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Speaker 1: there's charge. Consider building as your healing and as you're

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Speaker 1: growing your daily practice, consider building out time for rage.

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Speaker 1: So what that could look like could be a boxing

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Speaker 1: class where you really give yourself permission to scream to punch.

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Speaker 1: It could be you know, doing some somatic work, um

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Speaker 1: doing some fossil work. I've done a lot of work

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Speaker 1: with the muscle whisper who's on Instagram, Jackie. She is

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Speaker 1: a queen, she is a master UM and that was

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Speaker 1: really really powerful for my life. Getting you know, that

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Speaker 1: kind of deep, deep fossil work while also being able

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Speaker 1: to scream like you maybe never screamed before, or to

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Speaker 1: cry it out could be really incredible. Maybe find even

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Speaker 1: to one of those rooms that they offer places. Um,

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Speaker 1: not an escape room, but what's the other one. There's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I forget what it's called, but it's like a room

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00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:29,160
Speaker 1: that you can go in. Google it. It's a room

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00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: that you can go in and you can just break

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Speaker 1: a bunch of stuff. You pay money, you walk in

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Speaker 1: this room, you get to throw things against the wall,

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Speaker 1: you get to break things with a hammer. Um, consider

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Speaker 1: doing something that can feed that piece of you, because

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Speaker 1: if we're connecting to anger, it means there are some

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Speaker 1: things that still want to be released. There are some

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Speaker 1: things that still want to be expressed. And very often

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Speaker 1: it's not a need to release or express at the

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Speaker 1: current present moment situation of anger. It's a real need

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Speaker 1: and sire to do that for things in the past

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Speaker 1: that you think you're making up for by doing it now.

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Speaker 1: Very often, for scenarios that don't actually require or deserve

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Speaker 1: that level of anger. So just for your consideration, UM,

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Speaker 1: and i'd be really interested in the person that wrote

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Speaker 1: that question if you want to share on social the

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Speaker 1: way that you resonated with it. All right, I think

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Speaker 1: we have enough time to do one more question, but

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Speaker 1: this has been pretty awesome. I might do this pretty regularly. Okay, UM,

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Speaker 1: let's see. Oh, I got a question about the women

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Speaker 1: who He'll Retreat that I am doing with Queen Afua

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Speaker 1: at the Omega Institute the last week of September. UM,

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Speaker 1: asking about any preparation that should be done. So, if

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Speaker 1: you're listening to this and you're coming to the women

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Speaker 1: who He'll Retreat, we have an email coming your way

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Speaker 1: in a couple of weeks that's going to include a

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Speaker 1: whole list of the ways to prepare. But thank you

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Speaker 1: for saying that. And I got you from my final question.

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Speaker 1: This is really really, really powerful. How do you heal

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Speaker 1: your connection to your intuition after abuse or sexual abuse?

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm yeah. Experiencing abuse, UM, experiencing abuse of any

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Speaker 1: kind emotional, mental, physical, spiritual abuse, sexual abuse, it can

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Speaker 1: very often completely rob us of our intuition. It completely

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Speaker 1: can shut off that part of you, especially if you

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Speaker 1: weren't allowed to use your intuition when you felt it.

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Speaker 1: If you are gaslet about your intuition, or if you

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Speaker 1: had an intuition and we're not able to act on it,

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Speaker 1: um even by your own means, um, it can really

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Speaker 1: thrust that out of us. On a spiritual lens, you know,

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Speaker 1: um abuses really heavily affect your sacred and your solar

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Speaker 1: solar plexus chakra, and the sacred chakra is connected to

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Speaker 1: our ability to create. Uh. It is in the womb

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Speaker 1: space that is underneath your navel and right above your genitals,

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Speaker 1: and that area is the seat of our creative power.

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Speaker 1: And so very often it is believed from a spiritual

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Speaker 1: lens that if you experience sexual abuse, that is where

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Speaker 1: you take the greatest wounding, which then affects everything else

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Speaker 1: about your life. Your sacred is also where your intuition

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Speaker 1: is really cultivated, where you get that terminology. Listen to

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Speaker 1: your gut, trust your gut, your gut instinct. It's really

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Speaker 1: in more ancient terms speaking to connect to your sacred,

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Speaker 1: feel the energy of your sacred, let that guide you.

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Speaker 1: And so one I would say, consider a multi pronged approach.

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Speaker 1: You're going to need to heal from abuse, You're going

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Speaker 1: to need to really have a holistic lens through which

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Speaker 1: you view yourself and you view your healing journey, which

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Speaker 1: means a multi pronged approach of nourishing yourself and healing

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Speaker 1: and growing yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually is your

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Speaker 1: pathway through and out. So that could mean equipping yourself

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Speaker 1: if able with therapy, could be a cognitive therapy, could

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Speaker 1: be a behavioral therapy. Speaking to a professional that understands

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Speaker 1: the effects of abuse and trauma on the brain and

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Speaker 1: the body is very important. Next, a somatic approach. When

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Speaker 1: you experience abuse, and especially if you experience sexual abuse,

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Speaker 1: you become disconnected from your physical body. You have this

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Speaker 1: feeling of even jumping out of your body to completely

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Speaker 1: disconnect from the experiences happening. And when that happens, um,

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Speaker 1: it disconnects you from yourself, from the present moment, from

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Speaker 1: your ability to be regulated and meet your needs. And

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Speaker 1: so a somatic approach could be really beautiful for that,

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Speaker 1: and that is really expansive. That somatic category is really expansive. UM,

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Speaker 1: So play around with that a little bit, really spend

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Speaker 1: time researching, because the thing is I trust that God,

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Speaker 1: that spirit that our own hearts guides us to the

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Speaker 1: teachers and the tools that we need. So even if

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Speaker 1: you decide I am going to carve out an hour

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Speaker 1: on a Saturday or Sunday, whatever day is open and

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Speaker 1: expensive for you, I'm gonna sit down and I'm gonna ground.

