaker 1: Whatever you want to saying anything, whatever you need, I'll do.
Speaker 1: Jake is a warm and optimistic twenty seven year old
Speaker 1: survivor super fan. Oh my gosh. He's a podcast producer
Speaker 1: look at Us Home, chef yummy, and actor with a
Speaker 1: go with the flow kind of vibe. He is currently
Speaker 1: working through an anxious attachment I feel that by spending
Speaker 1: quality time with good friends good for you, and is
Speaker 1: looking for a partner who can take on life with
Speaker 1: him with joy and laughter. Welcome Jay, No love him.
Speaker 4: I've never felt more seen by.
Speaker 1: Next, we have Nunda. Fernando believes in the power of manifesting. Yes,
Speaker 1: even if it means accidentally wishing on a plane instead
Speaker 1: of a star.
Speaker 2: They both shine pretty.
Speaker 1: He is busy making his dreams come true as an
Speaker 1: actor and wants to someday open a performing arts academy.
Speaker 1: So cute. Fernando is from a Mexican family who has
Speaker 1: been a incredibly supportive of his journey in the entertainment industry.
Speaker 1: Fadana says, the one place Manifesting has not yet worked
Speaker 1: is his dating life, so hopefully a little bit of
Speaker 1: that could change today. Welcome Fernando, hell, thank you for
Speaker 1: having me, And finally we have Jonathan. Jonathan is an
Speaker 1: Aquarius love with a big heart. Jonathan is a big
Speaker 1: cinephile Ooh and so the movie theater is his happy place.
Speaker 1: He cares about social justice yes, and wants to advocate
Speaker 1: for a better world. Double yes, yes, yes. Jonathan loves
Speaker 1: people who are playful and wants a relationship filled with laughter,
Speaker 1: don't we all. He is attracted to people who work
Speaker 1: out and take care of themselves, but this includes dad
Speaker 1: bods yummy. People think his quieter nature translates to shyness
Speaker 1: or timidness in the bedroom, but Jonathan is here to
Speaker 1: remind us that that is not true. Welcome, Hi.
Speaker 8: How about you guys?
Speaker 1: So good?
Speaker 3: This is a beautiful array of young men and eligible Also,
Speaker 3: I want to believe that you guys are telling the
Speaker 3: truth right.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna start with the first game. We want
Speaker 1: to see how well, you all read people. So in
Speaker 1: this game of assumptions, you three will be asked to
Speaker 1: make an assumption about one of your fellow contestants, and
Speaker 1: they will tell you in a nice or spicy way
Speaker 1: if you were right or you were wrong. For example,
Speaker 1: I might say, WILLI that I'm going to assume that
Speaker 1: you meditate in the morning.
Speaker 2: You can call it that I actually talk to God?
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, that's a form. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think that my goodness and my kindness and my
Speaker 3: humility are based on his love, and I just have
Speaker 3: to remind me every morning after I thank him for
Speaker 3: opening my office and making sure I'm still here.
Speaker 1: Here, here, blessed be for another day, alive and this
Speaker 1: interesting earthly dimension. So that's kind of the game. So
Speaker 1: we're gonna prompt you for a few different assumptions. So
Speaker 1: let's get started with Yes, Jake, why don't you start
Speaker 1: us off by making an assumption about Jonathan?
Speaker 10: Okay, Okay, Jonathan, I'm gonna say you're more of a
Speaker 10: tequila girl than a vodka girl.
Speaker 1: Ye, yes, yes, tequila gir is excellent assumption, Jake, Jonathan,
Speaker 1: assume something about Fernando.
Speaker 8: I got a feeling that Fernando is probably very serious
Speaker 8: about work and then loves to have fun and just
Speaker 8: let loose when he's.
Speaker 4: Not busy at work.
Speaker 1: Oh, Fernando thoughts, Yeah, I mean, I'm not like super crazy,
Speaker 1: but I do take work very seriously.
Speaker 5: I mean, for me, let louse is more like hanging
Speaker 5: out with friends and having like nice conversations about life
Speaker 5: and what going through. I'm not necessarily like a party person.
Speaker 1: I could say like having a deep conversation with your
Speaker 1: friends is definitely letting loose and like exposing yourself in
Speaker 1: a different way.
Speaker 2: For Noanda, what do you think about the assumption about Jake.
