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Speaker 3: My parents are guilt tripping me to come back home

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Speaker 3: after evicting me.

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Speaker 4: Pick up your mind.

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Speaker 3: Last week, I twenty two female, was kicked out of

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Speaker 3: my family's home for not following the rules and being

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Speaker 3: disrespectful towards my parents. I was sick with what they

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Speaker 3: say was strep throat and stayed home from work because

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Speaker 3: I didn't want anyone else getting sick. I work with kids,

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Speaker 3: and I had this terrible neck ache spreading to my head.

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Speaker 3: I couldn't hold my head up without massaging it constantly.

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Speaker 3: and we're here to give good advice. Goofily, But we

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Speaker 3: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do,

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Speaker 3: So let us know what you would do in the commons,

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Speaker 3: and Opie says, I told them I was staying home

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Speaker 3: and they weren't happy about it. But I'm a grown

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Speaker 3: woman and if I can't work, I'm not going. My

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Speaker 3: when he wasn't feeling well in the army. I told

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Speaker 3: him this wasn't the army, and he's not my drill

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Speaker 3: I was going to be up by ten forty five

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Speaker 3: to the end of the day when I started feeling better.

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Speaker 3: I was up and tidying where I sit in the

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Speaker 3: My dad reiterated that he was serious, that he'd made

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Speaker 3: My dad said one minute and walked away. I go

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Speaker 3: Good night. They followed me into the hallway and forced

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Speaker 3: I will say, punching a wall does ride a hard

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Speaker 4: No, the thing is.

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Speaker 3: Immediately escalating that into the potential of physicist violence is

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Speaker 5: No, Yeah, I think that. Honestly, you just need to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think moving out is a great idea.

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Speaker 4: I think you just got to move out. That's my

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Speaker 3: It's wrong, I know, but she laid hands first and

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Speaker 3: was almost asking for a reaction out of me, unlike her,

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Speaker 3: though I have self control over my emotions.

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Speaker 4: Well do we wall might not? Punch of walls?

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Speaker 3: Sounds like everybody's a little uh.

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Speaker 4: It sounds like we're all part of the same family.

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Speaker 6: I've hit walls and stuff before, but never like to

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Speaker 6: And let me tell you what.

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Speaker 3: You all always win.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, the wall, you can't fan.

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Speaker 5: I've never punched a wall or a person. I accidentally

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Speaker 3: It was an accident, and it was at a haunted

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Speaker 4: Probably good for this spookiness.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. The guy laughed in my face

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Speaker 3: and went, that's not supposed to happen, and then I

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Speaker 4: Us the whole time.

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Speaker 3: Dang rough, So it's probably why I hit a little

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Speaker 3: That was Monday, September ninth, which was also my boyfriend

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Speaker 3: texted me a couple of times asking to talk, hoping

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Speaker 3: I'm okay, They saying they missed me, but I've ignored

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Speaker 3: Now they're sending family members to check in on me

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Speaker 3: don't want to focus on any of that negativity when

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Speaker 3: I've already started feeling better since I've left. I'm currently

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Speaker 3: Sorry again for the long post. Thank you for reading.

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Speaker 3: If you state this long, we have some relevant comments.

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Speaker 5: Uh.

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Speaker 3: No, I am the middle child and only girl. What's

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Speaker 3: strange is that my older brother did the same exact

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Speaker 3: things when he was living with them and us, and

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Speaker 3: they never treated him nearly as terrible as they did

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Speaker 3: and do me. No, I was not paying rent. We

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Speaker 3: That's actually what I told them the last time a

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Speaker 3: huge fight like this happened and I left my house

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Speaker 3: for three days on my own accord. I wasn't forced out.

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Speaker 3: When I returned, I had a long conversation with them

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Speaker 3: stop treating me like a child because I wasn't I

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Speaker 3: say tried, because at the time I was working two jobs,

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Speaker 3: allows me to thankfully try to save some more and

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Speaker 3: rent a place if I can find something. But no

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Speaker 3: matter what I did, they still treat me like a kid.

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Speaker 3: I'm a little confused on the timeline here, because they've

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Speaker 3: had you paying two hundred dollars for less than a year.

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Speaker 3: You had one job, you weren't making it enough. You

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So okay, this this family sucks and this terrible situation. Yes,

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Speaker 5: but I think a peace point about like them treating

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Speaker 3: I having some ways.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I've lived with my parents when I like drink,

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Speaker 5: and that's just I don't know, maybe it's my parents,

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Speaker 5: but yeah, when you live with your parents, even regards

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Speaker 5: as a fault, you are at leaven when I go

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Speaker 5: I'm like, yeah, okay. And also you do kind of

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Speaker 5: fall back into those patterns, yeah, of like being more

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Speaker 5: like these are my parents. They made food for me,

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Speaker 5: you know, and if oh p it's even kind of

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Speaker 5: admitted that she wasn't helping out enough, then it might

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Speaker 5: be like, are like, are we acting like a roommate

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Speaker 5: or are reacting like their kid?

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I don't think that it's unreasonable for them to

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Speaker 3: change and want rent if they felt like maybe you

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Speaker 3: weren't holding up your end of the bargain. It sounds

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Speaker 6: Of the bar.

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Speaker 5: I still think that they were unreasonable, but I think

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Speaker 5: that this is some I don't know, it just seems

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Speaker 5: like a common issue.

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Speaker 3: Ultimately, if you're saying now you can afford your own place, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: then I out stay in your own place.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, do it.

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Speaker 3: That's the time.

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Speaker 5: It's like, unfortunately, this is somewhat of a common issue,

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Speaker 5: and the only way to fix it is.

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Speaker 3: To lead, right. Yeah, Dutchess says, you want to put

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Speaker 3: your foot down about not paying rent and want to

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Speaker 3: be treated like an adult.

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Speaker 4: That, Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, pee, there's some this kind of expectation

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Speaker 5: that she is an adult when she's twenty two, twenty

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Speaker 5: two years old. And I don't mean this in like

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Speaker 5: an negative, but like she's twenty two years old, not

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Speaker 5: paying rent, living with her parents, and I think often

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Speaker 5: just the dynamic, uh, it just kind of happens by default, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Please come back, forgive me. It won't happen again.

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Speaker 5: I think yeah, just as it seems like a bad

438
00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:21,680
Speaker 5: relationship with for all of you guys, and I think

439
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:22,920
Speaker 5: it'll I.

440
00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:23,520
Speaker 3: Think it will.

441
00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:27,120
Speaker 5: If it were going to improve, it would it will

442
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:29,480
Speaker 5: do that when you guys are no longer living together.

443
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Speaker 3: I think that moving out could still be a really

444
00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:36,159
Speaker 3: good option. I'm a little confused if you can afford

445
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,920
Speaker 3: it or not. If you're having to think, maybe sell

446
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:42,239
Speaker 3: your boyfriend and aunt. I thought that was temporary though,

447
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:43,760
Speaker 3: because she was looking at apartments.

448
00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:45,760
Speaker 4: We'll probably temporary until she can't afford it.

449
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, so as long as you have somewhere

450
00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:52,880
Speaker 5: to be. Yeah, but definitely saying your parents, I still

451
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:58,680
Speaker 5: whole good idea strong move out. Yes, agreed, clearly unhealthy

452
00:22:58,800 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 5: situation there.

453
00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:01,880
Speaker 3: I got sick again since I didn't finish the first

454
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:05,080
Speaker 3: round of antibiotics plot twist, it was strap the doctor

455
00:23:05,119 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 3: gave me something different since the amoxicillin was hurting my

456
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 3: stomach and not having the same effect this time around.

457
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:14,119
Speaker 3: I saw my boyfriend again for the first time in

458
00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:17,119
Speaker 3: a week and spent the night at his house. We

459
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,040
Speaker 3: ended up playing animal crossing all night. I did a

460
00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:23,600
Speaker 3: lot of homework and regular work. Being sick doesn't mean

461
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:24,400
Speaker 3: the grind.

462
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,399
Speaker 5: Stop, except I will say, not nice because you should

463
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:27,439
Speaker 5: be resting, right.

464
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Speaker 3: I thought the whole thing was like, can't do stuff

465
00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:33,120
Speaker 3: because we're resting. Yeah, hm, I get that school work.

466
00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 3: But even if I missed a day or two for

467
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 3: actual work and had to leave early, the rest of

468
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:40,359
Speaker 3: the time, I pushed through as best I could, and

469
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:44,119
Speaker 3: I'm proud of myself for that. So yeah, that's about

470
00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:46,360
Speaker 3: it for now. I was supposed to hear back from

471
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:49,560
Speaker 3: a possible apartment. Never did, so I'm taking the l

472
00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:52,520
Speaker 3: on that call them. That's the end of that story.

473
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 5: I refuse to invite my uncle to my wedding. Now

474
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 5: my family's furious.

