1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,640 Speaker 1: I think the key is not taking things too personally. 2 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:05,080 Speaker 1: This is a journey and it is called life, and 3 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:08,360 Speaker 1: we're all going to mess up. Everyone's going to mess up. 4 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:12,920 Speaker 1: Everyone's gonna react instead of think when they're triggered. And 5 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: I think just giving yourself grace, giving the other person grace, 6 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: and apologizing when you have done something wrong is something 7 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 1: that we have to offer one another to really reach 8 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: our own individual potential. Hey, everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, 9 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to 10 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: each and every single one of you that come back 11 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:42,839 Speaker 1: every week to listen, learn and grow. Now you know 12 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:46,560 Speaker 1: that I'm always trying to discover interesting stories, fascinating people 13 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:49,160 Speaker 1: who have so much to share through their life, through 14 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: their experience, what they've been through, what they've achieved, and 15 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 1: what they've seen. And today's guest is someone that I've 16 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: been so excited to speak to you for quite a 17 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: while now and I'm so glad that we find have 18 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 1: her online. So today's guest is none other than Olivia Colpo, 19 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: who's created a substantial platform in modeling, beauty and fashion. 20 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: What began as a minor pageant run turned into a 21 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:18,679 Speaker 1: multi title winning streak culminating in a highly successful modeling 22 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: career that has since made her a household name. In 23 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,960 Speaker 1: just a matter of years, she's created a massive worldwide 24 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 1: platform that stretches across entertainment, beauty, fashion, substantiating herself as 25 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 1: a fierce entrepreneur and business minded woman. In August twenty seventeen, 26 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 1: Olivia opened the restaurant Back forty with a family in 27 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 1: North Kingstown, Rhode Island. Welcome to the show, Olivia Coalpo, Olivia, 28 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 1: thank you so much for doing this. Thank you so much. 29 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 1: I have to say, you really nail the intros. I've 30 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 1: heard a few of your actually every single one of 31 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:55,920 Speaker 1: your podcasts really, and I'm always so amazed by your 32 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: way of communicating and also the intros. I mean, I 33 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: don't deserve that. I don't deserve that at all. So 34 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: thank you. Well, you deserve it, because it's all true. 35 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: But we love you more for saying you don't deserve it. 36 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 1: But I had no idea that you actually listened to 37 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 1: the podcast. So now I'm I'm like the one who's 38 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: feeling like I don't deserve that because I had no 39 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: idea that you are a listener. Oh absolutely yes you are. 40 00:02:16,919 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: Constantly inspiring me. I love the topics, I love your guests. 41 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:25,239 Speaker 1: I take away every tidbit that I can, and I'm 42 00:02:25,639 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: i'm all for doing the self work. So thank you 43 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: for making it easier for us to become better and 44 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 1: happier people. Oh you're you're the kindest. Thank you so much. Well, 45 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 1: I want to dive straight in because I have so 46 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 1: many things I want to talk to you about, and 47 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: the first thing I want to ask you is just 48 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: some conversation starters for us to get in there. I 49 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,799 Speaker 1: heard that you are about to open your second restaurant, 50 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 1: which you co oened with your dad in New England. 51 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:51,519 Speaker 1: Could you could you tell us a bit about First 52 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:55,000 Speaker 1: of all, congratulations, but could you tell us about where 53 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 1: the passion for that came from, and especially doing it 54 00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:00,680 Speaker 1: with your father. I mean, that sounds so special. It 55 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:03,360 Speaker 1: is really special. So I come from a big family 56 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: in the middle of five and my dad and my 57 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: mom both started their career as professional musicians and that's 58 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:13,360 Speaker 1: how they met. My dad had five kids when he 59 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: was like thirty two, and he really didn't know how 60 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: he was going to be able to support us and 61 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,800 Speaker 1: give us the life that he wanted us. To with 62 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 1: his salary as a musician that was non existent because 63 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:28,639 Speaker 1: he wasn't getting hired. So he had to put things 64 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 1: into perspective, and he started as a bartender. He really 65 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 1: really worked his way up. He used to count every 66 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: single penny he would take, and now he owns z 67 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: Bar and owns a lot of other restaurants. And I 68 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 1: think growing up with his work ethic inspired me to 69 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: always want to do something in the restaurant industry. But 70 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: on top of that, I think just seeing the community 71 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 1: that you build through restaurants is amazing in itself. Like 72 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 1: good food and good people in quality time is like 73 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 1: those are That's that's what life is about for me, 74 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: and I grew up around that, and so I really 75 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 1: do love and appreciate it. That's so beautiful to hear, 76 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: and I mean that leads nicely onto something else I 77 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 1: discovered about you is that you played the cello and 78 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 1: you're a trained jealous Is that right? I mean that's incredible. 79 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 1: I mean, how does how long has that taken? How 80 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:21,360 Speaker 1: many years has that been? So I grew up everybody 81 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:24,160 Speaker 1: in my family plays instruments, and my mom and dad 82 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:26,480 Speaker 1: grew up playing instruments as well. So they kind of 83 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 1: gave me the cello and said, this is your instrument. 84 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:31,120 Speaker 1: Everybody got a different one. So I started when I 85 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:34,120 Speaker 1: was really really young, and it was it was awesome. 86 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:37,599 Speaker 1: I really enjoyed it for the for the most part. 87 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: Growing up, I think I started to really resent it 88 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: and my parents during my angsty teen years when they 89 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: would send me to band camp every summer for like 90 00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:49,160 Speaker 1: eight weeks. But looking back on it, it was something 91 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:51,679 Speaker 1: that I think they did for in my best interest, 92 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 1: and I know that it was probably the best thing 93 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 1: I could have been doing with my time. But yes, 94 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for it. It's it's a great it's 95 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 1: a very very cathartic to play every once in a 96 00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:04,719 Speaker 1: while and kind of escape. That's beautiful. That's so wonderful 97 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: to hear. I mean with your parents, and you've we've 98 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 1: already talked about them twice and they come up again 99 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:12,919 Speaker 1: and again in so much of the important formative areas 100 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: of your life, as parents do. But in the early 101 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:17,680 Speaker 1: years of your career, your parents, as far as I 102 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 1: believe or no they weren't, they were kind of against 103 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 1: you joining pageants and I want to share, I want 104 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: you to share your experience during your first pageant competition, 105 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:32,279 Speaker 1: if you don't mind sharing that with our audience. Yeah, 106 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: it was tough. I well, I was studying communications and 107 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: acting in college and I and I had this itch 108 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: to just I wasn't enjoying college. I didn't feel like 109 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 1: I was where I wanted to be. I wanted to 110 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:49,520 Speaker 1: just do something that would impress myself, I guess and away. 111 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:52,279 Speaker 1: So I really wanted to work on my stage presence. 