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Speaker 4: first story in our series, My husband cheated but he

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Speaker 1: My wife cheated on me because I haven't saw yet.

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Speaker 2: He's just a little sleepy.

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Speaker 1: My first wife's name is Amy. If we met in college,

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Speaker 1: we met approximately thirty years before the age of cell phones.

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Speaker 1: It was love. The first sign we got married once

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Speaker 1: we graduated. Live with Amy was great. For the first

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Speaker 1: two years of marriage. We were making approximately the same

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Speaker 1: amount of money and we were doing okay financially. By

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Speaker 1: the way, this comes from Diligent Well forty two nineteen

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Speaker 1: on the r slashow Okay story Tom Summer, So, after

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Speaker 1: about two years of marriage, I started to get fatigued.

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Speaker 1: When I say fatigued, I mean I was tired all

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Speaker 1: the time. I was not sleeping the best at night.

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Speaker 1: Our a long time, to say it nicely decreased. I

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Speaker 1: I started to put on weight, I never excessively. Amy

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Speaker 1: pressured me into making an appointment with my doctor. At

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Speaker 1: first I resisted, but eventually called my doctor. Of course,

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Speaker 1: wait a little over three months since my doctor was

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Speaker 1: taking a month long vacation. As alone time was decreasing,

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Speaker 1: Amy was getting very frustrated. We started arguing about the

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Speaker 1: little things as well. Had no energy to argue, which

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Speaker 1: infuriated Amy even more. I was using the little energy

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Speaker 1: I had for my job, but I did not want

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Speaker 1: from my doctor's appointment my employer approached me. My employer

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Speaker 1: go on leave, but I understood what my employer was thinking.

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Speaker 1: I knew my performance was decreasing. Finally, the day of

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Speaker 1: the doctor's appointment arrived. This made Amy happy. I told

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Speaker 1: I was given sleeping pills. I was not sure how

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Speaker 1: sleeping pills will work. The sleeping pills did not work.

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Speaker 1: time before and after the sleeping pills. Man Amy was

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Speaker 1: getting furious with me, and we had many arguments. Amy

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Speaker 1: him to his place. Stocking was devastated. We took vows

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Speaker 1: stated in our vows in sickness and in health. The

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Speaker 1: next day, I called my lawyer's office and made an appointment.

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Speaker 1: At the appointment, I was told that since we made

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Speaker 1: sleep apnea. Once I started sleeping with the CPAP machine,

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Speaker 1: my energy returned. I was my old self again.

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Speaker 2: Amazing, look at that. And then she's gonna be like,

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Speaker 2: oh cool, Oh we can just cool.

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Speaker 5: So I'm gonna drop that guy maybe, and then I'll just.

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. She could have at least been like,

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Speaker 1: can we open a marriage? That's at least you could

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Speaker 5: It could like say that I don't know, that's still

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Speaker 1: If you need that and you didn't want to end it,

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Speaker 5: I just wonder what kind of conversations and there is

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Speaker 5: more to this story, But I just wonder, like what

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Speaker 5: kind of conversations they've had it all about this, you know,

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Speaker 5: because like obviously op is like, hey, like I can't

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Speaker 5: do this, But I don't know if that's being communicated

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Speaker 5: to Amy, you know what I mean? And I don't

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Speaker 5: know what I mean? And then and then she's like, hey,

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Speaker 5: obviously would be a tough conversation. You probably wouldn't want

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Speaker 5: to communicate that. Yeah, at least in nothing that way.

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Speaker 5: But there's definitely some sort.

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Speaker 1: Of communication that they're lacking. Oh, in this situation. Oh sure.

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Speaker 1: I went back to work and my employer noticed how

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Speaker 1: much my performance had improved. Yes, I started going out

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Speaker 1: was so beautiful. I immediately went over to her. We

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Speaker 1: What We've been married over twenty years?

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. A few years ago, Bianca got some

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Speaker 1: bad news. Oh, she had break cancer. Thank you, they

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Speaker 1: Once Bianca was cancer free, we started having alone time again.

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Speaker 1: After the divorce with Amy, I decided to have no

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Speaker 1: My opinion of Amy is that she is not a

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Speaker 1: I asked Amy why she did not have someone in

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Speaker 1: That'll do it. Amy added she is considering asking for

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Speaker 1: friend of mine whose wife cheated on him, my friend David,

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Speaker 1: all the people I know who have cheated on their spouses.

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Speaker 1: In my list, more men have cheated than women. I

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Speaker 1: realized when making this list. Both men and women cheat.

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Speaker 1: these people on this list. I do not see David

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Speaker 1: when we do it is for a game of cards.

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Speaker 5: I don't I don't think i'd be able to be

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Speaker 1: I think I would be with OPI.

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Speaker 5: I like that OPI is saying, like, you know, don't

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Speaker 5: get revenge, it's not worth it. Just focus on yourself,

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Speaker 5: which I think is I think is right.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, I do think the level of complexity

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Speaker 1: David had to go through, you know, his wife, you

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Speaker 2: My friend is having an affair with a married man,

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Speaker 2: I've been friends with the girl Danielle since high school.

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Speaker 2: One I personally witnessed was when he screamed at her

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Speaker 2: it make sense. Our friends banded together that night to

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Speaker 2: what is this toxic relationship?

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Speaker 2: I mentioned this because this show some part of her

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Speaker 2: I hope you all believe it, and I hope you

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Speaker 2: I staged an intervention.

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Speaker 2: At this point, anyone who was against the boyfriend was

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Speaker 1: Guys.

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Speaker 2: I rounded these people back up because we all still

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Speaker 2: She excused herself to the bathroom, but made sure to

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Speaker 2: stopped it. You should have stopped it immediately. When she returned,

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Speaker 2: her whole demeanor shifted. She was cold and told us

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Speaker 2: and I finally said, we can only respect her decisions

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Speaker 2: Respect comes for with trust, and she needs to show

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Speaker 2: There was zero progress there. I think, if anything, you

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Speaker 2: this guy's got money.

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Speaker 2: This was over a year after the wife found him

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Speaker 2: Without saying it, he pretty much said, the boyfriend with

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Speaker 2: I was pinned because of my last text exchange with Danielle.

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Speaker 2: I contacted all those involved and told them, the officer said,

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Speaker 1: Profile props through whoever did that the friend? Oh sixteen

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Speaker 2: Dude, this is crazy. This is It sounds like a

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Speaker 2: No, I love that woman. I love that woman. Honestly,

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Speaker 2: her lies they're better than your truths. Oh man, that's

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Speaker 2: literally what Danielle is saying to OPI.

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Speaker 2: She's learning right now. And she does. I don't think

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Speaker 2: like they've told Danielle, like you do realize what he's

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Speaker 2: And I'm getting really tired of Danielle. I kick her

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Speaker 2: She doesn't leave her house unless it is with him.

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Speaker 2: As far as I know, he is no longer welcome

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Speaker 2: sent the letter. I would rather not know. Part of

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Speaker 2: me thinks I've burned any support system she had, but

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Speaker 2: then I remember she was burning though anyway. Yep, if

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Speaker 2: I said a Fred didn't agree with her boyfriend, So

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Speaker 2: Reddit and fellow Potatoes, am I the a hole for

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Speaker 2: ending a fourteen year friendship and thereby burning her friendship

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: Girl, No, this girl's crazy. This girl Danielle is crazy.

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Speaker 2: This girl's crazy, crazy, crazy. Sorry, I'm gonna keep saying it.

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Speaker 2: She's crazy.

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Speaker 1: I hate that she got manipulated into that her value

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Speaker 2: She I'm not gonna lie. She lost herself.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, definitely, she lost her all.

441
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Speaker 2: She lost who she was. She was like this man

442
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Speaker 2: is just like.

443
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Speaker 1: And it was at such a young age. She probably

444
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Speaker 1: doesn't know who she is. No, no, but and her

445
00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:42,159
Speaker 1: identity is wrapped up in this.

