Speaker 1: I think the key is not taking things too personally.
Speaker 1: This is a journey and it is called life, and
Speaker 1: we're all going to mess up. Everyone's going to mess up.
Speaker 1: Everyone's gonna react instead of think when they're triggered. And
Speaker 1: I think just giving yourself grace, giving the other person grace,
Speaker 1: and apologizing when you have done something wrong is something
Speaker 1: that we have to offer one another to really reach
Speaker 1: our own individual potential. Hey, everyone, welcome back to On Purpose,
Speaker 1: the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to
Speaker 1: each and every single one of you that come back
Speaker 1: every week to listen, learn and grow. Now you know
Speaker 1: that I'm always trying to discover interesting stories, fascinating people
Speaker 1: who have so much to share through their life, through
Speaker 1: their experience, what they've been through, what they've achieved, and
Speaker 1: what they've seen. And today's guest is someone that I've
Speaker 1: been so excited to speak to you for quite a
Speaker 1: while now and I'm so glad that we find have
Speaker 1: her online. So today's guest is none other than Olivia Colpo,
Speaker 1: who's created a substantial platform in modeling, beauty and fashion.
Speaker 1: What began as a minor pageant run turned into a
Speaker 1: multi title winning streak culminating in a highly successful modeling
Speaker 1: career that has since made her a household name. In
Speaker 1: just a matter of years, she's created a massive worldwide
Speaker 1: platform that stretches across entertainment, beauty, fashion, substantiating herself as
Speaker 1: a fierce entrepreneur and business minded woman. In August twenty seventeen,
Speaker 1: Olivia opened the restaurant Back forty with a family in
Speaker 1: North Kingstown, Rhode Island. Welcome to the show, Olivia Coalpo, Olivia,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for doing this. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: I have to say, you really nail the intros. I've
Speaker 1: heard a few of your actually every single one of
Speaker 1: your podcasts really, and I'm always so amazed by your
Speaker 1: way of communicating and also the intros. I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't deserve that. I don't deserve that at all. So
Speaker 1: thank you. Well, you deserve it, because it's all true.
Speaker 1: But we love you more for saying you don't deserve it.
Speaker 1: But I had no idea that you actually listened to
Speaker 1: the podcast. So now I'm I'm like the one who's
Speaker 1: feeling like I don't deserve that because I had no
Speaker 1: idea that you are a listener. Oh absolutely yes you are.
Speaker 1: Constantly inspiring me. I love the topics, I love your guests.
Speaker 1: I take away every tidbit that I can, and I'm
Speaker 1: i'm all for doing the self work. So thank you
Speaker 1: for making it easier for us to become better and
Speaker 1: happier people. Oh you're you're the kindest. Thank you so much. Well,
Speaker 1: I want to dive straight in because I have so
Speaker 1: many things I want to talk to you about, and
Speaker 1: the first thing I want to ask you is just
Speaker 1: some conversation starters for us to get in there. I
Speaker 1: heard that you are about to open your second restaurant,
Speaker 1: which you co oened with your dad in New England.
Speaker 1: Could you could you tell us a bit about First
Speaker 1: of all, congratulations, but could you tell us about where
Speaker 1: the passion for that came from, and especially doing it
Speaker 1: with your father. I mean, that sounds so special. It
Speaker 1: is really special. So I come from a big family
Speaker 1: in the middle of five and my dad and my
Speaker 1: mom both started their career as professional musicians and that's
Speaker 1: how they met. My dad had five kids when he
Speaker 1: was like thirty two, and he really didn't know how
Speaker 1: he was going to be able to support us and
Speaker 1: give us the life that he wanted us. To with
Speaker 1: his salary as a musician that was non existent because
Speaker 1: he wasn't getting hired. So he had to put things
Speaker 1: into perspective, and he started as a bartender. He really
Speaker 1: really worked his way up. He used to count every
Speaker 1: single penny he would take, and now he owns z
Speaker 1: Bar and owns a lot of other restaurants. And I
Speaker 1: think growing up with his work ethic inspired me to
Speaker 1: always want to do something in the restaurant industry. But
Speaker 1: on top of that, I think just seeing the community
Speaker 1: that you build through restaurants is amazing in itself. Like
Speaker 1: good food and good people in quality time is like
Speaker 1: those are That's that's what life is about for me,
Speaker 1: and I grew up around that, and so I really
Speaker 1: do love and appreciate it. That's so beautiful to hear,
Speaker 1: and I mean that leads nicely onto something else I
Speaker 1: discovered about you is that you played the cello and
Speaker 1: you're a trained jealous Is that right? I mean that's incredible.
Speaker 1: I mean, how does how long has that taken? How
Speaker 1: many years has that been? So I grew up everybody
Speaker 1: in my family plays instruments, and my mom and dad
Speaker 1: grew up playing instruments as well. So they kind of
Speaker 1: gave me the cello and said, this is your instrument.
Speaker 1: Everybody got a different one. So I started when I
Speaker 1: was really really young, and it was it was awesome.
Speaker 1: I really enjoyed it for the for the most part.
Speaker 1: Growing up, I think I started to really resent it
Speaker 1: and my parents during my angsty teen years when they
Speaker 1: would send me to band camp every summer for like
Speaker 1: eight weeks. But looking back on it, it was something
Speaker 1: that I think they did for in my best interest,
Speaker 1: and I know that it was probably the best thing
Speaker 1: I could have been doing with my time. But yes,
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for it. It's it's a great it's
Speaker 1: a very very cathartic to play every once in a
Speaker 1: while and kind of escape. That's beautiful. That's so wonderful
Speaker 1: to hear. I mean with your parents, and you've we've
Speaker 1: already talked about them twice and they come up again
Speaker 1: and again in so much of the important formative areas
Speaker 1: of your life, as parents do. But in the early
Speaker 1: years of your career, your parents, as far as I
Speaker 1: believe or no they weren't, they were kind of against
Speaker 1: you joining pageants and I want to share, I want
Speaker 1: you to share your experience during your first pageant competition,
Speaker 1: if you don't mind sharing that with our audience. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was tough. I well, I was studying communications and
Speaker 1: acting in college and I and I had this itch
Speaker 1: to just I wasn't enjoying college. I didn't feel like
Speaker 1: I was where I wanted to be. I wanted to
Speaker 1: just do something that would impress myself, I guess and away.