Speaker 5: I don't know why I'm getting vibes that you love photography.
Speaker 10: Ooh, I'm going to say, like, partially, I honestly, I'm
Speaker 10: much more of like a mood, like I get bored
Speaker 10: really so I do like a moving image. I love
Speaker 10: a TV show, but I recently I've recently been bringing
Speaker 10: like a digital camera around with me and just to
Speaker 10: like capture the little moments here and there, and I'm
Speaker 10: having fun.
Speaker 4: So I'm gonna say, yeah, sure.
Speaker 1: Cute, Okay, some really good assumptions overall, well done, well done.
Speaker 1: So now we're going to give the assumptions a little twist.
Speaker 1: We want to make assumptions specifically about other contestants dating profiles.
Speaker 1: So I want to know what do you think each
Speaker 1: of you are saying on the apps. Fernando start us off.
Speaker 1: What do you assume Jonathan has on his dating profile?
Speaker 5: It's something very confident, something along them. I was like,
Speaker 5: I'm the best you'll ever have.
Speaker 1: You know something else, Jonathan, what do you what do
Speaker 1: you think about that? Do you have that in your
Speaker 1: dating profile or something that allures to that?
Speaker 6: Definitely not, but thank you for thinking that.
Speaker 1: That's awesome, My goodness. Okay, Jonathan make an assumption on
Speaker 1: Jake's dating profile.
Speaker 8: I think I'm just going to set the says like
Speaker 8: plant daddy looking for my other plant, have to raise
Speaker 8: our plant kids with That's what I'm getting.
Speaker 2: WHOA I do not?
Speaker 4: I do not.
Speaker 10: I do love plants, and maybe I need to put
Speaker 10: in all my dating profile. I do not.
Speaker 1: Jake make an assumption on Fernando's dating profile.
Speaker 4: I think you don't mess around.
Speaker 10: I think you're like I'm looking for love or like
Speaker 10: I'm looking for a long term relationship, not about the bullshit,
Speaker 10: direct with what you want in a partner.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I do mention that I'm looking for
Speaker 5: long term. I just'm I suck at like the Bay
Speaker 5: of thinkings, so I usually do like a pretty joke,
Speaker 5: but I do mention that I look for long term.
Speaker 1: Hell's yes, Oh my gosh, so sweet. So let's move
Speaker 1: on to our next game, and we're gonna clue you
Speaker 1: in a little secret.
Speaker 2: You know we love secrets, Oh, we sure do.
Speaker 1: Our main dater this week actually was a contestant a
Speaker 1: few weeks ago, and he absolutely wowed us with this game.
Speaker 1: So we want to see if you are a strong
Speaker 1: match for his candid and very surprising answers to this
Speaker 1: game of dick shenery. In this game, we're gonna ask
Speaker 1: you to define a new word. We'll give you a
Speaker 1: sentence with a brand new term in it, completely made
Speaker 1: of and you'll tell us what your definition of that
Speaker 1: new word is going to be. For example, if I
Speaker 1: told the sentence of I am always trying new things
Speaker 1: in the bedroom, I can be a bit of an
Speaker 1: in that way?
Speaker 2: What does mean? That means you can be a wild stallion?
Speaker 1: I I'm clearly not the only gorgo on this podcast. Okay,
Speaker 1: so the first sentence, I'm gonna give you all. I
Speaker 1: am looking for a man with a nice bascuta. It
Speaker 1: turns me on Jonathan. What does bascuta mean?
Speaker 8: Basuta means the way he carries himself, that energy, like
Speaker 8: when he walks.
Speaker 4: In the room.
Speaker 1: You know about schoolda. Okay, the energy. Oh, I love that, Fernando,
Speaker 1: what does buschuta mean?
Speaker 5: I just think it would be funny if he refers
Speaker 5: to someone who's Adam's apple like really pops out of
Speaker 5: their neck.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, Yeah, Like Jonathan has a really great baschoota.
Speaker 5: That people love that, you know.
Speaker 1: So pronounced Adam's apple. Buschood into that, Jake, what does
Speaker 1: buschood that mean?
Speaker 10: I'm gonna say that busuta is a strong fortified bank account.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, I can't stop clapping.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I can definitely see how all these things can be
Speaker 1: very attractive.
Speaker 2: Especially at my age.
