WEBVTT - Todas Tus Preguntas Answered 0:00:00.600 --> 0:00:08.119 What up? What up? What up? Welcome to your show. 0:00:08.200 --> 0:00:11.319 Welcome to my show, exactly a Mada, it's your girl, 0:00:11.360 --> 0:00:15.800 a Madagada. Thank you so much for downloading and subscribing 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:18.320 to exactly a Mada. Thank you for showing me love, 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:22.160 supporting all that good stuff good as that is. All 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:24.040 the comments, the good in the bad, it's all good. 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:26.400 I read them all. But the most important part is, 0:00:26.400 --> 0:00:28.520 don't forget us. Don't forget to rate us five stars. 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:31.680 A five stars is the most important. Don't come here 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:34.760 to get get two and three. No, no five stars. 0:00:34.960 --> 0:00:38.840 Because this show is lit. I entertain you, I educate y'all, 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.560 I keep y'all motivated, and I tell you the truth 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:44.760 exactly how you need to hear it. Today, I want 0:00:44.760 --> 0:00:46.360 to do something a little bit different. I've never done 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:48.360 this before, but today I want to talk about UM. 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:50.720 I want to talk about y'all. I want to answer 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:54.520 all y'all's questions. Is ask Amada is the ask a 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:57.480 Mata show? There you go. UM. I had an opportunity 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:00.440 of telling you guys, I'm posting it also on my 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:03.600 Instagram and just letting you guys ask whatever question. It 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:08.080 didn't matter how intimate, how personal how whatever it could 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:10.600 have been. And I was just like, Okay, go ask 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:13.520 questions and I will be answering them. And today is 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:15.800 the day that I'm going to answer them. But I'm 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.399 not going to answer them by myself because I wanted 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:21.840 to have my team here with me. They are amazing 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:24.960 and they're part of my team, behind cameras, in front 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:27.880 of cameras, behind the podcast, and in front of it 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:31.840 with y'all. Well, with y'all support. Most definitely I have 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:37.160 here today. Alex and Arlene on the Asked Amata episode, 0:01:37.319 --> 0:01:40.200 how are you guys doing? We're excited we get to 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:45.880 listen to the fans questions. I know rights everybody, but 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:50.600 I love it, so I want to get right to 0:01:50.680 --> 0:01:53.440 it because we had a lot of people hit us 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:57.560 up with questions. Ama. We had so many people chime in. 0:01:57.760 --> 0:01:59.840 A lot of them want to know about the baby, 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:04.400 but some people they have some they have some questions 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:07.800 about their love life too. Uh. First stup, we've got 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:12.480 Layah Nicole, Okay, when are the girls? Do? I know 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:15.560 that you haven't shared that necessarily and if you don't 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:18.280 want to because it's too personal, Uh, you can hold 0:02:18.280 --> 0:02:20.200 back if need no, But that's okay. I mean, I'll 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:23.440 tell you this much. The only reason why I haven't 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:26.080 said my dude date me. You'll say, like very open 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:31.239 and transfering me mama as a Latino a woman culturally 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:35.280 my mom is like no, b they say you can't 0:02:35.280 --> 0:02:39.799 say this and that you know, it's very like the 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:43.119 midst of like you shouldn't say when. So that's it's, 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:45.640 you know, it's a cultural thing. That's the only reason 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:49.120 why I haven't said. So. I'm gonna keep you guys guessing, 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:51.120 And to be honest, I thought about it. I don't 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:53.400 know if I want to post the day of like 0:02:53.400 --> 0:02:55.720 oh my god, my baby is here, or like a 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:58.000 week or two later, like oh this is when I 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:00.560 gave birth. You know, I don't know how I should 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.240 do it. I'm still trying to figure it out. That 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:06.960 was definitely another question. Will you be posting baby pics 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:10.520 on social media? Or are you keeping those babies all 0:03:10.560 --> 0:03:12.600 to yourself? Funny No, if you know that, I've been 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:17.080 checking out a Cardi and Cardi B. I admire to 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:20.040 a certain extent right how private she's been about her 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:23.160 son and how she's made sure that you know her 0:03:23.160 --> 0:03:26.000 baby isn't like all over the media cultural when I 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:27.880 think it was the first one, she was really excited 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:34.080 she decided to do it. But there's a part of 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:37.080 me that feels like the privacy is important until you 0:03:37.080 --> 0:03:40.520 feel prepared, especially in this industry, because they're going to 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:43.600 be there to judge and you know, just and this 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:44.920 is other part of me that feels like, you know, 0:03:44.960 --> 0:03:47.160 this is the happiest moment of my life, this is 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:48.920 the most important moment of my life. I want to 0:03:48.920 --> 0:03:51.000 share this with the world. So I'm still trying to 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:53.040 figure out what's the best way and how I should 0:03:53.080 --> 0:04:04.520 go about it, like you know, like old school. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:04:04.600 --> 0:04:06.440 that's the only reason why I'm trying to figure out 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:08.920 if I should it, if I shouldn't. And I will 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:12.839 most definitely. But the question more is like when will I. Well, 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:17.360 Lilibeth wants to know if you already have your daughter's 0:04:17.480 --> 0:04:21.600 names picked out and what are they? Here's another question 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:24.360 you may not want to share. Oh yeah, I've been 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:26.240 had these names. Let me tell you something. I had 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:28.080 the name of one of them because I was prepared 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:30.640 for one not to um since I was like in 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:34.560 middle school. I've had the same name. I said the 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:37.839 day that I have my son. The day that I 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:41.640 have my son, I'm gonna name him Blase Blase. And 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:43.440 the whole time I thought that I was going to 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.200 have a boy, and then I thought, well, I'll probably 0:04:46.240 --> 0:04:48.480 have a boy and a girl. And then when they 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:52.799 said they're both girls, I said, what a memoir. Thankfully, 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:55.760 this name is unisex, so you're gonna have to you're 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:59.160 gonna take this name. So I already know, already know one. 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:03.520 And then my m chose the other one. So my 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:07.120 mom chose the other. The both balls, I guess the 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:10.400 second baby his name UM, and I picked the middle 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:13.360 of the middle name for both of them. But there 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:16.320 was it was complicated because the father for two seconds 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:18.960 he wanted to be the one to choose the names. 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:21.520 And then that also brought me to the question of like, 0:05:21.960 --> 0:05:28.440 is it a cultural thing where in certain countries do 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:32.000 the guys pick the names um and their girls? Do 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:34.040 the moms picked the him with their boys? Do men 0:05:34.080 --> 0:05:36.000 always picked the names the women always pick the name? 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:39.640 How does that work? Alex? Did you pick your baby's names? 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:46.320 So my um, my second child, yes, I picked her 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:51.240 name and middle name, so yeah and um, and the 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:54.640 mom was cool. She wasn't tripping or anything. No, no, no, 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:58.080 she was just like, you know, yeah, this is this 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:00.680 is fine, like this I agree. So was like Myke's 0:06:00.680 --> 0:06:02.400 wife was cool about it. I don't know if it 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:04.000 was because of all the men she was on, but 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:06.800 she was cool about it at the moment. So when 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:09.520 the other subbice, so, I gave her her her first 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:13.560 name in and middle name. Yeah, my husband. We don't 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:15.880 have kids, but my husband said that if we have 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:21.200 a girl, he wants to name her Denarest, like Denarest 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:26.480 Targarian from Game of Thrones. I'm like, that's local. When 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:29.200 a middle name, I feel like I don't know the 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:32.279 first especially if it's your first child. You want to 0:06:32.400 --> 0:06:35.120 name your baby yourself, and it's like it's my first 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:39.080 little but so yeah, I know, I know he's probably 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:43.000 gonna be so salty when I'm like, the names are nothing, 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:45.679 nothing like what you wanted. But these are my first 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:47.599 babies and I just want to be able to feel 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:50.760 like I'm, you know, really part of them. So yes, 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:52.840 and I'll tell you this much how I can say this, 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:58.440 The names are very exotic. It's extra as hell like 0:06:58.560 --> 0:07:01.560 I am because you already know I'm extras hell and 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:04.440 when y'all here, you're gonna be like, ah, hell And 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:14.720 I'm like, yeah done. The mom baby. It's another big 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:17.160 topic the fans wanted to know is about the dad. 