WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: “First Date Tree”

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<v Speaker 1>second date update. You know when we get emails to

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<v Speaker 1>the show for a second date update, I'm often surprised

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<v Speaker 1>at some of the effort that guys put into these

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<v Speaker 1>first dates. Very strange to me. Or maybe we're impressed

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<v Speaker 1>that guys go the extra mile for a woman's I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know about that. Yeah, there's some that I read

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<v Speaker 1>and I have to keep a trash can near because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to vomit while reading it, Like this one

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<v Speaker 1>that came in from Mackenzie. McKenzie, how are you? I'm good?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you good? So you work out a kiosk

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<v Speaker 1>in the mall and the guy that you want us

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<v Speaker 1>to call his name Nick, he met you there. You

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<v Speaker 1>kind of can't up and talk to you. Yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>work at the mall. Um I sell handblown glass jewelry

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<v Speaker 1>and he was buying something for his mom's birthday. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>surprised you and I haven't met yet because I am

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<v Speaker 1>always buying handblown glass jewelry NonStop. But that's adorable. He's

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<v Speaker 1>buying something for his mom, so he's got you already.

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<v Speaker 1>So I set this up talking about your date. Why

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<v Speaker 1>don't you tell everybody what happened on your first date?

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<v Speaker 1>We ended up going to the home depot. It was

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<v Speaker 1>so weird, and while it was going on, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>what is happening by you wouldn't tell me why? When

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<v Speaker 1>I first read that part of your email, I was like, smart,

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<v Speaker 1>home depot, a couple dollars for a hot dog. But

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<v Speaker 1>then I went on to read exactly what else happened

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<v Speaker 1>on your date? And that's where I became sick. Why

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<v Speaker 1>were you in the home depot? So we get there

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<v Speaker 1>and he takes me to the plant and gardening section okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and we buy like a small tree that you plant

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<v Speaker 1>into the ground and he tells me this is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be our first date tree and we're gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>plant it somewhere, a first date tree. Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>That's one of those days. Is that the line between

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<v Speaker 1>creepy and romantic? Is? How hot is he? Really? Yeah? No,

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<v Speaker 1>it surprises me. I figured when she told you guys

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<v Speaker 1>that he got a first date tree, that he wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to plant with her. You guys would be like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, you guys are being cynical now. But if

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<v Speaker 1>if if a guy was to take you out brook

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<v Speaker 1>or Lydia and get a first date tree, I could

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<v Speaker 1>see you guys coming in and work there. Second, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, how hot he is. I'm not cynical yet.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to hear the rest of the story because

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<v Speaker 1>if what happened next, well, first of all, he's really hot.

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<v Speaker 1>To answer, it's romantic, all right, I mean, yeah, So

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<v Speaker 1>we get in this car, we drive it to this

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<v Speaker 1>wooded area. I don't I don't remember exactly where it was. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>are you sure? Are you sure? We didn't pick up

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<v Speaker 1>a shovel and duct table. You're also at the home depot.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds weird, but it's not. So we go to

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<v Speaker 1>this like wooded area and then we plant this tree together.

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<v Speaker 1>We were like laughing and having fun and it was

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<v Speaker 1>just an awesome time. And after that we went to

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<v Speaker 1>this bar to celebrate, to celebrate our you know, our tree.

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<v Speaker 1>This is pretty cute. How did you say that? That

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<v Speaker 1>isn't cute? That's pretty cute. So you went and planet

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<v Speaker 1>a tree. I thought it was cute. So you went

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<v Speaker 1>and planet a tree together that will hopefully grow to

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<v Speaker 1>be a big tree throughout your relationship. And then you

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<v Speaker 1>had drinks together. What happened after that? Okay? So we

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<v Speaker 1>had drinks and we did an awesome time. We were laughing,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I don't usually do this, but I went

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<v Speaker 1>back to his place and I stayed the night where

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<v Speaker 1>he planted his other first date tree. That was just

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<v Speaker 1>the seed, by the way, that was just the seed.

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<v Speaker 1>That is that? What happened though, did you guys seal

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<v Speaker 1>the deals? Yeah, which is fine. I mean you had

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<v Speaker 1>a connection with somebody that you really liked a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's it is totally okay. So what happened in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning? Did you bail early or did you stick around?

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<v Speaker 1>We both kind of like leaguered around in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I left a little bit, you know. Later

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<v Speaker 1>he gave me kiss and he said, let's see each other.

