Speaker 1: Welcome everyone.
Speaker 2: Hi there, this is Amy and TJ here, and welcome
Speaker 2: back to the podcast. Amy and TJ, and we have
Speaker 2: some thank yous to you all. First and foremost, we
Speaker 2: are beyond grateful by the response we've gotten from you
Speaker 2: all from our first couple of episodes.
Speaker 1: That's right, and we're excited because we got some news
Speaker 1: over the weekend. We're going to be releasing two podcasts
Speaker 1: this week and next week up until the end of
Speaker 1: the year. We'll see how it goes from there, but
Speaker 1: we're really excited about it. We told iHeart we like
Speaker 1: to work.
Speaker 2: They believed us, No, well we have. We're two people
Speaker 2: who are used to going, going, going, and long days,
Speaker 2: lots of travels, so we're not used to something like
Speaker 2: once a week. We're like, ah, that's no problem. But
Speaker 2: we wouldn't be doing two a week now if there
Speaker 2: wasn't some interest. And we got the response and from
Speaker 2: you all, and it's been a good one and we're
Speaker 2: excited to be able to share more. So yes, for
Speaker 2: the next couple weeks, you'll get two from us. This
Speaker 2: is one of them. But this week's episodes are going
Speaker 2: to be special because they're centered on you.
Speaker 1: That's right, So we're excited, but I'm going to continue
Speaker 1: my but I'm nervous theme. Hopefully I can get past
Speaker 1: that in the new year. But we are putting ourselves
Speaker 1: on the hot seat literally. We asked you all to
Speaker 1: write in some questions, leave them in the comments section,
Speaker 1: and you know, we don't look at the comments, but
Speaker 1: I did say see that it was over eight hundred,
Speaker 1: So there were a lot of questions that.
Speaker 2: You all had, and so we're going to answer as
Speaker 2: many of them as we can. But the kicker here
Speaker 2: is that we haven't seen them ahead of time. We
Speaker 2: specifically asked our producers do not let us know the
Speaker 2: questions ahead of time. So they went through them. They
Speaker 2: picked out as many as they as many as they could,
Speaker 2: and we're going to try to get to as many
Speaker 2: as we can in the next couple of episodes, starting
Speaker 2: with this one.
Speaker 1: Yes, so it's fun not to see the questions. It
Speaker 1: can be a little uncomfortab well not to see the questions,
Speaker 1: but let's see what happens. Andy, what's our first one.
Speaker 3: We have a whole bunch of questions. I'll dive right
Speaker 3: into it. This first one comes from Cameron and he
Speaker 3: asks if you're willing to share more. I'd love to
Speaker 3: hear about how you two fell in love after being
Speaker 3: friends for so long. What changed, When did you know
Speaker 3: your feelings were changing, and how long before you told
Speaker 3: each other this? Romantic would love to know.
Speaker 2: Okay, fine, I having a problem with that. Look, when
Speaker 2: we knew it was probably summer of last year where
Speaker 2: we're like, oh that things were something else was evolving.
Speaker 2: Obviously we were about we were very close to entering
Speaker 2: divorce proceedings, but at that point we knew something was different.
Speaker 2: We didn't share that because we didn't share that season
Speaker 2: talking about publicly. We didn't share that with each other. Yes,
Speaker 2: because I am sitting over here going Lord, this has
Speaker 2: been a great best friend friendship. I don't need to
Speaker 2: screw this up by saying to her that there's something
Speaker 2: I'm feeling for her beyond the friendship. So we kind
Speaker 2: of tiptoed around it, and I didn't want to say anything.
Speaker 2: You didn't want to say anything. But then as we
Speaker 2: proceeded through last summer, things definitely changed and we started
Speaker 2: having conversations.
Speaker 1: I suppose yes, I gosh, we've actually talked about this
Speaker 1: with each other. Trying to remember the moment, I think
Speaker 1: we started looking at each other differently. Is that fair?
Speaker 2: Wait? How'd you start looking at me? This is? This
Speaker 2: is new to me too? Who was that romantic? The
Speaker 2: Cameron camera? Okay, Cameron, we are about to learn this
Speaker 2: together because I didn't know she was looking at me differently,
Speaker 2: So go go ahead.
Speaker 1: I think I saw you looking at me different What
Speaker 1: the hell?
Speaker 2: That sounds creepy as hell.
Speaker 1: No, it was just we were spending so much time
Speaker 1: together at work, and then we didn't want it to end.
Speaker 1: I remember us both saying, oh, Fridays are a bummer
Speaker 1: because normally people are excited about Fridays, right, because.
Speaker 2: You get to go home for the weekend. But that
Speaker 2: means we couldn't see each other again until.
Speaker 1: Monday, right, and then Mondays were always like ugh for
Speaker 1: most people, and we were excited about Monday's. Yeah. And
Speaker 1: I think for me, that's when it started to feel
Speaker 1: different and we didn't necessarily want to be honest, I
Speaker 1: think with how we were feeling about each other because
Speaker 1: it didn't feel right, and I think that's when we
Speaker 1: kind of had to start asking ourselves without talking to
Speaker 1: each other first, about what was different. And so I
Speaker 1: think that's when it started in the summer where I
Speaker 1: didn't want it to be Friday and I was excited
Speaker 1: about Monday.
Speaker 2: So all right, well we learned that together, Cameron. Did
Speaker 2: she really answer that? And I think so? How you
Speaker 2: looked at you? Said you noticed I started looking at
Speaker 2: you did? That's what it was.
