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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife,

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Speaker 1: and she couldn't.

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Speaker 2: She cleaned and cared for her children and the man

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Speaker 2: of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.

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Speaker 2: She was both obedient and soft by nature.

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Speaker 1: She was a good woman who always made good choices.

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Speaker 2: We're good Mom's bad choices to single mom who said

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Speaker 2: fuck the patriarchy shared all their bad choices and sound

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Speaker 2: out they were so bad.

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Speaker 3: After all, we're experts, overshares and your new besties.

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Speaker 2: Sit back and enjoy the ride.

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Speaker 3: I can.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back to good Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 2: I'm Nila. Happy hump Day, motherfuckers. Today is Wednesday.

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Speaker 3: As always, We've met you every Wednesday for eight years

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Speaker 3: on hump Day, to say, get the humping on.

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Speaker 2: Speak of eight years, you guys, guess the fuck what

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Speaker 2: it is?

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Speaker 3: Our eight year anniversary, bait, eight year anniversary.

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Speaker 2: It's our anniversary. We've been doing this ship for eight year.

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Speaker 2: I can't believe that that's a crazy number. And I

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Speaker 2: actually I looked at the number of eight in the

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Speaker 2: like what it means, because like, what the fuck does

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Speaker 2: eight mean?

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Speaker 3: This is the longest relationship I've ever had.

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Speaker 2: And I can't believe that we've talked this many times

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Speaker 2: for the eight years on top of all the other

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Speaker 2: talks that we already have, Like God, damn.

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Speaker 3: It's you know what we're like, lesbian's turbo because aha,

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Speaker 3: we're turbo lesbians. Because if we've been in if we've

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Speaker 3: done this eight years in a row, that means we've

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Speaker 3: talked like eight hundred thousand hours.

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Speaker 2: The number eight symbolizes power, financial abundance, authority, and karma

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Speaker 2: and numerology. It represents balance, infinity, and achievement, encouraging hard work, confidence,

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Speaker 2: material success who often associated with new beginnings. It's also

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Speaker 2: the sign of the Infinity sign, so it's forever and

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Speaker 2: ever and ever and ever. Those with the life path

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Speaker 2: eight are often seen as natural leaders, driven by ambition

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Speaker 2: and the desire to control their own destiny through hard work,

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Speaker 2: efficiency and organizational ability. And in case you wanted to

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Speaker 2: know what it means in the Bible, the Bible, yeah,

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Speaker 2: let's go for it, but Jesus. In the Bible, eight

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Speaker 2: signifies a new beginning as it follows the seven day

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Speaker 2: Creation week, representing a new order of resurrection. It also

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Speaker 2: is connected to the circumcision of the heart and the

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Speaker 2: Holy Spirit. Wait, what the heart circum I guess so

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Speaker 2: because I had to rebad. Is that circumstansiircum heart?

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Speaker 3: Maybe? Because so that the circumcision of the heart in

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Speaker 3: the what.

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Speaker 2: It means continuous flow interconnection of the of the material

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Speaker 3: I like materials and tangibles. I like that a lot,

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Speaker 3: because this is a year.

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Speaker 2: Baby, this is our I mean, every year, every.

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Speaker 3: Year is our year. But it feels right that in

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Speaker 3: year eight it's talking about tangible finances because I really

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Speaker 3: feel like this. I nobody say this. Every year we

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Speaker 3: got to but every year we have upped our up

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Speaker 3: our like upped our income up to our our output,

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Speaker 3: uped our you know, we've upped the things. So I

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Speaker 3: think this year it really represents something where I don't know,

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Speaker 3: like and I think about where we started and where

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Speaker 3: we're at right now. I do feel like, wow, we've

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Speaker 3: grown a whole lot. Lots of things have happened. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and we've been like working on a very top secret

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Speaker 3: project project, and we've been looking a lot back at

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Speaker 3: our history, in our our content, in our our old episodes,

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Speaker 3: and it is really incredibly like heartwarming to.

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Speaker 2: Watch us literally grow and just like our faces, our voices.

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Speaker 3: It's so crazy. I'm just like really proud of the

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Speaker 3: fact that we were consistent and that we stayed down

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Speaker 2: Do you know what I just realized, Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: I'm getting those months. I just wanted. First of all,

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Speaker 2: I just want us to mark our words here. Sometimes

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Speaker 2: marking this moment right now because when we look back

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Speaker 3: What like to the to the date?

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Speaker 2: Like God, thank oh my God.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes God be speaking to you, but you don't be listening.

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Speaker 3: realize it's it's her being like got you big, God

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Speaker 2: When this moment came to pass, which they're like, what

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Speaker 2: is the moment. You'll find out later. But when it

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Speaker 2: came to pass, it was going to be divine. It

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Speaker 2: was going to be exactly what we hoped for. It

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Speaker 2: was going to be so specific, and it is because

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Speaker 2: we're some specific ass, manifesting ass, which is And on

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Speaker 2: that note, I would like for us to take a

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Speaker 2: of our anniversary shows are all we drinking champagne. But

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Speaker 2: this is really our main day, Yeah, it really is.

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Speaker 3: We try to be classy because it's usually daytime. But

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Speaker 3: I almost took a shot this morning clean my kitchen,

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Speaker 3: but I didn't eat enough. I still haven't eaten enough.

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Speaker 2: But you know this one, I have to say, this

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Speaker 2: brand is very strong. It's not for shot reprisado.

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Speaker 3: I know, for shots it's I wouldn't recommend this to shoot,

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Speaker 3: but this is what we got. And Erica said we

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Speaker 3: couldn't ask our rapper neighbor for juice, so I.

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Speaker 2: Just already went over there. I didn'tant to talk to

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Speaker 2: him again. God, you could have went over.

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Speaker 3: He's nicer to you. He likes see it are your

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Speaker 2: Well. Also on the way over here, I broke the

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Speaker 2: other shot class. Okay, so we only have one, which

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Speaker 2: makes a lot of sense because we all want entity.

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Speaker 2: Put a little loving into this cup of these spirits,

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Speaker 2: this cup of tequila. Please let our entity continue to expand,

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Speaker 2: protect our friendship, protect our protect the stories that we've

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Speaker 2: told here and what other and other stories that have

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Speaker 2: been told here from our guests, from our listeners. You

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Speaker 2: guys are intrinsically part of this journey in such a

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Speaker 2: intense way, and I'm just so grateful that you guys

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Speaker 2: have listened and tuned in for eight years, watched our evolution,

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Speaker 2: watched our growth, and I'm just grateful that we continue

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Speaker 2: to say yes even during hard times, because that's when

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Speaker 2: actually it means the most. So thank you God, Thank

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Speaker 2: you most hi, thank you motherfucking tribe. We love you.

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Speaker 2: And cheers, cheers go first.

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Speaker 3: Who it's two twenty two to two?

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Speaker 2: What that was crazy?

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Speaker 3: And our tribe is calling us on Instagram? I know who?

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Speaker 3: I don't know what's happening, but wow, what tribe it

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Speaker 3: that means?

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Speaker 3: All this, look at look at God. It never ends. Honestly,

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Speaker 3: I feel like we say this a lot, and if

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Speaker 3: you're a newcomer, we're gonna say it again. I'm going

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Speaker 3: to continue to say it. When Erica and I met

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Speaker 3: and we started to say yes, and we started to

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Speaker 3: because we had no idea how we were gonna manifest

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Speaker 3: those things. They were really big dreams, really big guests,

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Speaker 3: and we didn't know shit about podcasting, like not a

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Speaker 3: single thing. We literally just winged it, and we started

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Speaker 3: to see, like so many things just come to fruition

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Speaker 3: and knowing that when you meet someone who you're supposed

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Speaker 3: to create with and produce with, like the entity is created,

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Speaker 3: and our entity has been so mother fun and strong,

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Speaker 3: Like things like this happen to us all the time.

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Speaker 3: The calls, the time the song comes on, the opportunity

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Speaker 3: just happens to be eight years to the date that

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Speaker 3: we birthed our podcast and started to show like nothing

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Speaker 3: is ever by chance, and it's like everything is a

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Speaker 3: part of the story and you have to pay attention

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Speaker 3: because like whatever you want, you can literally have it's

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Speaker 3: about under like visualizing it and seeing it. And then

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Speaker 3: when you have someone who also shares the vision that

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Speaker 3: ignites it even quicker and even faster. And I think

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Speaker 3: just having someone else believe in something that you also

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Speaker 3: doubt will stop to creep in. But when you have

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Speaker 3: two delusional bitches but out, yeah, it's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Boom boom boom boom boo boom boom boom. No. I agree.

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Speaker 2: And when we were talking today about this secret project

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Speaker 2: can't just manifest, you have to actually do it. And

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Speaker 2: we did it. We fucking envisioned it. We wrote it down,

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Speaker 2: we made versions of it, like we spoke about it

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Speaker 2: it into existence continuously, over and over and over again,

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Speaker 3: The fuck it's here, seeing too too too is widely

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Speaker 3: interpreted in numerology. Is an angel number is signaling harmony, balance,

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Speaker 3: and trusting. The path you're on is strong signed to

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Speaker 3: cultivate equilibrium in your life, whether it is work life balance,

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Speaker 2: YEP, sounds about what we need to do and continue

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Speaker 3: Your life's son that your life is unfolding exactly as

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Speaker 3: it should, encouraging you to have faith. It's crazy. I

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Speaker 3: already cried this morning, some water sign crying ass bitches. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: but I'm really I'm just grateful. I'm grateful to be

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I feel like when David came to

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Speaker 3: started to see the vision. I like it's killing these clips.

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Speaker 3: Well he is.

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Speaker 2: He set the standard for our clips. Let's set the

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Speaker 2: standard for how clips like continue to be shared in

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Speaker 2: this space because it started without even it being like

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Speaker 2: I'm not trying toete my own horn, but let me

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Speaker 2: just tell to my own horn for one second. Because

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Speaker 2: funny should ask. It's my eight year anniversary. And she said, oh, damn, y'all,

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Speaker 2: like I have been doing this like for before. It

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Speaker 1: I love bad mom, not a bad mom, but a

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Speaker 2: I'm there are some bad choices this week. We have

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Speaker 3: More in the dms and the emails and the discord

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Speaker 3: it's just a place to have a safe space. And

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Speaker 2: No, I mean tell you what I'm struggling with. I

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Speaker 2: talking directly to you, us complaining directly to you. You

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Speaker 3: I'm literally texting one of our past retreaties, like I'm

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Speaker 2: came to our retreat who I haven't spoke with in

434
00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:46,080
Speaker 2: like two years. Shout out to Gwen. She came for her.

435
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:49,840
Speaker 2: I think it was her her sixtieth birthday. It was like,

436
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:52,199
Speaker 2: she's it was her sixtieth maybe I think so her

437
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,639
Speaker 2: sixtieth birthday. She came to the retreat, and I was like,

438
00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:55,879
Speaker 2: I need to find a picture of Gwen and put

439
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:58,359
Speaker 2: her on the websites. People can see like it's a range,

440
00:21:58,440 --> 00:21:59,879
Speaker 2: like we have twenty three year olds to come to

441
00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 2: six year old.

442
00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:03,320
Speaker 3: I want to see her like her drop it low session.

443
00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:05,359
Speaker 2: She yeah, because she was lit. When was lit, she

444
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,439
Speaker 2: was showing us the toe, the tiptoe, the tipy toe stripper.

445
00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:12,600
Speaker 2: Drop it low anyway, I thought of her. Literally thirty

446
00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 2: seconds later, this bitch called me. I have not spoken

447
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,879
Speaker 2: to her in two years, and I answered the phone.

448
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:22,920
Speaker 2: I was like, are you fucking kidding me right now?

449
00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:24,920
Speaker 2: And she's like, I'm in LA And I was like.

450
00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 3: It's like, little there's something, and there's something inside you

451
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 3: that knows, and like the energy of people is closed,

452
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:34,879
Speaker 3: the frequency of energy is much is much more prominent

453
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:38,280
Speaker 3: than words. We're limited in language. Start using your like

454
00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:40,360
Speaker 3: you're subconscious to attract what you need.

455
00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 2: But it was like it validated my wishiness valid It

456
00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 2: made me feel so happy that she felt like she

457
00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:48,280
Speaker 2: knows that she can call me Like that's the thing

458
00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 2: when you come to our retreats, like we're your friends

459
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:52,640
Speaker 2: for real. After you come and you come hang out

460
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:54,800
Speaker 2: with us, like you have our phone number, you can

461
00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:56,159
Speaker 2: pull up on us, you can pull up on the

462
00:22:56,200 --> 00:22:57,919
Speaker 2: track like it's real shit. This isn't for fake, This

463
00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:00,560
Speaker 2: isn't like no fucking ass bullshit where pe No, we're

464
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 2: not those type of bitches. So I just was happy

465
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 2: that she a called me. I mean, we already had

466
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:08,200
Speaker 2: that report anyway, but I was like, what the fuck

467
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:12,000
Speaker 2: my mind? So today I was like, ask for everything.

468
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:13,719
Speaker 3: But I told you that happened to me. Literally last week,

469
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,240
Speaker 3: I was thinking about one of the girls who lives

470
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:16,320
Speaker 3: out here, and I was like, she was like, I

471
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 3: don't have a lot of friends in Elia. I was like, girl,

472
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 3: call me, and I'm pretty good. I'm good at reaching

473
00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:22,160
Speaker 3: out to people. I probably am the glue to most

474
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 3: of my relationships. I'm on here for somebody for six

475
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:25,880
Speaker 3: months or six years and then let me call this bitch.

476
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:27,840
Speaker 3: And I literally was like, why did that bitch call me?

477
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,639
Speaker 3: And literally I was in the club and the party

478
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 3: and the bitch walked in and I said, bitch, I

479
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:33,920
Speaker 3: was just thinking about your ass. You never called me back.

480
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:38,719
Speaker 3: She's like, I know, I'm so bad at that it was,

481
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 3: and she was like kind of that deep voice she's

482
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:45,080
Speaker 3: talking me over tonight too. But I really do value

483
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,119
Speaker 3: all the girls we meet and like the friendships that

484
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,159
Speaker 3: we make. Also, Zoe's coming on town next week. She

485
00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:53,679
Speaker 3: wants to go to the woods, but Zoey from Jamaica,

486
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:56,159
Speaker 3: no yeah. Sorry from Joey from San Diego who was

487
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:56,600
Speaker 3: in Jamaica.

488
00:23:56,680 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 2: That's nice. Okay, so we had to some people. Actually

489
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:02,840
Speaker 2: these are from the Discord. Shout out to the Discord

490
00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:05,240
Speaker 2: who shared to some bad choices they've made this week.

491
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:09,959
Speaker 2: I'm not sure too, because they're quick and they're bad choices.

492
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 2: Like they're actually they're not good choices. Number one. My

493
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:18,440
Speaker 2: bad choice of the week is that I reached out

494
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:24,200
Speaker 2: to someone that rejected me before. That's the bad choice

495
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 2: of the week.

496
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,840
Speaker 3: Wait say it again. My baby guys asked, we have

497
00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:29,960
Speaker 3: to get my kids what No, I'm not.

498
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,439
Speaker 2: She reached out to someone who rejected her before.

499
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:38,359
Speaker 3: I have a theory on this, but continue that's it.

500
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 2: That's it.

501
00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 3: My theory on this, because I've experienced this is it's

502
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 3: definitely because we know this person. Write this from the retreat.

503
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 3: No oh, I thought that was the thing about reaching

504
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 3: out to people that have been you've been rejected by

505
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 3: or actively rejecting you. There is a wound, and this

506
00:24:58,320 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 3: is my theory. I'm not a therapist. I am a

507
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:04,440
Speaker 3: sexologists though, so whatever, I'm an expert because I've done this.

508
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:07,720
Speaker 3: I do think there's a thread and a wound that

509
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,359
Speaker 3: goes back to a time where you didn't feel good enough.

510
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:13,919
Speaker 3: Probably a parent or a guardian was not present, and

511
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,600
Speaker 3: you were neglected in that and you felt not important.

512
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 3: And I think that without being conscious of that, you

513
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 3: will go into relationships actively pleading for validation because there

514
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,199
Speaker 3: is something that hasn't been fulfilled. You feel like you

515
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:30,119
Speaker 3: have to prove yourself. You want to be like, I

516
00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:31,639
Speaker 3: want to show you what a good person I am.

517
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:33,199
Speaker 3: I'm going to show you what a good woman I am.

518
00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 3: I want to show you that I'm valuable. And so

519
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,400
Speaker 3: you'll go back to a place where you've been obviously

520
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,640
Speaker 3: rejected and it's like dah, fuck you, but also.

521
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 2: Please pick me.

522
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,240
Speaker 3: So I encourage you to take a moment and go

523
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 3: back in yourself and in your history of when there

524
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:50,080
Speaker 3: was a time in your childhood that you felt rejected

525
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,399
Speaker 3: and then comfort that version of you so that you

526
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:56,199
Speaker 3: can make amends. And so when someone else rejects you,

527
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 3: you're not actively trying to fight for it, because the

528
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:01,880
Speaker 3: truth is some of rejecting you is God saying pass,

529
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 3: like it's giving you a fast pass to the next thing.

530
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 3: But if you like, dig your closet and try harder

531
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 3: and try harder. It's this whole fucking back and forth

532
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:11,440
Speaker 3: that is a waste of time and it may block

533
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 3: you from your blessings. So I do encourage you to

534
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:15,920
Speaker 3: take a moment to sit with yourself and say, when

535
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:17,639
Speaker 3: is the last time I felt this way? Was it

536
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 3: from a father or was it from a mom? Was

537
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 3: it this or that? And then like find that version

538
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:25,359
Speaker 3: of you and say I'm here for you always. You

539
00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 3: don't have like whatever the words you need to hear

540
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:28,639
Speaker 3: at that time.

541
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:35,679
Speaker 2: Okay, that's it. I agree. I agree. I'm always like

542
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 2: trying to find the like not always, but sometimes when

543
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 2: I hear these things, I'm trying to like understand, like, okay,

544
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 2: well there is there is there any Is there ever

545
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 2: a time where it can be helpful to go back

546
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 2: to a source a place of rejection, like going back

547
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 2: and if you need to go, investigate the why because

548
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 2: maybe it is something that you need to work on.

549
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:00,640
Speaker 2: The person like passed you up because.

550
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:04,439
Speaker 4: You're overbearing or you're too jealous, like don't jump to

551
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 4: it's not you. Yeah, like I don't know, Like I

552
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:09,479
Speaker 4: don't always know if that's the case, and so like

553
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:11,919
Speaker 4: it could be and because I think that that's definitely

554
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,399
Speaker 4: true for sure, and like, you know, either way, you

555
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:18,400
Speaker 4: might be you know, bypassing.

556
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 2: Like a feeling or watering a wound. But I do

557
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:24,360
Speaker 2: think that it's sometimes sometimes it's important to ask, be like, hey,

558
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,440
Speaker 2: I guess so like you rejected me, what was it?

559
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 2: I don't think it's important, but if it's, if it

560
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:31,880
Speaker 2: feels important, I'm curious to know, like why, and what

561
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:33,560
Speaker 2: was the purpose? Was it to be chosen or was

562
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 2: it to investigate the situation? Those are two different things.

563
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, is it like begging to be in that space again?

564
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 3: Or is it to to inquire about self reflection and

565
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:45,640
Speaker 3: if you've maybe lacked awareness in your behavior?

566
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 2: Okay, I like that. And so another bad choice of

567
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,719
Speaker 2: the week kind of similar to this vibe, which kind

568
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 2: of lets me know sometimes where we as women are

569
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,879
Speaker 2: in our needing to be chosen and understand ourselves and

570
00:27:56,920 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 2: why validated this bad choice of the week. I reached

571
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 2: out to an old hookup looking for validation about my desirability.

572
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 3: What is desirability? Like if I'm desirable, like if I'm pretty,

573
00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:09,080
Speaker 3: if I'm.

574
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,879
Speaker 2: Like, I mean, maybe she okay, this could be right,

575
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 2: as like maybe she went and hooked up with an

576
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 2: old nigga to like make sure, like to show that

577
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:20,879
Speaker 2: she got it or maybe she reached out. Yeah, it

578
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 2: sounds like that's what it is, you know what I

579
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 2: Sometimes sometimes you gotta do that.

580
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 3: You can sometimes you remember who the fuck you are,

581
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 3: and sometimes you got to outsource. Yeah, you could do

582
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,640
Speaker 3: a lot of affirmations and shit, but sometimes you gotta

583
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 3: go out, put the freaking dress on, put on the stilettos,

584
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:39,040
Speaker 3: and say, yeah, you see me, bitch, Yeah, you see me?

585
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 3: M yeah, do it?

586
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 2: I agree.

587
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 3: Yeah. So you could do that with someone new, though

588
00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 3: you don't have to do that with old people. You

589
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 3: could do that because you already know those niggas. You

590
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 3: already know those niggas want you. The niggas you.

591
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 2: Had, they still know what it is. Go outside, I

592
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 2: find some new niggas. I know. It does something about

593
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 2: knowing that they're still Yeah, yeah, you know about like

594
00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:00,120
Speaker 2: knowing that they.

595
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 3: Niggas like once a year, so you remember who the

596
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:05,239
Speaker 3: fuck I am. Like if I blocked you all, I'm

597
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 3: block you if I remember, so I could be like

598
00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 3: you see me, you see me, nicking, I know I

599
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 3: still look good. You lost, bitch, I.

600
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 2: Had X calming the other day and tell me how

601
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 2: amazing I was. And I was like, mm hmm, I

602
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 2: know that's great. Yeah, tell me more. M Yeah, thank you.

603
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 2: I did feel good evening. Lie Do I want that? Nigga? Now?

604
00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 2: Do I like the validation? Yes? So I feel So.

605
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 2: Do you have any bad choices of the week, my dear.

606
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 3: You know I do. It was from last year and

607
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 3: it was like, you know, I like to tell things.

608
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,240
Speaker 2: Should we take a shot for it? Sure?

