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Speaker 1: I'm your girl, Mandy Be and we are sitting here

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Speaker 1: I'm a board certified sex therapist. I'm a sex worker,

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Speaker 1: You know, it's so fascinating to me that people like here,

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Speaker 1: one time that I got it stuck up in that

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00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:57,320
Speaker 1: ship and couldn't get it out to look like what

425
00:20:57,520 --> 00:21:02,080
Speaker 1: what was really scared? But no, like I ever say this,

426
00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:05,359
Speaker 1: Like I've had very intensive conversations with the guy that

427
00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:07,680
Speaker 1: I'm currently dating about like my period and sucking on

428
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:09,879
Speaker 1: my period, and he's like, look, I'm an adult, this

429
00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:12,199
Speaker 1: is something you're gonna always grow here. And I'm just

430
00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:13,960
Speaker 1: not going to not do this with you because I

431
00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:16,159
Speaker 1: find you disgusting if you don't want to personally do

432
00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:18,359
Speaker 1: it because you can't deal with your own messiness or

433
00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:20,880
Speaker 1: you have a complex about it, fine, but like this

434
00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 1: is not gonna stop the show for me. Yeah, my

435
00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 1: thing is I think for me so personally, I don't

436
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,440
Speaker 1: I don't give a ship. And also if I'm doing

437
00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 1: sex work, I'm sucking to my period. That's that. But

438
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:31,159
Speaker 1: also with people when I would have this conversation, I'm

439
00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:33,040
Speaker 1: going to be asking people, like what comes up for

440
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:35,480
Speaker 1: you when you think about it? If the like initial

441
00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:38,120
Speaker 1: thing is discussed, then that needs to probably be unpacked

442
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:43,560
Speaker 1: because it periods being disgusting is a socialized thing. But

443
00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 1: but it's like I know that I have. I've had

444
00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:47,280
Speaker 1: a period since I was ten years old, so it's

445
00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:50,640
Speaker 1: not but to me the act of like sharing my

446
00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:53,280
Speaker 1: blood with someone, that to me is the part that

447
00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:55,520
Speaker 1: sounds kind of disgusting. We're not supposed to share blood

448
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,920
Speaker 1: about it, Like, I just don't think. I think it's

449
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:03,159
Speaker 1: a disgusting thing. But what comes up like the smell,

450
00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 1: like the fact that blood is blood, Like I know

451
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,959
Speaker 1: I know that well well, even even when when I

452
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,320
Speaker 1: was growing up, so being in school, if a kid

453
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 1: had a cut on their finger, like they told you

454
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:16,520
Speaker 1: don't touch it, there's blood, Like so I don't. Don't.

455
00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:20,080
Speaker 1: I don't feel like people should be touching each other's blood.

456
00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:21,920
Speaker 1: I guess I don't know. It's just sucking gross to me,

457
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,479
Speaker 1: Like I'll stop spit all, squirt on the nigga, all

458
00:22:24,480 --> 00:22:26,159
Speaker 1: piss on the nigga, But blood, I don't know, Bro,

459
00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 1: I just can't get with it. Dog. That's that's that's

460
00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:31,719
Speaker 1: the part you. I can't get. Like if you were

461
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:34,680
Speaker 1: a lesbian and you had to suck on your periods,

462
00:22:34,920 --> 00:22:36,480
Speaker 1: I could get if it was someone else's blood. But

463
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:38,320
Speaker 1: that's what you know what, Thank god lesbians, when you

464
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 1: were around a bit long enough, your periods becoming the

465
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:42,680
Speaker 1: fish we gonna be on a period at the same time,

466
00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:45,160
Speaker 1: which we just stopped sucking this week, say you next

467
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:51,680
Speaker 1: week I had done that show. I mean I said

468
00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:54,240
Speaker 1: that I accidentally, like I was eating a girl out

469
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:56,119
Speaker 1: and fingering her at the same time, and you just

470
00:22:56,200 --> 00:23:00,200
Speaker 1: noticed the color under my nails and she brought no,

471
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:02,440
Speaker 1: I must have popped the ship on. That's what we

472
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:06,440
Speaker 1: were just talking about in the hallway. I was like, oh, well, like,

473
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 1: damn bitch, period came on. I see it on the mail.

474
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 1: But the word that you said, that's not just like

475
00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 1: sucking on your period. That's a filia. So that's like

476
00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:18,399
Speaker 1: being aroused, particularly by doing it right right, that's a

477
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:21,880
Speaker 1: totally There are guys, there are guys that will will

478
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:26,639
Speaker 1: ask the it's the thing? Yeah, I yeah, no I

479
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,920
Speaker 1: didn't click on that one, but I know that that's

480
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 1: the thing. So we're gonna go ahead, the king, um

481
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 1: for the Horrible Decision. We want to do a lot

482
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:36,879
Speaker 1: of talking with you, a whole lot of talking, so

483
00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 1: I want to make sure we get there. Um So,

484
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 1: the horrible Decision for this week. I like to lovely

485
00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 1: call it the oldest profession. Yes, you know, I want

486
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:54,920
Speaker 1: to get into everything, everything, everything, how So before we start,

487
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 1: and I hope maybe you have someone's to debunk as well.

488
00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 1: So I want to open this up with common misconceptions

489
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 1: about sex workers and about sex work in general. Um So,

490
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:09,560
Speaker 1: one that is often perceived, and I want you to

491
00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:11,320
Speaker 1: maybe debunk that in any way or fashion you can,

492
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 1: because I've heard you talk about it. Because yeah, the

493
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:17,160
Speaker 1: common misconception that I always hear is that sex workers

494
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 1: are dirtier than non sex workers and they love people's

495
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 1: minds and how people's minds work, and how people really

496
00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 1: lack critical thought and the ability to uh think about

497
00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,880
Speaker 1: what they think, you know, because people have a lot

498
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:37,440
Speaker 1: of beliefs and and moral values that come from nowhere

499
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,720
Speaker 1: and they don't ever really reflect on them, and and

500
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:41,719
Speaker 1: it's not logical. So it's just so I'm just so

501
00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:45,159
Speaker 1: interested by people and how they think. But first of all,

502
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:47,040
Speaker 1: let me not I'm not gonna say all sex workers.

503
00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:49,120
Speaker 1: First of all, let's all right, let's start ahead, go ahead,

504
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:52,520
Speaker 1: Let's start with the question alone, because I do not

505
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:57,399
Speaker 1: like the framing of dirty versus clean. That language, to me,

506
00:24:57,480 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 1: already sets up and throws off. It's a load of question,

507
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Because then that that that

508
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:07,119
Speaker 1: that framing sets so like loaded questions are basically questions

509
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:11,359
Speaker 1: that already have an agenda. Alright, alright, alright, alright, alright,

510
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:16,400
Speaker 1: I do you mean think dirty isn't like dirty? So

511
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:20,400
Speaker 1: dirty has the negative connotation, and so that because of that,

512
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: the way in which I'm forced to answer basically is no,

513
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 1: I'm clean. That's like the common misconception. Yeah, yeah, you know,

514
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:30,719
Speaker 1: I don't want to say you. But so that's like

515
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: the framing of the question is now and it puts

516
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 1: me on defense, not me or puts whoever is being

517
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:36,880
Speaker 1: at that offense, because like, well I'm clean. No, first

518
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 1: of all, none of us are clean. We all have diseases,

519
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:40,679
Speaker 1: we all get viruses. Were human. That's part of the

520
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,120
Speaker 1: human condition is we get sick. Sometimes we get sick

521
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 1: and it can't be fucking cured. And if it can't

522
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 1: be cured, we manage it over we fucking die. That's

523
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 1: the human experience. So STDs and HIV are a part

524
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:51,360
Speaker 1: of the human experience. If you have sex, you are

525
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:53,119
Speaker 1: somewhat even if you don't have sex, if you are

526
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 1: a human person, you are liable to be able to

527
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,919
Speaker 1: get a virus or girls are getting fucking yeast infections

528
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 1: and like before even time before even so and though

529
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 1: and people think consider that dirty as well, they do

530
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 1: not Nigga's be thinking, girls, what a yas infection is dirty?

531
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 1: But it could literally come from a fucking batha suit

532
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:15,800
Speaker 1: every short of short sort like like anything can affect humanity.

533
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:20,479
Speaker 1: Miami bit like yeah, so there's that. So that's one

534
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 1: of the common misconceptions. And I hear you talk about

535
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:24,239
Speaker 1: it all the time. And we had King Noan, who

536
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:26,680
Speaker 1: is also a guest on your show, something that all

537
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 1: of the sex workers who have been on the show,

538
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 1: or even the people who are in the sex lifestyle

539
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 1: such as swinging or anything else, they they get tested

540
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 1: more than the regular niggas. I just want to say,

541
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,959
Speaker 1: the regular nigga se club. And you're so impressed with

542
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: how many people have like their results on hand, and

543
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 1: they're like over, um, I don't know's forward about their

544
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:57,679
Speaker 1: their health, whereas other men, I'm good. Yeah, right, So

545
00:26:57,720 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 1: the first part of that is I would I would

546
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:02,919
Speaker 1: encourage people to shift their language and their mindset about

547
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 1: that uh concept. But then the secondary thing to that,

548
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 1: as you said, is a lot of sex sex workers

549
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: and I'm not even gonna say all because it depends

550
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 1: on what kind of access you have. You know, people

551
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 1: who do sex work on the street, for instance, have

552
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 1: less access to HIV un city testing, you know what

553
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:18,640
Speaker 1: I mean. Some of us who are porn performers UM

554
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 1: or sex workers who have more hired clientele and we

555
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,679
Speaker 1: have more money, we either are required to get tested

556
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: or have access to that. So like porn performers it

557
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 1: cost a hundred fick dollars to go get your tests.

558
00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:29,920
Speaker 1: Everybody has access to that or the you know what

559
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 1: I mean. Or not. Albody has access to medical anything.

560
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:34,679
Speaker 1: So it's not like all sex workers are more on

561
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 1: top of their sexual health. That's not really true, but

562
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,200
Speaker 1: um not. But and a lot of sex workers are

563
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 1: more on top of their sexual health because we are

564
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:45,640
Speaker 1: in the sex industry and it's something that we think

565
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 1: about and our safety and everyone else's safety, um is

566
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:54,400
Speaker 1: really fucking important. And absolutely we have more explicit conversations

567
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 1: about our sexual health than civilian. Civilians don't talk about

568
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 1: sexual health. Now, you know what, she's non sex My

569
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 1: my sister works in the army and she calls everyone

570
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,399
Speaker 1: military civil Yeah. I mean literally last night I was

571
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 1: with a trick and he was like this trick, I

572
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 1: was sucking his dick and he's like, all right, bending

573
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 1: we're gonna like cool and he's like are you clean?

