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Speaker 1: Like what, Yo, It's so crazy to me because I'm like,

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Speaker 1: do you realize that the times that you quote unquote

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Speaker 1: Seven, Speaking of brown folks getting shafted. So did you

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Speaker 1: Y'all know her. We've had her on as again. She's awesome.

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Speaker 2: print another cop another round with stickers. I don't know, yeah,

426
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Speaker 2: I know, she said in the video she can't just

427
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Speaker 2: go buy stickers and stick them on the books herself.

428
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Speaker 2: So then I was I was immediately imagining like a

429
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Speaker 2: group effort, like why.

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Speaker 3: A human chain of stickering on books because I was

431
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Speaker 3: thinking that, yeah, but I just and it's hard to

432
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Speaker 3: stand up for yourself because it's women, you know, Like

433
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Speaker 3: when she first went live about it, I was cringing

434
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Speaker 3: because the.

435
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Speaker 1: Good girl in me was like no, because you know,

436
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Speaker 1: that's what you're taught. You don't make waves, you don't

437
00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,439
Speaker 1: ask for what you deserve. You take what people give you.

438
00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:19,960
Speaker 1: And then the other part of the warrior in me

439
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Speaker 1: was like go because like at the you know, it's

440
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Speaker 1: like if you have to learn to say something, it's

441
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Speaker 1: it's not easy. Like I was telling my sister because

442
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Speaker 1: she was having trouble where she's working, and I said,

443
00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:35,280
Speaker 1: are you gonna wait until you have a nervous breakdown?

444
00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:37,600
Speaker 1: Like is that what you're is that what you're waiting for?

445
00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:39,639
Speaker 1: Are you gonna wait until you're so overwhelmed that you

446
00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:42,879
Speaker 1: literally cannot move. And so I said, or are you

447
00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:45,040
Speaker 1: going to say something? But what can they do? I

448
00:21:45,080 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 1: don't know, I told her, I don't know what they

449
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,560
Speaker 1: can do. But I know that saying nothing gets you nothing,

450
00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:52,879
Speaker 1: and it's so hard for It's like good girl syndrome. Well,

451
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Speaker 1: I don't want to say I could do it. I

452
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Speaker 1: figure it out. No, you have to learn to speak

453
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Speaker 1: up for yourself and say something. There's nothing wrong with that.

454
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Speaker 2: I give my dad a lot of credit. I mean

455
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Speaker 2: his his He always taught me it's okay to complain

456
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Speaker 2: when something isn't right, or something that you something you

457
00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:11,840
Speaker 2: worked for or bought or whatever wasn't to your standards. Now, okay,

458
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna I should I should clarify that by saying

459
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Speaker 2: this usually has to do with like Wendy's hamburgers, like

460
00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 2: if there weren't enough guys or if the burger was

461
00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:21,560
Speaker 2: too cold, he would eat about half of it and

462
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:23,399
Speaker 2: then have no problem going but to the calendar and

463
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Speaker 2: asking for the rest of it, or asking for like

464
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Speaker 2: a brand new one. But I've taken that and I

465
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Speaker 2: and I have become the person in my life who

466
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Speaker 2: is the first one, you know, after my wedding, even

467
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Speaker 2: when I wasn't happy with the flowers and I wasn't

468
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Speaker 2: happy with some things that that uh the DJ I mean,

469
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Speaker 2: I had a gorgeous, perfect wedding and a lot of

470
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Speaker 2: people made me feel like I was acting out of

471
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Speaker 2: line by going back and telling them what I felt

472
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 2: could have been better. And I was like, why should

473
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Speaker 2: I've I spent thousands? Why should I feel bad for

474
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Speaker 2: telling them? They must stu Yes, in the whole picture,

475
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:05,159
Speaker 2: it was beautiful, and I'm very grateful, but don't they

476
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Speaker 2: want to be better in service? And don't they need

477
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 2: to know what I what I thought could have been

478
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Speaker 2: better and wasn't up to standards with what I and

479
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Speaker 2: I mean as I was typing and even I felt

480
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Speaker 2: guilty even after, and I was like, but why why

481
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Speaker 2: do I feel this way? And I just I you know,

482
00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:23,160
Speaker 2: I do it anyway.

483
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 1: Now and I'm practically and I think that's where I

484
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Speaker 1: have like I always have like like I always have

485
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Speaker 1: a type of friend so like you, Drina, there's a

486
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Speaker 1: few other friends in my life that have like the

487
00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:36,480
Speaker 1: hood sput like that, And I know I purposefully have

488
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 1: friends like that because that's how my like my natural nature.

489
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:41,920
Speaker 1: I'm always like, oh, that's okay, I just suffer. I

490
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Speaker 1: just suffered sound and I hate that I'm like that.

491
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Speaker 1: So I have folks around me who are like a girl, no,

492
00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:51,399
Speaker 1: because it emboldens me to say, you know what, no,

493
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 1: Like look at Manny, didn't she just say, hey, this

494
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Speaker 1: is not what I ordered? Like I remember one time

495
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:57,520
Speaker 1: I ordered food and I got the wrong food and

496
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Speaker 1: I was going to eat it, and my friend's like,

497
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Speaker 1: are you kidding me too? For me? Are you kidding

498
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 1: me about what you've ordered? I was like, I know,

499
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 1: but I don't mind salmon. And she was like, girl,

500
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 1: if you don't call the waitress over, she's you don't

501
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: have to be rude. You just say, Hi, this is

502
00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:12,400
Speaker 1: not what I ordered. I don't know what it is.

503
00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: I just and it's it's a habit that I want

504
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 1: to break. And so I surround myself with people who

505
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 1: are not afraid to say something.