446
00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she's okay, like this is my support system?

447
00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 2: Now is this man who has I'm his mistress, I'm

448
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,159
Speaker 2: not even his full on wife. The fact that he's

449
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Speaker 2: still married. I don't understand what is going on. It

450
00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:55,320
Speaker 2: is crazy, what is going on. But in the friendship,

451
00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:56,520
Speaker 2: you don't need it done.

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Speaker 1: E easy.

453
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Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story.

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Speaker 1: Mary, my grateful best friend, ruined my wedding. So I

455
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Speaker 1: ended our twenty five years of friendship.

456
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Speaker 2: Twenty five years down the drain.

457
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Speaker 1: And my able for ending my friendship with my best

458
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Speaker 1: friend of twenty five years because what she did during

459
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Speaker 1: my wedding. Step on for a long one. I thirty

460
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Speaker 1: three female, married thirty two male husband three years ago.

461
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Speaker 1: We had been dating prior to our wedding for eight years.

462
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Speaker 1: When he went I met my husband, Sam my best friend,

463
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Speaker 1: let's call her Laura thirty two female, advised me not

464
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Speaker 1: to exclusively you date him as I should keep my

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Speaker 1: options open.

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Speaker 2: That's a very odd thing to say, Laura Baye.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Purple Wonder one two

468
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Speaker 1: three on the RSS showcase Story Time, Saybredden, So, I

469
00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:49,240
Speaker 1: remember how baffled I was at this because I had

470
00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:52,520
Speaker 1: never dated multiple men at the same time and would

471
00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:56,160
Speaker 1: exclusively date and remain in a serious relationship with my exes.

472
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Speaker 1: Fast forward to twenty twenty one. We planned a wedding

473
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Speaker 1: during COVID as we felt financially ready to do so.

474
00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:05,280
Speaker 1: Laura had known for years that Sam and I were

475
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Speaker 1: planning to get married, but kept facing hardships throughout our years.

476
00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:13,439
Speaker 1: Father passed away, his mother had a stroke, etc. My

477
00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:17,200
Speaker 1: husband is the majority bread winner in his family, consisting

478
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Speaker 1: of four other people. A mining detail is that we

479
00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:24,520
Speaker 1: are South Asians, so our culture sons lived together, so

480
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Speaker 1: I was joining a family of five. Due to COVID,

481
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 1: I was able to tremendously financially save for the wedding events,

482
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Speaker 1: and so was he. He proposed to me in April

483
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Speaker 1: of twenty twenty one, and by May we were religiously married.

484
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Speaker 1: At that time, my friend and I were on good terms.

485
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 1: We had fallouts through the years because of her controlling behavior,

486
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Speaker 1: but we had decided that staying friends was more important.

487
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Speaker 1: Laura and I went to the same elementary school, junior

488
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Speaker 1: high school, high school, college in New York City. We

489
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Speaker 1: were inseparable and everyone knew that Laura was my bridesman.

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Speaker 1: I'd planned a Hinnah ceremony and reception in September.

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Speaker 2: Of twenty twenty one, very nice.

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Speaker 1: From May to September, I noticed that Laura's behavior was

493
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Speaker 1: starting to change and we stopped communicating much.

494
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:15,640
Speaker 2: Not good.

495
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 1: I was busy with my wedding planning, so I didn't

496
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Speaker 1: give it much mind, and I had personally given her

497
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Speaker 1: and her family an invitation card to my upcoming events

498
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Speaker 1: and had asked her to consistently RSVP, so I knew

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Speaker 1: how many of her family members were coming, about seven

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Speaker 1: of them. She did an RSVP until two days before

501
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Speaker 1: my reception.

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Speaker 2: What are you doing?

503
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Speaker 1: Laura? When I told her to RSVP to the Hennah ceremony,

504
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,959
Speaker 1: she claimed that I may never die. She claimed I

505
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Speaker 1: had never told her about the event and would not

506
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Speaker 1: be able to come. I screenshoted a conversation I had

507
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Speaker 1: in a group chat with her and my other best

508
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Speaker 1: friend proving I had told her that she had read

509
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Speaker 1: the text.

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Speaker 2: Get caught, You got caught.

511
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Speaker 1: Receipts, She said she must have forgotten. Oh my, oh yeah,

512
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Speaker 1: I forgot about that. Oh you didn't.

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Speaker 2: You never sent me anything. Ah, you had the receipt just.

514
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Speaker 1: You know, just went on my head. I've got I

515
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:18,639
Speaker 1: sent her a link to address I wanted all the

516
00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 1: bridesmaids where, and she replied back saying if she had

517
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Speaker 1: asked anyone at her wedding to pay for outfits, they'd

518
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Speaker 1: be furious at her.

519
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Speaker 2: You not just say no if you don't want to go.

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Speaker 2: You're making this already so troublesome.

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Speaker 1: I told her that paying for six other bridesmaids dresses

522
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Speaker 1: wasn't in my budget. Guys, the outfits were thirty four

523
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Speaker 1: dollars on Amazon.

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Speaker 2: Okay, there, I was gonna say, that's a little expensive,

525
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Speaker 2: but thirty four dollars.

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Speaker 1: Come on, show up. She ended up coming to the ceremony.

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Speaker 1: During this time, we had gotten into an argument where

528
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Speaker 1: she said I was being very selfish and not taking

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Speaker 1: into consideration that I was having everyone in the broader

530
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Speaker 1: party incur a lot of expenses. She said she had

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Speaker 1: to buy my two new outfits, and then on top

532
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Speaker 1: of that, expect the wedding gifts. This was my best

533
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 1: friend complaining that she had to get me a gift

534
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Speaker 1: for the wedding. I told her it wasn't necessary. I

535
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Speaker 1: wanted her to be there and all I wanted was

536
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Speaker 1: for all the girls to pick whatever outfit they wanted,

537
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Speaker 1: but for it to be lavender. So yeah, that is

538
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 1: so easy all you had to do. After that, she

539
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 1: complained that I hadn't included her in any wedding shopping

540
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Speaker 1: and our culture were Bengali. The friends usually accompany in shopping,

541
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Speaker 1: but because it was COVID, we only took my parents,

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Speaker 1: his parents, and my brother. We weren't even able to

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Speaker 1: include my sister because she had a ten month and

544
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Speaker 1: lived in Queens, New York, where my parents and I

545
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Speaker 1: lived in Manhattan, and we were traveling to New Jersey

546
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Speaker 1: for bridal outfits. If it wasn't possible to bring my

547
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:56,480
Speaker 1: sister due to where she lived, didn't make much sense

548
00:25:56,520 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 1: to pick up Laura from Astoria. In addition, everything we

549
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 1: did was very fast. I knew that designs I wanted

550
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 1: and I got custom bridle outfits for gold shopping, also

551
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:11,919
Speaker 1: customary in our culture. We went two days before the wedding,

552
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 1: conveniently scheduled the same day as our food tasting and queens.

553
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Speaker 1: She's like, on top of it.

554
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 2: It's a very like you gotta get with this, snap, snap,

555
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:23,680
Speaker 2: let's do this right now. Wow quickens.

556
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:26,479
Speaker 1: In the spread of the moment, I knew exactly what

557
00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:29,320
Speaker 1: I wanted, so there wasn't much time spent for shopping

558
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 1: nice for everything else. My mom and dad drove me

559
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 1: to stores during which we had shopped while my mom

560
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,680
Speaker 1: was grocery shopping. I didn't make a fuss for anything

561
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:40,920
Speaker 1: in my wedding. All asked for the bridesmaids. There was

562
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,399
Speaker 1: a show up. Usually bridesmaids got to plan the party,

563
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 1: have to help with derecorations, all that stuff.

564
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 2: Oh I gotta do show up so easy.

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Speaker 1: Pay you thirty four bucks for a thing, and we're lavender.