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:21.720 Cuddles wants to know. Will you tell your kids who 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:24.360 their dad is and is he going to be part 0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:28.280 of their life? Most definitely I'll let him know. Well, 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:31.880 I'll let the girls know. Yeah, Like, um, you know, 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:34.240 this is your dad and that's just what it is. 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:36.640 You know, just because things didn't work out with mom 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:38.280 and dad, it doesn't mean that we don't love you. 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:40.760 We love you very very much. And because we love 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:42.200 you very much, you want to be able to be 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:44.560 happy and give you all the love you know possible, 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:47.520 and that's what we decided to, you know, do things 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:51.240 whatever way it is that it goes down. But I 0:07:51.280 --> 0:07:55.720 think it's important, especially me coming from a fatherless household. Um, 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:57.200 that's like to me, it's so important, Like I don't 0:07:57.240 --> 0:08:00.360 want to repeat the cycle and not give my girls 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:04.000 the opportunity of having that father figure. Now I will 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:07.920 give the opportunity. It definitely is up to the father 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:11.680 to take advantage of the opportunity because there's only so 0:08:11.760 --> 0:08:13.840 much as a mother. There's only so much as a 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:16.240 woman that you can do. You know, no matter what 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:19.080 you do, it's it's it's a partnership thing. You know. 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:22.360 Everybody has to play their part, so I wouldn't hide 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:26.440 them from them, you know. Now, will they have a stepfather? 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:31.320 Most definitely eventually. You know, I'm guessing that we'll have 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:35.000 to do. I'm not by myself forever. I'm not gonna 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:37.679 do I'm not gonna be that girl. Okay, you know 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:39.480 what I'm saying. I can't be over here to get depressed, 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:42.360 finding apart and everybody, everybody is over there, you know 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:44.640 what I'm saying, busting it down. No, I'm gonna live 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:47.640 my life. I'm in and eventually find a good stepfather 0:08:48.160 --> 0:08:51.640 that can represent, and then my girls will know the difference. 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:56.720 Blase his dad, Blase is a father, you know whatever. Yeah, 0:08:56.720 --> 0:09:00.360 that's good. I mean, you know, uh, you're doing your part. 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:02.480 He has to do his at some point, he's going 0:09:02.559 --> 0:09:06.280 to have to pull his weight. Another fan question is 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.800 what advice would you give to a twenty six year 0:09:08.800 --> 0:09:13.079 old girl I'm married as well, with no kids. Well 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:16.360 to each his own, getting married I think is fine, 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:20.960 But I would say UM, don't have children to your thirties. Personally, 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:23.800 don't have children to your thirties. So enjoy those couple 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:28.840 of years that you have. I left, UM, travel, live, go, party, 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:34.760 have you know, UM explore and the most important part UM, 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:39.360 which I'm I kind of learned that in my late twenties, UM, 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:45.920 become financially educated. You know, and as long as you 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:47.720 still feel strong and you still have the energy to 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:50.199 do it, this is the time to put in the work. 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:52.200 I know that everybody wants the party while you're young, 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:54.400 but I almost feel like I wish the society would 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:58.160 teach us to do it reverse. When you're young, work 0:09:58.200 --> 0:10:01.000 your ass off like a beast, three or four jobs, 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.559 everything that you can think of while you're young, so 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:06.800 that later on you can enjoy. Yeah, when your body 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:10.080 is a little bit tired, Yeah, you're more mature. You know, 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:12.840 when you get to that page, we're being home, UM 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:16.000 is more fun than going out. Once you get into 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:19.040 that place, now you can enjoy your money. You can 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:21.760 enjoy your husband, you can enjoy your children, you can 0:10:21.880 --> 0:10:24.920 enjoy what really matters in life. So I would say, 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:27.880 you know, save up your money, invest your money, become 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:32.199 financially educated, find several sources of income, worker ass off. 0:10:32.240 --> 0:10:36.360 While you're young, enjoy your husband, travel, travel and and 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:39.520 go on vacations and cruises, have all all types of 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:42.319 freaky stuff because later on with them kids come. I'm 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:43.560 not saying that you won't be able to do it, 0:10:43.600 --> 0:10:45.240 but okay, it's gonna get You're gonna have to be 