Speaker 1: So I really wanted to work on my stage presence.
Speaker 1: I wanted to have an opportunity to just grow in
Speaker 1: any way. So I told my parents I wanted to
Speaker 1: do this pageant, and you have to pay to get in.
Speaker 1: They wouldn't pay for anything. They wouldn't help with any
Speaker 1: of my training. My mom refused to go to the
Speaker 1: Miss Rhode Island preliminaries. They just thought it was a
Speaker 1: big I don't know how to say this without sounding
Speaker 1: horrible and offending people, but they just didn't think that
Speaker 1: it was the best use of my time. And they
Speaker 1: also didn't realize why I was pursuing cello as my hobby.
Speaker 1: I think that's really what got them to them. It
Speaker 1: felt very vain that I would that I would think
Speaker 1: that going entering this pageant would help me as much
Speaker 1: as maybe entering an orchestra or like trying to get
Speaker 1: into a symphony, for example. So they didn't understand it,
Speaker 1: but they came to because they had to. Is your
Speaker 1: relationship with your parents always been like you asked for forgiveness,
Speaker 1: not permission or did that evolve over time? How did
Speaker 1: you get that confidence as a young woman to just
Speaker 1: be like, well, this is what I want to do
Speaker 1: and I'm going to learn this, like what gave you that?
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people today a lot of
Speaker 1: questions I get is a lot of insecurity where people
Speaker 1: are like, well, my parents don't agree with it, or
Speaker 1: my brother or my sister don't agree, or I don't
Speaker 1: have support of my family. How were you were able
Speaker 1: to do something that can be quite challenging as a
Speaker 1: young person. Oh? Absolutely. And I think when you're working
Speaker 1: toward any goal, it's so important to preserve your sense
Speaker 1: of self and your confidence. And I protected myself. I
Speaker 1: didn't tell anybody that I was viewing this. I did
Speaker 1: not tell a soul. Nobody knew. I was just working out,
Speaker 1: working on my public speaking. I didn't know any of
Speaker 1: this stuff. I grew up as I grew up as
Speaker 1: a band geek. I didn't even know how to put
Speaker 1: on makeup. It wasn't really something that came supernatural, believe
Speaker 1: it or not. So I just did the work and
Speaker 1: I didn't expect it to go anywhere. Yeah, and so
Speaker 1: it kind of took a form of its own, But
Speaker 1: it was never something that I sought out for. Yeah, No, absolutely.
Speaker 1: And I love hearing that because I think I aligned
Speaker 1: with you very closely on that that when you're trying
Speaker 1: to do something that is different, chances are it's better
Speaker 1: to be quiet about it because if you tell everyone,
Speaker 1: there's probably going to be so many opinions and ideas
Speaker 1: and expectations that then you kind of you kind of
Speaker 1: get yourself out of it because you get so scared.
Speaker 1: And so I really resonate with that that that makes
Speaker 1: a lot of sense. You mentioned deliver your confidence there.
Speaker 1: I wonder what made you confident back then and what
Speaker 1: makes you confident today? Has your definition of confidence changed?
Speaker 1: Has being confident changed for you as you've had all
Speaker 1: these different experiences in life, of course, as you've grown
Speaker 1: as well well. I think everything comes down to just
Speaker 1: really working on your relationship with self. And I think
Speaker 1: that being confident is very hard. I think that you
Speaker 1: really have to work at it, and that can mean
Speaker 1: different things to different people. For me, I get my
Speaker 1: confidence and I had my confidence back then as well,
Speaker 1: from journaling and quiet moments with myself where I really
Speaker 1: feel like I'm tapping into source energy or God or whatever,
Speaker 1: or the universe, whatever you want to call it. But
Speaker 1: I think that we don't really I personally believe we
Speaker 1: don't really get through life alone. And you have to
Speaker 1: try to connect to whatever you think is out there
Speaker 1: that brought you here. But that's not what everybody agrees.
Speaker 1: But for me, I really find my peace and my
Speaker 1: understanding of where I'm supposed to be from those quiet
Speaker 1: moments with myself where I'm meditating, praying, doing affirmations, giving
Speaker 1: thinks even and is that something that's always been a
Speaker 1: part of your life or was that something that you
Speaker 1: discovered along the way. When did prayer, meditation, all those
Speaker 1: beautiful things you mentioned that I know our audience also
Speaker 1: loves and our community loves. When did that get introduced
Speaker 1: to your life? Was that something that you had from
Speaker 1: your parents or was it something you learned along the way.
Speaker 1: My mom is very Catholic, so I grew up and
Speaker 1: I went to an all girls Catholic school, so I
Speaker 1: think I always believed in the power of prayer. But
Speaker 1: I started transcendental meditation when I was eighteen, and that
Speaker 1: was around the time that I all of a sudden
Speaker 1: my ambitions felt possible and I wanted to get out
Speaker 1: of Rhode Island. I wanted to get out of school.
Speaker 1: I wanted to do something bigger than I ever thought
Speaker 1: I could, And to me, that did manifest into this pageant,
Speaker 1: which looking back on it, I'm like, I wonder, I wonder,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't I wonder how I got there.
Speaker 1: I still don't really completely understand. But for me, yeah,
Speaker 1: it really is something that Transcendental Meditation helped me a
Speaker 1: lot and continues to help me a lot. I felt
Speaker 1: very grounded and centered in decisions, and it was a
Speaker 1: very formative experience. Learning TM was a very formative experience
Speaker 1: for me. And I'm fascinated who introduced you to TM?
