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Speaker 1: My girlfriend won't stop spending time with her other partner?

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Speaker 2: Should I leave her? After five years?

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Speaker 1: And this is okop where we read the craziest true

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Speaker 1: stories on Earth, Sam and our incredible guest Zach from

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Speaker 1: No Filters.

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Speaker 2: What do we think with no context? Should I believe?

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Speaker 2: I mean I always think it's a great time to

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Speaker 2: leave a relationship, So yeah.

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Speaker 3: Always think it's a great time. Yeah, like no commitment,

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Speaker 3: no commitment.

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Speaker 2: Ever relationship, but in this relationship, sure, Yeah. All of

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Speaker 2: Zack's future partners are not worried.

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Speaker 1: You're already you're done, okay, but we are not done

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Speaker 1: with a story which is just beginning. So this one

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Speaker 1: comes from Throwaway seven three one three purple?

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Speaker 2: What are you trying to hide? Throw Away? They're all

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Speaker 2: trying this is See if your name is throwaway, then

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Speaker 2: that means you're already ready to throw away your relationship.

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Speaker 2: There we go all the context clues over here.

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Speaker 1: Well they say, I twenty eight male, met my girlfriend

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Speaker 1: Clara twenty nine female, about five years ago, and we

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Speaker 1: moved in together almost.

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Speaker 2: Four years ago. So five years together, four years living. Wow,

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Speaker 2: I feel like moving in after a year is quick? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Pretty quick? Pretty quick? Yeah? Not when you're pushing thirty. Oh,

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Speaker 2: I guess at this point they weren't pushing thirty, were

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Speaker 2: exactly when pushing thirty When you're like twenty eight, twenty nine, okay,

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Speaker 2: and you're pushing thirty, and that that point you're like, okay,

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Speaker 2: it's time to get my shit together. Yes, true, true, true.

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Speaker 1: Our relationship has always been opened and we were free

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Speaker 1: to date whoever we wanted after we moved in, but

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Speaker 1: we set a few rules, mainly a weekly check in

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Speaker 1: and dedicated private time for the two of us. So

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Speaker 1: it sounds like they're in a.

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Speaker 3: Poly relationship, which you gotta have rules. If you're in

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Speaker 3: a poly relationship, you got to I wonder if that's

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Speaker 3: enough rules. I feel like that's not enough rules. Like

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Speaker 3: can they like bring anyone they want into the house?

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Speaker 2: Yep?

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Speaker 3: Can they bring family members of the opposing partner?

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Speaker 2: Yep? Yeah, that's a great option, Like these are great, Like, wow,

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Speaker 2: I like like where we're going with this.

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Speaker 1: Your brother is pretty hot. But I'll tell you the

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Speaker 1: weekly checking. Yeah we're good. Hey, I love the genes.

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Speaker 1: I love the genes.

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Speaker 2: It's the weekly checking, the confession booth of this relationship.

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Speaker 2: And then if you're not with the like. Let's say

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Speaker 2: the brother's hotter than your partner, but he like doesn't

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Speaker 2: have a great personality, then you at least get to

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Speaker 2: bang without the commitment. Yeah see, I mean I think

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Speaker 2: it's it's a win win all around, best of both worlds.

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Speaker 2: We're just solving relationships. Look at us. You're welcome. Now.

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Speaker 1: The first three years were great, and the last year

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Speaker 1: we started to go to sex clubs together and Clara

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Speaker 1: got to finally experience her first male male male female situation.

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Speaker 2: Wow, it's so many males at a lot of males.

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Speaker 2: That's a lot to handle. Yeah. Do you think she

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Speaker 2: has enough holes for all that? How do you like? Well,

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Speaker 2: but guess what they found? A riley? Where is it?

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Speaker 2: Where is it? Oh?

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Speaker 3: How can we not make any sexual content? This is

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Speaker 3: a very sex ridden the sign creative. You definitely have enough,

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Speaker 3: Like you can create holes, so you have enough holes?

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Speaker 2: That took me okay with your hands?

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Speaker 1: Okay for audio listeners, Yeah, one hand context of that anyway,

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Speaker 1: not some sort of surgical something.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you could do that too.

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Speaker 4: I got an okay story talk show?

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Speaker 2: Oh god, thing?

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Speaker 4: Oh told me Daniel Cox?

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Speaker 2: Oh god, oh, great person? To tell you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah honestly, yeah, well, okay, story time for Riley. At

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Speaker 1: the end of the story.

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Speaker 2: I love how we just shout it out to Daniel true,

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Speaker 2: and that is how she met Gary thirty male.

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Speaker 3: I know, I think Gary's gonna throw a wrench in

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Speaker 3: this relationship. Really, that is my conspiracy theory.

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Speaker 1: So we have these conspiracy theory hats at any time.

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Speaker 1: I think we need a conspiracy theory. Yeah from you.

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Speaker 2: Are you on the conspiracy theory of Gary screwing things

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Speaker 2: hoping Gary's the brother. That's what I think Gary's I

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Speaker 2: think Gary. I think she fell in love with Gary.

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Speaker 2: I think she's gonna fall in love with Gary. Easy, easy, easy,

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Speaker 2: which is why you need rules and open relationships. Don't

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Speaker 2: fall in love ye one, Rule number follow Rule number two.

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Speaker 2: Weekly checking Yeah, yeah, I think you know what. It's all.

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Speaker 2: You have a weekly check in where you're saying you're

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Speaker 2: falling in love. You're fine. I think a weekly checking

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Speaker 1: That's it, that's all we need. I am in love

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Speaker 1: with your mom. Weekly check in, weekly checking done well, do.

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Speaker 2: You have you have a weekly check in your relationship?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we do have check ins. Yeah, maybe not weekly,

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Speaker 1: not weekly. Yeah, we try, we try.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes you miss them. Date nights tomorrow though, So I

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Speaker 1: Yes, as Riley pointed out on la episode. But let's

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Speaker 1: get back into reality. So Gary and my girlfriend started

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Speaker 2: Yo, that's like every night. Yeah, like when are you

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Speaker 2: home for the weekly check in? On the weekly.

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Speaker 3: Checking as as long as you hit that weekly check

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Speaker 3: in and the relationship.

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Speaker 2: Is fine, Yeah, because you're hitting all the rules. Done.

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Speaker 2: I love Gary. Now easy weekly checking. Yeah, it's over.

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Speaker 2: Gary and I are getting married. I'll tell you the

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Speaker 2: weekly check in.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, after the we're having kids. Weekly checking done

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Speaker 1: solves everything. It's a miracle worker text like nope, damn.

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Speaker 1: When Clara canceled one of our knights together, I protested

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Speaker 1: and she said that she would make it up.

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Speaker 2: I will accept this. I'm just imagining.

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Speaker 3: It was like hey, ho, hey ho, Gary to go Hey,

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Speaker 3: I'm protesting in his own house by himself.

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Speaker 2: Oh man.

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Speaker 3: But get ready at the weekly check in. Though it's

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Speaker 3: a very important day to protest. Are we already yes

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Speaker 3: on one of our weekly check ins? Now it's going

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Speaker 2: That's true, That is true. Yeah, it shows how committed

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Speaker 2: we are. Yeah, no surprises.

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Speaker 1: No Gary's. We don't need no Gary's, get it done

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Speaker 1: all by ourselves. Anyways, I said I was feeling my

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Speaker 1: The day before the event, she said she couldn't make

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Speaker 1: it because she was with Gary. What do you think

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Speaker 1: she was doing with Gary?

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Speaker 2: All the things?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, things, She was doing a five sme this day.

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Speaker 3: She graduated from a foursome no five summer. She's just adding.

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Speaker 3: People can't forget the holes.

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Speaker 1: She couldn't make it due to a band Gary wanting

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Speaker 3: That's egregious. This is because she was supposed to come

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Speaker 2: Probably not even a be It was like an underground

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Speaker 2: and the scally Wags is playing today. I can't Did

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Speaker 2: you just come up with that right then? I did.

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Speaker 2: That is a great band name. I'm trying. But Munchers

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Speaker 2: of pirate play this this morning too, so oh, we're.

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Speaker 1: Trying to make a podcast here where this is the

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Speaker 1: content that we make for you all. This is true

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Speaker 1: her when she came home after that day, I blew

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Speaker 1: up and said I was taking care of her share

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Speaker 3: Typical, damn typical, right, Yeah, he's pushing her into the

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Speaker 1: She came home early Monday morning before I left work

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Speaker 1: and said how she was sorry and we needed to

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Speaker 2: About it tonight. The Weekly Chuck at the Weekly check

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Speaker 2: with Gary.

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Speaker 3: With Gary, what I wanted to do is I wanted

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Speaker 3: to have an inclusive weekly check.

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Speaker 1: I left and got halfway to work when I got

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Speaker 1: a text asking where all of her work clothes were at.

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Speaker 1: I replied, in the dirty clothes hamper. Oh, he's fighting back.

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Speaker 3: She was expecting him to do her laundry that I

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Speaker 1: Was expecting him to do her laundry while she was

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Speaker 1: at Gary's show. I have Gary do it for I

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Speaker 1: have Gary do your mind stand up. She gets all

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Speaker 2: That's not fair, dude.