Speaker 1: I feel like there was a little extra twinkle in
Speaker 1: your eyes.
Speaker 2: Oh my, it's absurd, a twinkle. I keep a twinkle
Speaker 2: in my eyes.
Speaker 1: You do have a twinkle in thank you? Yeah?
Speaker 2: And he said the same thing. Look at me right now, Andy,
Speaker 2: you see a twinkle, don't you? You have twinkling?
Speaker 1: But what does Andy need to start questioning his friendship
Speaker 1: with you?
Speaker 2: You were questioning your friendship with me? Okay, Cameron, this
Speaker 2: is a rough start. No, I didn't know that part
Speaker 2: about you thought I was looking at you differently.
Speaker 1: I felt it.
Speaker 2: We did run together a lot.
Speaker 1: We did run.
Speaker 2: You didn't see how I was looking at you when
Speaker 2: I was sorry?
Speaker 1: He did run behind me?
Speaker 2: All right, all right, Andy, what else you got? What
Speaker 2: does you get?
Speaker 3: This next one comes from Charles. He asks who made
Speaker 3: the first move? How is your first kiss? And who
Speaker 3: said I love you first?
Speaker 2: Definitely I was I said I love you first? That
Speaker 2: is for sure. Who made the first move? I don't
Speaker 2: think there was. But if I had to argue, if
Speaker 2: I go back, it was you. Wow, I would argue
Speaker 2: with you.
Speaker 1: Yep, I saw the twa Did I lean in first?
Speaker 2: It's not about a leaning in. It's about a move
Speaker 2: somebody who initiated something physical that was beyond what the
Speaker 2: friendship had been. I think that was you.
Speaker 1: You think it was me?
Speaker 2: I am. I am sure it was you, because look,
Speaker 2: so many people have stories of the people they've been with.
Speaker 2: We met here, we had a date here, Our first
Speaker 2: kiss was here. We don't I don't know when the
Speaker 2: first time it was I met you because we started
Speaker 2: out as strength somewhere to the studio. Did we have
Speaker 2: an official first date? No, I can't. We stream together
Speaker 2: the number of lunches and dinners and drinks we've had
Speaker 2: for the past nine years that nothing felt like a
Speaker 2: first anything. So when did we make it we had
Speaker 2: an official first? Maybe trip as a couple made an
Speaker 2: official first something like that, I remember, But no, we
Speaker 2: just don't have that because of how our relationship was. Man,
Speaker 2: you are this year, I'm the worst. You're the worst.
Speaker 2: At this game, I have to look.
Speaker 1: Back at pictures from last week to remember, like what
Speaker 1: did we do? What was our lunch? And then I
Speaker 1: have to go back. And that's why I like to
Speaker 1: take pictures, because it reminds me of what we did.
Speaker 2: We'll go back and figure out when you made that
Speaker 2: move on me, Andy? What else you get?
Speaker 3: The next question is from Amelia and she writes, excuse me, y'all,
Speaker 3: I'm drunk at the Mariah concert in Philly, and I
Speaker 3: have two questions. One did Robin Roberts and others abandon
Speaker 3: y'all and cut contact? And two? One song that hypes
Speaker 3: y'all up on a run love y'all.
Speaker 1: I love that she said, y'all.
Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, where is she from? Where was Mariah before
Speaker 2: me in Philly?
Speaker 1: Yeah she's not from Philly?
Speaker 2: If she said, y'all, yeah, I don't think so.
Speaker 1: Right. No, first question, we initially, I will say this,
Speaker 1: received nothing but support. I think we have texts to
Speaker 1: back that up. And when we first went back to
Speaker 1: work those first two days, my dressing room was filled
Speaker 1: with love and support. So I will say that that's
Speaker 1: where I can say things without any question. There was
Speaker 1: immediate and initial support okay.
Speaker 2: Well, well the next part of that, the question was
Speaker 2: did did did Robin and who abandon us? Everybody else?
Speaker 2: It okay, you're done.
Speaker 1: Not everyone. Not everyone abandoned us, And I would say
Speaker 1: that we got a lot of follow up texts, and
Speaker 1: I don't you know, I don't know how people feel
Speaker 1: about being aligned with us now, and I don't want
Speaker 1: to cause anybody any trouble. We all joked about Sarah
Speaker 1: Haynes and then it became like this headline. So I
Speaker 1: actually feel like I want to be careful about who
Speaker 1: I say continues to support us. But we have a
Speaker 1: lot of support from our former co worker.
Speaker 2: I think that's a damn shame. We've had these conversations
Speaker 2: behind the scenes, and I think it's absolutely ridiculous that
Speaker 2: we are sitting here and we we we shouldn't even
Speaker 2: look at ourselves that way, like we are worried that, oh,
Speaker 2: if somebody is affiliated with us, that it's going to
Speaker 2: hurt them. That's I hate that we are even in
Speaker 2: that position. I don't think we should and that's something
Speaker 2: we're putting on ourselves. And we can talk about this.
Speaker 2: Just this week, this just happened, a headline about me
Speaker 2: and Charles Barkley going out for drinks. And you know
Speaker 2: this because he sent me the message the next day,
Speaker 2: and my heart sank and my first reaction was, man,
Speaker 2: I'm sorry that you had your name is even affiliated
Speaker 2: with me. This is a mother that I have been
Speaker 2: friends with for seventeen eighteen years, okay, and to feel
Speaker 2: that way is not how we should feel. And every
Speaker 2: single person we have said, well, we don't want to
Speaker 2: say your name, they said, I don't give a damn.