475
00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 3: Why don't we want them there?

476
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Speaker 5: My father has an identical twin brother who quite literally

477
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,919
Speaker 5: has torn our family to pieces. They both worked in

478
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:07,919
Speaker 5: a family business together owned by their father, and my

479
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 5: father allowed his twin to steal from the business accounts

480
00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:15,119
Speaker 5: to buy his wife luxury clothes and fund their lifestyle

481
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 5: without her having to work. My father allowed his twin

482
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:20,399
Speaker 5: and his wife to steal from his personal accounts, and

483
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 5: he would then tell my mother it was her spending

484
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:24,880
Speaker 5: keeping them in debt when on paper they had more

485
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 5: than enough money coming in. By the way, this comes

486
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,639
Speaker 5: from expurely happiness. And if you want to smit your

487
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 5: own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime severed it.

488
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 5: I'm Sophia, I'm.

489
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Speaker 3: Carly, and I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice.

490
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 4: Goofly, But we don't have all the answers.

491
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 5: We only know what we'd do, So let us know

492
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:41,600
Speaker 5: what you would do in the comments. And now Pie

493
00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 5: says this came to a head about ten years ago

494
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:47,439
Speaker 5: when my father's twin sent his wife to perform a

495
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 5: spicy related favor with their father to get the business

496
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:54,720
Speaker 5: signed fully into his own name, and the same day,

497
00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 5: my dad's twin told my father he was out of

498
00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:01,560
Speaker 5: the business. My father has no no education or income

499
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 5: outside of the business. My mother made her own business

500
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 5: and took mercy on him, putting my father's name on

501
00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 5: her business and giving him an income. Because of this,

502
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 5: my father forgave his twin within only a year or

503
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 5: two and became best buddies again. My dad's twin would

504
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 5: then began to tell my dad that his wife, my mother,

505
00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 5: was a horrible witch, and my aunts told my mom

506
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 5: that my dad's twin had said he wanted to destroy

507
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 5: their marriage. While my granny was bedridden, my dad's twins

508
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 5: stole every penny she had and used her credit cards

509
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 5: to buy groceries for different women in hopes of sleeping

510
00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 5: with them. He also threw a loud party with these

511
00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:41,400
Speaker 5: women late into the night in my granny's house as

512
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:45,119
Speaker 5: she screamed with confusion. My sister visited while this happened,

513
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 5: and my dad's twins screamed in her face to not

514
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:50,800
Speaker 5: tell anyone about what happened. My dad's twin has told

515
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 5: my dad how much he personally hates me, calling me

516
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 5: a disgusting, mean person, and has told my dad how

517
00:25:57,040 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 5: my low functioning disabled brother is a disgrace and defective.

518
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 5: All my aunts hate my dad's twin, that makes sense,

519
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:08,200
Speaker 5: and he tried to frame them for stealing the money

520
00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:11,199
Speaker 5: from my granny, which was proven to be false. On

521
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 5: top of this, my dad's twin's daughter made up lies

522
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:16,479
Speaker 5: about me to get me in trouble as a child

523
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:21,719
Speaker 5: like fatherlike daughter, constantly going to my parents and claiming

524
00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 5: I was doing hard substances when I've never so much

525
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 5: smoked a cigarette. A few years ago, I tried to

526
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:31,159
Speaker 5: rekindle the friendship with his sons, but after a few weeks,

527
00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 5: my dad's twin found out and told them to block me,

528
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,720
Speaker 5: leaving me with no connections to my extended family. On

529
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:41,399
Speaker 5: that side, my dad's twin and his wife banned me

530
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 5: from seeing my best friend their son when I was

531
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 5: only ten, to punish my parents for confronting them about

532
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 5: stealing money.

533
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:51,640
Speaker 4: This is not even half of everything my dad's twin

534
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 4: has done to me and my family. It's endless.

535
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 5: My sister invited him to her own wedding two years ago,

536
00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 5: and during the ceremony in the church pews, my dad's

537
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 5: twin began to talk to women around him about how

538
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 5: he was looking for a girl because he's divorcing his wife.

539
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 5: Even though he isn't divorced. I recently got engaged and

540
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 5: my parents asked me who I'm inviting. I mentioned that

541
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:17,439
Speaker 5: my dad's twin and his family are not welcome. My

542
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 5: father is devastated and he just walked out of the

543
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 5: room in silence. In my culture, the bride's father always

544
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:27,640
Speaker 5: pays for the wedding, and now he's refusing. My mother

545
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:30,160
Speaker 5: is pressuring me to invite my uncle for the sake

546
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,159
Speaker 5: of the family, as my father won't go if his

547
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 5: twin doesn't go.

548
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 4: I feel like I'm going crazy.

549
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 5: I've already told my parents we will pay for our

550
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 5: wedding if it means not having my dad's twin, but

551
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,160
Speaker 5: that means they get no say at all in any

552
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,920
Speaker 5: part of it. My mother says I'm just making life

553
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 5: hard for myself and that I need to think of

554
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:51,919
Speaker 5: her and my siblings and do what I have to

555
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:55,040
Speaker 5: for a normal wedding. Am I the a hole? And

556
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,119
Speaker 5: there are some comments it will definitely not be a

557
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 5: normal wedding if you let the uncle right.

558
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 3: I don't know why anyone's even forcing this upon you.

559
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 3: This is crazy.

560
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 5: No, I think it's a terrible idea to have this

561
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 5: guy come.

562
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 3: Are we sure that your dad hasn't switched with his

563
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,360
Speaker 3: evil twin and this isn't the twin being like you?

564
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 3: You should you should meet him to your wedding.

565
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 5: Yes.

566
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,439
Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't think any of us anticipated at the

567
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 6: beginning of this story that we'd actually have evil twins.

568
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:27,680
Speaker 3: Scenarios literally at all.

569
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 6: That's funny, weird uncle nah e twin evil identical twins.

570
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 5: Evil. Comment one says, do not allow these lunatics in.

571
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 5: Have their pictures and security to keep them out. If

572
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:45,200
Speaker 5: Dad refuses to pay or attend, that's on them.

573
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 3: This is your.

574
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 5: Wedding, make it joyful and keep all the toxic a

575
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:53,760
Speaker 5: holary away. Common two says dad. Mom, you could use

576
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:56,400
Speaker 5: to be dormats to this terrible person. It's your life,

577
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,760
Speaker 5: but I won't subject myself to the same treatment. Consider

578
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 5: your your self lucky to be invited, since your brother

579
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 5: has done awful things to me, your child.

580
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 4: Whom you're supposed to protect.

581
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 5: But you're too much of a spineless blobfish you actually

582
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 5: do and Opie responds, I said something similar to this

583
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 5: to my mom. She said that my father.

584
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 3: Is mentally not right and it's on me to be the.

585
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 5: Picture one here, AKA let my father have his way

586
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 5: and be there and be there with his kid's brother.

587
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 5: Reply says no, No, it is absolutely not incumbent upon

588
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 5: you to keep the peace. Everything is convenient for everyone

589
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 5: else when they aren't having to do the peacekeeping with

590
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 5: family like this, who needs enemies. Not sure where you

591
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 5: are in the world, but I would actually recommend just

592
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 5: going to a courthouse and getting married in Las Vegas.

593
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 4: You do not need that ache of trying.

594
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 5: To people please a bunch of people who sound like

595
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 5: they would trip you in as zombie apocalypse, Opie says,

596
00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:56,760
Speaker 5: I want a courthouse wedding, but my fiance does not.

597
00:29:57,400 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 5: I try to explain to my fiance what a wedding

598
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 5: with me would involve because of my family, and he

599
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 5: said he can't imagine not having a wedding, which I

600
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 5: do understand as well as it's important to some people.

601
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 5: We'll just end up funding our own smaller wedding. We'll

602
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 5: just end up funding our own smaller wedding, and no

603
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:17,280
Speaker 5: one from my family will be there. I think that

604
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:18,959
Speaker 5: maybe the best idea.

605
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 3: It's s Dakota's favorite, and there is an.

606
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 6: Updates secret wedding. Secret secret wedding, don't have to deal

607
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 6: with any of your family.

608
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 3: Secret wedding, Yeah, exactly.

609
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 6: I think there was I'm not sure what culturally is

610
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 6: going on here, but I think there was some mention

611
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 6: of like, because the father usually pays, or I don't know,

612
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 6: it pays.

613
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 3: Yeah.

614
00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:42,840
Speaker 6: I'm not sure exactly what future ramifications having a secret

615
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 6: wedding will hold. However, if it means that you don't

616
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 6: have to interact with any of these people anymore, I

617
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:49,480
Speaker 6: think that's probably a good thing.

618
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 8: Yeah.

619
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 3: It sounded like the extent of it was just they'll

620
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 3: have to pay.

