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Speaker 2: Thanks for watching, guys.

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Speaker 3: half of you.

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Speaker 2: GK the dude.

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Speaker 3: I defined the soulful, blues driven sound of Southern rap

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Speaker 3: and put Texas on the map in a whole new way.

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Speaker 3: And he's built the wildly successful Trill Burger's brand. He

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Speaker 2: Yes, he is the incredible bump being. Here's my guess to.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much. What I'm good. I'm good. It

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Speaker 3: Queen sweet, you have an interesting life, man, and we've

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Speaker 2: But I feel like it was album mold.

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Speaker 1: It was always promo driven.

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Speaker 3: Today, we should dig because your life is man, the

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Speaker 2: You seem to be thriving and well, like, are you happy?

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Speaker 2: Now let's take them. Let's go back a little bit too.

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Speaker 3: Let's do it early early inception of just the moment

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Speaker 3: I know that you credit to Pimp for like letting

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Speaker 1: Absolutely he was. I didn't. I didn't pimping out with

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Speaker 1: You know how they talk about girls mature bassetting boys, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And she was right. She was right from I always

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Speaker 1: said that if I'm wrong and she's right, it works

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, It's a.

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Speaker 1: Lot easier for me to just try it her way

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Speaker 1: It's a lot easier to maintain that stuff. So I've

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what if you had to change about yourself to

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Speaker 1: I had to be quiet. I had to literally just

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Speaker 1: on general principle because for many years I felt like,

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Speaker 1: but you know, when we went to this meeting and

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Speaker 1: And you're not seeing none of that because your tunnel vision.

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Speaker 1: I'm looking at everybody else's body. Lange. Wow, and that

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Speaker 1: where she needs to be. Anytime I need her input

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Speaker 1: So I'm trying to make sure that I'm where I

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Speaker 2: And you said that the key to that is mostly

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Speaker 1: Just shutting up. And listening and quite frankly, doing most

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Speaker 2: Is this advice you'd give like young men.

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Speaker 1: Young married men, Yes, I would, but it depends on

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Speaker 2: Okay, you tell me about that.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, most most people are looking for women

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Speaker 1: these things. Same thing with men. Men want a woman

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Speaker 1: He's fucking her, I should be at least fucking her

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, But there are things that

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Speaker 1: Right, like, we're in this together. I'm not gonna make

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Speaker 2: What was the thing you wanted?

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Speaker 1: I wanted the white house with the pick of fence outside.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I want a security Like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then how can you have a future if

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Speaker 1: Now, my thing is, if I don't think it's for you,

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Speaker 1: then I have to look at how could this potentially

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Speaker 2: And really, like a partnership, really it really.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You have to be there

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because if you go to sleep with it, you

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Speaker 1: side of the bed, You're not open to things the

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Speaker 1: next day. In my opinion, at least go to bed

438
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Speaker 1: a green to disagree, not try not to be mad

439
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Speaker 1: and be like, well, I just can't see it today.

440
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Speaker 1: Let's let's try another day.

441
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Speaker 2: I've heard that rule.

442
00:19:45,960 --> 00:19:49,840
Speaker 3: I don't know anybody that actually has all the time.

443
00:19:50,119 --> 00:19:52,080
Speaker 1: Well again, all the time. It don't work because we're

444
00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:55,399
Speaker 1: human beings, right, And sometimes somebody's like, no, it's got

445
00:19:55,560 --> 00:19:58,680
Speaker 1: to be like this, And sometimes you just gotta let

446
00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:00,760
Speaker 1: that sit. Like if you're arguing back that on a Monday,

447
00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:02,920
Speaker 1: we'll come back to it on Thursday. You know what

448
00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:05,439
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, we don't need to wake up focus

449
00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:08,639
Speaker 1: concentrating on that unless it's something super pertinent. Let's let

450
00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:11,280
Speaker 1: that shit breathe, Let that bitch breathe for a little while.

451
00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:14,480
Speaker 1: You calm down, I calm down. You might come to

452
00:20:14,520 --> 00:20:18,359
Speaker 1: some realization or I may come to some realization, but typically, no,

453
00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:20,240
Speaker 1: we need to address this shit now. We need to

454
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Speaker 1: talk about my wife. Well, my wife has an issue

455
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Speaker 1: with me. My wife doesn't talk to me about it

456
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Speaker 1: until it's bedtime, like as soon as I get in

457
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:30,520
Speaker 1: bed and get comfortable or whatever. That's what she likes.

458
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Speaker 1: So about today and then, and that's where we are,

459
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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Because it's something that she

460
00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:40,040
Speaker 1: doesn't want to go to bed thinking about or worrying over.

461
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Speaker 3: She wants to put it to bed literally literally literally

462
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Speaker 3: put it to bed.

463
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Speaker 1: I love that, And that wasn't my idea. That wasn't

464
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Speaker 1: my idea. That was her idea. But I'm glad that

465
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Speaker 1: that it's been instituted in our marriage.

466
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487
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Speaker 3: quick hearing this story now and then you know, as

488
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Speaker 3: I remember hearing the story about you guys having that

489
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Speaker 3: incident at the house and you having to protect her.

490
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Speaker 2: And there's been some updates recently.

491
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Speaker 1: Right the personally it was the trial was pushed back

492
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Speaker 1: for several years and then finally came up and he

493
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Speaker 1: was sentenced and sent to prison for what he did.

494
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Speaker 3: I remember hearing about home invasion and that you had

495
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:04,119
Speaker 3: to do what you had to do and hearing that story.

496
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:08,919
Speaker 3: But now just understanding what your relationship deeper.

497
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Speaker 1: It is deeper because when this happened, like my wife,

498
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Speaker 1: I would never let my wife answer the door I

499
00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:15,000
Speaker 1: would always answer the door, and where we lived at

500
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:18,440
Speaker 1: that time, because the front door was kind of open

501
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:20,320
Speaker 1: to the public, so I was like every time the

502
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:23,400
Speaker 1: front door would go, I would answer the door. This

503
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 1: particular day, I was about to leave to go to

504
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Speaker 1: the grocery doore. I said, no, hold up, let me

505
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:29,439
Speaker 1: go use the bathroom right quick. And while I was

506
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Speaker 1: in the bathroom, it happened. And I can hear the

507
00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 1: tone of my wife's voice, and I'm realizing something is

508
00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 1: very wrong because my wife is scared, and my wife

509
00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 1: does not live a life of fear. I protect my

510
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:46,120
Speaker 1: wife know she's going to be protected, so she doesn't

511
00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:48,479
Speaker 1: walk around with that. She doesn't use that tone in

512
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,879
Speaker 1: her voice. So I could he hear her saying, just

513
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Speaker 1: take the car, just take the car. And I'm like,

514
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Speaker 1: my car's paid for at the end of somebody in

515
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Speaker 1: my house now. For years, for years I had been

516
00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:04,439
Speaker 1: waiting for someone. I knew it was because of my life,

517
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:06,919
Speaker 1: where the way I move and you know, where I

518
00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:09,359
Speaker 1: am at in the community. I felt like somebody at

519
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:12,520
Speaker 1: some point might try it. And it wasn't until that

520
00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:15,639
Speaker 1: day where it actually happened, and so I ran out

521
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 1: the bathroom I went got my gun. But what I

522
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 1: didn't know during that moment that whole time was my

523
00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 1: wife was trying to stall him out so I could

524
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Speaker 1: get to the gun to come down and protect her.

525
00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 1: And the gun was the gun was literally on her forehead,

526
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,439
Speaker 1: like the muzzle was on her forehead that whole time.

527
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Speaker 1: And her rationale in that moment was if I die,

528
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 1: I know, one you're going to kill him, and then two,

529
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Speaker 1: you're going to make sure this family is okay. And

530
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:50,080
Speaker 1: so she had to come to terms with dying in

531
00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:52,679
Speaker 1: that moment and what this family would be after that.