Speaker 1: Like where did that come into be in your life?
Speaker 1: Of course TM has been around for many, many years.
Speaker 1: It's it's an incredible practice. So just how did you
Speaker 1: even interact with it? How did you come across it
Speaker 1: from your background in your childhood, which was obviously different.
Speaker 1: It was different. My older sister, who is still the
Speaker 1: girl that paves the way in our family, she started
Speaker 1: meditating and at the time, I'm almost having trouble with
Speaker 1: her blood pressure. So my sister offered for her to
Speaker 1: go to the same place that she went, and my
Speaker 1: mom's blood pressure went down more than it had ever
Speaker 1: lower than it had ever been, and then we all
Speaker 1: felt very centered and we would meditate together. It was
Speaker 1: a really lovely time, and the habit is obviously it's
Speaker 1: a hard thing to keep up with, but I I'm
Speaker 1: so grateful to have the tools, and I would encourage
Speaker 1: anybody listening to just look into whatever form of quieting
Speaker 1: your mind you want. Doesn't have to be TM. It
Speaker 1: was just the one that I was lucky enough to have.
Speaker 1: My sister introduced me to. Yeah, no beautiful, And do
Speaker 1: you have a space? I know I recently saw the
Speaker 1: feature that you had in Architectural Digest. I was wondering,
Speaker 1: is there a space in your home that you like
Speaker 1: to pray, that you like to meditate, that you like
Speaker 1: to do affirmations, or want of these people that can
Speaker 1: do it anywhere? And everywhere. I really try to do
Speaker 1: it anywhere and everywhere, but I do, Yeah, I really
Speaker 1: really try. I think that's part of mastering it. Which
Speaker 1: that sounds so intimidating and horrible. I don't want anybody
Speaker 1: to think that it's anything that you can't do in
Speaker 1: a specific spot. But I think the idea is having
Speaker 1: the opportunity to escape wherever you are. Having that understanding
Speaker 1: is such an escape in itself, because you can be
Speaker 1: in a very stressful situation to be like, hey, I
Speaker 1: need to go to the bathroom and you can take
Speaker 1: three minutes and just center yourself. Or you can be
Speaker 1: on a plane on your way to somewhere you don't
Speaker 1: really want to go, or maybe you're anxious traveling I
Speaker 1: don't know, or maybe you're in a room full of
Speaker 1: people that are just bothering you. You can you can
Speaker 1: quiet your mind. And it's a tool that takes time
Speaker 1: to definitely harness, but it does get easier. I will say,
Speaker 1: which I'm sure you know all about. I know that
Speaker 1: you're a big meditation Is that word yeah, no, definitely,
Speaker 1: but no, it's you know. What I find is just
Speaker 1: I love sharing notes with fellow meditators and people who
Speaker 1: have found their own way to something or to an
Speaker 1: idea or to a practice, because I feel like we
Speaker 1: learned so much by hearing how different people are applying it.
Speaker 1: And I couldn't agree with you more. I think meditation
Speaker 1: and mindfulness and all these practices are tools, like you
Speaker 1: rightly said, that we need to use when we need them.
Speaker 1: You know, when we're stressed out, when we're going through pressure.
Speaker 1: It can't just be something that we do in one
Speaker 1: space in our home. I wonder, Olivia, with what we
Speaker 1: were speaking about earlier, with confidence, and I think you
Speaker 1: explained it really well. What would you say is one
Speaker 1: of the biggest insecurities that you have overcome or that
Speaker 1: you're working through? Because I think people may often look
Speaker 1: at someone like you and be like, oh, she you know,
Speaker 1: she's perfect, the life's perfect, Like she doesn't have insecurity
Speaker 1: she doesn't have. But as we all know, as natural humans,
Speaker 1: each and every single one of us has those What's
Speaker 1: something that you think you've had an insecurity about that
Speaker 1: you've worked through, a broken through, trying to work through.
Speaker 1: Trying to work through is definitely my scenario. Well, you
Speaker 1: never arrive. We're all on a journey, right, So there
Speaker 1: are so many things that I'm so insecure about. I
Speaker 1: think that I feel a lot of pressure with the
Speaker 1: term influencer, which I am referred to quite often, and
Speaker 1: I feel as I have overcome that for some people,
Speaker 1: influencer can have a bad connotation. For me, it's actually empowering,
Speaker 1: but it's also a lot of pressure. And I think
Speaker 1: my insecurity could also come from me thinking, Okay, I
Speaker 1: have to be a certain way, I have to do
Speaker 1: a certain thing, or else people are going to think
Speaker 1: that I'm not taking responsibilities as seriously as I can.
Speaker 1: And then there's the other side of me that's like, wait,
Speaker 1: why is everybody hate influencers? I don't know, because a
Speaker 1: lot of people do have a bad taste in their
Speaker 1: mouth about that term. So yeah, that can be really challenging,
Speaker 1: and there that's something that I do work through and
Speaker 1: I have found ways to work through. I mean, just gratitude,
Speaker 1: being so grateful for every opportunity I have. And I
Speaker 1: think I've always been the kind of person that if
Speaker 1: there's a door, I go, I walk through it and
Speaker 1: I see what happens from there. And I really do
Speaker 1: take my opportunities seriously, and I'm very grateful for them,
Speaker 1: but it can be challenging when there are things that
Speaker 1: people say about you that might not necessarily be true,
Speaker 1: or you have a hard time understanding and remembering who
Speaker 1: you are because people are telling you that you're a
Speaker 1: certain way. I feel like that's a different in security,
Speaker 1: but I think that's more just having a public life.
