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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 2: If you need advice and relationships on dating, on work,

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Speaker 2: on sex, on parenting, and more, Please submit your Strawberry

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Speaker 2: Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 2: We could be reading your letter live on the air.

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Speaker 3: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for you.

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Speaker 2: Here.

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Speaker 3: It is Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 2: Subject show business Isn't for everyone. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm

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Speaker 2: a fifty year old, devoted wife with a big problem.

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Speaker 2: I've been married to a great man for twenty three

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Speaker 2: years and we have two kids in college. He's a

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Speaker 2: great provider and we both have solid careers, but he

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Speaker 2: has always had a big dream.

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Speaker 1: He wants to be a big Broadway actor.

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Speaker 2: My husband wants badly to be an actor, but he's

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Speaker 2: never been able to make it work. He's auditioned for

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Speaker 2: a lot of commercials, he's taking act he's take and

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Speaker 2: acting classes, and he has wasted our money on hustling

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Speaker 2: his way into some big auditions, but each time he

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Speaker 2: was rejected. The most he's achieved is some unpaid adult roles.

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Speaker 1: In the local children's theater.

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Speaker 2: To put it plainly, he can't act worth the darn

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Speaker 2: and he can't sing to save his life.

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Speaker 1: I love him, but it's the truth.

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Speaker 2: Our friends and family have sat through too many bad

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Speaker 2: productions and local plays, and I simply can't do it anymore.

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Speaker 2: We constantly have to lie and tell him he's good,

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Speaker 2: and we know that we are giving him false encouragement.

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Speaker 2: My biggest problem is now that our kids are in college,

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Speaker 2: he has come up with a crazy idea of moving

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Speaker 2: to New York so he can finally make it big

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Speaker 2: as an actor. He has no professional experience, but he

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Speaker 2: thinks he just needs to be discovered to get his

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Speaker 2: first big break. I don't know how to tell him

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Speaker 2: it's not going to happen without crushing his spirit. What

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Speaker 2: is a wife to do when you know your man's

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Speaker 2: hopes most likely will never be a reality. Steve, you're

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Speaker 2: a superstar, So what advice do you have for someone

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Speaker 2: who has to tell their spouse there definitely not going

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Speaker 2: to make it. He can't upgroup my life with a delusion.

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Speaker 2: Please help?

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Speaker 1: Well? Does he have any talent at all? Nothing? Nothing?

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Speaker 1: Because on one hand.

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Speaker 2: You definitely need to stop lying to him, you and

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Speaker 2: all your friends, and you all have to tell him

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Speaker 2: the truth. If you really love him like you say

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Speaker 2: you do, and those are really his friends, you guys

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Speaker 2: have to sit him down and tell him the truth.

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Speaker 2: Maybe he didn't take enough acting classes sometimes, you know,

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Speaker 2: maybe he needs more.

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Speaker 1: You know, sometimes you can you know. Maybe.

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Speaker 2: On the other hand, you don't want to be the

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Speaker 2: one to just kill his dream. This is a dream

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Speaker 2: of his, so you know, you gotta you have to

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Speaker 2: support him as a wife because you know he's going

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Speaker 2: to be crushed to know that you really don't believe

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Speaker 2: in him, all right, but obviously he believes in himself,

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Speaker 2: which is a good thing, no matter how many rejections

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Speaker 2: he's gotten, because I mean, actors say this all the

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Speaker 2: time about the rejections they have to deal with, and

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Speaker 2: they do have to deal with a lot of rejection.

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Speaker 2: And no, I don't think that you should uproot your life,

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Speaker 2: but I do think, you know, maybe you should have

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Speaker 2: one more good chance for him, you know, give him

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Speaker 2: a chance to pursue his dream. You know, pick a date,

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Speaker 2: set up some audition, send out some videotapes, video audition,

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Speaker 2: video auditions, and if he gets a bite. If he gets,

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Speaker 2: go to New York. If it's something something permanent, okay,

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Speaker 2: But I would encourage him to keep taking those classes

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Speaker 2: because I don't think he should kill his dream. I don't,

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Speaker 2: yes he has, I don't want to crush this time.

