WEBVTT - You'd Sentence them to Death? 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:07.320 What's up. It's sauce on the side. I'm Gandhi and 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:11.560 today we have an interesting episode ahead. But before we 0:00:11.600 --> 0:00:11.920 get to. 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:13.720 That, Hello Andrew, Oh, Hello Gandhi. 0:00:13.960 --> 0:00:14.960 How are you? I'm great? 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:15.840 How are you great? 0:00:15.960 --> 0:00:17.880 Why do you sound so happy? You sounded very menacing 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:20.759 to start? What do you mean, hello, Gandhi? 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:24.680 Oh, I'm not trying to be menacing. It just iss 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:24.960 for you. 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:26.520 Not a good look. 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:29.400 So who do you have on today? 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:32.559 Today? I have the Captain aka Kyle Creek. You might 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.640 know him on Instagram as are you ready s g 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:39.000 R st K. I still haven't figured out what that means, 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:41.400 and I hope I remember to ask him. But he's 0:00:41.520 --> 0:00:43.440 a good time. He has a lot of stuff to say, 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:46.320 a lot of big thoughts, and he's just kind of 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:47.800 like a fun guy. So I said, we just get 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:48.159 to it. 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:48.680 Love that. 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:53.640 Are we still going by the Captain? 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:55.960 I mean a lot of people know me by it, 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:58.160 so it's kind of stuck. But I don't really use 0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:00.680 it that much anymore. I prefer people call me Kyle. 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:03.040 I mean, let's be honest, it's not the worst nickname. 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:05.479 You also are an author. You have a lot of books. 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:08.679 Yeah, writer, I don't consider myself an author. I consider 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:11.240 myself a writer. I think the way I explain to 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:13.480 people's writers write about the world as it is, and 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:16.720 authors create worlds, and so until I do a novel, 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:18.800 I don't consider myself an author. And it's kind of 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:21.000 my way of just I don't know, pain and respect 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:23.240 to people that have done that, because it is so 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:24.880 difficult to write that style of the book. 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:25.960 Do you think you'll ever do that? 0:01:26.800 --> 0:01:28.920 Yeah, that's kind of where I'm going now with my career. 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:31.480 And we were just talking before this. I mean, my 0:01:31.640 --> 0:01:34.440 goal for the longest time has been to leave social media. 0:01:34.720 --> 0:01:37.120 I mean I used to tell people back in probably 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:39.840 twenty fifteen, twenty sixteen, when I was first starting to 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:42.399 get some notoriety online, I would tell people my goal 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:43.880 is to write a book a year and be left 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:45.720 the fuck alone. I'm at the point now where I 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:47.920 do use social media substantially less. I mean, I took 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:49.960 it off my phone in January of this year. I 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:52.120 don't even have it on my phone anymore. I haven't 0:01:52.160 --> 0:01:54.000 been active on it for months, and it's been nice. 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:59.120 Why tired of it unfulfilling for the most part, and 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:01.640 I I kind of feel like social media's became a 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.640 lot more of a healthscape in the past few years. 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:06.120 I mean, I think social media used to be pretty 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:08.040 fun for me. I used to enjoy it. I thought 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:11.680 it was fairly challenging, and I liked trying to craft 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:15.560 messages that resonated but also you know, would would get shared. 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:17.000 I liked it. I thought it was you know, kind 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:19.359 of it's almost like a game at times. And once 0:02:19.360 --> 0:02:22.040 they started putting algorithms in place and they started fucking 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:25.800 with people's reach, it just it became too mechanical for me, 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:28.680 you know, Rather than start doing like reels and start 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:31.560 doing like these stupid, choppy short videos that everyone's doing 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:33.720 now to get attention, that's just it's not me and 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:35.280 I can't bring myself to do it. So I'd rather 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:37.760 just kind of, you know, disappear into the ether than 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:39.040 you know, become that person. 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:40.960 Well, you're lucky you have something to fall back on, 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:44.360 which it's not even a fallback. You started as a writer. 