532
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 1: But she was secured for her telling me she was

533
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Speaker 1: secured and knowing that one I was definitely going to

534
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Speaker 1: come down and do something in that moment. She knows

535
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 1: that's going to happen regardless. But should something happened to

536
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:07,199
Speaker 1: her before I can get there to save her, at

537
00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 1: least she knows her husband will take care of this family.

538
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Speaker 2: How does she know that?

539
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:11,879
Speaker 1: Like?

540
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Speaker 2: What is is?

541
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Speaker 3: I mean, I guess just the history that you guys have. Yeah, No,

542
00:24:15,400 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 3: we like you being a protector.

543
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Speaker 1: Yes, imagine we've had that before, you know, not not

544
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:23,440
Speaker 1: at the home, but we've had incidents before where I've

545
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,879
Speaker 1: had to stand in and be like, you know, what does.

546
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Speaker 2: That mean to you as a man, Because it's.

547
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Speaker 1: Top, it's top. Provision is number one for sure, like

548
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:35,359
Speaker 1: providing for your family is number one. Now, everybody's not

549
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: going to provide the same way. Right. Some people are

550
00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:41,800
Speaker 1: working class, some people have other unemployment that all befores

551
00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:45,440
Speaker 1: them more money. But at the very least they should

552
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 1: have a roof over their head, and the bills, the delights,

553
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 1: the water, and all that shit should be taken care of.

554
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:55,000
Speaker 1: That's provision protection. There is no It's one hundred percent,

555
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:58,119
Speaker 1: all day, every day, at your worst, whatever it is,

556
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Speaker 1: it's one hundred percent. I'm the one that's supposed to

557
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:05,440
Speaker 1: stand in front of the gun, right. That's the job

558
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:08,120
Speaker 1: I took, is to stand any threat to my family.

559
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:10,960
Speaker 1: I have to see it and meet it first. That's

560
00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 1: the way I've tried to live this life. And the

561
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 1: fact that she had to meet that threat first, but

562
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:18,360
Speaker 1: had already come to terms with the worst case scenario

563
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:24,080
Speaker 1: of that situation and found strength in the idea that

564
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Speaker 1: her husband would do what a husband should do in

565
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Speaker 1: that moment. But she also said that she felt like

566
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 1: a glow around her in that moment to where like

567
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 1: this is going to be okay one way or another.

568
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Speaker 2: Wow, you know that she's protected.

569
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Speaker 3: Yes, Wow, I can't imagine that moment for you, that

570
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:47,359
Speaker 3: that fear because it's just fear of what's happening. But

571
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 3: then it's also, I don't want to say burden the

572
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 3: responsibility I was.

573
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 1: I was prepared and the protector. I was prepared for

574
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 1: all of that. None of that was a problem. My

575
00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,639
Speaker 1: only issue was can I get to her before something

576
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 1: happened to her? That's all I cared about. Can I

577
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 1: get to her in time because I'm coming. Because the

578
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 1: guy was like, who's at upstairs, She's like, that's my husband.

579
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 1: She was like, you better tell him. If he come

580
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: down here, I'm gonna kill you. You know what I'm saying.

581
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 1: And she was like, Bun, don't come downstairs. I'm coming.

582
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:17,840
Speaker 1: Her fear was that we get into a shootout where

583
00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:20,439
Speaker 1: she's in the middle. I'm upstairs, he's downstairs, and she

584
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: gets hit. In the situation when she started telling him

585
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 1: don't come downstairs, she said she said, Bun, don't come.

586
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,200
Speaker 1: He told her telling him don't come, she said, Bun,

587
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 1: don't come downstairs. When she called when she said bun

588
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,240
Speaker 1: because he had a mask on the whole time. She said,

589
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 1: his eyes got big because there's only one Bun, right.

590
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 1: So he realized where he was that in that moment,

591
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:47,199
Speaker 1: and so he started asking for the keys to the car.

592
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 1: Give me the keys to the car. So he would

593
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 1: he went out, she'd let the door up, and then

594
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 1: she would put it back down, right, And she did

595
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 1: that twice, and he said, put that mother. He pointed

596
00:26:57,280 --> 00:26:59,119
Speaker 1: the gun at her again, like, put that motherfucker up

597
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:01,879
Speaker 1: and leave. And so by this time, why was she

598
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 1: doing that to try to stall him out so I

599
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 1: could get to him. The whole time she's like, this

600
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,440
Speaker 1: motherfucker came in our house. I know what he's going

601
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: to get. I want him to get to this man.

602
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:16,360
Speaker 1: So by that time she was coming back in the house.

603
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 1: I was coming down the stairs and she's like, don't

604
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 1: go outside. He's got a gun. Don't go outside. I'm like,

605
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:24,400
Speaker 1: I'm finna go outside. I'm going to meet this guy

606
00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: where he is. And the confrontation happened in the garage.

607
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 1: Shot him in the well. I shot into the car

608
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 1: because he was in the car, but he couldn't figure

609
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 1: out how to start it. Because I just bought her

610
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 1: like a new Audi, and the newer audis the ignition is,

611
00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:40,080
Speaker 1: the gearshift is here, and the ignition is to the right.

612
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 1: So he's all up here looking how to start. He's

613
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,480
Speaker 1: so he never got the car started. So when I

614
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 1: got in the garage, he was still in the car.

615
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:49,359
Speaker 1: So I put five shots in the car. I started

616
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 1: walking to it to see if I hit him. I

617
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 1: heard a pop. I realized that's him shooting back at me.

618
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 1: I put five more in the car. I put four

619
00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,679
Speaker 1: more shots in the car. He jumped out of the

620
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: car and please don't kill me now. On my way

621
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 1: down the stairs, I cocked the gun to make sure

622
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 1: it was loaded. That took one shell out. So the

623
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,520
Speaker 1: eleven shots that I put in the car, the twelfth

624
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 1: bullet was the one that I cocked out. So when

625
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 1: I put the gun in his head, it didn't go out.

626
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: There was no bullets left.

627
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 2: You were prepared to do that.

628
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: No, I was. I have to say, yeah, I don't.

629
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:23,120
Speaker 1: I didn't want to have to kill anybody. But nobody's

630
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 1: going to kill us, you know what I'm saying. And

631
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 1: you had already done far worse than anything anyone had

632
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 1: ever done to my wife at that point. So I

633
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: really wanted to do something to that man, but I couldn't.

634
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:35,120
Speaker 1: I couldn't kill him. So I hit him a couple

635
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: of times with the pistol. I believe his nose broke.

636
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 1: And then my wife because she heard the gunshots. And

637
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 1: my wife came in screaming, and I looked back at her,

638
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 1: and he burnt. He jumped out and jumped up and

639
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 1: ran out. Now I'm half naked because I was in

640
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:53,240
Speaker 1: the bathroom, so I'm winny to pool. I'm like top on,

641
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 1: I'm bottomless at this point, So I ran back in

642
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 1: the house. My gun was empty, I got her gun,

643
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 1: put on some pants, got in the car. Where I live,

644
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 1: there's only one way to go when you leave. You

645
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 1: can either go out this way, turn right, or turn left.

646
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 1: He's on foot, so I go. I turned right, he's

647
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: not there. I turn left. I coun see him running

648
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 1: down the street, so I go down there, and my

649
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: first mind is to run him over, like just kill

650
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 1: him right there.

651
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:18,920
Speaker 2: When you tell that story, does it take you does

652
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 2: it take you right back there? Is it like hard

653
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:22,000
Speaker 2: to talk about?

654
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 1: Not at all?

655
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 2: Really, not at all? Wow?

