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Speaker 1: I just announced all my tour dates. It's called the

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Speaker 1: Height and Mighty Tour. I'm coming to Washington, d c Norfolk, Virginia, Madison, Wisconsin, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, Detroit, Michigan, Cleveland, Columbus,

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Speaker 1: and Cincinnati, Ohio, Denver, Colorado, Portland, Maine, Providence, Rhode Island, Springfield, Massachusetts, Chicago,

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Speaker 1: of Course, Indianapolis, Indiana, Louisville, Kentucky, Albuquerque, Masa, Arizona, Kansas City, Missouri,

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Speaker 1: I will be touring from February through June, So go

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Speaker 1: get your tickets now. If you want to come see

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Speaker 1: me perform, I will be on the High and Mighty Tour.

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Speaker 2: Hello, gath, oh, Hi, Chelsea, how are you. I'm feeling

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Speaker 2: very deep throated today. Yes, I counted him too. I

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Speaker 3: So well, I have a really fun update. So I'm

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Speaker 3: not sure I remember Wit from our John Lovett episode.

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Speaker 3: He was getting serious with his girlfriend and wanted to propose,

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Speaker 3: but wasn't sure about telling her family that he's trans.

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Speaker 3: Yes, we loved Wit, and I think we did update

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Speaker 3: that they got engaged and that was all very happy.

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Speaker 3: So I got a very special email this week. This

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Speaker 3: email is from Aaron. So Aaron says, Hi, Chelsea, I

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Speaker 3: couldn't help but think of you and the experience you

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Speaker 3: Dear Chelsea podcast last year. This is W's mom. I've

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Speaker 3: been a longtime listener of Chelsea's podcasts and have enjoyed

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Speaker 3: She said yes. The heart of the episode was about

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Speaker 3: It simply didn't matter to them in the best way.

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Speaker 3: WIT's experience on Dear Chelsea gave him confidence and validation

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Speaker 3: beyond what I could have imagined. The respect and dignity

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Speaker 3: Chelsea and John brought to the conversation through their openness, inclusion,

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Speaker 3: and compassion was truly refreshing. As WIT's mom, I want

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Speaker 3: I felt it was the perfect time to reach out

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Speaker 3: and express my gratitude for the kindness you showed warmly.

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Speaker 2: Aaron, Oh my god, wow.

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Speaker 3: I know, it's just like so.

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Speaker 1: Big families together. That's what we're doing, keeping families. I

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Speaker 1: It's like the best gift ever.

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Speaker 3: I know, it's so delightful, So thank you so much

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Speaker 1: And by the way, what a beautiful model and blueprint

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Speaker 3: And for Aaron to be obviously this woman who is

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Speaker 3: But guess what Aaron loves with and you know, is

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Speaker 2: It's just awful. This is the way the world should

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Speaker 1: Everyone should be accepting of everybody, regardless.

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Speaker 3: Well, Ricky says, you're Chelsea. I've been a fan of

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Speaker 1: Pikachu is just a softer way to say I feel

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Speaker 3: It could be when my family growing up, my parents

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Speaker 2: Well, our caller today is Liz.

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Speaker 3: She says, you're Chelsea. About six months ago, I broke

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Speaker 1: Okay, anxious avoidant that you got away from that ex

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Speaker 1: But we've identified all of the things that you're looking

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Speaker 4: Yes, I knew you would say something just like this, Chelsea,

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Speaker 4: something else. But no, I think, I think, I know.

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Speaker 2: I just needed to hear it.

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Speaker 3: you are getting rushes of adrenaline every single time that happens.

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Speaker 3: So that can also be very addicting. And that's a

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Speaker 3: find yourself in one of those. That's but that's what

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Speaker 3: you're aiming for, right, somebody who's not constantly a rollercoaster.

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Speaker 4: Sure, yeah, that makes sense a lot of sense.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Liz, you have some friend zoning to do.

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Speaker 4: Okay, you forgot it, got it?

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Speaker 2: Thanks for going so much.

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Speaker 1: I just announced all my tour dates. It's called the

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Speaker 1: High and Mighty Tour. I will be touring from February

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Speaker 1: through June, so.

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Speaker 2: Go get your tickets now.

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Speaker 1: If you want to come see me perform, I will

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Speaker 1: be on the High and Mighty Tour.

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