0:02:44.440 --> 0:02:46.800 Yeah, I mean, I have a day job. That's pretty 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:50.359 much been my whole career as an adult. Wasn't until 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:52.200 I got into advertising that I made good money as 0:02:52.200 --> 0:02:56.920 a writer and on the side I didn't have much 0:02:56.960 --> 0:03:01.079 of a social following, but I started writing a lot 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:03.280 of jokes that my clients would kind of say no 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:05.200 to because I was doing a lot of TV work 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:07.639 at the time, and I thought the jokes were good 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:09.520 enough to see the light of day, so I started 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:11.880 tweeting them instead, and they just kind of took off 0:03:11.880 --> 0:03:14.280 and snowballed from there, and then I had this catch 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:16.880 persona was just me observing life and writing about it 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:18.240 the way I saw it and the way I was 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.679 experiencing it outside of my professional career, And that's really 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:24.080 what became, you know, the social media following that I have. 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:26.200 Now, how do you feel about the feedback that you 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:29.080 get from random people? Because that's actually for me, one 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:31.680 of the reasons I enjoyed following you is because you 0:03:31.720 --> 0:03:33.480 say a lot of the things that I think, at 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:36.680 least I was thinking, and I don't necessarily know how 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:39.160 to craft it, and I would just retweet or repost 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:41.400 some of the things you said. But I know, based 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:45.480 on me reposting what people would respond to. How do 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:47.640 you navigate that and does it bother you or do 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:48.480 you just laugh? 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:51.800 I used to try and do it intentionally. I used 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:53.920 to tell my frist starter. I used to Yeah, I mean, 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:56.920 that's why I have instigator on my profile. I used 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:58.520 to tell my friends, I know I have a good 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:01.440 post when I lose more followers and I gain because 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:04.280 it hits a nerve. And then at some point I know, 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:06.320 you know, people will come back on the back end. 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:08.280 But I've had several people and follow me over the 0:04:08.360 --> 0:04:10.880 years and then write me apologies and like, I don't know, 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:12.360 I don't know theyn follow me. I don't pay attention 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:14.040 that closely. But I'll have someone write me and say, 0:04:14.040 --> 0:04:15.880 you know I hadn't followed you two years ago because 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:18.000 it's something you said, And I just want to say 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:19.400 I came back and I thought about it, and you 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:21.840 were right. You want people to feel something. You want 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:23.520 people to laugh, you want people to be scared, you 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:25.520 want people to cry, like that's your goal as a writer. 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:28.520 And so I always figured if I elicited enough emotion 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:30.279 that someone felt like they had to unfollow me, that 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:31.120 was successful. 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:32.960 Oh my god, I must be so successful. 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:33.840 Right. 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:36.839 First of all, who is the majority of your audience 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:38.799 when you'll hear insights? What does that breakdown? 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:42.159 I think it's like sixty forty primarily females. Oh okay, 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:45.039 I mean I used to rag on like dating practices. 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:46.440 That was kind of like my thing is. I would 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:48.679 just talk shit on all the dumb stuff people do dating. 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:51.479 I was always bashing on douchebags and you know, shit 0:04:51.520 --> 0:04:53.560 that i'd done myself when I was younger, stuff I 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:55.559 still saw my friends doing, and so I was always 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:57.320 kind of bashing that. And I think that's also why 0:04:57.440 --> 0:04:59.320 I gained, you know, a little bit of a female following. 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:01.160 Do you ever look back anything you've posted in cringe 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:01.760 a little bit. 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:04.080 All the time. I read my old books, Like people 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:05.839 will bring like my quote me books to me to 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:07.919 sign a book event, and I'll flip through them sometimes 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:09.479 and I'll read stuff I wrote and I'll be like, oh, 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:10.520 fuck that guy. 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:12.320 And quote so they're quoting you. 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:15.039 I I think it's uh. I think if you don't 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:17.240 look back on your past self and cringe a little bit, 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:19.479 it's a sign that you're not growing as a person. 