656
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 1: For me, for my wife, is excruciating for her to

657
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,479
Speaker 1: talk about it and deal with it, because quite frankly,

658
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 1: she dealt with the majority of the threat. And my

659
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 1: wife had been dealing with a level of anxiety for

660
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: a while and we had just gotten rid of it,

661
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 1: like no medication everything. She had just gotten back where

662
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 1: she needed to be, I should say. And this not

663
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 1: only knocked her back and knocked her back further. So

664
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 1: we were literally.

665
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 2: She was dealing with some anxiety before the inside, yes.

666
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 1: Got so not only did we go back to where

667
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: we had to start with her initial anxiety, now there's

668
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:56,640
Speaker 1: this on top of it. So it pushed her back

669
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 1: further than she had ever been. How could it not

670
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 1: for that that type of thing. So, you know, it

671
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:03,800
Speaker 1: took a while for her to work herself through that

672
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 1: and get out of it in the right way, you know,

673
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 1: because we tend to just go to church and you know,

674
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 1: and smoke a cigarette and we'll be fine, type of thing.

675
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 1: But this took a little bit more hard work for her,

676
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: and I'm glad she did the work. I supported her

677
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 1: through it, and we're just starting to get to a

678
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 1: place where the anxiety isn't as big of a situation

679
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 1: as it was before, and she, for all intents and purposes,

680
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 1: she's the wife I've always known. Now she wasn't for

681
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:34,480
Speaker 1: a while, and that took some time for us to

682
00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 1: deal with it. But we had to give her a

683
00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 1: grace to work through.

684
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:39,000
Speaker 2: That was that fear. She was sitting in fear or

685
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 2: it was.

686
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: Very hard for her. I'll tell you this. When it

687
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 1: happened at nighttime, well let's say it happened in like

688
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 1: the late afternoon. It went into nighttime, and we slept

689
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 1: in that house that night. But she was still obviously

690
00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 1: in the state of shock from the whole thing. Because

691
00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 1: the next morning when she woke up, and because we

692
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 1: lived in the three story townhouse at that time, we

693
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: slept on the third floor, and so she went to

694
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 1: the kitchen, which is on the second floor, to get something,

695
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 1: and then she realized she needed something from the first floor.

696
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 1: And once she went and looked at that stairway and

697
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 1: saw the bottom of those stairs, it was an immediate trigger.

698
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 1: It was a trigger, and literally she came back upstairs.

699
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 1: She was very, very upset about it, and I realized

700
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 1: in that moment we got to move. Now we had

701
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: our townhouse which was for our home, and we had

702
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 1: another apartment like closer in the city, so we just

703
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 1: moved into that apartment. We had to literally walk her

704
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 1: out with her eyes covered because she couldn't look at

705
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:39,960
Speaker 1: that stairwell anymore, and her mom and I did most

706
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:43,440
Speaker 1: of the packing and everything for her. Again, we moved

707
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: into new space. We had to find a completing new

708
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: home after that, and it just took her a while

709
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 1: to get out of it, you know. So we found

710
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 1: a house with a nice big park across the street

711
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 1: so we could go out, take walks and just enjoy.

712
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 3: Well, what about you as a husband, Like, so, you're

713
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 3: you're the protector in that moment, but then it doesn't

714
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 3: It isn't just that moment. It's like you have to

715
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:11,880
Speaker 3: also protect her through the trauma that came after.

716
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:13,120
Speaker 2: And so how do you do that?

717
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 3: How do you support your wife or your partner in

718
00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 3: the time of what she's dealing with.

719
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 1: You don't even less you have to, because you can't

720
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:20,320
Speaker 1: get it.

721
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 2: There's no gun, no gun, there's no level.

722
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 1: Of anything that can take her out of that initial moment, right,

723
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 1: and the things that someone that goes through your mind

724
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:34,560
Speaker 1: when you think you're about to die of a violent death,

725
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:37,240
Speaker 1: There's a lot of things that she had to work

726
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 1: her way through, and so I just wanted to give

727
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,239
Speaker 1: her her space. That was the main thing, because there

728
00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 1: are going to be certain moments that I couldn't console

729
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: her through these things. All I could do is maybe

730
00:32:48,400 --> 00:32:50,680
Speaker 1: hold her hand or something. But we had a back

731
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 1: porch with a big backyard, so she spent a lot

732
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,960
Speaker 1: of time out there, just you know, trying to process

733
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 1: this type of stuff. But we got her the help

734
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: that she needed to kind of get through it. And

735
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 1: then as soon as we get through it and get

736
00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 1: in the house, COVID comes and now we're stuck inside.

737
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 1: But my wife and I have such a great relationship

738
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 1: that we didn't really care about being around anybody else.

739
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 1: We didn't like the fact that our family couldn't come

740
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 1: and see us, right because my son and his wife

741
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 1: had a baby during COVID and they both caught COVID

742
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 1: in the hospital, so we had to go and get

743
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 1: the baby from a newborn for like the first two weeks.

744
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 4: Wow.

745
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: And I think that moment really reprioritized everything in the

746
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 1: way that you don't you don't continue to think about yourself,

747
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:44,200
Speaker 1: you think about the children. You know what for us,

748
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 1: it was about making sure that doesn't have it again,

749
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 1: making sure we're protected, getting her gun lessons and different

750
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 1: things like that, right and so, but when the baby came,

751
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 1: we realized that it's not about us right now, We've

752
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 1: got to protect this baby because we had been so

753
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 1: concerned about protecting ourselves and now we have to protect

754
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 1: this baby from an invisible threat, catching COVID. Right and

755
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 1: so it took two weeks for the parents to get

756
00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:12,239
Speaker 1: clean and clear and we could bring the baby back.

757
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:17,359
Speaker 1: But it also reminded us of you know, having this

758
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:20,839
Speaker 1: little baby, you know that we're responsible for and we're

759
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:21,719
Speaker 1: completely Is it a.

760
00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:24,319
Speaker 3: Crazy how God gives you what you need even if

761
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,440
Speaker 3: it just seems weird and left?

762
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 1: That baby changed everything. I will say that baby, she's

763
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,840
Speaker 1: my youngest grandchild, Zoe, and she changed everything.

764
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 2: That's amazing.

765
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:39,479
Speaker 3: I wonder, I don't know how to frame this question.

766
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 3: It was like, I find that men in relationships sometimes

767
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:48,839
Speaker 3: the provider the protector is the easier thing for men

768
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 3: to easier to like, Okay, this is what I do.

769
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:53,160
Speaker 3: I gotta make the money, I gotta do this, I

770
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 3: gotta uh. The emotional part of the support, I think

771
00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 3: is challenging for someone.

772
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 1: I don't think enough men talk about the pressure they

773
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 1: find themselves under once they take on a family. The

774
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 1: idea of providing the essentials is one thing, but then

775
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: kids get sick, cars get in recks, right.

776
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:20,839
Speaker 2: Parents, you know, all.

777
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 1: These other life gets in the way, is what I

778
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 1: like to say. Life will eventually get in the way.

779
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:26,879
Speaker 1: Even if you have the majority of this thing kind

780
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 1: of figured out, life will still get in the way.

781
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:32,520
Speaker 1: And it's the it's these other factors that come into

782
00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 1: play that really define how your households together. Because I

783
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 1: can go out and try to find a job that

784
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 1: will pay all of the bills, take care of the

785
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 1: car if she wants something, if we need to go somewhere,

786
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 1: do that. But there's things that money doesn't really give

787
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,360
Speaker 1: you an out for, you know what I'm saying, And

788
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 1: then we just have to kind of band together as

789
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 1: a unit to get through it. Because if you're a

790
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 1: billionaire and you're on the highway and you have a

791
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:03,839
Speaker 1: flat tire, if if you're not, if you're like, I'll

792
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 1: tell you a story. I do this thing called gumball

793
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 1: three thousand every year, and.

