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Speaker 3: Before that, we have a quick two minute break from

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Speaker 3: the sponsors that keep the show alive. My boyfriend is

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Speaker 3: lying about being in medical school, and I'm gonna catch

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Speaker 3: him cart red handed. I guess I twenty six female,

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Speaker 3: have been dating Sam, thirty one male who for about

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Speaker 3: four months now. We met online and he told me

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Speaker 3: he was going to be a doctor. The first two

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Speaker 3: months were fine, but the last two months I have

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Speaker 3: started to feel like he hasn't been honest about several

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Speaker 3: aspects of his life, the biggest being him in medical school.

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Speaker 3: He used to live overseas and was in medical school

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Speaker 3: there for a short time. I'm pretty sure this is

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Speaker 3: true because I've seen pictures that was about five years ago.

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Speaker 5: Carly, and I'm Cowboy Keon and we're here to give.

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Speaker 3: Good advice goof Lee, but we don't have all the

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Speaker 3: answers we only know what we'd do, so let us

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Speaker 3: know what you would do in the comments. The school

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Speaker 3: that he says he goes is fairly prestigious, and I

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Speaker 3: have another friend, Jason, who graduated with a medical degree

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Speaker 3: from the same school. Jason has told me how difficult

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Speaker 3: anything besides studying. Jason also said that nobody in his

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Speaker 3: program worked. Sam works forty hours a week in an office,

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Speaker 3: and I've never once seen him study. He always seems

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Speaker 3: why he's never studying, and he said he doesn't need to.

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Speaker 3: I was always a good test taker and never study

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Speaker 3: a lot in college, but I still feel like medical.

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Speaker 2: School is a whole different ballgame.

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Speaker 3: I've spent a lot of time at Sam's house and

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Speaker 3: have never seen a single document suggesting he was in school, textbooks, assignments, nothing.

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Speaker 2: He also has let me use both of his computers.

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Speaker 3: And I've never seen anything on his history or anything

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Speaker 3: suggesting anything to do with school.

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Speaker 4: I don't know about you, guys, but when I was in.

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Speaker 3: Were at dinner and I can't remember how this was

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Speaker 3: So I googled it right in front of him and

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Speaker 3: I then asked him how many bones were in the

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Speaker 3: this is pretty basic stuff a medical student would know.

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Speaker 6: Right, He's not that kind a doctor.

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Speaker 4: He's not that kind of doctor.

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Speaker 2: He's getting an English degree.

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Speaker 4: Still, even I know that.

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Speaker 3: So this week I've been feeling suspicious, so I decided

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Speaker 2: School doesn't do that.

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Speaker 3: I asked if we can meet up on campus for

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Speaker 3: I asked to see his student ID. He said he

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Speaker 3: I feel like at this point he's lying, But some

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Speaker 3: how should I prove it? I feel like you've already proved.

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Speaker 3: He's not actually my boyfriend. He's just so what I've

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Speaker 3: these past six weeks have been summer vacation, so he

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Speaker 4: But also now, yeah.

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Speaker 6: They said he's they've been kind of going on dates

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she's saying for the first two months that she

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Speaker 6: I wish that would be part of medical school.

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Speaker 6: I feel like any part of medical he's not in

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Speaker 2: I just go to work.

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Speaker 3: Delete it says, honey, you need a walk away. The

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Speaker 3: red flags are waving in the breeze loudly. If he

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Speaker 3: he will lie about. Does he even work where he

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Speaker 3: he works forty hours in an office. Night writer Girl

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Speaker 3: eighty says, let me tell you this from the perspective

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Speaker 3: in a lie this big, the trust is just gone.

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Speaker 3: You're always going to have it in the back of

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Speaker 3: Lying about being in medical school is a big lie.

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Speaker 3: Delete it says, of course he's lying.

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Speaker 4: Of course he is.

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Speaker 3: Wow, that is all kinds of manipulation and crazy crap.

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Speaker 4: You already know this.

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Speaker 2: Don't you?

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Speaker 4: Trying to be kind? But why haven't you called him out? Really?

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Speaker 3: Why on earth would you buy into this? I'm guessing

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Speaker 3: be confronted with whether or not you need to end

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Speaker 3: I get it, but this is so ridiculous that I'm

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Speaker 3: worried for you. He has to have a student ID.

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Speaker 3: Does he have a parking sticker?

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Speaker 4: I'm guessing not? And he's gonna give you some stupid excuse.

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Speaker 2: As to why not.

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Speaker 3: Your friends say you're being paranoid? Lol, Are they really

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Speaker 2: Nope? Nope, absolutely not.

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Speaker 3: If this guy is in medical school, then I'm not

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Speaker 3: any our nurse, granted retired, A ten year old knows

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Speaker 3: how many bones are in the human ear. Don't minimize

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Speaker 2: You are right, You're smart. He's lying.

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Speaker 3: I'm not even buying the overseas medical school story. Based

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Speaker 3: on his knowledge of the human body, he sounds manipulative.

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Speaker 3: Please be careful, and Opie says, the first month we dated,

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Speaker 3: I only saw him two or three times, and then

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Speaker 3: didn't really think about it. I only started really getting

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Speaker 3: suspicious when we had the conversation about earbones, which was

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Speaker 3: three weeks ago. Now I've looked back and realized how

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Speaker 3: suspicious it all sounds. The lead it says it isn't

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Speaker 3: even that suspicious. It's just lying, and he gets angry

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Speaker 2: Trust me.

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Speaker 3: He's not in any prestigious medical school. He's not in

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Speaker 3: the lack of any supportive evidence. If he's lying about this,

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Speaker 4: What else is he lying about?

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Speaker 6: Honestly, the biggest factor that I'm like, I know this

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's fit.

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Speaker 6: There's no way you wouldn't be able to do that part. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: anything else, I feel like, yeah, sure, there's a workaround.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, unless it's just.

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Speaker 6: Like his summer forty hour a week job.

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Speaker 4: That's crazy.

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Speaker 3: You have to have a completed bachelor's degree, usually in

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Speaker 3: and I sent one a screenshot. She laughed so hard,

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Speaker 3: sorry and said, if he's telling the truth, she doesn't

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Speaker 2: He's lying.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry you're going through this, but it's better to

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Speaker 3: find out the truth. There are a couple of ways.

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Speaker 3: Ask him what he got on his HEMCAT Medical College

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Speaker 3: admissions tests. It is required for enrollment into any accredited

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Speaker 4: The science area. Ask him what classes he's taking.

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Speaker 3: Should be a lot of anatomy, biology, chemistry, and histology.

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Speaker 3: Most first year med students study on average forty eight

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Speaker 3: It got worse the second year. Medicine is one of

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Speaker 3: the hardest degrees in the world. If it was that easy,

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Speaker 3: we'd all be MD's. I'm so sorry you're going through this,

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Speaker 3: but it's better to know the truth, listen to your guts,

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Speaker 3: not for nothing. But my MD friend also mentioned that

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Speaker 3: someone who goes to these extremes doesn't just have low

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Speaker 3: self esteem. Usually when they're caught, they play that I

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Speaker 3: have low self esteem, or I just wanted you to

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Speaker 3: like me, or I was in medical school and I

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Speaker 3: was planning on turning. It's a little scarier than that,

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Speaker 3: so be careful. Sometimes these people really suffer from significant

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Speaker 3: mental illnesses. You've only dated him for four months and

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Speaker 3: they're quite good at hiding it.

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Speaker 4: Please be careful, Good luck, and update five days later.

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Speaker 4: What do you think?

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Speaker 6: I just feel like at this point, what do you

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Speaker 6: even want with this man? Like, yeah, is your goal

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Speaker 6: to see him? Because like if it's one, reassess that

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Speaker 6: if it's not even to date, I'm just stop going.

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Speaker 5: To be a doctor. Though he's going to be a doctor,

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Speaker 5: I mean, like.

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Speaker 3: You're not like, yeah, I really like cowbout a God's comment.

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Speaker 3: He's in pre pre pre med he binge watches House

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Speaker 3: and Gray's Anatomy every day. I spent four to five

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Speaker 3: hours binge watching House.

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Speaker 5: What's the other one?

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Speaker 4: I knew you were going to say that I heard

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Speaker 4: the pit, so I really hear it's really good.

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Speaker 1: Even doctor like you know how like veterans got PTSD

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Speaker 1: from saving Private Ryan.