Speaker 1: That busuta we're looking for, that thick buscuta. Indeed, I
Speaker 1: have another word. It is a beautiful Saturday morning.
Speaker 2: Hi.
Speaker 1: Turned to my partner and ask, can you get me
Speaker 1: some Chad bless at the Farmer's market please? Jake water
Speaker 1: Chad to bliss.
Speaker 10: That's like a five course breakfast that you've made for me.
Speaker 1: Fancy.
Speaker 10: Yes, we're getting some real good cheeses. We're getting the
Speaker 10: fresh sour dough bread mimosa.
Speaker 5: Maybe.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're going all in absolutely chatta bless. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: that sounds fancy. Jonathan, what does chata bless mean?
Speaker 8: I would say it's like super expensive, super fancy goffe okaice,
Speaker 8: like goffe that is just so good it has its
Speaker 8: little name chart.
Speaker 1: Bless Mmm into that that sounds delicious. Fernando, what does
Speaker 1: chad to bless mean to you?
Speaker 5: And he just sounds like a cheese that has dried
Speaker 5: cranberries on it and you usually put it on.
Speaker 1: Oh we're specific with the cheese with dried craberries insigne.
Speaker 1: That sounds delicious, like some of this.
Speaker 5: Something like a cream cheese, something you can spread nicely.
Speaker 2: Creamy and sweet. Okay.
Speaker 1: The final word that will literally Leana deserves a juicy
Speaker 1: he be scoob sometime soon, So Nonando, what does he
Speaker 1: be scoob mean? And why does Liliana deserve it?
Speaker 5: You guys from her?
Speaker 1: With the term bullies, I don't know the term bullies.
Speaker 5: So in Mexico, bullies is like ice cream by this
Speaker 5: is like mad with sorbet and eyes. It's like shaved
Speaker 5: eyes but in a bag so they free set that way.
Speaker 1: Oh gorgeous like a fruit bullyes.
Speaker 2: Oh, the fruit.
Speaker 1: Bully is very juicy and yummy and refreshing.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, I deserve something juicy and refreshing.
Speaker 1: Yes you do, yes, yes, yes, Jonathan, what does he
Speaker 1: be scoob mean?
Speaker 8: When you're cuddled up with someone and you're just kind
Speaker 8: of touched underneath them and the little he scoop like
Speaker 8: it's little better than a cuddle, but not to suffocating
Speaker 8: and just fit right in the space where you fit
Speaker 8: right in.
Speaker 6: Is that?
Speaker 4: Keep it screwed?
Speaker 2: That's when is that happening? Well?
Speaker 1: Hopefully soon No, yeah, we'll find out. Jake, what does
Speaker 1: he be scooped mean?
Speaker 4: Okay, let me set this scene.
Speaker 10: You're on a dance floor with your partner, right and
Speaker 10: you're making eyes at each other. You're having an You're like, oh,
Speaker 10: let me go, I'll go get us a drink, and
Speaker 10: when you turn around, they give you a nice little
Speaker 10: tender little like butt slap, you know.
Speaker 2: Like a little pinch.
Speaker 4: But just to let you know a little.
Speaker 1: He was scooped a little juicy got you, dad?
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: Oh I love these. I love all of these. There's
Speaker 1: like refresherating, there's juicy, there's like tenderness and sexy.
Speaker 2: I want them all and I want them soon.
Speaker 1: But me too, honestly, me too.
Speaker 3: Maybe these contestants will also get a he be scoop
Speaker 3: pretty soon.
Speaker 1: We can absolutely hope. Unfortunately, contestants, we won't be able
Speaker 1: to move forward with all three of you.
Speaker 2: Now when it comes to our main dater.
Speaker 3: It's important for us to make sure that the people
Speaker 3: that we hold on to until the very end have
Speaker 3: some compatibility with the main dat.
Speaker 2: And I can't just do this because it hurts.
Speaker 3: I know we are gonna have to let go of
Speaker 3: one of you wonderful individuals.
Speaker 2: And today the person leaving us is Jonathan.
Speaker 1: Jonathan, thank you so so much. You are so sweet
Speaker 1: and your hair is fucking fabulous.
Speaker 2: We talked about it.
Speaker 1: We've been talking about your hair and your smile this
Speaker 1: whole time. Thank you so much for being with us
Speaker 1: and playing and playing along.
Speaker 6: Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: I'll see you will be your right back. Welcome back today.