506
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,879
Speaker 2: It's just we've seen the damage. What can happen when

507
00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:24,679
Speaker 2: you don't stand up and tell people what's going even

508
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 2: if it's the smallest saying that's happened to you that

509
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:30,000
Speaker 2: seems unjust or I know, it's we're talking about food again,

510
00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 2: which seems like a small thing, but it's it's like

511
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 2: knowing when it matters enough to speak up and choosing

512
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 2: the right moments. But then I don't know. Yeah, I

513
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 2: think that the more you do it, the easier it gets.

514
00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:44,640
Speaker 2: I used to be so embarrassed by my dad, so

515
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 2: embarrassed by my dad, and I and my brother reminds

516
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:49,720
Speaker 2: me every day how much more I'm starting to sound

517
00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:53,359
Speaker 2: like him. And uh, I'm okay with that as long

518
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:55,479
Speaker 2: as I'm using it for you know, like I'm not

519
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 2: going to complain if I'm not going to eat half

520
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 2: my Windy's fries and then tell them it was cold

521
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,720
Speaker 2: and can I get another one? One that's a little

522
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 2: shady pops. But I will, you know, if I get

523
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 2: the wrong word, I will speak up. Or when I

524
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Speaker 2: pay for service and it's not done to my to

525
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 2: the level of service that I was promised. Yeah, you know,

526
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:12,680
Speaker 2: speak up.

527
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 1: It's a lesson for us all that you have to

528
00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 1: say something. There's nothing wrong with saying something. There's somebody

529
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Speaker 1: in her comments, I forget what they said. She said,

530
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,359
Speaker 1: it's called lost cool. That's what she calls it. So

531
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:26,679
Speaker 1: she said that. So she has this theory or this

532
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 1: like strategy what she calls lost cool, that she always

533
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:33,920
Speaker 1: gives people the opportunity to fix something. So if say,

534
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:36,119
Speaker 1: you know, you go to a hotel and they're like,

535
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, your room's not ready,

536
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 1: but you know it's it's supposed to be ready, but

537
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:42,960
Speaker 1: it's not. But can you allow us. We're going to

538
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 1: give you an upgrade and it will be ready at four,

539
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 1: even though it's supposed to be in your room by

540
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:49,920
Speaker 1: you know. And she said from eleven, when she jumps

541
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Speaker 1: to when she was supposed to check in to four,

542
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 1: she'll go eat and if back four she goes, and

543
00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 1: she's cool until then because this is what you've set

544
00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 1: before her, that here's the solution. But after four she

545
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:02,919
Speaker 1: calls it lost cool. That she was like, I'm no

546
00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:05,920
Speaker 1: longer cool after four because that was a timeline you

547
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:09,119
Speaker 1: had to fix the initial mistake. And I thought, Okay,

548
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: I kind of like that, not that she's gonna wile out,

549
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,960
Speaker 1: but like, now I don't have to be oh super comminating. No,

550
00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:17,720
Speaker 1: you said at this time it's gonna be done. Now

551
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 1: it's not done. Now this has to escalate up. Where's

552
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 1: your manager, right, you know? And so she calls it

553
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:24,440
Speaker 1: lost cool, and I said, you know what, I like that?

554
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:26,760
Speaker 1: She said, you give people the opportunity to fix things,

555
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: and they give you the timeline of when it's going

556
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:30,800
Speaker 1: to be fixed, and after that you don't have to

557
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 1: be cool about it anymore. You can escalate up, you

558
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 1: can send a letter, you can reach out to the

559
00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:38,800
Speaker 1: next level. And I said, okay, lost cool, I'm gonna

560
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:39,119
Speaker 1: try that.

561
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 2: Give them a chance, yeah, give them a chance to

562
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 2: fix it. Yes, oh, go ahead.

563
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:46,639
Speaker 1: No, no, yeah, yeah, I was just agreeing with you.

564
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Speaker 2: I hope that if there's one industry where you have

565
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 2: to advocate for yourself, though, it's publishing. Everyone I know

566
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:54,159
Speaker 2: who's everyone I know who's published books has had to

567
00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 2: do their own pr their own She literally, like Lovey said,

568
00:26:57,280 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 2: she had to hire her own publicist outside of the

569
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Speaker 2: place Blushing House. Everyone I know who's had a book

570
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 2: that hasn't. I mean, I don't know any super famous authors,

571
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 2: but the ones, especially in the in the business world

572
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 2: that I know who've written books, have had to hire

573
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,679
Speaker 2: their own little teams to go out there and promote

574
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:15,160
Speaker 2: the book and tweet about it and whatnot. And so

575
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:18,159
Speaker 2: I think that, you know, I think she shouldn't. I mean,

576
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 2: it's it's the way it is in a lot of ways.

577
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 2: I just I still can't believe that her own publisher

578
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 2: wouldn't want to do the thing. I can see how

579
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 2: you wouldn't want to hire a publicist, because what if

580
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 2: you waste money on a publicist and you don't sell

581
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 2: the books, But by putting a sticker, you're almost guaranteed

582
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 2: to sell more books. Yeah, I don't hopefully she can

583
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 2: choose another one for book number two or you know right,

584
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 2: I mean that's what I would do. These people don't

585
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:46,919
Speaker 2: want to make money, don't want to make her money, Okay.

586
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: Exactly At the end of the day, I'm sure, I'm

587
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: sure there's lots of publishers that would like a New

588
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 1: York Times bestseller under their roster.

589
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 2: And I feel like she wouldn't have made that public

590
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 2: speech if they if she hadn't already taken it to them.

591
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:58,640
Speaker 2: I don't think it's all be a surprise to them

592
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 2: at all, Like she's probably given them the and the

593
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 2: lost question.

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00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,880
Speaker 1: She did, Yeah, she certainly did, ye.

595
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 2: And still didn't And so I feel that frustration for sure, well,

596
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 2: we love you, Lovey. Go out and get her book.

597
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 2: It's called I'm Judging You Shanda Rhimes what she optioned

598
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 2: it for a television series.