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Speaker 3: I thought you were going to say, you know how,

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Speaker 3: Chef's got PTSD from the that too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but a lot of medical people said, like the

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Speaker 1: pit is crazy. They're like, yeah, that's some great depiction.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so that we have an update.

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Speaker 4: But I agree.

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Speaker 6: My boyfriend had a secret family and he couldn't afford

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Speaker 6: Yeah, he's balancing probably five.

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Speaker 4: You're moving on, moving on out of there. You and

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Speaker 6: I'm really grateful. I still don't really understand how this

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Speaker 6: were supportive of each other. That last part was positive

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Speaker 6: at least. Opie says, I will definitely never trust another

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Speaker 6: funny is my ex before him was a textbook self

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Speaker 6: Paul helped me get over by telling me that I

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Speaker 6: My self absorbed ex was a cheater two, but his

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Speaker 6: She was pissed when I told her that she could

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Speaker 6: And she's like, wait, it's not fun if you don't

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Speaker 6: Eventually, he came crawling back, begging for forgiveness because he

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Speaker 6: would really hope that anyone else that finds themselves as

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Speaker 6: the side chick that was unaware of an affair is

444
00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:34,680
Speaker 6: able to realize that both are victims of someone who

445
00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:37,719
Speaker 6: obviously didn't care enough to only be with them how

446
00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:40,800
Speaker 6: much or two for future boyfriends. While there is a

447
00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:43,800
Speaker 6: shaky ground on being too intrusive, there are a few

448
00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:47,159
Speaker 6: relatively uninvasive methods that can give you a good bit

449
00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:50,119
Speaker 6: of reassurance. Top of the list is meet his friend group.

450
00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:53,080
Speaker 6: It's hard to keep up the facade with two people,

451
00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:56,879
Speaker 6: but arranging for two completely different friend groups is damn

452
00:19:56,880 --> 00:19:59,440
Speaker 6: near impossible. If everything is on the up and up

453
00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:02,040
Speaker 6: with them, you are at least safe from this sort

454
00:20:02,080 --> 00:20:05,880
Speaker 6: of thing, not from more classical cheating issues. But hey,

455
00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:08,919
Speaker 6: every little helps. Hope you have a better luck in

456
00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:12,399
Speaker 6: the future. Opie says our whole relationship, I met three

457
00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:15,439
Speaker 6: friends from two different friend groups. He told me that

458
00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:19,040
Speaker 6: he lost all his other friends in his divorce several

459
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Speaker 6: years ago, and he never gained any back. I was

460
00:20:22,280 --> 00:20:24,960
Speaker 6: really surprised when the fiance said she met him through

461
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Speaker 6: a best friend that he never once mentioned to me,

462
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Speaker 6: along with several others that I've never heard of. I've

463
00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:33,879
Speaker 6: got a hard rule now to where if there is

464
00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:39,400
Speaker 6: hesitancy after the relations become more serious, I'm out someone replies,

465
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Speaker 6: that's just way too much effort to have a side ship.

466
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Speaker 3: Truly, I don't understand how these people have the time

467
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Speaker 3: or energy for that.

468
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Speaker 6: It's gotta be exhausting. Yeah, and that's the end of

469
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Speaker 6: this story. We're gonna go to the next one.

470
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Speaker 3: My boyfriend accused me of faking my illness because I

471
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Speaker 3: won't do his laundry.

472
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Speaker 6: I don't like your boyfriend.

473
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Speaker 2: Trigger warning, she'll be my boyfriend.

474
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Speaker 3: Mail thirty five and I Female twenty nine have been

475
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Speaker 3: together for almost three years. For the last year things

476
00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:10,679
Speaker 3: have been a bit tough in general because he's building

477
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Speaker 3: his own business in the building industry for the past

478
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Speaker 3: year and a half, all on his own and without help.

479
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Speaker 3: Because of that, he doesn't have an income, but he

480
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Speaker 3: had a big amount in his savings that he has

481
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Speaker 3: been using all this time to finish the business and

482
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Speaker 3: also for daily needs. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 3: Aggressive End ninety one forty seven. And if you want

484
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Speaker 3: to smit your own stories, go to the r slash

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Speaker 3: Okay storytime, separate it. I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, I'm key On,

486
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Speaker 3: and we're here to give good advice. Goofy, But we

487
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Speaker 3: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do,

488
00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:40,920
Speaker 3: so let us know what you would do in the comments.

489
00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:44,199
Speaker 3: I work a personally draining job while also doing my

490
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Speaker 3: master's degree, so for the last year and a half,

491
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Speaker 3: I've tried to help as much as I can. Most

492
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Speaker 3: of the time I bought groceries or paid for dates

493
00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:53,960
Speaker 3: because I have a salary and I didn't want to

494
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,880
Speaker 3: make him feel more stressed. We rarely go out anymore,

495
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 3: and when we do, I usually pay or nag him

496
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Speaker 3: to go. He gets offended when I ask for things

497
00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:03,960
Speaker 3: because he believes that I know how tough he has

498
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,920
Speaker 3: it and should understand that some things are not sustainable.

499
00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:08,639
Speaker 3: Right now, I don't live with him, but I go

500
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Speaker 3: to his place most of the time, and some days

501
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:13,240
Speaker 3: I stay with my parents, where I live before meeting him.

502
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:15,280
Speaker 3: He doesn't take much care of his place, so I

503
00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:18,800
Speaker 3: do the basic things when i'm there, like cleaning the kitchen, bathroom, cooking,

504
00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:23,960
Speaker 3: and washing dishes. Yeah stop stop, you're not his house

505
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:26,800
Speaker 3: or as mom. But I won't do his laundry because

506
00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:28,480
Speaker 3: I believe he should do that himself.

507
00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:30,240
Speaker 4: Well, he should do all of that stuff.

508
00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,960
Speaker 3: You are not living with him, You are not his roommate.

509
00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:34,520
Speaker 3: Should not be doing that.

510
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Speaker 5: You're not his mate.

511
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, Lately he keeps telling me that I am lazy, spoiled,

512
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:43,159
Speaker 3: and that I don't contribute or care about him and

513
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 3: his struggles. He said, I only want to have a

514
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Speaker 3: good time and spend less than half my already small

515
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 3: salary on the house while using the rest for myself

516
00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 3: and my own pleasure. Yesterday, he told me that his

517
00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:57,199
Speaker 3: mistake was spoiling me too much, and that's why I

518
00:22:57,240 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 3: am the way I am now. He also said he

519
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,640
Speaker 3: doesn't want me to ask him too many questions about

520
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:04,439
Speaker 3: his work because he thinks I have hidden motive and

521
00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 3: that he'll share whatever he thinks is fit. He ask

522
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 3: me what I bring to the table and said that

523
00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:11,080
Speaker 3: if I really cared about him, I noticed that he

524
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 3: doesn't have clean clothes and would do his laundry sometimes

525
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:16,480
Speaker 3: so that when he comes back tired from work he

526
00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 3: finds wash clothes waiting. He said, I don't try to

527
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,879
Speaker 3: make this relationship work and that I only look after myself.

528
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,199
Speaker 3: You pointed out that I buy things for myself and

529
00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 3: do treatments for my face sometimes, but he doesn't and

530
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 3: needs to start putting himself first, like I do.

531
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Speaker 6: So buy your own face things.

532
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:37,359
Speaker 3: Dude, you suck. You are spoiled, as in like rotten milk.

533
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Speaker 3: I've taken a lot of steps back because I understand

534
00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:42,399
Speaker 3: that he can't handle things right now, but I always

535
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:44,120
Speaker 3: try to be there for him, and I love him

536
00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 3: and really want him to succeed. I also have fibromyalgia,

537
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 3: a chronic condition that makes me feel very tired and

538
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 3: in pain most of the time. But still I believe

539
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:55,920
Speaker 3: that I don't show it and I keep trying. Of course,

540
00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:58,160
Speaker 3: I don't have the energy or stamina of a completely

541
00:23:58,200 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 3: healthy person my age, but that.

542
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Speaker 2: Just and stop me.

543
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:04,360
Speaker 3: He told me he doesn't believe in fibromyalgia, saying I'm

544
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:06,879
Speaker 3: just lazy don't want to do housework. He said he

545
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 3: can't stand that I'm always tired and not energetic or happy.

546
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 3: I asked if he ever thought that maybe I'm not

547
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 3: always cheerful because he's always grumpy and moody out of nowhere,

548
00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:20,680
Speaker 3: which makes me feel bad. Yesterday, he went grocery shopping

549
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:24,120
Speaker 3: because I didn't have money, and he bought some unusual cheeses.