Speaker 2: I love you. I know it's okay, So maybe we
Speaker 2: should start getting out of that and away from that.
Speaker 2: But I understand for folks who have been in this industry,
Speaker 2: who have worked all these years to get their reputation
Speaker 2: to a certain place, that they don't want to at
Speaker 2: all be affiliated with anything that seems untowards it seems salacious.
Speaker 2: I get that. But to the question from the folks
Speaker 2: he are asking, look we talked to I said before.
Speaker 2: They have plenty of folks we saw every single day
Speaker 2: we ain't heard from since. And then there are plenty
Speaker 2: of people that we don't talk to that often or
Speaker 2: didn't who have been checking on us every day. So
Speaker 2: there's plenty of support. I don't know how quiet it is,
Speaker 2: but there are plenty of people at that network where
Speaker 2: we worked and at that show who have reached out,
Speaker 2: who have checked on, who are wonderful friends to us.
Speaker 2: And that continues.
Speaker 1: And you can look at the comments because anyone who
Speaker 1: I follow can comment on our instagrams. So there are
Speaker 1: people who have decided to comment publicly, and I think
Speaker 1: those are the people who are okay with us talking
Speaker 1: about their support publicly.
Speaker 2: And the other part of that was about the song,
Speaker 2: the hype song You're Run Too Ah.
Speaker 1: I love levitating dua lipa. I think one of the
Speaker 1: ones that comes to my mind right away.
Speaker 2: Mine, of course is Meek Mill Dreams of Nightmares.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, hold.
Speaker 2: Up, wait a minute, y'all thought I was finished. Oh
Speaker 2: my god, I love a song.
Speaker 1: You play that for me the other day.
Speaker 2: That's like the only lyric I can give that's clean
Speaker 2: enough for refeat. I think I love that song all right.
Speaker 3: The next question is from Lisa, and she asks do
Speaker 3: you miss being an a and if you've got the opportunity,
Speaker 3: would you guys go back?
Speaker 1: Absolutely yes, I do miss my job as an anchor.
Speaker 1: I spent nearly three decades getting to that place, and
Speaker 1: so had I felt like I checked all the boxes
Speaker 1: in everything I set out to do. Yes, and I
Speaker 1: was excited about more so, I one hundred percent missed
Speaker 1: my job. And would I go back on TV? Would
Speaker 1: I go back to being an anchor if it was
Speaker 1: the right fit. Yes.
Speaker 2: I think we're at that point now. To answer our question,
Speaker 2: Lisa's question is that we are a little more discerning
Speaker 2: about what types of things we would do. There were
Speaker 2: plenty of opportunities that came our way in the past year.
Speaker 2: At least say ah, that wasn't the right thing, it
Speaker 2: didn't feel like the right thing, it wasn't the right time.
Speaker 2: So miss I miss people. I miss certain people I
Speaker 2: work with, But I also missed certain types of stories
Speaker 2: I did there. But there was a certain type of
Speaker 2: grind that I don't miss. There was a certain type
Speaker 2: of just energy zapping reality sometimes Network TV News that
Speaker 2: I don't necessarily miss, but has everything to do with
Speaker 2: what the opportunity is, where it is, what the responsibilities
Speaker 2: would be, what the commitment would be, and who I
Speaker 2: get to work with. Because my last co anchor, I
Speaker 2: would never go through that again. I will never have
Speaker 2: that kind of experience Andy that I had the last
Speaker 2: time I had a TV game, because that shit went sideways.
Speaker 3: You don't say, Brittany, she asks, agree or disagree with
Speaker 3: the why. The fact is that you two stood up
Speaker 3: against unbelievable odds, unprecedented scrutiny, and the judgment of the
Speaker 3: world to rewrite your stories and live your truth. What
Speaker 3: advice would you give someone afraid to reset life mid
Speaker 3: cycle to live authentically?
Speaker 1: I would say, well, I would say the bank. All
Speaker 1: of those things are practical. I'm going to talk about
Speaker 1: it from a personal, spiritual level. You have one shot
Speaker 1: at this life, and time is not guaranteed, and today
Speaker 1: is all you have. And so I thought about all
Speaker 1: of those things when I thoughtfully chose to be with
Speaker 1: this man. I think even when my daughters found out
Speaker 1: about this because of the tabloids, and they were shocked
Speaker 1: and thrown a punch that I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people felt when they found out about us. I remember
Speaker 1: my oldest daughter said to me, you know, that was
Speaker 1: just so such a like a like. She thought it
Speaker 1: was such a quick decision, that it was just an
Speaker 1: abrupt thing. I just leapt into and I said, no,
Speaker 1: I thought about this. I sat with this. I knew
Speaker 1: how I felt, I knew how he felt about me,
Speaker 1: I knew how I felt about him, And I really
Speaker 1: carefully considered what I wanted to do before I did it.
Speaker 1: And part of what I considered was my answer journey,
Speaker 1: the people who I love, who I am friends with,
Speaker 1: who are living it still, and I am so acutely
Speaker 1: aware of how rare it is to find something like this,
Speaker 1: and how we have one shot at life and one
Speaker 1: shot at love. And I wasn't living my truth. And
Speaker 1: if living your truth means making a change, it's hard,
Speaker 1: it can be messy, it's difficult oftentimes, and you will
Speaker 1: be met with a lot of people telling you otherwise.
