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Speaker 2: Yeahs like the girls say we need to be doing

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Speaker 4: It's just messed us up there in the.

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Speaker 1: Little seal got on my little booty short.

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Speaker 2: It's just taking up spade what I don't know, you

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Speaker 1: SINGERL want to say the singer she said, a little steal,

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Speaker 3: I used to love me some time, keeople.

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Speaker 1: That was my mama songs. And what was I singing about?

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Speaker 4: Because I had to be in like kindergarten or something.

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Speaker 1: first topic. Okay, I went to the park the other day, right, like,

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Speaker 1: and Girls club. You know what I'm saying. You know

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Speaker 1: Ah? Why am I watching you play basketball? And you

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, there's a snowball truck or

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Speaker 1: I love me an athletic man. I'm not saying you

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Speaker 3: Don't invite me because as soon as we get into it,

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Speaker 1: Was looking like shap we get into it, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: I see I probably would have just got distracted and

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Speaker 1: But that's all I'm saying. When but when he got

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Speaker 4: Back in the day, I could do that.

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Speaker 1: You was a cheerleader. You know what's a good time.

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Speaker 1: But y'all not You cannot get on a tennis court

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Speaker 1: shut up. Yep, Yeah, that's what we're gonna tell him.

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Speaker 1: Shut up, girl, because you sounded like a girl. You

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Speaker 1: mind you be mind Yeah a business. Okay, So y'all

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Speaker 2: All right, So for the first topic, I really want

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Speaker 1: They used to make jokes.

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Speaker 3: Well, I know my daddy, he used to make jokes

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Speaker 2: Absolutely not. They did not prepare me for nothing. So

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Speaker 1: But she was always reading.

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Speaker 2: Them freak nasty books in her book club, so I

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Speaker 2: the historical romance Beverly Jenkins. Yes, so I was reading

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Speaker 2: all that I wanted, the slavery sex and the presentation

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to see how they used to do, get creative,

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Speaker 3: Said pale loon is what he's giving, it was funky

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Speaker 1: Dick watching science.

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Speaker 2: He's uplip and everything else a cent to remember.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, so anyway I'm getting away from things.

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Speaker 2: It's a cent to remember. But I was reading this

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Speaker 2: God and all that, but I wasn't trying to hear

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Speaker 2: the introductory things are there were certain expectations that I

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00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:07,240
Speaker 2: had either been taught from movies or TV or just

438
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 2: social things, and I'm forming my expectations from all these

439
00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:13,360
Speaker 2: different things, but nobody is telling me how to really

440
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:17,480
Speaker 2: interact it. Certain things like money conversations, the ability do

441
00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:19,399
Speaker 2: they have kids or not? You in high school, you

442
00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 2: in college, you don't want somebody, you know, little things

443
00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,119
Speaker 2: like that, But nobody is talking about how to handle

444
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:24,960
Speaker 2: things together.

445
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:27,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, and fast forward to now.

446
00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 2: My mom is divorced, but I think her and my

447
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,840
Speaker 2: stepdaddy go together. So I don't know what's going on there.

448
00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:36,879
Speaker 2: And I'm like, yeah, I do be doing a lot

449
00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 2: of things that I see you do, like just weird

450
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:41,200
Speaker 2: stuff and I didn't learn.

451
00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:43,160
Speaker 1: And you know what, also, I think is weird too

452
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:46,159
Speaker 1: with our generator, like we always thought like this is

453
00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:49,080
Speaker 1: a scene on Bad Boys, if y'all remember, like when

454
00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:51,120
Speaker 1: the boy comes and picks up the girl for prom

455
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,080
Speaker 1: and the dad is like at the door with a gun.

456
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:55,000
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, I just think that

457
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 1: that's corny and it is cause to me, it's like, yes,

458
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:00,320
Speaker 1: you want to protect your daughter, but this is a

459
00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:02,239
Speaker 1: moment to say, you know what, let me pull them

460
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:04,359
Speaker 1: to the side and have a real conversation. And you

461
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:06,200
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, like, let me can speak well,

462
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 1: you know, see see the things that are important rather

463
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:10,680
Speaker 1: than be like, oh, I'm gonna scare you, and it

464
00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,200
Speaker 1: like but I know, we it's supposed to be a joke,

465
00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 1: but people start taking that stuff literal because on social

466
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:18,879
Speaker 1: media that was going viral a few years ago with

467
00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 1: like men in the background would a gun and their

468
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 1: daughter in front of them with like their prom dress on,

469
00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 1: Like that is wild. That's not the proper thing to

470
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 1: do to Like, we're not having conversations. We're just like, oh,

471
00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:33,280
Speaker 1: be afraid of my daughter. Then on the other end,

472
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:36,240
Speaker 1: we're teaching the young boys like, oh, yeah, you pull

473
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,119
Speaker 1: a woman, you're supposed to be fucking. You supposed to

474
00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:40,920
Speaker 1: be it's okay to be fucking. Like, no, it's not okay.

475
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:44,960
Speaker 1: Like we never have healthy conversations about sex and.

476
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:48,920
Speaker 3: Things right, which is so crazy to be because you know,

477
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:51,200
Speaker 3: you have that on one end, But then with the

478
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 3: little girls, if you wear short shorts or if you're

479
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,960
Speaker 3: wearing like a two piece swimsuit, people are over sexualizing you.

480
00:22:58,040 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 3: If you're a little carbag, she's are your hervey year

481
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:03,520
Speaker 3: than you should be for your age. And now you fast. Yeah,

482
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 3: we get the stigma of being fast. But then they're

483
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:09,280
Speaker 3: out here telling the young boys to go fuck to go.

484
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:15,199
Speaker 3: So it's like what it doesn't make sense at all or.

485
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:18,200
Speaker 2: That, Like, Okay, boys are supposed to get experienced and

486
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 2: you're supposed to do this. Why the girls are supposed

487
00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 2: to maintain their virtue.

488
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 4: So who y'all supposed to be?

489
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 1: I would like to know. It's a complete unbalanced. But

490
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:33,159
Speaker 1: I think that unbalanced shows in our generation with our

491
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:37,800
Speaker 1: dating now, Like it's so apparent that we do not

492
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 1: know how to date anymore because our parents. I'm not

493
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:42,200
Speaker 1: gonna lie, Like when it comes to my mom, like

494
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:44,600
Speaker 1: my mom was married. My dad passed away when I

495
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,119
Speaker 1: was very young, So growing up, my mom was just

496
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,560
Speaker 1: always like, you don't need a man, be independent, do

497
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 1: this on your own. But if you do have a man,

498
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 1: make sure he sets you up, which nothing is wrong

499
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 1: with that, but basically our independence was so forefront. It

500
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:03,359
Speaker 1: was just like my mom didn't have no tolerance for bullshit,

501
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 1: which is not a bad thing, but I do believe

502
00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 1: I wish that my mom would have dated more and

503
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 1: been more out there and given herself and you know

504
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, and had that experience of finding love again,

505
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 1: but she was so closed off to it because she's like, no, no,

506
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:20,159
Speaker 1: this is this is it. You know. I had my

507
00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:22,680
Speaker 1: husband that was me, and I'm just like, so I

508
00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 1: never really saw my mom really truly being in love,

509
00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I think with that,

510
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:31,560
Speaker 1: I don't want to say, don't teach women how to

511
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Speaker 1: be independent, but I think as much as we need to, hey,

512
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,800
Speaker 1: nobody's coming to save you, but also we need to

513
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 1: teach about partnership, be open to love. We don't teach

514
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Speaker 1: that in the black community at all.

515
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Speaker 5: You know.

516
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Speaker 2: I was talking to my mom about that because I

517
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Speaker 2: have a brother who's twenty three, and just looking at

518
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 2: how I'm the oldest, looking at how I was brought

519
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 2: up as a girl versus him, I would think it

520
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 2: would be flip flopped. All of the talk about being

521
00:24:59,880 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 2: in dependent, being on your stuff. It's like being the

522
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 2: oldest daughter. That's pressure because you have to do everything first.

523
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 2: Your parents are figuring it out first. And I'm not

524
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:13,639
Speaker 2: mad at them. They're not gentle parents, but it's a

525
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:16,320
Speaker 2: gentler form of parenting. They're giving him more room to

526
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,360
Speaker 2: figure out what he wants to do. And he still

527
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 2: ain't got to figure it out, but we're just gonna

528
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 2: keep him on the prayer list.

529
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Speaker 1: It's just so much software. But I was like when

530
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 1: I was twenty three.

531
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 2: I was living here in Atlanta trying to figure it out.

532
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 2: I had already gone to college. I did everything the

533
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 2: right way and thinking that that was right. And I

534
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 2: guess they learned that you don't always need to do

535
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 2: it that way. It's just like it's very different.

536
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 1: I also think that.

537
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:40,720
Speaker 2: Instead of teaching the women to be so independent, we

538
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,359
Speaker 2: just need more balance, like you said, and something I

539
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:46,440
Speaker 2: had asked a lot of the men on XO Man.

540
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 2: I asked them, the ones with children, and I asked

541
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 2: them about what they're teaching their sons about love and

542
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 2: relationships and dating and all.

543
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 1: Of that, and what were you taught.

544
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 2: A lot of them weren't taught at all, like what

545
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 2: we're saying. They're like our age and older. And then

546
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 2: some of them are teaching their kids certain things, and

547
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:05,640
Speaker 2: then others don't have them yet, so they're trying.

548
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:05,920
Speaker 1: To figure it out.

549
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:08,440
Speaker 2: But yeah, it's like y'all got to talk to them

550
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 2: about that. Some of them are still avoidant and yeah.

551
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 2: I asked my brother, like, where are you getting your

552
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:15,439
Speaker 2: advice from?

553
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 1: Because you're making bad decisions and he was like, well,

554
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 1: I don't know.

555
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 4: It's a bunch of I don't know why everybody don't know,

556
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 4: and yeah, please call me more.

557
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 1: But that was such a good example that you said,

558
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 1: because they're teaching us to be independent and provide for

559
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 1: ourselves and do that, but they don't teach the little

560
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: boys that it's always all give him grace, girl trying

561
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:35,160
Speaker 1: to He's gonna figure it out. You can figure it out.

562
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 4: Make sure no girl is using you. But then you're

563
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:43,040
Speaker 4: telling me y'all yet, ma'am, And I'm like you, ma'am.

564
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 1: Or the problem.

565
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Speaker 3: I think it's the internet too, though, because I think

566
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 3: even if you want to be somebody that wants to

567
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:51,399
Speaker 3: really fall in love and you want to be a

568
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:53,639
Speaker 3: liver boy or a liver girl, you have all of

569
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:57,000
Speaker 3: these podcasts and all of this information on the Internet

570
00:26:57,080 --> 00:26:59,080
Speaker 3: that's making you be like, Okay, well, like I don't

571
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 3: know because I don't want to give played. Maybe y'all

572
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 3: need to protect myself. Maybe I do need to be

573
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 3: a player. Maybe I do need today multiple women instead

574
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 3: of just settling down with one person. Cause I am young,

575
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 3: so I feel like a lot of the time it's

576
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:12,160
Speaker 3: all of these propaganda that's being put out as well

577
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:13,800
Speaker 3: that's affecting the youth.

578
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 1: And I feel like we didn't have this.

579
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:23,159
Speaker 3: I'm dull, I was dumb, dumb, But I also I

580
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 3: won't worry about out they playing me.

581
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I was just saying we was all playing.

582
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:31,719
Speaker 1: I do agree because I think that sometimes, like I'm

583
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 1: gonna just use y'all for example, like I'm a consumer

584
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:36,159
Speaker 1: and I'm listening to a Dre or I'm listening to

585
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 1: a Kiki. I need to listen to what y'all are

586
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 1: saying from y'all's experience, but I also need to understand

587
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:44,200
Speaker 1: that my life is my experience. Yeah, so I can't

588
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 1: say what Dre is saying. Hey, you know what I'm

589
00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 1: gonna be outside he played me. But maybe I do

590
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 1: have a good man. I do have this situation that

591
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,120
Speaker 1: it could work out for me, you know what I'm saying.

592
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 1: So I think a lot of times when we see

593
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 1: people on social media, take what I always say, lex

594
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 1: people went through that. You ain't got to go through that,

595
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: but also take my experiences lightly though you your situation

596
00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 1: could be completely different. Because at the end of the day,

597
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:11,639
Speaker 1: I always say I do want to be married, I

598
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 1: do want to have kids, Like that's what I want

599
00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 1: for myself. So I think you do need to look

600
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: at your goals and what you want in life and

601
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: not only surround yourself with people with the same likeness,

602
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: but also do things that are conducive to getting there.

603
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 1: If you really want to be somebody's husband and you

604
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: really want to be somebody's wife, I don't think you

605
00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 1: need to be watching red pill content or content of

606
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: people being like leave, don't do this. That's not conducive

607
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 1: to what you're trying to get at. You know what

608
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But how do you escape it? Because you

609
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 1: open up a book, you get off. They all read

610
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 1: something else I've discovered, or do simple masks? Simple mask

611
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, tune into It's okay, you

612
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. They don't know phonics, so they

613
00:28:57,600 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: can't sound it out if it wasn't on they site

614
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 1: word flash cars, y'all. We are doomed. We're gonna be

615
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 1: working forever, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, So I

616
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 1: think sometimes you do have to I enjoy a lot

617
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: of people's content, but I enjoy the content and I

618
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 1: log off.

619
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 2: And I also think that people need to remember, no

620
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 2: matter how a show presents itself, everybody's here for entertainment.

621
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 1: This is not PBS.

622
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 2: Okay, this is not you can it's infotainment. So when

623
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 2: anybody speaks from their dating experience, nobody is giving you

624
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:29,200
Speaker 2: a full documentary of their lives.

625
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 1: You're only gonna get bits and pieces.

626
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 2: So remember the things that we can laugh about now

627
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 2: we're talking about them, and we can make a joke

628
00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 2: or whatever. But you you gotta stop taking everybody's things

629
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 2: that you see on the internet, especially when you don't

630
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 2: even watch the whole show as like fact or like

631
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 2: this is how it always is. Sometimes people are just playing.

632
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 2: If you read one books, you start catching on to jokes.

633
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 3: Go ahead, No, I was just gonna say, And I

634
00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 3: think it's just very interesting because when you look at

635
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 3: other cultures, they teach their daughters how today who today,

636
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 3: like where to find the men, and what you should

637
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 3: be looking for in a partner, what you should be

638
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 3: looking for in the man.

639
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:06,440
Speaker 1: We're just not taught those things.

640
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't talk about it because and it's okay

641
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 3: for them to look to me in as a form

642
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 3: of financial security, right like, whereas with us we're looked

643
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 3: at as gold digger's because we want to be and

644
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 3: it's financially stable, and then they raise their their boys

645
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 3: to be providers, Like, this is what you're supposed to do.

646
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 3: You're supposed to be a leader, You're supposed to take

647
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,120
Speaker 3: care of the household. And I'm not a person who

648
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 3: really believes in gender norms like that necessarily, but I

649
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 3: do believe in partnership. So whatever works for their culture,

650
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 3: they're teaching partnership, and that's something I do believe in, Like, cause.

651
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm not gonna lie. As I've gotten older, I'm like, Okay,

652
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 1: I don't want to be a woman. I don't want

653
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Speaker 1: to be a stay at home mom. I want to

654
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Speaker 1: be a boss. I want to be a provider as

655
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Speaker 1: well for my household. Like there are certain goals I'm

656
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 1: reaching on my own. But imagine if I had somebody

657
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 1: who was equally yoked. Imagine the shit that we could

658
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: do together, you know what I'm saying. So I say

659
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Speaker 1: because I think so, Like this is an extreme example,

660
00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:04,520
Speaker 1: but like, look at jay Z and Beyonce. Do you

661
00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:09,000
Speaker 1: think they're talking about fifty fifty. No, they're not, because

662
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 1: it's beyond that. And I think a lot of times

663
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 1: we have to think beyond that, but we're sitting here

664
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 1: talking about it. If you're gonna send a man a

665
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 1: drink or not, or who paying a rent? What are

666
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: we talking about? Why do you think that we seem

667
00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 1: to do that?

668
00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 2: Do you think it's like fear based and it's like

669
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 2: you teach your daughter to be independent and not to

670
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 2: look to anybody, but if you are gonna have somebody,

671
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 2: they need to come with this because you don't want

672
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 2: them to be taking care of somebody else, because maybe

673
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 2: you've seen.

674
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 1: Your friends or your mother do that for somebody.

675
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:39,960
Speaker 2: Or do you feel like people get caught up and

676
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:43,720
Speaker 2: looking at numbers and like, okay, there's so many women

677
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 2: and not enough men and having this fear that the

678
00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:49,040
Speaker 2: black men don't want us anymore, or that there's just

679
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 2: simply not enough, or you're gonna have to do something else.

680
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 1: Why do y'all think that that continues to be how

681
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 1: it is? Ya? I know what it is.

682
00:31:57,840 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 4: For me.

683
00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:01,240
Speaker 3: It's just a sense of I'm not leaving here with nothing.

684
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 3: I might get played, but at least I'm leaving here

685
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 3: with something.

686
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 2: I mean, with teaching your child something, What do you mean,

687
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 2: like like like how we were talking about parents teaching

688
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 2: their children. How today, Why don't you think that we

689
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 2: teach the women one way and the boys another and

690
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 2: give us different Yeah, giving people different expectations.

691
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:25,680
Speaker 3: But I do get leaving here with something. Yeah, I

692
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 3: want to leave here with something. But also I just

693
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 3: think America in general is rooted in misogyny. So that's

694
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 3: why I feel like for the generations and generations literally

695
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 3: since the beginning of time, women were taught that like, oh,

696
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 3: you have to present a certain way to get chosen.

697
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 3: But the problem is, back in the day, men used

698
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 3: to work hard for women. Men used to work.

699
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: Hard for women. I've seen something the other day. I

700
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 1: think it was from Level. We had him on the

701
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:53,080
Speaker 1: show recently.

702
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 3: He was doing a stand up comedy tour or whatever,

703
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 3: and he was basically saying, like, back in the day

704
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 3: used to.

705
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: Be very chivalries.

706
00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 3: They need to work hard for the women, Like Okay,

707
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 3: it's a puddle of water right here, let me throw

708
00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:08,200
Speaker 3: my coat down, let me throw my trench coat down,

709
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 3: so it's gonna walk over it. Men have lost that

710
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 3: these days. Like I feel like, back in the day,

711
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 3: women worthy prize. Now men feel like they're supposed to

712
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 3: be the prize too. But again, I think America is

713
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 3: just rooted in misogyny and it's just been passed on

714
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 3: from generation to generation.

715
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Speaker 1: So I do agree with that because in the same breath,

716
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: because you know, like men used to do all that,

717
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 1: but now we're in a generation to where they have

718
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 1: taught us so much to be independent. If a man

719
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 1: do try to throw his trench go down, I got

720
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 1: my own trench coat hole ad because I'm a provider

721
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 1: and I can do it for myself. I'm saying, teachers,

722
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 1: don't let that man put his trench coat down, because

723
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 1: then he gonna feel like you owe him some pussy

724
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 1: and this and that, so do it yourself. They teach

725
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 1: us to do it ourselves and don't. But I'm saying

726
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 1: that's where society is now, So that's where the conflict

727
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:04,440
Speaker 1: is from. You know what I'm saying, Men feel like, well,

728
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that cause one a lot

729
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 1: of you niggas can't afford a trench coquess another topic.

730
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,560
Speaker 1: But if he can, we want to throw the trash

731
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 1: at thrift store, you know what I'm saying. But thrifting

732
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 1: ain't mix me. But I'm just saying I want like

733
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:23,879
Speaker 1: the women we were taught specifically, that's how my mom

734
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 1: taught me. Don't do it yourself. Yeah, you know what

735
00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:29,320
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like carry yourself and do it yourself.

736
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Speaker 4: But that's important to say to do it myself except

737
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:33,400
Speaker 4: for like work, and she was like, make sure you

738
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:35,400
Speaker 4: have your own. She was always teaching me about an

739
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 4: exit plan.

740
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Speaker 1: In her insight, I know why she did that, I

741
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 1: know what was going on in her life.

742
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:41,879
Speaker 2: But at the time she's like, you just never want

743
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:44,280
Speaker 2: to be so dependent that you find yourself stuck.

744
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 4: But she is very much she's she's like, that's man's work.

745
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 4: She don't want to take out no trash, she don't

746
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:51,840
Speaker 4: want to fix something. She don't want to read instructions.

747
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:53,919
Speaker 2: When she orders some on Amazon to put it together,

748
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 2: she will literally wait for somebody to come do it.

749
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Speaker 1: It's just different.

750
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Speaker 2: One thing I think the men have done successfully and

751
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:02,359
Speaker 2: I wish we as women could do it. They're able

752
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 2: to switch things, these things up, like how you were

753
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:06,720
Speaker 2: talking about how they used to be so chivalous.

754
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 4: They are able to come together and yes, and they

755
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 4: just they stick to it.

756
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,720
Speaker 1: And we are not women. We are not I'm cooking,

757
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: I'm cleaning, well.