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Speaker 1: I told her, I washed all of my clothes, but

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Speaker 1: I wasn't going to be her effing made any longer,

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Speaker 2: Because are they not boinking anymore? It's not just Gary now,

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Speaker 2: that's a lot of.

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Speaker 3: Gary and like the five other people. Yeah, her schedules

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Speaker 3: are pretty back. Her schedule is pretty packed, among others things, Oh,

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Speaker 3: she's time to do laundry. No, yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: When I got home, Claire was fixing dinner. I asked

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Speaker 1: with Gary. Damn, just coming straight out.

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Speaker 2: With it, you know what. But I feel like you

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Speaker 1: Yeah at this point that I would understand, but I

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Speaker 1: needed to know where she stood. She said she wanted

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Speaker 1: us to stay together and not to fight anymore.

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Speaker 2: Like there's gonna be an ultimatum soon, it's me or Gary. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So I said we needed a new schedule and at

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Speaker 1: the very least, I wanted two nights in a row

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Speaker 3: I feel like, if you're making these consolations at this point,

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Speaker 3: like the relationship is kind of already over.

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Speaker 2: I mean, Zach, how are we feeling over here? I

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Speaker 2: mean she's engaged to Gary. Like at this point, like

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Speaker 2: your relationship is done. Don't do her laundry, throw her

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Speaker 2: laundry on the lawn. Okay, that's where I come from.

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Speaker 2: You're mad at someone, you throw their laundry on the

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Speaker 2: lawn and you change the lot up the antie. Yeah

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Speaker 2: that anti Yeah, let the neighbors know what's going on.

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Speaker 2: Is that what airing dirty laundry comes from? Oh? Maybe

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Speaker 2: can we just say that's where it came from. Let's

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Speaker 2: just say and just make that a thing. Yeah, it probably.

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Speaker 3: Just means like, when let's see what does that mean?

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Speaker 1: Sam has been every once in a while, his throat

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Speaker 2: This is a disaster. Do you stay or do you go?

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Speaker 2: You go? There's no staying in this, Like why would

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's all you can do what we were saying earlier.

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Speaker 2: Did they've been making a couple of weeks? I feel

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like and then she was back to her way.

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Speaker 3: It's like it's over. I think it's over.

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Speaker 2: That's what you need clear rules from the beginning, like

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Speaker 3: But it's so hard to know what your blind spots

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what you need more than a weekly check in. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you need like active check ins and like maybe approval,

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Speaker 2: like maybe that's your date nights you just swipe through

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Speaker 2: Like I like that one for you? Yeah, I mean yeah,

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Speaker 1: Because honestly, we've read a decent amount of poly stories

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Speaker 3: I feel like something that failed poly relationships have in

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Speaker 2: Yeah, in clear boundaries.

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Speaker 4: Check the stead out.

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Speaker 3: Riley's looking up. How many open relationships work?

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Speaker 2: Here we go. I don't think they ever work?

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Speaker 4: Do They has eight percent success rate?

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Speaker 2: Somebody always falls in love with somebody else.

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Speaker 1: As a wise man once told me, you miss every shot.

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Speaker 1: You don't take buckets?

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Speaker 4: True?

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Speaker 2: Who told you that? Not always?

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Speaker 3: But like we were we had we had a caller

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Speaker 2: So it does kind of like it's like relationship light.

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Speaker 2: When you're young, when you're young and like don't commit,

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Speaker 2: Like that's not fair, Like I don't think it's fair

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Speaker 2: to like want to say I'm with you, but I

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Speaker 3: Feel like open relationships are like limbo land. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 3: again we need to ask y'all, like what are your rules?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, people who are in open relationships, what are your

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Speaker 1: If you've been in or simply just seen a successful

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Speaker 2: I do know of an open marriage that was Like

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Speaker 2: for them it worked. They said that the rules evolved

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Speaker 2: Did you participate? I tried, I tried. I've accept the application.

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Speaker 2: What's wrong with that? I was offended? Come on, have

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Speaker 2: you seen this man's boots? Exactly? They're incredible. They are.

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Speaker 3: We're a no shoe household, so so they may see that. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yes, they are. Just imagine imagine red bottoms. That's all

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Speaker 3: And like a metal on the shoe. Oh yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: But we have some comments, yes and responses. So comment

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Speaker 1: so this is actually essentially an updates from OP. Well,

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Speaker 1: that was good advice, talking to everyone who gave advice.

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Speaker 1: But Clara came home from Gary's and wanted to talk.

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Speaker 1: She gave me a counter proposal that I won't even

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Speaker 2: No, I want to know what the count. I want

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Speaker 2: to know how much she hates this guy? Like does

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Speaker 2: This is like divorce with like a kid at this point.

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Speaker 3: Wow, And Op's the kid, just trying to get a

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Speaker 1: Except instead of two people wanting you, nobody wants to

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Speaker 1: God stalt in the whom I asked again if we

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Speaker 2: So I gave her another deal.

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Speaker 1: If we are going to stay together, then we have

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Speaker 2: Ultimatum me or Gary. All right, well, well let's see.

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Speaker 1: I told her she had to cut contact with Gary

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Speaker 2: Oh god, how First of all, one week is not enough? Right?

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Speaker 2: Gary loose. Gary's always going to win. Yes, yeah, he's

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Speaker 2: for sure, strongest drug out there. I see what you

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Speaker 2: did there, Riley, I thought you did that. No, you

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Speaker 4: I thought you did that because you put the.

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Speaker 1: you meant? Give credit to everyone else. Oh yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: we are just criss crossed all over the place over here,

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Speaker 1: like I picked him. Wait, who said that? That got

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Speaker 1: just me being cruel.

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Speaker 2: Wow, so easy a week a week.

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Speaker 3: That's like that guy in like Nordic solitary confinement complaining

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Speaker 1: Well, this is specifically referencing after the week not being

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Speaker 3: That's dumb, what I'm saying. It is as dumb as

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Speaker 2: Seen this guy? Riley?

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Speaker 3: Pull up a guy in Norway's uh solitary confinement. This

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's a white refrigerator. But still, what's the

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Speaker 2: premium one? It looks great.

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Speaker 1: I mean for a prison, that's incredible. Yeah, that's incredible.

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Speaker 1: Although if I had to live there, I'd be like.

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Speaker 2: No, that was better than my apartment in college.

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Speaker 1: It looks like a college, better than a multi person Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Pictures, pictures of all his lovers also, look up maybe

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Speaker 2: this is Gary. Look up solitary confinement, cruelty. I'm not

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Speaker 3: Maybe he was recently read it. I don't know if

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Speaker 3: that one. That's what I'm talking about. That's his prism.

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Speaker 3: Go go through the pictures, go through the pictures.

439
00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:46,000
Speaker 2: Wow, he has a gym, he has birds. He has

440
00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:49,040
Speaker 2: a basketball court, but it's not heated, it's frozen. Anyway,

441
00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:53,800
Speaker 2: he's getting basketball that snow. How does the snow get

442
00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:56,160
Speaker 2: in the basketball court? I have a question.

443
00:19:56,760 --> 00:19:59,760
Speaker 1: It has like a mesh, kind of not like fully meshed,

444
00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:00,400
Speaker 1: but little.

445
00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:03,240
Speaker 3: The point that I'm trying to make it is not

446
00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:05,160
Speaker 3: cruel what OPI is proposing?

447
00:20:05,359 --> 00:20:08,880
Speaker 2: No, much like this Norwegian bass murderer.

448
00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:11,359
Speaker 1: Point Tagan I reminded her in a few weeks that

449
00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:14,000
Speaker 1: we were supposed to be in a wedding in North Carolina.

450
00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:16,359
Speaker 1: Our friends want both of us in the wedding party

451
00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:19,600
Speaker 1: as bridesmaid and groomsman. I told her, if we don't

452
00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:22,280
Speaker 1: work things out, I wasn't going, which meant that she

453
00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:24,640
Speaker 1: wasn't going to be able to go either, and she

454
00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:27,240
Speaker 1: could explain to our friends why we were backing out

455
00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:27,760
Speaker 1: of the wedding.

456
00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:30,199
Speaker 2: Why couldn't she still go to the wedding with Gary?

457
00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:31,320
Speaker 2: I mean she probably will.

458
00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:34,720
Speaker 1: I feel like ops, like thinking that will stop her,

459
00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:36,960
Speaker 1: But that is like zero leverage.

460
00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,240
Speaker 2: That's like the more reason for her to be like, yeah,

461
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:43,919
Speaker 2: leave so than I can take it. Watched dancing.

462
00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:47,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, and she doesn't have to explain no yeah, oh

463
00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:49,399
Speaker 1: my god, well, I mean she kind of has to

464
00:20:49,440 --> 00:20:53,040
Speaker 1: explain if show her actual life, you're exact, that you're

465
00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 1: so right, maybe people won't notice. Maybe you should just

466
00:20:56,280 --> 00:21:04,720
Speaker 1: pretend that that, like, oh God loses OI feel for you.

467
00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 2: But the thing is this is already a lost cause. Leave.

468
00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:10,800
Speaker 3: Just leave, and you'll be so much better. You'll be

469
00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:12,720
Speaker 3: so much better. The only reason that this sucks is

470
00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:13,760
Speaker 3: because you're choosing the step.

471
00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:16,200
Speaker 2: You need to leave. There's no way around it, or it.