794
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 2: Oh you do gumball. That's the car thieves.

795
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 1: I did. I married them.

796
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:15,759
Speaker 2: You married them? I had her on the pod. She's

797
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 2: so happy.

798
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:18,839
Speaker 1: She they fell in love.

799
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 2: We got to get back to the Gunboll story.

800
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 1: But tell me that, well, the gunball repences. We were

801
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 1: we were driving from La to Vegas and that year

802
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 1: Lance Hamilton, the racer, that fund racer, was there. He

803
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 1: was in a very expensive car. And these Bugattis and

804
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 1: these Puganis and all of these super cars, they operate

805
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 1: almost like an airplane engine in the way that if

806
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 1: I was sold that if you get into Bugatti with

807
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: a full tank and you put foot all the way down,

808
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:54,920
Speaker 1: your car will be on e in like ten minutes. Wow.

809
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 1: And so this guy was out in the middle of

810
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:00,440
Speaker 1: the open and thought he'd open it up and ran

811
00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 1: out of gas. Where him being Lewis Hamilton, I said, Lansam, sorry,

812
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:08,239
Speaker 1: Lewis Hamilton. Doesn't help him. His money doesn't help him.

813
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 1: He needs a friend. He needs someone, a person to

814
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:15,719
Speaker 1: come and stop and help him, you know. And someone did. Yeah. No,

815
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 1: at that point it doesn't matter. I don't care who comes.

816
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:20,360
Speaker 1: I just need help. So we do.

817
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 2: I'm all over the place. But did you go to

818
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 2: Gumble regularly.

819
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is my first year not doing it in several years,

820
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:28,399
Speaker 1: but I've done I started in two thousand and ten

821
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 1: and I've probably done it twelve times.

822
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 2: Oh the wedding though, tell me about that. We had

823
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 2: Eve on the pod. So she seems really happy, She's

824
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 2: very happy.

825
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:39,279
Speaker 3: Could you tell that in that moment of bringing two

826
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 3: people together before?

827
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 2: And how is that your job? How did that even happen?

828
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 1: So we even I started doing the rally, the Gumball

829
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,359
Speaker 1: three thousand rally the same year got it. She didn't

830
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:50,799
Speaker 1: know anyone. I didn't know anyone but we and we

831
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 1: had never met, but we were familiar with who each

832
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 1: other was. So we were like, I don't know what's

833
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:57,399
Speaker 1: gonna happen, We're gonna stay close.

834
00:37:58,120 --> 00:37:58,720
Speaker 2: You're my friend.

835
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:02,719
Speaker 1: Yes. At the same time, the guy that owns Gumball

836
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 1: was going through a divorce during that race. And I

837
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 1: remember the first night because he always escorts the talent,

838
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 1: like whoever's performing, whoever's the celebrity, he escorts them to

839
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:17,960
Speaker 1: the parties. That night he escorted everybody, including Eve. The

840
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: second night he only brought Eve. And then the third

841
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 1: night you could just see something was happening with these

842
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 1: people after the rally, and I don't want to tell

843
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 1: all their business. But after the rally, he invited her

844
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 1: for a date to come to London to meet him

845
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:34,799
Speaker 1: and go on a date. And she went and she

846
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:42,080
Speaker 1: never left. She never left. He loves every single part

847
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 1: of her. And I'll tell you how much. When I

848
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 1: knew he loved her, he called me one day, this

849
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:49,759
Speaker 1: is before he asked me to do the wedding. He

850
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 1: called me, said, Bun, I've got a problem. I said,

851
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: talk to him. He was like, I touched Eve's hair

852
00:38:56,480 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 1: last night and she was not excited about that. He like,

853
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 1: He's like, is that a thing? I said, that is

854
00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 1: absolutely a thing. Yes, like black woman's hair. Once it's done,

855
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:09,360
Speaker 1: you leave it. You leave it, you don't touch it,

856
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:11,799
Speaker 1: you don't caress it, you don't run your fingers through it.

857
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 1: It's not that kind of situation. And he was like,

858
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 1: good to know, good to know. But he wanted to

859
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 1: make sure that he wasn't doing anything that would mess

860
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:24,879
Speaker 1: this up. He really really wanted to do this right.

861
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 1: And then I remember we were in this is the

862
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:31,439
Speaker 1: same time we were in Las Vegas. He called. He says,

863
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 1: but I need you to go somewhere with me. Can

864
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:34,400
Speaker 1: you come with me? I was like, yeah, sure, let's go.

865
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 1: And so we get in the cab and I'm like,

866
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:38,919
Speaker 1: where are we going? He's like, we're just taking a ride.

867
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 1: I was like, so even and are getting married? He says,

868
00:39:43,239 --> 00:39:46,920
Speaker 1: I propose. She accepted. We're getting married, but the wedding,

869
00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 1: the actual ceremony, the wedding has to be done legally

870
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:53,360
Speaker 1: in London or it won't be recognized, he says. But

871
00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 1: I want to marry her at the end of the

872
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:59,920
Speaker 1: rally in Ibitha, he says, And so we put so.

873
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 1: So the legal one is the one we're doing at home,

874
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 1: so this one is more like ceremonial kind of thing.

875
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 1: So we were like, who should marry us? So I

876
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 1: wrote a list of names. She wrote a list of names,

877
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 1: and you're the only name that was on both lists.

878
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 4: WHOA.

879
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 1: And they were like, we're going to do it next

880
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 1: year on the next rally, and we would love for

881
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 1: you to do the wedding. I had to get ordained.

882
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 1: So even though it didn't mean anything right because legally

883
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 1: wouldn't even be recognized back home, but I wanted to

884
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 1: do seriously, I took it very seriously. I bought clothes

885
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 1: that I would never wear before. I bought like this linen,

886
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,399
Speaker 1: this very long linen set. I didn't want to put

887
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:40,799
Speaker 1: on a suit because it was a very relaxed ceremony,

888
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:43,879
Speaker 1: So I dressed what I thought a pastor would wear

889
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 1: at a beach wedding, right kind of a thing. And

890
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 1: we had paparazzi on boats shooting from the ocean. It

891
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 1: was It was amazing. But they were only at the wedding,

892
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 1: maybe fifteen people. It was his children and her family.

893
00:40:56,480 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 1: Her grandmother came and her grandmother had never been on

894
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:02,279
Speaker 1: a plane before, and they flew her all the way

895
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: to Ibitha. Just amazing. It was a beautiful ceremony. His

896
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 1: children got up and they were talking about how happy

897
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 1: they were that their dad was happy, and they have her.

898
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 1: She braided there. They never had their hair braided. Wow,

899
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 1: she braided their hair and played with it in their

900
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,440
Speaker 1: room with the dolls and everything. And they love her.

901
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:26,000
Speaker 1: They call her mom.

902
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:29,080
Speaker 2: Why do you think they wanted you to do it?

903
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 2: What was the connection?

904
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I was the only one

905
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 1: that they were Like a lot of people do the

906
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 1: rally right, A lot of people pay to do the rally,

907
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:42,439
Speaker 1: but certain people he likes to have on the rally

908
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:45,280
Speaker 1: because he actually likes them as friends, like they're actually

909
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:47,839
Speaker 1: friends when they're not rallying. And so I became one

910
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 1: of those people. And I mean, I just no one

911
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: else that E would know more on the rally than me.

912
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 1: And as far as getting married on the rally, that

913
00:41:56,320 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 1: least common denominator between them was me, and I was

914
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:05,000
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe. I couldn't believe they it really, it

915
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 1: really was to marry them because I knew these people

916
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:09,360
Speaker 1: were in love. I wanted to be a part of

917
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,720
Speaker 1: this marriage, you know what I'm saying, So them asking

918
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 1: me to do it cemented my place in their family.

919
00:42:15,760 --> 00:42:18,879
Speaker 1: And I just I love how they love on each other.

