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Speaker 5: Oh, that's what we're doing today, though. This is gonna
Speaker 5: be one of them conversations.
Speaker 1: We just let you know. So we hope you brought
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Speaker 5: I want to start like shout k K was asking like,
Speaker 5: what's the problem with niggas, right, and he kind of
Speaker 5: attributed to niggas and fatherhood and not having fathers and
Speaker 5: all that type of ship. So I think you're the person,
Speaker 5: perfect person to ask, like, what do you think is
Speaker 5: the problem with African American women?
Speaker 1: He jumping right ahead. We got to get to it.
Speaker 3: If you don't know, I'm the one that I keep
Speaker 3: pushing on our people for us to accept the logic
Speaker 3: the facts that single mother households produce the worst fucking product.
Speaker 3: Now you can say it like that, or I could
Speaker 3: dress it up where females won't get offended, and I
Speaker 3: can say fatherlessness is the biggest issue in our community
Speaker 3: with women and raising children and then expews into the
Speaker 3: dating pool. So for me, when you ask what's up
Speaker 3: with us nowadays? Fatherlessness coming from these single mother households,
Speaker 3: and even if you didn't directly come from one, they
Speaker 3: leave when we talk about low income. They lead the
Speaker 3: opinion leaders in our community.
Speaker 1: They are you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: They the voice in the hood, the mamos that's raising
Speaker 3: the babies by theyself with no daddy's around. Like, that's
Speaker 3: who's leading right now in regards to you know what
Speaker 3: the children are taught. So now you're looking at an
Speaker 3: adult generation that came from a lot of fatherlessness, a
Speaker 3: lot of women, female headed households.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you, it's a problem.
Speaker 6: I have a question.
Speaker 7: I'm gonna let you finish, But once you get done
Speaker 7: with that, I want you to touch on whether or
Speaker 7: not you think that single mothers get offended about their
Speaker 7: lack of ability because they are female, and because they
Speaker 7: are emotional.
Speaker 3: I feel like so I feel like they get offended
Speaker 3: because they triggered and can't manage their emotions. The offense
Speaker 3: comes from and let me take a step back, right,
Speaker 3: you can't receive information if you're in your feelings and
Speaker 3: how you hear shit depends on your temperament and your energy.
Speaker 3: So off top, if you defensive, if you feel some
Speaker 3: type of way, if you got these traumas on you
Speaker 3: that you haven't seen about with yourself, you're not the
Speaker 3: right and you're gonna come at the conversation or you're
Speaker 3: gonna come at the information listening with your inner child,
Speaker 3: your insecurities, the stuff that you know you dead wrong for,
Speaker 3: that shame, the guilt you know won't let you stand
Speaker 3: on you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: So when it comes to us, it's a struggle to just.
Speaker 3: Receive the information. And then outside of that, we struggle
Speaker 3: with accountability. Like I'll be the first female to say, like,
Speaker 3: when you put women alongside men, women have a real
Speaker 3: fucking problem with being accountable.
Speaker 1: Hey no, but but how did you tap into this
Speaker 1: because you want to always this mindset right, how did
Speaker 1: you tap into your right mindset.
Speaker 3: So okay, so let me say this, Like growing up,
Speaker 3: I was a nerd in school, right, and then when
Speaker 3: I jumped into young adulthood, I was in the streets.
Speaker 3: So I went from being in the books to now
Speaker 3: being in the streets.
Speaker 6: By personal choice.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, basic environment.
Speaker 3: When I'm big on the way your life looking, the
Speaker 3: ship you go through is based on your choices, So
Speaker 3: I won't put shit on anything else. But environment plays
Speaker 3: a big role in the choices that we are. You
Speaker 3: know able to choose from exactly, so environment play the
Speaker 3: role in it. But I jumped in the streets, and
Speaker 3: then you know, from being intelligent in the books but
Speaker 3: then also being street smart and then being able to
Speaker 3: be that homegirl to a lot of street niggas. Like
Speaker 3: there was a lot of ship said and done in
Speaker 3: front of me to where it molded my perspective differently.
Speaker 3: You see a lot of ship sitting in the track
Speaker 3: with niggas that they ain't trying to fuck.
Speaker 1: On you you like, bro, but to help you get it,
Speaker 1: like damn, we do do these niggas to the point
Speaker 1: that these niggas wild want to be a good nigga.
Speaker 1: But I can't do to the fact that the ship
Speaker 1: you done showed me. Yep, that's it is.
Speaker 3: And the thing about it is my platform, Like I
Speaker 3: give so much game that helped females, but the whole
Speaker 3: emotional side they can't see through, you know, feeling some
Speaker 3: type of way because I said something about the state
Speaker 3: of parenting in our community when we talk about, you know,
Speaker 3: a certain demographic with us, they can't hear past that.
Speaker 3: So it just turns into a fence. You you know,
Speaker 3: your type of paragraphs and your feelings. But it ain't
Speaker 3: hard to look around. I mean, you know a lot
Speaker 3: of what men struggle with nowadays as a grown man,
Speaker 3: being able to try to manage your emotions, and you
Speaker 3: know a lot of what women struggle with in relationships
Speaker 3: where you want a nigga to be, you know, head
Speaker 3: a household, but you can't. You know, it's a power struggle.
Speaker 3: You don't know how to be feminine. You don't know
Speaker 3: how to you know, be in that role once you
Speaker 3: make it home.
Speaker 7: And you also and it's another thing too, I think
Speaker 7: with that house situation, with like being the head of
Speaker 7: household and all that, is that a lot of women
Speaker 7: lack the proper skills to be the foundation for that
Speaker 7: man to be that head.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I'm gonna kick it to y'all blood row.
Speaker 3: Like in a lot of other cultures, they're raising their
Speaker 3: girls to be women, feminine nurturers, to embody everything about us,
Speaker 3: even that emotional side, to learn how to use that
Speaker 3: intuition as a way to.
Speaker 4: Be valuable to a family unit.
Speaker 3: Right, right, We in our community, we're mothering one another
Speaker 3: from a space of like, I'm gonna raise my daughter
Speaker 3: to be independent, right, I'm gonna raise her to do
Speaker 3: everything for herself, not need a nigga for nothing.
Speaker 4: But you know, our biology as human beings, especially as.
Speaker 3: Women, we're wired for companionship, Like it's our DNA in
Speaker 3: our biology. So when I see people that be talking
Speaker 3: about you know, I'm independent, I'm gonna be by myself
Speaker 3: up these niggas.
Speaker 4: They ain't shit.
Speaker 3: You going against your nature, Like, regardless of what you
Speaker 3: want to say online, of what you want to say
Speaker 3: to us, there is something in you that's.
Speaker 4: Gonna pull you towards companionship.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And then when you're being raised with the program and
Speaker 3: in an opposite direction, this is when you become psychologically fucked.
Speaker 1: Up a lot of issues.
Speaker 3: Like you know, we talk a lot about you know,
Speaker 3: the males. Yeah, women, To be honest, we struggling right,
Speaker 3: not psychologically. We are they showing us how to take
Speaker 3: advantage of all our knew rights.
Speaker 4: Be boss bitches, start businesses, earn all this money.
Speaker 3: But then you don't know anything about being submissive in
Speaker 3: your household. Like you know, men won't respect over love
Speaker 3: any day. So it's like, in order for you to
Speaker 3: really be that woman in your household, you got to
Speaker 3: be able to take that hat off at the door
Speaker 3: from that business. You might be the top realatory, you
Speaker 3: might have three folk salons that got that online hair brand,
Speaker 3: but can you turn that shit off and be a
Speaker 3: woman at home Because a nigga don't give a fuck
Speaker 3: about you being a boss in the house. Right, this
Speaker 3: nigga gonna put his mic down, like you ain't gonna talk.
Speaker 5: What do you think where you think our culture when
Speaker 5: that changed though, Like when you thinking black coature, that
Speaker 5: all changed.
Speaker 3: So for me, I mean I could go, I could
Speaker 3: go way back, but I like to just kind of
Speaker 3: bring it to a you know, we're both okay, So
Speaker 3: so on the surface level.
Speaker 4: Late nineteen sixties early nineteen.
Speaker 6: When took them out of the house.
Speaker 4: Yes, them fucking welfare programs.
Speaker 3: And I see so many people trying to rebuttle the
Speaker 3: fuck out of this online. It is a fact that
Speaker 3: those programs were set up a certain way to continue
Speaker 3: with the economically castrating black males, but then also putting
Speaker 3: our mindset in the space where psychologically we raise our
Speaker 3: children to not be supportive of the family unit. And
Speaker 3: when you go all the way back to slavery life,
Speaker 3: you know the number one thing a way to control
Speaker 3: a nigga, take the mind, keep the body strong, but
Speaker 3: take the fucking mind. They'll work hard towards your agenda
Speaker 3: without thinking twice about what the hell they're doing. And
Speaker 3: you know, really, even when you go back to slavery,
Speaker 3: it's started with females. Just while they took the biggest,
Speaker 3: strongest male nigga, bring them in front of all the
Speaker 3: women and kids, beat the fuck out of them.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Similar to what we seeing today when you see niggas
Speaker 3: being murdered over and over again, they publicizing that it's everywhere,
Speaker 3: police killing niggas. Niggas killing niggas is constantly being put
Speaker 3: in front of our faces. So you show that this
Speaker 3: nigga looks strong, but he ain't really strong compared to
Speaker 3: the system or the white man, so to speak, just
Speaker 3: giving you the imagery. Right, So then you got mothers
Speaker 3: raising children based on you know, let me, let me
Speaker 3: train my children up, my boys, I'm a baby them,
Speaker 3: I'm you know, raise them a certain way.
Speaker 7: To basically desensitizing our people to the black male masculinity.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so now we're.
Speaker 3: Used to seeing niggas get fucked up to the point
Speaker 3: where we okay with fucking niggas.
Speaker 1: But used to seeing niggas not being solid in no capacity. Shit.
Speaker 1: Niggas get locked up, they tell, yep, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Niggas bitching up in all types of ways.
Speaker 1: So it's like it's just like, yep, this ship, it's
Speaker 1: really okay now because this is there's no consequences to
Speaker 1: this ship.
Speaker 3: And if you understand psychology and condition, and you show
Speaker 3: a bit something over and over again enough times, I
Speaker 3: don't give a fuck who you are is gonna affect
Speaker 3: your mind. Me y'all included, show a motherfucker with an
Speaker 3: agenda over.
Speaker 1: And over the same type of shit.
Speaker 3: We don't even realize we programmed to believe black men
Speaker 3: ain't shit before you even interact with a black man
Speaker 3: that ain't shit.
Speaker 4: It's it's in your mind, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: So you you got it?
Speaker 7: Yeah, So look, I'm mean to cut you out, but
Speaker 7: this is okay speaking on that about believing that a
Speaker 7: nigga ain't shit before you even for real see the niggain' shit.
Speaker 7: There was There was this thing on Instagram the other day.
Speaker 7: It was a girl talking and shout out to my
Speaker 7: Boyfriendessa's only. They were having a conversation about getting to
Speaker 7: know like she was speaking from a female's perspective, so
Speaker 7: she was saying, you gotta get to know a nigga's family,
Speaker 7: how he was raised, if he watched his mom get
Speaker 7: beat on. You know, I'm saying all that shit because
Speaker 7: it's almost guaranteed that he's gonna repeat that cycle. And
Speaker 7: she was saying, if I find out that a nigga
Speaker 7: watched his mama get beat on, or if I find
Speaker 7: out that he did certain other things or whatever, I'm
Speaker 7: not fucking with him because I know that he's gonna
Speaker 7: be like that. And my thing is, I don't agree
Speaker 7: with that because some people have a reverse reaction to
Speaker 7: that type of shit, Like I saw my mama get
Speaker 7: beat on, so I don't want anybody else that I
Speaker 7: love to have to go through that. So I'm going
Speaker 7: to make sure that you know I'm the right kind
Speaker 7: of man to not beat on women.
Speaker 6: And you know what I'm saying, all.
Speaker 7: That kind of shit, And I also feel like you
Speaker 7: if everybody, I feel like everybody deserves a fair chance
Speaker 7: at least once, Like if you give a nigga a chance,
Speaker 7: you know what I'm saying, and then he shows you, Okay,
Speaker 7: this is what I'm about to turn into, then okay, yeah,
Speaker 7: get the fuck on. But you can't just prejudge people
Speaker 7: and automatically be like, Okay, this is what you saw
Speaker 7: or whatever. So I'm not fucking with you because this
Speaker 7: is what you're gonna turn into, because that's what has
Speaker 7: niggas afraid to open up in the first place, because
Speaker 7: they already feel like, Okay, if I tell this bitch
Speaker 7: what's going on with me, then she's gonna make an
Speaker 7: assumption and figure out think that she knows how to
Speaker 7: play me or knows how to treat me. And it
Speaker 7: doesn't even make sense for me to even try to
Speaker 7: be ship to her in the first place. If if
Speaker 7: I can't even fucking have a safe space with this boy.
Speaker 1: As soon as soon as you show me that this
Speaker 1: is who you think I am, I'm gonna be their time, Tine.
Speaker 8: That's just how niggas be.
Speaker 1: Okay, you already, I'm already. I'm already convicted, right, So
Speaker 1: you know this shit and a nigga nature to do
Speaker 1: some of the ship that you think I'm doing, right,
Speaker 1: just be real. So it's like a nigga gonna just bruh.
Speaker 1: This shit is fucked up, I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 3: So it is relevant what a person has been through
Speaker 3: and they upbringing right, definitely it is, but their understanding
Speaker 3: of what happened to them determines how they turn out.
Speaker 3: So it's not just oh, you went through that, so
Speaker 3: you're gonna be like, this is what is your understanding
Speaker 3: of what you went through?
Speaker 1: How did you process.
Speaker 3: What you saw with your mother or your father or
Speaker 3: you know, whoever was raising you, grandma, whatever the household
Speaker 3: looked like?
Speaker 4: How did you process that?
Speaker 1: What?
Speaker 4: How is that relevant to.
Speaker 1: You as an adult?
Speaker 3: You know, what are you doing with those experiences? And
Speaker 3: this is why we need to go back to fucking Dayton.
Speaker 3: We need to go back to getting to know one another.
Speaker 3: But like I always say, raw sex feels so good,
Speaker 3: and we don't talk about that.
Speaker 4: We don't talk about that. We just you know, we
Speaker 4: talk about, Oh you need to wrap it up, Oh
Speaker 4: you're gonna get pregnant, what about STDs? But we skip
Speaker 4: over like.