Speaker 1: Maya Wani the first Okay, well, and now there are
Speaker 1: two congratulations to our final two contestants. Now here's the
Speaker 1: moment where we would like to know a little bit
Speaker 1: more about you and to give you an opportunity to
Speaker 1: dig deeper with a little cafecito. Go a wilita. All right,
Speaker 1: start sipping alita. It's your time to have a little cafescito.
Speaker 3: Gone Vernando, Fernando, you have a wilitas not anymore.
Speaker 5: I actually I never got to meet my mother's mom
Speaker 5: because she passed way before I was even conceived, and
Speaker 5: my dad's mom a little bit growing up. At the
Speaker 5: last four or five years of her life, I didn't
Speaker 5: get to see her anymore, and she has passed as well.
Speaker 2: Oh I'm so sorry. Well, you have an a wilita.
Speaker 2: That's me. Thank you.
Speaker 3: You can call me twenty four to seven. I don't
Speaker 3: mind nobody calls me for I'll tell you it's so funny.
Speaker 3: But let's talk about your love life and what it
Speaker 3: was like in the past and what do you want now.
Speaker 5: To be completely honest with you, I've had the worst
Speaker 5: luck when it comes to dating. I'm a giver for sure,
Speaker 5: and I feel like, unfortunately I've come across a lot
Speaker 5: of people that like to take advantage of that. In
Speaker 5: all honesty, I dated women in my past and that
Speaker 5: went a bit better. I feel like we were able
Speaker 5: to make a better connection. Really, yes, oh totally.
Speaker 2: But you want to date men, I do. This is
Speaker 2: who you are.
Speaker 3: Yes, tell me when was your last relationship and how
Speaker 3: long was it?
Speaker 5: About six or seven years ago? I can't quite remember it,
Speaker 5: to be honest with you, and it.
Speaker 2: Was four months, so not memorable at all.
Speaker 5: No, I think it was memorable because I learned a
Speaker 5: lot from it, and I learned a lot about myself
Speaker 5: about all the things that I needed to change, because
Speaker 5: I feel like sometimes I tend to be like a
Speaker 5: people pleaser and I tend to stop listening to my
Speaker 5: needs and what I need to do for myself, and
Speaker 5: to also stand up for things that I don't always
Speaker 5: agree with.
Speaker 3: Okay, so you have a new data and a new
Speaker 3: opportunity and a new partner in your life. What do
Speaker 3: you do on a daily basis to make sure that
Speaker 3: that relationship flourishes?
Speaker 5: I think for me, communication is very important and honesty,
Speaker 5: what I've learned that has kind of like messed me
Speaker 5: up personally in the past is that I don't communicate
Speaker 5: how I'm feeling to try to please the other person
Speaker 5: or like keep them content most of the time, and
Speaker 5: not only just in relationships, like also people that I've
Speaker 5: dated and stuff like that. The biggest issue is that
Speaker 5: I don't share if something is bothering me or it's
Speaker 5: something like I'm not agreeing with. So I feel like
Speaker 5: for me, communication and honesty and I mean, we're dating,
Speaker 5: we should have that trust, right.
Speaker 3: Right, But you know at this point that you are
Speaker 3: ready to have a fifty to fifty relationship with someone
Speaker 3: who can communicate with you, who is honest, and who
Speaker 3: is going to enjoy this relationship as much as you do.
Speaker 2: Correct.
Speaker 5: Yes, and I've been trying to exercise it, and so
Speaker 5: far we still haven't had any luck with it.
Speaker 2: That's why you're on date.
Speaker 3: Maya Wili the first yes, and now we're here, Oh
Speaker 3: my god, the pressure's on. Thank you so much, Pan,
Speaker 3: I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Yes, thank you, Fernando for this little intimate cafa or right,
Speaker 1: there's another piping hot cafecito for Auilita with another contestant, Jake.
Speaker 1: Welcome back. I'm gonna hand you over to Alda Aulita.
Speaker 1: Have your cafecido.
Speaker 2: Oh, grass as vehicle. How are you, Jake, I'm great.
Speaker 4: How are you doing?
Speaker 2: I am doing pretty well.