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<v Speaker 1>And we were texting back and forth the first couple

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<v Speaker 1>of days after that, and now it's been like two

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<v Speaker 1>weeks and he slowly stopped responding to my text messages.

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<v Speaker 1>So now I have no idea what's going on, and

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<v Speaker 1>I need your guys help. Okay, We're gonna play a song.

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<v Speaker 1>Come back, call him and get your second date update.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, great, okay, hang on Brook and Jewels second

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<v Speaker 1>date up date. Remember, if you want a second date update,

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<v Speaker 1>all you have to do is email us Brook and

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<v Speaker 1>Jewel at Movie nine to five dot com. We will

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<v Speaker 1>call the person who didn't call you back. McKenzie is

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone right now. She wants us to call Nick.

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<v Speaker 1>She met Nick while she was working at the mall

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<v Speaker 1>Kiosk selling glass blown jewelry. Very nice. He asked her out.

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<v Speaker 1>They went out on a date. Their date was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of interesting because he took her a home depot, bought

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<v Speaker 1>a tree, then drove her to a wooded area that

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<v Speaker 1>she could never find again no, no, but then drove

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<v Speaker 1>her to the woods. They planted the tree together as

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<v Speaker 1>their little first date tree. They ended up hooking up

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<v Speaker 1>that night. They texted a little bit and they kind

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<v Speaker 1>of faded away. All right, McKinsey, are you ready to call? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm ready. That was less than convincing, because do you

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<v Speaker 1>regret stay in the night with him? Um? I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of I just want to understand what's going on with him,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm hoping it's just like something miscommunication. Maybe he

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<v Speaker 1>just got like super busy with work or something. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, but I just kind of want to know

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<v Speaker 1>where I stand. Basically, it depends on what his answer is,

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<v Speaker 1>whether you regret it or not. Yeah, it's a little

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<v Speaker 1>nervous to see what he says. We're gonna call him

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<v Speaker 1>right now. Okay, awesome? Hello? Hey is this Nick? Yeah? Hey?

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<v Speaker 1>What's up? Man? How are you? This is Jewel from

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<v Speaker 1>brook and Jewel in the morning. I'm moving ninety two

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<v Speaker 1>point five. You got a second? Ah, what's going on? Man?

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<v Speaker 1>Not much. You went out with a girl named mackenzie.

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<v Speaker 1>You blew her off and she wants to know why. Um, McKenzie,

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<v Speaker 1>how how long ago was this? Nick? You planted a

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<v Speaker 1>tree with McKenzie. It was your first date tree. How

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<v Speaker 1>could you forget McKenzie? Not like your goa, Um, there's uh,

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<v Speaker 1>there's more than a few first state trees, like when

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<v Speaker 1>you come in there like this guy another one? All right, Nick,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that answers our question. Then yeah, you you

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<v Speaker 1>you went out with a girl named McKenzie, But I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know three or four weeks ago planning the first

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<v Speaker 1>date tree with ended up up Okay, I get it now.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember, is the tree just She was great, it

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<v Speaker 1>was fun. But you know, things happened very fast with Mackenzie,

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<v Speaker 1>and at the end of the day, that's what I

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<v Speaker 1>was looking for. And Nick, you toyed with her emotions.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's one thing to just tell a girl

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<v Speaker 1>you want to hook up. It's another thing to pretend

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<v Speaker 1>like it's a first state tree when it's really just

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<v Speaker 1>a hook up tree. I mean it works almost every time.

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<v Speaker 1>He's driving up there the whole time with his first

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<v Speaker 1>date tree, Like I can't believe she's buying it. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't believe she's buying it. Nick, I was restored my

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<v Speaker 1>faith and like men going the extra mile and being romantic,

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<v Speaker 1>and come to find out, when I first started, I

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<v Speaker 1>used to dig up the tree and return it. But

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<v Speaker 1>thankfully I have some money better. My god, are you

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<v Speaker 1>kidding me? Nick, Nick, Mackenzie's on the phone and heard

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<v Speaker 1>everything you just said. You have got to be kidding me.