112 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:56,040 Speaker 1: I wanted to have an opportunity to just grow in 113 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 1: any way. So I told my parents I wanted to 114 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: do this pageant, and you have to pay to get in. 115 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: They wouldn't pay for anything. They wouldn't help with any 116 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: of my training. My mom refused to go to the 117 00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:12,479 Speaker 1: Miss Rhode Island preliminaries. They just thought it was a 118 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 1: big I don't know how to say this without sounding 119 00:06:16,279 --> 00:06:18,719 Speaker 1: horrible and offending people, but they just didn't think that 120 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:20,480 Speaker 1: it was the best use of my time. And they 121 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:23,599 Speaker 1: also didn't realize why I was pursuing cello as my hobby. 122 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: I think that's really what got them to them. It 123 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:28,360 Speaker 1: felt very vain that I would that I would think 124 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: that going entering this pageant would help me as much 125 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: as maybe entering an orchestra or like trying to get 126 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:39,480 Speaker 1: into a symphony, for example. So they didn't understand it, 127 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:44,840 Speaker 1: but they came to because they had to. Is your 128 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: relationship with your parents always been like you asked for forgiveness, 129 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: not permission or did that evolve over time? How did 130 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: you get that confidence as a young woman to just 131 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 1: be like, well, this is what I want to do 132 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:57,279 Speaker 1: and I'm going to learn this, like what gave you that? 133 00:06:57,320 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people today a lot of 134 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 1: questions I get is a lot of insecurity where people 135 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:03,600 Speaker 1: are like, well, my parents don't agree with it, or 136 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: my brother or my sister don't agree, or I don't 137 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: have support of my family. How were you were able 138 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: to do something that can be quite challenging as a 139 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 1: young person. Oh? Absolutely. And I think when you're working 140 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: toward any goal, it's so important to preserve your sense 141 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 1: of self and your confidence. And I protected myself. I 142 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: didn't tell anybody that I was viewing this. I did 143 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: not tell a soul. Nobody knew. I was just working out, 144 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 1: working on my public speaking. I didn't know any of 145 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 1: this stuff. I grew up as I grew up as 146 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: a band geek. I didn't even know how to put 147 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 1: on makeup. It wasn't really something that came supernatural, believe 148 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 1: it or not. So I just did the work and 149 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 1: I didn't expect it to go anywhere. Yeah, and so 150 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 1: it kind of took a form of its own, But 151 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:53,600 Speaker 1: it was never something that I sought out for. Yeah, No, absolutely. 152 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:57,040 Speaker 1: And I love hearing that because I think I aligned 153 00:07:57,080 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 1: with you very closely on that that when you're trying 154 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 1: to do something that is different, chances are it's better 155 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 1: to be quiet about it because if you tell everyone, 156 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:09,040 Speaker 1: there's probably going to be so many opinions and ideas 157 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: and expectations that then you kind of you kind of 158 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: get yourself out of it because you get so scared. 159 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:17,840 Speaker 1: And so I really resonate with that that that makes 160 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 1: a lot of sense. You mentioned deliver your confidence there. 161 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:24,760 Speaker 1: I wonder what made you confident back then and what 162 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: makes you confident today? Has your definition of confidence changed? 163 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:32,560 Speaker 1: Has being confident changed for you as you've had all 164 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:34,800 Speaker 1: these different experiences in life, of course, as you've grown 165 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:37,600 Speaker 1: as well well. I think everything comes down to just 166 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 1: really working on your relationship with self. And I think 167 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:45,040 Speaker 1: that being confident is very hard. I think that you 168 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 1: really have to work at it, and that can mean 169 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: different things to different people. For me, I get my 170 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 1: confidence and I had my confidence back then as well, 171 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 1: from journaling and quiet moments with myself where I really 172 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:03,320 Speaker 1: feel like I'm tapping into source energy or God or whatever, 173 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:06,439 Speaker 1: or the universe, whatever you want to call it. But 174 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: I think that we don't really I personally believe we 175 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:13,400 Speaker 1: don't really get through life alone. And you have to 176 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:16,320 Speaker 1: try to connect to whatever you think is out there 177 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: that brought you here. But that's not what everybody agrees. 178 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: But for me, I really find my peace and my 179 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:26,960 Speaker 1: understanding of where I'm supposed to be from those quiet 180 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 1: moments with myself where I'm meditating, praying, doing affirmations, giving 181 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: thinks even and is that something that's always been a 182 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:37,080 Speaker 1: part of your life or was that something that you 183 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:40,480 Speaker 1: discovered along the way. When did prayer, meditation, all those 184 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 1: beautiful things you mentioned that I know our audience also 185 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:47,560 Speaker 1: loves and our community loves. When did that get introduced 186 00:09:47,559 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: to your life? Was that something that you had from 187 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 1: your parents or was it something you learned along the way. 188 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 1: My mom is very Catholic, so I grew up and 189 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 1: I went to an all girls Catholic school, so I 190 00:09:57,000 --> 00:10:00,199 Speaker 1: think I always believed in the power of prayer. But 191 00:10:00,360 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 1: I started transcendental meditation when I was eighteen, and that 192 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:07,360 Speaker 1: was around the time that I all of a sudden 193 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:11,840 Speaker 1: my ambitions felt possible and I wanted to get out 194 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 1: of Rhode Island. I wanted to get out of school. 195 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:19,079 Speaker 1: I wanted to do something bigger than I ever thought 196 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 1: I could, And to me, that did manifest into this pageant, 197 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:25,960 Speaker 1: which looking back on it, I'm like, I wonder, I wonder, 198 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:28,959 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't I wonder how I got there. 199 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:31,960 Speaker 1: I still don't really completely understand. But for me, yeah, 200 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: it really is something that Transcendental Meditation helped me a 201 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:40,199 Speaker 1: lot and continues to help me a lot. I felt 202 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: very grounded and centered in decisions, and it was a 203 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 1: very formative experience. Learning TM was a very formative experience 204 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:50,000 Speaker 1: for me. And I'm fascinated who introduced you to TM? 205 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 1: Like where did that come into be in your life? 206 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 1: Of course TM has been around for many, many years. 207 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 1: It's it's an incredible practice. So just how did you 208 00:10:57,040 --> 00:10:59,080 Speaker 1: even interact with it? How did you come across it 209 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:02,400 Speaker 1: from your background in your childhood, which was obviously different. 