621
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, And it seems also like they're able to pay.

622
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:55,920
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, pay.

623
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 5: Smaller weddings, but you're gonna have a smaller wedding because

624
00:30:58,400 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 5: you're not inviting a bunch of your family.

625
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, so win win. Yeah.

626
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 2: I just yeah, I just met.

627
00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 6: Like what happens after they find out at the wedding

628
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 6: and they weren't invited?

629
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 2: You know?

630
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 6: But again, I think I don't think you want to

631
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 6: deal with any of these people anyway.

632
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 4: Update.

633
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 5: My fiance and I spoke with my parents today. We

634
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 5: explained it's not negotiable. My father's twin is not invited,

635
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 5: and my father will also be uninvited if he doubles

636
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 5: down on this. He started screaming, ended up running out

637
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 5: and slammed the door, telling me to f off and

638
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 5: that he doesn't give an f about my wedding. After

639
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 5: he left, my mother told me, I'm ruining my wedding

640
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:38,280
Speaker 5: day over my father's twin, and that for my own happiness,

641
00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 5: I should just invite him. My fiance said he was

642
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:43,600
Speaker 5: concerned for the welfare of his female relatives if my

643
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 5: uncle did turn up, and that was enough for us

644
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 5: to not invite him. We explained we are willing to

645
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 5: have our own wedding, and if my father and mother

646
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 5: continue to fight for the twin to attend, they will

647
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 5: also be uninvited. My mother kept trying to tell me

648
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 5: I'm ruining my by causing this drama. Then my father returned.

649
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 5: He insisted his twin must attend the wedding. There was

650
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 5: some back and forth when my father suggested he would

651
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 5: actually tolerate his twin being banned from the wedding if

652
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 5: we would also consider banning another brother of his.

653
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 3: He's like, oh right, Ferry, you only want to ban

654
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 3: one of them.

655
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 5: You could have the twin if you also take Jerry.

656
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 5: I hate Jerry. He's the worst brother. I'll miss my twin,

657
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 5: but you can take Jerry. My father has another brother

658
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:32,360
Speaker 5: who informed my mother he saw my father coming and

659
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 5: going from the house of a single neighborhood divorced woman

660
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 5: at strange times. My father absolutely hates this other brother.

661
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 5: I actually also disliked this uncle. He told my father

662
00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 5: he didn't want me and my siblings being near his

663
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 5: daughters when we were all children, and a letter from

664
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 5: this uncle's ex best friend revealed how we slept with

665
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 5: different women as his wife was passing away, buying them

666
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 5: boos in exchange for spicy sleep. Here that I could

667
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 5: end all the time drama with my father by also

668
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 5: banning my cheating uncle. I was quick to agree, but

669
00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 5: it opened another can of worms. That uncle's wife passed

670
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 5: away about six months ago. From the previously mentioned care,

671
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 5: this uncle has also been pretty friendly to my mother.

672
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:18,840
Speaker 5: These two facts caused my mother to go to war

673
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:21,959
Speaker 5: to get the uncle invited to the wedding. What stop,

674
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 5: why stop.

675
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 6: Dating on his wife while she had kids?

676
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 3: Will cheat you wedding does?

677
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 5: Yet again, I am ruining my wedding by not inviting

678
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:36,240
Speaker 5: both of these men. My father is perfectly happy with

679
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 5: this arrangement. It's now my mother who is fighting me,

680
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 5: telling me it's immoral not to invite my other uncle

681
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 5: to my wedding because he's always been nice to her

682
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 5: and his wife recently passed away.

683
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 7: His wife he cheated on?

684
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 3: Did he cheat with your mom?

685
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 5: There is a little bit left to this story. But

686
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 5: wow ee, wow, it seems like your dad's cool with

687
00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 5: this now. He's like, yeah, then you got rid of

688
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 5: my other brother.

689
00:33:58,000 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 3: She will pay for it again now too.

690
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, a potentially, But your mom's kind of stinker.

691
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think the mother likes the uncle a little

692
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 3: too much.

693
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 5: But a little too much, I would agree. Yeah, but

694
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 5: we got a little bit left this story. My mother

695
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:14,800
Speaker 5: keeps telling me, I can't believe I'd be so agreeable

696
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:18,360
Speaker 5: and quick to please my father. She says my wedding

697
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 5: is just a day and not worth turning into so

698
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 5: much trauma, and that both uncles needed to be invited.

699
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 5: My father is the one who would be paying for

700
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:29,360
Speaker 5: the wedding, but my mother will be deeply involved in

701
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:32,840
Speaker 5: the planning process and is going to make every step

702
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:35,880
Speaker 5: of the way. Heck, she constantly guilt trips me about

703
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:38,280
Speaker 5: how I could do this to a man whose wife

704
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 5: just passed away, who he left every night to cheat

705
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:45,279
Speaker 5: on with different women, and how I've sold myself out

706
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:48,640
Speaker 5: for a wedding to be paid for. I tried to explain,

707
00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 5: I truly do not have any love for this uncle either,

708
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,440
Speaker 5: and him being banned from the wedding means nothing to me.

709
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:56,919
Speaker 5: I won't be thinking about him on my wedding day.

710
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 5: The ride never ends. And that is the end of

711
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 5: that story.

712
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Speaker 4: Folks.

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00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:03,360
Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, it's John og Host here.

714
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:04,840
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's a

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00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 1: quick three minute break from as for more sponsors.

716
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 6: I spent months writing my ex a letter, and now

717
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 6: she wants to read it.

718
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 7: That is what you do with letters.

719
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 6: So I, thirty male, wrote a letter to my ex

720
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 6: twenty five female out of pure love and compassion for

721
00:35:20,760 --> 00:35:24,239
Speaker 6: my own unset emotions and feelings towards her, and was

722
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:26,440
Speaker 6: never planning on giving the letter to her in the

723
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 6: first place. I just used the letter to write my

724
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 6: emotions and feelings on paper, just for my own sanity

725
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 6: and closure. The letter wasn't written as a love bomb,

726
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:37,600
Speaker 6: nor was it a letter to get her back. The

727
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 6: letter wasn't written out of anger or blame, but more

728
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 6: of an explanation of my perspective, thoughts, and feelings in

729
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 6: a deeper way which I'd never been able to put

730
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 6: into words directly. Even though I wasn't planning on giving

731
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 6: the letter, I had a lot of moments where I

732
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 6: wanted to and my goal was to make her just

733
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 6: understand why I couldn't communicate in a way I always

734
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:03,799
Speaker 6: wanted because I felt unheard for a long time. By

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Speaker 6: the way, this comes from user Johnny blay Is x

736
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Speaker 6: and if you want to submit your own stories, go

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Speaker 6: to the r slash Okay story time subrendit. I'm Dakota,

738
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:16,319
Speaker 6: and I'm Riley, and I'm Keon, and we're here to

739
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:20,240
Speaker 6: give good advice goofiy. But we haven't experienced all these situations.

740
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 6: We only know what we would do, So if you

741
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 6: do something different, let us know in the comments. As

742
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 6: op says, you see, there was no room for my

743
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:32,799
Speaker 6: emotions and feelings, which eventually drove us apart from each other.

744
00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 6: I've spent weeks on this letter and have many versions

745
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 6: of it. I've been working on it every day for

746
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 6: hours and hours until Saturday, the tenth of May. We

747
00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 6: broke up on the twelfth of January twenty twenty five

748
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:49,919
Speaker 6: after four and a half years, and it honestly broke

749
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:53,439
Speaker 6: my heart due to our different communications styles. We both

750
00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:56,959
Speaker 6: quote ran out of battery when arguing or in a fight.

751
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 6: She always wanted to communicate through direct conflict and always

752
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:05,320
Speaker 6: expressed herself with anger, fury, sadness, and other emotions yeah

753
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 6: maybe some positive ones, while I wanted to remain calm

754
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:13,400
Speaker 6: and simply fix the problem, looking for a solution instead

755
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 6: of blindly screaming and blaming each other out of frustration

756
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,720
Speaker 6: or anger. When I tried to express my feelings thus

757
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 6: finally decided to speak up, she got even more hurt

758
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 6: and angry. This resulted in an unhealthy relationship where I

759
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 6: felt unheard for a long time because I felt like

760
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:32,879
Speaker 6: I was walking on eggshells. I'm not going into full

761
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:35,840
Speaker 6: detail because that wouldn't add anything to the story I'm writing.

762
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 6: If you have questions, I can always answer them. A

763
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:41,799
Speaker 6: couple of months after the breakup and no contact, I

764
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 6: felt like I had so many things left to say

765
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 6: because I had never truly expressed my deepest emotions towards her.

766
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 6: This was the end of February slash beginning of March.