Speaker 3: I have a couple of little questions for you, and
Speaker 3: it's regarding your love life, So tell me a little
Speaker 3: bit about it. What has happened up until now? Have
Speaker 3: you had a relationship lately?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 10: Yeah, I've had two serious relationships. My most recent relationship
Speaker 10: was two and a half years ago. I would say
Speaker 10: I put myself out there a lot, and I'm like
Speaker 10: really open to dating, but I'm pretty choosy about who
Speaker 10: I like will really let into my life in that way.
Speaker 3: What are the qualities you want in this partner because
Speaker 3: you are looking for a partner correct.
Speaker 4: Yes, I amiling for a partner more than anything.
Speaker 10: I want someone who's really fun and who will make
Speaker 10: me laugh, Like God, we need to laugh together. Life
Speaker 10: can be so boring and it can also be so
Speaker 10: fun if you surround yourself with the right people. So
Speaker 10: I would love someone who is willing to like put
Speaker 10: in the energy to like, you know, crack a joke
Speaker 10: and like make the most out of a day and
Speaker 10: really like make sure it's an adventure rather than get
Speaker 10: stuck into many routines or take things too.
Speaker 2: Seriously, what are the red flags?
Speaker 10: I feel like I've run into a lot of men
Speaker 10: who are so afraid of any sort of like commitment
Speaker 10: or there's like an emotional unavailability, which it's just like.
Speaker 4: Come on, you gotta do it if you want to
Speaker 4: make this work.
Speaker 10: So I think this kind of need to be like
Speaker 10: so untethered from a relationship is a red flag. If
Speaker 10: you don't have your own group of friends, that's another
Speaker 10: huge red flag.
Speaker 4: I have the best friend in the world.
Speaker 10: I want you to have the best friends in the
Speaker 10: world too, And yes we should all hang out together,
Speaker 10: but like have your people, I'll have mine, and we
Speaker 10: can you know, find new ones together.
Speaker 4: Another red flag. Oh, they can't handle like freaking chili flake.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean. If they're eating bland food,
Speaker 4: I will lose my mind.
Speaker 2: So you're doing spicy food?
Speaker 4: Oh my god. Yeah.
Speaker 10: My grandpa was like literally force feeding me chili peppers
Speaker 10: when I was like a baby, So I'm well trained.
Speaker 2: Where was your grandpa from?
Speaker 4: My grandfather is from Kolkata in India.
Speaker 2: Oh, how amazing is that?
Speaker 3: How beautiful? So it's a Saturday morning. You've been living
Speaker 3: with your partner for just a little while, What do
Speaker 3: you do that morning when you both wake up and
Speaker 3: you have a free day.
Speaker 10: I think the first thing I do is I go,
Speaker 10: what do you feel like doing? And let's like come
Speaker 10: up with it together. I feel like it can look
Speaker 10: like anything. But I would say on a Saturday morning
Speaker 10: when I don't have like work, I want to get outside.
Speaker 4: I want to.
Speaker 10: Probably either make or eat an incredible brunch and just
Speaker 10: like take it from there.
Speaker 2: And I was gonna ask you if you're a foodie.
Speaker 10: I'm a huge I started cooking during COVID genuinely because
Speaker 10: I wanted people to think I was hot. And I
Speaker 10: was like watching all of these other people do like
Speaker 10: home videos, and I was like, that's not me yet,
Speaker 10: so videos and I started doing that and then I
Speaker 10: fell in love with cooking and it's kind of like
Speaker 10: become this like really incredible.
Speaker 4: Passion of mine. So now I run a supper club.
Speaker 3: And that's You're an amazing young man. Thank you for
Speaker 3: your time. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Kiliana, two dates in one day. You're
Speaker 1: a busy woman. Does feel what?
Speaker 2: I could go on? Seven more?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I think I don't know.
Speaker 3: Maybe I'm underestimating the polyamory has taught me a lot.
Speaker 1: Do you feel like you understand more about our handsome contestants?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I like them both a lot there, individually talented, creative, smart,
Speaker 3: you know where you're at, you know what you want.
Speaker 2: You're just adorable. Okay, I'm going home now.
Speaker 1: Well before you do that, Awalita, should we tell them
Speaker 1: LUs secret?
Speaker 2: It's time?
Speaker 1: So our main data has actually been undercover this whole time,
Speaker 1: listening in since the very beginning. Indeed, and Awa might
Speaker 1: have an idea of who she likes for our main data,
Speaker 1: but we're gonna have you step out for a second
Speaker 1: to see we have a unanimous decision. In the meantime,
Speaker 1: Muchisima's grassias to the both of you, besos aurasos. Truly,
Speaker 1: it's been so much fun. Thank you so much for playing.