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.680 on mute. It's funny that you say that about vacations 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:51.240 because Freddie Prince said something before that when before you 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:53.839 got married and had kids, or while you were married 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:56.520 without kids, it was vacations. You would go out, explore, 0:10:56.600 --> 0:10:59.480 have a great time. Now that you go out and 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.640 or you go away with kids, it's trips. Their trips 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:05.840 and you're hoping you survive. Yeah, they're trips. I don't 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:08.920 even have my girls yet, but I can't imagine that. Obviously, 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:10.840 life is going to be different. You think about them 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:12.880 before you think about yourself. Are they going to be 0:11:12.920 --> 0:11:16.640 comfortable or will they accept them in certain spaces? Um? 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:18.400 Are they to be in the best behavior? So more 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:21.040 Jack Golsa, you're when you want to have fun and 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:24.960 be free, you're concerned about don't over there? Where are you? 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:28.280 And they're so and only that it's not just about 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:30.120 their behavior. You also have to be concerned about the 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:34.080 people that surround them. Well, speaking of traveling, do you 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:36.280 have plans on raising your kids here in the US 0:11:36.559 --> 0:11:39.280 or in the d R No, no, no, no, no, 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:44.120 no no no, no, no no. I'm having what was 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:47.679 that little song? Oh you'll know that song? Girl? Well 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:49.839 I can't I can't sing it, but I'll tell you this. 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:53.640 I'm having my kids here in the United States of 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:56.760 America and no, I definitely want to be able to 0:11:56.760 --> 0:11:59.680 show my kids both sides. So Sam getting through then 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:04.439 that's dominic. I want my children to most definitely, Um, 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:08.920 you know a blur pakutel that you better not okay 0:12:09.320 --> 0:12:12.560 before I booked that ask you're gonna learn to speak Spanish? 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:17.520 But because I was born here in this country as well, 0:12:17.600 --> 0:12:21.080 But um, I learned. My mom forced me to learn, 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:23.040 and I'm so grateful because it offered me so many 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:26.560 more opportunities. So I definitely would like to have my 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:29.679 children go to a Dominican republic and spend time there 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:34.920 and get to know your culture. Um races right. Um. 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:37.120 Obviously they're going to be studying here in the United 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:39.520 States as well. And the one thing I would love 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:41.080 to be able to do for my children and my 0:12:41.120 --> 0:12:43.200 mother wasn't able to do for me, is to also 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:45.360 take them out to Europe and take them out to 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:48.720 Tripps and give them the opportunity to explore and open 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:52.800 their mind and see other things. Unfortunately, you know our parents, 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:55.680 uh if you come from an immigrant parents, they did 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:58.440 the best that they could with what they had. But 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:00.880 I would love to be able to show them because 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:04.400 obviously the more you show a child, the more their 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:10.000 mind expands, and the more opportunities and and um creactivity 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:13.200 and many of the things come about. So I want 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:15.400 to be able to do that for them. Are you 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:17.760 gonna want them to be in show business? Someone? They 0:13:17.760 --> 0:13:19.880 don't gonna be. You're gonna be showing them around the world. 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:22.040 They're gonna be seeing you work and you are I mean, 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:24.800 you're an entrepreneur, you are in demand. Yeah. They don't 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:27.719 have much of an option, so they will be. Um. 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:31.760 I I think that in the beginning, I already have 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:35.560 a talent agency for my baby is already and they're 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:38.040 not even born yet. So like whenever you need a 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:42.000 baby for like an ad a movie, I got two 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:44.000 of them pick one. Um, I want to be able 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:46.079 to create you know, their savings account will they already 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:49.480 have the little money, and I won't force them like 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:51.719 you have to be a singer, you have to be. No, 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:54.800 But I am going to bring you into the industry 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:56.760 if I see that you're talented, because some kids you 0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:59.040 can bring them and they don't like it. So I 0:13:59.080 --> 0:14:01.679 