WEBVTT - Friendships Need Therapy Too

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<v Speaker 1>Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife,

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<v Speaker 1>and she couldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>She cleaned and cared for her children and the man

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<v Speaker 2>of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.

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<v Speaker 2>She was both obedient and soft by nature.

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<v Speaker 1>She was a good woman who always made good choices.

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<v Speaker 2>We're good Mom's bad choices to single mom who said

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<v Speaker 2>fuck the patriarchy shared all their bad choices and sound

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<v Speaker 2>out they were so bad.

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<v Speaker 3>After all, we're experts, overshares and your new besties.

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<v Speaker 2>Sit back and enjoy the ride.

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<v Speaker 3>I can.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to good Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Nila. Happy hump Day, motherfuckers. Today is Wednesday.

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<v Speaker 3>As always, We've met you every Wednesday for eight years

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<v Speaker 3>on hump Day, to say, get the humping on.

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<v Speaker 2>Speak of eight years, you guys, guess the fuck what

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<v Speaker 2>it is?

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<v Speaker 3>Our eight year anniversary, bait, eight year anniversary.

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<v Speaker 2>It's our anniversary. We've been doing this ship for eight year.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't believe that that's a crazy number. And I

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<v Speaker 2>actually I looked at the number of eight in the

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<v Speaker 2>like what it means, because like, what the fuck does

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<v Speaker 2>eight mean?

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<v Speaker 3>This is the longest relationship I've ever had.

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<v Speaker 2>And I can't believe that we've talked this many times

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<v Speaker 2>for the eight years on top of all the other

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<v Speaker 2>talks that we already have, Like God, damn.

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<v Speaker 3>It's you know what we're like, lesbian's turbo because aha,

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<v Speaker 3>we're turbo lesbians. Because if we've been in if we've

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<v Speaker 3>done this eight years in a row, that means we've

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<v Speaker 3>talked like eight hundred thousand hours.

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<v Speaker 2>The number eight symbolizes power, financial abundance, authority, and karma

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<v Speaker 2>and numerology. It represents balance, infinity, and achievement, encouraging hard work, confidence,

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<v Speaker 2>material success who often associated with new beginnings. It's also

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<v Speaker 2>the sign of the Infinity sign, so it's forever and

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<v Speaker 2>ever and ever and ever. Those with the life path

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<v Speaker 2>eight are often seen as natural leaders, driven by ambition

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<v Speaker 2>and the desire to control their own destiny through hard work,

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<v Speaker 2>efficiency and organizational ability. And in case you wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>know what it means in the Bible, the Bible, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>let's go for it, but Jesus. In the Bible, eight

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<v Speaker 2>signifies a new beginning as it follows the seven day

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<v Speaker 2>Creation week, representing a new order of resurrection. It also

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<v Speaker 2>is connected to the circumcision of the heart and the

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<v Speaker 2>Holy Spirit. Wait, what the heart circum I guess so

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<v Speaker 2>because I had to rebad. Is that circumstansiircum heart?

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe? Because so that the circumcision of the heart in

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<v Speaker 3>the what.

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<v Speaker 2>It means continuous flow interconnection of the of the material

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<v Speaker 2>and spiritual worlds.

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<v Speaker 3>I like materials and tangibles. I like that a lot,

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<v Speaker 3>because this is a year.

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<v Speaker 2>Baby, this is our I mean, every year, every.

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<v Speaker 3>Year is our year. But it feels right that in

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<v Speaker 3>year eight it's talking about tangible finances because I really

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<v Speaker 3>feel like this. I nobody say this. Every year we

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<v Speaker 3>got to but every year we have upped our up

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<v Speaker 3>our like upped our income up to our our output,

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<v Speaker 3>uped our you know, we've upped the things. So I

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<v Speaker 3>think this year it really represents something where I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>like and I think about where we started and where

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<v Speaker 3>we're at right now. I do feel like, wow, we've

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<v Speaker 3>grown a whole lot. Lots of things have happened. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and we've been like working on a very top secret

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<v Speaker 3>project project, and we've been looking a lot back at

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<v Speaker 3>our history, in our our content, in our our old episodes,

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<v Speaker 3>and it is really incredibly like heartwarming to.

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<v Speaker 2>Watch us literally grow and just like our faces, our voices.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so crazy. I'm just like really proud of the

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<v Speaker 3>fact that we were consistent and that we stayed down

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<v Speaker 3>for this.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know what I just realized, Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting those months. I just wanted. First of all,

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<v Speaker 2>I just want us to mark our words here. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>you have to like literally screenshot mark the words. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>marking this moment right now because when we look back

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<v Speaker 2>on this moment at the end of this year, there

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<v Speaker 2>are going to be a lot of things that have

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<v Speaker 2>shifted for us. And we can't really speak on it

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<v Speaker 2>right now, but we have this really these really important

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<v Speaker 2>meetings next week, and it's the week it's that it's

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<v Speaker 2>the of our anniversary. It's a week of our eight

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<v Speaker 2>year anniversary. Wow, we're having these meetings. What the fuck?

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<v Speaker 3>What like to the to the date?

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<v Speaker 2>Like God, thank oh my God.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes God be speaking to you, but you don't be listening.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't really see the the synchronicities, and you don't

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<v Speaker 3>realize it's it's her being like got you big, God

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<v Speaker 3>is good man. Yeah, I knew that.

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<v Speaker 2>When this moment came to pass, which they're like, what

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<v Speaker 2>is the moment. You'll find out later. But when it

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<v Speaker 2>came to pass, it was going to be divine. It

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<v Speaker 2>was going to be exactly what we hoped for. It

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<v Speaker 2>was going to be so specific, and it is because

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<v Speaker 2>we're some specific ass, manifesting ass, which is And on

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<v Speaker 2>that note, I would like for us to take a

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<v Speaker 2>toast in honor. You know, I feel like at all

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<v Speaker 2>of our anniversary shows are all we drinking champagne. But

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<v Speaker 2>this is really our main day, Yeah, it really is.

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<v Speaker 3>We try to be classy because it's usually daytime. But

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<v Speaker 3>I almost took a shot this morning clean my kitchen,

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<v Speaker 3>but I didn't eat enough. I still haven't eaten enough.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know this one, I have to say, this

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<v Speaker 2>brand is very strong. It's not for shot reprisado.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, for shots it's I wouldn't recommend this to shoot,

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<v Speaker 3>but this is what we got. And Erica said we

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<v Speaker 3>couldn't ask our rapper neighbor for juice, so I.

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<v Speaker 2>Just already went over there. I didn'tant to talk to

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<v Speaker 2>him again. God, you could have went over.

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<v Speaker 3>He's nicer to you. He likes see it are your

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<v Speaker 3>share one.

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<v Speaker 2>Well. Also on the way over here, I broke the

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<v Speaker 2>other shot class. Okay, so we only have one, which

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<v Speaker 2>makes a lot of sense because we all want entity.

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<v Speaker 2>Put a little loving into this cup of these spirits,

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<v Speaker 2>this cup of tequila. Please let our entity continue to expand,

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<v Speaker 2>protect our friendship, protect our protect the stories that we've

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<v Speaker 2>told here and what other and other stories that have

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<v Speaker 2>been told here from our guests, from our listeners. You

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<v Speaker 2>guys are intrinsically part of this journey in such a

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<v Speaker 2>intense way, and I'm just so grateful that you guys

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<v Speaker 2>have listened and tuned in for eight years, watched our evolution,

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<v Speaker 2>watched our growth, and I'm just grateful that we continue

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<v Speaker 2>to say yes even during hard times, because that's when

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<v Speaker 2>actually it means the most. So thank you God, Thank

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<v Speaker 2>you most hi, thank you motherfucking tribe. We love you.

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<v Speaker 2>And cheers, cheers go first.

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<v Speaker 3>Who it's two twenty two to two?

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<v Speaker 2>What that was crazy?

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<v Speaker 3>And our tribe is calling us on Instagram? I know who?

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<v Speaker 2>What the f?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what's happening, but wow, what tribe it

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<v Speaker 3>from Instagram? Twenty two? Baby? Now you look up what

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<v Speaker 3>that means?

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<v Speaker 2>God?

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<v Speaker 3>All this, look at look at God. It never ends. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like we say this a lot, and if

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<v Speaker 3>you're a newcomer, we're gonna say it again. I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to continue to say it. When Erica and I met

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<v Speaker 3>and we started to say yes, and we started to

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<v Speaker 3>speak things, and literally we didn't really know each other,

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<v Speaker 3>but we started to just have joint visions of what

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<v Speaker 3>we wanted this to become. And they were literally dreams

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<v Speaker 3>because we had no idea how we were gonna manifest

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<v Speaker 3>those things. They were really big dreams, really big guests,

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<v Speaker 3>and we didn't know shit about podcasting, like not a

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<v Speaker 3>single thing. We literally just winged it, and we started

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<v Speaker 3>to see, like so many things just come to fruition

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<v Speaker 3>and knowing that when you meet someone who you're supposed

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<v Speaker 3>to create with and produce with, like the entity is created,

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<v Speaker 3>and our entity has been so mother fun and strong,

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<v Speaker 3>Like things like this happen to us all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>The calls, the time the song comes on, the opportunity

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<v Speaker 3>just happens to be eight years to the date that

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<v Speaker 3>we birthed our podcast and started to show like nothing

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<v Speaker 3>is ever by chance, and it's like everything is a

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<v Speaker 3>part of the story and you have to pay attention

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<v Speaker 3>because like whatever you want, you can literally have it's

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<v Speaker 3>about under like visualizing it and seeing it. And then

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<v Speaker 3>when you have someone who also shares the vision that

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<v Speaker 3>you have, it gives it power and it makes it,

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<v Speaker 3>ignites it even quicker and even faster. And I think

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<v Speaker 3>just having someone else believe in something that you also

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<v Speaker 3>believe in, it's like, oh, yeah, I'm not crazy, I

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<v Speaker 3>could totally make a million dollars. Whereas alone you start yourself,

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<v Speaker 3>doubt will stop to creep in. But when you have

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<v Speaker 3>two delusional bitches but out, yeah, it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Boom boom boom boom boo boom boom boom. No. I agree.

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<v Speaker 2>And when we were talking today about this secret project

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<v Speaker 2>that we have going, I was thinking, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we hear about this all the time. It's like you

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<v Speaker 2>can't just manifest, you have to actually do it. And

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<v Speaker 2>we did it. We fucking envisioned it. We wrote it down,

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<v Speaker 2>we made versions of it, like we spoke about it

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<v Speaker 2>as if it was already done. We said where we

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<v Speaker 2>wanted it to be, we said who we wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>be a part of it. Like it's just we spoke

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<v Speaker 2>it into existence continuously, over and over and over again,

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<v Speaker 2>and now.

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<v Speaker 3>The fuck it's here, seeing too too too is widely

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<v Speaker 3>interpreted in numerology. Is an angel number is signaling harmony, balance,

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<v Speaker 3>and alignment in your life. It access a reassuring sign

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<v Speaker 3>from the universe to maintain faith, embrace patience, and foster

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<v Speaker 3>collaboration in relationships and career endeavors and encourages staying positive

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<v Speaker 3>and trusting. The path you're on is strong signed to

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<v Speaker 3>cultivate equilibrium in your life, whether it is work life balance,

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<v Speaker 3>emotional stability, or harmony in relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>YEP, sounds about what we need to do and continue

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<v Speaker 2>to do.

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<v Speaker 3>Your life's son that your life is unfolding exactly as

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<v Speaker 3>it should, encouraging you to have faith. It's crazy. I

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<v Speaker 3>already cried this morning, some water sign crying ass bitches. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>but I'm really I'm just grateful. I'm grateful to be

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<v Speaker 3>sitting in our own studio, sitting with David who is

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<v Speaker 3>our OGU, producer, director, fucking videographer, an editor, visionary that really, like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, I feel like when David came to

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<v Speaker 3>our lives and we were like we started getting popping,

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<v Speaker 3>like we started to believe the poppin thiss and we

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<v Speaker 3>started to see the vision. I like it's killing these clips.

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<v Speaker 3>Well he is.

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<v Speaker 2>He set the standard for our clips. Let's set the

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<v Speaker 2>standard for how clips like continue to be shared in

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<v Speaker 2>this space because it started without even it being like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not trying toete my own horn, but let me

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<v Speaker 2>just tell to my own horn for one second. Because

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<v Speaker 2>I got on the phone with someone today and she

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<v Speaker 2>and she asked me how long I've been podcasting. I said,

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<v Speaker 2>funny should ask. It's my eight year anniversary. And she said, oh, damn, y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>like I have been doing this like for before. It

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<v Speaker 2>was like cool, like before people were here and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, yeah, we have, and then like we were

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<v Speaker 2>recording in my on my iPhone, and then we got

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<v Speaker 2>in the studio because we need to get out of

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<v Speaker 2>my house, not realizing that that's where podcasts were starting

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<v Speaker 2>to shift, was like into these like set dynamics, looking

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<v Speaker 2>like we're on set. We were one of the first

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<v Speaker 2>podcasts to really up the ante when it came to

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<v Speaker 2>like the visual of what this show looked like. And

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<v Speaker 2>David was a really big part of that. We love

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<v Speaker 2>you David for making those clips like quick witty to

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<v Speaker 2>the point so people knew and knew exactly what they

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<v Speaker 2>were about to get so David's also pioneer. I know

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<v Speaker 2>you don't know who David is, but I'm gonna tag

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<v Speaker 2>him on this fucking.

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<v Speaker 3>Last time we showed David on the Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>I know they were like, whoa, who was David? Take it?

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<v Speaker 2>I know.

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<v Speaker 3>I was just talking about you, David the other day

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<v Speaker 3>and I was telling Erica because I said, I think

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<v Speaker 3>she said you had another project with like with like

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<v Speaker 3>the like the prisoners and like in jail and rehabilitation.

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<v Speaker 3>And I said, because when we started with David things

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<v Speaker 3>like twenty five or twenty four, he's like twenty nine now.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, Damn, David's going to have the.

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<v Speaker 2>Most wide spectrum of like the what a real like

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<v Speaker 2>it's showing his work. No, I was just like the

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<v Speaker 2>of knowledge.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, he's gonna have the most like random

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<v Speaker 3>like young white male and to be like, no, I

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<v Speaker 3>know all about single motherhood, no actually free bleeding, no

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<v Speaker 3>open open relationships. Let me tell you a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>more about that. I'm like, oh, Krin Stephans, No, no

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<v Speaker 3>I know about her. I literally is like, Damn, David

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<v Speaker 3>is such an insight to like a are psychonists so

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<v Speaker 3>shout out. Shout out to any man that can thrive

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<v Speaker 3>in our world, in business and in personal relationships, because

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<v Speaker 3>I realize that we're kind of nuts. We're kind I know,

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<v Speaker 3>chat GBT keeps describing us as fucking chaotic, and I

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<v Speaker 3>really hate it, but I yeah, it's kind of true.

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<v Speaker 3>We both have add on a severe level. I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>claiming that I have to for my sanity because it's

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<v Speaker 3>the only thing that describes what the fuck that's wrong

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<v Speaker 3>with me. I just have a lot of thoughts. I

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<v Speaker 3>have a lot of thoughts, rap it, a lot of thoughts,

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of rabbit like I often think, if someone

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<v Speaker 3>had a camera on me alone, look crazy, Like I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>thank god nobody can see this. But for real, for

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<v Speaker 3>sticking with us, and like riding with us and understanding

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<v Speaker 3>our vision even when we're late, even when we're have

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<v Speaker 3>seventeen purses and seventeen bags and we need help moving

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<v Speaker 3>furniture because we were moving furniture in your mom's office.

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<v Speaker 3>We were our first studio was her mom's office on

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<v Speaker 3>the off day, and we would smoke weeds so it

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<v Speaker 3>could air out, and we would move all of the

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<v Speaker 3>office furniture out of one office, like heavy shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Every time there was.

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<v Speaker 3>Something that was very particularly heavy, was the was it

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<v Speaker 3>the fucking dresser? It was something that it was like

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<v Speaker 3>always every time, WHOA then we moved it back, like

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<v Speaker 3>it was really intense. And I'm just really grateful for

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<v Speaker 3>the whole team, for me, for Tarini, for Orlando, for David,

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<v Speaker 3>like Shay, you know, everybody who has like really boggled

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<v Speaker 3>down with us, and even those of you who we.

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<v Speaker 2>Had to let go, Bless your hearts.

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<v Speaker 3>The show still goes on, and it's just all been

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<v Speaker 3>very intricate and very beautiful and very intentional, and bitch,

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<v Speaker 3>it's about to be our whole thirties that we've been together.

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<v Speaker 3>It's been like thirty to forty. The other day, we

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<v Speaker 3>have a friend who goes to Luna's school, and he

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<v Speaker 3>was like, he's friends with Eric his baby daddy, and

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<v Speaker 3>he's like, you should have so and so on, and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, probably not. And then I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>if the baby daddy's ever get on the show, just

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<v Speaker 3>know it's the second to last episode and we're probably

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<v Speaker 3>at year ten. I was like, at year ten, second

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<v Speaker 3>to last episode, well, maybe I don't think I've ever

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<v Speaker 3>had more.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think me and your baby daddy have ever

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<v Speaker 2>shared more than like four sentences back and forth in

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<v Speaker 2>the amount of time we've known each other. I like

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<v Speaker 2>can't even imagine sitting down with him and having a

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<v Speaker 2>full conversation. It's never happened. I don't think I've ever

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<v Speaker 2>spoke to him more than two minutes. Maybe mad probably

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<v Speaker 2>haven't in like a whole decade.

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<v Speaker 3>The thing is, he's like fake quiet. He's a libra.

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<v Speaker 3>He is very like in public, he's very quiet unless

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<v Speaker 3>he's drunk, and that's how you know he's drunk. But

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<v Speaker 3>other than that, that was the problem. He was only

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<v Speaker 3>talking to me.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I won't shut the fuck up.

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<v Speaker 3>He was only talking to me.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, and I told Erica.

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<v Speaker 3>Recently, I saw him at at the same parent a

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<v Speaker 3>BSU meeting and he kissed me on the cheek, and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I didn't know what to do. It's like, like, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>are we friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Because we try to test you. You know, if you're listening,

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<v Speaker 2>you have a baby dad. If you know, baby Daddy's

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<v Speaker 2>be trying to test the especially after they've been married,

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<v Speaker 2>especially I do you think I'm gonna be like? I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>they just it's a test.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even know if he knows.

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<v Speaker 2>See, of course he does. Someone has told him, Are

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<v Speaker 2>you kidding? Yeah, I'm sure they absolutely, there's no way

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<v Speaker 2>he doesn't know.

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<v Speaker 3>And I blocked him or Luna asked me to block him,

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<v Speaker 3>like a couple of years ago, and so I.

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<v Speaker 2>He had But you guys have other people.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and good Mom says, probably the world.

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<v Speaker 2>In which he doesn't know you're married, which is why

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<v Speaker 2>he kissed you on the side of your mouth, because

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<v Speaker 2>he's testing you. Because these niggas like to test just

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna talk shit because he's been he's been

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<v Speaker 3>sending money for the first time and the first time

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<v Speaker 3>in eleven years. So I'm gonna just shut the fuck up.

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<v Speaker 3>But also, yeah, weird, but I know, I'm really and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm grateful for you. You're the one who actually pushed us.

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<v Speaker 3>This is the one thing we have very like slight differences,

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<v Speaker 3>because we're similar in a lot of ways, I think,

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<v Speaker 3>but like there are certain things like Eric will be like, no,

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<v Speaker 3>we have to do this, and I'm like, do we

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<v Speaker 3>have to go to your mom's studio? The living rooms

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<v Speaker 3>so nice, it's so comfy, everybody loves the dining room.

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<v Speaker 3>It makes them feel like they're at home. It's like, no,

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<v Speaker 3>everybody's going to the studio. When you go to the studio,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, okay, fine. And now we were ahead of

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<v Speaker 3>the game, ahead of the curve, and I'm just I'm

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<v Speaker 3>grateful for our set. I don't know if you guys realized,

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<v Speaker 3>because we just realized recently that we have worn many

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<v Speaker 3>hats including we've been editor, we've been cameraman, we've been

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<v Speaker 3>set designer, we've been author, we've been orderer of sign

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<v Speaker 3>we've been set designer furniture, we've been stylists, to make

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<v Speaker 3>a part of stylists, make about his wardrop hair stylist,

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<v Speaker 3>train of director, scriptwriter, editor, it, social marketing, you name it,

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<v Speaker 3>we've fucking done it. So I also would like, I

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<v Speaker 3>think I feel this with the year of the fire Horse,

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<v Speaker 3>and I invite you to do the same, like this

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<v Speaker 3>is the year and for everyone listening to stop fucking

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<v Speaker 3>doubting yourself, stop fucking questioning yourself, stop questioning what your

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<v Speaker 3>talents are, which you've done all the things you've done,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I think we don't necessarily itemize our skill set

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<v Speaker 3>in a resume type of LinkedIn way because we're just

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<v Speaker 3>doing it. But when you break down, even in motherhood,

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<v Speaker 3>even stay at home moms, bitch you a cook, your organizer,

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<v Speaker 3>your bill payer, you know, like your house manager. There

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<v Speaker 3>are so many things that we do that we kind

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<v Speaker 3>of like overlook, overlook and over humble because we're told

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<v Speaker 3>to be humble and modest. Yes, come on, write me up,

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<v Speaker 3>and I just don't feel I don't resonate with that anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't resonate with being humble, and.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't resonate with being humble.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't. I don't want to do it anymore. I

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<v Speaker 3>want to be main character energy.

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<v Speaker 2>Humble is not part of my brand.

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<v Speaker 3>Pillars, it's not. Wait, so I note this is totally

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<v Speaker 3>add who. I was at dinner with some of our

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<v Speaker 3>friends and we were talking about the pillars of our

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<v Speaker 3>friendship as a tribe, and the number one one was BBC.

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<v Speaker 3>Well wait, our friend not a lot our friends were like,

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<v Speaker 3>the pillars of our friendship is BBC.

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<v Speaker 2>I was a.

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<v Speaker 3>Community, motherhood, fun but the fact that BBC was number one,

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, yep, BBC is the number one pillar

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<v Speaker 3>of our tribe.

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<v Speaker 2>Makes sense? Well, cheers to the pillars of our tribe,

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<v Speaker 2>cheers the pillars of our friendship, and cheers to.

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<v Speaker 3>J America to being yourself, being yourself, because being yourself wins.

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<v Speaker 3>Look at us for winning with a peak sign and

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<v Speaker 3>jokes that offendman and a book with our ass out

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<v Speaker 3>in the back offend.

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<v Speaker 2>It makes money. This asmr m m hmmm.

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<v Speaker 3>I think we need to get Finally, we need to

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<v Speaker 3>invest in a bar here, like a classy one. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>any bad choices of the week.

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<v Speaker 1>I love bad mom, not a bad mom, but a

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<v Speaker 1>bad mom so good.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm there are some bad choices this week. We have

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<v Speaker 2>some people that wrote in some bad choices. And if

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<v Speaker 2>you want to have your bad choices featured on our show,

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<v Speaker 2>make sure you go to good Mom's Bad Choices dot

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<v Speaker 2>com and click our contact and write in your bad

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<v Speaker 2>choices of the week, write in any advice question, write

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<v Speaker 2>in your horror stories. We want to hear from you.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually really love hearing from you, so we want

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<v Speaker 2>to hear from you. Actually a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>More in the dms and the emails and the discord

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<v Speaker 3>sign up for Patreon. Discord is popping. I'm really like

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<v Speaker 3>Discord is one of the best things we created because

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<v Speaker 3>we're in there, but mostly all the other good moms

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<v Speaker 3>are in there, and they're talking and telling their stories

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<v Speaker 3>and they're sharing, and they're going on trips and there

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<v Speaker 3>it's just a place to have a safe space. And

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes it's nice to have a safe space where you

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<v Speaker 3>don't really know people and then you can get to

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<v Speaker 3>know them, but you have a space to share your ideas,

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<v Speaker 3>your projects and there's no judgment. I kind of realized

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<v Speaker 3>I'd like sharing my shit with strangers because there's no attachment.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I mean tell you what I'm struggling with. I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's the most valuable part of our community. And

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<v Speaker 2>it's ten dollars a month and literally you can you

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<v Speaker 2>have full access to so much our episodes, early us

0:20:49.480 --> 0:20:53.879
<v Speaker 2>talking directly to you, us complaining directly to you. You

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<v Speaker 2>have a community of women that you can share your

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<v Speaker 2>horror stories with, your bad choices, and we have a

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<v Speaker 2>section discord called girl Guess What where you can like

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<v Speaker 2>share the things your accomplishments because sometimes like your family

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<v Speaker 2>be hating, people be hating, you need strangers to hype

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<v Speaker 2>you up. So it's a very beautiful curated tribe.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm literally texting one of our past retreaties, like I'm

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<v Speaker 3>having an impromptu party at my house tonight. I told

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<v Speaker 3>her Landa, He's not going to be there.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, speaking of which, which is so crazy, I called Mela,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna get to the bad dress of the week.

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<v Speaker 2>But today just speaking on our witchiness. Literally today, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>at the computer and I'm thinking about the retreat. And

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<v Speaker 2>you know, we have a retreat coming up in Costa

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<v Speaker 2>Rica in July, and people always ask us like how

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<v Speaker 2>do I know what the retreat is for me? Like

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<v Speaker 2>what age range? And so I was, I've been updating

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<v Speaker 2>our website and I was thinking about someone specific that

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<v Speaker 2>came to our retreat who I haven't spoke with in

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<v Speaker 2>like two years. Shout out to Gwen. She came for her.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it was her her sixtieth birthday. It was like,

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<v Speaker 2>she's it was her sixtieth maybe I think so her

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<v Speaker 2>sixtieth birthday. She came to the retreat, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I need to find a picture of Gwen and put

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<v Speaker 2>her on the websites. People can see like it's a range,

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<v Speaker 2>like we have twenty three year olds to come to

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<v Speaker 2>six year old.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to see her like her drop it low session.

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<v Speaker 2>She yeah, because she was lit. When was lit, she

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<v Speaker 2>was showing us the toe, the tiptoe, the tipy toe stripper.

