Speaker 1: Morning Run with Amy and TJ and iHeartRadio Podcast. Welcome
Speaker 1: everyone to this Sunday edition of Your Morning Run. It
Speaker 1: is Sunday, June eighth, and welcome to the Amy and
Speaker 1: TJ Podcast. And on Sundays we like to go over
Speaker 1: our quotes of the week because to Sundays or days
Speaker 1: for reflection and inspiration. And so sometimes maybe you don't
Speaker 1: make it all the way to the end of Morning
Speaker 1: Run and you missed the quote of the day or
Speaker 1: on you yeah, or maybe you just want to remember
Speaker 1: it to say, what was that quote because it felt
Speaker 1: so good to think about it that day. So we're
Speaker 1: going to put them all for you in one space
Speaker 1: and talk a little bit about why we chose them.
Speaker 1: And this week was a special week for our quotes
Speaker 1: of the day.
Speaker 2: Yeah, speak ause. Gabby Bernstein. Many of you, probably all
Speaker 2: of you seemingly know her exactly who she is self
Speaker 2: help Guru is at the.
Speaker 1: New York Times bestselling author. She has ten books. But yes,
Speaker 1: her self help books are I mean, for me, they
Speaker 1: were absolutely like.
Speaker 2: Change is it the right title? I mean, it's not
Speaker 2: offensive to call self help gurus.
Speaker 1: I think that's what I call her. I think that's
Speaker 1: the best way to sum up what she does. But
Speaker 1: this is all hard earned wisdom that she has sought out,
Speaker 1: that she has studied, that she has put into practice,
Speaker 1: that she continues to learn and share. And I have
Speaker 1: felt like so much of what she has to say
Speaker 1: is simple and yet incredibly effective. And it's all about
Speaker 1: self empowerment. It's all about giving you tools to manage
Speaker 1: your life and view your life and view your role
Speaker 1: in this world in a different way. And I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: So we're going to go over the quotes we chose
Speaker 1: from her. The first one, Do we say she's a
Speaker 1: studio with us? Oh? Yeah, Well she was in studio
Speaker 1: with us, for sure.
Speaker 2: Do we even say that yet?
Speaker 1: Well we so? Okay, So this is Sunday. Hopefully you've
Speaker 1: already listened to the part one of Gabby Bernstein, which
Speaker 1: we dropped on Saturday, which was yesterday, and part two
Speaker 1: was coming later today. And yes, she was in studio
Speaker 1: with us. I finally got to meet this woman who
Speaker 1: I have had in my head for all these years.
Speaker 1: I say that because I listened to all of her
Speaker 1: audiobooks and a lot of times when I'm running. So
Speaker 1: you know, when you listen to somebody who narrates their
Speaker 1: own books, you kind of feel like they're your friend,
Speaker 1: that you know them. So when I saw her, I
Speaker 1: was that weirdo who was like basically assuming we were
Speaker 1: already friends because I knew her. But she was lovely
Speaker 1: and gracious and everything.
Speaker 2: I hope she was tolerant more she was tolerant of
Speaker 2: your behavior.
Speaker 1: She was tolerant of my super fandom.
Speaker 2: Yes, so I'm kidding. You were actually more chill with
Speaker 2: her than I expected. Never really, I really expected you
Speaker 2: to embarrass us both.
Speaker 1: I was trying to be cool, but inside I was
Speaker 1: like freaking out like a little girl. All right, meeting
Speaker 1: my idol. So we'll start with the quote we went
Speaker 1: with to start the week from Gabby Bernstein, It's never
Speaker 1: too late to choose again. How awesome is that we
Speaker 1: think we've missed the boat. We're too late, it's already over.
Speaker 1: Why would I do it now? I mean, all of
Speaker 1: those thoughts we've all had in our head.
Speaker 2: Well, I like it says choose again at the end. Right,
Speaker 2: I said, of late to change? Maybe you it sounds
Speaker 2: different when you put it that way. It's never too
Speaker 2: late to make a different decision. Look at the too
Speaker 2: late part. I mean how many of us. I mean,
Speaker 2: there's some athletes who are twenty seven and think it's
Speaker 2: too late for them. There are folks who are in
Speaker 2: their mid thirties who think it's too late for a relationship.
Speaker 2: There are folks from their late forties who think it's
Speaker 2: too late to get out of this marriage. I'm stuck here,
Speaker 2: so I don't know. It's hard to do though.
Speaker 1: We hear this a lot about relationships and about careers,
Speaker 1: and we've both been put in the position now where
Speaker 1: we have realized it's not too late to choose again.
Speaker 1: It's funny you say that because in my thirties I
Speaker 1: thought my life was over when I was getting divorced
Speaker 1: and I thought, I'm washed up, I'm never going to
Speaker 1: find anyone. And then when I was forty nine and
Speaker 1: was getting divorced again, you know, you have these same
Speaker 1: feelings of did you think you were watched up over
Speaker 1: and we're going to find anybody? Well, I had a
Speaker 1: best friend that was by my side that turned into
Speaker 1: something that I didn't imagine it could be. So on
Speaker 1: somebody just kidding this be an inspiration, yes, sorry, But
Speaker 1: even like with your career, This happens to so many people.
Speaker 1: Either you get fired or you get laid off or whatever,
Speaker 1: and you think I won't have another opportunity, or say,
Speaker 1: you're in a bad pattern of bad behavior, whether it's
Speaker 1: too much alcohol, or you treat people poorly, or you
Speaker 1: treat yourself poorly, or you have gained weight and you
Speaker 1: don't think you can get out of it. It is
Speaker 1: never too late to choose again, And I like what
Speaker 1: you said about choose because that is so empowering. You
Speaker 1: get to decide, you get to choose. She says, it's
Speaker 1: never too late. She also has said this, it's never
Speaker 1: too late to choose the next best thing. Sometimes you
Speaker 1: don't have the right answer, and you don't know where
Speaker 1: you're going, and you don't know what to do, but
Speaker 1: you can choose the next best thing.
Speaker 2: I like them when she puts it like that, because
Speaker 2: you can certainly do better than the thing you're doing
Speaker 2: right now. You got to get it perfect, but you
Speaker 2: can do better than this. So yes, it was such
Speaker 2: a pleasure to have her in studio and talking about
Speaker 2: never too late and learning something new. We had to
Speaker 2: figure out a whole new industry, and this is the
Speaker 2: best sign of how successful we've in Gabby Bernstein agreed
Speaker 2: to come on.
Speaker 1: Our show exactly, We've made it.
Speaker 2: We've been after her from the beginning.
Speaker 1: I felt like that it was a huge win and
Speaker 1: a milestone in our podcast. The next quote we have
Speaker 1: from her, obstacles are detours in the right direction. I
Speaker 1: have had this particular quote of hers on my phone
Speaker 1: for years now, because, Yeah, when you hit that wall
Speaker 1: and you keep pushing, you keep trying, and it's just
Speaker 1: not going anywhere. Again. This could be with anything in
Speaker 1: your life, including relationships, but that means that you're just
Speaker 1: being led or guided in a different direction. You can
Speaker 1: stop trying to bang your head against the wall and
Speaker 1: realize it shouldn't be this hard. I can choose, I
Speaker 1: can go in a different direction. And a lot of
Speaker 1: times we don't get something because we were never intended
Speaker 1: to have it in the first place.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's hard in the moment. It requires faith.
Speaker 2: That quote requires faith because when that obstacle is in
Speaker 2: your way, you don't necessarily a lot of us, maybe
Speaker 2: probably most of us, don't see it as a blessing
Speaker 2: or see it that Okay, this is now putting me
Speaker 2: on the course. I'm supposed to be on because we
Speaker 2: are so one track mind and in bullheaded. This is
Speaker 2: what I want to do, This is what I want
Speaker 2: to do. What is the line man's rejection is God's protection?
Speaker 2: Kind of a thing you got to have. This one
Speaker 2: requires faith. But I like how she put it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and one of the things she always says, the
Speaker 1: universe has your back. That's one of her famous quotes.
Speaker 1: But she said universe could be God, universe can be
Speaker 1: whatever spiritual deity or whoever you look up to for guidance.
Speaker 1: You have to trust, and you're right. Faith is a
Speaker 1: huge part of this. But I love when you start realizing, wait,
Speaker 1: this isn't working. Remembering her quote obstacles are detours in
Speaker 1: the right direction. Hopefully will make you feel a little
Speaker 1: bit better about considering a different path. All right. The
Speaker 1: next quote, this is one of my favorites. The very
Speaker 1: second we choose a loving thought, our emotions shift and
Speaker 1: our energy changes. This is realignment with the universe or God.
Speaker 1: And it's true we all get in these negative thought patterns,
Speaker 1: sometimes daily, sometimes hourly. But if you can stop yourself
Speaker 1: and choose a loving thought, whether it's a loving thought
Speaker 1: towards yourself, a loving thought towards the person you're frustrated with.
Speaker 1: It changes your body, like you feel your shoulders relax,
Speaker 1: you feel your chest loosen, you feel like you can
Speaker 1: breathe easier. It is amazing the power of thoughts, both
Speaker 1: good and bad, what they do to our body.
Speaker 2: I actually have been using this since we saw her.
Speaker 2: Not the quote. She said something else similar, but said
Speaker 2: it to me personally in the room that day, about
Speaker 2: just choosing the next best thing emotion you can come
Speaker 2: up with. Just come up with the next best emotion.
Speaker 2: So it really is about getting out of a moment
Speaker 2: and getting out of a pattern. But that's simple, little practice,
Speaker 2: but it takes it actually does take practice.
Speaker 1: Well, it takes practice. The first step is to recognize it.
Speaker 1: And she asked you, how does your body feel? And
Speaker 1: when you have this negative thought or this negative feeling,
Speaker 1: your chest titans. Some people feel it in different places,
Speaker 1: but a lot of us feel it in our chest.
Speaker 1: And that's exactly what you said. And when you can recognize, wait,
Speaker 1: what is happening with me? And you check in with
Speaker 1: yourself and you ask yourself, what do you need? And
Speaker 1: that's a loving thought to yourself. You can also say
Speaker 1: that to the person who you're frustrated with. If you're angry,
Speaker 1: what do you need Because there's either you're in pain
Speaker 1: or the person you're dealing with is in pain. And
Speaker 1: so choosing a loving thought and a lot of times
Speaker 1: is just about being curious and about being loving and
Speaker 1: not about being judgmental. And man, it's a game changer.
Speaker 1: It is such a game changer. So one more time
Speaker 1: for you. The very second we choose a loving thought,
Speaker 1: our emotions shift and our energy changes. This is realignment
Speaker 1: with the universe. All right. This is another thing, Gabby. Actually,
Speaker 1: this is a quote that you won't find really online anywhere,
Speaker 1: because this is a quote she actually said to us
Speaker 1: in the podcasting room, and it stood out to me.
Speaker 1: So I was actually taking notes as she was speaking.
Speaker 1: Gabby said, if you project out, you don't have to
Speaker 1: I feel what's inside. So start checking in instead of
Speaker 1: checking out. So so many of us, if we're upset
Speaker 1: with someone and we're projecting, actually what we're dealing with
Speaker 1: that we don't want to deal with inside, and so
Speaker 1: we're putting it on someone else. And if you're dealing
Speaker 1: the wrath from someone else, it's a good way to
Speaker 1: not take it so personally because almost certainly that anger
Speaker 1: or the way they're saying it, how they're saying it
Speaker 1: is about them and the pain that they're dealing with
Speaker 1: that they actually sorry, that they don't want to deal with,
Speaker 1: and so they're putting it onto you. It's just a
Speaker 1: perspective that can change how you feel about how you're
Speaker 1: treating someone else, or how you're treating yourself, or how
Speaker 1: others are treating you.
Speaker 2: The concept was one it made me think about Katie
Speaker 2: Perry after all the flaks she got after the ride
Speaker 2: up to Space and aim. People just vicious, they were
Speaker 2: awful to her online, you know, on Twitter and all
Speaker 2: that stuff. But she finally made a statement where she said,
Speaker 2: I essentially said, I am sending back love. I know
Speaker 2: a lot of people out there are in pain for
Speaker 2: whatever various reason, and sometimes being here makes you feel better,
Speaker 2: she said, in a very kind way.
Speaker 1: It wasn't patronizing, No.
Speaker 2: No, not at all. That's the right word. It was
Speaker 2: not that. So it came off as an understanding that, hey,
Speaker 2: everybody is going through something, and even though you're throwing
Speaker 2: this stuff at me, I understand I'm not really the
Speaker 2: one that's the cause of your pain. That is what
Speaker 2: I see with this quote. Can you read the first
Speaker 2: part of it again, not the last check in and
Speaker 2: check out, but the first part.
Speaker 1: If you project out, you don't have to feel what's inside.
Speaker 2: So stop and apply that to everybody. That's the waiter
Speaker 2: that's given you attitude, the flight attendant who wasn't as
Speaker 2: who wasn't as kind as she could have been, somebody
Speaker 2: yelling at you on the street, a friend of yours,
Speaker 2: a coworker who was going off, And if you apply
Speaker 2: that to them and go wow, they probably are going
Speaker 2: through something.
Speaker 1: You say that all the time, and that allows you
Speaker 1: to give other people of grace. Yes, the harder thing
Speaker 1: to do is to apply it to yourself. So if
Speaker 1: you're getting angry with someone or you're feeling frustrated at someone,
Speaker 1: to be able to check yourself in that moment and say, wait,
Speaker 1: why am I acting like this? Why am I reacting
Speaker 1: like this? Why am I putting this on someone else?
Speaker 1: Every time you point the finger at someone else for
Speaker 1: how you're feeling, it's a moment to say, wow, I'm projecting.
Speaker 1: What do I need to actually feel inside? What do
Speaker 1: I actually need to address or be curious about with
Speaker 1: what's happening with me? Why am I reacting this way?
Speaker 1: That's a much harder way to apply it. But man,
Speaker 1: when you kind of are able in the moment, you
Speaker 1: won't do it all the time. But even if it's
Speaker 1: after the fact, if you can actually acknowledge, dang, I
Speaker 1: wasn't taking care of my own issues and I let
Speaker 1: it get the best remind you, and I put it
Speaker 1: on someone else, it's going.
Speaker 2: To remind you of that next time you're putting it
Speaker 2: on me. We're just gonna stop at the morning and say, sweetheart,
Speaker 2: you are projecting because you don't want to have to
Speaker 2: deal with whatever pain you have going on inside. How
Speaker 2: do you think that's gonna gop?
Speaker 1: I don't think that is what she is suggested. I
Speaker 1: know I don't do that. That would be the worst
Speaker 1: possible because in that moment, if you're projecting, you're obviously
Speaker 1: not in touch with how you're actually feeling inside, and
Speaker 1: that probably will be explosive. So don't do what TJ
Speaker 1: just said. But also, if you wish your partner could
Speaker 1: do that, maybe just hope that they will one day
Speaker 1: and pray for that that you can actually be introspective
Speaker 1: and say, wait, why am I acting this way? All right?
Speaker 1: The last quote she gave us on Friday that we
Speaker 1: shared with all of you, and this is more of
Speaker 1: She's really begin to mantras that when you wake up
Speaker 1: there are things you can do to set your day
Speaker 1: off right. And when you're feeling a certain way, you
Speaker 1: can repeat some of these mantras throughout the day when
Speaker 1: you need them. And I love that kind of a
Speaker 1: tool in my tool belt. So here is her quote today,
Speaker 1: I no longer need to change the world around me.
Speaker 1: I just need to change the way I see it.
Speaker 1: I have said a version of this to myself a
Speaker 1: lot actually since we spoke, because it could just be
Speaker 1: the long line, or the traffic, or the honking or
Speaker 1: the person who bumped into you. It's amazing what can
Speaker 1: set us off. So we want to control everything. We
Speaker 1: want to make sure no one upsets us or affects
Speaker 1: our timeline. But the truth is that's hilarious. You can't
Speaker 1: affect anyone else. You can only change how you perceive it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it can't change the circumstances. You can only change
Speaker 2: how you say them. It's that simple, man. It gives
Speaker 2: you a whole different. Just I would encourage everybody to
Speaker 2: do that, just try one day that if whatever happens,
Speaker 2: just take it in a different type of stride, just
Speaker 2: let it roll, let it go, just surrender to the moment.
Speaker 2: Whatever happens, it happens to us sometimes, well I usually
Speaker 2: I think you've seen it happen to me, where things
Speaker 2: go so badly, like everything goes wrong to the point
Speaker 2: I start laughing at the next thing that happens, and
Speaker 2: let's just keep it pushing. But it can't be frustrating,
Speaker 2: and that takes work, and that takes practice. But yeah,
Speaker 2: the name anything that happens, well, you know what jesse j.
Speaker 2: We talked about her last week announcing she has breast cancer, right,
Speaker 2: and what does she do next? She made a joke
Speaker 2: about the upside to having breast cans that.
Speaker 1: She's gonna get some big boobs, and she said it
Speaker 1: might be you know, the most uh not not the
Speaker 1: way anyone would want to get new boobs, but hey,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna come back with big boobs and more music.
Speaker 1: She used another term that was even funnier that I
Speaker 1: won't repeat here, but yeah, she she found a way
Speaker 1: to find a cheeky silver lining, a.
Speaker 2: Cheeky silver lining, and you can kind of do that
Speaker 2: to almost anything that takes place in your life. I'm
Speaker 2: not making light and she's not making light of a
Speaker 2: cancer diagnosis. What I'm saying that just happened. It came
Speaker 2: to my mind. But you can't look at everything differently. Yeah,
Speaker 2: all kinds of things that have happened though they've been
Speaker 2: what was it we didn't we missed out on running
Speaker 2: a race in Memphis because of the weather and it
Speaker 2: ended up having the most wonderful day ever, and things
Speaker 2: we couldn't have done otherwise.
Speaker 1: Yes, right, because obstacles are detours in the right directtion. Shit,
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, all of these quotes actually all
Speaker 1: support the others because it's the same general theme about
Speaker 1: releasing control and trusting that the universe, that God, that
Speaker 1: your spirit guides, that your guardian angels are guiding you.
Speaker 1: And if you can trust that and have faith in
Speaker 1: that even when you hit these bumps and when things
Speaker 1: don't go your way, if you believe you're where you're
Speaker 1: supposed to be, because guess what, that's when you learn.
Speaker 1: You only learn when you're uncomfortable. So that's the cool part.
Speaker 1: We have a bonus quote. Can we get a bonus quote?
Speaker 2: Fine? All right?
Speaker 1: Bonus quote. This is from Gabby Bernstein. Remember that you
Speaker 1: have a choice in what you see. If you choose
Speaker 1: to see a person's darkness, you strengthen your darkness within.
Speaker 1: If you choose to see their light, you shine from
Speaker 1: the inside out. I've heard people say, if you're looking
Speaker 1: for something in someone, you will find it. So why
Speaker 1: not look for the good if you're looking for the bad,
Speaker 1: If you're looking for a reason to justify how you're feeling,
Speaker 1: you will find it in someone. And then you'll look
Speaker 1: at everyone in that person and even yourself through a
Speaker 1: negative lens. It brings everyone down. So you can choose
Speaker 1: how you see someone.
Speaker 2: How about that is another challenge? Everybody you come in
Speaker 2: contact with, find something good about them. How that'll go?
Speaker 1: She even talks about taking the practice of smiling at strangers.
Speaker 1: I'd like to see you do that.
Speaker 2: I am very friendly on elevators. Are you are?
Speaker 1: You are one of the friendliest people, way friendlier than me.
Speaker 2: I am friendly anytime you're in an environment where you're
Speaker 2: one on woman, So why you acknowledge them? You always
Speaker 2: every head driver, every waight or ever you know, to
Speaker 2: direct you people's names. Yes, I smile. I'm the friendliest
Speaker 2: guy you are.
Speaker 1: But have you ever smiled at a stranger walking down
Speaker 1: the street. It's actually amazing. Okay. I made a practice
Speaker 1: of this after I heard her say this one time,
Speaker 1: and it was remarkable the smiles I got back, and
Speaker 1: how that made me feel.
Speaker 2: So you've been out there flirting for.
Speaker 1: I'm talking with small children or women. It's not just
Speaker 1: with like men, it's with everybody.
Speaker 2: It sounded weirder. I think I prefer you smile men.
Speaker 1: No, But I love this, so we'll leave it to you.
Speaker 1: We'll leave this with you for one last quote, and
Speaker 1: I think this is All of these things are great
Speaker 1: things to put into practice with this one especially, remember
Speaker 1: that you have a choice in what you see. If
Speaker 1: you choose to see a person's darkness, you strengthen your
Speaker 1: darkness within. If you choose to see their light, you
Speaker 1: shine from the inside out. And with that, we hope
Speaker 1: you all have a beautiful beginning to your week on
Speaker 1: this Sunday. Thank you for listening, and please check out
Speaker 1: both parts one and two of our incredible life changing
Speaker 1: conversation with Gabby Burnsneth.
Speaker 2: Now go smile at some men, women and children,