767
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 6: I started writing the letter out of pure sadness, love, compassion,

768
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 6: and many other emotions. And I cried many days writing

769
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 6: the letter while I was looking at our countless pictures,

770
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 6: thinking about the beautiful moments we had together, and everything

771
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:08,720
Speaker 6: came in hard reading the letter day after day, changing

772
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 6: it again and again from different words to different sentences.

773
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 6: It became a huge life project of three full papers

774
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 6: with all my feelings written in an emotional and poetic way.

775
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 6: I showed the final letter to some of my best

776
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 6: friends and they were overwhelmed by the depth and emotion

777
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:28,840
Speaker 6: of the letter. But we'll get there in a moment,

778
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 6: I always thought I couldn't finish the letter because I

779
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 6: had so many things to say. It became the last

780
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:38,319
Speaker 6: thing that would emotionally connect me to my ex and

781
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:43,040
Speaker 6: what we had, reliving the moments again and again like

782
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 6: we said, and again, thinking about everything I should have

783
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:50,880
Speaker 6: said instead of holding back. But then the most hurtful

784
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:55,440
Speaker 6: thing happened that literally broke my heart and soul. On

785
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:59,240
Speaker 6: May sixth, I showed up at the gym and saw

786
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 6: her working out out as well. Eventually she was talking

787
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 6: to this other guy and thought nothing of it. Why

788
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 6: until I saw them kissing and smiling at each other

789
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 6: at the same gym where we used to work out

790
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 6: for years and kiss each other as well, a place

791
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 6: where we had many intimate and funny moments together. She

792
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 6: kissed him like nothing happened. She kissed him like I

793
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:26,440
Speaker 6: never even existed. My heart and my soul sank through

794
00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 6: the floor. The feeling that I felt in that moment

795
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 6: is a feeling I can't explain to this day, but

796
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 6: I'll try. It felt like utter destruction and betrayal of

797
00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 6: all of our memories, my love, feelings and hope I

798
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:43,400
Speaker 6: still had for her. Anxiety, sadness, despair, darkness, pain, failure,

799
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:45,959
Speaker 6: and everything you can feel hit me all at once.

800
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 6: I thought that I was going to throw up while

801
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 6: having a severe panic attack and scream from the pain.

802
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 6: I never had a panic attack in my life. That day,

803
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 6: something broken me. The guy left the gym and I

804
00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 6: walked up to her. The first thing I asked is

805
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 6: if she was already seeing this guy when we were

806
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 6: having trouble in our relationship. She said that this wasn't

807
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 6: the case and that she could never do that to me.

808
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 6: She said she still has all our pictures, conversations, jewelry,

809
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 6: and that she still cares for me. Welp, okay. I

810
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 6: didn't know what to believe anymore. She asked me how

811
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 6: I'm holding up, and I told her that the combination

812
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 6: of the breakup and seeing her kiss another guy hit

813
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 6: me harder than I can imagine, and that I'm not okay.

814
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 6: I nearly started crying in the gym. She told me

815
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:38,360
Speaker 6: that two months after the breakup, she quote unquote accidentally

816
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 6: ran into this guy and that she actually never intended

817
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 6: to date because she wanted to work on herself. After

818
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:47,600
Speaker 6: chatting for a while, I said this to her, quote,

819
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 6: I honestly wish you the best, and I hope that

820
00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 6: he can make you the happiest person and give you

821
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Speaker 6: what I couldn't. I wasn't mad, angry, or jealous, but

822
00:40:56,960 --> 00:41:00,960
Speaker 6: in pure grief. Like never before, I realized I lost

823
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 6: her for good now. She then asked me if there's

824
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 6: anything that she could do. I assumed to make him

825
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 6: feel a loa.

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Speaker 7: It's still the gym.

827
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 6: So I started to tell her about the letters I've

828
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 6: been writing, and she wanted to read them. So we

829
00:41:14,960 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 6: decided to meet up on Saturday, the tenth of May.

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Speaker 3: Whoo.

831
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 6: I came home that night and I cried like I've

832
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:26,319
Speaker 6: never cried before. I didn't recognize myself like this at all.

833
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:29,720
Speaker 6: Since the letter had many versions, which I've been working

834
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 6: on for weeks now, I had to decide in just

835
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 6: a couple of days which parts I wanted to give

836
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 6: and which parts I didn't want to give. I was

837
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:41,880
Speaker 6: so nervous about that upcoming Saturday that I couldn't sleep,

838
00:41:42,239 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 6: I couldn't eat, and still saw that kiss in my thoughts,

839
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 6: and the thought of them being together broke me even more.

840
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 6: But I had to work full time, go to the gym,

841
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 6: and finish the letter for good. I didn't know how,

842
00:41:54,600 --> 00:41:57,719
Speaker 6: but I did all of it. Finally, it was Saturday,

843
00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 6: and I'm still really nervous. I could barely eat, and

844
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 6: I've never felt this way. All scenarios ran through my head.

845
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:07,319
Speaker 6: Is there still a chance? What impact will the letter have?

846
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 6: Will she receive it well or get mad again? Will

847
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,319
Speaker 6: I ever get the love of my life back? Will

848
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 6: I ever get over her? What if I can't move

849
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 6: on from this? It was all or nothing today? Oh Pe,

850
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 6: You're gonna make me roll my eyes across the floor. Dude,

851
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 6: I swear to God.

852
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:26,040
Speaker 2: Pee, you're acting like you're living in a a rom

853
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:27,719
Speaker 2: com or something like that, Like.

854
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 7: And honey, where's the calm?

855
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:31,720
Speaker 2: Whoa, we're in a rom com?

856
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 7: Where's the comedy?

857
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 8: Yeah, because I'm not laughing, I'm just dressed.

858
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 6: Yeah, my eye has been rolled. I knew in the

859
00:42:38,520 --> 00:42:40,880
Speaker 6: back of my head that this day could be the

860
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 6: beginning or the end, even though my feeling leaned towards

861
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:46,520
Speaker 6: the fact that this is the end. To cut to

862
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:48,839
Speaker 6: the chase, since you've been reading for so long.

863
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 2: Here it is.

864
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 6: I showed up at her doorstep and knocked on the door.

865
00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:55,400
Speaker 6: She saw me and smiled and opened the door. Hey,

866
00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 6: she said, come in. She gave me a hug, and

867
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 6: we started having normal calms, just as adults do. And

868
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 6: I grabbed myself a drink and asked her if she

869
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 6: wanted one as well. We sat down and I asked

870
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 6: about how her life has been since the breakup, you know,

871
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:15,360
Speaker 6: the casual things such as work, family, daily activities, all.

872
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 2: That jazz, seeing anybody.

873
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 6: She told me she has been partying a lot since

874
00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 6: our breakup and just wanted to have fun. I think

875
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,920
Speaker 6: i'd leave after that, sentence, I'd be like, you know what, Actually,

876
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 6: I'm gonna leave the letters here, go ahead and read

877
00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 6: them whenever you want or don't. I don't know. I

878
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 6: gotta go okay.

879
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:33,279
Speaker 8: Logistically I was thinking about that, though, I was like,

880
00:43:33,400 --> 00:43:35,680
Speaker 8: oh God, the fact that she's gonna read these in

881
00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:40,680
Speaker 8: front of him, like, oh, I think I almost wish

882
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:42,800
Speaker 8: they had just been delivered, and like you read.

883
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 2: Them, and then oh, he's just really upset because he's

884
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 2: just thinking about Cindy Lapper. Girls just want to have fun.

885
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 4: Girls.

886
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 7: Cindy was right. Girls do just want to have fun.

887
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 2: I thought I shouldn't live song.

888
00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:59,359
Speaker 6: I asked her if this behavior wasn't an escape from

889
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:02,800
Speaker 6: her own feelings, and she gave me a vague answer, quote,

890
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:05,760
Speaker 6: I'm working so much and I just want to have fun. Okay,

891
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 6: I'm doing all right. I could tell she was lying,

892
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 6: but okay. Within the time we were together, she never

893
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 6: partied or wanted to party. She started to ask how

894
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 6: I'm doing, and to be honest, I said, things at

895
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 6: work and everything are okay, and I've been working on

896
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:21,439
Speaker 6: myself to figure it all out. But then I said

897
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:24,279
Speaker 6: that I wasn't doing okay on emotional levels. And I

898
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:27,400
Speaker 6: was at a breaking point emotionally speaking. Little did she

899
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:28,880
Speaker 6: know I was already broken.

900
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 7: No, she didn't know that because you did tell her.

901
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,280
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, you did see it on your face.

902
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:35,320
Speaker 2: You don't, Ah, dude.

903
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 8: This also like sucks because I'm like, and it's hard,

904
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 8: right because you want to be sympathetic.

905
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 7: Breakups are hard. But at the same time, I'm.

906
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:45,040
Speaker 8: Like, this is gonna suck for her exactly like this

907
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 8: is and and guess why Yeah, because she's pain out

908
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 8: as a villain. If you're good through a breakup, like

909
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 8: it sucks, and you do have to get those feelings out.

