1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: The Michael Berry Show. My friend Olivia, who is the 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:05,720 Speaker 1: wife of the Aggie plumber out in the College station, 3 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:10,360 Speaker 1: loved the story about Woodard. She knows Woodard because they 4 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: came on the Aspen trip, and Woodard came on the 5 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 1: Aspen trip. And she said, eggs for the Black Church. 6 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: Filling one thousand Easter eggs for our little Black church. 7 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:22,759 Speaker 1: Right now, this is year fourteen of providing an egg 8 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: hunt every year. There are seven acres separating us in 9 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 1: the church in our front yard, and I love to 10 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:32,840 Speaker 1: do yard work and listen to their praise. They celebrated 11 00:00:32,880 --> 00:00:34,920 Speaker 1: one hundred and thirty years a couple of years ago. 12 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:44,200 Speaker 1: Amazing church, truly inspiring. You know, I'm going to give 13 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 1: this advice and people are gonna think I'm crazy, But 14 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 1: this is the kind of advice I've given to my kids. 15 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: At some point, you're going to marry somebody, and that 16 00:00:57,280 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: person is going to have more to do with your 17 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 1: career success and happiness than anything else you do. I 18 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 1: have watched people move heaven and earth to get their 19 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:12,320 Speaker 1: kid into a private school. I have watched people open 20 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: their wallet and act foolish to get their kid into 21 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:20,400 Speaker 1: Aggiland or ut or wherever their their kid has to go. 22 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: I have watched them drive to Kingdom, come to go 23 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 1: on travel, baseball or AAU or whatever. Basketball. You don't 24 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 1: need to correct me with an email if I got 25 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,960 Speaker 1: the letters wrong. It's not that important. That's not important 26 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: detail to the story. I have watched them do everything 27 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 1: anything you imagine, letters of recommendation, going to camp, getting tutoring, 28 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 1: all these things to put their child in a position 29 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: to be successful, and never once addressed the issue of 30 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: who your life partner is going to be. You marry 31 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: some crazy bitch, you're gonna have a horrible life and 32 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:05,720 Speaker 1: you're gonna lose half of what you built. Be ready 33 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: to blow your brains out, be a raging alcoholic, a 34 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: bitter person, and have a terrible attitude toward the opposite sex. 35 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:14,960 Speaker 1: And then you probably repeat the pattern because now you've 36 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:19,920 Speaker 1: learned so many bad habits. Or you're the sweetest, most 37 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:22,519 Speaker 1: wonderful girl in the world, and you get your head 38 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:27,520 Speaker 1: bashed in. You got children with some bastard who is 39 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: a horrible dad, who you have to deal with because 40 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:34,079 Speaker 1: now y'all, people pay no attention to who your life 41 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: partner is going to be, and parents they don't address it. 42 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:41,079 Speaker 1: They don't address it. Friends of mine think I'm a 43 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:43,799 Speaker 1: nut for it, but I do. Let's talk about what 44 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 1: you want when a woman, And so people think what 45 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 1: they want is the woman that when you walk into 46 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 1: the room, every head turns. I have friends like this. 47 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:57,680 Speaker 1: They're single, in their fifties, sixties, and their idea of 48 00:02:57,760 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: the perfect woman is the hottest woman. So when they 49 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 1: walk into the restaurant, everybody turns and said, whoo, look 50 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:06,519 Speaker 1: at him. He'd got a hot woman. Yeah, and she's 51 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 1: gonna take him to the cleaners. And Bobby Newman is 52 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 1: gonna take two million dollars from him next year and 53 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: he doesn't even see it coming for ten rounds of secks? 