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Speaker 1: Morning Run with Amy and TJ and iHeartRadio Podcast. Welcome

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Speaker 1: everyone to this Sunday edition of Your Morning Run. It

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Speaker 1: is Sunday, June eighth, and welcome to the Amy and

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Speaker 1: TJ Podcast. And on Sundays we like to go over

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Speaker 1: our quotes of the week because to Sundays or days

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Speaker 1: for reflection and inspiration. And so sometimes maybe you don't

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Speaker 1: make it all the way to the end of Morning

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Speaker 1: Run and you missed the quote of the day or

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Speaker 1: on you yeah, or maybe you just want to remember

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Speaker 1: it to say, what was that quote because it felt

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Speaker 1: so good to think about it that day. So we're

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Speaker 1: going to put them all for you in one space

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Speaker 1: and talk a little bit about why we chose them.

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Speaker 1: And this week was a special week for our quotes

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Speaker 1: of the day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, speak ause. Gabby Bernstein. Many of you, probably all

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Speaker 2: of you seemingly know her exactly who she is self

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Speaker 2: help Guru is at the.

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Speaker 1: New York Times bestselling author. She has ten books. But yes,

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Speaker 1: her self help books are I mean, for me, they

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Speaker 1: were absolutely like.

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Speaker 2: Change is it the right title? I mean, it's not

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Speaker 2: offensive to call self help gurus.

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Speaker 1: I think that's what I call her. I think that's

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Speaker 1: the best way to sum up what she does. But

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Speaker 1: this is all hard earned wisdom that she has sought out,

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Speaker 1: that she has studied, that she has put into practice,

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Speaker 1: that she continues to learn and share. And I have

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Speaker 1: felt like so much of what she has to say

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Speaker 1: is simple and yet incredibly effective. And it's all about

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Speaker 1: self empowerment. It's all about giving you tools to manage

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Speaker 1: your life and view your life and view your role

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Speaker 1: in this world in a different way. And I appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: So we're going to go over the quotes we chose

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Speaker 1: from her. The first one, Do we say she's a

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Speaker 1: studio with us? Oh? Yeah, Well she was in studio

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Speaker 1: with us, for sure.

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Speaker 2: Do we even say that yet?

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Speaker 1: Well we so? Okay, So this is Sunday. Hopefully you've

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Speaker 1: already listened to the part one of Gabby Bernstein, which

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Speaker 1: we dropped on Saturday, which was yesterday, and part two

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Speaker 1: was coming later today. And yes, she was in studio

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Speaker 1: with us. I finally got to meet this woman who

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Speaker 1: I have had in my head for all these years.

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Speaker 1: I say that because I listened to all of her

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Speaker 1: audiobooks and a lot of times when I'm running. So

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Speaker 1: you know, when you listen to somebody who narrates their

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Speaker 1: that you know them. So when I saw her, I

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Speaker 1: was that weirdo who was like basically assuming we were

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Speaker 2: I hope she was tolerant more she was tolerant of

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Speaker 2: your behavior.

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Speaker 1: She was tolerant of my super fandom.

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Speaker 2: Yes, so I'm kidding. You were actually more chill with

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Speaker 2: her than I expected. Never really, I really expected you

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Speaker 2: to embarrass us both.

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Speaker 1: I was trying to be cool, but inside I was

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Speaker 1: like freaking out like a little girl. All right, meeting

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Speaker 1: my idol. So we'll start with the quote we went

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Speaker 1: with to start the week from Gabby Bernstein, It's never

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Speaker 1: too late to choose again. How awesome is that we

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Speaker 1: think we've missed the boat. We're too late, it's already over.

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Speaker 1: Why would I do it now? I mean, all of

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Speaker 2: Well, I like it says choose again at the end. Right,

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Speaker 2: I said, of late to change? Maybe you it sounds

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Speaker 2: different when you put it that way. It's never too

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Speaker 2: late to make a different decision. Look at the too

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Speaker 2: late part. I mean how many of us. I mean,

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Speaker 2: there's some athletes who are twenty seven and think it's

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Speaker 2: too late for them. There are folks who are in

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Speaker 2: their mid thirties who think it's too late for a relationship.

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Speaker 2: There are folks from their late forties who think it's

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Speaker 2: too late to get out of this marriage. I'm stuck here,

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Speaker 2: so I don't know. It's hard to do though.

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Speaker 1: We hear this a lot about relationships and about careers,

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Speaker 1: we have realized it's not too late to choose again.

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Speaker 1: It's funny you say that because in my thirties I

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Speaker 1: even like with your career, This happens to so many people.

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Speaker 1: you're in a bad pattern of bad behavior, whether it's

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Speaker 1: don't think you can get out of it. It is

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Speaker 1: never too late to choose again, And I like what

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Speaker 1: you said about choose because that is so empowering. You

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Speaker 1: never too late. She also has said this, it's never

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Speaker 1: too late to choose the next best thing. Sometimes you

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Speaker 2: I like them when she puts it like that, because

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Speaker 2: you can certainly do better than the thing you're doing

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Speaker 2: a pleasure to have her in studio and talking about

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Speaker 2: never too late and learning something new. We had to

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Speaker 2: best sign of how successful we've in Gabby Bernstein agreed

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Speaker 1: Our show exactly, We've made it.

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Speaker 2: We've been after her from the beginning.

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Speaker 1: I felt like that it was a huge win and

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Speaker 1: a milestone in our podcast. The next quote we have

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Speaker 1: not going anywhere. Again. This could be with anything in

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's hard in the moment. It requires faith.

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Speaker 2: That quote requires faith because when that obstacle is in

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Speaker 2: Kind of a thing you got to have. This one

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and one of the things she always says, the

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Speaker 1: universe has your back. That's one of her famous quotes.

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Speaker 1: whatever spiritual deity or whoever you look up to for guidance.

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Speaker 1: You have to trust, and you're right. Faith is a

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Speaker 1: And it's true we all get in these negative thought patterns,

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Speaker 2: I actually have been using this since we saw her.

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Speaker 1: It is such a game changer. So one more time

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Speaker 1: that they actually sorry, that they don't want to deal with,

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Speaker 1: perspective that can change how you feel about how you're

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Speaker 1: treating someone else, or how you're treating yourself, or how

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Speaker 2: that stuff. But she finally made a statement where she said,

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Speaker 2: I essentially said, I am sending back love. I know

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Speaker 2: I am very friendly on elevators. Are you are?

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Speaker 1: this Sunday. Thank you for listening, and please check out

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Speaker 1: both parts one and two of our incredible life changing

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Speaker 2: Now go smile at some men, women and children,