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Speaker 4: If this time out for this too old, for this

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Speaker 4: fifty years old. You've been with this man twenty three years.

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Speaker 4: He ain't made it yet, the damn kids is gonna

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Speaker 3: He's a great provider, That's what he is.

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Speaker 4: Got a solid career, that's what That's what he is.

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Speaker 4: He's always had a big dream. He wants to be

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Speaker 4: but he ain't never been.

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Speaker 3: Able to make it work.

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Speaker 4: He's an audition for commercials. He taking acting classes. He

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Speaker 4: and every time he rejected because he can't act.

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Speaker 3: Your damn husband can't act.

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Speaker 4: But what is this why he always get That's why

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Speaker 3: Ain't nobody asked him to come down there?

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Speaker 4: They had him at the other audition he can't act

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Speaker 3: Now, old fat ass is somewhere. He the tree, the tree.

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Speaker 3: You're in the children's theater. Your big ass is the tree.

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Speaker 1: You're wrong.

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Speaker 4: To put it plainly. He can't act worth for damn.

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Speaker 4: I said this two letters, two sentences in. He can't

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Speaker 4: So if somebody had a gun on him and said,

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Speaker 4: if you can sound like any record out.

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Speaker 3: Today, I won't shoot you, his ass will be shot.

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Speaker 4: I love him, but it's the truth, and the truth

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Speaker 4: will set you free, friends and family that set through

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Speaker 4: too many bad productions.

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Speaker 3: And local plays. And I can't do it no damn more.

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Speaker 3: Just send up lying to.

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Speaker 4: His old as telling him he good, and we know

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Speaker 4: we give it him false encouragement. Your ass ain't nothing

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Speaker 3: Now he done came up with some crazy idea to

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Speaker 3: move in New York. You know how much you costs

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Speaker 3: live in New York, Tyler, Ain't I finna.

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Speaker 4: Hide his old ass and he ain't been nothing but

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Speaker 4: a tree. Steve, we come back. I'm gonna tell you

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Speaker 4: the rest of it. Tell but you don't want to

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Speaker 4: kill his dream. Ain't no damn dream.

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 2: We'll have part two of Steve's very sweet response coming

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Speaker 2: up at twenty three after the hour. Today's subject is

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Speaker 2: show business isn't for everyone. It isn't for everyone, and

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Speaker 2: it may not be for your husband. We'll be back

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Speaker 2: with part two at twenty three after right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening hard morning show.

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Speaker 2: All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters.

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Speaker 2: Subject show business isn't for everyone.

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Speaker 4: Fifty old man been married to this fifty ye old dude.

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Speaker 4: Fifty year old woman. She's been married to this man

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Speaker 4: twenty three years. The kids and went off to college.

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Speaker 4: He'd been trying to make it as an actor all

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Speaker 3: He can't. He'dn't been auditions. He always get rejected.

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Speaker 4: He'd hustle his way into big auditions, he always get

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Speaker 3: He can't act. You know, he'd have been in some

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Speaker 3: know what that means. He can't act with for damn.

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Speaker 3: He can't sing word for damn.

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Speaker 4: He's a good provider, but other than that, he's not

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Speaker 3: Now let's just speak clear. Wow, friends and family, the.

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Speaker 4: Sect through too many bad productions and local plays, and

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Speaker 4: you can't do it no more.

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Speaker 3: Well, you think you can't do it your friends, is

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Speaker 4: He probably on them players where he's selling tickets to it.

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Speaker 4: Everybody in the plane got to sell fifteen tickets.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's probably what he did. He can't act.

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Speaker 4: I was scared when I first saw this letter that

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Speaker 4: but but because I thought it was about somebody I knew.

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Speaker 3: But then it turned.