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:22.200 Like I think everybody I know that is a good person, 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:24.800 or everyone I know that's an interesting person looks back 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:28.560 on their past self and doesn't like certain aspects of 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:31.520 who they were, And it's unavoidable, and I think that's 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:34.640 what prevents a lot of people from pursuing something they enjoy. 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:38.400 I mean, they're too afraid of criticism, they're too afraid 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:41.200 of regret, and so they just go through the motions. 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:42.800 In ten years now, they look back in their life 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:44.640 and yeah, they don't regret anything, but also they haven't 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:47.560 done anything. And I think, you know, the fear of 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:53.200 being criticized online is just it destroys people's ability to create. 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:55.839 It destroys people's ability to live, you know. It influences 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:58.120 people to break up with people they shouldn't break up with, 0:05:58.200 --> 0:05:59.960 Like your friends get in your ears, or random straight 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:02.839 are talking to you about your relationship. You'll make choices 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:05.039 to placate an audience that honestly doesn't give a fuck 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:09.760 about you. I would love to see social media kind 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:12.600 of just fall off in our society. I actually think 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:15.159 it's been as much as it's helped my career and 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:18.240 someone who really has benefited from social media, I do 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:20.720 feel it's been a net negative for society as a whole, 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:22.680 oh for sure. And I think we would all be 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:24.000 a lot happier without it. 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:26.520 People are always talking shit that are not in the arena. 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:29.600 They're in the seats watching you, and they're telling you 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:32.200 how you need to curate your content specifically for them, 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:35.160 which strives me insane, and I try, I try really 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:36.960 hard not to let that bother me. Every now and 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:39.120 then it dings me and I get annoyed. But for you, 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:42.560 having such a big following, has it ever affected you 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:44.080 in your mental health at all? 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:46.480 Yeah? It has, Okay, I mean there is times when 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:48.719 it gets to you, and there is times when I think. 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:52.640 I think what's gotten to me the most is when 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:56.320 I feel like I've lost touch or like sometimes I'll 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:57.760 look back and be like, oh, I used to write 0:06:57.800 --> 0:06:59.839 better than I do now, and that'll create a whole 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:02.679 bunch of insecurity. And then if I'm in that state 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:04.920 of insecurity and I get on and read too many 0:07:04.960 --> 0:07:07.359 negative comments, when I'm in that state, they could be 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:09.800 pretty devastating and derail means. So, I mean, I was 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:12.760 suicidal for a while when it was really really bad. 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:14.840 So like, at the height of things going well for 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:17.600 you and your podcast, I. 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:21.960 Literally got my first major book deal and thirty days later. 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:24.160 It is probably when I was at like my peak 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:28.360 suicidal ideation. Wow, and I had you know what I'd 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:30.400 always worked for, and it was because I just didn't 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:33.200 have myself like I you know, the book deal was 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:36.160 associated with the Captain. The book deal was for the Captain, 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:39.160 and so it just like I just didn't like myself. 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:42.680 I didn't like who I become. And It's part of 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:46.160 what's so refreshing now about not using social media is 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:49.480 I actually, for the first time feel like I'm making 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:52.840 money and I'm making a living again, as as myself 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:55.880 and not having to be something I'm not. You know, 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.120 I had to really kind of adopt that post in 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:00.840 ghost philosophy where you just post and to leave. But 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:03.760 then I feel guilt because it's like, oh, people are 0:08:03.800 --> 0:08:05.960 taking time to write these meaningful comments and I should 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:08.440 probably get back to them. And I used to tell 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:10.760 myself I had to answer every DM and I used 0:08:10.760 --> 0:08:12.480 to tell myself, if someone's taking them time to write me, 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:14.960 I need to write them back. And that was that 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.680 destroyed my mental health. I was way way, way too 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:21.120 involved in Instagram. It became, you know, a huge part 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:24.600 of my life and my identity and the idea of 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:27.560 not being relevant or the idea of losing what I'd 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:30.520 worked for, like scared the hell out of me. What 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:32.800 I'm doing now work wise is the work I've always 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:33.280 wanted to do. 