Speaker 3: You got to tell the human and program the mind
Speaker 3: to understand sugar taste sweet? So this is what you
Speaker 3: up This what a real discipline lie. It ain't in
Speaker 3: knowing what the consequences are. It's knowing the exacts that
Speaker 3: ship that's gonna feel good, in deciding that I'm a
Speaker 3: do different or I'm a you know, shy away from
Speaker 3: that until we get to know each other.
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: Yeah, bringing life.
Speaker 1: But basically all the ship boil down to man mental illness, bro. Everything,
Speaker 1: everybody fucked up a little bit. So how you're gonna
Speaker 1: get with another motherfucker that's fucked up and both y'all
Speaker 1: fucked up?
Speaker 8: It ain't gonna work out, trauma.
Speaker 1: You gotta get some help, We gotta get some helpful
Speaker 1: it is.
Speaker 4: But so for me, the root is in our upbringing.
Speaker 3: Right exactly you and you can you can overcome, you know,
Speaker 3: anything you've been through based on understanding that ship, really
Speaker 3: looking at the traumas, how it affected you, the beliefs
Speaker 3: that was programmed into you, your paradigms and ship about life.
Speaker 3: But the other part of it is we don't want
Speaker 3: to be real that there's a problem with the way
Speaker 3: we're being raised.
Speaker 1: But I don't know.
Speaker 3: In our community, all folks don't want you to tell
Speaker 3: them they did ship wrong. They want to pass on.
Speaker 3: I did the best I could on every everything that
Speaker 3: I had, Yep, with everything, and it's like so it
Speaker 3: makes generations after them not be able to confront you.
Speaker 3: So niggas and bitches is walking around with mental health issues.
Speaker 3: But if I go to, yes, if I go to
Speaker 3: but if I go to therapy, even start talking about
Speaker 3: this and you know, they start bringing up things from
Speaker 3: my childhood, pulling it out of me.
Speaker 1: I got the damn fight with Mama.
Speaker 3: She gonna damn don' want to knock me out, you know,
Speaker 3: even as an adult, because I'm saying things that makes
Speaker 3: her feel the top of way.
Speaker 1: I asked me some therapy too.
Speaker 7: And then that all goes back to accountability too, because
Speaker 7: the whole not taking nothing away from older people or
Speaker 7: no ship like that, but all I did the best
Speaker 7: of what I could when I had and all that
Speaker 7: shit that kind of negates accountability.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it because that's the excuse it does.
Speaker 3: And I'm gonna tell y'all, like when I was growing up,
Speaker 3: you couldn't tell grown people they was lying. Even if
Speaker 3: they were lying, you couldn't know that they flat out
Speaker 3: telling the lie.
Speaker 4: You're gonna get popped in your motherfucking mouth if you
Speaker 4: say that.
Speaker 3: So it's like from young age we was trained to
Speaker 3: like fuck with flaws ship if you raising one households well.
Speaker 1: From.
Speaker 3: What I'm saying is they okay, they never gonna call
Speaker 3: theirself flowed.
Speaker 4: But we've seen a lot of fla ships.
Speaker 3: How older people like Aunty, I know you lying, But
Speaker 3: if I say, Auntie, you lie, now, I finna get
Speaker 3: a whooping.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to get my ask saying what's real?
Speaker 3: And you can't even if you didn't say the word lying,
Speaker 3: If you just tried to say Auntie Fibby, you in
Speaker 3: trouble because grown people ain't never rown.
Speaker 1: You know, what's the sigma?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 1: Like I told, I told her one time before I
Speaker 1: told him my grandma like, it's just like you inherit
Speaker 1: being a hater too. I used to see my grandma
Speaker 1: like I'm telling you. As I get old, I realized
Speaker 1: that hate.
Speaker 4: The grown faul business. The kitchen is grown.
Speaker 1: Y'all talking about By the time she got a new store,
Speaker 1: that ragging motherfuckers she got she need to be cooking outside.
Speaker 1: He's eating on the lady store. But you couldn't.
Speaker 3: You could never say that. You could never come out
Speaker 3: like and say what you see. And the other thing is,
Speaker 3: and I say this all the time like I do
Speaker 3: zooms and ship, just talking to people like about confronting
Speaker 3: where they get their ways from.
Speaker 1: Growing up? You you you can.
Speaker 3: Tell your parents is at odds they separated or whatever?
Speaker 3: You know, you can see from the energy. My mama
Speaker 3: don't really fuck with my daddy. No, mama, Dad don't
Speaker 3: fuck with my mama. And then when you go around,
Speaker 3: you gotta be faith. When I go with Daddy, I
Speaker 3: can't say certain ship about Mama.
Speaker 4: I can't act excided about certain ship when I'm with Mama.
Speaker 3: I can't excited up, you know, like I'm too in
Speaker 3: my feelings about my daddy because I'm she.
Speaker 4: Gonna give me the energy like I'm aggravating her.
Speaker 7: You should be fucked up, especially like on kids because.
Speaker 3: Already, yeah, you you know you want to say, mom,
Speaker 3: I want to go with my daddy, but she gonna
Speaker 3: give you a certain energy or hell if you fuck
Speaker 3: with some of these new age mama your dad about
Speaker 3: mom my daddy said he gonna take me here.
Speaker 1: Fuck your dad. I don't want to of that ship now,
Speaker 1: lying when.
Speaker 6: Was the last time he took you anywhere?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: So now I'm around my mama acting like I'm onna
Speaker 3: fuck with my daddy like that, Go with my daddy.
Speaker 4: Don't say too much about my mama.
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. Like him.
Speaker 7: By the time you get along away from both of them,
Speaker 7: you crazy as head, flaw.
Speaker 1: In the bitch, we'd be six seven flaweding the bit
Speaker 1: fact because of a nigga just say I don't want
Speaker 1: to be in a relationship no more.
Speaker 8: She'll tell them.
Speaker 1: Kids he left us. Yep. Yeah, So nigga be like, well,
Speaker 1: my dad, like so many niggas in this world, feel like,
Speaker 1: why my daddy leave me? No, bro, I left this
Speaker 1: bitch because she was crazy and I know I won't
Speaker 1: end up doing the wrong shit right now, you know.
Speaker 3: But but you know you can't say that. You know,
Speaker 3: all single mothers got a dead beat baby daddy and
Speaker 3: they all went through some damsel and distressed struggle that
Speaker 3: oh he left them with.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm so over that shit.
Speaker 3: I see that should not be like these bitches got
Speaker 3: to think we retarded to keep believing this narrative like
Speaker 3: we we seeing holes outright trap niggas. We seeing bitches
Speaker 3: outright crazy as fucking niggas is walking away from them
Speaker 3: and them bitches making it Well, you're gonna walk away
Speaker 3: from the child too, if you leave me alone. We're
Speaker 3: seeing the parental alienation were singing holes.
Speaker 7: Like And another thing too is a lot of these
Speaker 7: niggas are not legitimized, so they technically.
Speaker 2: Don't have rights and mix of that. I ain't gonna
Speaker 2: try to take my name out to how the suit
Speaker 2: for the baby. I ain't making no excuse for a
Speaker 2: nigga that don't take his kids.
Speaker 8: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You find the way, you find a way that God
Speaker 1: put yourself on something I don't know.
Speaker 3: Listen, I'm gonna tell you on that one point though,
Speaker 3: for a lot of men, because I'm in the trenches
Speaker 3: with they ask I disagree. It's a lot on what
Speaker 3: I'm saying is it's a lot of niggas that you know,
Speaker 3: they got the same you know narrative that I'm saying.
Speaker 3: If as a woman and me and you had a baby,
Speaker 3: I could keep you from that baby if I wanted to.
Speaker 4: But if you want it's a way though, listen, especially if.
Speaker 3: You're in the streets and you you still currently in
Speaker 3: the streets. Bro, Come on, now, we know how to
Speaker 3: keep a baby from a nigga. Like we gotta stop
Speaker 3: with ending like we don't know this ship. We have
Speaker 3: a baby right now, you do me wrong. I can't
Speaker 3: get out my feelings nigga and make it where you
Speaker 3: never see this jit again.
Speaker 4: And I know holes right now they gonna tell you ass,
Speaker 4: that's what they do.
Speaker 1: They don't give a funck. Nigga.
Speaker 3: Don't want to be with me, nigga, you ain't finna
Speaker 3: be around my baby. It's gonna be my baby. And
Speaker 3: anytime somebody bringing you up, I'm gonna pay your ass
Speaker 3: to be a deadbe even though you're willing to pull
Speaker 3: up and give money by shoot. Like you said, I
Speaker 3: ain't willing to get in front of the crackers and
Speaker 3: put myself out there because I'm knowing my baby mama
Speaker 3: get too upset, she'll tell him I see still sell dope.
Speaker 3: But bro, come on now, we got to start being
Speaker 3: honest about this shiit same way we willing to be
Speaker 3: real that it's some dead beat ass niggas, it's some
Speaker 3: holes by the masses on this bullshit.
Speaker 4: I'll really, I don't really what you.
Speaker 8: Think calls that, like what you think calls be like that?
Speaker 3: It go back to programming from let me let me
Speaker 3: put it like this, right when you raised in the household, yes.
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 3: Single mother headed households produce the worst product. And I'm
Speaker 3: gonna tell y'all like when you okay, so as a
Speaker 3: young girl, you being raised as no daddy around, you
Speaker 3: don't know what it feels like to get correction or
Speaker 3: you know, be in the presence of a man as
Speaker 3: an authority figure. When yo, you can have a man
Speaker 3: or like your mama could have a man around, or
Speaker 3: your daddy could have been around, but if he's not
Speaker 3: allowed to have influence, like make decisions without your mama
Speaker 3: because that yeah, and put without your mama put your
Speaker 3: two cents.
Speaker 4: When a man make decisions, you ain't got no daddy around.
Speaker 3: If he ain't have influence, right, So that's what I
Speaker 3: mean by fatherlessness. A nigga might be round, like your
Speaker 3: mama might have had a boyfriend or a stepdaddy, but
Speaker 3: that nigga couldn't tell y'all shit without her pointing her
Speaker 3: two cents, or your daddy really couldn't make no decisions
Speaker 3: for y'all without your mama speaking on it.
Speaker 4: Fatherlessness. All that shit is fatherlessness.
Speaker 3: So if you're a young girl and you raise your
Speaker 3: whole your whole upbringing seventeen eighteen years, you don't know
Speaker 3: what it feel like to be in the presence of
Speaker 3: a man that has some authority. How you gonna feel
Speaker 3: comfortable with this shit out in the world. This while
Speaker 3: we end up struggling as young ladies trying to process
Speaker 3: and like feel comfortable around y'all feel like a nigga
Speaker 3: trying to control you for like you're trying to tell
Speaker 3: me what to do, for like you're trying to use
Speaker 3: your money to do. It's a lot of shit we
Speaker 3: misperceived or you know, we take it the wrong way
Speaker 3: because we don't know what it feel like. They have
Speaker 3: a daddy that say this is the decision as a man.
Speaker 3: That ain't no woman coming and put her two cents
Speaker 3: on it. Right then, you always seeing how a woman
Speaker 3: solves and processes and run the household. This is your programming,
Speaker 3: it's conditioning. Now flip the same shit to a young boy.
Speaker 3: You sixteen seventeen, fully grown in your bills, but you
Speaker 3: only ever saw a woman run shit.
Speaker 4: You only ever saw your mama, you.
Speaker 3: Know, decide how stuff gonna go in the household, and
Speaker 3: we nurture her. So a lot of times women don't
Speaker 3: even realize all that fussing the way you handling your son.
Speaker 3: You fucking them up, and we think because they a bitch,
Speaker 3: get grown, get a job, and they're paying their bills,
Speaker 3: that we did a good job. Meanwhile, like you said,
Speaker 3: a bitch working a job, psychologically fucked up, mental health
Speaker 3: issues like a motherfucker.
Speaker 1: But you get your check, you.
Speaker 3: Go home, you pay your bills like the average American
Speaker 3: living paycheck to paycheck up maybe a little bit above that,
Speaker 3: but you got issh shoes. When it comes down the character,
Speaker 3: when it comes down the conflict resolution skills when it
Speaker 3: comes down to talk, and it's a lot of niggas
Speaker 3: that they're not gay. They heterosexual males. They are attracted
Speaker 3: to women, but they can't stand a fucking woman.
Speaker 1: Hold up.
Speaker 3: It's a lot of niggas that come from this fatherlessness
Speaker 3: that on the surface like I ain't gay, I'm not
Speaker 3: attracted to men.
Speaker 4: I'm a heterosexual male, but I can't stand.
Speaker 3: Bitches like I pursue them to fucking engage with your
Speaker 3: physical but talking.
Speaker 1: To you all sick, Yes, you make me sick, like up.
Speaker 3: Yep, because his ship you got.
Speaker 1: Shut the fuck up?
Speaker 9: Man, talk to like I can't even talk to you
Speaker 9: and you can't attract one hundred Yeah, no, he ain't.
Speaker 1: They try to. Well, we're gonna talk to her about
Speaker 1: like that's why you see mostly women like men. I
Speaker 1: can't like I don't. I don't want to show this
Speaker 1: side because you can get really frustrated the ceiling life.
Speaker 3: You actually think like this, bro, you can't father, you can't,
Speaker 3: you can't penetrate. You chin gonna let you influencer when
Speaker 3: you look at the family unit that she go get
Speaker 3: advice from. When y'all talk and how y'all problems is
Speaker 3: all women. None of them ain't got no man. Nobody
Speaker 3: ain't got no successful marriage. Every bit of what's driving
Speaker 3: her has to do with being independent. Why she's saying
Speaker 3: she wants to be in a relationship with you. So
Speaker 3: then what you do is I start watching you more
Speaker 3: than I pay attention to myself. So I'm watching all
Speaker 3: your moves, how you is with your phone, your schedule,
Speaker 3: just looking for ship because I can't sit with my
Speaker 3: own thoughts.
Speaker 8: It's cold, cold.
Speaker 3: And then when you I'm telling you when you're when
Speaker 3: you're a lot of these grown men coming from single
Speaker 3: mother headed household, they don't have no father during their upbringing,
Speaker 3: no actual male influence. You get to the point where
Speaker 3: you realize, like I be wanting to slap the shit
Speaker 3: out of a bitch, like because from my perspective, like
Speaker 3: I don't know how to really process as a man,
Speaker 3: and she acted like a man. Niggas and men, notice
Speaker 3: y'all run out of words out to a certain extent,
Speaker 3: like in an argument, a nigga gonna reach that cap.
Speaker 1: Because you you're gonna touch me like your words, don't
Speaker 1: touch me like a lick. See some niggas be fucked
Speaker 1: up to the point where they don't know how to
Speaker 1: control themselves either. The best thing to do what camera
Speaker 1: with a camera. The best thing to do is eject
Speaker 1: yourself from that. Yes, because you're not gonna be able
Speaker 1: to if you know you can't control certain emotions, you
Speaker 1: gotta re move yourself.