Speaker 1: But you know, like when you feel your chest and
Speaker 1: your heart like you know what's right. And if you
Speaker 1: follow that and you try to do write by everybody
Speaker 1: along the way, I say, go for it.
Speaker 2: And we don't that you're that point there we I
Speaker 2: don't necessarily find what we went through extraordinary. I only
Speaker 2: find it extraordinary in the way it got covered and
Speaker 2: things like that. But there are so many folks in
Speaker 2: in this country right now who have lived some type
Speaker 2: of journey that was that one didn't work out, so
Speaker 2: I ended up here or just life, love, marriage, relationships
Speaker 2: can be messy, and everybody actually knows that if you've
Speaker 2: lived a certain amount of life. But it just happens
Speaker 2: that ours was thrown out and we didn't have control
Speaker 2: of a certain story. And think, okay, fine, but I
Speaker 2: don't think. I don't want to hold us up as
Speaker 2: anything any more extraordinary necessarily than so much of what
Speaker 2: other people are going through. I do find it extraordinary
Speaker 2: that people follow through on it. Sometimes we ended up
Speaker 2: in this point. I never wanted to be divorced. I
Speaker 2: never wanted a little Sabine's family to not be together.
Speaker 2: But here is where we are, and I am happier
Speaker 2: and healthier and actually a better daddy to now to
Speaker 2: being the place that I am now. So I agree
Speaker 2: with everything that Robot just said. But yeah, life is
Speaker 2: life is really really short. And you go through something
Speaker 2: like she went through with her cancer journey, and all
Speaker 2: of our families we've had issues and cancer and death
Speaker 2: we've seen around us, you just like, wow, you stop.
Speaker 2: I heard this word. We were out not too long ago.
Speaker 2: Somebody use this word. I was used the phony like
Speaker 2: I was a phony. And I don't want to live
Speaker 2: that you live when we live public lives, and you
Speaker 2: want to live truly personally and behind the scenes, but
Speaker 2: also publicly as well. So here we are. So what
Speaker 2: was her name again? The person asked a question that
Speaker 2: was Brittany. Okay, Brittany, Thank you.
Speaker 1: Brittany, go for it, Live your truth.
Speaker 3: This next one comes from Abigail. She asks what kind
Speaker 3: of stories and guests do you guys hope to have
Speaker 3: on the podcast and do you have any dream guests
Speaker 3: for the podcast?
Speaker 1: Mmmm. I think both of us are storytellers and we
Speaker 1: love to tell other people's stories, so we cannot wait
Speaker 1: to start talking about other people. But you know what,
Speaker 1: I hope to These are always the things I want
Speaker 1: to do, and I hope we can do this in
Speaker 1: this podcast. We want to entertain, we want to inform,
Speaker 1: we want to inspire, and we want to give something
Speaker 1: to people to aspire to maybe even to learn from.
Speaker 1: And I'm always learning and oftentimes you learn through difficult times.
Speaker 1: So we're hoping this is a safe space for anybody
Speaker 1: who has something to share with our audience. Like if
Speaker 1: we can bring people on, I don't care if they're
Speaker 1: famous or they're not who when you're listening to them,
Speaker 1: you learn something from them, and yes, we hope you're
Speaker 1: entertained along the way as well. But I really hope
Speaker 1: there's a takeaway each time we have a guest. So
Speaker 1: there's not a guest or a specific person, I think
Speaker 1: it's the story and the idea behind whatever their message is.
Speaker 1: That's we're looking for something that's going to give you inspiration,
Speaker 1: give you purpose, give you something to learn from, even
Speaker 1: if it's don't do what I did. You know, that's
Speaker 1: the kind of guest and those are the kinds of
Speaker 1: stories we're hoping to tell.
Speaker 2: I was trying to say I agree with everything she said.
Speaker 2: I just was trying to find a like a name,
Speaker 2: who I would love to in this format, because there's
Speaker 2: people I would have loved to interview you on television
Speaker 2: that in this format I wouldn't necessarily want them, right,
Speaker 2: this is just the more comfortable. It's an intimate way
Speaker 2: of chatting with somebody. So a name, because I want
Speaker 2: to give to Abigail something like an actual name. But
Speaker 2: soon as I give a name, it's going to end
Speaker 2: up being.
Speaker 1: A call out, Hey, yeah, and did they get them
Speaker 1: or not?
Speaker 2: Maybe you should do that. We should just list a
Speaker 2: whole bunch of people now and put them on the spot.
Speaker 1: We'll just start booking people right now.
Speaker 2: All right, what do you got next? I all right.
Speaker 3: The next one comes from Susie and she asks, are
Speaker 3: you guys spending the holidays together?
Speaker 1: Susie, that's a good question, you know. I think a
Speaker 1: lot of people are in this situation. Everyone would love
Speaker 1: a nuclear, traditional family, and one divorce is hard enough,
Speaker 1: trying to figure that out two divorces is even more complicated.
Speaker 1: So I think we're trying to do what our kids
Speaker 1: would like us to do. I think we've let them
Speaker 1: lead the way up until now. And I don't think
Speaker 1: there's a playbook or a handbook for this, and a
Speaker 1: different therapist will tell you something different. But we will
Speaker 1: spend time together. Yeah, I've gone through a few in
Speaker 1: my life. I'm yeah, I think, yeah, that's embarrassing, but true. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm always looking for help and guidance, and I know
Speaker 1: I don't know best always, but we will be together,
Speaker 1: and we're we don't have the exact plan in place.