758
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 2: I'm not and I'm not, and then we want to

759
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 2: fight with each other. So be like, okay, girl, you

760
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 2: can be on the cooking squad and I'll be on

761
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:27,040
Speaker 2: this squad, you know, cooking squad.

762
00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 3: But yeah, I mean, and I feel like a lot

763
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:32,839
Speaker 3: of the time us as women, as a generation, as

764
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 3: a whole, we be feeling to realize, like we the

765
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 3: reason why the niggas is like that now the standards,

766
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 3: the standards are not the same as they used to

767
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 3: be because, like Keiki said, we can never stick on

768
00:35:44,040 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 3: to one side. So it's like some of us is

769
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:48,919
Speaker 3: over here tired to tell and we like, fuck y'all

770
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 3: need because y'all ain't doing enough.

771
00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:51,320
Speaker 1: I'm not fucking with you.

772
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 3: I'm not giving you no pussy, I'm not going on

773
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:55,280
Speaker 3: no dates with y'all. I'm not responding to no dms.

774
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 3: I'm not entertaining nothing, any of you. Got the women

775
00:35:57,560 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 3: over there that's still like, well shit, I need my

776
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 3: coochie squad.

777
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 1: And then that's gonna be me.

778
00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 4: So they're gonna leave and come over here, and it's

779
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 4: just like, well, maybe somebody's gotta rupt this, you know, yea,

780
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 4: or we're not.

781
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 1: It has to be that. But It's like if I

782
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:14,840
Speaker 1: do that and you do that, we don't have to

783
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: talk about each other. Well, you just do it. I'm

784
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 1: gonna stay.

785
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 4: If we're holding it down over here, hold it down

786
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 4: over there, what you're gonna do?

787
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know what that is, but yeah, I've noticed,

788
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 2: like even a couple of times, I've asked us, so,

789
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:28,800
Speaker 2: what do you think about guys who do this?

790
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:30,399
Speaker 1: And David all of them.

791
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 2: Well, I think that's a little sassy to be gossiping

792
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 2: about what another man is doing. I don't like to

793
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 2: speak on another man, but we those bitches be over there,

794
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 2: and I will say that.

795
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: So, yeah, back to how we are raised, because you know,

796
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 1: you grew up in a two parent household. Parents were married,

797
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:48,840
Speaker 1: like your dad, you know, showed you like what a

798
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:50,600
Speaker 1: man is supposed to do. I yeah, like I said,

799
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 1: my dad passed away. My mom didn't bring men around.

800
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:56,400
Speaker 1: I knew one man that my mom dated my entire life.

801
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 1: When my mom passed away and we was at her memorial,

802
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:00,400
Speaker 1: man show up. He said, yeah, you s to date

803
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:05,360
Speaker 1: your mom? Is yeah, come from It was shocking to me.

804
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 1: So growing up it was very much giving. Like I said,

805
00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:11,040
Speaker 1: your experience is your dad teaching you know, a man

806
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 1: is supposed to do that a man, but and it

807
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 1: was no, do it yourself, pick up yourself and get yourself,

808
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So that's where a lot

809
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 1: of the disagreement in our community comes from.

810
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 3: And I hear that from a lot of women, you

811
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 3: know that I have conversations with that didn't grow up

812
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 3: with a male prison in a household. Sometimes I think

813
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 3: that that's the difference, because, for example, with me, I

814
00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 3: don't never I have never really just felt pressured by

815
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:39,360
Speaker 3: men to do anything. Yeah, because I'd be feeling like,

816
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:41,879
Speaker 3: if you make me feel pressured, I'm gonna walk away.

817
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 3: The fuck You're weird because certain things to me are

818
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 3: just the bare minimum, like a man being nice to you,

819
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 3: a man taking you on a date, a man courting

820
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:53,760
Speaker 3: you properly, a man treating you with respect.

821
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 1: That's the bare minimum. That's what you're supposed to do.

822
00:37:56,760 --> 00:38:00,400
Speaker 3: Like my dad raised me with the standard to like,

823
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:02,759
Speaker 3: if a man can't do more for you than what

824
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 3: you're doing for yourself, why are you dealing with him?

825
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:08,320
Speaker 1: I did get that lesson. Yeah, my dad.

826
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 2: Didn't really teach me anything, but my mom was married

827
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 2: to my stepdad forever and they got back.

828
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 1: Well he didn't, that was just he gonna be mad.

829
00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:25,279
Speaker 1: He did because he don't look like professor we call him.

830
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 2: But I didn't really learn anything from data ferent men.

831
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 2: But my stepdad did teach me, and my grandfather that's

832
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:38,279
Speaker 2: who I started. That's who I always think of, like

833
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 2: my default dad, that as my grandfather, and he did

834
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 2: teach me a lot of things about how a man

835
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 2: is supposed to treat a woman just by being that example,

836
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:51,839
Speaker 2: not a ton of conversation about it, but truly leading

837
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:55,479
Speaker 2: by example and making sure that he was always thinking

838
00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 2: about his family and that he was a man of

839
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:00,320
Speaker 2: his word and things like that, and those are things

840
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 2: that I would look for and they don't be doing that.

841
00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 1: That's why I like being single. And I think that's

842
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:08,239
Speaker 1: where that's been the hardest thing for me, Like I say,

843
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 1: just kind of letting my guard down and letting the

844
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 1: men be me, because I'd be like, you know, I'll

845
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 1: just do it myself, get out my way, get out

846
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:15,319
Speaker 1: my way, and then I get the egg, I get

847
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 1: turned off, and then you're gone. So I like that.

848
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 3: I feel like, just go out just yeah, But I

849
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 3: was just gonna say, like, based off of the three

850
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:26,320
Speaker 3: of but it's being friends.

851
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,800
Speaker 1: I feel like you're the nicest one. No, I'm extreme.

852
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 1: You're so nice, and I feel like you're you're very.

853
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,800
Speaker 3: Soft and like womanly, Like I wouldn't look at you

854
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,520
Speaker 3: and be like, oh, like she be stiff on niggas.

855
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 1: No, it's not that I'm stiff on niggas, but I

856
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:43,360
Speaker 1: will say that's something that I learned like this, Like

857
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 1: my last situation I've been in, if you told my

858
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:49,400
Speaker 1: ex what I do for the man i'm with them,

859
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 1: He'll be like, you're lying. No, she doesn't. She's very

860
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: much like, Okay, forget it, I'm gonna handle it, and

861
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it. This is something that I've just

862
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:02,319
Speaker 1: now learned, just learning how to step back and let

863
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 1: a man be a man. And my past situations it

864
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: was very much like, oh, I'm not asking him for nothing,

865
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 1: I'm not doing I'm a handle it because let me

866
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:13,040
Speaker 1: show him that I that I that is true. I

867
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:16,880
Speaker 1: was very Now I'm a lot softer now in this

868
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: situation because I'm just like, Okay, this is what I

869
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 1: want to do with my life, and this is more

870
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:24,680
Speaker 1: conducive to what I want, you know what I'm saying.

871
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 1: But this is something that's still hard for me, very hard,

872
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 1: because I'm just like, let me put my truch code.

873
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:34,399
Speaker 1: Can I ask y'all this though?

874
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,279
Speaker 3: Because I think that was a really good point that

875
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 3: you made, Because now that you said that, I do.

876
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 1: When we were younger, you were that way.

877
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 3: Why do you feel like women are like that, Like

878
00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:47,839
Speaker 3: they're so afraid to ask a man for certain things

879
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 3: or ask a man for what they want or what

880
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:52,799
Speaker 3: they deem valuable in the relationship. But men are straight

881
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:55,399
Speaker 3: up gonna ask us for what they want. They gonna

882
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 3: ask you for some place, They gonna ask you if

883
00:40:57,239 --> 00:40:58,759
Speaker 3: they want you to cook. They gonna ask you if

884
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:00,799
Speaker 3: they want you to go pick something up for them,

885
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 3: whatever it is, you know what I mean.

886
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 1: They're going to ask you for what they want. Why

887
00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: us as women are we so.

888
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:10,440
Speaker 3: Afraid to let a man know what it is that

889
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 3: we want if we're not happy in a relationship. Is

890
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 3: it fear of being lonely or the man walking away.

891
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 2: Or like, you know what, it's all for me, it's

892
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 2: a fear of disappointment, and like either not getting what

893
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:26,320
Speaker 2: I want is one option, but the other, which is

894
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 2: worse to me because I'd rather you just tell me

895
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:30,920
Speaker 2: know or whatever the response is gonna be if it's

896
00:41:30,960 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 2: not gonna happen, I don't want you to tell me

897
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:36,160
Speaker 2: that you will and then you won't. Then it's gonna

898
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:40,280
Speaker 2: send me down. Mariah Carey Walslawt in shower experience.

899
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 1: Yes, where I'm just like, Okay, what are all the

900
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 1: signs that I miss?

901
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 2: Now I gotta let him go. I'm sad I wi't

902
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:48,080
Speaker 2: let him go, but I'm sad about this. I'm wondering,

903
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:50,440
Speaker 2: like why did I waste my time all these things?

904
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:53,400
Speaker 2: Questioning myself about what is it about me?

905
00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 1: And I didn't like it.

906
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:58,760
Speaker 2: I have become more comfortable in my older, wiser years

907
00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 2: to share what it is that I want and if

908
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 2: it's not that like, okay, but you won't get what

909
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:04,920
Speaker 2: you want right?

910
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 1: Yeah? And I too think that it's from societal pressures.

911
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: We get online and a girl will be like, oh

912
00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 1: if you can't get this out your nigga, you not

913
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,839
Speaker 1: that girl. You're just not that girl. And sometimes when

914
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 1: you ask a man for something he doesn't give you

915
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:21,080
Speaker 1: what you want. It's not that you're not that girl.

916
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:24,360
Speaker 1: That's just not your person or he she no. But

917
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:28,000
Speaker 1: let me say that it ain't even about in the person.

918
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:30,759
Speaker 1: Some niggas just can't. But what I'm saying is if

919
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 1: a man doesn't want to do something for you, that

920
00:42:33,520 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 1: that too. But what I'm saying is that has no

921
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 1: testament to who you are as a woman. You know

922
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:39,479
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. A lot of times a woman be like, Okay,

923
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:40,759
Speaker 1: well I asked him this and he didn't do it.

924
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm not good enough, maybe I'm not pretty enough,

925
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 1: and we blame it on ourselves. So a lot of

926
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:47,520
Speaker 1: times women don't ask men for they want out of

927
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 1: that fear of rejection because I will say, well, you're

928
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:54,439
Speaker 1: already giving him some plicy. I mean, that's what I'm saying.

929
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:56,720
Speaker 1: But that's why I say it's the fear of rejection

930
00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:59,919
Speaker 1: because we don't because we all when you get on line,

931
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 1: what they say, oh no, it's not in my love language.

932
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:05,279
Speaker 1: If a man tells me no, if a nigga tell

933
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 1: you know, he don't like you, and I am.

934
00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:11,800
Speaker 2: So tired about love languages. Yeah, some of that stuff

935
00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 2: y'all be saying. It's not there are fine a book

936
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:18,879
Speaker 2: with y'all need to read the book, y'all talk about

937
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 2: all these random.

938
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 1: Things my love.

939
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, and it's not just about what you get, it

940
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 4: is how you show up.

941
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:32,359
Speaker 3: But anyway, and people bring out different versions of their

942
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:35,439
Speaker 3: selves depending on who they're dating, Like one person could

943
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:37,479
Speaker 3: get a whole completely different version of you than another

944
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:40,399
Speaker 3: person depending on how y'all Bobby being as your person orn.

945
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 3: I just think it's childish though, when women try to

946
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,800
Speaker 3: put their selves against other women based off of like things.

947
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 3: I think that's where they made up love language has

948
00:43:50,760 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 3: come because I feel like it makes some girls feel

949
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:55,400
Speaker 3: like superior, Yeah, because.

950
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 1: They be thinking, Oh, this man paid my rent. Your

951
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:00,879
Speaker 1: man don't pay your rent. Oh my gosh, I could never.

952
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:04,919
Speaker 1: But maybe her man loves her, and that man paying

953
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 1: your rent is like opinion a bucket to him. I

954
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 1: look at it like maybe he can't pay. Like everybody is, everybody's.

955
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 3: Situation is not the same, right right, So sometimes like, yeah,

956
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:18,839
Speaker 3: one girl, her man might be paying her rent because

957
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 3: he can afford to. This girl's man may not be

958
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 3: able to afford to do that. That doesn't mean that

959
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:25,920
Speaker 3: he doesn't love her, it's just that he can't afford

960
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 3: to do it.

961
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 2: And if it's your ren why you can't pay it?

962
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:30,400
Speaker 2: That's what I would like to know since what's going on?

963
00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 2: Because we need to talk.

964
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:34,799
Speaker 1: About that at some point? Who got nobody? We gotta

965
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:37,560
Speaker 1: have some accountability. What's going on? What's talking about on?

966
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 2: Because it's like we can demand things from everybody else, right,

967
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:46,880
Speaker 2: and a tough lesson that I had to learn from myself. Right,

968
00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:48,759
Speaker 2: It's like, Okay, you want somebody to treat you a

969
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:52,000
Speaker 2: certain way, but do you even treat yourself that way?

970
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:54,279
Speaker 1: And if you things that you do, how do you

971
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 1: do that?

972
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 2: You say that you care about yourself with the way

973
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 2: you eat, the way that you act your habits, you're

974
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 2: not taking care of yourself, not doing a lot of

975
00:45:01,200 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 2: the things that.

976
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 1: You want to do.

977
00:45:02,719 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 4: You don't have to spell that out for somebody. They

978
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 4: can see it, they can smell it.

979
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 1: They know what it is.

980
00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 2: So it's like when you not really tuned in and

981
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 2: doing what's best for you, other people notice that. Why

982
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:17,640
Speaker 2: would you ever expect anybody to treat you treat you

983
00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 2: better than you treat you. That's crazy, And so to

984
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 2: your rent every now and again, you know things happen,

985
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,880
Speaker 2: totally understand So if you fall on hard times, But

986
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:29,799
Speaker 2: like the expectation is somebody that's a.

987
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:32,960
Speaker 1: Bit entire, that a lot. It is expecting that, like

988
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 1: expecting that.

989
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 3: We've had conversations when we were younger, and it was

990
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 3: people that I used to like work in the clubs

991
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 3: with girls I used to be cool with when I

992
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:43,880
Speaker 3: was younger. They used to have the expectation up on

993
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 3: meeting someone on the first day, Oh, you need to

994
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:50,640
Speaker 3: pay my rent. Like, I think it's different if you

995
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:53,239
Speaker 3: get in a relationship and that's what your man wants

996
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 3: to do for you, if he wants to help alleviate

997
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 3: some of your stress. Sometimes when y'all have a real

998
00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:01,800
Speaker 3: connection and y'all have a real, real or that's completely different.

999
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 3: But meeting somebody on the first date and having that

1000
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 3: be an expectation, it is just like where are many you.

1001
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:12,840
Speaker 1: Didn't meet him? Was he gonna get paid? I don't know.

1002
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 1: That's a mess. However, I work love her rent getting

1003
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 1: paid regardless because she's she's a hustler. She got that bag,

1004
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: she got that check on it. I mean, and me

1005
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:28,879
Speaker 1: and my men are in love.

1006
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:32,360
Speaker 3: That's another thing too, Like I mean, it's you know

1007
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 3: what I mean, I think that that stuff matters, like

1008
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 3: if you're in a relationship.

1009
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 2: And you see a future with this person or already

1010
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:43,840
Speaker 2: just trying to get and if you're just gonna be

1011
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 2: trying to get things, stop doing it to men who

1012
00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:49,279
Speaker 2: are working. Y'all need to go find those scammers. A

1013
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 2: lot of them have already been deported.

1014
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 1: Now.

1015
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 2: Back in my day, when I was fresh and hot

1016
00:46:53,840 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 2: in these Atlanta streets, a lot of girls had those

1017
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:59,480
Speaker 2: expectations because they was running them tax scams. The Africans

1018
00:46:59,560 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 2: was running the tax skians. I had me one and

1019
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 2: a few other people had some too, okay, you know,

1020
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 2: and so they are no longer in the country.

1021
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 1: Obvious seeing them posting the uh in Kenya with.

1022
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 2: Texting no, I said, they're posting the Zebras and giraffes

1023
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 2: because they done got sent back to Kenya's.

1024
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 1: Well made. Maybe said people are I.

1025
00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:29,040
Speaker 2: Think also, like dealing with somebody who is scamming for money,

1026
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:32,720
Speaker 2: they are stealing, dealing with them, it's a lot different

1027
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:34,960
Speaker 2: from dealing with somebody who is earning their money. No

1028
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 2: matter how they go about well, it does matter if

1029
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 2: they are truly earning their money and not stealing it

1030
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 2: in some shape form or fashion that's different, like they

1031
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:45,520
Speaker 2: work for that, they earn that. You just want to

1032
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 2: blow through it. I think they had a really cleared

1033
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:49,759
Speaker 2: house on all of them. A few times I was.

1034
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:51,560
Speaker 4: Hoping they was gonna be able to get back get

1035
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 4: hitting them.

1036
00:47:53,000 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 1: Ain't nothing. They don't want to accept cars.

1037
00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 2: Nowhere in America do I go, except for Atlanta, where

1038
00:47:58,640 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 2: you walk into somewhere and they got signs up about

1039
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 2: no cash, app cards, no gift cards.

1040
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 1: Know this, no that. I'm like, y'all have dry some

1041
00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,879
Speaker 1: places because you know, the clubs don't want to take

1042
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:13,879
Speaker 1: X I learned that one time back. What was that club?

1043
00:48:13,960 --> 00:48:18,800
Speaker 1: A love Aroma? Our? I p yes, our pizza Wings

1044
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 1: had a time up in there.

1045
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:23,200
Speaker 2: Okay, but anyway, yeah, the club's don't take it because

1046
00:48:23,200 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 2: it's very easy to dispute.

1047
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 1: Y'all gotta stop scamming. The scamming all right. Top was

1048
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:32,360
Speaker 1: drinking to day, Okay that Top.

1049
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:39,160
Speaker 3: Girls, and even the cocktail is a little bit tropical too.

1050
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,000
Speaker 3: So this one we're gonna call the XO man.

1051
00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 1: All right.

1052
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 3: We have some repicidal tequila, we have some caparis, some

1053
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 3: lemon juice, and then we have some moan and stone

1054
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:52,239
Speaker 3: fruit syrup. And then we garnished it with a beautiful orchid,

1055
00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 3: so everyone has like a different flower. I think I

1056
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 3: tried to match the outfits a little bit better. And

1057
00:48:56,600 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 3: so this is the XO Man in tribute to Kiki's

1058
00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 3: new show that is dropping. And I want to just

1059
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 3: take the time to personally thank you Key, because with

1060
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:05,279
Speaker 3: our key, I wouldn't even be here.

1061
00:49:05,680 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say it. Shout out to you.

1062
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 1: H you she had I mean she.

1063
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:16,719
Speaker 3: I actually just learned it a month or so ago

1064
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 3: when we did the Travel Queen's premiere.

1065
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 2: So I can't remember if it was you, Lex or Andrea,

1066
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 2: but we me and Ty have a friend Domino.

1067
00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, shout out to Domino. He's a chef.

1068
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 4: He has some sauce sauce spas.

1069
00:49:30,760 --> 00:49:33,359
Speaker 2: Anyway, we were talking one day and we ran into

1070
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 2: each other at homecoming talking, talking, talking, and at the time,

1071
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:40,000
Speaker 2: we had a girl who was making drinks on our show,

1072
00:49:40,239 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 2: and he was like, if you ever need somebody else,

1073
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:43,239
Speaker 2: I know a girl.

1074
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:46,680
Speaker 4: This is my homegirl Tie. She's really really good.

1075
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:50,960
Speaker 2: So I was like, okay, Well, we were still using

1076
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 2: that other girl and we didn't know she was gonna quit,

1077
00:49:53,280 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 2: but we were still using that other girl, and then

1078
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,000
Speaker 2: one we were talking it was it was you and

1079
00:49:58,040 --> 00:49:59,880
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I know somebody, my friend dom

1080
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 2: No had actually told me I'll connect y'all, and so yeah,

1081
00:50:03,120 --> 00:50:05,840
Speaker 2: it was from that and I was like I was

1082
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 2: telling her. I was like, you know, it's better that

1083
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 2: it worked out that way, because I love this setup

1084
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 2: for you.

1085
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:13,399
Speaker 4: It's it's it's been great watch.

1086
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:20,480
Speaker 3: I love hot Down. Yes, the part of the Poor

1087
00:50:20,600 --> 00:50:24,759
Speaker 3: Minds crew. I mean they were like, she right down

1088
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:27,280
Speaker 3: the tie life story.

1089
00:50:29,719 --> 00:50:33,040
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm just knocking over and a half years. Yeah.

1090
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:36,360
Speaker 1: I think it was a December twenty Yes.

1091
00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 3: That is.

1092
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 1: It was like because it was when we first moved

1093
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:41,160
Speaker 1: to this studio. Yeah, and it wasn't like, oh we

1094
00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:43,480
Speaker 1: tried you out. Then the three months when I was like, okay,

1095
00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:45,600
Speaker 1: let's try somebody was like yeah.