210 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: It was different. My older sister, who is still the 211 00:11:06,360 --> 00:11:09,439 Speaker 1: girl that paves the way in our family, she started 212 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: meditating and at the time, I'm almost having trouble with 213 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:15,600 Speaker 1: her blood pressure. So my sister offered for her to 214 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: go to the same place that she went, and my 215 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 1: mom's blood pressure went down more than it had ever 216 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:24,000 Speaker 1: lower than it had ever been, and then we all 217 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 1: felt very centered and we would meditate together. It was 218 00:11:26,280 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 1: a really lovely time, and the habit is obviously it's 219 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:32,880 Speaker 1: a hard thing to keep up with, but I I'm 220 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:35,679 Speaker 1: so grateful to have the tools, and I would encourage 221 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 1: anybody listening to just look into whatever form of quieting 222 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:42,880 Speaker 1: your mind you want. Doesn't have to be TM. It 223 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:45,520 Speaker 1: was just the one that I was lucky enough to have. 224 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: My sister introduced me to. Yeah, no beautiful, And do 225 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 1: you have a space? I know I recently saw the 226 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 1: feature that you had in Architectural Digest. I was wondering, 227 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 1: is there a space in your home that you like 228 00:11:56,559 --> 00:11:58,440 Speaker 1: to pray, that you like to meditate, that you like 229 00:11:58,520 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 1: to do affirmations, or want of these people that can 230 00:12:01,040 --> 00:12:03,560 Speaker 1: do it anywhere? And everywhere. I really try to do 231 00:12:03,559 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 1: it anywhere and everywhere, but I do, Yeah, I really 232 00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: really try. I think that's part of mastering it. Which 233 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: that sounds so intimidating and horrible. I don't want anybody 234 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 1: to think that it's anything that you can't do in 235 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: a specific spot. But I think the idea is having 236 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:26,160 Speaker 1: the opportunity to escape wherever you are. Having that understanding 237 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:28,880 Speaker 1: is such an escape in itself, because you can be 238 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:31,640 Speaker 1: in a very stressful situation to be like, hey, I 239 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:33,680 Speaker 1: need to go to the bathroom and you can take 240 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:37,480 Speaker 1: three minutes and just center yourself. Or you can be 241 00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:39,800 Speaker 1: on a plane on your way to somewhere you don't 242 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 1: really want to go, or maybe you're anxious traveling I 243 00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:45,280 Speaker 1: don't know, or maybe you're in a room full of 244 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,600 Speaker 1: people that are just bothering you. You can you can 245 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:51,560 Speaker 1: quiet your mind. And it's a tool that takes time 246 00:12:51,600 --> 00:12:55,600 Speaker 1: to definitely harness, but it does get easier. I will say, 247 00:12:55,600 --> 00:12:58,160 Speaker 1: which I'm sure you know all about. I know that 248 00:12:58,240 --> 00:13:03,560 Speaker 1: you're a big meditation Is that word yeah, no, definitely, 249 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 1: but no, it's you know. What I find is just 250 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:09,959 Speaker 1: I love sharing notes with fellow meditators and people who 251 00:13:09,960 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 1: have found their own way to something or to an 252 00:13:12,360 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 1: idea or to a practice, because I feel like we 253 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:17,760 Speaker 1: learned so much by hearing how different people are applying it. 254 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:20,640 Speaker 1: And I couldn't agree with you more. I think meditation 255 00:13:20,720 --> 00:13:24,040 Speaker 1: and mindfulness and all these practices are tools, like you 256 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:27,360 Speaker 1: rightly said, that we need to use when we need them. 257 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:30,200 Speaker 1: You know, when we're stressed out, when we're going through pressure. 258 00:13:30,400 --> 00:13:32,160 Speaker 1: It can't just be something that we do in one 259 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:36,160 Speaker 1: space in our home. I wonder, Olivia, with what we 260 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:38,840 Speaker 1: were speaking about earlier, with confidence, and I think you 261 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:41,560 Speaker 1: explained it really well. What would you say is one 262 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:45,640 Speaker 1: of the biggest insecurities that you have overcome or that 263 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 1: you're working through? Because I think people may often look 264 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:50,840 Speaker 1: at someone like you and be like, oh, she you know, 265 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:54,080 Speaker 1: she's perfect, the life's perfect, Like she doesn't have insecurity 266 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:57,280 Speaker 1: she doesn't have. But as we all know, as natural humans, 267 00:13:57,280 --> 00:14:00,240 Speaker 1: each and every single one of us has those What's 268 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:02,760 Speaker 1: something that you think you've had an insecurity about that 269 00:14:02,800 --> 00:14:05,760 Speaker 1: you've worked through, a broken through, trying to work through. 270 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:11,160 Speaker 1: Trying to work through is definitely my scenario. Well, you 271 00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:14,040 Speaker 1: never arrive. We're all on a journey, right, So there 272 00:14:14,040 --> 00:14:16,679 Speaker 1: are so many things that I'm so insecure about. I 273 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:21,120 Speaker 1: think that I feel a lot of pressure with the 274 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 1: term influencer, which I am referred to quite often, and 275 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:28,800 Speaker 1: I feel as I have overcome that for some people, 276 00:14:28,880 --> 00:14:33,280 Speaker 1: influencer can have a bad connotation. For me, it's actually empowering, 277 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 1: but it's also a lot of pressure. And I think 278 00:14:35,320 --> 00:14:39,320 Speaker 1: my insecurity could also come from me thinking, Okay, I 279 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:41,200 Speaker 1: have to be a certain way, I have to do 280 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:44,720 Speaker 1: a certain thing, or else people are going to think 281 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 1: that I'm not taking responsibilities as seriously as I can. 282 00:14:48,000 --> 00:14:50,160 Speaker 1: And then there's the other side of me that's like, wait, 283 00:14:51,840 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 1: why is everybody hate influencers? I don't know, because a 284 00:14:56,800 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 1: lot of people do have a bad taste in their 285 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 1: mouth about that term. So yeah, that can be really challenging, 286 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: and there that's something that I do work through and 287 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 1: I have found ways to work through. I mean, just gratitude, 288 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:12,440 Speaker 1: being so grateful for every opportunity I have. And I 289 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 1: think I've always been the kind of person that if 290 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:17,360 Speaker 1: there's a door, I go, I walk through it and 291 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:20,800 Speaker 1: I see what happens from there. And I really do 292 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:25,280 Speaker 1: take my opportunities seriously, and I'm very grateful for them, 293 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:28,360 Speaker 1: but it can be challenging when there are things that 294 00:15:28,360 --> 00:15:31,360 Speaker 1: people say about you that might not necessarily be true, 295 00:15:31,720 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: or you have a hard time understanding and remembering who 296 00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:36,560 Speaker 1: you are because people are telling you that you're a 297 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:39,960 Speaker 1: certain way. I feel like that's a different in security, 298 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 1: but I think that's more just having a public life. 299 00:15:42,520 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: People will say things about me all the time, and 300 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 1: they'll say even to the extent they'll say I've dated 301 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:50,840 Speaker 1: people that I haven't even dated, and it's it can 302 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:54,880 Speaker 1: be challenging because you have to have the self awareness 303 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:58,080 Speaker 1: to understand that that doesn't necessarily matter and what people 304 00:15:58,120 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: write about you doesn't have to define you. And it's 305 00:16:01,760 --> 00:16:05,040 Speaker 1: also something that everybody who decides to have a public 306 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:09,240 Speaker 1: life has to go through. So to me, these are 307 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:11,840 Speaker 1: these are things I work through. I don't want to 308 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:15,720 Speaker 1: get into the specifics of what people right, but yeah, no, 309 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 1: I wanted to hear from you what you're experiencing, because 310 00:16:20,600 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 1: I think from the outside in it always looks like 311 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:27,320 Speaker 1: everyone who has a platform has it all together. And 312 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:30,480 Speaker 1: as we all know, and as you beautifully explained there, 313 00:16:30,680 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: that there are so many things that are uncomfortable and 314 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 1: difficult and challenging, and some of it is self created, 315 00:16:39,360 --> 00:16:41,200 Speaker 1: and some of it is just coming from people who've 316 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 1: never met you, or people who have never known you, 317 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 1: or or people who don't understand you. I guess who 318 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:49,160 Speaker 1: do you think in the world? Who are the relationships 319 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:53,680 Speaker 1: that you turn to for feeling understood, for being connected? 