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Speaker 2: Lavender lavender dress. That was about it. Maybe a couple

567
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,000
Speaker 2: other things, but like, come on.

568
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Speaker 1: My husband planned everything in our wedding. I barely did

569
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Speaker 1: anything besides choosing the color scheme and pay my half.

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00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 2: Wow.

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00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 1: I've never heard of them before, the husband planning the party.

572
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 2: I think it's just a cultural thing. I mean, wow,

573
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 2: that's easier for the bride. That's awesome as long as

574
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 2: she's like cool with everything. But I think again, Bengali like,

575
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 2: let's go. Sounds nice, sounds like a nice one wedding.

576
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Speaker 1: I never got a bridal shower because she said to

577
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 1: my face that she didn't want. It's a bland one. Guys.

578
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 1: I'm so devastated that I will never experience a bridal shower.

579
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: When I showed her my gold design, she said, it's nice.

580
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:33,200
Speaker 1: But if I had seen the one her dad bought her,

581
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:36,720
Speaker 1: I wasn't aware that this was a competition for her wedding.

582
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,440
Speaker 1: She's divorced now. By the way her father paid for

583
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 1: the wedding gold, et cetera, I was single handedly paying

584
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:46,119
Speaker 1: my portion for all three events Sam and I had planned.

585
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: We spent over one hundred thousand dollars on events, as

586
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: we had dreamt so many years of what we wanted.

587
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 1: One hundred thousand dollars, what one hundred k.

588
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 2: I want to be invited that wedding. I'll pay thirty

589
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 2: four dollars to wear a dress to go to that wedding.

590
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. The day before my wedding, she told

591
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:13,199
Speaker 1: Sam that she didn't have a ride and if he

592
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,439
Speaker 1: could drop her off at the wedding. He was so

593
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 1: shocked as it made no sense that she'd asked the

594
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:23,239
Speaker 1: groom on his most important day. I offered her a

595
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 1: spot in my limo in case she didn't have a ride,

596
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 1: but she didn't accept the offer. The wedding was beautiful

597
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 1: and everyone had a great time. The day after the wedding,

598
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: I then mowed my bridesmaids about fifteen to twenty bucks.

599
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:38,720
Speaker 1: In the Begauley culture, the bride's side holds a gate

600
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 1: and demands the grooms to pay up if he wants

601
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 1: her to enter and wed the bride. It's a cute

602
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 1: ceremony and just there for fun and games. And we're

603
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 1: here for fun games every weekday at three d MPSD.

604
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 1: Just tap her profile s tap it. That's what I

605
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 1: can't get by Laura. She do whatever. But Hunter K

606
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 1: and a wedding, Oh my gosh.

607
00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 2: It's honestly, like if you usually when we read these stories,

608
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 2: the wedding is like a disaster. Yeah, Like it's like, oh,

609
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 2: this is all falling apart. Everything seemed great. Just Laura,

610
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 2: It's just Laura, Laura. Laura made things like so tedious

611
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 2: for no reason, like, oh I don't have a ride

612
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 2: to the wedding, could the kid the groom pick me up?

613
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 2: Oh that gold you got your you know, for the tradition?

614
00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 2: My dad. You should see what he bought me. No, dude, this.

615
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: Is so weird, such a complition here, not a really

616
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: great friend.

617
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 2: You got divorce Laura for our reason? Oh my god,

618
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 2: it's showing.

619
00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 1: Oh man, oh boy.

620
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 2: And now you can get a friend, divorce a friendvorce.

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Speaker 1: Friend vorce. I told Sam to have an envelope with

622
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 1: a hundred bucks in singles. It's customary to have five

623
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:53,600
Speaker 1: hundred plus, but as I didn't have any younger cousins

624
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 1: and the only people holding the gate would be my

625
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 1: friends who were all my age, so we split it

626
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 1: into six ways. It was just a small amount of money.

627
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 1: Once again, it was a fun event. When I demoted her,

628
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 1: she sent it back to me and texted me saying

629
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:10,239
Speaker 1: she didn't want it. I told her it was just

630
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: for fun, but she started to get angry and regret me,

631
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 1: saying she didn't need money and to keep that crap.

632
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 1: I once again sent it to her, saying it wasn't

633
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 1: my money to have, and it was for my bridesmaids.

634
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 1: At last, she said, it's not rocket science. I don't

635
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 1: want that crap. So, guys, am I the a hole. No,

636
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:35,680
Speaker 1: your friend is just easily offended.

637
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 2: I don't know what your friend's problem is. Again, thirty

638
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 2: four dollars for a lavender dress at the very beginning, Yeah,

639
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:45,120
Speaker 2: and complaining about that. Yeah, and then it's a part

640
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 2: of the its tradition for you to give the money

641
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 2: to your bridesmaid.

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00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, you got like, come on, be a part

643
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:51,320
Speaker 1: of that.

644
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:53,920
Speaker 2: I just don't understand her wishy washing this. She just

645
00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 2: sounds like a really uptight beat.

646
00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 1: Yeah. She doesn't sound like she knows what fun is.

647
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 2: No, she sounds like he just doesn't care.

648
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, hey's John Og host. We're gonna get back to

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Speaker 4: the stories.

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Speaker 1: But a quick three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

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Speaker 1: My selfish best friend calls drama at a wedding. Now,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be your friend at all.

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Speaker 2: What did the wedding do?

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Speaker 1: Apologies for weird English, It's not my first language. I

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Speaker 1: twenty seven female, recently ended the friendship with my former

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Speaker 1: best friend thirty female Annie, who is the maid of

657
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Speaker 1: honor at a wedding of one of her best friends

658
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 1: let's call her Grace.

659
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 2: That was a good, good connecting segue there.

660
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 1: I kind of have to get the story off my

661
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 1: chest because I am still baffled by the audacity. By

662
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 1: the way, this comes from Jumpy Raspberry sixty four to

663
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 1: ninety four on the r slash okay story Tom Sawbreddit.

664
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:47,480
Speaker 1: So Anne is a lover of drama, not me so much,

665
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 1: and our friendship has always had a dynamic of her

666
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 1: complaining about some drama that happened to her or was

667
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 1: created by her while I was listening and trying to

668
00:31:56,760 --> 00:32:00,320
Speaker 1: comfort her. I am slash was always a doormat, not

669
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 1: gonna lie. She comes from my broken home and had

670
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:06,719
Speaker 1: a really bad childhood, so I had the feeling that

671
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 1: the complaining and the comfort she would get from it

672
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 1: somehow is her way of receiving love and attention.

673
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 2: H pick me.

674
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 1: There had been an imbalance in our friendship before the

675
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 1: wedding drama. Example, she texted me a crapload of messages

676
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 1: because some minor drama while I was in hospital. When

677
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 1: I found out that she had forgotten about my surgery,

678
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 1: said oops and continued without even asking me. How I was, Dude,

679
00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 1: I love this little relationship.

680
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 2: It's fun. I love doormats. Oh, you're literally a dormat

681
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 2: right now.

682
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 1: Poor girl. At least she knows. That's half the problem

683
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 1: that's solving after.

684
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 2: It makes it worse if you know that you're a

685
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 2: dormat and you're still like I'm knowing.

686
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: No, to solve a problem, you have to know it,

687
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:55,080
Speaker 1: and that's half of the way.

688
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 2: But how long do you know that you're a dormat?

689
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:00,080
Speaker 1: Well, that that's still she's halfway. I just said she's Oh,

690
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 1: I'm not saying she's there all the way.

691
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I want to see when she's not a doormat.

692
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 1: But it was the straw that broke the camel's back. Disclaimer.

693
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 1: All the details of the story were provided by Annie,

694
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 1: which makes it even more crazy because it went through

695
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: her filter. And I still think she is the ahole here.

696
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:23,760
Speaker 1: Grace and Annie were childhood friends and had a good

697
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 1: relationship despite moving into different cities and maintaining a long

698
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 1: distance friendship. After moving, Grace had made new friends as well.