54 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: Was that worth? That's pretty expensive? And all the trauma 55 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 1: that goes to it. His adult kids and him don't 56 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: talk anymore because she split them up. He's paid more 57 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:29,480 Speaker 1: to her lawyer than he has for his own kids. 58 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 1: I mean, it's awful. All that by way of saying, 59 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: when you're looking for a life partner with whom you're 60 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: going to what, No, don't marry an ugly woman. That's 61 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: not what I said, Thank you, Joe, text, but let 62 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:47,200 Speaker 1: me finish it's important, room, puts on the road, all 63 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 1: of the things that you think are important. Because you're 64 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: gonna want to reproduce, continue the species. You're gonna want 65 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 1: somebody to be there when you come home every day, 66 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: to lay in the bed next to you, to share 67 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 1: a bank account with, when you go on a long drive, 68 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 1: nobody to spend time with. Let me tell you something. 69 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: You marry a woman that does your yard work because 70 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: she enjoys it. That's a good wife. Nobody divorces a 71 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 1: woman that does yardwork listening to the church up the 72 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:20,279 Speaker 1: way and singing along with it. Nobody, you marry the 73 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: woman it does yard work. If she can darn or 74 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 1: knit or stitch. Marry that one. If she has the 75 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: habits of her grandmother. She quilts. If she's in college 76 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:39,400 Speaker 1: or post college and she quilts, Lock her down right now, 77 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:42,640 Speaker 1: don't even don't let that one get don't let her 78 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: out of your sight. That is the one you want. 79 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:54,599 Speaker 1: You want the one that is ninety percent Well, you 80 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:56,720 Speaker 1: want the one that is twenty five percent lover. I'm 81 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: doing this off the fly. Soup might not add up 82 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:04,919 Speaker 1: twenty five percent lover, twenty five percent. Your mother in 83 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 1: that she cares for you. She's little bossy when it's 84 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 1: for your best interest. Twenty five percent your buddy that 85 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:15,320 Speaker 1: can be your friend when you need it to be, 86 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:16,400 Speaker 1: but you don't want her to be all the time. 87 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:17,720 Speaker 1: She's not gonna hang out with you, buddy. You got 88 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:21,800 Speaker 1: to have your gout time. And twenty five percent you're 89 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:25,279 Speaker 1: biggest fan. And I see guys that don't have a wife, 90 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: that's their biggest fan. They got to argue with their wife. 91 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:29,560 Speaker 1: They got can't make a career decision, can't do what 92 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: they want to do, can't tell She needs to believe 93 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:37,160 Speaker 1: in you and understand your weaknesses and understand your foibles. 94 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 1: Whether you drink too much, or you eat too much, 95 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: or you know, you fight too much, or whatever it is, 96 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: You've got your weakness and she understands that that's marriage material. 97 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: You get the marriage right. I'm going to tell you something. 98 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 1: The rest is details. You will fly to your height, 99 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: you will ascend to your highest heights. You get the 100 00:05:57,279 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: marriage wrong, and you will have a lifetimes. And I've 101 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 1: watched it happen so many times, so many times, and 102 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: friends of mine will come to me for marital device 103 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:09,120 Speaker 1: and I give it. And now my joke is I'm 104 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 1: not giving it to you because you're an idiot. You've 105 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:14,480 Speaker 1: been divorced four times for a reason. You're gonna date, 106 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 1: You're gonna marry some other dude's ex wife and she's 107 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: got Bobby Newman on speed dial, and and you're gonna 108 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: be right back where you were again. And some of 109 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: these guys, I got friends who brag about how much 110 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:27,920 Speaker 1: they've had to pay Bobby Newman, the divorce attorney for 111 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: their ex wife, Like that's a point of pride, Like 112 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:36,480 Speaker 1: it's crazy, it's it's it makes me crazy. I want 113 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 1: good things for my friends and I. Anyway, Uh, let's 114 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 1: go to Tom because he's blasting dynamite. Tom, what you got? 115 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 2: God, ain't Michael you finally know about this? Uh? I 116 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 2: worked in the size of business thirty years and uh 117 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 2: we blasted all over a orange foam. I blasted everywhere. 