920
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 1: I love how when she's got concerts, he goes, when

921
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 1: he's got business, she goes. Like they are inseparable as

922
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:28,400
Speaker 1: much as they possibly can be. The only time I

923
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 1: ever saw them separate was when their child was born,

924
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 1: and for the first year, they didn't think it was

925
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 1: okay for the wife for the baby to come on

926
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 1: the rally because it's it's a lot to do this.

927
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:42,399
Speaker 1: But from two on up, he's been there. He's from

928
00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 1: two on up.

929
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 2: He's been there.

930
00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:47,319
Speaker 1: Oh he's adorable, he's and oh you should see how

931
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:52,760
Speaker 1: he has a big brother, Cash and Cash loves because

932
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:55,960
Speaker 1: everyone else's girls. So it's Cash and three other girls

933
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 1: for years. And now he has a brother and he

934
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:02,239
Speaker 1: loves being a big brother. He lives in New York.

935
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:06,360
Speaker 1: Now to you to invest in this family, I do

936
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:08,400
Speaker 1: because I feel like I'm a part of it. I

937
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:11,320
Speaker 1: feel like I'm a part of bringing this family together.

938
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:14,719
Speaker 1: But I love to watch them in real time, like

939
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 1: at home online I see him and her and the

940
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 1: boy and maybe the girls. Or for the holidays, they

941
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 1: all go out to the family. The family has a

942
00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:25,719
Speaker 1: nice house in the English countryside, and they'll go out

943
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:28,680
Speaker 1: there and see the parents. And I just love being

944
00:43:28,719 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 1: a part of bringing these two worlds together in a

945
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 1: very genuine and authentic way because these people separately had

946
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 1: everything they needed in life except a partner, and now

947
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 1: they both found their partner, and now they're building this

948
00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 1: family together. I love it for.

949
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 2: You're really like you believe in love.

950
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:50,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know what love can do to a person.

951
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:52,520
Speaker 1: I know what a lack of love can do to

952
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 1: a person as well. So I'm always for love, like,

953
00:43:56,360 --> 00:43:58,280
Speaker 1: just go for it, try it, you know what I'm saying,

954
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:02,279
Speaker 1: See if it works, because a relationship built around love

955
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 1: is so fulfilling and it's so satisfying because when you

956
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 1: don't have everything else that the world says you should have,

957
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: if you have a person that loves you and that

958
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:16,359
Speaker 1: you love back, you can build anything from that. I've

959
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 1: seen it.

960
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 2: No wonder they wanted you to do the ceremony.

961
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 1: I do believe in love do I do believe in

962
00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 1: love because I've been a relationships where I thought I

963
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 1: was in love and I realized I wasn't. I've been

964
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 1: a relationships where I thought people loved me and they didn't.

965
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 1: But when I found this woman, I was at the bottom.

966
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 1: I had nothing to offer this woman, and this woman

967
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 1: took me in. And it's my duty to take care

968
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 1: of I don't see any other duty. I start there

969
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 1: and then everything else. If I can make sure that's intact,

970
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 1: we can get through anything else life throws at us.

971
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:47,920
Speaker 1: We've done it already.

972
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 2: I love how you believe in love. Everybody believes in love,

973
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:54,760
Speaker 2: but people get it wrong.

974
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 1: You have to be in love with the worst of

975
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 1: a person you have to be willing to see a

976
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 1: person at their worst and be like bad, I sing

977
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:08,320
Speaker 1: worse than that, I've seen worse than that, you know

978
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like I've been in Me and my

979
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,279
Speaker 1: wife do not get along all the time, and most

980
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 1: of our arguments are in tone. If she thinks I

981
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:17,799
Speaker 1: talk louder than I should have, that in itself will

982
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:22,840
Speaker 1: become a problem. Yeah, vice versa, Like what cam you?

983
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:24,879
Speaker 1: You really believe you needed to tell me that that way?

984
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 1: Kind of a thing. But in spite of that, in

985
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: spite of seeing me at my worst, my wife still

986
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:34,800
Speaker 1: loves me, and I still love her in spite of everything,

987
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Obviously she's had a lot

988
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:40,560
Speaker 1: more to do with me than me with her. But yeah,

989
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 1: love is the only thing that gets us through everything

990
00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 1: that we've been through as a family. It's the single

991
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:47,439
Speaker 1: most important thing.

992
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:50,759
Speaker 2: Message. I feel like that's a thing, Like we're going

993
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 2: to need that.

994
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 1: As a thing. You gotta work to that though, Like you,

995
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:56,320
Speaker 1: you don't meet someone and fall in love and immediately

996
00:45:56,360 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 1: get rid of all your bad habits. You've got to

997
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:02,360
Speaker 1: constantly work at yourself to make sure that those.

998
00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:03,360
Speaker 2: Things preach that go ahead.

999
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 1: Things don't consistently come up in the relationship because it'll

1000
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:09,839
Speaker 1: drive a wedge. Especially if it's something that you can

1001
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 1: work on, you just choose not to. That's going to

1002
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 1: be a problem. And when your partner has something that

1003
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:18,400
Speaker 1: they need to work on, once they start working on it,

1004
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 1: give them encouragement, keep them lifted up. You know what

1005
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Work with them. If somebody needs to get

1006
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 1: in shape, if you're if one person in shape, the

1007
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 1: other one is in shape, we still both got to

1008
00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: go to the gym. We still both got to go

1009
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:30,399
Speaker 1: to the gym.

1010
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:31,840
Speaker 2: It's a real partnership.

1011
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 1: Absolutely. Yeah.

1012
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:38,280
Speaker 3: Because cold school, like grandparent couples.

1013
00:46:37,960 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: This is all of this seems like wisdom. This is

1014
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 1: just from sucking up a lot as a younger man

1015
00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 1: and growing up and living through these experiences and bettering

1016
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 1: myself because of these things. That's where I'm at now.

1017
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:51,320
Speaker 2: All right, we got listen.

1018
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 3: Love is going to be the theme of this conversation,

1019
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:55,480
Speaker 3: but we do have to talk about some of the

1020
00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:59,440
Speaker 3: real quickly, the reinventions and the evolutions with what's happening. Well,

1021
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 3: we'll get to Black Cowboy too, which I want to

1022
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:03,839
Speaker 3: talk to you about that too, but also just Trillburger.

1023
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:07,400
Speaker 3: First of all, I feel like every cool golf event

1024
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 3: that I go to there is a Trillburger spot, and

1025
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:12,759
Speaker 3: every time I get to it, it's I don't get

1026
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 3: one because they're gone.

1027
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:17,320
Speaker 2: I feel like, I don't know. It's like a hot commodity.

1028
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 1: And we try to bring every We try to bring

1029
00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 1: every tournament or every event we do enough food. We

1030
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: try to bring enough food. But every event that we do,

1031
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:29,920
Speaker 1: we were gonna be like, Okay, who's golfing? How many

1032
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 1: people are golfing? And we try to set aside two

1033
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 1: burgers for each golfer.

1034
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:33,440
Speaker 2: Anyone deside for me.

1035
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 1: But it's just been beautiful to try to chase this thing.