1096
00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:49,320
Speaker 3: And then crazy too because full circle moment, Keikey and

1097
00:50:49,520 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 3: Medina were the first guests that we had when we

1098
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:59,360
Speaker 3: moved to this study. It was it was yeah, but

1099
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:01,439
Speaker 3: you know what, It's come a long way, still looks

1100
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:05,879
Speaker 3: very cute, and I love recommending other people. I don't

1101
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 3: like trying to keep everybody for me in my back

1102
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 3: pocket if I see an opportunity or even a better opportunity. Sometimes,

1103
00:51:12,280 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 3: you know, when people recommend you for stuff, you just

1104
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:16,359
Speaker 3: never know what could happen.

1105
00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 2: So anytime somebody's like, oh I know somebody can do this,

1106
00:51:18,880 --> 00:51:20,879
Speaker 2: I try my best to put them in the best place,

1107
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:23,320
Speaker 2: even if I would rather use them and say I

1108
00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:25,239
Speaker 2: know something is better, it's going to be better for you.

1109
00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:27,160
Speaker 1: I like to do that. I think it's important.

1110
00:51:27,360 --> 00:51:32,839
Speaker 3: Okay, let you right, you would not be a toie

1111
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 3: on four Minds if it was not for Kiki.

1112
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 1: Only forgot about that, Okay, I got you right here.

1113
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 2: It does, and it also pays to speak up about

1114
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:45,239
Speaker 2: different things that you want to do because you never

1115
00:51:45,440 --> 00:51:48,840
Speaker 2: know who's listening, who's watching, and it's like, oh, I

1116
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:50,080
Speaker 2: didn't know you wanted to do that.

1117
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:52,279
Speaker 1: I got you. Did you ever think that you would

1118
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:54,000
Speaker 1: kind of be in this kind of situation though, like

1119
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:56,680
Speaker 1: doing bartending on TV or not TV?

1120
00:51:57,000 --> 00:52:00,520
Speaker 3: You know, I wanted my own show, Okay, literally on

1121
00:52:00,640 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 3: my past vision boards like the podcast set up and

1122
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:05,480
Speaker 3: all of this stuff. I had a title on everything,

1123
00:52:05,520 --> 00:52:08,880
Speaker 3: but I just it takes so much commitment to have

1124
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 3: different topics all of that.

1125
00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 1: So that is where I just it didn't click for me.

1126
00:52:13,600 --> 00:52:16,239
Speaker 3: So that's why I say everything aligns perfectly because for

1127
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 3: that opportunity to even come up a year after I

1128
00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:21,440
Speaker 3: did that vision board, it just shows that you just

1129
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:23,280
Speaker 3: walking your purpose and everything's gonna.

1130
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 1: Come to you as necessary.

1131
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:25,640
Speaker 3: So the.

1132
00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:34,839
Speaker 1: Club house, all right, you are second topic. We want

1133
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:39,000
Speaker 1: to talk about content creator experiences. Okay, because a lot

1134
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 1: of time, you know, before content creators were you know,

1135
00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:47,360
Speaker 1: well known or some content creators now are considered celebrities.

1136
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:50,440
Speaker 1: You know, we were regular people online. We used to

1137
00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:54,200
Speaker 1: say crazy things, have crazy moments, have a breakdown, calling

1138
00:52:54,239 --> 00:52:54,839
Speaker 1: people names.

1139
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:57,160
Speaker 4: I used to love to get drunking it on the internet,

1140
00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:01,000
Speaker 4: used to love to talk about people on Twitter a

1141
00:53:01,160 --> 00:53:01,919
Speaker 4: popular moment.

1142
00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:03,360
Speaker 1: And I don't mean to bring it up because I

1143
00:53:03,480 --> 00:53:05,360
Speaker 1: love you, girl, but I gotta use you for an example.

1144
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:09,800
Speaker 1: When Sizza had her big, big break was when she

1145
00:53:10,000 --> 00:53:13,239
Speaker 1: came out on Rihanna's album Anti. She got a home

1146
00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:16,239
Speaker 1: on there. People started digging up her old tweets and

1147
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:20,000
Speaker 1: she was like dis and Rihanna and Sissa replied in

1148
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:22,560
Speaker 1: response to that, was like, hey, do y'all realize During

1149
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:24,719
Speaker 1: that time, I was jealous of her because I wanted

1150
00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:26,759
Speaker 1: to be her. I felt like she had all the

1151
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 1: things that I wanted, and instead of just giving her

1152
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:32,000
Speaker 1: her flowers, it came out and hate and she was like,

1153
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:34,600
Speaker 1: so I'll take that. But you know, I was just

1154
00:53:34,680 --> 00:53:36,759
Speaker 1: talking shit. Who knew that I was gonna end up

1155
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:40,520
Speaker 1: in a studio with Rihanna? So I do y'all think

1156
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 1: that we should be held at like a higher standard

1157
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:47,160
Speaker 1: for our old tweets or should people just be understanding like, hey,

1158
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:50,080
Speaker 1: they used to be human, no, or it's not used

1159
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:52,279
Speaker 1: to be We're still humans. I think it depends on

1160
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:53,400
Speaker 1: what the tweet is.

1161
00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 2: Okay, talking shit about Rihanna is one thing, but other

1162
00:53:58,120 --> 00:54:01,320
Speaker 2: things that can be like deeply and real hate, like

1163
00:54:01,560 --> 00:54:04,520
Speaker 2: racist things and stuff, some stuff, uh uh, you're not

1164
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 2: coming back, or at least from me. Yeah, there are

1165
00:54:07,120 --> 00:54:08,880
Speaker 2: certain things I think that we can grow. We can

1166
00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:10,760
Speaker 2: be immature, We can do all kinds of things. Sometimes

1167
00:54:10,760 --> 00:54:12,400
Speaker 2: you just talking shit because you feel like it. Sometimes

1168
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:14,719
Speaker 2: it's fun to get those words off your chest. Yeah,

1169
00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:17,920
Speaker 2: you know, And I don't think that we should be

1170
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:22,279
Speaker 2: held to a higher standard. But I also don't think

1171
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:25,399
Speaker 2: we really get to choose really up to everyone else.

1172
00:54:25,480 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 1: People do.

1173
00:54:26,719 --> 00:54:30,239
Speaker 2: But I think that it's not very productive, and what's

1174
00:54:30,280 --> 00:54:32,760
Speaker 2: the point what you mean? And why are y'all digging.

1175
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:34,960
Speaker 1: Up old tweets? That's what I feel. I wouldn't know

1176
00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:36,280
Speaker 1: who was on the digging committment.

1177
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:39,760
Speaker 3: People we havn't too much time on their hands. Times

1178
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 3: where like I've had tweets that have went viral. I remember, Okay,

1179
00:54:43,120 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 3: one time I had tweeted something about loving black men

1180
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:51,200
Speaker 3: and like allly wanting to be with a black man.

1181
00:54:51,120 --> 00:54:52,080
Speaker 1: And this is what's wrong with that?

1182
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:54,480
Speaker 3: But this was like maybe like a year ago, I

1183
00:54:54,520 --> 00:54:57,719
Speaker 3: guess when I was like younger, maybe like six years ago,

1184
00:54:57,920 --> 00:55:03,360
Speaker 3: I had tweeted, this is my last Negro relationship. We

1185
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:08,920
Speaker 3: look at but it's so funny because mind you, I'm

1186
00:55:08,960 --> 00:55:12,279
Speaker 3: tweeting about like black love and like loving black men,

1187
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:15,400
Speaker 3: and then somebody goes and they finds this tweet and

1188
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:18,839
Speaker 3: they like this you and I'm like, yeah, I mean cause,

1189
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:21,840
Speaker 3: to be honest, this is my last Negro relationship. I

1190
00:55:22,000 --> 00:55:26,320
Speaker 3: still feel that way. However, black love is beautiful, but

1191
00:55:29,160 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 3: but for me, this is my last Negro relationship.

1192
00:55:32,760 --> 00:55:36,399
Speaker 1: So I just feel like sometimes people have to look

1193
00:55:36,560 --> 00:55:38,120
Speaker 1: at other people as humans.

1194
00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:40,439
Speaker 3: Like you used to tweet a lot of crazy shit

1195
00:55:40,520 --> 00:55:42,960
Speaker 3: too when you were probably twenty three and twenty four.

1196
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:45,320
Speaker 1: But the spotlight is not on you. Nobody is digging

1197
00:55:45,400 --> 00:55:46,360
Speaker 1: up your old tweets.

1198
00:55:46,640 --> 00:55:49,840
Speaker 3: I agree with you when you said, if it's something racist,

1199
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 3: or if it's certain things political views, all of that,

1200
00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:56,839
Speaker 3: nine times out of ten, Yeah, I probably can't turn

1201
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:59,799
Speaker 3: a blind eye to that, because you probably still feel

1202
00:55:59,840 --> 00:56:00,160
Speaker 3: that way.

1203
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 1: You're just more quiet about it now.

1204
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:04,839
Speaker 3: But when it comes to like talking shit about celebrities

1205
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:09,279
Speaker 3: or saying shit about how people dress, or I don't know,

1206
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:10,040
Speaker 3: just young.

1207
00:56:10,000 --> 00:56:13,759
Speaker 1: Dumb shit, we were all it's trivial. We were all

1208
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:16,560
Speaker 1: doing it. I used to be tweeting about how Drake

1209
00:56:16,600 --> 00:56:20,279
Speaker 1: couldn't dress back in the day. I need now now

1210
00:56:20,320 --> 00:56:22,520
Speaker 1: why am I in? I need? I used to be

1211
00:56:22,600 --> 00:56:24,640
Speaker 1: like Drake so fine, but like why he be wearing

1212
00:56:24,760 --> 00:56:26,040
Speaker 1: big T shirts all the time?

1213
00:56:26,200 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 3: Like story he was.

1214
00:56:27,640 --> 00:56:30,880
Speaker 4: Wearing in big T shirts like nightgown he was? He was,

1215
00:56:30,960 --> 00:56:33,600
Speaker 4: And I've seen deleted all the sweets, but.

1216
00:56:35,920 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 3: To do that, but I feel like we're in a

1217
00:56:37,719 --> 00:56:41,000
Speaker 3: position now you have to, and I feel like you're

1218
00:56:41,160 --> 00:56:44,600
Speaker 3: being oblivious if you don't go back and delete a

1219
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 3: lot of y'all old stuff. If you have a Twitter

1220
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 3: that's more than like five, six, ten years old, you

1221
00:56:49,400 --> 00:56:52,200
Speaker 3: need to I did a whole sweep, girl. I searched

1222
00:56:52,320 --> 00:56:54,960
Speaker 3: every celebrity name I could think of and deleted everything

1223
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:57,680
Speaker 3: because I just don't have time for We've seen it

1224
00:56:57,760 --> 00:56:58,760
Speaker 3: happen too many times.

1225
00:56:58,920 --> 00:57:03,120
Speaker 1: Well, there was it, uh recently where a man he

1226
00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:06,880
Speaker 1: was murdered by his girlfriend and everybody was like, oh

1227
00:57:06,960 --> 00:57:09,600
Speaker 1: my gosh, because he was black and she was white.

1228
00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:12,800
Speaker 1: This happened in Georgia, and everybody was like, oh my gosh,

1229
00:57:13,239 --> 00:57:16,760
Speaker 1: she needs to be arrested. Jailer rop until they started

1230
00:57:16,760 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 1: digging up his old tweets, right, And this is what

1231
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 1: I have to ask y'all. This is like that one

1232
00:57:21,080 --> 00:57:23,360
Speaker 1: in Miami. It's the same one with the only thing.

1233
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:26,440
Speaker 1: So they digging up old tweets to this man, He's like, oh,

1234
00:57:27,040 --> 00:57:30,120
Speaker 1: I wouldn't piss on a black woman. I wouldn't. I

1235
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:33,320
Speaker 1: would rather burn in hell than hold a black woman's hand.

1236
00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:35,840
Speaker 1: Calling us monkeys and everything under the sun. Everybody's like, oh,

1237
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:40,680
Speaker 1: you on your own rested. They said literally pressed in preference.

1238
00:57:41,320 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 1: You know that was clever. I like, now, I didn't

1239
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:47,360
Speaker 1: say it, and i'dn't stand on it. Because that was.

1240
00:57:47,760 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 1: But I will say so, so in the same breath,

1241
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:52,480
Speaker 1: we're saying, don't judge us by our old tweet.

1242
00:57:52,800 --> 00:57:56,440
Speaker 4: Well, I already said racism the door, you know, but

1243
00:57:56,720 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 4: we feel strong about that.

1244
00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:00,919
Speaker 1: Now wait a minute, so I do I do think

1245
00:58:01,120 --> 00:58:03,800
Speaker 1: that it's a line like you said, I agree with

1246
00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:05,800
Speaker 1: you if it's something about like you talking about Drake

1247
00:58:05,880 --> 00:58:09,120
Speaker 1: shoes or you know, like if somebody tweeted something old

1248
00:58:09,120 --> 00:58:11,320
Speaker 1: about me, like oh, Lex wigs was crunchy, they was,

1249
00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:13,919
Speaker 1: you didn't tell a lie? What about if somebody had

1250
00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:17,040
Speaker 1: like but but if you're talking about, oh my gosh,

1251
00:58:17,480 --> 00:58:20,240
Speaker 1: Lex looks like a monkey with big lips. Hold on,

1252
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:23,680
Speaker 1: now that's a different area. That is. Yeah, you know

1253
00:58:23,760 --> 00:58:24,320
Speaker 1: what I'm saying.

1254
00:58:24,760 --> 00:58:28,200
Speaker 2: I would just be very afraid if the dms were unleashed,

1255
00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:29,920
Speaker 2: all the group chats, all of the things that I

1256
00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:33,600
Speaker 2: send in private, the.

1257
00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:35,760
Speaker 1: Other I don't know what I do now right, This

1258
00:58:35,960 --> 00:58:38,800
Speaker 1: is what y'all need to do. Every month, I delete

1259
00:58:38,840 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 1: my DMS with my friends just in case I get hacked.

1260
00:58:42,480 --> 00:58:50,200
Speaker 1: But I like, yeah, whatever we get hacked, we're fucking

1261
00:58:50,360 --> 00:58:55,600
Speaker 1: cooked me too, bit Barbara, real bitch, we out of there, well,

1262
00:58:55,640 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 1: because me and you I feel like all of us though,

1263
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:00,480
Speaker 1: to be honest, the three of us me.

1264
00:59:03,360 --> 00:59:05,880
Speaker 2: Wait a minute, people ever, me and my mama's group

1265
00:59:06,000 --> 00:59:08,120
Speaker 2: chat because she gets unleashed in public.

1266
00:59:08,960 --> 00:59:11,840
Speaker 1: Our U grew chat that I'm in with y'all. Well,

1267
00:59:11,880 --> 00:59:16,120
Speaker 1: you know she goes in, she does, she goes in,

1268
00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:18,480
Speaker 1: So yes, I well maybe not. I'm not gonna lie.

1269
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 1: I don't do it every month, but like every like

1270
00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:23,680
Speaker 1: I probably do it. Like you're me, and how you

1271
00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:24,760
Speaker 1: exaggerate that I.

1272
00:59:26,400 --> 00:59:26,640
Speaker 3: Lie?

1273
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:32,040
Speaker 1: Can you add like every six months? Probably twice a year.

1274
00:59:32,040 --> 00:59:36,600
Speaker 1: I do every now and again and again because I

1275
00:59:36,680 --> 00:59:38,680
Speaker 1: had a while where I kept getting locked out of

1276
00:59:38,720 --> 00:59:41,280
Speaker 1: my accounts. Oh and I was like, somebody is trying

1277
00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:44,040
Speaker 1: to hack my ship. Me and Dred we already get

1278
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 1: canceled every other day as it is, I be.

1279
00:59:46,360 --> 00:59:50,440
Speaker 4: Seeing something like, dang, what they do now, ain't taking Joe.

1280
00:59:50,520 --> 00:59:57,200
Speaker 1: That's just me existing. No, But I feel like, maybe

1281
00:59:57,240 --> 00:59:59,920
Speaker 1: because you know us, you be knowing this to Joe.

1282
01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:02,760
Speaker 3: Other people be taking the things we say at face

1283
01:00:02,920 --> 01:00:04,520
Speaker 3: value and they be so offended.

1284
01:00:04,600 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 1: That's what they got. What I said the other day,

1285
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:09,760
Speaker 1: I literally tweeted, oh, CARDI did your big one always

1286
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 1: let him post you before you post him over there.

1287
01:00:15,360 --> 01:00:20,200
Speaker 1: You're forty. Chimp chatter you They said, chimp chatter, What

1288
01:00:20,240 --> 01:00:28,960
Speaker 1: the hell that's racy? Yeah, chi chatter. It's crazy. They said,

1289
01:00:29,160 --> 01:00:32,040
Speaker 1: you are a dirty slut, just like Cardi. I said, well,

1290
01:00:32,080 --> 01:00:35,280
Speaker 1: I'm in good company because he was having a ball

1291
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:40,000
Speaker 1: on that boat. I mean, and am I almost forty?

1292
01:00:40,200 --> 01:00:42,840
Speaker 1: Yes I am, But I was just We're just having

1293
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Speaker 1: a conversation. I'm commenting on something because at the end

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Speaker 1: of the day, I'm a woman first, and we have

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Speaker 1: all witnessed what this woman has been going through four years.

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Speaker 1: So yes, do I know anything about her man that

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Speaker 1: she's with now? No, they'd be like, oh, but he Oh,

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Speaker 1: he got kids, he got newborns. All I want is

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Speaker 1: women to have a good time and get out of

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Speaker 1: a rut that they in. That's clapping for she's having

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Speaker 1: a good time. It's hard and he's looking good. Now

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Speaker 1: he fun as well. Let the girl have fun. Who

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Speaker 1: cares she's gonna go off and get married tomorrow. That's

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01:01:14,200 --> 01:01:18,959
Speaker 1: not what we're saying. Nobody said that rooting for that either,

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01:01:19,080 --> 01:01:21,240
Speaker 1: you know. But it's like when we try to show

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Speaker 1: girl power. I got caught said that was so nasty.

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Speaker 1: And so very mean shill. But that's why we were

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Speaker 1: talking about earlier.

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Speaker 3: I had to take like, I deactivated my Twitter because

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Speaker 3: I just feel like I did.

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Speaker 1: Too after you told me that, and I caught literally

1312
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Speaker 1: you told me, and you went on your ass because

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Speaker 1: is usually the villain. So I was like, well, I'm good.

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01:01:48,760 --> 01:01:51,440
Speaker 1: Funny thing is I don't even be being a villain.

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01:01:51,560 --> 01:01:54,880
Speaker 1: I just be eating like thoughts, and people get offended,

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01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:56,280
Speaker 1: and a lot of the time it's.

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Speaker 3: Not even directed personally towards other people. It's just my opinion.

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01:02:00,960 --> 01:02:03,600
Speaker 3: But I feel like, because I'm the messenger, people just

1319
01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:05,560
Speaker 3: be like, Oh, this stupid ass beach.

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Speaker 1: She thinks she's a bull of us.

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Speaker 2: All I saw with you where they was done with

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01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:15,160
Speaker 2: your ass was the watch thing. Sure, I took my

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Speaker 2: Apple watch off and put it into my bag and

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Speaker 2: put my put.

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Speaker 1: My my mother, but it was on with that dreas

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01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:31,400
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, yeah, y'all, y'all for jewelry.

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01:02:32,360 --> 01:02:35,200
Speaker 2: I just did it because I saw a wedding photo

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01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 2: a bridesmaid, a bridemaid as Nannie would say, and she

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01:02:39,040 --> 01:02:41,600
Speaker 2: had she didn't even put the decorative band on. She

1330
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Speaker 2: just had that black band on and I said, well,

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01:02:44,240 --> 01:02:47,640
Speaker 2: this looks very thick and jim asque at a wedding

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01:02:47,720 --> 01:02:50,560
Speaker 2: and you have on a gown with this rubber band

1333
01:02:50,720 --> 01:02:53,080
Speaker 2: on your wrist, like I don't know what.

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01:02:54,040 --> 01:02:56,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, you weren't wrong the girls and they.

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01:02:56,640 --> 01:02:58,840
Speaker 3: Don't even know they need saving and they be getting

1336
01:02:58,920 --> 01:03:01,280
Speaker 3: mad at me, and it's like, fine, don't.

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01:03:01,120 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 1: Take my advice and keep playing it white, I mean,

1338
01:03:06,360 --> 01:03:09,960
Speaker 1: with your ball down. I started Poor Minds the other

1339
01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:12,400
Speaker 1: day too, and I always retweet the positive comments, but

1340
01:03:12,440 --> 01:03:14,720
Speaker 1: it was some girl who was like, I can't believe

1341
01:03:14,800 --> 01:03:17,200
Speaker 1: poor Minds has gotten so popular. Y'all love listening to

1342
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Speaker 1: dumb bitches, And.

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01:03:18,600 --> 01:03:19,520
Speaker 4: I was like, damn.

