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Speaker 1: Who baby A baby? I need you, Oh hell, I

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Speaker 1: need you. What to Expect is a production of I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio. I'm your host Heidi Murkop and I'm a

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Speaker 1: mom on a mission, a mission to help you know

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Speaker 1: what to expect every step of the way. There's no

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Speaker 1: question that you're excited to meet your baby for the

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Speaker 1: first time. But when it comes to the process leading

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Speaker 1: that is, you've probably got plenty of questions and concerns,

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Speaker 1: maybe even a few hardcore worries that are keeping you

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Speaker 1: in on those last months of uninterrupted sleep. Maybe it

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Speaker 1: hasn't help that you've googled and seen things that you

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Speaker 1: an earful of labor and delivery horror stories that, yeah,

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Speaker 1: they clearly embellished a little more each time they told them,

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Speaker 1: but still or watched a video on YouTube that was

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Speaker 1: just a little too up close and personal, or you

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Speaker 1: saw that film at eleven mom delivers baby in her

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Speaker 1: The focus for now is getting you ready for your

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Speaker 1: labor and delivery, which, like every labor and delivery and

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Speaker 1: every pregnancy before it and every baby that falls it

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Speaker 1: will be uniquely yours. So today we're here to answer

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Speaker 1: all the labor and delivery questions you have and maybe

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Speaker 1: to to talk you off a ledger two because you've

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Speaker 1: got this, Mama promise, I'm here with Emma. Hey. I

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Speaker 1: remember my own labor and delivery like it was yesterday,

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Speaker 1: but I also remember yours, which was a little more recent. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: then husband and and us and you of course got

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Speaker 1: alert the media and said, I think I'm having a baby.

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Speaker 1: And then we drove to the hospital and he was

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Speaker 1: the second one now with Seby. I mean, the second

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Speaker 1: big heads, karma. Yes, so um, you've packed for the

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Speaker 1: So how can you tell real labor from false labor? Well,

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Speaker 1: But that's because false labor, like real labor, comes with

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Speaker 1: So you might feel them in your lower back, in

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Speaker 1: And you might feel pressured too, and oh joy, you

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Speaker 1: out by a doctor midwife. Oh so you can't, like

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Speaker 1: my eyes were bloodshot too. That's a really ineffective way

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Speaker 1: to push, and it did take me a really long time.

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Speaker 1: What you need to do is relax your face, relax

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Speaker 1: your neck, relax your upper body, relax your chest and

429
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Speaker 1: your thighs, and then push as if you're pooping, pooping

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Speaker 1: out the biggest poop of your life. And those are

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Speaker 1: the muscles that you want to use. Those are the

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Speaker 1: muscles in your vagine, in your rectum. And if you

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Speaker 1: tuck your chin to your chest and you look down

434
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Speaker 1: past your belly, that will help remind you of where

435
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Speaker 1: the pushing should be happening, and then you can follow

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Speaker 1: the urges if you have them. Some moms have them,

437
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Speaker 1: some moms don't. To push. You can do what comes naturally.

438
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Speaker 1: Maybe it's going to be pushing several times during the

439
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Speaker 1: same contraction. Maybe it's gonna just be giving it you're

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Speaker 1: all with one big push. But that's where adula can

441
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Speaker 1: come in. A really supportive nurse, even you know your

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Speaker 1: doctor and midwife can redirect you or direct you if

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Speaker 1: you're having trouble with pushing, and to get into the

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Speaker 1: right position too, because flat on your back isn't the

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Speaker 1: best way to push. Semi sitting, semi squatting, all fours,

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Speaker 1: but of course you can't do those with an epidural. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So I worried about pooping. In fact, it was my

448
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Speaker 1: biggest fear during labor because I had just met my husband. Sure,

449
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Speaker 1: he got me pregnant, but I remember telling the nurse,

450
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Speaker 1: I said, I'm I can't poop in front of him.

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Speaker 1: So that was my biggest fear, and I think that's

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Speaker 1: part of the reason why I was so bad at pushing.

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Speaker 1: The truth is that poop happens during labor, and if

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Speaker 1: you try to push while you're trying not to poop,

455
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Speaker 1: consciously trying not to poop, then you're not going to

456
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Speaker 1: get anywhere, and your baby's not gonna get anywhere, and

457
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 1: you might poop a little bit anyway, And that was

458
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Speaker 1: definitely part of your problem because you were consciously trying

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Speaker 1: not to poop, and so you weren't pushing effectively. I

460
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:05,919
Speaker 1: was also super constipated, so gosh, only knew like what

461
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Speaker 1: was going to come out at that point. You know. Yeah,

462
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Speaker 1: actually a lot of moms have have diarrhea in early labor,

463
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Speaker 1: but yeah, that's a blessing. I can't even imagine having

464
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Speaker 1: diarrhea in front of him. Are you kidding? No? No,

465
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Speaker 1: not not, I'm not in the hospital bed. No, I'm

466
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Speaker 1: talking when you poop during waver it's just during pushing.