550
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 3: I asked him, in a flirty way, how he knew

551
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Speaker 3: about those and had such good taste.

552
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:30,800
Speaker 2: And he got angry. He told me that he had

553
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Speaker 2: a life before me.

554
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:34,639
Speaker 3: He grew with money, which is true, and knows many

555
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 3: things that I don't. I was just silent. Then he

556
00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:39,919
Speaker 3: asked if I was jealous of him, which I'm really not.

557
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 2: The opposite.

558
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 4: Actually, I don't think you like this guy.

559
00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 2: You said you loved him. I don't think you do.

560
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 6: Of course.

561
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 3: I defended myself and talked back, and he told me

562
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 3: I always find excuses for myself while he tries, and

563
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Speaker 3: I don't. I don't know how to handle this. I

564
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 3: don't know what I'm doing wrong.

565
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:55,920
Speaker 2: I just want to have a.

566
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Speaker 3: Calm and happy relationship with him. I just wanted to

567
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Speaker 3: event and hear other opinions and there is an update,

568
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:02,400
Speaker 3: any thoughts.

569
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just, oh.

570
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:08,199
Speaker 5: My god, he sounds like a little boy. I mean,

571
00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:08,880
Speaker 5: this is a.

572
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Speaker 6: Little boy boy, little man child who doesn't know how

573
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Speaker 6: to do his laundry.

574
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, or he never thought him how to do his laundry.

575
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 2: He was a rich boy. Someone else trust him.

576
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 5: Talk like that to me, I'd be like, mmm, do

577
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 5: I need to change your dipy?

578
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:25,160
Speaker 2: Little baby boy, baby, little baby.

579
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Speaker 1: Stinky diapers stinky, But there's an update.

580
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Speaker 4: Many of you asked what good quality?

581
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, list one O post.

582
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 5: Yeah, you say rich not a good ques's quality.

583
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 3: Because from this post he looks really bad. Well, he

584
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:44,920
Speaker 3: wasn't always like that.

585
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:48,360
Speaker 4: The one good thing can't be that he wasn't always

586
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Speaker 4: like this.

587
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Speaker 6: He's like now.

588
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 2: There is no good thing.

589
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,639
Speaker 3: He didn't criticize me before, or care about what I

590
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,360
Speaker 3: did in terms of chores or work.

591
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Speaker 6: Bare minimum I'm sorry, or life I'm sorry. I didn't

592
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Speaker 6: care about that.

593
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:03,159
Speaker 3: The good thing is that he used to not criticize you.

594
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 3: Before he left the family business and started his own,

595
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:08,919
Speaker 3: he was a provider, sweet and kind. I know that

596
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 3: he's been struggling for the last year and a half

597
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 3: and as developed some issues, but he is generally very

598
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 3: faithful and family oriented. He's considered serious and respectful, and

599
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 3: he has helped me through tough times in many ways.

600
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,320
Speaker 3: He's also really funny and generous when he wants to be.

601
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 3: I wouldn't be with him if he were always like

602
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 3: this or said things every day like this.

603
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 2: He says harsh things.

604
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,880
Speaker 3: And then the next day acts like nothing happened, going

605
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 3: back to his normal good self.

606
00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 2: Well, that's just abusive.

607
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:38,200
Speaker 6: Hey, hey, o Pie, I need you to dump this man.

608
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,360
Speaker 4: I'm sorry the fact that he acts like nothing happened.

609
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:44,959
Speaker 6: Right, and you're like, oh, so it's any accountability for anything.

610
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 3: That's why I don't know how to act or what

611
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 3: to do. I know he's not a bad person or

612
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 3: intentionally trying to hurt me, but I don't know how

613
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 3: to handle all of this.

614
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 2: Break up.

615
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 6: Break up with your boyfriend, break up.

616
00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 2: But there is a second update, folks.

617
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Speaker 3: I'm coming back because I really need to vent and

618
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,440
Speaker 3: I feel very sad after the argument that happened five

619
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 3: days ago. I went to my parents' house to relax

620
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 3: a bit, but we still talk on the phone every day.

621
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:13,199
Speaker 3: The conversations are dry and he sounds down and bored.

622
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:15,560
Speaker 3: Today I asked him why he's acting like that and

623
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 3: how this will work. He said he doesn't know where

624
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 3: we stand right now and that he already explained what

625
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 3: he doesn't like. He said that if I care about

626
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,679
Speaker 3: this relationship, I should think long and hard about what

627
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 3: he told me and decide if I want to change.

628
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,679
Speaker 3: He repeatedly said that the old hymn is gone that

629
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 3: I now have to deal with the new him.

630
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:33,360
Speaker 4: Though he didn't explain what that means.

631
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 2: He said it's time for him.

632
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 3: To focus on himself and his future like I do,

633
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 3: and that I want to depend on him and constantly

634
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 3: expect him to take care of me, pamper me, and

635
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 3: look after me. He also said that I want him

636
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,399
Speaker 3: to cook and clean after coming home late and exhausted.

637
00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, for yourself, cooking clean for yourself. It's just what

638
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 4: everyone else does this, he's taking care of him.

639
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

640
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 3: I got angry at those claims because they aren't true

641
00:27:57,760 --> 00:27:59,680
Speaker 3: at all. I told him it's a shame he's saying

642
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 3: things that aren't real. Was I in a different relationship.

643
00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 3: He gave an example of how when I visit his place,

644
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 3: he helps me with my heavy luggage, taking my suitcase

645
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 3: while I carry the rest. The day after the argument,

646
00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 3: when he drove me home, I carried all my luggage

647
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 3: myself and didn't wait for him to help. He told

648
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 3: me that I wanted him to carry my stuff like

649
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 3: our slove and that now he saw I can do

650
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 3: it myself.

651
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 2: I was shocked.

652
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:22,640
Speaker 3: I told him, of course I can do it myself.

653
00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 3: What is he talking about and why is he making

654
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 3: such a big deal out of it. I never demanded help.

655
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,359
Speaker 3: He then said, don't you have fibromyalgia. Aren't you in

656
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 3: pain all the time? So maybe you're not in pain.

657
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 3: If you can do that, just fine. He also said

658
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,439
Speaker 3: that he's now focusing on his future because all this

659
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 3: time he gave one hundred. Well I gave ten, dude,

660
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 3: you gave a hundred out of like a million, and

661
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 3: she gave ten at ten. That I look after myself,

662
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 3: not the relationship. He even said, I'm focusing on my

663
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 3: own future by doing a master's degree, and I didn't understand.

664
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 2: What that had to do with anything.

665
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 3: You mentioned that there are options, and then I need

666
00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 3: to do a reality check and think about everything.

667
00:28:58,160 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 2: He's already told me.

668
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 3: If I want the relationship to work, he said he

669
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 3: wants a woman who will support him, take care of

670
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 3: the house, and be trustworthy enough to build a family with.

671
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 3: You also said that if I loved him, I'd make

672
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 3: dinner more often and have food ready when he comes.

673
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 3: Ho I'm tired, He's like, if you even love me,

674
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 3: you give me a massage and also bake meal if

675
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 3: you freaking pot roast.

676
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, if you love me, you do all of it

677
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 5: at the same time.

678
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 3: He said, I care too much about having fun and money,

679
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 3: then asked if i'd have a baby with.

680
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 2: Him right now?

681
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 5: What going on?

682
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 2: He said, you care too much about fun and money.

683
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 2: Let's have a baby. Baby, he said, he a baby.

684
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:37,479
Speaker 6: Learned how to be a mom then, and then you

685
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 6: can be a mom to your baby and to me.

686
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 4: And I just want a mom.

687
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 5: I've been training.

688
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 6: I'm just trying to train you to be mom.

689
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 3: I said no, because the timing is awful and the

690
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 3: circumstances aren't right. He told me again that if I

691
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 3: really loved him, I'd be more positive about it.

692
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 6: Break up with this man. If this does not end

693
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 6: with you breaking up with this man, then at that point,

694
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 6: you're an a hole to yourself to Yeah.

695
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 2: So I'll fail. I hope that's not the case, though.

696
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 6: Because if you're writing this post, I feel like you're

697
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 6: aware enough to know.

698
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:09,479
Speaker 2: Like you still haven't given us any good things.

699
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 6: Your positive traits were all things that you then followed

700
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 6: up with. But he doesn't really do that anymore. So

701
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 6: he has nothing zero.

702
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 3: He believes I'm just waiting for his business to open

703
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:21,479
Speaker 3: and for him to make money again. I got angry

704
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:23,880
Speaker 3: and didn't understand where all this came from, and we

705
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 3: ended the call. We haven't talked since. I'm shocked and

706
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 3: don't know what to think. I'm so sad. Sure from

707
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 3: his point of view, I've made mistakes and could do

708
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 3: more when I'm at his place, But why does he

709
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 3: think and say these things.

710
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 2: I don't want to.

711
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 3: Break up, budd he keeps saying, I need to try harder,

712
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:42,080
Speaker 3: take responsibility for housework, and be a better girlfriend who

713
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:44,880
Speaker 3: shows love and support more. Clearly, I just wanted to

714
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 3: vent because I don't have anyone to talk to and

715
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 3: I can't seem to reach them. You didn't used to

716
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 3: say things like this, or at least not so intensely.

717
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 6: That's the end. That's the end break up, and I

718
00:30:57,520 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 6: think he broke up anything.

719
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 4: I'm sad to believe that they did.

720
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 6: I'm making up a story. Oh you went home and

721
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 6: said you already have a baby. It's you.

722
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 2: You're your own baby.

723
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 6: In a poop poo, I'm leaving you.

724
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 4: You're your own baby, and you can't get into club.

725
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:13,960
Speaker 6: Baby, And that's the end of this story. We're gonna

726
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 6: go to the next one.

727
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 5: Sam here, We're gonna get back to the stories.

728
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 2: But here's three of its bads from our sponsors.

729
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 3: My stepmother in law made everything about her, so I

730
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 3: blocked her. Don't ever talk to me again. And this

731
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 3: comes directly from the r slash Okay Storytime subred it,

732
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 3: and there is a trigger warning for verbal abuse. I

733
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 3: met the love of my life Pickles, around five years

734
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 3: ago while working as a cashier. He was picking up

735
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 3: his sister, who was one of my work friends. I

736
00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 3: know it sounds corny, but it was love forst sight

737
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,440
Speaker 3: for both of us. By the way, this comes from

738
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 3: my Mom's not a water hunt. And if you want

739
00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 3: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash

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Speaker 3: Okay storytime subred it. I'm Sophia and I'm Angie, I'm

741
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 3: Lee Lo, and we're here to give.

742
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 2: Good advice goofully, but we don't have all the answers.

743
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 3: We only know what we'd do, So let us know

744
00:31:56,560 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 3: what you would do in the comments and op says,

745
00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 3: we both said hai, and he would come into the

746
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 3: store many times after that just to talk to me.

747
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 3: We never exchanged phone numbers since I was on the

748
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 3: clock and he didn't want to scare me off, so

749
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 3: we would always talk and then leave things at that,

750
00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 3: that is, until I found out we had the same

751
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 3: mutual friend. This friend had a private story on Snapchat,

752
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 3: so I decided to post and congratulate him on his graduation.

753
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 3: Within ten minutes, I got a friend request and added

754
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:26,440
Speaker 3: him back. Within seconds, he sent me a snap and

755
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 3: it was indeed the man I was looking for us. Yes,

756
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 3: we started talking and after a few hours of texting,

757
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 3: he asked me if he could take me somewhere, and

758
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 3: I excitedly agreed. We went out to climb on top

759
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 3: of a building that everyone in my town calls the Bull,

760
00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 3: to stargaze and talk about our lives. Then ended the

761
00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 3: night sharing our first kiss. I had met his family

762
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 3: when I dropped his sister off at home after her shift.

763
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 3: Since we both got off at the same time, she

764
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 3: invited me in and I met my father in law, Rob,

765
00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 3: her four siblings, her grandma three including a duke pit

766
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 3: terrier mix, one cat, and of course Karen, my stepmother

767
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 3: in law. Now please don't judge me for this, but

768
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:13,800
Speaker 3: when I met Karen, I thought she was Rob's queer sister.

769
00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 3: I say this because she had a blonde pixie haircut

770
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 3: with faded blue pink and purple haired eye and was

771
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 3: wearing a rainbow tied eyed T shirt. I was honestly

772
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 3: shocked when they told me they were married. She was

773
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 3: extremely nice at first, but after a while her mask

774
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 3: started lifting and she showed her true tied eye colors.

775
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 3: I just want to put this out that Rob is

776
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:37,320
Speaker 3: an absolute angel, and I don't know how he puts

777
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 3: up with Karen. After about a year of dating Pickles,

778
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:43,400
Speaker 3: I had some family issues and it ended up coming

779
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 3: up in a conversation with the family. Rob and Karen

780
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 3: both told me to come live with them and move

781
00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 3: my stuff into their home since they understood what those

782
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 3: specific family issues were like. After them constantly telling me

783
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 3: things would be better if I just moved in. I

784
00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 3: eventually did, but not without showing my preciation by cooking, cleaning,

785
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 3: and helping out financially. It wasn't long before Karen started yelling, brating,

786
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 3: and belittling the kids in front of me. What she

787
00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 3: always had at minimum two things to complain and get

788
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 3: angry about in a day, Oh my goodness, whether it

789
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 3: be someone leaving a toothbrush on the sink in the

790
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:21,680
Speaker 3: bathroom or a towel falling off the rack. But I

791
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 3: continued to live there, thinking maybe she was having a

792
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:27,760
Speaker 3: bad week or it just wasn't a good month. About

793
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 3: a year later, Pickles popped the big question in front

794
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 3: of all his family at their Christmas to Eve get together.

795
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 3: They were all in on it. Not even five minutes

796
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,760
Speaker 3: after I told him I would marry him, Karen opened

797
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:42,600
Speaker 3: her big mouth and said, when.

798
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:43,760
Speaker 4: Are we having the wedding?

799
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:46,360
Speaker 2: What theme are we thinking? E?

800
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 6: We should do.

801
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:52,640
Speaker 3: This, we should do that, blab babla. I had no

802
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 3: idea he was going to propose to me five minutes prior,

803
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 3: and we need to start planning now, calm down. We

804
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 3: did to end up sitting down and planning the wedding

805
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 3: and set her wedding date for September of twenty twenty three.

806
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:06,840
Speaker 3: Karen that asked me if she could plan the wedding

807
00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 3: and said both her and Rob wanted to pay.

808
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 2: For the wedding.

809
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:12,720
Speaker 3: I had asked her multiple times if she was sure,

810
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:15,839
Speaker 3: and she assured me she wanted to do everything and

811
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:18,720
Speaker 3: pay for it. Both Pickles and I agreed, but only

812
00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 3: if they were sure. Keep in mind, this was a small,

813
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 3: low budget wedding, especially since we didn't want them to

814
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:25,959
Speaker 3: have to pay a crazy amount of money on us.

815
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 3: This becomes important later. Some time passed and Pickles and

816
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 3: I decided we wanted to start our family together, but

817
00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:35,359
Speaker 3: under one condition we would be out of the house

818
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 3: before the baby.

819
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 2: Was born, and he agreed. After we found out I

820
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 2: was pregnant. Oh shoot pooh.

821
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:44,280
Speaker 3: We told the family around five days later with painted

822
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:47,360
Speaker 3: T shirts with the words I'm gonna be a mom mine,

823
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,000
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be a dad, Pickles, I'm gonna be a grandma,

824
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 3: I'm going to be a grandpa shirts. We had Rob

825
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 3: and Karen closed their eyes and had my husband's aunt

826
00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 3: and uncle put their T shirts on them as we

827
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 3: changed into ours. Once want to add the T shirts on,

828
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 3: We had them turn around and open their eyes. The

829
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:06,840
Speaker 3: first words out of Karen's mouth were, now, wonder you

830
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:08,320
Speaker 3: were being such a witch?

831
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:12,760
Speaker 2: I knew it? What huh?

832
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:14,240
Speaker 6: That was the first words.

833
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:18,280
Speaker 2: First of all? When when was she being a witch?

834
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 7: Yeah?

835
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 6: Man?

836
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 2: Hey, whoa calmed out?

837
00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 4: Ever heard of congratulation?

838
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:28,120
Speaker 2: That's crazy? Oh my goodness, my god.

839
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:32,239
Speaker 3: Both Pickles and I exchanged what the f glances with

840
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:35,240
Speaker 3: each other, but didn't say anything until we were somewhere private.