609
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 3: Because techlony, you've only taken one because we're splitting them right.

610
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, so this is our second and one and a

611
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 2: half shot.

612
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 3: This is I'm gonna. I'm gonna. I'm gonna shorten this

613
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 3: because it's a ridiculously long and stupid story. But it's

614
00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 3: really important because I should have listen to my cut.

615
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 2: Break it down. Let me take the shot. Are you

616
00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 2: sure to listen to your best friend? Let's not forget

617
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 2: about that.

618
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 3: Eric Erica hates me, mabe Erica kind of a little

619
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 3: bit hates me making new friends.

620
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, once, I don't approve of this.

621
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 2: Once that you haven't passed my scorpios bidy senses. You know, cancers,

622
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 2: they love everybody I'd be like, now, okay, well let

623
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 2: me tell you. And it's not even that I didn't

624
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 2: love this bitch. I just knew where to keep her.

625
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 3: It's true, everybody, if you're cancer, you're crazy like me,

626
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 3: and you bring everybody in. You're like, you're my best friend.

627
00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 3: My craziness of friendship fucking hoarning is insane. My drug

628
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 3: dealer thinks we're best friends. Really, and he calls me

629
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 3: all the time, okay, and he's always like last time

630
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 3: he called me, he's like, I fell out of my car.

631
00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 3: Hell out, bitch, Sarah a black eye? Can I just

632
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 3: come over? I'm only with this nigga. And I'm like, okay,

633
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 3: come over. Fucking black guy giving he's a kid. That

634
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 3: the black woman thing you do? I was like, I

635
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 3: don't have any black tricks. I have is the black

636
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 3: woman thing? I don't know. He's Dominican from New York.

637
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 3: What in the fuck is he talking about?

638
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 2: Whatever?

639
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 3: I gave his nigga some.

640
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:20,000
Speaker 2: Ice, like some ice and some fucking the what's the article?

641
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 3: Anyway? He called me on Valentine Say for no reason

642
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 3: at all. He's out of town. He's like, I'm like,

643
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:28,680
Speaker 3: why are you calling me he's the drug dealer. He's

644
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 3: like talking to me, like, yeah, I'm just watching a

645
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 3: movie with my girl. It's snowing out here. I'm like, okay,

646
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 3: so we're just talking. I'm like, I'm the jacuzzie with Orlando.

647
00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 3: He's like, tell him.

648
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:37,239
Speaker 2: I said Hi.

649
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 3: I was like, someone tells Hi. Here goes this bache

650
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:43,440
Speaker 3: in the background. Y'all fucking comfortable? I said, are you kidding?

651
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 3: I said, nigga, call me back. What the fuck? Why

652
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 3: the fuck is she nigga? I said, I'm married. He said,

653
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 3: He's like, she's with her man. I said, my husband,

654
00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 3: her husband. I said, bye bye, don't stop calling me.

655
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 3: Why am I arguing with you? Arguing with her? This

656
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 3: is the part when my friendliness is just out of him. Anyway,

657
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 3: story time, last year, we had we because Erica likes

658
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 3: to forget that she also has these friends. We had

659
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 3: a friend and she was really adamant about like really

660
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 3: making new friends and spending time with friends that she

661
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:21,720
Speaker 3: said she was going to make. So I was like,

662
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 3: I'm all game, let's hang out. She got a man

663
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 3: and we all started hanging out together. It was like

664
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 3: we're doing double dates. We're barbecue and we.

665
00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 2: Did a few holidays together.

666
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:35,719
Speaker 3: It was a full on thing. It was fine. Our

667
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 3: kids were hanging out. Even though our kids were like

668
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 3: low like, it was just it was we were creating

669
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:46,959
Speaker 3: a little community. So she asked me in Orlando and

670
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 3: Luna if we want to go on a road trip

671
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 3: to I mean, I didn't say where, because a place,

672
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 3: a place in the mountains, and she and I said okay, sure,

673
00:32:57,600 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 3: I think. A couple of weeks later, we get we

674
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 3: our offer to go to breakfast club and the week

675
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:05,360
Speaker 3: it was the weekend before we would be leaving like

676
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,200
Speaker 3: that Monday or Tuesday. And I was like, damn, that's

677
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 3: pretty close. I really need to prepare. And I was like,

678
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 3: you know, I already agreed. Fuck it. She was like,

679
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 3: you guys don't have to pay for anything. She tells Orlando.

680
00:33:15,120 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 3: All you guys need, all he needs to do is

681
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 3: like help with driving. And Orlando's like, yeah, it's only

682
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 3: eight hours. I was there like six. I was like, babe,

683
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 3: that's not true. It's it's a strong twelve hours. He's like, no, no, no,

684
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 3: she said, like seven or eight hours. I said no. Anyway,

685
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 3: remember were supposed to leave I think Monday or Tuesday.

686
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 2: First, well, she telling me the story. She's like, I'm

687
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 2: leaving Friday, I'll be back Sunday. I'm like, this sounds

688
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 2: like a horrible plan for a twelve hour drive, and.

689
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 3: I was like, I know, but you know, I agreed. Okay,

690
00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 3: So we were supposed to be Friday, but her genius

691
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 3: of a boyfriend didn't pick up the car Friday night,

692
00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 3: so we had to wait till Saturday at nine am.

693
00:33:56,680 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 3: So me, Orlando and poor Luna is my shit. We

694
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 3: all he comes with this van. We all get in

695
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 3: the van. There's another there's another friend there. There's another

696
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:09,760
Speaker 3: person there, another adult, like a younger adult, a cousin,

697
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:14,279
Speaker 3: and this couple. So we start to drive in and

698
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 3: we get about three hours into the drive, we stop

699
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:23,360
Speaker 3: and get gas. Okay, it's already late, we're already Saturday.

700
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:24,760
Speaker 3: We're coming back Sunday.

701
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:26,759
Speaker 2: It's pretty stupid, but fuck it.

702
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 3: So we get gas. Then we leave the gas station

703
00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 3: and we get back on the freeway. About one minute

704
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:44,799
Speaker 3: into the freeway, the car stops and immediately I knew

705
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 3: something was wrong and I said, we're stopped and he's like,

706
00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 3: I don't know, no, no, keep in mind, this person's

707
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 3: in the military, So you would think there's like a

708
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:55,960
Speaker 3: certain level of intelligence that you have to have to

709
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 3: be in the US military, right or like whatever. So

710
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:01,799
Speaker 3: the first thing I say is what kind of guys

711
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 3: did you put in the car? He says Diesel? Sorry,

712
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:15,799
Speaker 3: he says Diesel. It's a twelve passenger van. Why And

713
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:18,920
Speaker 3: I just got quiet real quick. I was like, I

714
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:22,960
Speaker 3: don't know. I ain't no expert. But he's like, the

715
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 3: calf was yellow, so I put in Diesel.

716
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 2: I said, I don't know about none of that.

717
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 3: So we're sitting on the side of the road, and

718
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,279
Speaker 3: we're like in the middle of California. And if you're

719
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:35,479
Speaker 3: from California, know there's not shit in the middle. Okay,

720
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 3: there's La there's Sacramento, there's San Francisco, there's nothing in

721
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 3: the middle of Suddenly you're in a farmland. Suddenly you're

722
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:45,400
Speaker 3: in the country with the weirdos, with the weirdos with nothing.

723
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 3: We're on the side of the road.

724
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 2: I google yellow cap not correct. Why why was it yellow?

725
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:58,320
Speaker 3: Because it's for it's for carbon, it's for something easily

726
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 3: googleble a google abowl. Okay, anybody, First of all, I'm

727
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 3: not a car bage, but I'm an independent bitch. I've

728
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 3: been alone in this life as an adult for a

729
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 3: long time. I've heard some stories. I know for a

730
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 3: motherfucking fact, you put diesel on a car, it's fucked.

731
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 3: You're done.

732
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 2: I text Orlando immediately he put diesel.

733
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 3: We're fucked. I text him where fucked. I start looking

734
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:23,160
Speaker 3: at Ubers rental cars.

735
00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 2: I Uber.

736
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 3: There's no Uber anywhere in sight, because you're in the

737
00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:31,319
Speaker 3: middle of nowhere. This nigga, Oh my god, this is

738
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 3: where it really gets.

739
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:34,360
Speaker 2: Clear.

740
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 3: They're in the front seat. He's talking to her like

741
00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:41,399
Speaker 3: I am gonna. I'm calling the car people right now.

742
00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 3: We're all behind them. I can I could see him.

743
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:49,200
Speaker 3: He's like, he's like yeah. At no point does he

744
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 3: say fuck, I don't think it's diesel. Fuck I fucked up. Hey,

745
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:57,480
Speaker 3: guys right behind me, my bat nothing. He's whispering like

746
00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:02,920
Speaker 3: a little fucking mouse, acting like he's on the phone. Bitch,

747
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 3: we are in beasts bumblefuck. These people are not coming

748
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:06,280
Speaker 3: to get us.

749
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 2: I mean a way.

750
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 3: I don't get out the car to go smoke a blunt.

751
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 3: And I said, nigga. He said, nigga, we're in the

752
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 3: We're like in the fields like nigga, nigga. He's like,

753
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,160
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go walk back. We're trying to look at ubers.

754
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 3: Nothing is insight. He starts walking back to the exit,

755
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 3: which is some ways the way. At this point it's

756
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 3: like far, it's not we can't even see it.

757
00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 2: Like one minute away in a car.

758
00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:33,480
Speaker 3: It's so as he walks away, I tell her, I said,

759
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 3: this ain't no diesel car. She's like, I know. I

760
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:37,720
Speaker 3: told him.

761
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:40,480
Speaker 2: And she's a pretty cut throat bitch cutthroat.

762
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:43,839
Speaker 3: So I was like, Wow, she's being really gentle, and

763
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:48,240
Speaker 3: I figured, there's this is already. It's her child's sixteenth birthday.

764
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 3: Her child is waiting for us in ated and like

765
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:53,759
Speaker 3: a destination, and then we have to go to the

766
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 3: second destination. It's all bad and I'm with my fucking

767
00:37:56,680 --> 00:38:01,520
Speaker 3: ten year old. Okay, So finally hours start going by,

768
00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 3: we start realizing we're not close to shit. We end

769
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 3: up they're like, we have to call the police, and

770
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 3: I was like, I don't know, you guys black people

771
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 3: calling the police in East bumblefuck, Like oh no, Like

772
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 3: that doesn't seem like what we should do. But then

773
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 3: like she's like, we don't have a choice, and I

774
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 3: was like, okay, with all this shit in the car,

775
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 3: we have our luggage. Highway patrol comes to get us.

776
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:25,040
Speaker 3: He's like, it's about to be traffic hour, bitches. I

777
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 3: can take you in one bag. I can take two

778
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,440
Speaker 3: trips each of you one back. So me, Orlando and

779
00:38:29,520 --> 00:38:31,839
Speaker 3: Luna get in the back of a cop car with

780
00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 3: one bag each. First I have to put my child

781
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:38,560
Speaker 3: in a cop car. It's a black woman. This is crazy.

782
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 3: We get in the car. We're laughing. Thank god, I mean, Orlando,

783
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 3: are chill people because we're me. Orlando and Luda are

784
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 3: cracking up, Like what the fuck. We get to the

785
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:54,880
Speaker 3: fucking rest stop. There's nothing there. At this point, the

786
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,319
Speaker 3: air is thick. No one's saying much. They go get

787
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 3: the second round of people. We finally get in contact

788
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:04,839
Speaker 3: with a tow truck. The tow truck, NIGGD, comes hours later.

789
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 3: This is like, at this point, four hours, this is

790
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 3: just we're it's the sun is going down. Somehow. We

791
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 3: bribe the guy to to load the van on the

792
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:17,359
Speaker 3: back of the truck with us in it to take

793
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:20,880
Speaker 3: us to the nearest city, which is an hour and

794
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 3: a half away. We like throw him some money, and

795
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:25,239
Speaker 3: he's like, listen, I'm really not supposed to do this.

796
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:29,480
Speaker 3: You guys, stay down, don't turn your phones on. I

797
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 3: can't have any phone reflecting, like no lights, just you

798
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 3: gotta stay down. Like this is really I can I'm

799
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 3: not supposed to do this. So Luna's hearing this, so

800
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:41,359
Speaker 3: she's like, we have like ice cream because we were

801
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:42,879
Speaker 3: at the ice cream set. We're all in the back

802
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 3: of this van. We're in a twelve steter van on

803
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:48,839
Speaker 3: top of a tow truck, so we're just like we're

804
00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 3: like bent down. Like Luna's like, he's like, it's cold.

805
00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 3: It starts beginning to get cold. Go my phone, and

806
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:03,799
Speaker 3: it was like, turn your phone off. So then I

807
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:05,800
Speaker 3: turn on some music. She's like turn it off. I'm like, Luna,

808
00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:07,880
Speaker 3: they can't hear the music. She's like, turn it off.

809
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 3: She's frightened. Me and Orlando are cracking up because at

810
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:14,440
Speaker 3: this point we're like this is I literally was like,

811
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 3: should we call should we try.

812
00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:16,399
Speaker 2: To go back?

813
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:19,480
Speaker 3: But there's no way to get back, there's no ubers.

814
00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 3: Two hours later, keep in mind three hours driving about

815
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 3: three hours and this desolate parking off the Furry place.

816
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 3: Then we get in the back of a fucking van

817
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:37,919
Speaker 3: on a fucking trailer track on the fucking tow truck.

818
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 3: We get to the parking lot. We jump off of

819
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 3: this machine. Immediately we're like, I gotta get food. The

820
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 3: two smart ones who plan the trip they have to

821
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 3: go rent another car, so two of them get in

822
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 3: ano Uber. The rest of us go get food because

823
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:58,359
Speaker 3: there happens to be like a food situation. And one

824
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 3: of the girls, it was her little cousin be nineteen.

825
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,320
Speaker 3: We were kind of close to the to where we're going.

826
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:06,000
Speaker 3: She somehow gets a ride. She said, I'm out.

827
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,839
Speaker 4: She got a rhymee, she got a ryde want her

828
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 4: homegirls picked her up.

829
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 3: I was jealous as shit. I was like, you're not out.

830
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 2: I'm getting the fuck out of here.

831
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 3: She was nineteen. She was like, I'm out. So we

832
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:19,080
Speaker 3: go to the thing. We were like like, the other

833
00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 3: girl is friends with her, like really friends, so I'm

834
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:24,960
Speaker 3: like trying not to talk shit me Orlando. Luna's just

835
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,479
Speaker 3: like we eat.

836
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 2: They come back with the car.

837
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:32,400
Speaker 3: We jam into this car, repack the stuff, abandon that car,

838
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 3: drive two more.

839
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 2: Hours to an airport where there's one car.

840
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 3: Left because we can't all fit because we still had

841
00:41:43,719 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 3: to pick up her kid and her kid's friends car.

842
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:48,720
Speaker 2: It is a Mustang crossover suv.

843
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:51,360
Speaker 3: But here's the catch. It's electric.

844
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 2: Oh fuck.

845
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 3: Okay, so we slid up. They go get the kids,

846
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 3: her kids, Meat or Land know, Luna and this woman

847
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 3: that's her friend get in this electric car. We drive

848
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:08,000
Speaker 3: to the woman just happens to have an apartment. Okay,

849
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna take the places because it's stressing me out.

850
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 3: Happens to have a place in Oakland. We're going to

851
00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 3: Lake Tahoe. She's like, I'm gonna take a shower because

852
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:17,360
Speaker 3: she had flown in from Atlanta to LA to do

853
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:19,320
Speaker 3: this road trip. So now we're in the middle of

854
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 3: this thing. So she's like, I haven't showered. I have

855
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 3: an apartment in Oakland. We stop at her apartment. They

856
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:27,080
Speaker 3: keep going. Me and Orlando are like, how long we're

857
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 3: gonna be in here? She's taking like an hour long shower,

858
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:31,760
Speaker 3: and we're like, where's the balcony? Can we smoke? Luna

859
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 3: is like, what the fuck? It's night. It's like a

860
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 3: it's like ten pm at this point. Finally we get

861
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:39,400
Speaker 3: back in this electric car. We start driving to Tahoe.

862
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 3: We fall asleep. I hear her on the phone with

863
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:45,719
Speaker 3: Alamo or whatever. The fuck is there a charger in

864
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 3: this car? Because I don't see a converter. I was like,

865
00:42:49,640 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 3: there's no way we left, and she'd this bitch who

866
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:53,920
Speaker 3: has an electric She's like, I have electric car for

867
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:55,839
Speaker 3: years and I don't see a converter. I was like,

868
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 3: So we start going up the hill to Tahoe and

869
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 3: I don't know sit about electric car, but now I do.

870
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:04,120
Speaker 3: You start going uphill, bitch, The electricity starts going down quick,

871
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:07,640
Speaker 3: so we pull. She's having this conversation on the way up.

872
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:09,720
Speaker 3: Then I fall back asleep. Then we get to a charger.

873
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:13,439
Speaker 3: She can't find the converter, and it's cold now because

874
00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 3: we've started going into this mountain. It has to be

875
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 3: like one in the morning at this point. Finally we

876
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 3: find a charger that takes a universal fucking card. We

877
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 3: have to like turn the car off four to charge's

878
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 3: like forty five minutes. Like this shit doesn't charge fast.

879
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 3: It's like an hour of forty five minute charge, so

880
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:33,839
Speaker 3: we had to stop again. We finally get up this

881
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:37,800
Speaker 3: mountain to this fucking cabin. There's no jacuzzi, which everybody

882
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,960
Speaker 3: knows you never go on a ski trip without any jacuzzi.

883
00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 3: What the fuck? So then we get there, they're all

884
00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 3: sleep and was there?

885
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:47,839
Speaker 2: Who is them?

886
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 3: Oh? Her the smart boyfriend, their kid, her the kid's friend.

887
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:54,320
Speaker 3: And now we have finally made it to the house

888
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 3: and like, at this point, all you could really do

889
00:43:56,560 --> 00:44:01,560
Speaker 3: is laugh. The point of this story is, anyway, the

890
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:04,319
Speaker 3: next day we wake up. We have one day. We

891
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 3: have one day. We just got in eight hours ago.

892
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 3: I mean, like, I'm really trying to ski. We make

893
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 3: these plans to ski. Orlando and the boyfriend have to

894
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 3: go charge the car, get groceries, so they leave. We

895
00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:16,840
Speaker 3: get dressed to go to the mountain. We get to

896
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,359
Speaker 3: the mountain, they meet us. They meet us there from

897
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 3: the market because it's closer, like everything's like it's forty

898
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 3: five minutes to an hour. Orlando is like, I'm out,

899
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 3: I'm getting out the car. He She goes to him,

900
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 3: where's your outfit? We had matching outphits. We search for

901
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:35,920
Speaker 3: your outfit for an hour. Alta goes, haha, I'm leaving.

902
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 3: So I put Orlando and Luna on a ski lesson.

903
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:41,759
Speaker 3: I'm on the mountain because I'm gonna milk the fuck

904
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 3: out of this eight hours. Anyway, we come back to

905
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:48,719
Speaker 3: the bottom of the hill, the skiing has concluded, and

906
00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:52,359
Speaker 3: Orlando with his fucking Aquarius mouth, looks at the guy

907
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:56,240
Speaker 3: after we go eat and goes, ha, she made you change,

908
00:44:56,320 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 3: didn't she. He's wearing, he's laced down in t in

909
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 3: pink full winter soup, full for full winter soup. Mash

910
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 3: it with this bitch, and he goes, you went back

911
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:07,879
Speaker 3: to the house and change. The house was forty five

912
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 3: minutes away.

913
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:11,279
Speaker 2: He was like, I didn't. She didn't make me. I

914
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:11,799
Speaker 2: wanted to.

915
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 3: And then he's like and then so we're like, Orlando

916
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:19,520
Speaker 3: is so obnoxious. She made you change. If you don't

917
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 3: know Orlando, you're gonna know he's gonna be obnoxious. If

918
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 3: you can't handle that type of like criticism, you're not

919
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 3: gonna like him at all. So then we're finishing our meal,

920
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 3: we're about to go in, and I was like, let's go.

921
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:30,800
Speaker 3: I'm wet, I gotta take a shower, and this nigga

922
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:32,880
Speaker 3: goes I didn't, Yeah, meet too. I got a shower,

923
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 3: and Orlando goes, so you went all the way back

924
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:38,480
Speaker 3: to the house and you don't wash your ass and

925
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:42,399
Speaker 3: continues to laugh like this hysterically in this nigga's face.

926
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:44,879
Speaker 3: I thought it was funny. I thought this is your

927
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 3: valid points and I thought we were joking around. Keep

928
00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:51,759
Speaker 3: in mind this nigga took the electric car to the

929
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:56,680
Speaker 3: house and back that we just charged. Now instead somebody,

930
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 3: don't use this as an opportunity. We get back to

931
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 3: the house and we say we're gonna go to the

932
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 3: car for tomorrow's departure because we have to leave at

933
00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 3: ten am. Me goes park the car, plug it in,

934
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:10,840
Speaker 3: we go, get some drinks. We come back like we'd

935
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:14,320
Speaker 3: The part that really killed me is this nigga never apologized,

936
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 3: He never said my bad, I fucked up.

937
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:21,600
Speaker 5: He's just fucking creepy, crawling around the back of her

938
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 5: at like her little fucking puppy, and this type of

939
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 5: person Like I really love this person, and I don't

940
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 5: think she's a bad person, but I think this is

941
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 5: the type of relationship she's thriving. And she went someone's

942
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 5: gonna kiss her ass. And this nigga, I don't even

943
00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:37,959
Speaker 5: know if he has a personality outside of her. And

944
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:41,640
Speaker 5: so all this to say, in friendship.