Speaker 1: People will say things about me all the time, and
Speaker 1: they'll say even to the extent they'll say I've dated
Speaker 1: people that I haven't even dated, and it's it can
Speaker 1: be challenging because you have to have the self awareness
Speaker 1: to understand that that doesn't necessarily matter and what people
Speaker 1: write about you doesn't have to define you. And it's
Speaker 1: also something that everybody who decides to have a public
Speaker 1: life has to go through. So to me, these are
Speaker 1: these are things I work through. I don't want to
Speaker 1: get into the specifics of what people right, but yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I wanted to hear from you what you're experiencing, because
Speaker 1: I think from the outside in it always looks like
Speaker 1: everyone who has a platform has it all together. And
Speaker 1: as we all know, and as you beautifully explained there,
Speaker 1: that there are so many things that are uncomfortable and
Speaker 1: difficult and challenging, and some of it is self created,
Speaker 1: and some of it is just coming from people who've
Speaker 1: never met you, or people who have never known you,
Speaker 1: or or people who don't understand you. I guess who
Speaker 1: do you think in the world? Who are the relationships
Speaker 1: that you turn to for feeling understood, for being connected?
Speaker 1: Who are the people in your life that you turn
Speaker 1: to for those open, honest conversations. Oh, definitely my sisters.
Speaker 1: I have two sisters that I'm very, very close with.
Speaker 1: They really help me, We really help each other. I mean,
Speaker 1: the good thing about sisters is I think, well, I
Speaker 1: genuinely think sometimes we're the only people that would be
Speaker 1: able to stand one another in a lot of ways.
Speaker 1: But we're also I don't think that there's a love
Speaker 1: that I could experience as if my sisters are my
Speaker 1: friends and my sisters. That's just a combined amount of
Speaker 1: love that will always tie us together. And I lean
Speaker 1: on them to be honest with me. When I'm being horrible,
Speaker 1: they will tell me and shoot it to me straight.
Speaker 1: I rely on them to ground me and remind me
Speaker 1: of what's important. They are a sounding board when I
Speaker 1: need advice or I want to flush out an idea
Speaker 1: and they are just they mean so much to me,
Speaker 1: and it's a very reciprocal relationship because we will all
Speaker 1: help one another, definitely them And you know what they
Speaker 1: tell me that really hits home. Get over yourself. Nobody
Speaker 1: really cares. And that helps me. God helps me a lot, honestly,
Speaker 1: because it is true. At the end of the day,
Speaker 1: we're all here in life. There's a journey and we're
Speaker 1: so blessed to be on it. And yeah, I really
Speaker 1: try not to sweat the small stuff. That's why it
Speaker 1: kind of took me a minute to think of like
Speaker 1: what's really ruining my day today. I try not to
Speaker 1: think about those things because I'm so I can't believe
Speaker 1: how blessed my life is. And I really try to
Speaker 1: lean into that. And I love hearing that because we
Speaker 1: all need to be reminded to not buy into our
Speaker 1: own hype, whether it's positive or negative. And it's always
Speaker 1: wonderful to have family and people that you trust and
Speaker 1: love that can say that to you. But tell me
Speaker 1: about some of those rituals. How do you get into
Speaker 1: that mind space? I mean, what you just said is
Speaker 1: so powerful, like you know you, like I don't even
Speaker 1: let that I try and avoid having that thought come
Speaker 1: into my mind. What are some of your daily rituals
Speaker 1: and practices. Could you walk us through the that have
Speaker 1: really become important for you. They don't have to be
Speaker 1: things that everyone has to do or everything well everyone
Speaker 1: will love, but one of those things that are important
Speaker 1: to you, well, I personally think affirmations can be really, really,
Speaker 1: really transformative. One that I say a lot is I
Speaker 1: am safe and secure within myself, and that kind of
Speaker 1: reminds me to not seek outward validation, which my job
Speaker 1: is literally outward like what It's very hard not to
Speaker 1: seek that when you are feeling the pressure to show
Speaker 1: up in a certain way. And I also really believe
Speaker 1: in the power of prayer. I'll get on my hands
Speaker 1: and knees and just ask God for an answer, and
Speaker 1: I get it in one way or the other. It's
Speaker 1: not always in the perfect timing, but that's personally something
Speaker 1: that really helps me. I love those, I love those,
Speaker 1: and I love that affirmation. It's such a powerful, simple
Speaker 1: and beautiful one that we can all use. And I think,
Speaker 1: no matter who we are, you all seek validation externally,
Speaker 1: you know, in any field of life, whether we're seeking
Speaker 1: it in our family, or our workplace, or whether it's
Speaker 1: on social media and online. We're constantly looking for safety
Speaker 1: and security from outside of ourselves, but we all know
Speaker 1: that we can only really find it inside of ourselves,
Speaker 1: and that you know that's where it truly lies. You've
Speaker 1: talked really openly, Olivia about your journey with endometriosis, and
Speaker 1: you speak very openly about this and you know the
Speaker 1: end of find out. I was wondering whether you could
Speaker 1: share with us about the diagnosis process, the treatment journey,
Speaker 1: tips or advice you have for young people who may
Speaker 1: not be aware fulle of what it is. Absolutely well,
Speaker 1: endometrios is basically when the uterine lining. Every month a
Speaker 1: woman shouts or you know, uterine lining. Endometrios is when
Speaker 1: the uterine lining grows outside of the uterus. So it
Speaker 1: could really be anywhere. It could be in your appendix, kidneys, liver, diaphragm.
Speaker 1: They've seen it everywhere, so it can be very, very painful.
Speaker 1: The real kicker about ENDO is that you can't diagnose
Speaker 1: it through an ultrasound. It's a very hard thing to diagnose,
Speaker 1: so a lot of women find themselves in excruciating pain
Speaker 1: for their whole lives, or, in my opinion, worse, they
Speaker 1: don't experience pain because their ENDO is in a place
Speaker 1: where there aren't a ton of nerves. And then they
Speaker 1: want to get pregnant and they're unable to get pregnant
Speaker 1: because they have this disease has reached havoc on their eggs.