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<v Speaker 2>Drop it low anyway, I thought of her. Literally thirty

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<v Speaker 2>seconds later, this bitch called me. I have not spoken

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<v Speaker 2>to her in two years, and I answered the phone.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, are you fucking kidding me right now?

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<v Speaker 2>And she's like, I'm in LA And I was like.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, little there's something, and there's something inside you

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<v Speaker 3>that knows, and like the energy of people is closed,

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<v Speaker 3>the frequency of energy is much is much more prominent

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<v Speaker 3>than words. We're limited in language. Start using your like

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<v Speaker 3>you're subconscious to attract what you need.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was like it validated my wishiness valid It

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<v Speaker 2>made me feel so happy that she felt like she

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<v Speaker 2>knows that she can call me Like that's the thing

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<v Speaker 2>when you come to our retreats, like we're your friends

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<v Speaker 2>for real. After you come and you come hang out

0:22:52.640 --> 0:22:54.800
<v Speaker 2>with us, like you have our phone number, you can

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<v Speaker 2>pull up on us, you can pull up on the

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<v Speaker 2>track like it's real shit. This isn't for fake, This

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<v Speaker 2>isn't like no fucking ass bullshit where pe No, we're

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<v Speaker 2>not those type of bitches. So I just was happy

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<v Speaker 2>that she a called me. I mean, we already had

0:23:05.560 --> 0:23:08.200
<v Speaker 2>that report anyway, but I was like, what the fuck

0:23:08.400 --> 0:23:12.000
<v Speaker 2>my mind? So today I was like, ask for everything.

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<v Speaker 3>But I told you that happened to me. Literally last week,

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<v Speaker 3>I was thinking about one of the girls who lives

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<v Speaker 3>out here, and I was like, she was like, I

0:23:16.320 --> 0:23:17.720
<v Speaker 3>don't have a lot of friends in Elia. I was like, girl,

0:23:17.760 --> 0:23:20.320
<v Speaker 3>call me, and I'm pretty good. I'm good at reaching

0:23:20.320 --> 0:23:22.160
<v Speaker 3>out to people. I probably am the glue to most

0:23:22.160 --> 0:23:23.800
<v Speaker 3>of my relationships. I'm on here for somebody for six

0:23:23.840 --> 0:23:25.880
<v Speaker 3>months or six years and then let me call this bitch.

0:23:26.200 --> 0:23:27.840
<v Speaker 3>And I literally was like, why did that bitch call me?

0:23:27.880 --> 0:23:29.639
<v Speaker 3>And literally I was in the club and the party

0:23:29.680 --> 0:23:31.600
<v Speaker 3>and the bitch walked in and I said, bitch, I

0:23:31.760 --> 0:23:33.920
<v Speaker 3>was just thinking about your ass. You never called me back.

0:23:33.960 --> 0:23:38.719
<v Speaker 3>She's like, I know, I'm so bad at that it was,

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<v Speaker 3>and she was like kind of that deep voice she's

0:23:41.359 --> 0:23:45.080
<v Speaker 3>talking me over tonight too. But I really do value

0:23:45.119 --> 0:23:47.119
<v Speaker 3>all the girls we meet and like the friendships that

0:23:47.160 --> 0:23:50.159
<v Speaker 3>we make. Also, Zoe's coming on town next week. She

0:23:50.200 --> 0:23:53.679
<v Speaker 3>wants to go to the woods, but Zoey from Jamaica,

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<v Speaker 3>no yeah. Sorry from Joey from San Diego who was

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<v Speaker 3>in Jamaica.

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<v Speaker 2>That's nice. Okay, so we had to some people. Actually

0:24:00.840 --> 0:24:02.840
<v Speaker 2>these are from the Discord. Shout out to the Discord

0:24:02.920 --> 0:24:05.240
<v Speaker 2>who shared to some bad choices they've made this week.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sure too, because they're quick and they're bad choices.

0:24:10.040 --> 0:24:15.520
<v Speaker 2>Like they're actually they're not good choices. Number one. My

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<v Speaker 2>bad choice of the week is that I reached out

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<v Speaker 2>to someone that rejected me before. That's the bad choice

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<v Speaker 2>of the week.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait say it again. My baby guys asked, we have

0:24:27.840 --> 0:24:29.960
<v Speaker 3>to get my kids what No, I'm not.

0:24:32.119 --> 0:24:34.439
<v Speaker 2>She reached out to someone who rejected her before.

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<v Speaker 3>I have a theory on this, but continue that's it.

0:24:40.720 --> 0:24:41.119
<v Speaker 2>That's it.

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<v Speaker 3>My theory on this, because I've experienced this is it's

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<v Speaker 3>definitely because we know this person. Write this from the retreat.

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<v Speaker 3>No oh, I thought that was the thing about reaching

0:24:52.240 --> 0:24:55.080
<v Speaker 3>out to people that have been you've been rejected by

0:24:55.200 --> 0:24:58.280
<v Speaker 3>or actively rejecting you. There is a wound, and this

0:24:58.320 --> 0:24:59.960
<v Speaker 3>is my theory. I'm not a therapist. I am a

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<v Speaker 3>sexologists though, so whatever, I'm an expert because I've done this.

0:25:04.760 --> 0:25:07.720
<v Speaker 3>I do think there's a thread and a wound that

0:25:07.760 --> 0:25:10.359
<v Speaker 3>goes back to a time where you didn't feel good enough.

0:25:10.480 --> 0:25:13.919
<v Speaker 3>Probably a parent or a guardian was not present, and

0:25:13.920 --> 0:25:16.600
<v Speaker 3>you were neglected in that and you felt not important.

0:25:16.960 --> 0:25:20.000
<v Speaker 3>And I think that without being conscious of that, you

0:25:20.040 --> 0:25:25.760
<v Speaker 3>will go into relationships actively pleading for validation because there

0:25:25.800 --> 0:25:28.199
<v Speaker 3>is something that hasn't been fulfilled. You feel like you

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<v Speaker 3>have to prove yourself. You want to be like, I

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<v Speaker 3>want to show you what a good person I am.

0:25:31.680 --> 0:25:33.199
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to show you what a good woman I am.

0:25:33.280 --> 0:25:35.080
<v Speaker 3>I want to show you that I'm valuable. And so

0:25:35.160 --> 0:25:37.400
<v Speaker 3>you'll go back to a place where you've been obviously

0:25:37.440 --> 0:25:39.640
<v Speaker 3>rejected and it's like dah, fuck you, but also.

0:25:39.600 --> 0:25:40.280
<v Speaker 2>Please pick me.

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<v Speaker 3>So I encourage you to take a moment and go

0:25:43.320 --> 0:25:47.160
<v Speaker 3>back in yourself and in your history of when there

0:25:47.200 --> 0:25:50.080
<v Speaker 3>was a time in your childhood that you felt rejected

0:25:50.840 --> 0:25:53.399
<v Speaker 3>and then comfort that version of you so that you

0:25:53.480 --> 0:25:56.199
<v Speaker 3>can make amends. And so when someone else rejects you,

0:25:56.200 --> 0:25:59.080
<v Speaker 3>you're not actively trying to fight for it, because the

0:25:59.080 --> 0:26:01.880
<v Speaker 3>truth is some of rejecting you is God saying pass,

0:26:02.240 --> 0:26:04.800
<v Speaker 3>like it's giving you a fast pass to the next thing.

0:26:05.080 --> 0:26:07.600
<v Speaker 3>But if you like, dig your closet and try harder

0:26:07.600 --> 0:26:09.720
<v Speaker 3>and try harder. It's this whole fucking back and forth

0:26:09.760 --> 0:26:11.440
<v Speaker 3>that is a waste of time and it may block

0:26:11.480 --> 0:26:13.800
<v Speaker 3>you from your blessings. So I do encourage you to

0:26:13.840 --> 0:26:15.920
<v Speaker 3>take a moment to sit with yourself and say, when

0:26:15.960 --> 0:26:17.639
<v Speaker 3>is the last time I felt this way? Was it

0:26:17.640 --> 0:26:19.280
<v Speaker 3>from a father or was it from a mom? Was

0:26:19.320 --> 0:26:22.080
<v Speaker 3>it this or that? And then like find that version

0:26:22.119 --> 0:26:25.359
<v Speaker 3>of you and say I'm here for you always. You

0:26:25.400 --> 0:26:28.040
<v Speaker 3>don't have like whatever the words you need to hear

0:26:28.080 --> 0:26:28.639
<v Speaker 3>at that time.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's it. I agree. I agree. I'm always like

0:26:35.760 --> 0:26:38.120
<v Speaker 2>trying to find the like not always, but sometimes when

0:26:38.160 --> 0:26:40.399
<v Speaker 2>I hear these things, I'm trying to like understand, like, okay,

0:26:40.440 --> 0:26:44.480
<v Speaker 2>well there is there is there any Is there ever

0:26:44.560 --> 0:26:47.720
<v Speaker 2>a time where it can be helpful to go back

0:26:47.800 --> 0:26:51.240
<v Speaker 2>to a source a place of rejection, like going back

0:26:51.280 --> 0:26:55.399
<v Speaker 2>and if you need to go, investigate the why because

0:26:55.400 --> 0:26:57.480
<v Speaker 2>maybe it is something that you need to work on.

0:26:57.880 --> 0:27:00.640
<v Speaker 2>The person like passed you up because.

0:27:00.680 --> 0:27:04.439
<v Speaker 4>You're overbearing or you're too jealous, like don't jump to

0:27:04.560 --> 0:27:06.840
<v Speaker 4>it's not you. Yeah, like I don't know, Like I

0:27:06.880 --> 0:27:09.479
<v Speaker 4>don't always know if that's the case, and so like

0:27:09.920 --> 0:27:11.919
<v Speaker 4>it could be and because I think that that's definitely

0:27:11.920 --> 0:27:14.399
<v Speaker 4>true for sure, and like, you know, either way, you

0:27:14.480 --> 0:27:18.400
<v Speaker 4>might be you know, bypassing.

0:27:18.040 --> 0:27:21.399
<v Speaker 2>Like a feeling or watering a wound. But I do

0:27:21.440 --> 0:27:24.360
<v Speaker 2>think that it's sometimes sometimes it's important to ask, be like, hey,

0:27:24.400 --> 0:27:26.440
<v Speaker 2>I guess so like you rejected me, what was it?

0:27:27.240 --> 0:27:29.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't think it's important, but if it's, if it

0:27:29.000 --> 0:27:31.880
<v Speaker 2>feels important, I'm curious to know, like why, and what

0:27:31.960 --> 0:27:33.560
<v Speaker 2>was the purpose? Was it to be chosen or was

0:27:33.560 --> 0:27:35.600
<v Speaker 2>it to investigate the situation? Those are two different things.

0:27:35.920 --> 0:27:39.720
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, is it like begging to be in that space again?

0:27:39.920 --> 0:27:43.480
<v Speaker 3>Or is it to to inquire about self reflection and

0:27:43.520 --> 0:27:45.640
<v Speaker 3>if you've maybe lacked awareness in your behavior?

0:27:45.680 --> 0:27:48.600
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I like that. And so another bad choice of

0:27:48.600 --> 0:27:51.719
<v Speaker 2>the week kind of similar to this vibe, which kind

0:27:51.720 --> 0:27:53.600
<v Speaker 2>of lets me know sometimes where we as women are

0:27:54.080 --> 0:27:56.879
<v Speaker 2>in our needing to be chosen and understand ourselves and

0:27:56.920 --> 0:28:00.680
<v Speaker 2>why validated this bad choice of the week. I reached

0:28:00.720 --> 0:28:04.520
<v Speaker 2>out to an old hookup looking for validation about my desirability.

0:28:05.840 --> 0:28:08.520
<v Speaker 3>What is desirability? Like if I'm desirable, like if I'm pretty,

0:28:08.520 --> 0:28:09.080
<v Speaker 3>if I'm.

0:28:08.960 --> 0:28:11.879
<v Speaker 2>Like, I mean, maybe she okay, this could be right,

0:28:11.920 --> 0:28:13.280
<v Speaker 2>as like maybe she went and hooked up with an

0:28:13.320 --> 0:28:15.480
<v Speaker 2>old nigga to like make sure, like to show that

0:28:15.520 --> 0:28:20.879
<v Speaker 2>she got it or maybe she reached out. Yeah, it

0:28:20.880 --> 0:28:22.920
<v Speaker 2>sounds like that's what it is, you know what I

0:28:23.560 --> 0:28:25.040
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes sometimes you gotta do that.

0:28:25.119 --> 0:28:26.720
<v Speaker 3>You can sometimes you remember who the fuck you are,

0:28:26.720 --> 0:28:28.840
<v Speaker 3>and sometimes you got to outsource. Yeah, you could do

0:28:28.880 --> 0:28:31.640
<v Speaker 3>a lot of affirmations and shit, but sometimes you gotta

0:28:31.640 --> 0:28:34.600
<v Speaker 3>go out, put the freaking dress on, put on the stilettos,

0:28:34.800 --> 0:28:39.040
<v Speaker 3>and say, yeah, you see me, bitch, Yeah, you see me?

0:28:40.280 --> 0:28:41.560
<v Speaker 3>M yeah, do it?

0:28:41.680 --> 0:28:42.160
<v Speaker 2>I agree.

0:28:42.280 --> 0:28:46.280
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So you could do that with someone new, though

0:28:46.560 --> 0:28:47.880
<v Speaker 3>you don't have to do that with old people. You

0:28:47.880 --> 0:28:49.520
<v Speaker 3>could do that because you already know those niggas. You

0:28:49.520 --> 0:28:51.680
<v Speaker 3>already know those niggas want you. The niggas you.

0:28:51.640 --> 0:28:54.000
<v Speaker 2>Had, they still know what it is. Go outside, I

0:28:54.000 --> 0:28:55.720
<v Speaker 2>find some new niggas. I know. It does something about

0:28:55.800 --> 0:28:58.720
<v Speaker 2>knowing that they're still Yeah, yeah, you know about like

0:28:58.800 --> 0:29:00.120
<v Speaker 2>knowing that they.

0:29:01.680 --> 0:29:03.600
<v Speaker 3>Niggas like once a year, so you remember who the

0:29:03.600 --> 0:29:05.239
<v Speaker 3>fuck I am. Like if I blocked you all, I'm

0:29:05.240 --> 0:29:07.120
<v Speaker 3>block you if I remember, so I could be like

0:29:08.040 --> 0:29:11.520
<v Speaker 3>you see me, you see me, nicking, I know I

0:29:11.560 --> 0:29:14.240
<v Speaker 3>still look good. You lost, bitch, I.

0:29:15.000 --> 0:29:16.560
<v Speaker 2>Had X calming the other day and tell me how

0:29:16.600 --> 0:29:18.320
<v Speaker 2>amazing I was. And I was like, mm hmm, I

0:29:18.360 --> 0:29:21.200
<v Speaker 2>know that's great. Yeah, tell me more. M Yeah, thank you.

0:29:21.520 --> 0:29:25.520
<v Speaker 2>I did feel good evening. Lie Do I want that? Nigga? Now?

0:29:26.400 --> 0:29:29.680
<v Speaker 2>Do I like the validation? Yes? So I feel So.

0:29:31.280 --> 0:29:33.800
<v Speaker 2>Do you have any bad choices of the week, my dear.

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<v Speaker 3>You know I do. It was from last year and

0:29:37.360 --> 0:29:39.120
<v Speaker 3>it was like, you know, I like to tell things.

0:29:39.360 --> 0:29:41.240
<v Speaker 2>Should we take a shot for it? Sure?

0:29:42.200 --> 0:29:45.520
<v Speaker 3>Because techlony, you've only taken one because we're splitting them right.

0:29:45.600 --> 0:29:47.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so this is our second and one and a

0:29:47.760 --> 0:29:48.160
<v Speaker 2>half shot.

0:29:49.000 --> 0:29:51.000
<v Speaker 3>This is I'm gonna. I'm gonna. I'm gonna shorten this

0:29:51.080 --> 0:29:57.040
<v Speaker 3>because it's a ridiculously long and stupid story. But it's

0:29:57.080 --> 0:30:00.840
<v Speaker 3>really important because I should have listen to my cut.

0:30:00.720 --> 0:30:03.560
<v Speaker 2>Break it down. Let me take the shot. Are you

0:30:03.640 --> 0:30:06.360
<v Speaker 2>sure to listen to your best friend? Let's not forget

0:30:06.360 --> 0:30:10.080
<v Speaker 2>about that.

0:30:10.280 --> 0:30:14.400
<v Speaker 3>Eric Erica hates me, mabe Erica kind of a little

0:30:14.440 --> 0:30:15.640
<v Speaker 3>bit hates me making new friends.

0:30:15.760 --> 0:30:19.440
<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, no, once, I don't approve of this.

0:30:19.520 --> 0:30:24.720
<v Speaker 2>Once that you haven't passed my scorpios bidy senses. You know, cancers,

0:30:24.720 --> 0:30:28.600
<v Speaker 2>they love everybody I'd be like, now, okay, well let

0:30:28.640 --> 0:30:29.880
<v Speaker 2>me tell you. And it's not even that I didn't

0:30:29.920 --> 0:30:31.600
<v Speaker 2>love this bitch. I just knew where to keep her.

0:30:32.160 --> 0:30:35.640
<v Speaker 3>It's true, everybody, if you're cancer, you're crazy like me,

0:30:35.720 --> 0:30:38.000
<v Speaker 3>and you bring everybody in. You're like, you're my best friend.

0:30:42.560 --> 0:30:47.560
<v Speaker 3>My craziness of friendship fucking hoarning is insane. My drug

0:30:47.560 --> 0:30:50.640
<v Speaker 3>dealer thinks we're best friends. Really, and he calls me

0:30:50.720 --> 0:30:53.480
<v Speaker 3>all the time, okay, and he's always like last time

0:30:53.480 --> 0:30:55.440
<v Speaker 3>he called me, he's like, I fell out of my car.

0:30:55.800 --> 0:30:59.200
<v Speaker 3>Hell out, bitch, Sarah a black eye? Can I just

0:30:59.240 --> 0:31:02.120
<v Speaker 3>come over? I'm only with this nigga. And I'm like, okay,

0:31:02.160 --> 0:31:04.760
<v Speaker 3>come over. Fucking black guy giving he's a kid. That

0:31:04.840 --> 0:31:06.360
<v Speaker 3>the black woman thing you do? I was like, I

0:31:06.360 --> 0:31:08.560
<v Speaker 3>don't have any black tricks. I have is the black

0:31:08.560 --> 0:31:11.040
<v Speaker 3>woman thing? I don't know. He's Dominican from New York.

0:31:11.120 --> 0:31:12.480
<v Speaker 3>What in the fuck is he talking about?

0:31:12.760 --> 0:31:13.080
<v Speaker 2>Whatever?

0:31:13.080 --> 0:31:13.880
<v Speaker 3>I gave his nigga some.

0:31:13.800 --> 0:31:20.000
<v Speaker 2>Ice, like some ice and some fucking the what's the article?

0:31:20.800 --> 0:31:22.920
<v Speaker 3>Anyway? He called me on Valentine Say for no reason

0:31:22.960 --> 0:31:24.640
<v Speaker 3>at all. He's out of town. He's like, I'm like,

0:31:24.680 --> 0:31:28.680
<v Speaker 3>why are you calling me he's the drug dealer. He's

0:31:28.760 --> 0:31:30.720
<v Speaker 3>like talking to me, like, yeah, I'm just watching a

0:31:30.760 --> 0:31:33.600
<v Speaker 3>movie with my girl. It's snowing out here. I'm like, okay,

0:31:33.880 --> 0:31:36.240
<v Speaker 3>so we're just talking. I'm like, I'm the jacuzzie with Orlando.

0:31:36.280 --> 0:31:36.840
<v Speaker 3>He's like, tell him.

0:31:36.840 --> 0:31:37.239
<v Speaker 2>I said Hi.

0:31:37.280 --> 0:31:39.800
<v Speaker 3>I was like, someone tells Hi. Here goes this bache

0:31:39.840 --> 0:31:43.440
<v Speaker 3>in the background. Y'all fucking comfortable? I said, are you kidding?

0:31:43.600 --> 0:31:47.520
<v Speaker 3>I said, nigga, call me back. What the fuck? Why

0:31:47.560 --> 0:31:50.280
<v Speaker 3>the fuck is she nigga? I said, I'm married. He said,

0:31:50.280 --> 0:31:52.160
<v Speaker 3>He's like, she's with her man. I said, my husband,

0:31:52.760 --> 0:31:55.280
<v Speaker 3>her husband. I said, bye bye, don't stop calling me.

0:31:56.240 --> 0:31:59.400
<v Speaker 3>Why am I arguing with you? Arguing with her? This

0:31:59.480 --> 0:32:03.080
<v Speaker 3>is the part when my friendliness is just out of him. Anyway,

0:32:03.960 --> 0:32:08.000
<v Speaker 3>story time, last year, we had we because Erica likes

0:32:08.040 --> 0:32:12.400
<v Speaker 3>to forget that she also has these friends. We had

0:32:12.440 --> 0:32:18.120
<v Speaker 3>a friend and she was really adamant about like really

0:32:18.200 --> 0:32:20.280
<v Speaker 3>making new friends and spending time with friends that she

0:32:20.280 --> 0:32:21.720
<v Speaker 3>said she was going to make. So I was like,

0:32:21.880 --> 0:32:24.760
<v Speaker 3>I'm all game, let's hang out. She got a man

0:32:25.000 --> 0:32:27.280
<v Speaker 3>and we all started hanging out together. It was like

0:32:27.320 --> 0:32:29.360
<v Speaker 3>we're doing double dates. We're barbecue and we.

0:32:29.280 --> 0:32:30.600
<v Speaker 2>Did a few holidays together.

0:32:30.720 --> 0:32:35.719
<v Speaker 3>It was a full on thing. It was fine. Our

0:32:35.800 --> 0:32:37.520
<v Speaker 3>kids were hanging out. Even though our kids were like

0:32:37.520 --> 0:32:39.600
<v Speaker 3>low like, it was just it was we were creating

0:32:39.720 --> 0:32:46.959
<v Speaker 3>a little community. So she asked me in Orlando and

0:32:47.080 --> 0:32:49.000
<v Speaker 3>Luna if we want to go on a road trip

0:32:49.280 --> 0:32:52.680
<v Speaker 3>to I mean, I didn't say where, because a place,

0:32:52.840 --> 0:32:56.680
<v Speaker 3>a place in the mountains, and she and I said okay, sure,

0:32:57.600 --> 0:32:59.760
<v Speaker 3>I think. A couple of weeks later, we get we

0:33:00.200 --> 0:33:03.600
<v Speaker 3>our offer to go to breakfast club and the week

0:33:03.640 --> 0:33:05.360
<v Speaker 3>it was the weekend before we would be leaving like

0:33:05.400 --> 0:33:08.200
<v Speaker 3>that Monday or Tuesday. And I was like, damn, that's

0:33:08.240 --> 0:33:10.800
<v Speaker 3>pretty close. I really need to prepare. And I was like,

0:33:10.840 --> 0:33:12.520
<v Speaker 3>you know, I already agreed. Fuck it. She was like,

0:33:12.560 --> 0:33:14.760
<v Speaker 3>you guys don't have to pay for anything. She tells Orlando.

0:33:15.120 --> 0:33:16.520
<v Speaker 3>All you guys need, all he needs to do is

0:33:16.560 --> 0:33:18.720
<v Speaker 3>like help with driving. And Orlando's like, yeah, it's only

0:33:18.760 --> 0:33:21.200
<v Speaker 3>eight hours. I was there like six. I was like, babe,

0:33:21.360 --> 0:33:26.920
<v Speaker 3>that's not true. It's it's a strong twelve hours. He's like, no, no, no,

0:33:27.040 --> 0:33:30.400
<v Speaker 3>she said, like seven or eight hours. I said no. Anyway,

0:33:32.600 --> 0:33:35.280
<v Speaker 3>remember were supposed to leave I think Monday or Tuesday.

0:33:35.240 --> 0:33:36.920
<v Speaker 2>First, well, she telling me the story. She's like, I'm

0:33:37.000 --> 0:33:39.200
<v Speaker 2>leaving Friday, I'll be back Sunday. I'm like, this sounds

0:33:39.200 --> 0:33:43.720
<v Speaker 2>like a horrible plan for a twelve hour drive, and.

0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:46.000
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I know, but you know, I agreed. Okay,

0:33:47.800 --> 0:33:50.560
<v Speaker 3>So we were supposed to be Friday, but her genius

0:33:50.560 --> 0:33:53.920
<v Speaker 3>of a boyfriend didn't pick up the car Friday night,

0:33:54.000 --> 0:33:56.320
<v Speaker 3>so we had to wait till Saturday at nine am.

0:33:56.680 --> 0:34:00.880
<v Speaker 3>So me, Orlando and poor Luna is my shit. We

0:34:01.040 --> 0:34:03.880
<v Speaker 3>all he comes with this van. We all get in

0:34:03.880 --> 0:34:06.200
<v Speaker 3>the van. There's another there's another friend there. There's another

0:34:06.560 --> 0:34:09.760
<v Speaker 3>person there, another adult, like a younger adult, a cousin,

0:34:10.120 --> 0:34:14.279
<v Speaker 3>and this couple. So we start to drive in and

0:34:14.320 --> 0:34:19.360
<v Speaker 3>we get about three hours into the drive, we stop

0:34:19.400 --> 0:34:23.360
<v Speaker 3>and get gas. Okay, it's already late, we're already Saturday.

0:34:23.400 --> 0:34:24.760
<v Speaker 3>We're coming back Sunday.

0:34:24.840 --> 0:34:26.759
<v Speaker 2>It's pretty stupid, but fuck it.