Speaker 1: We'll deliberate and then we'll bring you back in and
Speaker 1: the damn thing. All right, Awlita, this was hard. I
Speaker 1: think they both have fantastic answers.
Speaker 2: They both fit the profile.
Speaker 1: We got foodie, we got food.
Speaker 3: They're both into honesty, they're both into communication, they're both
Speaker 3: into laughter. They're both pretty nice, decent people. They both
Speaker 3: smile all the time, they don't seem to be carrying
Speaker 3: any major baggage that would be, you know, an intrusion
Speaker 3: into their relationship.
Speaker 2: I have no.
Speaker 1: Idea, Daniel, tell us what you think, You're right.
Speaker 7: The answers were both on point. I like Fernando's answer
Speaker 7: a lot. I just feel like he's too sweet for
Speaker 7: me and I need a little spicy, you.
Speaker 2: Know, mm hmmm.
Speaker 6: And Jake, I feel like might be too spicy.
Speaker 1: For me noted. Yeah, I feel like I'm like leaning
Speaker 1: on team Jake.
Speaker 3: And it might be a little challenge to Daniel, but
Speaker 3: Daniel can take that challenge.
Speaker 2: Right now, we are.
Speaker 6: Colors.
Speaker 2: You are very extremely pretty.
Speaker 3: You are pretty in physically, you are pretty within, and
Speaker 3: that's what I'd love about you, damn you, I do. So.
Speaker 3: I just want to make sure that that person that
Speaker 3: we put with you can see that, because that's who
Speaker 3: you are. Besides all the joking and all the oh yeah,
Speaker 3: this red flag or this green one, it's about where
Speaker 3: you go forward from here and how open you're gonna be.
Speaker 2: So thank you for that.
Speaker 1: Alrighty, so thank you. We're going to bring in our
Speaker 1: contestants and share the verdict.
Speaker 2: I am so.
Speaker 1: Ready okay, welcome back. Are handsome, gorgeous, hilarious contestants. Smart smart, definitely,
Speaker 1: we have reached a verdict and I will eat that well.
Speaker 1: Now take it away.
Speaker 3: Listen the two of you, amazing human beings. Thank you
Speaker 3: for being part of day may I will eit the first.
Speaker 2: We'd love it. We love it.
Speaker 3: And even though we make, especially me, I make a
Speaker 3: lot of jokes and a little words that come here
Speaker 3: and there, at the end of the show, it is
Speaker 3: my heart that is going to decide who is going
Speaker 3: to join the main dater, who has those qualities, those
Speaker 3: green flags, that will take that relationship further into being
Speaker 3: a partnership and without further ado. The person meeting our
Speaker 3: main dater today it's Jake.
Speaker 1: Congratulations, Jake Fermando, Thank you so so very much. You
Speaker 1: are an absolute delight.
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, how do you feel?
Speaker 1: Jake feels great?
Speaker 5: Not gonna.
Speaker 1: Well, Jake, it's time to introduce you to Daniel.
Speaker 6: I'm sorry it nice to meet you too. I was
Speaker 6: watching you guys.
Speaker 1: Honestly, Yeah, Daniel, any first impressions on Jake.
Speaker 6: I was a contestant to side.
Speaker 7: I know how you feel, you know, but for me,
Speaker 7: like I'm spicy, you know, as you can see despite
Speaker 7: but I'm also like very loving and sweet, so like
Speaker 7: that's what made me gravitate towards you.
Speaker 6: And then obviously you're pretty.
Speaker 1: Too, So yes, Jake, first impressions on Daniel.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you seem like an absolute sweetheart and I like
Speaker 4: the tattoos.
Speaker 2: So we're doing well.
Speaker 3: Crying, you have to know, I will be just crying
Speaker 3: because I see possibilities.
Speaker 1: I love it amazing. Well, now we're going to send
Speaker 1: our contestants away for a little virtual date.
Speaker 2: How fun cuties? Remember PG or not?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 4: Where are you from?
Speaker 6: I live in East La? What about you?
Speaker 4: Same? I mean I'm silverly great now?
Speaker 6: Oh really, I think i've seen you on Grinder before.