472
00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:18,639
Speaker 3: Sucks more because you're choosing the step. Yes, it's like

473
00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:21,840
Speaker 3: you're in Norwegian solitary confinement and you're choosing to stay

474
00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:22,880
Speaker 3: in the solitary confinement.

475
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 2: Roam free, leave him free. Now.

476
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:28,640
Speaker 1: This was all after being fitted for a tucks in gowns.

477
00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,240
Speaker 1: She cried foul and said that I was just being mean.

478
00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:34,159
Speaker 1: But I didn't budge and said the choice was hers,

479
00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:36,399
Speaker 1: but it was final. She wanted to go talk to

480
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:39,360
Speaker 1: Gary about it. Oh classic, And I said, you can

481
00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:41,560
Speaker 1: call him one more time and talk about it. But

482
00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:43,720
Speaker 1: if she went over there to stay, and when she

483
00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:46,320
Speaker 1: came back, I would get all of her stuff because

484
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:48,800
Speaker 1: I was tired of trying and getting stepped on.

485
00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,119
Speaker 2: So basically is like you're moving out if you go

486
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,560
Speaker 2: to Gary's. I'm glad that OPI finally drew a line

487
00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:55,320
Speaker 2: in the stay. Yes, it's about time.

488
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:59,240
Speaker 1: She finally agreed and called Gary to tell him. I

489
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,800
Speaker 1: didn't listen, but I heard her raise her voice a

490
00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:03,240
Speaker 1: few times afterwards.

491
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:04,160
Speaker 2: I asked her to.

492
00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:06,720
Speaker 1: Block him on her phone and all social media and

493
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,320
Speaker 1: told her if I found out that they had any contact,

494
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,240
Speaker 1: the deal was off and we were done. I know

495
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:15,720
Speaker 1: this sounds controlling and vindictive, but it's the only way

496
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,040
Speaker 1: I know to get back to where we were, and

497
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:20,120
Speaker 1: if it doesn't work, we both can move on.

498
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,440
Speaker 2: There's another update, but don't even try to make it work.

499
00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:25,320
Speaker 2: She's in love with somebody else.

500
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:29,440
Speaker 3: Zach, what is your prediction on what this next update

501
00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:30,280
Speaker 3: will entail?

502
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:33,520
Speaker 2: We tried it, it didn't work. She went back to Gary.

503
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 2: I'm sad and alone. I mean no stra Dam is

504
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:38,400
Speaker 2: over good too.

505
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 1: So Clara and I had a productive discussion this morning

506
00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 1: and we agreed to couples counseling this week.

507
00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:48,919
Speaker 2: Oh okayning the ship going back? I don't think so,

508
00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:51,840
Speaker 2: let's sure, Let's take a ride.

509
00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:54,959
Speaker 1: She deleted her Snapchat and WhatsApp and showed me her

510
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:57,119
Speaker 1: phone and said that she has nothing to hide and

511
00:22:57,200 --> 00:23:00,479
Speaker 1: wanted to be transparent. Gary tried to call me several

512
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:03,600
Speaker 1: times this morning and finally sent a text wanting to

513
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,000
Speaker 1: talk with me. I answered his next call and we

514
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 1: argued a little. I told him I thought my first

515
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 1: proposal was more than fair, and when he shot that down,

516
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:12,240
Speaker 1: I felt it was.

517
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:13,960
Speaker 2: Time for a different course of action.

518
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:17,159
Speaker 3: Beat him up, Beat him up, Yeah, take his dirty

519
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:18,560
Speaker 3: laundry and put it on the car.

520
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 2: Yeah.

521
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 1: And I told him that Clara is free to walk

522
00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:25,480
Speaker 1: away from the agreement we made at any time, and that.

523
00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:27,160
Speaker 2: It was totally up to her.

524
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:29,440
Speaker 1: I told him I thought he was out to break

525
00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 1: us up, and if it was up to me, I

526
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:34,320
Speaker 1: would veto their relationship right now. He made a bunch

527
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 1: of stupid remarks to piss me off, so I just

528
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,719
Speaker 1: hung up and I blocked him. Okay, we have another update.

529
00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:42,920
Speaker 1: Are you still Yeah, we're still riding with Eventually they're

530
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: going to break.

531
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:46,920
Speaker 2: Up, and she's there's a fair amount left. Ye, She's

532
00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:48,960
Speaker 2: going back to Gary by the end of this. Yeah.

533
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:53,239
Speaker 2: Gary always win, always wins. Nice guy's finished last. I

534
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:58,359
Speaker 2: know he is a nice guy. He's getting treated like trash.

535
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:03,040
Speaker 1: But you know who finishes first, Gary Always. Clara called

536
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 1: me today around lunchtime. Gary just couldn't stand being cut

537
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 1: off and came to her work to ask her to

538
00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:09,720
Speaker 1: go to.

539
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:15,280
Speaker 2: Watch Gary get it together. These men like have no

540
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 2: self respect.

541
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:20,879
Speaker 3: Definitely not doing that I feel is negative points for Gary.

542
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 3: I feel like, oh he might be winning Gary. I

543
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:24,880
Speaker 3: think he's inside Gary's head.

544
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 2: This is my games, you know, you don't think it's

545
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 2: going to make her be like, Oh, it's a rom

546
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,919
Speaker 2: com and he loves me. He's bringing me. He's playing

547
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,359
Speaker 2: his boombox outside my job. I feel like you can

548
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:37,199
Speaker 2: play a boom box outside like a house, but outside

549
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:40,360
Speaker 2: your place of work. I feel like, is a bad luck. Yeah,

550
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:42,040
Speaker 2: it's America. It's less romantic.

551
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I seem to recall a certain argument

552
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:48,439
Speaker 1: about taking a boom box somewhere and playing it with

553
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:49,679
Speaker 1: certain stipulations.

554
00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 2: I don't remember this.

555
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 3: But bags, Oh that that so very very quickly, there's

556
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:56,919
Speaker 3: bringing back the bags.

557
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:58,840
Speaker 2: We're bringing a story.

558
00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:02,359
Speaker 3: You're getting caught up in some drama from episodes and

559
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:03,160
Speaker 3: episodes ago.

560
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:05,680
Speaker 1: Opie was down and out with his wife. The wife

561
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:08,320
Speaker 1: was at the parents in Europe. He's like, presumably in

562
00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 1: the US, op with two days notice, just flies to Europe,

563
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,280
Speaker 1: shows up at her doorstep and it's like, baby, I'm

564
00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 1: here to try to make this work.

565
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:18,040
Speaker 2: I need to change, I need to do whatever.

566
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,560
Speaker 1: He had his bags with them, Ok, presuming he's going

567
00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:24,199
Speaker 1: to stay with him, so do you just on his

568
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 1: place of work? So it's still romantic.

569
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:29,239
Speaker 3: The only line that I drew in the sand is

570
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 3: not bringing the boom box and the bags to work.

571
00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 3: You can bring a boombox and bags and I agree,

572
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:36,439
Speaker 3: Oh you do agree? I agree with So I do

573
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 3: win the bags. No, no, you don't win the bags.

574
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,199
Speaker 2: Win the bags. I agree with you. Now would you

575
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 2: bring the bags? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, damn it.

576
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:47,120
Speaker 3: It's safe, well, playing it safe, so he said, yeah,

577
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 3: he said, TiO, this scenario, you lost the bag.

578
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:56,359
Speaker 2: Argument the like die, it's like die, accept it? Accept it?

579
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 2: All right? I lost the bag.

580
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:02,200
Speaker 1: It's over. This is three versus one. I'm not Clara,

581
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 1: but this is three men versus one. And I can't

582
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 1: take you can't take it. I can't take care, all right,

583
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:11,159
Speaker 1: all right, so team bags.

584
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 2: Okay.

585
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 1: So remember Gary had showed up to her place of

586
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 1: work tried to get her to go to lunch.

587
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 2: She refused and got loud and made a scene.

588
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 1: She ended up getting security called to remove Gary from

589
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 1: the building.

590
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 2: Gary's losing. Oh no, I'm sad for Gary. He found

591
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 2: the love of his life. She just happened to be

592
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:35,439
Speaker 2: in a relationship with somebody else the whole time. And

593
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 2: finally Opie's winning. And you're like, I like Gary, do

594
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 2: you in the story listen, Clara is the villain. Let's

595
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 2: be very clear. Gary is just the you know, the

596
00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 2: actually is true Clara time, I was like, fucking Gary

597
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 2: is the bad person, but Clara really is that Gary

598
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: did was fall in love in a woman and she

599
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 2: was technically available.

600
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 3: You are changing my mind on this, but I should

601
00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:05,480
Speaker 3: if Clara's Voltimore?

602
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:08,160
Speaker 2: Is Gary a death eater though? Like is he He's

603
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:12,880
Speaker 2: like following Clara eater? You know, but oh that's true?

604
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:14,120
Speaker 2: I think, yes, I.

605
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:17,400
Speaker 3: Think, I think I think Clara's Voldemore and these guys

606
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 3: are death like Gary.

607
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 1: Gary is clearly trying to like break the relationship apart

608
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 1: because Gary fell in love. Yeah, but do you not

609
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: believe in love? I believe in love, but I don't

610
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:31,359
Speaker 1: believe in breaking relationships over just what you feel. But

611
00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:35,439
Speaker 1: I do realize every rom com is like, fuck, whatever

612
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,880
Speaker 1: relationship happened, Love is the only thing that matters.

