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Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Caeryl Markowich Show on iHeartRadio Shows.

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Speaker 1: My guest today is Erica Anderson. Erica is a writer

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Speaker 1: who has written for Christianity Today, New York Times, Wall

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Speaker 1: Street Journal, and others. Her book Leaving Cloud Nine, The

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Speaker 1: True story of a life resurrected from the ashes of poverty, trauma,

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Speaker 1: and mental illness, is available now, and her upcoming book

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Speaker 1: Freely Sober is available for pre order before it's January

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Speaker 1: released anywhere you buy your books. Hi, Erica, so nice

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Speaker 1: to have you on.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me. I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: So I've known you online for a number of years,

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Speaker 1: and I remember when you first started talking about your

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Speaker 1: sobriety journey. One was that was that difficult for you?

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Speaker 1: And what made you start opening up about that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think I probably originally started talking about it the

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Speaker 3: first time I really tried to get sober, which was

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Speaker 3: I would say early twenty nineteen something like that.

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Speaker 2: And the reason I sort of.

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Speaker 3: You know, dipped a toe where I wasn't like really

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Speaker 3: going all out talking about it, but I was kind

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Speaker 3: of talking about how maybe I'm not as comfortable with

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Speaker 3: alcohol as I thought I was. But for me, it

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Speaker 3: is just part of who I am. To sort of

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Speaker 3: share what I'm going through online. That's not for everybody.

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Speaker 3: But as I became more immersed in, you know, deciding

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Speaker 3: that I wasn't going to be drinking anymore, I knew

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Speaker 3: it had to in part become a part of my identity.

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Speaker 2: At least for a while. To say.

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Speaker 3: I had heard from others to say to say I

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Speaker 3: don't drink, Like even if you still are drinking, you're

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Speaker 3: still struggling, to just even say I don't drink or

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Speaker 3: I'm sober, to just say that it actually helps ingrain

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Speaker 3: it to who you are and actually empowers you to

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Speaker 3: make better choices even in the midst.

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Speaker 2: Of a struggle.

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Speaker 3: And so that is what sort of inspired me to

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Speaker 3: just start talking about it, and I kind of it

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Speaker 3: just sort of followed God like he was I felt

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Speaker 3: like giving.

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Speaker 2: Me this courage to talk about it, and I thought,

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Speaker 2: I don't think everyone has this.

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Speaker 3: I do think we need voices, and He's telling me, like,

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Speaker 3: let's do it, let's go, and so I just kind

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Speaker 3: of went with that, despite knowing that I was feeling

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Speaker 3: a little bit self conscious with everybody. I sure, yea being.

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Speaker 1: This online, Yeah, it's a big deal to tell people

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Speaker 1: stories about it. I think even you had one recently

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Speaker 1: that you know, again, I've been following you a long time,

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Speaker 1: I've known all this about you for a long time.

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Speaker 1: But you had one recently that was even like surprising

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Speaker 1: or shocking to me where you talked about during your

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Speaker 1: work day going out and buying miniature bottles of alcohol.

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Speaker 1: And I had, you know, I guess, I, look, I

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Speaker 1: have to be honest, I don't know that much about alcoholism.

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Speaker 1: I guess this is this is sort of a learning

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Speaker 1: curve for me too. But I always thought it was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: you just thought that the whole mom wine culture was

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Speaker 1: you know, harmful, and that was what turned you towards sobriety.

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Speaker 1: I guess I didn't realize that you'd had, you know,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was that story was.

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Speaker 3: I felt really nervous to share that because I just

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Speaker 3: knew people that I used to work with during that.

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Speaker 2: Time maybe like wait what yeah, like what.

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Speaker 3: I had no Ideah, I know, and it's it's so

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Speaker 3: it's such a weird thing looking back and seeing that,

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Speaker 3: but it I shared it because it goes to show

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Speaker 3: you that people that are struggling can be hiding in

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Speaker 3: plain sight. You know, you just because someone is drinking

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Speaker 3: during the day doesn't mean you're going to know it.

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Speaker 2: And it's not something I.

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Speaker 3: Was doing every day, but the fact that I was

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Speaker 3: doing it at all, and just like the sensationalism of

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Speaker 3: it being oh, this isn't like the US Capitol building

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Speaker 3: and you know, I'm working for some member of Congress

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Speaker 2: What what in the world is happening here?

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Speaker 3: And so I, you know, share these little tidbits and

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Speaker 3: stories to really make people feel seen. And that's not

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Speaker 3: to say you need to be sneaking alcohol at work

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Speaker 3: I think sometimes it's helpful to those that maybe are

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Speaker 3: her now, right.

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Speaker 1: How much of a role did your faith play in

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I think huge.