Speaker 7: And then and then because the back and forth is
Speaker 7: only going to escalate because every I'm gonna tell you, women,
Speaker 7: we could go for days in arguments.
Speaker 3: We come up with clever ship, make up ship, take
Speaker 3: shit out of our imagination.
Speaker 1: What else?
Speaker 4: Nigga ain't processing ship that fast.
Speaker 3: They run out of words, so not like like you said.
Speaker 4: If you don't leave, and and the way these women are.
Speaker 7: Nowadays, so bitch, I'm gonna make you shut up.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then you got a lot of women they
Speaker 3: don't realize this nigga out of words, so you ain't
Speaker 3: saying nothing.
Speaker 1: You're trying to leave.
Speaker 3: Now she challenging you even more because a bitch thinking
Speaker 3: she a nigga. The independent boss ship got you believing
Speaker 3: to a grown ass man. Damn, there are two times
Speaker 3: your side you're finna make him do something. This is
Speaker 3: when you see niggas walking away in a bitch, following
Speaker 3: by at him, poking him in.
Speaker 1: The back of the head. Put that as nigga, you're
Speaker 1: gonna do that?
Speaker 3: Come on?
Speaker 1: What protect that all? God bless her soul. Somebody needs
Speaker 1: to fix her.
Speaker 5: You.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell y'all, sh I had a femily member
Speaker 3: one time, right, Liz. I had a family member.
Speaker 4: She arguing with her dude. So, and I was real young.
Speaker 4: So I'm just watching him argue. So I get to
Speaker 4: the point where I can see he ran out of words.
Speaker 3: I ain't know that's what this was back then. But
Speaker 3: he went walking down down the sidewalk. He like this ship,
Speaker 3: I'm finna leave. She followed him, She pushing him. She's
Speaker 3: selling out, She yelling real. It was like you've seen
Speaker 3: something click and that nigga turned around and he just
Speaker 3: started chasing it. He never could get to it, like
Speaker 3: she running. He never could get to it. When I
Speaker 3: tell you, he beat the car up. He beat the car.
Speaker 1: He was punching.
Speaker 3: It was like, but I watched to push him to
Speaker 3: that point, like, and I'm like, bro, and I'm knowing
Speaker 3: like this family, so I'm knowing this nigga don't got
Speaker 3: no real father. Figures in his life. Men teach men
Speaker 3: how to process anger. Women don't teach men this because
Speaker 3: we don't know. Yeah, you gotta get that ship from
Speaker 3: a man. And when you're a black man in America,
Speaker 3: you have to have a mature, positive black male role model,
Speaker 3: like help you process and understand what you are because
Speaker 3: anger looks different on y'all. A Black man mad don't
Speaker 3: look like a white man mad, or an Asian man mad,
Speaker 3: or it don't look the same.
Speaker 4: Bro, Do you realize you black? I told you, bro,
Speaker 4: what you look like anger? No other shit. It just
Speaker 4: looks scary. They'll shoot your ass and lock you based
Speaker 4: so hot.
Speaker 6: You see how that just did Kroy beer Man, This
Speaker 6: nigga say, I ain't even remember his kids. He was
Speaker 6: yelling and screaming at the police. They didn't do ship.
Speaker 1: You can't be afraid to be wrong with your boy.
Speaker 1: That's why my boys I make sure I stayed around
Speaker 1: them forever, no matter what I went through my relationship
Speaker 1: with the fuck that ain't. I can't do that, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. The niggas grown up, but they
Speaker 1: processing ship differently. But all the time you were calling
Speaker 1: me a bitch, I was being a bitch. You gotta
Speaker 1: let niggas know, bro, that's I'm not saying you're a bitch,
Speaker 1: but you're acting like a bitch for me. So you're
Speaker 1: not a bitch. Yeah, but you're acting like a bitch.
Speaker 1: You doing your face and ship. Just say what you
Speaker 1: want to say, nig you're making your face and fresh,
Speaker 1: and that's what your mama do.
Speaker 3: You might bitch you a nigga, but you have to
Speaker 3: teach boys boys up. Yeah, that you you saying some
Speaker 3: real ship. Boys have to be taught to process what's
Speaker 3: happening with them and articulated or walk the fuck away
Speaker 3: and go see by theyself.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And when you when you ain't been raised to
Speaker 1: do this, like, we will eat you up. Emotions relationship, Like,
Speaker 1: your emotions and feelings are the same. But you gotta
Speaker 1: be able to child on yours because you're a man. Women,
Speaker 1: we can get away with a lot more you got Yeah, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: but that's acting like a bitch. Okay. If she said,
Speaker 1: if she said somebody of her mouth that she can
Speaker 1: control cuz was a mouth.
Speaker 8: That's what bitches do.
Speaker 1: How you doing this right? So we gotta make that
Speaker 1: shit look like some bit shit the nigga like broy
Speaker 1: argue with the bitch.
Speaker 3: We don't do so, bro, when you ain't throughout your
Speaker 3: whole upbringing, if you never had no men to show
Speaker 3: you that this is woman behavior.
Speaker 4: This all you've seen. It's a fact.
Speaker 3: Children model what they see facts. So you get to
Speaker 3: a point where you know you a boy, but I
Speaker 3: got so many of my mama ways because it ain't
Speaker 3: never been no men, because you've never seen anything to
Speaker 3: the contrast, and.
Speaker 1: You can't that.
Speaker 3: The thing is, how can you argue with this ship
Speaker 3: like your son that you raise, it only has ever
Speaker 3: seen you problem solved you and how you are with emotions,
Speaker 3: running the household, with just certain shit, with family, your
Speaker 3: decision making.
Speaker 4: He gonna grow up and make decisions like a bitch
Speaker 4: and women.
Speaker 6: We be knowing this, we just.
Speaker 3: Don't want to admit our accountability in it. So we
Speaker 3: will say it's a lot of bitch as niggas in
Speaker 3: the day and pool. It's pissed in the dating pool.
Speaker 3: These niggas be acting like holes. What's wrong with these niggas?
Speaker 3: But then, like when I want to talk about where
Speaker 3: they got it from, why these niggas got these problems?
Speaker 6: They're not already.
Speaker 3: We don't want to talk about that. No, No, you
Speaker 3: can't talk about single mamas. No, don't talk about some
Speaker 3: of the mamas.
Speaker 1: Be trying to be real though, because I'm gonna keep
Speaker 1: it one hundred like I told, because my wife she
Speaker 1: gets to my boy the rock like but now I
Speaker 1: had to break it down and flip it on it,
Speaker 1: and I feel like this when she finally got the ship.
Speaker 1: You teach your boys not to go for you want
Speaker 1: me to go for. Women know the difference because you're
Speaker 1: gonna tell your son like, nah, if she acting like that,
Speaker 1: she mean this. But so when you I was taught
Speaker 1: this too, mm, so don't you You're gonna run some
Speaker 1: shit on meet it. You don't want to be bringing
Speaker 1: on your son, right, So you know the difference, right,
Speaker 1: I can't argue with that, that's say. But but you
Speaker 1: can't argue with that cause you just tell her like, hey,
Speaker 1: you should never go for this. If she say this,
Speaker 1: you should never this. You will tell these boys that,
Speaker 1: But you'll turn around and say this shit to me
Speaker 1: and be mad at me because I'm I'm not accepting that.
Speaker 1: You were just owning your feelings because I heard you say,
Speaker 1: if a motherfucker say that, THEYMN fuck with you like that, or.
Speaker 8: If motherfucker do that, you get what I'm saying. So
Speaker 8: he'd be double standing too.
Speaker 1: They know they know right from wrong, but I'd be
Speaker 1: so far in my feelings. Fuck it, I teach negativity
Speaker 1: just because I'm in my feeling that I know I'm
Speaker 1: leaving you the wrong way.
Speaker 3: Yeah they say anything else, Yeah, but a lot of
Speaker 3: it have to do with like the relationships in which
Speaker 3: these kids was born from the situations like we don't
Speaker 3: talk about that enough, right, please, they're not Like there's
Speaker 3: a good part of of this new generation that was not.
Speaker 1: Relationship because a lot of.
Speaker 3: That's why they was born because it puts it feel
Speaker 3: good without a rubble. That's why they Yeah, that's why
Speaker 3: she got pregnant, and it's why for me, Like when
Speaker 3: I'm talking to young girls and I'm raising girls, like,
Speaker 3: do not believe that just because a man want to
Speaker 3: fuck you wrong, he want to have a baby with you.
Speaker 1: Because that's not the case anymore.
Speaker 3: And we're not going back to that until women change
Speaker 3: their standards, Like niggas is fucking wrong for the feeling.
Speaker 1: And you got all these young.
Speaker 3: Girls screaming, well, he slept with me raw and he
Speaker 3: nutted in me.
Speaker 4: He knew what was gonna happen.
Speaker 3: And now you're a single mother and the nigga is
Speaker 3: not stunning you. He don't give a fuck by you
Speaker 3: saying that dad beat baby daddy. Shit, gonna get on
Speaker 3: welfare and struggle and say you did the best you can. Yeah, like,
Speaker 3: just like you gonna just keep repeating the same for
Speaker 3: as shit and don't get you better now, no facts,
Speaker 3: you know better, not saying you know better, you know better.
Speaker 1: You know this nigga ain't even being baby dadd of
Speaker 1: material or how he pull up on him.
Speaker 3: But when you can't attract no difference from when you
Speaker 3: can't attract no different you be like fuck it because
Speaker 3: your inner is saying I need a man. I don't
Speaker 3: go fuck with a bitch, say out they mouth. Our
Speaker 3: biology is wired for a companionship. Like there are species
Speaker 3: of animals and organisms that do not run in groups.
Speaker 3: But then there are the animals in species and humans
Speaker 3: that we are wired in our biology to collectively group together,
Speaker 3: to socialize. That's why if you isolate a nigga, your
Speaker 3: mind will organically fuck up, fuck up, like when you
Speaker 3: put a nigga in solitary confinement long enough, he go
Speaker 3: crazy because we're not wired for like being it along.
Speaker 4: Yes, we're not built for that.
Speaker 5: So what about the women who complain since there's more
Speaker 5: women than men? What's your philosophy on that there's more
Speaker 5: women than wen So if it's supposed to be one
Speaker 5: one to one, that ain't numerically possible.
Speaker 1: So what's your thought? Those are facts?
Speaker 3: But you got to look at history, right, So when
Speaker 3: we talk about historically the whole agenda that economically castorate
Speaker 3: black males, when you look at mass incarceration, who's mass
Speaker 3: incarcerated the black males. So the idea is if you
Speaker 3: look at what's going on with black males getting killed,
Speaker 3: and you look at what's going on with black males
Speaker 3: being incarcerated, this is why it is a fact that
Speaker 3: the ratio is off. There are more women in regards
Speaker 3: to like dating and relationships than there are men, and
Speaker 3: this is why a lot of women do end up
Speaker 3: sharing and you know, the shit end up crossing over
Speaker 3: with you know, you fuck with him and then I
Speaker 3: fuck with him.
Speaker 1: That type of shit. We got to be honest.
Speaker 3: So now it still goes back to what I said
Speaker 3: about fatherlesseness, like it is a statistical fact that single
Speaker 3: mother headed households produce the worst product. And if you
Speaker 3: just want to talk about the imprisonment statistic, when they
Speaker 3: do polls in prisons or they go through and you
Speaker 3: grew up with both parents, you grew up with both majorities,
Speaker 3: seventy five to.
Speaker 4: Ninety percent of men black men locked up.
Speaker 3: I can even say in general the population locked up,
Speaker 3: they came from single mother headed households.
Speaker 4: So here we go.
Speaker 3: You want to complain about the dating pool and how
Speaker 3: there are not enough black men, you know, in ratio
Speaker 3: to women, but then you don't want to do anything
Speaker 3: about the problem or the root of what's helping route them.
Speaker 4: To be locked the fuck up.
Speaker 3: They need male influence, they need fathers, they need men.
Speaker 3: Nobody give a fuck if you like your baby daddy
Speaker 3: or not.
Speaker 4: Your child will.
Speaker 3: Turn out better mentally, physically, emotionally, psychologically if there are
Speaker 3: men and women.
Speaker 1: A part of his or her upbringing, fear and styles.
Speaker 1: Even if you get it, even if you still getting
Speaker 1: it in a negative way, you getting how to be
Speaker 1: a man, matter what, even if you're getting it in
Speaker 1: ways that that may not be you're conventional. You're still
Speaker 1: gonna get some type of something.
Speaker 3: But you know how you uh, you know how you
Speaker 3: said earlier, like a nigga will conform to what you're
Speaker 3: accusing him of. Right, we gotta change our verbage if
Speaker 3: we start genuinely saying to men in general, I need
Speaker 3: help raising the boys. Hey, I need help, Like, I
Speaker 3: don't fuck with you the more you're still a bitch
Speaker 3: ass nigga, but I need your presence for my children.
Speaker 3: Like if we change the narrative as mothers and as
Speaker 3: women in regards to letting men know that there's a
Speaker 3: certain standard we need y'all. Fuck, men want to be respected,
Speaker 3: They want I feel needed. Right, All that lovey w
Speaker 3: shit that ain't what push a man to be a man.
Speaker 3: It's him knowing that shit counting on me is stuff
Speaker 3: that is is you know, a necessity that I show
Speaker 3: up for.
Speaker 1: If we change that, you will see.
Speaker 3: The mindset of Nigga's shift and the boys that were raising,
Speaker 3: we will push them towards understanding men that are stepping up.
Speaker 3: Those are the men to be praised, not the ones
Speaker 3: just walking around with wads of cash and design on.
Speaker 3: You see, what I'm saying, like, we gotta start changing
Speaker 3: the narrative because for us as females, you gotta think
Speaker 3: about it.
Speaker 4: We keep screaming we don't need a nigga for nothing.
Speaker 3: We're where I be fine, had a baby still in
Speaker 3: their stomach, Tomo, I'm gonna raise mind by myself.
Speaker 1: Nigga.
Speaker 4: Ain't shit like he said.
Speaker 1: Nigga.
Speaker 3: Damn there conformed to your narrative because you saying it
Speaker 3: out loud so much.
Speaker 1: Okay, you want to raise baby? Bye? Sorry bitch. John
Speaker 1: yone is.
Speaker 6: Just like y'all didn't see the y'all didn't see the
Speaker 6: shit today. Well, my boy, I ain't gonna call his name,
Speaker 6: but he had a situation. I guess.