613
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,920
Speaker 2: And love is this relationship, not that one. But I'm

614
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 2: not on board with that. Dude. Let's see how this plays.

615
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 1: Let's let's keep going. He embarrassed her at work and

616
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 1: she is living. She then had to answer a lot

617
00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: of personal questions to her boss about who he was

618
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 1: and more questions about us? How do you explain that

619
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 1: when she got home she wanted to call and talk

620
00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 1: to him. I said that that was a bad idea,

621
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:01,800
Speaker 1: and that she said there were things she needed to

622
00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 1: tell him, and said that she would do it on

623
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 1: speakerphone so I could hear. So I listened as she

624
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 1: called him. She told him coming to her work and

625
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 1: embarrassing her was unacceptable. Then she said she needed space

626
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 1: to work on our relationship meaning op and Clara, on

627
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:18,720
Speaker 1: our relationship that she had neglected, and that now she

628
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:21,959
Speaker 1: needed at least two weeks with no contact before they

629
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 1: could see each other.

630
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 2: Keeps going in Opie's favor.

631
00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 1: He kept trying to talk over her, but she shut

632
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 1: him down and told him if he couldn't respect her wishes,

633
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:32,960
Speaker 1: then maybe I was right and she should cut him

634
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:33,879
Speaker 1: off permanently.

635
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 2: Then she hung up the phone.

636
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: She got off work and broke or she got off

637
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 1: the call and broke down telling me about the fallof

638
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 1: from work. Her boss is making her pay for a

639
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:46,840
Speaker 1: window that Gary broke as security was escorting him out.

640
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 2: Why does she even want to see this guy? After

641
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 2: two weeks do we find out how he broke the window? Therefore? Oh,

642
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 2: I imagine with his fists or he was singing, Oh

643
00:28:56,560 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 2: and you just hit that high note a love. Yeah. Now,

644
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 2: would you agree that Gary is a death eater? I

645
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 2: need more contact? What more content?

646
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 3: You're telling me breaking a window isn't enough for you?

647
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 2: But she was so into him that I just I

648
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 2: need to know what was keeping her there five days

649
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 2: a week. Well, one thing. Maybe that's how he broke

650
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 2: the window. He didn't need a fist.

651
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 3: I think you just want someone to break a window

652
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,400
Speaker 3: for I would love that.

653
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 2: Actually a very sweet gesture. Somebody watching break a window

654
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 2: for Zachary would be mortified, but like also like how endearing?

655
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, like forever and ever.

656
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 3: He would be like, yeah, that's the one got time,

657
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 3: Like someone broke a window for me because they loved

658
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 3: me so much.

659
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: I mean, if someone breaks the window for you, your

660
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 1: hot stuff, you're like your window breaking material.

661
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 3: Yeah get it, Clara. Yeah, it's like if someone had

662
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 3: a duel over you. It's like wow, like hot hot Yeah,

663
00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 3: kind of in the mud. Oh, there we go a

664
00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 3: little mud wrestling.

665
00:29:58,440 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, never hurt nobody.

666
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 1: And they also gave her a verbal warning at work

667
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 1: and said that if ever happened again, that she would

668
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 1: get a letter in her file. Oh not in her file. Yeah,

669
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 1: I don't know you even know what that means. The

670
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 1: letter I mean in the big corporate structure. I love you, babe.

671
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: I'll break any windows I need for you. It's been

672
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 1: a fortnight since I spoke to you last night. It's

673
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 1: the warm embrace of your bosom. Please right back quickly.

674
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. So we still have some comments and updates.

675
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 3: Well, I have one real quick thing about just like

676
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:37,920
Speaker 3: dueling for loved. So apparently in early nineteen hundreds in Germany,

677
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 3: it was like all these German dudes had scars on

678
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 3: their eyes and their faces because it was fashionable to

679
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 3: get scars while dueling. And so, like you know when

680
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 3: you see those those like movies where it's like the

681
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 3: Nazi has like some like crazy scar in their head,

682
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 3: that was actually accurate because they were all dueling with

683
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,480
Speaker 3: each other, and some people would just give it to

684
00:30:57,480 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 3: themselves so they would have a cool scar and it

685
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 3: would look like they were dueling glorious battle.

686
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 1: That's interesting crazy, But I mean like things people do

687
00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 1: for beauty, for beauty, for love, for love, for love

688
00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 1: love wins, get some dueling scars.

689
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, break a window.

690
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 1: I'm good, break a window. I mean that's one way

691
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: to get a scar my goodness. Oh oh, so Riley

692
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 1: did some research. In the corporate context, receiving a letter

693
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 1: in the file often signifies the formal documentation of the

694
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 1: performance disciplinary action, and it's maintained by HR for the

695
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 1: management process.

696
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 2: So I mean, yeah, it seems like, but what does

697
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 2: it do.

698
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 4: It's just like keeping a tab on you.

699
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 2: It's like not yeah, but it doesn't really do anything.

700
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 2: It doesn't sound like it does anything.

701
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 1: I guess it's like, hey, we have a record. So

702
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 1: if we go back and like, does this person.

703
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 2: You get two letters next time? It's the history. How

704
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 2: many letters do you need to get fired? Yeah? I

705
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 2: feel like having a random dude that's not even your

706
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 2: man show up and break a window, like you need

707
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 2: more than a letter.

708
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 3: Feotechnically, it wasn't her, Like she didn't break the window,

709
00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 3: that's her fault. Like if one of my ex lovers

710
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 3: comes in like break some stuff, it's not my fault.

711
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 2: You're getting a letter. I'm getting letter with it, but

712
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 2: like like I didn't do anything.

713
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 4: Well, we're gonna write one.

714
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:09,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, gonna write it. Yeah. Riley is a serial letter writer.

715
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 3: He is.

716
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 2: They're very cute.

717
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:13,239
Speaker 3: How would my letter start if your ex came in here,

718
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 3: came here and broke a window, Sam.

719
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 4: I'm disappointed. Pick better people.

720
00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 2: That's why we broke up.

721
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 4: She can't be in here anymore.

722
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 2: That's why it broke up, and we don't talk. You

723
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 2: should have.

724
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 5: Picked better in the beginning, so she wouldn't do this.

725
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 5: Now my things got broke, I'd be like, I'm very mad.

726
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,280
Speaker 5: Here's an invoice, love Love.

727
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 3: I think it's fair for the person to pay. Like,

728
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 3: if one of Riley's x levers broke one of my things.

729
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 2: I would make me pay. You would, yeah, I wouldn't.

730
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,520
Speaker 4: I would make you pay better than me now if

731
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 4: you had, if you like, it depends.

732
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:45,000
Speaker 2: On what people hit the back of my car and

733
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 2: I didn't make them pay. Wow.

734
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 4: Wow, he's a good guy like that.

735
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 5: If there's a lamp, dude, it's fun of replacement. I mean, sorry,

736
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 5: we had this lamp that's in the story's lamp.

737
00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 2: So she broke the lamp. You would be like, Sam,

738
00:32:58,240 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 2: find another lamp.

739
00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah yeah, or like, find something that works in

740
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 5: my room that fits the vibe. Yeah, Like you guys

741
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:05,720
Speaker 5: could have the lamp. I just need someone to find

742
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 5: a lamp that can fit the vibe my room. But

743
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 5: that was just making it happen.

744
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, well we will find a new lamp.

745
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,720
Speaker 1: You're getting a lot of insider baseball on his episode,

746
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:19,239
Speaker 1: My goodness. But the lamp saga, the bag saga, it

747
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 1: goes really, it goes super deep, just like Gary. Oh

748
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 1: my goodness. And speaking of like Gary, we're gonna keep going.

749
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:33,160
Speaker 1: This comment comes from the Dodsworth. Honestly, hope this is

750
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 1: the end of Gary for the both of you. Massive

751
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 1: red flags to show up at Claire's work like this. Also,

752
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: what the f is Claire's boss giving her an actual

753
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: verbal warning over a potential abuser coming to her workplace unannounced?

754
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:48,680
Speaker 2: Oh, he replies, That's kind of what I was saying.

755
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 2: It's not her fault.

756
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 1: Oh oh, I thought they were like only is giving

757
00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 1: her Oh you're right, you're right.

758
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like why she getting like punished for it? Right?

759
00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:59,320
Speaker 3: And here we go, Riley is invoicing me for things

760
00:33:59,400 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 3: I didn't do.

761
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:03,920
Speaker 1: Clara is still extremely agitated about the incident, but I

762
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 1: don't know that he is completely done just yet. Let's

763
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 1: just say that Clara may have taken off her rose

764
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,960
Speaker 1: colored glasses. It's been really hard not to pile on

765
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 1: and say I told you so, or make other disparaging

766
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 1: comments about him. I mean, I understand the temptation. Her

767
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 1: coworkers and her boss felt like her coworkers and potential

768
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:23,799
Speaker 1: clients that were in the lobby were put at risk

769
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,959
Speaker 1: and the whole thing was grossly unprofessional. They went from

770
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 1: arguing to yelling, and when Gary got physical, Clara had

771
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 1: to go get the security guard to escort him off

772
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 1: the premises.