599
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 1: Right, yep, m hm.

600
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Speaker 2: It's a good read. It's a funny read. It's a

601
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:18,440
Speaker 2: good summer read too.

602
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, funny. I like summer funny books for the summer.

603
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 2: Or go check out her blog if you have an

604
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 2: awesomely lovey. Actually I need to read her take on Charlottesville.

605
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:29,919
Speaker 2: She's one of She's like, yeah, I love her for

606
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 2: the hot Yeah.

607
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, he is definitely good for that.

608
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Speaker 4: It's finely humor in it. Exactly should we boost and break?

609
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 1: Oh? Yes, I have a unique boost Well this is

610
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: like I feel like I'm the this is on the

611
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 1: fed boost break. This is like a boost break. So

612
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Speaker 1: we'll see how how well is that? So fast? I

613
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 1: love that? So you know everybody has watched that documentary

614
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 1: on Netflix What the Health?

615
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:08,280
Speaker 2: Oh I haven't.

616
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: Oh well I have not either.

617
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 2: Not everyone's read it, but I'm just saying.

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00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 1: Everyone was posting about like it's been like this huge

619
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: Facebook like wave of like, oh we should watch What's

620
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 1: the Health? And as a result, so What the Health

621
00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 1: is a documentary like an expose on the meat industry

622
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 1: in the United States, which you know basically you know, yeah,

623
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 1: you don't want to know, like puffs and cows eating

624
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 1: other cows and dead chickens with each other. It's just

625
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: it's just a mess. So anyway, as a result, a

626
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 1: lot of people turn vegan, like a huge bricing veganism,

627
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 1: and and I know some of you guys who are

628
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Speaker 1: really vegan are gonna be like, Tiffany, get out of

629
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Speaker 1: my vegan face. I decided I was going to try

630
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 1: it out for three weeks. I'm not gonna lie. Not

631
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 1: for the political reasons, even though I'm like, I know

632
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: some vegans are rolling their eyes right now, I don't care.

633
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 1: I'm trying it out more so for the health reasons. Aka,

634
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 1: I want to lose ten pounds, so what, I don't care.

635
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 1: Don't judge me because a lot of being so I'm

636
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 1: in this vegan group. Child, it's like really political. I

637
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 1: know a lot of people are vegan because they're like,

638
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: and I agree that, you know, I don't believe in

639
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Speaker 1: cruelty to animals, but I had not seen what, you know, what,

640
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Speaker 1: how our meat was produced basically, and so it's very

641
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Speaker 1: cruel to animals. But I'm not gonna lie. That was

642
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Speaker 1: not the reason why I decided to to try out this,

643
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Speaker 1: this vegan lifestyle. I'm just over this ten pounds and

644
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Speaker 1: I'm like, maybe this will help to jump start a

645
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Speaker 1: healthier life. Not that I can't see myself being vegan

646
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Speaker 1: for life. Honestly, I think that I definitely would would

647
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Speaker 1: have a more plant based diet. But I will say

648
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Speaker 1: on the positive side, like, so I don't drink any

649
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 1: I haven't looked in the last two weeks I took out.

650
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 1: I don't drink much soda anyway, but no juice, no soda,

651
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: just water. If I need some bubbles, sparkling water, if

652
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 1: I need some flavor, lemon water. And then I've been

653
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Speaker 1: taking apple sided vinegar in the morning, which I'm like,

654
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Speaker 1: it's not my favorite, but whatever, It's tolerable. Water with

655
00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: a little splash of honey, I know, because vegans are

656
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,520
Speaker 1: like what honey's I vegean? Oh gosh, I know.

657
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 2: And then you gotta be careful with that whole vegan

658
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 2: thing because everything I has animal in it.

659
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Speaker 1: I know.

660
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Speaker 2: I felt my eggs. I just can't do it.

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Speaker 1: You know what the hard part for me is not

662
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 1: because the truth is, I'm not a huge like I

663
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 1: don't really eat I was not a big red eat

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Speaker 1: meat eater. It's very rare that I would eat red meat.

665
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 1: I'm not huge. I'm not a big, big meat eater,

666
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 1: even chicken and fish. So the mornings are super easy,

667
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Speaker 1: I have to say, because I'm usually like I'm lactose

668
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 1: in tolerant anyway, So giving up dairy is not super huge,

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Speaker 1: except for sour cream because I love sour cream. And

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Speaker 1: cheese wasn't a huge give up because I was I

671
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Speaker 1: had given up on like ninety percent of cheese anyway

672
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Speaker 1: because of my lactose some tolerance, and I haven't been

673
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Speaker 1: able to eat ice cream, so it wasn't. The transition

674
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Speaker 1: is not super crazy. Lunchtime is easy because I just

675
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Speaker 1: have a salad and I'll use like like I like

676
00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:58,640
Speaker 1: veggie burgers, and I always like veggie burgers anyway, like

677
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Speaker 1: outside of like trying this out, so now like typically

678
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Speaker 1: now for lunch, it's only been like four days, I'm

679
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Speaker 1: like typically but whatever, typically now for lunch, I'll have

680
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Speaker 1: like a veggie burger. Whatever. It's the night time that's

681
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: hard because I'm used to like a dinner, dinner. So

682
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Speaker 1: I'm just trying to figure out, you know, I have

683
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Speaker 1: to figure out some recipes that I can try out

684
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Speaker 1: where I feel like I'm eating, like, you know, a

685
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Speaker 1: decent dinner, where I'm not just having like a salad

686
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Speaker 1: and I'm starving by like eight. So that's where I

687
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 1: am right now. I'm like, I'm hungry. So I find

688
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Speaker 1: myself doing a lot of like fruit snacking, which you

689
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 1: know you don't want to have too much, even though

690
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 1: fruit is better than normal sugar. But I will say

691
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Speaker 1: in last four days, I mean I worked out for

692
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Speaker 1: six weeks and lost nothing. I will sit in last

693
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Speaker 1: four days, I lost two pounds, which I was shocked.

