WEBVTT - Van The Man 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:09.240 Ya ya, yahya. 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:29.880 All right, I'm not a money man. I'm not as 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:35.200 you see. 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:38.360 I want to say what's up, guys. Welcome back to 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:45.320 Mom's Lass. I'm Erica and I'm Mela, and we have 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:48.800 a special guest today. We have a new friend that 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:52.640 we've hey, new friend and new guests. 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:58.800 Welcome Van Lisenay, Poppy Clappy. 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:01.760 You start the class. 0:01:02.080 --> 0:01:07.759 So she's very good with our special effects. 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:11.520 We have multiple special effects. If you haven't listened, we. 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:14.039 Have elevator music and we excuse ourselves when the kids 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:17.800 start acting cray right. And we also have special effects 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:22.399 for our hories. Second segment and it's like. 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:29.080 Oh, we like actually made sex sounds. And then she says, 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:34.280 Harry horror stories. It's so good, it's so good. 0:01:34.440 --> 0:01:35.039 This is so good. 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:36.920 There's actually production value on this. 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:40.840 Podcast, definitely. If you need any input on yours on 0:01:41.000 --> 0:01:41.840 the Red Pill, we. 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:44.600 Just we just record that. Bitch. 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:48.640 You're so lucky. Well, I don't actually. 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:51.160 Enjoy doing this, do you enjoy? 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:53.720 You don't enjoy like the post production? 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:57.280 I mean I could do without it if I could 0:01:57.920 --> 0:01:59.560 do it, because. 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.320 It adds to the overall podcast. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:05.480 I don't want to pay somebody to do it. We can't. 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:05.440 Can't. 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:07.200 We don't if we're not family. 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:13.639 Podcast. I like my podcast just be conversation boom streamline 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:16.400 though you know what I mean, But I get it. 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:18.280 I listened to a lot of podcasts, and the ones 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:21.000 that have some production value, I really appreciate it. 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:22.680 I really like that word. I'm going to really start 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:25.239 using that in their bio production, like my production value. 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:28.280 Last episode, our production val. Last episode was the mediocre. 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:29.760 We're having mic issues? 0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:31.760 Yeah, we've I liked the micce though. 0:02:31.800 --> 0:02:33.600 You guys were telling me about the mice that you 0:02:33.680 --> 0:02:35.079 got on this fifty bucks. 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:39.400 We should we should do a podcast hall. We should 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:41.880 like start a YouTube channel like how to podcast for cheap. 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:45.639 How to podcast for dummies, because we just YouTube did it? 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:49.440 How long have you ill been doing our podcast since February? 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:53.880 Yeah? Professional, it's enough to have a YouTube channel. 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:56.040 What made you guys start the podcast together? 0:02:56.800 --> 0:02:57.040 Uh? 0:02:58.240 --> 0:02:59.840 I just I met Tamila. 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:01.359 I was like, no, we have been friends for like 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:03.280 two years, Like we have her for like two years 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:05.600 and then she broke up with her man like six months. 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:07.280 Ago, and she's not six months ago. 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:10.520 Well, when you approach when she asked me about it, 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:12.160 She had just broken up with her man like six 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:14.040 months ago, and I had probably been bitching about mind 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:18.480 and telling her about my look at my new found singleness. 0:03:17.919 --> 0:03:21.880 And she's like no, she goes, She's like, do you 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:22.760 wanted this podcast? 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:24.360 I was thinking about, like maybe we could talk about 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:27.000 like being single moms and dating and ship She's I 0:03:27.040 --> 0:03:29.520 was like, okay, sure, but she's like this guy I 0:03:29.600 --> 0:03:31.520 was on a date with said he was starting a podcast, 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:32.840 and I was thinking, I don't want to do a 0:03:32.840 --> 0:03:34.520 podcast with you, but I will do my own. 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:38.480 So now I'm asking you. I'm like, I forgot about 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:41.400 that part of the thought. Now he hates me, but 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:44.160 he still doesn't start a podcast, so you know, she 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:45.600 would have been waiting forever. 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:47.680 Oh, you're going to do a podcast with him? 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:50.040 Yeah, he like wanted He asked me to be on 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:52.840 his podcast that he wanted to start. 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:54.760 We were like fucking around and that's why I didn't 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:55.200 want to do it. 0:03:55.840 --> 0:03:58.280 I can't think of anything worse than doing the podcast. 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:00.320 He wanted to me. 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:03.080 Right, he went the podcast track that way, it didn't 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:04.800 work out. He's like, yo, we got to sit together 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:05.720 for the pododcast. 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:08.800 Yeah, I feel like podcast is that a thing podcast dripper. 0:04:09.560 --> 0:04:11.680 No, but I feel like that's when he was he 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:13.160 was trying to start something new. 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:17.279 Oh I know, I don't know. That's a good that's 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:17.800 a good one. 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:21.520 He tried it all the other trapping. 0:04:21.960 --> 0:04:24.240 I wonder if he secretly like, look such your posts 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:25.080 and hate your guts. 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:27.200 He actually reached out to me recently and I and 0:04:27.520 --> 0:04:29.760 it then led me to believe that maybe he didn't 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:32.200 listen because I was like, you don't hate me. 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:34.920 I talked ship about you so bad. 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:43.240 No people hama, oh okay. So how I became new 0:04:43.279 --> 0:04:46.920 friends and got fan on the podcast is because we 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:50.279 just decided to shoot our shot in His DMS was 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:52.080 in a very classic professional DM. 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:54.320 I'm like, Hi, how are you? We'd choose single moms with. 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:57.760 The new pod, and I said I would do the podcast. 0:04:57.800 --> 0:05:00.520 He said he would do it, and then there he 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:01.720 said I fucking dare. 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:02.760 I was like, oh, he's cool. 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:06.040 He's cool. So Eric was so when are you available? 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:08.960 And then like she stopped, he stopped responding, and she's like, 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:10.800 this is Eric's idea. 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:14.400 I just want to what what you said. She's like, Oh, 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:15.640 he's trying to play us. 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:17.880 I just want to respond Jamie listen him a cute 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:19.880 picture and then say, don't be a pussy. 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:21.440 I was like, are you sure you don't think it's 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:23.880 too aggressive? Like, no, he's cool. Just say don't be 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:27.719 a pussy, so I said, And he's like, why would 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:28.599 you talk to me like that? 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:29.720 Oh? 0:05:29.800 --> 0:05:31.400 No, Eric, I don't think he really was. 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:34.840 And I was like, damn, he is a pussy because 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:37.360 like when I see messages like that, I automatically get 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:39.840 the tone. And I started thinking, Oh, these motherfuckers want 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:43.280 to play. 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:44.240 Well okay, and I felt like you were that type 0:05:44.240 --> 0:05:45.720 of I felt like, just. 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:48.000 Let's play like yo, let's let's put them on the 0:05:48.080 --> 0:05:49.760 defensive and see how they can react. 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:51.600 Why would you talk to me like that? Man? I 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:53.840 thought we were cool keeping these professionals. 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:56.280 Oh, it's like when you did that, I was like, oh, 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:58.440 I was like I called her. I'm like that was 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:00.400 not a good access. She was blaming me. I was 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:04.520 like her, I was like, just apologize. He goes. 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:06.880 He goes, no, thank you, No, think I don't do 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:07.400 it anymore. 0:06:08.240 --> 0:06:08.880 I was like fuck. 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:09.240 Like. 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:13.280 I was like, oh no, we ruined it. 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:16.400 And then he put forty thousand fucking laughing, crying emoji 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:17.600 faces and said just kidding. 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:20.640 I was like, I'm so sorry. I was totally joking. 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:24.360 The tom can be misconstrued on the DM. 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:26.080 I'm like, nah, man, it's funny. 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:28.120 But then I realized we do some of the same 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:30.640 people and it was even more organic and now here 0:06:30.680 --> 0:06:32.480 I am Yeah he is. 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:36.920 Good Mom's bad Choices. Yeah, band from the Red Pill. 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:41.480 So because we are a fast friends band, I want 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:43.000 to play a little game with you just to like 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:45.960 get to you even faster and let our audience get 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:46.880 to know you really quick. 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:52.440 So that's My child has her Netflix film on. 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:55.560 What does she watch? What do you put on for 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:56.479 children to watch? 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:59.080 I don't really let her do this often, so all 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:01.400 my mages would surprised that, like two and three, they 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:04.720 already have like their own fucking playlist, Like Luna has 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:06.840 like an iTunes selection that she like songs. 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:08.440 She only wants in the hair thing she only wants 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:08.800 to watch. 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:11.760 And it's pretty scary because YouTube is just like it's 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:13.640 weird shit, and they can get to a weird shit easily, 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:16.520 even if you put on cartoons. 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:19.960 When I was like, I can't remember being that age 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:22.960 so much. How old is three? Three? 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:27.200 But I remember what I was watching at that age? 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:30.720 What was it? The Dukes of Hazard with the Daisy 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:33.480 does Daisy Duke. I can't believe you knew that like 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:35.600 Dukes of Hazzard. I you ever watched the ship No Bad? 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:37.880 I know it is. I know Daisy Dukes because it 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:38.440 comes from Dukes. 0:07:38.440 --> 0:07:40.840 It has and it's like the reality is that it 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:41.960 was some of the worsthit. 0:07:41.680 --> 0:07:42.440 I've been watching. 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:46.520 I was looking at this. All this shit is low 0:07:46.560 --> 0:07:48.000 key sexual undertone. 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:50.280 Disney has a lot of sexual undertones in their cartoons 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:51.320 and it's super racist. 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:53.720 I get mad every time I go Disneyland because there's like. 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:57.320 Forty white princesses and one black princess and she was 0:07:57.360 --> 0:07:58.000 a frog. 0:07:57.800 --> 0:07:58.720 For the majority of them. 0:07:58.760 --> 0:07:59.680 Wor does that make you mad? 0:07:59.720 --> 0:07:59.880 Though? 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:00.680 This annoys me. 0:08:00.640 --> 0:08:03.400 Because I know Las like loves the princesses, and it's 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:04.320 just this fake. 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:09.239 Ass to me. You know, it doesn't make because Disney 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:11.160 is a bunch of white people. If they white people 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:12.880 make princess and they're gonna make them white if we 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:16.800 made our own process, how about this? Like, I like 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:19.720 a couple of halloweens. Ago one of my homegirls, her 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:21.240 daughter wanted to go as Elsa. 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:23.920 I was like, that's why, Yeah, I would want to 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:26.320 go Elsa, like make her go as doc mixed stuff. 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:29.280 Yeah, like that I would not allow. 0:08:29.360 --> 0:08:31.000 I mean I would that all has to do with 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.120 the images that you show your children, so all the time, 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:35.200 which all the images I really showed her are black 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:35.880 or brown. 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:37.120 But which is hard because then they know she. 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:39.800 She found Elsa through somebody else and then that that 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:44.160 was the thing, and I was like, I. 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:45.720 Have to know other things. 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:48.520 But I was just like she idolized her for a minute, 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:50.280 and I was just like I felt the type I 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:51.840 couldn't help but feel the type of way about it. 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:54.320 Me too, But I didn't like discourage. I didn't like 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:57.400 discourage it, but like I was just like I noticed it, 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:58.560 you know what I mean? Yeah, I was like, oh, 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:00.720 this is not damaging, and then seated to make her 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:02.160 read four hundreds. 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:05.839 And then there's like a like a five dollar like 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:08.760 Elsa braid. They sell a H and M and Lena 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:11.600 we're in fucking hm. She insisted on my buying. I 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:13.560 was like, what's that Elsa braid? 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:17.040 It's just like a one long long like tie. 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:20.199 Oh, then you can be for Adler. 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:22.400 But you know, but you know what. Okay. 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:24.560 So one time I had like a added like a 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:26.240 braid on my hair, and Lina I had like some 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:27.920 purple hair, so I put a purple on her, and 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:31.560 my dad was like, so fucking ghetto blah blah blah, like, oh, 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:33.160 she's three, what the fuck she don. 0:09:33.320 --> 0:09:35.440 Ghetto means like to give a little white girl had 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:36.439 on a purple pony tail. 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:39.199 You wontn't be saying ship, Like why do we project 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:42.559 army's and stuff like that onto kids? 0:09:42.920 --> 0:09:44.040 Well, don't get any of you. 0:09:44.160 --> 0:09:45.679 It pissed me off. I was like, Dad, shut the 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:46.000 fuck up. 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:48.600 But then I found myself I bought the braid reluctantly 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:50.360 because she went shut up, And then I was like 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:51.079 annoyed that. 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:52.200 She wouldn't fucking lose it. 