1036
00:47:36,280 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 1: I find myself constantly chasing this thing. And the reason

1037
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 1: I chase it is because it keeps growing. It's getting

1038
00:47:41,760 --> 00:47:44,160
Speaker 1: very hard for us to keep our hands wrapped around

1039
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:47,720
Speaker 1: this thing because it's dying to grow. It is dying

1040
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,360
Speaker 1: to grow and being in more cities and more communities

1041
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:53,719
Speaker 1: and have more customers come in. But we have to

1042
00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:56,359
Speaker 1: keep it manageable for us. We get approached. I get

1043
00:47:56,400 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 1: approach every week with people wanting to buy franchise. I've

1044
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 1: been offered millions of dollars several times just to be

1045
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:03,839
Speaker 1: a part. We're not selling, but just to be a

1046
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:06,640
Speaker 1: part of this company. You know, people when we do

1047
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:09,520
Speaker 1: when I do the golf tournaments like cal It, most

1048
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 1: of the people will be like, man, this is a

1049
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:12,839
Speaker 1: good burger. This is a really good burger. I really

1050
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: like this burger. But those golfers that are also entrepreneurs

1051
00:48:16,520 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 1: and businessmen, they'll be like you got something, like you've

1052
00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:23,359
Speaker 1: got something? Yeah, yeah. It's like this is are y'all

1053
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 1: taking any investment right now? Are y'all taking any partners?

1054
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 1: Not right now. I'm not saying we won't eventually, but

1055
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: right now it's manageable, and right now we're scaling at

1056
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 1: a pace that we can control. Congratulations close, but it

1057
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 1: takes everything just to keep it contained. But we're at

1058
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 1: the space now where we think we can control this

1059
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 1: for a while. We we're about to have our third

1060
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 1: and fourth door within the next three months, and then

1061
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:45,839
Speaker 1: next year we're going to slow down and work on

1062
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:49,200
Speaker 1: the culture of the restaurants because we've expanded so quickly

1063
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: that we've just had to have warm bodies that can cook. Right.

1064
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 1: But now we're not just one store. We're not two

1065
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:58,360
Speaker 1: stores with four stories. We're going to need it. We

1066
00:48:58,440 --> 00:49:00,440
Speaker 1: have a regional manager, but we're going to need people

1067
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:03,439
Speaker 1: that can lock in on locations and just be you're

1068
00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:04,959
Speaker 1: that guy for that door.

1069
00:49:05,320 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what the challenges of any growing business,

1070
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:09,719
Speaker 3: I think right right, How does a man with this

1071
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 3: level of business and this level of family and this

1072
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:14,280
Speaker 3: level of just everything.

1073
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:16,360
Speaker 2: That you have to do? Fine time to do a

1074
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:19,280
Speaker 2: high Horse? I don't know you even.

1075
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: High Horse worked out because I was already in the

1076
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 1: black rodeo space. I'd been performing at the Houston Livestock

1077
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,880
Speaker 1: Show on Rodeo in Houston for the past four years.

1078
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 1: It's a twenty one day event that gets over I

1079
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:32,919
Speaker 1: would say two point two million people through those twenty

1080
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:36,520
Speaker 1: one days. Every night has a concert in the football stadium,

1081
00:49:36,520 --> 00:49:36,879
Speaker 1: but the.

1082
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 2: Dock's not about that. No, no, no, no, that's your entry point, yes,

1083
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:41,200
Speaker 2: got it.

1084
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:43,960
Speaker 1: So me being involved with this rodeo from the black

1085
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:48,200
Speaker 1: heritage perspective, it has given me a totally different view

1086
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:52,920
Speaker 1: one of what rodeos are, two of what a cowboy is,

1087
00:49:53,280 --> 00:49:55,960
Speaker 1: and three how contributive Black people have been to this

1088
00:49:56,040 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 1: world for years. Yeah, start doing the deep dives and

1089
00:49:59,320 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 1: realize how bad it was for black cowboys prior to

1090
00:50:03,640 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 1: this time, and that I'm a part of a new

1091
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 1: age and a new wave. But we still have to

1092
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 1: be still have to be clear about what came before.

1093
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,880
Speaker 1: And so because of this new awareness, I started to

1094
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:17,840
Speaker 1: talk differently about the rodeo. I started to talk differently

1095
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:22,399
Speaker 1: about black representation in country Western spaces. And because of that,

1096
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:24,799
Speaker 1: I was actually be a part of the documentary.

1097
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:27,240
Speaker 2: That makes sense, I see that. Yeah, okay.

1098
00:50:27,280 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 3: So we have a new segment. It is presented by

1099
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:32,239
Speaker 3: boost Mobiles called voice Note. So this is where either

1100
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:35,359
Speaker 3: listener of a commenter or a friend of the show

1101
00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:38,400
Speaker 3: sends in a voice note for you, wow, see the

1102
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:41,279
Speaker 3: love a story, usually a question, Sometimes people want advice.

1103
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 3: These all kinds of different things. Somebody's sent it as

1104
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 3: a voice note. Yes, of course he's from Texas.

1105
00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 4: I love it yo. Oh my boy, Bob, I got

1106
00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:54,000
Speaker 4: a question for you, bro, let's go. So I just

1107
00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 4: got married. A personal players anthem was actually my way

1108
00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:00,600
Speaker 4: to walkout song. But I'll keep it, bro, I ain't

1109
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 4: gonna lie. I used to be a player. Now I'm

1110
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 4: trying to walk the straight line and avoid the gun line,

1111
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 4: what type of advice would you give me on being

1112
00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:13,880
Speaker 4: a solid husband and and and then try.

1113
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:16,719
Speaker 1: To do right type shit like, what advice would you

1114
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:17,080
Speaker 1: give me?

1115
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:20,719
Speaker 2: No question, he asked the right question to the right guy,

1116
00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 2: didn't he He didn't even know what our conversation was

1117
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:27,040
Speaker 2: gonna be to answered it. The whole podcast.

1118
00:51:27,160 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: By the way, I.

1119
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 2: Will just rewind this whole I got specific advice for Will.

1120
00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:37,759
Speaker 1: Okay, specific advice for Will. Will. I'm gonna need you

1121
00:51:38,640 --> 00:51:42,800
Speaker 1: in the next I'm gonna need you by the beginning

1122
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 1: of the year to get yourself to a place where

1123
00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:48,440
Speaker 1: you can leave your phone with your wife for the weekend. Mmm,

1124
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:51,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna need you to get to that place.

1125
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:54,759
Speaker 2: How do you get there? Explain that? Break that down?

1126
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:57,480
Speaker 1: Well, you got it. The first thing is you shouldn't

1127
00:51:57,480 --> 00:51:59,240
Speaker 1: have the numbers in the phone anyway. If you married,

1128
00:51:59,239 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 1: you should have done you should have done this before.

1129
00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 1: But let's say you don't want to be tempted anymore.

1130
00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:08,040
Speaker 1: That's not gonna happen. You're gonna be tempted. You're gonna

1131
00:52:08,040 --> 00:52:10,799
Speaker 1: find women that are prettier than your wife. You're gonna

1132
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:14,440
Speaker 1: find women that are built better than your wife. You're

1133
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 1: gonna find women that are gonna do whatever you tell

1134
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 1: them to do. But they're not gonna protect you. They're

1135
00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 1: not gonna love you in the way that your wife does.

1136
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:25,799
Speaker 1: They're not gonna care for you, they're not gonna know

1137
00:52:25,880 --> 00:52:29,600
Speaker 1: what you need. They're gonna assume a lot of things.

1138
00:52:30,040 --> 00:52:31,600
Speaker 1: And basically, what you're gonna have to do is try

1139
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:34,160
Speaker 1: to teach and train somebody to love you in the

1140
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:37,239
Speaker 1: way that somebody already does. It's not worth it. It's

1141
00:52:37,280 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 1: not worth it. Bro. If you loved enough to marry

1142
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 1: her and to give her your last name in front

1143
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 1: of all those people, and God Almighty, at least you

1144
00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:46,719
Speaker 1: could do is keep your phone in your life clean.

1145
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:50,200
Speaker 1: That's it. The idea of marrying a woman is saying

1146
00:52:50,239 --> 00:52:54,719
Speaker 1: to the world, I'm done, I found the one. I

1147
00:52:54,719 --> 00:52:58,280
Speaker 1: am complete. It won't be perfect, but it'll be perfect

1148
00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:02,360
Speaker 1: for us. That's it. If you're not there, bro, don't

1149
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 1: get married, don't move in like, don't even do none

1150
00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:10,839
Speaker 1: of that shit, because it's already it's already toxic at

1151
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:15,200
Speaker 1: that point, it's already problematic. At that point, take some time.