910
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 7: You don't do that with your eggs.

911
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 6: Yeah, your ex is not the person you go to,

912
00:44:57,640 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 6: Like I am emotionally broken about our breakup.

913
00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 8: You go to your mom, You go to a stranger

914
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 8: on a bench and let it pour out, but you don't.

915
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 2: Maybe that's like that, Maybe that's like plan F but

916
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 2: the stranger. Don't. Don't do that to a stranger.

917
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:14,880
Speaker 4: They listen.

918
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 3: I'm not I'm not.

919
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:17,919
Speaker 8: Saying I have that as your goal, but I'm saying

920
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 8: that is a better.

921
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 2: Better than the last person you should be telling is

922
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 2: the person is causing you.

923
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:27,280
Speaker 6: This op continues She said that she was feeling guilty

924
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 6: about dating that new guy, guilty towards me. I said

925
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:33,320
Speaker 6: that I wasn't mad or jealous, but extremely hurt by everything,

926
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:36,280
Speaker 6: but couldn't judge her about it since we are not together.

927
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:40,239
Speaker 6: After talking about more feelings and more personal stuff, I

928
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 6: said to her that I have something for her, and

929
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:44,919
Speaker 6: I grabbed the letter out of my bag. And while

930
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:47,000
Speaker 6: I was explaining that the letter was written out of

931
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 6: pure love and my final thoughts about our relationship, I

932
00:45:50,440 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 6: started to cry. My voice started to break and I

933
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 6: couldn't even speak. So I gave her the letter, which

934
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 6: was in an envelope. The letter wasn't written by hand,

935
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:02,920
Speaker 6: but ty doubt since my writing is terrible. She asked me,

936
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:05,279
Speaker 6: do you want me to read it now? And I

937
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 6: replied yes.

938
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:10,440
Speaker 8: Please, yes, please publish, yes, please.

939
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:10,920
Speaker 3: Yes please.

940
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:13,960
Speaker 6: You're just a glutton for punishment at this point. That's

941
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 6: what it kind of feels like. Yeah, it feels like

942
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:19,240
Speaker 6: you're kind of really leaning into being as upset about

943
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 6: the breakup as you possibly could be, which is kind

944
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 6: of I get. I can empathize, but you can't just

945
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 6: stay in the pain.

946
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:30,640
Speaker 8: For the rest of your life.

947
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 6: While she was reading it, I couldn't control my emotions

948
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 6: and cried while she was reading. When she was done reading,

949
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:39,479
Speaker 6: she came to me and started crying and hugged me tight.

950
00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 6: We both started crying while we were hugging each other,

951
00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:44,080
Speaker 6: and she told me that this was the most beautiful

952
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 6: letter she had ever received. She told me that she

953
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:49,360
Speaker 6: was so proud of me that I opened up to

954
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:51,319
Speaker 6: her in this way, and that I finally told her

955
00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 6: about my feelings. She said, quote, you are right. I

956
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 6: have pushed you away emotionally, and I understand now. While

957
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 6: she didn't apologize for her behavior during our relationship, I

958
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 6: did feel an enormous sense of relief. Finally I told

959
00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 6: my side of the story and my feelings, and she

960
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:12,400
Speaker 6: finally heard me. She told me how much respect she

961
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:15,320
Speaker 6: has towards me and how much I've grown as a person.

962
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:19,279
Speaker 6: She's always respected me, as she said, quote, You've been

963
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:22,440
Speaker 6: there for me in times where there was no one else. Literally,

964
00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:24,360
Speaker 6: there was no one else I could count on in

965
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:26,719
Speaker 6: the hardest times of my life. You are not the

966
00:47:26,760 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 6: person I met five years ago, and you have grown

967
00:47:29,120 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 6: so much, and I'm proud of you. I asked if

968
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:37,240
Speaker 6: she wanted to talk about her traumas, and she opened

969
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:40,360
Speaker 6: up about one, but this was the one I supported

970
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 6: her through and through. She never told me anything about

971
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:46,359
Speaker 6: the traumas, and I hoped that one day she could

972
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 6: open up so that I could understand her better. But

973
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 6: that day never came. We talked some more and I

974
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:56,399
Speaker 6: decided to leave. Excuse me if I don't remember all

975
00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 6: the exact details. It was a very intense night for me,

976
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:02,840
Speaker 6: but this was the most important thing. Writing this post

977
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:06,839
Speaker 6: took me days as well, So thank you if you're

978
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 6: still reading, and I hope it can help someone out

979
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:11,959
Speaker 6: there to have their own form of closure going through

980
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:17,760
Speaker 6: a heavy breakup. To be honest, this night couldn't be better.

981
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:21,319
Speaker 6: We had a beautiful conversation with a lot of emotions

982
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 6: to it, and it is a great step for me

983
00:48:23,719 --> 00:48:27,280
Speaker 6: getting more closure. I hope she can find closure as well,

984
00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 6: because I just feel with everything inside me she's running

985
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:33,880
Speaker 6: away from her feelings. I came home and finally slept,

986
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 6: but I would lie if I said that I'm doing fine.

987
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:39,839
Speaker 6: She texted me this right after quote. Thank you so

988
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,320
Speaker 6: much for the letter. It is beautiful and I'm still

989
00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:45,640
Speaker 6: trying to understand it all. It has touched something in

990
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 6: me which I'm still trying to figure out to this day.

991
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:51,600
Speaker 6: Thank you, I can remember that I felt a lot

992
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:54,560
Speaker 6: of pain. It feels like I've lost my soulmate, my

993
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:56,800
Speaker 6: best friend, and the love of my life all at once,

994
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 6: and that hurts so badly. It feels like my heart

995
00:49:00,600 --> 00:49:03,920
Speaker 6: has shattered into a million fragments of emotions, beautiful memories,

996
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 6: and the thought we would last forever due to the

997
00:49:06,719 --> 00:49:09,000
Speaker 6: fact that we had a lot of fun together. We

998
00:49:09,040 --> 00:49:11,400
Speaker 6: did have a pure connection which I've never felt with

999
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:15,160
Speaker 6: someone else. But what I also slowly started to realize

1000
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 6: is that if she was indeed my soulmate and the

1001
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 6: love of my life, she wouldn't have left. She wouldn't

1002
00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 6: have neglected my emotions and feeling so much by going

1003
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:26,560
Speaker 6: into self defense mode all the time. The absence and

1004
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 6: the silence speak volumes, and it's the most painful thing

1005
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:32,920
Speaker 6: there is. My favorite person is gone and out of

1006
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:35,759
Speaker 6: my life and dating someone else, someone else will make

1007
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 6: her happy and be intimate with her and look her

1008
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 6: in the eyes and get to date with her. That

1009
00:49:41,239 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 6: is the painful reality I have to live with.

1010
00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:43,879
Speaker 3: That's true.

1011
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 6: Brother, There's no coming back from this. If you say so, brother.

1012
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:50,800
Speaker 6: I find her and miss her in all the smallest

1013
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:53,640
Speaker 6: things I do. To this day, it feels so heavy,

1014
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 6: like she's an emotional shadow that follows me and everything

1015
00:49:58,040 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 6: I do and everywhere I go. How poetic. Last couple

1016
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:04,920
Speaker 6: of days are getting better, I must say, Okay, ups

1017
00:50:04,960 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 6: and down, all right, thank you so much for reading.

1018
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 6: It took me a long time to write all of this.

1019
00:50:10,600 --> 00:50:13,719
Speaker 6: And whoever reads this and is still healing, know that

1020
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:14,680
Speaker 6: you're not alone.

1021
00:50:14,719 --> 00:50:16,879
Speaker 7: Hey, thanks man, Hey, thanks.

1022
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 6: Are here, But are there? That's the end of that story.

1023
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam. We're gonna get back to the stories.

1024
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:25,000
Speaker 1: But here's three minutes of bads from our sponsors.

1025
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:29,839
Speaker 8: I love my current girlfriend, but my extra just sent

1026
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:30,400
Speaker 8: me a letter.

1027
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:33,160
Speaker 2: Burn it, yeah, don't even read it. Cast it into

1028
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:33,720
Speaker 2: the fire.

1029
00:50:34,040 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 8: That's not for your eyes. I call me Anthony thirty

1030
00:50:38,200 --> 00:50:40,759
Speaker 8: two years old. I have been with my current girlfriend,

1031
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:43,560
Speaker 8: call her Michelle, thirty three years old, for four years,

1032
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:46,160
Speaker 8: no plans of marriage, and one time she cheated on me.

1033
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:50,799
Speaker 8: Wasted mistake, blah blah blah whatever I forgave her. We're

1034
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 8: pretty much best friends that do everything together and live together.