320 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:56,000 Speaker 1: Who are the people in your life that you turn 321 00:16:56,120 --> 00:17:00,760 Speaker 1: to for those open, honest conversations. Oh, definitely my sisters. 322 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 1: I have two sisters that I'm very, very close with. 323 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:05,840 Speaker 1: They really help me, We really help each other. I mean, 324 00:17:05,960 --> 00:17:09,080 Speaker 1: the good thing about sisters is I think, well, I 325 00:17:09,160 --> 00:17:11,679 Speaker 1: genuinely think sometimes we're the only people that would be 326 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:14,040 Speaker 1: able to stand one another in a lot of ways. 327 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:17,119 Speaker 1: But we're also I don't think that there's a love 328 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:22,000 Speaker 1: that I could experience as if my sisters are my 329 00:17:22,040 --> 00:17:25,480 Speaker 1: friends and my sisters. That's just a combined amount of 330 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:29,640 Speaker 1: love that will always tie us together. And I lean 331 00:17:29,720 --> 00:17:33,120 Speaker 1: on them to be honest with me. When I'm being horrible, 332 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 1: they will tell me and shoot it to me straight. 333 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:38,800 Speaker 1: I rely on them to ground me and remind me 334 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:42,719 Speaker 1: of what's important. They are a sounding board when I 335 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:45,359 Speaker 1: need advice or I want to flush out an idea 336 00:17:45,560 --> 00:17:50,040 Speaker 1: and they are just they mean so much to me, 337 00:17:50,119 --> 00:17:53,640 Speaker 1: and it's a very reciprocal relationship because we will all 338 00:17:53,640 --> 00:17:57,080 Speaker 1: help one another, definitely them And you know what they 339 00:17:57,119 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 1: tell me that really hits home. Get over yourself. Nobody 340 00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:05,120 Speaker 1: really cares. And that helps me. God helps me a lot, honestly, 341 00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:07,560 Speaker 1: because it is true. At the end of the day, 342 00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:11,840 Speaker 1: we're all here in life. There's a journey and we're 343 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 1: so blessed to be on it. And yeah, I really 344 00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:19,920 Speaker 1: try not to sweat the small stuff. That's why it 345 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:21,479 Speaker 1: kind of took me a minute to think of like 346 00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:24,320 Speaker 1: what's really ruining my day today. I try not to 347 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:29,240 Speaker 1: think about those things because I'm so I can't believe 348 00:18:29,359 --> 00:18:32,639 Speaker 1: how blessed my life is. And I really try to 349 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: lean into that. And I love hearing that because we 350 00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 1: all need to be reminded to not buy into our 351 00:18:38,760 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 1: own hype, whether it's positive or negative. And it's always 352 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:44,959 Speaker 1: wonderful to have family and people that you trust and 353 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:47,600 Speaker 1: love that can say that to you. But tell me 354 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:49,440 Speaker 1: about some of those rituals. How do you get into 355 00:18:49,480 --> 00:18:51,080 Speaker 1: that mind space? I mean, what you just said is 356 00:18:51,119 --> 00:18:53,000 Speaker 1: so powerful, like you know you, like I don't even 357 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:55,280 Speaker 1: let that I try and avoid having that thought come 358 00:18:55,320 --> 00:18:58,160 Speaker 1: into my mind. What are some of your daily rituals 359 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:01,040 Speaker 1: and practices. Could you walk us through the that have 360 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:04,199 Speaker 1: really become important for you. They don't have to be 361 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:06,240 Speaker 1: things that everyone has to do or everything well everyone 362 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:08,120 Speaker 1: will love, but one of those things that are important 363 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:14,360 Speaker 1: to you, well, I personally think affirmations can be really, really, 364 00:19:14,359 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 1: really transformative. One that I say a lot is I 365 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: am safe and secure within myself, and that kind of 366 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:26,480 Speaker 1: reminds me to not seek outward validation, which my job 367 00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:30,680 Speaker 1: is literally outward like what It's very hard not to 368 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:35,359 Speaker 1: seek that when you are feeling the pressure to show 369 00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 1: up in a certain way. And I also really believe 370 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:40,400 Speaker 1: in the power of prayer. I'll get on my hands 371 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:42,680 Speaker 1: and knees and just ask God for an answer, and 372 00:19:42,760 --> 00:19:46,040 Speaker 1: I get it in one way or the other. It's 373 00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:49,399 Speaker 1: not always in the perfect timing, but that's personally something 374 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:52,400 Speaker 1: that really helps me. I love those, I love those, 375 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:55,680 Speaker 1: and I love that affirmation. It's such a powerful, simple 376 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:59,000 Speaker 1: and beautiful one that we can all use. And I think, 377 00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:01,920 Speaker 1: no matter who we are, you all seek validation externally, 378 00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:04,840 Speaker 1: you know, in any field of life, whether we're seeking 379 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:07,760 Speaker 1: it in our family, or our workplace, or whether it's 380 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:11,360 Speaker 1: on social media and online. We're constantly looking for safety 381 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 1: and security from outside of ourselves, but we all know 382 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:17,160 Speaker 1: that we can only really find it inside of ourselves, 383 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:21,120 Speaker 1: and that you know that's where it truly lies. You've 384 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 1: talked really openly, Olivia about your journey with endometriosis, and 385 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:29,199 Speaker 1: you speak very openly about this and you know the 386 00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:30,880 Speaker 1: end of find out. I was wondering whether you could 387 00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:34,760 Speaker 1: share with us about the diagnosis process, the treatment journey, 388 00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:37,600 Speaker 1: tips or advice you have for young people who may 389 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:41,439 Speaker 1: not be aware fulle of what it is. Absolutely well, 390 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:44,800 Speaker 1: endometrios is basically when the uterine lining. Every month a 391 00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:48,000 Speaker 1: woman shouts or you know, uterine lining. Endometrios is when 392 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:50,280 Speaker 1: the uterine lining grows outside of the uterus. So it 393 00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:54,639 Speaker 1: could really be anywhere. It could be in your appendix, kidneys, liver, diaphragm. 394 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:57,919 Speaker 1: They've seen it everywhere, so it can be very, very painful. 395 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:02,480 Speaker 1: The real kicker about ENDO is that you can't diagnose 396 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:06,200 Speaker 1: it through an ultrasound. It's a very hard thing to diagnose, 397 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:08,760 Speaker 1: so a lot of women find themselves in excruciating pain 398 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 1: for their whole lives, or, in my opinion, worse, they 399 00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:15,680 Speaker 1: don't experience pain because their ENDO is in a place 400 00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:18,040 Speaker 1: where there aren't a ton of nerves. And then they 401 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:20,680 Speaker 1: want to get pregnant and they're unable to get pregnant 402 00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:25,840 Speaker 1: because they have this disease has reached havoc on their eggs. 403 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:31,440 Speaker 1: So it can be really really isolating, and I've decided 404 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:33,720 Speaker 1: to lend my platform to it to help people in 405 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:38,560 Speaker 1: that and have a voice for the women who feel 406 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:42,040 Speaker 1: like they weren't heard because the average diagnosis for ENDO 407 00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:48,480 Speaker 1: is about eight years because it's so hard to find, 408 00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:52,159 Speaker 1: like you have to go into surgery to find the 409 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:55,119 Speaker 1: endometrial tissue. It's not going to show up if you 410 00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:58,719 Speaker 1: go in for your you know, paths here or ultrasound 411 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 1: or you know. I think maybe sometimes they can see 412 00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,159 Speaker 1: it in a cat scan or sometimes you'll have a 413 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:08,359 Speaker 1: blood filled cis called an called an chocolate CIS which 414 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:11,200 Speaker 1: is like an endometrioma, and that can be attached your 415 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:14,879 Speaker 1: ovaries and maybe they can see it that way. But 416 00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,840 Speaker 1: it's