1152
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 1: If you have any women in your life, my brother,

1153
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:20,960
Speaker 1: now's the time. Get it. Done, get it done, get

1154
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 1: it get erase everything out of that you need to

1155
00:53:24,200 --> 00:53:26,120
Speaker 1: be done with. And I hope your wife is watching.

1156
00:53:26,719 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 1: I hope your wife is watching because she needs to

1157
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:28,879
Speaker 1: do it.

1158
00:53:28,800 --> 00:53:29,560
Speaker 2: Too, y'all.

1159
00:53:29,560 --> 00:53:31,440
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I wonder she needs to do

1160
00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:34,480
Speaker 1: it too, because the idea is not just leaving the

1161
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:36,319
Speaker 1: phone at home. You should be in a marriage where

1162
00:53:36,360 --> 00:53:40,600
Speaker 1: y'all can trade phones, right and if somebody calls her

1163
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 1: phone for her, you can tell them she has your phone,

1164
00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:45,680
Speaker 1: and vice versa. That's the test. But you got to

1165
00:53:45,680 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 1: do your part first, will But you chose Clayer's anthem,

1166
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 1: so sound like you're on the right way. You're never

1167
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:53,120
Speaker 1: gonna again. You're never gonna want to stop being a

1168
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:55,359
Speaker 1: player because a lot of people around you are gonna

1169
00:53:55,400 --> 00:53:58,239
Speaker 1: be single. They're gonna be actively dating, They're gonna be

1170
00:53:58,280 --> 00:54:01,440
Speaker 1: going on vacation with women, women that can do what

1171
00:54:01,480 --> 00:54:03,200
Speaker 1: they want, not like you. Because I hope that you

1172
00:54:03,239 --> 00:54:05,799
Speaker 1: and her building a family at some point. You know,

1173
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:08,359
Speaker 1: marriage is a great thing, a wedding is a beautiful thing,

1174
00:54:08,760 --> 00:54:12,360
Speaker 1: but you need a family. You have a full family,

1175
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,439
Speaker 1: it'll put life in a perspective a lot better for you,

1176
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:17,319
Speaker 1: and you won't have to ask me these questions. But yeah, man,

1177
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:20,719
Speaker 1: clean their phone out, And to whoever we'll married, God

1178
00:54:20,760 --> 00:54:22,960
Speaker 1: bless you from marrying him, clean your phone out too,

1179
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:24,799
Speaker 1: because at the beginning of the year, y'all gonna get

1180
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 1: some swapping going.

1181
00:54:26,280 --> 00:54:26,880
Speaker 2: The fact that he.

1182
00:54:26,960 --> 00:54:29,239
Speaker 3: Reached out is a good sign because it means he

1183
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 3: wants to be a good hub.

1184
00:54:30,719 --> 00:54:33,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he people know I'm known for being a

1185
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:36,839
Speaker 1: married man that takes his wife everywhere and that kind

1186
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 1: of thing. So I want him to be able to

1187
00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:41,480
Speaker 1: have that type of marriage. But you've got to have

1188
00:54:41,520 --> 00:54:45,560
Speaker 1: that level of transparency. You've got to be fully transparent.

1189
00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:47,520
Speaker 1: She got to have your email passwords. You got to

1190
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:49,759
Speaker 1: have your phone password because you're gonna be somewhere with

1191
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:51,279
Speaker 1: your wife and her phone going down. She's gonna need

1192
00:54:51,320 --> 00:54:54,319
Speaker 1: your phone. So if you' hiding something, it's gonna come out. Bro,

1193
00:54:54,480 --> 00:54:57,840
Speaker 1: nothing stays hidden forever. It's best for you to exercise

1194
00:54:57,920 --> 00:55:01,280
Speaker 1: these demons now why you can and just get because

1195
00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:03,400
Speaker 1: what happens is you're not giving all of yourself to

1196
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:04,440
Speaker 1: your wife in the first place.

1197
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:06,880
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Speaker 3: is presented by Walden University. And here is your in

1212
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Speaker 3: real life question.

1213
00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:52,560
Speaker 1: Right, let's see.

1214
00:55:52,680 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 3: Let's see what that is our in real life bowl.

1215
00:55:55,320 --> 00:55:57,640
Speaker 3: Let's see when you get a real life question for

1216
00:55:57,760 --> 00:55:58,240
Speaker 3: you bounce.

1217
00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:02,680
Speaker 1: One thing I'm no longer apologizing for. One thing I'm

1218
00:56:02,680 --> 00:56:04,799
Speaker 1: no longer apologizing for is not being a version of

1219
00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:07,040
Speaker 1: me that you thought could help you. And why I

1220
00:56:07,120 --> 00:56:09,600
Speaker 1: say that as an entertainer because I don't have a

1221
00:56:09,600 --> 00:56:14,600
Speaker 1: record company. I don't want a record company. I don't

1222
00:56:14,600 --> 00:56:17,319
Speaker 1: want artists calling me at three in the morning because

1223
00:56:17,320 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 1: they got kicked out of a hotel for smoking weed.

1224
00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 1: I don't want artists calling me because they're in a

1225
00:56:22,120 --> 00:56:24,720
Speaker 1: high speed chase because they got into it with some dudes.

1226
00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:27,759
Speaker 1: I don't want to have an artist that represents one

1227
00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 1: color that's prominent in a certain city, then they fall

1228
00:56:31,600 --> 00:56:35,040
Speaker 1: out with the other color in another city. And now

1229
00:56:35,080 --> 00:56:39,160
Speaker 1: because this guy's my artist representing that color, I represent

1230
00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:42,560
Speaker 1: that color. Now I am no longer welcome in the city.

1231
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:45,360
Speaker 1: I don't have any gang affiliation or any ties like that.

1232
00:56:45,440 --> 00:56:48,320
Speaker 1: I don't represent anything. My gang is UGK. I represent

1233
00:56:48,360 --> 00:56:51,080
Speaker 1: that for life. But those are the type of things

1234
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:53,799
Speaker 1: that you have to take into consideration. If you're looking at,

1235
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:56,319
Speaker 1: you know, being have a record company signing artist, there's

1236
00:56:56,320 --> 00:56:58,239
Speaker 1: a lot of things that you have to navigate. I

1237
00:56:58,239 --> 00:56:59,680
Speaker 1: don't want to have to navigate this stuff.

1238
00:56:59,719 --> 00:57:02,480
Speaker 2: It was no longer available for or no longer what

1239
00:57:02,520 --> 00:57:03,000
Speaker 2: was the question?

1240
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:05,400
Speaker 1: No longer Oh one thing I'm no longer apologized and

1241
00:57:05,480 --> 00:57:08,200
Speaker 1: apologizing for as not being a version of me that

1242
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:11,920
Speaker 1: people expected me. I can only be me, you know

1243
00:57:11,960 --> 00:57:13,560
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I can only be who I am.

1244
00:57:13,960 --> 00:57:18,680
Speaker 1: My job right now is to be authentic and intentional.

1245
00:57:19,640 --> 00:57:21,800
Speaker 1: So whoever you meet, and that's been the beauty of

1246
00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 1: being me. I've been very lucky that if you met

1247
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:28,240
Speaker 1: me in ninety two and see me again in two

1248
00:57:28,280 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 1: thousand and five, and then see me again in twenty

1249
00:57:30,280 --> 00:57:33,880
Speaker 1: twenty five, outside of my clothes and my weight and

1250
00:57:33,920 --> 00:57:36,320
Speaker 1: maybe the drugs I do because I just to smoke

1251
00:57:36,360 --> 00:57:38,240
Speaker 1: a lot of wet I'll be very honest about that.