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01:03:19,640 --> 01:03:21,919
Speaker 1: But then it also be like, well who else should

1345
01:03:21,960 --> 01:03:22,640
Speaker 1: have got popular?

1346
01:03:22,840 --> 01:03:22,880
Speaker 4: You?

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01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:27,880
Speaker 1: Probably not? But again, poor Minds, we have fun. What's

1348
01:03:27,920 --> 01:03:30,120
Speaker 1: wrong with black women having fun? And this is not

1349
01:03:30,320 --> 01:03:32,840
Speaker 1: meant to be like anything deep intellectual. Can we have

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01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:36,920
Speaker 1: a good time? It's in the comedy category. God damn it, loud, right,

1351
01:03:37,040 --> 01:03:40,919
Speaker 1: that's Adam Sam. We really are though no, I wasn't

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Speaker 1: being I noticed.

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01:03:42,000 --> 01:03:46,160
Speaker 3: I know. I mean, right, we are the theos we

1354
01:03:46,360 --> 01:03:48,760
Speaker 3: are and that's what I'm saying, and that's why we

1355
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Speaker 3: was top sixty. Oh every week exactly Top sixty comedy podcasts,

1356
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Speaker 3: Apple Podcasts.

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Speaker 1: But I'm just saying, like I think, if anything, that's

1358
01:03:57,960 --> 01:03:58,800
Speaker 1: why people.

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Speaker 3: Get so upset, because you've had such a good time

1360
01:04:01,840 --> 01:04:04,560
Speaker 3: and we've been ourselves the whole time, and they're like,

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01:04:04,600 --> 01:04:06,680
Speaker 3: I can't believe these bitches made it this far.

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01:04:07,520 --> 01:04:11,480
Speaker 1: And I laughed, how dare you laugh? What Nigga said? Broke?

1363
01:04:11,560 --> 01:04:12,680
Speaker 1: People should never laugh?

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Speaker 4: Damn, black women should never laughing.

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Speaker 1: Broke no more, and we still laughing. I thought y'all

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Speaker 1: was with me when I got rid of my three

1367
01:04:22,960 --> 01:04:32,600
Speaker 1: dollars became visible this year. Wait a minute, ain't I said? God?

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Speaker 3: Damn, I thought we was upgrading to gether. But why

1369
01:04:35,680 --> 01:04:37,960
Speaker 3: y'all think that black people? I'm not even gonna say

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Speaker 3: black people. Let's just say minorities because I don't want

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01:04:40,160 --> 01:04:43,200
Speaker 3: to pinpoint black people. No, it's definitely not like, but like,

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Speaker 3: why do y'all think minorities are like that as a whole?

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Speaker 3: Like we're rooting for people until they make it or

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Speaker 3: until they start doing something significant. It's like, yeah, they're

1375
01:04:53,280 --> 01:04:55,760
Speaker 3: my girls, I'm fucking they so fucking funny, and then

1376
01:04:55,840 --> 01:04:58,640
Speaker 3: as soon as you make it to that point, they're.

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Speaker 1: Like you because you said it earlier, because a lot

1378
01:05:00,720 --> 01:05:02,240
Speaker 1: of times people feel like it should have been.

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Speaker 2: Them's almost like they tricked themselves into thinking that they're

1380
01:05:05,960 --> 01:05:08,000
Speaker 2: good people because oh, well, i'll let you do this,

1381
01:05:08,760 --> 01:05:10,960
Speaker 2: I'll bring you along for this because I'm in a

1382
01:05:11,040 --> 01:05:11,640
Speaker 2: better position.

1383
01:05:11,920 --> 01:05:15,080
Speaker 1: But when those tables turn, which they usually do, they

1384
01:05:15,120 --> 01:05:15,680
Speaker 1: don't like it.

1385
01:05:15,920 --> 01:05:19,000
Speaker 2: Energy shifts down, They're jealous and now they're questioning, why

1386
01:05:19,040 --> 01:05:23,120
Speaker 2: are you and not them nitpicking every little thing you do.

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01:05:23,320 --> 01:05:26,320
Speaker 2: I think it's something that is really and truly internalized

1388
01:05:26,360 --> 01:05:28,600
Speaker 2: and it has nothing to do with whoever they're talking about.

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Speaker 1: It's really them. They ain't even that funny, and I

1390
01:05:31,880 --> 01:05:35,520
Speaker 1: don't my personal experience. I don't think it's like a

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01:05:35,640 --> 01:05:38,280
Speaker 1: minority thing. I think that's more of like a character

1392
01:05:38,400 --> 01:05:43,960
Speaker 1: flaw because I agree ninety percent of our audience is black, right,

1393
01:05:44,080 --> 01:05:47,080
Speaker 1: so of course my critique ninety percent of the time

1394
01:05:47,200 --> 01:05:49,800
Speaker 1: is going to come from black people, yeah, and black women,

1395
01:05:49,920 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 1: So it's not fam Because I realized that when we

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01:05:52,200 --> 01:05:54,840
Speaker 1: did the Australian thing with them, that it was some

1397
01:05:54,880 --> 01:05:56,800
Speaker 1: people in the comments like why she's so loud, because

1398
01:05:56,840 --> 01:05:59,960
Speaker 1: bench I'm loud, that's just who I am. I can't help,

1399
01:06:00,120 --> 01:06:01,880
Speaker 1: but that's who I am, So I think it's more

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Speaker 1: of a character thing, like if you don't like somebody,

1401
01:06:04,680 --> 01:06:08,440
Speaker 1: don't tune in, don't comment because I will say, I

1402
01:06:08,600 --> 01:06:11,640
Speaker 1: don't like when people try to pinpoint, oh, black people,

1403
01:06:11,680 --> 01:06:13,800
Speaker 1: we only do this to each other. It's really not

1404
01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:17,040
Speaker 1: that because if your audience is ninety ninety five percent black,

1405
01:06:17,320 --> 01:06:18,960
Speaker 1: that's where your critique is gonna come from.

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01:06:19,200 --> 01:06:22,560
Speaker 2: Now, I don't really interact with a whole lot of

1407
01:06:22,680 --> 01:06:25,520
Speaker 2: others across the board, like in any aspect of my life.

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Speaker 1: I'll just be honest.

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01:06:26,400 --> 01:06:28,880
Speaker 2: I do like a lot of British comedies, yeah, things

1410
01:06:28,920 --> 01:06:31,080
Speaker 2: like that when I'm watching it on the Telly, But

1411
01:06:31,760 --> 01:06:35,000
Speaker 2: outside of that, I don't know. So I only see

1412
01:06:35,040 --> 01:06:38,680
Speaker 2: stuff really online and they be doing it a lot.

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01:06:38,800 --> 01:06:41,040
Speaker 2: I don't know if I could say one is more

1414
01:06:41,120 --> 01:06:43,640
Speaker 2: than the other. I don't know why we are so

1415
01:06:43,880 --> 01:06:48,520
Speaker 2: hard on each other, though, I do think is basically

1416
01:06:48,640 --> 01:06:52,000
Speaker 2: rooted and jealousy though, even if they don't really feel

1417
01:06:52,080 --> 01:06:55,600
Speaker 2: like it, or just trying to like validate themselves by

1418
01:06:55,680 --> 01:06:58,040
Speaker 2: putting somebody else down. I hate when people feel like

1419
01:06:58,520 --> 01:07:00,760
Speaker 2: they have to do that or even once is like

1420
01:07:01,280 --> 01:07:04,160
Speaker 2: paying you a compliment but instead of just paying you

1421
01:07:04,240 --> 01:07:06,880
Speaker 2: the compliment, they give someone else a dig yeah, or

1422
01:07:07,080 --> 01:07:08,800
Speaker 2: they make a dig it's something you had done before.

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01:07:08,840 --> 01:07:10,360
Speaker 4: Oh, this is so much better than that, instead of

1424
01:07:10,440 --> 01:07:11,520
Speaker 4: just saying you look nice today.

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01:07:12,040 --> 01:07:13,040
Speaker 1: I don't know what that's about.

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01:07:13,040 --> 01:07:16,480
Speaker 4: It's just like it's a weird, mean, girlish kind of thing.

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Speaker 4: But the boys do it too, Drev.

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Speaker 1: Let me ask you this. So, when you hit your

1429
01:07:22,200 --> 01:07:25,480
Speaker 1: global status with your US and everything you want to do,

1430
01:07:26,160 --> 01:07:27,720
Speaker 1: who do you think is gonna hate on you more

1431
01:07:28,000 --> 01:07:35,760
Speaker 1: black people are white people? To be honest black people,

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Speaker 1: I disagree wholeheartedly. I think so I know, So what

1433
01:07:40,280 --> 01:07:42,560
Speaker 1: do you think I was gonna say black people too?

1434
01:07:44,600 --> 01:07:47,040
Speaker 1: I say no, because I think a lot of like

1435
01:07:47,400 --> 01:07:50,760
Speaker 1: white women, they cannot stand to see something, especially a

1436
01:07:50,840 --> 01:07:52,800
Speaker 1: black woman, be ahead of them. I think when all

1437
01:07:52,840 --> 01:07:55,600
Speaker 1: the think pieces start and this and that around things

1438
01:07:55,640 --> 01:07:57,640
Speaker 1: that you do, it's gonna come from white women.

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01:07:58,080 --> 01:08:00,160
Speaker 3: That that happens a lot in the United States. So

1440
01:08:00,400 --> 01:08:02,640
Speaker 3: I think when you travel more and you go places

1441
01:08:02,720 --> 01:08:06,120
Speaker 3: outside of here, it's not really like that.

1442
01:08:07,080 --> 01:08:12,360
Speaker 1: I think that black women we be our own biggest enemies.

1443
01:08:12,440 --> 01:08:13,120
Speaker 1: A lot of the time.

1444
01:08:13,240 --> 01:08:15,840
Speaker 3: We always against each other instead of trying to come

1445
01:08:15,920 --> 01:08:17,720
Speaker 3: together because I think we look at a lot of

1446
01:08:17,800 --> 01:08:20,519
Speaker 3: things like it's a competition, which, if we really gonna

1447
01:08:20,560 --> 01:08:22,360
Speaker 3: get deep about it, I think it steems way back

1448
01:08:22,400 --> 01:08:25,880
Speaker 3: from slavery to gym crow laws. All of these things

1449
01:08:26,000 --> 01:08:28,680
Speaker 3: are reasons why as black women, we look at each

1450
01:08:28,680 --> 01:08:31,000
Speaker 3: other as competition and we just can't be happy for

1451
01:08:31,080 --> 01:08:34,400
Speaker 3: one another because it's like your success means my downfall,

1452
01:08:34,560 --> 01:08:37,479
Speaker 3: when in reality that's not what it means. We can

1453
01:08:37,600 --> 01:08:40,080
Speaker 3: all come together and do things collectively. But it's like

1454
01:08:40,360 --> 01:08:42,479
Speaker 3: even with us, like and I'm sure Kekey, because I

1455
01:08:42,560 --> 01:08:45,360
Speaker 3: was gonna ask Kekey too, I'm sure she deals with

1456
01:08:45,439 --> 01:08:47,000
Speaker 3: the well, I know you deal with the same things.

1457
01:08:47,040 --> 01:08:49,760
Speaker 3: I've seen all comments too. People are always putting us

1458
01:08:49,880 --> 01:08:51,880
Speaker 3: against each other as black women. Me and you are

1459
01:08:51,960 --> 01:08:55,120
Speaker 3: doing something together, Keiki and Adina are doing something together,

1460
01:08:55,200 --> 01:08:57,519
Speaker 3: but people can't help but try to put us against

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01:08:57,600 --> 01:09:00,479
Speaker 3: each other. And it's like you said, fire for cent

1462
01:09:00,600 --> 01:09:02,400
Speaker 3: of our audience are black women. So guess who it

1463
01:09:02,520 --> 01:09:05,040
Speaker 3: is in the comments that's doing it? Black women. I

1464
01:09:05,160 --> 01:09:07,360
Speaker 3: can't speak to what white women are gonna do when

1465
01:09:07,439 --> 01:09:11,200
Speaker 3: that's not our audience. Yet I get there, but I

1466
01:09:11,240 --> 01:09:14,960
Speaker 3: guess because I'll chat with y'all when I get right,

1467
01:09:15,120 --> 01:09:16,360
Speaker 3: I guess because I see it.

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01:09:16,520 --> 01:09:20,080
Speaker 1: Like just like for an example, like we can talk

1469
01:09:20,160 --> 01:09:23,479
Speaker 1: about like the things that are going on with like big,

1470
01:09:23,600 --> 01:09:25,599
Speaker 1: big celebrities. But like I said, a lot of times

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01:09:25,640 --> 01:09:28,040
Speaker 1: when I'm scrolling, I be ending up on the side

1472
01:09:28,040 --> 01:09:30,040
Speaker 1: of TikTok. I'm know I'm not supposed to be on,

1473
01:09:30,520 --> 01:09:32,360
Speaker 1: but it be a lot of times I'll be seeing

1474
01:09:32,439 --> 01:09:36,120
Speaker 1: white white people be so bold on there. Yeah, so

1475
01:09:36,400 --> 01:09:38,280
Speaker 1: bold on there. And like I said, I feel like

1476
01:09:38,320 --> 01:09:41,080
Speaker 1: when it comes to Beyonce showed it with Cowboy Carter,

1477
01:09:41,160 --> 01:09:45,360
Speaker 1: the white women showed they ass Beyonce's biggest hater is

1478
01:09:45,479 --> 01:09:47,439
Speaker 1: white women period.

1479
01:09:47,680 --> 01:09:51,280
Speaker 3: Like it's I mean, I don't know that's why, because

1480
01:09:51,320 --> 01:09:54,200
Speaker 3: I know a lot of black people personally that have

1481
01:09:54,400 --> 01:09:57,640
Speaker 3: no reason to think that Beyonce doesn't deserve all of

1482
01:09:57,760 --> 01:10:00,640
Speaker 3: the like praise that she is with They're still like,

1483
01:10:01,080 --> 01:10:02,880
Speaker 3: I think she overrated.

1484
01:10:02,560 --> 01:10:04,559
Speaker 1: And that's somebody you cannot trust, and that's.

1485
01:10:04,439 --> 01:10:09,360
Speaker 3: Somebody you can't trust other than the fact that everybody

1486
01:10:09,439 --> 01:10:11,400
Speaker 3: else loves her. So it's like, well, let me just

1487
01:10:11,479 --> 01:10:14,280
Speaker 3: say I feel like she overrated. I don't really feel

1488
01:10:14,280 --> 01:10:15,720
Speaker 3: like she did great. I was having a conversation with

1489
01:10:15,760 --> 01:10:19,640
Speaker 3: one of my elders. I won't say who, somebody in

1490
01:10:19,760 --> 01:10:23,479
Speaker 3: my family, and they were just like, you know, Beyonce

1491
01:10:23,800 --> 01:10:26,360
Speaker 3: is cool, but I just she don't give me that

1492
01:10:26,600 --> 01:10:31,599
Speaker 3: feeling that Aretha Franklin and Patty LaBelle and Anita Baker,

1493
01:10:31,680 --> 01:10:34,920
Speaker 3: those were singers, Like I'm not saying that she can't sing,

1494
01:10:35,479 --> 01:10:38,360
Speaker 3: but I'm just saying like she she's not on their level,

1495
01:10:38,400 --> 01:10:40,720
Speaker 3: and she don't make me feel like that deep down

1496
01:10:40,800 --> 01:10:42,320
Speaker 3: in my soul, the way that they used to make

1497
01:10:42,360 --> 01:10:45,839
Speaker 3: me feel when they came out with albums What Sorrow.

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Speaker 1: Well, I don't think that's hey. I think that's just

1499
01:10:50,240 --> 01:10:53,840
Speaker 1: versus somebody saying this is not country. She does not

1500
01:10:54,040 --> 01:10:56,559
Speaker 1: deserve this, she sucks. They didn't say she sucks. They

1501
01:10:56,680 --> 01:10:59,200
Speaker 1: just said I don't get that same feeling. So it's

1502
01:10:59,200 --> 01:11:02,240
Speaker 1: a difference between critiquing somebody and have an opinion and

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01:11:02,400 --> 01:11:04,840
Speaker 1: just flat out being a hater and being mean.

1504
01:11:05,040 --> 01:11:08,120
Speaker 3: Just because I would like or black women to be

1505
01:11:08,280 --> 01:11:12,920
Speaker 3: our allies because we all black, I would love that, however,

1506
01:11:13,479 --> 01:11:16,000
Speaker 3: not the allies. I would love for us to be

1507
01:11:16,120 --> 01:11:18,800
Speaker 3: allies because we're all black. But at the end of

1508
01:11:18,880 --> 01:11:21,360
Speaker 3: the day, like I just feel like hate be coming

1509
01:11:21,400 --> 01:11:23,840
Speaker 3: from everybody. It goes back to what y'all were saying earlier,

1510
01:11:23,880 --> 01:11:25,559
Speaker 3: which I think y'all both made a really good point.

1511
01:11:25,680 --> 01:11:28,720
Speaker 3: It's more of a character flaw, yeah, than a race thing.

1512
01:11:28,880 --> 01:11:30,200
Speaker 1: It's definitely something internal.

1513
01:11:30,560 --> 01:11:33,880
Speaker 2: I hate that we feel like there can only be one,

1514
01:11:34,520 --> 01:11:38,599
Speaker 2: even like whether people are pitting y'all against each other

1515
01:11:39,000 --> 01:11:42,360
Speaker 2: or like it's like, oh, well, Kik, how do you

1516
01:11:42,400 --> 01:11:43,720
Speaker 2: feel about poor mind's doing this?

1517
01:11:44,520 --> 01:11:46,360
Speaker 1: I feel great. Those are my friends. I am so

1518
01:11:46,520 --> 01:11:48,960
Speaker 1: proud of them. What else would I feel? Do you

1519
01:11:49,000 --> 01:11:51,400
Speaker 1: think I'm supposed to feel like I should be doing

1520
01:11:51,520 --> 01:11:53,559
Speaker 1: what they do? We're different people.

1521
01:11:54,479 --> 01:11:57,560
Speaker 2: It is in people, and whether they think it or

1522
01:11:57,600 --> 01:11:59,320
Speaker 2: they want you to think it, I don't know what

1523
01:11:59,479 --> 01:12:02,720
Speaker 2: it is. But we've got to collectively get out of

1524
01:12:02,800 --> 01:12:05,000
Speaker 2: this mindset that there can only be one or two

1525
01:12:05,200 --> 01:12:07,639
Speaker 2: or three. There's not room for more people. The Internet

1526
01:12:07,760 --> 01:12:11,200
Speaker 2: is big, it's not going anywhere, I hope, and there's

1527
01:12:11,280 --> 01:12:13,720
Speaker 2: room for everybody to do so many things. Do you

1528
01:12:13,880 --> 01:12:17,599
Speaker 2: only buy one lip gloss? Do you only watch one show?

1529
01:12:18,080 --> 01:12:20,519
Speaker 2: Do you only wear one ounce?

1530
01:12:20,920 --> 01:12:25,040
Speaker 1: Because I don't only buy one? I like a variety.

1531
01:12:25,080 --> 01:12:27,040
Speaker 1: What you like? You know?

1532
01:12:27,560 --> 01:12:30,880
Speaker 3: Sometimes you buying cans already. Let me know you ain't

1533
01:12:31,360 --> 01:12:37,360
Speaker 3: real bean connoisseur. That's that's all for the baked beans

1534
01:12:37,479 --> 01:12:40,519
Speaker 3: that take all day finish.

1535
01:12:41,280 --> 01:12:42,920
Speaker 1: I said, it depends on if I'm doing like a

1536
01:12:43,000 --> 01:12:46,000
Speaker 1: red beans and rice bag beans. If I'm doing a

1537
01:12:46,080 --> 01:12:50,000
Speaker 1: baked beans can of beans, you need a variety.

1538
01:12:51,479 --> 01:12:56,639
Speaker 3: Baked beans with bag beans, you're nuts.

1539
01:12:56,840 --> 01:13:02,960
Speaker 1: You gotta be eighty seven a variety of things, you

1540
01:13:03,040 --> 01:13:06,400
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Certain though, for certain situations. Well,

1541
01:13:06,400 --> 01:13:07,679
Speaker 1: I do have a question, though, how.

1542
01:13:07,600 --> 01:13:11,320
Speaker 3: Do y'all feel about being in this space that we're

1543
01:13:11,400 --> 01:13:15,280
Speaker 3: in and everybody with the cancel culture? Do you ever

1544
01:13:15,360 --> 01:13:17,920
Speaker 3: feel pressure to make sure like versus back in the

1545
01:13:18,000 --> 01:13:21,000
Speaker 3: day when you first started doing cocktails, you could speak

1546
01:13:21,080 --> 01:13:24,240
Speaker 3: more freely. Now, do you ever feel the pressure to

1547
01:13:24,320 --> 01:13:26,479
Speaker 3: where you feel like you can't be yourself because you

1548
01:13:26,520 --> 01:13:28,559
Speaker 3: can't really say what's on your mind all the time

1549
01:13:28,680 --> 01:13:29,839
Speaker 3: out of fear of being.