118 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,880 Speaker 2: Or you know, you lay the geophones down on the 119 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:06,840 Speaker 2: cable and you're looking for oil and natural gas. 120 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:09,960 Speaker 1: That sounds like a blast. 121 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it was hard work working around the orange. 122 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 2: I mean you never kept dry feet when you walk 123 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:22,800 Speaker 2: walk out in those swamps out there, and so what 124 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 2: you did is you got these drill buggies in there 125 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 2: and they drill hunter foot hole and put twenty pounds 126 00:07:27,200 --> 00:07:31,680 Speaker 2: of dynamite in there, and uh, you know, a guy 127 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:34,400 Speaker 2: come along there later and shoot the hole and they'd 128 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:38,840 Speaker 2: blast off. And then so go to Orange or anywhere 129 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 2: we went. We had advertising the paper that we're gonna 130 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 2: blast dynamite. 131 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 1: Did you get the screen fire in the hole. 132 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 2: This wasn't Mayberry. 133 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 1: No, but if you watch, if you watch Justified, walk 134 00:07:56,320 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: Goggin's character when he would blow stuff up because he 135 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 1: was this hill billy terrorist, bad guy, and he would 136 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: drop the he was a bombs explosive. I think he 137 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 1: was trained in the military, his character, and he would 138 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: drop it down in there and he would scream fire 139 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:13,960 Speaker 1: in the hole. And when that happened on that show, 140 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 1: you knew something was about to get boom up. That 141 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: is very interesting, Tom, Thank you for calling and sharing that. 142 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: I mean, most of us will never get to have 143 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 1: an experience like that the Michael Berry show. Some guys 144 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: never figure this out. You do not marry a woman 145 00:08:34,960 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: based on how hot she looks on an Instagrammable Friday 146 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 1: night dinner party or Saturday night, Because I'm telling you 147 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:47,599 Speaker 1: she's been at every service professional all day long. Those 148 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:49,559 Speaker 1: toes are not going to look like that for the 149 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:51,800 Speaker 1: rest of your life. They're just not well. They are 150 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: if you're my wife, because it's that important to me 151 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: and she knows it makes me happy, and she does it. 152 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 1: Her paws and claws are not going to look like 153 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:07,320 Speaker 1: they do at the party. That uh, the makeup she's 154 00:09:07,360 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 1: had done, all of that, that's they're not gonna look 155 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: like that. You need to see her in a different light. 156 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:21,880 Speaker 1: Doug Doug's last name Doug stone style. You need to 157 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: see her in the garage in August, in July with 158 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:31,640 Speaker 1: her hair pulled back, with overalls on, paint splattered everywhere, 159 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 1: including on her face, and she's she's wiping her face 160 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:37,120 Speaker 1: with the back of her hand, and she's out there 161 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 1: painting without bothering a soul, listening to John Denver tunes 162 00:09:42,520 --> 00:09:44,800 Speaker 1: with old Chuck Taylor high tops because she ain't buying 163 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 1: new ones and a T shirt on from her high school. 164 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:50,679 Speaker 1: You need to see her in that light, and then 165 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:52,760 Speaker 1: you don't need to worry if she's if she's as 166 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 1: skinny as she always was anymore. I mean, you don't 167 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 1: want to blow up on you but but within reason, 168 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: you give a little, you give a little, give a 169 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:03,720 Speaker 1: little tolerance because you're not as skinny as you once were. 170 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: You got a woman that you go outside and you 171 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:10,880 Speaker 1: look at her in that light, and she turns and 172 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: says something sweet and tender to you, even though she's 173 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:15,679 Speaker 1: out there in the in the in the heat and sweat, 174 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 1: and she's not bitching, and and she says something sweet 175 00:10:18,880 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: to you, like you hungry or what's going on? Baby? 176 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: That's that's the one right there, tonya. That's the keeper. 