Speaker 1: So it can be really really isolating, and I've decided
Speaker 1: to lend my platform to it to help people in
Speaker 1: that and have a voice for the women who feel
Speaker 1: like they weren't heard because the average diagnosis for ENDO
Speaker 1: is about eight years because it's so hard to find,
Speaker 1: like you have to go into surgery to find the
Speaker 1: endometrial tissue. It's not going to show up if you
Speaker 1: go in for your you know, paths here or ultrasound
Speaker 1: or you know. I think maybe sometimes they can see
Speaker 1: it in a cat scan or sometimes you'll have a
Speaker 1: blood filled cis called an called an chocolate CIS which
Speaker 1: is like an endometrioma, and that can be attached your
Speaker 1: ovaries and maybe they can see it that way. But
Speaker 1: it's very rare that I mean not yeah, it's rare
Speaker 1: that would happen, and um, a lot of women really
Speaker 1: suffer and I just I wanted to lend a voice,
Speaker 1: and I wanted people to be able to know what
Speaker 1: to look out for so that they're not you know,
Speaker 1: in their late thirties, late for early forties, or even
Speaker 1: in their sixties saying I could never get pregnant and
Speaker 1: I never knew why. It's like, well, that could be why.
Speaker 1: It gives you answers. Yeah, well, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for sharing that, by the way, and using your platform
Speaker 1: for that too, Because the more and more I learn
Speaker 1: about things like this, where there are just so many
Speaker 1: challenges that so many people are going through that you
Speaker 1: don't even know exist right or you may know they exist,
Speaker 1: but you don't really know someone who's gone through it.
Speaker 1: And you never know someone in your family is going
Speaker 1: through it right now, they just haven't been able to
Speaker 1: tell you or be honest with you and share with
Speaker 1: you what they're struggling with. Or a friend or a
Speaker 1: friend in your life as well, who's going through it.
Speaker 1: You seem like a very open person. You know, you
Speaker 1: have wonderful relationships with family where you could be vulnerable
Speaker 1: with them. What has been a quality that you look
Speaker 1: for in people that you surround yourself with, is there's
Speaker 1: something that you look for as an energy, as a person,
Speaker 1: as a quality in the people that you keep close
Speaker 1: in your life. Ooh, I would have to say the
Speaker 1: first word that comes to mind is honesty. I think
Speaker 1: that part of coming from such a big family that
Speaker 1: is very close, We've always been very honest with each other,
Speaker 1: to the point where I think sometimes it's almost jarring
Speaker 1: for people around us because they just can't believe how
Speaker 1: bold we are with the things we say to one another.
Speaker 1: But I was raised in that way. We really don't
Speaker 1: hold back, so I appreciate when others are honest. To me.
Speaker 1: I'm always kind of windsided when somebody said that they
Speaker 1: had a problem about something three months ago, I'm like,
Speaker 1: what three months ago over dinner? Like in my family
Speaker 1: would just talk over each other, get it all out,
Speaker 1: and then move on. So I really value honesty. I
Speaker 1: mean obviously in relationships too, you don't want any deceit
Speaker 1: that that'sund like, that's on a whole other level and
Speaker 1: kind of goes without saying. But I really admire people
Speaker 1: who are able to have an honest conversation and shoot
Speaker 1: it to you straight, because that's something that helps both people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and how do you feel receiving honesty as well, because
Speaker 1: I often feel like a lot of people like honesty
Speaker 1: and we say I love honesty, and I think I
Speaker 1: know what you're gonna say, which from the way you
Speaker 1: shed it. But how have you prepared yourself to receive
Speaker 1: more honestly as well? Because I think a lot of
Speaker 1: us can say, hey, I really want people to be
Speaker 1: honest with me, but when people are honest with us
Speaker 1: and it doesn't kind of align with what we want,
Speaker 1: it can actually be really uncomfortable. How have you prepared
Speaker 1: yourself to be some one who can accept and receive
Speaker 1: feedback that's transparent, honest and open. I know, well, I
Speaker 1: think first you have to pay attention to what is triggered.
Speaker 1: So are you feeling guilt? Are you feeling defensive? Are
Speaker 1: you feeling shame? And then work backwards from there. I
Speaker 1: personally feel like it takes a moment with yourself to
Speaker 1: really think about how is this making me feel? And
Speaker 1: why is it making me feel this way? And why
Speaker 1: even is that person feeling that way. I think thinking
Speaker 1: of things in terms of another person's point of view
Speaker 1: is the most helpful way you can have empathy and
Speaker 1: understanding and get better and also strengthen your relationship. So
Speaker 1: I think the key is not taking things too personally.
Speaker 1: This is a journey and it is called life, and
Speaker 1: we're all going to mess up. Everyone's gonna mess up,
Speaker 1: Everyone's gonna react instead of think when they're triggered. And
Speaker 1: I think just giving yourself grace, giving the other person
Speaker 1: in grace, and apologizing when you have done something wrong
Speaker 1: is is something that we have to offer one another. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: what a beautiful description. What have been some Olivia, I'm
Speaker 1: intrigued by. You've played so many roles in your different
Speaker 1: careers that you've taken on different parts. Can you remember
Speaker 1: like a pivotal moment, whether it was a lesson, a
Speaker 1: mentor even a failure that kind of crafted who you
Speaker 1: are today? When when you think about that and looking
Speaker 1: at how your career has played out, are there any
Speaker 1: specific moments that you think back to and think that's
Speaker 1: where I learned something really powerful that has helped me
Speaker 1: shift how I think and how I work. Oh yeah, yes,
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Well you didn't really want to go
Speaker 1: into No, I'm just kidding. It's fine. It's actually a
Speaker 1: great story and I'm so grateful for it. And it
Speaker 1: was very very formative for me. So when I first
Speaker 1: moved to LA I was in a relationship and that's
Speaker 1: why I moved here. And I was completely thrown when
Speaker 1: I when that relationship ended, because I had no sense
Speaker 1: of self I had, I had nowhere to live, I
Speaker 1: had no money. I was raised in a very well
Speaker 1: I don't know if this would even be considered traditional anywhere,
Speaker 1: but I was raised where. You know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: My dad was the breadwinner and my mom was the
Speaker 1: mom and she also worked, but you know, my dad
Speaker 1: felt it was just a different type of dynamic. So
Speaker 1: it was the first time that I realized, like, I'm
Speaker 1: my breadwinner. I have to do this. I have to
Speaker 1: work really hard. I have to maintain a level of
Speaker 1: excellence so that I can support myself. And it was
Speaker 1: the most challenging moment in my career, but it was
Speaker 1: also the most rewarding because I had to make ends meet.