Speaker 1: We're trying to figure it out, but we're both going
Speaker 1: to be here in New York and our daughters are
Speaker 1: going to be here in New York, and so we
Speaker 1: will piece it together.
Speaker 2: Yes, is the answer.
Speaker 1: Mine was a little bit more complicated and probably too honest.
Speaker 1: Go ahead, next question.
Speaker 3: Lease, all right. This next one comes from jam and
Speaker 3: it's a great question. She asks, what do you wish
Speaker 3: everyone knew about your story that they don't know right now?
Speaker 2: Oh? That's that is great. I you know, I wish
Speaker 2: folks got to uh, had a better understanding of the
Speaker 2: past eight years, eight years before we started dating, and
Speaker 2: understanding of the foundation that we had built right it's
Speaker 2: and where we were. People saw chemistry on the air,
Speaker 2: people saw and people behind the scenes saw our friendship.
Speaker 2: We were ridiculous together to the point of annoyance, Like
Speaker 2: those two just get me away from these things.
Speaker 1: We were the kids in the class. You had to
Speaker 1: be separated by the teacher always.
Speaker 2: So I just that friendship is something I wish people
Speaker 2: had a better understanding of, because again, we didn't have
Speaker 2: control over when people found out that we were actually
Speaker 2: in a relationship. So it was I think that disgusted
Speaker 2: us most is that something that was we were so
Speaker 2: careful about and so deliberate and took so much great
Speaker 2: care in was being thrown out as just something salacious and.
Speaker 1: Tawdryus an affair, some sexy like just affair, which it
Speaker 1: was the last thing that this was. TJ told me
Speaker 1: he loved me before he ever held my hand. I
Speaker 1: don't think I've ever had that experience before in my life,
Speaker 1: where it was an emotional connection that we acknowledged before
Speaker 1: anything physical ever happened. And that was pretty amazing. I'd
Speaker 1: like people to know that that was.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that sucks. I mean, everybody seemed to know
Speaker 2: how great we were, even where we worked, knew how
Speaker 2: great we were because they were the ones that kept
Speaker 2: putting us together.
Speaker 1: Y'all are greed together. You should go to London together.
Speaker 1: Y'all should go to yeah, New Orleans together. Y'all should
Speaker 1: just be on the road and and and so there
Speaker 1: was something to it, I don't It just took us
Speaker 1: a little bit longer to realize it.
Speaker 3: Interesting, and this next question comes from Elvin. It's an
Speaker 3: interesting one. They ask, do you think you were set
Speaker 3: up because of the Epstein case?
Speaker 1: No, I don't think that this had anything to do
Speaker 1: with that. There are a lot of conspiracy theories that
Speaker 1: surround that. And you know that well, I think we'll
Speaker 1: probably get into that in another episode, another podcast, because
Speaker 1: there was a lot to be told about that, and
Speaker 1: I understand why people are interested. I was frustrated, I think,
Speaker 1: if anyone doesn't know, long story short, I was caught
Speaker 1: on a hot mic at ABC when I was in
Speaker 1: between promos, when I didn't think I was being recorded,
Speaker 1: when I didn't think I was being listened to. But
Speaker 1: that shame on me, because I should know better. When
Speaker 1: you have a microphone on, someone's always listening and someone
Speaker 1: could always potentially be recording, and that's what happened. But yes,
Speaker 1: I had done a very significant interview which clearly pointed
Speaker 1: the finger at Epstein. I believe it was several years
Speaker 1: before he was actually found out, and so I was
Speaker 1: extremely frustrated at work that I wasn't able to get
Speaker 1: that story on the air. And so in a moment
Speaker 1: where I was frustrated, it got caught on camera. And yeah,
Speaker 1: so there are a lot of people who believe that
Speaker 1: there was some sort of backlash or some sort of
Speaker 1: you know, agenda against me, and you know, I did
Speaker 1: deal with some repercussions because of that, But I don't
Speaker 1: think that what was put out about TJ and I
Speaker 1: had anything to do with my Epstein reporting or my
Speaker 1: lack thereof.
Speaker 2: We know it didn't, gotcha.
Speaker 3: Next one, on the topic of therapy, Susie asked, do
Speaker 3: you actually see a couple therapists?
Speaker 2: We're looking right now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't have God, we don't think God. We
Speaker 1: don't need a couple therapists yet. And I say yet yet,
Speaker 1: I'm kidding. I feel like, oh, this experience has been
Speaker 1: therapy in and of itself. But I have been in
Speaker 1: therapy for quite some time. I actually don't see one
Speaker 1: regularly now, but I like through this all, I think
Speaker 1: nine months every week I was in therapy starting last
Speaker 1: the summer before this all came to light. And you
Speaker 1: know my daughters, one of them is now actually still
Speaker 1: seeing a therapist, the other one's not. But I'm always
Speaker 1: open to it.
Speaker 2: And you think we should know, all right? Why not?
Speaker 1: We talk a lot, We talk it out, and I
Speaker 1: think we actually have really great communication, which is pretty unique.
Speaker 3: Great Kevin, he asks, who was the first person that
Speaker 3: both of you told about your relationship?
Speaker 1: Okay, I know mine, Oh, Nikki, my best friend, Niki Espina,
Speaker 1: She's the first person I told. I told her I
Speaker 1: told her speaking of a therapist. She she guessed, and
Speaker 1: I confirmed when right before it came out.
Speaker 2: You didn't tell me this.
Speaker 1: I know. I'm telling you now.