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:54.640 But I'm like, I can't. I can't be mad either way. 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:57.400 Really, I just got so super pissed with my dad 0:09:57.400 --> 0:09:59.199 for saying some ghetto ship, and then here I am. 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:00.760 I wasn't mad. 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:02.120 I was just like you stund ignorant, like, well, I 0:10:02.160 --> 0:10:04.720 don't put your don't put your social norms on my child. 0:10:04.760 --> 0:10:07.040 That's you feel that way because someone taught you that 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:09.840 a colored weave is ghetto on a black woman. But 0:10:09.880 --> 0:10:12.199 if these other bitches had one, it wouldn't be it 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:13.640 wouldn't be you know, thought twice. 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:19.040 Anyway, I gotta going already trigger. 0:10:18.760 --> 0:10:21.120 Sho oh, that's the name of this game, so really, yes, 0:10:21.360 --> 0:10:24.040 how funny you say that. So basically, I'm going to 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:26.160 just name a bunch of things. Name the first thing 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:28.640 that comes to mind. Try to keep it one word, 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:31.959 be some, some require, maybe three. Okay, bring gonna do 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:38.959 this quick, sure, got it LA for you? 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She's a Fox Sports reporter. 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:36.720 Oh I know who that is. 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:40.760 We read the caption under the second one, though. Wait, 0:14:40.800 --> 0:14:42.520 I'm not done. Are you still going back? 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:42.760 Wait? 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:46.400 I have a few more questions. Rockel or Lauren. 0:14:48.480 --> 0:15:03.440 Roquel Tyler, Perry boss single mom. 0:14:58.680 --> 0:15:04.160 Be careful, Damn Drake talented, so. 0:15:08.160 --> 0:15:08.600 Annoying? 0:15:09.000 --> 0:15:22.640 What makes you mad? Last time you had sex? Sunday 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:23.920 Angela Ryan. 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:30.000 Perfection, Don Lemon, the homie. 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:32.440 Uh sub. 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:39.360 Dumb the end mm so much closer to you now 0:15:39.480 --> 0:15:41.320 I know so much more about you? 0:15:42.360 --> 0:15:43.280 What more do you feel? 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:43.360 Like? 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:44.880 That game proved. 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:46.080 You don't play Fortnite? 0:15:46.280 --> 0:15:47.560 I've never seen it, never heard. 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:50.680 Oh my god, I saiden like, like you're my Like 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:52.200 my respect meter went up? 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:54.480 Do you have a dog? 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:01.080 I have a theory about men with dogs over thirty five, 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:04.080 which is childless men. 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:07.920 Yeah, men they don't have kids get dogs because they 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:10.960 want children, and they treat their dogs like their children, 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:13.200 like like real actual humans. 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:15.880 Because one time she was dating. 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:18.360 It's not just no, no, it's even even on Tinder, 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:21.080 because so many men have pictures of them with their 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:23.640 fucking dogs. Yeah, why do I care about your dog? 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:25.640 I think it's a show that they like are like 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:28.480 nerd nothing or something. I don't I don't know, but 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:30.280 I just noticed a lot of men over thirty to 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:33.840 thirty four have dogs, have dogs. 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:37.000 They get dogs that they treat them like babies, treat 0:16:37.040 --> 0:16:38.160 the dogs like babies. 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:39.120 They get dogs. 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:42.560 Okay, well, I mean doesn't everyone treat their dog like 0:16:42.560 --> 0:16:42.960 a baby? 0:16:43.200 --> 0:16:46.080 No, who doesn't treat their dog like a baby? A dog? 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:50.200 And I used to, Yeah, me too, exactly, I had 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:51.640 the dog for six years. That dog had to go 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:52.880 get them to them out. 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:01.880 Dogs. Anyway, Harvey has so the like, here's the thing 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:06.600 about the coke and pepsi question. Coke and pepsi is 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:09.760 it's an important life question. 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:11.480 Why? 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:14.760 Okay, let me tell you why it's important important life question. 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:20.680 Coke and pepsi is proof that the question is always 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:24.120 more important than the answer. In anything that you're doing, 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:28.840 question is more important than the answer. Give you an example. 0:17:28.960 --> 0:17:34.400 Right in Europe some time ago, okay, they were trying 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:38.560 to get more people in Europe to give blood. They 0:17:38.560 --> 0:17:40.119 were trying to get them to give or excuse me, 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:43.919 not give blood, donate organs. Right, for some reason, across Europe, 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:46.480 nobody was donating organs. I'm trying to get more people 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:51.160 to do it. So different countries in Europe we're doing 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:54.479 different things to try to get people to donate organs. 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:57.680 One of the countries. 0:18:00.200 --> 0:18:04.679 The Netherlands and France, two countries that culturally like France 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:08.560 was on the low end of or the donnership, the 0:18:08.600 --> 0:18:11.440 Netherlands was on the high end. Everybody in the Netherlands 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:16.359 was doing it. These are two countries that culturally aren't 0:18:16.400 --> 0:18:18.280 that far off, you know what I mean. It's not 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:20.760 like you have one country from a completely different hemisphere, 0:18:20.800 --> 0:18:23.959 completely different layers and completely different sensibilities in another country. 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:27.280 So you have to understand, like why the why is 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:30.440 the difference? What's the difference? The difference is the way 0:18:30.560 --> 0:18:34.439 they and France was actually working much harder to get 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:37.560 people to donate organs. They were robo calling people, they 0:18:37.560 --> 0:18:39.840 were trying to do all those different things. 0:18:40.720 --> 0:18:41.800 The difference was in. 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:44.480 The actual question how they were asking. Right when you 0:18:44.520 --> 0:18:47.280 would go into the DMV to get your license. In France, 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:51.119 the question whether the question was if you want to 0:18:51.160 --> 0:18:55.600 donate organs, check this box, okay. The question in the 0:18:55.640 --> 0:19:00.600 Netherlands was if you don't want to donate organs, this box. 0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:06.119 So in that country it was implied that everyone wanted 0:19:06.119 --> 0:19:06.480 to do. 0:19:06.400 --> 0:19:09.159 It, right, So if you don't want to do it, 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:09.560 check it. 0:19:09.600 --> 0:19:11.439 So the choice mass that you think that you have 0:19:11.600 --> 0:19:13.440 is really based upon the way that the question is asked. 0:19:13.440 --> 0:19:15.800 The reason why the coke and pepsi question matters is 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:18.320 because I prefer pepsi, I rarely get a chance to 0:19:18.400 --> 0:19:21.879 drink it. I'm indoctrinated into coke because most places that 0:19:21.960 --> 0:19:26.399 you go they serve coked products. So whereas I like 0:19:26.480 --> 0:19:29.800 pepsi more, I can't think of the last. 0:19:29.600 --> 0:19:30.880 Time I actually had one. 0:19:30.960 --> 0:19:34.840 That's true. So your access to what it is that 0:19:34.880 --> 0:19:36.960 you want, like you're not going to leave a restaurant 0:19:36.960 --> 0:19:39.520 and go to another restaurant that has pepsi shit, Your 0:19:39.600 --> 0:19:41.959 access to what it is that you want has a 0:19:42.040 --> 0:19:45.960 lot less to do with what you actually want than 0:19:46.280 --> 0:19:50.840 what is available to So whereas when you asked me 0:19:50.920 --> 0:19:52.760 that question, I'm thinking, you know, I like pepsi a 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:54.159 lot more, but I haven't had a pepsi in a 0:19:54.200 --> 0:19:57.200 long time because I really don't drink soda, right, So 0:19:57.240 --> 0:20:00.760 I wouldn't go into a seven eleven and actually buy 0:20:00.800 --> 0:20:02.600 a coke or a pepsi. But if I went out 0:20:02.640 --> 0:20:04.239 to eat and I'm like, yo, man, I'm gonna have 0:20:04.240 --> 0:20:07.120 a fucking so did today, I'm probably a place where 0:20:07.119 --> 0:20:08.120 they only offer coke. 0:20:10.200 --> 0:20:11.240 And just broke that down. 0:20:11.680 --> 0:20:15.640 That's what I do ask. 0:20:15.800 --> 0:20:17.920 That's delivery, that actually prefer coke. 0:20:18.359 --> 0:20:22.800 I like, man, you don't prefer I do is smoother, 0:20:23.160 --> 0:20:24.520 it tastes better. 0:20:24.600 --> 0:20:27.200 I don't know. I think maybe I'm I don't know 0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:28.800 if you just like being a contrarian. 0:20:28.880 --> 0:20:31.800 You just like saying you're one of those people short 0:20:31.840 --> 0:20:35.400 time I know that I've known you. That feels a lot. 0:20:35.840 --> 0:20:37.640 You like saying what you won't do? 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:42.280 Is this true as saying no, I don't think so. 0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:44.240 I'm pretty open. 0:20:44.840 --> 0:20:47.360 I would agree really well. Of course you guys canna 0:20:47.359 --> 0:20:50.080 gang up against me. That that's a whole thing. 0:20:50.280 --> 0:20:53.960 I think that's the the perception that people think about 0:20:53.960 --> 0:20:54.240 me all. 0:20:54.200 --> 0:20:55.280 The time, not freconceived. 0:20:55.359 --> 0:20:57.680 I'm basing on the point, like the interactions. 0:20:57.200 --> 0:20:59.760 That we've had, Oh because I said, no, I know 0:20:59.800 --> 0:21:01.639 what I don't want to entertain. 0:21:01.800 --> 0:21:03.560 It's not that I get pleasure out of it. I 0:21:03.600 --> 0:21:04.480 just don't waste. 0:21:04.240 --> 0:21:07.840 Time, right, I get it, you know, Like I'm like, 0:21:08.200 --> 0:21:10.119 I know, I don't like that. I'm not going to 0:21:10.200 --> 0:21:12.680 fuck with it. But I'm open to trying shit too. 0:21:12.800 --> 0:21:15.080 But sort of shit, I just have no certain ship 0:21:15.119 --> 0:21:15.840 doesn't mean you tried. 0:21:15.920 --> 0:21:17.960 So there's a So what you're saying is is there's 0:21:18.560 --> 0:21:22.439 like there's big circles right, things that you know you 0:21:22.520 --> 0:21:26.760 don't want, things that you might that you're pretty sure 0:21:26.760 --> 0:21:28.879 you don't want. And then in this little sweet spot 0:21:28.960 --> 0:21:31.639 there's things that you'll try. 0:21:31.880 --> 0:21:35.040 She hasn't considered everything else, she hasn't considered exactly. Now 0:21:35.119 --> 0:21:36.320 she's open to try. 0:21:37.720 --> 0:21:40.359 Speaking of your preconceived did you have any like preconceived 0:21:40.359 --> 0:21:42.080 notions of how we're going to be versus how we 0:21:42.119 --> 0:21:42.520 really were? 0:21:43.119 --> 0:21:45.600 No, I don't. I don't like to really deal in 0:21:45.680 --> 0:21:51.120 preconceived notions because what I've learned about life is you're 0:21:51.160 --> 0:21:53.600 always surprised and you're always disappointed. 0:21:54.480 --> 0:21:58.880 So er expectations like your. 0:22:00.560 --> 0:22:02.679 It's best that you just kind of go into a 0:22:02.760 --> 0:22:10.080 situation and feel it out, because disappointment is the it's 0:22:10.119 --> 0:22:12.520 the like the worst thing that humans like have, like 0:22:12.600 --> 0:22:16.080 disappointment and regret. Yeah, keep yourself from that. I'm not 0:22:16.119 --> 0:22:19.320 setting expectations too or setting expectations at. 0:22:19.200 --> 0:22:22.520 All, which is hard, but it's the best. 0:22:22.800 --> 0:22:25.920 It's almost impossible, it's, yeah, because you immediately your mind 0:22:25.920 --> 0:22:26.600 goes places. 0:22:26.480 --> 0:22:28.400 You're socialized to set expectation. 0:22:28.480 --> 0:22:31.879 Yeah, judge and setting expectation is low key judging and 0:22:31.960 --> 0:22:32.760 trying to make it. 0:22:32.880 --> 0:22:34.400 You know, predeceased. 0:22:34.920 --> 0:22:37.320 The moment that you're born and put into the world, 0:22:37.560 --> 0:22:41.040 people start telling you what to expect. All right, this 0:22:41.200 --> 0:22:43.239 is what you're going to do. And then because you 0:22:43.320 --> 0:22:46.840 do this, this is what's going to happen. That's immediately, 0:22:47.240 --> 0:22:49.040 and then that's in the long term. 0:22:49.280 --> 0:22:50.800 So you're gonna do all of these things. 0:22:50.840 --> 0:22:53.280 So you start to get used to expectation all of 0:22:53.320 --> 0:22:55.119 the all of the time, and it kind of stops 0:22:55.160 --> 0:22:56.040 you from being in the moment. 0:22:56.200 --> 0:22:58.760 We're born and then we're domestic. We're never now. 0:22:58.920 --> 0:23:01.440 I mean, I mean, I struggle with the daily. I 0:23:01.480 --> 0:23:03.679 don't think anyone does it perfectly, except if you're Buddha 0:23:03.760 --> 0:23:04.080 or some. 0:23:04.000 --> 0:23:04.960 Shit, you know what I mean. 0:23:05.040 --> 0:23:09.400 Yeah, that's the goal, but it's difficult in the world 0:23:09.440 --> 0:23:12.080 that we live in because of social media, because of 0:23:12.240 --> 0:23:15.040 just how we're conditioning. You're making that I am hurting 0:23:15.080 --> 0:23:17.560 with you doing that. 0:23:18.240 --> 0:23:19.200 I'm not hurting my head. 0:23:19.600 --> 0:23:22.840 He looked like it was is hurting himself in the head. 0:23:22.840 --> 0:23:26.280 For some reason, it's called this is a thinking. 0:23:27.080 --> 0:23:28.679 Oh oh is that what that is? 0:23:28.920 --> 0:23:29.160 Yeah? 0:23:29.480 --> 0:23:31.560 I have to do something even though other than that, 0:23:31.720 --> 0:23:33.080 like be a pacing or do something. 0:23:33.160 --> 0:23:37.359 I'm thinking now engaged man you got this stimulating conversation. 0:23:38.000 --> 0:23:40.199 You have a you have a tattoo on your on 0:23:40.240 --> 0:23:41.240 your finger. What does that mean? 0:23:42.000 --> 0:23:45.040 It says push and this says play. 0:23:45.400 --> 0:23:45.919 What was that? 0:23:45.960 --> 0:23:48.440 What did that mean? You know? I never noticed, I 0:23:48.480 --> 0:23:49.800 mean like I noticed it, but. 0:23:49.840 --> 0:23:53.120 I've never thought I honestly think I've seen the same 0:23:53.160 --> 0:23:54.399 one and thinking it was the same tattoo. 0:23:54.400 --> 0:23:55.600 I didn't even know if there was realized there was. 0:23:55.720 --> 0:23:58.360 I forget through there. When I was nineteen, I got 0:23:58.359 --> 0:24:00.000 them because they're still there, and that's a really good 0:24:00.040 --> 0:24:01.119 finger and tattoo artists. 0:24:01.119 --> 0:24:03.800 I know, I used to do music, and so it 0:24:04.320 --> 0:24:07.120 was some playoff push play, but also. 0:24:07.960 --> 0:24:12.240 My nineteen year old solve this is kind of funny. Also, 0:24:12.400 --> 0:24:14.200 you know, to push hard, play hard. That's why I 0:24:14.240 --> 0:24:16.560 lived my life. That's how. 0:24:18.600 --> 0:24:19.119 I couldn't know. 0:24:19.080 --> 0:24:21.399 It was like a better lie about these because they 0:24:21.400 --> 0:24:25.960 could be like, what is this music? And I kind 0:24:25.960 --> 0:24:29.320 of like that answer, like I would say that you 0:24:29.320 --> 0:24:31.119 don't have any any embarrassing tattoos. 0:24:31.119 --> 0:24:32.600 Man, you know, it's crazy. 0:24:32.680 --> 0:24:33.640 You don't have any tattoos. 0:24:33.640 --> 0:24:34.560 No, zero tattoos. 0:24:34.560 --> 0:24:37.359 When I was when I was in the well, I 0:24:37.400 --> 0:24:39.520 was like a freshman in college. All my homies went 0:24:39.520 --> 0:24:40.879 out and they got tattoos. They did a bunch of 0:24:40.880 --> 0:24:43.879 different they died their hair or whatever. They got tattoos, 0:24:43.920 --> 0:24:46.200 and my boy Ryan came back. Shout out to Ryan 0:24:46.280 --> 0:24:48.639 daff report. He came back and he got a tiger 0:24:48.720 --> 0:24:51.480 ripping through his skin. And when I looked at that, 0:24:51.640 --> 0:24:53.400 I was like, that's so fucking stupid. 0:24:53.560 --> 0:24:56.320 Like I never it's a tiger inside me, y'all. 0:24:56.400 --> 0:24:59.960 And plus the reality is now that everybody's got tattooed. 0:25:00.240 --> 0:25:00.600 It's like. 0:25:02.040 --> 0:25:04.480 I tell people, if you don't have any at this point, 0:25:04.520 --> 0:25:05.000 don't do it. 0:25:05.040 --> 0:25:05.280 I have. 0:25:05.800 --> 0:25:08.200 I haven't gotten any, like ten years. 0:25:08.040 --> 0:25:10.360 Meire, how many tattoos? 0:25:11.119 --> 0:25:11.680 I have? Seven? 0:25:12.160 --> 0:25:13.040 Goddamn? How many you? 0:25:14.160 --> 0:25:17.240 What's your most risky tattoos? 0:25:18.000 --> 0:25:18.560 I was good. 0:25:19.280 --> 0:25:21.800 I mean, it's not risky, but it's it's cute. It's 0:25:22.160 --> 0:25:25.760 I'm not any parents. It's not difficult. It's a dragon. 0:25:25.960 --> 0:25:27.800 It's a dragon right there. It comes all the way down. 0:25:27.800 --> 0:25:30.000 When I first got to l A, I met a 0:25:30.040 --> 0:25:33.120 girl and I was hanging out with her and right 0:25:33.200 --> 0:25:35.119 right over her Foragina, the tattoos had trouble. 0:25:35.760 --> 0:25:37.200 Wait, I have I have my girls. 0:25:37.600 --> 0:25:42.800 Wait, my friend Jennifer, the one I went to, oh, yeah, 0:25:43.040 --> 0:25:52.520 no scrubs. Yeah, she's a white girl from Sweden. It's 0:25:52.520 --> 0:25:53.919 fucking amazing. 0:25:54.440 --> 0:25:58.040 My homegirl has a several very funny tattoos. Hi Amara 0:25:58.840 --> 0:26:00.680 that like we were French like year and I started 0:26:00.680 --> 0:26:02.679 looking at her. I'm like, bitch, what the fuck do 0:26:02.720 --> 0:26:03.680 you have on your body? 0:26:03.680 --> 0:26:06.560 Because are we even friends? What the fuck is over 0:26:06.600 --> 0:26:07.200 her koochie? 0:26:07.240 --> 0:26:09.680 She has a happy face that says only only God 0:26:09.720 --> 0:26:10.320 can judge me. 0:26:12.880 --> 0:26:15.520 But but what a happy faces? 0:26:15.640 --> 0:26:16.680 Very serious? 0:26:16.680 --> 0:26:20.120 Then on her ass she has a cow spitting out cash, 0:26:20.240 --> 0:26:22.200 and I was like, what the is that a cow? 0:26:22.800 --> 0:26:23.040 Wow? 0:26:27.680 --> 0:26:31.280 I was just like, she's bubbles the tattoo of some bubbles. 0:26:32.160 --> 0:26:34.200 And then she keeps wanting to get the death tarot 0:26:34.320 --> 0:26:36.399 card and I'm like, I don't know. I mean she 0:26:36.520 --> 0:26:36.919 might need it. 0:26:36.960 --> 0:26:38.680 She might need some of her new stuff, like her 0:26:38.760 --> 0:26:41.000 current self might need to die or some for her 0:26:41.000 --> 0:26:41.359 to grow. 0:26:41.520 --> 0:26:44.160 That's actually what the I like the cash cow. 0:26:45.160 --> 0:26:47.880 Like, if you had a tattoo or you got one, 0:26:47.920 --> 0:26:48.439 what would it be. 0:26:48.560 --> 0:26:50.720 I always thought that I would get like a compass. 0:26:51.240 --> 0:26:54.800 Wait, I was thinking about getting a compass recently. 