574
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,119
Speaker 1: And I'm like, nigga, So you just thought I was

575
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 1: just gonna suck you raw? Like A, this is not

576
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,440
Speaker 1: the fucking time to have that conversation, Like you're hard

577
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:27,120
Speaker 1: put your Yeah, we need to have the conversation first

578
00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 1: if you're trying to do that, you know what I mean.

579
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 1: So even if you said I don't know, oh, they're

580
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:35,399
Speaker 1: so fucking what Oh my god, especially athletes are the funny.

581
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 1: Didn't come in you and say you on birth control? Right? What?

582
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,560
Speaker 1: You didn't even have a little Get what, bitch, I'm

583
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:47,000
Speaker 1: not now, I'm not gonna check. So what's up? Secure

584
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: of the bag? Bitch? She loves the care of the bag.

585
00:28:54,240 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 1: You're bad. I'm going let me tell you something. I

586
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 1: really feel for women that were living in Ireland before,

587
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: like a few weeks ago, that couldn't get abortions. Yeah,

588
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because like, I don't know

589
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 1: what I would do. I would really think about, like

590
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 1: throwing myself down here. I'd call one of my Latino friends,

591
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 1: like what do I have to drink to make the

592
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:16,959
Speaker 1: ships up? I'm just like, and they know everything. Dominican

593
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 1: wich is not everything. No, they really didn't really know

594
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I've called Dominican chicks venting about work

595
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 1: stuff and they're like, let me tell you what to do.

596
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, tell them, God, damn, I just said my

597
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 1: boss pissed me off. Die. So. Another common misconception is

598
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 1: that UM and I found this as well. Only people

599
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: who have experienced trauma going to being a sex worker.

600
00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 1: That's a that's that's enough. Yeah, And it's funny because

601
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 1: even with me and Wheezy talking and me talking to

602
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 1: men about like how much I enjoy sex or things

603
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 1: like that, people always assume one of us have daddy

604
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: issues or we were ripe when we were younger, probably

605
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 1: like sex so much. First of all, that's so interesting too,

606
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: because daddy issues were being sexually assaulted is likely not

607
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 1: a you problem, that demand problem, So that's not even

608
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 1: a reflection of you, that's a reflection of men. Yeah,

609
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 1: men never see us that they're never the problem. We're

610
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 1: the problem. But my my first counter to that would be,

611
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 1: how many of us don't have trauma? I don't give

612
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:13,959
Speaker 1: a fun what field? How many of us don't have trauma?

613
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 1: That most of us have trauma. If you are a

614
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 1: living person who is black, you likely have trauma. If

615
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 1: you are a living person who was a woman, you

616
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 1: likely have trauma. If you're a living person who's a

617
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: fucking who's queer, who was disabled, who is HIV positive,

618
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 1: you likely have some fucking trauma. If you live in

619
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 1: a system under capitalism, but you probably have trauma, like

620
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:35,160
Speaker 1: the trauma that trauma. So I just want to like,

621
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 1: that's like my first counter is we all have fucking

622
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 1: trauma of some sorts, So that like that's a that's like,

623
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 1: how do I say this is that's like putting putting

624
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 1: you up on a higher pedestal because I chose this

625
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: work and you chose that. But we both have trauma.

626
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:51,000
Speaker 1: But it makes your trauma more of influential on your

627
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: life because you chose this line of work. It's just

628
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: like the logic does doesn't really line up. But I

629
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 1: want to also say that there are a lot of

630
00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:58,720
Speaker 1: sex workers who have experienced trauma, whether or not that

631
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 1: made them go into work. I have no fucking clue

632
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But we are people. A

633
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 1: lot of us have trauma. Some of us shoes to

634
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 1: be hoore, some of us shoes. We're going to fucking

635
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 1: nine to five cubicle, Like you just don't know. So

636
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637
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Speaker 1: I love that. I remember my we vibe was going

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Speaker 1: the office. Anybody can hear was that? And I was like, god, damnit. Ship.

641
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Speaker 1: Oh so I wanted to get into this too, because

642
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Speaker 1: um so we just had Andrew Schultz on the show.

643
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 1: So we went on to Brilliant Idiots and me and

644
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Speaker 1: Weezy were discussing casual sex and you know, having multiple partners,

645
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Speaker 1: and he said that the biology of a woman isn't

646
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Speaker 1: made to take multiple dicks at a time. And he's

647
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Speaker 1: then and his expertise on vaginas, this is this is

648
00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 1: what he said. He said that as women, we weren't

649
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Speaker 1: made to be able to have the casual sex or

650
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 1: be able to take multiple dicks and at a time.

651
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 1: What was the logic there? I'm not sure. I'm really

652
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:09,400
Speaker 1: not sure. And we try to get him to explain it.

653
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Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm sure. I think I'm gonna

654
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Speaker 1: try to make sense of dumb people ships correct, but

655
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Speaker 1: I think right Andrew not Andrew's I mean, he's a comedian,

656
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Speaker 1: he's a brilliant idiot. But I do think that men

657
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Speaker 1: think like because it's a muscle that we can get

658
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Speaker 1: stretched out, but we can have babies. Well, I believe

659
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Speaker 1: that they think because like some women have different anatomy

660
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Speaker 1: where they may be larger down there, or Volvo's might

661
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Speaker 1: look different, like there's on many different things they feel

662
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Speaker 1: like one pussy is tighter because we got less fucked.

663
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Speaker 1: You went to school for this? Like do you know how?

664
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Speaker 1: Or the tightness again with so okay, I'm i men

665
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Speaker 1: who think their authority on things they don't know about.

666
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Speaker 1: It is just such a fucking disease. Absolutely, it really

667
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Speaker 1: drives me insane. But so asked me the question again

668
00:32:57,280 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 1: because I want to I want to get asked me

669
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Speaker 1: again basically stating women's are not bogy for multiple days

670
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Speaker 1: because they're going to stretch. Well that's that's yeah, because

671
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Speaker 1: so the whole setup of that question revolves around niggas

672
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Speaker 1: and sucking us because the whole point there is right,

673
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Speaker 1: the whole point there is if I have a lot

674
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Speaker 1: of dick of my vagina, it will then be more

675
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Speaker 1: stretched out, meaning that I cannot please my male partner

676
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Speaker 1: as much as if it were tight. So that doesn't

677
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Speaker 1: even have to do like what like that, you know

678
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Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like I got a man and every night,

679
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Speaker 1: first of all, joinas do stretch. I think that people

680
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Speaker 1: always don't talk about love Joina is they bounced back,

681
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Speaker 1: But no, bitch, sometimes they do stretch, and you are

682
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Speaker 1: a little bit fucking loser, okay, and what you're just

683
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Speaker 1: not gonna be gaping the funk open for hours or

684
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Speaker 1: the rest of the year, and I can't wait together.

685
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Speaker 1: Not only that the fact that people think that dicks

686
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Speaker 1: could stretch a pussy out and we're shooting out whole

687
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Speaker 1: as human bodies out of our vagina. But y'all are okay.

688
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Speaker 1: If a girl has one kid, it's like to not

689
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Speaker 1: sit here and to be comparing a human body coming

690
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Speaker 1: out to dick's going in. Do you know how much

691
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Speaker 1: smaller I goddamn dick is compared to a whole last baby.

692
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Speaker 1: And also, y'all, y'all, y'all, fucking dicks ain't six pounds

693
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Speaker 1: eleven ounces. They're fun like, not even fucking clothes and alive.

694
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Speaker 1: Had something, I'd be like, dude, what is that a baby?

695
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Speaker 1: But it's probably a baby leg. Vaginas are supposed to

696
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 1: stretch when they're aroused. So that's also interesting to me too,

697
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Speaker 1: because so many niggas think like, oh, here's she got

698
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Speaker 1: If relaxed, that means it's ready to accommodate your fucking

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Speaker 1: penis Also what we're rigina is made for They weren't

701
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Speaker 1: made for taking lots of dick. They were sucking made

702
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Speaker 1: for pre production. Right, So we're talking about what vaginas

703
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Speaker 1: are made for, like what what niggers? Nicks? Yeah, mine

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Speaker 1: too wasn't made just be spitting babies. It definitely wasn't

705
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Speaker 1: made for spitting babies. I don't think it was of Diggie,

706
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Speaker 1: but I should say I think when I first moved

707
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Speaker 1: to New York, he looked at his mom in a

708
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Speaker 1: Starbucks and said, fuck you me shut it down. It's

709
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Speaker 1: an entryway, not an exit. So so I want to

710
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Speaker 1: get it. Well, I guess that's what. Let me say

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Speaker 1: one more thing. Also, not all women fun dicks, So

712
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Speaker 1: that alone is like, who even gives a funk about

713
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Speaker 1: what happens to vagina when when dicks go in them?

714
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Speaker 1: Like some women don't even have nothing going up in

715
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Speaker 1: there pussy or it's not a dick, so funk out

716
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Speaker 1: of here completely. So I want to get back into

717
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Speaker 1: the oldest profession. So I was talking to my friends.

718
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Speaker 1: There's a lot of questions around this, and one that

719
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Speaker 1: they really had was how do you prepare yourself to

720
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Speaker 1: have sex with someone that you aren't attracted to how

721
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Speaker 1: I get the money up front, and I shove a

722
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Speaker 1: lot of loup up in my vagina before I see them.

723
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Speaker 1: You know what. The last I interviewed um, she was like,

724
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Speaker 1: I think about the money like that was, and I

725
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727
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728
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729
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Speaker 1: excited to fuck him. People were like, oh my god,

730
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Speaker 1: you like that. I'd be like this, fuck yeah, looking

731
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732
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Speaker 1: I'm really popit, honey, did you take your Okay, it's up.

733
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Speaker 1: You got it up. I don't have to funk a

734
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Speaker 1: lot of people who I am not attracted to. I

735
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Speaker 1: mostly fuck Nigga's that I'm super attracted to because mostly athletes.

736
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Speaker 1: So I am very blessed that that's not my life.

