WEBVTT - Sunday Morning Run: A Special Gabby Bernstein edition

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<v Speaker 1>Morning Run with Amy and TJ and iHeartRadio Podcast. Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>everyone to this Sunday edition of Your Morning Run. It

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<v Speaker 1>is Sunday, June eighth, and welcome to the Amy and

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<v Speaker 1>TJ Podcast. And on Sundays we like to go over

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<v Speaker 1>our quotes of the week because to Sundays or days

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<v Speaker 1>for reflection and inspiration. And so sometimes maybe you don't

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<v Speaker 1>make it all the way to the end of Morning

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<v Speaker 1>Run and you missed the quote of the day or

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<v Speaker 1>on you yeah, or maybe you just want to remember

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<v Speaker 1>it to say, what was that quote because it felt

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<v Speaker 1>so good to think about it that day. So we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to put them all for you in one space

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<v Speaker 1>and talk a little bit about why we chose them.

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<v Speaker 1>And this week was a special week for our quotes

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<v Speaker 1>of the day.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, speak ause. Gabby Bernstein. Many of you, probably all

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<v Speaker 2>of you seemingly know her exactly who she is self

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<v Speaker 2>help Guru is at the.

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<v Speaker 1>New York Times bestselling author. She has ten books. But yes,

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<v Speaker 1>her self help books are I mean, for me, they

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<v Speaker 1>were absolutely like.

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<v Speaker 2>Change is it the right title? I mean, it's not

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<v Speaker 2>offensive to call self help gurus.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's what I call her. I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>the best way to sum up what she does. But

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<v Speaker 1>this is all hard earned wisdom that she has sought out,

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<v Speaker 1>that she has studied, that she has put into practice,

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<v Speaker 1>that she continues to learn and share. And I have

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<v Speaker 1>felt like so much of what she has to say

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<v Speaker 1>is simple and yet incredibly effective. And it's all about

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<v Speaker 1>self empowerment. It's all about giving you tools to manage

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<v Speaker 1>your life and view your life and view your role

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<v Speaker 1>in this world in a different way. And I appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>So we're going to go over the quotes we chose

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<v Speaker 1>from her. The first one, Do we say she's a

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<v Speaker 1>studio with us? Oh? Yeah, Well she was in studio

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<v Speaker 1>with us, for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Do we even say that yet?

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<v Speaker 1>Well we so? Okay, So this is Sunday. Hopefully you've

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<v Speaker 1>already listened to the part one of Gabby Bernstein, which

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<v Speaker 1>we dropped on Saturday, which was yesterday, and part two

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<v Speaker 1>was coming later today. And yes, she was in studio

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<v Speaker 1>with us. I finally got to meet this woman who

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<v Speaker 1>I have had in my head for all these years.

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<v Speaker 1>I say that because I listened to all of her

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<v Speaker 1>audiobooks and a lot of times when I'm running. So

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<v Speaker 1>you know, when you listen to somebody who narrates their

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<v Speaker 1>own books, you kind of feel like they're your friend,

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<v Speaker 1>that you know them. So when I saw her, I

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<v Speaker 1>was that weirdo who was like basically assuming we were

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<v Speaker 1>already friends because I knew her. But she was lovely

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<v Speaker 1>and gracious and everything.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope she was tolerant more she was tolerant of

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<v Speaker 2>your behavior.

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<v Speaker 1>She was tolerant of my super fandom.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, so I'm kidding. You were actually more chill with

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<v Speaker 2>her than I expected. Never really, I really expected you

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<v Speaker 2>to embarrass us both.

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<v Speaker 1>I was trying to be cool, but inside I was

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<v Speaker 1>like freaking out like a little girl. All right, meeting

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<v Speaker 1>my idol. So we'll start with the quote we went

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<v Speaker 1>with to start the week from Gabby Bernstein, It's never

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<v Speaker 1>too late to choose again. How awesome is that we

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<v Speaker 1>think we've missed the boat. We're too late, it's already over.

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<v Speaker 1>Why would I do it now? I mean, all of

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<v Speaker 1>those thoughts we've all had in our head.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I like it says choose again at the end. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>I said, of late to change? Maybe you it sounds

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<v Speaker 2>different when you put it that way. It's never too

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<v Speaker 2>late to make a different decision. Look at the too

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<v Speaker 2>late part. I mean how many of us. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>there's some athletes who are twenty seven and think it's

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<v Speaker 2>too late for them. There are folks who are in

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<v Speaker 2>their mid thirties who think it's too late for a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>There are folks from their late forties who think it's

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<v Speaker 2>too late to get out of this marriage. I'm stuck here,

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<v Speaker 2>so I don't know. It's hard to do though.