699
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 1: When her boyfriend proposed to her, she asked Annie and

700
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 1: a girl from the new city to be her maids

701
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 1: of honor. Well. On one evening, Annie complained about this

702
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 1: to me because I know her longer and the other girl,

703
00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:49,960
Speaker 1: dea'sn't like Likene, so what before she had ever spoken

704
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 1: to the other maid of honor. Wait, when it came

705
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 1: to planning the bachelorette party, the other maid of honor

706
00:33:55,880 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: considered a rally team bride versus team groom, to also

707
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 1: being able to include Grace's dogs. The area where they

708
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 1: live is an amazing landscape which would be ideal for

709
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: a hiking rally. I am uncertain if Grace knew about

710
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:18,360
Speaker 1: the plans, but the bridal party loved the idea. Annie

711
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: not so much. She kind of guilt tripped them into

712
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 1: planning something else because since she is physically isn't able

713
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:28,440
Speaker 1: to hike and would be excluded from the bacheorette party

714
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 1: because of her weight. This is bees by the way,

715
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: She's a little overweight. But we have been on shopping

716
00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 1: tours or city troops, even in the heat with uneven roads,

717
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:42,480
Speaker 1: for hours, and she was still motivated, happy, and it

718
00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 1: wasn't a problem at all. But she had told me

719
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 1: that she hates hiking and the nature because she thinks

720
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 1: it's boring. It has nothing to do with her weight.

721
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 2: No, no, oh, She's like, it's hiking. You want to

722
00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:57,320
Speaker 2: do hiking for your wedding.

723
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 1: That's silly and crazy. So they changed the blands to

724
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 1: an inside activity. Oh my gosh, something creative. Totally Annie's

725
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 1: jam without the dogs. Annie sent me pictures from said

726
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 1: bachelorette party that only showed her happily coloring something. Apparently

727
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 1: the bride was some sort of a doormat too. It

728
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 1: turned out that she hated her bachelorette party. This is

729
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:25,320
Speaker 1: where the drama starts. Annie called me furious one evening

730
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: I was still recovering from surgery because the bride at

731
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 1: texted both her maid of honors as she was disappointed

732
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 1: from her bachelorette party. From what I understood, she would

733
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 1: have wished for more activity and more wedding content. Both

734
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 1: would have been part of the rally. It led to

735
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:45,560
Speaker 1: a discussion between the maid of honors. A few days later.

736
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 1: The bride had enough and kind of tried to end

737
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,880
Speaker 1: this while being fair and wrote a friendly message. I

738
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 1: saw it where she asked both maid of honors to

739
00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:59,239
Speaker 1: attend the wedding as regular guests since she had the

740
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 1: feeling that there is a lot of tension between them

741
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 1: and she wants both of them at their wedding, but

742
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 1: doesn't want to trouble them anymore with the planning.

743
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 2: WHOA.

744
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 1: I think this was her way of being like, Annie,

745
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,240
Speaker 1: can you step side and then have the other person

746
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 1: come up?

747
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 2: I think mean both of them. It seems like it

748
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 2: was both. If that was the message to both of them.

749
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:21,080
Speaker 2: She was like, both of you are making this way

750
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:23,319
Speaker 2: too stressful and I'm not getting what I want, so

751
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:25,280
Speaker 2: and you guys are fighting.

752
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 1: Ooh. Annie exploded. She called me crying that she had

753
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 1: been uninvited and showed me the messages. I told her

754
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 1: that the bride didn't uninvite her, but she was certain

755
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 1: because she had tried to call Grace and she didn't

756
00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 1: pick up. It was during working hours and Grace has

757
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:41,919
Speaker 1: a job.

758
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

759
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: I tried to calm her down while she painted Grace

760
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 1: as a total bridezilla who was full of herself, a

761
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:54,000
Speaker 1: narcissist who never thinks about me and got uninvited from

762
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:56,840
Speaker 1: a wedding once and she knows how much she hurts

763
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:57,440
Speaker 1: me with this.

764
00:36:57,880 --> 00:36:58,320
Speaker 2: Dude.

765
00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 1: Ah yeah, yeah, I dude, my head hurts.

766
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 2: It states that like you guys are no longer than

767
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 2: made of honor. You are still guessed at my wedding.

768
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, you just can't hold the responsibilities of being the

769
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:13,360
Speaker 1: maid of honor.

770
00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:15,880
Speaker 2: The fact that I tried calling her she didn't pick up.

771
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 2: She's at work. She sucks.

772
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 1: This is so crazy. I try to point out that

773
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:24,759
Speaker 1: it's Grace's wedding and she probably felt too tense to

774
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,720
Speaker 1: go unlike this and try to find a solution without

775
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 1: uninvited anybody, but it fell on deaf ears. I don't

776
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 1: care if it's her wedding. She has to think about

777
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 1: me too. The bride had asked for an answer at

778
00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:39,799
Speaker 1: the end of the message, but Annie said she was

779
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 1: going to ignore it until she felt like answering to

780
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 1: this uninvited and that she doesn't want to go anymore

781
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 1: after the friendship is over. Dude, Annie, can you not

782
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:50,279
Speaker 1: realize you're the problem girl?

783
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 2: Dude.

784
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: After not hearing from Annie, Grace actually uninvited her soon after,

785
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 1: which caused Annie to have a tantrum once again. Fun

786
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:03,840
Speaker 1: get f she got. She tried to call me, but

787
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: I was on painkillers, so I got a furious phone

788
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 1: message instead, where she ran it about Grace being an

789
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 1: awful bride, full of herself and without any patience just

790
00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: because she was too busy to answer. Keep in mind

791
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 1: that Annie was extremely angry when Grace didn't pick up

792
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: during work hours, and we go live during work hours

793
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 1: every weekday at three PMPSD. Please stab her profile.

794
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 2: Stab it please?

795
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 1: What do we do with Annie? What do we do?

796
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 2: Work to the orc? Cloud? Dude or cloud?

797
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 1: She doesn't deserve.

798
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,399
Speaker 2: Sorry, I've been saying dude a lot, but like, I'm

799
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 2: actually baffled in this person because she's so negligent to

800
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 2: see what's going on.

801
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 1: I want her to get hit with the reality train

802
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 1: so she understands how crazy she sounds. It's crazy Ope

803
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 1: got from her perspective and still is Like this woman

804
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:51,760
Speaker 1: is insane.

805
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:55,399
Speaker 2: In the fact that Op, like, you understand what's going

806
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 2: on Annie, Like you are invited, yeah, and you called

807
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:02,359
Speaker 2: her during work hours. You still go and you don't

808
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:04,880
Speaker 2: want to respond, and then she gets uninvited.

809
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 1: This is crazy to me. Man's now I'm really uninvited,

810
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: Like what the heck did What did you expect that?

811
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:16,359
Speaker 1: It's so silly. I honestly if I heard my one

812
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:19,759
Speaker 1: of my friends doing this. Sorry, p we can't hang

813
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:20,719
Speaker 1: out next week.

814
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 2: I'm busy or ever or ever.

815
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 1: Well, next month, I gotta think.

816
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 2: I'm busy, so I put that time busy.

817
00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:29,479
Speaker 1: Oh would you as coming to town?

818
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 2: Do you want to hang out next year?

819
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 1: Sorry, my dog's gonna die.

820
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:37,520
Speaker 2: I gotta I gotta go to the bathroom that day, busy.

821
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 1: In this moment, I single at the time, asked myself

822
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 1: if I would want to have Annie at my wedding

823
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 1: and came to the conclusion that I do not. I

824
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 1: went radio silent, and after recovering, I sent Annie the

825
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 1: longest text message ever explaining why I have no interest

826
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 1: in being friends anymore. I know that this should have

827
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: been face to face conversation, but after her not visiting

828
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:02,439
Speaker 1: me once after surgery or ask if I need help,

829
00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 1: I just don't feel like it. I'll take being the

830
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 1: a hole here. Annie has lost two of her best

831
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:10,560
Speaker 1: friends over this wedding drama, but I guess she has

832
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 1: a lot of people who felt whom she can complain

833
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 1: to and how bad we both are. To end the

834
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:19,360
Speaker 1: story on a good note, Grace has her dream wedding.