694
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Speaker 2: This is all based on a documentary you didn't watch

695
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 2: exactly look at My Life. That must have been some

696
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:50,680
Speaker 2: damn good uh tweets or reviews about this documentary.

697
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Speaker 1: Yes, I didn't want to watch it. I didn't want

698
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Speaker 1: to see the pus and the dying cows. You can

699
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Speaker 1: get it. I've watched it.

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Speaker 2: I watched like Fat Second Second Nearly Dead, and there's

701
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Speaker 2: a couple of other ones that I've watched. I feel

702
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,960
Speaker 2: like it's probably similar. I saw that That's the reason

703
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 2: I spent eight dollars on eggs last night, because they

704
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Speaker 2: were like they literally had printed pictures inside the egg

705
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Speaker 2: carton of the happy chickens, and I was like, Okay,

706
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Speaker 2: these are gonna be great. And they did taste better

707
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Speaker 2: than regular eggs, but yeah, because I mean, if I

708
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Speaker 2: can't give up eggs, but I do spend I feel

709
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Speaker 2: like eggs are the most economical food. I mean, you

710
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Speaker 2: get a dozen eggs, it's like a dozen meals or

711
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Speaker 2: at least six meals out of one cart. And like, yeah,

712
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Speaker 2: I'll spend eight dollars with some eggs, you know, I

713
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Speaker 2: don't mind doing that, and it's still cheaper than spending

714
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Speaker 2: four dollars every day for like an egg muffin whatever,

715
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Speaker 2: like what I get at my cafe for breakfast. But

716
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Speaker 2: I do little things. We don't eat a ton of meat.

717
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Speaker 2: I like people do like a meatless Monday, Like if

718
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Speaker 2: you want to just feel like meat free for one

719
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Speaker 2: day a week, yes, I'm with you. Though a meal

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Speaker 2: I grew up with, like you had to be a

721
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Speaker 2: protein or had to be like like a meat protein.

722
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Speaker 2: But I will say we tried, you know, we do

723
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Speaker 2: the Green Chef or like the the food delivery, the

724
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Speaker 2: meal kit thing, and we did a vegan week or

725
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 2: two and they're really good recipes. Like there was one

726
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 2: time we had these sweet potato tacos dull delicious and

727
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 2: they were so filling.

728
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Speaker 1: So that was my my boost break. It's like I

729
00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 1: enjoying it, but it's hard. So you know, you gotkedhoes.

730
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Speaker 1: Whether it's a boost to break, what about you, Mandy.

731
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:28,719
Speaker 2: And do have a boost? I was thinking I was.

732
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Speaker 2: I had some friends over yesterday. Actually, uh, one of

733
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Speaker 2: their one of my friends, Wan Lee, He did the

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Speaker 2: logo for our show, So hey won Lee, Hey thanks

735
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Speaker 2: for the logo. Uh. Anyway, he and he and his

736
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Speaker 2: wife came over and they have a little girl, Laila,

737
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Speaker 2: who just turned one, and they I don't know we

738
00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:47,040
Speaker 2: were talking about we were First of all, we were

739
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Speaker 2: watching Sesame Street because she was like running around or

740
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 2: not running, but you know, she was just being a

741
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Speaker 2: little hyper. So they turned on Sesame Street. I didn't

742
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,879
Speaker 2: I had no idea how woke Sesame Street is if

743
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Speaker 2: you want to teach children, uh, inclusiveness and and just humanity.

744
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 2: I mean, Sesame Street is where it's at. Like they

745
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 2: my uh, his wife was talking about how they have

746
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:13,320
Speaker 2: a lot of they've always had in their audience, a

747
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:15,840
Speaker 2: lot of children with disabilities like down syndrome. And I

748
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:19,839
Speaker 2: think they introduced their first autistic muppet not so long ago,

749
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 2: and I don't know it just I was like, what,

750
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 2: this is amazing. They had Romate, they had always Latin

751
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:27,840
Speaker 2: characters on the show. They had like Gina Rodriguez and

752
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:30,920
Speaker 2: Romeo Santos, which was kind of funny, like on the

753
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:34,879
Speaker 2: show speaking in Spanish, and it's just so multicultural. And

754
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 2: I had no idea what I've been missing out on.

755
00:35:37,880 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 2: And I'm like, hell, yeah, my kids are gonna watch.

756
00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:43,120
Speaker 2: I just thought it was Big Bird and Elmo. And

757
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 2: then we got in the subject of Doc mcstuffans. Do

758
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:47,200
Speaker 2: you know Doc mcstuffans, she's.

759
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 1: The Yes, I do.

760
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I knew her because I think Michelle Obama like

761
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 2: did something with her or the voice of her or whatever.

762
00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 2: But anyway, so if you don't know, I'm sure all

763
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 2: of you do. But it's a little she's a little

764
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 2: black girl who's a doctor, right or not a black girl?

765
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 2: A woman? Is she a little kid?

766
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 1: No? No, she's a little kid. But she liked yeah

767
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 1: to her little stuffed animals.

768
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 2: Oh, I was, that's so cute. But anyway, apparently there

769
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Speaker 2: was a lesbian couple on doc MC stuffins like a

770
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 2: a by an interracial lesbian couple on doc mcstuffans, and

771
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:22,879
Speaker 2: I was like, what are childhood cartoons? They're amazing, They're

772
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:24,839
Speaker 2: so woke. But apparently there's a lot of controversy over

773
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 2: this lesbian couple. But I'm fine with that. So I'm

774
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,359
Speaker 2: just happy with where I'm happy with where media is going.