am bouncing side and wells in side, like you just 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:03.840 don't got it. If you don't got it, which I 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:06.959 doubt it because your mother is fabulous, Okay, then you're 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:09.760 not doing it. But if I see a little potential, 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:13.800 a little sassy and you're good for this, I'm gonna 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:15.640 put you in there. There's also there's also a flip 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:17.600 side to that. You gotta be careful too. They could 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:20.920 rebel against you for wanting to what you're wanting them 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:24.120 to go there, and then that's that, you know, World 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:27.360 War No. But you know what I think, My mom 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:29.680 always says that your children will become what you want 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:33.440 them to be. And in the aspect of you lead them, 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:38.840 you guide them, right, you guide them to become those things. Uh, Serena, 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:42.320 Serena Williams, Okay, yes, you you're you want to you 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:44.200 show that you were talented it. But they gave you 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:46.440 an opportunity to play with that ball on that rack. 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:50.120 And yes, you have to have discipline if you like it. 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:52.200 You have to force them to learn how to be 0:14:52.280 --> 0:14:54.560 disciplined in a certain areas so they can be successful. 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:57.480 The same thing happens if you play basketball. Yes, I'll 0:14:57.480 --> 0:14:59.360 give you the opportunity of playing with the ball you 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:02.400 like it, I'm going to force you into learning how 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:04.640 to be disciplined so that you can become the best 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:07.080 at this. So if you just leave your kids so 0:15:07.240 --> 0:15:09.800 just let them do whatever they want, you're never gonna 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:12.360 get the result that you want. I'll let you choose. 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:16.320 I'm gonna give you many opportunities. Play piano, play la 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:19.800 fla violin, jump around, pay with doctors, think whatever. I 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:22.680 see that it catches your attention, and you show me 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:23.880 that you're good at it, and this is what you 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:25.640 want to do. I am going to do my best 0:15:25.680 --> 0:15:29.880 to force you into being disciplined and becoming the best 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:34.160 at that. That's pretty cool. Well, if they're gonna be 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:41.320 anything like their mama, they're gonna be us. Um, we 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:44.640 did get some, we did get some career questions. Who 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:47.800 is Bonita wants to know. I'm scared to put myself 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:50.680 out there as an artist. I need advice. How is 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:54.680 it like for you? You're scared to to do she 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:58.600 wants to put herself out there as an artist. If 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:02.520 you're scared, yeah, right, there already lost. So change plans. 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:05.440 Look for something else that you're not scared, because in 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:08.200 this life, if you feel anything in life is scary, 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:10.640 it doesn't matter what it is. Everything in life is scary. 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:13.840 Going to war is scary. But if you wanted to 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:16.840 do it, okay, well here here you are. You know, 0:16:17.280 --> 0:16:20.600 doing nails is scary. You might cut somebody's finger. Doing 0:16:20.840 --> 0:16:22.880 everything in life is scary. This world is not meant 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:29.760 for scary people. It's just not you know what, screw it. 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:31.320 I'm just gonna go ahead and do it. And even 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:33.160 if I messed it up, guess what, I had the 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:35.400 guts to do it. At least I did it. You 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:37.760 know what I'm saying. It's better to regret having done 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:42.000 than regret not not doing. So you can't be scared. 0:16:42.160 --> 0:16:44.240 What's the worst that can happen? They say, oh, your 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:46.640 music sucks, so what that was one person out of 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:49.320 seven billion human beings on this planet. Oh well, you 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:52.720 keep pushing, you keep trying, you keep perfecting your craft. 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:55.080 That's what it is. And sometimes I'll tell you this much. 0:16:55.320 --> 0:16:58.600 In the entertainment industry, a lot of times, it's especially now, 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.280 is not about your talent. It's not about how talented 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:03.440 you are. It's about your work ethic. It's about how 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:06.160 hard are you willing to work in comparison to others. 