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<v Speaker 1>We hear this a lot about relationships and about careers,

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<v Speaker 1>and we've both been put in the position now where

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<v Speaker 1>we have realized it's not too late to choose again.

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<v Speaker 1>It's funny you say that because in my thirties I

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<v Speaker 1>thought my life was over when I was getting divorced

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought, I'm washed up, I'm never going to

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<v Speaker 1>find anyone. And then when I was forty nine and

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<v Speaker 1>was getting divorced again, you know, you have these same

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<v Speaker 1>feelings of did you think you were watched up over

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<v Speaker 1>and we're going to find anybody? Well, I had a

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<v Speaker 1>best friend that was by my side that turned into

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<v Speaker 1>something that I didn't imagine it could be. So on

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<v Speaker 1>somebody just kidding this be an inspiration, yes, sorry, But

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<v Speaker 1>even like with your career, This happens to so many people.

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<v Speaker 1>Either you get fired or you get laid off or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>and you think I won't have another opportunity, or say,

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<v Speaker 1>you're in a bad pattern of bad behavior, whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>too much alcohol, or you treat people poorly, or you

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<v Speaker 1>treat yourself poorly, or you have gained weight and you

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<v Speaker 1>don't think you can get out of it. It is

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<v Speaker 1>never too late to choose again, And I like what

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<v Speaker 1>you said about choose because that is so empowering. You

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<v Speaker 1>get to decide, you get to choose. She says, it's

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<v Speaker 1>never too late. She also has said this, it's never

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<v Speaker 1>too late to choose the next best thing. Sometimes you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have the right answer, and you don't know where

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<v Speaker 1>you're going, and you don't know what to do, but

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<v Speaker 1>you can choose the next best thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I like them when she puts it like that, because

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<v Speaker 2>you can certainly do better than the thing you're doing

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<v Speaker 2>right now. You got to get it perfect, but you

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<v Speaker 2>can do better than this. So yes, it was such

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<v Speaker 2>a pleasure to have her in studio and talking about

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<v Speaker 2>never too late and learning something new. We had to

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<v Speaker 2>figure out a whole new industry, and this is the

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<v Speaker 2>best sign of how successful we've in Gabby Bernstein agreed

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<v Speaker 2>to come on.

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<v Speaker 1>Our show exactly, We've made it.

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<v Speaker 2>We've been after her from the beginning.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt like that it was a huge win and

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<v Speaker 1>a milestone in our podcast. The next quote we have

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<v Speaker 1>from her, obstacles are detours in the right direction. I

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<v Speaker 1>have had this particular quote of hers on my phone

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<v Speaker 1>for years now, because, Yeah, when you hit that wall

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<v Speaker 1>and you keep pushing, you keep trying, and it's just

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<v Speaker 1>not going anywhere. Again. This could be with anything in

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<v Speaker 1>your life, including relationships, but that means that you're just

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<v Speaker 1>being led or guided in a different direction. You can

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<v Speaker 1>stop trying to bang your head against the wall and

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<v Speaker 1>realize it shouldn't be this hard. I can choose, I

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<v Speaker 1>can go in a different direction. And a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>times we don't get something because we were never intended

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<v Speaker 1>to have it in the first place.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it's hard in the moment. It requires faith.

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<v Speaker 2>That quote requires faith because when that obstacle is in

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<v Speaker 2>your way, you don't necessarily a lot of us, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>probably most of us, don't see it as a blessing

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<v Speaker 2>or see it that Okay, this is now putting me

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<v Speaker 2>on the course. I'm supposed to be on because we

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<v Speaker 2>are so one track mind and in bullheaded. This is

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<v Speaker 2>what I want to do, This is what I want

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<v Speaker 2>to do. What is the line man's rejection is God's protection?

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of a thing you got to have. This one

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<v Speaker 2>requires faith. But I like how she put it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and one of the things she always says, the

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<v Speaker 1>universe has your back. That's one of her famous quotes.

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<v Speaker 1>But she said universe could be God, universe can be

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<v Speaker 1>whatever spiritual deity or whoever you look up to for guidance.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to trust, and you're right. Faith is a

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<v Speaker 1>huge part of this. But I love when you start realizing, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>this isn't working. Remembering her quote obstacles are detours in

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<v Speaker 1>the right direction. Hopefully will make you feel a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit better about considering a different path. All right. The

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<v Speaker 1>next quote, this is one of my favorites. The very

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<v Speaker 1>second we choose a loving thought, our emotions shift and

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<v Speaker 1>our energy changes. This is realignment with the universe or God.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's true we all get in these negative thought patterns,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes daily, sometimes hourly. But if you can stop yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and choose a loving thought, whether it's a loving thought

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<v Speaker 1>towards yourself, a loving thought towards the person you're frustrated with.