Speaker 7: I don't know if he actually dealt with the girl
Speaker 7: or whatever, because I didn't read the whole thing, but
Speaker 7: she was trying to expose him through text messages, and
Speaker 7: basically he was saying.
Speaker 6: Like, Bro, I don't want to kid.
Speaker 1: Sunday.
Speaker 8: He don't want to be bro.
Speaker 6: I don't want a kid like. I don't want a
Speaker 6: kid like. And then she was like, so what do
Speaker 6: you expake me to do?
Speaker 1: And he was like hey, she but that goes into
Speaker 1: something else, Like these days they feel like, Okay, you
Speaker 1: knew what you were doing, but that's not true. That's
Speaker 1: what I'm trying to say, Like this, this is my thing. Right.
Speaker 4: If this didn't know what they was doing, there was
Speaker 4: fucking wrong. I was trying to get some raw pussy.
Speaker 4: That's what I was doing.
Speaker 1: That's what I knew that I was doing.
Speaker 3: You also know the same way you you can say
Speaker 3: a nigga know that fucking you all gonna get you pregnant.
Speaker 3: You know that fucking a nigga row that is not
Speaker 3: your man, or you're not in some sort of serious
Speaker 3: commitment where the man shows behavior that he's gonna step up,
Speaker 3: or you're not.
Speaker 1: You knew that was a risk too.
Speaker 3: So it's like we just gotta start being real. Men
Speaker 3: need to start being more honest upfront. Baby, I want
Speaker 3: that pussy wrong, but not.
Speaker 4: For no kid, and females need to start.
Speaker 1: Being honest that.
Speaker 6: But but I mean, just I know this probably sounds
Speaker 6: like you ain't.
Speaker 4: Got to want to hear but it's bad, but you
Speaker 4: but I mean, how could you?
Speaker 6: How could how could you not know that a nigga
Speaker 6: don't want a kid? If y'all don't have no type
Speaker 6: of nothing in common.
Speaker 4: We know they just don't give a fuck.
Speaker 1: Y'all understand, we don't give a fuck.
Speaker 4: The cycle we don't get, we're gonna repeat and this
Speaker 4: is the thing. We're repeating it because the women before
Speaker 4: us showed us that.
Speaker 1: It's all right.
Speaker 7: But that's like but and I hate to sound like
Speaker 7: one of those what they be calling those people, one
Speaker 7: of those pigmy people or whatever.
Speaker 6: But like, wouldn't that be common sense?
Speaker 4: It is, it's very much common sense. It's for women.
Speaker 1: We deal more.
Speaker 3: We deal more in emotions and you know, just going
Speaker 3: off of what we came up with in our mind,
Speaker 3: our imagination than actual fact.
Speaker 1: Because I'm gonna tell you some shit.
Speaker 7: But I mean, who wants to go through that and
Speaker 7: emotional turmoil having to fucking try to deal with a
Speaker 7: nigger or try to capture a nigga with a baby that.
Speaker 4: You don't that you don't but something that you feel
Speaker 4: like there ain't nothing.
Speaker 1: So if I attach myself to something that's halfway something,
Speaker 1: I'm still being a murdering on this nigga life because
Speaker 1: I got this. That guy got a bargaining chip. No
Speaker 1: matter what, I can make you a fuck, nigga, I
Speaker 1: can make you a real nigga. You gonna take it whatever.
Speaker 1: I got somebody that I can, you know, because everybody
Speaker 1: looking for somebody to blame while they not who they're
Speaker 1: supposed to be victim. I got this.
Speaker 4: We want to be a victim.
Speaker 1: I got this person, this baby, I would be out
Speaker 1: doing my things. I ain't have this baby.
Speaker 8: I did my baby.
Speaker 3: My baby, yep is my fault cause you a piece
Speaker 3: of shit, But it gives them an excuse to be
Speaker 3: a low life exactly like, and this is that whole
Speaker 3: best you can I'm gonna tell you all this right.
Speaker 3: So I did a live and I was explaining to
Speaker 3: young women because like I said, I'm raising daughters, so
Speaker 3: I want the generations under me to get the real
Speaker 3: I don't give a fun make us a look. I'm
Speaker 3: one of those people that baby. If I'm older than you,
Speaker 3: I wanna give a fuck.
Speaker 1: How make me look?
Speaker 4: I want you to know the truth.
Speaker 3: Everybody you see before you what's dumbling a motherfucker keeping
Speaker 3: a baby from a nigga or allowing a nigga the
Speaker 3: fuck because I go before the whole pregnancy, allowing a
Speaker 3: nigga to fuck them wrong without getting to know that
Speaker 3: man's character first and get an understanding for if he's
Speaker 3: a family man and wants children. We was dumbed at
Speaker 3: the bitch in this community digging has a disease, right,
Speaker 3: But even just character like it comes down to it,
Speaker 3: if you could co parent, you could equally together, you know,
Speaker 3: produce a successful product. Here's what I'm saying, though, as women,
Speaker 3: we keep screaming niggas bear the responsibility for getting us pregnant,
Speaker 3: but scientifically we already one hundred thousand in in regard
Speaker 3: suggests the blood, sweat and tears wants a baby gives.
Speaker 1: So let's let's put it.
Speaker 6: How does a nigga?
Speaker 7: How does a nigga bear the responsibility for getting a
Speaker 7: bit pregnant if he purchased the pussy.
Speaker 4: That's it's it's I thought.
Speaker 1: I thought the.
Speaker 10: Exchange financial because we hold all liability and responsibility.
Speaker 4: Baby, Well, we were in the day, right, she right?
Speaker 3: Because even outside of just the tricking, we're in the
Speaker 3: day and age of transactional relationship.
Speaker 4: You is you buying the ship.
Speaker 1: Basically, what I'm saying is, Okay, I get.
Speaker 6: It's like once I pay for this, once.
Speaker 10: To hear nothing else.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because that's what I pay for.
Speaker 6: Yeah, baby cares and scream has a heart. That's why he's.
Speaker 1: A baby. But okay, so what I'm saying, it's like accountability.
Speaker 10: I'm just playing Devil's advocate.
Speaker 3: So so but let me okay, so let me say
Speaker 3: this scream from a from a keeping it real and
Speaker 3: just being accountable. Right as as women, we're saying it's
Speaker 3: the responsibility like is on you as a nigga.
Speaker 1: You is your sperm? You can't.
Speaker 10: Responsibility is supposed to be on the John from a pro.
Speaker 1: He's speaking from he's speaking from that's logic. But he's
Speaker 1: speaking though, because it is. It really is on you.
Speaker 1: It's on you. You you you, that you, that you
Speaker 1: that week, that you'll get a bit pregnant, that you
Speaker 1: no hold on, hold on, hold on, because go both ways.
Speaker 10: But I'm a I'm a pig pick up person or
Speaker 10: whatever you call that ship whatever.
Speaker 6: Oh I'm sorry, I'm a I'm a yeah whatever.
Speaker 7: But my thing is is okay, true enough, part of
Speaker 7: partial responsibility relies on the nigga because it's his firm
Speaker 7: and all that ship whatever whatever. But at the end
Speaker 7: of the day, if you as a female, know that
Speaker 7: you're in a situation where.
Speaker 1: I get what you're saying. Nah, it's on the nigga
Speaker 1: bro that should be talking. Listen, you gonna listen one
Speaker 1: thing about it. You see what your mama went through,
Speaker 1: You see what everybody go through. You said that this
Speaker 1: is the type of bitch that may have you in
Speaker 1: a situation that you might not like this bitch in
Speaker 1: nine months, So how are you gonna play with yourself
Speaker 1: like that?
Speaker 7: No, but what I'm saying, But what I'm saying is
Speaker 7: if there if there's if there's an agree, if there's
Speaker 7: an I feel like, if there's an agreement or if
Speaker 7: there's a mutual understanding, that whatever happens after this, like this.
Speaker 6: Is, this is what this is, and it's not supposed
Speaker 6: to be anything else after that.
Speaker 4: Cause let me ki.
Speaker 1: No, what I'm saying this is advocate, you know what I'm.
Speaker 6: But it's like, but it's like if if if you
Speaker 6: know for a fact that Okay, again, this is a transaction.
Speaker 7: This is not a relationship. This is not a love
Speaker 7: making session. This is not like none of that ship.
Speaker 7: This is I'm about to fuck you, I'm about to
Speaker 7: pay you to let let you let me fuck you,
Speaker 7: and then after that, like call it quinch. You might
Speaker 7: be able to hit me up every now and then
Speaker 7: so we can pay the fuck again or whatever.
Speaker 6: But other than that, like I.
Speaker 1: Got motives, You just gotta look at most women like
Speaker 1: they all got terior motive until this. Okay, so listen,
Speaker 1: and so does the same thing go.
Speaker 7: That's what I'm asking you, so basically is the same
Speaker 7: Does the same thing go for a prostitute that's walking
Speaker 7: the street, but.
Speaker 1: A prostitute me let me, let me kill this whole ship.
Speaker 1: You're you're correct about? Is your sperm and where you
Speaker 1: leave it at?
Speaker 9: Right?
Speaker 1: There are in any other animal in the world, Yes, behaving,
Speaker 1: that's my kid, right, But I'm just trying to say, is.
Speaker 4: Right, it's your you. You not in a prostitute or not.
Speaker 4: It's right, but you okay, you not in a prostitute
Speaker 4: or not. That's your Your.
Speaker 1: Child is growing your your sperm.
Speaker 3: Right. What I'm putting into perspective is and I won't
Speaker 3: your yes or no answer, who is carrying the majority
Speaker 3: of the weight the wind is?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 3: So here's what I'm saying, right, and I'm gonna put
Speaker 3: it in street terminology right, We're finna go in on
Speaker 3: the reel.
Speaker 6: You gonna put in a hundred thousand.
Speaker 3: Hold on, you're gonna put in a hundred thousand, right,
Speaker 3: and then I'm gonna put in ten thousand. Who should
Speaker 3: be worried more about if the peck knows what I'm saying?
Speaker 4: Who should be No?
Speaker 3: Come on, bro, no, but let me finish my point though,
Speaker 3: who should be worried more about if the peck make
Speaker 3: it back? So in baby making, the female is the
Speaker 3: one putting in a hundred thousand by the time the
Speaker 3: baby born.
Speaker 4: Hold On, let me finished, though. By the time the
Speaker 4: baby born, you still intact physically.
Speaker 3: You ain't gain no weight, Your hormones ain't changed, Your
Speaker 3: nose ain't spread, your hip the same spread. Your shit
Speaker 3: ain't but stopen. You ain't got no stretch marks. Your
Speaker 3: tea is ain't sagging, You ain't got certain stuff. You
Speaker 3: ain't got to take off from work. You ain't gotta
Speaker 3: miss no bread. I'm one hundred thousand in over your teen.
Speaker 1: When the baby born.
Speaker 3: So if you ask me when we talk about raw sex,
Speaker 3: who you need to pay attention to the column be.
Speaker 6: And put on us.
Speaker 4: You ain't right.
Speaker 1: Walk away? About it. Listen, this is what they missing,
Speaker 1: what we're missing Black. As a man, you should already know,
Speaker 1: especially if you was a nigga the hell of your
Speaker 1: business period, you should already know that you was a
Speaker 1: great candidate for a baby daddy, So you can't buy
Speaker 1: her character. Baby nine months may be the best nine
Speaker 1: monthslf like, because I just attached myself.
Speaker 4: To this nigga who taking the risk. But what I'm saying,
Speaker 4: this is what I'm saying, what risks.
Speaker 1: Listen to what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: Nowadays, we're not dating really.
Speaker 3: Getting to know a nigga character, so half the time
Speaker 3: holds don't even be knowing the character of the man
Speaker 3: they're pregnant from.
Speaker 4: Now, you could be every bit of a good nigga, right, But.
Speaker 3: I'm taking a chance on if you gonna make this
Speaker 3: nine months light on me, I'm the one risking one
Speaker 3: hundred thousand.
Speaker 1: You just risk your tea he holder. But I ain't
Speaker 1: got to make the nine months light on you.
Speaker 8: You already know what kind of nigga you normally held on.
Speaker 1: My business, You normously nigga regardless of this, whatever it takes,
Speaker 1: because this is my sea, I'm gonna hell of my business.
Speaker 6: How do I know?
Speaker 3: It's plenty of bit that, right, But it's plenty of
Speaker 3: holes that thought that bout that baby daddy.
Speaker 1: And that's when they turned because you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: They think either way, I'm in your business. Bench of
Speaker 1: a risk. Bring a whole child here to be in
Speaker 1: your business.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying, right, because I didn't have
Speaker 1: no business.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 8: But bro, this is what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: I'm saying you this good nigga, Right, I fuck around
Speaker 3: and get pregnant from you. I don't know for certain
Speaker 3: that you're going to show up like you.
Speaker 1: Saying you is the other side of the law.
Speaker 3: The other side of it is the law don't even
Speaker 3: make you show up as much as I gotta show
Speaker 3: up a worst case scenario. The law make it where
Speaker 3: you drop a child support check once a month and
Speaker 3: I gotta do the other ninety percent of the work.
Speaker 1: It's never gonna be equal unless you want to be around.
Speaker 4: And you is a good nigga, So we we we're risking.
Speaker 4: More So, what I'm proposing to.
Speaker 3: Women is why are we viewing it like y'all need
Speaker 3: to be the responsible parties to show up with the
Speaker 3: I'm coming with a purse full econdomies.
Speaker 4: I'm putting in a hundred thousands.
Speaker 5: So what do we do so that that kids or
Speaker 5: kids ain't fatherless? Because we're saying that that's the problem.
Speaker 4: So what do we do?
Speaker 3: I'm I'm saying women, because we're the ones taking the
Speaker 3: bigger risks.
Speaker 4: It's just like the scenario I gave bro.
Speaker 3: You gonna care more about that pack making it cross
Speaker 3: state where it need to get from Cali back to Florida.
Speaker 3: You gonna be worried more than me because the loss
Speaker 3: is so much bigger in regards to your money that
Speaker 3: you put in. So for us, because the loss is
Speaker 3: so much bigger, it's damaging the fuck out of us.
Speaker 3: We need to be the one setting the standard that
Speaker 3: you can't get no pussy if you ain't gonna wrap
Speaker 3: it up. You can't get no pussy if you're not
Speaker 3: coming in here showing me certain things. We need to
Speaker 3: go back to dating and requiring men. I don't give
Speaker 3: a fuck, young, old, fat, skinny paid pole nigga. You
Speaker 3: got to show me that you got some real nigga
Speaker 3: ways about yourself.
Speaker 4: For I let you hit this wrong the minute we
Speaker 4: start doing that, the minute you.
Speaker 3: Will see the dynamic of the situations of babies being
Speaker 3: born changed.