very rare that I mean not yeah, it's rare 417 00:22:17,920 --> 00:22:20,400 Speaker 1: that would happen, and um, a lot of women really 418 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:23,080 Speaker 1: suffer and I just I wanted to lend a voice, 419 00:22:23,119 --> 00:22:24,800 Speaker 1: and I wanted people to be able to know what 420 00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:27,080 Speaker 1: to look out for so that they're not you know, 421 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:30,320 Speaker 1: in their late thirties, late for early forties, or even 422 00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:32,840 Speaker 1: in their sixties saying I could never get pregnant and 423 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:35,760 Speaker 1: I never knew why. It's like, well, that could be why. 424 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:39,360 Speaker 1: It gives you answers. Yeah, well, thank you so much 425 00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:41,880 Speaker 1: for sharing that, by the way, and using your platform 426 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:45,640 Speaker 1: for that too, Because the more and more I learn 427 00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:49,480 Speaker 1: about things like this, where there are just so many 428 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:52,080 Speaker 1: challenges that so many people are going through that you 429 00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:55,280 Speaker 1: don't even know exist right or you may know they exist, 430 00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:57,280 Speaker 1: but you don't really know someone who's gone through it. 431 00:22:57,560 --> 00:22:59,520 Speaker 1: And you never know someone in your family is going 432 00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:01,800 Speaker 1: through it right now, they just haven't been able to 433 00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,879 Speaker 1: tell you or be honest with you and share with 434 00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,119 Speaker 1: you what they're struggling with. Or a friend or a 435 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,160 Speaker 1: friend in your life as well, who's going through it. 436 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 1: You seem like a very open person. You know, you 437 00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,280 Speaker 1: have wonderful relationships with family where you could be vulnerable 438 00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 1: with them. What has been a quality that you look 439 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:24,560 Speaker 1: for in people that you surround yourself with, is there's 440 00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:27,560 Speaker 1: something that you look for as an energy, as a person, 441 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:29,680 Speaker 1: as a quality in the people that you keep close 442 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,600 Speaker 1: in your life. Ooh, I would have to say the 443 00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:35,840 Speaker 1: first word that comes to mind is honesty. I think 444 00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:38,159 Speaker 1: that part of coming from such a big family that 445 00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:43,480 Speaker 1: is very close, We've always been very honest with each other, 446 00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:47,160 Speaker 1: to the point where I think sometimes it's almost jarring 447 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,520 Speaker 1: for people around us because they just can't believe how 448 00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:54,159 Speaker 1: bold we are with the things we say to one another. 449 00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 1: But I was raised in that way. We really don't 450 00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:59,880 Speaker 1: hold back, so I appreciate when others are honest. To me. 451 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:03,840 Speaker 1: I'm always kind of windsided when somebody said that they 452 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:05,840 Speaker 1: had a problem about something three months ago, I'm like, 453 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,600 Speaker 1: what three months ago over dinner? Like in my family 454 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:10,640 Speaker 1: would just talk over each other, get it all out, 455 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:13,960 Speaker 1: and then move on. So I really value honesty. I 456 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:16,719 Speaker 1: mean obviously in relationships too, you don't want any deceit 457 00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:18,840 Speaker 1: that that'sund like, that's on a whole other level and 458 00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 1: kind of goes without saying. But I really admire people 459 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:27,879 Speaker 1: who are able to have an honest conversation and shoot 460 00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 1: it to you straight, because that's something that helps both people. Yeah, 461 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:34,680 Speaker 1: and how do you feel receiving honesty as well, because 462 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 1: I often feel like a lot of people like honesty 463 00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:40,480 Speaker 1: and we say I love honesty, and I think I 464 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,960 Speaker 1: know what you're gonna say, which from the way you 465 00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:46,720 Speaker 1: shed it. But how have you prepared yourself to receive 466 00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:49,600 Speaker 1: more honestly as well? Because I think a lot of 467 00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,560 Speaker 1: us can say, hey, I really want people to be 468 00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:53,760 Speaker 1: honest with me, but when people are honest with us 469 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 1: and it doesn't kind of align with what we want, 470 00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,840 Speaker 1: it can actually be really uncomfortable. How have you prepared 471 00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:02,040 Speaker 1: yourself to be some one who can accept and receive 472 00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:06,239 Speaker 1: feedback that's transparent, honest and open. I know, well, I 473 00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:09,200 Speaker 1: think first you have to pay attention to what is triggered. 474 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:13,200 Speaker 1: So are you feeling guilt? Are you feeling defensive? Are 475 00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:18,479 Speaker 1: you feeling shame? And then work backwards from there. I 476 00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:23,960 Speaker 1: personally feel like it takes a moment with yourself to 477 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:27,280 Speaker 1: really think about how is this making me feel? And 478 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:30,200 Speaker 1: why is it making me feel this way? And why 479 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,399 Speaker 1: even is that person feeling that way. I think thinking 480 00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:35,560 Speaker 1: of things in terms of another person's point of view 481 00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:39,520 Speaker 1: is the most helpful way you can have empathy and 482 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:44,480 Speaker 1: understanding and get better and also strengthen your relationship. So 483 00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:47,480 Speaker 1: I think the key is not taking things too personally. 484 00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:49,919 Speaker 1: This is a journey and it is called life, and 485 00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:53,200 Speaker 1: we're all going to mess up. Everyone's gonna mess up, 486 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 1: Everyone's gonna react instead of think when they're triggered. And 487 00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:00,359 Speaker 1: I think just giving yourself grace, giving the other person 488 00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:04,919 Speaker 1: in grace, and apologizing when you have done something wrong 489 00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 1: is is something that we have to offer one another. Absolutely, 490 00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:11,840 Speaker 1: what a beautiful description. What have been some Olivia, I'm 491 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:14,600 Speaker 1: intrigued by. You've played so many roles in your different 492 00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:18,640 Speaker 1: careers that you've taken on different parts. Can you remember 493 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:21,679 Speaker 1: like a pivotal moment, whether it was a lesson, a 494 00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:25,879 Speaker 1: mentor even a failure that kind of crafted who you 495 00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:29,359 Speaker 1: are today? When when you think about that and looking 496 00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:31,520 Speaker 1: at how your career has played out, are there any 497 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:34,080 Speaker 1: specific moments that you think back to and think that's 498 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:38,119 Speaker 1: where I learned something really powerful that has helped me 499 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:42,000 Speaker 1: shift how I think and how I work. Oh yeah, yes, 500 00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:45,320 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Well you didn't really want to go 501 00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:48,280 Speaker 1: into No, I'm just kidding. It's fine. It's actually a 502 00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:50,080 Speaker 1: great story and I'm so grateful for it. And it 503 00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:53,640 Speaker 1: was very very formative for me. So when I first 504 00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:56,040 Speaker 1: moved to LA I was in a relationship and that's 505 00:26:56,040 --> 00:27:00,200 Speaker 1: why I moved here. And I was completely thrown when 506 00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,639 Speaker 1: I when that relationship ended, because I had no sense 507 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:07,080 Speaker 1: of self I had, I had nowhere to live, I 508 00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:11,760 Speaker 1: had no money. I was raised in a very well 509 00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:14,080 Speaker 1: I don't know if this would even be considered traditional anywhere, 510 00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:16,960 Speaker 1: but I was raised where. You know, I don't know. 511 00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:21,359 Speaker 1: My dad was the breadwinner and my mom was the 512 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,040 Speaker 1: mom and she also worked, but you know, my dad 513 00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:26,680 Speaker 1: felt it was just a different type of dynamic. So 514 00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,440 