Speaker 4: Well there you go, that's yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: What's your zodiac si?
Speaker 10: I'm a Virgo, but I don't know. I don't I
Speaker 10: really don't know much about it. So maybe you can
Speaker 10: virgo nice? Like?
Speaker 4: Is that a good thing? Are we good?
Speaker 7: I don't know, Honestly, I don't know if Virgos are
Speaker 7: like compatible.
Speaker 6: I think yeah, I think we are great?
Speaker 4: Right, Okay, so what how do you like to spend
Speaker 4: your time?
Speaker 7: I just like to be around them. Go to the beach,
Speaker 7: go on a hike, do some rooms, whatever, you go
Speaker 7: to the festival like all that. You know, I'm just
Speaker 7: like I like to live life and be happy.
Speaker 4: You know, I love it.
Speaker 5: I love you.
Speaker 4: I really love to cook.
Speaker 10: I love food, and I really like hanging out with
Speaker 10: my friends, whether that's like beach hike, whether it's like
Speaker 10: a bar.
Speaker 4: I love to have myself a weekend and like a
Speaker 4: lot of.
Speaker 6: But you do cook for me anytime?
Speaker 4: Well, what kind of feed do you like?
Speaker 6: Anything? Honestly? Everything?
Speaker 5: Okay, I'm good.
Speaker 4: That's a good answer, because.
Speaker 7: The Mexicans food and like I'll say Italian food.
Speaker 4: Okay, awesome. Well, yeah, you can definitely do that.
Speaker 7: So how are you in a relationship? Are you one
Speaker 7: of those like open people or do you like monogamy?
Speaker 7: What is your life?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 10: I think like monogamy is definitely like home base for me.
Speaker 10: When I have been with people, I haven't really felt
Speaker 10: the drive to like open it up.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 7: I don't like open relationships. Yeah, but I like fucking
Speaker 7: people together.
Speaker 10: Yeah there you go went, and absolutely absolutely you can't
Speaker 10: fuck them without me though, don't. I've always like, when
Speaker 10: I think of an open relationship, my instinct is like no.
Speaker 10: But like the thing that I guess I'd be open
Speaker 10: to considering is if it's like for us, you know,
Speaker 10: it's take a way for us to like practice more
Speaker 10: communication and like get closer as like a couple rather
Speaker 10: than it is like I'm just trying to like functioning
Speaker 10: on each other. Yeah, it's been there, horrible, not fun.
Speaker 10: What kind of relationship you want?
Speaker 6: I won that lasts longer than a couple of months. Yeah,
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 7: Just communication, you know, Like I want somebody to be
Speaker 7: honest and open about how they feel and like also
Speaker 7: be comfortable with setting boundaries and like being fearless and
Speaker 7: like I don't want to read people's minds.
Speaker 6: And I'm very like an ampits.
Speaker 7: So if I'm around people and you're in like a
Speaker 7: bad mood or like something's like wrong, I'm going to know.
Speaker 7: And if you're tire me own nothing's wrong but I
Speaker 7: feel it, then I'm going to pick until you get
Speaker 7: mad and then you're like and you're like, well, yeah.
Speaker 6: This is wrong. We could have told me and I
Speaker 6: would have just left it alone.
Speaker 10: Yeah yeah, so communication necessary?
Speaker 1: Well wow, wow, Well I hope those sweeties hit it off.
Speaker 1: Find us back here next week as Lena and I
Speaker 1: make some more matches.
Speaker 4: Good work today, I wanted that, Oh we did?
Speaker 2: I like what I'm looking at.
Speaker 1: Bt Maori. The First is a production from WV Sound
Speaker 1: and iHeartMedia's Mike Utura podcast network, hosted by Me vic
Speaker 1: ortis joined by the fabulous Jenna Montenegro Babe may Auri.
Speaker 1: The First is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel, and
Speaker 1: Sophie Spencer Zavos. Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama, Leo Clem,
Speaker 1: and Nico Raguel w V Sound. This episode was edited
Speaker 1: by Sean Tracy and Sophie Spencer Zavos and features original
Speaker 1: music by Alva Morello and Gay Lopez. Special thanks to
Speaker 1: our team of cupits at WV Entertainment. Special Things. Also
Speaker 1: to our hopeful romantics this week, Daniel, Jake Fernando, and Jonathan.
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