0:34:28.120 --> 0:34:31.520
<v Speaker 3>So we get gas. Then we leave the gas station

0:34:31.680 --> 0:34:34.000
<v Speaker 3>and we get back on the freeway. About one minute

0:34:34.000 --> 0:34:44.799
<v Speaker 3>into the freeway, the car stops and immediately I knew

0:34:44.800 --> 0:34:48.600
<v Speaker 3>something was wrong and I said, we're stopped and he's like,

0:34:48.719 --> 0:34:50.920
<v Speaker 3>I don't know, no, no, keep in mind, this person's

0:34:50.920 --> 0:34:53.120
<v Speaker 3>in the military, So you would think there's like a

0:34:53.160 --> 0:34:55.960
<v Speaker 3>certain level of intelligence that you have to have to

0:34:56.040 --> 0:34:59.560
<v Speaker 3>be in the US military, right or like whatever. So

0:34:59.640 --> 0:35:01.799
<v Speaker 3>the first thing I say is what kind of guys

0:35:01.840 --> 0:35:08.320
<v Speaker 3>did you put in the car? He says Diesel? Sorry,

0:35:10.000 --> 0:35:15.799
<v Speaker 3>he says Diesel. It's a twelve passenger van. Why And

0:35:15.840 --> 0:35:18.920
<v Speaker 3>I just got quiet real quick. I was like, I

0:35:18.960 --> 0:35:22.960
<v Speaker 3>don't know. I ain't no expert. But he's like, the

0:35:23.000 --> 0:35:26.120
<v Speaker 3>calf was yellow, so I put in Diesel.

0:35:26.200 --> 0:35:27.520
<v Speaker 2>I said, I don't know about none of that.

0:35:29.360 --> 0:35:31.040
<v Speaker 3>So we're sitting on the side of the road, and

0:35:31.080 --> 0:35:33.279
<v Speaker 3>we're like in the middle of California. And if you're

0:35:33.320 --> 0:35:35.479
<v Speaker 3>from California, know there's not shit in the middle. Okay,

0:35:35.520 --> 0:35:39.319
<v Speaker 3>there's La there's Sacramento, there's San Francisco, there's nothing in

0:35:39.360 --> 0:35:42.719
<v Speaker 3>the middle of Suddenly you're in a farmland. Suddenly you're

0:35:42.719 --> 0:35:45.400
<v Speaker 3>in the country with the weirdos, with the weirdos with nothing.

0:35:45.880 --> 0:35:47.040
<v Speaker 3>We're on the side of the road.

0:35:48.160 --> 0:35:54.400
<v Speaker 2>I google yellow cap not correct. Why why was it yellow?

0:35:54.920 --> 0:35:58.320
<v Speaker 3>Because it's for it's for carbon, it's for something easily

0:35:58.320 --> 0:36:01.920
<v Speaker 3>googleble a google abowl. Okay, anybody, First of all, I'm

0:36:01.960 --> 0:36:04.040
<v Speaker 3>not a car bage, but I'm an independent bitch. I've

0:36:04.040 --> 0:36:07.080
<v Speaker 3>been alone in this life as an adult for a

0:36:07.080 --> 0:36:08.960
<v Speaker 3>long time. I've heard some stories. I know for a

0:36:08.960 --> 0:36:11.120
<v Speaker 3>motherfucking fact, you put diesel on a car, it's fucked.

0:36:11.160 --> 0:36:11.640
<v Speaker 3>You're done.

0:36:12.800 --> 0:36:15.600
<v Speaker 2>I text Orlando immediately he put diesel.

0:36:15.600 --> 0:36:20.200
<v Speaker 3>We're fucked. I text him where fucked. I start looking

0:36:20.400 --> 0:36:23.160
<v Speaker 3>at Ubers rental cars.

0:36:23.320 --> 0:36:25.080
<v Speaker 2>I Uber.

0:36:25.719 --> 0:36:28.600
<v Speaker 3>There's no Uber anywhere in sight, because you're in the

0:36:28.600 --> 0:36:31.319
<v Speaker 3>middle of nowhere. This nigga, Oh my god, this is

0:36:31.320 --> 0:36:32.560
<v Speaker 3>where it really gets.

0:36:34.040 --> 0:36:34.360
<v Speaker 2>Clear.

0:36:35.200 --> 0:36:38.480
<v Speaker 3>They're in the front seat. He's talking to her like

0:36:39.120 --> 0:36:41.399
<v Speaker 3>I am gonna. I'm calling the car people right now.

0:36:42.000 --> 0:36:44.520
<v Speaker 3>We're all behind them. I can I could see him.

0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:49.200
<v Speaker 3>He's like, he's like yeah. At no point does he

0:36:49.280 --> 0:36:52.759
<v Speaker 3>say fuck, I don't think it's diesel. Fuck I fucked up. Hey,

0:36:52.840 --> 0:36:57.480
<v Speaker 3>guys right behind me, my bat nothing. He's whispering like

0:36:57.520 --> 0:37:02.920
<v Speaker 3>a little fucking mouse, acting like he's on the phone. Bitch,

0:37:03.080 --> 0:37:05.640
<v Speaker 3>we are in beasts bumblefuck. These people are not coming

0:37:05.680 --> 0:37:06.280
<v Speaker 3>to get us.

0:37:06.680 --> 0:37:07.160
<v Speaker 2>I mean a way.

0:37:07.160 --> 0:37:08.520
<v Speaker 3>I don't get out the car to go smoke a blunt.

0:37:10.040 --> 0:37:14.239
<v Speaker 3>And I said, nigga. He said, nigga, we're in the

0:37:14.320 --> 0:37:19.799
<v Speaker 3>We're like in the fields like nigga, nigga. He's like,

0:37:19.800 --> 0:37:22.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna go walk back. We're trying to look at ubers.

0:37:22.160 --> 0:37:24.960
<v Speaker 3>Nothing is insight. He starts walking back to the exit,

0:37:25.000 --> 0:37:26.680
<v Speaker 3>which is some ways the way. At this point it's

0:37:26.719 --> 0:37:30.000
<v Speaker 3>like far, it's not we can't even see it.

0:37:29.280 --> 0:37:30.560
<v Speaker 2>Like one minute away in a car.

0:37:31.440 --> 0:37:33.480
<v Speaker 3>It's so as he walks away, I tell her, I said,

0:37:33.719 --> 0:37:36.880
<v Speaker 3>this ain't no diesel car. She's like, I know. I

0:37:36.960 --> 0:37:37.720
<v Speaker 3>told him.

0:37:37.960 --> 0:37:40.480
<v Speaker 2>And she's a pretty cut throat bitch cutthroat.

0:37:40.600 --> 0:37:43.839
<v Speaker 3>So I was like, Wow, she's being really gentle, and

0:37:44.000 --> 0:37:48.240
<v Speaker 3>I figured, there's this is already. It's her child's sixteenth birthday.

0:37:48.680 --> 0:37:51.160
<v Speaker 3>Her child is waiting for us in ated and like

0:37:51.480 --> 0:37:53.759
<v Speaker 3>a destination, and then we have to go to the

0:37:53.760 --> 0:37:56.600
<v Speaker 3>second destination. It's all bad and I'm with my fucking

0:37:56.680 --> 0:38:01.520
<v Speaker 3>ten year old. Okay, So finally hours start going by,

0:38:01.560 --> 0:38:05.160
<v Speaker 3>we start realizing we're not close to shit. We end

0:38:05.280 --> 0:38:06.680
<v Speaker 3>up they're like, we have to call the police, and

0:38:06.719 --> 0:38:08.920
<v Speaker 3>I was like, I don't know, you guys black people

0:38:08.960 --> 0:38:12.600
<v Speaker 3>calling the police in East bumblefuck, Like oh no, Like

0:38:12.680 --> 0:38:14.600
<v Speaker 3>that doesn't seem like what we should do. But then

0:38:14.640 --> 0:38:16.160
<v Speaker 3>like she's like, we don't have a choice, and I

0:38:16.200 --> 0:38:19.239
<v Speaker 3>was like, okay, with all this shit in the car,

0:38:19.280 --> 0:38:21.799
<v Speaker 3>we have our luggage. Highway patrol comes to get us.

0:38:22.080 --> 0:38:25.040
<v Speaker 3>He's like, it's about to be traffic hour, bitches. I

0:38:25.080 --> 0:38:26.960
<v Speaker 3>can take you in one bag. I can take two

0:38:27.000 --> 0:38:29.440
<v Speaker 3>trips each of you one back. So me, Orlando and

0:38:29.520 --> 0:38:31.839
<v Speaker 3>Luna get in the back of a cop car with

0:38:31.880 --> 0:38:35.440
<v Speaker 3>one bag each. First I have to put my child

0:38:35.480 --> 0:38:38.560
<v Speaker 3>in a cop car. It's a black woman. This is crazy.

0:38:39.280 --> 0:38:43.120
<v Speaker 3>We get in the car. We're laughing. Thank god, I mean, Orlando,

0:38:43.160 --> 0:38:46.520
<v Speaker 3>are chill people because we're me. Orlando and Luda are

0:38:46.560 --> 0:38:50.239
<v Speaker 3>cracking up, Like what the fuck. We get to the

0:38:50.360 --> 0:38:54.880
<v Speaker 3>fucking rest stop. There's nothing there. At this point, the

0:38:55.000 --> 0:38:58.319
<v Speaker 3>air is thick. No one's saying much. They go get

0:38:58.320 --> 0:39:00.560
<v Speaker 3>the second round of people. We finally get in contact

0:39:00.600 --> 0:39:04.839
<v Speaker 3>with a tow truck. The tow truck, NIGGD, comes hours later.

0:39:04.920 --> 0:39:06.680
<v Speaker 3>This is like, at this point, four hours, this is

0:39:06.840 --> 0:39:10.200
<v Speaker 3>just we're it's the sun is going down. Somehow. We

0:39:10.280 --> 0:39:15.360
<v Speaker 3>bribe the guy to to load the van on the

0:39:15.360 --> 0:39:17.359
<v Speaker 3>back of the truck with us in it to take

0:39:17.440 --> 0:39:20.880
<v Speaker 3>us to the nearest city, which is an hour and

0:39:20.920 --> 0:39:23.400
<v Speaker 3>a half away. We like throw him some money, and

0:39:23.400 --> 0:39:25.239
<v Speaker 3>he's like, listen, I'm really not supposed to do this.

0:39:25.520 --> 0:39:29.480
<v Speaker 3>You guys, stay down, don't turn your phones on. I

0:39:29.480 --> 0:39:32.880
<v Speaker 3>can't have any phone reflecting, like no lights, just you

0:39:33.000 --> 0:39:35.680
<v Speaker 3>gotta stay down. Like this is really I can I'm

0:39:35.719 --> 0:39:37.960
<v Speaker 3>not supposed to do this. So Luna's hearing this, so

0:39:38.000 --> 0:39:41.359
<v Speaker 3>she's like, we have like ice cream because we were

0:39:41.480 --> 0:39:42.879
<v Speaker 3>at the ice cream set. We're all in the back

0:39:42.920 --> 0:39:45.560
<v Speaker 3>of this van. We're in a twelve steter van on

0:39:45.600 --> 0:39:48.839
<v Speaker 3>top of a tow truck, so we're just like we're

0:39:48.880 --> 0:39:57.160
<v Speaker 3>like bent down. Like Luna's like, he's like, it's cold.

0:39:57.160 --> 0:40:00.480
<v Speaker 3>It starts beginning to get cold. Go my phone, and

0:40:00.560 --> 0:40:03.799
<v Speaker 3>it was like, turn your phone off. So then I

0:40:03.800 --> 0:40:05.800
<v Speaker 3>turn on some music. She's like turn it off. I'm like, Luna,

0:40:05.840 --> 0:40:07.880
<v Speaker 3>they can't hear the music. She's like, turn it off.

0:40:08.520 --> 0:40:12.600
<v Speaker 3>She's frightened. Me and Orlando are cracking up because at

0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:14.440
<v Speaker 3>this point we're like this is I literally was like,

0:40:14.480 --> 0:40:16.120
<v Speaker 3>should we call should we try.

0:40:15.920 --> 0:40:16.399
<v Speaker 2>To go back?

0:40:17.239 --> 0:40:19.480
<v Speaker 3>But there's no way to get back, there's no ubers.

0:40:22.560 --> 0:40:27.600
<v Speaker 3>Two hours later, keep in mind three hours driving about

0:40:27.640 --> 0:40:31.640
<v Speaker 3>three hours and this desolate parking off the Furry place.

0:40:32.160 --> 0:40:35.279
<v Speaker 3>Then we get in the back of a fucking van

0:40:35.520 --> 0:40:37.919
<v Speaker 3>on a fucking trailer track on the fucking tow truck.

0:40:37.960 --> 0:40:41.920
<v Speaker 3>We get to the parking lot. We jump off of

0:40:41.960 --> 0:40:45.520
<v Speaker 3>this machine. Immediately we're like, I gotta get food. The

0:40:45.600 --> 0:40:50.000
<v Speaker 3>two smart ones who plan the trip they have to

0:40:50.040 --> 0:40:52.200
<v Speaker 3>go rent another car, so two of them get in

0:40:52.239 --> 0:40:55.200
<v Speaker 3>ano Uber. The rest of us go get food because

0:40:55.200 --> 0:40:58.359
<v Speaker 3>there happens to be like a food situation. And one

0:40:58.400 --> 0:41:00.640
<v Speaker 3>of the girls, it was her little cousin be nineteen.

0:41:00.800 --> 0:41:03.320
<v Speaker 3>We were kind of close to the to where we're going.

0:41:03.600 --> 0:41:06.000
<v Speaker 3>She somehow gets a ride. She said, I'm out.

0:41:06.160 --> 0:41:08.839
<v Speaker 4>She got a rhymee, she got a ryde want her

0:41:08.840 --> 0:41:09.880
<v Speaker 4>homegirls picked her up.

0:41:10.239 --> 0:41:13.120
<v Speaker 3>I was jealous as shit. I was like, you're not out.

0:41:13.160 --> 0:41:14.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm getting the fuck out of here.

0:41:14.680 --> 0:41:17.000
<v Speaker 3>She was nineteen. She was like, I'm out. So we

0:41:17.080 --> 0:41:19.080
<v Speaker 3>go to the thing. We were like like, the other

0:41:19.120 --> 0:41:22.000
<v Speaker 3>girl is friends with her, like really friends, so I'm

0:41:22.040 --> 0:41:24.960
<v Speaker 3>like trying not to talk shit me Orlando. Luna's just

0:41:25.000 --> 0:41:27.479
<v Speaker 3>like we eat.

0:41:27.520 --> 0:41:28.440
<v Speaker 2>They come back with the car.

0:41:28.520 --> 0:41:32.400
<v Speaker 3>We jam into this car, repack the stuff, abandon that car,

0:41:34.920 --> 0:41:35.960
<v Speaker 3>drive two more.

0:41:35.800 --> 0:41:39.120
<v Speaker 2>Hours to an airport where there's one car.

0:41:39.040 --> 0:41:43.719
<v Speaker 3>Left because we can't all fit because we still had

0:41:43.719 --> 0:41:45.520
<v Speaker 3>to pick up her kid and her kid's friends car.

0:41:45.920 --> 0:41:48.720
<v Speaker 2>It is a Mustang crossover suv.

0:41:48.920 --> 0:41:51.360
<v Speaker 3>But here's the catch. It's electric.

0:41:51.560 --> 0:41:52.520
<v Speaker 2>Oh fuck.

0:41:54.160 --> 0:41:58.160
<v Speaker 3>Okay, so we slid up. They go get the kids,

0:41:58.200 --> 0:42:02.000
<v Speaker 3>her kids, Meat or Land know, Luna and this woman

0:42:02.200 --> 0:42:05.440
<v Speaker 3>that's her friend get in this electric car. We drive

0:42:05.880 --> 0:42:08.000
<v Speaker 3>to the woman just happens to have an apartment. Okay,

0:42:08.040 --> 0:42:09.719
<v Speaker 3>I'm just gonna take the places because it's stressing me out.

0:42:09.960 --> 0:42:12.120
<v Speaker 3>Happens to have a place in Oakland. We're going to

0:42:12.160 --> 0:42:15.239
<v Speaker 3>Lake Tahoe. She's like, I'm gonna take a shower because

0:42:15.239 --> 0:42:17.360
<v Speaker 3>she had flown in from Atlanta to LA to do

0:42:17.440 --> 0:42:19.320
<v Speaker 3>this road trip. So now we're in the middle of

0:42:19.400 --> 0:42:21.440
<v Speaker 3>this thing. So she's like, I haven't showered. I have

0:42:21.440 --> 0:42:24.279
<v Speaker 3>an apartment in Oakland. We stop at her apartment. They

0:42:24.360 --> 0:42:27.080
<v Speaker 3>keep going. Me and Orlando are like, how long we're

0:42:27.080 --> 0:42:29.120
<v Speaker 3>gonna be in here? She's taking like an hour long shower,

0:42:29.160 --> 0:42:31.760
<v Speaker 3>and we're like, where's the balcony? Can we smoke? Luna

0:42:31.840 --> 0:42:33.080
<v Speaker 3>is like, what the fuck? It's night. It's like a

0:42:33.200 --> 0:42:36.160
<v Speaker 3>it's like ten pm at this point. Finally we get

0:42:36.200 --> 0:42:39.400
<v Speaker 3>back in this electric car. We start driving to Tahoe.

0:42:40.760 --> 0:42:42.960
<v Speaker 3>We fall asleep. I hear her on the phone with

0:42:43.000 --> 0:42:45.719
<v Speaker 3>Alamo or whatever. The fuck is there a charger in

0:42:45.760 --> 0:42:49.640
<v Speaker 3>this car? Because I don't see a converter. I was like,

0:42:49.640 --> 0:42:51.920
<v Speaker 3>there's no way we left, and she'd this bitch who

0:42:52.000 --> 0:42:53.920
<v Speaker 3>has an electric She's like, I have electric car for

0:42:54.000 --> 0:42:55.839
<v Speaker 3>years and I don't see a converter. I was like,

0:42:56.760 --> 0:42:58.680
<v Speaker 3>So we start going up the hill to Tahoe and

0:42:58.719 --> 0:43:00.719
<v Speaker 3>I don't know sit about electric car, but now I do.

0:43:01.120 --> 0:43:04.120
<v Speaker 3>You start going uphill, bitch, The electricity starts going down quick,

0:43:04.840 --> 0:43:07.640
<v Speaker 3>so we pull. She's having this conversation on the way up.

0:43:07.680 --> 0:43:09.720
<v Speaker 3>Then I fall back asleep. Then we get to a charger.

0:43:10.000 --> 0:43:13.439
<v Speaker 3>She can't find the converter, and it's cold now because

0:43:13.440 --> 0:43:16.520
<v Speaker 3>we've started going into this mountain. It has to be

0:43:16.560 --> 0:43:19.480
<v Speaker 3>like one in the morning at this point. Finally we

0:43:19.640 --> 0:43:22.840
<v Speaker 3>find a charger that takes a universal fucking card. We

0:43:22.920 --> 0:43:25.120
<v Speaker 3>have to like turn the car off four to charge's

0:43:25.160 --> 0:43:27.160
<v Speaker 3>like forty five minutes. Like this shit doesn't charge fast.

0:43:27.239 --> 0:43:30.080
<v Speaker 3>It's like an hour of forty five minute charge, so

0:43:30.120 --> 0:43:33.839
<v Speaker 3>we had to stop again. We finally get up this

0:43:33.960 --> 0:43:37.800
<v Speaker 3>mountain to this fucking cabin. There's no jacuzzi, which everybody

0:43:37.840 --> 0:43:40.960
<v Speaker 3>knows you never go on a ski trip without any jacuzzi.

0:43:41.160 --> 0:43:44.960
<v Speaker 3>What the fuck? So then we get there, they're all

0:43:45.080 --> 0:43:47.120
<v Speaker 3>sleep and was there?

0:43:47.320 --> 0:43:47.839
<v Speaker 2>Who is them?

0:43:47.920 --> 0:43:52.399
<v Speaker 3>Oh? Her the smart boyfriend, their kid, her the kid's friend.

0:43:52.440 --> 0:43:54.320
<v Speaker 3>And now we have finally made it to the house

0:43:54.840 --> 0:43:56.480
<v Speaker 3>and like, at this point, all you could really do

0:43:56.560 --> 0:44:01.560
<v Speaker 3>is laugh. The point of this story is, anyway, the

0:44:01.600 --> 0:44:04.319
<v Speaker 3>next day we wake up. We have one day. We

0:44:04.400 --> 0:44:06.560
<v Speaker 3>have one day. We just got in eight hours ago.

0:44:06.600 --> 0:44:08.719
<v Speaker 3>I mean, like, I'm really trying to ski. We make

0:44:08.719 --> 0:44:11.520
<v Speaker 3>these plans to ski. Orlando and the boyfriend have to

0:44:11.560 --> 0:44:14.520
<v Speaker 3>go charge the car, get groceries, so they leave. We

0:44:14.560 --> 0:44:16.840
<v Speaker 3>get dressed to go to the mountain. We get to

0:44:16.920 --> 0:44:19.359
<v Speaker 3>the mountain, they meet us. They meet us there from

0:44:19.400 --> 0:44:22.279
<v Speaker 3>the market because it's closer, like everything's like it's forty

0:44:22.280 --> 0:44:25.040
<v Speaker 3>five minutes to an hour. Orlando is like, I'm out,

0:44:25.080 --> 0:44:28.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm getting out the car. He She goes to him,

0:44:28.880 --> 0:44:32.200
<v Speaker 3>where's your outfit? We had matching outphits. We search for

0:44:32.239 --> 0:44:35.920
<v Speaker 3>your outfit for an hour. Alta goes, haha, I'm leaving.

0:44:36.640 --> 0:44:39.160
<v Speaker 3>So I put Orlando and Luna on a ski lesson.

0:44:39.360 --> 0:44:41.759
<v Speaker 3>I'm on the mountain because I'm gonna milk the fuck

0:44:41.760 --> 0:44:45.920
<v Speaker 3>out of this eight hours. Anyway, we come back to

0:44:45.920 --> 0:44:48.719
<v Speaker 3>the bottom of the hill, the skiing has concluded, and

0:44:48.880 --> 0:44:52.359
<v Speaker 3>Orlando with his fucking Aquarius mouth, looks at the guy

0:44:53.000 --> 0:44:56.240
<v Speaker 3>after we go eat and goes, ha, she made you change,

0:44:56.320 --> 0:45:00.239
<v Speaker 3>didn't she. He's wearing, he's laced down in t in

0:45:00.360 --> 0:45:04.480
<v Speaker 3>pink full winter soup, full for full winter soup. Mash

0:45:04.560 --> 0:45:06.200
<v Speaker 3>it with this bitch, and he goes, you went back

0:45:06.239 --> 0:45:07.879
<v Speaker 3>to the house and change. The house was forty five

0:45:07.920 --> 0:45:08.560
<v Speaker 3>minutes away.

0:45:08.840 --> 0:45:11.279
<v Speaker 2>He was like, I didn't. She didn't make me. I

0:45:11.320 --> 0:45:11.799
<v Speaker 2>wanted to.

0:45:12.280 --> 0:45:14.480
<v Speaker 3>And then he's like and then so we're like, Orlando

0:45:14.560 --> 0:45:19.520
<v Speaker 3>is so obnoxious. She made you change. If you don't

0:45:19.520 --> 0:45:21.719
<v Speaker 3>know Orlando, you're gonna know he's gonna be obnoxious. If

0:45:21.719 --> 0:45:23.960
<v Speaker 3>you can't handle that type of like criticism, you're not

0:45:23.960 --> 0:45:27.279
<v Speaker 3>gonna like him at all. So then we're finishing our meal,

0:45:27.280 --> 0:45:28.680
<v Speaker 3>we're about to go in, and I was like, let's go.

0:45:28.760 --> 0:45:30.800
<v Speaker 3>I'm wet, I gotta take a shower, and this nigga

0:45:30.840 --> 0:45:32.880
<v Speaker 3>goes I didn't, Yeah, meet too. I got a shower,

0:45:32.920 --> 0:45:35.560
<v Speaker 3>and Orlando goes, so you went all the way back

0:45:35.560 --> 0:45:38.480
<v Speaker 3>to the house and you don't wash your ass and

0:45:38.600 --> 0:45:42.399
<v Speaker 3>continues to laugh like this hysterically in this nigga's face.

0:45:43.200 --> 0:45:44.879
<v Speaker 3>I thought it was funny. I thought this is your

0:45:45.000 --> 0:45:48.560
<v Speaker 3>valid points and I thought we were joking around. Keep

0:45:48.560 --> 0:45:51.759
<v Speaker 3>in mind this nigga took the electric car to the

0:45:51.840 --> 0:45:56.680
<v Speaker 3>house and back that we just charged. Now instead somebody,

0:45:56.680 --> 0:45:58.520
<v Speaker 3>don't use this as an opportunity. We get back to

0:45:58.560 --> 0:46:00.279
<v Speaker 3>the house and we say we're gonna go to the

0:46:00.320 --> 0:46:02.520
<v Speaker 3>car for tomorrow's departure because we have to leave at

0:46:02.600 --> 0:46:08.080
<v Speaker 3>ten am. Me goes park the car, plug it in,

0:46:08.160 --> 0:46:10.840
<v Speaker 3>we go, get some drinks. We come back like we'd

0:46:11.160 --> 0:46:14.320
<v Speaker 3>The part that really killed me is this nigga never apologized,

0:46:14.360 --> 0:46:16.640
<v Speaker 3>He never said my bad, I fucked up.

0:46:17.000 --> 0:46:21.600
<v Speaker 5>He's just fucking creepy, crawling around the back of her

0:46:21.719 --> 0:46:24.160
<v Speaker 5>at like her little fucking puppy, and this type of

0:46:24.200 --> 0:46:28.000
<v Speaker 5>person Like I really love this person, and I don't

0:46:28.000 --> 0:46:30.920
<v Speaker 5>think she's a bad person, but I think this is

0:46:30.920 --> 0:46:33.400
<v Speaker 5>the type of relationship she's thriving. And she went someone's

0:46:33.400 --> 0:46:35.600
<v Speaker 5>gonna kiss her ass. And this nigga, I don't even

0:46:35.640 --> 0:46:37.959
<v Speaker 5>know if he has a personality outside of her. And

0:46:38.320 --> 0:46:41.640
<v Speaker 5>so all this to say, in friendship.

0:46:41.320 --> 0:46:46.239
<v Speaker 3>Dynamics, be loving, but also have like discriminative awareness, and

0:46:46.320 --> 0:46:48.520
<v Speaker 3>it's not about like she doesn't drink or any of

0:46:48.560 --> 0:46:50.040
<v Speaker 3>those things, and that's not even that's not even the

0:46:50.040 --> 0:46:51.840
<v Speaker 3>basis of our friendship. And that was fine, but like

0:46:51.920 --> 0:46:55.600
<v Speaker 3>there was a personality thing that was like very much,

0:46:56.719 --> 0:46:58.560
<v Speaker 3>I don't know, there was a dynamic that I didn't

0:46:58.560 --> 0:46:59.440
<v Speaker 3>feel comfortable with.

0:47:00.040 --> 0:47:01.879
<v Speaker 2>One time I slept at her house.

0:47:01.760 --> 0:47:04.239
<v Speaker 3>And we went on we did a class together and

0:47:04.760 --> 0:47:07.320
<v Speaker 3>her boyfriend had woke up at four in the morning

0:47:07.440 --> 0:47:10.480
<v Speaker 3>to repaint a wall her blue and it was the

0:47:10.520 --> 0:47:12.600
<v Speaker 3>wrong shade of blue. And she was like, he's gonna

0:47:12.640 --> 0:47:14.440
<v Speaker 3>have to change that, and I was like, what do

0:47:14.520 --> 0:47:15.960
<v Speaker 3>you mean. She's like, I was like, are you sure.

0:47:16.040 --> 0:47:17.840
<v Speaker 3>It's like it's not good enough. She's like, it's not

0:47:17.880 --> 0:47:20.640
<v Speaker 3>the right blue. He woke up at four in the

0:47:20.680 --> 0:47:22.759
<v Speaker 3>morning to paint the wall blue and then she says,

0:47:22.800 --> 0:47:24.799
<v Speaker 3>it's not the right blue. You know what he did?

0:47:25.760 --> 0:47:30.320
<v Speaker 3>He repainted the next morning a different blue. I said, oh, bitch,

0:47:30.960 --> 0:47:34.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm uncomfortable. Is he your slave? Like the link twice?

0:47:34.360 --> 0:47:34.920
<v Speaker 3>Are you okay?

0:47:35.040 --> 0:47:35.320
<v Speaker 2>Nigga?

0:47:35.880 --> 0:47:43.920
<v Speaker 3>He was like it was weird. So anyway, we're driving

0:47:44.000 --> 0:47:49.640
<v Speaker 3>back down after all of this, and it just got weird.

0:47:49.840 --> 0:47:52.080
<v Speaker 3>And I was just like I was. I was so

0:47:52.160 --> 0:47:55.279
<v Speaker 3>annoyed by the dynamic. I had gotten over it, but like,

0:47:55.320 --> 0:47:57.719
<v Speaker 3>the more I peeped the dynamic in a day to

0:47:57.800 --> 0:47:59.920
<v Speaker 3>day basis, even if it was two to three days,

0:48:00.080 --> 0:48:02.880
<v Speaker 3>I was like, this is crazy that he would disrespect

0:48:03.000 --> 0:48:05.960
<v Speaker 3>us so much not to even acknowledge his wrongdoing. It

0:48:06.000 --> 0:48:10.120
<v Speaker 3>was just a weird ass dynamic. And when I did

0:48:10.160 --> 0:48:14.239
<v Speaker 3>finally speak to her, she was like, the only thing

0:48:14.280 --> 0:48:17.279
<v Speaker 3>she remembered is that Orlando laughed at him, laughed at him,

0:48:17.520 --> 0:48:20.600
<v Speaker 3>And what she said was he said you're a little bitch.

0:48:21.400 --> 0:48:22.959
<v Speaker 3>And I know he didn't say that because the kids

0:48:22.960 --> 0:48:25.239
<v Speaker 3>were right there, We're at pizza. And I was like, oh,

0:48:25.239 --> 0:48:27.799
<v Speaker 3>that's what you heard, and that's probably was underlying in

0:48:27.840 --> 0:48:28.280
<v Speaker 3>the sentence.

0:48:28.280 --> 0:48:30.480
<v Speaker 2>I can't even imagine Orlando was saying he's a little bitch.

0:48:30.560 --> 0:48:33.239
<v Speaker 2>He would have never said that, but the laughter and

0:48:33.280 --> 0:48:35.480
<v Speaker 2>the like you with that probably was what you went

0:48:35.520 --> 0:48:38.440
<v Speaker 2>and changed. You heard the laughter. The point is you

0:48:38.480 --> 0:48:45.719
<v Speaker 2>know your man's a little bitch. Oh yeah, this is unfortunate.

0:48:45.760 --> 0:48:48.320
<v Speaker 3>Tale. This is when I was texting Erica about the

0:48:48.719 --> 0:48:50.080
<v Speaker 3>day to day of this trip, she was like, you're

0:48:50.080 --> 0:48:50.520
<v Speaker 3>fuck lying.

0:48:50.560 --> 0:48:53.640
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I'm not fucking lying. I'm not lying.

0:48:53.800 --> 0:48:57.600
<v Speaker 3>It's crazy, and like, towards the end of the trip,

0:48:57.680 --> 0:49:02.120
<v Speaker 3>it just got increasingly weirder, Like it just got increasingly weirder.

0:49:02.280 --> 0:49:05.520
<v Speaker 3>She made that segment, and I was like, so then Orlando, Orlando,

0:49:05.600 --> 0:49:08.040
<v Speaker 3>she had been filming here at at our studio. Orlando

0:49:08.120 --> 0:49:10.160
<v Speaker 3>had been doing some work for her, and Orlando kept

0:49:10.160 --> 0:49:12.080
<v Speaker 3>telling me she's not paying my invoice. She's not paying

0:49:12.080 --> 0:49:13.840
<v Speaker 3>my invoice, And I was like, are you sure? He's like,

0:49:13.960 --> 0:49:16.560
<v Speaker 3>look at these text messages. The text messages were like

0:49:16.719 --> 0:49:19.600
<v Speaker 3>HR style text messages. Things were underlined, things were high.

0:49:19.640 --> 0:49:22.400
<v Speaker 3>I was even who could underline? And text messages like

0:49:22.440 --> 0:49:26.160
<v Speaker 3>before I, uh, fulfill the payment, you need to do X,

0:49:26.280 --> 0:49:27.680
<v Speaker 3>Y and Z. And I was like, why is she

0:49:27.760 --> 0:49:30.240
<v Speaker 3>talking to you like we're not friends? Keep in mind,

0:49:30.280 --> 0:49:34.280
<v Speaker 3>the invoice is for five hundred dollars, not five thousand,

0:49:34.920 --> 0:49:40.239
<v Speaker 3>not fifty thousand, five hundred dollars. So finally, Orlando was

0:49:40.239 --> 0:49:43.440
<v Speaker 3>getting super annoyed, and finally, and I wasn't trying to

0:49:43.440 --> 0:49:45.759
<v Speaker 3>get involved. So I finally fucking say let me. She

0:49:45.840 --> 0:49:47.120
<v Speaker 3>calls me, and I said, let me just fucking hear

0:49:47.239 --> 0:49:52.200
<v Speaker 3>this call. I said, hey, girl, did you did Orlando

0:49:52.320 --> 0:49:54.560
<v Speaker 3>fulfill all of his duties for this month of January?

0:49:54.640 --> 0:49:56.760
<v Speaker 3>She's like yeah, I said, well, why haven't you fulfilled

0:49:56.760 --> 0:50:00.000
<v Speaker 3>this invoice? Oh? I intend to. I just going to

0:50:00.120 --> 0:50:04.480
<v Speaker 3>some changes, and yeah, I just he started the He

0:50:04.560 --> 0:50:06.200
<v Speaker 3>started it, so I figured he should wrap it out

0:50:06.239 --> 0:50:08.480
<v Speaker 3>the same way. I said, But that has nothing to

0:50:08.520 --> 0:50:11.960
<v Speaker 3>do with this this invoice. Yeah, but I thought, and

0:50:12.000 --> 0:50:15.759
<v Speaker 3>I was like, yeah, this is weird. Even as a

0:50:16.360 --> 0:50:19.440
<v Speaker 3>business woman, even if you're not my friend, even if

0:50:19.440 --> 0:50:21.480
<v Speaker 3>I'm not going to continue to work with you, I

0:50:21.520 --> 0:50:23.360
<v Speaker 3>will fulfill an invoice because what you're not gonna do

0:50:23.440 --> 0:50:25.439
<v Speaker 3>is go around and tell people the good Moms didn't

0:50:25.440 --> 0:50:30.280
<v Speaker 3>pay you, especially for five hundred fucking dollars. Baby. Till

0:50:30.360 --> 0:50:32.960
<v Speaker 3>this fucking day, this bitch has not paid this invoice.

0:50:33.080 --> 0:50:36.160
<v Speaker 2>She hasn't paid, never paid. She never paid me never,

0:50:36.480 --> 0:50:37.080
<v Speaker 2>are you kidding?

0:50:37.080 --> 0:50:38.560
<v Speaker 3>I ran into her at the gym, like I haven't

0:50:38.600 --> 0:50:43.440
<v Speaker 3>set aside. Okay girl, Okay.

0:50:44.120 --> 0:50:46.120
<v Speaker 2>I didn't know. I thought that I thought she paid it.

0:50:46.320 --> 0:50:49.360
<v Speaker 3>This is someone who is always talking about money, always

0:50:49.360 --> 0:50:52.040
<v Speaker 3>talking about her sales, always talking about her business. And

0:50:52.080 --> 0:50:53.520
<v Speaker 3>that was another thing I started to realize there was

0:50:53.560 --> 0:51:01.240
<v Speaker 3>a disconnect. Weird it's it's it's Saturday at nine pm. Oh, oh,

0:51:01.400 --> 0:51:04.960
<v Speaker 3>why are we talking about your sales team? I don't.

0:51:05.239 --> 0:51:06.840
<v Speaker 3>I started to get worried, like, let me write these

0:51:06.920 --> 0:51:09.000
<v Speaker 3>notes down because I don't know how to do sales. Wait,

0:51:09.000 --> 0:51:09.600
<v Speaker 3>would you say what?

0:51:10.000 --> 0:51:10.680
<v Speaker 2>Would you use what?

0:51:12.200 --> 0:51:14.080
<v Speaker 3>And then I was like, I'm tired of taking notes

0:51:14.080 --> 0:51:16.200
<v Speaker 3>in our conversations. Then she'd be like, I feel like

0:51:16.200 --> 0:51:18.040
<v Speaker 3>you're always asking about business advice, bitch, that's all you

0:51:18.080 --> 0:51:23.080
<v Speaker 3>talk about. Anyway, I'll just talk about friendship. This was

0:51:23.120 --> 0:51:26.719
<v Speaker 3>the most frustrating story I've I've never experienced anything like this.

0:51:27.040 --> 0:51:30.960
<v Speaker 3>I that was in the end of that communication, and

0:51:31.040 --> 0:51:33.480
<v Speaker 3>I felt bad about it, and I and I but

0:51:33.520 --> 0:51:35.439
<v Speaker 3>I had to keep going and I had to keep

0:51:35.480 --> 0:51:37.720
<v Speaker 3>going around to figure out what the fuck why wouldn't

0:51:37.760 --> 0:51:39.080
<v Speaker 3>this bitch pay my man?

0:51:39.360 --> 0:51:40.440
<v Speaker 2>And it was just like.

0:51:40.800 --> 0:51:45.040
<v Speaker 3>Control and like power and like weird bitch shit. And

0:51:45.080 --> 0:51:46.200
<v Speaker 3>I asked her, I was like, is it because he

0:51:46.239 --> 0:51:48.399
<v Speaker 3>made this comment? Is that what is like your personalness?

0:51:48.560 --> 0:51:51.719
<v Speaker 3>She's like, no, that's a lie. It's a fucking lie, bitch,

0:51:51.719 --> 0:51:55.279
<v Speaker 3>because why haven't you paid it? So all that to

0:51:55.320 --> 0:51:57.880
<v Speaker 3>say is maybe go on trips with new friends early,

0:51:57.960 --> 0:52:00.319
<v Speaker 3>because this is a second friend in the band of

0:52:00.360 --> 0:52:02.680
<v Speaker 3>like twelve months last year that I cut off after

0:52:03.360 --> 0:52:06.399
<v Speaker 3>a trip, and I felt I was feeling bad because

0:52:06.480 --> 0:52:09.880
<v Speaker 3>Erica and Orlando are always like, you're too friendly, like everybody,

0:52:09.920 --> 0:52:12.040
<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, I do, but most people are good.

0:52:12.400 --> 0:52:15.360
<v Speaker 3>These were two very bad examples, and I mean it

0:52:15.360 --> 0:52:17.000
<v Speaker 3>was a good example because I needed to learn to

0:52:17.040 --> 0:52:19.520
<v Speaker 3>have more discernment. And also if the chem like whatever,

0:52:19.640 --> 0:52:23.239
<v Speaker 3>it was fine. But sometimes people are not supposed to

0:52:23.239 --> 0:52:27.000
<v Speaker 3>be your fucking close friends. If the nigga seems like

0:52:27.040 --> 0:52:29.800
<v Speaker 3>he may be her slave, maybe it's not a comfortable

0:52:29.880 --> 0:52:34.080
<v Speaker 3>situation to be in. You know. It was weird and

0:52:34.160 --> 0:52:35.520
<v Speaker 3>like at the end of it, he didn't even have

0:52:35.600 --> 0:52:37.480
<v Speaker 3>a balls enough to say I fucked up and put

0:52:37.520 --> 0:52:41.400
<v Speaker 3>diesel on a regular twelve fucking seater van. I fucked up, sorry, guys,

0:52:41.719 --> 0:52:43.520
<v Speaker 3>And she didn't even have the nerve to be like, hey, nigga,

0:52:43.560 --> 0:52:46.360
<v Speaker 3>apologize or speak up. They can hear you. And it like,

0:52:46.440 --> 0:52:49.440
<v Speaker 3>also the payment thing after you've drug me on this

0:52:49.600 --> 0:52:53.520
<v Speaker 3>fucking forty five hour fucking adventure for no goddamn reason.

0:52:53.960 --> 0:52:58.560
<v Speaker 3>It was the oddest twelve month relationship I was in,

0:52:59.160 --> 0:53:01.799
<v Speaker 3>and it's unfortunate that it ended that way because I

0:53:01.800 --> 0:53:03.400
<v Speaker 3>felt like it was. It just didn't have to end

0:53:03.440 --> 0:53:06.759
<v Speaker 3>over such ridiculous five hundred dollars circumstances. And I would

0:53:06.760 --> 0:53:09.520
<v Speaker 3>have even been forgiving of that situation because it was

0:53:09.520 --> 0:53:12.080
<v Speaker 3>a mistake. But it was just the lack of accountability,

0:53:12.160 --> 0:53:14.560
<v Speaker 3>the lack of communication and like the weird shit after

0:53:15.160 --> 0:53:19.320
<v Speaker 3>and you know, it's just like friendship, I realized, and

0:53:19.360 --> 0:53:20.759
<v Speaker 3>I had I had to sit with this too, is

0:53:20.800 --> 0:53:23.520
<v Speaker 3>it like because I think with relationships and with friendships

0:53:23.600 --> 0:53:27.759
<v Speaker 3>were sometimes easy to like say fuck it, this was

0:53:27.880 --> 0:53:31.440
<v Speaker 3>not unexcusable because he involved my man involved money and like,

0:53:31.640 --> 0:53:33.520
<v Speaker 3>there's no reason for you not to pay it. But

0:53:34.800 --> 0:53:38.719
<v Speaker 3>I had a strong lesson last year that Erica and

0:53:38.840 --> 0:53:41.040
<v Speaker 3>Orlando have been telling me for a long time that

0:53:41.120 --> 0:53:45.279
<v Speaker 3>everybody's not my friend blah blah blah, And it's true,

0:53:45.840 --> 0:53:47.600
<v Speaker 3>and I'm not going to be less friendly and be

0:53:47.719 --> 0:53:53.280
<v Speaker 3>less open, but I do realize that maybe take it slow,

0:53:54.360 --> 0:53:56.359
<v Speaker 3>let me take it like easy, or maybe I.

0:53:56.280 --> 0:53:58.600
<v Speaker 2>Don't know, if I don't even know, if I condone

0:53:58.800 --> 0:54:02.520
<v Speaker 2>would support going on trips early with friends. I just

0:54:02.560 --> 0:54:07.680
<v Speaker 2>think that because no, you're not about to ruin my trips. Ever,

0:54:07.920 --> 0:54:12.239
<v Speaker 2>I just feel like maybe it's I mean, I could

0:54:12.719 --> 0:54:15.920
<v Speaker 2>from an outsider looking in for this particular dynamic. Her

0:54:15.960 --> 0:54:22.920
<v Speaker 2>personality doesn't align with yours. It doesn't. I know that

0:54:23.280 --> 0:54:27.120
<v Speaker 2>her and Orlando shared the same sign, but they don't

0:54:27.160 --> 0:54:30.799
<v Speaker 2>say there's different. There's different principles going around here. There's

0:54:30.840 --> 0:54:36.520
<v Speaker 2>a lot less flexibility, there's a lot more like like yeah, hypervigilance.

0:54:36.719 --> 0:54:39.520
<v Speaker 2>Like there's there's other things going on. So I I

0:54:39.600 --> 0:54:42.799
<v Speaker 2>kind of knew that your flows and your like go

0:54:42.880 --> 0:54:46.480
<v Speaker 2>with the flow, and like, no, wasn't going to align

0:54:46.560 --> 0:54:48.759
<v Speaker 2>with her dictatorship.

0:54:49.320 --> 0:54:53.600
<v Speaker 3>It's a dictatorship over there, bitch. No, it's a fucking dictatorship.

0:54:54.360 --> 0:54:56.200
<v Speaker 2>And you know, I want to say, like I appreciate

0:54:56.280 --> 0:54:58.399
<v Speaker 2>her for who she is and not me too. She's

0:54:58.560 --> 0:55:01.400
<v Speaker 2>she's amazing, she's amazing. She's successful because she's good at

0:55:01.440 --> 0:55:01.959
<v Speaker 2>what she does.

0:55:03.360 --> 0:55:06.239
<v Speaker 3>I just, yeah, it.

0:55:06.360 --> 0:55:07.959
<v Speaker 2>Just gotta know who you can travel with, You gotta

0:55:08.000 --> 0:55:09.759
<v Speaker 2>know who you can spend. You know, you could have

0:55:09.840 --> 0:55:13.240
<v Speaker 2>just maybe kept it at Thanksgiving dinners and even that had.

0:55:13.120 --> 0:55:17.359
<v Speaker 3>Its own instead of well, I'm just saying, but I guess,

0:55:17.480 --> 0:55:20.440
<v Speaker 3>go with your gut, you know, go with your gut.

0:55:20.680 --> 0:55:24.040
<v Speaker 3>And like I realize I'm not in deep need. I

0:55:24.080 --> 0:55:26.280
<v Speaker 3>have a lot of new friends. I have a lot

0:55:26.320 --> 0:55:28.920
<v Speaker 3>of really great friendships, have a lot of best friends

0:55:28.960 --> 0:55:31.759
<v Speaker 3>all over the country, all over the world. Like it's

0:55:31.840 --> 0:55:35.400
<v Speaker 3>not just because someone says, hey, I really want to

0:55:35.440 --> 0:55:37.120
<v Speaker 3>work on friendships this year, Like.

0:55:37.160 --> 0:55:38.800
<v Speaker 2>Maybe, actually doesn't mean you have to sign be the

0:55:38.840 --> 0:55:39.560
<v Speaker 2>first one on the sign.

0:55:39.600 --> 0:55:41.720
<v Speaker 3>And also because if you haven't had that many friendships,

0:55:41.760 --> 0:55:47.800
<v Speaker 3>maybe there's a reason why. And I maintain friendships pretty

0:55:47.960 --> 0:55:50.080
<v Speaker 3>easefully if it's right and if it's meant to be,

0:55:50.840 --> 0:55:54.160
<v Speaker 3>and so I just yeah, that's so all this to say.

0:55:54.200 --> 0:55:56.800
<v Speaker 3>I wanted to talk about friendship. It's our eight year anniversary.

0:55:57.120 --> 0:55:59.840
<v Speaker 3>I know that it's not a monolith. I know that

0:55:59.840 --> 0:56:04.120
<v Speaker 3>it's sometimes you know, I think that hypothetically we'd like

0:56:04.160 --> 0:56:06.880
<v Speaker 3>to think that all friends are easeful, all friendships are easeful,

0:56:07.400 --> 0:56:10.480
<v Speaker 3>But the truth is it's still a relationship. And like

0:56:10.520 --> 0:56:13.200
<v Speaker 3>even an Erica and Irish relationship, there have been ups

0:56:13.200 --> 0:56:16.080
<v Speaker 3>and downs, there have been you know, ebbs and flows,

0:56:16.120 --> 0:56:18.360
<v Speaker 3>and our friendship obviously has a lot more on the

0:56:18.360 --> 0:56:22.880
<v Speaker 3>line because we share a bank account, we have investments together,

0:56:22.920 --> 0:56:25.680
<v Speaker 3>We've invested time into our business, so there's a lot

0:56:25.719 --> 0:56:30.279
<v Speaker 3>of things that are weave together, that are delicate and

0:56:30.360 --> 0:56:32.279
<v Speaker 3>not to mention and not this is really gets in

0:56:32.280 --> 0:56:35.400
<v Speaker 3>the way. We didn't start as friends. We were just

0:56:35.440 --> 0:56:36.759
<v Speaker 3>two bitches like okay.

0:56:36.520 --> 0:56:38.200
<v Speaker 2>And then this didn't start as a business.

0:56:38.280 --> 0:56:41.239
<v Speaker 3>It started as a hobby or something fun to do,

0:56:41.360 --> 0:56:43.960
<v Speaker 3>and that we realize it as a business. So I

0:56:44.080 --> 0:56:47.239
<v Speaker 3>just I want to give this moment to just like

0:56:47.640 --> 0:56:49.279
<v Speaker 3>discuss adult friendships.

0:56:50.560 --> 0:56:51.280
<v Speaker 2>They're challenging.

0:56:51.480 --> 0:56:53.239
<v Speaker 3>Have you had any experience in the.

0:56:53.200 --> 0:56:54.920
<v Speaker 2>World, Well, I think yeah. I mean early on we

0:56:54.960 --> 0:56:57.759
<v Speaker 2>talked about in the podcast I had I shared a

0:56:58.280 --> 0:57:01.080
<v Speaker 2>friend dynamic of mine. This was an old friend that

0:57:01.120 --> 0:57:03.399
<v Speaker 2>I had that I realized it was time to let

0:57:03.440 --> 0:57:05.360
<v Speaker 2>this person go. And I think it was like what

0:57:05.480 --> 0:57:07.200
<v Speaker 2>was no new I don't know what the episode was

0:57:07.200 --> 0:57:09.359
<v Speaker 2>called that we did about my other cancer best friend

0:57:09.400 --> 0:57:12.040
<v Speaker 2>that I had that I released right before I actually

0:57:12.040 --> 0:57:14.479
<v Speaker 2>met you, And.

0:57:14.560 --> 0:57:18.680
<v Speaker 3>You're replacing the cancers.

0:57:19.120 --> 0:57:24.640
<v Speaker 2>And I think that like a I know, I know

0:57:24.720 --> 0:57:29.000
<v Speaker 2>that making adult friends can feel challenging because of just

0:57:29.040 --> 0:57:31.520
<v Speaker 2>the women that come and come to our retreats who

0:57:31.680 --> 0:57:34.280
<v Speaker 2>are seeking new friends, women that we reach out to

0:57:34.360 --> 0:57:36.680
<v Speaker 2>us all the time saying they can't find their tribe.

0:57:37.000 --> 0:57:40.120
<v Speaker 2>Like I realized how challenging that can be. And I

0:57:40.120 --> 0:57:42.480
<v Speaker 2>also realized how traumatizing it can be when you do

0:57:42.560 --> 0:57:45.120
<v Speaker 2>step out and you do have you do think you

0:57:45.200 --> 0:57:47.400
<v Speaker 2>met a friend and you get burned like this.

0:57:47.760 --> 0:57:49.320
<v Speaker 3>I felt like it was almost like taking my kindness

0:57:49.320 --> 0:57:49.720
<v Speaker 3>for a weekend.

0:57:49.800 --> 0:57:54.400
<v Speaker 2>But thankfully you will have proof of positive female friendships.

0:57:54.400 --> 0:57:57.040
<v Speaker 2>But say you didn't and that happened, like it's going

0:57:57.120 --> 0:58:01.440
<v Speaker 2>to like revalidate your position about why you don't trust bitches,

0:58:01.720 --> 0:58:04.160
<v Speaker 2>why you don't have friends. And this is how that

0:58:04.280 --> 0:58:07.520
<v Speaker 2>narrative starts with women. It's like they don't have good discernment,

0:58:07.640 --> 0:58:11.360
<v Speaker 2>no offense, and you do have good discernment, but that

0:58:11.440 --> 0:58:13.560
<v Speaker 2>in particularly, I think that you are a very loving

0:58:13.560 --> 0:58:18.240
<v Speaker 2>and open person and so you're willing to overlook or

0:58:19.000 --> 0:58:23.880
<v Speaker 2>accept maybe is the word people for their differences in

0:58:23.920 --> 0:58:27.800
<v Speaker 2>regards to how you operate right, And because you're because

0:58:27.800 --> 0:58:29.640
<v Speaker 2>you can so easily flow, because you can flow with

0:58:29.680 --> 0:58:33.720
<v Speaker 2>people until you can't because you're still a cancer still.

0:58:34.360 --> 0:58:39.040
<v Speaker 3>And that's the thing. My switch off is strong, Like

0:58:39.120 --> 0:58:41.360
<v Speaker 3>I can be like La and the next bitch it

0:58:41.360 --> 0:58:43.479
<v Speaker 3>will be a whole different bitch and everyone's like, oh God,

0:58:43.600 --> 0:58:45.800
<v Speaker 3>who are you? Oh no, I'm like no, bitch, I

0:58:45.840 --> 0:58:47.560
<v Speaker 3>gave you a lot of opportunities to show the fuck

0:58:47.600 --> 0:58:49.120
<v Speaker 3>out or like this is crazy.

0:58:49.320 --> 0:58:51.600
<v Speaker 2>I think in this in this part of my life

0:58:51.600 --> 0:58:54.120
<v Speaker 2>and making new friends because I have, like I have

0:58:54.160 --> 0:58:57.960
<v Speaker 2>acquaintances that I'm like watering right now. And I realized

0:58:58.080 --> 0:59:01.160
<v Speaker 2>when I was younger, I hash myself to friendships a

0:59:01.160 --> 0:59:03.800
<v Speaker 2>lot faster, whereas now it's like more of a slower

0:59:03.800 --> 0:59:07.080
<v Speaker 2>burn probably because my life is moving faster, probably because

0:59:07.360 --> 0:59:10.800
<v Speaker 2>I have a great group of friends already and so

0:59:10.840 --> 0:59:14.360
<v Speaker 2>it's not necessarily a need, but there is like a

0:59:14.400 --> 0:59:17.520
<v Speaker 2>want to like have new conversations and meet new people

0:59:17.680 --> 0:59:20.560
<v Speaker 2>and understand their perspective. And as I'm entering to a

0:59:20.600 --> 0:59:23.080
<v Speaker 2>later part of my life or mid part of my life,

0:59:23.760 --> 0:59:26.680
<v Speaker 2>mid part of my life where like you know, like

0:59:26.760 --> 0:59:29.920
<v Speaker 2>our kids are growing up, you know, people are getting married,

0:59:30.040 --> 0:59:32.320
<v Speaker 2>like wanting to have those type of people around you

0:59:32.320 --> 0:59:34.360
<v Speaker 2>aside from the ones that you already have. So I

0:59:34.400 --> 0:59:37.480
<v Speaker 2>get it. But I think that like I'm a slow

0:59:37.520 --> 0:59:41.040
<v Speaker 2>burner right now in my friendships, and I realize other

0:59:41.080 --> 0:59:43.040
<v Speaker 2>it feels like other women are too, Like at least

0:59:43.040 --> 0:59:45.640
<v Speaker 2>the women that I'm interacting with. It's not like, okay,

0:59:45.640 --> 0:59:47.960
<v Speaker 2>we like when we met like we were like, and

0:59:48.000 --> 0:59:51.080
<v Speaker 2>now we're together every single day. When I met Sebastian, no, no, no,

0:59:51.360 --> 0:59:54.000
<v Speaker 2>it was still some slower at first. But when we

0:59:54.080 --> 0:59:57.960
<v Speaker 2>decided yeah, yeah, when we decided we had something in

0:59:58.080 --> 0:59:59.880
<v Speaker 2>alignment pretty quick.

1:00:00.360 --> 1:00:02.600
<v Speaker 3>Well, like we're gonna do a podcasts every week. It

1:00:02.640 --> 1:00:04.200
<v Speaker 3>has to be every week, because that's what so and

1:00:04.240 --> 1:00:04.840
<v Speaker 3>so said.

1:00:05.120 --> 1:00:06.680
<v Speaker 2>But I really like, I was looking at the stats

1:00:06.680 --> 1:00:09.120
<v Speaker 2>around friendship and it was like forty percent of adults

1:00:09.120 --> 1:00:10.200
<v Speaker 2>don't have a best friend.

1:00:10.440 --> 1:00:13.800
<v Speaker 3>Really, yeah, forty percent is pretty high. Yeah, I would

1:00:13.800 --> 1:00:17.280
<v Speaker 3>have expected that, and I think best friends are necessary

1:00:17.360 --> 1:00:23.400
<v Speaker 3>and they're also this is a thing with friendship, it

1:00:23.440 --> 1:00:26.720
<v Speaker 3>is a it's a mirror, just like any relationship. I

1:00:26.720 --> 1:00:31.080
<v Speaker 3>think people underestimate that relationships we as a human race

1:00:31.240 --> 1:00:33.920
<v Speaker 3>are in community because that is a part of our

1:00:34.000 --> 1:00:36.360
<v Speaker 3>nature because that is how we evolve, that is how

1:00:36.360 --> 1:00:38.600
<v Speaker 3>we grow, that is how we gain empathy and I

1:00:38.760 --> 1:00:42.320
<v Speaker 3>and if you know of like Harlow's Pyramid of needs

1:00:42.440 --> 1:00:46.400
<v Speaker 3>for a human, it's like community people is what like

1:00:46.400 --> 1:00:51.720
<v Speaker 3>obviously there's safety, food, water, shelter, but right close by

1:00:52.040 --> 1:00:55.280
<v Speaker 3>is like people, other people and like sex. These are

1:00:55.280 --> 1:00:58.840
<v Speaker 3>things that as a humans we need, like air like food,

1:00:58.920 --> 1:01:04.280
<v Speaker 3>like water. We evolve in community and in tribe. And

1:01:04.320 --> 1:01:06.240
<v Speaker 3>that's why there's like all this talk with social media.

1:01:06.280 --> 1:01:07.960
<v Speaker 3>So many people are so deeply on their screens that

1:01:08.000 --> 1:01:13.080
<v Speaker 3>there's no human touch, there's no there's no like people

1:01:13.080 --> 1:01:16.160
<v Speaker 3>are touch starved, and it's it's a big deal because

1:01:16.200 --> 1:01:18.560
<v Speaker 3>we need it, you know what I mean. And like

1:01:19.720 --> 1:01:22.880
<v Speaker 3>even right now, it's interesting because Luna I was telling Erica,

1:01:22.960 --> 1:01:25.840
<v Speaker 3>this has a best friend at school, and it's like,

1:01:25.920 --> 1:01:30.200
<v Speaker 3>oh no, no, this per her, and I'm like, yeah,

1:01:30.240 --> 1:01:33.240
<v Speaker 3>it's so funny. So but I realized I remember having

1:01:33.280 --> 1:01:35.920
<v Speaker 3>a little best friend, and like it made me a

1:01:36.000 --> 1:01:38.640
<v Speaker 3>question have been codependent for our whole life? Because my

1:01:38.680 --> 1:01:41.160
<v Speaker 3>best friend from kindergarten is still one of my best friends.

1:01:41.200 --> 1:01:43.840
<v Speaker 3>And like there was times throughout our lot our lives

1:01:44.160 --> 1:01:47.880
<v Speaker 3>we were deeply codependent, like in elementary school, crying if

1:01:47.920 --> 1:01:50.920
<v Speaker 3>you couldn't have four day sleepovers, you know, And like

1:01:51.000 --> 1:01:53.200
<v Speaker 3>I realized now it's like a form of babysitting for

1:01:53.240 --> 1:01:54.560
<v Speaker 3>the parent, Like of course it gets a bit for

1:01:54.560 --> 1:01:59.040
<v Speaker 3>five days, let meet the fuck alone, but like our

1:01:59.160 --> 1:02:02.920
<v Speaker 3>need to feel safe and to feel loved and like

1:02:03.560 --> 1:02:05.360
<v Speaker 3>and then how you kind of stopped doing that because

1:02:05.400 --> 1:02:08.240
<v Speaker 3>become a vulnerable, like a certain vulnerability at a certain age,

1:02:08.880 --> 1:02:10.800
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean. So, like, I don't know,

1:02:10.840 --> 1:02:13.560
<v Speaker 3>I think it's interesting to explore because even with us,

1:02:13.720 --> 1:02:19.840
<v Speaker 3>you know, like Erican I, like she said, we dove

1:02:19.880 --> 1:02:23.040
<v Speaker 3>in really quickly, really early, because we had this thing

1:02:23.080 --> 1:02:25.840
<v Speaker 3>that we were doing and it was fun and it

1:02:25.920 --> 1:02:29.080
<v Speaker 3>was like new, and I think we both needed a friend.

1:02:29.520 --> 1:02:32.680
<v Speaker 3>We needed like someone to go do shit with, someone

1:02:32.720 --> 1:02:34.720
<v Speaker 3>to go do shit with, go outside, someone who understood

1:02:34.760 --> 1:02:36.000
<v Speaker 3>that we were moms, but we're still going to do

1:02:36.200 --> 1:02:38.880
<v Speaker 3>the whole shit. Like there was a lot of elements

1:02:38.880 --> 1:02:42.120
<v Speaker 3>at play when we our friendship was cemented, but mostly

1:02:42.160 --> 1:02:44.200
<v Speaker 3>it was good moms and it gave us like this

1:02:45.280 --> 1:02:48.120
<v Speaker 3>north star to like work towards and to like do

1:02:48.200 --> 1:02:51.240
<v Speaker 3>something together, and it gave it meaning, and especially when

1:02:51.280 --> 1:02:53.840
<v Speaker 3>people started like writing in, it gave it more meaning

1:02:53.840 --> 1:02:55.760
<v Speaker 3>because it wasn't just us, you know, it was like

1:02:55.800 --> 1:02:57.880
<v Speaker 3>a whole team of people that even if we couldn't see.

1:02:58.280 --> 1:03:02.160
<v Speaker 3>And like, as we've blossomed and evolved, it's become more

1:03:02.160 --> 1:03:05.400
<v Speaker 3>difficult because at first it was just like we're playing,

1:03:05.440 --> 1:03:07.640
<v Speaker 3>we're talking, and it was like, oh, there's money involved.

1:03:07.680 --> 1:03:08.440
<v Speaker 2>Oh, there's business.

1:03:08.440 --> 1:03:10.880
<v Speaker 3>Oh, there's things that have like there's things on the

1:03:10.920 --> 1:03:13.680
<v Speaker 3>line in order to make this thing go, and then

1:03:13.800 --> 1:03:16.480
<v Speaker 3>like you know, the friendship can fall more and more

1:03:17.120 --> 1:03:21.840
<v Speaker 3>on the back burner, and you know, it's been it's

1:03:21.880 --> 1:03:26.240
<v Speaker 3>been challenging sometimes, and it's been I think even more

1:03:26.320 --> 1:03:28.880
<v Speaker 3>challenging because we have so many things on the line.

1:03:28.920 --> 1:03:31.400
<v Speaker 3>We have so many assets. We own land together.

1:03:32.160 --> 1:03:34.440
<v Speaker 2>We own land, we have bank accounts, our our children

1:03:34.480 --> 1:03:37.160
<v Speaker 2>are invested in one another. Like, there's a lot there's

1:03:37.200 --> 1:03:40.080
<v Speaker 2>a lot of things that are that have expanded in

1:03:40.080 --> 1:03:42.360
<v Speaker 2>a way that I don't think that we realized we

1:03:42.360 --> 1:03:44.600
<v Speaker 2>were even actively doing, because when we started this, we

1:03:44.600 --> 1:03:49.000
<v Speaker 2>didn't realize we were like starting a business. And I think, like,

1:03:50.760 --> 1:03:53.080
<v Speaker 2>I've never had a relationship like this. I was I've

1:03:53.120 --> 1:03:58.000
<v Speaker 2>never had someone that I've like I've I've never had

1:03:58.080 --> 1:04:02.400
<v Speaker 2>a relationship that if it was going wrong, I couldn't

1:04:02.440 --> 1:04:05.280
<v Speaker 2>just walk away from right and be like, well, we

1:04:05.320 --> 1:04:07.120
<v Speaker 2>need a break. So I'm not going to talk about

1:04:07.160 --> 1:04:10.320
<v Speaker 2>bitch like that's not of course, it could be an option,

1:04:10.480 --> 1:04:13.640
<v Speaker 2>but I think that like it's not. No, it could

1:04:13.640 --> 1:04:15.800
<v Speaker 2>be we could be like fuck this, fuck you, that's

1:04:15.840 --> 1:04:20.320
<v Speaker 2>we could we could but I think that thankfully, like

1:04:20.400 --> 1:04:24.680
<v Speaker 2>there's there's this there's this tie that's bigger than us

1:04:24.800 --> 1:04:28.080
<v Speaker 2>that keeps us grounded. And early on in our relationship,

1:04:28.240 --> 1:04:30.680
<v Speaker 2>even on this show, even off camera, off this show,

1:04:31.040 --> 1:04:34.480
<v Speaker 2>we prayed over our relationship because I think our entity,

1:04:34.600 --> 1:04:36.640
<v Speaker 2>like as we call it, knew that there would be

1:04:36.680 --> 1:04:40.120
<v Speaker 2>times that weren't so easeful, that weren't we weren't going

1:04:40.200 --> 1:04:42.400
<v Speaker 2>to be aligned, that there might be things that come up,

1:04:42.440 --> 1:04:46.000
<v Speaker 2>and we witnessed it another podcast, Dynamics. We witnessed it

1:04:46.040 --> 1:04:49.760
<v Speaker 2>with you know, the Mandy's and the Wheezies and and

1:04:49.800 --> 1:04:52.320
<v Speaker 2>the other podcasts that didn't make it, you know, and

1:04:52.520 --> 1:04:54.200
<v Speaker 2>we were like, we don't want to be like those bitches,

1:04:54.240 --> 1:04:58.640
<v Speaker 2>will never be like those. And I think, like what

1:04:58.760 --> 1:05:02.320
<v Speaker 2>I I know for me this in this dynamic in

1:05:02.360 --> 1:05:07.000
<v Speaker 2>our relationship. I never realized how like you think about

1:05:07.000 --> 1:05:10.360
<v Speaker 2>like like your relationship with men and how it's affected

1:05:10.400 --> 1:05:13.360
<v Speaker 2>your mental health when it's not good, and like how

1:05:13.400 --> 1:05:16.000
<v Speaker 2>it like make you crazy or make you angry or

1:05:16.120 --> 1:05:18.800
<v Speaker 2>like make you show up differently. And I don't think

1:05:18.800 --> 1:05:23.840
<v Speaker 2>I've ever had that experience with a woman until this relationship. Again,

1:05:24.440 --> 1:05:28.920
<v Speaker 2>where like like our relationships with our lovers sometimes are

1:05:28.960 --> 1:05:31.800
<v Speaker 2>intrinsically tied to like our mental health and how we

1:05:31.840 --> 1:05:33.960
<v Speaker 2>show up. And I never have had a relationship with

1:05:34.000 --> 1:05:37.040
<v Speaker 2>a woman besides maybe my mother where that could be

1:05:37.080 --> 1:05:40.640
<v Speaker 2>tied until this relationship and where I've like where when

1:05:40.680 --> 1:05:43.240
<v Speaker 2>we're not good, I don't feel good, I'm not good.

1:05:43.760 --> 1:05:47.240
<v Speaker 2>In so many I'm sad, I'm depressed. I'm like, I

1:05:47.920 --> 1:05:51.080
<v Speaker 2>feel lost, Like I feel like how much how I

1:05:51.080 --> 1:05:54.160
<v Speaker 2>would feel like in my lover relationship in that way,

1:05:54.200 --> 1:05:57.680
<v Speaker 2>And that's not something that I've was I've been prepared for.

1:05:57.840 --> 1:06:02.440
<v Speaker 2>I was prepared for and have the tools to work

1:06:02.480 --> 1:06:05.240
<v Speaker 2>through in times and even verbalize at times, because there's

1:06:05.240 --> 1:06:06.760
<v Speaker 2>been times where you're like, why are you tell me

1:06:06.760 --> 1:06:08.760
<v Speaker 2>why you're depressed? And I'm like, I don't know, I'm

1:06:08.800 --> 1:06:10.800
<v Speaker 2>just sad, and you're like, but if you can't tell me,

1:06:10.840 --> 1:06:12.960
<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, isn't the depression? Sometimes you don't know

1:06:12.960 --> 1:06:14.880
<v Speaker 2>what to say, you don't have the words to say

1:06:15.000 --> 1:06:17.560
<v Speaker 2>and explain to someone why, Like for someone that has

1:06:17.800 --> 1:06:22.320
<v Speaker 2>battle depression, like that is that's a thing. I realize

1:06:22.360 --> 1:06:23.800
<v Speaker 2>it so much as I talk to people that have

1:06:23.880 --> 1:06:27.480
<v Speaker 2>moved through it, and granted, like my mental health shifts

1:06:27.480 --> 1:06:29.919
<v Speaker 2>of not all I'm not gonna like they're not all

1:06:29.960 --> 1:06:33.880
<v Speaker 2>based in our relationship dynamic, but partly yes, like I

1:06:33.920 --> 1:06:37.160
<v Speaker 2>have noticed how sad I've been when we're not okay.

1:06:37.400 --> 1:06:40.680
<v Speaker 2>I have noticed how like lost I feel when I'm

1:06:40.680 --> 1:06:43.480
<v Speaker 2>like unsure about where we stand and how we're moving

1:06:43.520 --> 1:06:47.160
<v Speaker 2>through hard times together. But I also know that there's

1:06:47.640 --> 1:06:52.440
<v Speaker 2>there's never been a time where walking away was an option,

1:06:53.360 --> 1:06:56.000
<v Speaker 2>you know. And I think that that's the difference between

1:06:56.520 --> 1:07:00.640
<v Speaker 2>like just a regular friendship and that unconditional friend that

1:07:02.160 --> 1:07:06.840
<v Speaker 2>I want more women to experience. And because it is

1:07:07.000 --> 1:07:10.240
<v Speaker 2>rich and there is so much here between us, and

1:07:10.280 --> 1:07:13.920
<v Speaker 2>like I've just it's just been a it's been such

1:07:13.920 --> 1:07:16.360
<v Speaker 2>a But then there's also a relationship that don't deserve that,

1:07:16.400 --> 1:07:18.880
<v Speaker 2>Like your relationship that you just spoke of. Probably you're

1:07:18.880 --> 1:07:20.920
<v Speaker 2>not going to invest this much time. You don't have to.

1:07:21.360 --> 1:07:22.840
<v Speaker 2>But that's the thing is like a lot of women

1:07:23.080 --> 1:07:26.320
<v Speaker 2>don't have to, I think because they don't have business. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's easier for you to say, oh fuck it,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and and sometimes maybe that's what it needed,

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<v Speaker 2>but probably not, you know, probably not. And so this

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<v Speaker 2>I think our friendship has been a reminder or not

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<v Speaker 2>a reminder just like a mirror and a lesson into

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<v Speaker 2>not running because I'm a fucking runner and I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>runner in love. I'm a runner in a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>places in my life. And this relationship and even the

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<v Speaker 2>when I'm in right now has like really shown me

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<v Speaker 2>like that I am capable of staying. I don't necessarily

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<v Speaker 2>have all the tools when I arrive and I decided

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<v Speaker 2>to stay here, but I don't know what to do

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<v Speaker 2>with it, Like yeah, you know, so anyway, I agree,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm glad you said that because I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if I necessarily had words to put for that, because

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<v Speaker 2>I guess that's true.

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<v Speaker 3>There's not like generally in a romantic relationship when it

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<v Speaker 3>consumes so much of your your mental health and you're

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<v Speaker 3>just your your mood, your your capacity, like if it

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<v Speaker 3>just your thoughts, your if it, if it just if

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<v Speaker 3>it overcomes. Usually in a relationship it's like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>soll I could think about this guy D he's not

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<v Speaker 3>doing this, he's cheating on me, and then you're like obsessed.

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<v Speaker 3>Then that's when that comes up. But I have experienced

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<v Speaker 3>that in this relationship, and I'm like, am I nuts?

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<v Speaker 3>Like I am like going to sleep at night and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like going through all these scenarios and like, literally

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<v Speaker 3>my eyes are closed, but I'm like and I'm like, bitch,

1:08:54.200 --> 1:08:57.519
<v Speaker 3>you gotta like give let this breathe. But it's it

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<v Speaker 3>I realize. And I realized this one time and Costa Rica.

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<v Speaker 3>We were just having a day I think it was

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<v Speaker 3>our day off or maybe before retreat or after retreat,

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<v Speaker 3>and you were like, let's not talk about let's not

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<v Speaker 3>talk about business for the rest of the day, and

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<v Speaker 3>like for a moment, I was like, what do you, like,

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<v Speaker 3>what are you talking about? And like it had to

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<v Speaker 3>sit with that and it really made me sad because

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I have spent like, however many years

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<v Speaker 3>literally thinking talking about this thing, and granted I have

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<v Speaker 3>you you want to talk about it too. It's like

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<v Speaker 3>when you have a baby with someone and you're like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my god, first walk, oh my god, they just

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<v Speaker 3>said their first words, Oh my god, look at that

1:09:36.640 --> 1:09:38.720
<v Speaker 3>thing way go, oh my god, it's doing.

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<v Speaker 2>Stuff and you were doing that for three years and

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<v Speaker 2>then you're like and then you're like, we talk about

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<v Speaker 2>who are you?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh you?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So when you're like, let's not talk about that, I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, oh my god, Like, have I tended to

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<v Speaker 3>myself the same way I've thought like the capacity, like

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<v Speaker 3>my brain like data has been focused on this. Have

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<v Speaker 3>I taught about Luna as much as I've thought about

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<v Speaker 3>Good Moms? Have I thought about these other things? My family?

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<v Speaker 3>Like my mother really like obviously we've talked about all

1:10:07.360 --> 1:10:10.360
<v Speaker 3>those things within Good Moms, But so much of my

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<v Speaker 3>life has been dedicated whether I realized it or not,

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<v Speaker 3>until that moment to thinking about the next steps of

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<v Speaker 3>this thing that we built and excited about it. And

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<v Speaker 3>it's a beautiful thing. But then it's like, oh shit, bitch,

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<v Speaker 3>Like have you focused on the other things in your

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<v Speaker 3>life and watered those things too? And so when our

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<v Speaker 3>relationship isn't good, I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, what the fuck?

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<v Speaker 3>And it takes up equally as much space, but not

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<v Speaker 3>in a way that's like positive, so I can notice

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<v Speaker 3>it more. And it's true, like if it wasn't all

1:10:40.640 --> 1:10:42.880
<v Speaker 3>these things tied into it, if it wasn't our tribe,

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<v Speaker 3>if it wasn't us knowing how much impact and how

1:10:45.800 --> 1:10:48.400
<v Speaker 3>important the work that we do is and how it's

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<v Speaker 3>changing the narrative for moms and single moms, I'd probably

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<v Speaker 3>be like I'm just not gonna.

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<v Speaker 2>Call her no. And it is the tribe because there

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<v Speaker 2>have been days where I know we did not fuck

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<v Speaker 2>with each other at all, and then someone dms us

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<v Speaker 2>and says, don't stop, don't stop, and I'm like, this

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<v Speaker 2>episode has no idea how much I needed to hear

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<v Speaker 2>that right.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, literally every time, And we'll send it to each.

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<v Speaker 2>Other, okay, basically.

1:11:14.120 --> 1:11:17.720
<v Speaker 3>Saying yeah, basically I know you're thinking about what I'm

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<v Speaker 3>thinking about, because fuck you. But also, look, someone we

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<v Speaker 3>don't know wrote this.

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<v Speaker 2>It means a lot, so like, thank you guys for

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<v Speaker 2>affirming us too, because like you guys are such a

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<v Speaker 2>major part of the watering of a relationship that's real,

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<v Speaker 2>that isn't perfect all the time, that needs to be

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<v Speaker 2>reminded and needs to be like reignited at times, and

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like I was, as I was researching these

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<v Speaker 2>stats of like friendships, it was like, how how much

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<v Speaker 2>like our personal relationships are the number one influence of

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<v Speaker 2>our health is the number one influence of our like

1:11:53.040 --> 1:11:55.960
<v Speaker 2>mental health, our even our physical health. And then how

1:11:56.040 --> 1:12:00.120
<v Speaker 2>women lacking friends is as dangerous as smoking and obesity.

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<v Speaker 2>Lacking female friends as it's dangerous as smoking and obesity,

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<v Speaker 2>and that women with strong friendships have lower risk of

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<v Speaker 2>heart disease, reduced stress hormones, and can live longer than

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<v Speaker 2>those who lack close friends. And I'm thinking about like

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<v Speaker 2>in the moments where our friendship has not felt good,

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<v Speaker 2>like I literally feel like I'm dying a little bit,

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<v Speaker 2>And i was like, why do I feel this way?

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, what the fuck? And I'm like, because

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<v Speaker 2>we've literally called ourselves platonic wives for eight years. That's

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<v Speaker 2>not like it's it's a word, but it's like it's

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<v Speaker 2>also a commitment to one another, whether or not we

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<v Speaker 2>those words are powerful and they they do like and

1:12:38.200 --> 1:12:40.920
<v Speaker 2>that and not because because they're not just words, because

1:12:40.960 --> 1:12:44.040
<v Speaker 2>that's is who I'm gonna cry, because that's is who

1:12:44.080 --> 1:12:47.960
<v Speaker 2>we've been to one another. Like we've literally been that

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<v Speaker 2>to one another, like or like in ways that I

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know if I've experienced with me, I haven't,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I've I've never shared a banking out with somebody,

1:12:56.439 --> 1:12:59.600
<v Speaker 2>and I've never like shared like the deepest woes of

1:12:59.640 --> 1:13:03.040
<v Speaker 2>my life with someone and like also been in pleasure

1:13:03.040 --> 1:13:06.040
<v Speaker 2>and intimacy with someone and like but also like it's

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<v Speaker 2>just like it's so expansive and like I'm like, wo,

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<v Speaker 2>how could this relationship impact me this much? Like like

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<v Speaker 2>I've I've lost friends and I've had changes in relationships

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<v Speaker 2>and it hasn't felt like this, and I had to

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<v Speaker 2>like I've really I've really been like dissecting that so

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<v Speaker 2>much more, especially because you know, Meila and I are

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<v Speaker 2>in therapy together, and like that's I know, crazy friends

1:13:37.600 --> 1:13:40.800
<v Speaker 2>in therapy, right, but actually not crazy, because like this

1:13:40.840 --> 1:13:46.440
<v Speaker 2>relationship deserves that, this not just this partnership, this relationship

1:13:46.520 --> 1:13:51.160
<v Speaker 2>and our souls meeting one another and like seeing one

1:13:51.200 --> 1:13:54.759
<v Speaker 2>another in that way to deserve to like have something

1:13:55.000 --> 1:13:59.160
<v Speaker 2>someone else be like, hey, okay, this is what she

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<v Speaker 2>means and this is what you mean. You guys are

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<v Speaker 2>actually saying the same thing, or like can you understand

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<v Speaker 2>what you know? And it's like when you are so

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<v Speaker 2>when we're obviously we're emotional water side women, we're passionate

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<v Speaker 2>about what we do, how we show up, we are

1:14:14.240 --> 1:14:19.040
<v Speaker 2>as individuals and what our needs are as individuals, and

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<v Speaker 2>so like as much as that has watered our friendship,

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<v Speaker 2>that can also be like we can be really stubborn

1:14:25.040 --> 1:14:26.880
<v Speaker 2>in that as well, Like no, I said what I

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<v Speaker 2>said and I fucking meant it, you know. And it's

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm thankful that we continue to say yes to

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<v Speaker 2>one another even in really challenging and difficult times. And

1:14:38.720 --> 1:14:42.440
<v Speaker 2>like I'm thankful for our tribe who like is constant,

1:14:43.040 --> 1:14:45.960
<v Speaker 2>like just constant checking in with us and like tell

1:14:46.080 --> 1:14:50.880
<v Speaker 2>and like watering us. And and I'm probably also knowing too,

1:14:51.160 --> 1:14:53.559
<v Speaker 2>you know, like a lot of y'all have like you

1:14:53.680 --> 1:14:57.000
<v Speaker 2>know us, like you know the shifts of our energy.

1:14:57.560 --> 1:15:00.639
<v Speaker 2>You know, when creation is that it's highest, when it's

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<v Speaker 2>like kind of dimmed right like not right now, but

1:15:02.880 --> 1:15:05.639
<v Speaker 2>like just dimmed in general. And so like I've asked,

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<v Speaker 2>I've asked.

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<v Speaker 3>My clothes for my friends who listen, like, do you

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<v Speaker 3>notice like a shift?

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<v Speaker 2>She's like no.

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<v Speaker 3>And then but I've had people message me. I've had

1:15:11.920 --> 1:15:14.120
<v Speaker 3>people write letters. I've had people message me and say

1:15:14.240 --> 1:15:16.479
<v Speaker 3>something seems a little off. I've had people all retreats

1:15:16.479 --> 1:15:20.000
<v Speaker 3>ask me, and I'm like, I can feel it. So

1:15:20.080 --> 1:15:21.640
<v Speaker 3>if you're super tuned in, and you've been tuned in

1:15:21.680 --> 1:15:24.639
<v Speaker 3>for a long time, I know that it's probably evident. Also,

1:15:24.920 --> 1:15:26.760
<v Speaker 3>me and Eric are very good at sitting on this

1:15:26.800 --> 1:15:28.960
<v Speaker 3>couch and everything else going out the window. There are

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of times where we were having very heated,

1:15:32.080 --> 1:15:37.640
<v Speaker 3>sick energy between us that's not always love and butterflies,

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<v Speaker 3>and we sit here and we're like, we can find

1:15:39.200 --> 1:15:41.000
<v Speaker 3>the place to laugh, and then we'll close the door

1:15:41.040 --> 1:15:43.440
<v Speaker 3>and be like bye bye.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's psycho. I mean, it's not psycho, it's it's real.

1:15:47.520 --> 1:15:50.120
<v Speaker 3>But I think, oh, it's real, it's super real, and

1:15:50.160 --> 1:15:51.960
<v Speaker 3>I think it's not too real.

1:15:52.000 --> 1:16:00.200
<v Speaker 2>But the layer of someone being so deeply.

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<v Speaker 3>Enthralled in your life, knowing all your secrets, knowing what

1:16:05.080 --> 1:16:07.880
<v Speaker 3>your triggers are, or knowing what your history is, and

1:16:08.360 --> 1:16:11.719
<v Speaker 3>just knowing so much about each other and being literally

1:16:11.720 --> 1:16:14.519
<v Speaker 3>are the safe place for one another. When that shifts,

1:16:14.840 --> 1:16:17.679
<v Speaker 3>it can equally go on the other side, like that anger,

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<v Speaker 3>that disappointment, that frustration, that whatever, that sadness or whatever

1:16:23.520 --> 1:16:28.559
<v Speaker 3>we interpret as something not in flow or in love.

1:16:28.720 --> 1:16:32.759
<v Speaker 3>It feels super personal, especially because we're sensitive as bitches,

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, and I've I've taken things super personally

1:16:36.160 --> 1:16:39.600
<v Speaker 3>and I know that I have, you know, And.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just it's not easy.

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<v Speaker 3>But I am grateful that we have this to to

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<v Speaker 3>push us and that we know it's important and that

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<v Speaker 3>we do get calls and we do get you know,

1:16:52.479 --> 1:16:54.560
<v Speaker 3>fucking messages and letters.

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<v Speaker 2>And like this is like a level of mirror work

1:16:56.439 --> 1:17:00.240
<v Speaker 2>that is like I can't even explain, Like it's like

1:17:00.479 --> 1:17:02.680
<v Speaker 2>you can't avoid it. We can, we can't avoid it,

1:17:02.720 --> 1:17:05.040
<v Speaker 2>and I don't, and like we're not supposed to. That's

1:17:05.080 --> 1:17:09.080
<v Speaker 2>not what like God Spirit, any of the shit had

1:17:09.120 --> 1:17:11.240
<v Speaker 2>lined up for us. There's like, no, bitch, you're gonna

1:17:11.280 --> 1:17:12.800
<v Speaker 2>have to sit on that couch and face her and

1:17:12.840 --> 1:17:13.720
<v Speaker 2>talk to her. You can't.

1:17:13.720 --> 1:17:17.840
<v Speaker 3>At some point we're gonna and in fact tomorrow in therapy,

1:17:18.080 --> 1:17:21.559
<v Speaker 3>the assignment is that we have to like read all

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<v Speaker 3>of our resentments off and like we've had a relatively

1:17:24.680 --> 1:17:26.679
<v Speaker 3>good week. We hung out yesterday, which we haven't really

1:17:26.720 --> 1:17:28.640
<v Speaker 3>done in a long time. And that's another thing, like

1:17:28.680 --> 1:17:31.680
<v Speaker 3>so much of our hangouts are just business meetings and

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<v Speaker 3>so like when you only water one side of it,

1:17:34.600 --> 1:17:37.280
<v Speaker 3>even though the friendship is what births all this other shit,

1:17:37.800 --> 1:17:40.880
<v Speaker 3>it makes it very difficult to be creative and be

1:17:41.280 --> 1:17:43.519
<v Speaker 3>free flowing in the space that is the business part,

1:17:43.520 --> 1:17:46.320
<v Speaker 3>because the business is the friendship. But you know it's

1:17:46.360 --> 1:17:47.640
<v Speaker 3>not not you.

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<v Speaker 2>Feel that I don't know, I feel like I actually

1:17:50.120 --> 1:17:53.240
<v Speaker 2>feel that's the one thing I'm grateful for From my side,

1:17:53.240 --> 1:17:54.200
<v Speaker 2>I can't this is me speaking.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just saying the brand was was birthed out of

1:17:56.840 --> 1:18:00.519
<v Speaker 3>our friendship. So when there's no friendship, what the fuck

1:18:00.560 --> 1:18:01.080
<v Speaker 3>is the brand?

1:18:01.320 --> 1:18:01.559
<v Speaker 2>Like that?

1:18:01.840 --> 1:18:03.760
<v Speaker 3>And then begin and I feel like there's guilt too.

1:18:03.960 --> 1:18:07.720
<v Speaker 3>People are like your friendship, your friendship, you know, and

1:18:07.720 --> 1:18:10.000
<v Speaker 3>they're like, fuck, the friendship's not even like join great

1:18:10.040 --> 1:18:14.160
<v Speaker 3>right now, And there's I'm grateful that we got into

1:18:14.200 --> 1:18:17.200
<v Speaker 3>bed in this way because we cannot hide from each other,

1:18:17.320 --> 1:18:19.519
<v Speaker 3>we cannot hide from this work. And I'm grateful that

1:18:20.080 --> 1:18:25.320
<v Speaker 3>the podcast has been always no matter how much funny

1:18:25.400 --> 1:18:28.559
<v Speaker 3>and how much sex and how much, it's always been

1:18:28.800 --> 1:18:33.759
<v Speaker 3>a commitment and a promise to evolve and to heal

1:18:34.479 --> 1:18:37.320
<v Speaker 3>and to look at ourselves. You don't have to be

1:18:37.400 --> 1:18:42.120
<v Speaker 3>just like us. But this whole journey was built in

1:18:42.240 --> 1:18:45.240
<v Speaker 3>the in the sense of what are we doing now?

1:18:45.360 --> 1:18:47.920
<v Speaker 3>How can we be better? And it's three thirty three,

1:18:48.320 --> 1:18:52.120
<v Speaker 3>it's changed. But and I look at that, even when

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<v Speaker 3>I'm angry at you, eve, when I'm fucking pissed, even

1:18:54.320 --> 1:18:58.439
<v Speaker 3>when I'm like fuck this bitch, I'm still like, ah,

1:18:58.880 --> 1:19:01.680
<v Speaker 3>I know that there's requires deeper. And the truth is

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<v Speaker 3>we've avoided a lot of probably uncomfortable conversations because for

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<v Speaker 3>so long we didn't have any deep issues, you know,

1:19:09.240 --> 1:19:12.679
<v Speaker 3>we didn't have any deep arguments. And I think also

1:19:12.720 --> 1:19:15.559
<v Speaker 3>because we started not as friends per se, we started

1:19:15.560 --> 1:19:18.000
<v Speaker 3>as business partners. There's a level of delicacy.

1:19:18.200 --> 1:19:19.599
<v Speaker 2>And we didn't start as a business partners.

1:19:19.600 --> 1:19:21.160
<v Speaker 3>We start business, we just start as bid You didn't

1:19:21.160 --> 1:19:21.559
<v Speaker 3>know each other.

1:19:21.680 --> 1:19:24.479
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, we started as it literally happened all at once.

1:19:24.760 --> 1:19:26.960
<v Speaker 2>It just kept going. At one point we realized we

1:19:26.960 --> 1:19:28.639
<v Speaker 2>had a business. We're like, I guess we're business partners.

1:19:28.680 --> 1:19:30.439
<v Speaker 2>We had already been doing it for like at least.

1:19:30.280 --> 1:19:33.320
<v Speaker 3>A year when we realized that it's a tippy toeing around.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think, like it's just like it's I don't

1:19:35.680 --> 1:19:37.200
<v Speaker 2>want to say it's normal, but it is. I think

1:19:37.240 --> 1:19:39.320
<v Speaker 2>when something happens sometimes you're like, am my tripping, let

1:19:39.360 --> 1:19:40.519
<v Speaker 2>me not, let me shut the fuck up. And then

1:19:40.520 --> 1:19:43.439
<v Speaker 2>you do that enough and then a lot there's the

1:19:43.439 --> 1:19:45.360
<v Speaker 2>little seat of resentment starts to build and you just

1:19:45.360 --> 1:19:47.760
<v Speaker 2>don't share it until now it's a bigger thing. And

1:19:47.800 --> 1:19:50.559
<v Speaker 2>now the person's confused because you haven't said shit or

1:19:50.800 --> 1:19:53.000
<v Speaker 2>now the other side is like it's just there's just

1:19:53.040 --> 1:19:55.000
<v Speaker 2>so many things. And this is what happens in female

1:19:55.080 --> 1:19:58.680
<v Speaker 2>dynamics with women specifically, because I think women we hold on,

1:19:58.920 --> 1:20:02.720
<v Speaker 2>we hold more than men do. Men like they just

1:20:02.800 --> 1:20:05.720
<v Speaker 2>kind of like they just be flowing. They don't even

1:20:05.760 --> 1:20:07.799
<v Speaker 2>really be well. I mean, they don't really have drama.

1:20:08.040 --> 1:20:11.080
<v Speaker 3>No, men are a whole different, but I think that

1:20:11.080 --> 1:20:13.080
<v Speaker 3>they're lacking friendships and try.

1:20:13.200 --> 1:20:16.280
<v Speaker 2>But I actually respect sometimes how men deal with shit.

1:20:16.360 --> 1:20:18.360
<v Speaker 2>They can get They will call you out right there

1:20:18.680 --> 1:20:20.200
<v Speaker 2>and say it, even if it's a joke.

1:20:20.320 --> 1:20:21.639
<v Speaker 3>At least they're saying it.

1:20:21.800 --> 1:20:25.200
<v Speaker 2>Women will just literally not say shit, you know. And

1:20:26.240 --> 1:20:28.600
<v Speaker 2>in the spirit of it being International Women's Month this

1:20:28.720 --> 1:20:33.240
<v Speaker 2>month and our eight year anniversary and you know, our

1:20:33.240 --> 1:20:36.760
<v Speaker 2>commitment to therapy and the things that we're still we're

1:20:36.800 --> 1:20:39.200
<v Speaker 2>trying to get comfortable doing, like saying things in the

1:20:39.280 --> 1:20:44.800
<v Speaker 2>moment and like not taking things personally and and realizing

1:20:44.840 --> 1:20:47.360
<v Speaker 2>that even if there is resentment, even if there's truth

1:20:47.439 --> 1:20:49.840
<v Speaker 2>behind the things that we've said, and you agree and

1:20:49.880 --> 1:20:53.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't agree, like we know at the very core

1:20:53.520 --> 1:20:57.160
<v Speaker 2>of what what is happening that we have love for

1:20:57.280 --> 1:20:59.600
<v Speaker 2>one another and it's not like, oh, I love you.

1:20:59.640 --> 1:21:01.720
<v Speaker 2>I have you know, like there's like a deepness in

1:21:01.760 --> 1:21:02.559
<v Speaker 2>the love that we have.

1:21:02.720 --> 1:21:06.280
<v Speaker 3>We've seen each other through a lot of major life events, good,

1:21:06.360 --> 1:21:07.560
<v Speaker 3>bad and different.

1:21:07.560 --> 1:21:11.200
<v Speaker 2>And that is there. There's so much more value there

1:21:11.760 --> 1:21:14.080
<v Speaker 2>than there is with all the whatever else. There is

1:21:14.600 --> 1:21:18.479
<v Speaker 2>like the richness and the foundation that is there, like

1:21:19.160 --> 1:21:21.200
<v Speaker 2>the other things can they can be Because at the

1:21:21.280 --> 1:21:22.639
<v Speaker 2>end of the day, bitch, if anything were to ever

1:21:22.640 --> 1:21:25.760
<v Speaker 2>happen to you, I would fucking I would die. I'm

1:21:26.080 --> 1:21:26.720
<v Speaker 2>thinking about it.

1:21:27.360 --> 1:21:27.799
<v Speaker 3>I couldn't.

1:21:28.000 --> 1:21:29.680
<v Speaker 2>I couldn't really die, Like I would be like, oh

1:21:29.760 --> 1:21:32.800
<v Speaker 2>my God, Like I just there's nothing in this motherfucking

1:21:32.840 --> 1:21:37.240
<v Speaker 2>world that like would be is important to me.

1:21:37.560 --> 1:21:40.439
<v Speaker 3>No, it's not. And there it's nothing. Even even with

1:21:40.479 --> 1:21:42.800
<v Speaker 3>all the water under the bridge or whatever place we're

1:21:42.800 --> 1:21:44.880
<v Speaker 3>in at this moment or have been in the last

1:21:45.000 --> 1:21:48.400
<v Speaker 3>year two years, there's nothing that's greater than the love

1:21:48.400 --> 1:21:50.080
<v Speaker 3>that I have for you. There's nothing that you've done

1:21:50.080 --> 1:21:53.840
<v Speaker 3>that I can't forgive. There's nothing that there's nothing that

1:21:53.880 --> 1:21:57.600
<v Speaker 3>weighs heavier than what we've created, what we've built, the

1:21:57.680 --> 1:22:01.040
<v Speaker 3>experiences we've had together. I mean, like just us in general,

1:22:01.720 --> 1:22:04.559
<v Speaker 3>just the joy that we've experienced, just the adventures, just

1:22:04.640 --> 1:22:07.760
<v Speaker 3>the stories we've been able to tell, the boldness that

1:22:07.800 --> 1:22:11.960
<v Speaker 3>we've given each other permission to experience, like it is.

1:22:12.479 --> 1:22:15.080
<v Speaker 3>I think this shit weighs so heavily on me because

1:22:15.120 --> 1:22:17.920
<v Speaker 3>this is so important to me. It really has like

1:22:18.600 --> 1:22:21.360
<v Speaker 3>changed my life. You've changed my life, and this friendship

1:22:21.360 --> 1:22:25.759
<v Speaker 3>has birth something like in me, Like I've shifted because

1:22:25.800 --> 1:22:27.720
<v Speaker 3>of it, and my life has shifted because of it.

1:22:27.760 --> 1:22:31.880
<v Speaker 3>And like how close we've been and literally a safe

1:22:31.920 --> 1:22:35.000
<v Speaker 3>haven in so many and the most difficult parts of

1:22:35.000 --> 1:22:39.360
<v Speaker 3>our lives, you know, like it has been something true

1:22:39.400 --> 1:22:41.920
<v Speaker 3>and real that I can always go to you and say, Yo,

1:22:42.120 --> 1:22:44.519
<v Speaker 3>this is happening or whatever the fuck, and there's always

1:22:44.560 --> 1:22:47.160
<v Speaker 3>a place that we can land. Is so much more

1:22:47.240 --> 1:22:50.400
<v Speaker 3>valuable than any of this other shit that we're dealing with,

1:22:50.520 --> 1:22:54.360
<v Speaker 3>or that we are caddy or whatever the holding resentment

1:22:54.439 --> 1:22:56.400
<v Speaker 3>over I just at the end of the day, I'm like,

1:22:56.600 --> 1:22:59.000
<v Speaker 3>I know we're going to come out of this, and

1:22:59.120 --> 1:23:01.120
<v Speaker 3>I hope that and I know that we're working on

1:23:01.200 --> 1:23:02.880
<v Speaker 3>skills that we can come out of it without it

1:23:02.920 --> 1:23:08.280
<v Speaker 3>being we're writing down taking score of what's happening, you know,

1:23:08.520 --> 1:23:12.160
<v Speaker 3>and I just know that's not our story. There's so

1:23:12.240 --> 1:23:14.519
<v Speaker 3>much more for us to do, and and I think

1:23:14.520 --> 1:23:16.639
<v Speaker 3>every time we get to a point where we've ignored

1:23:16.680 --> 1:23:19.800
<v Speaker 3>some issues, it's like the real, the real question is

1:23:19.840 --> 1:23:21.880
<v Speaker 3>are you ready to really let this go? Are you

1:23:21.920 --> 1:23:24.240
<v Speaker 3>gonna let this go right now? And it's always like, no,

1:23:24.280 --> 1:23:26.439
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to. I don't want to. I don't

1:23:26.439 --> 1:23:29.360
<v Speaker 3>want this to be how it ends. That doesn't make

1:23:29.400 --> 1:23:31.639
<v Speaker 3>sense to me. That is not what we foresaw. That's

1:23:31.640 --> 1:23:33.320
<v Speaker 3>not why we prayed over our friendship. That's not why

1:23:33.320 --> 1:23:33.599
<v Speaker 3>we did.

1:23:33.560 --> 1:23:34.240
<v Speaker 2>All this work.

1:23:34.560 --> 1:23:37.360
<v Speaker 3>And like, you know, as we go into this session

1:23:37.360 --> 1:23:40.320
<v Speaker 3>tomorrow with all these things, and like I was even thinking,

1:23:40.320 --> 1:23:44.160
<v Speaker 3>like this is even necessary? Are we like fucking up?

1:23:44.320 --> 1:23:46.679
<v Speaker 2>Like are we gonna like be mad again?

1:23:47.040 --> 1:23:48.559
<v Speaker 3>It's gonna recognize these things.

1:23:48.800 --> 1:23:50.880
<v Speaker 2>But then I'm always afraid, like I'm like, well, maybe

1:23:50.880 --> 1:23:53.280
<v Speaker 2>we also need to let it go. So everything's like

1:23:53.320 --> 1:23:56.040
<v Speaker 2>I already said that already, So there's no harbor that

1:23:56.080 --> 1:23:59.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't And I realized I realized a part of it,

1:23:59.280 --> 1:24:03.160
<v Speaker 2>a part of I think everyone needs to realize just

1:24:03.200 --> 1:24:06.080
<v Speaker 2>because someone says something does not mean it's true. Sometimes

1:24:06.120 --> 1:24:09.040
<v Speaker 2>you say things they're not true, but sometimes you just

1:24:09.080 --> 1:24:11.200
<v Speaker 2>need to say the thing, you know, and like that

1:24:11.240 --> 1:24:11.880
<v Speaker 2>could I don't know.

1:24:11.920 --> 1:24:17.599
<v Speaker 3>We'll report back next week, but I do want if

1:24:17.600 --> 1:24:19.280
<v Speaker 3>you're listening, if you have a best friend and like,

1:24:19.320 --> 1:24:22.320
<v Speaker 3>granted people grow apart, and granted people change, and granted life,

1:24:23.040 --> 1:24:25.240
<v Speaker 3>and you know, Bell Hooks writes about this is like

1:24:25.400 --> 1:24:27.200
<v Speaker 3>and this is we experienced this in the beginning. When

1:24:27.200 --> 1:24:29.559
<v Speaker 3>you're going through the same thing as somebody, there is

1:24:29.600 --> 1:24:31.880
<v Speaker 3>a level of trust and understanding. And I don't know

1:24:31.880 --> 1:24:35.799
<v Speaker 3>if it's trauma bonding that happened. For sure, we trauma bonded.

1:24:36.120 --> 1:24:38.519
<v Speaker 2>We are the result. We are the beautiful result of

1:24:38.560 --> 1:24:39.320
<v Speaker 2>a trauma bond life.

1:24:39.400 --> 1:24:43.479
<v Speaker 3>It can be positive codependency, codependency and trauma bonding. And

1:24:43.520 --> 1:24:46.479
<v Speaker 3>that's looked great in some chapters of our life. And

1:24:46.479 --> 1:24:52.000
<v Speaker 3>then sometimes this is a problem. It's not sustainable. It's

1:24:52.000 --> 1:24:55.720
<v Speaker 3>not sustainable. It's not I mean, I guess I always said, like, well,

1:24:55.720 --> 1:24:57.840
<v Speaker 3>what if we get married, Like what's going to happen

1:24:58.000 --> 1:24:59.519
<v Speaker 3>with good moms? I choicing It's like, well, we'll tell

1:24:59.520 --> 1:25:02.559
<v Speaker 3>those stories. And I was like this sounds fun.

1:25:04.520 --> 1:25:06.240
<v Speaker 2>People wrote it. We're like, you guys are getting boring.

1:25:09.800 --> 1:25:12.280
<v Speaker 2>I've been going to Costa Rican bitches.

1:25:12.360 --> 1:25:16.240
<v Speaker 3>I don't know, just go back to twenty eighteen. You

1:25:16.280 --> 1:25:18.400
<v Speaker 3>have a lot, you have like six years of horrishness,

1:25:18.439 --> 1:25:26.160
<v Speaker 3>maybe four, But yeah, this is inevitable and any friendship

1:25:26.240 --> 1:25:29.400
<v Speaker 3>dynamics are going to change. We are two individuals, although

1:25:29.400 --> 1:25:33.400
<v Speaker 3>we've been one conglomerate for quite some time. When the

1:25:33.840 --> 1:25:36.439
<v Speaker 3>like when we realized it was separating, there was a

1:25:36.479 --> 1:25:38.840
<v Speaker 3>lot of fear. I can say for myself, a lot

1:25:38.840 --> 1:25:43.000
<v Speaker 3>of fear, a lot of fear, a lot of worry

1:25:43.240 --> 1:25:48.000
<v Speaker 3>about that means for us, And like just when you've

1:25:48.040 --> 1:25:50.920
<v Speaker 3>put poured so much into something, it's you know, you

1:25:50.920 --> 1:25:54.400
<v Speaker 3>don't want to see it and whatever you're imagined, like

1:25:54.439 --> 1:25:55.880
<v Speaker 3>however it is, you don't want to see it change

1:25:55.960 --> 1:25:58.840
<v Speaker 3>or dwindle. But things change.

1:25:59.200 --> 1:26:04.160
<v Speaker 2>So that's literally why we're tormented. It's literally the source

1:26:04.200 --> 1:26:07.080
<v Speaker 2>of ninety nine percent of our pain is that we can't.

1:26:07.200 --> 1:26:08.240
<v Speaker 2>We have a hard time with that.

1:26:08.479 --> 1:26:10.080
<v Speaker 3>And I don't want to choose suffering. I want to

1:26:10.200 --> 1:26:13.040
<v Speaker 3>choose like empathy. And I realized that, like, am I

1:26:13.120 --> 1:26:15.680
<v Speaker 3>not being empathetic? Am I not being? And then I

1:26:15.720 --> 1:26:17.960
<v Speaker 3>am pathetic and I don't feel like it's like recognized,

1:26:18.000 --> 1:26:19.960
<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, fuck being empathetic.

1:26:19.479 --> 1:26:22.920
<v Speaker 2>Fuck that I'm a cold I'm cold fuck all that.

1:26:23.240 --> 1:26:27.439
<v Speaker 3>So, you know, and granted, thankfully we are people who

1:26:27.640 --> 1:26:30.479
<v Speaker 3>look at ourselves, you know, and hopefully we can always

1:26:30.760 --> 1:26:33.240
<v Speaker 3>have the ability to do that, and you know, just

1:26:33.320 --> 1:26:35.880
<v Speaker 3>all the things. If you have friends and loved ones

1:26:35.920 --> 1:26:38.360
<v Speaker 3>that you care about, I mean, it's always worth fighting for,

1:26:38.439 --> 1:26:40.080
<v Speaker 3>it's always worth working for it, especially if you think

1:26:40.080 --> 1:26:44.040
<v Speaker 3>those people are smart, emotionally intelligent and also on the

1:26:44.080 --> 1:26:46.880
<v Speaker 3>same thing as you. And that's one thing we can't

1:26:46.920 --> 1:26:51.479
<v Speaker 3>ever say we're not both on the same trajectory as

1:26:51.479 --> 1:26:55.519
<v Speaker 3>far as evolving, healing, being self aware and being aware

1:26:55.520 --> 1:26:58.240
<v Speaker 3>in general. And I think if you have those things

1:26:58.240 --> 1:27:04.000
<v Speaker 3>in common, then you'll all be willing to take accountability

1:27:04.160 --> 1:27:06.720
<v Speaker 3>and also speak your mind. And also, just what I've

1:27:06.760 --> 1:27:08.479
<v Speaker 3>had to tell myself a lot in this process is

1:27:08.520 --> 1:27:13.880
<v Speaker 3>that telling the truth and being honest is it feels scary,

1:27:14.040 --> 1:27:17.240
<v Speaker 3>but it's ultimately going to bring more love and more closeness.