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:37.040 I feel like Instagram has created this very bizarre world 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:39.920 where everybody cares what something looks like and not what 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:43.520 it actually feels like. It has ruined dating. Diamond here, 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:45.679 who never wants to talk about her dating life, So 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:47.240 we're not going to talk about your dating life. But 0:08:47.880 --> 0:08:49.240 skoot over to a microphone real quick. 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.320 All right, let's rip her apart. Let's rip it. 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:53.400 No, no, no. I just laugh at Diamond because I 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:56.280 always say she is the queen of a tiny red 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:58.560 flag and she'll never talk to somebody ever again, which 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:01.440 I think is part of social media making you think 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:04.080 that people only have green flags all the time and 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:06.080 there's never anything wrong with somebody. So if you find 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:08.600 one little thing you bounce. I don't know if it's 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:09.320 social media. 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:12.319 Oh, it's just you, it's just me, like I do. 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:15.199 It's certain things that I just I'm like, I don't 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:16.400 really have time to worry about that. 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:18.560 Red flaggers are like that that they talk. 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:19.120 About the ick. 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:21.079 I get the ick very. 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:22.920 Often, Like, what's an example. 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:24.079 Oh my god, I saw a video of this guy 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:26.640 that I thought was cute walking out of the airport 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:28.400 for so all, Why is someone recording you walking out 0:09:28.440 --> 0:09:28.880 of the airport. 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:29.520 I think it's weird. 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:32.600 But his backpack was on his back and one side 0:09:32.720 --> 0:09:36.240 was like off, and I'm like, that was so irritating 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:37.960 to me because I'm like, I know you feel this, 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:41.040 like fix it is this thing on? How do you 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:44.520 not feel that like this, like your backpack is. 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:45.320 Off of your shoulder? 0:09:45.360 --> 0:09:47.120 That's yeah. That might not be social media. That might 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:50.320 just be her. Yeah, but a little fucked. 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:53.079 Up Diamond is a lot fucked up, and that's why 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:55.080 I love her. It's one of my favorites. But I 0:09:55.080 --> 0:09:57.120 think that is partially social media because you never would 0:09:57.120 --> 0:09:58.880 have seen that guy with that backpack walking out of 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:01.199 the airport until you were actually there with him and 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:02.600 might have had some type of connection. 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:06.080 That's a good point because you know, for the most part, 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:08.400 you know, and when you used to date someone, you 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:10.319 only really knew what you saw of them when you 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:12.199 saw him on like a Friday or a Saturday, so. 0:10:12.240 --> 0:10:13.760 Like, which is the real version of that. 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:15.680 Yeah, and you would you wouldn't have noticed everyone in 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:18.640 their little mistakes or mishaps or problems that end up 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:21.400 on social media, and so I think that happened. What's 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:23.160 happened for the most part of social media is this 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:26.520 idea that people think they have options when they don't. Oh, 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.560 I mean that's like diamonds. I think that's the real 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:30.640 Dutch on social media. 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:33.400 It's horrible when you think about like people being in 0:10:33.440 --> 0:10:37.360 relationships and like they say that cheating is more like 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:39.440 people are cheating more now. I don't really think so, 0:10:39.480 --> 0:10:42.680 but I think it's more obvious because they're on Instagram 0:10:42.720 --> 0:10:46.280 liking pictures of women that men are and women too, 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:48.880 but like men are on Instagram liking pictures of women 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:52.920 that they'll never meet and thinking that they have Yeah, 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:54.920 they think that they can. You know, why are you 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:57.280 wasting your time liking something She's never going to see it? 