0:26:54.040 --> 0:26:56.480 Like a map compass. I was always get like a 0:26:56.480 --> 0:26:57.639 map comps my last name is. 0:26:57.960 --> 0:27:01.400 I was going dead one in Spain because I felt like, yeah, travel, 0:27:01.600 --> 0:27:04.280 like I want to travel right now, I can find 0:27:04.320 --> 0:27:04.600 I can. 0:27:05.000 --> 0:27:06.760 I don't know what my reasoning was. It was deep, 0:27:06.800 --> 0:27:07.840 but I can't think better right now. 0:27:09.119 --> 0:27:11.600 I want some more. I went like a big piece. 0:27:12.160 --> 0:27:13.800 I go in and out of wanting it, so I 0:27:13.800 --> 0:27:15.720 don't get it because clearly I don't want that. 0:27:16.359 --> 0:27:18.560 What do you guys have scars? What are your best scars? 0:27:19.280 --> 0:27:19.399 Uh? 0:27:19.640 --> 0:27:20.480 C section scar? 0:27:21.040 --> 0:27:23.680 Really? Wow, that's what I'm. 0:27:23.480 --> 0:27:24.639 Talking about that. 0:27:25.880 --> 0:27:27.480 Yeah, they took my good side and laid them on 0:27:27.480 --> 0:27:34.200 the table, small human. I've seen the video. Yeah, they let. 0:27:34.160 --> 0:27:36.600 You videotape it. Yeah, they were like encouraging it. The 0:27:36.920 --> 0:27:38.919 CEA section. My doctor was like, make sure you get 0:27:38.960 --> 0:27:40.440 the camera ready. 0:27:40.680 --> 0:27:43.640 That's so good because let me tell you, guys, doctors 0:27:43.680 --> 0:27:47.000 are so fucking shitty these days that even in natural 0:27:47.040 --> 0:27:48.840 bursts and hospitals, a lot. 0:27:48.680 --> 0:27:50.040 Of hospitals, they don't want to be liable. 0:27:50.080 --> 0:27:51.800 They don't want to be liable if shit goes wrong 0:27:51.840 --> 0:27:53.760 and you kept them on camera doing some shit that's 0:27:53.800 --> 0:27:57.359 not medically aligned. So that goes to show, bitch, you're 0:27:57.400 --> 0:27:59.399 doing something wrong if you're not scared that you wouldn't 0:27:59.480 --> 0:28:01.280 people want to cover their fucking birth. 0:28:01.920 --> 0:28:03.680 I could have done. I mean it was cool to see. 0:28:03.760 --> 0:28:08.240 But I love my birth video. I'm so into childbirth though, 0:28:08.280 --> 0:28:09.840 me and literally watch home birth. 0:28:09.920 --> 0:28:11.520 I'm so into childbirth. 0:28:11.760 --> 0:28:13.520 I'm I'm amazed by it. 0:28:13.760 --> 0:28:14.600 I want to be a doula. 0:28:14.880 --> 0:28:16.919 Like, I think it's the most powerful, Like, it's the 0:28:16.920 --> 0:28:20.119 most powerful thing you can witness. It's literally the like 0:28:20.440 --> 0:28:23.639 the gateway from the heavens to Earth. You're witnessing like 0:28:23.680 --> 0:28:26.400 a time portal be born. It's the coolest shit. 0:28:26.240 --> 0:28:27.280 Ever, you know what I'm into. 0:28:28.280 --> 0:28:32.600 I'm into the way childbirth is obviously awesome. 0:28:33.000 --> 0:28:33.960 When I'm into like. 0:28:35.440 --> 0:28:37.800 Talk to like women that have given birth, I'm like, so, 0:28:39.040 --> 0:28:43.080 why is did your breast start to make? And they go, well, 0:28:43.120 --> 0:28:46.200 because I was pregnant, So I'll go, you mean telling 0:28:46.200 --> 0:28:47.880 me that you got pregnant and the rest of your 0:28:47.880 --> 0:28:51.560 body just knew it was time to fucking make something. Yeah, 0:28:52.160 --> 0:28:53.040 insane to me. 0:28:53.600 --> 0:28:53.800 You know. 0:28:53.920 --> 0:28:56.760 You know, like like talks to the baby, So if 0:28:56.760 --> 0:29:00.320 the baby gets sick, the saliva communicates with your and 0:29:00.360 --> 0:29:01.840 it will like up something or down. 0:29:02.040 --> 0:29:05.920 Like, can you guys understand how wild that is? Leak. 0:29:05.960 --> 0:29:07.480 When your baby's crying, or any baby. 0:29:07.520 --> 0:29:08.680 You could be in the store and you can hear 0:29:08.720 --> 0:29:10.080 a baby crying, your tits will start to. 0:29:10.080 --> 0:29:13.120 Like that's wow, it is. It's pretty wizardous. You need 0:29:13.160 --> 0:29:14.760 to I need to send you some Instagram. 0:29:15.520 --> 0:29:19.240 Oh my god, I'm so adding. 0:29:17.440 --> 0:29:20.080 I don't even with you. 0:29:20.120 --> 0:29:24.320 I don't like because the reality is that it freaks 0:29:24.320 --> 0:29:25.200 me out and made me look at you. 0:29:25.560 --> 0:29:27.280 Well, I want to talk to you. Remember that video, 0:29:27.440 --> 0:29:29.480 just sad the video I sent him of the girls. 0:29:29.040 --> 0:29:30.440 Disgusting of the stomach. 0:29:30.480 --> 0:29:34.120 I don't know what. Okay, Well, do you want kids? 0:29:34.280 --> 0:29:37.600 Eventually eventually comes from a big family. Okay, so what 0:29:37.840 --> 0:29:38.680 about it? Are you? 0:29:38.720 --> 0:29:40.400 Are you afraid you're going to be traumatized from the 0:29:40.400 --> 0:29:42.800 pussy for life if you actually waitness it more often? 0:29:43.080 --> 0:29:44.520 This is this is what I'm afraid of. 0:29:45.640 --> 0:29:49.400 There's there's things that like I try to over overstand things, 0:29:49.400 --> 0:29:52.040 like I try to really delve into stuff and get 0:29:52.080 --> 0:29:54.800 a good grasp of it. But you just cannot understand 0:29:54.840 --> 0:29:58.160 the female body and the intricacies and all of that stuff. 0:29:58.200 --> 0:29:59.680 But do you think it's because it's not normalized and 0:30:00.080 --> 0:30:02.240 and like an enlightened fashion that all the images you've 0:30:02.240 --> 0:30:05.200 seen thus far are primarily like women screaming in the hospital. 0:30:05.280 --> 0:30:08.200 You look sick, you look like you're demented. Like maybe 0:30:08.240 --> 0:30:09.240 you'd have to see. 0:30:09.160 --> 0:30:12.240 More like uncentered real home birth, like birth period to 0:30:12.240 --> 0:30:13.760 see like the hypno births. 0:30:13.840 --> 0:30:15.960 You can go into the trend like there's woman who 0:30:16.000 --> 0:30:19.720 like orgasm and laughed during during the child or. 0:30:19.760 --> 0:30:21.560 I already know. I don't want no part of that. 0:30:22.200 --> 0:30:23.000 I already know. 0:30:24.240 --> 0:30:28.760 Bitch, send him all the videos, like, stop sending me 0:30:28.840 --> 0:30:29.160 this ship. 0:30:29.400 --> 0:30:32.600 Wait, listen, listen the last I sent. 0:30:32.920 --> 0:30:36.360 I sent this guy like, so, do you have a 0:30:36.360 --> 0:30:37.960 preference when you have a baby, do you want to 0:30:38.000 --> 0:30:39.560 have a home birth or hospital birth? 0:30:39.560 --> 0:30:41.560 That this is something you've never thought about until right now. 0:30:41.640 --> 0:30:42.959 I just want the baby to come out with all 0:30:43.000 --> 0:30:44.480 his fingers and to right Okay. 0:30:44.880 --> 0:30:47.440 So, I like, most people are scared of it. 0:30:47.480 --> 0:30:49.640 They don't like it's unfamiliar, especially men, because it's not 0:30:49.680 --> 0:30:50.760 really normalized. 0:30:50.960 --> 0:30:53.320 So I kept sending him videos. I kept sending him videos. 0:30:53.360 --> 0:30:54.719 He was like, like, I could tell he wasn't really 0:30:54.760 --> 0:30:55.840 looking at him responding. 0:30:56.200 --> 0:30:57.640 I sent him this one, really good one that I'm 0:30:57.640 --> 0:31:00.840 going to send you right after this, and you'd one 0:31:00.880 --> 0:31:01.840 that he dis messaged me. 0:31:02.480 --> 0:31:06.520 That was so beautiful. I cried breakthrough. 0:31:07.640 --> 0:31:09.880 I felt like I had like taken over one person, like, yes, 0:31:09.960 --> 0:31:13.240 one person down. 0:31:12.640 --> 0:31:16.560 That I'm going to delete the threat. No, listen, I'll 0:31:16.560 --> 0:31:19.320 be honest with you. I'm Another thing about me is 0:31:19.360 --> 0:31:22.880 that being from the South and be like I'm squeamish. 0:31:23.080 --> 0:31:25.440 No, here's the thing I think. No, no, no, listen, 0:31:26.320 --> 0:31:29.440 are very squeamish. But you like grew up on a farm. 0:31:29.440 --> 0:31:31.920 I'm sure the analysts burst and you have witnessed it. 0:31:32.040 --> 0:31:34.160 I saw it sometimes, so that didn't make you money. 0:31:34.320 --> 0:31:37.360 Once you find whoever is that you're just gonna have 0:31:37.360 --> 0:31:40.080 your baby and you go through a pregnancy with her, 0:31:40.280 --> 0:31:41.880 your perspective is going to change. 0:31:41.880 --> 0:31:43.840 Most definitely because it's going to be your child. 0:31:44.160 --> 0:31:47.120 You're gonna want to be right there, you coolish ship 0:31:47.120 --> 0:31:49.080 that you're gonna see your fucking child come out of 0:31:49.120 --> 0:31:49.560 this woman. 0:31:50.120 --> 0:31:52.200 I might pass out still, but I. 0:31:52.120 --> 0:31:55.680 Think I do think that birth, and I think that 0:31:55.800 --> 0:32:01.000 birth is a beautiful thing. I think that, like, seriously, 0:32:01.600 --> 0:32:04.000 I'm marvel at women's ability. Like we have a couple 0:32:04.000 --> 0:32:05.640 of girls in the office right now that are pregnant 0:32:06.120 --> 0:32:08.360 and I just marvel at their ability to go through this, 0:32:09.640 --> 0:32:12.640 like there's stuff growing inside of them and eating off 0:32:12.680 --> 0:32:14.160 them and all of that stuff like that, and like 0:32:14.280 --> 0:32:17.480 so it's just it's interesting. But I'm telling you, if 0:32:17.520 --> 0:32:19.120 men have to do it, there would be no people. 0:32:19.280 --> 0:32:22.360 Yeah, the population problem. 0:32:23.240 --> 0:32:23.880 How does that feel? 0:32:24.200 --> 0:32:24.680 As women? 0:32:24.800 --> 0:32:27.400 How does it feel? How does it feel to know that? 0:32:28.240 --> 0:32:30.640 I mean, obviously biology plays into it, and we don't 0:32:30.680 --> 0:32:32.840 have to so we can't. But how does it feel 0:32:32.880 --> 0:32:37.880 to know that you do something that is so obviously necessary. 0:32:38.120 --> 0:32:43.040 I'm not just talking about getting pregnant. I'm talking about, uh, 0:32:44.000 --> 0:32:48.960 carrying the child, like uh, nurturing the child, feeding the child, 0:32:49.480 --> 0:32:53.120 even the relationship between mother and child. 0:32:54.000 --> 0:32:57.400 Those same men are going to come into society and 0:32:57.400 --> 0:32:58.240 then shit on women. 0:32:58.960 --> 0:32:59.800 Oh not my son. 0:33:00.200 --> 0:33:02.880 Not not saying that, not saying that, not saying that 0:33:02.880 --> 0:33:05.040 those kids will do that. But I'm just saying, how 0:33:05.080 --> 0:33:07.840 does it feel to be so necessary and then. 0:33:07.720 --> 0:33:10.840 So marginalized you're saying just kids in general, just talking 0:33:10.880 --> 0:33:12.000 about society in general. 0:33:13.400 --> 0:33:17.120 I feel underrated as fuck, like very underrated, like very 0:33:17.720 --> 0:33:20.800 like not acknowledged to the level of levels at all. 0:33:20.920 --> 0:33:22.480 I when you think about it, women should really be 0:33:22.600 --> 0:33:24.520 and I'm not really not trying to gash out because 0:33:24.520 --> 0:33:27.640 it's a thing. I'm really not when you think about it, 0:33:28.000 --> 0:33:30.040 women should be exalted. 0:33:30.120 --> 0:33:33.040 Yeah, I mean with a patriarch society. And that's not 0:33:33.120 --> 0:33:33.840 for no reason. 0:33:34.120 --> 0:33:36.520 It's because the power that we have is great. I mean, 0:33:36.600 --> 0:33:38.840 just like in any other situation, you gotta look at it. 0:33:38.880 --> 0:33:41.720 When something is scary and powerful, they're going to always 0:33:41.720 --> 0:33:43.560 downplay it. They're going to always make it feel small 0:33:44.080 --> 0:33:46.960 than what it is, like so many other things. 0:33:46.680 --> 0:33:47.240 That you know of. 0:33:47.640 --> 0:33:53.120 Also, managers like very straightforward, like we're very like men, 0:33:53.760 --> 0:33:55.920 like I had a like growing up, I was given 0:33:56.080 --> 0:33:58.120 There was no complexity to the message that was given 0:33:58.160 --> 0:33:58.360 to me. 0:33:58.880 --> 0:34:02.360 You know what I mean, very very straight to the point. 0:34:02.440 --> 0:34:06.280 This is what's expected of you if you like, this 0:34:06.360 --> 0:34:08.239 is what you have to do to make something out 0:34:08.239 --> 0:34:11.399 of your life. It's very boom boom boom boom boom 0:34:11.440 --> 0:34:12.880 boom boom. You have to be this way, you have 0:34:12.920 --> 0:34:13.839 to be that way, you have to be this way, 0:34:13.880 --> 0:34:15.880 you have to be that way. And the man's goal, 0:34:16.600 --> 0:34:20.680 at least my goal was to find the complexity in life. 0:34:20.680 --> 0:34:23.680 It was to find it was like to understand that 0:34:23.840 --> 0:34:25.359 like it's dope to just. 0:34:25.280 --> 0:34:27.240 Stop and like look at a butterfly. 0:34:27.600 --> 0:34:29.640 Or like it's dope to just kind of take in 0:34:29.680 --> 0:34:32.480 life and not be so focused on things. I feel 0:34:32.480 --> 0:34:36.319 like inherently women have a different view of that, and 0:34:36.360 --> 0:34:38.800 they sometimes have to find the fact that it's okay 0:34:38.840 --> 0:34:42.520 to be focused and it's ok to be incredibly goal 0:34:42.640 --> 0:34:44.719 oriented and go, yo, I need time for myself and 0:34:44.760 --> 0:34:45.399 I gotta do this. 0:34:45.640 --> 0:34:50.120 Yeah, I mean, there's social standards that we're conditioned to 0:34:50.160 --> 0:34:52.239 be like particular. 0:34:51.760 --> 0:34:52.880 Way, so I being conditioned. 0:34:52.880 --> 0:34:56.120 Man, I'm trying every day, But there's Instagram. 0:34:57.320 --> 0:34:59.680 I think I go through a range of emotions. I 0:34:59.680 --> 0:35:00.840 go through being angry. 0:35:00.880 --> 0:35:03.359 Then I go through feeling really empowered because I know 0:35:03.440 --> 0:35:05.960 that women are the shit, and I feel like, you know, 0:35:06.560 --> 0:35:08.320 you have to feel empowered in that, you know, or 0:35:08.360 --> 0:35:10.239 else you're just always gonna feel like shit, you know 0:35:10.280 --> 0:35:11.680 what I mean? And then you get mad again, like 0:35:11.800 --> 0:35:13.719 the dumb shit happens, and it goes. It's like a 0:35:13.840 --> 0:35:16.440 range of emotions. But I think women. 0:35:16.600 --> 0:35:19.000 I think women are stronger than ever right now. 0:35:19.360 --> 0:35:21.920 That's very true, I think. And by the way I 0:35:21.960 --> 0:35:23.959 think women are, I think women are stronger than everyone. 0:35:24.040 --> 0:35:26.440 I think that other societies where women have been empowered. 0:35:26.560 --> 0:35:29.719 And I'm not just talking about from leadership standpoints, we're 0:35:29.760 --> 0:35:30.920 talking about financially. 0:35:30.960 --> 0:35:33.680 There's a great documentary on it that shows. 0:35:33.480 --> 0:35:38.200 How the US is actually lagging behind other nations in 0:35:38.400 --> 0:35:41.759 all different aspects. Because people that can hear the sound 0:35:41.760 --> 0:35:44.960 of my voice, I know that you guys think that 0:35:45.000 --> 0:35:47.360 America is like number one and everything. 0:35:47.520 --> 0:35:50.560 It's like, that's not true. The reality is. 0:35:50.480 --> 0:35:56.520 That America is incredibly wealthy and has the most fear 0:35:56.600 --> 0:35:59.640 military machine in the history of mankind. And really outside 0:35:59.680 --> 0:36:02.600 of those things, like, there are not too many other 0:36:02.640 --> 0:36:04.600 things we can say that we are the best at, 0:36:04.680 --> 0:36:08.040 but there are other countries that are thriving, and those 0:36:08.080 --> 0:36:10.960 countries have empowered women, not just like in the financial sector, 0:36:10.960 --> 0:36:14.319 in the political sector, and we're lagging behind because there's 0:36:14.360 --> 0:36:17.680 non diversity of voices here. 0:36:18.160 --> 0:36:23.040 I mean, America, we're black, you aren't gonna tell us no, 0:36:23.360 --> 0:36:25.600 but just women in general, Yeah, not even just black 0:36:25.640 --> 0:36:26.400 women for sure. 0:36:26.440 --> 0:36:31.719 But yeah, what was I gonna. 0:36:31.520 --> 0:36:34.160 Ask you then? 0:36:34.880 --> 0:36:37.879 And told you we shouldn't get high us every day 0:36:37.960 --> 0:36:38.759 every time we do this. 0:36:39.160 --> 0:36:40.360 Damn we shouldn't got hot. 0:36:40.640 --> 0:36:42.960 Oh wait, what did you say for single mom? You 0:36:43.000 --> 0:36:47.600 said something when we asked them different difficult. Yeah, so 0:36:47.640 --> 0:36:50.640 what what you know, because you're the first male we've 0:36:50.680 --> 0:36:54.240 had on well, actually we had a couple our last episode, 0:36:54.480 --> 0:36:55.320 but it's totally different. 0:36:55.320 --> 0:36:57.000 You're a single black male. Are you single? 0:36:57.360 --> 0:36:57.560 No? 0:36:58.160 --> 0:37:02.320 Not single? Not single black male. But you're not married 0:37:02.360 --> 0:37:03.239 and you don't have any kids. 0:37:03.600 --> 0:37:08.640 Okay, and but you've been single like for the most part, 0:37:08.719 --> 0:37:10.680 like right, or you've been in a relationship for long? 0:37:10.800 --> 0:37:12.080 How long have you been in this relationship? 0:37:12.960 --> 0:37:13.080 Oh? 0:37:13.080 --> 0:37:13.440 Wow? 0:37:14.160 --> 0:37:15.640 Oh interesting? 0:37:17.200 --> 0:37:18.319 Like over a year? 0:37:19.000 --> 0:37:19.200 Yeah? 0:37:20.239 --> 0:37:22.520 Anyway, so I just want to know, like, what is 0:37:22.520 --> 0:37:25.200 your perspective on Obviously it's you've had a difficult time 0:37:25.280 --> 0:37:28.720 dating single mother before. 0:37:28.840 --> 0:37:31.759 Yeah, but so you actually so you would prefer to 0:37:31.840 --> 0:37:32.359 not date one? 0:37:32.440 --> 0:37:32.560 Right? 0:37:32.760 --> 0:37:35.960 Or do you avoid them? Is your girlfriend now? Mom? No? Okay? 0:37:36.840 --> 0:37:38.920 Uh, what's the question? 0:37:39.880 --> 0:37:42.120 Do you do you what is your experience? 0:37:43.200 --> 0:37:45.800 I've had two experiences and they were both horrible. 0:37:48.880 --> 0:37:52.000 I had to experiences baby daddy drama or one of 0:37:52.040 --> 0:37:52.480 them was. 0:37:52.640 --> 0:37:57.239 Severe baby daddy oh damn, and the other one was 0:37:58.520 --> 0:38:01.440 like one of them was severe baby dady drama and 0:38:01.480 --> 0:38:06.120 the other one was like severe baby like kid drama. 0:38:06.360 --> 0:38:08.160 What do you mean the on the kid dam was 0:38:08.160 --> 0:38:09.279 like a bad kid didn't like you. 0:38:09.480 --> 0:38:15.360 Okay, So here's the thing one of the relationships, Like 0:38:16.280 --> 0:38:18.600 I think I did something wrong, and but this is 0:38:18.600 --> 0:38:20.560 what I did wrong. It's like I like kids, right, 0:38:21.080 --> 0:38:23.279 so I like to like play with kids. I like 0:38:23.360 --> 0:38:26.400 to talk to kids. Kids are fun. They're learning so 0:38:26.600 --> 0:38:29.800 fast that it's like it makes me super happy because 0:38:29.840 --> 0:38:34.360 like a kid doesn't know ship one day, like literally 0:38:34.560 --> 0:38:36.319 one day they don't know ship, and then the next 0:38:36.320 --> 0:38:38.719 time you talk to them, I'm like, yo, how can 0:38:38.760 --> 0:38:39.319 you you know? 0:38:39.360 --> 0:38:43.880 Words? Like where are you getting all of this? And so. 0:38:46.280 --> 0:38:50.080 Uh, I started talking to her son almost immediately. 0:38:50.760 --> 0:38:53.600 And then this little nigg would not leave me alone 0:38:53.960 --> 0:38:55.279 like he would like, he. 0:38:55.200 --> 0:38:56.200 Would not he. 0:38:58.440 --> 0:38:59.960 Would not leave me alone. 0:39:00.000 --> 0:39:02.399 And then what happened was when they started going bad 0:39:02.480 --> 0:39:07.840 between us, she sort of used him to. 0:39:06.840 --> 0:39:08.480 Try to keep you, try to. 0:39:08.560 --> 0:39:10.960 Like you know what I'm saying. She sort she sort 0:39:10.960 --> 0:39:16.399 of used him to kind of do that, and that 0:39:16.480 --> 0:39:20.239 just ended up back. She'd be like, yo, listen, I 0:39:20.280 --> 0:39:22.880 know you're not coming over here to see me because 0:39:23.040 --> 0:39:24.640 you're just out here doing whatever you're doing. 0:39:24.719 --> 0:39:27.880 But Jamal would really like if you no. 0:39:27.960 --> 0:39:30.239 No, that's your. 0:39:33.280 --> 0:39:35.560 Jamal would really like you just came over. 0:39:35.360 --> 0:39:38.200 Here, you're you're not right, or she would. 0:39:38.040 --> 0:39:40.400 Be like, yo, this game is messing up. He doesn't 0:39:40.400 --> 0:39:41.120 know how to fix it. 0:39:42.719 --> 0:39:44.120 And then it would be weird because I would come 0:39:44.160 --> 0:39:45.920 over there like well, did you have love for this kid? 0:39:46.280 --> 0:39:47.200 Or was he really annoying? 0:39:47.640 --> 0:39:47.799 Man? 0:39:51.800 --> 0:39:54.320 The relationship south because she was overbearing? 0:39:54.680 --> 0:40:00.640 Yeah, because like and then because there was there was 0:40:00.640 --> 0:40:03.279 one specific time. There was one specific time to where 0:40:03.360 --> 0:40:04.040 I never get this. 0:40:04.080 --> 0:40:06.960 It was no specific time. It's maybe like I don't know, 0:40:07.760 --> 0:40:10.960 oh five or something like that. There's one specific time. 0:40:11.000 --> 0:40:15.279 So it's like, uh, it's like, yo, I'm coming over. 0:40:15.400 --> 0:40:16.279 She's like, just come over. 0:40:16.440 --> 0:40:20.279 But you were young man too five. I mean it's 0:40:20.320 --> 0:40:21.919 not like a grown man now man. 0:40:22.080 --> 0:40:22.279 I know. 0:40:22.520 --> 0:40:24.319 She's like she's like, come over, like I'm about to 0:40:25.600 --> 0:40:27.759 I'm about to go to sleep, Like come over here 0:40:27.800 --> 0:40:29.480 before I go to sleep, tipe me up real quick. 0:40:29.520 --> 0:40:31.799 I'm like cool, So I come over there. I get over. 0:40:32.120 --> 0:40:35.719 So I get over there, right, she's already sleep, and 0:40:35.760 --> 0:40:38.399 so I'm like, yo, what do I do? Cause it's 0:40:38.440 --> 0:40:41.680 like I don't want to wake her up, you know whatever, 0:40:41.760 --> 0:40:44.720 but whatever. But as soon as I get into the house. 0:40:46.120 --> 0:40:50.480 He comes this live man, and so what I said, 0:40:50.520 --> 0:40:52.640 you know what I'll do, like I'll play games with 0:40:52.719 --> 0:40:54.040 him until he goes to sleep. 