773
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 3: So she was yelling back, yes, okay, So I can

774
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:39,279
Speaker 3: understand that, Like if it's like someone coming in and

775
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 3: like you know, like Roy in the office where it

776
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:43,319
Speaker 3: comes in and it's like I'm gonna go punch Jim

777
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 3: and then Dwight hits him with the pepper spray, Like, yeah,

778
00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 3: that's not Pam's fault. Pam didn't do anything. But if

779
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 3: Pam's arguing with him, like yeah, and that's where I

780
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 3: can see it written in fraction, you're helping escalate. That's

781
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:56,320
Speaker 3: the letter letter worthy.

782
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 2: They talked about that at the office for a while,

783
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:04,319
Speaker 2: I mean, talk about TikTok somewhere the water cooler talk

784
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 2: was heating up. Oh god.

785
00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:08,759
Speaker 1: The subject matter and the details were that Gary was

786
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:11,319
Speaker 1: yelling at the top of his lungs. That was evidently

787
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:14,479
Speaker 1: a bit too scandalous, seeing as I had attended many

788
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:17,279
Speaker 1: company functions as her plus one and was considered her

789
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 1: other half interesting.

790
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 2: So it kind of sounds like it revealed the openness

791
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 2: of their relationship and that the company is kind of

792
00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:27,200
Speaker 2: frowning upon that. Rude.

793
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 3: Well, I think what people probably assume is that she

794
00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 3: was cheating.

795
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 1: Yes, they probably don't know what, but she said that

796
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 1: she explained the nature of her relationship to her boss

797
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 1: after the incident.

798
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:39,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's allowed to cheat.

799
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:42,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, she has a hall pass with the weekly checking. Yeah,

800
00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 1: an unlimited hall pass.

801
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 3: But everyone else in the office is probably thinking, like, oh,

802
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 3: she was cheating.

803
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 2: That's true, that's true. What would be talking about this

804
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:53,560
Speaker 2: rumor forever? I mean, come on, it's what else has

805
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 2: happened in her file? She's a cheater? Yeah, Now we

806
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 2: have an update. Friday night, we had a double date

807
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:03,879
Speaker 2: with another couple and who should show up? But Gary?

808
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:07,400
Speaker 1: Gary was the dateting someone else just to infiltrate the

809
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 1: double bit.

810
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:09,080
Speaker 2: My god.

811
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 1: Dinner followed by one of the favorite bands at a

812
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:15,319
Speaker 1: club downtown. I seem to remember someone who had a

813
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:16,279
Speaker 1: favorite band.

814
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 2: That he wanted to see.

815
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 1: But I see you in the comments, if you see

816
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:21,359
Speaker 1: what might be about to go down?

817
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 2: Tun'd you there wasn't. This wasn't the end of Garrett.

818
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:27,360
Speaker 2: Gary's gonna be at the show for sure. Yes, Gary's

819
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:27,800
Speaker 2: the band.

820
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 3: It's like I got fired from my job, so I

821
00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:32,400
Speaker 3: started a ska band.

822
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 2: I broke window for you, baby, that's gonna happen.

823
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:39,359
Speaker 3: I could see that being a good song, right, good

824
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 3: country song. Yeah, I'll break every window. Yeah, because I know.

825
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:52,840
Speaker 6: That from the window to the wall, I will break

826
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:53,319
Speaker 6: it all.

827
00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:57,480
Speaker 2: We'll make it through it all. We will have a

828
00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 2: ball and I will stand. It's all because I love

829
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 2: you threw it all. Come on, that's the song. Yeah,

830
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:12,080
Speaker 2: that's the second. Well. I woke up this morning with

831
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 2: a heartache.

832
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 6: I found a good bye note and oh, for goodness sakes.

833
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 2: You took my love and you threw it right out.

834
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 1: Now I'm sitting here so full of doubt, spy windows

835
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:28,359
Speaker 1: shattering dreams.

836
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:34,319
Speaker 6: You love me with all these broke It seems your love.

837
00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:40,080
Speaker 3: Was like herricane now cleaning up the mess.

838
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:41,720
Speaker 2: I can't stand the pain.

839
00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:45,879
Speaker 1: Wow, GBT writing songs out here?

840
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:50,439
Speaker 2: Wow do you like that number? I'm downloading it right

841
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 2: now Spotify and saved a to Q pre saved Wow dude,

842
00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 2: go on. So that was That was beautiful.

843
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: Dinner was and we had a good table reserved at

844
00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:04,399
Speaker 1: the club. As I'm coming back from the men's room,

845
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:08,279
Speaker 1: I see who else but Gary, of course, yep, who

846
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:13,240
Speaker 1: has spotted Clara and is making a bee lying Gary.

847
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 2: Restraining losing points real fast. He does. He needs a

848
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 2: restraining order.

849
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 1: I got to the table first and told Clara we

850
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:24,400
Speaker 1: needed to leave. Gary told Clara that he needed to

851
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:26,799
Speaker 1: talk to her, and I said something like in a

852
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 1: week maybe, and then he sucker punched me.

853
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:35,720
Speaker 2: In the face. Gary. Yes, Gary is like very violent.

854
00:38:35,960 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 2: He is he is. He punched a window, then he

855
00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 2: punched Ope, he did. Op He's just getting freaking this

856
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:45,560
Speaker 2: shit kicked out of him emotionally. No, he can't win.

857
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 2: That's what he gets for not setting clear ground rules.

858
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,839
Speaker 1: Opie, cannot win. I got up from the floor and

859
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 1: just looked at him and he hit me again. Oh

860
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 1: my god. By that time, the bouncers had him and

861
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:58,839
Speaker 1: we were walking him to the door. By the time

862
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 1: I got to the door, the hops had him and

863
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:05,080
Speaker 1: asked if I wanted to press charges, and I said absolutely.

864
00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 1: I took a selfie to preserve the moment. He blooded

865
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 1: me up pretty good. Needless to say, we didn't stay

866
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:13,880
Speaker 1: for the show. Clara drove us home and on the

867
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 1: way asked if I was really gonna press charges, yes,

868
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 1: and if maybe it would be better if we just

869
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:20,719
Speaker 1: let it go.

870
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 2: See, I think Gary's making a comeback.

871
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:28,439
Speaker 3: Oh god, after this, how can Clara before this guy's.

872
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:31,800
Speaker 2: Told you, Clara hasn't been ready to quit it yet.

873
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, She's waiting for that two weeks to

874
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 2: come up and then she's going to have to evaluate

875
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 2: her options. This is insane.

876
00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: My goodness, I said no, I was assaulted and he

877
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:44,719
Speaker 1: wasn't going to get away with that. By the time

878
00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 1: we got home, my face was swollen in changing color. Jesus,

879
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:52,040
Speaker 1: and when Clara saw my face she just cried. She

880
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,080
Speaker 1: cleaned me up and got a couple of ice packs

881
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 1: for the swelling. She called Gary, which went to voicemail, obviously,

882
00:39:57,480 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 1: but she told him off and said that he had

883
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:02,760
Speaker 1: gone too and she never wanted to hear from him again.

884
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:06,320
Speaker 2: There we go until the end of the two weeks.

885
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:09,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, oh god, please no, let that be the

886
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:14,400
Speaker 1: next sentence update, and then added, we were filling a

887
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 1: VPO asap.

888
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 2: And what is a VPO A violent possession order, violent

889
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 2: person order. That sounds more, sounds very accurate.

890
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:27,279
Speaker 1: Victim protection order, victim protection order, that makes we got

891
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 1: order right, Yeah, there we go, here we go. This

892
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 1: morning we talked mainly about ways to keep this from

893
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 1: getting out of hand. She set some new boundaries for

894
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,760
Speaker 1: herself and a limit on how long she could spend

895
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:40,280
Speaker 1: time with a new partner.

896
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 3: Okay, cool, So they now are making sure they have

897
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 3: good rules for this relationship.

898
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 2: I mean it took long enough. She was really holding

899
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 2: on to Gary. Oh my god.

900
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:55,759
Speaker 1: She set some pretty tight parameters that I won't hold

901
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:57,879
Speaker 1: her to because they're not realistic.

902
00:40:58,000 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 2: I think they are. I don't even know what they are,

903
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:02,280
Speaker 2: but a more realistic than what was in line before

904
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:03,280
Speaker 2: that was correct.

905
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:05,359
Speaker 1: We both have said some hurtful things in the last

906
00:41:05,400 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 1: few weeks that have left some deep wounds, but I

907
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 1: think we can get past it, if we can get

908
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,479
Speaker 1: back to where we were. I'm thinking about asking her

909
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 1: to marry me.

910
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 3: Oh god, after all this, Oh now, this has instilled

911
00:41:21,040 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 3: confidence in the relationship walking down.

912
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:26,799
Speaker 2: I mean, clearly she's got something going on over here.

913
00:41:27,080 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

914
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:29,479
Speaker 2: I know she wants it.

915
00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:32,439
Speaker 1: And thinks it will bind us closer together, but there

916
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 1: is some trust that needs to be built first.

917
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 3: No shit, I would not rush into marriage, my guy.

918
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 3: I would not rush in wow. Wow, what do you think, Zach?

919
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 3: Do you think they should get married?

920
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:48,319
Speaker 2: Yes? And I want Gary at the wedding return of

921
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 2: the Gary. Oh oh exactly. We need that moment. God.