775
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,319
Speaker 2: But in terms of like the images that are kids,

776
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 2: like little kids are seeing these days, I don't know

777
00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 2: if it feels like it feels like that is that's

778
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 2: how you raise people who grow up. Where Obama tweeted

779
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:47,839
Speaker 2: or instagram something after everything that was happening in Charlottesville,

780
00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 2: and it's him looking at these little children outside of

781
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:51,840
Speaker 2: the inside of a window, and he was the quote

782
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 2: was something like children aren't born noticing color and race

783
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 2: and being racist and bigots. They aren't born that way.

784
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:01,560
Speaker 2: It's society who who and there and people in their

785
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 2: social lives who prime them for that. And and I

786
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 2: feel like it's just so important the images that we

787
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 2: better we show our children. And so shout out to

788
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 2: sesame Street Doc mcstuffians, and I got to give a

789
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 2: special shout out to my mother in law, Segunda Madre

790
00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 2: for having a brown Mother Mary statue in her house.

791
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:20,239
Speaker 2: Now I don't know where she got it, but I

792
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:24,319
Speaker 2: love it. Yeah, he is brown. We'll still talk about

793
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:26,440
Speaker 2: the giant portrait of white Jesus in the bedroom. But

794
00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 2: she's getting places.

795
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 1: I thought. I was like, Okay, what's step at the time?

796
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:47,160
Speaker 1: What's that? Better time at a time? So now it's time.

797
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 1: Can we have time for a quick question?

798
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 2: No, we do. Actually, this one is tailor fit for you.

799
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:52,880
Speaker 2: I'm gonna pull it up. It has to do with

800
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 2: the ear. So we all know Tiffany has a literature academy,

801
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 2: which you can do at any time of the year.

802
00:37:57,760 --> 00:38:01,840
Speaker 1: Right, yep, it's open. Just go to join l R

803
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Speaker 1: for Literature Academy. Join LRA dot com and you can join.

804
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Speaker 1: We actually just lowered the price because I just wanted

805
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Speaker 1: to be I wanted to make sure that price was

806
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Speaker 1: not a hindrance for folks who wanted to join, And

807
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:15,279
Speaker 1: a few people reached out to me, They're like, I

808
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 1: want to join, but I honestly I can't afford it. It

809
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:19,160
Speaker 1: was like almost eighteen bucks a month, and we had

810
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Speaker 1: gotten it up to because honestly, the value is more

811
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Speaker 1: than worth that. But I kind of work with my

812
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Speaker 1: CFO and my accountant. I was like, what can we

813
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:28,680
Speaker 1: bring it down to and not like have to close

814
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Speaker 1: doors and make sure we can pay everyone and make

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Speaker 1: sure that it makes sense for me financially. And it

816
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Speaker 1: was nine ninety nine a month. So we're keeping it

817
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Speaker 1: there for as long as we can. We probably have

818
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Speaker 1: maybe a few hundred more people that we can, you know,

819
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Speaker 1: kind of take on at that price. So yep, join

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Speaker 1: LRA dot com. It's nine ninety nine a month, and

821
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Speaker 1: you lock yourself in for that for life. It's once

822
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Speaker 1: you lock yourself in for that.

823
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Speaker 2: So clutch okay, And this is like a weekly you

824
00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 2: you do it throughout the year or do you have

825
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 2: you already sawny things and then you rerun them?

826
00:38:58,040 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 1: No? So I well, the teacher of me is like

827
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:02,879
Speaker 1: differentiated learning. Some people like to work on their own.

828
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:05,359
Speaker 1: So every Sunday we do a live lesson for those

829
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 1: folks who are like, hey, I want to you know,

830
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:11,920
Speaker 1: work with the instructors that is there. So it's typically

831
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:13,879
Speaker 1: not me teaching the courses. I reach out to people

832
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 1: who are way smarter than me in a particular topic.

833
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 1: Like you're a tax lawyer, let's talk about taxes. You're

834
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Speaker 1: you're I don't know, an accountant, so we're gonna do,

835
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Speaker 1: you know, well, taxes. But that's not a great example.

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Speaker 1: But so I get experts to basically volunteer an hour

837
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:32,360
Speaker 1: on Sundays and we do a live lesson with that expert,

838
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 1: and then we also have pre recorded lessons that are

839
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:36,839
Speaker 1: inside the academy for those folks who like to work

840
00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:40,120
Speaker 1: at their own pace. And then we have longer extended

841
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 1: lessons that are about three weeks long that we pre record,

842
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 1: and we do those about twice a year. So the

843
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 1: last one we just did was a home buying intensive,

844
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 1: and so you could take that at any time. Anything

845
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 1: that's ever live is always then placed inside the Academy,

846
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:55,399
Speaker 1: so you could take it at any time. But it's

847
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:57,359
Speaker 1: a mix of pre recorded and live just in case.

848
00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: And we also have a private Facebook group, which I

849
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:02,520
Speaker 1: really love because I make all the instructors go in

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Speaker 1: there and like, you know, be a part of the group.

851
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:06,920
Speaker 1: So if you have bottle up questions, you know, you

852
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 1: would normally have to pay to work with them individually,

853
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 1: but they're usually pretty open and about sharing and giving

854
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 1: you more additional information in the Facebook group.

855
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 2: Okay, well here's our question. It's from listener V and

856
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 2: she has questions about So she is. Look, she is entrepreneur,

857
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 2: she's about to start a podcast, and she's interested in

858
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:26,840
Speaker 2: giving online academies because she's seen how popular they're becoming

859
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 2: and a lot of people have their own academy. So

860
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 2: she has a couple of questions about what it takes

861
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 2: to start an academy.

862
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:33,640
Speaker 1: OCHA, I know.

863
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:35,800
Speaker 2: So she says, where do you find the people to

864
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 2: work with? So that's one I'm just going to summarize

865
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 2: her question. One she wants to know where do you

866
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 2: find people to support you assistance in turns, people to

867
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 2: help you figure out how to launch an academy? And

868
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:50,879
Speaker 2: how do you pay if you do it all instructors

869
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 2: from the academy, do they receive all the profits from

870
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 2: that course or do you receive a percentage since you're

871
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 2: the founder.