Speaker 1: it was the first time that I realized, like, I'm 515 00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:31,600 Speaker 1: my breadwinner. I have to do this. I have to 516 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:35,439 Speaker 1: work really hard. I have to maintain a level of 517 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:37,760 Speaker 1: excellence so that I can support myself. And it was 518 00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:41,280 Speaker 1: the most challenging moment in my career, but it was 519 00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:45,960 Speaker 1: also the most rewarding because I had to make ends meet. 520 00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:49,239 Speaker 1: I didn't have a choice. I otherwise would have had 521 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:52,240 Speaker 1: to move back to Rhode Island and I don't know, 522 00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:54,960 Speaker 1: work in my dad's restaurants probably, which that wouldn't have 523 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,280 Speaker 1: been the worst thing in the world. That's obviously not 524 00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,240 Speaker 1: terrible to do that either I would. I actually love 525 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,560 Speaker 1: going into the restaurants, but I just felt like, for 526 00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:07,200 Speaker 1: the first time, I was really able to make myself 527 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:11,040 Speaker 1: proud and I was able to see the hard work 528 00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:13,800 Speaker 1: actually come into it coming away that I was able 529 00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:17,160 Speaker 1: to surprise myself. And I know that that doesn't mean everything, 530 00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:21,240 Speaker 1: and obviously it's not really it's not really my place 531 00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:24,240 Speaker 1: to say that I couldn't have been happy doing something else, 532 00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:26,800 Speaker 1: but I think that going through that kind of gave 533 00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 1: me the confidence to really, Okay, I can do this, 534 00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,600 Speaker 1: and it also taught me a lot about having to 535 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,720 Speaker 1: be self sufficient and the importance of being a woman 536 00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,640 Speaker 1: in society. You think sometimes that your partner is going 537 00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:41,920 Speaker 1: to support you for life, but it's just not the 538 00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:45,120 Speaker 1: way to live. And I think that's why I also 539 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:49,440 Speaker 1: have such an entrepreneurial sense to me now, because I 540 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:54,000 Speaker 1: think it's important to show other women that that same 541 00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:56,840 Speaker 1: message that you can do it, you should do it, 542 00:28:57,000 --> 00:29:03,400 Speaker 1: and you deserve it, you owe it to yourself for sure. Yeah, 543 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:06,280 Speaker 1: that's that's I'm so glad you picked that example, because 544 00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:10,600 Speaker 1: I think breakups can be so tough. Breakups, you know, 545 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:15,000 Speaker 1: like you said, they can be the most they can 546 00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:18,400 Speaker 1: be the most like confusing times where you feel so 547 00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:22,200 Speaker 1: lost and stuck and everything feels like it's falling apart, 548 00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:24,880 Speaker 1: and to be able to rebuild from that and to 549 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 1: recognize that that was a sign for you to find 550 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,560 Speaker 1: yourself and to actually go inward. But I love that 551 00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:34,840 Speaker 1: you chose that example because I think, like I was 552 00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:38,880 Speaker 1: saying that, so many people go through breakups and that 553 00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:43,960 Speaker 1: breaks them, right, that really breaks them, and you saw 554 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:46,400 Speaker 1: it as an opportunity to have a breakthrough as to 555 00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:50,920 Speaker 1: who you are. What do you think was it just 556 00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,880 Speaker 1: the sheer pain of like I need to figure my 557 00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:55,520 Speaker 1: life out now that helped you get through that? Or 558 00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:57,600 Speaker 1: where there are other things? What what was that that 559 00:29:57,720 --> 00:29:59,560 Speaker 1: really helped you figure out that was a moment you 560 00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,560 Speaker 1: needed to go wood. I think it was a few things. 561 00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:04,960 Speaker 1: I think for one thing, it was definitely a little 562 00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:08,080 Speaker 1: bit of pride and it was a lot of regret. 563 00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:12,200 Speaker 1: I was really upset with myself that I allowed my 564 00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:16,960 Speaker 1: allowed I didn't put myself first because I was supporting 565 00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 1: my partner, and in supporting my partner, I wasn't able 566 00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:22,480 Speaker 1: to fulfill my dreams. And then I was eventually like 567 00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:25,680 Speaker 1: I really didn't have any way to support myself. So 568 00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:28,120 Speaker 1: I learned a lot in that sense, but I think 569 00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:31,320 Speaker 1: that I think that in general, I would just tell 570 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:38,760 Speaker 1: somebody that you have to understand exactly where you fall 571 00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:42,120 Speaker 1: in life, and if you're in a relationship, that doesn't 572 00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:46,240 Speaker 1: mean that your life isn't your own. For me, the 573 00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:49,600 Speaker 1: moments where I realized I have to pick myself up 574 00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:51,320 Speaker 1: from by the boot traps, as when I didn't know 575 00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:52,640 Speaker 1: how I was going to be able to afford my 576 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:57,360 Speaker 1: rent or my meals, which was crazy because I came 577 00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,240 Speaker 1: from living this a list life and then all of 578 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:03,200 Speaker 1: a sudden it just um not my life anymore, and 579 00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:05,400 Speaker 1: it was the best thing that ever happened to me. 580 00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:07,960 Speaker 1: It was awesome. And now I make my younger sister 581 00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:11,640 Speaker 1: pay a little bit of rent because I want her 582 00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:14,400 Speaker 1: to really understand that one she has to make ends 583 00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:19,240 Speaker 1: meet and be deep too she can which are That's 584 00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:22,600 Speaker 1: a very important lesson in life to learn you you 585 00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:25,080 Speaker 1: you can, and I want her to feel that, even 586 00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:27,880 Speaker 1: though sometimes she tells me that that's messed up and 587 00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:32,080 Speaker 1: just doesn't pay, but it's the idea. I think I'm 588 00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,320 Speaker 1: making her a better person, so it works for me. 589 00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:40,720 Speaker 1: How old is she she's she's twenty three, and I'm 590 00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:44,680 Speaker 1: not kidding you. She just does sometimes she really just 591 00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:49,480 Speaker 1: doesn't pay it. I love that. I love that you're 592 00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:51,880 Speaker 1: outing her on the podcast. I love I love that 593 00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:54,320 Speaker 1: now everyone's gonna know she doesn't Well, maybe this will 594 00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:58,920 Speaker 1: help her to step up. I love it. Yeah, Olivia, 595 00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:02,520 Speaker 1: you mentioned that that that was where that entrepreneurial spirit 596 00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:05,160 Speaker 1: that desire came in. Tell us about some of the 597 00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:08,600 Speaker 1: best entrepreneurial lessons you've learned over the last few years 598 00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,680 Speaker 1: of building you know, so many different businesses, ideas ventures. 599 00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:13,560 Speaker 1: Tell us about some of the lessons you've learned on 600 00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 1: that journey. Well, I think the first thing I've learned 601 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:19,040 Speaker 1: is that it's really really, really really hard, and you 602 00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:21,080 Speaker 1: have to be willing to put in the work. I 603 00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:23,760 Speaker 1: think that I've always been the type of person to 604 00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:28,400 Speaker 1: go above and beyond in terms of what I in 605 00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:30,720 Speaker 1: terms of the time that I lend to certain things. 606 00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:35,360 Speaker 1: I'm very thorough and I can't really, in good faith 607 00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,960 Speaker 1: always say no to an opportunity and to some people 608 00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:42,640 Speaker 1: I've gotten before like oh my gosh, she's so thirsty. 