737
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Speaker 1: But I would say the few times that I have

738
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Speaker 1: done it, it has been I'm thinking about this money

739
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Speaker 1: and also Nigga's come so quick. I don't it don't

740
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741
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Speaker 1: you know, how do you like when you're sucking athletes

742
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Speaker 1: are Like, let's say I met a girl who was

743
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Speaker 1: telling me that she like only fuck baseball players, Like

744
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 1: that's pretty much only football players. So like, thank god

745
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 1: we're not in the same sports. Like, how do you

746
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:05,000
Speaker 1: like how do you promote yourself to make sure you

747
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,440
Speaker 1: stay paid? I don't. I just get on Instagram and

748
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:13,759
Speaker 1: like nigga's pictures. Simple so real quick. So a lot

749
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Speaker 1: you share what do you d m niggas? Yes? What

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Speaker 1: um you know how to real quick? How do you land?

753
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Speaker 1: I'll share my um my recipe? Can you? Can you

754
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Speaker 1: give it a tip to the listen because of all,

755
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Speaker 1: they're definitely not because me, but this is what this

756
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Speaker 1: is what I do, right, Okay, So first of all, ladies, listen,

757
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 1: because you've been asking me about these NBA players. It's universal.

758
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 1: It works for all the I think. Firstly, I know

759
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 1: that the niggas who find me attractive are mostly football players.

760
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 1: That's been my personal experience. A couple of basketball players.

761
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:55,880
Speaker 1: I'm not really sure. My this is my interpretation is

762
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 1: that I think that basketball players, at least the ones

763
00:37:58,040 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 1: that I have seen are in my area more so,

764
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Speaker 1: like like skinny white girls ship. That's my experience. I'm

765
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:06,719
Speaker 1: not saying, but that's been my experience. Like players, they're

766
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Speaker 1: all down for the show. Not I mean, I know you,

767
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Speaker 1: I know you. I see with many is different for you.

768
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Speaker 1: I feel like because you're pretty, you're thick, and you

769
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Speaker 1: know ball. So I feel like it's them niggas don't

770
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Speaker 1: even like that I know Ball, maybe like oh you

771
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772
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773
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774
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Speaker 1: ball players with skinny white girls are models, Like it's shot.

775
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Speaker 1: Oh but that's just but that's just for for faith

776
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777
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Speaker 1: and maybe all the like the bitches that they really

778
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779
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Speaker 1: they out seeing what are posting on Instagram. So they

780
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781
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782
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784
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785
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Speaker 1: They looked like I was like, like even, So there

786
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Speaker 1: were convers Yeah, it's just that, like even with um,

787
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Speaker 1: and I was with a friend before and he's not

788
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Speaker 1: even my friend, bitch wheelchair talk about it. But anyways,

789
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 1: this nigga wasn't a goddamn wilchair and had had the

790
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 1: nerve to say some bullshit to me. I was out

791
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 1: with my friends. I had to why he was in

792
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Speaker 1: the wheelchair. Don't be's not being a wheelchair, but now

793
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Speaker 1: he is. So we're at dinner together and he's I'm

794
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Speaker 1: with my friend two friends, one got a big booty,

795
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Speaker 1: the other a slimmer. His here you go. Don't even

796
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Speaker 1: know what he said on man. So he literally looked

797
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Speaker 1: dating because clearly he wanted to have fun with me.

799
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Speaker 1: I ain't into you know, like handicaps. So but we

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806
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Speaker 1: no no, because my other friend had no tattoos but

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Speaker 1: also had a big butt. And then my other friend

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Speaker 1: was slimmer, mind you be about the same whole ship

809
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Speaker 1: as all of us, and was like, because of how

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Speaker 1: she presents herself, she could be, she could be, she

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812
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Speaker 1: I could introduce her to my mom without her looking

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Speaker 1: at her as it's not sound, but it absolutely is

814
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Speaker 1: opinion that has real social consequences in reality. No, absolutely,

815
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Speaker 1: And so I was just like, what the fuck? So

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Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you that too. What do you deal?

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Speaker 1: What do you do with the judgment of of being

818
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819
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Speaker 1: how do you take in judge? My family is wildly supportive.

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Speaker 1: By the way, her mom is like your mom's you

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826
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Speaker 1: That's what all white people are, though she was American

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828
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829
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Speaker 1: White people ship from Europe, but we're not, Like sex

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831
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Speaker 1: don't have that influence though. She's just honestly, herd thing

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834
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835
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Speaker 1: what I mean, Like she wants to know that I'm faith.

836
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Speaker 1: So it started when I was younger, and it was

837
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838
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Speaker 1: Mother says that, Yeah, absolutely, And I'm like, why would

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Speaker 1: I mean, so I don't get any of that from

844
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Speaker 1: my family. Luckily. That's that's But now I do want

845
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:08,839
Speaker 1: to just say this because I made a comment last

846
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 1: week and I said Nicki Minaj implied the sex work

847
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 1: was bad, and people were like, well, it's not good,

848
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 1: and it's not necessarily to say that it's good, but

849
00:42:17,520 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 1: I think the shame behind it right. Just like we

850
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 1: may not want our own daughters to be escorts or strippers.

851
00:42:23,680 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 1: I think it's more for the things that come with it,

852
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: and we know that people could treat you so badly.

853
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:29,520
Speaker 1: That's really why I wouldn't want my kid to like

854
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:31,440
Speaker 1: strip or do something like that, because I don't want

855
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: her to ever have to feel like ship. I feel

856
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: like she doing this podcast from How Nigas Talk to

857
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 1: Me let alone if I was up there on a hole.

858
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: So I don't want you to think we're sitting here

859
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 1: asking these family questions. But I also do want to

860
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 1: highlight that not every sex worker is broken and battered,

861
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 1: and even sex workers who are broken and battered, that's

862
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 1: okay too, you know what I mean. That's my thing,

863
00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:53,359
Speaker 1: and I absolutely wouldn't mind if if I ever had daughters,

864
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 1: which I will never have kids, but if I had daughters, sons,

865
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 1: whatever the case may be, if they went into any

866
00:42:57,560 --> 00:43:00,839
Speaker 1: sex work, as long as they're doing what feels right

867
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:02,839
Speaker 1: for them, whether it's a choice that they're making because

868
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 1: they want to whether it's a choice because they have

869
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 1: no other choice. I mean, and I don't mean it

870
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 1: in this sect, like, for example, I don't want my

871
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:09,279
Speaker 1: kid to be a waitress so that people don't talk

872
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 1: to her. She's gonna have to go off because I

873
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:13,000
Speaker 1: feel like that is the hardest. I think that it

874
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:16,120
Speaker 1: is harder than escort. I would rather funk your money

875
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:19,240
Speaker 1: that you feel excuse me and get a fucking attitude

876
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 1: of me. I don't know how people do it to me.

877
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,919
Speaker 1: There's a lot of hard jobs, you know, like it's

878
00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:26,400
Speaker 1: not just sex work. And it's like, I feel so

879
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:30,799
Speaker 1: badly that people like think are I guess maybe more

880
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 1: for the closes minded, but we just should on it

881
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 1: so bad. I don't really know that I give a

882
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 1: funk about shame or any of that. Like you don't

883
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:42,120
Speaker 1: you walk in your motherfucking truth? Yeah, I'll do. You

884
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 1: just don't give a funk and that, But that is me.

885
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 1: That's my authentic way of being. Were you in like

886
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,360
Speaker 1: have you been in therapy before? Do you feel like

887
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 1: you've been able to what do you think it makes

888
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: you so confident to feel like that because even doing

889
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 1: the show, like sometimes I feel I would say nine

890
00:43:57,320 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 1: of the ten and every single day I feel good

891
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,560
Speaker 1: about what I do. But there are days where the

892
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:03,759
Speaker 1: only days that I feel bad, the only days that

893
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:07,640
Speaker 1: I don't feel good, are days when like I've had

894
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: the entire internet like dragged me on Twitter and then

895
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 1: it goes over into Instagram and it's straight up like bullying,

896
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 1: death threats, I hope you get raped. Those are times

897
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:16,960
Speaker 1: when I'm like, I need to take a break. But

898
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 1: I don't feel ashamed or any of that. It's more

899
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:23,280
Speaker 1: so like I need to not engage with this because

900
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 1: it's so toxic. So they're doing that based on just

901
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 1: she says, like politically, yeah, okay, ye, pretty much just existing.

902
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 1: But yeah, and there has just been like I think,

903
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 1: I don't even remember what I said, but it was

904
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 1: something about Lebron James. He tweets something about fathers, and

905
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:43,360
Speaker 1: I said something about like father like trash basically, and

906
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 1: the whole fucking internet dragged me for about a week

907
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 1: and a half and then it went over into Instagram

908
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 1: and so it was all over the place. And and

909
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: so I stand by what I say and I mean

910
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:55,080
Speaker 1: what I say, and I feel good about what I say. Also,

911
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:58,240
Speaker 1: sometimes I have to disengage from whatever it is toxic.

912
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:01,279
Speaker 1: But I just I have never been I I don't know.

913
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: I think I've always been a person who like this

914
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:06,400
Speaker 1: is what this is me, and I don't know how

915
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,400
Speaker 1: to I'm not a fake person, I guess is what

916
00:45:08,480 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I think a lot of us. So my

917
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:12,840
Speaker 1: family really taught me to be autonomous. Like that's a

918
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 1: word that I knew when I was like ten, Like

919
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: making my own decisions, what feels right for you, what

920
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:18,320
Speaker 1: do you want to do? What do you think about this?

921
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:22,560
Speaker 1: You know, Like that's a very underrated word. It feels

922
00:45:22,640 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 1: very cliche. I think one of my good friends was

923
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 1: telling me that she's like, I feel like every time

924
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:28,720
Speaker 1: I use that word, it sounds like people are always

925
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:30,400
Speaker 1: saying it. But it's true. A lot of ship is

926
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:34,279
Speaker 1: fucking toxic. A social media is like a hard thing

927
00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 1: to do. I posted a picture at Pride yesterday said

928
00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 1: proud carpet venture, and like, I just I used to

929
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 1: not delete rude comments, but now I was just like

930
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:44,920
Speaker 1: why do I wanted to just sit here so that

931
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 1: other people can then be like, oh no, she's not

932
00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 1: And then I gotta be liking that you're coming from

933
00:45:49,200 --> 00:45:51,560
Speaker 1: me to know fuck it. Yeah, And I think also

934
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,440
Speaker 1: because I have the background, and I think I've always

935
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:56,440
Speaker 1: had even though I wasn't always a therapist, I've always

936
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 1: had that kind of a mindset. I also think a

937
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 1: lot about how people are interacting, how people engage me,

938
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 1: so I know it's really less about me and more

939
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 1: about them. So I, like I said earlier, I'm so

940
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:09,919
Speaker 1: fascinated by how people think or make sense of things.