0:40:54.360 --> 0:40:56.360 Then I'll wake her off and won't see whatever. Whatever. 0:40:56.680 --> 0:40:58.600 There's no games. You can't tell a kid. 0:40:58.719 --> 0:40:58.759 No. 0:40:59.520 --> 0:41:01.560 He really know me to the point to where that was. 0:41:01.600 --> 0:41:04.160 And then the next time I had somebodies he was 0:41:05.560 --> 0:41:13.200 he knew what was going. But my MoMA is that. 0:41:15.480 --> 0:41:18.680 You know, like stay. 0:41:18.080 --> 0:41:21.359 He would always say stuff because I'll always be all 0:41:21.400 --> 0:41:22.839 about his grades, and he'd be like. 0:41:22.880 --> 0:41:24.000 Oh, so now you're gonna be my daddy. 0:41:24.280 --> 0:41:25.319 Be like, mister Van, just. 0:41:25.320 --> 0:41:25.640 Let you know. 0:41:25.680 --> 0:41:26.840 I got an in conduct. 0:41:26.920 --> 0:41:29.720 And then I couldn't help but like love right because 0:41:29.719 --> 0:41:30.160 he cared it. 0:41:30.360 --> 0:41:34.120 And then the next time somebody's baby daddy actually cut 0:41:34.160 --> 0:41:34.839 my car off. 0:41:35.440 --> 0:41:37.800 I got out of the car and me this nigga fought. 0:41:39.719 --> 0:41:40.040 At home. 0:41:40.280 --> 0:41:41.280 This was back home. 0:41:43.040 --> 0:41:45.560 After that where you're like no more so you're so 0:41:45.600 --> 0:41:48.680 your dating experience with women who have children was when 0:41:48.680 --> 0:41:49.799 we were much younger. 0:41:49.520 --> 0:41:52.160 Than Yeah, it was a lot younger, and you've never. 0:41:52.200 --> 0:41:54.400 You've never dated like a woman the child as like 0:41:54.440 --> 0:41:57.799 a thirty five year old man. So because of the 0:41:58.400 --> 0:42:00.759 because of those experience, they've trauma ties you and you've 0:42:00.760 --> 0:42:04.040 gone about your You've you've tried not to that, right. 0:42:04.080 --> 0:42:07.080 No, it's just how it happens. 0:42:07.600 --> 0:42:09.480 Nah, I mean to be honest with you. 0:42:09.480 --> 0:42:12.239 No, But what I do realize is this though, What 0:42:12.400 --> 0:42:16.759 I do realize is that if you're going to if 0:42:16.800 --> 0:42:21.600 you're going to date someone that has children, then you 0:42:21.719 --> 0:42:25.160 have to be more engaged and you have to take 0:42:25.239 --> 0:42:28.640 into consideration more people's feelings than just one, and you 0:42:28.680 --> 0:42:30.239 have to consider you have to consider this is the 0:42:30.239 --> 0:42:32.920 most important thing when you're in a when you're meeting 0:42:32.920 --> 0:42:34.960 someone and you're trying to establish a relationship with them, 0:42:34.960 --> 0:42:37.440 any type of relationship, Like if you're trying to establish 0:42:37.440 --> 0:42:39.799 a friendship, if you're being friends with somebody, Right, you 0:42:39.840 --> 0:42:41.680 meet somebody you want to be their friend. You don't 0:42:41.680 --> 0:42:44.799 consider other people who are their friends. You consider your 0:42:44.800 --> 0:42:48.279 friendship with them. You don't really consider any other relationship 0:42:48.280 --> 0:42:51.600 that they have. Right when you're dating someone that has 0:42:51.640 --> 0:42:55.960 a kid, you automatically have to consider another super important relationship. 0:42:56.040 --> 0:42:58.240 Well, I think also you go through a whole well hopefully, 0:42:58.480 --> 0:43:01.560 I mean, at least in my case, in my dating life, 0:43:01.600 --> 0:43:03.600 I definitely don't I'm not going to be introducing my 0:43:03.680 --> 0:43:06.120 kid to someone else, to someone i'm dating for a 0:43:06.160 --> 0:43:08.600 while until I know for sure this is something that 0:43:08.640 --> 0:43:10.680 I want to do, This is something I know he wants. 0:43:10.440 --> 0:43:13.279 To do, So it doesn't matter whether do something or not, 0:43:13.320 --> 0:43:14.239 though he's gonna have to. 0:43:14.280 --> 0:43:18.640 Understand that by that point, you've already realized that you 0:43:18.640 --> 0:43:22.439 know what I'm willing to, you know, consider someone else 0:43:22.600 --> 0:43:25.000 also because I'm so into you or I want to, 0:43:25.040 --> 0:43:26.919 you know, explore this on a deeper level. 0:43:27.520 --> 0:43:29.520 So I think it's. 0:43:29.400 --> 0:43:31.960 Also hard for y'alla for people with kids to understand that, 0:43:32.120 --> 0:43:34.760 Like we don't love y'all kids. 0:43:35.400 --> 0:43:38.400 No, it's not. I'll be like, do you want to 0:43:38.400 --> 0:43:38.960 sign up for this? 0:43:39.200 --> 0:43:39.880 She's annoying? 0:43:39.920 --> 0:43:41.480 This is annoying, Like I do it. 0:43:41.600 --> 0:43:44.960 Even when I run. I'm running at Echo Park this morning, 0:43:45.000 --> 0:43:45.960 and I'm like, I'm gonna run. 0:43:45.800 --> 0:43:46.279 Over these woes. 0:43:46.360 --> 0:43:51.279 At some point, you better love my kid. Yeah, together, 0:43:52.160 --> 0:43:54.800 I only know you really like, really fuck with bitch. 0:43:54.840 --> 0:43:57.080 I mean, you know, if you really fuck with woman, 0:43:57.120 --> 0:43:59.719 and you will find yourself really loving that kid and 0:43:59.760 --> 0:44:01.719 tall reading it as if it's your own. Because that's 0:44:01.760 --> 0:44:04.240 the defining line. Because if they still get your fucking nerves. 0:44:04.360 --> 0:44:06.640 I mean, kids are annoying, but you know there's a level, 0:44:06.640 --> 0:44:08.400 there's levels. If you can if you see yourself like 0:44:08.440 --> 0:44:09.719 I love you so much and I want to be 0:44:09.760 --> 0:44:11.959 with you, I can see us still starting a family 0:44:11.960 --> 0:44:14.000 in regards to the fact that you already have a 0:44:14.040 --> 0:44:17.479 small child, and I'm actually like this person too, then 0:44:18.040 --> 0:44:19.319 you know it's it's real. 0:44:19.480 --> 0:44:20.040 Let's be wrong. 0:44:20.239 --> 0:44:23.399 Most of them people with kids are y'all, so we 0:44:23.440 --> 0:44:25.239 would have to be We would have to do that 0:44:25.320 --> 0:44:27.440 anyway too. So I just feel like men like you 0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:30.560 have to like be open to both sides because not 0:44:30.680 --> 0:44:33.319 now times out of ten, but nine times out of ten, 0:44:33.480 --> 0:44:35.479 women are the ones that are entering into relationships with 0:44:35.480 --> 0:44:36.560 with like without you. 0:44:36.560 --> 0:44:40.480 But he's a hot commodity, he's not, so he's probably. 0:44:39.320 --> 0:44:43.920 The reality is that women are much are normally much 0:44:43.920 --> 0:44:44.759 more tethered to their. 0:44:44.719 --> 0:44:47.120 Children than do you think that it is too much 0:44:47.160 --> 0:44:50.799 to ask if a woman would need you to love 0:44:50.840 --> 0:44:52.520 their kid, if you all were gonna get married and 0:44:52.600 --> 0:44:55.480 start a life together, be in a relationship dating I 0:44:55.600 --> 0:44:58.160 understand that like dating, that's something different. 0:44:57.880 --> 0:44:59.000 And that's too much to ask. 0:44:59.080 --> 0:45:03.120 What I think is that it to be honest with you, 0:45:03.200 --> 0:45:05.240 if you're going to start a life with some woman 0:45:05.320 --> 0:45:08.480 and marry her and be with her, then there are 0:45:08.480 --> 0:45:10.200 a bunch of even if she didn't have kids, there 0:45:10.200 --> 0:45:12.040 are a bunch of aspects into her life that you 0:45:12.040 --> 0:45:13.239 would have to heavily. 0:45:12.920 --> 0:45:14.360 Invest into relationship. 0:45:14.719 --> 0:45:16.600 Yeah, and so there are a bunch of different things 0:45:16.600 --> 0:45:20.799 that you and hopefully if you're going to marry a 0:45:20.800 --> 0:45:23.759 woman and have that type of life long bond with her, 0:45:24.320 --> 0:45:25.400 you would want. 0:45:26.640 --> 0:45:28.720 You wouldn't be grudgingly love her kids. 0:45:30.239 --> 0:45:32.960 You would want to start a relationship with that kid 0:45:33.080 --> 0:45:36.840 in order to have a family and to build a family. 0:45:37.440 --> 0:45:40.240 That's what you want to do. 0:45:40.239 --> 0:45:43.960 Do you find yourself as you get older still dating younger, 0:45:44.080 --> 0:45:45.120 younger and younger women. 0:45:45.400 --> 0:45:51.879 No, I couldn't date a young guy. I can't date 0:45:51.880 --> 0:45:53.920 anyone younger than I'm obviously. 0:45:53.920 --> 0:45:56.919 Guy older than me only fifteen in man years, So 0:45:57.280 --> 0:45:59.520 like if you date a young guy, it's like ten. 0:45:59.360 --> 0:46:00.000 In man years. 0:46:00.719 --> 0:46:02.799 No, you know, you know. And by the way, like 0:46:03.239 --> 0:46:05.120 a lot of these issues they were talking about, these 0:46:05.120 --> 0:46:06.759 are la issues, man, What do you mean? 0:46:07.280 --> 0:46:07.680 Like it? 0:46:08.320 --> 0:46:10.759 Like it? 0:46:11.040 --> 0:46:11.400 Like it. 0:46:12.080 --> 0:46:14.400 I'm from a smaller. 0:46:14.040 --> 0:46:16.839 Place where everybody got kids by twenty five. 0:46:17.200 --> 0:46:21.680 No, Like when I was back home in Louisiana this 0:46:21.719 --> 0:46:25.760 past time, I was I'm looking at this group of children, 0:46:26.080 --> 0:46:28.239 and I was in every hospital room when they were 0:46:28.280 --> 0:46:33.120 all born. Right, they're old. Like when I say old, 0:46:33.400 --> 0:46:37.120 I'm like, my nephew side comes in there, he goes, oh, uncle, man, 0:46:37.200 --> 0:46:37.640 come in here. 0:46:37.680 --> 0:46:37.799 Man. 0:46:38.120 --> 0:46:40.600 I'm like, how old are you again? It's like I'm seventeen. 0:46:40.640 --> 0:46:44.279 I'm like, damn, these kids are old. And so in 0:46:44.320 --> 0:46:52.480 Louisiana they get older, all of them. They're starting on 0:46:52.560 --> 0:46:55.560 their third kids announce with you. It's getting to the 0:46:55.560 --> 0:46:58.239 point to where the kids could actually have kids. So 0:46:58.360 --> 0:47:01.359 where I'm from, it didn't like I was the only 0:47:01.400 --> 0:47:03.640 guy who made the decision to plan out my future. 0:47:04.360 --> 0:47:05.719 I was the only guy that said this is what 0:47:05.760 --> 0:47:08.359 I wanted. Everybody else just fell into Somebody fell into 0:47:08.440 --> 0:47:10.200 a family, fell into all of these things. 0:47:10.239 --> 0:47:12.600 And you think in La like that's less likely because 0:47:12.600 --> 0:47:15.520 people are like hustling, there's more and what like, well, 0:47:15.520 --> 0:47:16.319 I mean a. 0:47:16.280 --> 0:47:18.399 Couple of number one, a lot of transplants here. So 0:47:18.680 --> 0:47:22.440 number one, it's because there's so many transplants, it's less likely. 0:47:22.280 --> 0:47:24.040 That you left the child to come here. 0:47:24.160 --> 0:47:28.000 Some did, But but it's less likely that you left 0:47:28.000 --> 0:47:32.200 the child to come here. And then number two, with 0:47:32.280 --> 0:47:35.640 the amount of things that that people like, people are 0:47:35.680 --> 0:47:38.640 always so on guard here. I just think that there's 0:47:38.640 --> 0:47:40.440 a less chance of it just going down. Like my 0:47:40.480 --> 0:47:43.600 homies just I can't understand what happened. It just start 0:47:43.640 --> 0:47:44.120 spitting out. 0:47:44.160 --> 0:47:47.319 Kids should be like to get married. Some of them 0:47:47.320 --> 0:47:47.800 got married. 0:47:47.800 --> 0:47:50.239 I mean eventually you're saying your homies here or your 0:47:50.239 --> 0:47:52.359 homies my homies back home. They just like we got 0:47:52.360 --> 0:47:54.280 to a point and everybody's like, yo, Brush, you're pregnant. 0:47:54.520 --> 0:47:57.960 Brush pregnant. 0:47:58.880 --> 0:48:01.279 But what made us stopped pulling out? 0:48:01.680 --> 0:48:04.800 Like getting all the education, a lot of things was 0:48:04.840 --> 0:48:06.359 a lot of fact we used to pull out. 0:48:06.800 --> 0:48:09.239 I asked, like I really was very I'm like, can 0:48:09.280 --> 0:48:10.600 I ask why this is happening? 0:48:10.760 --> 0:48:12.120 Maybe they wanted to start family. 0:48:12.200 --> 0:48:12.839 I think they did. 0:48:13.200 --> 0:48:14.400 Was getting tired. I don't know. 0:48:15.680 --> 0:48:17.799 It's just like what what what made it? What made 0:48:17.800 --> 0:48:21.160 them stop? Because like we up to twenty two twenty three. 0:48:21.120 --> 0:48:24.279 Nobody wanted that was your biggest fear. 0:48:25.200 --> 0:48:27.000 It wasn't my biggest fear. It's just something. 0:48:27.000 --> 0:48:28.680 I also remember I was huge at this point, so 0:48:28.719 --> 0:48:31.000 it wasn't like I was smashing the whole fucking campus. 0:48:31.480 --> 0:48:33.640 So like I was, how big were you? 0:48:33.840 --> 0:48:34.640 Like three sixty? 0:48:35.080 --> 0:48:36.000 Did you play football? 0:48:36.440 --> 0:48:36.640 Yeah? 0:48:36.640 --> 0:48:38.279 I did, but that's not why. 0:48:41.000 --> 0:48:42.319 So how long did you live all the way? 0:48:42.880 --> 0:48:43.080 Oh? 0:48:43.239 --> 0:48:44.720 I see, maybe like two thousand and seven? 0:48:44.960 --> 0:48:47.839 Okay, what was that like around. 0:48:47.520 --> 0:48:50.440 The time I moved to lay Was in LA that 0:48:50.520 --> 0:48:51.600 motivated your health? 0:48:51.680 --> 0:48:52.000 To kid? 0:48:52.200 --> 0:48:54.200 No, I think that because La is a. 0:48:54.160 --> 0:48:55.960 Very shallow place if anybody's ever. 0:48:55.760 --> 0:48:57.640 Been here, No, I don't think it was La. 0:48:57.719 --> 0:49:02.520 I think that for me when I made a decision, well, 0:49:02.560 --> 0:49:04.440 when I made a decision that I was really gonna 0:49:04.680 --> 0:49:08.640 like go forward in life, there's this vision of me 0:49:09.200 --> 0:49:11.640 that I have, right, this vision of me that I 0:49:11.680 --> 0:49:13.360 look and still this guy that I see and I 0:49:13.400 --> 0:49:14.160 haven't attained it. 0:49:14.840 --> 0:49:17.560 I can see him, like I really can't. 0:49:17.600 --> 0:49:20.120 I can see what he's doing, I can see his mindset, 0:49:20.160 --> 0:49:22.560 I can see how he deals with people, and I'm 0:49:22.680 --> 0:49:23.719 like chasing him in a way. 0:49:24.520 --> 0:49:26.360 And so that's like your future self. 0:49:26.680 --> 0:49:27.759 Yeah you know what I mean. 0:49:27.880 --> 0:49:31.759 So like I came here and I I lost one 0:49:31.840 --> 0:49:32.920 hundred and thirty pounds. 0:49:33.080 --> 0:49:36.279 Other than like your physical transformation, how would you say 0:49:36.400 --> 0:49:37.160 LA has changed you? 0:49:37.160 --> 0:49:38.200 Because Louisiana to LA. 0:49:38.320 --> 0:49:40.439 Well did you move straight from Louisian to LA after 0:49:40.440 --> 0:49:42.759 the hurricane? How do you How do you feel like 0:49:42.880 --> 0:49:44.800 you think you've got in Hollywood and any of your friends, 0:49:44.800 --> 0:49:47.320 because like Hollywood, I've seen translants come to Hollywood. 0:49:47.440 --> 0:49:49.400 Well they're usually the most Hollywood ones. 0:49:49.360 --> 0:49:52.720 And now they're on three thousand, Like, look here, motherfucker, 0:49:52.719 --> 0:49:53.359 you need to calm down. 0:49:53.360 --> 0:49:56.359 I know there are depictings of what. 0:49:56.360 --> 0:49:59.120 They think is Hollywood, so it's elaborated. So how do 0:49:59.160 --> 0:50:01.600 you think Hollywood has affected you? 0:50:02.480 --> 0:50:04.880 I think it's affected me. 0:50:10.000 --> 0:50:12.080 The first thing he did was expand the scope of 0:50:12.120 --> 0:50:16.520 my brain is how much I thought was out there. 0:50:17.040 --> 0:50:20.000 As far as me becoming Hollywood, Like I'm not even. 0:50:19.840 --> 0:50:23.160 Skilled enough in life to be Hollywood, and like, to 0:50:23.239 --> 0:50:26.440 be Hollywood, you have to there's a certain set of 0:50:26.480 --> 0:50:27.399 skills that that takes. 0:50:27.520 --> 0:50:28.160 You think you would be. 0:50:28.120 --> 0:50:30.040 Able to identify if you were Hollywoo, because most of 0:50:30.040 --> 0:50:31.400 other people wouldn't say're on Hollywood? 0:50:31.440 --> 0:50:35.000 Maybe not, but well maybe not. But what I would 0:50:35.040 --> 0:50:38.480 say is what I view as being Hollywood. I could 0:50:38.560 --> 0:50:41.080 never be because I'm just not that good. 0:50:41.200 --> 0:50:42.520 And what is the definition for you? 0:50:42.880 --> 0:50:52.479 Like seamlessly navigating social situations, dressing up, having a car 0:50:52.680 --> 0:50:57.880 that like, like, I make a really good salary, but 0:50:57.920 --> 0:50:59.879 you would never know by the Cross Tour right because 0:50:59.880 --> 0:51:02.239 I got the trust dependable Honda Cross Tour up here. 0:51:02.560 --> 0:51:06.600 I just can't bring myself. I just can't do it. 0:51:06.920 --> 0:51:09.840 I can't, like, I can't bring myself to Every single 0:51:09.840 --> 0:51:10.879 stitch of the clothes I'm. 0:51:10.760 --> 0:51:11.960 Wearing right now is gifted to me. 0:51:18.560 --> 0:51:19.279 Here's another one. 0:51:21.120 --> 0:51:24.520 So, but I think like being Hollywood, like, I think 0:51:24.560 --> 0:51:29.480 that it takes effort. But for the people that are Hollywood, 0:51:29.680 --> 0:51:33.000 that's what they like. Like they like being out like 0:51:33.320 --> 0:51:37.400 all the time. They like, uh, going to meetings that 0:51:37.520 --> 0:51:41.240 have no results. Everybody's eating somewhere but like nothing ever happened, 0:51:42.680 --> 0:51:43.839 like no deals ever. 0:51:44.000 --> 0:51:45.040 Actually, let's have drinks. 0:51:45.080 --> 0:51:46.200 Let's talk about it. 0:51:46.680 --> 0:51:46.799 Yo. 0:51:46.960 --> 0:51:48.640 It's like, is anybody working really? 0:51:49.200 --> 0:51:51.799 Man? People hit me up like like people like, man, 0:51:52.000 --> 0:51:53.440 come over here, man, it's so much going on. 0:51:53.560 --> 0:51:55.880 Let's have drinks to talk about what and nothing? 0:51:55.880 --> 0:51:59.319 Ever? And then you become Hollywood for doing that. You're 0:51:59.360 --> 0:52:01.080 not Hollywood. That's how they perceive you. 0:52:01.400 --> 0:52:03.279 Man, What you got? If I'm a drive across town, 0:52:03.360 --> 0:52:05.279 you want to talk to me about something. Oh yeah, 0:52:05.280 --> 0:52:06.719 I got something for you. You send me the deck, send 0:52:06.760 --> 0:52:06.920 me that. 0:52:08.400 --> 0:52:10.400 Most of the broke is not doing ship people are 0:52:10.400 --> 0:52:11.520 the most Hollywood ones, you know. 0:52:11.600 --> 0:52:13.600 We text them like, Hi, hand do you want to 0:52:13.640 --> 0:52:14.680 We're going to take you to dinner. 0:52:14.840 --> 0:52:16.759 He's like, what do you guys want to talk about? 0:52:17.200 --> 0:52:20.719 Because what do you ladies want to talk about? 0:52:20.760 --> 0:52:24.200 I'm like, he's the reality is we don't have. The 0:52:24.280 --> 0:52:25.960 reality is if you need me to come through the 0:52:26.000 --> 0:52:28.200 podcast or if you want to, we don't have to 0:52:28.239 --> 0:52:29.080 go to dinner to do that. 0:52:30.239 --> 0:52:31.719 I know, I know, I get it, and but like, 0:52:31.800 --> 0:52:32.160 but my. 0:52:32.440 --> 0:52:35.520 Thing is, like we all of this ship like when 0:52:35.560 --> 0:52:37.800 you MIMMO to anyone. 0:52:39.719 --> 0:52:43.680 Like I don't, I'm not. You don't have to be 0:52:43.760 --> 0:52:45.920 my friend in order for me to do business with you. 0:52:46.400 --> 0:52:48.200 So if you need. 0:52:47.920 --> 0:52:50.480 Something from me, tell. 0:52:49.640 --> 0:52:52.960 Me what you need from me, Like, don't could like 0:52:53.120 --> 0:52:55.680 when you you hit me up in the d MS, 0:52:56.080 --> 0:52:57.480 don't hit me up with no hard eyes. 0:52:57.520 --> 0:52:59.919 So you can get on TMC say yo, I want 0:52:59.920 --> 0:53:00.920 to be on TM. 0:53:01.360 --> 0:53:03.640 And I respect to the point. 0:53:03.480 --> 0:53:05.399 And then I will send a camera to you because 0:53:05.400 --> 0:53:06.560 I don't give a funk about that. 0:53:06.840 --> 0:53:11.480 So it gives me a celebrity. 0:53:11.840 --> 0:53:12.759 You could definitely be onto you. 0:53:12.840 --> 0:53:17.440 I can definitely like, oh, I could definitely be on 0:53:17.600 --> 0:53:21.120 you know you know how people you know I put 0:53:21.160 --> 0:53:21.920 like my next door. 0:53:21.760 --> 0:53:24.120 Neighbors on you about to see us on there. 0:53:25.200 --> 0:53:26.880 Yeah, I'm just saying, but it's just like, if you 0:53:27.040 --> 0:53:30.960 that's what you want, don't flirt with me, don't be like, man, 0:53:31.000 --> 0:53:33.480 I really appreciate you to Kanye nah dog what you 0:53:33.520 --> 0:53:36.000 want because I don't really have because there are things 0:53:36.000 --> 0:53:37.280 that I actually. 0:53:36.880 --> 0:53:39.480 Want to do and I have such I have so 0:53:39.600 --> 0:53:41.879 little time to do them. Let's just talk. I will 0:53:41.920 --> 0:53:42.440 build with you. 0:53:42.719 --> 0:53:44.440 I'm not to a point to where I'm not listening 0:53:44.480 --> 0:53:47.440 to ideas to where I'm not well, I'm turning people. 0:53:47.200 --> 0:53:50.520 Down like yeo, I'm too busy for this man, Like, 0:53:50.560 --> 0:53:51.439 I will build with you. 0:53:51.480 --> 0:53:52.640 Just be real with it. 0:53:53.480 --> 0:53:55.440 Do you ever get how do you like separate yourself 0:53:55.440 --> 0:53:58.000 from like constantly having to know what's going on all 0:53:58.080 --> 0:53:59.680 the time, right, because you're kind of. 0:54:00.040 --> 0:54:03.320 What you mean, you work for like a like a CMC. 0:54:03.560 --> 0:54:05.920 Like you always social, you know, it's very social. You 0:54:06.000 --> 0:54:08.160 are always in the know of other people's lives. 