945
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 3: Dynamics, be loving, but also have like discriminative awareness, and

946
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 3: it's not about like she doesn't drink or any of

947
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 3: those things, and that's not even that's not even the

948
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:51,840
Speaker 3: basis of our friendship. And that was fine, but like

949
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 3: there was a personality thing that was like very much,

950
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:58,560
Speaker 3: I don't know, there was a dynamic that I didn't

951
00:46:58,560 --> 00:46:59,440
Speaker 3: feel comfortable with.

952
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:01,879
Speaker 2: One time I slept at her house.

953
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 3: And we went on we did a class together and

954
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:07,320
Speaker 3: her boyfriend had woke up at four in the morning

955
00:47:07,440 --> 00:47:10,480
Speaker 3: to repaint a wall her blue and it was the

956
00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:12,600
Speaker 3: wrong shade of blue. And she was like, he's gonna

957
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:14,440
Speaker 3: have to change that, and I was like, what do

958
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 3: you mean. She's like, I was like, are you sure.

959
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:17,840
Speaker 3: It's like it's not good enough. She's like, it's not

960
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:20,640
Speaker 3: the right blue. He woke up at four in the

961
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 3: morning to paint the wall blue and then she says,

962
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:24,799
Speaker 3: it's not the right blue. You know what he did?

963
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:30,320
Speaker 3: He repainted the next morning a different blue. I said, oh, bitch,

964
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:34,320
Speaker 3: I'm uncomfortable. Is he your slave? Like the link twice?

965
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:34,920
Speaker 3: Are you okay?

966
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:35,320
Speaker 2: Nigga?

967
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 3: He was like it was weird. So anyway, we're driving

968
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:49,640
Speaker 3: back down after all of this, and it just got weird.

969
00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:52,080
Speaker 3: And I was just like I was. I was so

970
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:55,279
Speaker 3: annoyed by the dynamic. I had gotten over it, but like,

971
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 3: the more I peeped the dynamic in a day to

972
00:47:57,800 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 3: day basis, even if it was two to three days,

973
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 3: I was like, this is crazy that he would disrespect

974
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:05,960
Speaker 3: us so much not to even acknowledge his wrongdoing. It

975
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 3: was just a weird ass dynamic. And when I did

976
00:48:10,160 --> 00:48:14,239
Speaker 3: finally speak to her, she was like, the only thing

977
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:17,279
Speaker 3: she remembered is that Orlando laughed at him, laughed at him,

978
00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 3: And what she said was he said you're a little bitch.

979
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:22,959
Speaker 3: And I know he didn't say that because the kids

980
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,239
Speaker 3: were right there, We're at pizza. And I was like, oh,

981
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:27,799
Speaker 3: that's what you heard, and that's probably was underlying in

982
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:28,280
Speaker 3: the sentence.

983
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 2: I can't even imagine Orlando was saying he's a little bitch.

984
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 2: He would have never said that, but the laughter and

985
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,480
Speaker 2: the like you with that probably was what you went

986
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:38,440
Speaker 2: and changed. You heard the laughter. The point is you

987
00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 2: know your man's a little bitch. Oh yeah, this is unfortunate.

988
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:48,320
Speaker 3: Tale. This is when I was texting Erica about the

989
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 3: day to day of this trip, she was like, you're

990
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:50,520
Speaker 3: fuck lying.

991
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not fucking lying. I'm not lying.

992
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 3: It's crazy, and like, towards the end of the trip,

993
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 3: it just got increasingly weirder, Like it just got increasingly weirder.

994
00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 3: She made that segment, and I was like, so then Orlando, Orlando,

995
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 3: she had been filming here at at our studio. Orlando

996
00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:10,160
Speaker 3: had been doing some work for her, and Orlando kept

997
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 3: telling me she's not paying my invoice. She's not paying

998
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:13,840
Speaker 3: my invoice, And I was like, are you sure? He's like,

999
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 3: look at these text messages. The text messages were like

1000
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:19,600
Speaker 3: HR style text messages. Things were underlined, things were high.

1001
00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:22,400
Speaker 3: I was even who could underline? And text messages like

1002
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 3: before I, uh, fulfill the payment, you need to do X,

1003
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:27,680
Speaker 3: Y and Z. And I was like, why is she

1004
00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:30,240
Speaker 3: talking to you like we're not friends? Keep in mind,

1005
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:34,280
Speaker 3: the invoice is for five hundred dollars, not five thousand,

1006
00:49:34,920 --> 00:49:40,239
Speaker 3: not fifty thousand, five hundred dollars. So finally, Orlando was

1007
00:49:40,239 --> 00:49:43,440
Speaker 3: getting super annoyed, and finally, and I wasn't trying to

1008
00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 3: get involved. So I finally fucking say let me. She

1009
00:49:45,840 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 3: calls me, and I said, let me just fucking hear

1010
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:52,200
Speaker 3: this call. I said, hey, girl, did you did Orlando

1011
00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 3: fulfill all of his duties for this month of January?

1012
00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:56,760
Speaker 3: She's like yeah, I said, well, why haven't you fulfilled

1013
00:49:56,760 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 3: this invoice? Oh? I intend to. I just going to

1014
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:04,480
Speaker 3: some changes, and yeah, I just he started the He

1015
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:06,200
Speaker 3: started it, so I figured he should wrap it out

1016
00:50:06,239 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 3: the same way. I said, But that has nothing to

1017
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,960
Speaker 3: do with this this invoice. Yeah, but I thought, and

1018
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:15,759
Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, this is weird. Even as a

1019
00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:19,440
Speaker 3: business woman, even if you're not my friend, even if

1020
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:21,480
Speaker 3: I'm not going to continue to work with you, I

1021
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:23,360
Speaker 3: will fulfill an invoice because what you're not gonna do

1022
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:25,439
Speaker 3: is go around and tell people the good Moms didn't

1023
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:30,280
Speaker 3: pay you, especially for five hundred fucking dollars. Baby. Till

1024
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:32,960
Speaker 3: this fucking day, this bitch has not paid this invoice.

1025
00:50:33,080 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 2: She hasn't paid, never paid. She never paid me never,

1026
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 2: are you kidding?

1027
00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 3: I ran into her at the gym, like I haven't

1028
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:43,440
Speaker 3: set aside. Okay girl, Okay.

1029
00:50:44,120 --> 00:50:46,120
Speaker 2: I didn't know. I thought that I thought she paid it.

1030
00:50:46,320 --> 00:50:49,360
Speaker 3: This is someone who is always talking about money, always

1031
00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:52,040
Speaker 3: talking about her sales, always talking about her business. And

1032
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:53,520
Speaker 3: that was another thing I started to realize there was

1033
00:50:53,560 --> 00:51:01,240
Speaker 3: a disconnect. Weird it's it's it's Saturday at nine pm. Oh, oh,

1034
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:04,960
Speaker 3: why are we talking about your sales team? I don't.

1035
00:51:05,239 --> 00:51:06,840
Speaker 3: I started to get worried, like, let me write these

1036
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 3: notes down because I don't know how to do sales. Wait,

1037
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 3: would you say what?

1038
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 2: Would you use what?

1039
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 3: And then I was like, I'm tired of taking notes

1040
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 3: in our conversations. Then she'd be like, I feel like

1041
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:18,040
Speaker 3: you're always asking about business advice, bitch, that's all you

1042
00:51:18,080 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 3: talk about. Anyway, I'll just talk about friendship. This was

1043
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:26,719
Speaker 3: the most frustrating story I've I've never experienced anything like this.

1044
00:51:27,040 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 3: I that was in the end of that communication, and

1045
00:51:31,040 --> 00:51:33,480
Speaker 3: I felt bad about it, and I and I but

1046
00:51:33,520 --> 00:51:35,439
Speaker 3: I had to keep going and I had to keep

1047
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:37,720
Speaker 3: going around to figure out what the fuck why wouldn't

1048
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 3: this bitch pay my man?

1049
00:51:39,360 --> 00:51:40,440
Speaker 2: And it was just like.

1050
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 3: Control and like power and like weird bitch shit. And

1051
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 3: I asked her, I was like, is it because he

1052
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:48,399
Speaker 3: made this comment? Is that what is like your personalness?

1053
00:51:48,560 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 3: She's like, no, that's a lie. It's a fucking lie, bitch,

1054
00:51:51,719 --> 00:51:55,279
Speaker 3: because why haven't you paid it? So all that to

1055
00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:57,880
Speaker 3: say is maybe go on trips with new friends early,

1056
00:51:57,960 --> 00:52:00,319
Speaker 3: because this is a second friend in the band of

1057
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 3: like twelve months last year that I cut off after

1058
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:06,399
Speaker 3: a trip, and I felt I was feeling bad because

1059
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:09,880
Speaker 3: Erica and Orlando are always like, you're too friendly, like everybody,

1060
00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I do, but most people are good.

1061
00:52:12,400 --> 00:52:15,360
Speaker 3: These were two very bad examples, and I mean it

1062
00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 3: was a good example because I needed to learn to

1063
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 3: have more discernment. And also if the chem like whatever,

1064
00:52:19,640 --> 00:52:23,239
Speaker 3: it was fine. But sometimes people are not supposed to

1065
00:52:23,239 --> 00:52:27,000
Speaker 3: be your fucking close friends. If the nigga seems like

1066
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:29,800
Speaker 3: he may be her slave, maybe it's not a comfortable

1067
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 3: situation to be in. You know. It was weird and

1068
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:35,520
Speaker 3: like at the end of it, he didn't even have

1069
00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:37,480
Speaker 3: a balls enough to say I fucked up and put

1070
00:52:37,520 --> 00:52:41,400
Speaker 3: diesel on a regular twelve fucking seater van. I fucked up, sorry, guys,

1071
00:52:41,719 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 3: And she didn't even have the nerve to be like, hey, nigga,

1072
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:46,360
Speaker 3: apologize or speak up. They can hear you. And it like,

1073
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:49,440
Speaker 3: also the payment thing after you've drug me on this

1074
00:52:49,600 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 3: fucking forty five hour fucking adventure for no goddamn reason.

1075
00:52:53,960 --> 00:52:58,560
Speaker 3: It was the oddest twelve month relationship I was in,

1076
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:01,799
Speaker 3: and it's unfortunate that it ended that way because I

1077
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:03,400
Speaker 3: felt like it was. It just didn't have to end

1078
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:06,759
Speaker 3: over such ridiculous five hundred dollars circumstances. And I would

1079
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:09,520
Speaker 3: have even been forgiving of that situation because it was

1080
00:53:09,520 --> 00:53:12,080
Speaker 3: a mistake. But it was just the lack of accountability,

1081
00:53:12,160 --> 00:53:14,560
Speaker 3: the lack of communication and like the weird shit after

1082
00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:19,320
Speaker 3: and you know, it's just like friendship, I realized, and

1083
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 3: I had I had to sit with this too, is

1084
00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:23,520
Speaker 3: it like because I think with relationships and with friendships

1085
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:27,759
Speaker 3: were sometimes easy to like say fuck it, this was

1086
00:53:27,880 --> 00:53:31,440
Speaker 3: not unexcusable because he involved my man involved money and like,

1087
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:33,520
Speaker 3: there's no reason for you not to pay it. But

1088
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:38,719
Speaker 3: I had a strong lesson last year that Erica and

1089
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 3: Orlando have been telling me for a long time that

1090
00:53:41,120 --> 00:53:45,279
Speaker 3: everybody's not my friend blah blah blah, And it's true,

1091
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:47,600
Speaker 3: and I'm not going to be less friendly and be

1092
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:53,280
Speaker 3: less open, but I do realize that maybe take it slow,

1093
00:53:54,360 --> 00:53:56,359
Speaker 3: let me take it like easy, or maybe I.

1094
00:53:56,280 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 2: Don't know, if I don't even know, if I condone

1095
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:02,520
Speaker 2: would support going on trips early with friends. I just

1096
00:54:02,560 --> 00:54:07,680
Speaker 2: think that because no, you're not about to ruin my trips. Ever,

1097
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:12,239
Speaker 2: I just feel like maybe it's I mean, I could

1098
00:54:12,719 --> 00:54:15,920
Speaker 2: from an outsider looking in for this particular dynamic. Her

1099
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 2: personality doesn't align with yours. It doesn't. I know that

1100
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 2: her and Orlando shared the same sign, but they don't

1101
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:30,799
Speaker 2: say there's different. There's different principles going around here. There's

1102
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 2: a lot less flexibility, there's a lot more like like yeah, hypervigilance.

1103
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:39,520
Speaker 2: Like there's there's other things going on. So I I

1104
00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 2: kind of knew that your flows and your like go

1105
00:54:42,880 --> 00:54:46,480
Speaker 2: with the flow, and like, no, wasn't going to align

1106
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:48,759
Speaker 2: with her dictatorship.

1107
00:54:49,320 --> 00:54:53,600
Speaker 3: It's a dictatorship over there, bitch. No, it's a fucking dictatorship.

1108
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:56,200
Speaker 2: And you know, I want to say, like I appreciate

1109
00:54:56,280 --> 00:54:58,399
Speaker 2: her for who she is and not me too. She's

1110
00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:01,400
Speaker 2: she's amazing, she's amazing. She's successful because she's good at

1111
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:01,959
Speaker 2: what she does.

1112
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:06,239
Speaker 3: I just, yeah, it.

1113
00:55:06,360 --> 00:55:07,959
Speaker 2: Just gotta know who you can travel with, You gotta

1114
00:55:08,000 --> 00:55:09,759
Speaker 2: know who you can spend. You know, you could have

1115
00:55:09,840 --> 00:55:13,240
Speaker 2: just maybe kept it at Thanksgiving dinners and even that had.

1116
00:55:13,120 --> 00:55:17,359
Speaker 3: Its own instead of well, I'm just saying, but I guess,

1117
00:55:17,480 --> 00:55:20,440
Speaker 3: go with your gut, you know, go with your gut.

1118
00:55:20,680 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 3: And like I realize I'm not in deep need. I

1119
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:26,280
Speaker 3: have a lot of new friends. I have a lot

1120
00:55:26,320 --> 00:55:28,920
Speaker 3: of really great friendships, have a lot of best friends

1121
00:55:28,960 --> 00:55:31,759
Speaker 3: all over the country, all over the world. Like it's

1122
00:55:31,840 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 3: not just because someone says, hey, I really want to

1123
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:37,120
Speaker 3: work on friendships this year, Like.

1124
00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:38,800
Speaker 2: Maybe, actually doesn't mean you have to sign be the

1125
00:55:38,840 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 2: first one on the sign.

1126
00:55:39,600 --> 00:55:41,720
Speaker 3: And also because if you haven't had that many friendships,

1127
00:55:41,760 --> 00:55:47,800
Speaker 3: maybe there's a reason why. And I maintain friendships pretty

1128
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:50,080
Speaker 3: easefully if it's right and if it's meant to be,

1129
00:55:50,840 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 3: and so I just yeah, that's so all this to say.

1130
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:56,800
Speaker 3: I wanted to talk about friendship. It's our eight year anniversary.

1131
00:55:57,120 --> 00:55:59,840
Speaker 3: I know that it's not a monolith. I know that

1132
00:55:59,840 --> 00:56:04,120
Speaker 3: it's sometimes you know, I think that hypothetically we'd like

1133
00:56:04,160 --> 00:56:06,880
Speaker 3: to think that all friends are easeful, all friendships are easeful,

1134
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:10,480
Speaker 3: But the truth is it's still a relationship. And like

1135
00:56:10,520 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 3: even an Erica and Irish relationship, there have been ups

1136
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:16,080
Speaker 3: and downs, there have been you know, ebbs and flows,

1137
00:56:16,120 --> 00:56:18,360
Speaker 3: and our friendship obviously has a lot more on the

1138
00:56:18,360 --> 00:56:22,880
Speaker 3: line because we share a bank account, we have investments together,

1139
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 3: We've invested time into our business, so there's a lot

1140
00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 3: of things that are weave together, that are delicate and

1141
00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:32,279
Speaker 3: not to mention and not this is really gets in

1142
00:56:32,280 --> 00:56:35,400
Speaker 3: the way. We didn't start as friends. We were just

1143
00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 3: two bitches like okay.

1144
00:56:36,520 --> 00:56:38,200
Speaker 2: And then this didn't start as a business.

1145
00:56:38,280 --> 00:56:41,239
Speaker 3: It started as a hobby or something fun to do,

1146
00:56:41,360 --> 00:56:43,960
Speaker 3: and that we realize it as a business. So I

1147
00:56:44,080 --> 00:56:47,239
Speaker 3: just I want to give this moment to just like

1148
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:49,279
Speaker 3: discuss adult friendships.

1149
00:56:50,560 --> 00:56:51,280
Speaker 2: They're challenging.

1150
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:53,239
Speaker 3: Have you had any experience in the.

1151
00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:54,920
Speaker 2: World, Well, I think yeah. I mean early on we

1152
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:57,759
Speaker 2: talked about in the podcast I had I shared a

1153
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 2: friend dynamic of mine. This was an old friend that

1154
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:03,399
Speaker 2: I had that I realized it was time to let

1155
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:05,360
Speaker 2: this person go. And I think it was like what

1156
00:57:05,480 --> 00:57:07,200
Speaker 2: was no new I don't know what the episode was

1157
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:09,359
Speaker 2: called that we did about my other cancer best friend

1158
00:57:09,400 --> 00:57:12,040
Speaker 2: that I had that I released right before I actually

1159
00:57:12,040 --> 00:57:14,479
Speaker 2: met you, And.

1160
00:57:14,560 --> 00:57:18,680
Speaker 3: You're replacing the cancers.

1161
00:57:19,120 --> 00:57:24,640
Speaker 2: And I think that like a I know, I know

1162
00:57:24,720 --> 00:57:29,000
Speaker 2: that making adult friends can feel challenging because of just

1163
00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:31,520
Speaker 2: the women that come and come to our retreats who

1164
00:57:31,680 --> 00:57:34,280
Speaker 2: are seeking new friends, women that we reach out to

1165
00:57:34,360 --> 00:57:36,680
Speaker 2: us all the time saying they can't find their tribe.

1166
00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:40,120
Speaker 2: Like I realized how challenging that can be. And I

1167
00:57:40,120 --> 00:57:42,480
Speaker 2: also realized how traumatizing it can be when you do

1168
00:57:42,560 --> 00:57:45,120
Speaker 2: step out and you do have you do think you

1169
00:57:45,200 --> 00:57:47,400
Speaker 2: met a friend and you get burned like this.

1170
00:57:47,760 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 3: I felt like it was almost like taking my kindness

1171
00:57:49,320 --> 00:57:49,720
Speaker 3: for a weekend.

1172
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 2: But thankfully you will have proof of positive female friendships.

1173
00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:57,040
Speaker 2: But say you didn't and that happened, like it's going

1174
00:57:57,120 --> 00:58:01,440
Speaker 2: to like revalidate your position about why you don't trust bitches,

1175
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:04,160
Speaker 2: why you don't have friends. And this is how that

1176
00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:07,520
Speaker 2: narrative starts with women. It's like they don't have good discernment,

1177
00:58:07,640 --> 00:58:11,360
Speaker 2: no offense, and you do have good discernment, but that

1178
00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:13,560
Speaker 2: in particularly, I think that you are a very loving

1179
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:18,240
Speaker 2: and open person and so you're willing to overlook or

1180
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:23,880
Speaker 2: accept maybe is the word people for their differences in

1181
00:58:23,920 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 2: regards to how you operate right, And because you're because

1182
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 2: you can so easily flow, because you can flow with

1183
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:33,720
Speaker 2: people until you can't because you're still a cancer still.

1184
00:58:34,360 --> 00:58:39,040
Speaker 3: And that's the thing. My switch off is strong, Like

1185
00:58:39,120 --> 00:58:41,360
Speaker 3: I can be like La and the next bitch it

1186
00:58:41,360 --> 00:58:43,479
Speaker 3: will be a whole different bitch and everyone's like, oh God,

1187
00:58:43,600 --> 00:58:45,800
Speaker 3: who are you? Oh no, I'm like no, bitch, I

1188
00:58:45,840 --> 00:58:47,560
Speaker 3: gave you a lot of opportunities to show the fuck

1189
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:49,120
Speaker 3: out or like this is crazy.

1190
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:51,600
Speaker 2: I think in this in this part of my life

1191
00:58:51,600 --> 00:58:54,120
Speaker 2: and making new friends because I have, like I have

1192
00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 2: acquaintances that I'm like watering right now. And I realized

1193
00:58:58,080 --> 00:59:01,160
Speaker 2: when I was younger, I hash myself to friendships a

1194
00:59:01,160 --> 00:59:03,800
Speaker 2: lot faster, whereas now it's like more of a slower

1195
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:07,080
Speaker 2: burn probably because my life is moving faster, probably because

1196
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:10,800
Speaker 2: I have a great group of friends already and so

1197
00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:14,360
Speaker 2: it's not necessarily a need, but there is like a

1198
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:17,520
Speaker 2: want to like have new conversations and meet new people

1199
00:59:17,680 --> 00:59:20,560
Speaker 2: and understand their perspective. And as I'm entering to a

1200
00:59:20,600 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 2: later part of my life or mid part of my life,

1201
00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:26,680
Speaker 2: mid part of my life where like you know, like

1202
00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:29,920
Speaker 2: our kids are growing up, you know, people are getting married,

1203
00:59:30,040 --> 00:59:32,320
Speaker 2: like wanting to have those type of people around you

1204
00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:34,360
Speaker 2: aside from the ones that you already have. So I

1205
00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:37,480
Speaker 2: get it. But I think that like I'm a slow

1206
00:59:37,520 --> 00:59:41,040
Speaker 2: burner right now in my friendships, and I realize other

1207
00:59:41,080 --> 00:59:43,040
Speaker 2: it feels like other women are too, Like at least

1208
00:59:43,040 --> 00:59:45,640
Speaker 2: the women that I'm interacting with. It's not like, okay,

1209
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:47,960
Speaker 2: we like when we met like we were like, and

1210
00:59:48,000 --> 00:59:51,080
Speaker 2: now we're together every single day. When I met Sebastian, no, no, no,

1211
00:59:51,360 --> 00:59:54,000
Speaker 2: it was still some slower at first. But when we

1212
00:59:54,080 --> 00:59:57,960
Speaker 2: decided yeah, yeah, when we decided we had something in

1213
00:59:58,080 --> 00:59:59,880
Speaker 2: alignment pretty quick.