177 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:30,360 Speaker 1: That woman will hold your hand as you take your 178 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:33,440 Speaker 1: dying breath at eighty years old, that's the woman right there. 179 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:36,839 Speaker 1: You catch a woman out in the monkey grass. This 180 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:39,360 Speaker 1: was my mother out in the monkey grass, pulling the 181 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:42,600 Speaker 1: weeds out, picking the weeds out of hands dirty as 182 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 1: they can be, no gloves on it. That's the that's 183 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 1: the keeper. Man. I'm telling you, you're not trying to 184 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 1: win the beauty contest. Every guys, you don't know what 185 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: they're gonna like ten years, it's certainly not twenty. You 186 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 1: don't know. You know how big they're gonna get. You 187 00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:58,839 Speaker 1: don't know. You can't nag them skinny. They're gonna be 188 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:02,440 Speaker 1: this genetics and behavioral and you just don't know. You 189 00:11:02,440 --> 00:11:04,160 Speaker 1: don't know what the post baby wait's going to be. 190 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:07,240 Speaker 1: You can't worry about all that you've got to worry about. 191 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:09,880 Speaker 1: Is she going to be good to you? Is she 192 00:11:09,920 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 1: going to fulfill your needs and not just sexually. Is 193 00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: she going to be a good mother? Does this strike 194 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 1: you as a kind of person it's going to be 195 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:18,959 Speaker 1: a good mother. Does this strike you as a kind 196 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:23,479 Speaker 1: of person that is going to be there for your kids? 197 00:11:22,920 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 1: Nothing makes me think less of a woman than a 198 00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:28,520 Speaker 1: woman who does not take care of her own kids 199 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 1: because she's out horring with guys or you know, on 200 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 1: the single scene or whatever she's doing. If they don't 201 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:40,440 Speaker 1: have a maternal instinct for their own children, that's a 202 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 1: bad thing for me, very bad thing. But I also 203 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:46,600 Speaker 1: tend to be a person who believes that a woman 204 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:48,960 Speaker 1: can be the CEO of a company. They can be 205 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:51,720 Speaker 1: a president if it's a right woman. They can be 206 00:11:51,760 --> 00:11:54,959 Speaker 1: an astronaut or whatever else they want, great lawyer, whatever 207 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: they want to be. And they can also be a 208 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: great mommy and a great cook, and a great wife, 209 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:07,520 Speaker 1: and a caretaker and a lover and a supporter and 210 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:12,400 Speaker 1: a cheerleader, and they can be a non professional. Never 211 00:12:12,440 --> 00:12:15,440 Speaker 1: work outside the home and keep the best home ever. 212 00:12:15,880 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 1: My mom didn't work outside the home, so maybe I 213 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 1: have a glorified view of that because my wife. My 214 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: life was richer because my mother stayed home and made 215 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: sure that, you know, our socks didn't have holes in them, 216 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: because she stitched them and made sure that our homework 217 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 1: was done, and made sure that we took to school 218 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 1: what we needed and if we were on a medication, 219 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:43,200 Speaker 1: we took that. We had time spent with us a 220 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: lot of it, and as high school students, too much 221 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:49,760 Speaker 1: of it because she was in our business. But thank 222 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: God for it now. So yeah, so that's you can 223 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:57,360 Speaker 1: just slug these last two segments picking a good wife 224 00:12:57,360 --> 00:12:59,960 Speaker 1: from home? This is picking a good wife. This is 225 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:03,600 Speaker 1: it's a conversation people don't have. I'm not telling them. Okay, fellows, 226 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 1: if y'all are on a hold, hold stay with me, 227 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:07,800 Speaker 1: I will talk to you off air of the minute 228 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 1: we finish, because and we'll just replay them letters. Just 229 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 1: stay with me, be patient. I need to get to this, 230 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:15,200 Speaker 1: all right, ladies. How to pick a man? Number one, 231 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:19,880 Speaker 1: Your parents should like your man. If your parents don't 232 00:13:19,920 --> 00:13:22,679 Speaker 1: like your man. Just understand this. Whatever it is that 233 00:13:22,760 --> 00:13:26,319 Speaker 1: attracts you about him has blinded you. Your parents are 234 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:29,280 Speaker 1: looking out for what's best for you. Your parents are 235 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:31,440 