Speaker 1: It's just that simple and more than you that's taking
Speaker 1: agree with that. But still we can't let these niggas
Speaker 1: out of the hook because nigga, if you want piece
Speaker 1: in your life, bro, and you see what people go
Speaker 1: through it that baby dadd the baby mama ship like
Speaker 1: all the niggas do see like man, any crazy baby.
Speaker 1: It's just something happens. After you don't want the bitch
Speaker 1: no more, something happens.
Speaker 4: Why so answer me this.
Speaker 1: So what I'm saying, if you want piece in your
Speaker 1: life and you know you you you're trying to do
Speaker 1: some ship, why is you even doing yourself like that?
Speaker 1: Because put yourself in there, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Why why you think Why do you think if all
Speaker 3: women right now decided that niggas ain't getting no more
Speaker 3: pussy to they show character, why do you think that's
Speaker 3: letting them off the hook. Because niggas love pussy. Everything
Speaker 3: is sexualized nowadays. So for me, I don't see it
Speaker 3: that as letting nigga off the hook. If women raise
Speaker 3: their standards, how the fuck you off the hook? If
Speaker 3: you got to step up the standards. That's not letting
Speaker 3: the nigga off the hook. That is making it work.
Speaker 3: I set some new rules and in order to get
Speaker 3: any cat my nigga, you got to step up to
Speaker 3: these new rules.
Speaker 4: So it's every bit of making you be responsible.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 4: I said that a long time, not trying to control you.
Speaker 1: That's now. That's what sucked it up. When the bitches,
Speaker 1: when the don't know, I'm just bitching the worst lay
Speaker 1: on them with y'all. When the women thought fucking any
Speaker 1: kind of niggas, that's what there you're going because certain
Speaker 1: of nigga cadn't get puts it from a certain condition.
Speaker 1: Just what it was. Not that just what it was.
Speaker 3: Not Going back to what she said, the nigga got
Speaker 3: a little bit of money or a little image or
Speaker 3: a little status or some cloud online, they're doing the
Speaker 3: transactional sex. Like Baby said, like, that's when this ship
Speaker 3: got out of here with anybody, that's when it went wrong.
Speaker 1: That's when it went wrong because you renegade the renegade
Speaker 1: it ship was different back then. Bro, you had to
Speaker 1: have a certain thunderd That's why it's like it's like
Speaker 1: a mix up. You really don't see older women with
Speaker 1: young because they mindsetting on be saying you know what,
Speaker 1: they would, But nigga looking.
Speaker 3: At it like now you're seeing you know what, bragging
Speaker 3: the ass niggas fucking with beautiful women.
Speaker 4: You're like, damn boy, back in the day, your nigg
Speaker 4: couldn't get a bitch like racking her down and niggas
Speaker 4: even the.
Speaker 3: Movies you want to see a nigga be like in
Speaker 3: old school movies. That's just showing the streets and ship. Bro,
Speaker 3: I gotta get my bread up.
Speaker 4: I want to get them.
Speaker 1: You know, you gotta get it out together.
Speaker 4: Bro, I gotta I gotta do that.
Speaker 3: Now take that page, look like something they sliding that
Speaker 3: DM say the right ship?
Speaker 4: They fucking he wanted to fly my and show him
Speaker 4: a good.
Speaker 6: I was breaking the bos down hard you said, So
Speaker 6: you say.
Speaker 1: What you said?
Speaker 11: So when you said, would you say that the value
Speaker 11: of pussy is down? Yeah, That's what I'm saying. Love,
Speaker 11: Do y'all raise the mother fucking price and come out
Speaker 11: the money down?
Speaker 1: But but it's so many How do you value pussy?
Speaker 1: What I was saying before, so much pussy knows so
Speaker 1: much as it is what we y'all gonna go back up,
Speaker 1: be personally up. We Baby, I'm gonna tell I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you it can it's on.
Speaker 6: It's on us.
Speaker 3: We have to raise our own barge.
Speaker 1: Bro.
Speaker 8: Like I said, Bro, most of the niggas our age.
Speaker 4: Bro.
Speaker 1: We really have already been through our heartbreak. So if
Speaker 1: I meet a woman, you know what I'm saying, if
Speaker 1: I was to get a divorce and meet another woman
Speaker 1: and try to you know what I'm saying, I already
Speaker 1: love her over here, ain't nothing gonna do that and
Speaker 1: I'm never gonna It's just okay, let's see we get
Speaker 1: some money, get let's build whatever this, let's connect and
Speaker 1: make a business transaction that was a relationship. To the
Speaker 1: days you gonna be single, you're just gonna be working
Speaker 1: around it.
Speaker 3: It's just two many But see not like now you're
Speaker 3: you're interested in like if you were dating, if you
Speaker 3: weren't in a relationship, you would be interested in seeing
Speaker 3: where the woman in mind are.
Speaker 8: None of us.
Speaker 1: I don't care about all that.
Speaker 8: Listen, we can get some money or we can.
Speaker 1: I feel intrigued, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: And when you when you procreate with a good woman
Speaker 3: even if you even if your relationship don't work out,
Speaker 3: she might have left you because you was a terrible
Speaker 3: boyfriend her husband. But if you got a baby with
Speaker 3: another grown person that's mature, y'all could co parent, just fight.
Speaker 3: It's a lot of niggas got good situations with their
Speaker 3: baby mamas.
Speaker 4: They got influence over their children.
Speaker 3: She ain't no problem. She's more for the family unit,
Speaker 3: like the kids getting what they need. She not trying
Speaker 3: to create these scenarios. It's some good women out there,
Speaker 3: and they own what I'm saying. They more worried about
Speaker 3: my child getting influenced from both parents, my kids being
Speaker 3: able to say they got a mother.
Speaker 1: And a father over their feelings.
Speaker 3: This is just worrying about they feelings nowadays, just how
Speaker 3: nigga makes the feel or what you're doing with the
Speaker 3: next bitch after the relationship didn't work out. It's like
Speaker 3: I'm to the point now where I'm calling holes out,
Speaker 3: like you don't know your kids like that, because if
Speaker 3: you did, you wouldn't even be doing all that extra ship,
Speaker 3: Like we're going out of our way for stuff that
Speaker 3: don't mean ship to the well being of the child
Speaker 3: or even our lifestyle. He's just to make a nigga
Speaker 3: man or to show a nigga what he had us
Speaker 3: fucked up.
Speaker 6: At, or to show a nigga that, hey, I can
Speaker 6: control you because you'll have the.
Speaker 1: Power over this kid ship too. You know how many
Speaker 1: how many women I talked to that shot side to
Speaker 1: the one that he exact it, And I really feel
Speaker 1: kind of sorry for them because niggas looking past them,
Speaker 1: like bro, time to get to know.
Speaker 4: You try to get everybody else and you're talking about
Speaker 4: you want to.
Speaker 1: Go in to you court. You pull up this ship
Speaker 1: fucked up for for the ones that's really would maybe
Speaker 1: want to be deserve that.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell you something else that that that y'all
Speaker 3: not recognize. But like fatherlessness, it makes a lot of
Speaker 3: young men know how to manipulate women because they done
Speaker 3: set up under their mama so much.
Speaker 4: They see what al's and polks and jugs.
Speaker 1: At a woman.
Speaker 3: They see the things that can manipulate the woman. They've
Speaker 3: watched their mama go through stuff with certain men. And
Speaker 3: you ain't got no positive male role model around you,
Speaker 3: Donna turn this ship into manipulation. So they get these
Speaker 3: type of niggas get a lot of pussy because they
Speaker 3: know how to play up under women and manipulate them,
Speaker 3: make them feel a certain.
Speaker 1: Type of way.
Speaker 4: Go yeah, hear you out.
Speaker 3: He ain't lie because a nigga that that got they
Speaker 3: they they own, you know, ship, they building. They ain't
Speaker 3: necessarily going around trying to heal bitches eye. So it's
Speaker 3: some niggas. He ain't got nothing but dick in an ear.
Speaker 1: What's what you say?
Speaker 4: Happened? Baby?
Speaker 3: That's it? You e f gonna let you vent now
Speaker 3: you trauma body? You feel connected again?
Speaker 1: All that ass.
Speaker 3: It's going on down.
Speaker 1: That's when I'm gonna started taking care of your heart.
Speaker 1: I feel like part of your purpose and your journey
Speaker 1: to try to fix what you can. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But deep down in your heart, do you
Speaker 1: also feel like it might be a lost Cause I.
Speaker 3: Don't, And I'm gonna tell you why. Because I see
Speaker 3: women by the masses like flocking to my platform, my zooms,
Speaker 3: the one on one phone calls that you can book
Speaker 3: with me, like women.
Speaker 1: Want to do better.
Speaker 3: We're struggling with and this new babies being born every
Speaker 3: day every day, and we're like I can show y'all
Speaker 3: like some of my dms where people are genuinely like
Speaker 3: you help me go apologize to my baby daddy and
Speaker 3: my son is over there night, people back and back.
Speaker 3: They don't got nobody to tell them this shit, this
Speaker 3: raw and is real. And because I'm raising daughters, I
Speaker 3: ain't gonna stop. You think I'm gonna let you put
Speaker 3: some assholes take over online and influence my daughters to
Speaker 3: do this bump ass shit, No, sir, Like I'm gonna
Speaker 3: put my foot down and make my mark every chance
Speaker 3: I get to help women really see shit different and
Speaker 3: for me to understand, like the women that are top
Speaker 3: notch are the ones that have a standard for you.
Speaker 3: Fact right, all this free ass out here like anything
Speaker 3: for you ain't worth ship, And we really got to start.
Speaker 4: Like being honest about that.
Speaker 3: It's easy and feel good, But like he said, you
Speaker 3: know what I mean, the niggas having all kinds of
Speaker 3: problems with their life because they just fucked the wrong bitch.
Speaker 1: That's all they did. That's what you feel like? That
Speaker 1: make me feel like it's on a nigga bro. You
Speaker 1: should see like that's the only thing that men can't
Speaker 1: control is how you feel about a woman. If you're
Speaker 1: a man. You can't control that you really love a woman. Bro.
Speaker 1: She can say that the simplest ship or the worst
Speaker 1: ship that make you feel the same way. So it's
Speaker 1: just because you tap into all your emotions trying to
Speaker 1: feel these feelings way.
Speaker 5: That sometimes men know that it ain't right. They know
Speaker 5: like how women got that intuition. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: They know what they're getting too, that you know this
Speaker 5: it ain't right.
Speaker 1: Feel good. Like you said, you don't feel right. Go
Speaker 1: you gotta get locked into something. You got a kid now,
Speaker 1: ye nah, But on some real ship, niggas got.
Speaker 8: Definitely women.
Speaker 1: But I'm speaking from my point me because I know
Speaker 1: a lot of shit you have to take accountability for.
Speaker 1: If you know like this, she's gonna shift my life.
Speaker 1: It's just what it is.
Speaker 6: No, it is.
Speaker 1: You can't make them them short term decisions with your dick,
Speaker 1: Like Okay, I'm gonna get a bit pregnant, ye, but
Speaker 1: you gotta done that. Be on the same Hey, you
Speaker 1: know you know anything hell or plan be take this.
Speaker 7: It's a lot of it's a lot of niggas too
Speaker 7: on the flip side of that ship that you trying
Speaker 7: to get bitch is pregnant.
Speaker 3: It is, Yeah, it'd be that way in and when
Speaker 3: you y'all, y'all know it's that that homosexual thing. Well,
Speaker 3: it's niggas that they homeless and they're looking for a
Speaker 3: place to stay there and so I call it survival mode.
Speaker 3: And when a motherfucker survival mode, you can't really come
Speaker 3: with no ethics. It's like you, we go out here
Speaker 3: and we see a homeless person and then we see
Speaker 3: them eating out of trash, You're gonna be like, bro,
Speaker 3: that's not the right thing to do.
Speaker 4: Motherfucker.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to survive. So when you meet a nigga
Speaker 3: frush out of prison, know where to go. Don't got
Speaker 3: no family or one of them niggas that just can't
Speaker 3: get right. He's been struggling since the words struggling was
Speaker 3: made up.
Speaker 4: Like a nigga is a like a predator and a
Speaker 4: lot of them have that that ear where.
Speaker 3: They wouldn't listened to a woman problems get in there
Speaker 3: and they is trying to get up pregnant shit so
Speaker 3: they can be attached to some ship because they ain't
Speaker 3: got shit going on.
Speaker 7: Because they know if I get this bitch pregnant, and
Speaker 7: no other nigga gonna fuck with her, so at least
Speaker 7: for nine months, I'll have a warm place, yep.
Speaker 1: And he can be like a baby mama because he
Speaker 1: was raised by a single mother, so he gonna beat
Speaker 1: her baby straight and play that role.
Speaker 3: So well yeah now, and did a lot of them
Speaker 3: niggas have mamas that she know her son and shit,
Speaker 3: so she gonna, you know, support them in his bullshit
Speaker 3: with you as the baby mama, like you're trying to
Speaker 3: go to the mama thinking she gonna help you, like
Speaker 3: talk some senses to this nigga, so he can act right, step.
Speaker 1: Up for seed. He's a product of her exactly.
Speaker 3: And you know how it is in our community with
Speaker 3: the older mothers and the grandmama's and the big mama's. Boy,
Speaker 3: you can't bring no shit up that showed it they
Speaker 3: did something wrong. They ain't trying to hear that ship
Speaker 3: think you know, I.
Speaker 1: Said, when I can't talk to a woman like period
Speaker 1: I have a conversation with I feel like they try
Speaker 1: to vince everybody to feel how they feel, and they
Speaker 1: feeling that's what want people to operate inside of their feelings.
Speaker 1: That's what we think because I feel this way about
Speaker 1: this person. You should feel this way. It's some relationship
Speaker 1: ship like this sayings were in a relationship. Now I
Speaker 1: want scream to feel how I feel about her because
Speaker 1: she hurt my feelings. Yep. I can't attack your character
Speaker 1: because of some emotional shit. Bro, that's just hurt my feeling.
Speaker 1: That's what is good.
Speaker 8: You could be a good person to him, a good person, yes,
Speaker 8: I'm just in my feeling.
Speaker 3: But you could be a terrible boyfriend and be a
Speaker 3: great father. You could be a fucked up friend and
Speaker 3: your dealings with him, but be loyalist, fucking straight to me.
Speaker 1: Fact.
Speaker 3: And when you see it online, soon as you see
Speaker 3: one of them celebrities get with it could be male
Speaker 3: or female. They get into a new relationship, they finna
Speaker 3: have a kid or something. He'll come to ex.
Speaker 4: Oh he don't take care his kid over him?
Speaker 6: He was finding this nigga ten years ago.