841
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:37,760
Speaker 3: He later told me that If anything, I was acting

842
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 3: happier than normal. I wasn't being witchy in any way,

843
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 3: shape or form. Fast forward about a month or so later,

844
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 3: my morning sickness was absolutely unbearable. Remember how I said

845
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:50,919
Speaker 3: they had three dogs, Well, unfortunately I have to bring

846
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 3: them into this story. Duke is an extremely sweet, extremely

847
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 3: large dog who wasn't properly house trained due to everyone

848
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 3: in the house being out most of the day. The

849
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:03,760
Speaker 3: only issue with him was that he wasn't potty trained

850
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,920
Speaker 3: that in his chronic diarrhea. I was the one who

851
00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 3: cleaned up after him most of the days before and

852
00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 3: after my workships, and when he has to go, he'll

853
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 3: go all over the unfinished hard work floorsoo, once my

854
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 3: morning sickness started kicking in, I couldn't clean up his

855
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 3: fecal matter without having to take at least three trips

856
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 3: to the bathroom in between scoops, so I didn't do

857
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:29,799
Speaker 3: as much of the cleaning as I used to. One day,

858
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 3: Karen started yelling at me and saying that pregnancy isn't

859
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 3: an excuse to be lazy and that I don't do

860
00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:38,400
Speaker 3: crap around the house. Mind you, I was still cooking

861
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 3: and cleaning the exact same way I used to bathrooms,

862
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:44,440
Speaker 3: kitchen rooms, doing the dishes piled up in the sink.

863
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:47,880
Speaker 3: The only thing that changed was cleaning up dog poop,

864
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 3: and even then I still cleaned it up most of

865
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 3: the time.

866
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 2: They have three dogs.

867
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:54,399
Speaker 3: When one takes a big old dukie, all of them

868
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 3: take big old dukies. The worst of it became more

869
00:37:57,560 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 3: frequent during the one month wedding countdown. I had found

870
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:03,400
Speaker 3: out I was pregnant in July, and one of my

871
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:06,400
Speaker 3: closest friends bought my dress for me as my wedding

872
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 3: gift on Amazon. I picked a one hundred and twenty

873
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 3: five dollars black corset back dress and absolutely loved it.

874
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,040
Speaker 3: We decided to order a size up just in case,

875
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 3: since well, I was pregnant. When I told Karen that

876
00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 3: I ordered the dress one size up just in case,

877
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 3: she started screaming, only at SiGe, you're gonna balloon out

878
00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:27,200
Speaker 3: and you only ordered.

879
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 7: One size up.

880
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 3: What's gonna happen when the dress comes that it doesn't

881
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 3: fit you because you're so huge? Who would make changes

882
00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 3: on that dress for you? Who would pay for it?

883
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:41,439
Speaker 3: When I was pregnant? And the rant continued. Keep in mind,

884
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:44,240
Speaker 3: I wasn't even showing yet. At five months. Our baby

885
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 3: was growing close to my spine, so I could have

886
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 3: even hid the pregnancy if I wanted to, And due

887
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 3: to throwing up almost everything I ate, I was losing

888
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:54,360
Speaker 3: weight at the time. Oh gosh. The dress came a

889
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:57,279
Speaker 3: week before the wedding and I was so relieved. It

890
00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 3: was beautiful, a little big here and there, but it

891
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 3: fits and I was happy about it. Karen for once

892
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 3: had nothing to say, probably since my friend had brought

893
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 3: the dress to me and was there to watch me

894
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:10,720
Speaker 3: put it on within the week time frame. Karen would yell,

895
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 3: belittle and brate me on the daily. I had paid

896
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:17,360
Speaker 3: for everything meal related. We decided to make walking tacos

897
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:21,439
Speaker 3: since they're cheap and absolutely delicious. Karen started screaming at

898
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,319
Speaker 3: me when I told her how much ground beef I

899
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:24,960
Speaker 3: was buying and asked me, what if.

900
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 2: That isn't enough?

901
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 6: What happened if we run out of food?

902
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 3: I'm definitely not gonna leave the wedding to get it,

903
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:32,879
Speaker 3: so you would have to go out to get more.

904
00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:35,520
Speaker 3: The bride would have to go out to get more

905
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 3: Beef's beef, Dude, chuck out.

906
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 8: Karen, you don't need to freak out on everything. If

907
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 8: it's a problem that we can fix it. Yeah, let's

908
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 8: cross that bridge when we get to it. Calm your

909
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 8: booty down, Sit it.

910
00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:49,719
Speaker 3: Down, dude, you'd have to leave your out wedding because

911
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 3: you were stupid until think about it one besides yourself.

912
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:56,319
Speaker 3: I was planning on getting three ten pound tubes of

913
00:39:56,360 --> 00:39:59,360
Speaker 3: ground beef. I ended up buying an entire case of

914
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 3: ground beef. Thank goodness, it was on sale. It was

915
00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 3: thirty dollars a tube, and it was normally sixty dollars

916
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 3: per Oh wow. After getting the beef and all the utensils, plates,

917
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:10,560
Speaker 3: et cetera, I got back to the house and my

918
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:13,240
Speaker 3: husband was talking with them about the wedding. Bigl said,

919
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 3: we got the food, to which I responded, I got

920
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 3: the food since I paid for it with my money.

921
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 3: When Karen heard that, she jumped up and said, was

922
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:22,800
Speaker 3: that a job to my son?

923
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:23,760
Speaker 2: How?

924
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 3: No, it was a job to you. I responded, it

925
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 3: was a joe. Well, I didn't find it effing funny.

926
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:33,360
Speaker 3: It sounded like you married that job and my son.

927
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:37,200
Speaker 3: I protect my son from anything, and I'm gonna do

928
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:40,359
Speaker 3: everything at takes to protect him from you. I don't

929
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 3: even think your marriage is gonna last. I give it

930
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 3: a year and you'll be done. I was fuming at

931
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 3: this point and told her I have nothing to prove

932
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 3: to you, but every day, for the rest of my life,

933
00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:52,440
Speaker 3: I will prove you wrong. Then I left the home,

934
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 3: went out to my car and cried, Oh, well, you

935
00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 3: held it in. You held you look strong, and then

936
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 3: you get emotions out and that's important too.

937
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 2: Good job.

938
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:04,800
Speaker 3: When I eventually came back into the home, there was

939
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 3: no apology. The day after was the day before the wedding.

940
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 3: Karen didn't come home from work until later in the day.

941
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 3: The second she came home, she asked me if I

942
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 3: had found a place for take care. I told her

943
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 3: that I had been looking into three places already. She

944
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 3: responded with three blizas. Oh my god, I'll like three places.

945
00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 3: I could make ten phone calls and have ten places

946
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:27,920
Speaker 3: within fifteen minutes.

947
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,879
Speaker 4: Then do it, yeah, dude, freaking do it.

948
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:33,319
Speaker 7: You move and do it far away from me.

949
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 3: Oh and if you can't take care of your child

950
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:40,719
Speaker 3: up to my standard, I'll take your baby away. The

951
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 3: baby we'll stay with me. And if you want to

952
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 3: take a legal approach, I'll call CBS and have your

953
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 3: child taken far away from you. I'm assuming you meant CPS,

954
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 3: unless there's another service. At least if I take that baby,

955
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 3: you could still see it around the house. I ran

956
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 3: out to my car after crying and of Karen for

957
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 3: the things she said to me. I sat in the

958
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 3: driver's side and texted my mom, telling her that I

959
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 3: loved her, to what she responded with, are you okay?

960
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:10,440
Speaker 3: It was late, It was out of the blue, and

961
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 3: things had gotten better between us before I knew it.

962
00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:15,880
Speaker 3: I got a call from my dad and spilled everything

963
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 3: that had happened within the two years I had been gone.

964
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 3: He told me to come home. I told him I couldn't.

965
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 3: They had paid for the wedding and I wanted to

966
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 3: marry the love of my life. I told him we

967
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:27,800
Speaker 3: could hold off for one more day until the wedding.

968
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 3: My parents were at the wedding and my dad walked

969
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 3: me down the aisle. Everything was perfect until we got

970
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 3: to our wedding party photos. While we were gone, Karen

971
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 3: started a fight with my husband's real mom by yelling

972
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:42,919
Speaker 3: at her daughter for sitting at a table that wasn't reserved.

973
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 3: Mind you, there were no designated seating arrangements. We didn't

974
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 3: know about this until afterward when our friends texted us.