835
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:22,399
Speaker 1: As far as I could tell from her Instagram. I'm

836
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 1: nosy and stock to her a little bit. The other

837
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 1: maid of honor apparently, the other maid of honor apparently

838
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:32,359
Speaker 1: got reinstalled and helped the bride through the day. I

839
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:34,920
Speaker 1: hope she enjoyed it and is happy with her marriage.

840
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 1: I freaking called that. I knew she was gonna be reinstalled.

841
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 2: Well, I think if Annie was still going, she wouldn't

842
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 2: get reinstalled.

843
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:43,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. No.

844
00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 2: But the fact that, the fact that Annie didn't like

845
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:49,799
Speaker 2: do anything, it was so easy for Grace to be like,

846
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 2: oh wait, that was the problem. Yeah, yeah, come back,

847
00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:57,440
Speaker 2: You're my maid of honor by Annie. That sucks.

848
00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:00,160
Speaker 1: Hmmm, that's super.

849
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:04,000
Speaker 2: The fact that again, because during his entire time, Opie

850
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 2: was in surgery or got surgery and was recovering, and

851
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 2: Annie never asked her once she was doing. Okay, how

852
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 2: are you doing?

853
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 1: Dide. That's so tough. Uugh.

854
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:19,080
Speaker 2: My roommate was cyber bullying me, so I can't fish.

855
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 1: Sure, nah, just throw some water on your computer.

856
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:23,839
Speaker 2: First off, this happened when I was in college, and

857
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 2: I'm not this petty anymore. Okay, good to know. I

858
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:29,959
Speaker 2: know the title is crazy, but trust me, it will

859
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:34,960
Speaker 2: all make sense. When in college, I twenty female lived

860
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:37,360
Speaker 2: in a sorority house with some of my sorority sisters

861
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:40,520
Speaker 2: that were around my age. I shared a room with

862
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:45,000
Speaker 2: another girl. Let's name her Mary. By the way, this

863
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 2: comes from user stinky cat three on the r slash Okay,

864
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:52,879
Speaker 2: storytime separate it. So it was her first time living

865
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 2: outside her parents' house, and I had gone out on

866
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:57,840
Speaker 2: a limb to advocate for her to live in the

867
00:41:57,880 --> 00:41:59,720
Speaker 2: house as she was a newer member.

868
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:00,280
Speaker 1: Okay.

869
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,759
Speaker 2: I tried to be extra supportive to Mary as she

870
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:05,959
Speaker 2: adjusted to living on her own for the first time

871
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 2: and all the emotions that came with it. That's very nice.

872
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 2: I even offered to be her roommate so I could

873
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:15,840
Speaker 2: look after her, make that transition easier for her, and

874
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,560
Speaker 2: try to be helpful. Older sister. Tried to be that

875
00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 2: helpful older sister. Okay, that's yeah. Yeah. Plus, like I guess,

876
00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:25,439
Speaker 2: like in the sorority house, like you're big or whatever, so.

877
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 1: Being a good example here, yeah, look at you.

878
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 2: Social media was something that was rather new I'm old,

879
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:34,280
Speaker 2: and there were only a few sites available. Whenever something

880
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 2: new came out, we all joined and followed each other. Hice,

881
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:40,840
Speaker 2: when Twitter became big on our campus, I suggested to

882
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 2: Mary following each other as she had recently joined and

883
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:47,360
Speaker 2: I already had an account. Okay. She denied and played

884
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 2: it off, so I did not think much about it.

885
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 2: We were otherwise really close and did pretty much everything together.

886
00:42:54,920 --> 00:42:57,000
Speaker 2: We had been living together for almost the entire school

887
00:42:57,080 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 2: year at this point and had been going well, or

888
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 2: so I thought. I would notice Mary on her phone

889
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 2: a lot, a lot more catcher's saying things under her

890
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 2: breath and giving me the cold shoulder.

891
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 1: Hmmm.

892
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 2: It came out of nowhere. So I would ask other

893
00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:13,319
Speaker 2: housemates and they told me I was reading into things

894
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 2: and should let it go. Hmmm. Interesting. I tried not

895
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:20,840
Speaker 2: to think much about it, but it would nag me,

896
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:23,839
Speaker 2: nag at me. Over time. This came to a head

897
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 2: when I was asked to help one of our other

898
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 2: members make their Twitter account. Like I said, it was

899
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 2: still rather new and some people did not know how

900
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 2: to operate it. As I was showing her how to

901
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 2: navigate it and add people, Mary came up to us

902
00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:43,839
Speaker 2: and suggested that we added her. I helped facilitate that

903
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:48,920
Speaker 2: and Mary accepted her almost immediately. Mary had a private

904
00:43:48,960 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 2: account and was very selective about who followed her, so

905
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 2: I found this a bit suspicious weird. So Mary lied

906
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 2: or not necessarily lied. She's just like, oh, I don't

907
00:43:56,520 --> 00:43:57,320
Speaker 2: want a Twitter account.

908
00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's doing something with that Twitter account.

909
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 2: She's ranting about people. It's her little diary, oh, oh,

910
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 2: her little internet diary. Later that day, when I got

911
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:10,480
Speaker 2: on my computer to work on homework, I found that

912
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 2: I still had Twitter open. There were many new notifications,

913
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 2: and when I went to read them, I realized it

914
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 2: was not my account, but the other members.

915
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:19,719
Speaker 1: Oh.

916
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 2: Most of the notifications were from Mary, and saw that

917
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:25,719
Speaker 2: she had been writing things about me.

918
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 6: Oh, not about uop, but we kind of expected she

919
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 6: would complain about my boyfriend and calling me every night

920
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:38,359
Speaker 6: to say good night because it was annoying, make fun

921
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:39,280
Speaker 6: of the way I looked.

922
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:42,279
Speaker 2: I am a heavier set than she was, and she

923
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 2: felt I looked gross, oh, and would live update what

924
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 2: I did during the day to highlight how lazy she

925
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:54,040
Speaker 2: felt that I was. This was very shocking to read,

926
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 2: and I immediately felt angry and hurt. While I felt

927
00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:01,239
Speaker 2: inclined to read more about what she had written, I

928
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 2: felt bad knowing that I was using another person's account.

929
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 2: It made me feel a bit icky to continue This

930
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 2: is when I decided to make a fake account to

931
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:14,279
Speaker 2: see if I could get married to follow me. Oo, okay,

932
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 2: all right. I made a vague account stating that I

933
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,160
Speaker 2: was a member of our sorority from another school, and

934
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 2: you stock images to try and make it look like

935
00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:24,480
Speaker 2: a real account.

936
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:27,759
Speaker 1: Beautiful, all right, people do this every day. To me, I.

937
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 2: Like, that's not a real person.

938
00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 1: So I clicked this link. I'm like, no, thank you,

939
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:34,240
Speaker 1: witty lady.

940
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 2: We go all the way back. I added a few

941
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:39,920
Speaker 2: people that we mutually knew, especially especially ones that I

942
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 2: knew would interact with me, to see if she would

943
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 2: take the bait. It only took a weekend, but she

944
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:48,280
Speaker 2: requested my fake account to follow her. Oh, she requested

945
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 2: your fake account.

946
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

947
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:52,920
Speaker 2: When she accepted my follow I decided to do a

948
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 2: deep dive and read all of her tweets who I

949
00:45:57,200 --> 00:45:59,400
Speaker 2: quickly noticed that she was using her account as a

950
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 2: diary sorts, like I said, a diary. She would complain

951
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:07,560
Speaker 2: about anything that bothered her, would shout out things like

952
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 2: would shout out things she like, discuss pop culture headlines,

953
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:15,240
Speaker 2: et cetera. Streaming in my Facebook kind of. I found

954
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,879
Speaker 2: many more posts like what I had what I had

955
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 2: read and copied them into a word document for me

956
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:23,240
Speaker 2: to keep in the case I needed it in the future.

957
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:27,880
Speaker 2: Nice Mary wrote many hurtful things about me over the

958
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 2: course of the year we lived together, and was pretty

959
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 2: hurtful after how caring and supportive I have been. At

960
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 2: the start of the year, while I was accumulating all

961
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 2: of the tweets about me, I noticed that she was

962
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:43,720
Speaker 2: writing about our sorority meetings and our sorority secrets. Oh gosh, listen,

963
00:46:43,760 --> 00:46:47,720
Speaker 2: I have friends in the Greek life. You don't. You don't.

964
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:51,760
Speaker 2: That's like sacred stuff. Yeah, the sororities like meetings whatever,

965
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 2: you can do whatever, as long as it's like mundane.

966
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 2: But the secrets, if those go out, you can get

967
00:46:57,960 --> 00:47:01,600
Speaker 2: like like they'll joke, not jail time, don't just kick

968
00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 2: you out of the disroty, gotcha, but like it like

969
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:07,919
Speaker 2: pretty bad stuff, depending what you do. Just this changed

970
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,799
Speaker 2: the focus of my operation. She did not have only

971
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 2: sorority sisters following her, so she was breaching our confidentiality

972
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:19,239
Speaker 2: with these tweets. No wonder she was so selective with

973
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 2: who followed her, So this might even get everyone who's involved. Yeah,

974
00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:28,400
Speaker 2: before we continue. What do you do you think Opie's

975
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 2: doing the right thing?

976
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think she's trying to cover her butt. She's

977
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:32,799
Speaker 1: her right now.

978
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:38,080
Speaker 2: She's very yeah, especially since she was there for Mary.

979
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 2: But do you think Opie should have waited or like

980
00:47:40,520 --> 00:47:43,239
Speaker 2: get all the facts first, or like confronted her immediately?

981
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 2: What do you done now?

982
00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:47,520
Speaker 1: I think what she's doing, she's getting all the facts

983
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:50,440
Speaker 1: right now, okay, and then I think once she understands everything,

984
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 1: she will go after it.

985
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,239
Speaker 2: Okay. I would have like waited, maybe like a couple

986
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:57,240
Speaker 2: of weeks and like, what she's doing the word document,

987
00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:59,040
Speaker 2: get it all on paper. Yeah, but then be like,

988
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:00,600
Speaker 2: what the hell are you doing?

989
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:00,920
Speaker 6: Oh?

990
00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:03,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally, especially since you're living with her, because they're.

991
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:06,440
Speaker 1: Roommates and that's your homie you thought.

992
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:08,400
Speaker 2: You thought, but she's not really your homemade.

993
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:10,680
Speaker 1: That sucks. That's what hurts the most.

994
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:14,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, all the bs talking behind your back for all

995
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 2: that you've done for her, try to be like a

996
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 2: big sister.

997
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:18,360
Speaker 1: And that's horrible.

998
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:20,800
Speaker 2: I opened a new word document and began to copy

999
00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:23,720
Speaker 2: and paste all these messages and their time stamps.

1000
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 1: She really seats.

1001
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 2: Once I had reached the end, I saved the file

1002
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 2: and waited to strike like a little snake. I knew

1003
00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:34,720
Speaker 2: we were having another big meeting in a few weeks.

1004
00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:38,080
Speaker 2: In one deceive if she would write anything during that meeting.

1005
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:39,280
Speaker 1: Okay, okay.

1006
00:48:40,200 --> 00:48:42,400
Speaker 2: I would casually update the fake account to make it

1007
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,560
Speaker 2: look like a real person. Mary would even message it

1008
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 2: occasionally to get to know them better. So Mary, just like,

1009
00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 2: is this very selective? People like I like you, You're

1010
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:52,680
Speaker 2: not even real.

1011
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:55,720
Speaker 1: This is great. Like if she was actually a media person,

1012
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:56,759
Speaker 1: she'd be phenomenal.

1013
00:48:56,840 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 2: She's like behind the scenes.

1014
00:48:58,360 --> 00:48:59,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like connecting with people.

1015
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:06,800
Speaker 2: That's crazy. When the meeting came, I was anxious because

1016
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 2: I felt guilty for cat fishing in my roommate, even

1017
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 2: though she was doing something that was against our sorority bylaws.

1018
00:49:13,560 --> 00:49:13,719
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1019
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 2: See the bylaws is where it comes in. I wait

1020
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:18,800
Speaker 2: until I got home that night to check the account,

1021
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:22,719
Speaker 2: and boom, there were multiple messages about things that were

1022
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 2: being discussed and what she had thought about them. Oh,

1023
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:30,280
Speaker 2: p knew she was going to do it. I added

1024
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 2: them to the document and then wrote an email to

1025
00:49:32,640 --> 00:49:37,719
Speaker 2: our chapter president with it attached. After that, I no

1026
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:39,440
Speaker 2: longer longer wanted to be involved.

1027
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 1: Okay, nice, She got out. You got out nice.

1028
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:44,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, You're like, this is the this is the information.

1029
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 2: I made plans to move out with one of our

1030
00:49:47,960 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 2: sorority sisters into our own apartment, and I put a

1031
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 2: distance between myself and Mary. I was cordial to her

1032
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:57,520
Speaker 2: until the move out date and any function that I

1033
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 2: saw her at afterwards. Wow, but you know what you

1034
00:50:01,200 --> 00:50:04,320
Speaker 2: can do every day, guys. You can tap our profile.

1035
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 2: We're live three pm PST every day.

1036
00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:11,719
Speaker 1: Just tap it easy, dude. That sucks having someone you

1037
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 1: took under your wing and they just kind of like.

1038
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 2: You wanted to be like a role model. Like you're

1039
00:50:18,160 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 2: seeing like this person who has like trouble coming in.

1040
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 1: You're like, I've been there.

1041
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:24,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, like I want to I see myself in

1042
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:27,879
Speaker 2: your shoes. Let me help you out. And then you're like, hey,

1043
00:50:27,960 --> 00:50:31,240
Speaker 2: let's be roommates. Yes, great, Now we're being like really close.

1044
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:36,040
Speaker 2: And then why don't you follow me on Twitter? I

1045
00:50:36,040 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 2: don't have a Twitter. Yeah, okay, that's fine. Everyone has Twitter,

1046
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 2: but like that's okay, and then you see that she

1047
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 2: has Twitter, and then you look at the account. I'm surprised,

1048
00:50:44,680 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 2: like nobody else has brought it up. Yeah, because other

1049
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 2: sorority sisters follow her.

1050
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:51,799
Speaker 1: Well, it seems like this sorority sister is probably like

1051
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:54,680
Speaker 1: at a higher probably had like a higher like status

1052
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:57,840
Speaker 1: in the thing, and she was looking for other lower members.

1053
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:02,399
Speaker 2: Still, even then, if you're all this stuff like that

1054
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 2: spreads like wildfire drama anything that's like cause everyone like,

1055
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 2: especially sororities. I notice that people talk about each other's

1056
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:15,399
Speaker 2: backs all the time. But the fact that a lot

1057
00:51:15,440 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 2: of other members and that sorority follow that account and

1058
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:22,360
Speaker 2: they know what she's saying, and like the updates on op.

1059
00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:27,960
Speaker 1: No one said a word. So I would would you

1060
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 1: also screenshow all the people that are following it?

1061
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 2: Oh I'm petty, Yeah, I'm petty. Af this happened to me.

1062
00:51:34,400 --> 00:51:36,520
Speaker 2: I can, I can do okay, storytime, but something similar

1063
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 2: like this happened to me.

1064
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 1: Yeah oh yeah.