1214
01:00:00,360 --> 01:00:02,600
Speaker 3: Well, like we're gonna do a podcasts every week. It

1215
01:00:02,640 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 3: has to be every week, because that's what so and

1216
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:04,840
Speaker 3: so said.

1217
01:00:05,120 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 2: But I really like, I was looking at the stats

1218
01:00:06,680 --> 01:00:09,120
Speaker 2: around friendship and it was like forty percent of adults

1219
01:00:09,120 --> 01:00:10,200
Speaker 2: don't have a best friend.

1220
01:00:10,440 --> 01:00:13,800
Speaker 3: Really, yeah, forty percent is pretty high. Yeah, I would

1221
01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:17,280
Speaker 3: have expected that, and I think best friends are necessary

1222
01:00:17,360 --> 01:00:23,400
Speaker 3: and they're also this is a thing with friendship, it

1223
01:00:23,440 --> 01:00:26,720
Speaker 3: is a it's a mirror, just like any relationship. I

1224
01:00:26,720 --> 01:00:31,080
Speaker 3: think people underestimate that relationships we as a human race

1225
01:00:31,240 --> 01:00:33,920
Speaker 3: are in community because that is a part of our

1226
01:00:34,000 --> 01:00:36,360
Speaker 3: nature because that is how we evolve, that is how

1227
01:00:36,360 --> 01:00:38,600
Speaker 3: we grow, that is how we gain empathy and I

1228
01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:42,320
Speaker 3: and if you know of like Harlow's Pyramid of needs

1229
01:00:42,440 --> 01:00:46,400
Speaker 3: for a human, it's like community people is what like

1230
01:00:46,400 --> 01:00:51,720
Speaker 3: obviously there's safety, food, water, shelter, but right close by

1231
01:00:52,040 --> 01:00:55,280
Speaker 3: is like people, other people and like sex. These are

1232
01:00:55,280 --> 01:00:58,840
Speaker 3: things that as a humans we need, like air like food,

1233
01:00:58,920 --> 01:01:04,280
Speaker 3: like water. We evolve in community and in tribe. And

1234
01:01:04,320 --> 01:01:06,240
Speaker 3: that's why there's like all this talk with social media.

1235
01:01:06,280 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 3: So many people are so deeply on their screens that

1236
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:13,080
Speaker 3: there's no human touch, there's no there's no like people

1237
01:01:13,080 --> 01:01:16,160
Speaker 3: are touch starved, and it's it's a big deal because

1238
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:18,560
Speaker 3: we need it, you know what I mean. And like

1239
01:01:19,720 --> 01:01:22,880
Speaker 3: even right now, it's interesting because Luna I was telling Erica,

1240
01:01:22,960 --> 01:01:25,840
Speaker 3: this has a best friend at school, and it's like,

1241
01:01:25,920 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 3: oh no, no, this per her, and I'm like, yeah,

1242
01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:33,240
Speaker 3: it's so funny. So but I realized I remember having

1243
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:35,920
Speaker 3: a little best friend, and like it made me a

1244
01:01:36,000 --> 01:01:38,640
Speaker 3: question have been codependent for our whole life? Because my

1245
01:01:38,680 --> 01:01:41,160
Speaker 3: best friend from kindergarten is still one of my best friends.

1246
01:01:41,200 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 3: And like there was times throughout our lot our lives

1247
01:01:44,160 --> 01:01:47,880
Speaker 3: we were deeply codependent, like in elementary school, crying if

1248
01:01:47,920 --> 01:01:50,920
Speaker 3: you couldn't have four day sleepovers, you know, And like

1249
01:01:51,000 --> 01:01:53,200
Speaker 3: I realized now it's like a form of babysitting for

1250
01:01:53,240 --> 01:01:54,560
Speaker 3: the parent, Like of course it gets a bit for

1251
01:01:54,560 --> 01:01:59,040
Speaker 3: five days, let meet the fuck alone, but like our

1252
01:01:59,160 --> 01:02:02,920
Speaker 3: need to feel safe and to feel loved and like

1253
01:02:03,560 --> 01:02:05,360
Speaker 3: and then how you kind of stopped doing that because

1254
01:02:05,400 --> 01:02:08,240
Speaker 3: become a vulnerable, like a certain vulnerability at a certain age,

1255
01:02:08,880 --> 01:02:10,800
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. So, like, I don't know,

1256
01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:13,560
Speaker 3: I think it's interesting to explore because even with us,

1257
01:02:13,720 --> 01:02:19,840
Speaker 3: you know, like Erican I, like she said, we dove

1258
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:23,040
Speaker 3: in really quickly, really early, because we had this thing

1259
01:02:23,080 --> 01:02:25,840
Speaker 3: that we were doing and it was fun and it

1260
01:02:25,920 --> 01:02:29,080
Speaker 3: was like new, and I think we both needed a friend.

1261
01:02:29,520 --> 01:02:32,680
Speaker 3: We needed like someone to go do shit with, someone

1262
01:02:32,720 --> 01:02:34,720
Speaker 3: to go do shit with, go outside, someone who understood

1263
01:02:34,760 --> 01:02:36,000
Speaker 3: that we were moms, but we're still going to do

1264
01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:38,880
Speaker 3: the whole shit. Like there was a lot of elements

1265
01:02:38,880 --> 01:02:42,120
Speaker 3: at play when we our friendship was cemented, but mostly

1266
01:02:42,160 --> 01:02:44,200
Speaker 3: it was good moms and it gave us like this

1267
01:02:45,280 --> 01:02:48,120
Speaker 3: north star to like work towards and to like do

1268
01:02:48,200 --> 01:02:51,240
Speaker 3: something together, and it gave it meaning, and especially when

1269
01:02:51,280 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 3: people started like writing in, it gave it more meaning

1270
01:02:53,840 --> 01:02:55,760
Speaker 3: because it wasn't just us, you know, it was like

1271
01:02:55,800 --> 01:02:57,880
Speaker 3: a whole team of people that even if we couldn't see.

1272
01:02:58,280 --> 01:03:02,160
Speaker 3: And like, as we've blossomed and evolved, it's become more

1273
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:05,400
Speaker 3: difficult because at first it was just like we're playing,

1274
01:03:05,440 --> 01:03:07,640
Speaker 3: we're talking, and it was like, oh, there's money involved.

1275
01:03:07,680 --> 01:03:08,440
Speaker 2: Oh, there's business.

1276
01:03:08,440 --> 01:03:10,880
Speaker 3: Oh, there's things that have like there's things on the

1277
01:03:10,920 --> 01:03:13,680
Speaker 3: line in order to make this thing go, and then

1278
01:03:13,800 --> 01:03:16,480
Speaker 3: like you know, the friendship can fall more and more

1279
01:03:17,120 --> 01:03:21,840
Speaker 3: on the back burner, and you know, it's been it's

1280
01:03:21,880 --> 01:03:26,240
Speaker 3: been challenging sometimes, and it's been I think even more

1281
01:03:26,320 --> 01:03:28,880
Speaker 3: challenging because we have so many things on the line.

1282
01:03:28,920 --> 01:03:31,400
Speaker 3: We have so many assets. We own land together.

1283
01:03:32,160 --> 01:03:34,440
Speaker 2: We own land, we have bank accounts, our our children

1284
01:03:34,480 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 2: are invested in one another. Like, there's a lot there's

1285
01:03:37,200 --> 01:03:40,080
Speaker 2: a lot of things that are that have expanded in

1286
01:03:40,080 --> 01:03:42,360
Speaker 2: a way that I don't think that we realized we

1287
01:03:42,360 --> 01:03:44,600
Speaker 2: were even actively doing, because when we started this, we

1288
01:03:44,600 --> 01:03:49,000
Speaker 2: didn't realize we were like starting a business. And I think, like,

1289
01:03:50,760 --> 01:03:53,080
Speaker 2: I've never had a relationship like this. I was I've

1290
01:03:53,120 --> 01:03:58,000
Speaker 2: never had someone that I've like I've I've never had

1291
01:03:58,080 --> 01:04:02,400
Speaker 2: a relationship that if it was going wrong, I couldn't

1292
01:04:02,440 --> 01:04:05,280
Speaker 2: just walk away from right and be like, well, we

1293
01:04:05,320 --> 01:04:07,120
Speaker 2: need a break. So I'm not going to talk about

1294
01:04:07,160 --> 01:04:10,320
Speaker 2: bitch like that's not of course, it could be an option,

1295
01:04:10,480 --> 01:04:13,640
Speaker 2: but I think that like it's not. No, it could

1296
01:04:13,640 --> 01:04:15,800
Speaker 2: be we could be like fuck this, fuck you, that's

1297
01:04:15,840 --> 01:04:20,320
Speaker 2: we could we could but I think that thankfully, like

1298
01:04:20,400 --> 01:04:24,680
Speaker 2: there's there's this there's this tie that's bigger than us

1299
01:04:24,800 --> 01:04:28,080
Speaker 2: that keeps us grounded. And early on in our relationship,

1300
01:04:28,240 --> 01:04:30,680
Speaker 2: even on this show, even off camera, off this show,

1301
01:04:31,040 --> 01:04:34,480
Speaker 2: we prayed over our relationship because I think our entity,

1302
01:04:34,600 --> 01:04:36,640
Speaker 2: like as we call it, knew that there would be

1303
01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:40,120
Speaker 2: times that weren't so easeful, that weren't we weren't going

1304
01:04:40,200 --> 01:04:42,400
Speaker 2: to be aligned, that there might be things that come up,

1305
01:04:42,440 --> 01:04:46,000
Speaker 2: and we witnessed it another podcast, Dynamics. We witnessed it

1306
01:04:46,040 --> 01:04:49,760
Speaker 2: with you know, the Mandy's and the Wheezies and and

1307
01:04:49,800 --> 01:04:52,320
Speaker 2: the other podcasts that didn't make it, you know, and

1308
01:04:52,520 --> 01:04:54,200
Speaker 2: we were like, we don't want to be like those bitches,

1309
01:04:54,240 --> 01:04:58,640
Speaker 2: will never be like those. And I think, like what

1310
01:04:58,760 --> 01:05:02,320
Speaker 2: I I know for me this in this dynamic in

1311
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:07,000
Speaker 2: our relationship. I never realized how like you think about

1312
01:05:07,000 --> 01:05:10,360
Speaker 2: like like your relationship with men and how it's affected

1313
01:05:10,400 --> 01:05:13,360
Speaker 2: your mental health when it's not good, and like how

1314
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:16,000
Speaker 2: it like make you crazy or make you angry or

1315
01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:18,800
Speaker 2: like make you show up differently. And I don't think

1316
01:05:18,800 --> 01:05:23,840
Speaker 2: I've ever had that experience with a woman until this relationship. Again,

1317
01:05:24,440 --> 01:05:28,920
Speaker 2: where like like our relationships with our lovers sometimes are

1318
01:05:28,960 --> 01:05:31,800
Speaker 2: intrinsically tied to like our mental health and how we

1319
01:05:31,840 --> 01:05:33,960
Speaker 2: show up. And I never have had a relationship with

1320
01:05:34,000 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 2: a woman besides maybe my mother where that could be

1321
01:05:37,080 --> 01:05:40,640
Speaker 2: tied until this relationship and where I've like where when

1322
01:05:40,680 --> 01:05:43,240
Speaker 2: we're not good, I don't feel good, I'm not good.

1323
01:05:43,760 --> 01:05:47,240
Speaker 2: In so many I'm sad, I'm depressed. I'm like, I

1324
01:05:47,920 --> 01:05:51,080
Speaker 2: feel lost, Like I feel like how much how I

1325
01:05:51,080 --> 01:05:54,160
Speaker 2: would feel like in my lover relationship in that way,

1326
01:05:54,200 --> 01:05:57,680
Speaker 2: And that's not something that I've was I've been prepared for.

1327
01:05:57,840 --> 01:06:02,440
Speaker 2: I was prepared for and have the tools to work

1328
01:06:02,480 --> 01:06:05,240
Speaker 2: through in times and even verbalize at times, because there's

1329
01:06:05,240 --> 01:06:06,760
Speaker 2: been times where you're like, why are you tell me

1330
01:06:06,760 --> 01:06:08,760
Speaker 2: why you're depressed? And I'm like, I don't know, I'm

1331
01:06:08,800 --> 01:06:10,800
Speaker 2: just sad, and you're like, but if you can't tell me,

1332
01:06:10,840 --> 01:06:12,960
Speaker 2: and I'm like, isn't the depression? Sometimes you don't know

1333
01:06:12,960 --> 01:06:14,880
Speaker 2: what to say, you don't have the words to say

1334
01:06:15,000 --> 01:06:17,560
Speaker 2: and explain to someone why, Like for someone that has

1335
01:06:17,800 --> 01:06:22,320
Speaker 2: battle depression, like that is that's a thing. I realize

1336
01:06:22,360 --> 01:06:23,800
Speaker 2: it so much as I talk to people that have

1337
01:06:23,880 --> 01:06:27,480
Speaker 2: moved through it, and granted, like my mental health shifts

1338
01:06:27,480 --> 01:06:29,919
Speaker 2: of not all I'm not gonna like they're not all

1339
01:06:29,960 --> 01:06:33,880
Speaker 2: based in our relationship dynamic, but partly yes, like I

1340
01:06:33,920 --> 01:06:37,160
Speaker 2: have noticed how sad I've been when we're not okay.

1341
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:40,680
Speaker 2: I have noticed how like lost I feel when I'm

1342
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:43,480
Speaker 2: like unsure about where we stand and how we're moving

1343
01:06:43,520 --> 01:06:47,160
Speaker 2: through hard times together. But I also know that there's

1344
01:06:47,640 --> 01:06:52,440
Speaker 2: there's never been a time where walking away was an option,

1345
01:06:53,360 --> 01:06:56,000
Speaker 2: you know. And I think that that's the difference between

1346
01:06:56,520 --> 01:07:00,640
Speaker 2: like just a regular friendship and that unconditional friend that

1347
01:07:02,160 --> 01:07:06,840
Speaker 2: I want more women to experience. And because it is

1348
01:07:07,000 --> 01:07:10,240
Speaker 2: rich and there is so much here between us, and

1349
01:07:10,280 --> 01:07:13,920
Speaker 2: like I've just it's just been a it's been such

1350
01:07:13,920 --> 01:07:16,360
Speaker 2: a But then there's also a relationship that don't deserve that,

1351
01:07:16,400 --> 01:07:18,880
Speaker 2: Like your relationship that you just spoke of. Probably you're

1352
01:07:18,880 --> 01:07:20,920
Speaker 2: not going to invest this much time. You don't have to.

1353
01:07:21,360 --> 01:07:22,840
Speaker 2: But that's the thing is like a lot of women

1354
01:07:23,080 --> 01:07:26,320
Speaker 2: don't have to, I think because they don't have business. Yeah,

1355
01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:29,280
Speaker 2: so it's easier for you to say, oh fuck it,

1356
01:07:29,560 --> 01:07:33,160
Speaker 2: you know, and and sometimes maybe that's what it needed,

1357
01:07:33,200 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 2: but probably not, you know, probably not. And so this

1358
01:07:36,400 --> 01:07:39,080
Speaker 2: I think our friendship has been a reminder or not

1359
01:07:39,120 --> 01:07:42,680
Speaker 2: a reminder just like a mirror and a lesson into

1360
01:07:43,960 --> 01:07:46,880
Speaker 2: not running because I'm a fucking runner and I'm a

1361
01:07:46,960 --> 01:07:50,120
Speaker 2: runner in love. I'm a runner in a lot of

1362
01:07:50,120 --> 01:07:55,400
Speaker 2: places in my life. And this relationship and even the

1363
01:07:55,440 --> 01:07:57,360
Speaker 2: when I'm in right now has like really shown me

1364
01:07:58,160 --> 01:08:01,760
Speaker 2: like that I am capable of staying. I don't necessarily

1365
01:08:01,760 --> 01:08:03,920
Speaker 2: have all the tools when I arrive and I decided

1366
01:08:03,960 --> 01:08:05,280
Speaker 2: to stay here, but I don't know what to do

1367
01:08:05,360 --> 01:08:12,040
Speaker 2: with it, Like yeah, you know, so anyway, I agree,

1368
01:08:12,120 --> 01:08:14,080
Speaker 2: and I'm glad you said that because I don't know

1369
01:08:14,120 --> 01:08:17,479
Speaker 2: if I necessarily had words to put for that, because

1370
01:08:17,560 --> 01:08:19,240
Speaker 2: I guess that's true.

1371
01:08:19,600 --> 01:08:22,640
Speaker 3: There's not like generally in a romantic relationship when it

1372
01:08:22,680 --> 01:08:25,840
Speaker 3: consumes so much of your your mental health and you're

1373
01:08:26,000 --> 01:08:30,280
Speaker 3: just your your mood, your your capacity, like if it

1374
01:08:30,400 --> 01:08:32,599
Speaker 3: just your thoughts, your if it, if it just if

1375
01:08:32,640 --> 01:08:35,960
Speaker 3: it overcomes. Usually in a relationship it's like, oh my god,

1376
01:08:36,000 --> 01:08:38,479
Speaker 3: soll I could think about this guy D he's not

1377
01:08:38,520 --> 01:08:40,880
Speaker 3: doing this, he's cheating on me, and then you're like obsessed.

1378
01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:43,880
Speaker 3: Then that's when that comes up. But I have experienced

1379
01:08:43,880 --> 01:08:46,120
Speaker 3: that in this relationship, and I'm like, am I nuts?

1380
01:08:46,160 --> 01:08:49,160
Speaker 3: Like I am like going to sleep at night and

1381
01:08:49,200 --> 01:08:51,320
Speaker 3: I'm like going through all these scenarios and like, literally

1382
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:53,839
Speaker 3: my eyes are closed, but I'm like and I'm like, bitch,

1383
01:08:54,200 --> 01:08:57,519
Speaker 3: you gotta like give let this breathe. But it's it

1384
01:08:57,680 --> 01:09:01,000
Speaker 3: I realize. And I realized this one time and Costa Rica.

1385
01:09:01,240 --> 01:09:03,000
Speaker 3: We were just having a day I think it was

1386
01:09:03,040 --> 01:09:05,559
Speaker 3: our day off or maybe before retreat or after retreat,

1387
01:09:05,840 --> 01:09:08,240
Speaker 3: and you were like, let's not talk about let's not

1388
01:09:08,280 --> 01:09:10,080
Speaker 3: talk about business for the rest of the day, and

1389
01:09:10,240 --> 01:09:17,439
Speaker 3: like for a moment, I was like, what do you, like,

1390
01:09:17,479 --> 01:09:19,720
Speaker 3: what are you talking about? And like it had to

1391
01:09:19,760 --> 01:09:22,360
Speaker 3: sit with that and it really made me sad because

1392
01:09:22,400 --> 01:09:25,960
Speaker 3: I was like, I have spent like, however many years

1393
01:09:26,280 --> 01:09:30,200
Speaker 3: literally thinking talking about this thing, and granted I have

1394
01:09:30,280 --> 01:09:31,920
Speaker 3: you you want to talk about it too. It's like

1395
01:09:31,920 --> 01:09:33,240
Speaker 3: when you have a baby with someone and you're like,

1396
01:09:33,240 --> 01:09:35,280
Speaker 3: oh my god, first walk, oh my god, they just

1397
01:09:35,320 --> 01:09:36,640
Speaker 3: said their first words, Oh my god, look at that

1398
01:09:36,640 --> 01:09:38,720
Speaker 3: thing way go, oh my god, it's doing.

1399
01:09:38,479 --> 01:09:39,880
Speaker 2: Stuff and you were doing that for three years and

1400
01:09:39,880 --> 01:09:43,120
Speaker 2: then you're like and then you're like, we talk about

1401
01:09:43,160 --> 01:09:43,559
Speaker 2: who are you?

1402
01:09:44,439 --> 01:09:44,760
Speaker 3: Oh you?

1403
01:09:45,640 --> 01:09:46,839
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

1404
01:09:46,880 --> 01:09:48,599
Speaker 3: So when you're like, let's not talk about that, I

1405
01:09:48,640 --> 01:09:51,080
Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, Like, have I tended to

1406
01:09:51,200 --> 01:09:54,080
Speaker 3: myself the same way I've thought like the capacity, like

1407
01:09:54,160 --> 01:09:58,920
Speaker 3: my brain like data has been focused on this. Have

1408
01:09:58,960 --> 01:10:01,800
Speaker 3: I taught about Luna as much as I've thought about

1409
01:10:01,840 --> 01:10:04,280
Speaker 3: Good Moms? Have I thought about these other things? My family?

1410
01:10:04,360 --> 01:10:07,320
Speaker 3: Like my mother really like obviously we've talked about all

1411
01:10:07,360 --> 01:10:10,360
Speaker 3: those things within Good Moms, But so much of my

1412
01:10:10,479 --> 01:10:13,600
Speaker 3: life has been dedicated whether I realized it or not,

1413
01:10:13,680 --> 01:10:16,720
Speaker 3: until that moment to thinking about the next steps of

1414
01:10:16,760 --> 01:10:19,040
Speaker 3: this thing that we built and excited about it. And

1415
01:10:19,080 --> 01:10:21,880
Speaker 3: it's a beautiful thing. But then it's like, oh shit, bitch,

1416
01:10:22,000 --> 01:10:24,479
Speaker 3: Like have you focused on the other things in your

1417
01:10:24,520 --> 01:10:28,439
Speaker 3: life and watered those things too? And so when our

1418
01:10:28,520 --> 01:10:31,120
Speaker 3: relationship isn't good, I'm.

1419
01:10:30,920 --> 01:10:31,960
Speaker 2: Like, what the fuck?