0:54:08.360 --> 0:54:09.640 How do you separate yourself? How do you take a 0:54:09.680 --> 0:54:10.279 break from that ship. 0:54:10.600 --> 0:54:12.239 I don't. I mean that was second acture to me, 0:54:12.320 --> 0:54:12.880 so like it. 0:54:13.120 --> 0:54:16.200 There are a lot of things that I don't have 0:54:16.400 --> 0:54:20.880 any knowledge of, but my I think one thing is 0:54:20.880 --> 0:54:23.040 that in my twenties, when I was a little bit 0:54:23.080 --> 0:54:28.520 more to myself, my sphere of knowledge grew because being 0:54:28.520 --> 0:54:31.560 so introverted meant that I would just. 0:54:32.440 --> 0:54:34.120 Look at stuff. I would just consume. 0:54:34.360 --> 0:54:36.719 For there was a but you were an introvert, you 0:54:36.760 --> 0:54:39.120 seem like an extra You seem like an introvert, extrovert, 0:54:39.200 --> 0:54:41.000 but super introverted. 0:54:40.520 --> 0:54:41.160 Like I was. 0:54:41.400 --> 0:54:43.400 Like there was a long period of time while I 0:54:43.440 --> 0:54:46.719 was just in a room consuming writing, I would I 0:54:46.760 --> 0:54:49.600 would get information from the computer, put it in my 0:54:49.680 --> 0:54:51.600 head and then download it into what I was writing 0:54:52.000 --> 0:54:54.480 and just consume it and consume it and consume it 0:54:54.520 --> 0:54:55.120 and consume it. 0:54:55.800 --> 0:54:58.640 Film, music, pop culture, all of it. 0:54:58.680 --> 0:55:02.520 And so by the time I got to TMZ, which 0:55:02.719 --> 0:55:04.520 it was providence and a lotaways and I got there. 0:55:04.560 --> 0:55:07.000 By the time I got to TMZ, I could regurgitate 0:55:07.040 --> 0:55:10.520 this knowledge in many different forms. And so now habitually 0:55:10.600 --> 0:55:12.640 I do that. Now I don't watch all of these 0:55:12.719 --> 0:55:15.720 dumb shows like I don't watch all of this, this, this, 0:55:15.440 --> 0:55:19.400 this this stuff. But like habitually, I just search, like 0:55:21.400 --> 0:55:24.080 when I'm when I'm watching something on TV, I normally 0:55:24.160 --> 0:55:27.600 do it like with an iPad, everyone does, right, And 0:55:27.680 --> 0:55:30.400 so for sure, like when I'm with an iPad and 0:55:30.440 --> 0:55:32.880 I see stuff or I see I'm just google stuff 0:55:33.080 --> 0:55:34.440 to gain knowledge from it. 0:55:34.960 --> 0:55:38.760 But it's just it's like a habit. Long eight years. 0:55:39.160 --> 0:55:40.120 What were you doing before that? 0:55:40.440 --> 0:55:41.720 I was running my own block. 0:55:42.040 --> 0:55:44.040 I was writing for four or five different publications, and 0:55:44.080 --> 0:55:46.319 then before that, I was a producer. I had a 0:55:46.320 --> 0:55:48.720 place called Capricorn Programs. We made like smaller shows. 0:55:49.080 --> 0:55:52.279 Is it all like social like social based or like? 0:55:53.640 --> 0:55:55.719 I sold the screenplayer or option to one and that 0:55:55.719 --> 0:55:58.319 got me out to l A and then I got 0:55:58.320 --> 0:56:03.600 a job with uh Capricorn so I could stay here. 0:56:04.200 --> 0:56:07.440 And then that company went belly up for whatever reason, 0:56:07.840 --> 0:56:11.239 still kind of don't know. But and after that I 0:56:11.280 --> 0:56:13.600 started writing for fan Sided, I started writing for I 0:56:13.600 --> 0:56:16.320 wrote my own blog, which got picked up by Fox Sports, 0:56:16.840 --> 0:56:20.640 and then I wrote for flick Sided, and I wrote 0:56:20.640 --> 0:56:21.959 for rat Pages and I. 0:56:21.920 --> 0:56:22.640 Just wrote everywhere. 0:56:22.640 --> 0:56:24.400 What's the bog? I got picked up by Fox Sports. 0:56:24.480 --> 0:56:25.960 It's called the Sickle Master. 0:56:25.880 --> 0:56:28.480 And that's still up on Fox Gone. That was all 0:56:28.520 --> 0:56:29.160 sports space. 0:56:29.800 --> 0:56:32.160 It was sports satire. So I wrote about anything that 0:56:32.200 --> 0:56:33.000 I wanted to. 0:56:32.920 --> 0:56:34.920 Write about but just kind of had loose. 0:56:36.160 --> 0:56:37.880 But it didn't really even have to be about sports. 0:56:37.880 --> 0:56:38.960 I had there. 0:56:39.239 --> 0:56:40.920 I used to write blogs when I first got to 0:56:41.040 --> 0:56:44.840 l A, I blocked everything that I first that I 0:56:44.880 --> 0:56:47.360 first did. I blogged like homeless guy came up to 0:56:47.400 --> 0:56:48.920 me and he had great shoes on. 0:56:49.200 --> 0:56:53.000 He just wrote about it, wrote about it. So you're 0:56:53.000 --> 0:56:54.480 a writer. I mean I didn't even realize that. 0:56:55.120 --> 0:56:57.960 And then also you are screenplay writer, So you want 0:56:57.960 --> 0:57:00.000 to create film? And is that your is that your 0:57:00.440 --> 0:57:02.920 ultimately not ultimately one of your ultimate goals in. 0:57:02.960 --> 0:57:06.040 Life is to say that's the endgame? It okay, So. 0:57:06.080 --> 0:57:08.719 To just be a screenwriter director of being working film. 0:57:08.560 --> 0:57:11.839 Yeah, that's the endgame. Well, the I guess the real 0:57:11.920 --> 0:57:18.160 end game is to create content, content scripted and unscripted 0:57:18.320 --> 0:57:19.200 that sort of. 0:57:24.720 --> 0:57:26.800 Like pushes people forward. Like I was telling you guys 0:57:26.800 --> 0:57:27.560 about my mother. 0:57:27.440 --> 0:57:31.360 Before, right, So the story about my mom and kind 0:57:31.400 --> 0:57:33.800 of where she is in life right now, it's so 0:57:33.960 --> 0:57:38.120 typical that I can't understand why anyone is it's discussing 0:57:38.160 --> 0:57:42.000 it and so you can make a you can make film, 0:57:42.040 --> 0:57:45.200 and you can make art that empowers people in a way. 0:57:45.240 --> 0:57:46.120 I'll give you an example. 0:57:46.720 --> 0:57:49.840 And like, I'm a kid, right talking about my mother, 0:57:49.920 --> 0:57:51.240 the most important person in my life. 0:57:51.280 --> 0:57:53.480 I'm a kid. It's nineteen eighty nine, nineteen ninety. 0:57:53.480 --> 0:57:58.080 I'm watching Do the Right Thing, fantastic, beautiful, affecting, powerful movie. 0:57:58.640 --> 0:58:03.000 I'm watching Do the Right Thing, and I'm into it 0:58:03.040 --> 0:58:05.240 like it's one of the first movies with adult themes, 0:58:05.280 --> 0:58:09.720 and I am it's I'm getting it. I'm getting the anger, 0:58:09.840 --> 0:58:13.240 I'm getting the sort of the angst that everyone's going 0:58:13.240 --> 0:58:14.800 through in the back and forth. And my mother is 0:58:14.920 --> 0:58:18.240 really enjoying this, right, She's like she's looking at this 0:58:18.280 --> 0:58:21.280 and she's going wow, Like it's not this isn't he 0:58:21.440 --> 0:58:22.000 Man based. 0:58:22.000 --> 0:58:24.200 It's not Superman based. It's not even comedy. 0:58:24.240 --> 0:58:26.880 Because we had watched Trading Places and all those, it's 0:58:26.920 --> 0:58:29.680 easy to laugh. She's like, he's getting this, he's understanding it, 0:58:29.760 --> 0:58:31.440 she says. Now she's watching it with me, And you know, 0:58:31.640 --> 0:58:33.280 I'm sure there are other reasons why she's watching it. 0:58:33.280 --> 0:58:35.160 Because it's titt Is in the movie and whatnot. 0:58:35.280 --> 0:58:35.680 And. 0:58:37.280 --> 0:58:38.560 With the blindfall lives. 0:58:38.720 --> 0:58:39.520 Yeah, now she didn't. 0:58:40.040 --> 0:58:44.120 I was like, look Rose, And so my mother looks 0:58:44.160 --> 0:58:47.760 at me and she goes, she goes, you see Mookie 0:58:48.000 --> 0:58:51.640 Spike Lee's character and I'm like yeah. She's like, just 0:58:51.720 --> 0:58:54.520 let you know, MOOKI wrote and directed the movie. And 0:58:54.560 --> 0:58:57.959 I'm like, what does that mean? And she goes, well, 0:58:59.000 --> 0:59:01.840 he made it all up in his head, and then 0:59:01.880 --> 0:59:05.320 when they were making the movie, he stands there and 0:59:05.400 --> 0:59:08.480 tells everybody what to do. And my response to my 0:59:08.520 --> 0:59:12.040 mother was they let black people do that. And she went, 0:59:12.200 --> 0:59:15.160 I never forget this. She was so taken the back. 0:59:15.240 --> 0:59:21.400 She goes, yeah, baby, you can do whatever you want 0:59:21.480 --> 0:59:25.720 to do. And I was like, oh, I never knew that. 0:59:26.400 --> 0:59:27.480 It was foreign to me. 0:59:27.840 --> 0:59:29.960 To think about it in those terms, that. 0:59:29.640 --> 0:59:31.480 That was something that a black dude could do so 0:59:32.280 --> 0:59:34.360 and it shouldn't have been, but for whatever reason, it 0:59:34.440 --> 0:59:36.440 was what I was from, Like where I was from 0:59:36.480 --> 0:59:38.840 at that point, anybody that was in an authority figure 0:59:38.920 --> 0:59:42.040 was a white guy. And so for me, I'm looking 0:59:42.080 --> 0:59:47.440 at that and that movie changed my perspective of not filmmaking, 0:59:47.440 --> 0:59:51.440 but of life. And so film and art has the 0:59:51.480 --> 0:59:55.000 capability to do that if it's weaponized properly, and so 0:59:55.080 --> 0:59:57.360 that's kind of like what I like to do, what I. 0:59:57.280 --> 0:59:58.240 Would like to do. 0:59:58.440 --> 0:59:59.080 Yeah, I agree. 0:59:59.080 --> 1:00:01.080 I think it's inspir you know, and I think you know, 1:00:01.120 --> 1:00:03.320 and now that you say that story, I've always really 1:00:03.400 --> 1:00:05.840 really like Spike Lee Joints because my dad I watched 1:00:05.880 --> 1:00:10.240 Crooklynd like seventy five times as a child, but as. 1:00:10.160 --> 1:00:12.440 A young girl, but as an adult, like, this is 1:00:12.480 --> 1:00:14.600 really sad. I don't even know why. Yeah, I like 1:00:14.640 --> 1:00:15.160 she hate me too. 1:00:15.200 --> 1:00:18.200 I like also, but I I remember thinking like, oh, 1:00:18.240 --> 1:00:20.360 that's oh he wrote this movie. My dad's blain me that, 1:00:20.400 --> 1:00:22.080 and like oh that's his sister. Yeah, and it would 1:00:22.080 --> 1:00:25.960 be like obviously it's so pro black, So like naturally 1:00:26.040 --> 1:00:28.280 you become attached to it because there's like you're picking 1:00:28.320 --> 1:00:29.960 hair and there's like things you can relate to. 1:00:30.480 --> 1:00:31.280 But I think you. 1:00:31.360 --> 1:00:33.560 Putting in that perspective that probably was a lot of 1:00:33.600 --> 1:00:35.800 why I enjoyed it so much, because it was like 1:00:36.280 --> 1:00:38.439 inspiration and it's like, oh. 1:00:38.360 --> 1:00:39.200 You could do this shit too. 1:00:39.520 --> 1:00:42.200 And also we don't have to be like it, don't 1:00:41.920 --> 1:00:43.840 We don't have to have sidral movies where it's like 1:00:43.960 --> 1:00:48.000 message like one thing that black people we're complicated like 1:00:48.640 --> 1:00:51.640 people pero, we're complicated. It's not always gonna make sense. 1:00:52.200 --> 1:00:54.640 It means sometimes it's gonna be ratchet, sometimes it's gonna 1:00:54.640 --> 1:00:55.600 be No, it's true. 1:00:55.360 --> 1:00:58.800 But it's like I think, I think what you said that, 1:00:58.880 --> 1:01:00.000 you know, you can't believe anybody. 1:01:00.080 --> 1:01:00.959 No one's made this film. 1:01:01.000 --> 1:01:03.760 It's because that film has probably been made with white people. 1:01:04.200 --> 1:01:07.880 It's just we don't see the different stories that of 1:01:07.920 --> 1:01:10.080 like being black in the black perspective and realize that 1:01:10.080 --> 1:01:11.520 a lot of I means, we're all humans at the 1:01:11.560 --> 1:01:12.000 end of the day. 1:01:12.080 --> 1:01:14.000 Yes, we have different experiences. 1:01:13.520 --> 1:01:16.520 Because of the color of us again, especially in America, 1:01:16.640 --> 1:01:20.400 but I feel like we're just now starting to see, like, 1:01:20.400 --> 1:01:22.480 for example, to show like Insecure, you see like a 1:01:22.640 --> 1:01:26.480 regular white I mean black woman's white black woman in 1:01:26.520 --> 1:01:28.120 her early thirties, late. 1:01:28.000 --> 1:01:29.280 Twenties, and it's so simple. 1:01:29.280 --> 1:01:33.360 It's not really but it's like it's just about there's 1:01:33.440 --> 1:01:36.800 one girl's life, like can relate to it, you know, 1:01:37.080 --> 1:01:37.640 so and. 1:01:37.640 --> 1:01:39.680 The ship like this, the everyday stuper shit in the 1:01:39.720 --> 1:01:42.280 corporate world in the office, like stupid shit white people 1:01:42.320 --> 1:01:43.080 say to you, and you're like. 1:01:44.600 --> 1:01:47.480 Another day, you know, But that's it. That's why right now. 1:01:47.520 --> 1:01:50.680 Such an exciting time, you know, to watching film and 1:01:50.720 --> 1:01:54.680 watching TV because you're starting to see experimental black shows. 1:01:55.320 --> 1:01:57.680 Most people weren't really, I mean there are, like there's 1:01:57.680 --> 1:01:58.720 shows of their experiments. 1:01:58.760 --> 1:02:00.880 Now what do we just watch? And we got high 1:02:00.920 --> 1:02:01.680 before we watched it. 1:02:05.200 --> 1:02:10.200 I love that. That's crazy this morning for him and 1:02:10.240 --> 1:02:11.959 I had never seen it. I'm like, Yo, why haven't 1:02:11.960 --> 1:02:14.120 I watched it? It's us And I watched. 1:02:13.920 --> 1:02:15.080 The show and I was like. 1:02:15.320 --> 1:02:19.800 I love that guy going crazy. It was fantastic because 1:02:19.960 --> 1:02:20.480 we don't see it. 1:02:20.560 --> 1:02:22.600 We see ourselves this way, that way, but rarely do 1:02:22.640 --> 1:02:25.680 we have this like artistic expression of all these things 1:02:25.680 --> 1:02:27.520 that it's embodying, this creative place. 1:02:28.520 --> 1:02:30.320 I'm letting your mind go free. And I have to 1:02:30.320 --> 1:02:32.600 tell it like one I mean is it was an 1:02:32.600 --> 1:02:34.840 adults threat through. 1:02:35.320 --> 1:02:37.120 It has a threat all the way through, but it's 1:02:37.240 --> 1:02:39.600 just like, did you watch the first the first one? 1:02:39.640 --> 1:02:39.840 Yeah? 1:02:39.840 --> 1:02:43.720 I watch to like the first one. The first one 1:02:43.800 --> 1:02:46.160 is great, but the first one they spent a lot 1:02:46.160 --> 1:02:48.920 of time on that character. We did the Reaper and 1:02:48.960 --> 1:02:50.000 that's a scary. 1:02:49.680 --> 1:02:51.160 Ass so scary. 1:02:51.360 --> 1:02:52.840 Like we got high and I was like, should we 1:02:52.880 --> 1:02:54.920 have gotten high? 1:02:55.720 --> 1:02:58.920 Like they like in this last episode, they did a 1:02:59.000 --> 1:03:01.080 little stuff thing were her but like all of that 1:03:01.160 --> 1:03:02.640 talk about like that's it. 1:03:02.840 --> 1:03:04.840 That was freaking me the fun too. 1:03:06.680 --> 1:03:09.240 I was trying to interpret it in like an artistic way, 1:03:09.280 --> 1:03:10.560 but I'm like, this is kind of creeping me out. 1:03:10.560 --> 1:03:12.560 And then I kept thinking, this is a thirty minute show. 1:03:12.560 --> 1:03:13.920 How long have we been on this segment. 1:03:14.400 --> 1:03:17.680 Yeah, a lot of time with her, but you know 1:03:17.760 --> 1:03:19.680 it's just gonna set it's setting it up for something. 1:03:19.880 --> 1:03:21.800 Well, in the last episode they I don't know if 1:03:21.800 --> 1:03:23.440 you guys saw the last episode. In the last episode 1:03:23.480 --> 1:03:26.720 they went they delved into it a little bit deeper, but. 1:03:26.640 --> 1:03:28.160 It does puty wing because it's so weird. 1:03:28.360 --> 1:03:30.520 Yeah, but there was such a funny scene and it's. 1:03:30.440 --> 1:03:31.080 All a grainy. 1:03:31.080 --> 1:03:35.280 It looks like like the early seventies or some shit like. 1:03:37.560 --> 1:03:39.960 Something. And this is another reason we're talking about life. 1:03:40.040 --> 1:03:44.080 So in the last episode of the show, the girl 1:03:44.200 --> 1:03:46.960 was going to the police office the police station to 1:03:47.560 --> 1:03:51.760 talk to you know, to report sexual assault. And when 1:03:51.760 --> 1:03:54.080 she was there, this is something that we don't talk 1:03:54.080 --> 1:03:56.160 about a lot. When she was there, she met a 1:03:56.200 --> 1:03:58.840 friend of hers that she knew, and the guy was 1:03:58.840 --> 1:04:01.640 there because his girlfriend was making him come there so 1:04:01.680 --> 1:04:03.560 he could report a sexual assault that happened to him 1:04:03.600 --> 1:04:06.560 when he was a kid. And he said something that 1:04:06.600 --> 1:04:09.360 I've heard from so many of my homeboys. I know 1:04:09.520 --> 1:04:13.520 so many guys that when they were nine, ten, eleven 1:04:13.560 --> 1:04:16.680 years old that had like an older black lady or 1:04:16.680 --> 1:04:17.320 an older. 1:04:17.160 --> 1:04:19.439 Lady in their community touched them around. 1:04:20.040 --> 1:04:25.360 I know, and like they'll be like and even him, 1:04:25.400 --> 1:04:27.800 he's like, you know, because you know, this was how 1:04:27.840 --> 1:04:29.400 it was I supposed to learn. This was before that 1:04:29.440 --> 1:04:31.320 whole Netflix and Chill movement. And you could see in 1:04:31.320 --> 1:04:34.360 his face he believed as hell that he was. He 1:04:34.480 --> 1:04:37.280 was kind of getting worked up about it. But I 1:04:37.320 --> 1:04:39.640 know so many tudes that like, I'm like, homie, you 1:04:39.640 --> 1:04:40.240 were molested. 1:04:40.360 --> 1:04:43.920 Yeah, this is a traumatic experience that probably has like 1:04:44.200 --> 1:04:46.320 affected you with greatly as an adult and how you 1:04:46.360 --> 1:04:49.440 love and how you interact, and they don't even register 1:04:49.560 --> 1:04:50.000 it as such. 1:04:50.400 --> 1:04:52.800 I always asked, man, how you relatched your virginity? 1:04:53.080 --> 1:04:55.520 Wasn't an older woman and breach, like, do you feel 1:04:55.520 --> 1:04:57.200 like that was like inappropriate? 1:04:57.200 --> 1:04:59.520 It's always a baby answer those questions. 1:05:00.080 --> 1:05:00.720 Was seventeen? 1:05:01.200 --> 1:05:03.240 She was not. 1:05:04.680 --> 1:05:06.840 She was the same age. 1:05:06.920 --> 1:05:09.960 And it was weird because I went from not having 1:05:10.040 --> 1:05:13.120 hardly any sexual experiences to everything just coming at the 1:05:13.120 --> 1:05:14.520 same time, and. 1:05:15.720 --> 1:05:16.440 You know it was crazy. 1:05:18.320 --> 1:05:20.560 Well, the first time I tried to have sex with 1:05:20.560 --> 1:05:23.800 this different girl, I couldn't get it. 1:05:23.720 --> 1:05:26.080 Couldn't get it, wouldn't happen. I remember hearing it. She 1:05:26.120 --> 1:05:29.800 even would come off in Oh god, I had liked 1:05:29.840 --> 1:05:31.080 me for a long nervous. 1:05:31.280 --> 1:05:31.480 Yeah. 1:05:31.520 --> 1:05:34.480 We were in a car at Olympia Stadium, Baton Rouge. 1:05:34.560 --> 1:05:37.840 This is nineteen ninety seven, where like we're in a car. 1:05:37.760 --> 1:05:41.400 And like, at first I was such a jokester that 1:05:41.560 --> 1:05:43.280 at first I had tried to kiss her and she 1:05:43.440 --> 1:05:46.520 was like, get off me. And then then she then 1:05:46.520 --> 1:05:47.840 she told me later, she's like, what if he was 1:05:47.840 --> 1:05:49.680 really trying to kiss me? So then I and she 1:05:49.720 --> 1:05:51.680 had very experienced. I rolled over right now on top 1:05:51.720 --> 1:05:53.200 of her, and I just. 1:05:54.680 --> 1:05:55.080 I was thin. 1:05:56.840 --> 1:05:59.240 I was standing like, and she's like, and it just 1:05:59.280 --> 1:06:03.560 didn't work. And it's just it didn't It wasn't gonna happen. 1:06:03.600 --> 1:06:04.760 I was too nervous to work. 1:06:04.920 --> 1:06:07.400 Did that make for a long time? How did that 1:06:07.440 --> 1:06:07.959 make you feel? 1:06:07.960 --> 1:06:09.600 Did you feel like, well, the first thing I want 1:06:09.640 --> 1:06:11.640 to do is I did not want that to get 1:06:11.680 --> 1:06:15.600 around campus I did not want that to get around campus. 1:06:15.640 --> 1:06:18.400 But she really liked me, so she she wasn't as 1:06:18.440 --> 1:06:22.800 a matter of fact. At that same time, I like, 1:06:22.880 --> 1:06:25.760 right after that, I started talking to a girl who 1:06:25.880 --> 1:06:30.160 was like her friend, and she was like, please listen, 1:06:30.200 --> 1:06:31.680 I know that you guys been going back and forth 1:06:31.720 --> 1:06:33.680 for a long time. Don't tell her anything about what 1:06:33.720 --> 1:06:35.880 happened between us and just whatever. 1:06:35.960 --> 1:06:38.200 And then for some reason. 1:06:40.160 --> 1:06:46.840 Oh my god, it was fun. It was not flying. 1:06:50.160 --> 1:06:54.040 I can't remember. Actually I do remember, yet we had sex. 1:06:54.200 --> 1:06:57.400 It was in my nineteen eighty eighty four tours. And 1:06:57.440 --> 1:07:00.240 then it lasted for a while. Now, the first we 1:07:00.240 --> 1:07:02.360 were actually in the bed together. It didn't last at all. 1:07:05.080 --> 1:07:07.720 That was that, but me and that girls so much sex. 1:07:08.280 --> 1:07:11.400 Did you learn a lot from your first sex? How 1:07:11.400 --> 1:07:12.520 did you learn how to get pussy? 1:07:12.840 --> 1:07:13.280 She told me. 1:07:13.320 --> 1:07:16.320 I remember, It's like I was down there sticking my 1:07:16.360 --> 1:07:19.040 tongue in the hole, and then she was, and then 1:07:19.040 --> 1:07:22.880 she was like, she was like, uh, you know, there's 1:07:22.880 --> 1:07:25.200 like a little piece of skin. I don't forget this moment. 1:07:25.440 --> 1:07:27.800 This is exactly what she said. She said, and that 1:07:27.920 --> 1:07:29.880 this woman went to Harvard and she's a doctor. Now 1:07:29.960 --> 1:07:33.120 she goes she goes, you know, there's a little piece 1:07:33.160 --> 1:07:37.640 of skin like above, and I was like, oh, show me, 1:07:38.120 --> 1:07:40.280 and then she was like yeah, yeah, but I had 1:07:40.280 --> 1:07:42.000 to teach her how to too, so it was like 1:07:42.080 --> 1:07:44.440 and so then it was like and then after that, 1:07:44.600 --> 1:07:47.200 I was on that motherfucker like I was. 1:07:47.240 --> 1:07:49.200 So you weren't like getting suffer from the black man 1:07:49.280 --> 1:07:49.920 syndrome where. 