Speaker 2: You gotta be getting me right now, Bro, you told her?
Speaker 1: I confirmed right before.
Speaker 2: I mean you confirmed. No, that's told not.
Speaker 1: No, she asked me directly. I said, yes, or more
Speaker 1: than friends.
Speaker 2: Are you aware that you didn't tell me that? I am? Okay, Now,
Speaker 2: why didn't you tell me that?
Speaker 1: Because a lot happened, like it was literally days?
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no. Why didn't you tell me that? Because you
Speaker 2: knew my reaction might be how it is right now
Speaker 2: and I'd be pissed. Yeah, because that's what's happened.
Speaker 1: Probably, Sorry, Okay, maybe we need a therapist.
Speaker 2: Oh so this relationship is all jokes to you now, huh,
Speaker 2: it's just funny.
Speaker 1: I know, Yeah, that happened. Wow, who's the first person
Speaker 1: you told?
Speaker 2: I didn't tell anybody? Yeah, because I didn't have to
Speaker 2: because everybody knew by the time I was getting around
Speaker 2: to it, so I didn't. There was nobody ever told. Yeah,
Speaker 2: not a soul. I didn't think I should because I
Speaker 2: thought that might be a betrayal to the person I
Speaker 2: was dating Andy.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Kevin, great question. Yeah all right,
Speaker 3: Katrina asks, are you guys going to tie the knot?
Speaker 2: You want to answer this to? Have you already told
Speaker 2: somebody that we are? Should I call Nikki and see
Speaker 2: how our relationship is going?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: No, no, no, oh.
Speaker 1: You he's still reeling from the last ques.
Speaker 2: Like all I see in your face right now is
Speaker 2: Denise Richards and undercover brothers.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, yes, oh my god, it's it's under consideration.
Speaker 2: What was the question again?
Speaker 3: Are you guys going to tie the knot?
Speaker 2: Oh? Please? Yeah, I'm learning so much about it.
Speaker 1: So here's what I would say. We did not enter
Speaker 1: this relationship for fun or for let's see what happens.
Speaker 1: We entered this relationship because we intended on spending our
Speaker 1: lives together. So whether or not we have some sort
Speaker 1: of legal uh you know, I don't know button on it,
Speaker 1: that's like I don't know. We we both have two
Speaker 1: marriages under our belts, and so it's not something we're
Speaker 1: racing to or rushing towards. But there is something I
Speaker 1: get it. It's this this thing that I don't I
Speaker 1: can't even explain why there's this desire but I want
Speaker 1: to spend the rest of my life with you.
Speaker 2: I can say that, but you don't want to marry me.
Speaker 1: It's on the table. It's on the table.
Speaker 2: We do need a marriage counselor excuse me, a couple
Speaker 2: of counselors, a couple.
Speaker 1: You jumped to the next step, but wait, how about
Speaker 1: you only I answered that. Yeah, that's funny.
Speaker 2: You've seen the gifts under the tree. You notice that
Speaker 2: little bit box. Did you notice the tiny box?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I did. I know what's in it, though, Savine keeps.
Speaker 2: Talking about the tiny box. Yeah, she wants to know
Speaker 2: the time. Surprise in that tiny box.
Speaker 1: Yeah it's not from Jared.
Speaker 2: Okay, I want to marry you in part right, I'm
Speaker 2: saying that out loud. Yeah, I want to marry you
Speaker 2: because you are fifty and I'm forty.
Speaker 1: Six, and you had to point the very.
Speaker 2: Sick of introducing you, a fifty year old woman, this
Speaker 2: is my girlfriend. That just sounds stupid.
Speaker 1: But thank you for noting the age difference everybody.
Speaker 2: I appreciate that everybody. But you're gonna be fifty one soon.
Speaker 2: I'll be forty six. So this means when you're in
Speaker 2: high school, I was in elementary school.
Speaker 1: He does this a lot. He loves to point this.
Speaker 2: Out in college. I was in junior high school. Wow,
Speaker 2: how cool.
Speaker 1: If you could only have known that.
Speaker 2: This is awesome.
Speaker 1: Yeah right, I'm impressed for you.
Speaker 2: S So yes, we're going to again, friend of you know,
Speaker 2: we brought up Chuck already, So friend Charles Charles Barkley.
Speaker 2: He's been saying this for years. If you get it
Speaker 2: past a certain age thirty plus, you cannot be calling
Speaker 2: somebody your girlfriend and your boyfriend. You've outgrown that.
Speaker 1: You did. Note though, Lucky for us, when we actually
Speaker 1: meet people, we don't have to say this is my boyfriendj.
Speaker 1: They already know we're past that. We don't really have
Speaker 1: to introduce each other, so we don't really have to
Speaker 1: use that language.
Speaker 3: Oscar asks, what is one word to sum up your
Speaker 3: twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1: Educational peace.
Speaker 2: You want to elaborate on yours.
Speaker 1: I've just learned more than I've ever learned about, not
Speaker 1: just myself, about people who I thought I knew about,
Speaker 1: what I thought journalism was, what I thought it could
Speaker 1: feel you like to be on the other side of
Speaker 1: public opinion, just things that I thought I knew I
Speaker 1: was wrong about and I have learned so much. I
Speaker 1: am wiser and I am more prepared for what comes next.
Speaker 2: And I think my answer peace actually ties into all that.
Speaker 2: In learning all of those things as well, I have
Speaker 2: gotten to like really one of the best places I've
Speaker 2: ever been in my life with friends, some people and
Speaker 2: friends in or whatever it may, whoever it may be.