941
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 1: So when people say really terrible, rude, horrible ship to me,

942
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:14,200
Speaker 1: I think about I wonder what's coming up for them.

943
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:17,800
Speaker 1: I wonder what traumas are triggered in them. People that

944
00:46:17,840 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 1: get online and just start shipping on other women, like

945
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 1: especially girls, it's very hard for me to watch. I

946
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:26,320
Speaker 1: hate to say this because it sounds sucked up, but

947
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 1: like something like a shade room, I kind of get

948
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 1: it because you think you're just joining this whole thing

949
00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 1: of like, oh, it's gossip, it's fun. But when it's

950
00:46:35,080 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 1: specifically other women and they just post something with their

951
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:42,799
Speaker 1: body and another girl just gotta tell you some ship. Yeah,

952
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 1: I want to get back to sex work. Because one

953
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 1: of my friends had the question um, And I thought

954
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:51,839
Speaker 1: it was a really good question, because I don't think

955
00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:55,719
Speaker 1: we ever really think about it. Do you remember at

956
00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:59,400
Speaker 1: what point and in what scenario you decided I'm going

957
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:03,840
Speaker 1: to charge for this pussy, This nigga wanna fuck, I

958
00:47:03,960 --> 00:47:07,440
Speaker 1: want money instead of just having sex for enjoyment. I

959
00:47:07,520 --> 00:47:11,400
Speaker 1: need money? How and what situation didn't click in your

960
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 1: head that you could put a motherfucking price on that pussy?

961
00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 1: So when I was in college, I don't I don't

962
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 1: even really remember what prompted it, honestly, but I I

963
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 1: said to myself, I'm gonna try this and see what happened.

964
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 1: And I made it was just trying it. Just did

965
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 1: you see a movie or something that made you I

966
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 1: think I'm just a horror and I just like, let

967
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 1: me trying new ship. Let me just just try out

968
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:35,440
Speaker 1: here I am. And it was the first time. Like

969
00:47:35,719 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 1: so that's what I was about to say. So I

970
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:40,920
Speaker 1: made the first biggest horror mistake of all lots of horses.

971
00:47:40,960 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 1: I didn't get the money up front, and so I

972
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:45,840
Speaker 1: didn't get the money at all. Where did you find them? They? Like,

973
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:47,359
Speaker 1: I don't know. It wasn't like in a grocery store

974
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 1: and something. It was like he hollered at me and

975
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:49,520
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, what's up. And then he was

976
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 1: like I'm trying to Like he didn't say immediately I'm

977
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 1: trying to fun, but like it came to that and

978
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:54,319
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, well I charged it, like all right, cool,

979
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:57,879
Speaker 1: come over. And then I just made the grocery store. Yeah.

980
00:47:57,920 --> 00:47:59,799
Speaker 1: I wasn't like I didn't like go in a grocer

981
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:01,759
Speaker 1: store like I'm going to set my pussy today. Was

982
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:08,560
Speaker 1: like yeah, no, no, no, but that was and so

983
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:12,480
Speaker 1: when that happened, though, I stopped. I didn't even reconsider

984
00:48:12,480 --> 00:48:15,839
Speaker 1: it until like years years later. So I started doing. Yeah,

985
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: I started getting more into it in two thousand thirteen,

986
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:22,040
Speaker 1: and I just created my Twitter, and I think maybe

987
00:48:22,080 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 1: part of it was my Twitter was I don't know

988
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:27,319
Speaker 1: if you'll remember zed and like ZEDI girls and him,

989
00:48:27,600 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 1: uh twitch pick this and that, I like was one

990
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 1: of those horse and so that you know, and he's

991
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:37,360
Speaker 1: a New York nigger. Yeah that's crazy. Like the food

992
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:39,919
Speaker 1: that was a huge thing. No he eat well yeah,

993
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:43,040
Speaker 1: but no, yeah. I he was like just he's like

994
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 1: a nigger on Twitter who would say like twit pick

995
00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:47,120
Speaker 1: your pussy or twip pick your this, I to pick

996
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:51,680
Speaker 1: you in orange shorts and you would get hell of followers.

997
00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:53,880
Speaker 1: I do remember that, Yes I did. I was one

998
00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,359
Speaker 1: of those hors because they were tweeting nipple rings one

999
00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:59,880
Speaker 1: day or in a thong or yeah. Yeah, So I

1000
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:02,399
Speaker 1: think it was really that. That was like, Wow, I'm

1001
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:04,800
Speaker 1: getting a lot of tension for being a whore. Do

1002
00:49:04,960 --> 00:49:06,799
Speaker 1: you have like a whole coach to see you through

1003
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:08,680
Speaker 1: to make sure you hold the right way? I didn't

1004
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 1: know at that time. I really child it was correct.

1005
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:14,319
Speaker 1: So I started to done thirteen and I was like yeah,

1006
00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:15,840
Speaker 1: and then it worked. In the first time that I

1007
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:18,719
Speaker 1: actually got money in my hand from fucking, I was like,

1008
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:20,800
Speaker 1: it was like a high. I was like, why have

1009
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:23,359
Speaker 1: I not been doing that? Why have I been sucking

1010
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 1: for free my whole fucking life? Like that's wild to me.

1011
00:49:25,440 --> 00:49:27,279
Speaker 1: So pretty much from there it's been a rap. Do

1012
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 1: you get enjoyment from fucking without getting money still? Or

1013
00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:33,200
Speaker 1: do you think getting the money has affected you from

1014
00:49:33,280 --> 00:49:36,760
Speaker 1: being able to experience with me? Yeah, because I pretty

1015
00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 1: much always regret when I niggas for free? Why Why

1016
00:49:40,400 --> 00:49:42,640
Speaker 1: is it just because it's just not worth it? It's

1017
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 1: just not worth anything for it's not worth the lack

1018
00:49:45,640 --> 00:49:48,279
Speaker 1: of orgasm. It's not worth the waste of my time.

1019
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:51,640
Speaker 1: It's not worth their emotional fucking weirdness and and baggage.

1020
00:49:51,719 --> 00:49:54,440
Speaker 1: It's not worth the interaction. Men fucking drained me, Like,

1021
00:49:54,560 --> 00:49:57,400
Speaker 1: are you dating someone? No? So when you you'd be

1022
00:49:57,440 --> 00:50:00,359
Speaker 1: liking them niggas too, though, the niggas more tricks. Yeah,

1023
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:03,759
Speaker 1: you do be liking your tricks. Yes, So let me

1024
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,719
Speaker 1: ask you, at any point if they wanted to make

1025
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:12,040
Speaker 1: a relationship more than that trick um whatever dynamic? Yeah,

1026
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:15,400
Speaker 1: what do you call it? Yeah, pretty woman? What do

1027
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:17,279
Speaker 1: I call what? Well? Because if I wanted to be

1028
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:19,719
Speaker 1: more so when you call it when it's a trick,

1029
00:50:19,880 --> 00:50:21,480
Speaker 1: if it's not a sugar daddy, because then you would

1030
00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:25,520
Speaker 1: be considered sugar who paid me to fun trick? Oh?

1031
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: I call my I don't really know if I think,

1032
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 1: but they know when they know that, they know that.

1033
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:33,319
Speaker 1: I don't know that I've said it directly, but they

1034
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:35,239
Speaker 1: know what's up. And so if you were to like

1035
00:50:35,400 --> 00:50:38,400
Speaker 1: one and want to leave from being tricked on by them,

1036
00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 1: because now there's an emotional attachment like do you really did?

1037
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:44,000
Speaker 1: That would never happen you. I would never I will, okay,

1038
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 1: I will never want to have any proximity to men

1039
00:50:47,360 --> 00:50:50,840
Speaker 1: that doesn't benefit me financially at a period. So you

1040
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:53,040
Speaker 1: don't have to be somebody who's putting money cash in

1041
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:54,759
Speaker 1: my hand. Leave cash and the dress our type of ship.

1042
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:56,919
Speaker 1: But you, if you are a man in my life,

1043
00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:59,919
Speaker 1: you are going to be contributing to my life. Find

1044
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:02,600
Speaker 1: actually in some way for the sole purpose of its reparation.

1045
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 1: Did you look from my phone and this outline, because

1046
00:51:04,640 --> 00:51:09,880
Speaker 1: this is my next question, would you stop if he

1047
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:13,920
Speaker 1: funded your So the last person, the last person that

1048
00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 1: I tried talking to that was one of our major

1049
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 1: riffs is that he didn't want me to do sex

1050
00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 1: work basically, and I was like, cool, are you gonna

1051
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 1: give me like five time bands a month or no? Like?

1052
00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 1: And he's like, well, no, I can't. And I said, well,

1053
00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:28,040
Speaker 1: then there's the like answer to your question. So that's

1054
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:29,840
Speaker 1: my next question actually, and I'm so glad that you

1055
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:33,360
Speaker 1: actually got right the funk into it. So we we

1056
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 1: had um. It was just uh an agreement to a

1057
00:51:38,200 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 1: disagreement to agree that we just couldn't agree on this

1058
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:43,839
Speaker 1: term that we talked about on a Patroon episode called

1059
00:51:43,920 --> 00:51:46,520
Speaker 1: Charity girls, and so I'm not going to get into that.

1060
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:48,239
Speaker 1: If you guys want to listen to the episode, you

1061
00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 1: could be a patron. But there is a thin line

1062
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:56,920
Speaker 1: between prostitution and then a girl who expects money from

1063
00:51:56,920 --> 00:52:00,400
Speaker 1: a nigga she fucking or that she yes so like so,

1064
00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:04,000
Speaker 1: Passport Cutty does this thing that if you're fucking a nigga,

1065
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 1: you should be able to ask him for all or

1066
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 1: a phone bill or something like that. And then the

1067
00:52:08,800 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 1: argument on the other end is, well, why you should

1068
00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:13,239
Speaker 1: be able to get money because you're sucking him. So

1069
00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:16,800
Speaker 1: there's this thin line. Yes, the hard answer to that

1070
00:52:16,960 --> 00:52:21,920
Speaker 1: is yes, you having access to my time space, energy, vagina, mouth, life,

1071
00:52:22,239 --> 00:52:25,279
Speaker 1: fucking anything, emotional labor, domestic labor. I don't give a funk.

1072
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:27,239
Speaker 1: If you want access to me in any way, shape

1073
00:52:27,320 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 1: or form, you are going to show up financially. I

1074
00:52:29,640 --> 00:52:31,600
Speaker 1: don't give a funk what the dynamic of the relationship is.