1252
00:57:38,560 --> 00:57:43,000
Speaker 1: But you've met the same person every time. As far

1253
00:57:43,000 --> 00:57:45,200
Speaker 1: as how I look at life, how I move things

1254
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:47,560
Speaker 1: like that, You've you've never had to be like, damn,

1255
00:57:47,600 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 1: what happened to him? I've always been that same person.

1256
00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:53,160
Speaker 1: And that's and I'm going to be that person whether

1257
00:57:53,240 --> 00:57:54,880
Speaker 1: or not it benefits me in the moment.

1258
00:57:54,880 --> 00:57:58,600
Speaker 2: All Right, Our final question in real life? Bum bye?

1259
00:57:58,920 --> 00:57:59,160
Speaker 1: Yes?

1260
00:57:59,200 --> 00:58:02,960
Speaker 3: What do you most proud of in your life? It's

1261
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 3: really a two part question because it's two questions. I'm

1262
00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:07,560
Speaker 3: squeezing into one in real life. What are you most

1263
00:58:07,560 --> 00:58:10,720
Speaker 3: proud of about yourself to this whole journey of life?

1264
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:13,760
Speaker 3: And then what do you hope people take away from

1265
00:58:14,040 --> 00:58:14,840
Speaker 3: your experience?

1266
00:58:15,640 --> 00:58:17,640
Speaker 1: I think the one thing I'm most proud of is

1267
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:20,720
Speaker 1: that I haven't given a reason to the most important

1268
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:24,439
Speaker 1: people in my life to not like me. Like most

1269
00:58:24,440 --> 00:58:25,920
Speaker 1: of the people that I've been able to count on

1270
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 1: in my life, I can still count on because I

1271
00:58:28,120 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 1: haven't done anything that would make them question the choices

1272
00:58:31,840 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 1: that I may or the trust that they have in me.

1273
00:58:34,400 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 1: That for sure. And what's the second part?

1274
00:58:36,920 --> 00:58:39,120
Speaker 2: What do you hope people take away from your experience?

1275
00:58:39,280 --> 00:58:42,120
Speaker 3: You know, like even this guy who called, or people

1276
00:58:42,120 --> 00:58:46,320
Speaker 3: who admire your career, maybe you're watched you from afar,

1277
00:58:47,560 --> 00:58:49,960
Speaker 3: even this legacy that you have, Like, what do you

1278
00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:51,160
Speaker 3: hope that legacy is?

1279
00:58:51,200 --> 00:58:52,600
Speaker 2: What do you hope people take from your life?

1280
00:58:52,640 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 1: I hope that people try to be a better version

1281
00:58:55,040 --> 00:58:57,080
Speaker 1: today than they were yesterday and strive to be a

1282
00:58:57,080 --> 00:59:00,720
Speaker 1: better version of me today tomorrow. That's it, because I've

1283
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:03,600
Speaker 1: evolved like a motherfucker, Like I have not been this person.

1284
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:05,920
Speaker 1: I've evolved. So I try to do those things as

1285
00:59:05,960 --> 00:59:09,120
Speaker 1: publicly as possible. When I have, you know, great achievements,

1286
00:59:09,160 --> 00:59:12,480
Speaker 1: I celebrate that publicly. When I have things that you know,

1287
00:59:12,480 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 1: when I lose people, I have bad things happen. I

1288
00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:18,200
Speaker 1: tried to share that with people because people would look

1289
00:59:18,200 --> 00:59:20,400
Speaker 1: at my life of various aspects of my life from

1290
00:59:20,400 --> 00:59:24,280
Speaker 1: the outside and assume that I've got it made. I've

1291
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:27,200
Speaker 1: accomplished so many things. No, I've accomplished a few things,

1292
00:59:27,400 --> 00:59:29,320
Speaker 1: but those things have been public, and there are things

1293
00:59:29,360 --> 00:59:31,360
Speaker 1: that other people want to accomplish. So that's why it

1294
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:33,800
Speaker 1: gets glorified and lifted up a little bit. It's almost

1295
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Speaker 1: like it's a beacon to people to be like, see

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Speaker 1: he did it, you can do it. Do kind of

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Speaker 1: a thing. But that's fifteen percent of my life. I'm

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Speaker 1: most proud of the other eighty five percent of my

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00:59:43,360 --> 00:59:45,520
Speaker 1: life that no one else sees, but the people that

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00:59:45,560 --> 00:59:47,760
Speaker 1: I love, and that they're proud of what I do

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00:59:47,960 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 1: when I'm off the clock. You know, I remember Will

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00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 1: Smith talking about he wanted to Grammy and then the

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00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 1: first hip hop Grammy, and then he went home and

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00:59:55,360 --> 00:59:57,360
Speaker 1: he showed it to his grandmother. She's like, that's nice.

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Speaker 1: Go take the trash out of tragedy. That's my wife,

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Speaker 1: that's my life. I'm not saying that we don't celebrate

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01:00:03,800 --> 01:00:06,800
Speaker 1: achievements and we don't take pride in our accomplishments. But

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Speaker 1: fifteen percent, get back to the eighty five my got

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01:00:10,440 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 1: Get back to the eighty five percent of your duties.

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Speaker 1: Get that trash taken out. I had to take the

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Speaker 1: trash out the morning. I'll let it, put it on

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Speaker 1: the curve.

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Speaker 2: I leave you well.

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Speaker 3: I will tell you the fifteen percent and the eighty

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Speaker 3: five percent have been really inspiring to hear.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. I'm so glad I did this anyway.

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Speaker 1: We've never had this kind of conversation.

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Speaker 2: I'm so grateful for that. Thank you. I feel like

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Speaker 2: I got to know you in a whole nother truly.

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Speaker 1: That's that's the thing. That's the game right now is

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01:00:34,920 --> 01:00:39,120
Speaker 1: to make sure to dispose of any misconceptions, any miscommunication

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01:00:39,840 --> 01:00:43,480
Speaker 1: right or anything that they thought they knew, even if

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01:00:43,480 --> 01:00:45,280
Speaker 1: they liked it about me. I got to be I

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01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:47,360
Speaker 1: got to come clean about these things. I got to

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01:00:47,440 --> 01:00:49,960
Speaker 1: leave everything I've learned, and ye I tell this to everybody.

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01:00:50,040 --> 01:00:51,920
Speaker 1: I got to leave everything I've learned that's helped me

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01:00:52,360 --> 01:00:54,960
Speaker 1: or hurt me in life and get that information out

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Speaker 1: of me to the world before I die. I don't

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01:00:57,000 --> 01:00:58,960
Speaker 1: want to die with game that I didn't give to nobody.

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Speaker 2: That's a bar we leave that. We'll leave it right there.

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Speaker 2: I can't wait to hear the music. I'll watch the documentary, yes,

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Speaker 2: and I'm gonna Get Me a Trill Trill back.

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Speaker 1: The documentary is gonna be cool because they're gonna release

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Speaker 1: all three episodes at one time. So you know, it's

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Speaker 1: not like most where you gotta watch one.

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Speaker 2: This have no patience.

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Speaker 1: You're able to sit there and just watch the whole

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Speaker 1: thing and watch and.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna get me a Trill Burker's.

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Speaker 1: It's perfect holiday watching too. You'll love it. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 3: Bum Be Everybody, Yo, what's up?

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Speaker 1: This is Bumbee rebeuu GK for life, co founder, True

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Speaker 1: Burgers and Trill Tendants, and you're watching me right now

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Speaker 1: in real life.

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Speaker 2: Hey guys, thanks for watching.

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Speaker 3: Make sure you subscribe, like comments, and check out all

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Speaker 3: of the other episodes we have on Edge.

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