1:07:50.800 --> 1:07:56.280 I was obsessed with every aspect of sex from the 1:07:56.480 --> 1:08:01.240 jump like I was. I was obsessed from the jump 1:08:01.400 --> 1:08:04.680 every aspect of sex, and like the more. Then she 1:08:04.720 --> 1:08:07.240 came to college with me, and then we didn't have 1:08:07.320 --> 1:08:08.480 to like sneak. 1:08:08.960 --> 1:08:12.280 Like a whole new world was freedom, like ridiculous at 1:08:12.280 --> 1:08:13.080 that point. 1:08:14.280 --> 1:08:16.360 How old were you when you had was she black? 1:08:16.880 --> 1:08:17.080 Yeah? 1:08:17.240 --> 1:08:20.120 When was your first white girl experience white woman experience? 1:08:20.720 --> 1:08:22.360 Oh no, actually it was before. 1:08:23.520 --> 1:08:26.519 And what do you do? It was like, there's a 1:08:26.520 --> 1:08:27.240 difference in sex. 1:08:27.280 --> 1:08:29.000 I mean, I know it's a stupid question, but like 1:08:29.280 --> 1:08:32.120 some people would say there is, and some people are like, no, 1:08:32.240 --> 1:08:33.880 of course, not a body's a body. 1:08:33.600 --> 1:08:34.160 You know what I mean? 1:08:34.320 --> 1:08:36.800 So difference there's not a difference in a sex. Sex 1:08:36.840 --> 1:08:40.520 from an anatomical standpoint, there sometimes can be a difference. 1:08:40.160 --> 1:08:45.320 In mindset and mindset for you or for her, I mean, period. 1:08:45.520 --> 1:08:47.880 And this is what I say. And by the way, 1:08:47.880 --> 1:08:50.160 this is not I'm trying not to generalize. I'm talking 1:08:50.160 --> 1:08:57.600 about my experience. It like like freedom is a weird thing. 1:08:57.960 --> 1:08:59.679 Freedom colors everything in your life. 1:08:59.720 --> 1:09:00.679 Right, So. 1:09:02.479 --> 1:09:04.920 The more free you are, a lot of times, the 1:09:04.960 --> 1:09:09.560 more adventurous, the more experimentational you are a lot of 1:09:09.600 --> 1:09:12.400 different ways because you don't really care when people think 1:09:12.400 --> 1:09:15.439 of you, because their thoughts of you have much less 1:09:15.439 --> 1:09:16.000 social weight. 1:09:17.439 --> 1:09:19.839 A lot of sisters, at least in the past. 1:09:20.240 --> 1:09:22.360 I'm speaking in the past when I was really doing 1:09:22.360 --> 1:09:25.160 my thing to a heavy level. A lot of sisters 1:09:25.439 --> 1:09:32.800 they cannot the social weight of you dragging their name 1:09:32.880 --> 1:09:37.880 through the mud is it's it's such a they're so 1:09:37.960 --> 1:09:41.559 afraid of that that they can be who they want 1:09:41.600 --> 1:09:41.800 to be. 1:09:42.920 --> 1:09:45.080 Danny, and you talk about this on your last podcast. 1:09:45.080 --> 1:09:47.440 I think I saw this about. 1:09:47.240 --> 1:09:49.080 And I was thinking, I was thinking long and hard 1:09:49.080 --> 1:09:53.519 about that, like being as black women or women of color, 1:09:53.640 --> 1:09:57.320 do you feel like less open and less able to 1:09:57.479 --> 1:10:02.080 be like sexually expressive, openly like like versus like a 1:10:02.120 --> 1:10:02.639 white woman. 1:10:02.720 --> 1:10:05.000 And Okay, I think those things are changing now, but 1:10:05.040 --> 1:10:09.320 I think I think then, uh it was, and you've. 1:10:09.160 --> 1:10:11.760 Experienced that firsthand, like your sex versus sex with a 1:10:11.800 --> 1:10:14.280 black woman versus a white woman had much more free 1:10:14.360 --> 1:10:15.719 or experiences with white women. 1:10:16.360 --> 1:10:18.920 Well then for sure, like it was like it was 1:10:18.960 --> 1:10:22.840 like there was like nothing that there's no there's nothing 1:10:22.840 --> 1:10:24.479 that a white girl would do that would make her 1:10:24.520 --> 1:10:24.880 a whore. 1:10:25.439 --> 1:10:27.320 Like at that point there was a point. I mean, 1:10:27.680 --> 1:10:28.960 I'm serious there they. 1:10:29.000 --> 1:10:32.240 Weren't necessarily no no, no, no, no, no no in her mind. 1:10:32.439 --> 1:10:33.519 I don't think that's true either. 1:10:33.720 --> 1:10:37.559 I'm telling you right now that with some of the ones. 1:10:37.360 --> 1:10:39.519 That there have been white women that there's definitely I 1:10:39.600 --> 1:10:41.400 have white friends and like, oh my god, that was 1:10:41.479 --> 1:10:42.280 I feel like a whore. 1:10:42.400 --> 1:10:45.320 I'm a whore. I think three guys in the same day, Like, 1:10:45.400 --> 1:10:46.240 but guess what. 1:10:46.520 --> 1:10:50.280 They did it? You see what I'm saying, Like like 1:10:50.360 --> 1:10:51.240 they but guess what. 1:10:52.800 --> 1:10:54.640 I'm not saying. They don't tell you. I think that 1:10:54.840 --> 1:10:56.560 that might be true. But what I'm saying is the 1:10:56.600 --> 1:10:58.920 ship they wasn't doing it for me. But what I'm 1:10:58.960 --> 1:11:01.559 saying is they did it though they might they might 1:11:01.720 --> 1:11:03.880 feel that way, but they didn't, And so for me, 1:11:03.960 --> 1:11:05.400 I'm not saying that in any way. 1:11:05.439 --> 1:11:07.479 By the way, I'm not saying in any way that 1:11:07.560 --> 1:11:08.720 there is any type of. 1:11:08.720 --> 1:11:10.640 Thing I don't disagree with you. Let me say that 1:11:10.680 --> 1:11:12.840 I don't necessarily disagree with you. But I also think 1:11:12.880 --> 1:11:13.879 that there's two. 1:11:13.680 --> 1:11:14.200 Sides of that. 1:11:14.439 --> 1:11:17.280 There is one thing is I would always this is 1:11:17.280 --> 1:11:18.640 something I never understood. 1:11:18.760 --> 1:11:22.360 Like brothers would come down hard heavy. We had these. 1:11:22.200 --> 1:11:25.280 Girls as Southern they would call dick sucking crew, right, 1:11:25.680 --> 1:11:27.839 these girls were, these girls were my friends. 1:11:28.000 --> 1:11:32.080 Self identify, self identify that it was called to them, 1:11:32.120 --> 1:11:35.960 and then they embraced like, yeah, like these these were 1:11:36.000 --> 1:11:39.040 my girls, these were my friends, these were these girls 1:11:39.040 --> 1:11:40.320 were like one of the girls I. 1:11:40.200 --> 1:11:44.840 Did, yeah, like and it was and it was, And 1:11:44.880 --> 1:11:46.480 it was a weird thing because I remember. 1:11:46.360 --> 1:11:49.639 Well, also is your crew black and my crew? 1:11:49.720 --> 1:11:51.559 But my crew wasn't the ones calling on this because 1:11:51.600 --> 1:11:52.360 they were our friends. 1:11:52.920 --> 1:11:54.280 It was the rest of the guys around. 1:11:54.360 --> 1:11:56.800 Sometimes I even feel like white women will hyper sexualize 1:11:56.800 --> 1:11:57.800 themselves for black men. 1:11:58.000 --> 1:11:59.599 They don't feel like that's what black men want. 1:12:00.120 --> 1:12:05.200 Also, also they're savvy because they've heard these criticisms, So 1:12:05.320 --> 1:12:06.559 they've heard this stuff. 1:12:06.880 --> 1:12:09.559 This stuff gets put out there, they've heard this stuff. 1:12:09.600 --> 1:12:13.559 Also, by the way, there is less consequences that Like, 1:12:13.640 --> 1:12:15.960 I know, a dude we went to we. 1:12:15.880 --> 1:12:20.840 Went to to to spring break. He saw a girl 1:12:21.280 --> 1:12:21.959 in a wet. 1:12:21.760 --> 1:12:33.760 T shirt contest spring break, titties everywhere, ass twerking. They're married, Like, like, 1:12:33.960 --> 1:12:36.280 you are fucking crazy, and we're gonna go to Galveston 1:12:36.680 --> 1:12:38.400 and you're gonna marry one of the chicks in the 1:12:38.400 --> 1:12:39.120 tour contests. 1:12:39.160 --> 1:12:40.760 My niggas would never do that. 1:12:41.479 --> 1:12:41.799 Ever. 1:12:42.880 --> 1:12:44.040 I remember they were hanging out. 1:12:44.600 --> 1:12:46.519 We were all together where they were hanging out, and 1:12:46.520 --> 1:12:48.519 about the third day they were hanging out, one of 1:12:48.560 --> 1:12:50.800 my homeboys was like, hey, yo, you. 1:12:50.920 --> 1:12:53.720 Like this this show all in Mexico, you know, And 1:12:53.800 --> 1:12:55.800 he's like, dude, don't fucking talk about it like that. 1:12:56.680 --> 1:12:59.439 You know what I'm saying. And they dated for all 1:12:59.439 --> 1:13:02.040 through college and then they got married and then now 1:13:02.120 --> 1:13:04.439 it's a funny story. Now it's like Dan, now we 1:13:04.479 --> 1:13:05.960 all hang out. It's like, Dan, you want to tell 1:13:06.160 --> 1:13:07.439 tell everybody like where we met. 1:13:07.920 --> 1:13:09.920 And I'll be like, well, I think that's true. 1:13:09.960 --> 1:13:11.719 There's like, you know, she's just a party crazy. 1:13:12.240 --> 1:13:14.120 So the thing is, there was nothing, there was no 1:13:14.200 --> 1:13:16.600 social ratifications for her getting up there and having a 1:13:16.640 --> 1:13:19.200 good time, but it admitt nothing like she would go 1:13:19.320 --> 1:13:21.040 up there and show uten and still have a great 1:13:21.040 --> 1:13:22.760 family and still have like that stuff like that and 1:13:22.840 --> 1:13:26.800 not be black. Yeah, so of course, if you didn't 1:13:26.800 --> 1:13:30.439 feel like there were any any consequences, you would live 1:13:30.479 --> 1:13:32.800 your best life, as you know. And I feel like 1:13:32.880 --> 1:13:37.519 sometimes uh sisters don't have that that that luxury. 1:13:37.560 --> 1:13:38.040 No, they don't. 1:13:38.800 --> 1:13:42.080 So for that reason, you identified the word white woman 1:13:42.200 --> 1:13:42.839 is dangerous. 1:13:44.240 --> 1:13:45.080 I get it. 1:13:45.080 --> 1:13:47.720 It's not really that I that identified the world white 1:13:47.760 --> 1:13:51.680 woman is dangerous. The reason why, No, the reason why 1:13:51.680 --> 1:13:53.799 I identified them it's dangerous is because they're all dangerous 1:13:53.800 --> 1:13:54.639 in multiple ways. 1:14:00.000 --> 1:14:02.519 Did you see yourself marrying a white woman? Would your 1:14:02.520 --> 1:14:05.240 family be accepting? But you don't. 1:14:05.280 --> 1:14:09.480 Why wouldn't you see yourself married white woman? 1:14:12.439 --> 1:14:15.240 That's not the reason. Why is just because because you 1:14:15.240 --> 1:14:15.639 know why. 1:14:15.479 --> 1:14:18.720 I asked you know how many black guy friends I like, 1:14:18.880 --> 1:14:21.200 I say, like, I want to know, how, how can 1:14:21.240 --> 1:14:22.760 you feel really deeply understood? 1:14:22.960 --> 1:14:24.320 And they're like it doesn't matter. 1:14:25.560 --> 1:14:28.559 And I think it's weird, Like if I mean, I'm 1:14:28.560 --> 1:14:30.559 not saying that someone outside of my race can't really 1:14:30.640 --> 1:14:34.040 understand me, but there are things we experience socially like 1:14:34.200 --> 1:14:37.760 that like other races just genuinely do not understand that 1:14:37.880 --> 1:14:40.800 you've never experienced it. So I think it's like it's 1:14:40.840 --> 1:14:43.200 not weird, but it's obstacle. 1:14:43.680 --> 1:14:49.679 I get it. For me, it's just that, like I 1:14:49.760 --> 1:14:51.640 you know, I have a lot of white people that 1:14:51.720 --> 1:14:55.120 did with on a day to day basis friends, close friends, 1:14:56.000 --> 1:15:00.559 and they all annoy me to some degree. It's not 1:15:00.600 --> 1:15:03.679 even in a bad way. It's just like, man, get 1:15:03.680 --> 1:15:04.240 out of here, bro. 1:15:05.840 --> 1:15:07.439 I mean, I'm happy in a minute it because it's 1:15:07.439 --> 1:15:07.720 me too. 1:15:08.000 --> 1:15:12.160 I'm like cool as hell, like my people, love everyone. 1:15:12.600 --> 1:15:14.040 I'm one of the most well life people in the 1:15:14.040 --> 1:15:15.759 team's office. But it's like, get out of here, man. 1:15:15.720 --> 1:15:16.240 I want to hear. 1:15:19.520 --> 1:15:21.559 You know what I'm saying. It's like plus and plus. 1:15:21.600 --> 1:15:23.960 I will say this, this is just a vision of 1:15:24.840 --> 1:15:29.120 my family that I have, and it's not me and 1:15:29.160 --> 1:15:34.000 a bunch of little beige motherfuckers like watching I'm saying. 1:15:34.080 --> 1:15:35.760 It's not you know what I'm saying, It's not. 1:15:36.200 --> 1:15:39.200 Said watching American idols. White people love Americans. 1:15:39.360 --> 1:15:41.559 It's not just me. That's just like not, that's not 1:15:41.600 --> 1:15:45.320 the vision of my family that I have. I see 1:15:45.320 --> 1:15:49.840 a bunch of chocolate. Motherfuckers watching Harlem Nights and laughing their. 1:15:49.800 --> 1:15:53.200 Asses all you know, I see, I see. That's what 1:15:53.280 --> 1:15:53.639 I see. 1:15:53.680 --> 1:15:58.120 And it is not it's not even like there's nothing 1:15:58.160 --> 1:16:01.799 against like it's it's it's stupid. 1:16:02.200 --> 1:16:04.679 Really, it's tribalism and it's stupid. 1:16:04.720 --> 1:16:07.599 And to be honest with you, if society were if 1:16:07.600 --> 1:16:11.000 we break the chains of society and we destroy these 1:16:11.000 --> 1:16:14.479 constructs of race, which race is really only a conduit 1:16:14.520 --> 1:16:17.240 to white supremacy anyway, So if we if we, if 1:16:17.240 --> 1:16:20.720 we break these things in future generations. Man swirling up. 1:16:21.160 --> 1:16:24.120 But for me, there's just too much in there. But 1:16:24.280 --> 1:16:27.960 I get there sometimes while people ask questions and I'm like, yo, man, 1:16:28.800 --> 1:16:31.679 shut up, I see, like seriously now that it doesn't 1:16:31.680 --> 1:16:32.719 matter what you know what I'm saying. 1:16:32.720 --> 1:16:34.360 So it would be annoying for me. 1:16:34.600 --> 1:16:38.040 What's one very annoying white question that you've been asking. 1:16:38.040 --> 1:16:41.919 Very annoying white question that I've been asked recently? 1:16:42.040 --> 1:16:46.160 White listeners, if you're waiting and you ask your black 1:16:46.200 --> 1:16:47.680 friend this recently, do not. 1:16:47.880 --> 1:16:49.720 Oh, there's there's one. 1:16:50.040 --> 1:16:53.280 There's like a there's one tip that all white people 1:16:53.360 --> 1:16:58.240 can do, okay, except the programming. This is what it means, 1:16:58.240 --> 1:16:59.800 and this is not just for white peoples. For men 1:16:59.840 --> 1:17:03.280 to accept the programming, it's a deal. I've been black 1:17:03.320 --> 1:17:07.080 for thirty eight years. I know, at least from my 1:17:07.560 --> 1:17:15.120 experience in my community. You know what things take me off, 1:17:15.240 --> 1:17:18.040 what things trigger me. I know why they trigger me. 1:17:18.080 --> 1:17:21.880 They've been triggering me for a long time. You are 1:17:22.040 --> 1:17:24.800 not going to be able to convince me that I 1:17:24.840 --> 1:17:26.160 am wrong about these things. 1:17:26.920 --> 1:17:28.040 You're only going. 1:17:27.880 --> 1:17:31.840 To piss me off, right, You're only so You're not 1:17:31.880 --> 1:17:34.360 gonna be like You're not gonna be the one to 1:17:34.439 --> 1:17:36.360 make me see that I was wrong about this. 1:17:36.640 --> 1:17:38.639 You're not going to be the one that made me see. 1:17:38.479 --> 1:17:42.040 I was wrong about police brutality, I was wrong about profiling, 1:17:42.439 --> 1:17:45.040 I was wrong about anything. It's not going to happen. 1:17:45.080 --> 1:17:47.639 You don't have that power. I know that America has 1:17:47.760 --> 1:17:53.800 taught you that every single thing under the sun you 1:17:53.840 --> 1:17:56.760 can manipulate. I know that that's been your life experience, 1:17:56.840 --> 1:18:00.240 that whatever you want you can do because that's but 1:18:00.320 --> 1:18:03.360 you can't do that. So when I say, yo, this 1:18:03.439 --> 1:18:06.240 is fucked up, just go with it. I'm not going 1:18:06.320 --> 1:18:07.960 to try to make it. I'm not just gonna try 1:18:07.960 --> 1:18:10.800 to imprint it. On you. I'm not gonna make it 1:18:10.840 --> 1:18:13.200 your fault. I'm gonna say this is what it is 1:18:13.640 --> 1:18:16.639 the most. Just listen to me. Yeah, it just listens. 1:18:16.840 --> 1:18:20.880 So I can't help but think about your experience with 1:18:20.960 --> 1:18:24.240 Kanye West with this because he's a black man basically, 1:18:25.160 --> 1:18:26.000 So how do you how do. 1:18:25.960 --> 1:18:28.000 You deal with something like that where it's your own people? 1:18:28.680 --> 1:18:31.519 Because Kanye essentially said you know what he said, So 1:18:31.600 --> 1:18:33.479 it's just like, how do you deal with that with 1:18:33.520 --> 1:18:34.120 your own people? 1:18:34.240 --> 1:18:35.680 I think that's a lot in the lass if you 1:18:35.720 --> 1:18:40.880 have to come across like very conditioned all lives matter 1:18:41.040 --> 1:18:45.679 Black people in this like Hollywood Arena. And that's even 1:18:45.720 --> 1:18:47.880 fucking more frustrating to me because it's like, Nigga, even 1:18:47.920 --> 1:18:49.599 black your whole life, don't act like you don't know. 1:18:50.240 --> 1:18:55.840 Well, also with people, you know, black is a race, 1:18:55.920 --> 1:18:58.960 but it's also a cultural identification, right, So you don't 1:18:58.960 --> 1:19:01.000 have to be black and be black. 1:19:03.960 --> 1:19:05.640 Twenty different variations of what black is. 1:19:05.800 --> 1:19:09.639 Yeah, but what I'm saying is, you know, Kanye West 1:19:09.680 --> 1:19:11.840 or anybody is free to have the beliefs and the 1:19:13.439 --> 1:19:16.240 ideology that they have. He can think whatever he wants 1:19:16.280 --> 1:19:18.880 to think. But if I think that he's wrong. I 1:19:18.880 --> 1:19:19.760 have to challenge him. 1:19:19.800 --> 1:19:24.360 Do you feel more triggered by someone black having those views? 1:19:24.360 --> 1:19:26.280 Because essentially I feel like his views. 1:19:26.400 --> 1:19:28.720 I'm a little bit confused by his because he's really 1:19:28.720 --> 1:19:34.400 hard at articulation. But they seem to be what a 1:19:34.439 --> 1:19:36.679 lot of white people might think, or not might think. 1:19:36.520 --> 1:19:39.400 But thought they've had and maybe won't say they've had. 1:19:39.400 --> 1:19:41.040 But I think also he wants black people to think 1:19:41.080 --> 1:19:43.760 more progressively. I understand that's what he's trying to do. 1:19:43.960 --> 1:19:48.200 But it's no, it's not progressively, but in his mind 1:19:48.200 --> 1:19:50.439 it is. In his mind, it's. 1:19:50.360 --> 1:19:52.680 All about well, I think part of it is forgiveness 1:19:52.680 --> 1:19:54.200 and where are we now and what are going to 1:19:54.240 --> 1:19:54.519 do now? 1:19:54.560 --> 1:19:57.840 Yeah, but let's let's let's discuss that though to what end? 1:19:58.120 --> 1:20:00.679 Like it have the Jews forgiving anyone? 1:20:00.840 --> 1:20:03.280 Yeah, and you can't, you can't go forward and without 1:20:03.320 --> 1:20:06.000 acknowledging that the strife is not the results of it 1:20:06.120 --> 1:20:07.640 right now, well understanding it's not. 1:20:07.760 --> 1:20:11.840 It's not even really about forgiving anyone. It's there's really 1:20:11.840 --> 1:20:14.120 there's really no one to forgive. It's like those people 1:20:14.120 --> 1:20:16.840 are all dead without Like what I'm saying is that 1:20:17.680 --> 1:20:22.800 right now, Jews eat manza. Right, they eat manza because 1:20:23.760 --> 1:20:28.000 thousands of years ago there were Jews who couldn't eat 1:20:28.040 --> 1:20:32.040 anything that was risen, no bread, they didn't have any yeas. 1:20:32.680 --> 1:20:35.880 So those people ate manza. So these people eat mansa. 1:20:36.400 --> 1:20:39.960 Whatever has happened to them culturally has tied them together. 1:20:41.320 --> 1:20:43.400 It doesn't make them any stronger to be like, yo, 1:20:43.520 --> 1:20:46.800 that was them and this is us. It doesn't make 1:20:46.840 --> 1:20:48.920 them any culturally better to be like, yo, we forgot 1:20:48.960 --> 1:20:49.599 about all of that. 1:20:49.680 --> 1:20:52.680 It's actually the opposite. The only trick that they try 1:20:52.720 --> 1:20:54.240 to play that. The only people that try to play 1:20:54.280 --> 1:20:54.760 that trick on. 1:20:54.800 --> 1:20:56.759 Is us, right, like it's been in the past, forgetting 1:20:58.640 --> 1:20:59.559 you there and. 1:20:59.520 --> 1:21:01.000 About like this one hundred fifty years ago. 1:21:01.160 --> 1:21:03.720 It's like, it's not yeah, so the whole people that 1:21:03.800 --> 1:21:05.280 they do that as a matter of fact, and by 1:21:05.280 --> 1:21:07.000 the way, America doesn't do that to itself. 1:21:07.320 --> 1:21:08.759 What's the slogan behind nine to eleven? 1:21:09.240 --> 1:21:10.880 Never forget right? 1:21:12.240 --> 1:21:12.320 You know? 1:21:12.400 --> 1:21:14.800 I mean like when the Alamo came and they they 1:21:14.880 --> 1:21:16.839 and they were fighting, not the Battle of the Alamo, 1:21:16.960 --> 1:21:19.320 because white people lost that one, but when they came 1:21:19.400 --> 1:21:21.160 back and they won, it was a different one. 1:21:21.200 --> 1:21:24.720 They were like, remember the Alamo like they never only 1:21:24.720 --> 1:21:26.200 people a day that will. 1:21:26.120 --> 1:21:29.560 Live in infamy forever December seventh, nineteen fifty one and 1:21:29.640 --> 1:21:31.599 nineteen forty one, the attack on Pearl Harbor. 1:21:32.320 --> 1:21:35.160 Every single year, we have a fucking celebration. 1:21:34.920 --> 1:21:37.280 Right you were you remember? So the only people that 1:21:37.320 --> 1:21:39.599 they say, yo, the bad shit. You'll be better off 1:21:39.640 --> 1:21:41.400 if you take all things. Don't. 1:21:41.760 --> 1:21:44.240 Let's start your history learning here and let's teach you 1:21:44.240 --> 1:21:47.559 everything you know about yourself only through this context. But 1:21:48.160 --> 1:21:50.080 don't bring it up and don't blame any of your 1:21:50.080 --> 1:21:52.479 fellow brotherren about that now because it was so long ago. 1:21:52.920 --> 1:21:55.960 And then it's also like, look how y'all act. Look 1:21:55.960 --> 1:21:57.800 at this, Look at how you're acting your communities, look 1:21:57.800 --> 1:21:58.519 at the black. 