Speaker 4: They talking about some shit from ninety two.
Speaker 1: Now you know that's the new thing.
Speaker 10: Like when the like with these niggas and they separate
Speaker 10: or fall out or break up.
Speaker 6: Either the nigga is I'm sorry, I'm just saying, either
Speaker 6: the nigga.
Speaker 7: Is gay or the nigga is a deadbeat or it's
Speaker 7: like one of the three deadly sins, like he's gay's
Speaker 7: a dead beat?
Speaker 1: Or is ya like that?
Speaker 3: And we're gonna try to convince yeah, but we don't
Speaker 3: try to convince everybody to feel like you said you
Speaker 3: cheating on me. I want you to be viewed as
Speaker 3: a fun up ass nigga say anything an I'm finna
Speaker 3: get on my page, bitch, I'm finna go.
Speaker 4: Up tell you what did yeah, because I can.
Speaker 1: I can live with some truth, you know, for some
Speaker 1: truth with it. You know what I'm saying, and make
Speaker 1: it believable. Cry. They know how to cry to cry life.
Speaker 6: So when you make your eyes and the lies, it
Speaker 6: makes it sweeter.
Speaker 8: Tell the truth all that one thing women know.
Speaker 1: The more emotional I seem, the more believable, Like I
Speaker 1: don't quick to be like bro, you can cry, holler,
Speaker 1: do out that you're still like which just talk to
Speaker 1: yourself for a second, and do I seem like the
Speaker 1: type of nigga that you could tell that type of
Speaker 1: lie to right? But people go for it them nigga
Speaker 1: really don't go for a niggas just some niggas just
Speaker 1: none confrontational and don't want to.
Speaker 8: Go back and forth.
Speaker 4: They know if it's lining, they just sit up there.
Speaker 1: You don't even really care about you. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying something. No, you ain't lie. Yeah, yeah, but
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take snap out.
Speaker 3: Of you, gonna kind of yeah, you gotta put the
Speaker 3: soft voice on basing line.
Speaker 1: You know that true. We passed that point of just
Speaker 1: lying to each other. I used to lie. That's how
Speaker 1: you know, get where you're coming from, get what you're
Speaker 1: trying to do. But it ain't working no.
Speaker 3: More, it ain't working. That ship still work though we
Speaker 3: do it to each other. Why you think like if
Speaker 3: I'm your ex and I see you with her, that's
Speaker 3: your new lady.
Speaker 1: Bro.
Speaker 3: I just want to get in front of her so bad.
Speaker 3: I just need you to see me. I need to
Speaker 3: DM you because I can do that. I can start
Speaker 3: and I can make it.
Speaker 4: Bitch. He was in boxing me yesterday, or he was
Speaker 4: talking to me last week. We just need to get
Speaker 4: in front of a bitch. We can sell that ship
Speaker 4: trying to cross pass back. If you're working, and women
Speaker 4: know what work on other women.
Speaker 3: Because we go off of what's in our minds. If
Speaker 3: I could plant that seed like the Bible, say what
Speaker 3: you take a little mustard seed?
Speaker 4: Niggas a borship.
Speaker 3: Now, I got your lady walking through the house looking
Speaker 3: at your funny He ain't doing nothing but get in
Speaker 3: front of you.
Speaker 4: Were doing it.
Speaker 1: That's just like.
Speaker 6: Colashes and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know gonna find you know, oh.
Speaker 5: What the.
Speaker 1: Hell? Like hell puting the hair that's leaving it on purpose.
Speaker 4: Because it worked. I'm telling you yeah, because the thing is,
Speaker 4: you ain't. I ain't happy you stayed with me. That
Speaker 4: she ain't work out.
Speaker 3: I caught you fucking with another. But you think I'm
Speaker 3: gonna let you walk out in the sunset with her company.
Speaker 6: It ain't.
Speaker 1: It's a cycle that The thing is.
Speaker 3: It makes me feel better in the moment I seen
Speaker 3: a woman like it was a It was a It
Speaker 3: ended up on tiptop, but it started on Instagram. So
Speaker 3: a girl posted a picture and another girl got in
Speaker 3: the on in the comments and said something negative about
Speaker 3: how she looked. She went to the girl page, found
Speaker 3: who her boyfriend was, went to his page.
Speaker 4: In d M two. She just said hey handsome, He
Speaker 4: said hey back.
Speaker 3: She screenshot it Just that made a whole little TikTok
Speaker 3: thing with the screenshot, and all the women in the
Speaker 3: comments telling the woman she should leave her man, They
Speaker 3: all saying he lame, he should never wrote back. All
Speaker 3: we gotta do is just plant that little see. We'll
Speaker 3: fuck up everything. Women start wars, We tell out. You
Speaker 3: know you gotta you look at history, bitch. We will
Speaker 3: make Babylon fall.
Speaker 4: Goddamn it.
Speaker 7: We's every beam, damn near Almost every is a bitch.
Speaker 7: Everything the underlying issue, no matter what you try to
Speaker 7: put on top of it, how you try to make
Speaker 7: it seem like it's about something else, it goes back.
Speaker 1: To the bitch.
Speaker 3: Like Park said, bitches, uh nig bitches get horny, niggas
Speaker 3: start dying ship crazy man.
Speaker 1: Else when I got big, how do we get the
Speaker 1: good women to the forefront.
Speaker 3: Y'all got to prioritize them. Don't give a y'all got
Speaker 3: a problem. You y'all got men.
Speaker 1: Y'all have to prioritize them. You got to celebrate them more. Yeah,
Speaker 1: who you thought like you, but sometimes sometimes quote uncle
Speaker 1: worse than that, y'all because they be lying and acting
Speaker 1: there like good good girl too. As a man, you
Speaker 1: will take certain ship from certain niggas that them good
Speaker 1: women can't like I bually be all in love you
Speaker 1: be all in love with one of them women, and
Speaker 1: she just wanted them one shot to bitch like, but
Speaker 1: y'all love you either, I can't for one time you
Speaker 1: go forever one see then you know you can tell
Speaker 1: the difference.
Speaker 3: But y'all, y'all ask men, y'all got to start prioritizing
Speaker 3: those kind of I don't really want.
Speaker 1: I don't know how to put no value on that though, Bro,
Speaker 1: how do you? I got friends like my friends, my
Speaker 1: homegirls and ship. I value them and I pushed them
Speaker 1: out there like this is a good woman. I try
Speaker 1: to turn them on. The good men. I ain't trying
Speaker 1: to introduce you my partners who think how you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying typical niggas. I'm trying to interest, but
Speaker 1: they don't like them. Niggas that too, don't get me start.
Speaker 1: This is a good woman and this is a great man. Hey,
Speaker 1: y'all need the link. I didn't want to time they
Speaker 1: hunk out. They both I know they players. They not square.
Speaker 8: He's a playoff. He just ain't giving her that he
Speaker 8: might be doing some energy.
Speaker 1: Women don't like them. Count of niggas. Man they like
Speaker 1: the bulls shit what not. I'm not speaking. I'm not
Speaker 1: generalizing because people be thinking I'm saying women certain type
Speaker 1: of women like, certain type of niggas, certain type of.
Speaker 4: Let me say this, we like what we programmed to like.
Speaker 4: And I'm just keep it real.
Speaker 3: Your environment and your upbringing, and then what you sit
Speaker 3: up and watch NonStop as an adult is going to
Speaker 3: shape and mold what you like. That's why it is
Speaker 3: niggas laid up with bitches right now that they don't
Speaker 3: even really fucking like like that. But she fit the
Speaker 3: image of what I'm supposed to like.
Speaker 1: Right. But what I'm saying is what you what makes
Speaker 1: you feel the best, Like you said, every time, everything
Speaker 1: that feel good probably ain't good. But what makes you
Speaker 1: feel the best is some ship you'ret supposed to.
Speaker 6: Fuck with, right, Yeah, it's always always like you.
Speaker 1: Turn it to, all right, I figured it out. Once
Speaker 1: you figure some shit out, you tired of. What do
Speaker 1: you understand?
Speaker 4: That's a belief?
Speaker 1: Like what you just said is a it's a it's
Speaker 1: a But I'm gonna tell you just me.
Speaker 6: You need a business gonna keep you ducking and keep
Speaker 6: you on your toes.
Speaker 4: But that's that's I don't believe you out you you
Speaker 4: have a belief like like.
Speaker 3: Okay, everybody be saying, you know, I protect my piece,
Speaker 3: be a nigga piece, give a man piece.
Speaker 1: But looking what he's saying, he basically saying, nigga ain't
Speaker 1: really looking for no people. You're talking about from the
Speaker 1: from the mindset of what niggas that, what niggas that
Speaker 1: who listen to us? Like I'm different now now I
Speaker 1: can't I can't even argue. I can't even have an
Speaker 1: argument because I'm awaken. I can't have an argument. But
Speaker 1: but okay, so what you've awakened to, Okay, just just
Speaker 1: living in the moment. Man, I'm not going with you.
Speaker 1: If that's where you're at, just tell you, no, you
Speaker 1: you you're here now you're thinking, you're still thinking that
Speaker 1: I'm somebody that I'm not. That's it, That's all.
Speaker 8: That's what I always say.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right, And I understand the way you feel
Speaker 1: like that because I've been that person that you're thinking of.
Speaker 1: I'm not that right. I ain't in the all game
Speaker 1: and go back and forth. I give you a month,
Speaker 1: six months, three days to think about it. I don't
Speaker 1: longer take you to think about it ain't.
Speaker 5: That And that's my thought, Like, before you start trying
Speaker 5: to all these relationships, this is work on yourself.
Speaker 3: Them facts niggas you say, But I see what I
Speaker 3: was going to ask him next, is what changed his taste?
Speaker 3: What got him to the point where he ain't on
Speaker 3: all that arguing all of that stuff. If you look
Speaker 3: at men, you guys, start building and finding a purpose.
Speaker 1: That's what changes your fact. Women.
Speaker 3: So if you talking to the younger niggas, idea is, bro,
Speaker 3: You're gonna like what you like until you get you
Speaker 3: a purpose.
Speaker 1: When you get a purpose, just a believer.
Speaker 3: It's just you believe that because you ain't no real
Speaker 3: ship going on. Get you some real ship going on.
Speaker 3: As a man, some you working on buildings, start working
Speaker 3: on your credits, start looking at to buy property, looking
Speaker 3: at multiple streams of income, look at too, having some
Speaker 3: sort of retirement plan for yourself, look into being something
Speaker 3: to your community.
Speaker 4: You will start to change your taste.
Speaker 8: Understand you got That's what I'm saying, Like, I get what.
Speaker 1: I get there. Man, I don't all that, man, because
Speaker 1: because you really it's really fear.
Speaker 8: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You really fear territory, not fear of being hurt because
Speaker 1: you don't been in a relationship. You know how I
Speaker 1: feel it Like like when the man heart is broke
Speaker 1: or some ship he feel hurt. You nigga be distraught.
Speaker 1: I can't do shit fuck with the nigga talking about
Speaker 1: you be fucked up when you fucked up by the person.
Speaker 1: So with all that said, nigga, if you niggas feel
Speaker 1: like bro, I'm just in the move and shape because
Speaker 1: I don't want to.
Speaker 8: I'm in fear of being that.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, but that can't assume my mind.
Speaker 8: So I get, like you said to a nigga a purpose.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, but that's why the blast man need a
Speaker 3: like a resource pool. Niggas need and I call this
Speaker 3: the well rounded set up. As a grown black man,
Speaker 3: you need o Jesus that's older than you that you
Speaker 3: can tap in with, peers that's your age, that you
Speaker 3: can tap in with and bounce ideas off of and
Speaker 3: go through ship with and talk about ship. And then
Speaker 3: you need some niggas younger than you that can keep
Speaker 3: you up at speed on what's coming. This will will
Speaker 3: help you be a well rounded man. From there, you
Speaker 3: will figure out your purpose and you will start to
Speaker 3: care more about real life ship other than just pussy,
Speaker 3: and it will change your taste organically. Like you're not
Speaker 3: gonna get these young niggas to change, like you said,
Speaker 3: just off of saying what they should be on.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and we gotta change what's a flex because see, like.
Speaker 3: A lot of time ago, it used to be a
Speaker 3: flex to have a family, purchase a home, show up
Speaker 3: as a man.
Speaker 1: That used to be a flex. The things that are
Speaker 1: a flex right now. That's why I say.
Speaker 3: Shit is just a belief at times. The ship that's
Speaker 3: a flex is this new age ship that we're saying
Speaker 3: is a problem. Nigga thinking just getting the bag, no bitch,
Speaker 3: no foundation, no real you know.
Speaker 1: Stability to theyself is a flex.
Speaker 3: And then you got a bunch of other niggas online,
Speaker 3: you know, Big up in him and a nigga called
Speaker 3: another nigga Big Bro, just because he got more money
Speaker 3: than him, the bitch Big Broy. Big Bro put me
Speaker 3: on Big Bro and Big Bron come over there with y'all,
Speaker 3: Bro just cause that nigga came across a bag at
Speaker 3: this particular season, nigga flooding the bitch paper up.
Speaker 1: I told her, you know how you like grew up
Speaker 1: around certain nigga. This nigga ain't never been right, like
Speaker 1: nobody's never listened to his story. He's always been push
Speaker 1: it boy puts it by jump. That's who he be.
Speaker 8: And now he got money.
Speaker 4: That here here like bro saying, ain't nobody never said
Speaker 4: it like what he was saying in life.
Speaker 1: You just got some money.
Speaker 4: Yep, he got him some money and now he right.
Speaker 1: That gotta change.
Speaker 3: This the ship that niggas got the old niggas accountable for.
Speaker 3: Then them niggas that niggas is putting on pedestals. Then
Speaker 3: women are chasing behind them niggas Like you said, a
Speaker 3: nigga that never knew ship just came across a credit
Speaker 3: bag or some ship. You ran across one of them
Speaker 3: niggas in Atlanta somewhere that helped you, you know, get
Speaker 3: some funding and ship. Now you got all all this
Speaker 3: design and show this money and they quoting you, y'all.
Speaker 1: Don't take that ship down.
Speaker 4: Ship though, hard Right.
Speaker 1: Here about your platform where they could check you out.
Speaker 3: Look on so on Instagram everything love door set on
Speaker 3: everything Instagram, love love underscore doors. You could google me
Speaker 3: all this ship to come up the i'mna pick me, Like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm the one they call it. Pick me until you
Speaker 3: really over your mind and sit down and listen, you'll
Speaker 3: realize and really fun of people.
Speaker 1: And I do zooms.