975
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 3: I would have lost my crap at Karen if I'd

976
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 3: known she's started drama, especially since we made it clear we.

977
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:00,160
Speaker 2: Didn't want any.

978
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:02,839
Speaker 3: After we found an apartment, we didn't plan to tell

979
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 3: them about moving until the day we were moving in.

980
00:43:05,239 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 3: I started packing boxes and moving them to my parents' garage.

981
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:11,440
Speaker 3: My husband ended up telling them when Karen was talking

982
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:13,720
Speaker 3: about getting things ready for the baby in the basement,

983
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 3: the basement was falling apart. If there was ever a

984
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 3: flash flood water would come pouring in, and your stepmother

985
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 3: in law wants to put the baby in there.

986
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:25,360
Speaker 2: No, it can't swim. It can't swim. It's a baby.

987
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:26,520
Speaker 7: It's a baby.

988
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 3: There were wolf spiders everywhere and other critters upstairs had

989
00:43:31,320 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 3: nails sticking out of the floorboards, big holes in the wall,

990
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:38,360
Speaker 3: and dried dog poop between the unfinished hardwood. Oh my god,

991
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 3: there was no way we were staying there with a baby.

992
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 3: When husband told them, Karen said, you too, are gonna

993
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 3: fail on your own, and I'm gonna laugh when you

994
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:48,320
Speaker 3: come crawling back.

995
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:49,200
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

996
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 3: I would rather live in a cardboard box under a

997
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 3: bridge than spend one more second under her roof. She

998
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 3: would make comments about how we weren't going to make it.

999
00:43:57,760 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 3: We had already signed on the apartment, so offen. Obviously

1000
00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 3: it was.

1001
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 2: Too late, and I was so happy.

1002
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,840
Speaker 3: Moving day came and within the first five minutes Karen

1003
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 3: was yelling at Rob.

1004
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:09,960
Speaker 2: Pickles raised his voice and.

1005
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 3: Said, if you guys are gonna yell, do it at

1006
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 3: your home, not ours. We get a noise, complained the

1007
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:18,080
Speaker 3: first day we move in, I'm gonna be pissed. Karen

1008
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:20,759
Speaker 3: was taken aback because he had never talked to her

1009
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 3: like that.

1010
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 7: Yy Pickle, Yes.

1011
00:44:23,120 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 2: You finally did it?

1012
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:26,520
Speaker 7: Send up to wooo.

1013
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:30,959
Speaker 3: She had absolutely no control in her home. When everyone left,

1014
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:34,440
Speaker 3: I told Pickles that someday Karen was gonna blow up,

1015
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:37,479
Speaker 3: and when she did, I would walk her. We both

1016
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:39,880
Speaker 3: hoped she wouldn't because we honestly cared about her and

1017
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 3: wanted her to change. But eventually, after some odd encounters,

1018
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 3: including her jumping on top of my husband in our

1019
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 3: bed to tickle him awake and kisses that ew ew.

1020
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 2: Sorry you step mom kissing your neck? Ew it's so gross.

1021
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:03,000
Speaker 2: He what Karen I'm gonna call CBS on you.

1022
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 3: The fact that that wasn't even the day that op

1023
00:45:06,040 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 3: counts as like, you know, the day of reckoning is crazy.

1024
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:10,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1025
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:13,359
Speaker 3: I was two months postpartum at this point. I had

1026
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 3: sent her and twelve other people the same video on

1027
00:45:16,200 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 3: Facebook talking about how the times your baby is little

1028
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 3: go by way too fast. Instead of thinking it was sweet,

1029
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 3: she started going crazy, asking me if I was calling

1030
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 3: her a bad mother and if this video meant I.

1031
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:29,600
Speaker 4: Was taking your son away from her.

1032
00:45:29,960 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 3: He's a grown adult, not a baby. I apologized and

1033
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 3: informed her that I had sent the same video to

1034
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 3: twelve other people. That didn't shut her up. She yelled

1035
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 3: at me over texts and started bringing things up. Eventually,

1036
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 3: she started getting into extremely personal things to hurt me.

1037
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 3: That drew the line from me, and I went off

1038
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 3: on her. I then brought up when she told me

1039
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:54,440
Speaker 3: she would take my child away, and she completely ignored

1040
00:45:54,480 --> 00:45:57,239
Speaker 3: my text. She ran out of excuses, so instead she

1041
00:45:57,280 --> 00:46:00,200
Speaker 3: talked about the wedding, how she planned it and paid

1042
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 3: for it. I told her she had asked to do

1043
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 3: those things we never once asked her. She still wasn't understanding,

1044
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:11,359
Speaker 3: so eventually I just sat back and asked myself if

1045
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 3: she was worth this. If she's talking to me this way,

1046
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:16,840
Speaker 3: she will eventually talk to my child that way, and

1047
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:19,120
Speaker 3: I didn't want that to happen. So I told her

1048
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 3: that she could call me whatever name she would like,

1049
00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:23,880
Speaker 3: and that it didn't matter to me anymore. She was

1050
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 3: no longer welcome on our property and we didn't ever

1051
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 3: want to see her again. She has no right to

1052
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:31,239
Speaker 3: my child, and I told her that I hoped she

1053
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:36,279
Speaker 3: would eventually change and to disrespectfully go at herself, and

1054
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:38,720
Speaker 3: then I blocked her. Rob is still in her life, because,

1055
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:41,160
Speaker 3: as I said before, he's an absolute angel and did

1056
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,400
Speaker 3: nothing wrong to us. Why is he married to this

1057
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:46,280
Speaker 3: crazy lady? Dude, that's a great question.

1058
00:46:46,480 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 2: What happened there? I don't know.

1059
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:54,200
Speaker 3: I don't know Rob Rob, but Karen gets jealous and

1060
00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 3: if she can't see our baby, he can't either. He

1061
00:46:57,320 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 3: still comes over every now and then when she's working

1062
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,240
Speaker 3: is out of the house. But part of me can't

1063
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 3: help but feel awful about blocking her. So am I

1064
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 3: the ale?

1065
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:07,840
Speaker 2: What do you say?

1066
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 8: I say, no, No, definitely not.

1067
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 2: Why would you think you're the ale?

1068
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1069
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:21,040
Speaker 2: That is just her stepmother in law is crazy, Like.

1070
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 8: I don't yell at people, but if I had this

1071
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:26,240
Speaker 8: Karen in my life, yeah, oh.

1072
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 7: Boy, how would I yelled so much sooner than all this?

1073
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 3: Oh boy, I don't know how you got through all this, dude,

1074
00:47:33,120 --> 00:47:37,000
Speaker 3: I do not. She sounds terrible, dreadful. But there is

1075
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 3: an update, and I hope it gets better and that

1076
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:41,080
Speaker 3: your partner just cuts her off.

1077
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:43,919
Speaker 7: Cut cut snip out, cut it out.

1078
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 2: Update.

1079
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 3: Pickles recently talked to one of his old coworkers who

1080
00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 3: now works with stepmother in law Karen, and found out

1081
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:54,239
Speaker 3: that Karen has been telling people everyone who would listen

1082
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 3: that is, that Pickles was her biological son. What the

1083
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 3: actual f what? When my husband found out, he turned

1084
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:05,320
Speaker 3: beat red and showed his old coworker a picture of

1085
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:08,319
Speaker 3: him and his real mom in the delivery room when

1086
00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 3: he was first born. The nerve of this woman.

1087
00:48:12,200 --> 00:48:14,239
Speaker 7: Yeah who wha wait? Hey Oi?

1088
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 2: Yeah that's my thought too, that's my thought. Yeah, what

1089
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 2: about you?

1090
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 5: Who's key on? I'm leaving? I was, uh, make sure

1091
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:31,960
Speaker 5: you adopt an alien dog names? You know Stitch?

1092
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:32,239
Speaker 6: Ye?

1093
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 7: What do you think Stitch would say to Oh?

1094
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:39,040
Speaker 5: He would be saying some really outlander stuff.

1095
00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:40,920
Speaker 2: The attack and that's.

1096
00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 6: Man.

1097
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:47,280
Speaker 5: Yea, yeah, that's something.

1098
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:49,920
Speaker 3: All of that, all of that, but we got a

1099
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:52,480
Speaker 3: little bit left. Pickles told his dad about the whole thing,

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Speaker 3: and Rob said he heard something about it, but thinks

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Speaker 3: it's just a rumor. I'm unsure what to do now,

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Speaker 3: because Rob seems to be so brainwashed by Karen that

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Speaker 3: he can't comprehend or lying about anything, even though he's

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Speaker 3: caught her in lies in the past. Karen preaches honesty.