Speaker 1: I didn't have a choice. I otherwise would have had
Speaker 1: to move back to Rhode Island and I don't know,
Speaker 1: work in my dad's restaurants probably, which that wouldn't have
Speaker 1: been the worst thing in the world. That's obviously not
Speaker 1: terrible to do that either I would. I actually love
Speaker 1: going into the restaurants, but I just felt like, for
Speaker 1: the first time, I was really able to make myself
Speaker 1: proud and I was able to see the hard work
Speaker 1: actually come into it coming away that I was able
Speaker 1: to surprise myself. And I know that that doesn't mean everything,
Speaker 1: and obviously it's not really it's not really my place
Speaker 1: to say that I couldn't have been happy doing something else,
Speaker 1: but I think that going through that kind of gave
Speaker 1: me the confidence to really, Okay, I can do this,
Speaker 1: and it also taught me a lot about having to
Speaker 1: be self sufficient and the importance of being a woman
Speaker 1: in society. You think sometimes that your partner is going
Speaker 1: to support you for life, but it's just not the
Speaker 1: way to live. And I think that's why I also
Speaker 1: have such an entrepreneurial sense to me now, because I
Speaker 1: think it's important to show other women that that same
Speaker 1: message that you can do it, you should do it,
Speaker 1: and you deserve it, you owe it to yourself for sure. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's I'm so glad you picked that example, because
Speaker 1: I think breakups can be so tough. Breakups, you know,
Speaker 1: like you said, they can be the most they can
Speaker 1: be the most like confusing times where you feel so
Speaker 1: lost and stuck and everything feels like it's falling apart,
Speaker 1: and to be able to rebuild from that and to
Speaker 1: recognize that that was a sign for you to find
Speaker 1: yourself and to actually go inward. But I love that
Speaker 1: you chose that example because I think, like I was
Speaker 1: saying that, so many people go through breakups and that
Speaker 1: breaks them, right, that really breaks them, and you saw
Speaker 1: it as an opportunity to have a breakthrough as to
Speaker 1: who you are. What do you think was it just
Speaker 1: the sheer pain of like I need to figure my
Speaker 1: life out now that helped you get through that? Or
Speaker 1: where there are other things? What what was that that
Speaker 1: really helped you figure out that was a moment you
Speaker 1: needed to go wood. I think it was a few things.
Speaker 1: I think for one thing, it was definitely a little
Speaker 1: bit of pride and it was a lot of regret.
Speaker 1: I was really upset with myself that I allowed my
Speaker 1: allowed I didn't put myself first because I was supporting
Speaker 1: my partner, and in supporting my partner, I wasn't able
Speaker 1: to fulfill my dreams. And then I was eventually like
Speaker 1: I really didn't have any way to support myself. So
Speaker 1: I learned a lot in that sense, but I think
Speaker 1: that I think that in general, I would just tell
Speaker 1: somebody that you have to understand exactly where you fall
Speaker 1: in life, and if you're in a relationship, that doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that your life isn't your own. For me, the
Speaker 1: moments where I realized I have to pick myself up
Speaker 1: from by the boot traps, as when I didn't know
Speaker 1: how I was going to be able to afford my
Speaker 1: rent or my meals, which was crazy because I came
Speaker 1: from living this a list life and then all of
Speaker 1: a sudden it just um not my life anymore, and
Speaker 1: it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Speaker 1: It was awesome. And now I make my younger sister
Speaker 1: pay a little bit of rent because I want her
Speaker 1: to really understand that one she has to make ends
Speaker 1: meet and be deep too she can which are That's
Speaker 1: a very important lesson in life to learn you you
Speaker 1: you can, and I want her to feel that, even
Speaker 1: though sometimes she tells me that that's messed up and
Speaker 1: just doesn't pay, but it's the idea. I think I'm
Speaker 1: making her a better person, so it works for me.
Speaker 1: How old is she she's she's twenty three, and I'm
Speaker 1: not kidding you. She just does sometimes she really just
Speaker 1: doesn't pay it. I love that. I love that you're
Speaker 1: outing her on the podcast. I love I love that
Speaker 1: now everyone's gonna know she doesn't Well, maybe this will
Speaker 1: help her to step up. I love it. Yeah, Olivia,
Speaker 1: you mentioned that that that was where that entrepreneurial spirit
Speaker 1: that desire came in. Tell us about some of the
Speaker 1: best entrepreneurial lessons you've learned over the last few years
Speaker 1: of building you know, so many different businesses, ideas ventures.
Speaker 1: Tell us about some of the lessons you've learned on
Speaker 1: that journey. Well, I think the first thing I've learned
Speaker 1: is that it's really really, really really hard, and you
Speaker 1: have to be willing to put in the work. I
Speaker 1: think that I've always been the type of person to
Speaker 1: go above and beyond in terms of what I in
Speaker 1: terms of the time that I lend to certain things.