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Speaker 1: Because the thing is, even when you're looking for help,

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Speaker 1: it is very triggering. It can n b it's bringing

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Speaker 1: up the wound, it's making you look at it, face it.

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Speaker 1: So sometimes we avoid getting help because we don't even

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Speaker 1: want to think about the hurt to get the help.

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Speaker 1: So light a candle, take some deep centering breaths, set

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Speaker 1: an intention. God, please guide me towards the tools, the teachers,

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Speaker 1: and the resources I need for my journey that I

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Speaker 1: need to heal and grow. And then start searching and reading.

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Speaker 1: Start looking and reading, you will know what connects with you.

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00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:34,520
Speaker 1: It will also give you a better view of who

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Speaker 1: is in your area that can really assist you. But

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Speaker 1: type in healing, sexual trauma, healing abuse UM, type in

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00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:54,240
Speaker 1: so matic therapy, type in breathwork, type in tapping. Start

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Speaker 1: to see what's possible and really get clear on what

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Speaker 1: your needs are. In even if you don't know them,

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00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 1: just start looking. It's okay to not know too, But

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Speaker 1: think about that, what do I need? What do I

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Speaker 1: want to feel? How do I want to be free? UM?

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00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:15,320
Speaker 1: You might even want to consider hugging therapy. You may

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Speaker 1: may may or may not. Those listening be familiar with that, UM,

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00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 1: and I've seen it featured in some TV programs, but

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00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:25,359
Speaker 1: I think it was done in a way that was

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Speaker 1: not an integrity and really honoring the depth of the work.

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Speaker 1: It was more done in a silly way, you know.

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00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 1: But touch therapy, hugging therapy is really powerful. If you

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Speaker 1: were abused and you didn't receive the safety, the nurturing,

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Speaker 1: the protection that you deserved in those abuses, you need

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00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 1: to be held. You need to have the opportunity to cry.

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Speaker 1: You need to have the opportunity to know that you

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Speaker 1: are being witnessed in your pain, held and cared for. UM.

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Speaker 1: There's many other things that I just hope everything UM

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Speaker 1: can come to mind in this moment. I want to

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Speaker 1: answer this question fully, but yes, you'll need to connect

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Speaker 1: to a multi pronged approach UM and do your best

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Speaker 1: to be consistent with that. Go gently, but there are

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Speaker 1: resources that can meet your needs. And you know, sometimes

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Speaker 1: even setting that intention, saying a prayer, doing a visualization

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Speaker 1: and meditation of I want to heal from my abuse,

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Speaker 1: I want to heal from my sexual abuse. God Guides, Universe, source, Creator,

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Speaker 1: please show me my step forward, show me the aligned teachers,

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Speaker 1: show me the aligned resources that are right, correct and

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Speaker 1: safe for me. You have a power to call this

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Speaker 1: in and I do believe that the divine right opportunities

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Speaker 1: and alignments will meet you on this path. And thank

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Speaker 1: you for asking that question. UM also a smaller way

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Speaker 1: to practice with intuition for those that are looking to

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Speaker 1: supercharge their intuition or just connect at a deeper level

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Speaker 1: for the maybe the first time, practice in small ways,

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Speaker 1: low risk environments. You know, make notations in a notebook

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Speaker 1: every time you have an awareness about something, whether it's

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Speaker 1: a work decision, a personal life decision, but if something

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00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 1: is coming in and telling you a very clear thought

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Speaker 1: and message, even if it's yes, no, this person is,

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00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 1: don't do that, go this way, date it, time it,

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00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 1: write it down. Whether you act on that intuition or not,

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Speaker 1: you're keeping a record of the truth of the way

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00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:50,359
Speaker 1: that your intuition operates, your divine connection and then look

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Speaker 1: back at it without judgment. You know, if you move

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00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: forward and you go against your intuition, just look back

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00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: and say, wow, I knew the better choice to make.

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Speaker 1: Why did I make that choice? You know, if you're

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Speaker 1: making a different choice than what you're intuition tells you

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00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 1: and it doesn't go in the way that you thought,

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Speaker 1: just honor that. You don't have to feel bad. You

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00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:12,759
Speaker 1: don't have to feel like a failure. You don't have

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00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 1: to judge yourself. There's always more and new choices to make,

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Speaker 1: but you can start to understand, you know what, I

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Speaker 1: really did get it right the first time. I can

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Speaker 1: trust myself. That's the way to start building it. Um.

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Speaker 1: I'd like to have fun with it in traffic, to

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Speaker 1: like which way should I go? Should I exit here?

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Speaker 1: And then I find out yes or no, I either

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Speaker 1: get stuck in more traffic or following my gut proved right.

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Speaker 1: And those small ways help you refine, But keep track

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Speaker 1: of the bigger ways. Write them down, um, and you'll

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00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:44,319
Speaker 1: definitely see a difference. You'll see an expansion there. All right,

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Speaker 1: we've reached the end of the show. I think I

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Speaker 1: only managed to get through four or five questions but

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Speaker 1: I love this, so I'm gonna do it again, and

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Speaker 1: I'm probably gonna do another episode going through more of

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Speaker 1: the questions that were sent in on Instagram. Thank you

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Speaker 1: for listening to this show. Thank you to everyone that

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Speaker 1: asked a question. I hope that some of the things

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Speaker 1: that I shared felt resonant or helpful um in some

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Speaker 1: way that grows you. And as always, thank you for

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Speaker 1: joining me on this episode. Share this episode with a friend,

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