1550
01:13:29,760 --> 01:13:39,160
Speaker 2: Canceled sometimes or having like some sort of backlash for

1551
01:13:39,280 --> 01:13:41,479
Speaker 2: sharing my opinion. Because when I shared on something that

1552
01:13:41,560 --> 01:13:43,559
Speaker 2: I consider light, people be real mass.

1553
01:13:43,600 --> 01:13:44,840
Speaker 1: So it's like if I.

1554
01:13:45,400 --> 01:13:48,000
Speaker 2: Really let something out or like you know, you might

1555
01:13:48,479 --> 01:13:50,640
Speaker 2: have a slip of the tongue and say something not

1556
01:13:50,760 --> 01:13:53,880
Speaker 2: exactly how you mean it, and it get misconstrued. I've

1557
01:13:53,880 --> 01:13:57,080
Speaker 2: been working at communicating better, but you know, one day

1558
01:13:57,080 --> 01:13:58,960
Speaker 2: at a time, y'all still don't know.

1559
01:13:59,080 --> 01:14:01,559
Speaker 1: What words mean, so that can be difficult.

1560
01:14:01,640 --> 01:14:04,439
Speaker 2: But it's hard, and it's like, Okay, you want to

1561
01:14:04,680 --> 01:14:06,720
Speaker 2: make sure that you get your point across, make sure

1562
01:14:06,800 --> 01:14:09,960
Speaker 2: that you deliver in your talking. But then it's like, eh,

1563
01:14:10,200 --> 01:14:12,439
Speaker 2: I probably shouldn't say that because they're gonna be too mad.

1564
01:14:12,600 --> 01:14:15,600
Speaker 1: But I think people also don't consider people's experiences, like

1565
01:14:15,760 --> 01:14:18,200
Speaker 1: I feel this way because I've been through something, So

1566
01:14:18,320 --> 01:14:20,560
Speaker 1: how can you cancel me or take that away from me?

1567
01:14:20,760 --> 01:14:24,559
Speaker 1: This is what my experience is. Forget even always one

1568
01:14:24,640 --> 01:14:26,840
Speaker 1: that exists on a platform and says I hate men.

1569
01:14:26,960 --> 01:14:28,800
Speaker 1: All men are bad and they're like, oh my gosh,

1570
01:14:28,920 --> 01:14:31,080
Speaker 1: this stupid girls gonna leave. Y'all don't know what she's

1571
01:14:31,120 --> 01:14:32,920
Speaker 1: been through in her experience with me, and y'all don't

1572
01:14:32,920 --> 01:14:35,200
Speaker 1: know what her dad, her uncle, her brothers are, any

1573
01:14:35,240 --> 01:14:37,760
Speaker 1: experience with men that she's had. So you have to

1574
01:14:37,840 --> 01:14:40,320
Speaker 1: understand where people are coming from. So I think we're

1575
01:14:40,400 --> 01:14:43,720
Speaker 1: coming from in the society now a closed minded point

1576
01:14:43,720 --> 01:14:46,120
Speaker 1: of view. I don't agree with her cancel it.

1577
01:14:46,320 --> 01:14:48,600
Speaker 3: I think people want you to lie though, because I

1578
01:14:48,640 --> 01:14:51,479
Speaker 3: think I've said this before on the show, Like people

1579
01:14:51,600 --> 01:14:54,120
Speaker 3: have said like they'll be like, oh, I feel like

1580
01:14:54,560 --> 01:14:57,320
Speaker 3: Drea acts like she's perfect and she hasn't been through

1581
01:14:57,400 --> 01:15:00,760
Speaker 3: anything versus Les. I feel feel like, you know, she

1582
01:15:00,920 --> 01:15:03,800
Speaker 3: tries to understand different people's perspective, which is fair. I

1583
01:15:03,840 --> 01:15:06,240
Speaker 3: do feel like you try to understand different people's perspective

1584
01:15:06,680 --> 01:15:08,920
Speaker 3: with me. It's not that I haven't tried to understand

1585
01:15:08,920 --> 01:15:12,479
Speaker 3: the perspective. I just ain't been through that. So what

1586
01:15:12,600 --> 01:15:14,320
Speaker 3: do you want me to speak to Do you want

1587
01:15:14,360 --> 01:15:16,439
Speaker 3: me to lie and be like, oh, yeah, I've been

1588
01:15:16,520 --> 01:15:19,040
Speaker 3: through that to make you feel better when I haven't.

1589
01:15:19,200 --> 01:15:21,240
Speaker 1: So I don't think they expect you a lot. I

1590
01:15:21,400 --> 01:15:25,840
Speaker 1: guess what they mean so more is like hypothetically, I

1591
01:15:25,920 --> 01:15:27,600
Speaker 1: guess what I try to do is like, let me

1592
01:15:27,680 --> 01:15:30,080
Speaker 1: try to put myself in their shoes and see why

1593
01:15:30,280 --> 01:15:31,800
Speaker 1: and understand why they did that.

1594
01:15:31,960 --> 01:15:34,599
Speaker 3: Sometimes I feel like you don't have their shoes though, huh,

1595
01:15:34,960 --> 01:15:35,960
Speaker 3: I said sometimes.

1596
01:15:36,120 --> 01:15:40,160
Speaker 1: Sometimes I haven't. So and this might be a little

1597
01:15:40,160 --> 01:15:43,439
Speaker 1: bit extreme, but like if like somebody says, oh, I

1598
01:15:43,560 --> 01:15:46,640
Speaker 1: lived under a bridge, Have I lived under a bridge? Absolutely? Not,

1599
01:15:46,840 --> 01:15:49,840
Speaker 1: but maybe I can understand their circumstances that got them

1600
01:15:49,920 --> 01:15:52,639
Speaker 1: there because I try to take myself out of lexp

1601
01:15:52,840 --> 01:15:56,000
Speaker 1: shoes and look, Okay, what went on? What is there?

1602
01:15:56,160 --> 01:15:59,360
Speaker 1: So I don't think necessarily is oh I've been through that,

1603
01:15:59,400 --> 01:16:00,920
Speaker 1: because I haven't been through a lot of shit. But

1604
01:16:00,960 --> 01:16:03,479
Speaker 1: I guess I just try to be understanding just because

1605
01:16:03,560 --> 01:16:04,920
Speaker 1: I have been through some things that people are like,

1606
01:16:05,040 --> 01:16:07,040
Speaker 1: how the fuck did you get there? You know? So

1607
01:16:07,160 --> 01:16:10,439
Speaker 1: I don't think it's necessarily, but some that's the beauty

1608
01:16:10,479 --> 01:16:14,040
Speaker 1: of life. Everybody's brain works different. I don't want people

1609
01:16:14,040 --> 01:16:16,599
Speaker 1: to think like me. I don't want I think that's

1610
01:16:16,680 --> 01:16:19,960
Speaker 1: what brings interest to the show too. Why would y'all

1611
01:16:20,000 --> 01:16:22,760
Speaker 1: want two people who sit here talking about exactly the

1612
01:16:22,880 --> 01:16:25,160
Speaker 1: whole time. That's boring. I agree.

1613
01:16:25,439 --> 01:16:29,559
Speaker 2: I try to look in all aspects of my life,

1614
01:16:29,680 --> 01:16:32,000
Speaker 2: put myself in somebody else's shoes, try to understand how

1615
01:16:32,040 --> 01:16:34,599
Speaker 2: they get there. Sometimes I really just be confused, because, bitch,

1616
01:16:34,640 --> 01:16:35,439
Speaker 2: how did you get here?

1617
01:16:35,920 --> 01:16:36,160
Speaker 1: Kyl?

1618
01:16:36,200 --> 01:16:38,200
Speaker 2: There are so many things you could have done. Like

1619
01:16:38,280 --> 01:16:40,439
Speaker 2: if you said, have I slept under a bridge? Yes,

1620
01:16:40,520 --> 01:16:42,680
Speaker 2: I would be like, now, lex you know, it's a

1621
01:16:42,760 --> 01:16:44,519
Speaker 2: few things you could have did before we got to this.

1622
01:16:44,600 --> 01:16:47,240
Speaker 4: Point, but I do try to understand that's where I be.

1623
01:16:48,920 --> 01:16:55,280
Speaker 1: Mill Bridge. I would have because sometimes that's how I'd be, like, well,

1624
01:16:56,240 --> 01:16:56,920
Speaker 1: playing devils.

1625
01:16:57,280 --> 01:17:00,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's difficult, but it's also like I think we

1626
01:17:00,479 --> 01:17:03,200
Speaker 2: all across the board, the listeners and the host, we

1627
01:17:03,320 --> 01:17:05,040
Speaker 2: gotta be okay with people just not liking it.

1628
01:17:05,120 --> 01:17:06,960
Speaker 1: I wish that some people who don't like it would

1629
01:17:07,000 --> 01:17:10,479
Speaker 1: just go away, you know, and shut up. But it's like, hey,

1630
01:17:10,720 --> 01:17:11,000
Speaker 1: this is.

1631
01:17:11,040 --> 01:17:13,519
Speaker 2: My opinion, this is my take, and if you don't

1632
01:17:13,640 --> 01:17:15,800
Speaker 2: like it, if you feel a way about it, that's okay.

1633
01:17:16,040 --> 01:17:16,720
Speaker 1: This isn't for you.

1634
01:17:17,400 --> 01:17:20,080
Speaker 4: The sooner we all realize that everything ain't for everybody,

1635
01:17:20,600 --> 01:17:21,720
Speaker 4: the better, but it is.

1636
01:17:21,960 --> 01:17:22,599
Speaker 1: It is hard.

1637
01:17:22,720 --> 01:17:25,559
Speaker 2: And then like even when it comes to thinking about

1638
01:17:25,640 --> 01:17:28,439
Speaker 2: people wanting to cancel you based on your opinion or

1639
01:17:28,560 --> 01:17:30,920
Speaker 2: how you treat stuff, I just really feel like people

1640
01:17:31,000 --> 01:17:33,640
Speaker 2: be slow because sometimes I think that they read too

1641
01:17:33,720 --> 01:17:34,519
Speaker 2: deep into things.

1642
01:17:34,640 --> 01:17:36,320
Speaker 1: I think that they don't understand.

1643
01:17:36,320 --> 01:17:38,519
Speaker 2: They're not paying I don't know what's happening, but something

1644
01:17:38,640 --> 01:17:40,400
Speaker 2: upstairs is not clicking.

1645
01:17:40,720 --> 01:17:44,280
Speaker 1: I think that's the beauty of conversation, that's the beauty

1646
01:17:44,320 --> 01:17:47,400
Speaker 1: of humans that we don't think like, yeah, I'm not

1647
01:17:47,520 --> 01:17:50,000
Speaker 1: going to cancel somebody because they don't think the same

1648
01:17:50,080 --> 01:17:52,760
Speaker 1: way as me. How ignorant is that? Sure, that's how

1649
01:17:52,800 --> 01:17:55,559
Speaker 1: you learn people, that's how you understand people, and that's

1650
01:17:55,560 --> 01:17:58,880
Speaker 1: how you have the skill of conversation. A lot of

1651
01:17:58,920 --> 01:18:01,040
Speaker 1: times people get mad because when people come sit on

1652
01:18:01,120 --> 01:18:03,200
Speaker 1: this couch, they're like, oh, well, Dre and Lex should

1653
01:18:03,200 --> 01:18:06,439
Speaker 1: have fought back. It's I am not here to change

1654
01:18:06,479 --> 01:18:09,800
Speaker 1: your way of thinking. I am here to just listen

1655
01:18:09,840 --> 01:18:12,400
Speaker 1: to you talk and be like, oh you think this way.

1656
01:18:12,880 --> 01:18:16,280
Speaker 1: I think this way. This is not I'm not here

1657
01:18:16,320 --> 01:18:18,920
Speaker 1: to like educate somebody. Poor mind is not here for that.

1658
01:18:19,280 --> 01:18:21,200
Speaker 3: And the whole time I don't even be hearing how

1659
01:18:21,280 --> 01:18:24,120
Speaker 3: nobody thinks. That's just y'all exactly.

1660
01:18:24,960 --> 01:18:27,479
Speaker 2: I was gonna ask y'all, have y'all ever said something

1661
01:18:27,600 --> 01:18:29,120
Speaker 2: and as soon as it came out of your mouth

1662
01:18:29,280 --> 01:18:31,120
Speaker 2: you kind of had a little regret, whether it was

1663
01:18:31,880 --> 01:18:34,519
Speaker 2: you misspoke and you knew that it didn't come out

1664
01:18:34,880 --> 01:18:36,800
Speaker 2: like you meant it and you thought you might offend

1665
01:18:36,880 --> 01:18:38,320
Speaker 2: somebody that you didn't intend to.

1666
01:18:38,800 --> 01:18:41,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, or absolutely yeah, absolutely.

1667
01:18:41,880 --> 01:18:44,120
Speaker 3: If people say something about it or we cut it out, well,

1668
01:18:44,160 --> 01:18:46,160
Speaker 3: at this point, yeah, we just be cutting shit out.

1669
01:18:46,240 --> 01:18:46,400
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1670
01:18:47,080 --> 01:18:49,280
Speaker 3: Like that's because right after I say it, if I

1671
01:18:49,479 --> 01:18:51,479
Speaker 3: know I said something, I'm like, oh shit, let me

1672
01:18:51,560 --> 01:18:53,080
Speaker 3: take shaye right now, time simp.

1673
01:18:53,840 --> 01:18:56,519
Speaker 4: I'll be saying something so it pops up in the trance.

1674
01:18:56,680 --> 01:19:00,320
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, let this out. Make sure I do. Oh yeah.

1675
01:19:00,320 --> 01:19:03,040
Speaker 3: But when we were younger, for sure, because you know,

1676
01:19:03,240 --> 01:19:07,960
Speaker 3: back then, we didn't have the luxury of having people

1677
01:19:08,200 --> 01:19:10,479
Speaker 3: editing our videos and stuff like that, so we would

1678
01:19:10,520 --> 01:19:12,519
Speaker 3: just upload stuff. And I don't think even back then

1679
01:19:12,600 --> 01:19:15,200
Speaker 3: I knew that you could cut YouTube videos once they

1680
01:19:15,240 --> 01:19:18,280
Speaker 3: were up. So I remember we had a specific video

1681
01:19:19,160 --> 01:19:23,640
Speaker 3: and we had said something about like the LGBTQ community

1682
01:19:23,760 --> 01:19:24,040
Speaker 3: or whatever.

1683
01:19:24,120 --> 01:19:26,519
Speaker 1: We ended up having to get it cause y'all was

1684
01:19:26,520 --> 01:19:29,280
Speaker 1: talking spicy. Well, it wasn't that we were talking spicy.

1685
01:19:29,439 --> 01:19:35,000
Speaker 3: We said h improper term, improper term, and there was

1686
01:19:35,160 --> 01:19:36,240
Speaker 3: I'll go ahead, I'm sorry.

1687
01:19:36,120 --> 01:19:37,439
Speaker 1: No, yeah, And I was just gonna say.

1688
01:19:37,560 --> 01:19:40,640
Speaker 3: We had somebody on the show who was part of

1689
01:19:40,720 --> 01:19:43,639
Speaker 3: the LGBTQ community and they were just like, yeah, y'all

1690
01:19:43,760 --> 01:19:46,320
Speaker 3: need to take that out if y'all can, because we

1691
01:19:46,400 --> 01:19:48,200
Speaker 3: sent him the episode and he was like, yeah, y'all

1692
01:19:48,200 --> 01:19:48,560
Speaker 3: need to take that.

1693
01:19:48,720 --> 01:19:52,559
Speaker 1: It was a story i'all told too, shout out to Jerome.

1694
01:19:53,040 --> 01:19:59,519
Speaker 1: I know it, but Jerome, but because the one thing

1695
01:19:59,600 --> 01:20:02,280
Speaker 1: I love about him is like he's not here to

1696
01:20:02,520 --> 01:20:05,559
Speaker 1: cancel us. He's here to educate us. And I think

1697
01:20:05,600 --> 01:20:09,200
Speaker 1: that's how everybody should be. Instead of calling somebody ignorant

1698
01:20:09,240 --> 01:20:11,920
Speaker 1: and saying you want to cancel them, educate them on

1699
01:20:12,160 --> 01:20:14,559
Speaker 1: why how did they are ignorant? Yeah?

1700
01:20:14,720 --> 01:20:17,320
Speaker 2: Educate them because making people are ignorant when it comes

1701
01:20:17,360 --> 01:20:20,040
Speaker 2: to things like that, Yeah, the terms and stuff and

1702
01:20:20,240 --> 01:20:21,080
Speaker 2: using the words.

1703
01:20:21,560 --> 01:20:24,560
Speaker 1: For me, it's important to use the right word. That

1704
01:20:24,760 --> 01:20:25,559
Speaker 1: is how I feel.

1705
01:20:25,680 --> 01:20:28,680
Speaker 2: So when I learned something, I want to use the

1706
01:20:28,720 --> 01:20:31,599
Speaker 2: words because to me, it's like it's nothing to give

1707
01:20:31,680 --> 01:20:34,080
Speaker 2: somebody respect by calling them the name that they are

1708
01:20:34,200 --> 01:20:37,160
Speaker 2: asking to be called. It is very I don't like

1709
01:20:37,200 --> 01:20:41,639
Speaker 2: when people mispronounce my name Kiara. They'll say other things

1710
01:20:41,720 --> 01:20:43,960
Speaker 2: and it's just like yeah, and it's like, I told you,

1711
01:20:44,800 --> 01:20:47,840
Speaker 2: what does it cost you to do that? I don't

1712
01:20:47,840 --> 01:20:48,880
Speaker 2: care how you feel about it.

1713
01:20:48,920 --> 01:20:54,320
Speaker 1: People call me dri Dria off and you know what's crazy.

1714
01:20:54,360 --> 01:20:55,920
Speaker 1: I know y'all gonna talk about me in the comments.

1715
01:20:56,080 --> 01:20:59,000
Speaker 1: I get people's name wrong and I'm not kidding. I

1716
01:20:59,360 --> 01:21:02,840
Speaker 1: funk people's you said it earlier. I can't help it.

1717
01:21:02,920 --> 01:21:05,360
Speaker 1: I'll be country, I'm stupid, I'm slow, I'm a little.

1718
01:21:05,720 --> 01:21:07,360
Speaker 1: When I see your name, I say it how I

1719
01:21:07,439 --> 01:21:09,320
Speaker 1: see it. You know what I'm saying. But when they

1720
01:21:09,439 --> 01:21:13,680
Speaker 1: correct you, yeah, no, I'll be wanting people to correct me,

1721
01:21:13,800 --> 01:21:18,400
Speaker 1: correct me. I'll be like I'll be trying, y'all, I

1722
01:21:18,520 --> 01:21:19,480
Speaker 1: really be trying.

1723
01:21:19,560 --> 01:21:23,560
Speaker 2: Honest mistake. I'm okay if somebody says something to me

1724
01:21:23,720 --> 01:21:25,640
Speaker 2: to let me know. But when y'all just don't like

1725
01:21:25,720 --> 01:21:27,360
Speaker 2: it because we got a difference of opinion, Well, girl,

1726
01:21:27,360 --> 01:21:28,840
Speaker 2: I don't like what you have to say what you

1727
01:21:28,920 --> 01:21:31,280
Speaker 2: did either, because there are some things I feel very

1728
01:21:31,320 --> 01:21:34,400
Speaker 2: strongly about, and I will block you and I won't

1729
01:21:34,400 --> 01:21:34,720
Speaker 2: talk to you.

1730
01:21:34,840 --> 01:21:36,560
Speaker 1: I don't care who you are, but you not what

1731
01:21:36,800 --> 01:21:38,880
Speaker 1: it'd be like, I don't even know what you did

1732
01:21:39,840 --> 01:21:44,040
Speaker 1: because I didn't know that she was here. Actually, what

1733
01:21:47,680 --> 01:21:51,400
Speaker 1: may be so irritated because if you have such a

1734
01:21:51,479 --> 01:21:55,479
Speaker 1: strong opinion, go start your own platform. You can. I

1735
01:21:55,600 --> 01:21:58,640
Speaker 1: just think maybe they did, and maybe they did, and

1736
01:21:58,880 --> 01:22:02,280
Speaker 1: we don't know about it exactly. So that's what I'm saying.

1737
01:22:02,360 --> 01:22:04,080
Speaker 3: Like, sometimes I just be feeling like when it comes

1738
01:22:04,080 --> 01:22:06,719
Speaker 3: to people you just don't have to be here versus

1739
01:22:06,760 --> 01:22:07,960
Speaker 3: spewing negativt.