467
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Speaker 1: It's just little drops and they wipe it away so

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Speaker 1: fast that you don't even notice it. And it's not

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Speaker 1: like they haven't seen it before. Yeah, but what about

470
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Speaker 1: tearing and stretching, and everybody worries about that. The good

471
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Speaker 1: news is that vaginas are built to take it. They're

472
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Speaker 1: remarkably elastic, and they have these ingenious accordion like folds,

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Speaker 1: so they they open up to accommodate the baby's head

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Speaker 1: and then they gradually return, you know, close to original size.

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Speaker 1: I mean close, not necessarily precisely the same, but it's

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Speaker 1: usually not a difference that's perceptible. Paraneum's on the other

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Speaker 1: and that's the area between your vagina and your rectum

478
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Speaker 1: aren't so stretchable. So massaging them in the last weeks

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Speaker 1: of pregnancy, you you know, with a finger and a

480
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Speaker 1: little lubrication, very clean finger, it might definitely that can

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Speaker 1: help gradually stretch your paraneum and get ready for babies exit.

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Speaker 1: But it only works in first pregnancies. It won't work

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Speaker 1: if you're having your second or third because it's already

484
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Speaker 1: stretched as much as it's going to stretch during labor

485
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Speaker 1: and delivery. Using warm compresses and massage can help any mom,

486
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Speaker 1: and tears happen, I mean, tears are common. Most moms

487
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Speaker 1: get a tear, usually a minor one. They're more easily

488
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Speaker 1: repaired and recovered from then the old school of pi.

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Speaker 1: Theotomy is that I had to have both times those

490
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Speaker 1: really hurt and kegels, woman, keegels, kegels early. Often our

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Speaker 1: second labor is always easier than the first, and are

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Speaker 1: they usually shorter? Well, every labor is different, so there's

493
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Speaker 1: no such thing is always, but all other things being equal,

494
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Speaker 1: it tends to be a little shorter, but especially the

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Speaker 1: pushing phase. So that's because the situation down below is

496
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 1: just a little more relaxed. So the first time three

497
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Speaker 1: and a half hours for me, the second time twenty minutes.

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Speaker 1: And both of you had really pretty epic size heads.

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Speaker 1: So what's the likelihood that I'll give birth on my

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Speaker 1: due date? It's really low. Five percent of babies arrive

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Speaker 1: on their due date. So I, of course, because I

502
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Speaker 1: I hadn't read the book yet, I expected you to

503
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Speaker 1: come on your due date. And we all know that

504
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Speaker 1: you didn't. Nine days passed by. But but that's so me,

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Speaker 1: so you but that's because DO date is shorthand for

506
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Speaker 1: E D D, which is estimated DO date, and that's

507
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Speaker 1: way more accurate because it's definitely more of an educated

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Speaker 1: estimate than a short thing, unless, of course, you have

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Speaker 1: a scheduled C section. So do people really give birth

510
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Speaker 1: in their cars? And how common is it to not

511
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Speaker 1: get to the hospital in time? Okay, so it does

512
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 1: happen more often on TV, really happens rarely in real life,

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Speaker 1: especially if you're a first time but even if you're

514
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Speaker 1: a second time, but it happens. I remember her mom

515
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Speaker 1: on my Facebook page who delivered in the Lincoln Tunnel

516
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Speaker 1: during rush hour and she had a really nice cab driver,

517
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Speaker 1: which was a plus given the circumstances. But that's super,

518
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Speaker 1: super super uncommon. It's still a good case for one

519
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Speaker 1: and out check it out. Don't wait for those contractions

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Speaker 1: to be one on top of another. Yes, you want

521
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Speaker 1: things to get real before you go to the hospital,

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Speaker 1: but not like live at eleven reel. And if you

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Speaker 1: had a really fast labor the first time or in

524
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Speaker 1: a previous purse what they call precipitous labor, then you

525
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: definitely want to plan on getting to the hospital earlier

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Speaker 1: in the game, maybe camping out there in the last

527
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Speaker 1: week just in case, and when we come back, it's

528
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Speaker 1: helped me, Hidi, and now it's time for help me, Heidi.