1075
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 1: If you are a man, if you're a trans man,

1076
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:35,239
Speaker 1: if you are I don't give a funk. You are

1077
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:37,640
Speaker 1: showing up financially period. Now you said that they need

1078
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 1: to be able to give you five ten bans a month.

1079
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:44,040
Speaker 1: Is that because your work would require you to have sex. Like,

1080
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 1: for example, what if there's a girl somewhere, let's say,

1081
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:50,640
Speaker 1: like in a cubicle right who was just like listening

1082
00:52:50,719 --> 00:52:56,960
Speaker 1: to this show and she's now getting the same mindset. Now,

1083
00:52:57,760 --> 00:52:59,640
Speaker 1: niggers are right, but let's just say that she's not

1084
00:52:59,680 --> 00:53:01,480
Speaker 1: gonna into sex work. Let's say that she's trying to

1085
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:03,880
Speaker 1: date and find a negative break right on her, because

1086
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:06,319
Speaker 1: that's most of the people passed for a cutty who

1087
00:53:06,400 --> 00:53:11,040
Speaker 1: she's talking about as an awesome Instagram personality. But she

1088
00:53:11,440 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 1: has a book called The m and Manister Money, and

1089
00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:16,759
Speaker 1: I feel like it's geared towards the average girl. And

1090
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:19,600
Speaker 1: so for that average girl, can they really listen to

1091
00:53:19,680 --> 00:53:23,719
Speaker 1: what you're saying and do this? Now? That's because then

1092
00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 1: nigga is asking you not to work five or ten

1093
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:27,839
Speaker 1: bans a month. But her work doesn't require her fucking

1094
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:29,919
Speaker 1: other niggas, but neither is mine because I have a matters.

1095
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:31,759
Speaker 1: I can do therapy, right, so I can still get money.

1096
00:53:31,760 --> 00:53:33,799
Speaker 1: But is that the girl who say you should find

1097
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:35,880
Speaker 1: my whole life too, like give me five month? I

1098
00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:38,400
Speaker 1: think no. So I say five ten bands because that's

1099
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 1: what I can put in potentially, and that's what I'd

1100
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 1: be losing if I didn't. Fuck. That's what I'm saying.

1101
00:53:42,080 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 1: So that's the girl that is well, this is what

1102
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 1: I'm saying. My belief system is, if you are someone

1103
00:53:48,840 --> 00:53:51,520
Speaker 1: who identifies as a woman, you have a right to

1104
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:54,879
Speaker 1: men's money because of the power dynamic that is men

1105
00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:57,240
Speaker 1: and women. Just like if you are a black person,

1106
00:53:57,600 --> 00:53:59,680
Speaker 1: you have the fucking right to get paid by fucking

1107
00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:02,000
Speaker 1: white people for any access, any labor, anything that you

1108
00:54:02,080 --> 00:54:04,640
Speaker 1: do because of reparations. Same concept because the power like

1109
00:54:04,719 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 1: differential there. So my thing to women is you don't

1110
00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 1: have to sell pussy, but I suggest or encourage or

1111
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:13,440
Speaker 1: like to instill because it's my belief system. So I'm

1112
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:15,000
Speaker 1: not gonna say you should do this, You're supposed to

1113
00:54:15,000 --> 00:54:17,239
Speaker 1: do this. This is no or I'm more superior. No,

1114
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:19,360
Speaker 1: this is just what I'm going to say, and you

1115
00:54:19,440 --> 00:54:21,279
Speaker 1: can do what you want with it. But my things

1116
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:25,640
Speaker 1: women is I think it is morally sound to expect

1117
00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 1: men in your life. And I don't even mean men

1118
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:29,960
Speaker 1: that you're like fucking dating. I mean men period. I'm

1119
00:54:29,960 --> 00:54:31,960
Speaker 1: gonna expect my father to show up for me financially,

1120
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:33,440
Speaker 1: and that's so I know one of the reasons why

1121
00:54:33,480 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 1: I expect so much for men is because he gives

1122
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:38,080
Speaker 1: me whatever the funk I need. I expect men friends

1123
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:40,319
Speaker 1: in my life. If I need anything, I can call

1124
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:43,320
Speaker 1: you and get something. I want to play same because,

1125
00:54:43,560 --> 00:54:46,440
Speaker 1: like you've heard, I've had taken a bunch of man

1126
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:49,480
Speaker 1: money for men and love. And the niggas listened to

1127
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:52,520
Speaker 1: this right now are rolling their eyes. But I want

1128
00:54:52,560 --> 00:54:57,800
Speaker 1: to just because you said that the power dynamic is

1129
00:54:57,800 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 1: why women should expect this. As a feminist, what should

1130
00:55:02,160 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 1: a man expect from me if he's giving me that?

1131
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:08,680
Speaker 1: What do you mean? What if there's a power dynamic?

1132
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:11,560
Speaker 1: How much do I have to What do I owe him?

1133
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:13,800
Speaker 1: What do you owe men? If he's really given me

1134
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:15,680
Speaker 1: five time bands a month? What do you owe that? Man?

1135
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 1: You give n whatever the funk you want? You know

1136
00:55:17,520 --> 00:55:19,000
Speaker 1: what I mean? It's your decision, because you're saying there's

1137
00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:21,200
Speaker 1: a power dynamic, so like in some place, we're not

1138
00:55:21,239 --> 00:55:23,879
Speaker 1: really equal anymore. If he's then funding that much, we're

1139
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:28,160
Speaker 1: not equal societally. I don't mean like my personal I

1140
00:55:28,239 --> 00:55:30,879
Speaker 1: don't think uh in my brain, I'm not like I'm

1141
00:55:30,880 --> 00:55:32,719
Speaker 1: not equal, I'm lesser than a man. I'm not talking

1142
00:55:32,719 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 1: about that talking about social access wealth. That's and that's

1143
00:55:35,680 --> 00:55:38,719
Speaker 1: what I mean, because once that money is mine, I

1144
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 1: have more money than you. No, no, no, no, what's

1145
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:43,080
Speaker 1: that money? It's like I fund your whole life. How

1146
00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:46,480
Speaker 1: do you keep that man from then controlling you in

1147
00:55:46,640 --> 00:55:51,000
Speaker 1: essence and making sure that you are still in controlling like, listen,

1148
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:52,759
Speaker 1: I do this for you, I do this for you.

1149
00:55:53,040 --> 00:55:55,839
Speaker 1: So and that's the thing. I've dated someone the only

1150
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:58,399
Speaker 1: man that ever completely funded my life where I did nothing.

1151
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:02,320
Speaker 1: It was very emotionally abusive to me and really fucking

1152
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:05,319
Speaker 1: brainwashed me and made me feel like I couldn't do ship. Yes,

1153
00:56:05,600 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 1: and I don't know how I could ever, as much

1154
00:56:07,719 --> 00:56:09,359
Speaker 1: as I want that right and I want to get

1155
00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:11,440
Speaker 1: everything for me, I don't know how I can get

1156
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:13,399
Speaker 1: out of that. Again. Yes, absolutely, it makes me feel

1157
00:56:13,440 --> 00:56:16,520
Speaker 1: like working. It's such a big deal. That's why I'm

1158
00:56:16,560 --> 00:56:19,120
Speaker 1: asking question. So I think it depends on who the

1159
00:56:19,160 --> 00:56:22,440
Speaker 1: person is who is receiving the money. So I am

1160
00:56:22,680 --> 00:56:24,920
Speaker 1: someone and this is not going to speak to everybody, right,

1161
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 1: but I am someone who I think I'm well read,

1162
00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:30,360
Speaker 1: and I think that i'm I've unpacked a lot of

1163
00:56:30,400 --> 00:56:32,759
Speaker 1: ship and so I don't and I don't want to

1164
00:56:32,760 --> 00:56:34,719
Speaker 1: say the word allow because that's not a fair word

1165
00:56:34,719 --> 00:56:36,920
Speaker 1: you because you said there was person receiving. How can

1166
00:56:37,000 --> 00:56:38,480
Speaker 1: you make sure a man doesn't feel that way. I

1167
00:56:38,560 --> 00:56:40,239
Speaker 1: don't don't give a about how men feel. If you

1168
00:56:40,400 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 1: give me money, you're not First of all, you're not

1169
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 1: controlling anything that I do. And that's for me personally, though,

1170
00:56:45,360 --> 00:56:46,839
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I have been, but I'm

1171
00:56:46,840 --> 00:56:48,600
Speaker 1: not because I've never been finesse, you know what I mean.

1172
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 1: I've never not been. I've been in abusive relationships. I've

1173
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:54,640
Speaker 1: been on the other end of a man trying to

1174
00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 1: control me because of what he's been giving me. I

1175
00:56:56,080 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 1: don't even mean a nigga who's like five racks now.

1176
00:56:57,760 --> 00:56:59,160
Speaker 1: I just mean like he's my nigga and he bought

1177
00:56:59,160 --> 00:57:00,759
Speaker 1: me dinner and he thinks, a bitch, you're gonna you

1178
00:57:00,760 --> 00:57:01,960
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Because I've dealt with some really

1179
00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 1: trash as niggas. But because of that experience, for me personally,

1180
00:57:05,400 --> 00:57:08,640
Speaker 1: I've learned how to navigate niggas and fucking pinpoint red

1181
00:57:08,680 --> 00:57:11,400
Speaker 1: flags very early, and I dissociate myself from that. So

1182
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:12,800
Speaker 1: I don't give a funk if you're coming up with

1183
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:15,799
Speaker 1: ten bands, thirty bands. If I feel in some way,

1184
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:18,280
Speaker 1: shape or form like you're going to try to gaslight me,

1185
00:57:18,480 --> 00:57:21,160
Speaker 1: if you're gonna try to emotionally control me or manipulate me,

1186
00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 1: I'm separating myself from you. And that's how I navigate

1187
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:27,840
Speaker 1: not becoming brainwashed or not becoming controlled by niggas. That's

1188
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:35,480
Speaker 1: my way to navigate it. You are uh unicorn in

1189
00:57:35,560 --> 00:57:37,720
Speaker 1: the Citi situation because I feel like a lot of

1190
00:57:37,800 --> 00:57:40,080
Speaker 1: women and we see it all the time, just like

1191
00:57:40,120 --> 00:57:41,560
Speaker 1: the bitches we get cheated on that have a bunch

1192
00:57:41,600 --> 00:57:43,360
Speaker 1: of ships. Right, I've got a nice car, I've got

1193
00:57:43,360 --> 00:57:45,440
Speaker 1: a nice house, or he does this, let him to

1194
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:47,360
Speaker 1: let him do this to me. I think it's very

1195
00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:50,320
Speaker 1: hard for the modern girl to have as much confidence

1196
00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:53,280
Speaker 1: as you do and still receive money. It's a learning

1197
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:56,080
Speaker 1: it's a learning process. I sunk up like I don't

1198
00:57:56,080 --> 00:57:58,000
Speaker 1: want to say. I don't want it. I don't want

1199
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 1: what I'm saying to come off as I have never

1200
00:58:01,080 --> 00:58:03,160
Speaker 1: been a bit who's been controlled. That's not true. I

1201
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 1: have been in really fuck the situations, you know. I mean,

1202
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 1: it's a fucking learning process. And what for me had

1203
00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 1: I can give you that because I know for a

1204
00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:10,520
Speaker 1: fact a dude couldn't put his hands on me again.