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<v Speaker 1>That was totally out of context. They're looking, they're looking

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<v Speaker 1>for their little story and everything like that. I will

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<v Speaker 1>be my god, you were disgusting. I touched you for

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<v Speaker 1>a long time afterwards, but at the end, I just

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<v Speaker 1>I was afraid I was going to screw it up.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Godzie, he was just scared. Mackenzie is speechless right now. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't know what to think. Was there

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<v Speaker 1>no creepy signs on your date that he could be

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<v Speaker 1>this gross? There's no you know, Nick, I don't promote violence,

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<v Speaker 1>but I want to punch you right now. Those things

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<v Speaker 1>I said was ridiculous. But that's you know, that's a

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<v Speaker 1>guy being a guy. At the end of the day, Mackenzie,

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<v Speaker 1>I usually don't even talk to girls afterwards, and there

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<v Speaker 1>was a connection. Maybe that three, you know, is something

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<v Speaker 1>different this time. I mean, I don't, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you're just like saying that now,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't know what to think. So I understand,

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, at the end of the day, what's

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<v Speaker 1>what's another you know, one other we could try to

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<v Speaker 1>see if it happens. Hey, you know what, Brooke couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>do it, Lydia couldn't do it, So they couldn't do it. Nick,

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<v Speaker 1>you have turned around my views on love. I think

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<v Speaker 1>I think, Mackenzie, you need to give Nick another chance,

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<v Speaker 1>because he sounds like just a sweetheart who is misunderstood. Mackenzie.

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to pay for you guys to go

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<v Speaker 1>out on a second day. We will pay for it

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<v Speaker 1>with Nick. Would you like to go with McKenzie again? Absolutely? Absolutely, McKenzie.

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<v Speaker 1>Hope you give me another chance and at least we

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<v Speaker 1>can you know, I think there's a real spark there

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<v Speaker 1>and give me a chance to prove that it's not

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<v Speaker 1>just in my mind. Mackenzie. Let's plant that second day. No, no, no, no, Mackenzie,

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<v Speaker 1>don't be the dumb dam I know. How do I

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<v Speaker 1>know that you're not gonna just like disappear again if

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<v Speaker 1>I already go out with you again. That's why I

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<v Speaker 1>would throw the first time. I just I want to

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<v Speaker 1>see there's nothing has to happen, you know, but we

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<v Speaker 1>can see, but we enjoy each other's content again. I

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<v Speaker 1>think we really had a good time that day, that night,

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<v Speaker 1>and even the next morning. Enzie, how do you know

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<v Speaker 1>that he is using you? Listen to me, girl, the

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<v Speaker 1>girl say no, Mackenzie. He was scared no, and you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know how to act, and he thought he was

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<v Speaker 1>going to screw it up with you that go out

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<v Speaker 1>and give him another chance. He said, you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>to do anything this next time. Oh god, I would

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<v Speaker 1>have to take it like very slow. You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>know I can't say, mckenzi, you would you know, at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the day, whatever you know makes you

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<v Speaker 1>feel comfortable. I understand that this up. Please stage an intervention.

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<v Speaker 1>This is crazy. I've dated the most douchebags on this show,

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<v Speaker 1>and like I feel like I have my radar is

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<v Speaker 1>going on good though is not good. The thing is,

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<v Speaker 1>the first time it's it's his fault. The second time, McKenzie,

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<v Speaker 1>it's gonna be on you. Well, I feel like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>despite the fact that all these things that he's saying

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<v Speaker 1>were hard to hear, we had we did have such

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<v Speaker 1>a connection. I know it sounds crazy, but we just

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<v Speaker 1>had so much in common. We were laughing and having Dude,

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<v Speaker 1>he's feeding love conquers all, Love conquers all and then

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<v Speaker 1>and we'll find out if that's true by sending you

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<v Speaker 1>guys out on a second day. Right, you guys agree?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh absolutely, I'm excited, man OHENI I mean, if you feel,

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<v Speaker 1>if you feel like it's okay to take it slow,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, I'm gonna be wary. You know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be a little bit of gosh, Mackenzie, all, I

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<v Speaker 1>get it, just don't you know. I don't want you

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<v Speaker 1>being so cautious that we can't have fun. So you

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<v Speaker 1>know I'm looking already awesome. Dude, Mackenzie. At some point

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna say, what do I always meet the wrong guy?

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to replay what is happening right here

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<v Speaker 1>in your head and realize why. Okay, don't listen to

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<v Speaker 1>that in the morning. When I was in the third grade,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that I was gay because I could drop

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<v Speaker 1>my uncle was and I kept my room straight. I

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<v Speaker 1>told my mom, tears rushing down my face. She's like, Ben,

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<v Speaker 1>You've loved girls since before pre k Sure,