872
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 1: So the way I do it is so I started

873
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 1: with anyone if you're looking for help, if you can't

874
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:06,400
Speaker 1: afford to pay them, I started with interns. I went

875
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:10,320
Speaker 1: to internships dot com and cause these are college students

876
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:12,879
Speaker 1: who are like looking for legit internships. And so when

877
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 1: I first started out, that's where I found most of them.

878
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 1: And I also did social media posts where I was like, hey,

879
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 1: looking for an intern, email me. So I got a

880
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 1: good team in the beginning. I'm now, of course I pay,

881
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 1: I pay my staff, but in the beginning it was

882
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 1: all interns. And even when I'm looking for staff, I

883
00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: look at social media, like I'll reach out to family

884
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 1: and friends and say, do you know someone who'd be

885
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 1: good at this? And then I'll post on social media saying, hey,

886
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:39,040
Speaker 1: looking to hire a you know, and use the word

887
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: higher because people always say everything's free, you know, Like,

888
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:44,240
Speaker 1: so looking at the hire and you know, an executive

889
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 1: assistant or whatever. Here the skill sets that you need.

890
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:48,920
Speaker 1: Here's how you can contact me. So those are two

891
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:51,440
Speaker 1: ways that you can look for help. And as far

892
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: as launching, I didn't know how. So a friend of

893
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:57,680
Speaker 1: mine had done a couple of launches, so he suggested

894
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:00,840
Speaker 1: this book, which is everything. It's called Launch by Jeff

895
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: oh Man. What's Jeff's last name, Uh, Jeff Launch. Sorry

896
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 1: I'm typing it in because I'm like by Jeff Jeff Walker.

897
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 1: It's a great book. Oh my good. It walks you

898
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 1: step by step through like how to create a launch,

899
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 1: and it was it was my launch Bible, like step one,

900
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 1: do this step too, And I did all the steps

901
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 1: and I had a successful launch. I launched the Academy

902
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 1: about three different times because every time we would open

903
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:28,400
Speaker 1: the Academy, we would relaunch it because we would come

904
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 1: back better. So that definitely use that. But then you

905
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 1: also want to join a Facebook group that will help.

906
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 1: So there's a Facebook group by RSHA. Let me see,

907
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: this is RSHA. It's called Brand Build and Launch with

908
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:45,840
Speaker 1: Rsha Jones. And so it's all of these other small

909
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 1: business owners, mostly women who are like growing a business

910
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:51,759
Speaker 1: or some of them are super successful, some of them

911
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:53,879
Speaker 1: are middle some of them are just starting. But it's

912
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:56,399
Speaker 1: just a great space to ask questions. So I would

913
00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 1: definitely suggest you you you uh become a part of

914
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:03,799
Speaker 1: Brand Build and Launch with RSHA Jones. That's it's a great,

915
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,360
Speaker 1: really helpful group. And get that launch book by Jeff,

916
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 1: read it through and then take tons of notes and

917
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 1: just do a small launch. But in the beginning, like

918
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:12,920
Speaker 1: building the Academy, at first you have to find a

919
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:16,600
Speaker 1: good platform because they are like a few. There's Kujabi,

920
00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 1: there's teachable. We use think Ethic, so think Ific. I

921
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:23,759
Speaker 1: like it because it's fairly easy to use, and Kajabi's

922
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 1: really expensive and it was not very easy to use Teachable.

923
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,879
Speaker 1: I've heard good things about Teachable used to be called

924
00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: something else, and I used it when it was something

925
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:34,880
Speaker 1: else and it wasn't that great. But I've heard it's better.

926
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:38,360
Speaker 1: So I would look at Thinkific or Teachable as the

927
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 1: actual platform for the school and what happens is for me.

928
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:45,479
Speaker 1: The Academy wasn't the first thing. I had already had

929
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 1: a community, I had deliverature, challenges, all of the stuff

930
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 1: that I was doing for free, and so the Academy

931
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:52,920
Speaker 1: was like, after years of doing so much stuff for

932
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 1: free and not really getting paid for anything, I said, okay,

933
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 1: so how can I create some solid income outside of

934
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 1: my speaking and my books, you know? And so I

935
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:03,880
Speaker 1: started the academy and it was a little easier for

936
00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 1: me to get folks to instructors because they wanted access,

937
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 1: so they exchanged Typically people are not going to exchange

938
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:14,920
Speaker 1: their services for access to your community. But because I

939
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:19,040
Speaker 1: had already built a really robust, active community instructors. Because

940
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:20,719
Speaker 1: I don't really ask much. I'm like, hey, are you

941
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 1: free on Sunday? It's an hour Q and A with

942
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: me the DreamCatcher or the folks who are the Academy

943
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:28,879
Speaker 1: members who are watching, get to type in and ask

944
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 1: questions live and in exchange. If you have a book

945
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: or a course or whatever, I allow you to freely

946
00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 1: upsell because in mind, I have a private Facebook group

947
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:40,479
Speaker 1: called Dreamcatchers. We have about two hundred fifty thousand women.

948
00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:42,360
Speaker 1: I don't let anyone sell in there. That's not the

949
00:44:42,360 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 1: purpose of the group. It's a giving group, not a

950
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 1: taking group. So no one really gets a chance to

951
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 1: sell to my audience. But if you come and you

952
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:51,680
Speaker 1: donate basically an hour of your time and do a

953
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:54,280
Speaker 1: Q and A with my audience with me kind of hosting,

954
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 1: then you get to sell to not the larger audience,

955
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 1: but to the to my academy members, which is about

956
00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 1: eight thousand people. But these are people who buy. Like

957
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 1: just the other day, Tila Hulcum came on and she

958
00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 1: teaches uh like uh, she teaches how to how to

959
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:14,920
Speaker 1: buy stocks, how to trade your nine to five by

960
00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:18,600
Speaker 1: trading like stocks, and she had she had a course

961
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: that was two thousand dollars. Somebody bought one from the academy,

962
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,839
Speaker 1: and so that's the exchange. It's like, hey, an hour

963
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 1: to forty five minutes of my time with Tiffany's audience.