1035
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:55,240
Speaker 7: Other than the one instance of cheating.

1036
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 8: We have had no major issues and live a pretty

1037
00:50:58,200 --> 00:50:58,680
Speaker 8: good life.

1038
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:00,040
Speaker 4: She doesn't want kids her marriage.

1039
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:01,839
Speaker 7: I do, though it's a hard no for her.

1040
00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 8: By the way, this comes from Enufan for Yasha, and

1041
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 8: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

1042
00:51:07,239 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 8: our slash Okay story time subreddit.

1043
00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 6: I'm Riley, I'm Dakota, and I'm Keon.

1044
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:16,319
Speaker 8: We try to give our best advice on this, but

1045
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:19,759
Speaker 8: we haven't experienced most of what's occurring in these so

1046
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 8: if you have, If you have any thoughts, get done

1047
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:25,400
Speaker 8: in the comments let us know. OPI says recently, my

1048
00:51:25,520 --> 00:51:29,720
Speaker 8: ex call her Nicole, thirty two years old. Nicole contacted

1049
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:33,640
Speaker 8: me over a promise we made back when we broke up.

1050
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 8: The promises as follows, when and if we were both

1051
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:39,640
Speaker 8: not married by thirty two, we would find a way

1052
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:43,240
Speaker 8: to be together. Some backstory on her and I childhood

1053
00:51:43,239 --> 00:51:46,240
Speaker 8: friends started dating in middle school, dated through high school.

1054
00:51:46,320 --> 00:51:48,480
Speaker 8: She was accepted to her dream college and so was I.

1055
00:51:48,800 --> 00:51:51,120
Speaker 8: On opposite ends of the country Virginia Tech.

1056
00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:52,719
Speaker 7: For her and Stanford for me.

1057
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 8: We did long term for two years until deciding to

1058
00:51:55,080 --> 00:51:57,280
Speaker 8: let each other live their life and be more connected

1059
00:51:57,560 --> 00:51:59,800
Speaker 8: to maybe someone closer if it was going to happen.

1060
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:02,400
Speaker 8: This was a mutual decision and we broke up contact

1061
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:03,279
Speaker 8: at that point so we.

1062
00:52:03,200 --> 00:52:03,719
Speaker 4: Could move on.

1063
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:05,879
Speaker 8: Her parents still talk to me on occasion, live four

1064
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:08,319
Speaker 8: hours away, same with sister twenty minutes away and her

1065
00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 8: grandparents two hours away, but never about her per my request.

1066
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:14,200
Speaker 8: So I have been getting calls from a weird number

1067
00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:17,120
Speaker 8: once every month since September, and I just didn't answer

1068
00:52:17,280 --> 00:52:20,360
Speaker 8: because I don't answer numbers I don't know figure if important.

1069
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 4: They would leave a message.

1070
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:25,640
Speaker 8: X's sister comes by and says, Hey, this is from Nicole.

1071
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 8: She said you can read it and respond if you want,

1072
00:52:28,080 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 8: and if not, then she will understand soon enough. For

1073
00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 8: the life of me, I had forgotten our weird promise,

1074
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:36,400
Speaker 8: but the letter goes as this, Hey, Anthony, I know

1075
00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 8: neither of us have been in contact in the last

1076
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 8: ten years, but I'm asking if you still remember the

1077
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:43,279
Speaker 8: promise we make. I have no right to ask about it,

1078
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:45,719
Speaker 8: and if you have moved on, then it's okay. As

1079
00:52:45,760 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 8: I want you to be happy first and foremost, I

1080
00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 8: want you to note that this isn't a desperation attempt,

1081
00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 8: because I am lonely. My sister was quite keen on

1082
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 8: giving that as the probable reason as to why I've

1083
00:52:55,960 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 8: been feeling this way and why I'm bringing up that

1084
00:52:58,280 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 8: old promise. This is more along lines of I just

1085
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:03,520
Speaker 8: can't imagine my life with anyone else. Yes, I have

1086
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 8: been on dates, many dates, and had one relationship that

1087
00:53:06,080 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 8: lasted over a year, but there was always this feeling

1088
00:53:09,120 --> 00:53:11,759
Speaker 8: in me, this lack feeling in me that well, in

1089
00:53:11,800 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 8: all honesty, they weren't you. You're the guy I knew

1090
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 8: instantly when we're young that I would want to be

1091
00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:18,880
Speaker 8: with forever, the guy who made me smile, that I

1092
00:53:18,920 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 8: could wake up next to you and was genuinely happy

1093
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:23,400
Speaker 8: knowing when we were together. In my mind, you have

1094
00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:26,840
Speaker 8: been my only want and desire. That day we decided

1095
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 8: to try and move on because of the distance.

1096
00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:29,239
Speaker 7: I won't lie.

1097
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:31,200
Speaker 4: It took me about a year to realize how stupid

1098
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 4: that was.

1099
00:53:31,760 --> 00:53:33,680
Speaker 8: It was mutual, but my feelings are that I pushed

1100
00:53:33,719 --> 00:53:36,160
Speaker 8: you towards it. I honestly feel like the first suggestion

1101
00:53:36,239 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 8: of giving time to each other to finish school and

1102
00:53:38,239 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 8: not have to try and coordinate our lives was the stupidest.

1103
00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:43,280
Speaker 4: Mistake I ever could have done.

1104
00:53:43,480 --> 00:53:45,680
Speaker 8: Anthony, you are my soulmate, my love, my life, and

1105
00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 8: that is why what comes next, I say, with all

1106
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:52,800
Speaker 8: fear aside, I am ready to leave everything and find

1107
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:56,319
Speaker 8: a new job to move back to be with you.

1108
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:59,520
Speaker 7: I'm fully prepared to do this if you even think

1109
00:53:59,560 --> 00:54:01,520
Speaker 7: there can be a chance for us again.

1110
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:03,680
Speaker 8: I love you, I love you, and nobody else will

1111
00:54:03,680 --> 00:54:05,279
Speaker 8: ever take the place you have in my heart. I

1112
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 8: talk to my parents and friends. They are in full

1113
00:54:07,320 --> 00:54:09,799
Speaker 8: support of this. Also, thank you so much for being

1114
00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:12,080
Speaker 8: there for my parents when they needed help moving and

1115
00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:14,760
Speaker 8: working on Dad's bike and truck. I had no idea

1116
00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:17,320
Speaker 8: until a few days ago. I will be fully committed

1117
00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:19,600
Speaker 8: to being yours. I want to be part of your

1118
00:54:19,600 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 8: life and want you to be in mind forever, growing old,

1119
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:24,839
Speaker 8: seeing the world change, the lives we live together as one,

1120
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 8: and most importantly, I just want us to be happy.

1121
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:29,239
Speaker 8: I've wasted enough time holding back what I have wanted

1122
00:54:29,280 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 8: to say for the last few years. I love you

1123
00:54:31,160 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 8: so much. I want to live my life with you.

1124
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 8: I'm prepared to leave it off for you and lastly,

1125
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 8: my love, my childhood friend, my soulmate. I'm more than

1126
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:42,160
Speaker 8: prepared to be your wife and be the mother to

1127
00:54:42,239 --> 00:54:44,920
Speaker 8: our children. If I don't hear back by the end

1128
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:47,239
Speaker 8: of the month, I assume you've moved on for the

1129
00:54:47,280 --> 00:54:49,799
Speaker 8: better and will do my best not to reach out

1130
00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:50,399
Speaker 8: again if.

1131
00:54:50,320 --> 00:54:51,160
Speaker 4: You decide otherwise.

1132
00:54:51,200 --> 00:54:55,000
Speaker 8: I've left my number and email love insert nickname from

1133
00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:59,319
Speaker 8: childhood Nicole. To be honest, says op parenthesis Anthony, I

1134
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:01,160
Speaker 8: don't know if I I should respond or what I

1135
00:55:01,160 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 8: should do. She left her number one that has been

1136
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:06,840
Speaker 8: calling me and her email. I'm conflicted a lot, really.

1137
00:55:07,120 --> 00:55:08,920
Speaker 8: I literally cried when I read the letter, and it

1138
00:55:08,960 --> 00:55:11,000
Speaker 8: brought back a lot of emotions that I didn't think

1139
00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:14,919
Speaker 8: we're still there since since Michelle, Nicole, and I all

1140
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:18,560
Speaker 8: went to the same high school, they both know each other,

1141
00:55:18,960 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 8: and I'm honestly afraid that Michelle will tell me to

1142
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:27,680
Speaker 8: go be with her without a second thought if I

1143
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:32,839
Speaker 8: told her about Nicole reaching out, only just knowing how

1144
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 8: she is as a person. I've been debating it since

1145
00:55:35,680 --> 00:55:37,960
Speaker 8: getting the letter yesterday, and since I always see good

1146
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:40,760
Speaker 8: advice here, I thought to ask the Reddit family, Okay,

1147
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:44,000
Speaker 8: there is an edit. I talked to my current girlfriend first.