1205
00:58:10,880 --> 00:58:12,240
Speaker 1: There and there you go. And I have been a

1206
00:58:12,280 --> 00:58:13,919
Speaker 1: bitch who let niggas put their hands on me again.

1207
00:58:14,160 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 1: I mean, it's a learning process. But my thing for

1208
00:58:16,240 --> 00:58:20,280
Speaker 1: me was I reflected on what again for me, it's

1209
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 1: therapeutic ship. What was going on for me that made

1210
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:27,520
Speaker 1: me continue to stay in a situation that was not

1211
00:58:27,600 --> 00:58:30,000
Speaker 1: good for me? What was my role in that? And

1212
00:58:30,080 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 1: that conversation is a really really difficult conversation to be

1213
00:58:32,800 --> 00:58:35,160
Speaker 1: had because I'm never going to be victim blame me.

1214
00:58:35,160 --> 00:58:37,000
Speaker 1: I'm never gonna say, well, you allowed it, you stay

1215
00:58:37,040 --> 00:58:38,440
Speaker 1: in him? No, no, no, no, We're not gonna do

1216
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:40,080
Speaker 1: that because we're gonna hold man accountable for the ship

1217
00:58:40,120 --> 00:58:42,520
Speaker 1: that they do. Also, a large part of the conversation

1218
00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:44,920
Speaker 1: is where was your intuition in that moment? If you

1219
00:58:44,960 --> 00:58:46,800
Speaker 1: feel something in the early beginning where it says that's

1220
00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:48,080
Speaker 1: not the nigger for you, but then you ignored it

1221
00:58:48,120 --> 00:58:50,200
Speaker 1: and kept going, What was that situation like for you?

1222
00:58:50,240 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 1: What was going through your head or what are the

1223
00:58:51,880 --> 00:58:54,360
Speaker 1: societal effects of you having access to this man? Oh? Well,

1224
00:58:54,600 --> 00:58:56,040
Speaker 1: you know my parents, So I'm gonna be married or

1225
00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:57,680
Speaker 1: he's got this job. You know what, how did that

1226
00:58:57,720 --> 00:59:00,440
Speaker 1: socialization play into it? Also, Boundary said, a lot of

1227
00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:02,240
Speaker 1: women we don't have we're not good at setting boundaries

1228
00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:05,200
Speaker 1: because we've been socialized with men. So me, a huge

1229
00:59:05,240 --> 00:59:07,600
Speaker 1: thing is I practice setting boundaries and that started with

1230
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:10,080
Speaker 1: setting boundaries with myself. If I have to go pee,

1231
00:59:10,120 --> 00:59:11,640
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop in the middle of this podcast and

1232
00:59:11,640 --> 00:59:13,320
Speaker 1: go pee because I'm not going to ignore my body

1233
00:59:13,360 --> 00:59:14,800
Speaker 1: is telling me to pete. You feel me, I literally

1234
00:59:14,840 --> 00:59:17,680
Speaker 1: started with baby things setting boundaries with me, and then

1235
00:59:17,720 --> 00:59:20,800
Speaker 1: built it up with setting boundaries next. That's great answer. Also,

1236
00:59:20,920 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 1: I also just feel like too, A lot of women

1237
00:59:22,960 --> 00:59:25,480
Speaker 1: often ask me and Wheezy how we do things, how

1238
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:27,960
Speaker 1: we get certain men, how to be a home like

1239
00:59:28,160 --> 00:59:30,120
Speaker 1: things like that, And it's just like what you said

1240
00:59:30,160 --> 00:59:34,360
Speaker 1: in all of this, like there's not really a guideline.

1241
00:59:35,000 --> 00:59:38,680
Speaker 1: It's literally different based on everyone, especially everybody dealing with

1242
00:59:38,960 --> 00:59:41,840
Speaker 1: different interactions. You have differently different things to offer than

1243
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 1: I do. And I just absolutely so and niggas what

1244
00:59:45,560 --> 00:59:49,160
Speaker 1: us for different reasons, whether it's our personalities, um, how

1245
00:59:49,240 --> 00:59:56,240
Speaker 1: we speak you like, one of the things. So yeah,

1246
00:59:56,280 --> 00:59:58,280
Speaker 1: so I wanted to really wait, remember the girl that

1247
00:59:58,360 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 1: said please read my home wail at the live show.

1248
01:00:00,680 --> 01:00:02,280
Speaker 1: We can read that on the next one. I actually

1249
01:00:02,320 --> 01:00:04,280
Speaker 1: have a question about this one. I don't I want

1250
01:00:04,320 --> 01:00:06,360
Speaker 1: to say something before this before we move on. If

1251
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:08,919
Speaker 1: you are someone who is trying to go into sex work,

1252
01:00:08,960 --> 01:00:11,960
Speaker 1: I really really encourage you to seek out other sex

1253
01:00:12,040 --> 01:00:14,840
Speaker 1: workers prior to getting into it who can help mentor you.

1254
01:00:14,960 --> 01:00:16,600
Speaker 1: And if there are people who can mentor you for free,

1255
01:00:16,640 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 1: that's great, but also throw them some coin every now

1256
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:20,840
Speaker 1: and then, because it's really really helpful to have somebody

1257
01:00:20,880 --> 01:00:23,600
Speaker 1: who can help hold your hand to the process. So

1258
01:00:23,720 --> 01:00:26,320
Speaker 1: for me, that's my best friend Ninicka, Like she holds

1259
01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:28,640
Speaker 1: me to funk down if I need any information about anything.

1260
01:00:28,800 --> 01:00:30,120
Speaker 1: She's the one who told me how to screen nigg

1261
01:00:30,160 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 1: is before I meet anybody strangers. I'm just saying, like,

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01:00:35,440 --> 01:00:38,200
Speaker 1: that's who, that's who I'm okay with mentor. I don't

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01:00:38,200 --> 01:00:44,560
Speaker 1: hate doing it for free, though, but you know, that's

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01:00:44,560 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 1: really important and I encourage people to definitely like seek

1265
01:00:47,400 --> 01:00:49,040
Speaker 1: that out so you can have some help and guidance.

1266
01:00:49,960 --> 01:00:52,840
Speaker 1: So I wanted to um get to our home mail

1267
01:00:53,360 --> 01:00:55,880
Speaker 1: and with this question, well it's not even really a question,

1268
01:00:55,920 --> 01:00:57,720
Speaker 1: but it's a conversation I also wanted to have with

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01:00:57,840 --> 01:01:00,000
Speaker 1: you because it was the one that we had last episode.

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01:01:00,360 --> 01:01:02,560
Speaker 1: And I think that in the line of work that

1271
01:01:02,640 --> 01:01:04,360
Speaker 1: you have, you would able to maybe kind of shut

1272
01:01:04,440 --> 01:01:06,760
Speaker 1: some light on this because clearly, as men, they don't

1273
01:01:06,760 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 1: even know their own anatomy. UM. So we got a

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01:01:09,440 --> 01:01:12,600
Speaker 1: response shout out to one of our male listeners. He said,

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01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:14,840
Speaker 1: what up, Wheezy and Mandy, big fan of the podcast.

1276
01:01:14,960 --> 01:01:17,000
Speaker 1: Y'all are dope as fun. But I'm listening to the

1277
01:01:17,040 --> 01:01:19,360
Speaker 1: episode with Wax and Andrew and I had to be honest.

1278
01:01:19,640 --> 01:01:22,280
Speaker 1: I've been with my wife for eleven years and couldn't

1279
01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:24,240
Speaker 1: have a threesome if I had to put on a condom.

1280
01:01:24,520 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 1: I told my wife that if we did something with

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01:01:26,680 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 1: another woman, it would have to be oral, which is

1282
01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:31,160
Speaker 1: as backwards, but that's why I've never had one, and

1283
01:01:31,440 --> 01:01:33,400
Speaker 1: if I had to put one on, I'd probably go

1284
01:01:33,560 --> 01:01:38,280
Speaker 1: soft fast as ship. So I had another actually person

1285
01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:41,160
Speaker 1: write us up about the same episode, and I want

1286
01:01:41,200 --> 01:01:42,760
Speaker 1: to write this. Um. I want to share this as

1287
01:01:42,800 --> 01:01:45,400
Speaker 1: well because it's on the same topic. Mandy, You're absolutely

1288
01:01:45,440 --> 01:01:47,720
Speaker 1: fucking right about the fucking a girl raw then trying

1289
01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:50,240
Speaker 1: to suck a girl with condoms. It's crazy. I was

1290
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:54,040
Speaker 1: having to say it again. So basically the topic is

1291
01:01:54,360 --> 01:01:57,560
Speaker 1: um hold on. So Mandy said that it's because she

1292
01:01:57,720 --> 01:02:00,560
Speaker 1: was like, I've fucked with niggas or I've heard will

1293
01:02:00,560 --> 01:02:03,840
Speaker 1: put a condom on and go, So that's what. So

1294
01:02:03,920 --> 01:02:06,920
Speaker 1: that's what the conversation I said. So we had a

1295
01:02:06,960 --> 01:02:09,919
Speaker 1: problem with a guy not one of these people said

1296
01:02:10,280 --> 01:02:13,560
Speaker 1: that's what he said, and I was like, no, funk

1297
01:02:13,640 --> 01:02:18,560
Speaker 1: that ship. So he actually said, um, let me start off,

1298
01:02:19,120 --> 01:02:22,320
Speaker 1: um trying to suck a girl with condoms. It's crazy.