1:21:58.280 --> 1:22:01.000 On black crime without addressing, Hey, why the fuck do 1:22:01.000 --> 1:22:03.440 you think we don't have knowledge of self and cultural 1:22:03.840 --> 1:22:06.160 anything unity because we don't know who the fuck we are, 1:22:06.200 --> 1:22:08.240 where we came from, and we're actually thought to look 1:22:08.280 --> 1:22:11.519 down on those roots opposed to embracing them and moving 1:22:11.560 --> 1:22:13.080 forward in the community setting. 1:22:13.439 --> 1:22:15.680 And with Yate, it's like it's not even about him 1:22:15.720 --> 1:22:19.160 being black, it's about the weaponry of his of his mind. 1:22:19.280 --> 1:22:21.559 Right, well, he has what he's like, he has white privilege. 1:22:21.560 --> 1:22:25.800 It's crazy, right, and he has such as such a platform. Yeah, 1:22:26.080 --> 1:22:29.920 and so mis any misinformation from him that's not challenged, 1:22:30.920 --> 1:22:32.360 it's it's really destructive. 1:22:32.439 --> 1:22:35.200 He's reprogrammed though, Like I don't know, I'm so proud 1:22:35.280 --> 1:22:37.200 of you for fucking addressing that ship. 1:22:37.360 --> 1:22:41.000 Like I was like, yeah, God, I love this man. 1:22:42.600 --> 1:22:43.160 Jesus. 1:22:44.360 --> 1:22:48.360 But yeah, that was disappointing to say the least. But 1:22:48.680 --> 1:22:50.160 I couldn't help but think about that when you were 1:22:50.160 --> 1:22:51.120 talking about. 1:22:51.360 --> 1:22:53.800 About, you know, white people triggering you when they are 1:22:53.840 --> 1:22:55.320 certain things, because. 1:22:55.840 --> 1:22:58.880 I noticed, like, we're pro black, and I know it's 1:22:58.960 --> 1:23:01.679 your podcast to do like a free ad for black 1:23:01.720 --> 1:23:07.320 and brown people. You did something with the NAACP and 1:23:07.360 --> 1:23:10.680 then obviously you're a Kanye thing. But you say you're 1:23:10.800 --> 1:23:13.000 like with your platform a black activists. 1:23:13.080 --> 1:23:15.200 No, I wouldn't say that, Okay. 1:23:15.720 --> 1:23:17.599 The reason why I shot away from that is because, 1:23:19.320 --> 1:23:19.640 first of. 1:23:19.600 --> 1:23:21.360 All, there are activists, and these people are on the 1:23:21.360 --> 1:23:26.479 ground every day putting their safety and their livelihood on 1:23:26.520 --> 1:23:28.439 the line. I'm a guid with opinions, and I use 1:23:28.479 --> 1:23:30.760 those opinions to kind of get out of my the 1:23:30.800 --> 1:23:33.559 things that I think activists are people that are going 1:23:33.760 --> 1:23:36.559 into communities, taking guns out of their hands, putting books 1:23:36.560 --> 1:23:40.439 in their hands, feeding them, and work for social justice 1:23:40.439 --> 1:23:43.720 every day. It's our job as people with platforms to 1:23:43.760 --> 1:23:45.280 empower those people to do their work. 1:23:45.840 --> 1:23:47.479 That's what I'm trying to do. I'm trying to make 1:23:47.520 --> 1:23:50.000 sure that those people. 1:23:50.720 --> 1:23:52.800 Have the resources and the intention that they need to 1:23:52.840 --> 1:23:55.880 be able to do their work. Because while I want 1:23:55.880 --> 1:23:59.760 to write movies, other people want to like give, like 1:23:59.800 --> 1:24:02.120 they they're handing black people freedom. 1:24:02.160 --> 1:24:03.920 And these people that are doing this are all. 1:24:03.800 --> 1:24:07.160 Black people from all different types of walks of life, 1:24:07.160 --> 1:24:07.840 and they're doing that. 1:24:07.920 --> 1:24:10.479 So I wouldn't say that I'm an actifust at all, 1:24:10.560 --> 1:24:14.280 but like I'm from the South, like. 1:24:14.280 --> 1:24:18.760 The real South. So my my head is, like my 1:24:18.880 --> 1:24:23.840 ideas are informed through the lens of looking at a 1:24:23.840 --> 1:24:24.839 black servant class. 1:24:25.360 --> 1:24:28.760 Like when I come to LA and I go to a. 1:24:28.680 --> 1:24:31.439 Fast food restaurant or to a restaurant, any type of restaurant, 1:24:31.439 --> 1:24:33.360 the people that are working there are all Mexican, right, 1:24:33.400 --> 1:24:37.320 your valets are Mexican people giving they're not all Mexican. 1:24:37.400 --> 1:24:38.400 But like they're different. 1:24:38.439 --> 1:24:41.880 They're from all over the place, like they're they're all 1:24:42.360 --> 1:24:45.600 fair enough, they're all Hispanic right, Yeah, that's by a 1:24:45.680 --> 1:24:48.120 larger serving class that's here when I go back to, 1:24:48.360 --> 1:24:50.880 when I go back home, those people are all black. 1:24:51.520 --> 1:24:54.320 All your valets are black, all your fast food workers 1:24:54.360 --> 1:24:57.160 are black. All your busters and your way, all those 1:24:57.160 --> 1:25:02.559 people they're all black. So I think in terms of 1:25:04.920 --> 1:25:09.960 a sort of binary free and not free attitude, and 1:25:10.000 --> 1:25:13.200 how do we get freer? Because what I've seen a 1:25:14.520 --> 1:25:17.240 lot of places I've been is a sort of a 1:25:17.240 --> 1:25:20.880 form of neo slavery that has to do with sort 1:25:20.920 --> 1:25:28.040 of mental and economic disenfranchising. And I'm never gonna be 1:25:28.080 --> 1:25:31.120 in a place where I don't see that, I don't 1:25:31.120 --> 1:25:34.719 feel that well. I don't want to attack and destroy that. Ever, 1:25:35.200 --> 1:25:37.240 I'm never gonna be It doesn't matter how much happens 1:25:37.240 --> 1:25:39.880 for me, how many people I be, I'm around, what 1:25:39.920 --> 1:25:41.920 diversity I see. I'm never going to be in a 1:25:41.960 --> 1:25:43.680 spot to where I'm not like, yo, we need to 1:25:43.680 --> 1:25:44.200 be doing better. 1:25:45.040 --> 1:25:47.080 Ever, I don't know, I mean, I don't know how. 1:25:47.200 --> 1:25:47.400 I mean. 1:25:47.400 --> 1:25:49.200 I'm sure people get to a place where they getting 1:25:49.200 --> 1:25:51.160 them to it, but I don't I don't see myself 1:25:51.200 --> 1:25:52.560 ever getting them to. 1:25:53.360 --> 1:25:54.960 If you listen to when first came. 1:25:55.880 --> 1:25:59.599 He doesn't have any people around him that are black 1:26:00.160 --> 1:26:03.600 have a few, but like he's around he's in a 1:26:03.600 --> 1:26:07.280 white family with women that you know, I feel like. 1:26:07.439 --> 1:26:09.839 You're major white privilegion. He thinks so too. 1:26:10.000 --> 1:26:12.920 I mean they're not white, but like that's the thing, 1:26:12.960 --> 1:26:14.920 like they know, you've like we've had this conversation before 1:26:14.960 --> 1:26:17.559 where like you talk about Kim Kardashian her family, some 1:26:17.600 --> 1:26:20.320 of them are yeah, like you know, but at the 1:26:20.320 --> 1:26:22.840 same time, but they are white. Yeah, they live their 1:26:22.880 --> 1:26:25.360 life is with white privilege. But I'm sure Kim before 1:26:25.400 --> 1:26:28.160 she was maybe Kim experienced some sort. 1:26:28.000 --> 1:26:30.479 Of racist racism for being Armenian. 1:26:30.880 --> 1:26:34.400 But but Armenians are like really obviously in some less 1:26:34.560 --> 1:26:36.439 known in LA to be race in l A. 1:26:36.840 --> 1:26:38.400 Yeah, I mean most people nowhere. 1:26:38.120 --> 1:26:40.480 Else, Like I don't even know any of our means. 1:26:40.479 --> 1:26:42.040 Because we grew up in the valley, so we know 1:26:42.040 --> 1:26:42.799 hell Armenians. 1:26:42.800 --> 1:26:46.240 And for me, that's another thing for me LA. Once again, 1:26:46.720 --> 1:26:47.840 you come out to l A and. 1:26:47.760 --> 1:26:51.160 You have a whole different spectrum of national so. 1:26:51.200 --> 1:26:54.639 Many different nationalities from it's black people and black people. 1:26:54.439 --> 1:26:56.280 I think also I think also. 1:26:57.200 --> 1:27:00.479 They're they're Mexicans now, but there weren't. There weren't when 1:27:00.479 --> 1:27:02.840 I was living there, it was the there there there's 1:27:02.840 --> 1:27:04.640 been an influence of Latinos. 1:27:04.120 --> 1:27:06.920 But when I was in Baton Rouge, there weren't really any. 1:27:07.040 --> 1:27:09.040 Even when I lived in Atlanta, I went to school Atlanta, 1:27:09.080 --> 1:27:12.599 I realized that there isn't like even in the East Coast, 1:27:12.680 --> 1:27:14.839 like I cann't identify like a Armanian person, a Persian 1:27:14.880 --> 1:27:18.040 person like I could. I know all the different races 1:27:18.040 --> 1:27:19.800 and that doesn't exist in the other places. It's like 1:27:19.840 --> 1:27:24.519 black or white, Russian. Yeah, I've a question. 1:27:26.240 --> 1:27:29.120 You being from down south, are you like religious? 1:27:29.520 --> 1:27:29.760 Yeah? 1:27:30.280 --> 1:27:31.920 You what would you just identify as? 1:27:32.240 --> 1:27:33.320 I'm a Christian man? 1:27:33.640 --> 1:27:34.519 You're a Christian man? 1:27:34.600 --> 1:27:35.040 I'm crazy. 1:27:35.080 --> 1:27:38.960 So you believe like in Jesus, Yeah, that's Christ, that's 1:27:39.000 --> 1:27:39.960 your say, as your savior? 1:27:40.200 --> 1:27:40.360 Yes? 1:27:40.479 --> 1:27:41.760 And do you feel like you're in church right now? 1:27:42.120 --> 1:27:44.200 I always feel so intense when I say that, cause 1:27:44.240 --> 1:27:46.320 I felt like for a long time, like even though 1:27:46.360 --> 1:27:50.360 I didn't grow up religious, When I finally like was like, 1:27:50.400 --> 1:27:51.679 I don't think maybe. 1:27:51.520 --> 1:27:52.759 Jesus Christ is at my savior. 1:27:53.000 --> 1:27:54.840 I felt really guilty saying it, Like I was like 1:27:54.920 --> 1:27:58.120 especially from my school from like black people, like what 1:27:58.280 --> 1:27:59.280 did you stay a bitch. 1:28:00.120 --> 1:28:02.360 The worst thing you can do be in my the 1:28:02.400 --> 1:28:04.959 worst thing you can be in my in that community. 1:28:06.040 --> 1:28:07.800 Well, I'm not an atheist. Do you go to church 1:28:07.800 --> 1:28:08.680 every Sunday? 1:28:09.120 --> 1:28:10.840 Okay, but this is my other question, because you are 1:28:10.880 --> 1:28:12.400 pro black, and do you believe in Jesus Christ is 1:28:12.400 --> 1:28:14.800 your savor? And I know, like one of my biggest things, 1:28:14.840 --> 1:28:18.040 like I went to church voluntarily, like in college because 1:28:18.280 --> 1:28:23.400 I enjoyed like the spiritual like push of like a 1:28:23.439 --> 1:28:26.960 massive people like all coming together for like unity and things. 1:28:27.080 --> 1:28:30.479 But my biggest thing was like a lot of churches 1:28:30.520 --> 1:28:30.920 you see like. 1:28:30.920 --> 1:28:33.280 This huge white image and blonde hair of this like 1:28:33.400 --> 1:28:34.880 Jesus Christ savior. 1:28:34.800 --> 1:28:35.799 Every church savior. 1:28:35.960 --> 1:28:38.920 And I have a problem with that just because like 1:28:39.520 --> 1:28:42.360 you're not saving me, Like I don't know, it just never. 1:28:42.240 --> 1:28:43.840 Made sense, and especially like. 1:28:44.360 --> 1:28:47.360 Thinking about slavery, like this is something they specifically gave 1:28:47.400 --> 1:28:50.240 black people to be like it's okay, the book says taken, 1:28:50.880 --> 1:28:53.280 and I can't I can't imagine, like and I think 1:28:53.320 --> 1:28:55.400 it's so strange, because I mean it's not strange. It 1:28:55.400 --> 1:28:58.880 makes perfect sense why religion is so heavily like black 1:28:58.880 --> 1:29:00.759 people cling to you know, there's a lot of leigous 1:29:00.760 --> 1:29:02.680 people down South. But it didn't make sense to me 1:29:02.720 --> 1:29:05.160 that we so easily accepted this white image even till 1:29:05.200 --> 1:29:07.639 today when obviously like there's so much. 1:29:08.640 --> 1:29:10.040 Well when they break you down and get you at 1:29:10.080 --> 1:29:13.160 your lowest point. 1:29:12.080 --> 1:29:14.600 Well, there are things that are and then there are 1:29:14.640 --> 1:29:15.280 things that are locks. 1:29:15.360 --> 1:29:17.800 But they're also things that are inspirational about Like there's 1:29:17.880 --> 1:29:20.679 not not everything in Christianity is bad. 1:29:20.960 --> 1:29:22.880 No, I'm I'm saying that. I mean, I'm to Christian 1:29:22.880 --> 1:29:23.639 schools for hell long. 1:29:23.760 --> 1:29:26.479 I know, I get what you're saying, like these these 1:29:26.720 --> 1:29:28.960 these things are very complex. But once again that things 1:29:28.960 --> 1:29:31.439 are true, that things are lives. Okay, if you read 1:29:31.439 --> 1:29:34.600 your Bible, yeah, there there are tons of lessons in 1:29:34.600 --> 1:29:36.760 your lessons in your Bible that tell you the way 1:29:36.760 --> 1:29:38.559 that you're supposed to live your life. Right. 1:29:38.720 --> 1:29:40.080 Some of them are contradictory. 1:29:40.320 --> 1:29:45.720 Okay, some of them were completely washed away, right like 1:29:45.920 --> 1:29:49.000 the New Covenant. Covenant Jesus Christ washed away a lot 1:29:49.000 --> 1:29:53.559 of the things in the Old Testament. The easiest way 1:29:53.600 --> 1:29:56.240 to subjugate any group of people is to make them 1:29:56.240 --> 1:30:01.320 accept your language and your religion, because if they talk 1:30:01.360 --> 1:30:03.280 how you talk, and they believe in the God that 1:30:03.320 --> 1:30:08.360 you believe in, you can make them. Doesn't matter what 1:30:08.400 --> 1:30:11.160 god with religion it is, that's always what happens. Soone 1:30:11.200 --> 1:30:15.759 takes over someplace and the install a religion there. Now, 1:30:16.280 --> 1:30:21.240 in terms of or why Jesus is just not possible. 1:30:21.640 --> 1:30:24.880 It just wouldn't have beensing it's not possible. The question 1:30:25.000 --> 1:30:31.360 is not whether or not, because every because every sort 1:30:31.400 --> 1:30:37.679 of race has their God, and they draw their God 1:30:37.720 --> 1:30:38.760 the way they see that God. 1:30:38.840 --> 1:30:40.360 Right, the question is. 1:30:42.280 --> 1:30:45.400 Why did it take us so long to reject that image? 1:30:46.520 --> 1:30:53.400 And the answer is because we couldn't read So if 1:30:53.600 --> 1:30:55.439 if you get, if you kill a bunch of people 1:30:55.479 --> 1:30:59.479 in here, the knowledge that it would have taken to 1:30:59.640 --> 1:31:03.320 sort of of access to information that we needed to 1:31:03.439 --> 1:31:06.240 understand that that was a lie. Even if we would 1:31:06.240 --> 1:31:07.840 have had it, we couldn't have read it because we 1:31:07.880 --> 1:31:09.639 couldn't have read it because it was illegal to teach 1:31:09.640 --> 1:31:10.280 the slavery. 1:31:10.640 --> 1:31:13.040 So everything about. 1:31:14.520 --> 1:31:17.439 How black people have been programmed in America is about 1:31:17.439 --> 1:31:22.759 access to information, And then can you undo the cultural 1:31:22.800 --> 1:31:25.639 damage that has been done once you have the truth. 1:31:26.280 --> 1:31:30.479 So a lot of the stuff that you know that 1:31:30.600 --> 1:31:31.080 hasn't done. 1:31:31.080 --> 1:31:32.680 There's a lot of more information, there's a lot more 1:31:32.680 --> 1:31:35.960 information about Jesus Christ out there that's controversial and if 1:31:36.000 --> 1:31:37.120 people want thing, they'll get it. 1:31:37.680 --> 1:31:41.920 I agree with that. So speaking of Jesus Christ, this 1:31:41.960 --> 1:31:44.439 is not speaking with Christ. So I told you before. 1:31:44.479 --> 1:31:46.880 We have a segment on our show called horror stories. 1:31:47.200 --> 1:31:47.879 Horror stories. 1:31:48.080 --> 1:31:55.639 Yes, from from God to Fucking Do you have any 1:31:55.640 --> 1:31:57.280 horror stories that you can share with that's no? 1:31:57.560 --> 1:32:12.000 What exactly is a horror story? 1:32:13.080 --> 1:32:21.280 H stories? It can be anything. It can be like 1:32:21.760 --> 1:32:24.400 something really like freaking nast, freaking nasty that you did 1:32:24.439 --> 1:32:28.599 that like you would cat would. Society might categorize as horrors. 1:32:29.320 --> 1:32:32.080 Or it could be like an extremely traumatizing sex story, 1:32:32.200 --> 1:32:39.600 like a horror story, like horror extremely trust. 1:32:40.720 --> 1:32:44.519 It's extremely okay, this is scary, scary. 1:32:45.200 --> 1:32:47.240 I have one. 1:32:47.600 --> 1:32:53.320 We're not acting, We're not asking for your molestation story. 1:32:54.160 --> 1:32:57.040 So there was like a. 1:32:58.800 --> 1:33:01.240 Like they used to give away these They used to 1:33:01.280 --> 1:33:05.759 give away condoms at like at at at Southern University, 1:33:05.760 --> 1:33:07.720 all different types of condoms just walking the stud usually 1:33:07.880 --> 1:33:13.160 take the commons right, and it is different condoms and stuff. 1:33:13.160 --> 1:33:16.080 I think there's these one condoms called like a kiss 1:33:16.080 --> 1:33:18.479 of mint. You ever heard these condoms before? 1:33:20.800 --> 1:33:22.360 It's like putting your listening ship in your. 1:33:22.240 --> 1:33:27.400 Mouth, and it was like they were sex, right. I 1:33:27.479 --> 1:33:30.800 was not wanting so, but listen, here's the thing. So 1:33:31.080 --> 1:33:32.080 this girl comes. 1:33:31.800 --> 1:33:33.200 Over or is it for your decks? 1:33:35.760 --> 1:33:37.160 She tastes it when she's giving your. 1:33:37.040 --> 1:33:38.960 Head, and it's like it's probably tingling for you, right, 1:33:39.160 --> 1:33:41.600 I don't know when people put condoms on decks to 1:33:41.600 --> 1:33:41.960 give ahead. 1:33:45.160 --> 1:33:47.080 They wanted you to do it. They wanted you to 1:33:47.080 --> 1:33:48.000 put the condoms on the dick. 1:33:48.520 --> 1:33:52.360 So she comes over and she, uh, and I gonna 1:33:52.360 --> 1:33:54.320 get the condom, like yeah, I about to smash a lot, 1:33:54.360 --> 1:33:57.960 and I put the condom on and then she uh, 1:33:59.400 --> 1:34:02.799 I'm fucking and she goes, you, I don't know what's going. 1:34:02.600 --> 1:34:09.479 On, but this is burning no no, package yeah, I'm I'm. 1:34:09.280 --> 1:34:13.920 Like what and she's like no, just keep on and 1:34:13.960 --> 1:34:18.679 then she's like no, no, no, no, no, like for real, 1:34:19.000 --> 1:34:21.280 I don't know what's going on, like this is burning. 1:34:21.320 --> 1:34:21.760 This hurts. 1:34:21.800 --> 1:34:24.120 I'm like all right, cool, cool, and she's like this. 1:34:24.240 --> 1:34:26.679 She starts looking at me and she goes, what's wrong 1:34:26.760 --> 1:34:29.360 with you? Like why is this burning? 1:34:29.400 --> 1:34:32.160 Me's like literally the term you burn me? 1:34:32.520 --> 1:34:33.160 What do you mean? 1:34:33.439 --> 1:34:36.439 She's like nothing, going home? So she leaves, and she 1:34:36.439 --> 1:34:38.280 she goes, she goes, she leaves. 1:34:38.320 --> 1:34:40.880 And I still don't know what's going on because I 1:34:41.000 --> 1:34:45.160 really don't know, like what's what's what's happening. So she 1:34:45.320 --> 1:34:46.960 gets like an affection. 1:34:47.479 --> 1:34:48.479 I'm gonna say this sounds like. 1:34:50.000 --> 1:34:53.519 She gets like affection. So like it's two days later, 1:34:54.120 --> 1:34:59.000 and this was a situation to where my brother was. 1:35:00.439 --> 1:35:07.560 My brother was shout out to Ian the your Thursday. Uh, 1:35:07.600 --> 1:35:10.920 my brother was at that point dating her friend, ended 1:35:10.960 --> 1:35:13.920 up marrying her friend. I was with her, so everyone 1:35:13.960 --> 1:35:15.360 was in the same thing. But then like a couple 1:35:15.360 --> 1:35:17.519 of three days later, like none of the girls would 1:35:17.520 --> 1:35:19.599 talk to me, Like none of. 1:35:19.520 --> 1:35:23.040 Them had a spicy deck, like, none of them. 1:35:25.160 --> 1:35:27.200 So none of them would talk to me. And then 1:35:27.280 --> 1:35:29.600 my homeboy Ryan goes, he hits me up because my 1:35:29.680 --> 1:35:31.960 crew is ruthless, right, my homeboy Ryan, he's been up 1:35:31.960 --> 1:35:33.240 that Friday, like, oh my nigga. 1:35:34.280 --> 1:35:34.800 I'm like what. 1:35:34.920 --> 1:35:38.720 He's like, say, brother, anything you need to tell me 1:35:38.800 --> 1:35:41.479 don oh no, And I'm like no, man. 1:35:41.680 --> 1:35:44.320 He's like, you got some dirty pussy. 1:35:44.120 --> 1:35:46.559 Somewhere or what. And I'm like, what what are y'all 1:35:46.600 --> 1:35:47.120 talking about? 1:35:47.160 --> 1:35:47.639 You said, yo? 1:35:47.760 --> 1:35:51.000 Man? Black Blank had to go to the clinic. 1:35:51.040 --> 1:35:51.200 Man. 1:35:51.240 --> 1:35:52.519 She said, pussy off, fucked up. 1:35:53.160 --> 1:35:55.640 It happened when she was fucking with you, And like 1:35:55.680 --> 1:35:59.320 I said, first of all, all you health class majors, 1:35:59.800 --> 1:36:05.280 it wouldn't have happened while we were while we were together. Secondly, 1:36:05.400 --> 1:36:06.840 I don't know what she was saying. I think the 1:36:06.880 --> 1:36:11.080 condom was old or something like that. And so literally, 1:36:11.160 --> 1:36:14.240 it wasn't until like I had a reputation as if 1:36:14.280 --> 1:36:20.679 I was handing out. Really it really, it really never. 1:36:20.840 --> 1:36:24.960 Like I didn't even remember that. 1:36:24.960 --> 1:36:28.840 That same guy came over. My homeboy, Ryan, my best 1:36:28.840 --> 1:36:30.280 friend in the world, came over to the crib. It 1:36:30.320 --> 1:36:32.080 was like, I need a rubber and I was like, 1:36:32.400 --> 1:36:34.040 you came over to the crib and I'm like, yo, 1:36:34.360 --> 1:36:36.120 I got these these. I gave him one of these. 1:36:36.120 --> 1:36:39.400 He was like, Yo, you can't use this. I was 1:36:39.439 --> 1:36:39.720 like what. 1:36:39.840 --> 1:36:42.599 He's like, Yo, these condoms. The reason why they already 1:36:42.760 --> 1:36:45.080 have these because it was a fishbowl at Southern and 1:36:45.160 --> 1:36:47.040 you was just grabbed the combus and it was like 1:36:47.080 --> 1:36:48.160 the reason why they always have. 1:36:48.240 --> 1:36:49.920 These is because you can't fuck with these. He's like, 1:36:52.360 --> 1:36:55.679 my nigga, my nigga, did you fuck? I'm not gonna 1:36:55.680 --> 1:36:57.240 say the name. Did you fuck her with one of these? 