1:27:18.040 --> 1:27:20.800
<v Speaker 3>So if you can get over the discomfort of saying

1:27:20.800 --> 1:27:23.640
<v Speaker 3>the thing, or you can receive it without being defensive,

1:27:24.600 --> 1:27:28.599
<v Speaker 3>then there's something even greater on the other side. And

1:27:28.640 --> 1:27:30.800
<v Speaker 3>sometimes that's difficult. And I was thinking about that with Orlando.

1:27:30.840 --> 1:27:32.640
<v Speaker 3>He was getting on my nerves last night, and I

1:27:32.680 --> 1:27:35.120
<v Speaker 3>was like, oh my god, because in my mind, the

1:27:35.120 --> 1:27:36.679
<v Speaker 3>first thing I say when someone's getting on my nerve

1:27:36.720 --> 1:27:39.160
<v Speaker 3>is I'm over this. Those are the exact words I

1:27:39.160 --> 1:27:39.680
<v Speaker 3>say in my mind.

1:27:39.720 --> 1:27:40.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm over this.

1:27:40.320 --> 1:27:42.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm over that person. I'm over this. And then I

1:27:42.200 --> 1:27:43.639
<v Speaker 3>was like, you're not over it, You're in it.

1:27:44.400 --> 1:27:46.439
<v Speaker 2>Actually, which actually I was like the very bottom.

1:27:46.520 --> 1:27:48.560
<v Speaker 3>I was like, you're actually up over it. I was

1:27:48.600 --> 1:27:50.880
<v Speaker 3>like a campy over it because I'm in it. And

1:27:50.960 --> 1:27:53.960
<v Speaker 3>I signed a certificate or whatever the fuck this means,

1:27:54.439 --> 1:27:55.920
<v Speaker 3>and now I'm in it. And I was like thinking

1:27:55.960 --> 1:27:57.960
<v Speaker 3>about you, and I'm like, fuck, it's the same thing.

1:27:58.400 --> 1:28:00.400
<v Speaker 3>I'm in it. Like there's no getting over it. It's

1:28:00.439 --> 1:28:02.439
<v Speaker 3>always going to exist, even if we said fuck all

1:28:02.439 --> 1:28:05.799
<v Speaker 3>this year. Right now, good Moms is an entity. She exists.

1:28:05.840 --> 1:28:08.360
<v Speaker 3>She's going to come up. So it's just like we

1:28:08.400 --> 1:28:12.200
<v Speaker 3>have a baby together, so you know, and she's eight.

1:28:14.400 --> 1:28:16.160
<v Speaker 3>It's a big ass kid. That's not a baby, that's

1:28:16.160 --> 1:28:17.800
<v Speaker 3>not even a toddler. That's a kid.

1:28:18.479 --> 1:28:21.160
<v Speaker 2>She's heading into preteen. Maybe that's why she's such a bitch.

1:28:22.680 --> 1:28:33.040
<v Speaker 3>It's hormonales, I think fits. She doesn't like those clothes.

1:28:33.080 --> 1:28:38.639
<v Speaker 3>You're too fast. Oh my goodness, O god.

1:28:38.720 --> 1:28:42.560
<v Speaker 2>Well, cheers to our friendship and cheers to growth, and

1:28:42.640 --> 1:28:45.599
<v Speaker 2>cheers to acknowledging the hard things and being in it

1:28:45.680 --> 1:28:49.840
<v Speaker 2>for the long run, and also honoring you know that

1:28:50.080 --> 1:28:52.760
<v Speaker 2>things do change, and things people change, and we have

1:28:52.760 --> 1:28:54.760
<v Speaker 2>to learn how to love people differently at times, like

1:28:54.920 --> 1:28:57.000
<v Speaker 2>sometimes the love that you're giving or the love that

1:28:57.040 --> 1:28:58.680
<v Speaker 2>I'm giving you a love that you're giving me. For

1:28:58.720 --> 1:29:01.519
<v Speaker 2>the last however, many has to shift, just like you

1:29:01.520 --> 1:29:04.679
<v Speaker 2>will shift with your child and adjust to where they're

1:29:04.720 --> 1:29:07.360
<v Speaker 2>at in their growth journey and in their development and

1:29:07.360 --> 1:29:10.439
<v Speaker 2>in their story. So I hope that if you're listening

1:29:10.520 --> 1:29:12.320
<v Speaker 2>to this, and if you have a friendship that might

1:29:12.360 --> 1:29:14.519
<v Speaker 2>be a little bit rocky right now, you can just

1:29:14.560 --> 1:29:18.240
<v Speaker 2>take a step back and just give it a breather.

1:29:18.880 --> 1:29:22.559
<v Speaker 2>But also just fu what is the root and think

1:29:22.560 --> 1:29:25.280
<v Speaker 2>about that, like, what is the root of the friendship?

1:29:25.320 --> 1:29:27.720
<v Speaker 2>Is that sustainable enough for you to say, Okay, well,

1:29:27.760 --> 1:29:30.439
<v Speaker 2>maybe I can thug this out a little bit longer.

1:29:30.439 --> 1:29:32.920
<v Speaker 2>Maybe we deserve another conversation. Maybe we need to write

1:29:32.920 --> 1:29:36.000
<v Speaker 2>some things down and then have a conversation, like not

1:29:36.120 --> 1:29:38.920
<v Speaker 2>just wing it. You know, where bitches are just like, well,

1:29:39.000 --> 1:29:40.760
<v Speaker 2>I feel like this what I feel like, because we

1:29:40.920 --> 1:29:44.280
<v Speaker 2>can feel all motherfucking day, you know, and it's just

1:29:44.280 --> 1:29:48.479
<v Speaker 2>like having an organized conversation with the person that you

1:29:48.560 --> 1:29:50.360
<v Speaker 2>care for and that you love for and maybe even

1:29:50.400 --> 1:29:55.360
<v Speaker 2>having a mediator. I think that normalizing support in the

1:29:55.360 --> 1:29:59.160
<v Speaker 2>communication with not just your love space, but like your

1:29:59.200 --> 1:30:02.880
<v Speaker 2>friendship space is important because sometimes it's like it does

1:30:02.960 --> 1:30:06.080
<v Speaker 2>take a friend, like maybe maybe a friend to be like, hey, guys,

1:30:06.120 --> 1:30:07.840
<v Speaker 2>like what's going on, Let's figure this out.

1:30:08.360 --> 1:30:10.599
<v Speaker 3>That's good through this, you know, because I'm pretty sure

1:30:10.640 --> 1:30:12.840
<v Speaker 3>all of our friends are tired of us.

1:30:14.040 --> 1:30:19.599
<v Speaker 2>Probably, and having a mediator is like sometimes what has

1:30:19.640 --> 1:30:25.120
<v Speaker 2>to happen. So that's my spiel on friendship and healing.

1:30:25.360 --> 1:30:30.840
<v Speaker 3>And also we're not giving a rule book in relationships communication,

1:30:31.000 --> 1:30:32.760
<v Speaker 3>Like we have language, but we don't know how to

1:30:32.880 --> 1:30:35.080
<v Speaker 3>use it. And I think I do think it's important

1:30:35.120 --> 1:30:38.600
<v Speaker 3>to like find creed and like communication and ways in

1:30:38.640 --> 1:30:42.439
<v Speaker 3>which communication is makes sense because we could be talking

1:30:42.880 --> 1:30:45.640
<v Speaker 3>Chinese and fucking Spanish to each other all day, and

1:30:45.680 --> 1:30:47.240
<v Speaker 3>if we're not speaking the same language and we're not

1:30:47.280 --> 1:30:50.520
<v Speaker 3>here to understand, it doesn't fucking matter what we're saying.

1:30:50.760 --> 1:30:52.880
<v Speaker 2>And especially if you're going into it too, because I

1:30:52.920 --> 1:30:54.360
<v Speaker 2>was happy to think. Like before when we went to

1:30:54.439 --> 1:30:57.880
<v Speaker 2>therapy last time, I was like I was feeling like

1:30:58.320 --> 1:31:01.080
<v Speaker 2>defensive and or like, and I was like, what is

1:31:01.120 --> 1:31:03.160
<v Speaker 2>my what do I want to come out of this?

1:31:04.160 --> 1:31:06.200
<v Speaker 2>Do I want to be right? Do I want to

1:31:06.200 --> 1:31:08.640
<v Speaker 2>be a when? Do I want my point to be

1:31:08.760 --> 1:31:13.200
<v Speaker 2>across and try to finally say yeah, you're right Erica yeah?

1:31:13.479 --> 1:31:15.240
<v Speaker 2>Or like? And if I don't get that, is it over?

1:31:15.800 --> 1:31:15.880
<v Speaker 1>Like?

1:31:15.960 --> 1:31:17.920
<v Speaker 2>You know, like what is it that I fucking want

1:31:17.960 --> 1:31:20.719
<v Speaker 2>from this? And it's like I want resolve, I want peace,

1:31:20.920 --> 1:31:23.519
<v Speaker 2>I want flow, I want I want a friendship to persevere.

1:31:23.680 --> 1:31:26.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't like, can it go back to exactly how

1:31:26.720 --> 1:31:29.320
<v Speaker 2>it was? No, because we've evolved. It's like it's it's

1:31:29.320 --> 1:31:31.160
<v Speaker 2>going to continue, whether we're in a good place all

1:31:31.200 --> 1:31:33.679
<v Speaker 2>the time or whether we're struggling. No matter what.

1:31:33.600 --> 1:31:35.439
<v Speaker 3>Things evolved, time is timing.

1:31:35.680 --> 1:31:38.519
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And so I just had to like think about that.

1:31:38.760 --> 1:31:40.719
<v Speaker 2>And I don't know if I I mean, I think

1:31:40.760 --> 1:31:42.559
<v Speaker 2>like I don't know if I was successful the whole thing.

1:31:42.600 --> 1:31:47.080
<v Speaker 2>I wasn't. But I feel like hopefully maybe tomorrow we

1:31:47.160 --> 1:31:50.959
<v Speaker 2>both can agree to go into therapy with that mindset

1:31:51.040 --> 1:31:53.840
<v Speaker 2>because we are going to be sharing things that might

1:31:53.960 --> 1:31:56.000
<v Speaker 2>are going to probably trigger one another, and it's like,

1:31:56.520 --> 1:31:59.960
<v Speaker 2>what do we ultimately want? Why are we here? Yeah,

1:32:00.120 --> 1:32:00.920
<v Speaker 2>to sort this out?

1:32:01.160 --> 1:32:04.479
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean yeah, absolutely A lot of times someone's

1:32:04.520 --> 1:32:05.920
<v Speaker 3>not going to be like I agree with you one

1:32:05.960 --> 1:32:10.160
<v Speaker 3>hundred percent. Yeah, you know, and I was gonna tell

1:32:10.160 --> 1:32:13.840
<v Speaker 3>you this too, Like there's I always say this Kenya,

1:32:14.000 --> 1:32:16.720
<v Speaker 3>her fucking communication, her up level communication.

1:32:16.680 --> 1:32:19.680
<v Speaker 2>And saying everything you need to say and getting the animal.

1:32:19.360 --> 1:32:24.400
<v Speaker 3>Out, getting the animal out, but also recognizing, like the soothing,

1:32:25.240 --> 1:32:27.800
<v Speaker 3>the soothing is that you may not even mean the

1:32:27.840 --> 1:32:30.000
<v Speaker 3>shit that I what I need to hear. You may

1:32:30.080 --> 1:32:33.400
<v Speaker 3>I need to you may not mean, but who cares?

1:32:33.439 --> 1:32:36.600
<v Speaker 3>Just say it and same I'm sorry for What do

1:32:36.600 --> 1:32:38.320
<v Speaker 3>you need from me? What is going to make you

1:32:38.360 --> 1:32:40.160
<v Speaker 3>feel better? I think people don't go to the end

1:32:40.200 --> 1:32:42.639
<v Speaker 3>and come back. Sometimes I need to say this. And

1:32:42.640 --> 1:32:46.040
<v Speaker 3>maybe it's not you that committed this first thing against me,

1:32:46.120 --> 1:32:48.920
<v Speaker 3>that didn't accept me or didn't or rejected me. Maybe

1:32:48.920 --> 1:32:50.880
<v Speaker 3>this is for my mom or because of my dad.

1:32:51.160 --> 1:32:54.320
<v Speaker 3>But I need you because we are under in understanding,

1:32:54.320 --> 1:32:56.920
<v Speaker 3>and we are in relationship in a way that we

1:32:56.960 --> 1:32:58.880
<v Speaker 3>are evolving, and we know that maybe there's things that

1:32:58.920 --> 1:33:00.880
<v Speaker 3>need to be healed, and I if I can do

1:33:00.920 --> 1:33:03.000
<v Speaker 3>that for you, I'll do that for you, and then

1:33:03.000 --> 1:33:05.760
<v Speaker 3>you'll be Then you'll be shocked to be like, Oh,

1:33:06.120 --> 1:33:07.519
<v Speaker 3>I don't care if she meant it or not. I

1:33:07.640 --> 1:33:10.519
<v Speaker 3>like it, you know what I mean. Like you sometimes

1:33:10.560 --> 1:33:12.639
<v Speaker 3>need to have the animal be released. You need to say,

1:33:12.680 --> 1:33:14.320
<v Speaker 3>this is what I need to be soothed. You need

1:33:14.320 --> 1:33:16.919
<v Speaker 3>to ask for exactly what you want, what is your request?

1:33:17.600 --> 1:33:19.640
<v Speaker 3>Because I think sometimes we're just angry and we're just

1:33:19.680 --> 1:33:23.960
<v Speaker 3>battling feelings and feelings are all over the place. But

1:33:24.080 --> 1:33:25.720
<v Speaker 3>if you can say what is it that I need

1:33:25.720 --> 1:33:28.160
<v Speaker 3>in this moment, and that that person loves you enough

1:33:28.160 --> 1:33:29.519
<v Speaker 3>to give it to you, and it's not on some

1:33:29.600 --> 1:33:31.639
<v Speaker 3>ego or some stubborn shit, it's just like maybe I'm

1:33:31.640 --> 1:33:33.920
<v Speaker 3>not right, I don't know, but this is what I need,

1:33:34.439 --> 1:33:36.760
<v Speaker 3>and just you know, And sometimes when you find out

1:33:36.800 --> 1:33:38.519
<v Speaker 3>what you need, you find out maybe this is not

1:33:38.560 --> 1:33:40.760
<v Speaker 3>even her, Maybe this is the projection of something else.

1:33:40.800 --> 1:33:42.760
<v Speaker 3>Maybe I'm mad at her because she's doing something that

1:33:42.800 --> 1:33:44.719
<v Speaker 3>I haven't been able to do, or that I haven't done,

1:33:44.760 --> 1:33:47.720
<v Speaker 3>whatever the fuck it is. There is a process in

1:33:47.760 --> 1:33:51.240
<v Speaker 3>the communication and it relieves something in you and I

1:33:51.280 --> 1:33:54.000
<v Speaker 3>think that that is something that I was intending on

1:33:54.080 --> 1:33:56.400
<v Speaker 3>like sharing with you tomorrow, and like, I want you

1:33:56.439 --> 1:33:58.920
<v Speaker 3>to know that tomorrow I am going in it. I

1:33:59.040 --> 1:34:00.840
<v Speaker 3>tell myself every time you go to therapy, even though

1:34:00.880 --> 1:34:03.400
<v Speaker 3>it hasn't been a million times, been like five times,

1:34:04.080 --> 1:34:07.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm not going in defensive. I'm gonna be as empathetic

1:34:07.439 --> 1:34:09.320
<v Speaker 3>I want to. I'm here to understand. I want this

1:34:09.400 --> 1:34:11.920
<v Speaker 3>to be better. I want resolve like I because I

1:34:11.920 --> 1:34:13.640
<v Speaker 3>don't want to argue with you. I don't want this

1:34:13.720 --> 1:34:16.280
<v Speaker 3>to be this weird energy between us. I don't think

1:34:16.320 --> 1:34:18.920
<v Speaker 3>that's I don't like it. I don't like not getting

1:34:18.920 --> 1:34:21.120
<v Speaker 3>along with you. I don't I don't like feeling this way.

1:34:21.160 --> 1:34:24.080
<v Speaker 3>I don't like fucking thinking about you four hundred times

1:34:24.080 --> 1:34:26.040
<v Speaker 3>a day because I'm like, what the fuck is going on?

1:34:26.400 --> 1:34:30.200
<v Speaker 3>I feel nuts, I feel obsessed, and I feel like

1:34:30.520 --> 1:34:32.640
<v Speaker 3>I want to find and.

1:34:33.120 --> 1:34:35.439
<v Speaker 2>I know when we do it's easy.

1:34:35.880 --> 1:34:38.360
<v Speaker 3>We've been in fights before. I'm gonna be like, oh okay, fine,

1:34:38.720 --> 1:34:40.519
<v Speaker 3>but it just requires that we do that thing. So

1:34:40.600 --> 1:34:42.280
<v Speaker 3>I want you to know as we go into tomorrow,

1:34:42.600 --> 1:34:47.160
<v Speaker 3>resent speech whatever, it's always love, It's always I'm not

1:34:47.160 --> 1:34:49.160
<v Speaker 3>saying everything I'm saying is right. I'm not saying everything

1:34:49.200 --> 1:34:51.559
<v Speaker 3>I'm saying is you know correct, It's just how I've

1:34:51.560 --> 1:34:53.400
<v Speaker 3>been feeling and like, at the end of the day,

1:34:54.240 --> 1:34:56.960
<v Speaker 3>in all of it, there's love, and of all of it,

1:34:57.000 --> 1:34:58.920
<v Speaker 3>I want understanding. That's it.

1:34:59.000 --> 1:35:14.559
<v Speaker 2>Same love. You happy at your anniversary? Your universary? Mm.

1:35:16.320 --> 1:35:20.920
<v Speaker 2>Life is challenging, okay, nothing like a little tequila. This

1:35:20.960 --> 1:35:23.479
<v Speaker 2>is our fucking good mom's Confessions of a good Mom.

1:35:23.479 --> 1:35:24.439
<v Speaker 2>This is our reality show.

1:35:25.400 --> 1:35:26.840
<v Speaker 3>And then that bitch said.

1:35:26.800 --> 1:35:29.560
<v Speaker 2>So we got drunk and we told her everything.

1:35:32.280 --> 1:35:35.240
<v Speaker 3>Eleven am even this is our way. Okay, this is

1:35:35.240 --> 1:35:39.560
<v Speaker 3>what we came up with yesterday. Do you have affirmation?

1:35:43.160 --> 1:35:45.320
<v Speaker 2>Go to therapy with your friends.

1:35:47.040 --> 1:35:53.400
<v Speaker 3>Okay, go to therapy with your friends, or get the

1:35:53.439 --> 1:35:55.360
<v Speaker 3>most the friend who's the most likely.

1:35:55.240 --> 1:35:59.040
<v Speaker 2>To your friendship. If your friendship requires therapy, go.

1:36:00.280 --> 1:36:03.719
<v Speaker 3>If your friendship is important enough to go, go to therapy.

1:36:04.320 --> 1:36:06.280
<v Speaker 3>And remember, if you don't have any friends, you might

1:36:06.320 --> 1:36:08.639
<v Speaker 3>have its equivalent to smoking or having heart failure.

1:36:08.720 --> 1:36:10.879
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so you gotter hurry up because you're dying. Basically

1:36:11.960 --> 1:36:15.040
<v Speaker 2>you're dying. Or come to the good vibratree and make

1:36:15.080 --> 1:36:16.760
<v Speaker 2>some new friends. If you need a new tribe, make

1:36:16.800 --> 1:36:19.240
<v Speaker 2>sure you come to the good vibratry. We are going

1:36:19.280 --> 1:36:20.840
<v Speaker 2>to Costa Rica and you'll get all this.

1:36:22.000 --> 1:36:22.439
<v Speaker 3>Do you want to.

1:36:22.439 --> 1:36:24.559
<v Speaker 2>Cry in our arms? Do you want to see us

1:36:24.600 --> 1:36:25.759
<v Speaker 2>crying each other's arms?

1:36:25.960 --> 1:36:29.759
<v Speaker 3>That's happened. Okay, I pulled it upside down, which seems

1:36:29.800 --> 1:36:32.600
<v Speaker 3>more record. Okay, we got the three swords. It's a

1:36:32.800 --> 1:36:37.200
<v Speaker 3>fucking three swords going through a heart. It's really looks

1:36:37.280 --> 1:36:46.240
<v Speaker 3>I don't know a bit intense. The so your swords

1:36:46.240 --> 1:36:49.040
<v Speaker 3>reverse encourages you to pay attention to your inner thoughts

1:36:49.080 --> 1:36:51.800
<v Speaker 3>and self talk. Your words are powerful, especially those you

1:36:51.840 --> 1:36:54.160
<v Speaker 3>repeat to yourself day after day. You may be prone

1:36:54.200 --> 1:36:56.720
<v Speaker 3>to self criticism, limiting beliefs, and negative self talk. You

1:36:56.760 --> 1:36:59.479
<v Speaker 3>may identify with an inner mean girl or boy who

1:36:59.520 --> 1:37:02.400
<v Speaker 3>is constantly telling you why you're not good enough. When

1:37:02.400 --> 1:37:04.639
<v Speaker 3>you hear these negative thoughts come up, ask yourself whether

1:37:04.680 --> 1:37:06.519
<v Speaker 3>you would utter those words to a friend or a

1:37:06.520 --> 1:37:08.200
<v Speaker 3>loved one. And if the answer is hell no, then

1:37:08.200 --> 1:37:11.720
<v Speaker 3>why are you speaking to those words to yourself? Look

1:37:11.760 --> 1:37:13.760
<v Speaker 3>how you can shift your thoughts towards the positive to

1:37:13.800 --> 1:37:16.439
<v Speaker 3>reinforce your confidence. You have what it takes to be

1:37:16.479 --> 1:37:19.600
<v Speaker 3>the person you deserve to be. You may also be hypercented,

1:37:19.760 --> 1:37:22.840
<v Speaker 3>sensitive to others words and need to develop a thick skin.

1:37:23.479 --> 1:37:26.240
<v Speaker 3>Let go of the hurt and these words are caused

1:37:26.320 --> 1:37:29.040
<v Speaker 3>that these words are causing you, It will only hold

1:37:29.040 --> 1:37:31.599
<v Speaker 3>wait TOLEMI let go of the hurt that these words

1:37:31.600 --> 1:37:33.680
<v Speaker 3>are causing you. It would only hold you back and

1:37:33.720 --> 1:37:37.000
<v Speaker 3>do some self reflection. What has triggered your feelings and

1:37:37.040 --> 1:37:40.679
<v Speaker 3>why and how might you address the underlying issue. For example,

1:37:41.160 --> 1:37:44.240
<v Speaker 3>if you're upset by a friend's accusation that you are selfish,

1:37:44.520 --> 1:37:47.600
<v Speaker 3>look within yourself to see where you may be acting selfishly.

1:37:47.960 --> 1:37:50.280
<v Speaker 3>If this behavior is no longer serving you, then let

1:37:50.360 --> 1:37:53.000
<v Speaker 3>it go. The through your Swords reverse can indicate that

1:37:53.040 --> 1:37:56.040
<v Speaker 3>you have recently gone through a difficult patch in which

1:37:56.040 --> 1:37:59.040
<v Speaker 3>a relationship has ended or been challenged, a loved one

1:37:59.120 --> 1:38:01.800
<v Speaker 3>has passed, or you were hurt by a situation that

1:38:01.840 --> 1:38:06.439
<v Speaker 3>affected you deeply. Thankfully the reverse the reversal of this

1:38:06.520 --> 1:38:08.880
<v Speaker 3>card suggests that this time has passed and you're on

1:38:08.920 --> 1:38:16.120
<v Speaker 3>the path to recovery. Realizing that with every cloud comes

1:38:16.120 --> 1:38:18.160
<v Speaker 3>with silver lining, and you have other things in your

1:38:18.200 --> 1:38:20.800
<v Speaker 3>life which bring you joy, you have reached a point

1:38:20.800 --> 1:38:22.760
<v Speaker 3>where you can accept the pain and are ready to

1:38:22.800 --> 1:38:25.320
<v Speaker 3>move forward.

1:38:25.760 --> 1:38:27.679
<v Speaker 2>Wow. The cards.

1:38:27.720 --> 1:38:34.960
<v Speaker 3>Don't lie, bitch, the cards never fucking never lie fucking lie.

1:38:35.960 --> 1:38:38.679
<v Speaker 2>Okay, well, thank you, thank you cards.

1:38:38.720 --> 1:38:43.800
<v Speaker 3>Thank you Spirit for always speaking in all of the ways, numbers, dates, songs,

1:38:44.000 --> 1:38:48.120
<v Speaker 3>phone calls, tarot cards. When you are the witch, you

1:38:48.200 --> 1:38:51.000
<v Speaker 3>give everything the power to give the message and you

1:38:51.000 --> 1:38:54.080
<v Speaker 3>are open to receiving it. So remember that whatever you

1:38:54.160 --> 1:38:56.439
<v Speaker 3>use as your conduit is valid.

1:38:57.560 --> 1:39:01.720
<v Speaker 2>Amen. And speaking of speaking of that and speaking of

1:39:01.800 --> 1:39:05.559
<v Speaker 2>our community and our tribe, I have a horror story

1:39:05.800 --> 1:39:06.759
<v Speaker 2>from the tribe.