1740
01:22:08,160 --> 01:22:10,000
Speaker 1: And I'm not gonna lie. That's why I always say

1741
01:22:10,320 --> 01:22:12,559
Speaker 1: I think poor minds. We have reached a space where

1742
01:22:12,720 --> 01:22:15,240
Speaker 1: like sometimes people are tuned in like some it's gonna

1743
01:22:15,240 --> 01:22:17,519
Speaker 1: be people that tune in today that are here for Kiki. Yeah,

1744
01:22:17,720 --> 01:22:19,639
Speaker 1: Like I hate poor minds, but I love Kiki. I'm

1745
01:22:19,680 --> 01:22:21,760
Speaker 1: heading for it. Yeah, but I think that's why I'll

1746
01:22:21,800 --> 01:22:23,559
Speaker 1: be having a ball over. I love lex P because

1747
01:22:23,600 --> 01:22:26,280
Speaker 1: they know what lex P is. They know I'm loud,

1748
01:22:27,160 --> 01:22:29,680
Speaker 1: they know I'm missy. I don't have to hear that

1749
01:22:29,920 --> 01:22:32,560
Speaker 1: because I saw a TikTok today of this girl and

1750
01:22:32,680 --> 01:22:34,439
Speaker 1: she was making fun of Keiki Palmer because she was

1751
01:22:34,439 --> 01:22:37,479
Speaker 1: like the god, yes, the guy, Yes, Kiki is so loud.

1752
01:22:37,800 --> 01:22:40,920
Speaker 1: She saw this, She's so that. It's like, why are

1753
01:22:41,080 --> 01:22:44,320
Speaker 1: people girls with a lot of personality? People? If you

1754
01:22:44,520 --> 01:22:46,439
Speaker 1: get on, if we get on your nerves so bad,

1755
01:22:46,800 --> 01:22:49,439
Speaker 1: just don't watch. Stop trying to make girls with big

1756
01:22:49,520 --> 01:22:51,720
Speaker 1: personalities dim their lights or tell them to shut up.

1757
01:22:51,760 --> 01:22:55,000
Speaker 1: It's very rude. It's not nice. I think we need

1758
01:22:55,080 --> 01:22:56,559
Speaker 1: to think of a name for that. You know, they

1759
01:22:56,600 --> 01:22:59,840
Speaker 1: got fat, phobic, homophobic, personality.

1760
01:23:00,520 --> 01:23:03,559
Speaker 4: Let me be loud and peace's justus sensitive ears.

1761
01:23:04,720 --> 01:23:09,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe maybe they just be. But listen, if you

1762
01:23:09,800 --> 01:23:11,640
Speaker 1: were listening to Key Key Palmer and you don't like

1763
01:23:11,760 --> 01:23:14,439
Speaker 1: loud people, why the fuck are you tuned in or

1764
01:23:14,520 --> 01:23:17,040
Speaker 1: turn the volume down? That's I like Key. I agree

1765
01:23:17,120 --> 01:23:18,519
Speaker 1: she's loud, but I like her.

1766
01:23:18,720 --> 01:23:20,880
Speaker 2: That's what I'm and I think it's just she has

1767
01:23:21,200 --> 01:23:23,000
Speaker 2: so I was to her on a lower volume on

1768
01:23:23,280 --> 01:23:24,800
Speaker 2: some of the other ones, and it's great.

1769
01:23:25,000 --> 01:23:26,120
Speaker 1: My ears be hurting, y'all.

1770
01:23:26,560 --> 01:23:28,559
Speaker 4: You are loud, you know, but I would just turn

1771
01:23:28,640 --> 01:23:29,479
Speaker 4: it down down.

1772
01:23:29,920 --> 01:23:31,920
Speaker 1: Y'all know, y'all know what the fuck going on. Bitch,

1773
01:23:31,960 --> 01:23:33,559
Speaker 1: I'm loud. I got the scream. I got to get

1774
01:23:33,600 --> 01:23:40,840
Speaker 1: the same thing with Wendy Wendy Wow. Love people for

1775
01:23:40,960 --> 01:23:42,760
Speaker 1: who they are, and if you're not a fan of them,

1776
01:23:42,880 --> 01:23:45,320
Speaker 1: please just stop stop talking about because I hate when

1777
01:23:45,360 --> 01:23:49,400
Speaker 1: people say I love you Lex, but I love you Drea.

1778
01:23:49,800 --> 01:23:53,479
Speaker 1: But house can keep they butts when it comes to me.

1779
01:23:53,680 --> 01:23:58,599
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Leave me alone, Spange. You don't

1780
01:23:58,600 --> 01:24:01,439
Speaker 1: even gotta say nothing. You got to say nothing.

1781
01:24:01,520 --> 01:24:04,080
Speaker 3: I love the black people, though they'd be mine. I

1782
01:24:04,240 --> 01:24:06,280
Speaker 3: love blacking people like and I don't care if it's.

1783
01:24:06,200 --> 01:24:08,280
Speaker 1: From you food. Welcome to the block.

1784
01:24:08,680 --> 01:24:10,760
Speaker 3: I love yes because at the end of the day,

1785
01:24:10,840 --> 01:24:14,280
Speaker 3: yeah you are a viewer, but you're one person. Good

1786
01:24:14,400 --> 01:24:15,800
Speaker 3: luck fight of the ship next week.

1787
01:24:16,400 --> 01:24:21,200
Speaker 1: Well yes we did, Yes we did.

1788
01:24:21,400 --> 01:24:27,400
Speaker 3: Actually, bitch, dra just blocked your assy'll be weird.

1789
01:24:27,600 --> 01:24:32,840
Speaker 1: Sometimes I think the worst thing like talking about people's looks,

1790
01:24:32,880 --> 01:24:34,559
Speaker 1: because you know you can't help that. Now, some things

1791
01:24:34,600 --> 01:24:36,479
Speaker 1: you can't help, you know, with the look of doctors

1792
01:24:36,520 --> 01:24:39,719
Speaker 1: and things like that. But personality is people's personality. Stop

1793
01:24:39,800 --> 01:24:42,360
Speaker 1: telling people that are wrong for who they are, Like,

1794
01:24:42,680 --> 01:24:45,400
Speaker 1: that's just so nat Like she was just going in

1795
01:24:45,600 --> 01:24:47,559
Speaker 1: on the video and it was just a lie about

1796
01:24:47,600 --> 01:24:53,880
Speaker 1: you being loud, know about she said, I thought that.

1797
01:24:54,160 --> 01:24:56,040
Speaker 3: But no, I mean I do feel like you can

1798
01:24:56,160 --> 01:24:58,599
Speaker 3: change things about your personality. I think people can change

1799
01:24:58,640 --> 01:25:01,639
Speaker 3: whatever they want to change. You can change things about

1800
01:25:01,640 --> 01:25:04,719
Speaker 3: your personality. But I think when people are complaining about

1801
01:25:04,840 --> 01:25:09,200
Speaker 3: things that aren't necessarily harming them, you just don't like

1802
01:25:09,439 --> 01:25:13,320
Speaker 3: this about this person, you should just stop listening. It's

1803
01:25:13,400 --> 01:25:16,479
Speaker 3: not like, oh, they have misogynistic views, or it's not

1804
01:25:16,680 --> 01:25:21,120
Speaker 3: like they're putting out bullshit ass propaganda and making women

1805
01:25:21,240 --> 01:25:23,919
Speaker 3: feel like, oh you don't need to be a wife anymore.

1806
01:25:24,439 --> 01:25:25,680
Speaker 1: Being a wife is so.

1807
01:25:26,000 --> 01:25:29,120
Speaker 3: Nineteen sixty three, or whatever the case may be. Like,

1808
01:25:29,640 --> 01:25:32,599
Speaker 3: if a person just doesn't like you for who you are,

1809
01:25:33,160 --> 01:25:36,800
Speaker 3: don't listen. But some people do need to change their personalities.

1810
01:25:36,920 --> 01:25:40,200
Speaker 1: Actually, well they say some people do need to do

1811
01:25:40,360 --> 01:25:42,320
Speaker 1: some character development. Yeah.

1812
01:25:43,120 --> 01:25:45,840
Speaker 2: Now, I also think that there are people out there

1813
01:25:46,360 --> 01:25:50,759
Speaker 2: who want so badly to be liked. That's a different

1814
01:25:51,080 --> 01:25:53,800
Speaker 2: type of character flaw to me, because those people, it's

1815
01:25:53,920 --> 01:25:56,160
Speaker 2: like they're constantly changing their personality. So what I see

1816
01:25:56,200 --> 01:26:01,040
Speaker 2: critiques about that, I understand that. Or I'm watching something

1817
01:26:01,840 --> 01:26:05,000
Speaker 2: like different shows, reality shows, for example, and I feel

1818
01:26:05,080 --> 01:26:08,240
Speaker 2: like a housewife walks in and she flip flops.

1819
01:26:07,960 --> 01:26:10,560
Speaker 4: Depending on who she's sitting at dinner or lunch with.

1820
01:26:12,680 --> 01:26:15,000
Speaker 2: That is something where I can understand somebody saying something

1821
01:26:15,000 --> 01:26:15,719
Speaker 2: about the personality.

1822
01:26:15,720 --> 01:26:19,680
Speaker 1: But again, just don't watch because exactly like, if I

1823
01:26:19,720 --> 01:26:22,280
Speaker 1: see somebody on a podcast and on this podcast you

1824
01:26:22,360 --> 01:26:24,240
Speaker 1: this way and on that podcast you that way, Well

1825
01:26:24,240 --> 01:26:24,680
Speaker 1: who are you?

1826
01:26:25,040 --> 01:26:29,200
Speaker 3: Yes, across the board, if people don't like you because

1827
01:26:29,240 --> 01:26:31,559
Speaker 3: you just consistently who you are, well.

1828
01:26:31,439 --> 01:26:33,920
Speaker 1: You don't like me. You just don't like me. Last week,

1829
01:26:33,960 --> 01:26:36,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be mean this week. I'm gonna go out.

1830
01:26:36,760 --> 01:26:39,200
Speaker 1: I'm out on cocktails. I was loud in Australia and

1831
01:26:40,400 --> 01:26:43,840
Speaker 1: I'm a lie when I see you. Yeah yeah, anyways, Yeah.

1832
01:26:43,880 --> 01:26:46,800
Speaker 2: I just think people gotta calm down with being so

1833
01:26:47,000 --> 01:26:51,280
Speaker 2: critical of everyone else about things that don't really matter.

1834
01:26:51,800 --> 01:26:55,320
Speaker 1: Just have a good chance. I don't want to have. No,

1835
01:26:56,200 --> 01:26:56,719
Speaker 1: they don't.

1836
01:26:57,080 --> 01:26:59,320
Speaker 3: They really don't, which is sometimes I feel like while

1837
01:26:59,400 --> 01:27:01,840
Speaker 3: we got into these space because we were all just

1838
01:27:01,960 --> 01:27:03,600
Speaker 3: having fun and it was.

1839
01:27:05,520 --> 01:27:08,000
Speaker 1: Out of it, I'd be like, it's so nice.

1840
01:27:09,320 --> 01:27:13,200
Speaker 2: I used to feel that way with friends, and that

1841
01:27:13,479 --> 01:27:16,320
Speaker 2: was how I landed on the topics for the show,

1842
01:27:16,439 --> 01:27:20,040
Speaker 2: because when I would talk about my dating experiences or

1843
01:27:20,160 --> 01:27:23,000
Speaker 2: my sex life, I was feeling a lot of judgment.

1844
01:27:23,120 --> 01:27:26,839
Speaker 2: And I wasn't even doing nothing too wild cats before Cocktails,

1845
01:27:26,960 --> 01:27:29,120
Speaker 2: just in my life, okay, because when I started Cocktails,

1846
01:27:29,200 --> 01:27:31,600
Speaker 2: I had all of this, all of this history to

1847
01:27:31,680 --> 01:27:34,040
Speaker 2: share stories about, so it wasn't even in real time,

1848
01:27:34,400 --> 01:27:37,240
Speaker 2: but it was like talking to my friends from college

1849
01:27:37,320 --> 01:27:38,280
Speaker 2: or friends from high school.

1850
01:27:38,320 --> 01:27:40,679
Speaker 1: Some people would be entertained and other people.

1851
01:27:40,479 --> 01:27:42,160
Speaker 4: Are like, oh, we need to do this because you'll

1852
01:27:42,200 --> 01:27:44,160
Speaker 4: never get married, you never get this, or you never

1853
01:27:44,240 --> 01:27:47,519
Speaker 4: get that. Well, girl, everybody's not trying to collect four

1854
01:27:47,600 --> 01:27:50,080
Speaker 4: husbands by thirty. You know, like all of us are

1855
01:27:50,160 --> 01:27:52,120
Speaker 4: in a different path and I'm just having fun. I'm

1856
01:27:52,160 --> 01:27:54,439
Speaker 4: trying to figure things out. What's wrong with that? So

1857
01:27:54,640 --> 01:27:57,880
Speaker 4: it was nice to start a show. And at the time,

1858
01:27:57,960 --> 01:27:58,759
Speaker 4: it's like, Okay.

1859
01:27:58,920 --> 01:27:59,400
Speaker 1: I'm in this.

1860
01:28:00,880 --> 01:28:05,200
Speaker 2: Period of like feeling liberated and trying to figure myself out,

1861
01:28:05,240 --> 01:28:07,599
Speaker 2: but being okay with where I'm at as far as

1862
01:28:07,680 --> 01:28:10,560
Speaker 2: like my sexuality was concerned, and being single and just

1863
01:28:10,680 --> 01:28:12,920
Speaker 2: really enjoying that so that I'm not waking up one

1864
01:28:12,960 --> 01:28:16,160
Speaker 2: day and regretting it and turning into god knows what

1865
01:28:16,439 --> 01:28:18,600
Speaker 2: in the middle of a marriage. You know, it was

1866
01:28:18,800 --> 01:28:21,200
Speaker 2: nice when people started listening and then I realized, oh,

1867
01:28:21,200 --> 01:28:23,400
Speaker 2: there's lots of other people out there like me, and

1868
01:28:23,520 --> 01:28:26,000
Speaker 2: it was easy to look at the good stuff and

1869
01:28:26,200 --> 01:28:28,760
Speaker 2: tune out the bad stuff. Sometimes it's just like those

1870
01:28:28,840 --> 01:28:29,519
Speaker 2: negative comments.

1871
01:28:29,560 --> 01:28:31,280
Speaker 1: I hate that. It does that. It's like a cancer.

1872
01:28:31,880 --> 01:28:35,200
Speaker 2: You can have two thousand positive comments and you see

1873
01:28:35,320 --> 01:28:37,519
Speaker 2: those three that stick out that.

1874
01:28:37,560 --> 01:28:40,600
Speaker 1: Are just nasty. Yeah, it does. I be crying. You

1875
01:28:40,760 --> 01:28:42,480
Speaker 1: be crying, well, not in the comments.

1876
01:28:42,200 --> 01:28:44,760
Speaker 2: But just like when but yeah, in real life, like

1877
01:28:45,280 --> 01:28:50,120
Speaker 2: I've definitely cried over like the comments I'm cuting friendship, Yeah, friendship,

1878
01:28:50,720 --> 01:28:53,400
Speaker 2: But like when it comes to the comments, it don't

1879
01:28:53,400 --> 01:28:55,840
Speaker 2: even make me cry. It just be like, fuck you

1880
01:28:55,880 --> 01:28:58,120
Speaker 2: weak ass house because y'all stupid as fucking y'all can't

1881
01:28:58,160 --> 01:28:59,040
Speaker 2: do what the fuck I'm doing.

1882
01:28:59,160 --> 01:29:02,720
Speaker 4: Fuck And I would probably if I said that, I

1883
01:29:02,760 --> 01:29:03,840
Speaker 4: would read it in that voice.

1884
01:29:04,040 --> 01:29:07,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, facts, facts, facts, But then I'd be like, but

1885
01:29:07,479 --> 01:29:09,200
Speaker 3: at the end of the day, like, for real, do

1886
01:29:09,439 --> 01:29:14,280
Speaker 3: fuck y'all block pab not for my feelings to be hurt,

1887
01:29:14,520 --> 01:29:16,840
Speaker 3: for real, Like, let me just block her because if

1888
01:29:16,880 --> 01:29:20,519
Speaker 3: I call me next week, it's gonna hurt my feeling.

1889
01:29:21,080 --> 01:29:23,840
Speaker 1: Like I think people felt bothering yahyah.

1890
01:29:23,640 --> 01:29:26,000
Speaker 4: With whatever they choose to say and how they I

1891
01:29:26,080 --> 01:29:28,120
Speaker 4: remember this girl she had DM me.

1892
01:29:28,520 --> 01:29:30,960
Speaker 2: This wasn't initially, it wasn't to be me. She wanted

1893
01:29:31,000 --> 01:29:33,040
Speaker 2: some help or something, right, So she sends me a

1894
01:29:33,120 --> 01:29:37,160
Speaker 2: GoFundMe and I can't remember what was going on. I

1895
01:29:37,240 --> 01:29:39,360
Speaker 2: think this was one of the This happened to be

1896
01:29:39,439 --> 01:29:43,080
Speaker 2: a time when my grandfather got really sick before he passed,

1897
01:29:43,600 --> 01:29:44,120
Speaker 2: and I.

1898
01:29:44,160 --> 01:29:45,200
Speaker 1: Forgot about the message.

1899
01:29:45,240 --> 01:29:49,040
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, but I wasn't in a position to really

1900
01:29:49,200 --> 01:29:51,719
Speaker 2: help her write that second, I'm trying to help my family.

1901
01:29:52,400 --> 01:29:55,160
Speaker 2: She sent me an old, nasty message, and then she

1902
01:29:55,280 --> 01:29:56,799
Speaker 2: was like, don't even bother responding.

1903
01:29:56,800 --> 01:29:58,559
Speaker 1: I wonder if she watches y'all show. Probably I won.

1904
01:30:00,400 --> 01:30:03,760
Speaker 4: But she was like, after all I've done for you,

1905
01:30:04,800 --> 01:30:06,800
Speaker 4: I was like, wait, what by watching the show?

1906
01:30:06,960 --> 01:30:09,639
Speaker 2: Like that's a trade off. You were asking for help

1907
01:30:09,720 --> 01:30:11,880
Speaker 2: and you don't know what I'm going through.

1908
01:30:12,520 --> 01:30:14,160
Speaker 4: I say all that to say, like, she sent me

1909
01:30:14,240 --> 01:30:17,519
Speaker 4: this long message, told me I gave her my ask

1910
01:30:17,600 --> 01:30:19,320
Speaker 4: to kiss and all this other stuff, and it was

1911
01:30:19,360 --> 01:30:21,479
Speaker 4: just like, well, hey, actually, if you would have caught

1912
01:30:21,479 --> 01:30:24,240
Speaker 4: me at a different time or just sent the link again,

1913
01:30:24,280 --> 01:30:25,679
Speaker 4: I probably would have sent you some money.

1914
01:30:25,880 --> 01:30:28,680
Speaker 2: She blocked me, but I was like, you never know

1915
01:30:28,800 --> 01:30:31,120
Speaker 2: what somebody's going through. So when people are on there

1916
01:30:31,200 --> 01:30:33,960
Speaker 2: writing these mean comments, is saying all this stuff and

1917
01:30:34,160 --> 01:30:36,000
Speaker 2: asking for stuff, and then you cussed me out because

1918
01:30:36,000 --> 01:30:36,759
Speaker 2: I didn't donate.

1919
01:30:37,320 --> 01:30:39,240
Speaker 1: I didn't cause you to go through what she was

1920
01:30:39,320 --> 01:30:40,519
Speaker 1: going through. You're not sick.

1921
01:30:40,680 --> 01:30:43,479
Speaker 2: You made a bad decision. I won't tell all your business,

1922
01:30:43,560 --> 01:30:47,400
Speaker 2: but you made a bad decision. And who you talking about?

1923
01:30:50,520 --> 01:30:53,120
Speaker 1: She gonna be in the comments, I'm sure I'm not why.

1924
01:30:55,400 --> 01:30:56,200
Speaker 4: I never know.

1925
01:30:56,520 --> 01:30:58,840
Speaker 2: And so when I see people, because I've seen people

1926
01:30:58,920 --> 01:31:01,400
Speaker 2: leaving comments and stuff, y'all do were just talking about

1927
01:31:01,479 --> 01:31:02,640
Speaker 2: anyone really like.

1928
01:31:02,720 --> 01:31:04,800
Speaker 1: Y'all don't realize these real people.

1929
01:31:05,160 --> 01:31:08,000
Speaker 2: Like you're watching a character on a show, but the

1930
01:31:08,120 --> 01:31:09,479
Speaker 2: character is attached to a person.

1931
01:31:10,680 --> 01:31:11,880
Speaker 1: Given don't care.

1932
01:31:11,960 --> 01:31:15,120
Speaker 2: But we're supposed to care about everything that they think

1933
01:31:15,320 --> 01:31:18,160
Speaker 2: matters and don't because they want because we're.

1934
01:31:18,040 --> 01:31:22,960
Speaker 1: The only ones that don't. Yeah, it is very unfair.

1935
01:31:23,240 --> 01:31:27,400
Speaker 1: All right, So now it's time to get into the bed.

1936
01:31:28,360 --> 01:31:38,800
Speaker 1: The bed about happy. Okay, does sex count if you

1937
01:31:38,840 --> 01:31:46,479
Speaker 1: didn't finish? Because personally, I don't think it does. I

1938
01:31:46,600 --> 01:31:52,760
Speaker 1: think it's circumstantial. I hope it is. It better be

1939
01:31:54,360 --> 01:31:59,840
Speaker 1: turnal means little. All the reason I say it's circumstantial.

1940
01:31:59,880 --> 01:32:03,240
Speaker 1: But because if it's penis shaming.

1941
01:32:03,360 --> 01:32:07,360
Speaker 4: Now, oh, they said that, I'm always height shaming, y'all.

1942
01:32:07,439 --> 01:32:09,600
Speaker 4: Niggas be short, and that's just what it is.

1943
01:32:09,920 --> 01:32:12,880
Speaker 1: They're not saying all I'm not saying some of y'all.

1944
01:32:14,080 --> 01:32:18,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't want a short king necessarily though, No

1945
01:32:19,280 --> 01:32:19,920
Speaker 3: medium height.

1946
01:32:20,080 --> 01:32:23,000
Speaker 1: About to say, you have to say, what boy is

1947
01:32:23,320 --> 01:32:29,560
Speaker 1: not medium height? He's like five nine, No, he's not

1948
01:32:31,040 --> 01:32:34,280
Speaker 1: I'm five not She said that, like he's great. Really

1949
01:32:36,080 --> 01:32:37,360
Speaker 1: nine cow?

1950
01:32:38,040 --> 01:32:41,040
Speaker 2: Oh, he's being serious cow like five eight in his

1951
01:32:41,160 --> 01:32:43,040
Speaker 2: shoes he find but that's one.

1952
01:32:43,360 --> 01:32:44,400
Speaker 1: No, he five eight for real?

1953
01:32:45,160 --> 01:32:47,200
Speaker 2: No, when you said five nine that part, I was like,

1954
01:32:47,280 --> 01:32:48,040
Speaker 2: that's in his shoes.

1955
01:32:48,840 --> 01:32:52,320
Speaker 1: Oh but anyways, anyway, I'm gonna lie. I think it's

1956
01:32:53,200 --> 01:32:57,439
Speaker 1: tall to me. She's not even going to me. Do

1957
01:32:57,520 --> 01:33:02,400
Speaker 1: y'all remember that? Mean? No? Okay, So I think it's circumstantial.

1958
01:33:02,520 --> 01:33:04,680
Speaker 1: So I think if it's the first time y'all had

1959
01:33:04,800 --> 01:33:08,439
Speaker 1: sex and he didn't make you nothing, unfortunately, though it

1960
01:33:08,560 --> 01:33:11,519
Speaker 1: is a body, it is a body. But like if

1961
01:33:11,600 --> 01:33:14,200
Speaker 1: like I'm having sex with my man and he came

1962
01:33:14,280 --> 01:33:17,000
Speaker 1: before me, they didn't count get me some more, you

1963
01:33:17,080 --> 01:33:19,080
Speaker 1: see what I'm saying. So like if he said, oh, man,

1964
01:33:19,160 --> 01:33:20,880
Speaker 1: we just had sex this morning, No we did not,

1965
01:33:20,960 --> 01:33:23,400
Speaker 1: did not. I didn't finish. But if it's like the

1966
01:33:23,439 --> 01:33:25,160
Speaker 1: first time, you can't say, oh, me and him never

1967
01:33:25,200 --> 01:33:27,519
Speaker 1: had sex? Why not? I mean you who was there

1968
01:33:27,600 --> 01:33:28,599
Speaker 1: to see it? Were you there?

1969
01:33:28,760 --> 01:33:31,200
Speaker 2: You can unless it was a time where I had

1970
01:33:31,240 --> 01:33:34,519
Speaker 2: a third party witness. Maybe I don't care what y'all said.

1971
01:33:34,600 --> 01:33:40,200
Speaker 2: There's no proof. I need receipts, timeline screenshots because.

1972
01:33:41,000 --> 01:33:43,200
Speaker 1: No it's deleted. I don't know.

1973
01:33:44,920 --> 01:33:48,960
Speaker 2: I don't remember you unless it was just like it

1974
01:33:49,120 --> 01:33:51,720
Speaker 2: was still very very enjoyable and I wanted to count

1975
01:33:51,760 --> 01:33:52,720
Speaker 2: it will county.

1976
01:33:52,720 --> 01:33:54,799
Speaker 1: But if I say no, no, it never happened.

1977
01:33:54,960 --> 01:33:57,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm real good. I can get real delulu, my body,

1978
01:33:57,640 --> 01:34:02,600
Speaker 2: my choice exactly. H If I say it, don't count me,

1979
01:34:02,840 --> 01:34:06,360
Speaker 2: you don't count because who won't tell? Who don't know

1980
01:34:06,479 --> 01:34:09,640
Speaker 2: besides me and you? It's your word against mine. But

1981
01:34:10,160 --> 01:34:11,599
Speaker 2: hate unless you got footage.

1982
01:34:12,080 --> 01:34:14,880
Speaker 1: But like when men none, it's like it's done, like

1983
01:34:15,040 --> 01:34:17,599
Speaker 1: the sex is finished. It's like that's so upsetting.

1984
01:34:17,800 --> 01:34:19,639
Speaker 2: That is so rude, because you need to get down

1985
01:34:19,680 --> 01:34:21,439
Speaker 2: there and do something else. You need to be like

1986
01:34:21,600 --> 01:34:22,439
Speaker 2: a preacher boy.

1987
01:34:22,760 --> 01:34:25,000
Speaker 1: I just want to taste it. That's what you need

1988
01:34:25,040 --> 01:34:26,960
Speaker 1: to go down there and do something. I'm leaving here

1989
01:34:27,000 --> 01:34:29,560
Speaker 1: with something. Work on that pale moon. You feel me

1990
01:34:30,600 --> 01:34:33,840
Speaker 1: musty pussy and all. Yeah, I don't care. You should

1991
01:34:33,880 --> 01:34:37,559
Speaker 1: have got it when it was fresh. Your bad, your bad.

1992
01:34:38,240 --> 01:34:47,439
Speaker 2: I came here freshidding actually, guys, because I just.

1993
01:34:47,560 --> 01:34:48,240
Speaker 1: Want you to have it.

1994
01:34:48,320 --> 01:34:50,519
Speaker 2: Whether it's musty or it's fresh, you just need to

1995
01:34:50,560 --> 01:34:53,960
Speaker 2: get it you know, different mustard fear.

1996
01:34:55,520 --> 01:34:58,280
Speaker 1: Sometimes I don't wanted it for you. You have been

1997
01:34:58,360 --> 01:35:01,479
Speaker 1: walking around the house a little bit sometimes I've been.

1998
01:35:01,680 --> 01:35:03,760
Speaker 1: You know, I'm thick. Them thighs don't roll together a

1999
01:35:03,800 --> 01:35:08,160
Speaker 1: little bit. It's not it's muzzing. It's a musk. There's

2000
01:35:08,200 --> 01:35:13,840
Speaker 1: a diff's a cave musk. It the little pussy musk.

2001
01:35:13,920 --> 01:35:16,080
Speaker 1: Don't ever hurt nobody. Musk.

2002
01:35:16,280 --> 01:35:19,000
Speaker 3: It sounds like a great fragrance. Somebody need We used

2003
01:35:19,040 --> 01:35:21,200
Speaker 3: to trademark thing when I want, when I.

2004
01:35:24,160 --> 01:35:29,400
Speaker 1: Believe it. Okay, could you imagine come out with pussy musk?

2005
01:35:30,400 --> 01:35:32,240
Speaker 1: I wonder what it would smell like?

2006
01:35:33,479 --> 01:35:37,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, okay, if you get your pussy musk bottled up,

2007
01:35:37,360 --> 01:35:38,960
Speaker 2: but then you sprayed up somebody else, because you know

2008
01:35:39,000 --> 01:35:40,599
Speaker 2: how everybody the body chemistry.

2009
01:35:40,720 --> 01:35:46,280
Speaker 1: I think did that though it was like a candle

2010
01:35:46,320 --> 01:35:48,760
Speaker 1: that's like smelled like her or something. Eric, I do.

2011
01:35:48,880 --> 01:35:55,000
Speaker 1: Pussy on my neck is crazy? There was my neck

2012
01:35:55,080 --> 01:36:01,679
Speaker 1: has a title on my nail from innovative. Yes, yeah,

2013
01:36:02,000 --> 01:36:04,559
Speaker 1: so yeah, I do think I'm not gonna like if

2014
01:36:04,640 --> 01:36:06,439
Speaker 1: I caught a body. I caught a body, even if

2015
01:36:06,479 --> 01:36:08,439
Speaker 1: I know it or not. But like when it comes

2016
01:36:08,479 --> 01:36:11,040
Speaker 1: to like somebody I'm seriously dating. If you didn't make

2017
01:36:11,080 --> 01:36:12,559
Speaker 1: me nut, no, you need to give it up again

2018
01:36:12,560 --> 01:36:14,840
Speaker 1: because that didn't count. That session didn't count. Period.

2019
01:36:15,439 --> 01:36:20,960
Speaker 2: M Well, I don't like. If I didn't finish, it

2020
01:36:21,040 --> 01:36:23,240
Speaker 2: does not count. And I mean he could say the

2021
01:36:23,280 --> 01:36:25,639
Speaker 2: same thing. I don't know why you would. I would

2022
01:36:25,640 --> 01:36:27,600
Speaker 2: think your dick is broken. Okay, yeah, because like what,

2023
01:36:27,920 --> 01:36:30,960
Speaker 2: I'm not very good a lot of things when it

2024
01:36:31,040 --> 01:36:33,080
Speaker 2: comes to dating, but when it comes to that, I

2025
01:36:33,200 --> 01:36:34,839
Speaker 2: am very confident.

2026
01:36:34,920 --> 01:36:37,280
Speaker 1: All right, let us know how y'all feel them. I'm

2027
01:36:37,360 --> 01:36:40,719
Speaker 1: curious sects count if you didn't finish, Yeah, I don't.

2028
01:36:41,560 --> 01:36:48,800
Speaker 1: So now it's time to get into allow a bow

2029
01:36:49,360 --> 01:36:54,280
Speaker 1: bow bell. You know, I never do throwbacks. I never

2030
01:36:54,360 --> 01:36:57,760
Speaker 1: do throwback. So I wanted to do a throwback this

2031
01:36:58,000 --> 01:37:01,800
Speaker 1: week of one of my favorite artists and I never

2032
01:37:01,920 --> 01:37:05,599
Speaker 1: really talk about him anymore, just because he hasn't dropped

2033
01:37:05,600 --> 01:37:08,120
Speaker 1: a project in a long time. I was listening to

2034
01:37:08,200 --> 01:37:14,120
Speaker 1: the Love Hate album by the dream y'all health. Everybody

2035
01:37:14,160 --> 01:37:16,680
Speaker 1: in the room was like, do y'all realize? Like he

2036
01:37:16,840 --> 01:37:21,439
Speaker 1: had his songs meshed into each other.

2037
01:37:22,479 --> 01:37:30,519
Speaker 5: You need a doctor wrong standby, like they blended whether

2038
01:37:31,240 --> 01:37:34,240
Speaker 5: he was telling a story, they not doing it like

2039
01:37:34,600 --> 01:37:35,280
Speaker 5: that no more.

2040
01:37:35,920 --> 01:37:39,920
Speaker 1: She Needs My Love is one of the best songs ever.

2041
01:37:42,320 --> 01:37:46,479
Speaker 1: The Dreams pen is just I don't think we've seen

2042
01:37:46,560 --> 01:37:49,719
Speaker 1: anything like that since The Pin the Ear.

2043
01:37:50,960 --> 01:37:53,639
Speaker 2: I think that is the beauty when people who really

2044
01:37:53,840 --> 01:38:00,479
Speaker 2: produce and write and sing or perform whichever they do.

2045
01:38:01,320 --> 01:38:01,800
Speaker 1: I love it.

2046
01:38:02,000 --> 01:38:04,360
Speaker 2: I love It's just it's different when you know how

2047
01:38:04,400 --> 01:38:07,080
Speaker 2: to do it all versus you putting out somebody else's stuff,

2048
01:38:07,080 --> 01:38:08,519
Speaker 2: because then you can always put that extra.

2049
01:38:09,040 --> 01:38:11,479
Speaker 1: Yes, she Needs My Love. It's one of my favorite

2050
01:38:11,520 --> 01:38:15,080
Speaker 1: songs on that album Purple Kisses was Abot Fast Car.

2051
01:38:15,240 --> 01:38:17,160
Speaker 1: I remember the first time hearing Fast Car. It gave

2052
01:38:17,200 --> 01:38:19,920
Speaker 1: me Prince Bob's Oh my gosh, this is such an

2053
01:38:19,920 --> 01:38:23,040
Speaker 1: album to listen to that it's so good. And people

2054
01:38:23,280 --> 01:38:25,439
Speaker 1: always talk about I Love your Girl because they said

2055
01:38:25,520 --> 01:38:27,519
Speaker 1: that was about Libia and it was his diss to

2056
01:38:27,600 --> 01:38:30,639
Speaker 1: Lil Wayne. Imagine a nigga singing about you and everybody

2057
01:38:30,720 --> 01:38:32,639
Speaker 1: in the club. This is Lil Wayne during his suck

2058
01:38:33,040 --> 01:38:37,080
Speaker 1: that nigga. Everybody was saying that, you know what I'm saying,

2059
01:38:37,800 --> 01:38:40,479
Speaker 1: Like the Dream was giving us hit after hit. This

2060
01:38:40,600 --> 01:38:45,759
Speaker 1: is the album with no skips, so for the youngis listening.

2061
01:38:45,880 --> 01:38:47,840
Speaker 1: Y'all need to go listen to the Love Hate album

2062
01:38:47,840 --> 01:38:49,719
Speaker 1: by the Dream. It came out in two thousand and seven.

2063
01:38:50,080 --> 01:38:51,000
Speaker 1: History was made.

2064
01:38:51,400 --> 01:38:51,760
Speaker 3: It was.

2065
01:38:53,760 --> 01:38:58,599
Speaker 4: Yeah, Nibby on the show, I won't not so bad, Yeah,

2066
01:38:58,800 --> 01:39:02,519
Speaker 4: because Nivva have some stories on I need, I need.

2067
01:39:03,040 --> 01:39:06,120
Speaker 4: I just thought about that life and she seems like such.

2068
01:39:06,000 --> 01:39:09,720
Speaker 1: A she does she does all right, what y'all jam?

2069
01:39:10,560 --> 01:39:13,439
Speaker 1: So I've been in my afrobeats bag.

2070
01:39:14,280 --> 01:39:17,479
Speaker 3: We go in to Dinty December this year. We have

2071
01:39:17,680 --> 01:39:20,640
Speaker 3: to y'all, we have to be in Legos. So my

2072
01:39:20,880 --> 01:39:24,360
Speaker 3: Bob is with you featuring on my leg by the Beato.

2073
01:39:24,520 --> 01:39:26,479
Speaker 1: What you know about all my lave? I know a

2074
01:39:26,520 --> 01:39:31,479
Speaker 1: little song some but y'all, I love this song.

2075
01:39:31,600 --> 01:39:33,360
Speaker 3: It's just such a good vibe like I feel like

2076
01:39:33,400 --> 01:39:35,960
Speaker 3: it's given me summer vibes. It's given me I need

2077
01:39:36,040 --> 01:39:40,240
Speaker 3: to be in Legos. Laid out what I'm telling you.

2078
01:39:41,160 --> 01:39:43,080
Speaker 3: They got a little dance to it. I'm probably doing

2079
01:39:43,160 --> 01:39:45,720
Speaker 3: it wrong. That that's that's the old day.

2080
01:39:45,920 --> 01:39:48,320
Speaker 1: That child.

2081
01:39:49,800 --> 01:39:52,320
Speaker 3: It wasn't even that song another hit it was, Oh

2082
01:39:52,439 --> 01:39:55,000
Speaker 3: I know, it wasn't that song. It was no, it

2083
01:39:55,200 --> 01:39:58,240
Speaker 3: was that though everybody it was, but they was doing

2084
01:39:58,320 --> 01:39:59,600
Speaker 3: it today was, but I.

2085
01:39:59,600 --> 01:40:00,880
Speaker 1: Can't remember a song right now.

2086
01:40:01,120 --> 01:40:03,720
Speaker 2: Do y'all be watching those DJs that's on YouTube at

2087
01:40:03,760 --> 01:40:09,280
Speaker 2: the parties like live streaming, it's not even well maybe

2088
01:40:09,320 --> 01:40:12,200
Speaker 2: originally it's live, okay, but some of the I think

2089
01:40:12,280 --> 01:40:14,280
Speaker 2: something's called like one Bedroom or something like that.

2090
01:40:14,640 --> 01:40:18,160
Speaker 1: Yes, I do. I watched the ones when they be

2091
01:40:18,280 --> 01:40:19,439
Speaker 1: at home just mixing.

2092
01:40:19,920 --> 01:40:23,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, so over the weekend, my friend was showing me

2093
01:40:23,760 --> 01:40:27,680
Speaker 2: some because they were getting into an argument about my

2094
01:40:27,800 --> 01:40:31,040
Speaker 2: piano versus afrobeats, and so they were playing the different playlist.

2095
01:40:31,080 --> 01:40:33,439
Speaker 1: I wish I could remember, but I heard that artist.

2096
01:40:33,920 --> 01:40:36,880
Speaker 1: Oh my lad, he's there. I never know anybody's name.

2097
01:40:36,920 --> 01:40:40,000
Speaker 1: I just vibe and moved my head. Y'all need to

2098
01:40:40,080 --> 01:40:42,720
Speaker 1: listen to a fireboys dm L. He's he's good to

2099
01:40:42,840 --> 01:40:48,320
Speaker 1: the afrobeats. Okay, he's got something.

2100
01:40:48,760 --> 01:40:53,080
Speaker 3: That's why I love because we is really each other

2101
01:40:53,800 --> 01:40:56,320
Speaker 3: herself as hooks weren't safe with Okay.

2102
01:40:56,640 --> 01:40:57,200
Speaker 1: Good baby?

2103
01:40:57,280 --> 01:41:01,240
Speaker 2: What because who else you don't think it's weird? This

2104
01:41:01,520 --> 01:41:02,960
Speaker 2: is a bad bitch picture right here?

2105
01:41:03,080 --> 01:41:03,400
Speaker 1: I was.

2106
01:41:05,960 --> 01:41:06,240
Speaker 3: This one.

2107
01:41:06,360 --> 01:41:08,040
Speaker 2: I wish I still had this so I could wear

2108
01:41:08,040 --> 01:41:10,120
Speaker 2: it to the concert. But yeah, I got a few

2109
01:41:10,160 --> 01:41:13,240
Speaker 2: pictures of me who else would I have.

2110
01:41:14,479 --> 01:41:16,880
Speaker 1: It's mine that way, If it's lost, you know who

2111
01:41:16,960 --> 01:41:18,920
Speaker 1: it is I'm looking at.

2112
01:41:19,479 --> 01:41:23,519
Speaker 4: Maybe I got weekly, but she ain't gonna be on there.

2113
01:41:24,080 --> 01:41:25,400
Speaker 1: She don't even post for pictures.

2114
01:41:28,240 --> 01:41:33,519
Speaker 2: Saying two Hands to Heaven, Cowboy Carter, that has been

2115
01:41:33,560 --> 01:41:35,599
Speaker 2: my jam other than I've been listening to that songs.

2116
01:41:35,640 --> 01:41:37,720
Speaker 1: But two Hands to Heaven, I love that one.

2117
01:41:37,800 --> 01:41:40,320
Speaker 4: It feels good when the weather is nice and you'll

2118
01:41:40,400 --> 01:41:44,280
Speaker 4: roll the windows down and just driving down the road.

2119
01:41:44,360 --> 01:41:48,280
Speaker 1: I love it. And yeah, yeah, I weren't talking album,

2120
01:41:49,200 --> 01:41:51,120
Speaker 1: so I'm starting to like. You know, when you listen

2121
01:41:51,120 --> 01:41:52,719
Speaker 1: to the album when it first comes out, you running

2122
01:41:52,760 --> 01:41:55,160
Speaker 1: in the ground, then you move on. Now I'm back

2123
01:41:55,200 --> 01:41:57,479
Speaker 1: to Cowboy Card because of course the concert is coming up.

2124
01:41:58,520 --> 01:42:04,720
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Jesus so goodran wait, I got somebody, y'all.

2125
01:42:04,720 --> 01:42:07,040
Speaker 1: I can't wait for the Tyrant. Did y'all see her

2126
01:42:07,080 --> 01:42:10,920
Speaker 1: riding that bull? I said? I did? Has been cracking

2127
01:42:11,000 --> 01:42:14,800
Speaker 1: me up on this. She so funny, She's a hoop hilarious, said,

2128
01:42:14,880 --> 01:42:17,479
Speaker 1: she gives me a licks. Beginning the tour versus the

2129
01:42:17,600 --> 01:42:25,400
Speaker 1: end of she was like at first, she was, that's

2130
01:42:25,439 --> 01:42:28,720
Speaker 1: how we first day, last time, Like all right, all right,

2131
01:42:28,840 --> 01:42:34,840
Speaker 1: but everybody, the last person I want to say, calm

2132
01:42:34,920 --> 01:42:37,679
Speaker 1: it down. It's a dude. Did y'all see the video.