922
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 2: You're just here for the living, for the tea in

923
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 2: the want all the tea. Oh my god. I just

924
00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 2: need to know what does Gary look like. I have

925
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 2: so many questions about Gary. I need context. I see

926
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 2: hihim oh. I feel like Gary's pretty hot. I don't

927
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:12,399
Speaker 2: think Gary is hot at all. You don't Thinky's hot now.

928
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 2: I think he's like a big berry man that's bald.

929
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:20,440
Speaker 3: I think he's like Thor. No, I think he's I

930
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:22,440
Speaker 3: think he's hot in Thor like No.

931
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 1: I think because I think he like attacks people in

932
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 1: like a drunk like sad way, you know, like even

933
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: if he's.

934
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 3: Not, I think it's still drunk. And sad, even if

935
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 3: Thor is beating you up. But it's like.

936
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 2: Thor is not beating anybody yet. No, no, no, I mean no,

937
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 2: he is not being anybody. Gary is not beating anybody up.

938
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 2: Garry just beat up. It's yeah, what about very bad?

939
00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:53,319
Speaker 2: He's face change color and.

940
00:42:53,560 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, crazy Gary is class one maniac. But we

941
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:03,160
Speaker 1: have some relevant comments. This is from another throwaway throw

942
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:04,920
Speaker 1: away two to five five zeros or one?

943
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 2: Are people thrown away so much? That's the question that

944
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 2: needs to answer. Yeah, they need to throw away this relationship.

945
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 1: Yes, that is what needs to be thrown away. Honestly,

946
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:15,640
Speaker 1: I said it in another post. Clara asking you not

947
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:18,239
Speaker 1: to press charges would be the final nail in the

948
00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:19,959
Speaker 1: coffin for me, the.

949
00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 2: Final There were like ten other nails, but I feel

950
00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:24,319
Speaker 2: like I have really sealed that at least at least

951
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 2: it should have been this.

952
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 1: If ever a partner said that to me, especially after

953
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 1: specifically what had happened to you, that would be it.

954
00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 3: Honestly, are you okay? Are you physically okay? And like,

955
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:36,440
Speaker 3: are you sure you want to jump into this no

956
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:39,440
Speaker 3: emotional frickin' landfill?

957
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:43,600
Speaker 1: To that point, maybe you should reevaluate your relationship. Really,

958
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 1: it is not cool. And I get the sense that

959
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,759
Speaker 1: you were trying to rugsweep the severity of her actions.

960
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 3: Yes, exactly that everything that happened, even though it ended

961
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 3: up in a spot that Op liked, is not excusable

962
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:57,319
Speaker 3: and it is.

963
00:43:57,400 --> 00:44:00,240
Speaker 2: A massive red flag.

964
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,920
Speaker 3: We've witnessed like red flag after red flag in this story,

965
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 3: Like we basically could have been waiving this flag the

966
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:07,480
Speaker 3: entire story.

967
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 2: See. But I think Gary's mind type what the bear type? No,

968
00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 2: like the red flag type, the red flag my favorite.

969
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 2: You love the red flag. That's why I think I'm

970
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 2: rooting for Gary at the end of this.

971
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 3: Because you just want an opportunity to throw everything out

972
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:22,160
Speaker 3: on the lawn.

973
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 2: Yes, that's childhood years. Yes, we haven't had any long Yeah. No,

974
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:32,360
Speaker 2: I mean I don't like any of them. I was

975
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 2: trying to find which character is the most redeeming even No,

976
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:38,720
Speaker 2: even OPI's not like he needs to go to therapy,

977
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 2: he needs to he needs to learn how to love.

978
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, I don't feel like Ope loves himself enough.

979
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:46,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, like all these things are happening, and like

980
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 1: remember when Op was like, oh, I feel like this

981
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 1: might be cruel and an addictive. It's like, no, like

982
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:54,040
Speaker 1: you deserve someone who's just like, Hey, I'm gonna be

983
00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 1: here for you and I'm not going to like run

984
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 1: around and break our trust and break the rules we set.

985
00:44:58,719 --> 00:45:00,960
Speaker 2: Like I don't know, but they didn't had any rules

986
00:45:01,520 --> 00:45:08,239
Speaker 2: basically not she follow God, which is so crazy. Wow,

987
00:45:08,280 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 2: if she that should not be trusted. She didn't break

988
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 2: any rules and she picked op in the end.

989
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:19,400
Speaker 1: I think she's a hero in this story, Voldemort turning

990
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 1: around question mark. She She's definitely a serpent tongue, that's

991
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 1: for sure.

992
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 2: I think I do have Voldemort somewhere in here.

993
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize the connection that this was the

994
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:32,480
Speaker 1: Harry Potter set.

995
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:33,919
Speaker 4: You didn't know it was a Harry Potter set.

996
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 2: I did. But wait, is this this is nearly the

997
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 2: same who Tom Riddle? Where does this go? I don't know.

998
00:45:47,360 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 5: Off it fell off on the left right where the

999
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 5: white guy with the snake is holding.

1000
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:53,040
Speaker 2: It feels like it's not meant to have a pokey.

1001
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 2: I'm going to put it right here. Hokey pokey, there

1002
00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:55,480
Speaker 2: we go.

1003
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was like something like that.

1004
00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 2: That feels like, so this is Tom Riddle opening up

1005
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 2: the chamber of secrets.

1006
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 1: That's scary that and that's what she deserves. So Opie

1007
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 1: responded to all this saying, Clara asking you. So he's

1008
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: talking about the part where about Clara asking to not

1009
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:13,839
Speaker 1: press charges. The bar was dark and then she never

1010
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:15,760
Speaker 1: got a good look at my face until we got.

1011
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:20,440
Speaker 2: Home, and so she was like it was fun. Come on,

1012
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 2: She's trying him not to press charges while not look

1013
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:25,880
Speaker 2: getting a clear shot of his face. She saw everything

1014
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 2: that happened though, Like she saw him like, yeah, ack him.

1015
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,359
Speaker 3: The shit kicked out of him, and she's like, it's

1016
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 3: not that bad, suck it up. And then she's had

1017
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:35,320
Speaker 3: his face and she's like, oh, oh sorry.

1018
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:37,880
Speaker 1: By then it had started to swell and turn colors.

1019
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:40,280
Speaker 1: I don't think she thought I got hurt that bad.

1020
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 1: And when she realized it, she did one eighty and

1021
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 1: unloaded on him, even if it was just a voicemail.

1022
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 1: At first she said she thought filing charges would make

1023
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 1: things worse, and later she was all for it.

1024
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 2: Okay, so she's coming around. Yeah, but again just red

1025
00:46:55,080 --> 00:46:58,080
Speaker 2: flag after red flag. I don't know she's redeeming herself.

1026
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:00,799
Speaker 2: It's a kiro arc. She is trying to come back.

1027
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:04,359
Speaker 2: She is attempting to long enough. I think she can

1028
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 2: come back to someone else. I don't think he needs

1029
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:10,840
Speaker 2: to be around. Yeah, his relationship needs to be done. Yeah, yeah, Like,

1030
00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:12,279
Speaker 2: I don't know if you can come back from this.

1031
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 2: It's just so much like at the wedding though, and

1032
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,759
Speaker 2: he's like, oh, you know, she left me and I

1033
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:20,640
Speaker 2: thought we were done and then we've been through it

1034
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 2: all together.

1035
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:26,600
Speaker 3: And the air that wedding, this whole reddit post, it's like,

1036
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:29,560
Speaker 3: and this is proved that we should be married to

1037
00:47:29,560 --> 00:47:33,720
Speaker 3: everyone in the audiences love wins. In the end, Gary

1038
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:38,240
Speaker 3: almost won. Gary kot it was Gary one zero. Yeah,

1039
00:47:38,640 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 3: exactly Gary, Gary one, at least in terms in physically,

1040
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 3: I'm not for this relationship.

1041
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:49,800
Speaker 2: Well, gentlemen, yes, John, we have one final concluding update.

1042
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:53,840
Speaker 2: Let's hit it, because yeah, this is this is emotionally,

1043
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:56,960
Speaker 2: this is a roller coaster. This has been a saga.

1044
00:47:57,080 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 2: I swear if Gary comes back, Gary's going to come back.

1045
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:00,440
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

1046
00:48:00,520 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 3: I Gary's like a cockroach. I pray a nuclear freakin' cockroach.

1047
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 3: Cockula roach.

1048
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 1: So I filed assault charges against Gary after the depositions.

1049
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 1: The assistant district attorney filed a felony assault charge against

1050
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 1: him and had a judge issue a victim protective order

1051
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 1: for me and Clara.

1052
00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 2: Wow.

1053
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:24,840
Speaker 1: Oh wow, I didn't even register. That is a felony.

1054
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 1: Good good, my god. I received a letter from Gary's

1055
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 1: lawyer with an apology and a plea for dropping the

1056
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:36,759
Speaker 1: assault charge because it would trigger action from a deferred

1057
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:41,719
Speaker 1: sentence he had in another case. Sounds like Gary has

1058
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:46,920
Speaker 1: some behaviors that are and also it's like coherent to end.

1059
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, very Gary beat someone else up, so

1060
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:50,799
Speaker 2: they want to like punish it more.

1061
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:55,359
Speaker 1: It's like, uh, yeah, good history ti.

1062
00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:58,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, He's like, yeah, he didn't get punished the first time.