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Speaker 3: I mean I think getting sober was important for me

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Speaker 3: as a whole. But also I really felt that alcohol

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Speaker 3: muddied this relationship I had with God, Like this sort

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Speaker 3: I wasn't able to sense maybe the way that God

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Speaker 3: works in our lives on a daily basis. You miss

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Speaker 3: those little things because there's a person in the Bible,

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Speaker 3: I think in the Old Testament that says something like God,

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Speaker 3: God doesn't. God never yells, He's more like a whisper.

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Speaker 2: Tell the story about you know, there was I'm like

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Speaker 3: It was probably Moses, but somebody did on a mountain,

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Speaker 1: Was frequently on mountains.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly what it might have been him, But he's

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Speaker 3: on the mountain right, And you know they say like

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Speaker 3: God wasn't He wasn't in the wind, and he wasn't

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Speaker 3: was just like a still small voice. And you miss

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Speaker 3: a lot of that. If you're jenking, you can't sense

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Speaker 3: those things. And you also can't sense like the needs

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Speaker 3: And like you really can't be the person that you

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Speaker 3: want to be when you are constantly putting a substance

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Speaker 3: in your body that alters your mental state, what.

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Speaker 1: Do you hope that people get out of Freely Sober?

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Speaker 2: I hope that you know.

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Speaker 3: A promise that I like to make in the book is,

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Speaker 3: once you read this book, you'll never think about alcohol

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Speaker 3: the same way again.

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Speaker 2: So it's not a call to quit drinking.

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Speaker 3: And like you know, oh my gosh, like you if

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Speaker 3: you buy this book, like I want you to quit drinking,

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Speaker 3: that's not what it is. That's why it's called Freely

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Speaker 3: Sober because we yeah, yeah, because you know, every minute

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Speaker 3: it was actually the barrier to actually quitting drinking. But

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Speaker 3: when you step away and actually analyze yourself, your relationship

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Speaker 3: with alcohol, your history like under like learn about alcohol

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Speaker 3: and how it's played a role in your life, then

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Speaker 3: to drink because of what you've learned.

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Speaker 2: And I think reading.

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Speaker 3: This book and this is kind of how it happened

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Speaker 3: for me and reading other books, I walked away, you'll

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Speaker 3: walk away knowing like you can't unknow what you just learned.

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Speaker 3: And when you learn something about the way this is

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Speaker 3: Like it's almost impossible to keep making the same decisions. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: because you know better, And that doesn't mean you quit

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Speaker 2: To where you need to be in the future.

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Speaker 3: But when you tell yourself you have to quit drinking,

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Speaker 3: it leaves no room to want to quit drinking. And

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Speaker 3: I want to create that space for people so that

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Speaker 1: Very interesting and I really think that's an interesting point,

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Speaker 1: the freely part, and that you can want to but

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Speaker 1: not have to. That's very well said. What was Leaving

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Speaker 1: Cloud Nine? What was the Cloud nine that you had

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Speaker 1: to leave in writing that book?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So Leaving Cloud Nine was sort of a joint.

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Speaker 3: Book really, I wrote it, but it was really about

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Speaker 3: my husband and the trailer park that he grew up

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Speaker 3: in is called Cloud Nine in Arizona, and so we.

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Speaker 2: Wrote this book.

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Speaker 3: I mean it really started as just like a you know,

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Speaker 3: a far fetched idea that we could actually write and

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Speaker 3: publish this book. But essentially it was about his story

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Speaker 3: of growing up in poverty and abuse. And you talk

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Speaker 3: like he had nine out of ten of those, and

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Speaker 3: so his childhood was every time he would tell me

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Speaker 2: We have got to talk about this somehow.

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Speaker 3: And I ended up spending hours interviewing him, ultimately attempting

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Speaker 3: to get a book deal, like shockingly actually getting one

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Speaker 3: and turning it into this book, this story of his

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Speaker 3: healing and redemption through his faith and all the things

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Speaker 3: the book. But I often compare it to I say,

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Speaker 3: it's kind of like a faith based Till Billy eleogy,

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Speaker 2: I was thinking this, Yeah, you know, like when I've

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Speaker 3: Vance and interviews, and you know, I just know a

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Speaker 2: I just think, I'm always like, oh, you and JD.

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Speaker 2: Vance would have so much to talk about.

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Speaker 3: You guys would because my husband was also in the military,

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Speaker 3: I really appreciated you writing that because there's so much

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Speaker 3: see the redemption that happened, to see what's possible, Like

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Speaker 1: Did you always want to be a writer?

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Speaker 2: I did, you know?

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Speaker 3: I always say, like from the time I was, you know,

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Speaker 2: I went to journalism school.

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Speaker 3: like real writer's where I'm like really writing my own stuff,

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Speaker 1: It's a great way to be a writer, write a book.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that helps, I mean, and thankfully I was exposed

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Speaker 3: of just showed me what was possible. I didn't even realize.

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Speaker 3: I finally thought to myself, actually, like normal people like

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Speaker 3: anything you could pay for, anything you could rant about

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Speaker 3: like I'm doing for my kids.