Speaker 2: Some things have gotten out of my life that serve
Speaker 2: their purpose. But it's time for those things to go.
Speaker 2: And when you start to find you get back to
Speaker 2: who you actually are when you strip away some of
Speaker 2: these things, like wow, I was doing this for that
Speaker 2: person or I was being this way for that thing
Speaker 2: or for that job, because I thought this was you
Speaker 2: finally get to a point of peace. And so I'll
Speaker 2: keep saying I'm happier and healthy and I've ever been
Speaker 2: in my life. And it took twenty twenty three and
Speaker 2: a year of peace, and it was more stuff in there,
Speaker 2: but it's there was some peace outs. Thank God. Though
Speaker 2: really you look at some of that stuff, but yeah,
Speaker 2: piece is mine. Well as you got.
Speaker 3: Andy, Tony asks what's your favorite thing to cook together?
Speaker 1: He's laughing because, oh that Tony, So I used to cook,
Speaker 1: but he's so much better than me, So I like
Speaker 1: to watch him cook. And what is our favorite? So
Speaker 1: my favorite thing that you cook, I can say that
Speaker 1: is the chimmy chery sauce and the steak and the salad.
Speaker 1: It's really good.
Speaker 2: Savine loves that too, that's a favorite. But yes, I
Speaker 2: we don't. We don't cook together.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm in the room with you, I'm in the kitchen.
Speaker 2: We're together while I'm cooking. How about that? Yes, so,
Speaker 2: but we don't. We do not cook together. And I
Speaker 2: love cooking. I love being I love that environment. I
Speaker 2: love being in the kitchen and people around and the
Speaker 2: wine is flowing and people are chatting. But I love,
Speaker 2: love love that. So I'll well, yesterday was I can
Speaker 2: I believe you said? This is one of the favorite
Speaker 2: things I've ever made.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm so good.
Speaker 2: It was just lunch. She wanted lunch and we were
Speaker 2: gonna have lunch. And we had an option. You could
Speaker 2: just heat something up, we could just throw something in.
Speaker 2: But I made a shaved Brussels sprout, chicken.
Speaker 1: Rilled chicken, hard boiled egg. It was so good. But
Speaker 1: by the way, I would help, he just won't let me.
Speaker 1: You know, when I say, hey, is there anything I
Speaker 1: can do? Do you know what he says to me,
Speaker 1: just don't make me nervous, and said, so.
Speaker 2: That's our cooking experience, don'ty. We don't cook together, even
Speaker 2: we have parties that we've hosted. Yeah, and I have
Speaker 2: to feed twenty people and I cook every single bite
Speaker 2: of food that is consumed that night.
Speaker 1: And I'm so happy to take the chef hat off
Speaker 1: after like, yes I am. I'm just And by the way,
Speaker 1: I know when someone's better than.
Speaker 2: Me, So just a certain things.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, you're better at preparing meals than me.
Speaker 2: Wow. You made sure you corrected that, didn't you.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, all right, Haley, she asks, it's corny. But
Speaker 3: I want to know. I want to know if y'all
Speaker 3: have a song after episode two. I'd be willing to
Speaker 3: bet it's not anything in the yacht rock genre. I
Speaker 3: love having you guys back on the air in this new,
Speaker 3: awesome capacity.
Speaker 2: Oh thank you, Hailey for that.
Speaker 1: We do have a song.
Speaker 2: There's a bunch of songs. Do you want to give
Speaker 2: it out? Because we were considering you want to give
Speaker 2: it out?
Speaker 1: Okay, fine, okay, Ed Sharon leave your life.
Speaker 2: I sent that song to her it was probably last
Speaker 2: summer at some point I heard that song and just
Speaker 2: if people are familiar with it, if you're not, go
Speaker 2: listen to it now. But at Sharon, leave your life,
Speaker 2: I'm never going to leave your life.
Speaker 1: That's when I knew you love me.
Speaker 2: And that's what it was. We have a bunch of
Speaker 2: other songs that we crack up about.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's our song.
Speaker 2: That would be the one that's it. That's so cute. Oh.
Speaker 3: Jessica asks, what's your advice for someone who has a
Speaker 3: crush on or is falling for their best friend whoa It's.
Speaker 1: Tough right getting out of the friend zone because we
Speaker 1: valued our friendship so much. That was the scariest thing.
Speaker 1: Do we actually do this and risk losing our best friend?
Speaker 2: We had that conversation. We actually it was more important
Speaker 2: that we stayed friends than it was to risk and
Speaker 2: trying a relationship.
Speaker 1: There really was the advice I would say, ugh, is
Speaker 1: make sure the other one feels the same way about
Speaker 1: you before you.
Speaker 2: Say see no, no, no, no, no, okay, okay, Well was
Speaker 2: it Haley? That is a typical her answer. This is
Speaker 2: where we are different because I would give different advice.
Speaker 2: She would and I absolutely you would hold on to
Speaker 2: and make sure you didn't put yourself out there without
Speaker 2: knowing it's going to absolute be reciprocated because you couldn't
Speaker 2: stand the rejection of the humiliation. Is that fair to say?
Speaker 1: Yes? But I also didn't want to make it weird too. Yes. Correct.
Speaker 1: I fully admit that. Okay, fully admit that.
Speaker 2: So I and I'm on the other side of that
Speaker 2: in that I ain't got I'm a grown ass man.
Speaker 2: Why am I handing a note like I'm in third grade?