1299
01:02:22,400 --> 01:02:25,160
Speaker 1: I was having sex with these two chicks during the

1300
01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:28,080
Speaker 1: same time period, one with condoms in one without. And

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01:02:28,120 --> 01:02:30,760
Speaker 1: I've always been a person that that can go up

1302
01:02:31,000 --> 01:02:33,439
Speaker 1: rounds back to back, but I found after having sex

1303
01:02:33,520 --> 01:02:36,280
Speaker 1: with one chick crawl then the other chick with condoms,

1304
01:02:36,520 --> 01:02:39,960
Speaker 1: I could only go one round and it would take

1305
01:02:40,040 --> 01:02:43,320
Speaker 1: forever to get back up. I thought something, Yes, I

1306
01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:45,720
Speaker 1: thought something was wrong with me. Then I realized that

1307
01:02:45,800 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 1: my dick was used to go on a raw Since

1308
01:02:47,640 --> 01:02:49,640
Speaker 1: me and the raw chicks stop sucking, now I'm back

1309
01:02:49,680 --> 01:02:51,720
Speaker 1: to my normal self. So I wanted to talk about

1310
01:02:51,720 --> 01:02:56,560
Speaker 1: this because as someone who's insects work. Do you require condoms?

1311
01:02:56,600 --> 01:02:58,320
Speaker 1: Do you not? And do you see a difference when

1312
01:02:58,880 --> 01:03:00,240
Speaker 1: you do tell a goy to use a on them

1313
01:03:00,280 --> 01:03:03,080
Speaker 1: who maybe isn't used to using condoms. I e. I

1314
01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:05,640
Speaker 1: mentioned the married niggas, I be fucking them. Niggas don't be.

1315
01:03:05,760 --> 01:03:08,040
Speaker 1: And it's like because they sucked their wives row, they

1316
01:03:08,080 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 1: can't suck me raw. But wearing a condom gives you.

1317
01:03:11,320 --> 01:03:14,080
Speaker 1: It's different even if it is new pussy, which is

1318
01:03:14,120 --> 01:03:16,680
Speaker 1: what the argument was last week, Like niggas get hard.

1319
01:03:16,720 --> 01:03:19,040
Speaker 1: New pussy is new pussy we love. The new pussy

1320
01:03:19,120 --> 01:03:20,960
Speaker 1: is nervous pussy too, So niggers have issues with that

1321
01:03:20,960 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 1: because they're nervous. So there's that there. I didn't even

1322
01:03:25,000 --> 01:03:27,760
Speaker 1: think of that. And so is there a trick that

1323
01:03:28,040 --> 01:03:30,320
Speaker 1: because we have a lot of male listeners, So is

1324
01:03:30,440 --> 01:03:32,600
Speaker 1: there a trick that maybe you could provide to a

1325
01:03:32,680 --> 01:03:36,360
Speaker 1: male listener who is used to having raw sex and

1326
01:03:36,480 --> 01:03:39,120
Speaker 1: now has a partner that wants them to wear a condom?

1327
01:03:39,840 --> 01:03:42,560
Speaker 1: What could they do? Yeah? I think the first thing

1328
01:03:42,640 --> 01:03:44,560
Speaker 1: that I want to say is people who have penises,

1329
01:03:44,640 --> 01:03:49,160
Speaker 1: y'all need to give yourself. I'm trying. I'm an inclusive bitch,

1330
01:03:49,240 --> 01:03:51,280
Speaker 1: Like we're not even say man people with penises in general,

1331
01:03:51,400 --> 01:03:53,800
Speaker 1: y'all need to be kinder with yourself about your penis

1332
01:03:53,920 --> 01:03:59,080
Speaker 1: because men specifically are socialized to believe that their dick

1333
01:03:59,120 --> 01:04:01,800
Speaker 1: should stand up hard as fun at any given moment.

1334
01:04:01,880 --> 01:04:03,400
Speaker 1: If I touch you, your dick is hard, and if not,

1335
01:04:03,520 --> 01:04:06,400
Speaker 1: something's wrong with you. And that's not the reality. The reality,

1336
01:04:06,640 --> 01:04:09,920
Speaker 1: like there is a lot that goes into an erection period.

1337
01:04:10,040 --> 01:04:14,000
Speaker 1: There is a lot and arousal, erection and ejaculation are

1338
01:04:14,040 --> 01:04:16,160
Speaker 1: three separate processes. So sometimes your dick may be hard

1339
01:04:16,160 --> 01:04:17,920
Speaker 1: you're not even around. Sometimes you might not and and

1340
01:04:18,040 --> 01:04:21,680
Speaker 1: you weren't even hard. Like there's different like uh like

1341
01:04:22,440 --> 01:04:25,120
Speaker 1: with like combinations of things. So you need to be

1342
01:04:25,360 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 1: patient and kind with yourself and understanding that your dick

1343
01:04:27,560 --> 01:04:28,920
Speaker 1: is a part of your body and love it and

1344
01:04:29,320 --> 01:04:31,640
Speaker 1: don't beat yourself up if your dick can't get up sometimes,

1345
01:04:31,760 --> 01:04:33,080
Speaker 1: or if you come fast, or if it's not as

1346
01:04:33,120 --> 01:04:34,640
Speaker 1: hard as usual or whatever. There's so many things that

1347
01:04:34,680 --> 01:04:39,280
Speaker 1: can contribute to that nervousness. Drinking you how would you eat?

1348
01:04:39,800 --> 01:04:42,120
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? So I I that's my

1349
01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:45,240
Speaker 1: thing to men specific create advice too for women to hear,

1350
01:04:45,240 --> 01:04:50,800
Speaker 1: because like I'm sure I talked. It's right, I know,

1351
01:04:51,080 --> 01:04:54,240
Speaker 1: right right over yourself. And I'm not gonna lie like

1352
01:04:54,400 --> 01:04:56,600
Speaker 1: I've I've been there where even wanting to get a

1353
01:04:56,640 --> 01:04:58,800
Speaker 1: guy up for a second round and he just couldn't

1354
01:04:58,800 --> 01:05:00,560
Speaker 1: get up. And normally I'm used if I think it's

1355
01:05:00,560 --> 01:05:02,440
Speaker 1: gonna get that card. But if I'm with someone and

1356
01:05:02,520 --> 01:05:05,080
Speaker 1: then we get really bitchy, and then that creates a

1357
01:05:05,120 --> 01:05:07,960
Speaker 1: fucking anxiety syndrome for niggas because then they're like, oh,

1358
01:05:08,320 --> 01:05:10,600
Speaker 1: I gotta make sure and if you're thinking all that,

1359
01:05:10,680 --> 01:05:12,560
Speaker 1: they're not getting I didn't even think that I'm not

1360
01:05:12,560 --> 01:05:15,680
Speaker 1: gonna in that sense. I mean, I think that we

1361
01:05:15,760 --> 01:05:17,360
Speaker 1: need to think about it in terms of how we

1362
01:05:17,800 --> 01:05:20,200
Speaker 1: most of us think about for a play, like I

1363
01:05:20,640 --> 01:05:23,520
Speaker 1: would like sometime to get my ship more wet, Like

1364
01:05:23,960 --> 01:05:26,440
Speaker 1: some people have super wet vaginas, some people do not.

1365
01:05:27,040 --> 01:05:29,280
Speaker 1: That's a reality we all love to talk about, Lego,

1366
01:05:29,400 --> 01:05:32,480
Speaker 1: my pussy is super wet, dishy, juicy, But sometimes it's not.

1367
01:05:32,760 --> 01:05:34,680
Speaker 1: Sometimes we have dry days. Some people just don't have

1368
01:05:34,760 --> 01:05:36,960
Speaker 1: as much lubrication. Go buy some fucking lou But there's

1369
01:05:36,960 --> 01:05:38,800
Speaker 1: a whole thing about like most men have a thing

1370
01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:40,840
Speaker 1: with women like you gotta use you gotta get it wet.

1371
01:05:40,920 --> 01:05:43,600
Speaker 1: They do. We have the same shame us if we

1372
01:05:43,760 --> 01:05:47,080
Speaker 1: have the reciprocal issues that we create anxiety with each

1373
01:05:47,120 --> 01:05:52,120
Speaker 1: other to worl and like once like honestly, the only

1374
01:05:52,160 --> 01:05:54,160
Speaker 1: way I get crazy with is a certain angle for

1375
01:05:54,240 --> 01:05:56,960
Speaker 1: missionary with my legs are back and it's like yeah.

1376
01:05:57,480 --> 01:06:00,800
Speaker 1: Then it's like and what's crazy is I've judged how

1377
01:06:00,920 --> 01:06:03,280
Speaker 1: much I like a guy, sometimes even by how wet

1378
01:06:03,320 --> 01:06:05,600
Speaker 1: I am when I'm with them. So I'll be with

1379
01:06:05,720 --> 01:06:08,320
Speaker 1: one guy and I get super fucking white, super aroused,

1380
01:06:08,320 --> 01:06:09,960
Speaker 1: and then the next guy, it's like, wait, do I

1381
01:06:10,040 --> 01:06:11,840
Speaker 1: really not like you as much? Because my pussy is

1382
01:06:11,880 --> 01:06:14,040
Speaker 1: normally way wetter than this? Why isn't it not wet

1383
01:06:14,200 --> 01:06:18,960
Speaker 1: like it usually? And so I even psychologically tie the

1384
01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:21,439
Speaker 1: wetness of my pussy to how much I like a guy? Yeah,

1385
01:06:21,720 --> 01:06:24,760
Speaker 1: and I think so. So the the underlying kind of

1386
01:06:24,840 --> 01:06:28,200
Speaker 1: thing here is we all are are human being. What

1387
01:06:28,440 --> 01:06:30,360
Speaker 1: is that? Wait? The nick is in the room looking

1388
01:06:30,440 --> 01:06:34,200
Speaker 1: like what now? Look they're like hands up over here?

1389
01:06:34,200 --> 01:06:36,200
Speaker 1: Is psychologically like the it's just still get back to

1390
01:06:36,240 --> 01:06:40,680
Speaker 1: pussy and I'll be thinking about because now what's gonna happen?

1391
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:42,240
Speaker 1: Is when I leave his motherfucker go get some dick

1392
01:06:42,280 --> 01:06:48,360
Speaker 1: and be like, oh my god anymore. Yeah. So it's

1393
01:06:48,360 --> 01:06:50,360
Speaker 1: a it's a lot of mental stuff, and we also

1394
01:06:50,440 --> 01:06:52,240
Speaker 1: have a lot of baggage that we bring into ship,

1395
01:06:52,320 --> 01:06:54,920
Speaker 1: and then we don't communicate about things properly. And you know,

1396
01:06:55,000 --> 01:06:56,600
Speaker 1: there's there's a lot of there's a lot of things

1397
01:06:56,640 --> 01:06:58,480
Speaker 1: to it. But I also want to say that your

1398
01:06:58,640 --> 01:07:01,120
Speaker 1: vagina or your penis, that's really not the sex organ.