1148
00:55:44,040 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 8: We had a big doc that was the last six

1149
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 8: hours we were thinking about what we are both wanting

1150
00:55:47,640 --> 00:55:49,640
Speaker 8: in the future. She made it clear that kids and

1151
00:55:49,719 --> 00:55:51,759
Speaker 8: adoption are out of her plan and suggested that we

1152
00:55:51,800 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 8: should just be friends if that's what I truly want.

1153
00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 4: In the future.

1154
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:56,319
Speaker 8: I told her that I would still be friends with

1155
00:55:56,320 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 8: her no matter what, since we do all the things together,

1156
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 8: and she laughed and said, no kids, and I keep

1157
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:03,879
Speaker 8: my best friend who loves to do the same things

1158
00:56:03,920 --> 00:56:07,280
Speaker 8: I do. It's all good rather we both be happy

1159
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:09,879
Speaker 8: in the long run. Don't feel too bad or think

1160
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:13,120
Speaker 8: this is a mistake. We then talked about the letter

1161
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 8: from the ex and she pretty much said, Nichole sounds crazy,

1162
00:56:16,640 --> 00:56:18,759
Speaker 8: but if it's something I want to pursue because of

1163
00:56:18,800 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 8: the history we had, then she has no ill feelings

1164
00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:24,320
Speaker 8: of me going that route. Also said if it doesn't

1165
00:56:24,360 --> 00:56:27,280
Speaker 8: work out, then I can always go back to plan

1166
00:56:27,719 --> 00:56:31,239
Speaker 8: no kids in Freedom thanked me for bringing it up, then,

1167
00:56:31,280 --> 00:56:34,880
Speaker 8: in her typical fashion, joked about me going to be

1168
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,600
Speaker 8: bluebald for a while. Rest of the hike was pretty

1169
00:56:37,680 --> 00:56:41,240
Speaker 8: much us just talking like we normally do, then debating lunch.

1170
00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 4: Okay, when we got to the.

1171
00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:45,799
Speaker 8: Trailhead, I asked if she wanted any alone time or not.

1172
00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:48,799
Speaker 8: She said no, and that she eventually thought this would

1173
00:56:48,840 --> 00:56:50,000
Speaker 8: happen as we got older.

1174
00:56:50,320 --> 00:56:54,760
Speaker 6: What an abysmal relationship this has been. She's like, Nah, basically,

1175
00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:57,759
Speaker 6: I just thought we'd always break up chitching, the day

1176
00:56:57,840 --> 00:57:01,600
Speaker 6: is cads, the day is here. Investment, I'm cashing it

1177
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:03,920
Speaker 6: in Hutching, Schuching.

1178
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:04,600
Speaker 3: Oh Man.

1179
00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 8: She asked me if we can still do the friend

1180
00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:08,880
Speaker 8: stuff until something else happens in our lives, and I

1181
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:11,400
Speaker 8: told her yes, of course. She said no harm in

1182
00:57:11,480 --> 00:57:14,040
Speaker 8: that then, and that was that. We're at the mall

1183
00:57:14,440 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 8: for her girl's lunch and I'm sitting at the table

1184
00:57:17,360 --> 00:57:20,520
Speaker 8: like a weirdo. Huh yeah, until I call up the

1185
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:22,040
Speaker 8: ex and see what she is like.

1186
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:23,480
Speaker 4: That is it for now.

1187
00:57:23,760 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 8: Update two years later, after Michelle and I ended our relationship,

1188
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 8: parentheses kind of nothing changed aside from living together and

1189
00:57:32,720 --> 00:57:35,400
Speaker 8: shared a moment. Nicole and I started to make plans

1190
00:57:35,440 --> 00:57:37,640
Speaker 8: for when she came out here for her grandma's birthday.

1191
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:39,680
Speaker 8: Talking on the phone a lot emails back and forth,

1192
00:57:39,760 --> 00:57:42,440
Speaker 8: we decided on waiting to video chat or send picks

1193
00:57:42,480 --> 00:57:45,480
Speaker 8: to another since it wasn't too far off when she

1194
00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:47,880
Speaker 8: would be visiting, and we thought it would be a

1195
00:57:47,960 --> 00:57:48,760
Speaker 8: good surprise.

1196
00:57:49,240 --> 00:57:51,280
Speaker 7: The initial hello was awkward, as heck.

1197
00:57:51,440 --> 00:57:53,440
Speaker 8: When she got out of the terminal, I recognized her

1198
00:57:53,520 --> 00:57:55,320
Speaker 8: right off the bat and was amazed that she pretty

1199
00:57:55,400 --> 00:57:57,720
Speaker 8: much looked exactly the same as when I last remembered.

1200
00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:00,200
Speaker 8: I'd seen pictures of her sisters and parents, but I

1201
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:02,160
Speaker 8: was floored by how much she hadn't changed in the

1202
00:58:02,280 --> 00:58:04,440
Speaker 8: last ten years. Getting into the car, we kind of

1203
00:58:04,520 --> 00:58:06,240
Speaker 8: just stared at one another for a minute, and she

1204
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:09,680
Speaker 8: started off with, well, if you don't drive anywhere, people.

1205
00:58:09,480 --> 00:58:11,200
Speaker 4: Are going to start honking. Smart guy.

1206
00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 8: That started our week long catching up journey. We first

1207
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 8: went to go get some food and decided on pizza parentheses.

1208
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, and it was.

1209
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:21,560
Speaker 7: Pretty easy going from that moment on.

1210
00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:25,240
Speaker 8: We shared stories of what life had been like, showed

1211
00:58:25,280 --> 00:58:28,520
Speaker 8: off scars, looked at each other's trips and vacations, shared

1212
00:58:28,560 --> 00:58:30,560
Speaker 8: each other's hobbies. She asked about our old group of

1213
00:58:30,560 --> 00:58:32,919
Speaker 8: friends and who's still around, et cetera. That small first

1214
00:58:32,960 --> 00:58:35,240
Speaker 8: meeting changed everything in life for us both.

1215
00:58:35,600 --> 00:58:37,680
Speaker 4: I won't go into specifics.

1216
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 8: Or minor details on the following dates and days, but

1217
00:58:39,960 --> 00:58:41,920
Speaker 8: to say that week went by in a heartbeat is

1218
00:58:41,960 --> 00:58:44,840
Speaker 8: an understatement. When it was time for Grandma's birthday, it

1219
00:58:44,960 --> 00:58:46,000
Speaker 8: was like old times again.

1220
00:58:46,280 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 3: The family was easy to be around.

1221
00:58:47,680 --> 00:58:49,480
Speaker 8: We all joked and laughed and didn't have much of

1222
00:58:49,520 --> 00:58:52,480
Speaker 8: any problems throughout the week. Parentheses our music taste was

1223
00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 8: the only problem. Lots of fighting over that radio dial

1224
00:58:55,480 --> 00:58:58,960
Speaker 8: ha the goodbye felt our week of vacation was over

1225
00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 8: and it was time to get back to our lives

1226
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:03,120
Speaker 8: half a country apart. Fast forward a few weeks and

1227
00:59:03,240 --> 00:59:05,440
Speaker 8: we decided that I go visit her this time around.

1228
00:59:05,480 --> 00:59:08,360
Speaker 8: Phone conversations were going great and airfare was cheap enough.

1229
00:59:08,480 --> 00:59:10,360
Speaker 8: Texted before I got on the plane and told her

1230
00:59:10,400 --> 00:59:14,080
Speaker 8: my arrival time. Landed and felt like I was ghosted,

1231
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:17,200
Speaker 8: not there to pick me up, wasn't answering the phone

1232
00:59:17,520 --> 00:59:21,240
Speaker 8: didn't respond to any text Facebook said last online four

1233
00:59:21,320 --> 00:59:24,160
Speaker 8: hours ago. I started to feel like maybe this was

1234
00:59:24,240 --> 00:59:27,600
Speaker 8: some joke on my behalf and was worried. About forty

1235
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:30,280
Speaker 8: five minutes go by and I'm walking towards a hotel

1236
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:32,960
Speaker 8: when my phone rang and I find out she was

1237
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:36,080
Speaker 8: so fancy about me coming that she spent the night

1238
00:59:36,160 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 8: awake and upon hearing I was on the way, promptly

1239
00:59:40,920 --> 00:59:43,240
Speaker 8: passed out hard. By the time she got to me,

1240
00:59:43,440 --> 00:59:46,160
Speaker 8: I was a sweaty mess, but was apologetic all the

1241
00:59:46,200 --> 00:59:48,560
Speaker 8: way to her place, and the following two days we

1242
00:59:48,680 --> 00:59:50,800
Speaker 8: hung out the entire time pretty much doing what we

1243
00:59:50,840 --> 00:59:53,280
Speaker 8: couldn't do where I live. Days at the beach, swimming,

1244
00:59:53,480 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 8: me getting in a small amount of rock hounding while

1245
00:59:55,760 --> 00:59:58,479
Speaker 8: she looked for critter, and eating all the Cajun food

1246
00:59:58,560 --> 01:00:01,760
Speaker 8: I could ever hope in a it went great, and

1247
01:00:01,920 --> 01:00:05,400
Speaker 8: other than the constant ball jokes parentheses, I had shaved

1248
01:00:05,440 --> 01:00:09,280
Speaker 8: my head. Meeting her friends, her dog, hanging out and

1249
01:00:09,440 --> 01:00:12,640
Speaker 8: doing things we each love was just tranquil in each

1250
01:00:13,040 --> 01:00:15,960
Speaker 8: way possible. When it came time to say goodbye, she

1251
01:00:16,120 --> 01:00:18,440
Speaker 8: asked if I had any vacation time left, and if

1252
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 8: I did, if she could come back up for longer,

1253
01:00:21,440 --> 01:00:23,760
Speaker 8: and I of course said yes. Four months go by

1254
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:25,120
Speaker 8: of back and forth traveling on weekends.