1063
00:48:58,440 --> 00:49:00,000
Speaker 3: Can you make sure he doesn't getunies in this second?

1064
00:49:00,360 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 2: Hello? Please?

1065
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:05,640
Speaker 1: I spoke with the assistant district attorney and reaffirmed my

1066
00:49:05,800 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 1: resolve in my case. Last Thursday, Gary entered into a

1067
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 1: plea deal, pleaded no contest, and received a six month

1068
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 1: jail sentence versus the three to five years that he

1069
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:21,280
Speaker 1: could have received, also with three years on probation.

1070
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 2: What does no contest mean? I think, Oh, I'm not guilty,

1071
00:49:24,800 --> 00:49:27,400
Speaker 2: I'm not innocent. Whatever you think I am is what

1072
00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 2: I am. Oh. So it's like you get to decide. Basically,

1073
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:34,720
Speaker 2: it's like, yeah, it's like, I'm not entering a plea

1074
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:37,399
Speaker 2: I'll let you determine how it all shakes out. You're

1075
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 2: relinquishing your opportunity to take like a plea deal or

1076
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 2: to fight it. You're just like, I'll let the evidence.

1077
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:45,120
Speaker 4: Put in itself. Just accept the punishment. And they don't

1078
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 4: like you said.

1079
00:49:45,840 --> 00:49:49,239
Speaker 3: Oh, okay, so he's not contesting the punishment, correct.

1080
00:49:48,960 --> 00:49:51,360
Speaker 1: And does that do you know if that gives generally

1081
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:53,560
Speaker 1: gives because a plea deal, I imagine would get would

1082
00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:54,440
Speaker 1: be like, well.

1083
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 2: Only if there's a deal to take.

1084
00:49:57,440 --> 00:50:00,320
Speaker 3: He accepted the plea deal, which if you accept the

1085
00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:01,720
Speaker 3: plea deal, that plead guilty.

1086
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:05,000
Speaker 2: Oh, if you accept a plea deal, you're clean guilty

1087
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 2: and they'll give you They'll say, okay, your sentence is

1088
00:50:07,640 --> 00:50:10,600
Speaker 2: five years, Well we'll give you one year with probation

1089
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:12,719
Speaker 2: if you say that you're guilty. And so you're like,

1090
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 2: rather than taking this to court and possibly facing five years,

1091
00:50:16,160 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 2: I'll take a plea deal, say I'm guilty and on

1092
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:19,399
Speaker 2: the get one year. But in this case he did,

1093
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 2: he pleaded no contest, just to let it all kind

1094
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:23,880
Speaker 2: of shake out. There's probably no plea deal on the table,

1095
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:25,400
Speaker 2: given that he has a history.

1096
00:50:25,719 --> 00:50:29,280
Speaker 1: Okay, and he's like, at least he retains his uh,

1097
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:30,680
Speaker 1: not his innocence, but his.

1098
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:33,919
Speaker 2: Never he didn't plead guilty. Oh my god, he knows

1099
00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 2: he's not innocent.

1100
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 1: So he's basically going to serve a six month jail

1101
00:50:37,640 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 1: sentence and have three years on probation.

1102
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:41,359
Speaker 3: At least he's getting a little bit of jail time.

1103
00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 3: Like I feel like that's important.

1104
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:43,359
Speaker 2: Yes. Yes.

1105
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:47,719
Speaker 1: The judge also issued a restraining order barring any contact

1106
00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:51,960
Speaker 1: between Gary and either of us for five years after

1107
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:55,200
Speaker 1: he gets out of jail, So like, really five and

1108
00:50:55,200 --> 00:50:57,919
Speaker 1: a half years, because in jail for six months. God,

1109
00:50:57,920 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 1: if Clara goes back now, Claria goes back now. So

1110
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 1: for Claria, she has been to her personal therapist four

1111
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:07,400
Speaker 1: times in the last two weeks and is going once

1112
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:10,360
Speaker 1: every other week going forward. We just had our second

1113
00:51:10,360 --> 00:51:13,799
Speaker 1: couple's counseling session Friday. I don't know all the details

1114
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 1: from her, but we have structured a check in conversation

1115
00:51:17,840 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 1: a free week now.

1116
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 2: Oh, the weekly check in. They're back.

1117
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:27,160
Speaker 3: Oh sick. The relationship is going to be fine. I

1118
00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:28,799
Speaker 3: thought they weren't going to have a weekly check in

1119
00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 3: and so I was worried. But now that they have one,

1120
00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 3: it's gonna be all good.

1121
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:35,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought Garry ruined all moore. Gary's coming up. Wow.

1122
00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:38,520
Speaker 1: She has had two panic attacks that her therapist has

1123
00:51:38,560 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 1: said were triggered by the guilt and self shaming that

1124
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 1: she is working on. She has closed her side of

1125
00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 1: the relationship for the near future.

1126
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:48,839
Speaker 2: Thank god, her side. Yeah, I guess Gary oh pie

1127
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:51,640
Speaker 2: still slang in that's right, Yes, I think so.

1128
00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:54,880
Speaker 1: And when she feels ready, it will only be kink

1129
00:51:54,960 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 1: in couples events where we play together. After missing the

1130
00:51:58,120 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 1: numerous red flags with Gary, she had zero self confidence

1131
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 1: in her ability to recognize the warning flags when getting

1132
00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:07,480
Speaker 1: into a relationship, and she set a list of boundaries

1133
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 1: if she ever decides to date solo again that even

1134
00:52:10,520 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 1: our couple's therapist found a bit over the top.

1135
00:52:13,239 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 2: Here are the highlights.

1136
00:52:14,880 --> 00:52:18,760
Speaker 1: Zero to three months, six hour date maximum, twelve pm

1137
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:20,280
Speaker 1: curfew once a week max.

1138
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:22,080
Speaker 2: Why is that hurt? Crazy?

1139
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:27,359
Speaker 3: What kind of therapists are they getting where it's just like, whoa.

1140
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:30,040
Speaker 1: What if it's a polyamorous relationship therapist, because I mean

1141
00:52:30,040 --> 00:52:30,760
Speaker 1: that is their.

1142
00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:33,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, poly therapist? Does that exist? Let us know in

1143
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:35,600
Speaker 2: the comments, does that mean you're open and you're allowed

1144
00:52:35,640 --> 00:52:37,200
Speaker 2: to see other therapists.

1145
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:41,600
Speaker 1: Zach with the ziggers, ladies and gentlemen, and then the

1146
00:52:41,640 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 1: other stipulation if it's three to nine months in ten

1147
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 1: hours date max, one am curfew, no overnights once a

1148
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 1: week and only one weekend day a month.

1149
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:53,799
Speaker 2: I mean I do like these. I do like is strong?

1150
00:52:53,960 --> 00:52:57,160
Speaker 3: Sure, Yeah, it's very clear, Like if you're going home

1151
00:52:57,200 --> 00:52:59,120
Speaker 3: past twelve, then you've broken your rule.

1152
00:52:59,320 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 1: I'm just like, yes, Like it's good that she's setting

1153
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:02,719
Speaker 1: it for herself so.

1154
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:05,439
Speaker 2: Late to be out twelve. Yeah, with like somebody else

1155
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:08,080
Speaker 2: that's not your partner. I agree, Yeah, I agree. And

1156
00:53:08,160 --> 00:53:09,880
Speaker 2: if you behave you get an extra hour? Like what

1157
00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:11,719
Speaker 2: are you doing with this extra hour?

1158
00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 1: Banging On a positive note, she is eating better and

1159
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:18,640
Speaker 1: trying to go two to three days a week to

1160
00:53:18,680 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 1: the gym before she goes to work, and wants to

1161
00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:22,880
Speaker 1: get an exercise bike for the house. As for me,

1162
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:25,560
Speaker 1: I ended up canceling a date with my other partner

1163
00:53:25,760 --> 00:53:28,120
Speaker 1: and due to scheduling conflicts, we won't see each other

1164
00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:31,040
Speaker 1: until after Labor Day. I forgot that OPI has literally

1165
00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 1: been dating other people this entire time. I cannot even imagine.

1166
00:53:34,560 --> 00:53:37,239
Speaker 3: I feel like there's so much to go through emotionally

1167
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 3: in this relationship. I don't know how I would function

1168
00:53:40,400 --> 00:53:42,880
Speaker 3: like just being in a relationship with anyone else. Yeah,

1169
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:44,520
Speaker 3: even if it was just physical, I feel like I

1170
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:45,320
Speaker 3: would too much.

1171
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:49,160
Speaker 4: Or it could be a nice distraction escape from reality.

1172
00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like I wouldn't be able to do it.

1173
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:53,799
Speaker 2: Opie needs an escape. I don't know.

1174
00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:56,400
Speaker 1: I don't think this is it, but oh my god,

1175
00:53:56,600 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 1: so I have plenty of time to devote to mending fences.

1176
00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:03,239
Speaker 1: A couple's therapists said we both had blame in our crisses,

1177
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 1: mainly in our communication skills. She was particularly hard on

1178
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 1: Clara at the beginning when Clara told her side of

1179
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:11,239
Speaker 1: the story. I have put most of it behind me,

1180
00:54:11,440 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 1: but I know going forward, I will doubt Claire's judgment

1181
00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:14,880
Speaker 1: on some things.