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Speaker 2: And that may have made an impact on me.

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Speaker 1: And was there like was that the start of you

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Speaker 1: would say, developing a drinking issue or did that come later?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I really started drinking at about sixteen

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Speaker 3: or seventeen. It was a lot more sort of sporadic

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Speaker 3: back in that time, and I.

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Speaker 2: Had a lot of guilt about it.

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Speaker 3: Like I was, like I always say, I was like

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Speaker 3: the girl at the party, like drunk talking about God

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Speaker 3: to people like so annoying.

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Speaker 2: Nobody likes that person.

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Speaker 1: I hate to say, I kind of would like that person.

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Speaker 1: But okay, yeah, I hear you.

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Speaker 2: But we would have been friends, Yeah, yeah, for sure.

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Speaker 2: I mean there are people that love that and so.

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Speaker 3: But I think it was really my guilt talking like

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Speaker 3: I know, I'm not supposed to be doing this, this

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Speaker 3: isn't the right behavior for me. But you know, I

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Speaker 3: would say, things really took a turn for the worst,

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Speaker 3: just like in young adulthood, especially when I was living

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Speaker 3: in DC and just the whole world is alcohol when

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Speaker 3: you're living as an intern in DC.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean everything.

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Speaker 1: Kind of you mentioned, you know, drinking in the Capitol Building,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm sure lots of people, Oh

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Speaker 1: I'm drinking in the Capitol Building. I mean that's a.

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Speaker 2: Lot under their desks like all the time.

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Speaker 3: Like people actually still have Martini lunches.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: It's it's right, it's almost like it's the sixties all

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Speaker 3: over again for some people, and it's.

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Speaker 1: The only acceptable kind of careers where I think that

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Speaker 1: it wouldn't be weird at all if I saw a

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Speaker 1: bunch of congressmen having martinis with lunch in d C.

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Speaker 1: It's like a standard thing that happens or their interns,

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Speaker 1: to be honest, right.

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Speaker 3: Right, And of course everything is a happy hour, I

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Speaker 3: mean every event, like constantly trying to it's like, let's

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Speaker 3: get as many people.

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Speaker 2: Here as possible, freebooze.

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Speaker 4: I mean yeah, free food, but yes, and yeah both

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Speaker 4: so right, it's as you really got to wor they

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Speaker 4: almost should have like an educational like you must do

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Speaker 4: alcohol one.

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Speaker 2: On one when you come to DC and be an intern,

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Speaker 2: because you're going to get lost in all of this.

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Speaker 2: And it's also you know, it's like a nostalgic thing.

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Speaker 3: Like as a journalist, you know, it was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: you know, thinking about these like old school journalists.

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Speaker 2: And like meeting in the bottom the base of the bar. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and they have.

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Speaker 3: Those basement bars that are super almost like from a

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Speaker 3: book or something, and so you know it's nice.

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Speaker 1: But it's funny that you say that nostalgia thing because

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Speaker 1: I you know, in the early day it being a writer,

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Speaker 1: I was like, I'm going to have a bird when

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Speaker 1: I do drink. I'm a brown liquor kind of girl.

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Speaker 1: So I'd be like, oh, I'm going to have a

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Speaker 1: bourbon and write my column and then I'd be like, wow,

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Speaker 1: I cannot write at.

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Speaker 2: All on this. I know.

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Speaker 1: Work for me. I am now tired. I want to

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Speaker 1: write an up. I'm not a drinking writer at all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there is something like that we make up in

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Speaker 3: our heads really about being like, oh, I'm gonna go

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Speaker 3: to the bar and like it'll be it'll be like

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Speaker 3: a fun thing that I'm doing, and you know, even

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Speaker 3: like going to a bar by yourself, like there was

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Speaker 3: something sophisticated about that.

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Speaker 2: For me, I have a memory of doing this. I

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Speaker 2: don't even know where.

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Speaker 3: Or I was in DuPont Circle and I went to

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Speaker 3: this like fancy, cute little bar and have a martini

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Speaker 3: and then like I had another one and they were

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Speaker 3: like really big and strong, and then I was like

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Speaker 3: now I'm in DuPont Circle and I have to get

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Speaker 3: home now, and it doesn't feel so magical anymore.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like glamorous to now have to figure out

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Speaker 1: my way home.

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Speaker 3: Right, right, So the Metro is not glamorous fy.

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Speaker 1: At at all. Well, this conversation. I think you're a

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Speaker 3: How to improve your life, I would say, honestly, I

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Speaker 3: would say, start taking your spiritual life as seriously as

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Speaker 3: you take the rest of your life. Because when this

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Speaker 3: spiritual and faith component of your life is aligned and strong,

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Speaker 3: I think everything else kind of falls into place after that,

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Speaker 3: and we kind of put that to the side. So

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Speaker 3: I would say, you know, wherever you land there, make

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Speaker 2: So that's what I would say.

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