0:17:06.160 --> 0:17:09.000 There's a lot of people that are extremely talented, but 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:12.280 because fim tanto of their talent, they don't put in 0:17:12.320 --> 0:17:14.399 as much work as a person that has less talent, 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:17.960 who's out here hustling and in people's faces all the time. So, 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:20.480 and there's a lot of jealousy too out there, a 0:17:20.520 --> 0:17:23.800 lot of unwanted jealousy. Instead of celebrating each other as 0:17:23.880 --> 0:17:27.560 humans who are who are striving, there's a lot of jealousy. Yeah, 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:30.359 but that's always gonna happen. Because I wish that we 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:32.359 live in the world where people support each other and 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:35.280 they weren't jealous. But that's just not how it works. 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:38.040 We have a lot of envious people that are waiting 0:17:38.119 --> 0:17:40.320 for you to fail and just to laugh and be 0:17:40.400 --> 0:17:43.400 happy and have joy. Off that. So whatever you do, 0:17:43.560 --> 0:17:46.040 you can't be scared slat up in people's d m s. 0:17:46.440 --> 0:17:50.000 Keep doing music, UM, and the question shall always be 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:51.720 how bad do you want it? Because if you want 0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:53.240 it bad enough, you're gonna figure out a way to 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:55.240 make it happen. I like that. I'm out. I got 0:17:55.280 --> 0:18:02.800 a big one here. Now we all know your situation 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:08.520 with your kid's father. Yeah, let's move it back one generation. 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:11.600 Your dad. We've obviously seen him on the show before, 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:15.960 right on your show on TV. Um, is your dad 0:18:16.040 --> 0:18:20.480 going to be part of your children's life? Alito is 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:22.359 not going to be around at all. You don't even 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:25.879 want that title for him? I mean, what's going on there? 0:18:26.000 --> 0:18:27.760 He can have the title. I don't have a problem 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:31.920 you're having the title, but I just you know, like 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:34.720 you can like he can see them because he got 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:39.280 ass like look at them. But do I want you 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:42.480 to be all of my baby's face now as zone? 0:18:42.680 --> 0:18:46.200 Only because I've realized that I I gave you the 0:18:46.280 --> 0:18:50.080 opportunity of fixing you know, first of all, you can't 0:18:50.160 --> 0:18:52.680 fix it, but I gave you an opportunity of giving 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:55.399 me some type of closure of of you know, putting 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:58.520 a band aid over our past situations and moving forward, 0:18:58.640 --> 0:19:01.200 and you haven't taken it vantage from You haven't taken 0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:03.679 advantage of it properly, you know, if you haven't been 0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:06.360 able to shown me that. And I am literally your 0:19:06.520 --> 0:19:09.960 child and I you know, unfortunately we even like resemble 0:19:10.040 --> 0:19:13.000 each other. You don't have that connection. I don't expect 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:16.480 it to have it with my children now. When I 0:19:16.560 --> 0:19:18.760 had my gender reveal, I was told that he was 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:21.040 crying on the low, like he was wiping off his 0:19:21.119 --> 0:19:23.320 tears and stuff, and he didn't let me see it. 0:19:23.359 --> 0:19:25.880 He's very prideful. But they told me, oh my god, 0:19:25.880 --> 0:19:27.960 your dad was crying when they announced, you know, the 0:19:28.040 --> 0:19:30.480 sex of the babies. And they told me, well, there's 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:33.520 a possibility that you know, he's regretting that he wasn't 0:19:33.520 --> 0:19:36.399 there for you, and he might be trying to fix 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:40.000 it with the girls. If I were to see that, 0:19:40.160 --> 0:19:42.119 like you weren't a good father, but you're an amazing 0:19:42.160 --> 0:19:45.359 grandfather your family, I would be like, okay, when at 0:19:45.440 --> 0:19:47.480 least it's a totally different feeling. I think that there's 0:19:47.600 --> 0:19:51.320 there's a sort of a self redemption that goes on 0:19:51.400 --> 0:19:54.200 in someone's mind. I've seen this a lot in families 0:19:54.240 --> 0:19:57.840 where daughters father, Yeah, nobody, nobody gets along. But when 0:19:57.880 --> 0:20:01.439 those smaller kids come around, you know, you have you 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:12.560 have something incredible going on there. Yeah, I think that 0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:15.879 that's what it will probably be. But I'll give him 0:20:15.880 --> 0:20:18.960 a chance. I'm very flexible. I like to give people 0:20:19.040 --> 0:20:22.480 chances in life. So that's great. I'm gonna ask you 0:20:22.520 --> 0:20:25.000 another question here. How did you feel when you when 0:20:25.000 --> 0:20:28.479 you found out that you were having more than one kid? Like, 0:20:29.000 --> 0:20:32.760 did your mind blow up? This came from uh, it's 0:20:33.000 --> 0:20:35.600 dot salth su and I messed that all up. But 0:20:36.000 --> 0:20:40.280 you know, so yeah, they they they want to know, like, 0:20:40.560 --> 0:20:44.160 how was your thought process in this? It's one thing 0:20:44.200 --> 0:20:47.480 like yeah, I'm pregnant, you were having multiple kids? Here? 0:20:47.800 --> 0:20:49.399 You know that it took me a long time to 0:20:49.880 --> 0:20:53.080 understand and realize that I was pregnant in the first place. 0:20:53.320 --> 0:20:56.119 And then nonetheless that because you also have tonderstand I 0:20:56.200 --> 0:20:59.040 come from having a miscarriage and in my mind going 0:20:59.080 --> 0:21:00.800 through that process of oh my god, I lost a 0:21:00.840 --> 0:21:03.480 baby this and that, you know, unexpectedly, but I lost 0:21:03.480 --> 0:21:06.680 a baby. Um that trauma to them being like, yeah, 0:21:06.760 --> 0:21:09.760 you lost one baby of the three, and I'm like, 0:21:09.840 --> 0:21:13.680 of the three. What, Oh, there's still two more in there. 0:21:13.720 --> 0:21:16.080 You know. Just going through that process alone was a lot. 0:21:16.160 --> 0:21:18.359