1:39:07.439 --> 1:39:08.200
<v Speaker 3>Let's lighten it up.

1:39:08.280 --> 1:39:12.240
<v Speaker 2>Let's go straight from one of our former Good Vibe treaties,

1:39:12.280 --> 1:39:18.799
<v Speaker 2>Costa Rica retreaties. She's a mama, And actually she switched

1:39:18.840 --> 1:39:21.559
<v Speaker 2>up her whole shit after she left the retreat, and

1:39:21.600 --> 1:39:23.880
<v Speaker 2>I was actually saying, you, guys, we have a retreat

1:39:23.960 --> 1:39:27.479
<v Speaker 2>July twenty fourth through the twenty wait it twenty fourth,

1:39:27.520 --> 1:39:29.519
<v Speaker 2>the twenty ninth. Come join us in Costa Rica for

1:39:29.560 --> 1:39:30.920
<v Speaker 2>the good I'm kind of drunk.

1:39:31.400 --> 1:39:33.439
<v Speaker 3>I'm good, bitch. We haven't eaten. I'm drunk.

1:39:33.640 --> 1:39:37.840
<v Speaker 2>You eat today because I feel like I'm so slurring

1:39:37.960 --> 1:39:41.479
<v Speaker 2>my words at Come to Costa Rica, bitch. Just look

1:39:41.680 --> 1:39:44.320
<v Speaker 2>in the caption of the episode. We got a Mommy

1:39:44.320 --> 1:39:46.720
<v Speaker 2>and Me retreat. You can bring your baby, you can

1:39:46.720 --> 1:39:48.080
<v Speaker 2>come if you can't get a nanny, and if you

1:39:48.120 --> 1:39:50.120
<v Speaker 2>don't want to leave those motherfuckers at home, come the

1:39:50.160 --> 1:39:52.040
<v Speaker 2>next week and join us in Costa Rica for the

1:39:52.040 --> 1:39:59.759
<v Speaker 2>women's retreat. Anyway, this hory is from a former retreating. Okay,

1:39:59.800 --> 1:40:01.439
<v Speaker 2>so the stories from a long time ago. When I

1:40:01.479 --> 1:40:04.040
<v Speaker 2>was studying abroad, I was shopping at the Unique Low

1:40:04.120 --> 1:40:06.559
<v Speaker 2>by the Opera House in Paris when this cute, tiny

1:40:06.600 --> 1:40:08.920
<v Speaker 2>dog wearing an Adidas track suit ran up on me.

1:40:09.280 --> 1:40:12.400
<v Speaker 2>I crouched down and started petting him. I love dogs.

1:40:12.800 --> 1:40:15.360
<v Speaker 2>Then his owner walked over and apologized. I looked up

1:40:15.439 --> 1:40:19.439
<v Speaker 2>and there was an extremely handsome forty year old forty

1:40:19.439 --> 1:40:23.040
<v Speaker 2>something year old man who was dressed extremely fashionably, yet

1:40:23.120 --> 1:40:26.679
<v Speaker 2>so casual and effortless. Oh we love a European casual

1:40:26.680 --> 1:40:27.080
<v Speaker 2>effort lis.

1:40:27.200 --> 1:40:30.160
<v Speaker 3>I love a stylish older distinguished, not trying so hard,

1:40:30.160 --> 1:40:30.720
<v Speaker 3>but he looks so.

1:40:30.680 --> 1:40:35.080
<v Speaker 2>Good with an accent. He was racially ambiguous, but oh

1:40:35.120 --> 1:40:38.160
<v Speaker 2>so sun kissed, with a muscular physique and salt pepper

1:40:38.200 --> 1:40:41.840
<v Speaker 2>hair and a foreign accent. He put out his hand

1:40:41.880 --> 1:40:43.960
<v Speaker 2>and helped me stand up. We chatted it up for

1:40:44.000 --> 1:40:46.479
<v Speaker 2>a little bit before we exchanged numbers. I told him

1:40:46.479 --> 1:40:48.200
<v Speaker 2>I was going back to the city I was studying

1:40:48.280 --> 1:40:50.120
<v Speaker 2>in and it was my last day in the city.

1:40:50.439 --> 1:40:52.280
<v Speaker 2>He told me if I was ever in Paris again,

1:40:52.320 --> 1:40:55.240
<v Speaker 2>he wanted to take me out. That evening. We began

1:40:55.320 --> 1:40:57.639
<v Speaker 2>texting and he was asking me about school and helping

1:40:57.680 --> 1:41:00.240
<v Speaker 2>me refine my French. He told me that he spent

1:41:00.320 --> 1:41:03.000
<v Speaker 2>a lot of time in Porto, Portugal, but was going

1:41:03.040 --> 1:41:05.479
<v Speaker 2>back to Paris in two weeks for work if I

1:41:05.520 --> 1:41:07.880
<v Speaker 2>was available, and if I was available to see him.

1:41:08.560 --> 1:41:10.880
<v Speaker 2>After I decided to go, he immediately sent me a

1:41:10.920 --> 1:41:13.320
<v Speaker 2>train ticket and some money for my travel. Yeah. I

1:41:13.960 --> 1:41:17.519
<v Speaker 2>love a ticket and some money. I was impressed. So

1:41:17.600 --> 1:41:19.880
<v Speaker 2>when it was time, I packed up the cutest yet

1:41:19.920 --> 1:41:22.640
<v Speaker 2>mature clothes my young ass could find and went to

1:41:22.680 --> 1:41:26.000
<v Speaker 2>that motherfucking train station. I would have loved. What is mature?

1:41:27.000 --> 1:41:29.960
<v Speaker 2>I love mature offits you'd be putting on for older guys.

1:41:30.160 --> 1:41:31.160
<v Speaker 3>I know, I know, book.

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<v Speaker 2>I had friends in Paris, so things didn't go well,

1:41:33.560 --> 1:41:36.839
<v Speaker 2>I would just go visit them instead. When I arrived,

1:41:36.880 --> 1:41:39.120
<v Speaker 2>there was a driver waiting for me with my name

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<v Speaker 2>on a paper, and I started to wonder what exactly

1:41:41.640 --> 1:41:44.920
<v Speaker 2>had I gotten myself into. But hey, I was in Paris,

1:41:44.960 --> 1:41:47.439
<v Speaker 2>so it was hard to complain. We pulled up at

1:41:47.439 --> 1:41:51.639
<v Speaker 2>the classic at this classic Parisian apartment building right around

1:41:51.640 --> 1:41:53.840
<v Speaker 2>the corner from the Opera House and the store where

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<v Speaker 2>I met him. He greeted me with a firm and

1:41:56.479 --> 1:41:59.760
<v Speaker 2>sensual hug and some cheek kisses that escorted me up

1:41:59.800 --> 1:42:04.560
<v Speaker 2>stock to his apartment. Y'all, he had the most picturesque

1:42:04.600 --> 1:42:09.960
<v Speaker 2>Parisian apartment ever when it was tastefully updated. I knew

1:42:10.000 --> 1:42:14.960
<v Speaker 2>then I had caught a big fish. He told me

1:42:15.000 --> 1:42:16.600
<v Speaker 2>there was a work party he had to go to

1:42:16.720 --> 1:42:19.280
<v Speaker 2>that night. It was last minute, he said, and asked

1:42:19.280 --> 1:42:21.479
<v Speaker 2>if I wanted to go with him. When I tried

1:42:21.520 --> 1:42:23.880
<v Speaker 2>to say I didn't have anything to wear, so I'd

1:42:23.960 --> 1:42:26.840
<v Speaker 2>rather just stay back, he casually told me he was

1:42:26.880 --> 1:42:31.080
<v Speaker 2>a fashion designer what and could put together something nice

1:42:31.120 --> 1:42:34.719
<v Speaker 2>for me. It was just a club party, he said. Again.

1:42:34.840 --> 1:42:37.120
<v Speaker 2>I probably should have been asking more questions, and I

1:42:37.200 --> 1:42:40.000
<v Speaker 2>probably should have been like, wait a second, this is weird.

1:42:40.560 --> 1:42:43.519
<v Speaker 2>This felt like a fairy tale, and even now I

1:42:43.520 --> 1:42:45.479
<v Speaker 2>can't believe this happened. This is the problem with Cinderella.

1:42:45.560 --> 1:42:48.080
<v Speaker 2>Bitches are like, well, you have outfits. But wait, it

1:42:48.080 --> 1:42:48.879
<v Speaker 2>gets crazier.

1:42:49.880 --> 1:42:51.800
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, I'm so waiting. I got hair on.

1:42:51.840 --> 1:42:55.320
<v Speaker 2>My hairs went up. So we get ready and head

1:42:55.360 --> 1:42:58.080
<v Speaker 2>to the club. Go straight to the table VIP shit

1:42:58.240 --> 1:43:03.000
<v Speaker 2>only bitch my house off. We are partying, smoking, having

1:43:03.080 --> 1:43:05.760
<v Speaker 2>a great time. I'm getting along with everyone there, and

1:43:05.800 --> 1:43:09.200
<v Speaker 2>my French is flowing. Honey. I noticed one of the

1:43:09.240 --> 1:43:10.960
<v Speaker 2>girls in the group was kind of flirting with me,

1:43:11.000 --> 1:43:15.840
<v Speaker 2>and I was reciprocating, but hesitantly. Because I came with buddy.

1:43:15.880 --> 1:43:18.200
<v Speaker 2>He must have peeped, because he leans into my ear

1:43:18.240 --> 1:43:22.280
<v Speaker 2>and says, does she please you? We we English translation,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know how to say.

1:43:25.120 --> 1:43:27.240
<v Speaker 3>Let me see, I'm gonna try to read in French.

1:43:27.280 --> 1:43:29.400
<v Speaker 2>She didn't say. I was gonna say. I was gonna

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<v Speaker 2>try to make some shit up in front. We we

1:43:31.720 --> 1:43:34.519
<v Speaker 2>we we baby, put on my pp I don't know,

1:43:36.800 --> 1:43:40.960
<v Speaker 2>beating the beast. I was shocked, man, I was shocked,

1:43:41.000 --> 1:43:42.759
<v Speaker 2>but I was drunk, so I decided to be honest

1:43:42.760 --> 1:43:48.200
<v Speaker 2>and say, we like this.

1:43:48.680 --> 1:43:49.439
<v Speaker 3>Oh I didn't see that.

1:43:52.720 --> 1:43:54.880
<v Speaker 2>He gave me a devious smile and told me it

1:43:54.960 --> 1:43:56.600
<v Speaker 2>was okay. If I wanted to be on her and

1:43:56.640 --> 1:43:58.720
<v Speaker 2>go home with him. I like this man.

1:43:58.800 --> 1:44:00.719
<v Speaker 3>I like him a lot, older man.

1:44:01.000 --> 1:44:03.519
<v Speaker 2>And the girls. That's just what I did. We got

1:44:03.560 --> 1:44:05.840
<v Speaker 2>back from our night out, he ran me a bath

1:44:05.880 --> 1:44:09.320
<v Speaker 2>and proceeded to give me a real massage before absolutely

1:44:09.400 --> 1:44:13.000
<v Speaker 2>dicking me down. Maybe and older, but that dick was

1:44:13.080 --> 1:44:16.439
<v Speaker 2>definitely twenty something. The rest of the weekend was amazing.

1:44:16.479 --> 1:44:19.160
<v Speaker 2>We got super high and danced to weird tribal music

1:44:19.520 --> 1:44:22.559
<v Speaker 2>as he told me about Bernie Man experiences. He would

1:44:22.600 --> 1:44:24.760
<v Speaker 2>dress me up in some of his fashions before we'd

1:44:24.840 --> 1:44:26.960
<v Speaker 2>go out and take his dog for walk or grab

1:44:27.040 --> 1:44:27.519
<v Speaker 2>some dinners.

1:44:27.520 --> 1:44:30.040
<v Speaker 3>This is like a story that I was, Oh, I love.

1:44:32.920 --> 1:44:36.080
<v Speaker 2>He bragged about his accomplishments and showed me all all

1:44:36.080 --> 1:44:37.800
<v Speaker 2>these pics of him with celebrities.

1:44:39.840 --> 1:44:43.439
<v Speaker 3>I'd be like, yeah, baby, I love DNAs honest Ooh

1:44:43.560 --> 1:44:44.240
<v Speaker 3>you know her.

1:44:44.920 --> 1:44:47.000
<v Speaker 2>It was honestly one of the best weekends of my life.

1:44:47.040 --> 1:44:48.880
<v Speaker 2>So when the car came to take me to the

1:44:48.920 --> 1:44:52.320
<v Speaker 2>train station and he gave me more travel money in

1:44:52.320 --> 1:44:54.240
<v Speaker 2>addition to the clothes I wore to the club and

1:44:54.280 --> 1:44:57.840
<v Speaker 2>a few other souvenirs from that weekend, I knew I

1:44:58.000 --> 1:45:01.320
<v Speaker 2>definitely wanted to see it. I wanted to see him again.

1:45:01.680 --> 1:45:03.839
<v Speaker 2>It felt too good to be true, And dear readers,

1:45:04.160 --> 1:45:04.760
<v Speaker 2>it was.

1:45:05.120 --> 1:45:08.040
<v Speaker 3>Oh no, oh no, I want to hit that.

1:45:08.200 --> 1:45:08.800
<v Speaker 2>I hit that.

1:45:08.800 --> 1:45:11.240
<v Speaker 3>It's strong. You know the backwood the day after its intense.

1:45:13.200 --> 1:45:15.679
<v Speaker 2>I told you it's like the corner of my throat.

1:45:15.840 --> 1:45:18.160
<v Speaker 3>Backwards are not for leftovers. You gotta eat the whole

1:45:18.160 --> 1:45:18.840
<v Speaker 3>thing at first time.

1:45:20.800 --> 1:45:25.120
<v Speaker 2>This is like McDonald's french fry. Like ten minutes later.

1:45:25.640 --> 1:45:28.559
<v Speaker 3>It's not good the next day. If nless you're a rapper.

1:45:28.600 --> 1:45:30.960
<v Speaker 3>If you're a rapper, you can probably look it. I

1:45:31.000 --> 1:45:33.240
<v Speaker 3>don't think of tequila on it. Dip it in tequila.

1:45:33.320 --> 1:45:34.000
<v Speaker 3>See what happens.

1:45:38.920 --> 1:45:40.600
<v Speaker 2>Bitch, this needs more than that. When I tell you

1:45:40.640 --> 1:45:42.400
<v Speaker 2>when I had to revive it back would you did

1:45:42.400 --> 1:45:44.679
<v Speaker 2>you see that thing? To raady sentence? How to revive

1:45:44.720 --> 1:45:47.080
<v Speaker 2>the person? We're putting the backwood under a hose and

1:45:47.120 --> 1:45:48.280
<v Speaker 2>running it for like ten minutes.

1:45:48.479 --> 1:45:50.639
<v Speaker 3>No, but we didn't do it. And I wouln't even

1:45:50.640 --> 1:45:52.679
<v Speaker 3>know where it goes wrong because I'm invested and I'm piss.

1:45:52.720 --> 1:45:54.559
<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, sorry, but I have like this.

1:45:54.680 --> 1:45:58.000
<v Speaker 3>I have just like visual of him. Okay, whatever, keep going, okay.

1:46:00.280 --> 1:46:02.639
<v Speaker 2>A few weeks after Paris, he asked me to fly

1:46:02.720 --> 1:46:05.080
<v Speaker 2>to the south of France to see him. So I

1:46:05.120 --> 1:46:07.639
<v Speaker 2>went to his Instagram to see his sexy face, and

1:46:07.720 --> 1:46:10.960
<v Speaker 2>as I was meandering through his page, I touched his

1:46:11.040 --> 1:46:14.799
<v Speaker 2>tag photos and saw a picture posted a few days prior.

1:46:15.240 --> 1:46:18.280
<v Speaker 2>He was sitting at a Daanner table in Porto with

1:46:18.439 --> 1:46:19.200
<v Speaker 2>his wife.

1:46:19.479 --> 1:46:20.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, for sure.

1:46:20.439 --> 1:46:23.840
<v Speaker 2>I felt so sick and stupid and felt like I

1:46:23.880 --> 1:46:26.240
<v Speaker 2>had received all that I could from that situation, so

1:46:26.280 --> 1:46:29.479
<v Speaker 2>I didn't even bother confronting him. I liked the picture

1:46:29.720 --> 1:46:32.720
<v Speaker 2>and never responded back to his message asking me to

1:46:32.760 --> 1:46:33.559
<v Speaker 2>go to Nice.

1:46:33.960 --> 1:46:35.719
<v Speaker 3>I would have been to Nise. I'm not gonna front

1:46:36.200 --> 1:46:38.680
<v Speaker 3>what the fuck I would have went. I would have

1:46:38.960 --> 1:46:40.040
<v Speaker 3>I you know, you don't know.

1:46:40.080 --> 1:46:42.360
<v Speaker 2>Their arrangement said sorry it was so long, but this

1:46:42.439 --> 1:46:43.960
<v Speaker 2>felt like a safe place to share the deal.

1:46:44.080 --> 1:46:46.519
<v Speaker 3>Oh baby. First of all, well who was that? Because

1:46:46.520 --> 1:46:49.000
<v Speaker 3>I I know her, I feel like that's my friend

1:46:49.040 --> 1:46:55.559
<v Speaker 3>judahodas terc. She does live a rich lifestyle. I can

1:46:55.640 --> 1:46:58.040
<v Speaker 3>see that happening for her. She gets all the rich niggas.

1:46:58.320 --> 1:47:02.840
<v Speaker 2>She's casually living her best life because she's.

1:47:02.520 --> 1:47:05.920
<v Speaker 3>A bad bitch she is, and she's she's young. God,

1:47:06.360 --> 1:47:08.960
<v Speaker 3>you know, please, if you're young and you're just discovering

1:47:08.960 --> 1:47:09.280
<v Speaker 3>the show.

1:47:09.600 --> 1:47:12.479
<v Speaker 2>Do your fucking things, Say yes, bitch, and also send

1:47:12.479 --> 1:47:14.559
<v Speaker 2>in the stories because we're just not so young anymore

1:47:14.560 --> 1:47:17.160
<v Speaker 2>and we don't have as much opportunity. That's not true.

1:47:17.280 --> 1:47:20.760
<v Speaker 3>I mean we do if Okay, I'm married, it's me.

1:47:20.880 --> 1:47:23.040
<v Speaker 3>I'm married, so I don't have such opportunity. But we

1:47:23.200 --> 1:47:25.160
<v Speaker 3>still have a fun husband. I do have a fun husband,

1:47:25.280 --> 1:47:28.080
<v Speaker 3>and maybe and we like to role play, babe, can

1:47:28.080 --> 1:47:32.400
<v Speaker 3>you be Parisian stylists? Give me the part, go.

1:47:31.520 --> 1:47:33.760
<v Speaker 2>Go, get the twisty sash, get the nigga with the sign.

1:47:35.880 --> 1:47:39.600
<v Speaker 3>I not that I feel like you should fuck up

1:47:39.600 --> 1:47:41.759
<v Speaker 3>people's marriages, but I feel like at a certain age

1:47:41.880 --> 1:47:44.120
<v Speaker 3>usually don't listen to me. But also I feel like

1:47:44.120 --> 1:47:46.280
<v Speaker 3>they have a lot of times they have arrangements, like

1:47:46.640 --> 1:47:49.200
<v Speaker 3>when me and or Lando are sixty, I might be like, yeah, nigga,

1:47:49.320 --> 1:47:52.080
<v Speaker 3>go to Paris and find a young bitch. I'm doing stuff.

1:47:52.520 --> 1:47:55.360
<v Speaker 3>I'm decorating our fucking niece home. Get the fuck out

1:47:55.360 --> 1:47:57.920
<v Speaker 3>of my face. I used to have an old nigga

1:47:58.280 --> 1:48:01.160
<v Speaker 3>shout out to Uncle Jim and his wife would call me.

1:48:01.160 --> 1:48:03.840
<v Speaker 3>I just text another day, and he's forty years older

1:48:03.840 --> 1:48:05.639
<v Speaker 3>than me. He's he's seventy eight right now.

1:48:06.680 --> 1:48:08.880
<v Speaker 2>I can't believe it's seventy eight, bitch.

1:48:09.000 --> 1:48:12.320
<v Speaker 3>We're still great friends, him and his wife. And it

1:48:12.400 --> 1:48:14.280
<v Speaker 3>wasn't physical because it was certain. I mean, seventy eight

1:48:14.360 --> 1:48:16.720
<v Speaker 3>is much older than forty something, so I don't know

1:48:16.760 --> 1:48:18.320
<v Speaker 3>what they're I mean, you had sex with him, so

1:48:18.320 --> 1:48:18.920
<v Speaker 3>I didn't have sex.

1:48:19.200 --> 1:48:20.680
<v Speaker 2>She needs you to go party with him and go

1:48:20.720 --> 1:48:21.120
<v Speaker 2>have fun.

1:48:21.280 --> 1:48:21.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I guess.

1:48:21.920 --> 1:48:23.400
<v Speaker 2>I guess when your wife, when the wife knows it.

1:48:23.600 --> 1:48:25.720
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she's tired. And that was how his wife was.

1:48:25.720 --> 1:48:28.160
<v Speaker 3>We would just do fun things and drugs. I don't

1:48:28.160 --> 1:48:30.200
<v Speaker 3>know why we're doing drugs. He's very old, but.

1:48:30.479 --> 1:48:31.240
<v Speaker 2>That's how he's alive.

1:48:31.439 --> 1:48:34.200
<v Speaker 3>That's how he self preserving. And he always tell me, baby,

1:48:34.280 --> 1:48:35.800
<v Speaker 3>when you get married, just make sure you roll you

1:48:35.880 --> 1:48:37.320
<v Speaker 3>roll me on the boat, which y'all, I just want

1:48:37.320 --> 1:48:38.640
<v Speaker 3>to come hang out with y'all. Just come roll me

1:48:38.680 --> 1:48:40.000
<v Speaker 3>on the yacht. And I said, you know what. And

1:48:40.000 --> 1:48:41.320
<v Speaker 3>the fact that he knew that I was gonna have

1:48:41.360 --> 1:48:43.920
<v Speaker 3>a yacht when I was in my twenties, let me

1:48:44.040 --> 1:48:49.360
<v Speaker 3>know that he's my fairy sugar daddy. But a story short,

1:48:49.560 --> 1:48:51.920
<v Speaker 3>say yes, yeh, say yes, and do the things and

1:48:51.960 --> 1:48:53.640
<v Speaker 3>have the experiences because you might just get a new

1:48:53.640 --> 1:48:55.840
<v Speaker 3>wardrobe and be at the club with you know, the

1:48:55.840 --> 1:48:59.360
<v Speaker 3>famous Parisian Amen. Yeah, live your fucking life.

1:49:00.120 --> 1:49:03.600
<v Speaker 2>Travel is the place to be a top notcho. I

1:49:03.720 --> 1:49:05.800
<v Speaker 2>had many travel you can hear a lot of my

1:49:05.840 --> 1:49:09.559
<v Speaker 2>travel tender stories. But just there's like so much. There's

1:49:09.600 --> 1:49:14.000
<v Speaker 2>just like a magicalness that happens when you're open, especially

1:49:14.000 --> 1:49:16.200
<v Speaker 2>when you're in new foreign places.

1:49:16.439 --> 1:49:18.280
<v Speaker 3>When you say yes to new places, then I feel

1:49:18.320 --> 1:49:18.720
<v Speaker 3>like there's a.

1:49:18.720 --> 1:49:22.000
<v Speaker 2>And then you're single also that helps, That really helps.

1:49:22.120 --> 1:49:25.080
<v Speaker 3>Or you have a fun partner, friend, husband, or you

1:49:25.160 --> 1:49:27.559
<v Speaker 3>like some of our friends who have who have a marriage,

1:49:27.560 --> 1:49:29.919
<v Speaker 3>but there they get a hall pass in other countries.

1:49:30.080 --> 1:49:31.960
<v Speaker 3>You know, there's all different dynamics that can work out.

1:49:31.960 --> 1:49:34.559
<v Speaker 3>But whatever it is, make sure that you always include

1:49:34.600 --> 1:49:37.799
<v Speaker 3>the fun and the possibility in your life.

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<v Speaker 1>M hm.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you can, and there's a lot of them, and

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<v Speaker 3>even Erica and I drop bars in there too, so

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<v Speaker 3>and titties.

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<v Speaker 2>I almost we have Tody Tuesdays.

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<v Speaker 3>This is fine.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm living so good can't you tell? I went

1:51:02.600 --> 1:51:04.840
<v Speaker 1>through a drought. That's until I found out, Well maym

1:51:04.960 --> 1:51:07.120
<v Speaker 1>have been known Earth? I used to be broken Hell

1:51:07.240 --> 1:51:10.320
<v Speaker 1>now got the blues in to like Beyonce, Jazam throat

1:51:10.360 --> 1:51:13.320
<v Speaker 1>shot or Pop in his car wearing her voices. Patriarchy

1:51:13.479 --> 1:51:15.840
<v Speaker 1>kept it in the box to exploit its women put

1:51:15.840 --> 1:51:18.200
<v Speaker 1>the pie and powers, so it's pointingless. They want me

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<v Speaker 1>to be good, so I make bad choices.

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<v Speaker 3>Bad mom, not a bad mom, but a bad mom.

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<v Speaker 1>Fitter's in on put cannabis in their bathbone walked in

1:51:26.360 --> 1:51:28.920
<v Speaker 1>bossles cap and I blew his cat ball hot dog.

1:51:29.040 --> 1:51:30.080
<v Speaker 2>Now I'm immune to.

1:51:30.120 --> 1:51:32.639
<v Speaker 1>The cat called Herbie and no waisted straight to it

1:51:32.720 --> 1:51:34.840
<v Speaker 1>like a dollar sign. Mother, rent the number when too,

1:51:34.880 --> 1:51:37.040
<v Speaker 1>It's like a water someone where you're rent the winter

1:51:37.240 --> 1:51:39.920
<v Speaker 1>essential will when the summertime. I do what doll ain't

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<v Speaker 1>know when that needs to run it by