1065
00:51:38,880 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 2: But again, if I saw her talking to like, oh,

1066
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 2: Mary was talking to Sarah and then Sarah was talking

1067
00:51:47,680 --> 00:51:52,080
Speaker 2: to you know, somebody else, and they're all just like, oh, yeah,

1068
00:51:52,080 --> 00:51:55,360
Speaker 2: she is lazy. Oh she does like Okay, what the

1069
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 2: what the heck? Well why are you talking? I don't

1070
00:51:57,680 --> 00:51:58,319
Speaker 2: even know you?

1071
00:51:58,600 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, so kind of whack.

1072
00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:03,600
Speaker 2: I would. I would as long as like everyone's who's

1073
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:05,360
Speaker 2: following her, they know what's going on, They're just not

1074
00:52:05,400 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 2: saying anything. It's like, oh, you're someone's bullying you and

1075
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,319
Speaker 2: everyone's watching and they don't do anything. You're just helping

1076
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:11,959
Speaker 2: the bully out.

1077
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:12,399
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1078
00:52:12,440 --> 00:52:16,359
Speaker 2: So, as far as I know, she was taken into

1079
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:20,279
Speaker 2: a meeting with our sorority governing panel and was reprimanded.

1080
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:23,640
Speaker 2: Nice called it. I think she was unable to attend

1081
00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 2: some events and was encouraged to delete her Twitter account.

1082
00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 2: Six months later, Mary added me on her new account

1083
00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:34,680
Speaker 2: and I accepted her. Oh full circle. She no longer

1084
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 2: wrote about sorority meetings. However, However, I did see her

1085
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:41,480
Speaker 2: complain about her new roommate, so I guess she did

1086
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:42,800
Speaker 2: not learn anything.

1087
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:43,879
Speaker 1: Oh gosh.

1088
00:52:44,040 --> 00:52:46,759
Speaker 2: I never confront her about everything that she wrote about me,

1089
00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:49,279
Speaker 2: and it took me a long time to work through

1090
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 2: her the feelings related to what she said. She has

1091
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:56,279
Speaker 2: since tried to be my friend. But while I forgive her,

1092
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:59,839
Speaker 2: I have not forgotten. That's a strong line right there.

1093
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:02,239
Speaker 2: I have done a lot of work on myself and

1094
00:53:02,320 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 2: I am a much stronger and confident girly. And that's

1095
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:06,799
Speaker 2: the end of the story.

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00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:12,000
Speaker 1: Lfg's that's good that you would work through that. I

1097
00:53:12,000 --> 00:53:15,000
Speaker 1: I agree with you on not confronting that person because

1098
00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:17,799
Speaker 1: you only confront people that you super duper care about.

1099
00:53:18,160 --> 00:53:20,280
Speaker 2: Well that's the thing. She did super duper care about her.

1100
00:53:20,200 --> 00:53:24,279
Speaker 1: At the time. But it's it's different. If you're so

1101
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 1: mu's your roommate and you have the option not to

1102
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:29,239
Speaker 1: live with them, you can like not confront them and

1103
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:30,920
Speaker 1: just kind of separate yourself. But if it's like a

1104
00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:33,760
Speaker 1: family member like your brother or your sister, you can't.

1105
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:35,400
Speaker 1: You gotta confront them about it.

1106
00:53:35,120 --> 00:53:38,279
Speaker 2: It's it sucks because again with the sorority, I guess

1107
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:39,759
Speaker 2: she did get reprimands. She got like a slap on

1108
00:53:39,760 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 2: the wrist. It seemed like, yeah, like, don't do this, great,

1109
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:43,520
Speaker 2: delete the account.

1110
00:53:43,560 --> 00:53:43,759
Speaker 1: Great.

1111
00:53:44,960 --> 00:53:49,320
Speaker 2: The thing is, I'm seeing this person who is who?

1112
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 2: At least I know she's talking behind my back. I'm

1113
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:56,520
Speaker 2: seeing her not consistently, but you're gonna seeing her pretty

1114
00:53:56,600 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 2: much on maybe a daily basis, or like at least

1115
00:53:59,840 --> 00:54:05,080
Speaker 2: a very common basis. I would at least be like, hey,

1116
00:54:05,200 --> 00:54:09,719
Speaker 2: I saw what you put. Yeah it's out there. What

1117
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 2: what the heck? Yeah, So I would at least confront her.

1118
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 2: I mean, she got confronted by the panel. Oh, I yes,

1119
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:22,400
Speaker 2: but like maybe, oh, Pie's not a confrontational person. But

1120
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 2: I would be like, hey, you're talking behind my back.

1121
00:54:24,400 --> 00:54:26,960
Speaker 1: As a non confrontational person, you do the right thing.

1122
00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:30,120
Speaker 2: I like to be petty, so like I would have

1123
00:54:30,120 --> 00:54:31,439
Speaker 2: been like, let's full force.

1124
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:32,799
Speaker 1: You got everything out of it you could?

1125
00:54:33,280 --> 00:54:36,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. I want to see her face like pale.

1126
00:54:36,640 --> 00:54:39,759
Speaker 2: Let's say other story. Guys, have a good one on

1127
00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:40,359
Speaker 2: the next one.

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00:54:42,719 --> 00:54:44,320
Speaker 4: gonna get back to these juicy stories. But here's a

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Speaker 2: My friend's girlfriend and keeps flirting with my boyfriend, so

1132
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Speaker 2: I exposed her.

1133
00:54:52,480 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 1: Talk to your own boyfriend.

1134
00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 2: Get out of here. Hey everyone, so this is a

1135
00:54:57,200 --> 00:54:59,800
Speaker 2: really long post, but I need to hear your views

1136
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:02,840
Speaker 2: on it. I am a twenty eight year old female

1137
00:55:02,920 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 2: from India and I have been dating my boyfriend twenty

1138
00:55:05,640 --> 00:55:08,440
Speaker 2: nine let's call him Mike, for over a year. Nice

1139
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:12,960
Speaker 2: Mike has a very close friend from school, Sam, not

1140
00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:16,200
Speaker 2: our Sam, but maybe who knew he could be our Sam.

1141
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:19,280
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from a user rare meeting

1142
00:55:19,400 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 2: fifty five sixty seven on the r slash Okay Storytime

1143
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 2: supperated it so Sam again. The friend met his girlfriend,

1144
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 2: Sarah twenty five, in college four years ago, and they

1145
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 2: started dating around ten months ago. Sam incidantly knew he

1146
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:38,279
Speaker 2: wanted to marry her, but Sarah wasn't sure if she

1147
00:55:38,360 --> 00:55:41,800
Speaker 2: even wanted to date him. O whoa, whoa, that's intense,

1148
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 2: Like I want to marry this girl. The girl's like, dude,

1149
00:55:45,200 --> 00:55:46,040
Speaker 2: I don't even like you.

1150
00:55:46,920 --> 00:55:47,240
Speaker 1: Frick.

1151
00:55:48,040 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 2: Last year, they were supposed to take a short trip.

1152
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 2: The bookings were done, but Sarah canceled two days before

1153
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:56,760
Speaker 2: the trip, saying she was uncomfortable taking any trip alone

1154
00:55:56,760 --> 00:55:59,799
Speaker 2: with Sam. So Sam requested that Mike and I joined

1155
00:55:59,800 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 2: them the trip so they could get to know each

1156
00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:06,439
Speaker 2: other better. At first, I was uncomfortable taking a nine

1157
00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:09,839
Speaker 2: day trip with a couple I barely knew, but Mike

1158
00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:13,279
Speaker 2: convinced me it would be fine. I was excited to

1159
00:56:13,280 --> 00:56:16,280
Speaker 2: be with Mike, so I agreed. Sam and I planned

1160
00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:20,280
Speaker 2: the trip for two months. Mike was not as active

1161
00:56:20,680 --> 00:56:23,640
Speaker 2: and actively involved because he works at sea, but I

1162
00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:27,040
Speaker 2: was fine planning the trip with Sam. Mike would get

1163
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:29,880
Speaker 2: involved and give his opinions whenever he could talk, and

1164
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:34,400
Speaker 2: he knew about every detail. On the other hand, Sarah

1165
00:56:34,440 --> 00:56:38,280
Speaker 2: did not even bother to talk or send a simple Hey.