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Speaker 3: She claims she can't lie and that it just feels wrong,

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Speaker 3: and that she would never lie, and that you can

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Speaker 3: tell when she's lying because she's that bad at it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's lied.

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Speaker 3: About everything that has gone on with the kids, Rob

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Speaker 3: and my husband and me, claiming everyone is out to

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Speaker 3: get her.

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Speaker 2: Seems like she finds a way. And that's the end

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Speaker 2: of this story. We're going on to the next one.

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Speaker 5: Hey y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get

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Speaker 5: back to the story. So but here's a quick three

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Speaker 5: minute break from as for more sponsors.

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Speaker 8: My future sister in law gave me rules for her

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Speaker 8: wedding and I think she hates me.

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Speaker 2: That's tough.

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Speaker 8: I twenty two female messaged my future sister in law,

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Speaker 8: Sarah twenty four female about what colors I should stay

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Speaker 8: away from or if she had a certain color in mind.

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Speaker 8: She told me the color I needed to wear, so

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Speaker 8: I sent her a picture of the dress I was

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Speaker 8: looking at and she approved it. I then got a

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Speaker 8: call from Sarah, expecting a usual rant about work, but

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Speaker 8: instead she gave me a list of rules that she

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Speaker 8: wanted me to follow. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 8: username and if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 8: go to the r slash Okay story times. Separate it

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Speaker 8: and I'm Angie, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're here.

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Speaker 2: To give good advice.

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Speaker 7: Goofuley.

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Speaker 8: But we don't have all the answers. We just know

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Speaker 8: what we would do in this situation. But let us

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Speaker 8: know what you would do down blue, so Opie says.

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Speaker 8: The rules one, I am not allowed to go to

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Speaker 8: the rehearsal dinner that my future in laws are paying for.

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Speaker 8: I am not allowed at any of the showers during

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Speaker 8: the ceremony. I am not allowed to sit with the family. Instead,

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Speaker 8: I am to sit in the back corner where I

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Speaker 8: am not to be seen during the reception. I am

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Speaker 8: not allowed to sit with the family or my fiancee

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Speaker 8: Lucas twenty one male. Instead, I'm going to sit with

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Speaker 8: the other plus ones. I am supposed to wear earthy

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Speaker 8: colors to look like I will be in pictures, but

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Speaker 8: I'm not allowed to be in the pictures. No one

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Speaker 8: else will be wearing earthy colors. I am not allowed

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Speaker 8: to wear my engagement ring to her wedding. I cannot

1150
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Speaker 8: wear any whites, not even French tips or a white bra.

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Speaker 8: The only rule that I questioned was the reception rule.

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Speaker 8: She said she had the seating arrangements done since March.

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Speaker 8: If that were the case, I'd be okay with sitting

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Speaker 8: together plus one since Lucas and I had only been

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Speaker 8: dating for a few months. However, one of my fiance's brother,

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Speaker 8: Isaiah twenty three Mail and Sarah didn't have a venue

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Speaker 8: until August. By July, they both knew that Lucas had

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Speaker 8: bought a ring and was going to propose at the

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Speaker 8: end of the year, which would mean we would be

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Speaker 8: engaged by their wedding, which is Easter weekend. I brought

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Speaker 8: the whole conversation up to Lucas, so he texted my

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00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 8: fiance's other brother, Grant twenty sixth Mail and Isaiah separately.

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Speaker 8: Lucas only brought up the seating arrangement to Isaiah, to

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Speaker 8: which he responded, are y'all married? I have social anxiety,

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Speaker 8: which I am medicated for, so sitting with random people,

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00:51:47,840 --> 00:51:50,680
Speaker 8: essentially men I do not know, or especially men I

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00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:54,359
Speaker 8: do not know due to trauma, gives me anxiety. Sarah

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00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 8: knows this. Lucas told Grant the entire situation, and Grant

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Speaker 8: said that he would pick me up and move me

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Speaker 8: during the ceremony and reception, would refuse to be in pictures,

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Speaker 8: and would get a fake ring if I wasn't wearing mine.

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Speaker 8: Lucas eventually told my future mother in law about the

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Speaker 8: seating arrangement, but she said she would handle it, but

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Speaker 8: was told an excuse by Sarah. Later that night, mother

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Speaker 8: in law was talking to Lucas and me, and she

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Speaker 8: says she doesn't think Sarah loves Isaiah. She thinks Sarah's

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Speaker 8: in love with getting married.

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Speaker 4: I am not a mean.

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Speaker 8: Person and have tried to get to know Sarah every

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Speaker 8: chance I did because she will be family come July.

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00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:31,480
Speaker 8: I have been nothing but nice to her and don't

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Speaker 8: understand where these rules came from a couple of days later,

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Speaker 8: Sarah called me again. I was expecting more rules. Instead,

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Speaker 8: she asked me when Lucas and mine wedding was. When

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Speaker 8: I asked if she got to save the date, she

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Speaker 8: said yes. She then said that our wedding is an

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Speaker 8: inconvenience for her and she doesn't know if she can

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Speaker 8: get off work. We sent the save the dates in February.

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Speaker 8: I told her that she knew about the wedding well

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Speaker 8: in advance and could request time off of work. She

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Speaker 8: said that that's still an inconvenience and doesn't know if

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Speaker 8: she you can make it. She then said that if

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Speaker 8: she doesn't come, Isaiah, one of Lucas's groomsmen and brother

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Speaker 8: won't come either. So what should I do? Should I

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Speaker 8: follow her rules? Should I talk to her talk to

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Speaker 8: mother in law about it? If so, should I wait

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Speaker 8: until after the wedding so I don't cause a scene.

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Speaker 8: I do not want Sarah at our wedding if she's

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Speaker 8: going to cause a scene. But we do have an updates.

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Speaker 8: Oh boy, the wedding is officially over, thank goodness. So

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Speaker 8: I figured i'd post an update on what happened. I

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Speaker 8: ended up going to the rehearsal dinner, ceremony, and reception.

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Speaker 8: Neither Sarah nor Isaiah said a word to me the

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Speaker 8: whole time I was there. My fiance and I stayed

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Speaker 8: a good portion of the time and both ended up

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Speaker 8: having a good time. For the most part, I met

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Speaker 8: some of his family that lived across the country for

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Speaker 8: the first time, talked to them, as well as a

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Speaker 8: few other people who are invited to our wedding, and

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Speaker 8: spent a lot of time with my fiance's cousin and

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Speaker 8: his wife twenty eight male and thirty female.

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Speaker 2: Let's start.

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Speaker 8: At the rehearsal dinner, Lucas, Grant and I received dirty

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Speaker 8: looks from all of the bridesmaids and their dates. They

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Speaker 8: would look at Lucas and me and star whispering. Luckily,

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Speaker 8: it only lasted a couple of hours. After the rehearsal dinner,

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Speaker 8: Sarah called future father in law and demanded a script

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Speaker 8: of the wedding and said she could find someone else

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Speaker 8: if he did not provide it. When future mother in

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Speaker 8: law and I first got to the venue, I went

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Speaker 8: to the bathroom. I met Sarah's grandmother and had a

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Speaker 8: lovely conversation until the two of the bridesmaids came in.

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Speaker 2: They asked what I was doing.

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Speaker 8: There and told me it was a bridal party only room.

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Speaker 2: This bathroom that Ope is in is a bridal partly

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Speaker 2: bridal party only. You have to pay a dollar to pee.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, get out of here, Grandma, because she's in there too, Grandma's.

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Speaker 2: Side Brandma is bridal party only. Grandma.

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Speaker 7: Come on, if you're not brodup party, you can't pee.

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Speaker 2: You can't pee. All bathrooms are bridal party. Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: it's taking place in your in town.

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Speaker 8: I told them it was the bathroom and their room

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Speaker 8: was next door. I thanked the grandmother for the conversation,

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00:54:57,120 --> 00:54:59,880
Speaker 8: complimented her dress, and walked outside. I was talking to

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Speaker 8: Lucas's cousins, Shannon and Bentley, the cousin and wife from before,

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Speaker 8: and they asked how everything was going. I laughed and

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Speaker 8: then spilled everything to Shannon. She was appalled by the

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Speaker 8: rules and told me not to follow them. Bentley asked

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Speaker 8: to see my hand, and when he saw I was

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Speaker 8: wearing my ring, he told me that he's never been

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00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 8: so proud of me before. During the meal, I was

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Speaker 8: sitting with the plus ones and mostly talked to one

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Speaker 8: of the groomsman's girlfriends. The maid of honor came up

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Speaker 8: and offered us chicken nuggets since she could tell that

1245
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Speaker 8: we didn't like the meal. She then went back to

1246
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:36,000
Speaker 8: the bridesmaid's table. They all looked at us and laughed.

1247
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Speaker 8: There were never any chicken nuggets. Lucas and I went

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Speaker 8: around and spoke with a bunch of people. I was

1249
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:44,840
Speaker 8: a social butterfly and was sober. The day after the wedding,

1250
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Speaker 8: Lucas was on the phone with his mom, and he

1251
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:50,399
Speaker 8: accidentally told his mom everything Sarah and the bridesmaids had said.

1252
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Speaker 8: Although I wanted to be the one to tell her,

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Speaker 8: I'm glad it was out in the open. I called

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Speaker 8: future mother in law let her know that I didn't

1255
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Speaker 8: think Lucas would tell her, and that I thought it

1256
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Speaker 8: should have come from me at a later date so

1257
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Speaker 8: she can enjoy the wedding. I let her know that

1258
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Speaker 8: I did not want to cause a scene or add

1259
00:56:03,880 --> 00:56:06,279
Speaker 8: extra stress to anyone before the wedding. She said she

1260
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:09,840
Speaker 8: appreciated how I presented myself and apologized for Sarah's behavior.

1261
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Speaker 8: She did not give her an excuse and agreed that

1262
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Speaker 8: I was being singled out. She thanked me for trying

1263
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Speaker 8: to get to know and form relationships with everyone in

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Speaker 8: the family. I let her know that if Sarah made

1265
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:21,560
Speaker 8: a rude comment or even a face at anything, she

1266
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:24,719
Speaker 8: would be asked to leave. Future mother in law understood

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00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:29,120
Speaker 8: and said that that's if she even comes, but she

1268
00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 8: would not blame anyone for asking her to leave.

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Speaker 3: Get those people rallied, yeah, rallied rally Again. I honestly

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Speaker 3: still probably wouldn't go to the wedding. But if everyone's

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00:56:38,680 --> 00:56:42,919
Speaker 3: on your side, maybe we can, you know, just be there.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, I wouldn't go. If you have to do

1273
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:47,520
Speaker 3: all of those things. I would say, Hey, I'm going

1274
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Speaker 3: to come to the wedding. Yeah, I'm gonna be chill

1275
00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:52,600
Speaker 3: about it, gonna sit down and not take attention. But

1276
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Speaker 3: if I have to do any of these I'm not

1277
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Speaker 3: doing it.

1278
00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:55,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally.

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Speaker 8: And if like, if she gets mad, like if I

1280
00:56:58,760 --> 00:57:00,719
Speaker 8: went and she got mad at me for following the rules,

1281
00:57:00,719 --> 00:57:01,440
Speaker 8: I would just leaved.

1282
00:57:01,719 --> 00:57:03,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you go, you don't follow.

1283
00:57:03,480 --> 00:57:05,240
Speaker 4: Any of the rules. And then if she says anything,

1284
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Speaker 4: you leave.

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00:57:05,680 --> 00:57:08,759
Speaker 8: Yeah yeah, yeah, because at least you are meeting other

1286
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:09,399
Speaker 8: family members.

1287
00:57:09,440 --> 00:57:09,880
Speaker 7: I'm glad.

1288
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:12,759
Speaker 8: Yeah, at least that seems like it's going yeah, so

1289
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:14,680
Speaker 8: that's good. We do have a little bit more to

1290
00:57:14,719 --> 00:57:17,439
Speaker 8: the story to do it. The overall consensus was that

1291
00:57:17,640 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 8: they now married couple would not last more than five years.

1292
00:57:21,080 --> 00:57:23,560
Speaker 8: I also learned that the best man spoke to Isa

1293
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:25,640
Speaker 8: before the wedding and asked if he was sure about this.

1294
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:28,040
Speaker 8: He did not think they were a good match, but

1295
00:57:28,080 --> 00:57:30,600
Speaker 8: said that he would still support them. Wow, and we

1296
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:32,880
Speaker 8: have an edits here. Lucas and I are getting married

1297
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:36,440
Speaker 8: in July. Our wedding is planned to be super relaxed Western,

1298
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 8: and the efficient is going to do some of it

1299
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:41,760
Speaker 8: in his forest gum voice. We're planning our wedding to

1300
00:57:41,800 --> 00:57:44,920
Speaker 8: be like our personalities, fun, not super serious.

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Speaker 7: And we do have some comments here. Comment number one says,

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00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:51,720
Speaker 7: since Western weddings often include buffet style eating, barbecue, I

1303
00:57:51,800 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 7: hope or classic American I sincerely hope that you order

1304
00:57:55,440 --> 00:57:58,360
Speaker 7: a giant pan of chicken nuggets for your weddings. To Geese,

1305
00:57:58,720 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 7: you can have one lass so you can have the

1306
00:58:01,480 --> 00:58:02,200
Speaker 7: last laugh on that.

1307
00:58:02,440 --> 00:58:04,520
Speaker 3: Toss them in front of her and say, go, there's

1308
00:58:04,560 --> 00:58:07,640
Speaker 3: your chicken nuggets, right, you hate them?

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00:58:07,960 --> 00:58:10,120
Speaker 2: Opie responds, we are doing barbecue.

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Speaker 8: Unfortunately, she loves chicken and only eats chicken nuggets or

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Speaker 8: only eats chicken tenders, so I'm making it a point

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Speaker 8: to not have chicken at the wedding at all. Common

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Speaker 8: Number two says, I wonder if she has feelings for Lucas.

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Speaker 8: She sounds a mess, but brother in law is putting

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Speaker 8: up with it, so that's on him to deal with.

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Speaker 8: I would say, if Isaiah does not show up for

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00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:30,360
Speaker 8: your wedding, then go very low contact with him and

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Speaker 8: Godzilla Opie says, I highly doubt this, especially since Lucas

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00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:36,680
Speaker 8: is more country and she's more I hate to be rude,

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00:58:36,760 --> 00:58:39,080
Speaker 8: but stuck up in a way. They don't have the

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Speaker 8: same values or anything. So Common number three says this

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00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:46,320
Speaker 8: whole saga was impressive. I come from a dramatic extended

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Speaker 8: family and have been present for at least a couple

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00:58:48,720 --> 00:58:52,160
Speaker 8: dozen weddings, and even I have never witnessed such petty

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00:58:52,200 --> 00:58:55,400
Speaker 8: behavior by a bride, Like, did she even enjoy her wedding?

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Speaker 7: It doesn't seem like it.

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Speaker 4: No, she can't have.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it absolutely could not have enjoyed it. When you're

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00:59:00,880 --> 00:59:03,120
Speaker 3: having that much, I feel like when it gets to

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Speaker 3: the point where you're trying to control every aspect of

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Speaker 3: the wedding.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you've lost the enjoyment.

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Speaker 3: Of Oh yeah, because you know, like as a person

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Speaker 3: who's hoasted a lot, when you try and like fix

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Speaker 3: everything and like micromanage it, you're not enjoying your wedding.

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Speaker 2: No, not at all. You're a party planner. You might

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Speaker 2: think you're.

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Speaker 8: Enjoying it by like, you know, when you make fun

1339
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Speaker 8: of some random girl, but like that's not not fun.

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Speaker 8: That's not it's not a good way to enjoy your wedding. No,

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Speaker 8: it's not a long term OPI responds. Honestly, I think

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00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:42,000
Speaker 8: that's the takeaway here. She spent her entire wedding worrying

1343
00:59:42,040 --> 00:59:44,720
Speaker 8: about making sure one of the guests didn't feel comfortable.

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00:59:44,920 --> 00:59:47,720
Speaker 8: I doubt she genuinely enjoyed many moments or that they

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00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 8: will be a happy memory for her. You spent all

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00:59:50,520 --> 00:59:53,360
Speaker 8: this time, effort, and money on such a huge occasion

1347
00:59:53,360 --> 00:59:56,840
Speaker 8: in her life and squandered it. Yep, and probably ruined

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Speaker 8: it for her husband too. Probably that's the end of

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Speaker 8: that story. There it goes. Yeah, probably