1420
01:10:32,560 --> 01:10:35,000
Speaker 3: And it takes up equally as much space, but not

1421
01:10:35,080 --> 01:10:37,400
Speaker 3: in a way that's like positive, so I can notice

1422
01:10:37,439 --> 01:10:40,599
Speaker 3: it more. And it's true, like if it wasn't all

1423
01:10:40,640 --> 01:10:42,880
Speaker 3: these things tied into it, if it wasn't our tribe,

1424
01:10:42,880 --> 01:10:45,720
Speaker 3: if it wasn't us knowing how much impact and how

1425
01:10:45,800 --> 01:10:48,400
Speaker 3: important the work that we do is and how it's

1426
01:10:48,520 --> 01:10:52,320
Speaker 3: changing the narrative for moms and single moms, I'd probably

1427
01:10:52,320 --> 01:10:53,280
Speaker 3: be like I'm just not gonna.

1428
01:10:53,040 --> 01:10:55,760
Speaker 2: Call her no. And it is the tribe because there

1429
01:10:55,800 --> 01:10:59,479
Speaker 2: have been days where I know we did not fuck

1430
01:10:59,520 --> 01:11:02,760
Speaker 2: with each other at all, and then someone dms us

1431
01:11:02,840 --> 01:11:05,519
Speaker 2: and says, don't stop, don't stop, and I'm like, this

1432
01:11:05,560 --> 01:11:07,960
Speaker 2: episode has no idea how much I needed to hear

1433
01:11:08,000 --> 01:11:08,519
Speaker 2: that right.

1434
01:11:08,400 --> 01:11:11,599
Speaker 3: Now, literally every time, And we'll send it to each.

1435
01:11:11,479 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 2: Other, okay, basically.

1436
01:11:14,120 --> 01:11:17,720
Speaker 3: Saying yeah, basically I know you're thinking about what I'm

1437
01:11:17,720 --> 01:11:20,400
Speaker 3: thinking about, because fuck you. But also, look, someone we

1438
01:11:20,479 --> 01:11:21,200
Speaker 3: don't know wrote this.

1439
01:11:21,640 --> 01:11:24,479
Speaker 2: It means a lot, so like, thank you guys for

1440
01:11:24,560 --> 01:11:27,400
Speaker 2: affirming us too, because like you guys are such a

1441
01:11:27,479 --> 01:11:31,759
Speaker 2: major part of the watering of a relationship that's real,

1442
01:11:31,960 --> 01:11:35,160
Speaker 2: that isn't perfect all the time, that needs to be

1443
01:11:35,240 --> 01:11:40,800
Speaker 2: reminded and needs to be like reignited at times, and

1444
01:11:41,479 --> 01:11:43,720
Speaker 2: you know, like I was, as I was researching these

1445
01:11:43,720 --> 01:11:46,320
Speaker 2: stats of like friendships, it was like, how how much

1446
01:11:46,400 --> 01:11:49,880
Speaker 2: like our personal relationships are the number one influence of

1447
01:11:49,920 --> 01:11:52,880
Speaker 2: our health is the number one influence of our like

1448
01:11:53,040 --> 01:11:55,960
Speaker 2: mental health, our even our physical health. And then how

1449
01:11:56,040 --> 01:12:00,120
Speaker 2: women lacking friends is as dangerous as smoking and obesity.

1450
01:12:00,560 --> 01:12:05,200
Speaker 2: Lacking female friends as it's dangerous as smoking and obesity,

1451
01:12:05,760 --> 01:12:09,720
Speaker 2: and that women with strong friendships have lower risk of

1452
01:12:09,720 --> 01:12:12,880
Speaker 2: heart disease, reduced stress hormones, and can live longer than

1453
01:12:12,920 --> 01:12:15,640
Speaker 2: those who lack close friends. And I'm thinking about like

1454
01:12:15,720 --> 01:12:18,360
Speaker 2: in the moments where our friendship has not felt good,

1455
01:12:18,800 --> 01:12:20,720
Speaker 2: like I literally feel like I'm dying a little bit,

1456
01:12:20,720 --> 01:12:22,160
Speaker 2: And i was like, why do I feel this way?

1457
01:12:22,200 --> 01:12:24,280
Speaker 2: And I'm like, what the fuck? And I'm like, because

1458
01:12:24,320 --> 01:12:28,960
Speaker 2: we've literally called ourselves platonic wives for eight years. That's

1459
01:12:29,000 --> 01:12:31,639
Speaker 2: not like it's it's a word, but it's like it's

1460
01:12:31,640 --> 01:12:34,519
Speaker 2: also a commitment to one another, whether or not we

1461
01:12:34,720 --> 01:12:37,840
Speaker 2: those words are powerful and they they do like and

1462
01:12:38,200 --> 01:12:40,920
Speaker 2: that and not because because they're not just words, because

1463
01:12:40,960 --> 01:12:44,040
Speaker 2: that's is who I'm gonna cry, because that's is who

1464
01:12:44,080 --> 01:12:47,960
Speaker 2: we've been to one another. Like we've literally been that

1465
01:12:48,000 --> 01:12:50,920
Speaker 2: to one another, like or like in ways that I

1466
01:12:50,920 --> 01:12:53,639
Speaker 2: don't even know if I've experienced with me, I haven't,

1467
01:12:54,200 --> 01:12:56,439
Speaker 2: you know, I've I've never shared a banking out with somebody,

1468
01:12:56,439 --> 01:12:59,600
Speaker 2: and I've never like shared like the deepest woes of

1469
01:12:59,640 --> 01:13:03,040
Speaker 2: my life with someone and like also been in pleasure

1470
01:13:03,040 --> 01:13:06,040
Speaker 2: and intimacy with someone and like but also like it's

1471
01:13:06,160 --> 01:13:10,240
Speaker 2: just like it's so expansive and like I'm like, wo,

1472
01:13:10,280 --> 01:13:13,760
Speaker 2: how could this relationship impact me this much? Like like

1473
01:13:14,200 --> 01:13:19,080
Speaker 2: I've I've lost friends and I've had changes in relationships

1474
01:13:19,280 --> 01:13:23,880
Speaker 2: and it hasn't felt like this, and I had to

1475
01:13:24,000 --> 01:13:27,880
Speaker 2: like I've really I've really been like dissecting that so

1476
01:13:28,000 --> 01:13:32,479
Speaker 2: much more, especially because you know, Meila and I are

1477
01:13:32,720 --> 01:13:37,599
Speaker 2: in therapy together, and like that's I know, crazy friends

1478
01:13:37,600 --> 01:13:40,800
Speaker 2: in therapy, right, but actually not crazy, because like this

1479
01:13:40,840 --> 01:13:46,440
Speaker 2: relationship deserves that, this not just this partnership, this relationship

1480
01:13:46,520 --> 01:13:51,160
Speaker 2: and our souls meeting one another and like seeing one

1481
01:13:51,200 --> 01:13:54,759
Speaker 2: another in that way to deserve to like have something

1482
01:13:55,000 --> 01:13:59,160
Speaker 2: someone else be like, hey, okay, this is what she

1483
01:13:59,320 --> 01:14:01,320
Speaker 2: means and this is what you mean. You guys are

1484
01:14:01,360 --> 01:14:05,080
Speaker 2: actually saying the same thing, or like can you understand

1485
01:14:05,080 --> 01:14:07,200
Speaker 2: what you know? And it's like when you are so

1486
01:14:07,640 --> 01:14:10,640
Speaker 2: when we're obviously we're emotional water side women, we're passionate

1487
01:14:10,680 --> 01:14:14,200
Speaker 2: about what we do, how we show up, we are

1488
01:14:14,240 --> 01:14:19,040
Speaker 2: as individuals and what our needs are as individuals, and

1489
01:14:19,080 --> 01:14:21,479
Speaker 2: so like as much as that has watered our friendship,

1490
01:14:22,080 --> 01:14:25,000
Speaker 2: that can also be like we can be really stubborn

1491
01:14:25,040 --> 01:14:26,880
Speaker 2: in that as well, Like no, I said what I

1492
01:14:26,880 --> 01:14:29,120
Speaker 2: said and I fucking meant it, you know. And it's

1493
01:14:29,160 --> 01:14:34,439
Speaker 2: like I'm thankful that we continue to say yes to

1494
01:14:34,479 --> 01:14:38,320
Speaker 2: one another even in really challenging and difficult times. And

1495
01:14:38,720 --> 01:14:42,440
Speaker 2: like I'm thankful for our tribe who like is constant,

1496
01:14:43,040 --> 01:14:45,960
Speaker 2: like just constant checking in with us and like tell

1497
01:14:46,080 --> 01:14:50,880
Speaker 2: and like watering us. And and I'm probably also knowing too,

1498
01:14:51,160 --> 01:14:53,559
Speaker 2: you know, like a lot of y'all have like you

1499
01:14:53,680 --> 01:14:57,000
Speaker 2: know us, like you know the shifts of our energy.

1500
01:14:57,560 --> 01:15:00,639
Speaker 2: You know, when creation is that it's highest, when it's

1501
01:15:00,680 --> 01:15:02,840
Speaker 2: like kind of dimmed right like not right now, but

1502
01:15:02,880 --> 01:15:05,639
Speaker 2: like just dimmed in general. And so like I've asked,

1503
01:15:05,840 --> 01:15:06,479
Speaker 2: I've asked.

1504
01:15:06,280 --> 01:15:08,200
Speaker 3: My clothes for my friends who listen, like, do you

1505
01:15:08,240 --> 01:15:09,200
Speaker 3: notice like a shift?

1506
01:15:09,200 --> 01:15:09,560
Speaker 2: She's like no.

1507
01:15:09,680 --> 01:15:11,720
Speaker 3: And then but I've had people message me. I've had

1508
01:15:11,920 --> 01:15:14,120
Speaker 3: people write letters. I've had people message me and say

1509
01:15:14,240 --> 01:15:16,479
Speaker 3: something seems a little off. I've had people all retreats

1510
01:15:16,479 --> 01:15:20,000
Speaker 3: ask me, and I'm like, I can feel it. So

1511
01:15:20,080 --> 01:15:21,640
Speaker 3: if you're super tuned in, and you've been tuned in

1512
01:15:21,680 --> 01:15:24,639
Speaker 3: for a long time, I know that it's probably evident. Also,

1513
01:15:24,920 --> 01:15:26,760
Speaker 3: me and Eric are very good at sitting on this

1514
01:15:26,800 --> 01:15:28,960
Speaker 3: couch and everything else going out the window. There are

1515
01:15:29,000 --> 01:15:31,320
Speaker 3: a lot of times where we were having very heated,

1516
01:15:32,080 --> 01:15:37,640
Speaker 3: sick energy between us that's not always love and butterflies,

1517
01:15:37,680 --> 01:15:39,200
Speaker 3: and we sit here and we're like, we can find

1518
01:15:39,200 --> 01:15:41,000
Speaker 3: the place to laugh, and then we'll close the door

1519
01:15:41,040 --> 01:15:43,440
Speaker 3: and be like bye bye.

1520
01:15:44,840 --> 01:15:47,439
Speaker 2: And it's psycho. I mean, it's not psycho, it's it's real.

1521
01:15:47,520 --> 01:15:50,120
Speaker 3: But I think, oh, it's real, it's super real, and

1522
01:15:50,160 --> 01:15:51,960
Speaker 3: I think it's not too real.

1523
01:15:52,000 --> 01:16:00,200
Speaker 2: But the layer of someone being so deeply.

1524
01:16:01,840 --> 01:16:04,840
Speaker 3: Enthralled in your life, knowing all your secrets, knowing what

1525
01:16:05,080 --> 01:16:07,880
Speaker 3: your triggers are, or knowing what your history is, and

1526
01:16:08,360 --> 01:16:11,719
Speaker 3: just knowing so much about each other and being literally

1527
01:16:11,720 --> 01:16:14,519
Speaker 3: are the safe place for one another. When that shifts,

1528
01:16:14,840 --> 01:16:17,679
Speaker 3: it can equally go on the other side, like that anger,

1529
01:16:17,920 --> 01:16:23,479
Speaker 3: that disappointment, that frustration, that whatever, that sadness or whatever

1530
01:16:23,520 --> 01:16:28,559
Speaker 3: we interpret as something not in flow or in love.

1531
01:16:28,720 --> 01:16:32,759
Speaker 3: It feels super personal, especially because we're sensitive as bitches,

1532
01:16:33,400 --> 01:16:36,120
Speaker 3: and you know, and I've I've taken things super personally

1533
01:16:36,160 --> 01:16:39,600
Speaker 3: and I know that I have, you know, And.

1534
01:16:40,320 --> 01:16:42,120
Speaker 2: It's just it's not easy.

1535
01:16:42,240 --> 01:16:47,360
Speaker 3: But I am grateful that we have this to to

1536
01:16:47,560 --> 01:16:49,800
Speaker 3: push us and that we know it's important and that

1537
01:16:49,880 --> 01:16:51,880
Speaker 3: we do get calls and we do get you know,

1538
01:16:52,479 --> 01:16:54,560
Speaker 3: fucking messages and letters.

1539
01:16:54,160 --> 01:16:56,360
Speaker 2: And like this is like a level of mirror work

1540
01:16:56,439 --> 01:17:00,240
Speaker 2: that is like I can't even explain, Like it's like

1541
01:17:00,479 --> 01:17:02,680
Speaker 2: you can't avoid it. We can, we can't avoid it,

1542
01:17:02,720 --> 01:17:05,040
Speaker 2: and I don't, and like we're not supposed to. That's

1543
01:17:05,080 --> 01:17:09,080
Speaker 2: not what like God Spirit, any of the shit had

1544
01:17:09,120 --> 01:17:11,240
Speaker 2: lined up for us. There's like, no, bitch, you're gonna

1545
01:17:11,280 --> 01:17:12,800
Speaker 2: have to sit on that couch and face her and

1546
01:17:12,840 --> 01:17:13,720
Speaker 2: talk to her. You can't.

1547
01:17:13,720 --> 01:17:17,840
Speaker 3: At some point we're gonna and in fact tomorrow in therapy,

1548
01:17:18,080 --> 01:17:21,559
Speaker 3: the assignment is that we have to like read all

1549
01:17:21,600 --> 01:17:24,680
Speaker 3: of our resentments off and like we've had a relatively

1550
01:17:24,680 --> 01:17:26,679
Speaker 3: good week. We hung out yesterday, which we haven't really

1551
01:17:26,720 --> 01:17:28,640
Speaker 3: done in a long time. And that's another thing, like

1552
01:17:28,680 --> 01:17:31,680
Speaker 3: so much of our hangouts are just business meetings and

1553
01:17:31,760 --> 01:17:34,200
Speaker 3: so like when you only water one side of it,

1554
01:17:34,600 --> 01:17:37,280
Speaker 3: even though the friendship is what births all this other shit,

1555
01:17:37,800 --> 01:17:40,880
Speaker 3: it makes it very difficult to be creative and be

1556
01:17:41,280 --> 01:17:43,519
Speaker 3: free flowing in the space that is the business part,

1557
01:17:43,520 --> 01:17:46,320
Speaker 3: because the business is the friendship. But you know it's

1558
01:17:46,360 --> 01:17:47,640
Speaker 3: not not you.

1559
01:17:47,880 --> 01:17:50,080
Speaker 2: Feel that I don't know, I feel like I actually

1560
01:17:50,120 --> 01:17:53,240
Speaker 2: feel that's the one thing I'm grateful for From my side,

1561
01:17:53,240 --> 01:17:54,200
Speaker 2: I can't this is me speaking.

1562
01:17:54,200 --> 01:17:56,800
Speaker 3: I'm just saying the brand was was birthed out of

1563
01:17:56,840 --> 01:18:00,519
Speaker 3: our friendship. So when there's no friendship, what the fuck

1564
01:18:00,560 --> 01:18:01,080
Speaker 3: is the brand?

1565
01:18:01,320 --> 01:18:01,559
Speaker 2: Like that?

1566
01:18:01,840 --> 01:18:03,760
Speaker 3: And then begin and I feel like there's guilt too.

1567
01:18:03,960 --> 01:18:07,720
Speaker 3: People are like your friendship, your friendship, you know, and

1568
01:18:07,720 --> 01:18:10,000
Speaker 3: they're like, fuck, the friendship's not even like join great

1569
01:18:10,040 --> 01:18:14,160
Speaker 3: right now, And there's I'm grateful that we got into

1570
01:18:14,200 --> 01:18:17,200
Speaker 3: bed in this way because we cannot hide from each other,

1571
01:18:17,320 --> 01:18:19,519
Speaker 3: we cannot hide from this work. And I'm grateful that

1572
01:18:20,080 --> 01:18:25,320
Speaker 3: the podcast has been always no matter how much funny

1573
01:18:25,400 --> 01:18:28,559
Speaker 3: and how much sex and how much, it's always been

1574
01:18:28,800 --> 01:18:33,759
Speaker 3: a commitment and a promise to evolve and to heal

1575
01:18:34,479 --> 01:18:37,320
Speaker 3: and to look at ourselves. You don't have to be

1576
01:18:37,400 --> 01:18:42,120
Speaker 3: just like us. But this whole journey was built in

1577
01:18:42,240 --> 01:18:45,240
Speaker 3: the in the sense of what are we doing now?

1578
01:18:45,360 --> 01:18:47,920
Speaker 3: How can we be better? And it's three thirty three,

1579
01:18:48,320 --> 01:18:52,120
Speaker 3: it's changed. But and I look at that, even when

1580
01:18:52,120 --> 01:18:54,320
Speaker 3: I'm angry at you, eve, when I'm fucking pissed, even

1581
01:18:54,320 --> 01:18:58,439
Speaker 3: when I'm like fuck this bitch, I'm still like, ah,

1582
01:18:58,880 --> 01:19:01,680
Speaker 3: I know that there's requires deeper. And the truth is

1583
01:19:01,680 --> 01:19:06,240
Speaker 3: we've avoided a lot of probably uncomfortable conversations because for

1584
01:19:06,280 --> 01:19:09,200
Speaker 3: so long we didn't have any deep issues, you know,

1585
01:19:09,240 --> 01:19:12,679
Speaker 3: we didn't have any deep arguments. And I think also

1586
01:19:12,720 --> 01:19:15,559
Speaker 3: because we started not as friends per se, we started

1587
01:19:15,560 --> 01:19:18,000
Speaker 3: as business partners. There's a level of delicacy.

1588
01:19:18,200 --> 01:19:19,599
Speaker 2: And we didn't start as a business partners.

1589
01:19:19,600 --> 01:19:21,160
Speaker 3: We start business, we just start as bid You didn't

1590
01:19:21,160 --> 01:19:21,559
Speaker 3: know each other.

1591
01:19:21,680 --> 01:19:24,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, we started as it literally happened all at once.

1592
01:19:24,760 --> 01:19:26,960
Speaker 2: It just kept going. At one point we realized we

1593
01:19:26,960 --> 01:19:28,639
Speaker 2: had a business. We're like, I guess we're business partners.

1594
01:19:28,680 --> 01:19:30,439
Speaker 2: We had already been doing it for like at least.

1595
01:19:30,280 --> 01:19:33,320
Speaker 3: A year when we realized that it's a tippy toeing around.

1596
01:19:33,360 --> 01:19:35,679
Speaker 2: Well, I think, like it's just like it's I don't

1597
01:19:35,680 --> 01:19:37,200
Speaker 2: want to say it's normal, but it is. I think

1598
01:19:37,240 --> 01:19:39,320
Speaker 2: when something happens sometimes you're like, am my tripping, let

1599
01:19:39,360 --> 01:19:40,519
Speaker 2: me not, let me shut the fuck up. And then

1600
01:19:40,520 --> 01:19:43,439
Speaker 2: you do that enough and then a lot there's the

1601
01:19:43,439 --> 01:19:45,360
Speaker 2: little seat of resentment starts to build and you just

1602
01:19:45,360 --> 01:19:47,760
Speaker 2: don't share it until now it's a bigger thing. And

1603
01:19:47,800 --> 01:19:50,559
Speaker 2: now the person's confused because you haven't said shit or

1604
01:19:50,800 --> 01:19:53,000
Speaker 2: now the other side is like it's just there's just

1605
01:19:53,040 --> 01:19:55,000
Speaker 2: so many things. And this is what happens in female

1606
01:19:55,080 --> 01:19:58,680
Speaker 2: dynamics with women specifically, because I think women we hold on,

1607
01:19:58,920 --> 01:20:02,720
Speaker 2: we hold more than men do. Men like they just

1608
01:20:02,800 --> 01:20:05,720
Speaker 2: kind of like they just be flowing. They don't even

1609
01:20:05,760 --> 01:20:07,799
Speaker 2: really be well. I mean, they don't really have drama.

1610
01:20:08,040 --> 01:20:11,080
Speaker 3: No, men are a whole different, but I think that

1611
01:20:11,080 --> 01:20:13,080
Speaker 3: they're lacking friendships and try.

1612
01:20:13,200 --> 01:20:16,280
Speaker 2: But I actually respect sometimes how men deal with shit.

1613
01:20:16,360 --> 01:20:18,360
Speaker 2: They can get They will call you out right there

1614
01:20:18,680 --> 01:20:20,200
Speaker 2: and say it, even if it's a joke.

1615
01:20:20,320 --> 01:20:21,639
Speaker 3: At least they're saying it.

1616
01:20:21,800 --> 01:20:25,200
Speaker 2: Women will just literally not say shit, you know. And

1617
01:20:26,240 --> 01:20:28,600
Speaker 2: in the spirit of it being International Women's Month this

1618
01:20:28,720 --> 01:20:33,240
Speaker 2: month and our eight year anniversary and you know, our

1619
01:20:33,240 --> 01:20:36,760
Speaker 2: commitment to therapy and the things that we're still we're

1620
01:20:36,800 --> 01:20:39,200
Speaker 2: trying to get comfortable doing, like saying things in the

1621
01:20:39,280 --> 01:20:44,800
Speaker 2: moment and like not taking things personally and and realizing

1622
01:20:44,840 --> 01:20:47,360
Speaker 2: that even if there is resentment, even if there's truth

1623
01:20:47,439 --> 01:20:49,840
Speaker 2: behind the things that we've said, and you agree and

1624
01:20:49,880 --> 01:20:53,320
Speaker 2: I don't agree, like we know at the very core

1625
01:20:53,520 --> 01:20:57,160
Speaker 2: of what what is happening that we have love for

1626
01:20:57,280 --> 01:20:59,600
Speaker 2: one another and it's not like, oh, I love you.