964
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 1: That buys, and you know they will likely buy for me.

965
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:33,239
Speaker 1: And so but I'm warning you that most people are

966
00:45:33,239 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 1: not willing to do that. It's only because I already

967
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:37,799
Speaker 1: had the audience in place, so it takes a little time.

968
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 1: I would just start with figuring out what you're going

969
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 1: to create a you can't afford to pay teachers like,

970
00:45:43,719 --> 00:45:45,879
Speaker 1: look to see if you have any like friends who

971
00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:47,919
Speaker 1: would like, you know, kind of donate some of their time,

972
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 1: because it can be really expensive you if you have

973
00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:52,239
Speaker 1: to pay every individual teacher. There's no way I can

974
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 1: offer the academy for nine ninety nine. If I had

975
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 1: to pay every individual teacher, there's just no way. We

976
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 1: would not be able to make it. We would not

977
00:45:58,440 --> 00:45:59,800
Speaker 1: be able to say, sustain ourselves.

978
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:02,759
Speaker 2: So I would try and find experts who are just

979
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 2: at the beginning stages too, Like they may have all

980
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 2: the knowledge, but they may not have the clout or

981
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 2: the like the brand of their own built yet so

982
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 2: you can benefit from each other, and then they may

983
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,839
Speaker 2: be more willing to do something for free or just

984
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 2: for clicks or like or just like to promote their

985
00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 2: brand and not for straight up money or a percentage

986
00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:23,239
Speaker 2: of whatever profits you.

987
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:25,840
Speaker 1: Have exactly, so you didn't cause in the beginning, I

988
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:27,200
Speaker 1: should think I had to offer that. Like the first

989
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 1: couple of instructors, I did offer them that, and it

990
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 1: almost broke the business because I actually was making negative

991
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:36,400
Speaker 1: At one point, I was carrying the budgeteath of my

992
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 1: speaking engagements were carrying the academy because I wasn't making

993
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 1: any money. And I was like, Ti, this doesn't make

994
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:44,919
Speaker 1: any sense. You have to rethink your business model because

995
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 1: I didn't want to charge more and I didn't want

996
00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 1: to you know, and I was like, so I had

997
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:52,799
Speaker 1: to say, Okay, something has to go. And paying the

998
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 1: instructors every single time got to be so expensive and

999
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 1: so instead I just paid them through access, and you know,

1000
00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 1: like they've said, it's worth it because so many struggles,

1001
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 1: Like I'll give an example, one instructor told me she

1002
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:07,040
Speaker 1: came on she had like a free newsletter, so it

1003
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 1: was kind of like her option to get on her

1004
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:11,720
Speaker 1: email list, and so she had sixty people on her

1005
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 1: on her email list. After that one hour that night

1006
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 1: she had six hundred. So it's you know, so.

1007
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 2: Just nowhere, audience is very it's very like, you know,

1008
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 2: I don't know what the word is for that, but

1009
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 2: when Tiff says jump jump, no.

1010
00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 1: Well, they're interactive. You know what it is is because

1011
00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 1: of you.

1012
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:32,319
Speaker 2: They trust you. They trust you.

1013
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 1: Yes, it's because of years of giving. So what I

1014
00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 1: would suggest is that, like, you know, start your figure

1015
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 1: out what you want to teach, start making connections now

1016
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 1: with people that you think would want to teach with you.

1017
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 1: And the number one thing that I almost closed the

1018
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 1: Academy when we were losing so much money last year

1019
00:47:48,320 --> 00:47:50,759
Speaker 1: because I was just like, I'm paying everything like if

1020
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 1: I don't want to charge people more money, but at

1021
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 1: the same time, this doesn't make sense. I'm losing money.

1022
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 1: So finally I stopped making decisions on my own. I

1023
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:03,360
Speaker 1: started to saying, hey, academy members, what do you want?

1024
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:06,360
Speaker 1: And then when they told me, I started only creating

1025
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 1: what they asked for because I was spending so much

1026
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:10,680
Speaker 1: money creating these new things and they were like, well,

1027
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 1: that's cute, but I didn't ask for that, and so

1028
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:14,920
Speaker 1: that helped significantly. So I was able to kind of

1029
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 1: get rid of things that I was paying for that

1030
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:19,520
Speaker 1: they didn't really care about and really only focused on

1031
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:22,280
Speaker 1: what was really bringing value. And then even now, because

1032
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:24,640
Speaker 1: we've done so well, we've been able to reduce the price,

1033
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:27,279
Speaker 1: which honestly, I'm really proud of because I know that

1034
00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 1: what double the amount of women are going to be

1035
00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:31,799
Speaker 1: able to have access, Like I can't afford eighteen bucks

1036
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:33,719
Speaker 1: a month, but I can do nine ninety nine. And

1037
00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 1: so I'm really proud of being able because my biggest

1038
00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 1: thing is always access for women of color, access to

1039
00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:42,799
Speaker 1: financial education for women of color. And at eighteen ninety nine,

1040
00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:44,880
Speaker 1: I was leaving a lot of folks out and that

1041
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:47,319
Speaker 1: didn't seem fair to me. And so yeah, a lot

1042
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 1: of my friends are like, yo, you're creat like a

1043
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:49,920
Speaker 1: lot of the color for money people. They hit me

1044
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:52,959
Speaker 1: behind the scenes, they're like, girl, are you crazy? Because

1045
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 1: people were, people were buying at eighteen bucks a month.