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Speaker 1: We're all answer you're pressing pregnancy and parenting and labor

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Speaker 1: and delivery questions, No holds barred, no filter allowed, t

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Speaker 1: m I, no such thing. We're all moms here or

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Speaker 1: dad's and chances are if you have this question other

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Speaker 1: parents due to you're not alone. Motherhood is the ultimate sisterhood,

534
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Speaker 1: and we're here to help a sister out Emma who

535
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Speaker 1: needs help today. Okay, so this comes from a listener

536
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Speaker 1: who says, I'm so afraid of going past my due

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Speaker 1: date and ending up to have to get induced or

538
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Speaker 1: having a C section. Are there any tried and true

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00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:57,959
Speaker 1: ways to induce labor I can try at home? Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: let's just say there are many i Y labor induction

541
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Speaker 1: methods that have been tried and if you have any

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Speaker 1: truth to them, at least the kind of truth that

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00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 1: researchers look for. So there's no scientific evidence to back

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Speaker 1: up any of them. Still your overdue, then hope springs eternal,

545
00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: or let's say, desperation springs eternal. And if you're desperate

546
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 1: enough to try anything, then there's no harm in trying

547
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 1: these at home. We have a few first up as dates. Now,

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00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about the dates that you have with

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Speaker 1: your sweetie, though you might want to stock up on

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Speaker 1: those two while you have the chance, But the kind

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Speaker 1: of dates that you eat. It seems like a random

552
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 1: thing to study, but research shows that eating dates in

553
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 1: the last months of pregnancy can lead to a shorter,

554
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Speaker 1: easier labor. And who can argue with that? Mama's who munch?

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00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 1: Dates appear more likely to go into labor spontaneously so

556
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 1: that avoids labor induction, have a shorter first phase of labor,

557
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 1: and have greater cervical dilation and admission to the hospital

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Speaker 1: or birthing center. So you ask, what's in a date

559
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 1: that makes it so labor friendly potentially, Well, I'm glad

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Speaker 1: you asked. Dates have an oxytocin like effect on the body,

561
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:13,600
Speaker 1: go figure, helping to stimulate uterine contractions. They also have

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00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 1: laxative effects like their dried fruit friend the prune, that

563
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: stimulate the uterus along with the bowels. Now, how many

564
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 1: dates will you have to pop to expedite becoming a mom?

565
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 1: The researchers had. The expectant moms in the study eats

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Speaker 1: six dates daily beginning at week thirty six of pregnancy.

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Speaker 1: Just remember that dates are super high in fruit sugar,

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Speaker 1: So if you've been instructed to mind your sweets due

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Speaker 1: to gestational diabetes, ask your practitioner before you start dating

570
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 1: that much. Then there is my preferred kind of date,

571
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: the hot kind sex, of course. As you may have heard,

572
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 1: or maybe you haven't heard yet, the prostaglandins in sperm may,

573
00:32:56,560 --> 00:33:00,240
Speaker 1: like the prostaglandins and medications sometimes used to induce labor,

574
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 1: help ripen your cervix, but only if conditions are otherwise

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00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,920
Speaker 1: ripe and ready. So sperm pack less potent prostaglandins and

576
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 1: medications do, so I would say they're arguably more fun

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Speaker 1: to use. And what's the downside? Like I always say,

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Speaker 1: if sex works to get labor started, great and if

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Speaker 1: it doesn't work, still great. And while we're at it,

580
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 1: how about some nipple stimulation which actually sounds like more

581
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Speaker 1: fun than it is. I'll tell you a funny story.

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Speaker 1: During the filming of What To Expect When You're Expecting,

583
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Speaker 1: we were on the set when the characters that were

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Speaker 1: played by Elizabeth Banks and Bell Felcone. They were walking

585
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Speaker 1: through the park to get labor started, and Chris Rock,

586
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: who is the leader of the Dudes group, he yells

587
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Speaker 1: out tweaker nipples and the director yells, God, God, Chris,

588
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 1: that's that's not in the script. Why did you say that?

589
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 1: And Chris, as I read it? And what to expect?

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00:33:55,400 --> 00:34:00,080
Speaker 1: So point point being hours of daily nipple stimulation, and

591
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 1: where is Chris Rock likes to call it nipple tweaking

592
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 1: may release enough oxytocin to get the labor party started,

593
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,879
Speaker 1: but it's no picnic and it can lead to painfully

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00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 1: long and strong contractions plus super sore nipples, and you

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00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:17,399
Speaker 1: don't want to start breastfeeding that way, so don't. Don't

596
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 1: try this one at home without your practitioners. Go ahead.