Speaker 3: I got e guys, just really helping you reprogram your
Speaker 3: mind because our people we need to do better. We
Speaker 3: just and we need to do better because we say
Speaker 3: we need to do better, not because outside source telling
Speaker 3: us this.
Speaker 4: So this one of your own from the trenches, been
Speaker 4: there through the ends and eyes. I can meet you
Speaker 4: where you're at and.
Speaker 1: Help you understand. We just need to do better both sides. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's all on the crew.
Speaker 5: And I was gonna ask you to what's what's what's
Speaker 5: the mistake? Like you would say that like young black women,
Speaker 5: like that one mistake along your journey, like this is
Speaker 5: the biggest mistake I made, Like this is the biggest one,
Speaker 5: Like please stay away from making that same mistake where.
Speaker 3: I prioritizing your feelings over reality. And I got a
Speaker 3: little singing. I say, they fucked us up in like
Speaker 3: kindergarten when they taught us about imagination early on, because
Speaker 3: it's a lot of us as adults we living in
Speaker 3: our head like it's just whatever we come up with, whatever.
Speaker 4: We can't manage our thoughts.
Speaker 3: Right, it starts with that, because when you're not healthy
Speaker 3: and you didn't have a clear understanding of your upbringing,
Speaker 3: you end up as an adult that your thoughts run
Speaker 3: you and the bitches is coming from the beliefs program
Speaker 3: in your subconscious mind. So in a nutshell, you imagining
Speaker 3: or picturing shit, or your anxiety got you playing scenarios
Speaker 3: out that ain't even happen, and you can't hear the facts,
Speaker 3: you can't go off of.
Speaker 1: What's really happened.
Speaker 3: This is where you see people acting crazy, especially us
Speaker 3: as women, and when you look at the extent in
Speaker 3: the reality, it's like, bitch, why are you doing all that?
Speaker 3: Like it ain't even that bad, but you perceived it
Speaker 3: to be that bad because you done played out five
Speaker 3: or six different scenarios. So really, just as a woman,
Speaker 3: you know, if you a young girl, prioritize staying out
Speaker 3: your feelings and being able to manage genuinely what you feel.
Speaker 4: Versus reality versus fact versus.
Speaker 3: What is really going on Because it's a lot of
Speaker 3: us we have no real hard up relationships. We perceive
Speaker 3: shiting to be bad because we play scenarios out like
Speaker 3: you was going to know you probably was with that bitch.
Speaker 4: And I told myself in my mind after the nine times, believe, yeah,
Speaker 4: I believe that, Like I done did it.
Speaker 3: I just sat there and I fuck with this nigga
Speaker 3: so hard he ain't answered the phone for an hour.
Speaker 4: I don't play that a whole scenario of what he's
Speaker 4: probably doing.
Speaker 1: And then he did that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, when he got there, I reacted like he did
Speaker 3: what I made up in my mind.
Speaker 1: Nigga, Like, bitch, what the fuck you're talking about? No,
Speaker 1: I know you was with that bitch.
Speaker 3: And y'all went to the store, and I'm I'm pretty
Speaker 3: sure you was with Roy, your homeboy, because that nigga
Speaker 3: always lied for you. How to put everybody in your mama,
Speaker 3: I'm put some ask everybody fuck up?
Speaker 1: Fun wrong with y'all.
Speaker 4: Later on, I realized, like, noamn, what if he didn't
Speaker 4: do it, But I ain't gonna be.
Speaker 1: Account was getting something for you? Bring it up? Wanting
Speaker 1: the old ship that's.
Speaker 8: A new one of mine?
Speaker 1: Like was that what if I ain't doing what you
Speaker 1: thinking that you gotta just usually gotta gd folks key
Speaker 1: words to younger that fuck you up, that statement fuck
Speaker 1: you up.
Speaker 7: But that's our to tell the untriggered. Somebody that's all
Speaker 7: a triggered person. It's hard to tell the un triggered.
Speaker 7: They have to bring themselves down. That's like that, like,
Speaker 7: but it's the responsibility. I'm not saying it's never too late,
Speaker 7: but that's damn there, Like putting together one of them
Speaker 7: fifteen thousand piece puzzles.
Speaker 1: You you ain't gonna do it. They got to, they
Speaker 1: have to do. They gotta want to do it too.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So some people, like I said earlier, you know when
Speaker 1: you're doing some shit like you just said, that's it.
Speaker 1: You knew you up in your mind.
Speaker 3: I ain't told you, but it felt it felt it
Speaker 3: matched what I was feeling. Like you you ain't answer
Speaker 3: the phone. I called you five or six times. My
Speaker 3: insecurities is not coming into play. I'm sitting in my thoughts.
Speaker 3: I'm thinking back that ship I seen in my upbringing
Speaker 3: and certain stuff.
Speaker 1: The intuition sometimes okay, it is lying, you just lying.
Speaker 1: Let me let me be Really.
Speaker 3: Our intuition as a woman does not work if you're
Speaker 3: not in a healthy mental space.
Speaker 1: It don't work. It's it's not cold does intuition? Your
Speaker 1: intuition is created by your reality, and some of you
Speaker 1: people reality is folly. Your intuition is all type of
Speaker 1: thinking about number. That's what your beliefs fucked up.
Speaker 3: Like, yes, it is like a woman that is genuinely intuitive.
Speaker 3: She has a feminine calm demeanor. When we hostile and
Speaker 3: worked up, and even when we overly stressed with parenting.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you a point too, right, we're overly.
Speaker 4: Stressed with parenting.
Speaker 3: This is why I keep pushing against that narrative of
Speaker 3: being a single mama. You will stress yourself the fuck
Speaker 3: out and lose what makes you a woman. You will
Speaker 3: lose it because you you annoy it twenty four seven.
Speaker 4: The kids, ain't you rut?
Speaker 3: You get up in the morning, kids moving slow, You
Speaker 3: start cussing them out and rushing them, fussing you late,
Speaker 3: the word you get, the people.
Speaker 1: On the job annoying you.
Speaker 3: Your whole demeanor becomes an energy. That's an attitude twenty
Speaker 3: four seven. That's why we're normalizing resting bitch faces and
Speaker 3: niggas is calling it cute for bitches to be her mean,
Speaker 3: her fine, mean ass y'all even willing to accept the
Speaker 3: shit now because we're doing it so much, And it's
Speaker 3: that's not what a woman is. Intuition comes from a
Speaker 3: place of peace. It's a much mother nature thing.
Speaker 1: Appreciation.
Speaker 3: It's just it's a fact, you know what I mean,
Speaker 3: Like you can spend it how you want to spend it.
Speaker 1: This is just truth as a woman. Do you think
Speaker 1: do you think women are just making like a false
Speaker 1: wall like you said earlier, like they know they want
Speaker 1: a man, they know they want to be a woman,
Speaker 1: but they just got this false wall reality. Yeah.
Speaker 3: And I'm gonna tell you something because I struggled with
Speaker 3: this when I stepped out here, like after coming out
Speaker 3: the streets and realizing like, like bro, I can I
Speaker 3: can be something on both ends of the spectrum. Right,
Speaker 3: So now I'm a boss bitch, like I'm stepping into business.
Speaker 3: I'm understanding how to touch real money and shit like that.
Speaker 3: You realize, like, Okay, I pop my shit in rooms
Speaker 3: like a nigga a lot of times. Right when I
Speaker 3: get home. No man wants that in his household. We
Speaker 3: don't have enough conversations about how to manage that ship.
Speaker 3: So get to the point where it's like I'm feeling
Speaker 3: like I got a compromise my being a boss bitch
Speaker 3: for having a man.
Speaker 4: It's like I can't have both. But we we're not.
Speaker 3: We're not nurturing the conversation that like boss women got
Speaker 3: the talk and bitch, how you turn that.
Speaker 1: Shit off when you go home? Because you're running the
Speaker 1: company in the world.
Speaker 4: You gotta be that. Anybody know, you're running a team
Speaker 4: of people are.
Speaker 1: Youssive to the right situation, So so yes and no.
Speaker 4: Right, obviously the man has to come with that energy.
Speaker 3: So yes, But the no part is, I don't give
Speaker 3: a damn how much of a excuse me a provider
Speaker 3: or alpha male you are if you're dealing with one
Speaker 3: of the women that it is embedded for her to
Speaker 3: be independent and there's a flex she ain't gonna do nothing,
Speaker 3: but it'll be a power struggle.
Speaker 6: She gonna she's supposed to be the leader.
Speaker 1: Can't turn it off. It's listen.
Speaker 3: It's a lot of men that I do one on
Speaker 3: one phone calls with that are successful men and they
Speaker 3: have boss females.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: They woman got her own business, She top of the
Speaker 3: food chain in her career field. And when they come
Speaker 3: home a lot of times like it's a power strung
Speaker 3: and it's like, I love my woman, I don't want
Speaker 3: to leave it, but it's like a battle. More successful
Speaker 3: she is, the more I feel like I'm with a nigga.
Speaker 3: You see, I'm telling you, as a woman that's really
Speaker 3: getting to it out here, you have to intentionally tackle
Speaker 3: this shit. They gotta be something on the front of
Speaker 3: your brain that you're nurturing as a woman, Like I'm
Speaker 3: not trying to be this with my man. When when
Speaker 3: we started getting more rights as women coming from history,
Speaker 3: you know, we getting jobs.
Speaker 4: We we aiming to earn what y'all earn.
Speaker 3: The first thing a bitch flex on a nigga when
Speaker 3: she paying for shit is the money we start.
Speaker 1: Doing what we said we ain't like niggas doing.
Speaker 3: This is why them dudes that be homosexuals living with
Speaker 3: a bitch makeup, man suit and she that's I bought
Speaker 3: everything you got on fuck nigga, Like we're finna fuck.
Speaker 3: I paid the bit, get your ship and get out.
Speaker 3: This is what the fuck you got to get out
Speaker 3: and then then we get back together. How fuck this
Speaker 3: nigga gonna be your nigga?
Speaker 4: You just Sunday here in front.
Speaker 1: Of the kids, always said, wants to respect on this
Speaker 1: man like, but then, but a nigga, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, a hobo sexual nigga stay around still. I
Speaker 1: hate this bitch brother, this bitch my wife, get on
Speaker 1: my ship and I would deb when you fuck all
Speaker 1: that that's what they're going over.
Speaker 7: But then that's what that's same, that same ship that
Speaker 7: you're talking about though, like with the hobot sexual, that
Speaker 7: ship that's that ship will go back to like you said,
Speaker 7: when a nigga doesn't have any other alternatives or any
Speaker 7: other auto box and he has to do with that,
Speaker 7: that ship will push a nigga over the edge because
Speaker 7: you got it.
Speaker 1: Like niggas just can't live in like city like Atlanta
Speaker 1: trying to be you know, like it ship fucked up.
Speaker 1: It's two too many to one.
Speaker 8: It's two many.
Speaker 1: Women.
Speaker 8: Like I said, they just saying what it is like.
Speaker 8: But I ain't trying to do all that.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to do that, right, They saying what it
Speaker 1: is like a nigga like, hey, fuck out it.
Speaker 8: I ain't trying to I ain't trying to nothing.
Speaker 1: Even the women women not doing that nothing like you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, I ain't Finna keep sitting in
Speaker 1: the cut man waiting ROVERO. Hey, it's fucked up, man,
Speaker 1: it is. It's fucked up. They just I don't know
Speaker 1: how to explain, because how you're gonna not be seen
Speaker 1: if you're not seen, that's how they're looking at us.
Speaker 1: They just coming to women are getting more bold, like hey,
Speaker 1: approach your niggas.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but we this was getting on the knees and
Speaker 6: ship this.
Speaker 4: We gotta stop this masculine overlea.
Speaker 3: The more we're going into that road, the more it's
Speaker 3: pushing niggas into whole ass rolls.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm.
Speaker 3: Saying that, like the balance need to lean back the
Speaker 3: other way because we moving niggas in with us. We
Speaker 3: paying for everything we and then we're doing it because
Speaker 3: by nature there's that urge to have a man.
Speaker 1: That's why we.
Speaker 3: Laid up with fuck niggas and niggas that he ain't
Speaker 3: gonna get it ship together no time.
Speaker 4: So and we know that like if you ask a.
Speaker 1: Bitch and you aren't gonna tell the nigga, but she
Speaker 1: said she gonna.
Speaker 3: Tell you, Like I know he ain't ship but I
Speaker 3: love him though, just being able to say that they
Speaker 3: got companionship, cause that shit lonely, especially when you start
Speaker 3: to become successful and you realize like, I'm in this
Speaker 3: bitch by myself, and you could see it when women
Speaker 3: be for other women. First thing we throw out there,
Speaker 3: well help men that this without a man being a
Speaker 3: part of the conversation. Bitch go to bringing up how
Speaker 3: fuck your nigga or you ain't got no nigga? Like,
Speaker 3: we really got to start embodying just being feminine, being
Speaker 3: in a space where you could be as boss as
Speaker 3: you want with your business.
Speaker 4: But in regards to men, require.
Speaker 3: Them to step up and flex what they have naturally,
Speaker 3: which is masculinity. It comes out when the environment demands
Speaker 3: that it does, otherwise it won't.
Speaker 4: That's what turned boys into men. They got to be
Speaker 4: a part of something. There has to be a purpose.
Speaker 3: There has to be some sort of rules or wants
Speaker 3: that the man chooses to discipline himself to have or follow,
Speaker 3: and it has to come organically.
Speaker 4: From that dude or in our community.
Speaker 1: They gonna get.
Speaker 3: Pushed towards the system where you're gonna conform to that
Speaker 3: shit in prison, or you're gonna be another nigga, bitch
Speaker 3: ass homeboy.
Speaker 1: Y'all.
Speaker 3: See, there's plenty of artists in the niggas and they entorage. Hey,
Speaker 3: go get this ya as crossing the bridge and get
Speaker 3: cheesecake for another nigga trying to get on like until
Speaker 3: you figure out your own purpose.
Speaker 1: It just is what it is for men.
Speaker 4: And this is the this is the reality that we
Speaker 4: need the state to black boys.
Speaker 3: Like, bro, if you don't see about you, your mental health,
Speaker 3: what you want for yourself, like some women gonna come
Speaker 3: and run you and conform you to her idea because,
Speaker 3: like you say, bitches is stepping up, just setting households
Speaker 3: up how they want it like a nigga, or you
Speaker 3: gonna end up out here like lost, the world gonna
Speaker 3: run you.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 7: But it's a lot of niggas too though, that are
Speaker 7: not bread winners and that are not the quote unquote
Speaker 7: leader in certain aspects of their household. But it's still
Speaker 7: like a glass clayer understanding in their household that they
Speaker 7: wear the pants.
Speaker 6: Right.