2133
01:42:37,800 --> 01:42:39,240
Speaker 1: His name is belly Gang Cushington.

2134
01:42:40,560 --> 01:42:42,840
Speaker 2: He reminds me of if my little cousin grew up

2135
01:42:42,880 --> 01:42:45,600
Speaker 2: and leaned into being black versus the other side. Right

2136
01:42:45,640 --> 01:42:48,519
Speaker 2: because he had redhead. He stopped traffic on the highway.

2137
01:42:48,600 --> 01:42:49,519
Speaker 2: It was a viral video.

2138
01:42:49,880 --> 01:42:53,000
Speaker 4: The music is good, So if y'all want some rap music,

2139
01:42:53,080 --> 01:42:58,680
Speaker 4: a little hip hop, a little hip hop, I think so.

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Speaker 1: But he just at the beginning is if I actually

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Speaker 1: he got y'all thought some beats. Yes, he is good.

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Speaker 2: I don't know the names of the songs, but I

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01:43:12,040 --> 01:43:15,240
Speaker 2: think I listen to everything that's underpopular. But it's belly

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01:43:15,400 --> 01:43:17,560
Speaker 2: Gang Cushington. He looks a little white, but he is

2145
01:43:17,680 --> 01:43:20,400
Speaker 2: not white, y'all. He's mixed because he do be saying

2146
01:43:20,479 --> 01:43:21,960
Speaker 2: in words, so just fair warning.

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01:43:22,040 --> 01:43:25,559
Speaker 1: But he's white. He's like a black white. But when

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01:43:26,120 --> 01:43:30,760
Speaker 1: his thought I was thinking that, I was like that ski.

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Speaker 4: But that's why I said, my little cousin, because you're

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01:43:33,160 --> 01:43:33,759
Speaker 4: little walker.

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01:43:34,439 --> 01:43:35,960
Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna give him a pair. Don't give

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01:43:36,040 --> 01:43:36,400
Speaker 1: him a pair?

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01:43:36,520 --> 01:43:42,120
Speaker 2: And another bout Drew oh, okay, now, before y'all get crazy,

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01:43:42,120 --> 01:43:44,400
Speaker 2: because I know y'all comments be This was just something

2155
01:43:44,479 --> 01:43:46,599
Speaker 2: fun Me and my sister were doing.

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01:43:47,240 --> 01:43:49,240
Speaker 1: Her husband he actually does rap, and.

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01:43:49,479 --> 01:43:51,200
Speaker 2: I'm gonna listening to some of his new Music's all right,

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01:43:51,280 --> 01:43:54,120
Speaker 2: his name is heavy, but he was making music. So

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01:43:54,240 --> 01:43:56,519
Speaker 2: she just wanted to do this for her birthday. So

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01:43:57,479 --> 01:43:59,880
Speaker 2: he was annoyed, but he helped her write us a

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01:44:00,080 --> 01:44:03,040
Speaker 2: song and we went to the studio and recorded.

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01:44:03,240 --> 01:44:05,040
Speaker 1: We had our cameras, it was out.

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01:44:05,479 --> 01:44:07,400
Speaker 4: We were sunglasses in our sweatpants.

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01:44:07,800 --> 01:44:08,679
Speaker 1: We double cupped.

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Speaker 2: Uh, we had to double cup syrophone things, but we

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01:44:11,320 --> 01:44:12,680
Speaker 2: had a lean or nothing. We just had to keep

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01:44:12,720 --> 01:44:15,320
Speaker 2: it regular girls. And we got chicken wings because we

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01:44:15,439 --> 01:44:17,120
Speaker 2: just felt like that would just add to like.

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Speaker 1: And it was a good time. I wish we would

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Speaker 1: have made a music video. Maybe we'll do it.

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01:44:24,600 --> 01:44:32,640
Speaker 7: We do because ain't nobody really heard it, but it's

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01:44:32,680 --> 01:44:35,120
Speaker 7: available everywhere and you can even add it on Instagram.

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01:44:35,240 --> 01:44:38,800
Speaker 1: I didn't know he was gonna do all that drill.

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Speaker 1: So we're going to get into our favorite segment of

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Speaker 1: the week. Make sure you email us at ask poor

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01:44:45,280 --> 01:44:47,479
Speaker 1: Minds at gmail dot com if you want your question answered.

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01:44:47,520 --> 01:44:50,479
Speaker 1: On the show. And if you are a Patreon, remember

2178
01:44:50,520 --> 01:44:52,240
Speaker 1: you know you can put that in the subject line

2179
01:44:52,479 --> 01:44:55,800
Speaker 1: and you get to skip the lines. Absolutely. Patreon is

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01:44:55,840 --> 01:45:01,679
Speaker 1: the VIP line. Okay, want me to read you yep.

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01:45:03,920 --> 01:45:07,639
Speaker 3: You, Hey, ladies. I have a best friend that I've

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01:45:07,720 --> 01:45:10,680
Speaker 3: known since college. Once we graduated, We've been living in

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01:45:10,760 --> 01:45:14,360
Speaker 3: separate states, but would still maintain a close friendship. The

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01:45:14,479 --> 01:45:18,840
Speaker 3: easiest long distance relationship I've ever had, tbh. But a

2185
01:45:18,920 --> 01:45:21,559
Speaker 3: few years ago, she and another guy friend of mine

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01:45:21,880 --> 01:45:23,120
Speaker 3: got into a relationship.

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01:45:23,600 --> 01:45:25,880
Speaker 1: From the beginning, I said to leave me out of it.

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01:45:26,320 --> 01:45:28,600
Speaker 3: I would be a listening ear to her concerns, but

2189
01:45:28,680 --> 01:45:31,200
Speaker 3: would try to give her advice from the perspective of

2190
01:45:31,320 --> 01:45:35,840
Speaker 3: him being just another nigga. You deserve better, child, move on,

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01:45:36,320 --> 01:45:39,519
Speaker 3: but in the nicest ways, because that's still my nigga,

2192
01:45:39,560 --> 01:45:43,080
Speaker 3: but also nigga's gonnanig. He was her first and only

2193
01:45:43,200 --> 01:45:46,120
Speaker 3: serious relationship, and he ended up breaking her heart a

2194
01:45:46,240 --> 01:45:49,800
Speaker 3: year later. She missed coming to my city one year

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01:45:50,000 --> 01:45:52,320
Speaker 3: to help wait what she missed coming to my city

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01:45:52,400 --> 01:45:56,280
Speaker 3: one year to help celebrate my birthday okay because.

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01:45:56,000 --> 01:45:58,160
Speaker 1: The hearter known a birthday was in mom.

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01:45:59,640 --> 01:46:02,720
Speaker 3: Because the heartbreak was fresh and my city reminded her

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01:46:02,880 --> 01:46:06,400
Speaker 3: too much of him, which I understood and forgave. However,

2200
01:46:06,920 --> 01:46:10,479
Speaker 3: even years later, she always reaches out on his birthday

2201
01:46:11,000 --> 01:46:14,080
Speaker 3: just to talk and would say subtle things that hints

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01:46:14,160 --> 01:46:18,120
Speaker 3: at insecurity or validation seeking of the women in their

2203
01:46:18,240 --> 01:46:21,600
Speaker 3: city compared to the women in mind take jabs as

2204
01:46:21,640 --> 01:46:23,240
Speaker 3: the type of people out here, etc.

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01:46:24,040 --> 01:46:24,639
Speaker 1: We're grown.

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01:46:25,000 --> 01:46:27,080
Speaker 3: So it's not like I could have stepped out of

2207
01:46:27,200 --> 01:46:27,799
Speaker 3: their connection.

2208
01:46:27,960 --> 01:46:28,839
Speaker 1: In the very beginning.

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01:46:29,200 --> 01:46:32,400
Speaker 3: That girl was me, what would y'all recommend being the

2210
01:46:32,479 --> 01:46:33,879
Speaker 3: best way to handle these.

2211
01:46:35,400 --> 01:46:35,639
Speaker 1: Sins?

2212
01:46:35,720 --> 01:46:38,200
Speaker 4: Must live here and her friend lives somewhere else where,

2213
01:46:38,240 --> 01:46:39,880
Speaker 4: it is very different.

2214
01:46:40,120 --> 01:46:41,760
Speaker 1: Yes, that's kind of fucked up.

2215
01:46:41,840 --> 01:46:46,040
Speaker 2: I would feel away if my friend was acting like that.

2216
01:46:46,160 --> 01:46:47,960
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, did he put a root on her?

2217
01:46:48,320 --> 01:46:48,360
Speaker 5: Like?

2218
01:46:48,479 --> 01:46:52,559
Speaker 2: Why is she so messed up about this one year relation?

2219
01:46:52,640 --> 01:46:56,120
Speaker 2: If you can't come and celebrate my birthday and you

2220
01:46:56,240 --> 01:46:58,760
Speaker 2: can't come to this city because it reminds you too

2221
01:46:58,840 --> 01:47:02,680
Speaker 2: much of him to go outside and touch grass man, and.

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01:47:02,760 --> 01:47:05,960
Speaker 1: I oh that you just need to communicate that with her. Hey,

2223
01:47:06,080 --> 01:47:08,200
Speaker 1: you know what, I don't like this. This makes me

2224
01:47:08,200 --> 01:47:12,880
Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable. We underestimate the power of communication. So open

2225
01:47:12,920 --> 01:47:15,680
Speaker 1: your mouth and tell her I've had situations I've had

2226
01:47:15,760 --> 01:47:17,920
Speaker 1: I've been in a similar situation like that, and it

2227
01:47:18,000 --> 01:47:20,840
Speaker 1: was just like, hey, leave me out of it. You

2228
01:47:20,920 --> 01:47:23,680
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like I value your friendship, and

2229
01:47:23,720 --> 01:47:26,640
Speaker 1: I value your friendship. This didn't work out, but I

2230
01:47:26,760 --> 01:47:29,320
Speaker 1: have to take a step back, and you know, but

2231
01:47:29,680 --> 01:47:33,320
Speaker 1: you're years later. Yeah, So I think you need to

2232
01:47:33,400 --> 01:47:35,000
Speaker 1: have a conversation with her because it sounds like you

2233
01:47:35,000 --> 01:47:36,519
Speaker 1: don't want to end the friendship. It sounds like you

2234
01:47:36,640 --> 01:47:38,760
Speaker 1: care about her. Why you just need to be vocal

2235
01:47:38,840 --> 01:47:39,800
Speaker 1: and tell her how you feel.

2236
01:47:40,479 --> 01:47:42,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, hopefully when you tell her how you feel and

2237
01:47:43,040 --> 01:47:46,479
Speaker 2: that you know these things bother, you make it. I

2238
01:47:46,560 --> 01:47:48,640
Speaker 2: would even say, make it more about your friendship and

2239
01:47:48,720 --> 01:47:50,960
Speaker 2: less about this guy. It's like you are holding on

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01:47:51,120 --> 01:47:56,200
Speaker 2: to this idea of your former relationship and I'm still

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01:47:56,280 --> 01:47:58,320
Speaker 2: your friend. I'm the one who's still listening to you,

2242
01:47:58,560 --> 01:48:00,640
Speaker 2: but you won't even spend time with me, Like are

2243
01:48:00,720 --> 01:48:01,599
Speaker 2: we really friends?

2244
01:48:01,720 --> 01:48:03,679
Speaker 1: Or am I your therapist? Again?

2245
01:48:03,760 --> 01:48:06,400
Speaker 2: Betterhelp dot com slash poor minds, because that's where you

2246
01:48:06,520 --> 01:48:09,640
Speaker 2: can go for that, not this. That's not fair and

2247
01:48:09,720 --> 01:48:12,400
Speaker 2: it doesn't feel good when you're always the one who

2248
01:48:12,479 --> 01:48:15,960
Speaker 2: has to listen to somebody else's drama or their issues,

2249
01:48:16,439 --> 01:48:19,760
Speaker 2: and you're all and you will give whatever to your friend.

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01:48:19,800 --> 01:48:22,479
Speaker 2: You help them through stuff. You are supportive, if you

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01:48:22,600 --> 01:48:24,960
Speaker 2: show up, you do all of that and it's not reciprocated.

2252
01:48:25,000 --> 01:48:26,639
Speaker 2: And you should just let her know. You don't feel

2253
01:48:26,760 --> 01:48:29,080
Speaker 2: like she cares about your friendship enough for you.

2254
01:48:29,280 --> 01:48:31,040
Speaker 1: And I think it's okay to tell people, Hey, I

2255
01:48:31,080 --> 01:48:33,160
Speaker 1: think you can be a better friend to me. That's okay.

2256
01:48:33,320 --> 01:48:36,360
Speaker 1: And a true friend is going to receive that information

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01:48:36,960 --> 01:48:39,240
Speaker 1: and change because they love you. You know what I'm saying.

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01:48:39,560 --> 01:48:41,160
Speaker 1: She might honestly not realize it.

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01:48:41,280 --> 01:48:44,040
Speaker 2: She might really have been through the ringer with him, yes,

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01:48:44,280 --> 01:48:47,439
Speaker 2: and just two in her stuff and nobody's saying anything.

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01:48:48,520 --> 01:48:52,240
Speaker 3: I agree, all right, Keith, Hey, look can they find

2262
01:48:52,320 --> 01:48:55,360
Speaker 3: you girl and tell them about your new show, tell

2263
01:48:55,400 --> 01:48:57,120
Speaker 3: them to irritate again and everything.

2264
01:48:57,560 --> 01:49:01,160
Speaker 2: Okay, So you guys can follow me all the social

2265
01:49:01,240 --> 01:49:04,640
Speaker 2: media platforms at Kiki said, So K I K I

2266
01:49:05,040 --> 01:49:08,479
Speaker 2: S A I D S O. My new show, Xoman

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01:49:08,600 --> 01:49:15,200
Speaker 2: Podcast is dropping on Tuesday January Tuesday, June seventeenth, that's

2268
01:49:15,240 --> 01:49:17,679
Speaker 2: gonna be the audio and then Wednesdays will be video.

2269
01:49:18,080 --> 01:49:21,320
Speaker 2: So the eighteenth and then every Thursday is a new

2270
01:49:21,400 --> 01:49:23,760
Speaker 2: episode of Cocktail Story Discussions.

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01:49:23,800 --> 01:49:25,960
Speaker 4: I also have a book club and other little things.

2272
01:49:26,040 --> 01:49:28,400
Speaker 2: So if you don't mind listening to my voice and

2273
01:49:28,439 --> 01:49:30,639
Speaker 2: you want to connect more, there's so many different ways

2274
01:49:30,720 --> 01:49:33,519
Speaker 2: to listen to me, see me, and connect with me.

2275
01:49:34,000 --> 01:49:38,120
Speaker 1: I really do enjoy talking to nice people online, you know.

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01:49:38,320 --> 01:49:40,240
Speaker 2: And so if you just go to my Instagram Peeky

2277
01:49:40,320 --> 01:49:42,800
Speaker 2: said so or Kiki said so dot com, you can

2278
01:49:42,880 --> 01:49:44,320
Speaker 2: find all of that stuff there.

2279
01:49:44,600 --> 01:49:47,519
Speaker 1: And I really hope that when you guys check out

2280
01:49:47,560 --> 01:49:48,400
Speaker 1: the new show.

2281
01:49:48,560 --> 01:49:51,080
Speaker 4: That you really enjoy it and leave lots of comments,

2282
01:49:51,160 --> 01:49:53,080
Speaker 4: nice ones and tell them how much you love.

2283
01:49:53,000 --> 01:49:53,519
Speaker 1: Me on there.

2284
01:49:53,560 --> 01:49:56,120
Speaker 2: Because this was not an original idea. I've been hired

2285
01:49:56,400 --> 01:49:57,960
Speaker 2: to do this job, and I would like, do you

2286
01:49:58,080 --> 01:49:58,360
Speaker 2: love it?

2287
01:49:58,680 --> 01:49:59,760
Speaker 1: Yes, you love it.

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01:50:00,200 --> 01:50:02,120
Speaker 4: It's different, it's fun, and I'm excited about it.

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01:50:02,200 --> 01:50:03,120
Speaker 1: This one again.

2290
01:50:03,240 --> 01:50:05,360
Speaker 4: I'm just talking to beautiful black men.

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01:50:05,600 --> 01:50:09,400
Speaker 1: Love it. I can't wait and I'm excited. Yeah, me too.

2292
01:50:09,520 --> 01:50:12,200
Speaker 1: I'm excited to see you like in the interview me. Yes,

2293
01:50:13,320 --> 01:50:14,840
Speaker 1: you do so well at that you do.

2294
01:50:15,520 --> 01:50:17,800
Speaker 3: And I feel like as your friends who like, we've

2295
01:50:17,880 --> 01:50:21,160
Speaker 3: been knowing about it for a while now this is

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01:50:21,280 --> 01:50:25,559
Speaker 3: last Yeah, y'all can't wait to watch, and I can't

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01:50:25,560 --> 01:50:25,840
Speaker 3: wait to.

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01:50:25,880 --> 01:50:28,760
Speaker 1: Tuny any y'all. Make sure y'all support my girl and

2299
01:50:29,200 --> 01:50:37,439
Speaker 1: tune in next week. Are y'all else? Little Chris? Yeah? Man, oh,

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01:50:37,479 --> 01:50:43,280
Speaker 1: I'm early in this song. Okay, here I go. You

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01:50:43,439 --> 01:50:47,880
Speaker 1: know we had to do it again, right? I want

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01:50:47,960 --> 01:50:53,880
Speaker 1: you to sing all these niggas men. I guess I'm

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01:50:53,920 --> 01:50:58,280
Speaker 1: up a first. Let me, am, how can you hope

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01:50:58,320 --> 01:51:00,160
Speaker 1: that you're fine? I want to know what you got

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01:51:00,280 --> 01:51:03,120
Speaker 1: in mind? And now I got my feeling like Joey's

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01:51:03,160 --> 01:51:05,880
Speaker 1: c girl. I can't leave you alone. Take a shot

2307
01:51:05,920 --> 01:51:09,880
Speaker 1: to hit the patron and it's gonna be your breathing out.

2308
01:51:10,560 --> 01:51:14,720
Speaker 1: You crowdy. How my mother end up calling her fornight

2309
01:51:15,520 --> 01:51:20,080
Speaker 1: she should let your girl say, shake in sea, pull up,

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01:51:20,120 --> 01:51:22,760
Speaker 1: beeps O gun to the GT with me. She there

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01:51:25,280 --> 01:51:30,320
Speaker 1: already ARide. I was like, because what you get inside,

2312
01:51:30,560 --> 01:51:33,720
Speaker 1: you can't change your mind? On mean the side of fatip.

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01:51:33,840 --> 01:51:38,120
Speaker 1: But you got a problems, baby there. Tell me you again.

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01:51:38,520 --> 01:51:39,799
Speaker 1: I'm be the east side boys.

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01:51:40,960 --> 01:51:47,160
Speaker 4: Tell me again my babies, lovers and face. Oh I

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01:51:47,280 --> 01:51:53,160
Speaker 4: got an old baby, yeah, tell me hugain Ma.

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01:51:53,720 --> 01:52:00,559
Speaker 1: Sure you're right, hold before your lovers and faced. Oh

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01:52:00,760 --> 01:52:05,559
Speaker 1: it's a good little bad Sometimes want to be your love,

2319
01:52:05,880 --> 01:52:08,599
Speaker 1: Sometimes want to be your friend. Sometimes want to hug

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01:52:08,720 --> 01:52:10,719
Speaker 1: your whole hand. Slow deans, want to ric a find,

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01:52:11,040 --> 01:52:12,840
Speaker 1: open up your heart because you said I made you

2322
01:52:12,960 --> 01:52:15,560
Speaker 1: feel so comfortable, used to play bad thing like you

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01:52:15,640 --> 01:52:18,800
Speaker 1: all grown up like Rudy, hugstable. I could be your budd.

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01:52:19,080 --> 01:52:21,240
Speaker 1: You could beat me up, play fight in the darks

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01:52:21,280 --> 01:52:23,600
Speaker 1: and we both make up. I do anything just to

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01:52:23,680 --> 01:52:26,360
Speaker 1: feel your bud while you got me so messed up.

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01:52:26,479 --> 01:52:29,160
Speaker 1: I don't know, but you gotta stop trip man. Be

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01:52:29,280 --> 01:52:29,720
Speaker 1: a good girl.

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01:52:29,800 --> 01:52:33,640
Speaker 3: Now, turn around and get these weirdies. You like it?

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01:52:33,840 --> 01:52:36,960
Speaker 1: Like that, you don't have to fight back. Here's a pillow.

2331
01:52:37,080 --> 01:52:41,600
Speaker 3: Bite that and I'd be setting separate plays so on

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01:52:41,760 --> 01:52:42,760
Speaker 3: holly separate days.

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01:52:42,840 --> 01:52:45,720
Speaker 1: Your legs could go they separate ways.

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01:52:46,160 --> 01:52:47,040
Speaker 4: Ugging.

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Speaker 1: Baby friends. Oh it's a good little bab tell me es.