1627
01:20:59,640 --> 01:21:01,720
Speaker 2: I have you know, like there's like a deepness in

1628
01:21:01,760 --> 01:21:02,559
Speaker 2: the love that we have.

1629
01:21:02,720 --> 01:21:06,280
Speaker 3: We've seen each other through a lot of major life events, good,

1630
01:21:06,360 --> 01:21:07,560
Speaker 3: bad and different.

1631
01:21:07,560 --> 01:21:11,200
Speaker 2: And that is there. There's so much more value there

1632
01:21:11,760 --> 01:21:14,080
Speaker 2: than there is with all the whatever else. There is

1633
01:21:14,600 --> 01:21:18,479
Speaker 2: like the richness and the foundation that is there, like

1634
01:21:19,160 --> 01:21:21,200
Speaker 2: the other things can they can be Because at the

1635
01:21:21,280 --> 01:21:22,639
Speaker 2: end of the day, bitch, if anything were to ever

1636
01:21:22,640 --> 01:21:25,760
Speaker 2: happen to you, I would fucking I would die. I'm

1637
01:21:26,080 --> 01:21:26,720
Speaker 2: thinking about it.

1638
01:21:27,360 --> 01:21:27,799
Speaker 3: I couldn't.

1639
01:21:28,000 --> 01:21:29,680
Speaker 2: I couldn't really die, Like I would be like, oh

1640
01:21:29,760 --> 01:21:32,800
Speaker 2: my God, Like I just there's nothing in this motherfucking

1641
01:21:32,840 --> 01:21:37,240
Speaker 2: world that like would be is important to me.

1642
01:21:37,560 --> 01:21:40,439
Speaker 3: No, it's not. And there it's nothing. Even even with

1643
01:21:40,479 --> 01:21:42,800
Speaker 3: all the water under the bridge or whatever place we're

1644
01:21:42,800 --> 01:21:44,880
Speaker 3: in at this moment or have been in the last

1645
01:21:45,000 --> 01:21:48,400
Speaker 3: year two years, there's nothing that's greater than the love

1646
01:21:48,400 --> 01:21:50,080
Speaker 3: that I have for you. There's nothing that you've done

1647
01:21:50,080 --> 01:21:53,840
Speaker 3: that I can't forgive. There's nothing that there's nothing that

1648
01:21:53,880 --> 01:21:57,600
Speaker 3: weighs heavier than what we've created, what we've built, the

1649
01:21:57,680 --> 01:22:01,040
Speaker 3: experiences we've had together. I mean, like just us in general,

1650
01:22:01,720 --> 01:22:04,559
Speaker 3: just the joy that we've experienced, just the adventures, just

1651
01:22:04,640 --> 01:22:07,760
Speaker 3: the stories we've been able to tell, the boldness that

1652
01:22:07,800 --> 01:22:11,960
Speaker 3: we've given each other permission to experience, like it is.

1653
01:22:12,479 --> 01:22:15,080
Speaker 3: I think this shit weighs so heavily on me because

1654
01:22:15,120 --> 01:22:17,920
Speaker 3: this is so important to me. It really has like

1655
01:22:18,600 --> 01:22:21,360
Speaker 3: changed my life. You've changed my life, and this friendship

1656
01:22:21,360 --> 01:22:25,759
Speaker 3: has birth something like in me, Like I've shifted because

1657
01:22:25,800 --> 01:22:27,720
Speaker 3: of it, and my life has shifted because of it.

1658
01:22:27,760 --> 01:22:31,880
Speaker 3: And like how close we've been and literally a safe

1659
01:22:31,920 --> 01:22:35,000
Speaker 3: haven in so many and the most difficult parts of

1660
01:22:35,000 --> 01:22:39,360
Speaker 3: our lives, you know, like it has been something true

1661
01:22:39,400 --> 01:22:41,920
Speaker 3: and real that I can always go to you and say, Yo,

1662
01:22:42,120 --> 01:22:44,519
Speaker 3: this is happening or whatever the fuck, and there's always

1663
01:22:44,560 --> 01:22:47,160
Speaker 3: a place that we can land. Is so much more

1664
01:22:47,240 --> 01:22:50,400
Speaker 3: valuable than any of this other shit that we're dealing with,

1665
01:22:50,520 --> 01:22:54,360
Speaker 3: or that we are caddy or whatever the holding resentment

1666
01:22:54,439 --> 01:22:56,400
Speaker 3: over I just at the end of the day, I'm like,

1667
01:22:56,600 --> 01:22:59,000
Speaker 3: I know we're going to come out of this, and

1668
01:22:59,120 --> 01:23:01,120
Speaker 3: I hope that and I know that we're working on

1669
01:23:01,200 --> 01:23:02,880
Speaker 3: skills that we can come out of it without it

1670
01:23:02,920 --> 01:23:08,280
Speaker 3: being we're writing down taking score of what's happening, you know,

1671
01:23:08,520 --> 01:23:12,160
Speaker 3: and I just know that's not our story. There's so

1672
01:23:12,240 --> 01:23:14,519
Speaker 3: much more for us to do, and and I think

1673
01:23:14,520 --> 01:23:16,639
Speaker 3: every time we get to a point where we've ignored

1674
01:23:16,680 --> 01:23:19,800
Speaker 3: some issues, it's like the real, the real question is

1675
01:23:19,840 --> 01:23:21,880
Speaker 3: are you ready to really let this go? Are you

1676
01:23:21,920 --> 01:23:24,240
Speaker 3: gonna let this go right now? And it's always like, no,

1677
01:23:24,280 --> 01:23:26,439
Speaker 3: I don't want to. I don't want to. I don't

1678
01:23:26,439 --> 01:23:29,360
Speaker 3: want this to be how it ends. That doesn't make

1679
01:23:29,400 --> 01:23:31,639
Speaker 3: sense to me. That is not what we foresaw. That's

1680
01:23:31,640 --> 01:23:33,320
Speaker 3: not why we prayed over our friendship. That's not why

1681
01:23:33,320 --> 01:23:33,599
Speaker 3: we did.

1682
01:23:33,560 --> 01:23:34,240
Speaker 2: All this work.

1683
01:23:34,560 --> 01:23:37,360
Speaker 3: And like, you know, as we go into this session

1684
01:23:37,360 --> 01:23:40,320
Speaker 3: tomorrow with all these things, and like I was even thinking,

1685
01:23:40,320 --> 01:23:44,160
Speaker 3: like this is even necessary? Are we like fucking up?

1686
01:23:44,320 --> 01:23:46,679
Speaker 2: Like are we gonna like be mad again?

1687
01:23:47,040 --> 01:23:48,559
Speaker 3: It's gonna recognize these things.

1688
01:23:48,800 --> 01:23:50,880
Speaker 2: But then I'm always afraid, like I'm like, well, maybe

1689
01:23:50,880 --> 01:23:53,280
Speaker 2: we also need to let it go. So everything's like

1690
01:23:53,320 --> 01:23:56,040
Speaker 2: I already said that already, So there's no harbor that

1691
01:23:56,080 --> 01:23:59,200
Speaker 2: I don't And I realized I realized a part of it,

1692
01:23:59,280 --> 01:24:03,160
Speaker 2: a part of I think everyone needs to realize just

1693
01:24:03,200 --> 01:24:06,080
Speaker 2: because someone says something does not mean it's true. Sometimes

1694
01:24:06,120 --> 01:24:09,040
Speaker 2: you say things they're not true, but sometimes you just

1695
01:24:09,080 --> 01:24:11,200
Speaker 2: need to say the thing, you know, and like that

1696
01:24:11,240 --> 01:24:11,880
Speaker 2: could I don't know.

1697
01:24:11,920 --> 01:24:17,599
Speaker 3: We'll report back next week, but I do want if

1698
01:24:17,600 --> 01:24:19,280
Speaker 3: you're listening, if you have a best friend and like,

1699
01:24:19,320 --> 01:24:22,320
Speaker 3: granted people grow apart, and granted people change, and granted life,

1700
01:24:23,040 --> 01:24:25,240
Speaker 3: and you know, Bell Hooks writes about this is like

1701
01:24:25,400 --> 01:24:27,200
Speaker 3: and this is we experienced this in the beginning. When

1702
01:24:27,200 --> 01:24:29,559
Speaker 3: you're going through the same thing as somebody, there is

1703
01:24:29,600 --> 01:24:31,880
Speaker 3: a level of trust and understanding. And I don't know

1704
01:24:31,880 --> 01:24:35,799
Speaker 3: if it's trauma bonding that happened. For sure, we trauma bonded.

1705
01:24:36,120 --> 01:24:38,519
Speaker 2: We are the result. We are the beautiful result of

1706
01:24:38,560 --> 01:24:39,320
Speaker 2: a trauma bond life.

1707
01:24:39,400 --> 01:24:43,479
Speaker 3: It can be positive codependency, codependency and trauma bonding. And

1708
01:24:43,520 --> 01:24:46,479
Speaker 3: that's looked great in some chapters of our life. And

1709
01:24:46,479 --> 01:24:52,000
Speaker 3: then sometimes this is a problem. It's not sustainable. It's

1710
01:24:52,000 --> 01:24:55,720
Speaker 3: not sustainable. It's not I mean, I guess I always said, like, well,

1711
01:24:55,720 --> 01:24:57,840
Speaker 3: what if we get married, Like what's going to happen

1712
01:24:58,000 --> 01:24:59,519
Speaker 3: with good moms? I choicing It's like, well, we'll tell

1713
01:24:59,520 --> 01:25:02,559
Speaker 3: those stories. And I was like this sounds fun.

1714
01:25:04,520 --> 01:25:06,240
Speaker 2: People wrote it. We're like, you guys are getting boring.

1715
01:25:09,800 --> 01:25:12,280
Speaker 2: I've been going to Costa Rican bitches.

1716
01:25:12,360 --> 01:25:16,240
Speaker 3: I don't know, just go back to twenty eighteen. You

1717
01:25:16,280 --> 01:25:18,400
Speaker 3: have a lot, you have like six years of horrishness,

1718
01:25:18,439 --> 01:25:26,160
Speaker 3: maybe four, But yeah, this is inevitable and any friendship

1719
01:25:26,240 --> 01:25:29,400
Speaker 3: dynamics are going to change. We are two individuals, although

1720
01:25:29,400 --> 01:25:33,400
Speaker 3: we've been one conglomerate for quite some time. When the

1721
01:25:33,840 --> 01:25:36,439
Speaker 3: like when we realized it was separating, there was a

1722
01:25:36,479 --> 01:25:38,840
Speaker 3: lot of fear. I can say for myself, a lot

1723
01:25:38,840 --> 01:25:43,000
Speaker 3: of fear, a lot of fear, a lot of worry

1724
01:25:43,240 --> 01:25:48,000
Speaker 3: about that means for us, And like just when you've

1725
01:25:48,040 --> 01:25:50,920
Speaker 3: put poured so much into something, it's you know, you

1726
01:25:50,920 --> 01:25:54,400
Speaker 3: don't want to see it and whatever you're imagined, like

1727
01:25:54,439 --> 01:25:55,880
Speaker 3: however it is, you don't want to see it change

1728
01:25:55,960 --> 01:25:58,840
Speaker 3: or dwindle. But things change.

1729
01:25:59,200 --> 01:26:04,160
Speaker 2: So that's literally why we're tormented. It's literally the source

1730
01:26:04,200 --> 01:26:07,080
Speaker 2: of ninety nine percent of our pain is that we can't.

1731
01:26:07,200 --> 01:26:08,240
Speaker 2: We have a hard time with that.

1732
01:26:08,479 --> 01:26:10,080
Speaker 3: And I don't want to choose suffering. I want to

1733
01:26:10,200 --> 01:26:13,040
Speaker 3: choose like empathy. And I realized that, like, am I

1734
01:26:13,120 --> 01:26:15,680
Speaker 3: not being empathetic? Am I not being? And then I

1735
01:26:15,720 --> 01:26:17,960
Speaker 3: am pathetic and I don't feel like it's like recognized,

1736
01:26:18,000 --> 01:26:19,960
Speaker 3: and I'm like, fuck being empathetic.

1737
01:26:19,479 --> 01:26:22,920
Speaker 2: Fuck that I'm a cold I'm cold fuck all that.

1738
01:26:23,240 --> 01:26:27,439
Speaker 3: So, you know, and granted, thankfully we are people who

1739
01:26:27,640 --> 01:26:30,479
Speaker 3: look at ourselves, you know, and hopefully we can always

1740
01:26:30,760 --> 01:26:33,240
Speaker 3: have the ability to do that, and you know, just

1741
01:26:33,320 --> 01:26:35,880
Speaker 3: all the things. If you have friends and loved ones

1742
01:26:35,920 --> 01:26:38,360
Speaker 3: that you care about, I mean, it's always worth fighting for,

1743
01:26:38,439 --> 01:26:40,080
Speaker 3: it's always worth working for it, especially if you think

1744
01:26:40,080 --> 01:26:44,040
Speaker 3: those people are smart, emotionally intelligent and also on the

1745
01:26:44,080 --> 01:26:46,880
Speaker 3: same thing as you. And that's one thing we can't

1746
01:26:46,920 --> 01:26:51,479
Speaker 3: ever say we're not both on the same trajectory as

1747
01:26:51,479 --> 01:26:55,519
Speaker 3: far as evolving, healing, being self aware and being aware

1748
01:26:55,520 --> 01:26:58,240
Speaker 3: in general. And I think if you have those things

1749
01:26:58,240 --> 01:27:04,000
Speaker 3: in common, then you'll all be willing to take accountability

1750
01:27:04,160 --> 01:27:06,720
Speaker 3: and also speak your mind. And also, just what I've

1751
01:27:06,760 --> 01:27:08,479
Speaker 3: had to tell myself a lot in this process is

1752
01:27:08,520 --> 01:27:13,880
Speaker 3: that telling the truth and being honest is it feels scary,

1753
01:27:14,040 --> 01:27:17,240
Speaker 3: but it's ultimately going to bring more love and more closeness.

1754
01:27:18,040 --> 01:27:20,800
Speaker 3: So if you can get over the discomfort of saying

1755
01:27:20,800 --> 01:27:23,640
Speaker 3: the thing, or you can receive it without being defensive,

1756
01:27:24,600 --> 01:27:28,599
Speaker 3: then there's something even greater on the other side. And

1757
01:27:28,640 --> 01:27:30,800
Speaker 3: sometimes that's difficult. And I was thinking about that with Orlando.

1758
01:27:30,840 --> 01:27:32,640
Speaker 3: He was getting on my nerves last night, and I

1759
01:27:32,680 --> 01:27:35,120
Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, because in my mind, the

1760
01:27:35,120 --> 01:27:36,679
Speaker 3: first thing I say when someone's getting on my nerve

1761
01:27:36,720 --> 01:27:39,160
Speaker 3: is I'm over this. Those are the exact words I

1762
01:27:39,160 --> 01:27:39,680
Speaker 3: say in my mind.

1763
01:27:39,720 --> 01:27:40,280
Speaker 2: I'm over this.

1764
01:27:40,320 --> 01:27:42,160
Speaker 3: I'm over that person. I'm over this. And then I

1765
01:27:42,200 --> 01:27:43,639
Speaker 3: was like, you're not over it, You're in it.

1766
01:27:44,400 --> 01:27:46,439
Speaker 2: Actually, which actually I was like the very bottom.

1767
01:27:46,520 --> 01:27:48,560
Speaker 3: I was like, you're actually up over it. I was

1768
01:27:48,600 --> 01:27:50,880
Speaker 3: like a campy over it because I'm in it. And

1769
01:27:50,960 --> 01:27:53,960
Speaker 3: I signed a certificate or whatever the fuck this means,

1770
01:27:54,439 --> 01:27:55,920
Speaker 3: and now I'm in it. And I was like thinking

1771
01:27:55,960 --> 01:27:57,960
Speaker 3: about you, and I'm like, fuck, it's the same thing.

1772
01:27:58,400 --> 01:28:00,400
Speaker 3: I'm in it. Like there's no getting over it. It's

1773
01:28:00,439 --> 01:28:02,439
Speaker 3: always going to exist, even if we said fuck all

1774
01:28:02,439 --> 01:28:05,799
Speaker 3: this year. Right now, good Moms is an entity. She exists.

1775
01:28:05,840 --> 01:28:08,360
Speaker 3: She's going to come up. So it's just like we

1776
01:28:08,400 --> 01:28:12,200
Speaker 3: have a baby together, so you know, and she's eight.

1777
01:28:14,400 --> 01:28:16,160
Speaker 3: It's a big ass kid. That's not a baby, that's

1778
01:28:16,160 --> 01:28:17,800
Speaker 3: not even a toddler. That's a kid.

1779
01:28:18,479 --> 01:28:21,160
Speaker 2: She's heading into preteen. Maybe that's why she's such a bitch.

1780
01:28:22,680 --> 01:28:33,040
Speaker 3: It's hormonales, I think fits. She doesn't like those clothes.

1781
01:28:33,080 --> 01:28:38,639
Speaker 3: You're too fast. Oh my goodness, O god.

1782
01:28:38,720 --> 01:28:42,560
Speaker 2: Well, cheers to our friendship and cheers to growth, and

1783
01:28:42,640 --> 01:28:45,599
Speaker 2: cheers to acknowledging the hard things and being in it

1784
01:28:45,680 --> 01:28:49,840
Speaker 2: for the long run, and also honoring you know that

1785
01:28:50,080 --> 01:28:52,760
Speaker 2: things do change, and things people change, and we have

1786
01:28:52,760 --> 01:28:54,760
Speaker 2: to learn how to love people differently at times, like

1787
01:28:54,920 --> 01:28:57,000
Speaker 2: sometimes the love that you're giving or the love that

1788
01:28:57,040 --> 01:28:58,680
Speaker 2: I'm giving you a love that you're giving me. For

1789
01:28:58,720 --> 01:29:01,519
Speaker 2: the last however, many has to shift, just like you

1790
01:29:01,520 --> 01:29:04,679
Speaker 2: will shift with your child and adjust to where they're

1791
01:29:04,720 --> 01:29:07,360
Speaker 2: at in their growth journey and in their development and

1792
01:29:07,360 --> 01:29:10,439
Speaker 2: in their story. So I hope that if you're listening

1793
01:29:10,520 --> 01:29:12,320
Speaker 2: to this, and if you have a friendship that might

1794
01:29:12,360 --> 01:29:14,519
Speaker 2: be a little bit rocky right now, you can just

1795
01:29:14,560 --> 01:29:18,240
Speaker 2: take a step back and just give it a breather.

1796
01:29:18,880 --> 01:29:22,559
Speaker 2: But also just fu what is the root and think

1797
01:29:22,560 --> 01:29:25,280
Speaker 2: about that, like, what is the root of the friendship?

1798
01:29:25,320 --> 01:29:27,720
Speaker 2: Is that sustainable enough for you to say, Okay, well,

1799
01:29:27,760 --> 01:29:30,439
Speaker 2: maybe I can thug this out a little bit longer.

1800
01:29:30,439 --> 01:29:32,920
Speaker 2: Maybe we deserve another conversation. Maybe we need to write

1801
01:29:32,920 --> 01:29:36,000
Speaker 2: some things down and then have a conversation, like not

1802
01:29:36,120 --> 01:29:38,920
Speaker 2: just wing it. You know, where bitches are just like, well,

1803
01:29:39,000 --> 01:29:40,760
Speaker 2: I feel like this what I feel like, because we

1804
01:29:40,920 --> 01:29:44,280
Speaker 2: can feel all motherfucking day, you know, and it's just

1805
01:29:44,280 --> 01:29:48,479
Speaker 2: like having an organized conversation with the person that you

1806
01:29:48,560 --> 01:29:50,360
Speaker 2: care for and that you love for and maybe even

1807
01:29:50,400 --> 01:29:55,360
Speaker 2: having a mediator. I think that normalizing support in the

1808
01:29:55,360 --> 01:29:59,160
Speaker 2: communication with not just your love space, but like your

1809
01:29:59,200 --> 01:30:02,880
Speaker 2: friendship space is important because sometimes it's like it does

1810
01:30:02,960 --> 01:30:06,080
Speaker 2: take a friend, like maybe maybe a friend to be like, hey, guys,

1811
01:30:06,120 --> 01:30:07,840
Speaker 2: like what's going on, Let's figure this out.

1812
01:30:08,360 --> 01:30:10,599
Speaker 3: That's good through this, you know, because I'm pretty sure

1813
01:30:10,640 --> 01:30:12,840
Speaker 3: all of our friends are tired of us.

1814
01:30:14,040 --> 01:30:19,599
Speaker 2: Probably, and having a mediator is like sometimes what has

1815
01:30:19,640 --> 01:30:25,120
Speaker 2: to happen. So that's my spiel on friendship and healing.

1816
01:30:25,360 --> 01:30:30,840
Speaker 3: And also we're not giving a rule book in relationships communication,

1817
01:30:31,000 --> 01:30:32,760
Speaker 3: Like we have language, but we don't know how to

1818
01:30:32,880 --> 01:30:35,080
Speaker 3: use it. And I think I do think it's important

1819
01:30:35,120 --> 01:30:38,600
Speaker 3: to like find creed and like communication and ways in

1820
01:30:38,640 --> 01:30:42,439
Speaker 3: which communication is makes sense because we could be talking

1821
01:30:42,880 --> 01:30:45,640
Speaker 3: Chinese and fucking Spanish to each other all day, and

1822
01:30:45,680 --> 01:30:47,240
Speaker 3: if we're not speaking the same language and we're not

1823
01:30:47,280 --> 01:30:50,520
Speaker 3: here to understand, it doesn't fucking matter what we're saying.