609 00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:47,440 Speaker 1: That's another thing I'm a little insecure about. But at 610 00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,479 Speaker 1: the same time. That is why I was able to 611 00:32:50,520 --> 00:32:53,479 Speaker 1: get success. I think because I have a lot of 612 00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,560 Speaker 1: I have a lot of people who are who are 613 00:32:57,200 --> 00:32:59,680 Speaker 1: you know, my contemporaries, and I look at them and 614 00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:03,200 Speaker 1: it's like, we just didn't really give up. We didn't 615 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:07,680 Speaker 1: We just kept going and every opportunity I really try 616 00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:11,360 Speaker 1: to approach with an open heart and an open mind 617 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,200 Speaker 1: and gratitude and just see what I can make make 618 00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:18,400 Speaker 1: of it. And I think that with that persistence, I 619 00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:21,080 Speaker 1: was able to get the success and get to where 620 00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:24,920 Speaker 1: I am now. Yeah, definitely, I couldn't agree with you more. 621 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:29,400 Speaker 1: I think persistence and consistency are really underrated because they're 622 00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:32,520 Speaker 1: not as cool or sexy or hearts as ideas, because 623 00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:36,000 Speaker 1: it just means showing up doing the same thing every 624 00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:39,200 Speaker 1: day even when you don't feel like it. Sometimes. I 625 00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 1: was speaking about that someone recently. They were like, Jay, 626 00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:43,320 Speaker 1: what do you think's the best skill in the world, 627 00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:45,080 Speaker 1: And I think I said, I think the best skill 628 00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:46,560 Speaker 1: in the world is to be able to do what 629 00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:48,800 Speaker 1: you need to do even when you don't feel like it, 630 00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:52,520 Speaker 1: because if you're waiting to feel like it all the time, 631 00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:55,920 Speaker 1: you may never feel like you or you may only 632 00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:57,920 Speaker 1: feel like it once a week, but actually the more 633 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:01,240 Speaker 1: you do it and the more you practice, you start 634 00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,800 Speaker 1: actually falling in love with it more. And it starts 635 00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,320 Speaker 1: with that desire of just that discipline and showing up. 636 00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:09,480 Speaker 1: How have you craft a discipline in your life? You know, 637 00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:12,759 Speaker 1: I'm sure that so many errors of your life required discipline. 638 00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,439 Speaker 1: Would you say that you're a discipline person or would 639 00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,600 Speaker 1: you say you're a bit more of a free spirit, 640 00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:22,160 Speaker 1: spontaneous person. Oh, I am incredibly discipline. It's actually one 641 00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:24,719 Speaker 1: of those double edged sword type of situations because I'm 642 00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:28,719 Speaker 1: a bit of a I'm a huge perfectionist, So that's 643 00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:30,879 Speaker 1: what I mean by being super thorough like. It takes 644 00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:32,799 Speaker 1: me so long to do something because I just want 645 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,160 Speaker 1: to make sure it's perfect, and that is something that 646 00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:38,040 Speaker 1: I work on because it's not the best quality. But 647 00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,239 Speaker 1: I think that, like you said, just showing up day 648 00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:44,200 Speaker 1: after day and just like you know, continuing to get 649 00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:46,879 Speaker 1: back up when you feel down or when you're pushed down. 650 00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,520 Speaker 1: I look at a lot of people that I admire 651 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,040 Speaker 1: and that's what they've done, that's what they're doing, and 652 00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:54,200 Speaker 1: that's why they are where they are. So I really 653 00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:56,839 Speaker 1: try to practice that in my life, although it can 654 00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:59,680 Speaker 1: be very challenging and you sometimes think that the world 655 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:02,000 Speaker 1: does revolve around you when something bad happens, but it's 656 00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:05,399 Speaker 1: really just you know, this is not going to break me. 657 00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:07,680 Speaker 1: I am going to get back up. I'm going to 658 00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:10,440 Speaker 1: keep going. I don't know where I'm going, but I'm 659 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:13,759 Speaker 1: moving somewhere. I love that, do you know what I've 660 00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:15,520 Speaker 1: This is one of the reasons why I love the 661 00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:20,120 Speaker 1: podcast because you can follow someone online. You can, you know, 662 00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:22,359 Speaker 1: you can look at their posts and how they write 663 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,480 Speaker 1: and everything, and then you can get an opportunity to 664 00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,759 Speaker 1: sit with someone. And I really see on purpose as 665 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:29,600 Speaker 1: an excuse for me to sit down with people I 666 00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:32,879 Speaker 1: find interesting. And I'm speaking to you today and I'm 667 00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:38,120 Speaker 1: just like, wow, Olivia is just such a free spirited, spontaneous, 668 00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:42,120 Speaker 1: fun loving individual, like you know you, just like I 669 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:44,480 Speaker 1: love how you like answering a question and you switch 670 00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:47,000 Speaker 1: direction then you crack up at yourself and then it 671 00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,440 Speaker 1: will go somewhere else. And I'm like, it's just so 672 00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:53,320 Speaker 1: real and so special, And I love that because I 673 00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:56,360 Speaker 1: think we're all looking for that. We all want to 674 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,560 Speaker 1: be that energetic self, Like how have you always been 675 00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:03,040 Speaker 1: this way? When you're being interviewed or you're having a conversation, 676 00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:04,719 Speaker 1: or has this come with time when now you just 677 00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:07,240 Speaker 1: I just feel such a I want to say confidence, 678 00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,200 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't mean in an arrogant way. I 679 00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:12,120 Speaker 1: genuinely feel like you just you carry yourself in this 680 00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:15,359 Speaker 1: way which is just really disarming and like there's no 681 00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:21,200 Speaker 1: barriers on either side. Oh well, thank you, I think that. Well, 682 00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:24,400 Speaker 1: let me tell you my code name or my nickname 683 00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:27,560 Speaker 1: within my family is Oblivia. And a lot of his 684 00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:30,640 Speaker 1: friends can tell to tell me that I have a 685 00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:36,400 Speaker 1: way of blocking out things or circumstances or you know, 686 00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:39,480 Speaker 1: kind of playing the wow, what do you mean by 687 00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:42,839 Speaker 1: that person instead of you know, challenging people. And I 688 00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,520 Speaker 1: think that that goes hand in hand with my kind 689 00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:50,520 Speaker 1: of care free spirit because I really really don't take 690 00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:53,759 Speaker 1: myself too seriously and for some people in my life 691 00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,840 Speaker 1: that can be very frustrating, but it is definitely a 692 00:36:56,840 --> 00:37:00,960 Speaker 1: coping mechanism of sorts. I just feel like, um, I 693 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:05,880 Speaker 1: feel like life is more fun and more you know 694 00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:08,880 Speaker 1: natural to me. What I do have that more free 695 00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:12,319 Speaker 1: spirited attitude and it's something that I'm born with this. 696 00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:16,920 Speaker 1: I think I've always kind of been that way. Do 697 00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:21,239 Speaker 1: I work at it, Yes, by constantly reminding myself, well 698 00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:24,719 Speaker 1: not constantly, but I just you know, nobody good news 699 00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:27,120 Speaker 1: and bad news. Nobody really cares, you know. I just 700 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:31,240 Speaker 1: don't take myself seriously. And I think that doing something 701 00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:33,680 Speaker 1: in the public eye it can be crippling when you're 702 00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:35,640 Speaker 1: constantly thinking about the way that you're going to be 703 00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:37,520 Speaker 1: perceived or the way that somebody's going to make you 704 00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:39,759 Speaker 1: feel because the way that they feel about what you did. 705 00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:45,919 Speaker 1: And I've had I've had windows of that type of experience, 706 00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,319 Speaker 1: and it's just not the way that I want to 707 00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:51,080 Speaker 1: live my life. It's it's not the best version of myself. 