1255
01:00:25,200 --> 01:00:26,280
Speaker 4: Can I say something, Dakota.

1256
01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:28,000
Speaker 6: Yes, I'm just gonna say.

1257
01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:29,640
Speaker 8: Where's the all move right now?

1258
01:00:29,840 --> 01:00:30,160
Speaker 4: Energy?

1259
01:00:30,560 --> 01:00:34,080
Speaker 8: Because in that letter she was like, I'm ready to,

1260
01:00:34,440 --> 01:00:37,120
Speaker 8: I'm ready to move back, I'm ready to and now

1261
01:00:37,240 --> 01:00:39,000
Speaker 8: I'm spending my Southwest points.

1262
01:00:39,360 --> 01:00:39,560
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1263
01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:41,200
Speaker 3: So you guys, I don't know.

1264
01:00:41,880 --> 01:00:44,600
Speaker 6: I think probably for the best that you didn't blow

1265
01:00:44,680 --> 01:00:46,880
Speaker 6: up your whole life and move there immediately. But that

1266
01:00:47,040 --> 01:00:48,560
Speaker 6: is a great it is a great.

1267
01:00:48,360 --> 01:00:50,560
Speaker 7: Point, better choice. But I am just kind of like,

1268
01:00:50,720 --> 01:00:51,600
Speaker 7: so what are we doing?

1269
01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:53,000
Speaker 4: Like, what is the vibe?

1270
01:00:53,200 --> 01:00:54,760
Speaker 3: What what are we doing?

1271
01:00:55,000 --> 01:00:59,400
Speaker 6: You're just going from two different serious relationships with people

1272
01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:00,280
Speaker 6: you went to high school.

1273
01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:00,440
Speaker 3: Way.

1274
01:01:00,440 --> 01:01:04,280
Speaker 6: I'm sorry. There's so many other people.

1275
01:01:04,160 --> 01:01:08,920
Speaker 8: In the world, Anthony, We're all just living in it.

1276
01:01:09,320 --> 01:01:10,960
Speaker 6: Just Anthony Anthony?

1277
01:01:11,240 --> 01:01:11,520
Speaker 3: Or is it?

1278
01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:15,520
Speaker 6: Or is it now? Anthony Rackets.

1279
01:01:16,720 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 7: Four months go.

1280
01:01:17,480 --> 01:01:20,240
Speaker 8: By of back and forth, traveling on weekends, always on

1281
01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:22,320
Speaker 8: the phone, and by that point, I feel like it's time.

1282
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:24,200
Speaker 8: I asked her if she wants to move in with me.

1283
01:01:24,400 --> 01:01:27,520
Speaker 8: Immediately said yes, and we made our last vacation week

1284
01:01:27,600 --> 01:01:29,160
Speaker 8: into a road trip to bring her.

1285
01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:29,840
Speaker 4: Up to where I live.

1286
01:01:29,960 --> 01:01:32,400
Speaker 8: Our dogs got along, and she was able to transfer

1287
01:01:32,720 --> 01:01:35,200
Speaker 8: to a new department based pretty close to where we lived.

1288
01:01:35,360 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 8: It was a dream coming true, and it too went

1289
01:01:37,480 --> 01:01:39,960
Speaker 8: by so fast that honestly, it feels like it was yesterday.

1290
01:01:40,680 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 8: She actually asked me to marry her a few months later.

1291
01:01:43,320 --> 01:01:46,000
Speaker 3: And I of course said yes, Oh okay.

1292
01:01:46,880 --> 01:01:49,520
Speaker 5: She had glown the dark rock set up to ask

1293
01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:51,680
Speaker 5: me in our yard when we went up to the

1294
01:01:51,840 --> 01:01:53,280
Speaker 5: deck to watch the stars.

1295
01:01:53,600 --> 01:01:57,880
Speaker 6: This guy, honestly can't even fault that. It's very I

1296
01:01:58,040 --> 01:02:01,840
Speaker 6: just have to now immediately look up what is rock hounding?

1297
01:02:02,800 --> 01:02:04,720
Speaker 3: What is what is rock hounding?

1298
01:02:04,760 --> 01:02:08,439
Speaker 2: It's like lifting up rocks and like I don't even those.

1299
01:02:08,600 --> 01:02:09,800
Speaker 6: It's mineral collecting.

1300
01:02:10,000 --> 01:02:11,720
Speaker 7: So she proposes, he says, yes.

1301
01:02:12,000 --> 01:02:14,440
Speaker 8: Well, it's been close to a couple of years now

1302
01:02:14,520 --> 01:02:18,920
Speaker 8: since everything started. We have a beautiful daughter together, Arianna adopted.

1303
01:02:19,160 --> 01:02:21,600
Speaker 8: We had issues, she wouldn't be able to give birth. Okay,

1304
01:02:21,880 --> 01:02:25,000
Speaker 8: our dogs are clowns and dufuses. Michelle and Nicole have

1305
01:02:25,160 --> 01:02:26,680
Speaker 8: met and we are all friends again.

1306
01:02:26,800 --> 01:02:28,120
Speaker 7: They actually hang out a lot together.

1307
01:02:28,600 --> 01:02:30,240
Speaker 8: She has moved on and we still do a lot

1308
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Speaker 8: of our favorite hobbies together as a group or separately.

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01:02:32,720 --> 01:02:35,760
Speaker 8: With the vind and us being at home NonStop together.

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Speaker 8: It's been just fine. Were things perfect? No, but nothing

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Speaker 8: ever is. We had our issues in the beginning and

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01:02:41,600 --> 01:02:47,040
Speaker 8: still squabble over stupid things at time. Okay, as far

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Speaker 8: as these go, sounds like it is kind of working out. Okay,

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Speaker 8: Like is this a strange circumstance, sure, but like congrats, I.

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Speaker 6: Just feel like it's starting with a poison pill. She

1316
01:03:00,800 --> 01:03:04,200
Speaker 6: sent you that letter, She sent you that letter. She said, blah,

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01:03:04,200 --> 01:03:06,160
Speaker 6: blah blah, blah blah. I'll do anything, I'll marry you,

1318
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:08,360
Speaker 6: I'll blow up my whole life. And I feel like

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01:03:08,480 --> 01:03:11,400
Speaker 6: at some point it's gonna come back around and she's

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Speaker 6: gonna say I left.

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Speaker 2: Everything for you, And I don't know.

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Speaker 6: They seem incredibly fine right now, right now, fine, No,

1323
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Speaker 6: they seem great.

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Speaker 7: Here's what I'll say.

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Speaker 8: I'm glad that these two people found each other, you know, Like,

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Speaker 8: I'm glad that we're not reading another Reddit story that's like,

1327
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Speaker 8: so I got this letter for my ies, Like what like, yeah,

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Speaker 8: I mean that they are figuring this out together and

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01:03:38,080 --> 01:03:39,680
Speaker 8: nobody else has to figure it out.

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Speaker 6: It's a positive ending for sure.

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Speaker 8: Well so far. The update to everyone that was part

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Speaker 8: of the initial journey, I hope you've enjoyed this follow up.

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Speaker 8: This was the best decision, and my only regret is

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01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:54,520
Speaker 8: that we didn't reconcile our relationship earlier. This has gone

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Speaker 8: by in a flash, and honestly, I can't wait to

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Speaker 8: see what the future holds for us. Each day is

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Speaker 8: refreshing and a smile leaves my faith yet to spend

1338
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Speaker 8: my life with not only my first love and childhood friend,

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Speaker 8: but also with great friends and family that are always

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Speaker 8: there for us both