1824
01:30:50,760 --> 01:30:52,880
Speaker 2: And especially if you're going into it too, because I

1825
01:30:52,920 --> 01:30:54,360
Speaker 2: was happy to think. Like before when we went to

1826
01:30:54,439 --> 01:30:57,880
Speaker 2: therapy last time, I was like I was feeling like

1827
01:30:58,320 --> 01:31:01,080
Speaker 2: defensive and or like, and I was like, what is

1828
01:31:01,120 --> 01:31:03,160
Speaker 2: my what do I want to come out of this?

1829
01:31:04,160 --> 01:31:06,200
Speaker 2: Do I want to be right? Do I want to

1830
01:31:06,200 --> 01:31:08,640
Speaker 2: be a when? Do I want my point to be

1831
01:31:08,760 --> 01:31:13,200
Speaker 2: across and try to finally say yeah, you're right Erica yeah?

1832
01:31:13,479 --> 01:31:15,240
Speaker 2: Or like? And if I don't get that, is it over?

1833
01:31:15,800 --> 01:31:15,880
Speaker 1: Like?

1834
01:31:15,960 --> 01:31:17,920
Speaker 2: You know, like what is it that I fucking want

1835
01:31:17,960 --> 01:31:20,719
Speaker 2: from this? And it's like I want resolve, I want peace,

1836
01:31:20,920 --> 01:31:23,519
Speaker 2: I want flow, I want I want a friendship to persevere.

1837
01:31:23,680 --> 01:31:26,680
Speaker 2: I don't like, can it go back to exactly how

1838
01:31:26,720 --> 01:31:29,320
Speaker 2: it was? No, because we've evolved. It's like it's it's

1839
01:31:29,320 --> 01:31:31,160
Speaker 2: going to continue, whether we're in a good place all

1840
01:31:31,200 --> 01:31:33,679
Speaker 2: the time or whether we're struggling. No matter what.

1841
01:31:33,600 --> 01:31:35,439
Speaker 3: Things evolved, time is timing.

1842
01:31:35,680 --> 01:31:38,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, And so I just had to like think about that.

1843
01:31:38,760 --> 01:31:40,719
Speaker 2: And I don't know if I I mean, I think

1844
01:31:40,760 --> 01:31:42,559
Speaker 2: like I don't know if I was successful the whole thing.

1845
01:31:42,600 --> 01:31:47,080
Speaker 2: I wasn't. But I feel like hopefully maybe tomorrow we

1846
01:31:47,160 --> 01:31:50,959
Speaker 2: both can agree to go into therapy with that mindset

1847
01:31:51,040 --> 01:31:53,840
Speaker 2: because we are going to be sharing things that might

1848
01:31:53,960 --> 01:31:56,000
Speaker 2: are going to probably trigger one another, and it's like,

1849
01:31:56,520 --> 01:31:59,960
Speaker 2: what do we ultimately want? Why are we here? Yeah,

1850
01:32:00,120 --> 01:32:00,920
Speaker 2: to sort this out?

1851
01:32:01,160 --> 01:32:04,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean yeah, absolutely A lot of times someone's

1852
01:32:04,520 --> 01:32:05,920
Speaker 3: not going to be like I agree with you one

1853
01:32:05,960 --> 01:32:10,160
Speaker 3: hundred percent. Yeah, you know, and I was gonna tell

1854
01:32:10,160 --> 01:32:13,840
Speaker 3: you this too, Like there's I always say this Kenya,

1855
01:32:14,000 --> 01:32:16,720
Speaker 3: her fucking communication, her up level communication.

1856
01:32:16,680 --> 01:32:19,680
Speaker 2: And saying everything you need to say and getting the animal.

1857
01:32:19,360 --> 01:32:24,400
Speaker 3: Out, getting the animal out, but also recognizing, like the soothing,

1858
01:32:25,240 --> 01:32:27,800
Speaker 3: the soothing is that you may not even mean the

1859
01:32:27,840 --> 01:32:30,000
Speaker 3: shit that I what I need to hear. You may

1860
01:32:30,080 --> 01:32:33,400
Speaker 3: I need to you may not mean, but who cares?

1861
01:32:33,439 --> 01:32:36,600
Speaker 3: Just say it and same I'm sorry for What do

1862
01:32:36,600 --> 01:32:38,320
Speaker 3: you need from me? What is going to make you

1863
01:32:38,360 --> 01:32:40,160
Speaker 3: feel better? I think people don't go to the end

1864
01:32:40,200 --> 01:32:42,639
Speaker 3: and come back. Sometimes I need to say this. And

1865
01:32:42,640 --> 01:32:46,040
Speaker 3: maybe it's not you that committed this first thing against me,

1866
01:32:46,120 --> 01:32:48,920
Speaker 3: that didn't accept me or didn't or rejected me. Maybe

1867
01:32:48,920 --> 01:32:50,880
Speaker 3: this is for my mom or because of my dad.

1868
01:32:51,160 --> 01:32:54,320
Speaker 3: But I need you because we are under in understanding,

1869
01:32:54,320 --> 01:32:56,920
Speaker 3: and we are in relationship in a way that we

1870
01:32:56,960 --> 01:32:58,880
Speaker 3: are evolving, and we know that maybe there's things that

1871
01:32:58,920 --> 01:33:00,880
Speaker 3: need to be healed, and I if I can do

1872
01:33:00,920 --> 01:33:03,000
Speaker 3: that for you, I'll do that for you, and then

1873
01:33:03,000 --> 01:33:05,760
Speaker 3: you'll be Then you'll be shocked to be like, Oh,

1874
01:33:06,120 --> 01:33:07,519
Speaker 3: I don't care if she meant it or not. I

1875
01:33:07,640 --> 01:33:10,519
Speaker 3: like it, you know what I mean. Like you sometimes

1876
01:33:10,560 --> 01:33:12,639
Speaker 3: need to have the animal be released. You need to say,

1877
01:33:12,680 --> 01:33:14,320
Speaker 3: this is what I need to be soothed. You need

1878
01:33:14,320 --> 01:33:16,919
Speaker 3: to ask for exactly what you want, what is your request?

1879
01:33:17,600 --> 01:33:19,640
Speaker 3: Because I think sometimes we're just angry and we're just

1880
01:33:19,680 --> 01:33:23,960
Speaker 3: battling feelings and feelings are all over the place. But

1881
01:33:24,080 --> 01:33:25,720
Speaker 3: if you can say what is it that I need

1882
01:33:25,720 --> 01:33:28,160
Speaker 3: in this moment, and that that person loves you enough

1883
01:33:28,160 --> 01:33:29,519
Speaker 3: to give it to you, and it's not on some

1884
01:33:29,600 --> 01:33:31,639
Speaker 3: ego or some stubborn shit, it's just like maybe I'm

1885
01:33:31,640 --> 01:33:33,920
Speaker 3: not right, I don't know, but this is what I need,

1886
01:33:34,439 --> 01:33:36,760
Speaker 3: and just you know, And sometimes when you find out

1887
01:33:36,800 --> 01:33:38,519
Speaker 3: what you need, you find out maybe this is not

1888
01:33:38,560 --> 01:33:40,760
Speaker 3: even her, Maybe this is the projection of something else.

1889
01:33:40,800 --> 01:33:42,760
Speaker 3: Maybe I'm mad at her because she's doing something that

1890
01:33:42,800 --> 01:33:44,719
Speaker 3: I haven't been able to do, or that I haven't done,

1891
01:33:44,760 --> 01:33:47,720
Speaker 3: whatever the fuck it is. There is a process in

1892
01:33:47,760 --> 01:33:51,240
Speaker 3: the communication and it relieves something in you and I

1893
01:33:51,280 --> 01:33:54,000
Speaker 3: think that that is something that I was intending on

1894
01:33:54,080 --> 01:33:56,400
Speaker 3: like sharing with you tomorrow, and like, I want you

1895
01:33:56,439 --> 01:33:58,920
Speaker 3: to know that tomorrow I am going in it. I

1896
01:33:59,040 --> 01:34:00,840
Speaker 3: tell myself every time you go to therapy, even though

1897
01:34:00,880 --> 01:34:03,400
Speaker 3: it hasn't been a million times, been like five times,

1898
01:34:04,080 --> 01:34:07,280
Speaker 3: I'm not going in defensive. I'm gonna be as empathetic

1899
01:34:07,439 --> 01:34:09,320
Speaker 3: I want to. I'm here to understand. I want this

1900
01:34:09,400 --> 01:34:11,920
Speaker 3: to be better. I want resolve like I because I

1901
01:34:11,920 --> 01:34:13,640
Speaker 3: don't want to argue with you. I don't want this

1902
01:34:13,720 --> 01:34:16,280
Speaker 3: to be this weird energy between us. I don't think

1903
01:34:16,320 --> 01:34:18,920
Speaker 3: that's I don't like it. I don't like not getting

1904
01:34:18,920 --> 01:34:21,120
Speaker 3: along with you. I don't I don't like feeling this way.

1905
01:34:21,160 --> 01:34:24,080
Speaker 3: I don't like fucking thinking about you four hundred times

1906
01:34:24,080 --> 01:34:26,040
Speaker 3: a day because I'm like, what the fuck is going on?

1907
01:34:26,400 --> 01:34:30,200
Speaker 3: I feel nuts, I feel obsessed, and I feel like

1908
01:34:30,520 --> 01:34:32,640
Speaker 3: I want to find and.

1909
01:34:33,120 --> 01:34:35,439
Speaker 2: I know when we do it's easy.

1910
01:34:35,880 --> 01:34:38,360
Speaker 3: We've been in fights before. I'm gonna be like, oh okay, fine,

1911
01:34:38,720 --> 01:34:40,519
Speaker 3: but it just requires that we do that thing. So

1912
01:34:40,600 --> 01:34:42,280
Speaker 3: I want you to know as we go into tomorrow,

1913
01:34:42,600 --> 01:34:47,160
Speaker 3: resent speech whatever, it's always love, It's always I'm not

1914
01:34:47,160 --> 01:34:49,160
Speaker 3: saying everything I'm saying is right. I'm not saying everything

1915
01:34:49,200 --> 01:34:51,559
Speaker 3: I'm saying is you know correct, It's just how I've

1916
01:34:51,560 --> 01:34:53,400
Speaker 3: been feeling and like, at the end of the day,

1917
01:34:54,240 --> 01:34:56,960
Speaker 3: in all of it, there's love, and of all of it,

1918
01:34:57,000 --> 01:34:58,920
Speaker 3: I want understanding. That's it.

1919
01:34:59,000 --> 01:35:14,559
Speaker 2: Same love. You happy at your anniversary? Your universary? Mm.

1920
01:35:16,320 --> 01:35:20,920
Speaker 2: Life is challenging, okay, nothing like a little tequila. This

1921
01:35:20,960 --> 01:35:23,479
Speaker 2: is our fucking good mom's Confessions of a good Mom.

1922
01:35:23,479 --> 01:35:24,439
Speaker 2: This is our reality show.

1923
01:35:25,400 --> 01:35:26,840
Speaker 3: And then that bitch said.

1924
01:35:26,800 --> 01:35:29,560
Speaker 2: So we got drunk and we told her everything.

1925
01:35:32,280 --> 01:35:35,240
Speaker 3: Eleven am even this is our way. Okay, this is

1926
01:35:35,240 --> 01:35:39,560
Speaker 3: what we came up with yesterday. Do you have affirmation?

1927
01:35:43,160 --> 01:35:45,320
Speaker 2: Go to therapy with your friends.

1928
01:35:47,040 --> 01:35:53,400
Speaker 3: Okay, go to therapy with your friends, or get the

1929
01:35:53,439 --> 01:35:55,360
Speaker 3: most the friend who's the most likely.

1930
01:35:55,240 --> 01:35:59,040
Speaker 2: To your friendship. If your friendship requires therapy, go.

1931
01:36:00,280 --> 01:36:03,719
Speaker 3: If your friendship is important enough to go, go to therapy.

1932
01:36:04,320 --> 01:36:06,280
Speaker 3: And remember, if you don't have any friends, you might

1933
01:36:06,320 --> 01:36:08,639
Speaker 3: have its equivalent to smoking or having heart failure.

1934
01:36:08,720 --> 01:36:10,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you gotter hurry up because you're dying. Basically

1935
01:36:11,960 --> 01:36:15,040
Speaker 2: you're dying. Or come to the good vibratree and make

1936
01:36:15,080 --> 01:36:16,760
Speaker 2: some new friends. If you need a new tribe, make

1937
01:36:16,800 --> 01:36:19,240
Speaker 2: sure you come to the good vibratry. We are going

1938
01:36:19,280 --> 01:36:20,840
Speaker 2: to Costa Rica and you'll get all this.

1939
01:36:22,000 --> 01:36:22,439
Speaker 3: Do you want to.

1940
01:36:22,439 --> 01:36:24,559
Speaker 2: Cry in our arms? Do you want to see us

1941
01:36:24,600 --> 01:36:25,759
Speaker 2: crying each other's arms?

1942
01:36:25,960 --> 01:36:29,759
Speaker 3: That's happened. Okay, I pulled it upside down, which seems

1943
01:36:29,800 --> 01:36:32,600
Speaker 3: more record. Okay, we got the three swords. It's a

1944
01:36:32,800 --> 01:36:37,200
Speaker 3: fucking three swords going through a heart. It's really looks

1945
01:36:37,280 --> 01:36:46,240
Speaker 3: I don't know a bit intense. The so your swords

1946
01:36:46,240 --> 01:36:49,040
Speaker 3: reverse encourages you to pay attention to your inner thoughts

1947
01:36:49,080 --> 01:36:51,800
Speaker 3: and self talk. Your words are powerful, especially those you

1948
01:36:51,840 --> 01:36:54,160
Speaker 3: repeat to yourself day after day. You may be prone

1949
01:36:54,200 --> 01:36:56,720
Speaker 3: to self criticism, limiting beliefs, and negative self talk. You

1950
01:36:56,760 --> 01:36:59,479
Speaker 3: may identify with an inner mean girl or boy who

1951
01:36:59,520 --> 01:37:02,400
Speaker 3: is constantly telling you why you're not good enough. When

1952
01:37:02,400 --> 01:37:04,639
Speaker 3: you hear these negative thoughts come up, ask yourself whether

1953
01:37:04,680 --> 01:37:06,519
Speaker 3: you would utter those words to a friend or a

1954
01:37:06,520 --> 01:37:08,200
Speaker 3: loved one. And if the answer is hell no, then

1955
01:37:08,200 --> 01:37:11,720
Speaker 3: why are you speaking to those words to yourself? Look

1956
01:37:11,760 --> 01:37:13,760
Speaker 3: how you can shift your thoughts towards the positive to

1957
01:37:13,800 --> 01:37:16,439
Speaker 3: reinforce your confidence. You have what it takes to be

1958
01:37:16,479 --> 01:37:19,600
Speaker 3: the person you deserve to be. You may also be hypercented,

1959
01:37:19,760 --> 01:37:22,840
Speaker 3: sensitive to others words and need to develop a thick skin.

1960
01:37:23,479 --> 01:37:26,240
Speaker 3: Let go of the hurt and these words are caused

1961
01:37:26,320 --> 01:37:29,040
Speaker 3: that these words are causing you, It will only hold

1962
01:37:29,040 --> 01:37:31,599
Speaker 3: wait TOLEMI let go of the hurt that these words

1963
01:37:31,600 --> 01:37:33,680
Speaker 3: are causing you. It would only hold you back and

1964
01:37:33,720 --> 01:37:37,000
Speaker 3: do some self reflection. What has triggered your feelings and

1965
01:37:37,040 --> 01:37:40,679
Speaker 3: why and how might you address the underlying issue. For example,

1966
01:37:41,160 --> 01:37:44,240
Speaker 3: if you're upset by a friend's accusation that you are selfish,

1967
01:37:44,520 --> 01:37:47,600
Speaker 3: look within yourself to see where you may be acting selfishly.

1968
01:37:47,960 --> 01:37:50,280
Speaker 3: If this behavior is no longer serving you, then let

1969
01:37:50,360 --> 01:37:53,000
Speaker 3: it go. The through your Swords reverse can indicate that

1970
01:37:53,040 --> 01:37:56,040
Speaker 3: you have recently gone through a difficult patch in which

1971
01:37:56,040 --> 01:37:59,040
Speaker 3: a relationship has ended or been challenged, a loved one

1972
01:37:59,120 --> 01:38:01,800
Speaker 3: has passed, or you were hurt by a situation that

1973
01:38:01,840 --> 01:38:06,439
Speaker 3: affected you deeply. Thankfully the reverse the reversal of this

1974
01:38:06,520 --> 01:38:08,880
Speaker 3: card suggests that this time has passed and you're on

1975
01:38:08,920 --> 01:38:16,120
Speaker 3: the path to recovery. Realizing that with every cloud comes

1976
01:38:16,120 --> 01:38:18,160
Speaker 3: with silver lining, and you have other things in your

1977
01:38:18,200 --> 01:38:20,800
Speaker 3: life which bring you joy, you have reached a point

1978
01:38:20,800 --> 01:38:22,760
Speaker 3: where you can accept the pain and are ready to

1979
01:38:22,800 --> 01:38:25,320
Speaker 3: move forward.

1980
01:38:25,760 --> 01:38:27,679
Speaker 2: Wow. The cards.

1981
01:38:27,720 --> 01:38:34,960
Speaker 3: Don't lie, bitch, the cards never fucking never lie fucking lie.

1982
01:38:35,960 --> 01:38:38,679
Speaker 2: Okay, well, thank you, thank you cards.

1983
01:38:38,720 --> 01:38:43,800
Speaker 3: Thank you Spirit for always speaking in all of the ways, numbers, dates, songs,

1984
01:38:44,000 --> 01:38:48,120
Speaker 3: phone calls, tarot cards. When you are the witch, you

1985
01:38:48,200 --> 01:38:51,000
Speaker 3: give everything the power to give the message and you

1986
01:38:51,000 --> 01:38:54,080
Speaker 3: are open to receiving it. So remember that whatever you

1987
01:38:54,160 --> 01:38:56,439
Speaker 3: use as your conduit is valid.

1988
01:38:57,560 --> 01:39:01,720
Speaker 2: Amen. And speaking of speaking of that and speaking of

1989
01:39:01,800 --> 01:39:05,559
Speaker 2: our community and our tribe, I have a horror story

1990
01:39:05,800 --> 01:39:06,759
Speaker 2: from the tribe.

1991
01:39:07,439 --> 01:39:08,200
Speaker 3: Let's lighten it up.

1992
01:39:08,280 --> 01:39:12,240
Speaker 2: Let's go straight from one of our former Good Vibe treaties,

1993
01:39:12,280 --> 01:39:18,799
Speaker 2: Costa Rica retreaties. She's a mama, And actually she switched

1994
01:39:18,840 --> 01:39:21,559
Speaker 2: up her whole shit after she left the retreat, and

1995
01:39:21,600 --> 01:39:23,880
Speaker 2: I was actually saying, you, guys, we have a retreat

1996
01:39:23,960 --> 01:39:27,479
Speaker 2: July twenty fourth through the twenty wait it twenty fourth,

1997
01:39:27,520 --> 01:39:29,519
Speaker 2: the twenty ninth. Come join us in Costa Rica for

1998
01:39:29,560 --> 01:39:30,920
Speaker 2: the good I'm kind of drunk.

1999
01:39:31,400 --> 01:39:33,439
Speaker 3: I'm good, bitch. We haven't eaten. I'm drunk.

2000
01:39:33,640 --> 01:39:37,840
Speaker 2: You eat today because I feel like I'm so slurring

2001
01:39:37,960 --> 01:39:41,479
Speaker 2: my words at Come to Costa Rica, bitch. Just look

2002
01:39:41,680 --> 01:39:44,320
Speaker 2: in the caption of the episode. We got a Mommy

2003
01:39:44,320 --> 01:39:46,720
Speaker 2: and Me retreat. You can bring your baby, you can

2004
01:39:46,720 --> 01:39:48,080
Speaker 2: come if you can't get a nanny, and if you

2005
01:39:48,120 --> 01:39:50,120
Speaker 2: don't want to leave those motherfuckers at home, come the

2006
01:39:50,160 --> 01:39:52,040
Speaker 2: next week and join us in Costa Rica for the

2007
01:39:52,040 --> 01:39:59,759
Speaker 2: women's retreat. Anyway, this hory is from a former retreating. Okay,

2008
01:39:59,800 --> 01:40:01,439
Speaker 2: so the stories from a long time ago. When I

2009
01:40:01,479 --> 01:40:04,040
Speaker 2: was studying abroad, I was shopping at the Unique Low

2010
01:40:04,120 --> 01:40:06,559
Speaker 2: by the Opera House in Paris when this cute, tiny

2011
01:40:06,600 --> 01:40:08,920
Speaker 2: dog wearing an Adidas track suit ran up on me.

2012
01:40:09,280 --> 01:40:12,400
Speaker 2: I crouched down and started petting him. I love dogs.

2013
01:40:12,800 --> 01:40:15,360
Speaker 2: Then his owner walked over and apologized. I looked up

2014
01:40:15,439 --> 01:40:19,439
Speaker 2: and there was an extremely handsome forty year old forty

2015
01:40:19,439 --> 01:40:23,040
Speaker 2: something year old man who was dressed extremely fashionably, yet

2016
01:40:23,120 --> 01:40:26,679
Speaker 2: so casual and effortless. Oh we love a European casual

2017
01:40:26,680 --> 01:40:27,080
Speaker 2: effort lis.

2018
01:40:27,200 --> 01:40:30,160
Speaker 3: I love a stylish older distinguished, not trying so hard,

2019
01:40:30,160 --> 01:40:30,720
Speaker 3: but he looks so.