708 00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:54,319 Speaker 1: It's it is crippling, it is debilitating. It's not great 709 00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:58,080 Speaker 1: for your um creativity, it's not great for your mental 710 00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:03,319 Speaker 1: health and practicing at in living that way is it's 711 00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,480 Speaker 1: probably in so you can tell me if it's a 712 00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:10,040 Speaker 1: defense mechanism, but it works. I actually think it comes 713 00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:12,600 Speaker 1: across wonderfully. I don't. I don't think it's a defense mechanism. 714 00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:15,680 Speaker 1: I from from what I'm experiencing through this interview is 715 00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:19,279 Speaker 1: I'm just appreciating seeing someone who's just really comfortable in 716 00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:23,520 Speaker 1: who they are and I love that like that. That's 717 00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:27,520 Speaker 1: something that I find really something that I admire in 718 00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:30,960 Speaker 1: other people because I know how hard that is and 719 00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:33,120 Speaker 1: I know how challenging that can be when you are 720 00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:35,000 Speaker 1: in the public eye. So I just want you to 721 00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:37,720 Speaker 1: know that I enjoy and appreciate it and for whatever 722 00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:41,040 Speaker 1: it's worth. But yes, your your your energy is coming 723 00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:43,840 Speaker 1: across wonderfully, and I think everyone's going to really appreciate 724 00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:47,840 Speaker 1: that because I think that's what we're all striving for. 725 00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:52,560 Speaker 1: We're all striving to be ourselves in every scenario and 726 00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:54,879 Speaker 1: not feel like we're trying to be what everyone else 727 00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:58,480 Speaker 1: wants us to be. Yeah. Yeah, I hope that I 728 00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:02,800 Speaker 1: don't sound like an arrogant person. But oh no, no, 729 00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:07,439 Speaker 1: well it's not. Gone. Well, I'm just thinking it's not 730 00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:10,520 Speaker 1: it's really yeah, Well what am I trying to say here? 731 00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:13,640 Speaker 1: See now I'm thinking too much? Oh no, Now I 732 00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:15,719 Speaker 1: made you overthink. This is why you should not talk 733 00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:17,319 Speaker 1: to me, this is this is why we should not 734 00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:20,120 Speaker 1: do podcast because now you're overthinking it. No, I was 735 00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,879 Speaker 1: honestly saying it as a genuine observation, and I there 736 00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:27,080 Speaker 1: is no arrogance in there at all. It's not. It's 737 00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:30,759 Speaker 1: not it's not arrogance. It's just freedom. And and I 738 00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:35,319 Speaker 1: think you know freedom is is is everyone's right right, 739 00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:38,239 Speaker 1: it's not, it's not arrogance. Oh well, thank you so much. 740 00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:39,960 Speaker 1: That means a lot. I'm going to tell all of 741 00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:42,239 Speaker 1: my friends and family that call me of Olivia that 742 00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:46,399 Speaker 1: you said that, do that, do that, although I may 743 00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:48,839 Speaker 1: start calling you Oblivia because it's funny and I like it. 744 00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:54,040 Speaker 1: So Olivia, You've just been You've been so generous with 745 00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:57,759 Speaker 1: your time, with your energy, with your spirit. Just you know, 746 00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:00,560 Speaker 1: I've I've enjoyed connecting with you so much today. As 747 00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:03,120 Speaker 1: you know, we end every on purpose interview with the 748 00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:06,600 Speaker 1: final five. So these questions have to be answered in 749 00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,799 Speaker 1: one word to one sentence maximum, so it can be 750 00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:13,480 Speaker 1: one sentence, but that's it. So Olivia, these are your 751 00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:17,600 Speaker 1: final five. The first question is what is the worst 752 00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:23,360 Speaker 1: advice you've ever received? Try harder? What is the best 753 00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:26,680 Speaker 1: advice you've ever received? Work hard and be a good person. 754 00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:30,040 Speaker 1: My aunt said that, sweet, what's the first thing you 755 00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:32,040 Speaker 1: do when you wake up in the morning. I cuddle 756 00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:36,680 Speaker 1: with my dog and one of those people and then, yeah, 757 00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:38,960 Speaker 1: what's the last thing you do before you get to bed. 758 00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:43,440 Speaker 1: Blow out my candle. Can't forget that. And the fifth 759 00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:46,480 Speaker 1: and final question, if you could make one law that 760 00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:49,880 Speaker 1: everyone in the world had to follow, what would it be. Well, 761 00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:52,600 Speaker 1: I think that's smiling. Okay, this is a one cent 762 00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:57,719 Speaker 1: of thing. Everybody has to smile for at least an 763 00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:01,439 Speaker 1: hour of their day. No, it is if people smile more, 764 00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:05,120 Speaker 1: they'd have better attitudes, they'd be happier, they'd make better decisions, 765 00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:08,080 Speaker 1: we'd have a better life. And therefore every other law 766 00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:11,239 Speaker 1: that was ever forced or not forced, but you know, 767 00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:14,680 Speaker 1: um voted upon would be a positive change for the 768 00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:19,440 Speaker 1: world because smiling is proven to make you happier. Absolutely, 769 00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:21,560 Speaker 1: that is a great law. We have never had that. 770 00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:24,120 Speaker 1: So that's why I love that answer, and I think 771 00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:26,680 Speaker 1: you're spot on. I've smiled a lot during this interview. 772 00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,200 Speaker 1: I think smiling is one of the most underrated things 773 00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:32,600 Speaker 1: in the world. I know what you mean. You're not 774 00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:34,960 Speaker 1: asking as a smile for an hour and hold it 775 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:41,720 Speaker 1: consistently overall, smile more. Have you openion a really bad 776 00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:44,680 Speaker 1: mood and then you are told to smile and it 777 00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:49,680 Speaker 1: just completely lifts you from that moment. Absolutely, absolutely so, 778 00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:52,080 Speaker 1: I think maybe we just raise all of our energy 779 00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:56,440 Speaker 1: collectively as a species. Yeah. I love that answer. Olivia. 780 00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:58,319 Speaker 1: Is there anything I haven't asked you that you want 781 00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:00,320 Speaker 1: to share, something that's on your heart or your mind 782 00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:02,680 Speaker 1: that you really want to share with our community today? 783 00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:04,160 Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you so much for 784 00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:07,520 Speaker 1: having me and for the platform that you have and 785 00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:09,759 Speaker 1: used to make us better people, because I really do 786 00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:14,600 Speaker 1: believe that you're very inspiring and I'm very happy to 787 00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:18,000 Speaker 1: be a part of it in some way. No, thank you, Olivia. Well, 788 00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:21,240 Speaker 1: I'm humbled and I'm grateful, and I know that after 789 00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:23,520 Speaker 1: listening to this episode, everyone's going to be smiling a lot, 790 00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:26,680 Speaker 1: laughing a lot, and experiencing that joy that you shared 791 00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:29,080 Speaker 1: with us today. So thank you so much. And I 792 00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:30,839 Speaker 1: look forward to meeting you in person one day. And 793 00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:33,000 Speaker 1: thank you to your whole team who's been wonderful to 794 00:42:33,040 --> 00:42:34,880 Speaker 1: work with. So thank you so much. Oh, of course, 795 00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:38,800 Speaker 1: thank you so much. Yeah, thanks Olivia. Thank you everyone 796 00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:42,000 Speaker 1: who's been listening and watching today. Make sure that you 797 00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:45,360 Speaker 1: tag me and Olivia in any of the nuggets wisdom, 798 00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:48,000 Speaker 1: the insights that stayed with you, anything that Olivia said 799 00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:50,279 Speaker 1: that has resonated with you. Make sure you tag us 800 00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:52,359 Speaker 1: on Instagram, on Twitter, or on any platform you're using 801 00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:55,160 Speaker 1: so that we can see what connected with you. Thank 802 00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:57,080 Speaker 1: you everyone, we'll see you next time. And a big 803 00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:59,920 Speaker 1: thank you to Olivia. Olivia, thank you so nice, thank you, 804 00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:01,560 Speaker 1: thank you so much, and thank you guys listening.