1399
01:07:01,240 --> 01:07:03,720
Speaker 1: The biggest sex organ is your brain. So if you

1400
01:07:03,880 --> 01:07:05,960
Speaker 1: have a lot of ship going on mentally, if you

1401
01:07:06,120 --> 01:07:08,920
Speaker 1: have a lot of distractions, you have a lot of stress, whatever,

1402
01:07:09,160 --> 01:07:10,680
Speaker 1: it's your brain that's gonna suck you up. It's not

1403
01:07:10,760 --> 01:07:13,040
Speaker 1: your dick. So your dick is only going to function

1404
01:07:13,120 --> 01:07:15,280
Speaker 1: if your brain tells it to. You know what I mean, Everything,

1405
01:07:15,480 --> 01:07:18,040
Speaker 1: the sensation of pain or feeling good or pleasure all

1406
01:07:18,080 --> 01:07:21,960
Speaker 1: comes from your brain before. And that's why you don't

1407
01:07:22,000 --> 01:07:24,840
Speaker 1: have to even uh, you don't have to do anything

1408
01:07:24,920 --> 01:07:27,200
Speaker 1: to stimulate your your vagina or dick to have an orgasm.

1409
01:07:27,280 --> 01:07:29,160
Speaker 1: It's not about your genitals, it's about your brain. Yeah,

1410
01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:31,120
Speaker 1: it's funny. I have a friend right now who is

1411
01:07:31,600 --> 01:07:34,240
Speaker 1: kind of going through a mental chaos like right now,

1412
01:07:34,520 --> 01:07:37,560
Speaker 1: because he's questioning not only his sexuality but what he's

1413
01:07:37,600 --> 01:07:40,120
Speaker 1: into in the bedroom. And he's said even for the

1414
01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:43,160
Speaker 1: last year, it's been hard for him to even enjoy

1415
01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:45,120
Speaker 1: sex because he doesn't know if what he likes is

1416
01:07:45,160 --> 01:07:47,120
Speaker 1: what he's supposed to like, and so he's like, I'd

1417
01:07:47,240 --> 01:07:49,600
Speaker 1: rather just stay away from it because the anxiety that

1418
01:07:49,720 --> 01:07:52,360
Speaker 1: comes with sex is something i'd rather stee are clear

1419
01:07:52,440 --> 01:07:55,480
Speaker 1: of until I am accepting of who I am. One

1420
01:07:55,520 --> 01:07:57,080
Speaker 1: of the first things that I tell people when they

1421
01:07:57,160 --> 01:07:59,400
Speaker 1: come to see me for therapy is to take should

1422
01:07:59,640 --> 01:08:03,360
Speaker 1: and to post two out of your vocabulary. Shouldn't supposed

1423
01:08:03,400 --> 01:08:05,400
Speaker 1: to will suck you up, because that's expectations, and then

1424
01:08:05,440 --> 01:08:07,400
Speaker 1: you just get all wrapped up in that. So it's

1425
01:08:07,440 --> 01:08:09,320
Speaker 1: really not shouldn't supposed to what I'd like for this,

1426
01:08:09,520 --> 01:08:11,520
Speaker 1: or I wish this, or I want that. It's not

1427
01:08:11,600 --> 01:08:14,880
Speaker 1: shouldn't supposed that's all bullshit. So I unpacked that complete

1428
01:08:15,200 --> 01:08:17,360
Speaker 1: like that. It's not I should have a hard dick

1429
01:08:17,439 --> 01:08:19,000
Speaker 1: right now because this new pussy. No, I would like

1430
01:08:19,120 --> 01:08:20,800
Speaker 1: to have a hard dick right now because it's new pussy.

1431
01:08:20,880 --> 01:08:23,320
Speaker 1: And you can always pray. Guys, y'all know, if your

1432
01:08:23,360 --> 01:08:25,760
Speaker 1: dick is not working, you could always pray. I don't

1433
01:08:25,800 --> 01:08:29,360
Speaker 1: know how go into the bathroom, but and pray and

1434
01:08:29,840 --> 01:08:33,080
Speaker 1: hopefully your answers will be questions. I will say that

1435
01:08:33,280 --> 01:08:35,720
Speaker 1: God has a sense of humor, honey, because I did

1436
01:08:35,760 --> 01:08:37,519
Speaker 1: pray for my period to come out early because I'm

1437
01:08:37,520 --> 01:08:39,839
Speaker 1: going to Vegas, so I wanted to be clear before Vegas.

1438
01:08:40,240 --> 01:08:41,880
Speaker 1: Bitch nigga maybe to come in the middle of the day.

1439
01:08:41,880 --> 01:08:45,320
Speaker 1: I had to go change my goddamn clothes. I was like,

1440
01:08:45,479 --> 01:08:49,360
Speaker 1: you petty as fun, but thanks what God? Damn you

1441
01:08:49,479 --> 01:08:52,960
Speaker 1: petty as fun. But I want to thank you so

1442
01:08:53,080 --> 01:08:55,400
Speaker 1: much for coming on. Guys, y'all don't understand. This girl

1443
01:08:55,439 --> 01:08:58,679
Speaker 1: on social media is fucking amazing. The things that she says,

1444
01:08:58,760 --> 01:09:01,000
Speaker 1: the things that she really gets to think about in

1445
01:09:01,240 --> 01:09:03,840
Speaker 1: terms of your sexuality, in terms of sex, in terms

1446
01:09:03,880 --> 01:09:07,200
Speaker 1: of women's rights, in terms of everything together. It's fucking amazing.

1447
01:09:07,240 --> 01:09:09,679
Speaker 1: If you guys are looking for someone new to follow,

1448
01:09:09,800 --> 01:09:12,160
Speaker 1: because y'all need to open your minds the way you

1449
01:09:12,200 --> 01:09:14,240
Speaker 1: guys have with this podcast. Um, I want you guys

1450
01:09:14,280 --> 01:09:16,720
Speaker 1: to follow ver Kell Savage. She also has her own

1451
01:09:16,760 --> 01:09:19,960
Speaker 1: podcast where y'all her stories ship on me and we

1452
01:09:20,840 --> 01:09:22,800
Speaker 1: I know y'all think me and Wheezy be about doing

1453
01:09:22,880 --> 01:09:26,200
Speaker 1: some ship, but goddamn Rakel be living this motherfucking life.

1454
01:09:26,200 --> 01:09:31,040
Speaker 1: So I feel like sex worker stories got her work stories,

1455
01:09:31,360 --> 01:09:34,000
Speaker 1: but not only don't even have this bitch be all yacht.

1456
01:09:34,160 --> 01:09:37,160
Speaker 1: She didn't talked about sucking bachelor parties. She didn't thought

1457
01:09:37,160 --> 01:09:39,960
Speaker 1: about this football player. Nigga took me here. Her ship

1458
01:09:40,080 --> 01:09:43,320
Speaker 1: be lit, No her shap get a blue checkmark under

1459
01:09:45,040 --> 01:09:47,800
Speaker 1: her ship be lit. I feel like once I do that,

1460
01:09:48,000 --> 01:09:50,080
Speaker 1: then I could come back. It's just research. You know

1461
01:09:50,120 --> 01:09:54,519
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Don't get me a blue checkmark. It's

1462
01:09:54,520 --> 01:09:57,000
Speaker 1: a round. Y'all saw my m CM this week, listen,

1463
01:09:57,320 --> 01:10:00,240
Speaker 1: That's why it's what you was like, Girl, I ain't

1464
01:10:00,240 --> 01:10:02,080
Speaker 1: even gonna shout his name because I don't need y'all looking.

1465
01:10:02,080 --> 01:10:04,479
Speaker 1: I had to untag him and at him. I was like, well,

1466
01:10:04,520 --> 01:10:07,080
Speaker 1: this is getting a lot of attected from my pretty friends, right,

1467
01:10:07,280 --> 01:10:12,599
Speaker 1: I don't need the competition. It's like, I don't need

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Speaker 1: that competition. Let me slide in the deal before they do.

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Speaker 1: But but where can our listeners find you? Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: you can find me. Rockhouse Savage dot Com is my website,

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Speaker 1: Rockhouse Savages, Snapchat and Instagram, rock Out, Underscore Savages, my Twitter.

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Speaker 1: Um my podcast is a Savage like podcast which we

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Speaker 1: actually just finished and rap, so there will be no

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Speaker 1: more Savage like podcasts, but there's lots of six seasons

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Speaker 1: you can catch up. Um it's six ten episodes seasons.

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Speaker 1: So okay, I think seasons are a good thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we only did that because we like to take a break. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but yeah, right, because she got she gotta come back

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Speaker 1: the story and and uh yeah, and if y'all want

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Speaker 1: to pay me, you could pay me PayPal dot me

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Speaker 1: slash Rockhouse Savage. Um my cash app is King Savage

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Speaker 1: three X. If you just want to like, book me

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Speaker 1: for anything. R a q dost Savage at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: Bring the bag please, oh bring that back. And we'll

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Speaker 1: go ahead and include all of those things and our

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Speaker 1: description of this episode so that you could find her

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Speaker 1: and we're also gonna tag her. Also, I have this

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Speaker 1: very cute ass fucking hat on right now. This is Savage.

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Speaker 1: If you guys are interested in merchandise for Savage, they're

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Speaker 1: really fucking dope. Um and I just again want to

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Speaker 1: thank you for coming on because I think you're dope.

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Speaker 1: I think you're smart, and I want you all to

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Speaker 1: know right here, Hose read bro Hose are smart. Hose graduate.

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Speaker 1: This is what the funk happens. This is a new

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Speaker 1: age era. I just need you to know. She got

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Speaker 1: her master, she's shipping on me. I only got two

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Speaker 1: bests over here. But hey, but anyways, guys, um, I'm

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Speaker 1: super excited again. If you guys want to hear um

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Speaker 1: extra content from us, you guys can become patrons at

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Speaker 1: patreon dot com. Also, if you want to send us

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Speaker 1: your homemail, you can send that to Horrible Decisions at

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Speaker 1: gmail dot com. Um, you guys know where to find us.

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Speaker 1: Thank you guy. This has been got another episode of

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Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions by