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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Law dot com.

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Speaker 3: Dominic is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 3: follow up, and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Crystal.

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Speaker 3: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 3: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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Speaker 3: get him a second date. But first, Dominic, how long

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Speaker 3: has it been since you heard from Crystal?

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Speaker 4: Probably a little over a week, probably like a ten days.

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Speaker 2: Okay, have you been trying to get a hold of her?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I tried calling and sending text I even

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Speaker 4: I sent her TX with this person's handbag that I

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Speaker 4: thought she'd liked. But nothing.

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Speaker 2: It's like you're offered a buy for not even a

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Speaker 2: handbag response.

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Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, yeah, I mean, just like just something

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Speaker 4: that I thought she would like, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 4: Okay, we met? We met him? He yeah, Actually it

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Speaker 4: was through friends. It wasn't either of neither of us

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Speaker 4: on a Yeah, but you know, I was like super

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Speaker 4: lucks and for our first date, I wanted to do

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Speaker 4: something memorable. I had I had to match that you

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Speaker 4: know yacht energy. Well yeah, that's how we met, you know.

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Speaker 4: So I'm like, okay, this is this is the level

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Speaker 4: we're playing. That we're up here, you know, you know,

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Speaker 4: not a not big deal. I booked us dinner at

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Speaker 4: this rooftop spot private chef tasting menu. It was great

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Speaker 4: and she she loved his good time. Uh we're vibing.

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Speaker 4: And then after that I got her tickets to a

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Speaker 4: late night jazz show front row and uh yeah it

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Speaker 4: was it was great, and then she was digging it.

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Speaker 4: The thing Crystal, though, is that she kind of liked games,

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Speaker 4: you know, like like kind of like you know, you know,

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Speaker 4: playing they're like okay, kind of like almost hard to

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Speaker 4: get kind of kind of thing. Like even when when

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Speaker 4: we had that dinner, she ordered, you know, two desserts.

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Speaker 4: She's that kind kind of woman like, so she kind

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Speaker 4: of wants to like, you know, test me to see

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Speaker 4: where that line is and see unless she can get

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Speaker 4: away with you know, and and to be fair, I

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Speaker 4: dig it, you know what I mean, Like I'm kind

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Speaker 4: of I like that vibe.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, you like a challenge.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she's different, you know, like she's she's not just beautiful,

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Speaker 4: don't get me wrong. She's she's hot, you know, but

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Speaker 4: she she's smart, she's sharp.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, why do you think she's ghosting you?

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Speaker 4: I don't know why she's ghosting me.

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Speaker 2: Did anything happen on your date at all?

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Speaker 4: Well, okay, there's when we were on our date, Crystal

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Speaker 4: goes to uh she goes to the bathroom, right, and

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Speaker 4: I went up to go get some drinks and there's

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Speaker 4: this gorgeous woman at the bar and she she started

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Speaker 4: talking to me, and I'm talking to her and it's

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Speaker 4: just harmless kind of you whatever, you know, very very

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Speaker 4: light flirting. But I see Crystal coming back, and it's like, okay,

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Speaker 4: let me you know, I'm gonna see she likes to play.

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Speaker 4: Crystal like to play, so let me let me up

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Speaker 4: it up a little bit. I'm I can make her

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Speaker 4: a little bit jealous if she the what you know,

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Speaker 4: what she does. I'm I'm leaning into it. And honestly,

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Speaker 4: it worked like it worked like so she comes back

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Speaker 4: from the bathroom, season at the table, comes straight to

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Speaker 4: the bar, immediately grabs my hand and pulls me away

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Speaker 4: like like she wants to, you know, make me hers.

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Speaker 5: So your strategy was to purposefully make hurt, jealous while

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Speaker 5: on a date with her, very.

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Speaker 4: Very very lightly, you know, like my tongue was down

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Speaker 4: this other girl's throat. Like that's like I said, she

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Speaker 4: likes she likes this kind of like one upping, this

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Speaker 4: kind of predator prey kind of thing. You know, she's

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Speaker 4: she's taking it, she's she's doing it. So that's the

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Speaker 4: whole idea is like that's part of this game to

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Speaker 4: to you know, get to win the other person's love

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Speaker 4: and affection, and we're both on it.

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Speaker 5: Maybe flirting with another woman wasn't part of the game, which.

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Speaker 4: Is that's exactly what I'm second guessing right now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, hey, okay, all right, well I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I shall try to help for you.

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Speaker 3: We'll play a song come back, and then call her

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Speaker 3: and see she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and

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Speaker 3: maybe get you a second date. Okay, okay, all right,

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Speaker 3: we'll get your first day follow up next and literally

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Speaker 3: your first day follow up if you're just joining us.

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Speaker 3: Dominic is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Crystal,

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Speaker 3: So in a second we're going to call her see

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Speaker 3: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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Speaker 3: get him a second date. But first, dominic, why don't

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Speaker 3: you run down your date for us again?

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Speaker 4: Real quick?

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Speaker 6: Uh?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, really great? This girl is high class. Someone felt

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Speaker 4: like we had this nice, little, playful kind of you know,

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Speaker 4: back and forth kind of thing. And I'm wondering if

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Speaker 4: maybe I pushed it too far. I don't know, but

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Speaker 4: I'm digging her and I'm hoping for a second date.

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Speaker 5: You are flirting with another woman on the date. That

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Speaker 5: may not have been part of this cat and mouse

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Speaker 5: routine that you guys have, right, but.

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Speaker 4: But it was. I was only flirting with her because

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Speaker 4: I wanted Chris. That was part of the you know.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, yeah, yeah, all right.

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Speaker 2: Are you ready for us to call her?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, all right, here we go.

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Speaker 5: Hello.

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Speaker 4: This is Chrystal.

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Speaker 2: Hi Crystal, how are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jubeil Show. Hi Crystal, I'm Nina. Hi

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Speaker 2: I'm Victoria. My name is Jubel. What's going on?

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Speaker 4: Who? Wait?

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Speaker 3: Sounds like you're a work or something. Sorry to interrupt that,

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Speaker 3: but hey, have you ever listened to The Jubel Show before?

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Speaker 4: I have not heard it.

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Speaker 2: No worries. Check it out sometime if you want.

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Speaker 3: But we're calling you today because somebody who does listen

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Speaker 3: to the show actually send us an email about you.

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Speaker 4: Interesting.

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Speaker 3: We do a segment that's called the first Date follow Up.

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Speaker 3: That's where if you go out on a date with

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Speaker 3: somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that person

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Speaker 3: can email us to get you on the phone and

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Speaker 3: ask why you're ghosting. So we got an email about

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Speaker 3: you from somebody that you're ghosting.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so one of the radio shows. Okay, you've got

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Speaker 4: to be agree with you.

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Speaker 2: Are you ghosting somebody?

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Speaker 4: Uh? Probably is his name Dominic? Oh really?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Dominic emailed us told us about your dates, that

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Speaker 3: he really liked you, and it's been about ten days

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Speaker 3: and you haven't heard from you. So he's wondering if

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Speaker 3: you wouldn't mind telling us why you're ghosting him.

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Speaker 1: I'm ghasting him because at the end of the ninety

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Speaker 1: start to give me like a dog. And I don't

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Speaker 1: mean that he was read. I mean he literally made

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Speaker 1: everything transaction, Like he told me that if I helped

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Speaker 1: with the dishes one day, he'd buy me a handbag,

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Speaker 1: and if I kept him company in.

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Speaker 4: The bedroom that maybe I'd earned some jewelry.

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Speaker 1: I'm not a golden retriever or like a trophy whatever.

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Speaker 2: That's uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, it feels like pretty woman almost like you're baiting

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Speaker 1: me with things, and I'm not That's not my vibe.

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Speaker 1: I'm not trying to like win prizes.

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Speaker 3: Okay, well, thank you for telling us why you're ghosting him, Chris,

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Speaker 3: I do have to let you know that Dominic is

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Speaker 3: actually on the phone listing and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 6: Oh no, okay, Dominic, Yeah, okay, first, uh pump the brakes, Okay,

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Speaker 6: the whole just hold on.

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Speaker 4: This is a playful Okay, this is like like no faithful,

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Speaker 4: flirty rewards. You know, it's not it's not It's not

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Speaker 4: like you know, like like stores for handbags. You know,

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Speaker 4: this isn't Baskin Robbins.

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Speaker 1: He basically offered me a loyalty punch card five get

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Speaker 1: this for one diamond Braceland.

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Speaker 4: Do you hear what I'm saying?

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Speaker 2: That is.

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Speaker 4: The whole thing that you know that like this is

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Speaker 4: this was me being like curious about you, like like investing.

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Speaker 1: In you, if investing I'm not a dog portfolio. I

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Speaker 1: just want to dessert, not a down payment on my

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Speaker 1: affection or anything.

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Speaker 4: But thank you. You got two desserts. Okay, that that

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Speaker 4: should show how how much you know I'm into you.

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Speaker 4: And you know, Crystal, Crystal, you said you said that

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Speaker 4: that you liked that I was playful and generous. You

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Speaker 4: your toe You stop that.

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Speaker 2: To me, I did.

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Speaker 1: You're riot comedy, playful and generous is what I said,

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Speaker 1: But not puppy training camp with this side of product bag.

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Speaker 4: You know, there's a difference between keeping me on my

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Speaker 4: toes and.

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Speaker 1: Putting me on a harness and a leaves and putting

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Speaker 4: Do you know how many women would beg me to

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Speaker 4: put them?

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Speaker 2: People want to be on your They get it, they

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Speaker 4: They get it. Yeah, they get it. That's ridiculous. I

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Speaker 4: really appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: I do have a meeting I have to get too shortly.

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Speaker 4: So are we Are we done with this?

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Speaker 2: Well?

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Speaker 3: Not quite yet, Crystal? Would you like to go on

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Speaker 3: another day with Dominic? Will pay for it?

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Speaker 4: You payfully?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Fetch the bone girl or whatever I do? All right, Look,

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Speaker 4: I'm just saying I could get you some sweet new

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Speaker 4: shoes if you want to do another day. You know,

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Speaker 4: did we just talk about this.

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Speaker 1: I can get my own shoes. I appreciate it, but

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Speaker 1: like no, it's all good. Thank you so much, Tom,

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Speaker 1: good luck with everything. I hope you find the girl

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Speaker 1: that's going to be your guccy goddess who will do

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Speaker 1: whatever little favors you need for their bags or whatever.

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Speaker 4: You're weird. Right, here's here's a thing. Like you know,

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Speaker 4: there's tons of girls out there who was skilled.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 4: I know this, Crystal. I know that you are going

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Speaker 4: to miss this punch card system. You're going to open

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Speaker 4: the week you're gonna be calling me. I guaran mark

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Speaker 4: my words, you're gonna be calling me in a week.

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Speaker 4: I guarantee it. All right, Well cool, this was a productive. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I'll talk to you. Thank you.

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Speaker 3: She's gone dominic. She I went to a meeting. I

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Speaker 3: think I'm sorry, man, no other day.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what a weirdo?

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Speaker 2: Am?

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Speaker 4: I right?

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Speaker 2: You Will's first date follow up