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:57.880 You lose her. 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:00.720 I agree with you on them, but only in the 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:04.880 sense that I find it disrespectful, because I do feel 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:07.560 like it's just a waste of energy and time. And 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:11.400 I think, you know, I understand, I understand that there 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.640 might not be intention there, and some guys are like, oh, 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:15.240 I just like them because I think she's hot, But 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:18.040 I still think it's just like a waste of the energy, 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:19.839 Like you're better off putting an energy into something else. 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:22.600 So me personally, you know, in a relationship, like I've 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:25.680 never liked or creeped other photos like that or like 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:27.240 so they're in liked. I didn't even I mean, I 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:28.959 don't even follow people in social media as I know 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:31.640 them personally, and so I do think it's kind of 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:34.040 pathetic when you see these guys that are in relationships 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:36.280 and you look at who they're following, and like fifty 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:38.280 of them are like OnlyFans models. It's discussing. 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:40.520 Okay, it's a waste. 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:43.280 It's a waste of your energy. It really is a 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:44.960 waste of energy observing a. 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:47.480 Lot about dating and initially starting in that realm of 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:49.920 kind of observations, maybe advice about dating. Do you have 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:52.720 any for our diamond? As she ventures out into this 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:53.600 world here we go? 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:55.360 I mean, I mean, I think the idea that she 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.760 started with about the idea of little red flags, like 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:00.400 everyone's going to have those. I think it's good to 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:02.880 have deal breakers. I think you absolutely should have things 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:06.439 that you don't compromise on, but little red flags like 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:08.800 a backpack strap, I think I think. 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:09.960 Is I can see it right now. 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:14.360 I think it is incredibly fucking silly, and you're going 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:16.840 to You're gonna miss out on a lot of good 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:20.200 people by finding fault in them. Say this is her, 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:25.040 she's like he like, I could find fault anybody. You 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:26.760 could give me anybody in the world, and I could 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:28.480 find fault in him, because that's just the truth. That's 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:30.959 life and deal breakers are one thing. But little red 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:32.640 flies like that, you're gonna miss out on good stuff. 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:36.000 You really are, because here's the thing is, you have 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:39.400 those two there's looking there's a look at you and 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:40.960 go look at her. Ick look at that. It gives 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:43.000 me and it's just the truth, and you got to 0:12:43.000 --> 0:12:45.440 look past that stuff. I just think it would be 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:48.920 very hard to date and be turned off by a 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:49.760 backpack strap. 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:52.320 Oh my god, No, it's very easy. 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:54.040 Like I'm easy to. 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:55.640 Be turned off or easy to date, because it sounds 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:56.360 like dating is hard. 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:58.679 No, well, dating is. I mean they say it all 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:01.120 the time. The dating pool has p in it. You know, 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:03.680 we we get it. It's a mess. But like also, 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:07.040 it's just I could see the guy's backpack off of 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:07.920 his shoulder right now. 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:09.480 But he's a good looking guy. 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:11.280 Yeah, but that made him not so cute. 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:11.880 You know what I mean. 0:13:14.280 --> 0:13:17.280 It's just it's weird to me, Like I don't know. 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:19.560 It just makes me wonder how your brain works, you know, 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:21.960 how it's wired that you feel the strap. 0:13:21.640 --> 0:13:23.560 Wanted to go to dinner with him and find out. 