Speaker 1: I'm very thorough and I can't really, in good faith
Speaker 1: always say no to an opportunity and to some people
Speaker 1: I've gotten before like oh my gosh, she's so thirsty.
Speaker 1: That's another thing I'm a little insecure about. But at
Speaker 1: the same time. That is why I was able to
Speaker 1: get success. I think because I have a lot of
Speaker 1: I have a lot of people who are who are
Speaker 1: you know, my contemporaries, and I look at them and
Speaker 1: it's like, we just didn't really give up. We didn't
Speaker 1: We just kept going and every opportunity I really try
Speaker 1: to approach with an open heart and an open mind
Speaker 1: and gratitude and just see what I can make make
Speaker 1: of it. And I think that with that persistence, I
Speaker 1: was able to get the success and get to where
Speaker 1: I am now. Yeah, definitely, I couldn't agree with you more.
Speaker 1: I think persistence and consistency are really underrated because they're
Speaker 1: not as cool or sexy or hearts as ideas, because
Speaker 1: it just means showing up doing the same thing every
Speaker 1: day even when you don't feel like it. Sometimes. I
Speaker 1: was speaking about that someone recently. They were like, Jay,
Speaker 1: what do you think's the best skill in the world,
Speaker 1: And I think I said, I think the best skill
Speaker 1: in the world is to be able to do what
Speaker 1: you need to do even when you don't feel like it,
Speaker 1: because if you're waiting to feel like it all the time,
Speaker 1: you may never feel like you or you may only
Speaker 1: feel like it once a week, but actually the more
Speaker 1: you do it and the more you practice, you start
Speaker 1: actually falling in love with it more. And it starts
Speaker 1: with that desire of just that discipline and showing up.
Speaker 1: How have you craft a discipline in your life? You know,
Speaker 1: I'm sure that so many errors of your life required discipline.
Speaker 1: Would you say that you're a discipline person or would
Speaker 1: you say you're a bit more of a free spirit,
Speaker 1: spontaneous person. Oh, I am incredibly discipline. It's actually one
Speaker 1: of those double edged sword type of situations because I'm
Speaker 1: a bit of a I'm a huge perfectionist, So that's
Speaker 1: what I mean by being super thorough like. It takes
Speaker 1: me so long to do something because I just want
Speaker 1: to make sure it's perfect, and that is something that
Speaker 1: I work on because it's not the best quality. But
Speaker 1: I think that, like you said, just showing up day
Speaker 1: after day and just like you know, continuing to get
Speaker 1: back up when you feel down or when you're pushed down.
Speaker 1: I look at a lot of people that I admire
Speaker 1: and that's what they've done, that's what they're doing, and
Speaker 1: that's why they are where they are. So I really
Speaker 1: try to practice that in my life, although it can
Speaker 1: be very challenging and you sometimes think that the world
Speaker 1: does revolve around you when something bad happens, but it's
Speaker 1: really just you know, this is not going to break me.
Speaker 1: I am going to get back up. I'm going to
Speaker 1: keep going. I don't know where I'm going, but I'm
Speaker 1: moving somewhere. I love that, do you know what I've
Speaker 1: This is one of the reasons why I love the
Speaker 1: podcast because you can follow someone online. You can, you know,
Speaker 1: you can look at their posts and how they write
Speaker 1: and everything, and then you can get an opportunity to
Speaker 1: sit with someone. And I really see on purpose as
Speaker 1: an excuse for me to sit down with people I
Speaker 1: find interesting. And I'm speaking to you today and I'm
Speaker 1: just like, wow, Olivia is just such a free spirited, spontaneous,
Speaker 1: fun loving individual, like you know you, just like I
Speaker 1: love how you like answering a question and you switch
Speaker 1: direction then you crack up at yourself and then it
Speaker 1: will go somewhere else. And I'm like, it's just so
Speaker 1: real and so special, And I love that because I
Speaker 1: think we're all looking for that. We all want to
Speaker 1: be that energetic self, Like how have you always been
Speaker 1: this way? When you're being interviewed or you're having a conversation,
Speaker 1: or has this come with time when now you just
Speaker 1: I just feel such a I want to say confidence,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't mean in an arrogant way. I
Speaker 1: genuinely feel like you just you carry yourself in this
Speaker 1: way which is just really disarming and like there's no
Speaker 1: barriers on either side. Oh well, thank you, I think that. Well,
Speaker 1: let me tell you my code name or my nickname
Speaker 1: within my family is Oblivia. And a lot of his
Speaker 1: friends can tell to tell me that I have a
Speaker 1: way of blocking out things or circumstances or you know,
Speaker 1: kind of playing the wow, what do you mean by
Speaker 1: that person instead of you know, challenging people. And I
Speaker 1: think that that goes hand in hand with my kind
Speaker 1: of care free spirit because I really really don't take
Speaker 1: myself too seriously and for some people in my life
Speaker 1: that can be very frustrating, but it is definitely a
Speaker 1: coping mechanism of sorts. I just feel like, um, I
Speaker 1: feel like life is more fun and more you know
Speaker 1: natural to me. What I do have that more free
Speaker 1: spirited attitude and it's something that I'm born with this.
Speaker 1: I think I've always kind of been that way. Do
Speaker 1: I work at it, Yes, by constantly reminding myself, well
Speaker 1: not constantly, but I just you know, nobody good news
Speaker 1: and bad news. Nobody really cares, you know. I just
Speaker 1: don't take myself seriously. And I think that doing something
Speaker 1: in the public eye it can be crippling when you're
Speaker 1: constantly thinking about the way that you're going to be
Speaker 1: perceived or the way that somebody's going to make you
Speaker 1: feel because the way that they feel about what you did.
Speaker 1: And I've had I've had windows of that type of experience,
Speaker 1: and it's just not the way that I want to
Speaker 1: live my life. It's it's not the best version of myself.