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<v Speaker 1>It changes your body, like you feel your shoulders relax,

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<v Speaker 1>you feel your chest loosen, you feel like you can

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<v Speaker 1>breathe easier. It is amazing the power of thoughts, both

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<v Speaker 1>good and bad, what they do to our body.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually have been using this since we saw her.

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<v Speaker 2>Not the quote. She said something else similar, but said

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<v Speaker 2>it to me personally in the room that day, about

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<v Speaker 2>just choosing the next best thing emotion you can come

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<v Speaker 2>up with. Just come up with the next best emotion.

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<v Speaker 2>So it really is about getting out of a moment

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<v Speaker 2>and getting out of a pattern. But that's simple, little practice,

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<v Speaker 2>but it takes it actually does take practice.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it takes practice. The first step is to recognize it.

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<v Speaker 1>And she asked you, how does your body feel? And

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<v Speaker 1>when you have this negative thought or this negative feeling,

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<v Speaker 1>your chest titans. Some people feel it in different places,

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<v Speaker 1>but a lot of us feel it in our chest.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's exactly what you said. And when you can recognize, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>what is happening with me? And you check in with

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<v Speaker 1>yourself and you ask yourself, what do you need? And

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<v Speaker 1>that's a loving thought to yourself. You can also say

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<v Speaker 1>that to the person who you're frustrated with. If you're angry,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you need Because there's either you're in pain

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<v Speaker 1>or the person you're dealing with is in pain. And

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<v Speaker 1>so choosing a loving thought and a lot of times

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<v Speaker 1>is just about being curious and about being loving and

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<v Speaker 1>not about being judgmental. And man, it's a game changer.

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<v Speaker 1>It is such a game changer. So one more time

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<v Speaker 1>for you. The very second we choose a loving thought,

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<v Speaker 1>our emotions shift and our energy changes. This is realignment

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<v Speaker 1>with the universe. All right. This is another thing, Gabby. Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a quote that you won't find really online anywhere,

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<v Speaker 1>because this is a quote she actually said to us

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<v Speaker 1>in the podcasting room, and it stood out to me.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was actually taking notes as she was speaking.

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<v Speaker 1>Gabby said, if you project out, you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>I feel what's inside. So start checking in instead of

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<v Speaker 1>checking out. So so many of us, if we're upset

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<v Speaker 1>with someone and we're projecting, actually what we're dealing with

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<v Speaker 1>that we don't want to deal with inside, and so

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<v Speaker 1>we're putting it on someone else. And if you're dealing

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<v Speaker 1>the wrath from someone else, it's a good way to

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<v Speaker 1>not take it so personally because almost certainly that anger

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<v Speaker 1>or the way they're saying it, how they're saying it

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<v Speaker 1>is about them and the pain that they're dealing with

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<v Speaker 1>that they actually sorry, that they don't want to deal with,

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<v Speaker 1>and so they're putting it onto you. It's just a

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<v Speaker 1>perspective that can change how you feel about how you're

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<v Speaker 1>treating someone else, or how you're treating yourself, or how

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<v Speaker 1>others are treating you.

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<v Speaker 2>The concept was one it made me think about Katie

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<v Speaker 2>Perry after all the flaks she got after the ride

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<v Speaker 2>up to Space and aim. People just vicious, they were

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<v Speaker 2>awful to her online, you know, on Twitter and all

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<v Speaker 2>that stuff. But she finally made a statement where she said,

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<v Speaker 2>I essentially said, I am sending back love. I know

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of people out there are in pain for

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<v Speaker 2>whatever various reason, and sometimes being here makes you feel better,

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<v Speaker 2>she said, in a very kind way.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't patronizing, No.

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<v Speaker 2>No, not at all. That's the right word. It was

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<v Speaker 2>not that. So it came off as an understanding that, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>everybody is going through something, and even though you're throwing

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<v Speaker 2>this stuff at me, I understand I'm not really the

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<v Speaker 2>one that's the cause of your pain. That is what

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<v Speaker 2>I see with this quote. Can you read the first

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<v Speaker 2>part of it again, not the last check in and

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<v Speaker 2>check out, but the first part.

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<v Speaker 1>If you project out, you don't have to feel what's inside.