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Speaker 4: On me because, oh no, he do want to be

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Speaker 3: I heard him up one making work. Now, I was

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Speaker 3: just saying it was somebody I know.

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Speaker 4: He auditioned for a lot of commercial he just took

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Speaker 4: acting classes. But then it started going bad because he said,

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Speaker 4: but he can't act one for damn. So then I

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Speaker 4: knew it wasn't tom because Tommy asked, can act it?

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Speaker 3: Well, at first I.

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Speaker 4: Was very.

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Speaker 1: He was on board.

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Speaker 3: Oh I was gonna do it, but then you know

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Speaker 3: it's said he can't act one for down and that's.

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Speaker 4: Tommy can really act though, so I had to back

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Speaker 4: up off. So it's not nobody. I know he has

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Speaker 4: how to tell him it's not gonna happen without crushing

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Speaker 3: We got to get this spirit crushed.

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Speaker 4: We have gotten it soon for y'all mess around, and

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Speaker 4: he find a place in Manhattan, and.

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Speaker 3: Y'all as gonna starve to death going up there trying

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Speaker 4: Now listen to me. First of all, here's the truth.

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Speaker 4: This is not a dream that you're crushing. This is

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Speaker 4: his delusion. He's delusion.

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Speaker 3: He's not dreaming. This is a delusion, man.

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Speaker 4: And if you go tonight, if you go to New York,

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Speaker 4: it's gonna become a nightmare. Here's something else we need

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Speaker 4: to come to them, realization. All dreams don't come true.

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Speaker 4: They don't. I'm sixteen years old. I dream of Michelle.

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Speaker 3: Pierces, always making it about it.

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Speaker 4: It's always about it, because then people can respect your transparency,

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Speaker 4: and maybe we can see.

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Speaker 3: Some of him here in me now. I dreamed of

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Speaker 3: Michelle piers at sixteen.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what happens.

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Speaker 4: Michelle pier has been married twice to everybody Buttelle Hart.

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Speaker 4: Michelle Piers came to one of my shows in Columbus,

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Speaker 4: Ohio with her husband. She said, Oh my god, that's

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Speaker 4: just handsome. I can't believe you've made it. She called

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Speaker 3: I knew she was lying near.

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Speaker 4: I like somebody else. Have never really heard that before,

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Speaker 4: and it through me.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean like someone else?

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Speaker 3: He back over here.

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Speaker 1: No, he just said, if you.

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Speaker 4: Throw a rock in a pack of dogs, the one

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Speaker 4: that holler is the one you hit. Junior know he's

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Speaker 4: not attractive. Jy knows he's not attractive. Willa webbit, I'm

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Speaker 4: not I'm not getting this line. This show that got

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Speaker 4: a problem with it is the one that's ugglying.

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Speaker 1: I'm not getting in this line.

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Speaker 3: Now, Y'ALLU man, I'm with you.

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Speaker 1: I agree with you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all dreams don't come true. I'm wanting to be handsome.

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Speaker 4: Now, if y'all, if you don't put this out of

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Speaker 4: his head, y'all ass gonna be in New York and

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Speaker 4: I can't tell you how much that's gonna cost. And

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Speaker 4: these great careers y'all got gonna be over because his

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Speaker 4: job don't transfer to New York.

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Speaker 3: Nigga.

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Speaker 4: He's gonna be up there in the back of some

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Speaker 4: Broadway theater, swipping, sweeping, trying to be evident Champagne King

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Speaker 4: that he just gonna bust out singing.

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Speaker 3: Mo I can walk. Then he gonna get fired from

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Speaker 3: the mopping job.

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Speaker 4: You need to stop this before it gets started. You

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Speaker 4: and your friends need to sit down. It's really not

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Speaker 4: your friends. Don't include your friends. You have to sit

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Speaker 4: down as the wife and go honey, listen.

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Speaker 1: Harry, Steve.

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Speaker 3: You can't. You can't at or saying.

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Speaker 1: All right, thank you, Steve.

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Speaker 3: You don't stop this.

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