1046
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:57,480
Speaker 1: They were, But it just didn't sit right with me,

1047
00:48:57,560 --> 00:48:58,840
Speaker 1: you know, because I was thinking to myself when I

1048
00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 1: was a preschool teacher and that after I lost my job,

1049
00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:04,279
Speaker 1: would I be able to afford eighteen bucks consistently a month,

1050
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 1: and honestly I would not have been and it just

1051
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 1: didn't feel right. I was like, well, if your old

1052
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:10,200
Speaker 1: Tiffany couldn't afford it, then what are you doing? And

1053
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:11,920
Speaker 1: so yeah, so we're proud of it. So yeah, join

1054
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 1: LRA dot com so hopefully and if not, I have

1055
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 1: so much free stuff. I tell people that's just for

1056
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:18,319
Speaker 1: if you really want to take your finances to the

1057
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 1: next level, Like if you if you've already done the

1058
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:22,880
Speaker 1: budgeting and the debt and the credit and the because

1059
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:25,400
Speaker 1: all that stuff, the basic stuff I give away for free.

1060
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 1: So if you haven't done that, then do that. The

1061
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 1: academy really is for folks who want to start businesses,

1062
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:32,719
Speaker 1: who want to invest, who want to buy homes, who

1063
00:49:32,760 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 1: really want to the next level after you've done the basics.

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Speaker 2: Awesome, welvie, I hope you found those tips. So internships

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Speaker 2: dot com for interns and then recap the name of

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Speaker 2: the branding and launching launching.

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Speaker 1: So the book is started launch by Jeff Walker. And

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Speaker 1: I would look into these platforms teachable and think if

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Speaker 1: for the platforms where you're going to house, the house, your.

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Speaker 2: School, FANTASTICO you guys. If you have questions, you can

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Speaker 2: go to Briannambission podcast dot com. Are newly well not

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Speaker 2: so newly now, but if you haven't seen it the

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Speaker 2: last few months, we redesigned the site. It looks fabulous.

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Speaker 2: Thank you to our designer Terry for hooking us up.

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Speaker 2: Go check out Brianimission podcast dot com. Click on ask

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00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 2: us anything to send us an email and hopefully you'll

1077
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:18,600
Speaker 2: hear your question answered on the show.

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Speaker 1: Come so, what is your win?

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do a real quick win because it's the

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Speaker 2: only bright spot, well not the only bright spot, but

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Speaker 2: the bright spot after this weekend of darkness is that

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00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:32,240
Speaker 2: I'm gonna sit down at ten o'clock tonight and watch

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00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 2: Insecure and watch my girl Lisa Ray tell the truth

1084
00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 2: about life in your late twenties for pocs. That's what

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00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:40,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do tonight. I love the show. And you know,

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00:50:40,640 --> 00:50:43,359
Speaker 2: Facebook reminded me today like I had a Facebook memory. Well,

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00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:47,319
Speaker 2: my friend, I give her credit. Juliette Obodo, also of

1088
00:50:47,320 --> 00:50:50,200
Speaker 2: New Jersey Fame, hooked turned me onto awkward black girl

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00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:52,959
Speaker 2: on YouTube way back in the day, and we yeah,

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00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:55,839
Speaker 2: we got no work done. At work. We were at

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00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:58,799
Speaker 2: low three sixty dot com. She was in sales. I

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00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:00,200
Speaker 2: was supposed to be doing I don't even know what,

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00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 2: re writing or reading the legal documents, and we're just

1094
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:07,239
Speaker 2: sitting there just tihihi and over over Isa Ray and

1095
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:09,359
Speaker 2: her and her awkward Black Girls series, and so it's

1096
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:11,160
Speaker 2: just I just love her show so much. I feel

1097
00:51:11,200 --> 00:51:13,920
Speaker 2: like it's so relevant, and it was just renewed for

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Speaker 2: a third season. So that's my win.

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Speaker 1: My win is, oh man, I was at the tip

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Speaker 1: of my tongue turn it.

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Speaker 2: It was good. I'm just saying broken pussy, broken pussy

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Speaker 2: until you think of it.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, I got it because you said Easter Ray.

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Speaker 1: My win is so I was able. I was really fortunate.

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Speaker 1: And then I spoke at Black Girl's Lead. That's Black

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Speaker 1: Girl's Rock, you know, it's this Black Girl's Rock. Is

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Speaker 1: this awesome like a what is it like a OD

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00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:44,799
Speaker 1: Award show for black women that rock? And so they

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00:51:44,840 --> 00:51:48,240
Speaker 1: tape it live in Newark every year, which is awesome,

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Speaker 1: like around the corner from my house, and they have

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00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:52,759
Speaker 1: a summer camp for young women called Black Girls Leads.

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Speaker 1: So I spoke at in one of the perks are

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Speaker 1: speaking at the summer camp. Is that you get a

1114
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:58,759
Speaker 1: ticket to the taping? So I went and let me

1115
00:51:58,800 --> 00:52:00,360
Speaker 1: just say, because I know I don't know by the

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Speaker 1: time the show on airs, it won't have aired yet.

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Speaker 1: So I'll just tell you, Auntie Maxine goes all the

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Speaker 1: way in. It is amazing. She is amazing. She's the

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Speaker 1: definition of lits okay, and she just goes all the

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Speaker 1: way in on forty five on our role to make

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Speaker 1: this world a better place. Aunty Maxine is everything, And

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Speaker 1: so she is my win because she is amazing and

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Speaker 1: you know she just deserves to be honored.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, who's making her T shirts? I need to get

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Speaker 2: one of those.

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Speaker 1: Reclaiming my Time, Reclaiming my.

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Speaker 2: Time, Reclaiming my Time on the front, brand Ambish on

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Speaker 2: the back. How about that. That's a winner.

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Speaker 1: I love it.