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<v Speaker 2>So stop and apply that to everybody. That's the waiter

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<v Speaker 2>that's given you attitude, the flight attendant who wasn't as

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<v Speaker 2>who wasn't as kind as she could have been, somebody

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<v Speaker 2>yelling at you on the street, a friend of yours,

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<v Speaker 2>a coworker who was going off, And if you apply

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<v Speaker 2>that to them and go wow, they probably are going

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<v Speaker 2>through something.

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<v Speaker 1>You say that all the time, and that allows you

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<v Speaker 1>to give other people of grace. Yes, the harder thing

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<v Speaker 1>to do is to apply it to yourself. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you're getting angry with someone or you're feeling frustrated at someone,

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<v Speaker 1>to be able to check yourself in that moment and say, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>why am I acting like this? Why am I reacting

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<v Speaker 1>like this? Why am I putting this on someone else?

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<v Speaker 1>Every time you point the finger at someone else for

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<v Speaker 1>how you're feeling, it's a moment to say, wow, I'm projecting.

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<v Speaker 1>What do I need to actually feel inside? What do

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<v Speaker 1>I actually need to address or be curious about with

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<v Speaker 1>what's happening with me? Why am I reacting this way?

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<v Speaker 1>That's a much harder way to apply it. But man,

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<v Speaker 1>when you kind of are able in the moment, you

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<v Speaker 1>won't do it all the time. But even if it's

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<v Speaker 1>after the fact, if you can actually acknowledge, dang, I

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't taking care of my own issues and I let

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<v Speaker 1>it get the best remind you, and I put it

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<v Speaker 1>on someone else, it's going.

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<v Speaker 2>To remind you of that next time you're putting it

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<v Speaker 2>on me. We're just gonna stop at the morning and say, sweetheart,

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<v Speaker 2>you are projecting because you don't want to have to

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<v Speaker 2>deal with whatever pain you have going on inside. How

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<v Speaker 2>do you think that's gonna gop?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that is what she is suggested. I

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<v Speaker 1>know I don't do that. That would be the worst

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<v Speaker 1>possible because in that moment, if you're projecting, you're obviously

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<v Speaker 1>not in touch with how you're actually feeling inside, and

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<v Speaker 1>that probably will be explosive. So don't do what TJ

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<v Speaker 1>just said. But also, if you wish your partner could

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<v Speaker 1>do that, maybe just hope that they will one day

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<v Speaker 1>and pray for that that you can actually be introspective

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<v Speaker 1>and say, wait, why am I acting this way? All right?

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<v Speaker 1>The last quote she gave us on Friday that we

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<v Speaker 1>shared with all of you, and this is more of

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<v Speaker 1>She's really begin to mantras that when you wake up

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<v Speaker 1>there are things you can do to set your day

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<v Speaker 1>off right. And when you're feeling a certain way, you

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<v Speaker 1>can repeat some of these mantras throughout the day when

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<v Speaker 1>you need them. And I love that kind of a

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<v Speaker 1>tool in my tool belt. So here is her quote today,

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<v Speaker 1>I no longer need to change the world around me.

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<v Speaker 1>I just need to change the way I see it.

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<v Speaker 1>I have said a version of this to myself a

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<v Speaker 1>lot actually since we spoke, because it could just be

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<v Speaker 1>the long line, or the traffic, or the honking or

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<v Speaker 1>the person who bumped into you. It's amazing what can

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<v Speaker 1>set us off. So we want to control everything. We

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<v Speaker 1>want to make sure no one upsets us or affects

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<v Speaker 1>our timeline. But the truth is that's hilarious. You can't

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<v Speaker 1>affect anyone else. You can only change how you perceive it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it can't change the circumstances. You can only change

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<v Speaker 2>how you say them. It's that simple, man. It gives

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<v Speaker 2>you a whole different. Just I would encourage everybody to

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<v Speaker 2>do that, just try one day that if whatever happens,

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<v Speaker 2>just take it in a different type of stride, just

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<v Speaker 2>let it roll, let it go, just surrender to the moment.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever happens, it happens to us sometimes, well I usually

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<v Speaker 2>I think you've seen it happen to me, where things

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<v Speaker 2>go so badly, like everything goes wrong to the point

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<v Speaker 2>I start laughing at the next thing that happens, and

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<v Speaker 2>let's just keep it pushing. But it can't be frustrating,

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<v Speaker 2>and that takes work, and that takes practice. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>the name anything that happens, well, you know what jesse j.