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:25.800 Say, she won't do it. Now, it's like dead, it's 0:13:25.800 --> 0:13:28.040 dead in the water. It's not gonna happen. It's okay. 0:13:28.120 --> 0:13:30.560 Yeah. It'd be different if you'd gone to dinner with 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:32.800 that guy and he like snapped at a waiter and 0:13:32.840 --> 0:13:34.800 like he like made a big deal and like, you know, 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:36.880 threw a fit over some dumb shit at dinner. Like 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.200 I get it, Like that's actually that's a character trait, right, 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:41.400 I think judging someone off a character trait is more 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:44.320 accurate as opposed to a backpack strap, which has nothing 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:45.040 to do with character. 0:13:46.360 --> 0:13:48.800 I gotta say on that though, more than the backpack 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:50.920 strap bothering me, I would be a little suspicious of 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:52.720 why you have somebody recording it as you're walking out 0:13:52.720 --> 0:13:54.120 of an airport. That would be like more if the 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:56.319 red flag to me, like that, what's happening? 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:58.840 The thing is like that shit's become so normalized with 0:13:58.880 --> 0:13:59.480 social media. 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:01.839 I hate it. They need make cameras more expensive, I 0:14:01.880 --> 0:14:03.079 can tripods more expensive. 0:14:03.080 --> 0:14:05.680 They need to ban tripods and gym like I agree, 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:07.840 Like I go to a public gym and if I 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:10.320 see someone with a tripod, I legitimately want to kick it, 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:12.760 like it pisses me off. And I don't understand why 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:15.160 gyms don't ban them, because if you open a gym 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:17.600 and you had a big sign that says no tripods, 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:19.320 keep your influencer shit at home. Do you know any 0:14:19.360 --> 0:14:21.760 people with join your gym just because you're taking a 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:22.800 stand on that stuff. 0:14:22.920 --> 0:14:25.600 My gym says it, but people still do it constantly, 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:27.720 And I just think in my head to like, who's 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:31.080 watching this? Who's actually watching you work out at I'm 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:32.760 not going to say the gym, but at this gym right, 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:35.000 this is very stupid. I hate it. I hate the tripods. 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:37.160 And everybody has a podcast now which I'm trying to 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:38.320 get you to do. Are you going to do it? 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:41.200 I don't want to fall into the category of everybody. 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:44.040 No, but I think you actually have things to say 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:46.760 where I what I've been seeing a lot, and granted 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:48.680 it's my social media, so the algorithm is feeding me 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:50.600 what I'm looking at and just giving me more of it. 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:53.320 But I see a lot of dudes sitting in a 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:55.760 room talking about how women suck and what women need 0:14:55.800 --> 0:14:58.040 to do differently, and I find that fascinating. And I 0:14:58.040 --> 0:14:59.760 don't know how all of them just came up with 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:02.360 pot and people are watched. It's insane to me. 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:04.520 What's stupid too, those You got people that don't have 0:15:04.640 --> 0:15:07.600 podcasts that are recording videos of them wearing headphones talking 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:11.200 into a microphone just so they can have clips to 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:13.360 post on social media and look like that of a. 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:15.800 Podcast that they should have known that existed. 0:15:16.080 --> 0:15:17.920 That's like a new thing people are doing, like they're 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:19.760 not even on a podcast, but they'll get a mic 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:22.200 and they'll put headphones on, they'll record themselves singing like 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:24.360 some kind of life advice, and they'll clip it and 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:26.320 they'll post that are real to try and look at 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:29.560 that podcast. And that's my biggest issue with social media, 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.920 and it's probably why I've taken a step back from it, 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:34.800 is I think it's just given everybody this idea they're 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:36.360 all a star and they all have something that needs 0:15:36.360 --> 0:15:39.800 to be said, and it's just like everyone thinks they're important. 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:42.720 And you know, I was reading recently that. I think 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:44.840 it was the company Lego did a study a couple 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:47.680 of years back, kids between like eight and eleven years 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:49.400 old in the UK and the US what they wanted 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:51.280 to be when they grow up, and the number one 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:54.680 thing is a YouTube content creator. Wow, that's what kids 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:56.440 want to be these days. And I think that is 0:15:56.960 --> 0:15:59.920 I think that is incredibly fucking depressing, and I think 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.960 it just shows a huge lack of imagination, but it 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:05.040