Speaker 1: not sleeping with him. So if he can sling it 236 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:33,600 Speaker 1: and you like it and it feels good and you 237 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 1: feel nasty or you feel sexy or whatever else, I 238 00:13:37,280 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 1: got news for you that will not be there when 239 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:43,559 Speaker 1: you're in your sixties. Okay, you will have to transition 240 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:46,960 Speaker 1: to part two. And Part two is he's a lazy slob. 241 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:52,360 Speaker 1: He's an insecure person. He's a needy person. He's not 242 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 1: a provider, he's not a protector. So whatever he's making 243 00:13:57,000 --> 00:14:01,640 Speaker 1: you feel that you like so much, that's not the 244 00:14:01,720 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 1: basis of a rewarding, fulfilling marriage of fifty years or more. 245 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:12,040 Speaker 1: It's just not. It's just not. It's great. I'm happy 246 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:15,679 Speaker 1: for you, but it's just not. Does he talk bad 247 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:20,240 Speaker 1: about his own family, that's a red flag a man 248 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:23,160 Speaker 1: who loves his mother. But here's the problem. I've always said, 249 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:24,880 Speaker 1: this has been my thing my entire life, maybe because 250 00:14:24,920 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 1: my mother said that you should judge a man by 251 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:28,720 Speaker 1: how he treats his mother, and I bought into it. 252 00:14:28,800 --> 00:14:33,760 Speaker 1: So whatever. But if he talks bad about other people, 253 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:37,800 Speaker 1: if everything is somebody else's fault, if he doesn't trust 254 00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 1: other people, if even his own friends when he introduces 255 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:43,080 Speaker 1: you to him, he doesn't trust them. Oh so wow, 256 00:14:43,520 --> 00:14:45,320 Speaker 1: he can't trust him? But I thought he was your 257 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:47,160 Speaker 1: best friend. Yeah, but you know one time he did 258 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 1: it bad side bad character judge, bad judge of characters 259 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 1: start with and probably a person who, out of his 260 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 1: own insecurity, tears everyone else else down. And the other thing. 261 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:01,800 Speaker 1: And I learned this lesson probably thirties. I learned that 262 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:06,520 Speaker 1: whatever people complain about others about is very likely a 263 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 1: mirror into their own soul. Russia always said that about 264 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:13,760 Speaker 1: the Liberals. What they call the Republicans, What the things 265 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:15,400 Speaker 1: they accuse them of? If you want to know what 266 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:17,840 Speaker 1: they're up to, it's what they accuse the Republicans of. 267 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:22,120 Speaker 1: The next thing is does he honor and respect you 268 00:15:22,480 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: beyond the sexual realm? Does he respect you for who 269 00:15:25,320 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: you are? Does he think you're smart, and I don't 270 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:30,320 Speaker 1: mean how well you do in school? Does he think 271 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:34,640 Speaker 1: you have good judgment? Does he value your humor? Does 272 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 1: he value your life skills? Does he compliment those things 273 00:15:40,360 --> 00:15:43,480 Speaker 1: in a meaningful way. So many people are so hung 274 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,600 Speaker 1: up on sex, which is great, it's important, Yeah, I 275 00:15:46,680 --> 00:15:49,720 Speaker 1: got it. But when you're talking about somebody you're going 276 00:15:49,760 --> 00:15:52,640 Speaker 1: to commit your life to, and that's all I know 277 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 1: people that are multi millionaires that's still think that's the 278 00:15:56,000 --> 00:15:58,600 Speaker 1: most important thing, And they wonder a year later why 279 00:15:59,400 --> 00:16:02,440 Speaker 1: they got by newman calling and they're being served, and 280 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:08,160 Speaker 1: here we go again. So maybe, just maybe if we 281 00:16:08,200 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 1: focus on the things that should matter. Man, how do 282 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 1: I find it somebody like your wife? How do you're 283 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 1: not looking for somebody like my wife? You're looking for 284 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 1: somebody you're going to see at the bar on Thursday 285 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 1: night having rose all day because she's real cute, and 286 00:16:22,080 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 1: she's had her lips plumped up where she's in permanent duckface, 287 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 1: and she's got her boobs real big, because you like 288 00:16:27,440 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 1: really big boobs. And a year later you're playing Bobby 289 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:32,200 Speaker 1: a bunch of money. If you like The Michael Berry 290 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 1: Show in podcast, please tell one friend, and if you're 291 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 1: so inclined, write a nice review of our podcast. 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