1182
00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:17,640
Speaker 3: I mean, she hasn't proven herself to be a very

1183
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:18,320
Speaker 3: good judge.

1184
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:20,200
Speaker 2: I think she's bleeding. No contest on that.

1185
00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:23,880
Speaker 1: The subject of our future plans came up, and marriage

1186
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:26,759
Speaker 1: came up, but our therapist said to not rush or

1187
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:28,400
Speaker 1: think of it as a solution to our problem.

1188
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:30,920
Speaker 3: That is a good therapist. Thank God, shout out to

1189
00:54:30,960 --> 00:54:31,640
Speaker 3: your therapist.

1190
00:54:31,800 --> 00:54:34,080
Speaker 1: Last year, before everything blew up, my mom gave me

1191
00:54:34,160 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 1: my great grandmother's wedding ring set. Being the first and

1192
00:54:36,560 --> 00:54:39,640
Speaker 1: favorite grandchild, she left her engagement slash wedding ring set

1193
00:54:39,719 --> 00:54:42,319
Speaker 1: and my great grandfather's wedding ring to me. And last

1194
00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:44,840
Speaker 1: year I was thinking about proposing and had all the

1195
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:48,759
Speaker 1: rings resized in case the moment ever presented itself. The

1196
00:54:48,840 --> 00:54:50,960
Speaker 1: Julia that did the work gave me an appraisal and

1197
00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:53,719
Speaker 1: suggested that I ensure it, and I had added it

1198
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:56,920
Speaker 1: to my homeowner's policy. My insurance agent is also friends

1199
00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:59,240
Speaker 1: with my sister and let it slip, and my sister

1200
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:02,800
Speaker 1: now wants the rings for her upcoming wedding this fall.

1201
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:04,919
Speaker 2: Another Reddit story brewing in the mix.

1202
00:55:05,000 --> 00:55:09,120
Speaker 1: My God, So my sister said something to Clara, who,

1203
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:12,600
Speaker 1: after some snooping, found the rings.

1204
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:16,400
Speaker 2: Oh, I thought she'd found out about their relationship and Gary,

1205
00:55:16,560 --> 00:55:18,799
Speaker 2: Oh she found the rings. Oh, she found the ring.

1206
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:21,319
Speaker 1: She might know about the relationship, but she definitely knew

1207
00:55:21,320 --> 00:55:25,400
Speaker 1: about the rings and told Clara, who found them, that's soft.

1208
00:55:25,680 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 1: My sister is mad, but my mom told her to

1209
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:30,680
Speaker 1: suck it up. Clara admitted to find the rings and

1210
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:33,680
Speaker 1: trying them on, and has been all dough eyed whenever

1211
00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:36,880
Speaker 1: the subject gets brought up. For now, no one is

1212
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:38,719
Speaker 1: getting the rings, and I have moved them to a

1213
00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 1: secure location. But now everybody wants to know what they

1214
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:48,000
Speaker 1: were praised for. Forty three thousand dollars. That's a lot, right, yeah, Sealem,

1215
00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: that's yeah. How much does a wedding like a wedding ring?

1216
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 2: Months? Three months? How much?

1217
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:53,799
Speaker 3: Well?

1218
00:55:53,800 --> 00:55:55,959
Speaker 1: Now, now these are three rings, the appraisal of three

1219
00:55:56,760 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 1: separate rings. But let's step STI buy that forty three

1220
00:55:59,200 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 1: divided by three is a fourteen point each.

1221
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:06,279
Speaker 2: That's that's more reasonable. But what a saga? Right? What

1222
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:09,200
Speaker 2: a saga? Is there more? Are there more updates? Like

1223
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:10,200
Speaker 2: the story never ends?

1224
00:56:10,440 --> 00:56:14,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, I've never really wanted to be in

1225
00:56:14,400 --> 00:56:17,600
Speaker 3: an open relationship and all of the stories that talk

1226
00:56:17,640 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 3: about open relationships make me want to be in one less.

1227
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's very common with like gay guys to be

1228
00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 2: really in open relationships. I just couldn't could not do that.

1229
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:29,399
Speaker 2: I would fall in love with Gary, yeah, and then

1230
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 2: leave and like poor op, Like if I had an OP,

1231
00:56:33,200 --> 00:56:33,879
Speaker 2: like I just.

1232
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:37,319
Speaker 3: It is inevitable that it happens, but the chances are high,

1233
00:56:37,360 --> 00:56:38,480
Speaker 3: they're pretty inevitable.

1234
00:56:38,760 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 2: Someone's gonna get hurt. Yeah, unless you have really really

1235
00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:44,600
Speaker 2: good rules. Well, someone's gonna get hurt, whether it's your

1236
00:56:44,640 --> 00:56:46,400
Speaker 2: partner or somebody that falls in love with you, and

1237
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 2: then they can't be what are the extraneous partners? Yeah,

1238
00:56:49,480 --> 00:56:51,239
Speaker 2: and then you're stuck in the middle, and not the

1239
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 2: kind of way that you like it, you know.

1240
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:55,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that has to happen, like damn near

1241
00:56:56,000 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 1: one hundred percent, because it's like someone's going to be

1242
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:01,239
Speaker 1: interested in you because you're dating a people and maybe

1243
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:02,600
Speaker 1: they're like, I want it exclusive.

1244
00:57:02,640 --> 00:57:03,839
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't know, and then I guess

1245
00:57:03,840 --> 00:57:05,919
Speaker 2: you just shut Yeah.

1246
00:57:06,160 --> 00:57:08,680
Speaker 1: Not fair, But you know what is fair and wonderful

1247
00:57:09,000 --> 00:57:14,840
Speaker 1: is that we have one final small storory, a teeny

1248
00:57:14,880 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: tiny one I have.

1249
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:18,920
Speaker 4: I have the prostitute thing about making extra holes.

1250
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:21,160
Speaker 2: Oh oh, okay story tiled?

1251
00:57:21,480 --> 00:57:26,640
Speaker 3: Okay story answer answer you fool?

1252
00:57:28,600 --> 00:57:33,040
Speaker 4: Hello, Hey Daniel real quick, can you please explain to me?

1253
00:57:33,520 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 2: So this is Riley's okay story?

1254
00:57:35,120 --> 00:57:37,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, this is You're on okay storytime right now?

1255
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:40,120
Speaker 5: Can you please explain to me the extra hole that

1256
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:41,880
Speaker 5: the prostitute had in Chattanooga.

1257
00:57:42,360 --> 00:57:44,200
Speaker 4: Well, yes, this was in Georgia.

1258
00:57:44,600 --> 00:57:48,919
Speaker 2: Oh but so she got a gold glider out.

1259
00:57:49,000 --> 00:57:52,080
Speaker 4: This is what the EMP said the ambulance on the scene.

1260
00:57:52,320 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 2: They said that she got her gold blider actually had

1261
00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 2: a bag that drained file from her gold glider. She

1262
00:57:57,160 --> 00:58:03,840
Speaker 2: would take this bag out and let people do with Oh,

1263
00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:08,360
Speaker 2: quite disgusting. It was the wole located.

1264
00:58:08,440 --> 00:58:09,520
Speaker 4: Where was the hole located?

1265
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:12,800
Speaker 2: It was like around the rib cage. I believe a

1266
00:58:13,720 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 2: strange spot. Oh strange. Thank you.

1267
00:58:19,880 --> 00:58:23,800
Speaker 4: I'm sorry you had to hear that. Thank you, Thank you, Daniel.

1268
00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:27,560
Speaker 3: We will wait, does is there were there any reports

1269
00:58:27,840 --> 00:58:30,240
Speaker 3: on either end of the sensation?

1270
00:58:30,480 --> 00:58:32,120
Speaker 4: Oh yeah? How many? How many times does the guys

1271
00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 4: go back to her?

1272
00:58:32,960 --> 00:58:34,560
Speaker 2: Probably as they wanted.

1273
00:58:35,640 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 5: I don't think we know, but that's all he knows.

1274
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 5: Like how many holes a person could have? And Sam

1275
00:58:41,080 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 5: said you could create holes and then he made his

1276
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:44,520
Speaker 5: hands circles.

1277
00:58:44,720 --> 00:58:47,000
Speaker 2: But you can also create holes surgically.

1278
00:58:47,360 --> 00:58:48,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you Daniel.

1279
00:58:49,120 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 3: No, wow, wow, Well that was I'm gonna throw up.

1280
00:58:57,600 --> 00:59:08,120
Speaker 3: I'm gonna oh come oh no, I'm sorry, I'm sorry

1281
00:59:08,160 --> 00:59:10,600
Speaker 3: for that. It was just low hanging fruit that I

1282
00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:11,360
Speaker 3: had to pick up.

1283
00:59:11,560 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 2: Did she Yeah, I have so many fallows. Has anyone

1284
00:59:15,520 --> 00:59:19,160
Speaker 2: ever heard of that? Your answers below. Okay. I do

1285
00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:22,000
Speaker 2: have a story for you, though, Okay, a short one

1286
00:59:22,040 --> 00:59:25,200
Speaker 2: to close us out. Maybe does it beat the extra

1287
00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:26,200
Speaker 2: hole in the prostitute?

1288
00:59:26,320 --> 00:59:28,840
Speaker 3: Okay, I don't know. I don't I don't think it could.

1289
00:59:29,080 --> 00:59:29,880
Speaker 3: Which one Riley