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<v Speaker 2>We talked about her last week announcing she has breast cancer, right,

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<v Speaker 2>and what does she do next? She made a joke

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<v Speaker 2>about the upside to having breast cans that.

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<v Speaker 1>She's gonna get some big boobs, and she said it

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<v Speaker 1>might be you know, the most uh not not the

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<v Speaker 1>way anyone would want to get new boobs, but hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna come back with big boobs and more music.

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<v Speaker 1>She used another term that was even funnier that I

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<v Speaker 1>won't repeat here, but yeah, she she found a way

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<v Speaker 1>to find a cheeky silver lining, a.

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<v Speaker 2>Cheeky silver lining, and you can kind of do that

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<v Speaker 2>to almost anything that takes place in your life. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not making light and she's not making light of a

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<v Speaker 2>cancer diagnosis. What I'm saying that just happened. It came

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<v Speaker 2>to my mind. But you can't look at everything differently. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>all kinds of things that have happened though they've been

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<v Speaker 2>what was it we didn't we missed out on running

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<v Speaker 2>a race in Memphis because of the weather and it

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<v Speaker 2>ended up having the most wonderful day ever, and things

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<v Speaker 2>we couldn't have done otherwise.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, right, because obstacles are detours in the right directtion. Shit,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know, all of these quotes actually all

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<v Speaker 1>support the others because it's the same general theme about

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<v Speaker 1>releasing control and trusting that the universe, that God, that

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<v Speaker 1>your spirit guides, that your guardian angels are guiding you.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you can trust that and have faith in

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<v Speaker 1>that even when you hit these bumps and when things

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<v Speaker 1>don't go your way, if you believe you're where you're

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to be, because guess what, that's when you learn.

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<v Speaker 1>You only learn when you're uncomfortable. So that's the cool part.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a bonus quote. Can we get a bonus quote?

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<v Speaker 2>Fine? All right?

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<v Speaker 1>Bonus quote. This is from Gabby Bernstein. Remember that you

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<v Speaker 1>have a choice in what you see. If you choose

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<v Speaker 1>to see a person's darkness, you strengthen your darkness within.

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<v Speaker 1>If you choose to see their light, you shine from

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<v Speaker 1>the inside out. I've heard people say, if you're looking

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<v Speaker 1>for something in someone, you will find it. So why

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<v Speaker 1>not look for the good if you're looking for the bad,

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<v Speaker 1>If you're looking for a reason to justify how you're feeling,

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<v Speaker 1>you will find it in someone. And then you'll look

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<v Speaker 1>at everyone in that person and even yourself through a

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<v Speaker 1>negative lens. It brings everyone down. So you can choose

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<v Speaker 1>how you see someone.

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<v Speaker 2>How about that is another challenge? Everybody you come in

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<v Speaker 2>contact with, find something good about them. How that'll go?

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<v Speaker 1>She even talks about taking the practice of smiling at strangers.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd like to see you do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I am very friendly on elevators. Are you are?

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<v Speaker 1>You are one of the friendliest people, way friendlier than me.

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<v Speaker 2>I am friendly anytime you're in an environment where you're

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<v Speaker 2>one on woman, So why you acknowledge them? You always

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<v Speaker 2>every head driver, every waight or ever you know, to

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<v Speaker 2>direct you people's names. Yes, I smile. I'm the friendliest

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<v Speaker 2>guy you are.

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<v Speaker 1>But have you ever smiled at a stranger walking down

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<v Speaker 1>the street. It's actually amazing. Okay. I made a practice

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<v Speaker 1>of this after I heard her say this one time,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was remarkable the smiles I got back, and

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<v Speaker 1>how that made me feel.

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<v Speaker 2>So you've been out there flirting for.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking with small children or women. It's not just

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<v Speaker 1>with like men, it's with everybody.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounded weirder. I think I prefer you smile men.

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<v Speaker 1>No, But I love this, so we'll leave it to you.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll leave this with you for one last quote, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think this is All of these things are great

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<v Speaker 1>things to put into practice with this one especially, remember

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<v Speaker 1>that you have a choice in what you see. If

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<v Speaker 1>you choose to see a person's darkness, you strengthen your

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<v Speaker 1>darkness within. If you choose to see their light, you

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<v Speaker 1>shine from the inside out. And with that, we hope

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<v Speaker 1>you all have a beautiful beginning to your week on

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<v Speaker 1>this Sunday. Thank you for listening, and please check out

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<v Speaker 1>both parts one and two of our incredible life changing

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<v Speaker 1>conversation with Gabby Burnsneth.

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<v Speaker 2>Now go smile at some men, women and children,