2020
01:40:30,680 --> 01:40:35,080
Speaker 2: Good with an accent. He was racially ambiguous, but oh

2021
01:40:35,120 --> 01:40:38,160
Speaker 2: so sun kissed, with a muscular physique and salt pepper

2022
01:40:38,200 --> 01:40:41,840
Speaker 2: hair and a foreign accent. He put out his hand

2023
01:40:41,880 --> 01:40:43,960
Speaker 2: and helped me stand up. We chatted it up for

2024
01:40:44,000 --> 01:40:46,479
Speaker 2: a little bit before we exchanged numbers. I told him

2025
01:40:46,479 --> 01:40:48,200
Speaker 2: I was going back to the city I was studying

2026
01:40:48,280 --> 01:40:50,120
Speaker 2: in and it was my last day in the city.

2027
01:40:50,439 --> 01:40:52,280
Speaker 2: He told me if I was ever in Paris again,

2028
01:40:52,320 --> 01:40:55,240
Speaker 2: he wanted to take me out. That evening. We began

2029
01:40:55,320 --> 01:40:57,639
Speaker 2: texting and he was asking me about school and helping

2030
01:40:57,680 --> 01:41:00,240
Speaker 2: me refine my French. He told me that he spent

2031
01:41:00,320 --> 01:41:03,000
Speaker 2: a lot of time in Porto, Portugal, but was going

2032
01:41:03,040 --> 01:41:05,479
Speaker 2: back to Paris in two weeks for work if I

2033
01:41:05,520 --> 01:41:07,880
Speaker 2: was available, and if I was available to see him.

2034
01:41:08,560 --> 01:41:10,880
Speaker 2: After I decided to go, he immediately sent me a

2035
01:41:10,920 --> 01:41:13,320
Speaker 2: train ticket and some money for my travel. Yeah. I

2036
01:41:13,960 --> 01:41:17,519
Speaker 2: love a ticket and some money. I was impressed. So

2037
01:41:17,600 --> 01:41:19,880
Speaker 2: when it was time, I packed up the cutest yet

2038
01:41:19,920 --> 01:41:22,640
Speaker 2: mature clothes my young ass could find and went to

2039
01:41:22,680 --> 01:41:26,000
Speaker 2: that motherfucking train station. I would have loved. What is mature?

2040
01:41:27,000 --> 01:41:29,960
Speaker 2: I love mature offits you'd be putting on for older guys.

2041
01:41:30,160 --> 01:41:31,160
Speaker 3: I know, I know, book.

2042
01:41:31,280 --> 01:41:33,519
Speaker 2: I had friends in Paris, so things didn't go well,

2043
01:41:33,560 --> 01:41:36,839
Speaker 2: I would just go visit them instead. When I arrived,

2044
01:41:36,880 --> 01:41:39,120
Speaker 2: there was a driver waiting for me with my name

2045
01:41:39,160 --> 01:41:41,599
Speaker 2: on a paper, and I started to wonder what exactly

2046
01:41:41,640 --> 01:41:44,920
Speaker 2: had I gotten myself into. But hey, I was in Paris,

2047
01:41:44,960 --> 01:41:47,439
Speaker 2: so it was hard to complain. We pulled up at

2048
01:41:47,439 --> 01:41:51,639
Speaker 2: the classic at this classic Parisian apartment building right around

2049
01:41:51,640 --> 01:41:53,840
Speaker 2: the corner from the Opera House and the store where

2050
01:41:53,880 --> 01:41:56,360
Speaker 2: I met him. He greeted me with a firm and

2051
01:41:56,479 --> 01:41:59,760
Speaker 2: sensual hug and some cheek kisses that escorted me up

2052
01:41:59,800 --> 01:42:04,560
Speaker 2: stock to his apartment. Y'all, he had the most picturesque

2053
01:42:04,600 --> 01:42:09,960
Speaker 2: Parisian apartment ever when it was tastefully updated. I knew

2054
01:42:10,000 --> 01:42:14,960
Speaker 2: then I had caught a big fish. He told me

2055
01:42:15,000 --> 01:42:16,600
Speaker 2: there was a work party he had to go to

2056
01:42:16,720 --> 01:42:19,280
Speaker 2: that night. It was last minute, he said, and asked

2057
01:42:19,280 --> 01:42:21,479
Speaker 2: if I wanted to go with him. When I tried

2058
01:42:21,520 --> 01:42:23,880
Speaker 2: to say I didn't have anything to wear, so I'd

2059
01:42:23,960 --> 01:42:26,840
Speaker 2: rather just stay back, he casually told me he was

2060
01:42:26,880 --> 01:42:31,080
Speaker 2: a fashion designer what and could put together something nice

2061
01:42:31,120 --> 01:42:34,719
Speaker 2: for me. It was just a club party, he said. Again.

2062
01:42:34,840 --> 01:42:37,120
Speaker 2: I probably should have been asking more questions, and I

2063
01:42:37,200 --> 01:42:40,000
Speaker 2: probably should have been like, wait a second, this is weird.

2064
01:42:40,560 --> 01:42:43,519
Speaker 2: This felt like a fairy tale, and even now I

2065
01:42:43,520 --> 01:42:45,479
Speaker 2: can't believe this happened. This is the problem with Cinderella.

2066
01:42:45,560 --> 01:42:48,080
Speaker 2: Bitches are like, well, you have outfits. But wait, it

2067
01:42:48,080 --> 01:42:48,879
Speaker 2: gets crazier.

2068
01:42:49,880 --> 01:42:51,800
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'm so waiting. I got hair on.

2069
01:42:51,840 --> 01:42:55,320
Speaker 2: My hairs went up. So we get ready and head

2070
01:42:55,360 --> 01:42:58,080
Speaker 2: to the club. Go straight to the table VIP shit

2071
01:42:58,240 --> 01:43:03,000
Speaker 2: only bitch my house off. We are partying, smoking, having

2072
01:43:03,080 --> 01:43:05,760
Speaker 2: a great time. I'm getting along with everyone there, and

2073
01:43:05,800 --> 01:43:09,200
Speaker 2: my French is flowing. Honey. I noticed one of the

2074
01:43:09,240 --> 01:43:10,960
Speaker 2: girls in the group was kind of flirting with me,

2075
01:43:11,000 --> 01:43:15,840
Speaker 2: and I was reciprocating, but hesitantly. Because I came with buddy.

2076
01:43:15,880 --> 01:43:18,200
Speaker 2: He must have peeped, because he leans into my ear

2077
01:43:18,240 --> 01:43:22,280
Speaker 2: and says, does she please you? We we English translation,

2078
01:43:23,960 --> 01:43:24,639
Speaker 2: I don't know how to say.

2079
01:43:25,120 --> 01:43:27,240
Speaker 3: Let me see, I'm gonna try to read in French.

2080
01:43:27,280 --> 01:43:29,400
Speaker 2: She didn't say. I was gonna say. I was gonna

2081
01:43:29,400 --> 01:43:31,720
Speaker 2: try to make some shit up in front. We we

2082
01:43:31,720 --> 01:43:34,519
Speaker 2: we we baby, put on my pp I don't know,

2083
01:43:36,800 --> 01:43:40,960
Speaker 2: beating the beast. I was shocked, man, I was shocked,

2084
01:43:41,000 --> 01:43:42,759
Speaker 2: but I was drunk, so I decided to be honest

2085
01:43:42,760 --> 01:43:48,200
Speaker 2: and say, we like this.

2086
01:43:48,680 --> 01:43:49,439
Speaker 3: Oh I didn't see that.

2087
01:43:52,720 --> 01:43:54,880
Speaker 2: He gave me a devious smile and told me it

2088
01:43:54,960 --> 01:43:56,600
Speaker 2: was okay. If I wanted to be on her and

2089
01:43:56,640 --> 01:43:58,720
Speaker 2: go home with him. I like this man.

2090
01:43:58,800 --> 01:44:00,719
Speaker 3: I like him a lot, older man.

2091
01:44:01,000 --> 01:44:03,519
Speaker 2: And the girls. That's just what I did. We got

2092
01:44:03,560 --> 01:44:05,840
Speaker 2: back from our night out, he ran me a bath

2093
01:44:05,880 --> 01:44:09,320
Speaker 2: and proceeded to give me a real massage before absolutely

2094
01:44:09,400 --> 01:44:13,000
Speaker 2: dicking me down. Maybe and older, but that dick was

2095
01:44:13,080 --> 01:44:16,439
Speaker 2: definitely twenty something. The rest of the weekend was amazing.

2096
01:44:16,479 --> 01:44:19,160
Speaker 2: We got super high and danced to weird tribal music

2097
01:44:19,520 --> 01:44:22,559
Speaker 2: as he told me about Bernie Man experiences. He would

2098
01:44:22,600 --> 01:44:24,760
Speaker 2: dress me up in some of his fashions before we'd

2099
01:44:24,840 --> 01:44:26,960
Speaker 2: go out and take his dog for walk or grab

2100
01:44:27,040 --> 01:44:27,519
Speaker 2: some dinners.

2101
01:44:27,520 --> 01:44:30,040
Speaker 3: This is like a story that I was, Oh, I love.

2102
01:44:32,920 --> 01:44:36,080
Speaker 2: He bragged about his accomplishments and showed me all all

2103
01:44:36,080 --> 01:44:37,800
Speaker 2: these pics of him with celebrities.

2104
01:44:39,840 --> 01:44:43,439
Speaker 3: I'd be like, yeah, baby, I love DNAs honest Ooh

2105
01:44:43,560 --> 01:44:44,240
Speaker 3: you know her.

2106
01:44:44,920 --> 01:44:47,000
Speaker 2: It was honestly one of the best weekends of my life.

2107
01:44:47,040 --> 01:44:48,880
Speaker 2: So when the car came to take me to the

2108
01:44:48,920 --> 01:44:52,320
Speaker 2: train station and he gave me more travel money in

2109
01:44:52,320 --> 01:44:54,240
Speaker 2: addition to the clothes I wore to the club and

2110
01:44:54,280 --> 01:44:57,840
Speaker 2: a few other souvenirs from that weekend, I knew I

2111
01:44:58,000 --> 01:45:01,320
Speaker 2: definitely wanted to see it. I wanted to see him again.

2112
01:45:01,680 --> 01:45:03,839
Speaker 2: It felt too good to be true, And dear readers,

2113
01:45:04,160 --> 01:45:04,760
Speaker 2: it was.

2114
01:45:05,120 --> 01:45:08,040
Speaker 3: Oh no, oh no, I want to hit that.

2115
01:45:08,200 --> 01:45:08,800
Speaker 2: I hit that.

2116
01:45:08,800 --> 01:45:11,240
Speaker 3: It's strong. You know the backwood the day after its intense.

2117
01:45:13,200 --> 01:45:15,679
Speaker 2: I told you it's like the corner of my throat.

2118
01:45:15,840 --> 01:45:18,160
Speaker 3: Backwards are not for leftovers. You gotta eat the whole

2119
01:45:18,160 --> 01:45:18,840
Speaker 3: thing at first time.

2120
01:45:20,800 --> 01:45:25,120
Speaker 2: This is like McDonald's french fry. Like ten minutes later.

2121
01:45:25,640 --> 01:45:28,559
Speaker 3: It's not good the next day. If nless you're a rapper.

2122
01:45:28,600 --> 01:45:30,960
Speaker 3: If you're a rapper, you can probably look it. I

2123
01:45:31,000 --> 01:45:33,240
Speaker 3: don't think of tequila on it. Dip it in tequila.

2124
01:45:33,320 --> 01:45:34,000
Speaker 3: See what happens.

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Speaker 2: Bitch, this needs more than that. When I tell you

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Speaker 2: when I had to revive it back would you did

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Speaker 2: you see that thing? To raady sentence? How to revive

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01:45:44,720 --> 01:45:47,080
Speaker 2: the person? We're putting the backwood under a hose and

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01:45:47,120 --> 01:45:48,280
Speaker 2: running it for like ten minutes.

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Speaker 3: No, but we didn't do it. And I wouln't even

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01:45:50,640 --> 01:45:52,679
Speaker 3: know where it goes wrong because I'm invested and I'm piss.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, sorry, but I have like this.

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01:45:54,680 --> 01:45:58,000
Speaker 3: I have just like visual of him. Okay, whatever, keep going, okay.

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Speaker 2: A few weeks after Paris, he asked me to fly

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Speaker 2: to the south of France to see him. So I

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01:46:05,120 --> 01:46:07,639
Speaker 2: went to his Instagram to see his sexy face, and

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01:46:07,720 --> 01:46:10,960
Speaker 2: as I was meandering through his page, I touched his

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01:46:11,040 --> 01:46:14,799
Speaker 2: tag photos and saw a picture posted a few days prior.

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Speaker 2: He was sitting at a Daanner table in Porto with

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Speaker 2: his wife.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure.

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Speaker 2: I felt so sick and stupid and felt like I

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01:46:23,880 --> 01:46:26,240
Speaker 2: had received all that I could from that situation, so

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Speaker 2: I didn't even bother confronting him. I liked the picture

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01:46:29,720 --> 01:46:32,720
Speaker 2: and never responded back to his message asking me to

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Speaker 2: go to Nice.

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01:46:33,960 --> 01:46:35,719
Speaker 3: I would have been to Nise. I'm not gonna front

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01:46:36,200 --> 01:46:38,680
Speaker 3: what the fuck I would have went. I would have

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Speaker 3: I you know, you don't know.

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Speaker 2: Their arrangement said sorry it was so long, but this

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01:46:42,439 --> 01:46:43,960
Speaker 2: felt like a safe place to share the deal.

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Speaker 3: Oh baby. First of all, well who was that? Because

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01:46:46,520 --> 01:46:49,000
Speaker 3: I I know her, I feel like that's my friend

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01:46:49,040 --> 01:46:55,559
Speaker 3: judahodas terc. She does live a rich lifestyle. I can

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01:46:55,640 --> 01:46:58,040
Speaker 3: see that happening for her. She gets all the rich niggas.

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01:46:58,320 --> 01:47:02,840
Speaker 2: She's casually living her best life because she's.

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Speaker 3: A bad bitch she is, and she's she's young. God,

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01:47:06,360 --> 01:47:08,960
Speaker 3: you know, please, if you're young and you're just discovering

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Speaker 3: the show.

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Speaker 2: Do your fucking things, Say yes, bitch, and also send

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Speaker 2: in the stories because we're just not so young anymore

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01:47:14,560 --> 01:47:17,160
Speaker 2: and we don't have as much opportunity. That's not true.

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01:47:17,280 --> 01:47:20,760
Speaker 3: I mean we do if Okay, I'm married, it's me.

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01:47:20,880 --> 01:47:23,040
Speaker 3: I'm married, so I don't have such opportunity. But we

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Speaker 3: still have a fun husband. I do have a fun husband,

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Speaker 3: and maybe and we like to role play, babe, can

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01:47:28,080 --> 01:47:32,400
Speaker 3: you be Parisian stylists? Give me the part, go.

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Speaker 2: Go, get the twisty sash, get the nigga with the sign.

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Speaker 3: I not that I feel like you should fuck up

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01:47:39,600 --> 01:47:41,759
Speaker 3: people's marriages, but I feel like at a certain age

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01:47:41,880 --> 01:47:44,120
Speaker 3: usually don't listen to me. But also I feel like

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01:47:44,120 --> 01:47:46,280
Speaker 3: they have a lot of times they have arrangements, like

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01:47:46,640 --> 01:47:49,200
Speaker 3: when me and or Lando are sixty, I might be like, yeah, nigga,

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01:47:49,320 --> 01:47:52,080
Speaker 3: go to Paris and find a young bitch. I'm doing stuff.

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01:47:52,520 --> 01:47:55,360
Speaker 3: I'm decorating our fucking niece home. Get the fuck out

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01:47:55,360 --> 01:47:57,920
Speaker 3: of my face. I used to have an old nigga

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Speaker 3: shout out to Uncle Jim and his wife would call me.

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Speaker 3: I just text another day, and he's forty years older

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Speaker 3: than me. He's he's seventy eight right now.

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Speaker 2: I can't believe it's seventy eight, bitch.

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01:48:09,000 --> 01:48:12,320
Speaker 3: We're still great friends, him and his wife. And it

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Speaker 3: wasn't physical because it was certain. I mean, seventy eight

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01:48:14,360 --> 01:48:16,720
Speaker 3: is much older than forty something, so I don't know

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01:48:16,760 --> 01:48:18,320
Speaker 3: what they're I mean, you had sex with him, so

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01:48:18,320 --> 01:48:18,920
Speaker 3: I didn't have sex.

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Speaker 2: She needs you to go party with him and go

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01:48:20,720 --> 01:48:21,120
Speaker 2: have fun.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess.

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01:48:21,920 --> 01:48:23,400
Speaker 2: I guess when your wife, when the wife knows it.

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01:48:23,600 --> 01:48:25,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's tired. And that was how his wife was.

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01:48:25,720 --> 01:48:28,160
Speaker 3: We would just do fun things and drugs. I don't

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01:48:28,160 --> 01:48:30,200
Speaker 3: know why we're doing drugs. He's very old, but.

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01:48:30,479 --> 01:48:31,240
Speaker 2: That's how he's alive.

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01:48:31,439 --> 01:48:34,200
Speaker 3: That's how he self preserving. And he always tell me, baby,

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Speaker 3: when you get married, just make sure you roll you

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Speaker 3: roll me on the boat, which y'all, I just want

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01:48:37,320 --> 01:48:38,640
Speaker 3: to come hang out with y'all. Just come roll me

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01:48:38,680 --> 01:48:40,000
Speaker 3: on the yacht. And I said, you know what. And

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Speaker 3: the fact that he knew that I was gonna have

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01:48:41,360 --> 01:48:43,920
Speaker 3: a yacht when I was in my twenties, let me

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01:48:44,040 --> 01:48:49,360
Speaker 3: know that he's my fairy sugar daddy. But a story short,

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01:48:49,560 --> 01:48:51,920
Speaker 3: say yes, yeh, say yes, and do the things and

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01:48:51,960 --> 01:48:53,640
Speaker 3: have the experiences because you might just get a new

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01:48:53,640 --> 01:48:55,840
Speaker 3: wardrobe and be at the club with you know, the

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Speaker 3: famous Parisian Amen. Yeah, live your fucking life.

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Speaker 2: Travel is the place to be a top notcho. I

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01:49:03,720 --> 01:49:05,800
Speaker 2: had many travel you can hear a lot of my

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Speaker 2: travel tender stories. But just there's like so much. There's

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Speaker 2: just like a magicalness that happens when you're open, especially

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Speaker 2: when you're in new foreign places.

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01:49:16,439 --> 01:49:18,280
Speaker 3: When you say yes to new places, then I feel

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01:49:18,320 --> 01:49:18,720
Speaker 3: like there's a.

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01:49:18,720 --> 01:49:22,000
Speaker 2: And then you're single also that helps, That really helps.

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01:49:22,120 --> 01:49:25,080
Speaker 3: Or you have a fun partner, friend, husband, or you

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01:49:25,160 --> 01:49:27,559
Speaker 3: like some of our friends who have who have a marriage,

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01:49:27,560 --> 01:49:29,919
Speaker 3: but there they get a hall pass in other countries.

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01:49:30,080 --> 01:49:31,960
Speaker 3: You know, there's all different dynamics that can work out.

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01:49:31,960 --> 01:49:34,559
Speaker 3: But whatever it is, make sure that you always include

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01:49:34,600 --> 01:49:37,799
Speaker 3: the fun and the possibility in your life.

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Speaker 1: M hm.

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Speaker 3: So we've talked a lot today and now we gotta

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Speaker 3: get out of here. Don't forget to check out the

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Speaker 2: ten dollars. You can give you ten dollars this month.

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Speaker 2: That's how much your coffee costs. Bitch, okay, and you're

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Speaker 2: over to our Patreon and our discord community. You're gonna

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Speaker 2: hang out with us. You're gonna get more of this.

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Speaker 2: You can keep up with me and Mila and what

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Speaker 2: we're up to. You can keep up with other women,

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Speaker 2: and you can get these horror stories in real time

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Speaker 2: because this was in the discord.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you can, and there's a lot of them, and

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01:50:23,439 --> 01:50:25,479
Speaker 3: even Erica and I drop bars in there too, so

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Speaker 3: and titties.

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Speaker 2: I almost we have Tody Tuesdays.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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01:50:30,320 --> 01:50:33,479
Speaker 2: So anyway, make sure you go to patreon dot com

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Speaker 2: We love you, love you, love you.

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Speaker 3: This is fine.

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01:50:59,360 --> 01:51:02,519
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm living so good can't you tell? I went

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01:51:02,600 --> 01:51:04,840
Speaker 1: through a drought. That's until I found out, Well maym

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01:51:04,960 --> 01:51:07,120
Speaker 1: have been known Earth? I used to be broken Hell

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Speaker 1: now got the blues in to like Beyonce, Jazam throat

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01:51:10,360 --> 01:51:13,320
Speaker 1: shot or Pop in his car wearing her voices. Patriarchy

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01:51:13,479 --> 01:51:15,840
Speaker 1: kept it in the box to exploit its women put

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Speaker 1: the pie and powers, so it's pointingless. They want me

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Speaker 1: to be good, so I make bad choices.

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Speaker 3: Bad mom, not a bad mom, but a bad mom.

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01:51:23,120 --> 01:51:26,240
Speaker 1: Fitter's in on put cannabis in their bathbone walked in

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01:51:26,360 --> 01:51:28,920
Speaker 1: bossles cap and I blew his cat ball hot dog.

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01:51:29,040 --> 01:51:30,080
Speaker 2: Now I'm immune to.

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01:51:30,120 --> 01:51:32,639
Speaker 1: The cat called Herbie and no waisted straight to it

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01:51:32,720 --> 01:51:34,840
Speaker 1: like a dollar sign. Mother, rent the number when too,

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01:51:34,880 --> 01:51:37,040
Speaker 1: It's like a water someone where you're rent the winter

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01:51:37,240 --> 01:51:39,920
Speaker 1: essential will when the summertime. I do what doll ain't

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Speaker 1: know when that needs to run it by