1:36:57.360 --> 1:37:05.200 I'm like yo, and he was like oh. 1:37:02.520 --> 1:37:06.400 And then I tried to convince her and she would 1:37:06.400 --> 1:37:11.360 not have it, probably to this day hence. 1:37:11.120 --> 1:37:13.439 Why that company is no longer making condoms. 1:37:14.439 --> 1:37:17.760 But now I had, you know, I was actually I 1:37:17.800 --> 1:37:21.320 did without that that It was that. 1:37:22.920 --> 1:37:24.479 With her the morning of nine eleven. 1:37:25.080 --> 1:37:28.240 Damn, y'all, y'all had to share a very intense moment. 1:37:28.320 --> 1:37:30.400 Oh but there's one other story. This one's a bad one. 1:37:30.439 --> 1:37:33.439 This one's like it's not bad, it's not bad, but 1:37:33.479 --> 1:37:36.200 it's tells tells you, like a lot of people are 1:37:36.200 --> 1:37:37.880 on this new Found Me Too movement. 1:37:40.160 --> 1:37:42.840 Good, Okay, my daughter has her headphones on so she's 1:37:42.840 --> 1:37:44.320 not listening to So there's. 1:37:44.240 --> 1:37:46.400 There's another one. So there was this girl white shirt 1:37:46.640 --> 1:37:49.720 that was that was like, let me tell you how 1:37:49.760 --> 1:37:52.480 bad things were back in the day. 1:37:52.840 --> 1:37:55.040 Okay, everything was about running the train. 1:37:56.360 --> 1:37:57.320 I remember those times. 1:37:58.040 --> 1:38:01.479 There was a period it was about running the train. 1:38:01.680 --> 1:38:03.719 Everything was about ran the train. It was all about 1:38:03.760 --> 1:38:06.120 ranting train. It was like there was something that they 1:38:06.200 --> 1:38:10.840 had that it was called train Tuesdays. Every Tuesday, they 1:38:10.840 --> 1:38:12.479 tried to get a girl. They tried to run a train. 1:38:12.560 --> 1:38:13.280 So it was like. 1:38:13.200 --> 1:38:15.679 College days or this is college college days. 1:38:15.760 --> 1:38:18.880 So this was like everywhere. So if you had a 1:38:18.880 --> 1:38:20.960 girl coming to the crib, and I remember we had 1:38:21.000 --> 1:38:21.720 a homeboy. 1:38:21.520 --> 1:38:24.240 On a Tuesday, everybody knew. It was ever or you 1:38:24.280 --> 1:38:26.400 all are together at once on the train. 1:38:26.520 --> 1:38:28.200 I've only been a part of one train before. 1:38:29.160 --> 1:38:30.160 It was a train like. 1:38:31.720 --> 1:38:33.759 One, two, three three. 1:38:34.439 --> 1:38:37.960 It was like one one guy with first, like a line. 1:38:38.800 --> 1:38:40.600 So y'all never never together. 1:38:40.360 --> 1:38:42.960 Once, never together it was, but it was like ran trains. 1:38:43.000 --> 1:38:45.320 It's the only time Bill, why you Classic. 1:38:45.200 --> 1:38:46.960 Nineteen was it in the basement. So that's where a 1:38:47.000 --> 1:38:47.880 lot of them happened. 1:38:51.760 --> 1:38:52.720 In New Orleans. 1:38:54.640 --> 1:38:55.880 And so and so. 1:38:56.080 --> 1:38:59.679 Like I was, we were all playing Madden. 1:39:00.000 --> 1:39:02.400 I remember telling my homies. I was like, yeah, I 1:39:02.439 --> 1:39:03.320 got a girl coming over. 1:39:03.439 --> 1:39:03.960 Yeah, I gotta go. 1:39:04.920 --> 1:39:08.000 And two of my homies left with my boy. I 1:39:08.360 --> 1:39:12.519 say his name, Uh, who cares my boy around? 1:39:12.560 --> 1:39:12.960 He was like. 1:39:14.520 --> 1:39:18.040 My boy alright, he was like yo, man, Yeah, they said, 1:39:18.040 --> 1:39:20.640 she a front. You gotta see you she about you know, 1:39:20.800 --> 1:39:22.360 see she about that life, put it in her mind, 1:39:22.400 --> 1:39:25.120 put on fans, put that wheel in the back. I'm like, 1:39:25.200 --> 1:39:30.040 what he's like? Way he talks like, what. 1:39:32.680 --> 1:39:33.680 Will educate me? 1:39:34.800 --> 1:39:41.000 That's sweet. So the girl comes over and this girl 1:39:41.200 --> 1:39:44.519 never realized what was going on. So the girl comes 1:39:44.600 --> 1:39:49.559 over and we're all talking, right, everybody's talking, everybody's getting cool, 1:39:49.560 --> 1:39:52.839 blah blah, and she just looked and she literally everybody's 1:39:52.880 --> 1:39:56.360 in the room, me and rob My boy, Drew and 1:39:56.479 --> 1:39:58.479 one more guy can remember what it was. And she 1:39:58.600 --> 1:40:02.240 looked at me and she goes, hmm, it's just motion 1:40:02.439 --> 1:40:04.920 to like go into the other room. So we left 1:40:05.000 --> 1:40:08.680 him there and I go into the other room, me 1:40:08.720 --> 1:40:09.559 and her messing around. 1:40:09.560 --> 1:40:09.920 I'll leave. 1:40:09.920 --> 1:40:11.920 I'll come back out of rodstill in there playing Madden, 1:40:11.960 --> 1:40:13.680 playing against the computer. That's how you know that that 1:40:13.760 --> 1:40:15.439 nigga is trying to stick around and see what's happened. 1:40:15.439 --> 1:40:18.519 Nobody plays a fucking computer. So he's playing and then 1:40:18.560 --> 1:40:20.240 he goes yo, So I'll go listen. 1:40:21.280 --> 1:40:22.640 I don't know if she's gonna be down for this, 1:40:23.000 --> 1:40:25.240 so I don't wanna like. 1:40:27.960 --> 1:40:29.200 Like what you don't I'm. 1:40:29.040 --> 1:40:31.599 Telling you, this is this. I'm telling you. I don't 1:40:31.600 --> 1:40:34.080 know if she'll be down for this, So just chill, 1:40:34.960 --> 1:40:39.439 don't do anything, do anything because we haven't really discussed this, 1:40:39.760 --> 1:40:41.519 and I don't think that she's gonna be into this. 1:40:41.760 --> 1:40:45.360 Like he's like, okay, cool. So we're in the other room. 1:40:45.600 --> 1:40:48.040 I'll never forget this moment. We're in the other room. 1:40:48.240 --> 1:40:52.720 And so it's like the moonlight is coming through the moonlight. 1:40:53.080 --> 1:40:57.679 The moonlight is coming through the moonlight is coming through 1:40:58.120 --> 1:41:04.160 the window the blinds, and I'm behind her. So I'm 1:41:04.240 --> 1:41:04.720 behind her. 1:41:05.840 --> 1:41:10.360 I'll in all of a sudden, she is not paying attention. 1:41:10.920 --> 1:41:12.720 She's facing the window, and all of a sudden, I 1:41:12.880 --> 1:41:18.160 see the door and the door opens. And Rob was big. 1:41:18.280 --> 1:41:19.120 He was a big dude. 1:41:19.520 --> 1:41:21.960 And he comes walking into the room and he's got 1:41:22.040 --> 1:41:25.160 his he's got his dick in his hands. And then 1:41:25.320 --> 1:41:27.920 he starts walking over to like where her head is 1:41:28.439 --> 1:41:30.720 maybe and i' might I might. I look at him 1:41:30.760 --> 1:41:33.640 like I'm like I looked at him. I'm like no, 1:41:34.439 --> 1:41:38.720 like like I'm like, yo, no, no, no, And then 1:41:38.800 --> 1:41:42.280 he and then he listen, this is what happens. He then. 1:41:43.760 --> 1:41:45.960 Goes back out and he just to go back out 1:41:45.960 --> 1:41:46.280 of the room. 1:41:46.320 --> 1:41:48.639 He goes back in front of the bed and drops 1:41:48.800 --> 1:41:52.400 down in front of like the base board, like the 1:41:52.520 --> 1:41:53.280 base of the bed. 1:41:53.400 --> 1:41:55.200 Like he's on the ground, and. 1:41:55.240 --> 1:41:57.880 She doesn't hear any of this, doesn't hear anything, I 1:41:58.120 --> 1:42:00.639 swear to you, and then and and then so because 1:42:00.800 --> 1:42:04.800 I didn't become uncomfortable with fucking her with him in 1:42:04.840 --> 1:42:06.200 the room, her with him in the room. 1:42:06.720 --> 1:42:08.120 I then I stopped at the man. 1:42:08.120 --> 1:42:08.719 I need a break. 1:42:09.080 --> 1:42:10.840 She goes a break, like what do you need a 1:42:10.880 --> 1:42:14.040 break for? Like like like what I'm like, I'm like, yill, Yeah, 1:42:14.600 --> 1:42:15.280 I need a break. 1:42:15.840 --> 1:42:16.519 I need a break. 1:42:17.040 --> 1:42:21.519 And we laid there until we fell asleep. 1:42:22.760 --> 1:42:23.760 Where did he go? 1:42:24.439 --> 1:42:27.760 He stayed on the floor, Like this is a true. 1:42:29.880 --> 1:42:31.760 I don't know why he did not leave the room. 1:42:31.960 --> 1:42:34.360 He watched like I don't he was watching for he 1:42:34.520 --> 1:42:37.120 was he's watching or hearing for a second. 1:42:37.560 --> 1:42:41.160 And then we laid there and then you saved her 1:42:41.200 --> 1:42:44.439 from me to a moment, you know, I saved myself from. 1:42:46.360 --> 1:42:49.840 Yeah, I saved myself in this situation. I don't remember. 1:42:49.840 --> 1:42:50.120 I like. 1:42:55.320 --> 1:42:59.599 Yeah, like for me, I'm trying to think in that situation, 1:42:59.680 --> 1:43:02.320 like what more could I have said to be like yo? 1:43:02.400 --> 1:43:04.880 I said she wasn't. I don't think she was. 1:43:04.960 --> 1:43:09.240 Down so chill, like she felt uncomfortable even like yeah, 1:43:09.360 --> 1:43:11.400 that's a bad situation to be in. But I don't know, 1:43:11.479 --> 1:43:13.320 maybe you have to be more serious with your homeboys 1:43:13.320 --> 1:43:16.160 because they just think back in the day. 1:43:16.240 --> 1:43:18.040 That no, that's what happened. 1:43:18.080 --> 1:43:18.680 I just would know. 1:43:18.800 --> 1:43:21.000 I knew some girls that they would have sex with 1:43:21.040 --> 1:43:24.240 the guy and then oh, the guy would come in. 1:43:24.400 --> 1:43:27.680 And I heard about it, like I mean if even 1:43:27.720 --> 1:43:29.040 though I was there in high school, when I was 1:43:29.080 --> 1:43:31.479 hearing about this epidemic, I was like, oh no, that's 1:43:31.640 --> 1:43:32.800 she don't really little self esteem. 1:43:32.840 --> 1:43:35.400 There's a problem here. It's not it's not. This is 1:43:35.479 --> 1:43:36.000 not normal. 1:43:36.280 --> 1:43:38.479 It's not but it was not to happen. 1:43:39.040 --> 1:43:42.800 Let me say, from a woman's perspective, the worst thing 1:43:42.960 --> 1:43:46.800 you can ever do in life is to assume some 1:43:46.920 --> 1:43:49.160 ship like that and so that on a girl because. 1:43:49.360 --> 1:43:52.519 They will immediately feel rapeyl rape. It's called ra. 1:43:54.200 --> 1:43:56.800 Not yeah, oh no, I. 1:43:56.840 --> 1:43:59.400 Mean look, have you ever paid the position with America? 1:44:01.000 --> 1:44:04.360 I have, and I was traumatized. And then I'm also like, well, 1:44:04.400 --> 1:44:05.920 what the fuck did you think this was? Like? 1:44:05.960 --> 1:44:07.320 Are you just just try every way in. 1:44:07.360 --> 1:44:10.120 A situation like really, yeah, I have this guy I 1:44:10.240 --> 1:44:11.960 was dating one. This was my first guy ever lost 1:44:12.000 --> 1:44:15.479 my virginity too, and the first guy you ever lost, 1:44:15.680 --> 1:44:16.400 the first guy. 1:44:16.240 --> 1:44:20.439 I lost my virginity too, lost multiple time, didn't didn't 1:44:20.479 --> 1:44:22.920 count the first and I. 1:44:22.960 --> 1:44:23.599 Was in high school. 1:44:23.600 --> 1:44:26.120 I was because I lost her virginiay pretty young, and 1:44:26.400 --> 1:44:28.200 that's what I'm saying, Like we were, they were young. 1:44:28.520 --> 1:44:33.439 I don't have cookies day here, putings on meet them 1:44:34.720 --> 1:44:35.280 at that time. 1:44:35.520 --> 1:44:36.040 I feel like. 1:44:37.880 --> 1:44:40.040 Anyway, I felt like at that time, you know, I 1:44:40.080 --> 1:44:42.240 don't know, we're so promiscuous at that point age. 1:44:42.360 --> 1:44:43.000 I never did it. 1:44:43.200 --> 1:44:44.800 I never did it, but I had a guy try 1:44:44.880 --> 1:44:48.519 when I was fifteen years old. But I knew girls 1:44:48.600 --> 1:44:50.080 that were doing that every weekend. 1:44:50.280 --> 1:44:52.720 Yeah, I haven't not for for four and they were 1:44:52.840 --> 1:44:55.479 like semi popular for a second. It was like a 1:44:55.560 --> 1:44:57.080 weird popularity slash. 1:44:57.160 --> 1:45:00.479 Whole thing was no, no, never ever ever, no, how 1:45:00.640 --> 1:45:02.960 like much I was excited about discovery might be trying 1:45:03.040 --> 1:45:04.599 as a teenager and I had a lot of sex 1:45:05.160 --> 1:45:05.479 I was. 1:45:05.720 --> 1:45:08.200 There was like there's it's very raby. 1:45:08.600 --> 1:45:10.920 No, it's there was some nasty ship that was going on. 1:45:12.439 --> 1:45:13.640 It's very homosexual. 1:45:15.840 --> 1:45:19.639 I mean science the numbers, there's hella guys and one vagina. 1:45:20.080 --> 1:45:20.920 It's very homofy. 1:45:21.479 --> 1:45:24.040 It's like it's like two of my homies, Like they 1:45:25.000 --> 1:45:28.680 they meant this girl in black Men, and then like 1:45:28.840 --> 1:45:33.840 they came back and I just remember the I remember 1:45:34.080 --> 1:45:35.160 seeing the girl walk in. 1:45:35.320 --> 1:45:36.840 I'm like, yeah, it looks like a girl that you 1:45:36.920 --> 1:45:38.040 know your right on. 1:45:38.240 --> 1:45:40.320 And then they when I came back into the because 1:45:40.360 --> 1:45:43.400 I left, and then when I came back into the apartment, 1:45:44.120 --> 1:45:48.080 there was like blue magic hair grease because that's what 1:45:48.160 --> 1:45:49.040 they were using the loup. 1:45:49.080 --> 1:45:55.280 Bro, Oh my god, this is true. These are a 1:45:55.320 --> 1:45:58.439 few horror stories, a. 1:45:58.439 --> 1:46:01.040 True story, but but I just I just remember, like 1:46:01.600 --> 1:46:04.640 I just remember, like it's like it was almost like 1:46:05.400 --> 1:46:08.640 in college, like yeah, bro, like they would test you. 1:46:09.160 --> 1:46:11.600 Yeah, yeah, you got a girl coming over, and you 1:46:11.680 --> 1:46:13.160 can't be bitch. You can't say it off with that 1:46:13.320 --> 1:46:13.880 train now. 1:46:14.640 --> 1:46:16.439 Like dog, no, I can't say it off with that. 1:46:17.320 --> 1:46:20.400 I don't like you don't sneak off that train. 1:46:21.160 --> 1:46:23.120 I actually don't want all of you to the girl 1:46:23.160 --> 1:46:25.479 that I like, I don't want to see her dicks. Well, 1:46:25.520 --> 1:46:27.479 I'm fucking that's gonna make me soft, Like I don't 1:46:27.760 --> 1:46:30.000 I can't even focus. And there's like I've been into 1:46:30.120 --> 1:46:31.719 like sex parties and shit, I can't focus. 1:46:31.760 --> 1:46:33.559 It's too much going on. I can't focus with someone's 1:46:33.840 --> 1:46:36.599 watching me. And even if I like, I can't. Yeah, 1:46:36.680 --> 1:46:37.280 I don't get it. 1:46:38.080 --> 1:46:41.760 The only time it ever looks sexy is and savages 1:46:41.840 --> 1:46:43.519 the movie when the white girl had the two like 1:46:43.600 --> 1:46:45.120 finance white boys and. 1:46:45.160 --> 1:46:48.880 They I mean, I like her voyeurism, but that's not voyeurism. 1:46:49.040 --> 1:46:52.519 Like I don't want. Yeah, I don't know, are into it. 1:46:52.560 --> 1:46:54.200 I'm not judging if you're into a game things for 1:46:54.320 --> 1:46:57.439 some people's thing just like maybe like my pre my 1:46:57.600 --> 1:46:58.800 programming won't allow it. 1:46:58.960 --> 1:46:59.320 I can't. 1:46:59.439 --> 1:46:59.920 I'm not with it. 1:47:00.160 --> 1:47:02.240 No, man, listen, listen, I listen. 1:47:02.520 --> 1:47:05.760 There was there was a point where it really it went, 1:47:06.000 --> 1:47:07.920 it went, it was going too far. 1:47:08.520 --> 1:47:09.679 It was a whole thing. 1:47:10.520 --> 1:47:12.680 Don't let you know the difference between like women and 1:47:12.760 --> 1:47:15.200 men in society and what's fucking acceptable. 1:47:14.760 --> 1:47:24.160 And what's not. No, oh my gosh, that's true. Well 1:47:24.840 --> 1:47:27.240 I hate to end on that really depressing as what's 1:47:27.320 --> 1:47:29.960 depressing about it? I don't know. I feel like, god 1:47:30.040 --> 1:47:32.920 damn if I feel like I need to include like 1:47:33.280 --> 1:47:34.360 you've been raped, Like. 1:47:37.439 --> 1:47:37.760 He's not. 1:47:38.800 --> 1:47:40.880 Here's the deal. Here's the deal. So I'm saying is 1:47:40.960 --> 1:47:45.720 like this is very important dudes out there, if you 1:47:45.880 --> 1:47:50.080 get that little quickening in your mind that something is wrong, man, 1:47:50.200 --> 1:47:53.760 go with that ship because you like means no. 1:47:54.160 --> 1:47:57.200 I'm just saying, like, not know, it would have been 1:47:57.479 --> 1:48:00.759 a lot of these women later on then they're like, realized, 1:48:01.080 --> 1:48:01.559 I don't want. 1:48:01.439 --> 1:48:03.960 To it couldn't even be in the situation to where 1:48:04.200 --> 1:48:07.120 which is right. You just pop up like I didn't 1:48:07.160 --> 1:48:09.320 have that type of Other guys will be like yo, 1:48:09.400 --> 1:48:13.000 man here too, and I knew that that I didn't. 1:48:12.800 --> 1:48:14.960 Have that that wasn't gonna be me like I so well, 1:48:15.040 --> 1:48:17.320 then once that girl, sometimes you have to have foresight 1:48:17.400 --> 1:48:19.800 four people, you know what I mean, And in those situations, 1:48:19.880 --> 1:48:22.639 obviously this is the girl was damaged. 1:48:22.960 --> 1:48:24.880 There was some ship going on, or maybe she liked it. 1:48:24.960 --> 1:48:25.280 I don't know. 1:48:26.800 --> 1:48:29.040 I feel like sometimes you have to have foresight four people. 1:48:29.120 --> 1:48:30.160 And thank God for fans. 1:48:30.200 --> 1:48:32.240 And he's like, no, I can think this is okay 1:48:33.439 --> 1:48:34.920 because that is fucking that's gonna be. 1:48:34.960 --> 1:48:37.759 So he's gonna be so thrilled that I told that story. 1:48:39.680 --> 1:48:43.800 Didn't try that ever again, it's a story. It's maybe 1:48:43.880 --> 1:48:46.599 y'all gonna have to take his name, take his name, never. 1:48:48.479 --> 1:48:49.479 Be it never happened. 1:48:49.760 --> 1:48:50.800 It never happened, So. 1:48:50.960 --> 1:48:51.920 I guess it didn't happen. 1:48:52.640 --> 1:48:54.120 Nigga know who he is. You know what, It's gonna 1:48:54.120 --> 1:48:54.960 be funny for the homies. 1:48:55.040 --> 1:48:57.840 You do take his name because they know because I 1:48:58.000 --> 1:49:00.840 told that, I told that story. Well she doesn't know, 1:49:01.280 --> 1:49:05.800 well she will know. She never no, I never, she 1:49:05.960 --> 1:49:06.360 never saw. 1:49:06.680 --> 1:49:08.160 Yeah, just let you know. 1:49:08.280 --> 1:49:10.040 I stopped my boyfriend putting dick in your face. 1:49:10.120 --> 1:49:15.960 Now, she never, she never, she never saw laid that. 1:49:16.160 --> 1:49:16.880 What the do you think? 1:49:17.240 --> 1:49:18.400 Do you think you're gonna make up? 1:49:18.400 --> 1:49:22.160 And yo, all Joseus side, it's still the funniest thing. 1:49:22.240 --> 1:49:24.240 This dude is a really big guy. Why the did 1:49:24.280 --> 1:49:24.600 you that? 1:49:25.160 --> 1:49:27.519 Asked him? I'm like, yo, why didn't you? And he 1:49:27.720 --> 1:49:29.240 was like, yo, man, I didn't want to make no 1:49:29.360 --> 1:49:30.840 noise about you. 1:49:30.880 --> 1:49:31.680 Didn't you didn't care. 1:49:34.840 --> 1:49:36.960 I'm like, I'm like, what is going on with you? 1:49:37.000 --> 1:49:39.639 And we told that story so many times. 1:49:39.680 --> 1:49:43.080 I remember, Uh. The funniest thing ever my brother Emmett. 1:49:43.479 --> 1:49:45.160 My brother Emmitt was like because at this time I 1:49:45.280 --> 1:49:48.519 was fat and I was fat, and Emmy was like 1:49:48.680 --> 1:49:50.760 and it looked at me. He's like this she was 1:49:50.760 --> 1:49:54.479 about to let you two niggas. He's like, are you 1:49:54.520 --> 1:49:56.320 sure this bitch don't need to commit suicide? 1:49:56.840 --> 1:49:57.280 My god. 1:49:58.720 --> 1:50:01.240 We're not hush. We're not like shaming if you're into 1:50:01.280 --> 1:50:02.200 the two guys all the time. 1:50:02.280 --> 1:50:05.200 But for fellas, it does need to be pretty discussed. 1:50:05.720 --> 1:50:07.200 Don't walk in there with your dick out. 1:50:07.560 --> 1:50:10.720 That could be very bad, very come in there with 1:50:10.880 --> 1:50:12.040 your dick out by the moonlight. 1:50:12.400 --> 1:50:15.760 No, no, it's very disrespectful. 1:50:15.800 --> 1:50:17.120 It's very caught off guard. 1:50:17.240 --> 1:50:20.800 It's very aggressive. But guys, is that it? 1:50:21.080 --> 1:50:23.800 Yeah, ladies, it was so much fun for y'all to 1:50:23.840 --> 1:50:24.120 have me. 1:50:24.280 --> 1:50:26.080 Thanks for coming on. I feel like I know you 1:50:26.240 --> 1:50:27.200 so much deeper. 1:50:27.040 --> 1:50:30.080 Now, y'all deep in the valley. This ship is basically 1:50:30.840 --> 1:50:31.519 in Oha. 1:50:31.920 --> 1:50:34.559 We know we're's not We're valley girls, man, and welcome 1:50:34.600 --> 1:50:37.240 to our hood. I come downtown a lot, actually, so 1:50:37.360 --> 1:50:38.760 I hit you up when I go back, when I 1:50:38.840 --> 1:50:40.479 go down there. But you work all you work every 1:50:40.520 --> 1:50:42.360 day during the night. Do you live with your girlfriend? 1:50:43.960 --> 1:50:45.160 I just want to know if that's the pee and 1:50:45.160 --> 1:50:45.920 I'm downtown or. 1:50:45.920 --> 1:50:51.599 Something heavy your home? Many to use your bath? Actually, 1:50:51.600 --> 1:50:53.240 I'm an avid papa squatter, so I. 1:50:53.280 --> 1:50:56.760 Want to do that squat and pee everywhere and her 1:50:56.840 --> 1:50:58.880 child are professional pop squatters. 1:51:00.120 --> 1:51:03.840 His for life? All right, Well, you need to see 1:51:03.960 --> 1:51:04.439 that his next. 1:51:05.200 --> 1:51:12.599 Yes, And I'm a tree, good nons, good choices about him, 1:51:12.960 --> 1:51:13.599 not a girl. 1:51:13.760 --> 1:51:18.200 But I'm sweaty daddy to lady kick me involved in that, 1:51:18.400 --> 1:51:21.160 he said, She said, crowded. I know that ain't nobody 1:51:21.920 --> 1:51:23.800 got prop to those who deserve. 1:51:23.560 --> 1:51:25.360 It, And believe me, y'all, he's worth it. 1:51:25.920 --> 1:51:28.080 So here is to the because we got through the 1:51:28.240 --> 1:51:30.080 past and finally bought the body. 1:51:29.880 --> 1:51:34.800 That could make you laugh. You so crazy. I think 1:51:34.840 --> 1:51:40.840 I want to have your baby laugh. Guess.