Speaker 2: Do you like me? Check yes or no? No, I'm
Speaker 2: a grown man. If you don't feel the same way,
Speaker 2: why am I sitting? I can't hold it to myself?
Speaker 2: Life is short. You talked about this, so life, Haley,
Speaker 2: you go for it. If this is what you feel
Speaker 2: that person, you could lose them tomorrow and you will
Speaker 2: never They will never know how you felt about them
Speaker 2: if they reciprocate. Fine, but how are you ever going
Speaker 2: to know unless you speak?
Speaker 1: You go for it. You were really good. I remember
Speaker 1: the conversation now, and you were just like, look, I'm
Speaker 1: feeling this way. If you don't feel the same way,
Speaker 1: that's fine. But here's what I'm feeling and it took
Speaker 1: someone to make a bold move and it wasn't me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like in the kitchen, I'm chadding and I'm chadding.
Speaker 2: I'm kidding, I'm kidding, But that was So what would
Speaker 2: you tell Hayley? No, make sure the other person feels
Speaker 2: the same? How are you gonna find out? You're almost
Speaker 2: embarrassed by the advice? But I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's scary, it's a I'm just acknowledging. I'm validating how
Speaker 1: she's feeling because it's scary. It's very scary, and you
Speaker 1: don't want to lose the friendship, Okay, but you.
Speaker 2: Don't also want to lose the opportunity. And life is
Speaker 2: fricking short. Go for it now. If you're not hurting
Speaker 2: yourself or hurting somebody else, then I am fully endorsing
Speaker 2: whatever it is you may want to do. That's what's
Speaker 2: the worst that can happen? They say, I don't feel
Speaker 2: the same, So what's the best that can happen? And
Speaker 2: that Michael Singer we always talk about all the time.
Speaker 2: He always tells people, all right, we always sit up
Speaker 2: all day long and think about what could go wrong,
Speaker 2: worst case scenario. We don't ever think about the best
Speaker 2: case scenario. Haley's going to write in next week and say, hey, Jerks,
Speaker 2: so I took your advice. He moved all right.
Speaker 3: This next question comes from Kyle. He asks, if you
Speaker 3: guys were asked to be on Dancing with the Stars,
Speaker 3: would you accept them?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Okay, no, next question, do we.
Speaker 1: Want to talk about rhythm? No, we can do that later.
Speaker 3: Okay, new way, all right, so no Dancing with the Stars.
Speaker 3: Jenny asks what got you through this last year and
Speaker 3: if anything, what would you have maybe done a little
Speaker 3: bit differently.
Speaker 2: The past year. I think each other. I don't think
Speaker 2: there's any question about that. We Yeah, we we had
Speaker 2: each other and it was it meant everything, and there
Speaker 2: was I guess easily we could have broken down in
Speaker 2: a whole bunch of moments, but we got better and stronger.
Speaker 2: And I think we've said it before. I shout her
Speaker 2: to think if we didn't have each other through this all,
Speaker 2: and so I think.
Speaker 1: That was There's no question. Some people might call it
Speaker 1: trauma bonding, but I would actually say we did lean
Speaker 1: on each other in such a beautiful way, and I
Speaker 1: actually feel like it was d that we were both
Speaker 1: really low. If you were low, I was up. If
Speaker 1: I was low, you were up. And we really did
Speaker 1: just lift each other back up. We just happened to
Speaker 1: not be in sync when it came to those low moments,
Speaker 1: which was a good thing. And I cannot imagine going
Speaker 1: through something like this alone. And yeah, we got stronger, better, deeper.
Speaker 2: And you said that was the last part of that question.
Speaker 3: What was the what would you have done differently?
Speaker 2: Definitely differently this past year? Again, it's the past year
Speaker 2: is one thing. I think it's just initial. It was
Speaker 2: just an initial letting our families, our kids know what
Speaker 2: was going on. I think we that's the thing we
Speaker 2: go back to. I can't. It's still difficult to what
Speaker 2: I would have done differently. It's so easy to go
Speaker 2: back right in hindsight and do it. But every time,
Speaker 2: like I'm sitting here in this room with Emma and
Speaker 2: Andy in the Ourheart studio with a woman I love
Speaker 2: talking openly about wanting to marry her that I feel
Speaker 2: great about doing that, if anything had been done differently,
Speaker 2: maybe who knows how it would have ended up. So
Speaker 2: it's hard to go back and have regret. I just
Speaker 2: I think that's all just being more open to the
Speaker 2: kids about it and being more open, I guess publicly,
Speaker 2: but still it's hard to put myself in the mindset
Speaker 2: that I need to tell the world that I'm getting
Speaker 2: a divorce. It's just it's tough to do that. But
Speaker 2: I guess those were the things to do differently.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I agree with everything you're saying. Transparency would
Speaker 1: have been better for us getting through the year, But
Speaker 1: once we were in the thick of it, I don't
Speaker 1: know what else we could have done. And I'm actually
Speaker 1: proud that we didn't speak. I'm actually happy and really
Speaker 1: okay with the fact that we laid low and took
Speaker 1: our time to process what was going on and to
Speaker 1: try and help heal our families. I definitely believe that
Speaker 1: was the right thing to do. We wanted to speak,
Speaker 1: we wanted to clap back, we wanted to say that's
Speaker 1: not right, that's not true, and it was frustrating not
Speaker 1: to be able to do so. But I still stand
Speaker 1: by our decision to be quiet and to let things settle.
Speaker 1: But it was tough.