Speaker 1: It's it is crippling, it is debilitating. It's not great
Speaker 1: for your um creativity, it's not great for your mental
Speaker 1: health and practicing at in living that way is it's
Speaker 1: probably in so you can tell me if it's a
Speaker 1: defense mechanism, but it works. I actually think it comes
Speaker 1: across wonderfully. I don't. I don't think it's a defense mechanism.
Speaker 1: I from from what I'm experiencing through this interview is
Speaker 1: I'm just appreciating seeing someone who's just really comfortable in
Speaker 1: who they are and I love that like that. That's
Speaker 1: something that I find really something that I admire in
Speaker 1: other people because I know how hard that is and
Speaker 1: I know how challenging that can be when you are
Speaker 1: in the public eye. So I just want you to
Speaker 1: know that I enjoy and appreciate it and for whatever
Speaker 1: it's worth. But yes, your your your energy is coming
Speaker 1: across wonderfully, and I think everyone's going to really appreciate
Speaker 1: that because I think that's what we're all striving for.
Speaker 1: We're all striving to be ourselves in every scenario and
Speaker 1: not feel like we're trying to be what everyone else
Speaker 1: wants us to be. Yeah. Yeah, I hope that I
Speaker 1: don't sound like an arrogant person. But oh no, no,
Speaker 1: well it's not. Gone. Well, I'm just thinking it's not
Speaker 1: it's really yeah, Well what am I trying to say here?
Speaker 1: See now I'm thinking too much? Oh no, Now I
Speaker 1: made you overthink. This is why you should not talk
Speaker 1: to me, this is this is why we should not
Speaker 1: do podcast because now you're overthinking it. No, I was
Speaker 1: honestly saying it as a genuine observation, and I there
Speaker 1: is no arrogance in there at all. It's not. It's
Speaker 1: not it's not arrogance. It's just freedom. And and I
Speaker 1: think you know freedom is is is everyone's right right,
Speaker 1: it's not, it's not arrogance. Oh well, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: That means a lot. I'm going to tell all of
Speaker 1: my friends and family that call me of Olivia that
Speaker 1: you said that, do that, do that, although I may
Speaker 1: start calling you Oblivia because it's funny and I like it.
Speaker 1: So Olivia, You've just been You've been so generous with
Speaker 1: your time, with your energy, with your spirit. Just you know,
Speaker 1: I've I've enjoyed connecting with you so much today. As
Speaker 1: you know, we end every on purpose interview with the
Speaker 1: final five. So these questions have to be answered in
Speaker 1: one word to one sentence maximum, so it can be
Speaker 1: one sentence, but that's it. So Olivia, these are your
Speaker 1: final five. The first question is what is the worst
Speaker 1: advice you've ever received? Try harder? What is the best
Speaker 1: advice you've ever received? Work hard and be a good person.
Speaker 1: My aunt said that, sweet, what's the first thing you
Speaker 1: do when you wake up in the morning. I cuddle
Speaker 1: with my dog and one of those people and then, yeah,
Speaker 1: what's the last thing you do before you get to bed.
Speaker 1: Blow out my candle. Can't forget that. And the fifth
Speaker 1: and final question, if you could make one law that
Speaker 1: everyone in the world had to follow, what would it be. Well,
Speaker 1: I think that's smiling. Okay, this is a one cent
Speaker 1: of thing. Everybody has to smile for at least an
Speaker 1: hour of their day. No, it is if people smile more,
Speaker 1: they'd have better attitudes, they'd be happier, they'd make better decisions,
Speaker 1: we'd have a better life. And therefore every other law
Speaker 1: that was ever forced or not forced, but you know,
Speaker 1: um voted upon would be a positive change for the
Speaker 1: world because smiling is proven to make you happier. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: that is a great law. We have never had that.
Speaker 1: So that's why I love that answer, and I think
Speaker 1: you're spot on. I've smiled a lot during this interview.
Speaker 1: I think smiling is one of the most underrated things
Speaker 1: in the world. I know what you mean. You're not
Speaker 1: asking as a smile for an hour and hold it
Speaker 1: consistently overall, smile more. Have you openion a really bad
Speaker 1: mood and then you are told to smile and it
Speaker 1: just completely lifts you from that moment. Absolutely, absolutely so,
Speaker 1: I think maybe we just raise all of our energy
Speaker 1: collectively as a species. Yeah. I love that answer. Olivia.
Speaker 1: Is there anything I haven't asked you that you want
Speaker 1: to share, something that's on your heart or your mind
Speaker 1: that you really want to share with our community today?
Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you so much for
Speaker 1: having me and for the platform that you have and
Speaker 1: used to make us better people, because I really do
Speaker 1: believe that you're very inspiring and I'm very happy to
Speaker 1: be a part of it in some way. No, thank you, Olivia. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm humbled and I'm grateful, and I know that after
Speaker 1: listening to this episode, everyone's going to be smiling a lot,
Speaker 1: laughing a lot, and experiencing that joy that you shared
Speaker 1: with us today. So thank you so much. And I
Speaker 1: look forward to meeting you in person one day. And
Speaker 1: thank you to your whole team who's been wonderful to
Speaker 1: work with. So thank you so much. Oh, of course,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. Yeah, thanks Olivia. Thank you everyone
Speaker 1: who's been listening and watching today. Make sure that you
Speaker 1: tag me and Olivia in any of the nuggets wisdom,
Speaker 1: the insights that stayed with you, anything that Olivia said
Speaker 1: that has resonated with you. Make sure you tag us
Speaker 1: on Instagram, on Twitter, or on any platform you're using
Speaker 1: so that we can see what connected with you. Thank
Speaker 1: you everyone, we'll see you next time. And a big
Speaker 1: thank you to Olivia. Olivia, thank you so nice, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you so much, and thank you guys listening.