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00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 1: Less painful is that walk in the park. It's not

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00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,840
Speaker 1: gonna necessarily make labor a walk in the park, but

599
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,399
Speaker 1: it's possible, at least in theory, that it might help

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Speaker 1: ease the baby into your pelvis, pressuring your service to

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Speaker 1: begin opening up. And the same theory applies to any

602
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 1: vigorous exercise, including bouncing on a birthing ball, which was

603
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 1: the last thing that Emma did before her labor with

604
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 1: Lennox started. So coincidence who knows? And now onto her

605
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: bals true story. I was nearly two weeks overdue when

606
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Speaker 1: I gagged down a mug of raspberry leaf tea. I

607
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 1: hate tea, but this tea was particularly vile and I

608
00:34:57,640 --> 00:34:59,200
Speaker 1: don't know whether it was because it made me so

609
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: nauseous or what. But two hours later, baby bingo. Another coincidence?

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00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:07,400
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe not. Some studies show that raspberry leaf tea,

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00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 1: black Cohosh and evening primrose maybe just the ticket you

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Speaker 1: need to hop on the labor express triggering or even

613
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:19,279
Speaker 1: speeding up contractions, but definitely check with your practitioner first

614
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 1: about dozing and only go there if your baby bun

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00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 1: is fully baked. Okay, can you order up labor on

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Speaker 1: door Dash In the category of no harm, no foul,

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Speaker 1: no proof. Some say that spicy foods, hot sauce, hot

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Speaker 1: pot for alarm, chili, put a fire in your belly

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Speaker 1: and then show your baby to the exit or Italian food.

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00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,720
Speaker 1: Some say it's the balsamic vinegar in the labor salad.

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Speaker 1: Others say it's the herbs and the tomato sauce. Still

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Speaker 1: Others swear it's the eggplant and the eggplant parmesan that

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Speaker 1: edge them closer to labor, or pineapple, which contains the

624
00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:01,799
Speaker 1: enzyme broma lane, which when consumed in large quantities, some

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00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 1: believe may contribute to cervical ripening and possibly contractions. Something

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00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 1: to explore if you're pining for labor now, if you're

627
00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 1: counting on castor oil, you might want to count that

628
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 1: out instead. This is a powerful laxative, tastes disgusting too,

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Speaker 1: and it's definitely going to stimulate your bells, which in

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Speaker 1: theory could stimulate your uterus into contracting. But do you

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Speaker 1: really want to start labor if it does work with

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Speaker 1: diarrhea and severe cramping and vomiting, I'm going to go

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Speaker 1: with not. Definitely, don't try this one at home. The

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Speaker 1: truth is, and it's not a truth that overdue moms

635
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Speaker 1: really want to hear, is that babies usually come when

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Speaker 1: induce you if not. And as for when that induction

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Speaker 1: might happen. If the baby doesn't come, that depends on

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Speaker 1: how you and your baby are doing. If all is well,

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Speaker 1: definitely not before thirty nine weeks, and almost always by

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Speaker 1: forty one or forty two weeks. We don't have time, unfortunately,

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Speaker 1: in another episode about birth plans and all your birth options.

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Speaker 1: But in the meantime you can find so much more

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Speaker 1: expecting and on the what to expect app So, Emma,

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Speaker 1: what's your message to moms who are terrified about going

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Speaker 1: into labor? I feel like that was me. But the

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Speaker 1: bottom line is, and this is why I always tell everybody,

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Speaker 1: if I can do it, I have given birth vaginally

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Speaker 1: to two babies, and if I can do it, you

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Speaker 1: can do a man's sister. The truth is, your body

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Speaker 1: knows exactly what to do, even if your mind doesn't.

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Speaker 1: If your mind is freaking out, what do you think

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Speaker 1: the baby's just gonna stay in there? No, your vagina,

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Speaker 1: your body, your cervix, it's all going to work together

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Speaker 1: and the baby will come out one way or another.

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Speaker 1: The other good news is that if your body doesn't

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Speaker 1: that too. Yes, love me a good midwife and doctor.

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Speaker 1: And I say take your child birth classes, read up,

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Speaker 1: learn as much as you can, and then chill out.

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Speaker 1: Good luck, moms, good luck, you got this? Who baby

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Speaker 1: love a baby belove. I need you, Oh hell, I

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Speaker 1: need you. Thanks for listening. Remember, I'm always here for you.

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Speaker 1: What to Expect is always here for you, who are

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Speaker 1: all in this together. For more on what you heard

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Speaker 1: on today's episode, visit what to Expect dot com slash podcast.

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Speaker 1: You can also check out what to Expect when You're Expecting,

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Speaker 1: What to Expect the First Year, and the what to

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Speaker 1: Expect app. And we want to hear from you. Connect

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