Speaker 3: I come from a time where and I you know
Speaker 3: I've said this before. This is one of the videos
Speaker 3: that first went viral when I started making Lives and
Speaker 3: Shit online but I explained, like a lot of niggas
Speaker 3: don't realize if you because in this country, you're only
Speaker 3: valuable in like three or four ways as a man,
Speaker 3: right if you have to be intellectually successful men, and
Speaker 3: you're smart enough to touch success. A skilled labor where
Speaker 3: you actually can work with your.
Speaker 4: Hands and build things.
Speaker 3: Infrastructure is every bit of what represents men, the worlds,
Speaker 3: the buildings, the fucking you know, every job that a
Speaker 3: woman would never want to do, you got men handling that.
Speaker 3: And those jobs are the basis of how society functions.
Speaker 3: The garbage truck drivers, the truckers, the people that do
Speaker 3: construction work, plumbing, Sue's roofing, all the real shit that
Speaker 3: allows us to exist, right right, It's exactly, it's only
Speaker 3: certain areas, of certain pockets that society deems a nigga successful.
Speaker 3: When when you when you look at yourself as a man,
Speaker 3: if you realize that I have, for example, those skilled
Speaker 3: labor abilities, I take a trade. You got to be
Speaker 3: able to walk in a room full of women even
Speaker 3: though you ain't got the biggest bag or the most
Speaker 3: expensive designer or the nicest car, and say, bitch.
Speaker 4: I'm rich.
Speaker 3: I'm like you marry a nigga like me. You can
Speaker 3: build us a house.
Speaker 1: Bitch.
Speaker 3: I can like your cop break down. I can take
Speaker 3: the motor apart, put that bitch back together your breaks.
Speaker 3: We ain't got to pay nobody all changes. And this
Speaker 3: is money without being direct money.
Speaker 4: It's currency. Niggas that work with their hands, that is money.
Speaker 4: Like I grew up.
Speaker 1: Watching my dad.
Speaker 3: That nigga could build a house, do roofing, take a
Speaker 3: part of the car landscape. He digging up the yard,
Speaker 3: putting down sprinkling systems. He ended up doing electrical work.
Speaker 3: Hold this right here for me, baby, do this, get
Speaker 3: in there. Pumped them breaks me ja Mama, don't let
Speaker 3: too much aye in this bitch bleed the line. I
Speaker 3: stop now pumping.
Speaker 4: When I take like these this niggas that like they're
Speaker 4: aware of what they are.
Speaker 3: Everybody looking for a nigga to have a bag or
Speaker 3: some flashy fancy shit and were getting away from what
Speaker 3: makes a man a man. This is the real responsibilities,
Speaker 3: the stuff that like when you look around, women should
Speaker 3: be valuing that in men. This is where y'all can
Speaker 3: get together and you could build and you could grow.
Speaker 3: You can start worrying about the real shit.
Speaker 6: So let me ask you this then. Okay, so.
Speaker 7: When it comes to the niggas that have the trades,
Speaker 7: that have the mental capability, that are able to do
Speaker 7: the financials and all that stuff, what do you suggest
Speaker 7: to the little dick niggas.
Speaker 3: They're gonna have to work even ha you got You're
Speaker 3: gonna have to have some bread and.
Speaker 4: It can't be smart. You gonna have to come with it.
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to come with and the head got
Speaker 1: on your feet and the hair got to be exceptional.
Speaker 4: You got to go work on that. Yeah, you got.
Speaker 1: Guess what our bullshes side. They'll try to see these days.
Speaker 1: Women will try to get a nigga that's good with
Speaker 1: his hand and feel like, Okay, I make the more money.
Speaker 1: But like you said, this money, this ship. I'm doing
Speaker 1: the money because we got to pay for this ship. Right.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I got whatever little company
Speaker 1: or whatever.
Speaker 8: But she runs whatever. Yeah, she running ship.
Speaker 1: Now I got to be masculated by her because what
Speaker 1: she said she got with them. Man.
Speaker 4: But that so I put that on y'all like as.
Speaker 3: But but I'm gonna say this though, Hose is doing
Speaker 3: that because even amongst men. I I don't see y'all
Speaker 3: out in the open like on the internet and where
Speaker 3: it could be seen by the masses. Given props to
Speaker 3: men that are skilled laborers and everybody praising the flashy niggas.
Speaker 3: What about like y'all garbage got to be carried off
Speaker 3: y'all street, But it's gonna be staying, like somebody got
Speaker 3: to come fix the plumbing.
Speaker 1: When the toilet clog up breaks.
Speaker 3: Yes, like what we need to start really advertising that
Speaker 3: these men are.
Speaker 1: Men, that we need some of the new kids in
Speaker 1: the new generation to be something else gonna have to be.
Speaker 8: Come on, not even entertainers. Niggas gonna have to do
Speaker 8: like you.
Speaker 1: Said, you gotta lights, building, building type of ship money.
Speaker 4: But I feel like, for for men, y'all got to
Speaker 4: say that more to men.
Speaker 11: Y'all gotta we were saying episode won't get a job,
Speaker 11: Yeah yeah, job, yeah it.
Speaker 1: You gotta learn some niggatta, learn some niggatta unlearn some
Speaker 1: of the bullshit and learn a lot of the more
Speaker 1: this other ship man.
Speaker 3: But and the job ain't gotta be flashy, like it
Speaker 3: ain't gotta be one of them, because I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 3: I go in places and the vibe is different here
Speaker 3: in Atlanta, but like you know, I'm you know, back
Speaker 3: in Tampa, Florida. You go in places and you know
Speaker 3: you see a young black dude in there working. He damn,
Speaker 3: they're like if you are pretty, bitch like.
Speaker 8: You walk in you somebody like you, neo.
Speaker 4: He turned his head like you don't want you to
Speaker 4: see this.
Speaker 3: When I go done, andy boy, I see you get
Speaker 3: that check boy, you in here like if you're working
Speaker 3: in food service, this nigga, I'm smiling all that because
Speaker 3: I need the young boys to know, Bru, Everybody don't
Speaker 3: gotta be no fucking rapper. Everybody don't gotta be no
Speaker 3: street nigga, and everybody job that's borified.
Speaker 1: Everybody got. Everybody gotta start at one hundred.
Speaker 8: You can start at zero.
Speaker 1: You gotta know that. You know what I'm saying, because
Speaker 1: you hear so many niggas like I can't do this
Speaker 1: because I ain't got this man.
Speaker 8: You gotta start the motherfucker's on later. You know what
Speaker 8: I'm say saying.
Speaker 12: You can start at zero, bro, make it to But
Speaker 12: we need some niggas to go into careers where you
Speaker 12: ain't trying to ever get off this and go to
Speaker 12: some flash you're trying to grow this Like, we need
Speaker 12: to see niggas go into being airline.
Speaker 3: Pilots and just areas like these bridges we drive across.
Speaker 3: Somebody got to be an underwater welder. Some niggas got
Speaker 3: to be willing to go out on that boat and
Speaker 3: do you know the real work with oil and whales
Speaker 3: and all kinds of shit just there are we We
Speaker 3: need to really promote niggas doing the real jobs that
Speaker 3: make the world go around. We need to be honest
Speaker 3: at them, the jobs that make the world go around,
Speaker 3: just keeping it real. For like, every nigga, even the
Speaker 3: flashy nigga need a nigga like what I'm talking about women,
Speaker 3: We need them kind of niggas. But you take the
Speaker 3: richest nigga, he need one of the talking.
Speaker 4: I was one of them niggas.
Speaker 3: Man, y'all wouldn't be able to tell me shit, bitch,
Speaker 3: I'm rich. I wouldn't give a fuck how much money
Speaker 3: the next nigga got that you fucking on you, and
Speaker 3: that nigga got to call me when you're caught up.
Speaker 3: Did I work at the dealership in the back at
Speaker 3: the beer's dealership. I'm the one fucking with you motive.
Speaker 4: God damn it, y'all need me straight up.
Speaker 5: I love it.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 4: We just need this need to be the verbage more often.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3: I feel like we were being programmed and marketed to
Speaker 3: so much other ship that these ain't even the conversations
Speaker 3: that's being had we sold, you know, just talking about
Speaker 3: the celebrities business and making some ship look a certain
Speaker 3: way online and then y'all know, everybody get online and
Speaker 3: they're showing or they trying to show the highlights.
Speaker 1: That's really what it is.
Speaker 4: Everything gets the highlights after the.
Speaker 1: Game real ship, you're gonna you're gonna get them small
Speaker 1: little clips and making it look like a whole like facts,
Speaker 1: we all do it because I ain't got there waking
Speaker 1: up in the morning and posting go damn all in
Speaker 1: my eyes and ship me wake up and go.
Speaker 3: But I'm gonna tell you the really platforms, platforms like y'all,
Speaker 3: were you willing to talk about the moments where you're
Speaker 3: waking up and the ship in your eyes, beefing with
Speaker 3: your bitch or certain stuff?
Speaker 1: Ain't right.
Speaker 3: A nigga took a loss on certain cause people got
Speaker 3: to know, like, sh it ain't all flashing come with this.
Speaker 3: That's why the younger generation, they're thirteen, they won't but
Speaker 3: lissiaga and they want you to like just no no
Speaker 3: real understanding for what it takes, the earnest kind of money.
Speaker 3: They just feel like they deserve it because everybody on
Speaker 3: TikTok got it. And that's how they're coming at their
Speaker 3: parents and then.
Speaker 6: TikTok got these kids fucked up.
Speaker 3: They want everything on the trim it could be, and
Speaker 3: I mean it could be anything. They feed it to
Speaker 3: them enough in front of their face, that condition and kicking.
Speaker 6: Ox tail, French fries, all kind.
Speaker 3: But this is why we gotta explain more to what
Speaker 3: the internet is, because it's a tool, Like it's a
Speaker 3: tool that kept.
Speaker 7: My guy maybe asked me for I tell omlet the
Speaker 7: other day. I'm like, you're talking about you six years old,
Speaker 7: like she's seeing it on TikTok.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I'm like, bro, we want you to commit to
Speaker 8: come back two times, y'all.
Speaker 1: Locking it in now, lock it up.
Speaker 7: We need like just like I read the forty eight
Speaker 7: of Power, every six months, need to come back like
Speaker 7: every what five months?
Speaker 1: Whatever you feel, whatever, someone hit us. Yeah, we're about
Speaker 1: to drop more ship like we about to drive.
Speaker 8: We got next.
Speaker 1: Ye were driving three times week like you said, we're
Speaker 1: talking to the regular people the college. I'm talking to
Speaker 1: everybout it. Like we was dropping once a week. We're
Speaker 1: wanta start driving two three times a week.
Speaker 3: And that's what's up I'm looking for because y'all platform though,
Speaker 3: anywhere I can go and we can really talk about
Speaker 3: the real ship.
Speaker 1: I fuck that. Yeah, likewise, too much.
Speaker 3: Ship water down and I turned down a lot of
Speaker 3: opportunities to speak with people because I'm knowing you're finna
Speaker 3: ask me some bullshit stuff that don't got nothing to
Speaker 3: do with my people really get some game like.
Speaker 1: We hate it. Ain't no clickbake. We ain't trying to
Speaker 1: get no clickbak.
Speaker 6: We're trying to help nas.
Speaker 1: We're saying this ship in the ways niggas can get it.
Speaker 1: Like the motherfuckers who don't understand or feel like we
Speaker 1: talk a little country. I ain't talking y'all anyway, right
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, y'all don't get what we're saying. I'm
Speaker 1: telling this ship to while we once was when we
Speaker 1: see still there's people that are still like every day,
Speaker 1: Like I do this ship every day.
Speaker 8: Now, I don't just on it. People call me they
Speaker 8: real ship and just look at it like our perspective.
Speaker 1: And people won't help regardless of how we make it
Speaker 1: look online.
Speaker 3: Like you said, ain't nobody really on there trying to
Speaker 3: show their flaws, But people won't help because they reach
Speaker 3: out to me.
Speaker 4: All my platform is that it's therapy.
Speaker 3: I remember it was a time I took my Instagram
Speaker 3: down for maybe I think I did it for like
Speaker 3: a week.
Speaker 4: Man.
Speaker 3: The people were going crazy. I done did it with
Speaker 3: Facebook before in the past. They started a damn petition
Speaker 3: to make me put my page back up because they
Speaker 3: they saying the videos are therapy. Just need somebody to
Speaker 3: tell them shit that even their own mama and daddy
Speaker 3: never kicked it to them straight like that, just to
Speaker 3: get up off their ass and really be accountable for
Speaker 3: their own life.
Speaker 1: No facts. Everybody got a conversation.
Speaker 3: Right, right, and they can relate when you when you're
Speaker 3: kicking it to the ground level, like we ain't talking
Speaker 3: up with it and we ain't sitting up here discussing
Speaker 3: celebrity business and you know what I mean, just shooting
Speaker 3: the ship using the platform to talk about unnecessary shit
Speaker 3: like everything just need to be relevant. It needs to
Speaker 3: be brought back there. How can it help somebody? How
Speaker 3: can it motivate while entertaining? How can it teach?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
Speaker 4: What can it be and learn from watching this ship?
Speaker 5: In fact, I agree total mm hmm love Dorsey, salute
Speaker 5: you appreciate you pull it up.
Speaker 1: I appreciate y'all follow her.
Speaker 8: But she ain't like she ain't.
Speaker 4: Already.
Speaker 1: As soon as I walked in, you need to move that.
Speaker 4: I'm like, damn you do.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, brother, when you come up in and
Speaker 1: talk this ship, man is the way they can hear
Speaker 1: it where they can get it.
Speaker 8: Bro, you know what I'm saying. Even just I don't know,
Speaker 8: we're gonna do what we gotta do.
Speaker 1: You know, when I first got this ship, I came
Speaker 1: on it, motherfuckers, just to talk. My ship kicks ship,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But then I started saying, oh,
Speaker 1: now people resonating with this ship, because sometimes come on
Speaker 1: here and say the wrong ship. At first, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like I'm just being real, But now
Speaker 1: I know that they tuning in and they texting me
Speaker 1: bro perspective, Gonna make sure they give him the right one.
Speaker 3: Y'all, y'all realize what y'all are, like genuinely just y'all
Speaker 3: platform like together with y'all. Like it's a lot of
Speaker 3: people that this is therapy. This is not just entertainment.
Speaker 3: It's something, you know, like back in the day when
Speaker 3: we only had a certain amount of channels on the TV.
Speaker 4: This is like one of them channels.
Speaker 3: Like you know how Channel thirteen was the news your grandma, Like,
Speaker 3: this is one of them channels.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, trapping mother. But lords, we love you. I
Speaker 1: appreciate your perspectively. Thank you for having me. All right,
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