1166
00:56:38,480 --> 00:56:41,480
Speaker 2: In the WhatsApp group Sam created so we all could

1167
00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:44,160
Speaker 2: be on the same page, Mike and I had no

1168
00:56:44,239 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 2: idea who this girl was. Mike, Sam and I on

1169
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:51,359
Speaker 2: a group call, got on a group call one day.

1170
00:56:52,239 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 2: We called Sarah at least ten times, but she did

1171
00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 2: not pick up. Wow black Sarah doesn't want to be

1172
00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 2: a part of those oh heck. Sam said she was

1173
00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:04,520
Speaker 2: an introvert, but will open up during the trip. It

1174
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 2: felt odd at first, but we let it go. A

1175
00:57:07,960 --> 00:57:10,560
Speaker 2: few days later, as we were discussing the final details,

1176
00:57:11,000 --> 00:57:14,799
Speaker 2: Sarah finally joined the call. Let's go took you a

1177
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:17,000
Speaker 2: few days. She did not speak until the rest of

1178
00:57:17,080 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 2: us started joking and having fun. She told Mike that

1179
00:57:20,840 --> 00:57:22,760
Speaker 2: she wanted to dance with him, as she heard from

1180
00:57:22,800 --> 00:57:25,840
Speaker 2: Sam that he's a good dancer. It was an odd

1181
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:27,800
Speaker 2: thing to say, as it was the first time she

1182
00:57:27,840 --> 00:57:29,960
Speaker 2: had spoken to us. That's the first thing you say,

1183
00:57:30,120 --> 00:57:30,880
Speaker 2: Oh wait, what dance with you?

1184
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 1: Mike?

1185
00:57:31,920 --> 00:57:33,760
Speaker 2: I thought she was interested in Mike a little more

1186
00:57:33,760 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 2: than Sam. A woman's intuition, right, I gave her the

1187
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:39,880
Speaker 2: benefit of the doubt and let it go. I told

1188
00:57:39,960 --> 00:57:42,040
Speaker 2: Mike about how I felt, and he said, she is

1189
00:57:42,120 --> 00:57:46,880
Speaker 2: dating Sam, so I might be wrong. He also assured

1190
00:57:46,920 --> 00:57:49,720
Speaker 2: me he would not let anything escalate, as he didn't

1191
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:53,800
Speaker 2: want me to feel insecure. The trip began.

1192
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:56,240
Speaker 1: Oh boy, the beginning of the trip sounds like a

1193
00:57:56,240 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 1: great little context to have, great little setup.

1194
00:57:59,480 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 2: Sarah. Sarah doesn't want to talk. She only she only

1195
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 2: said one time, talk to Sam. No Mike. She wants

1196
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:08,320
Speaker 2: to talk to Mike, to talk to Mike, wants to Mike.

1197
00:58:09,160 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 2: The trip began. Mike and I met Sarah at the

1198
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:15,320
Speaker 2: airport for the first time. Sarah and I got along,

1199
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 2: and I thought to myself it was going to be

1200
00:58:17,400 --> 00:58:21,360
Speaker 2: a good trip. Boy was I wrong. We booked a

1201
00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:23,600
Speaker 2: car from the airport, and as soon as we all

1202
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:25,920
Speaker 2: got in, Sam asked all of us to promise that

1203
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:29,360
Speaker 2: whatever happened during this trip stays between us. What kind

1204
00:58:29,400 --> 00:58:31,480
Speaker 2: of quick what is this is that Vegas?

1205
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:34,880
Speaker 1: This is that's a weird thing right there, Like, hey,

1206
00:58:34,880 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 1: whatever happened, you cannot tell anyone else.

1207
00:58:36,680 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 2: Everyone gets in the car and she's like, all right, guys.

1208
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:42,640
Speaker 2: From this point on, red flag, red flag, I don't

1209
00:58:42,680 --> 00:58:45,800
Speaker 2: talk about this. We all agreed I should have known better.

1210
00:58:45,840 --> 00:58:49,320
Speaker 2: What do you mean, Everyone's like, okay, that's such a

1211
00:58:49,360 --> 00:58:52,560
Speaker 2: weird thing to say. The first three days went smoothly.

1212
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:55,720
Speaker 2: During the day, we traveled from one place to another,

1213
00:58:55,960 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 2: and at night we drank, ate and danced. Sarah would

1214
00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 2: get wasted after who drinks and became clingy.

1215
00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:01,840
Speaker 1: Oh.

1216
00:59:02,320 --> 00:59:04,640
Speaker 2: She used to come really close to me, called me

1217
00:59:04,680 --> 00:59:08,240
Speaker 2: her best friend, and kept hitting Mike when he teased me.

1218
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:10,040
Speaker 1: No red flag.

1219
00:59:10,200 --> 00:59:13,400
Speaker 2: This is really weird. She also wanted to sleep on

1220
00:59:13,640 --> 00:59:16,920
Speaker 2: Mike's in my bed with us, which was odd. That

1221
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:19,920
Speaker 2: is so weird because she didn't want to share the

1222
00:59:19,960 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 2: bed with Sam. Dude, this is all so weird.

1223
00:59:22,600 --> 00:59:25,920
Speaker 1: Sam, Come on, dude, what is going on?

1224
00:59:26,000 --> 00:59:27,760
Speaker 2: Sam and Sarah are very weird. I would leave.

1225
00:59:27,960 --> 00:59:28,400
Speaker 1: Oh yeah.

1226
00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:32,000
Speaker 2: On the fourth day, we all sat to drink around

1227
00:59:32,000 --> 00:59:34,960
Speaker 2: the bonfire. After eleven pm, we were asked to go

1228
00:59:35,000 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 2: inside the room and continue there nice. The place we were

1229
00:59:38,640 --> 00:59:41,320
Speaker 2: in was deserted and it wasn't safe for anyone to

1230
00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:44,960
Speaker 2: be outdoors. There were nomads. That's the thing in India.

1231
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:45,840
Speaker 1: Oh, got it, got it.

1232
00:59:46,040 --> 00:59:47,960
Speaker 2: As soon as we got to Sam and Sarah's room,

1233
00:59:48,200 --> 00:59:53,760
Speaker 2: Sarah pulled Mike's cheeks and called him a cutie. What up,

1234
00:59:53,800 --> 00:59:57,040
Speaker 2: cutie with a little poll. A few minutes later, she

1235
00:59:57,040 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 2: stood in front of Mike and asked, so, mister Hansome,

1236
01:00:00,160 --> 01:00:04,520
Speaker 2: will you dance for us or not? What is going

1237
01:00:04,560 --> 01:00:09,720
Speaker 2: on here? Mike was very uncomfortable, reasonably, so I looked

1238
01:00:09,720 --> 01:00:13,840
Speaker 2: at Sam and saw him laughing nervously. She then grabbed

1239
01:00:13,880 --> 01:00:15,360
Speaker 2: my hand and we started to dance.

1240
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:16,760
Speaker 1: Oh, I see you.

1241
01:00:16,920 --> 01:00:20,000
Speaker 2: This is like a horror movie. Mike and Sam joined

1242
01:00:20,080 --> 01:00:23,600
Speaker 2: us hardly a few minutes past. When she held Mike's

1243
01:00:23,600 --> 01:00:27,080
Speaker 2: hand and tried pulling him near her, Mike immediately pushed

1244
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:30,480
Speaker 2: her towards Sam. Sam again started laughing and told her

1245
01:00:30,480 --> 01:00:32,560
Speaker 2: to stop behaving this way. Mike and I went to

1246
01:00:32,600 --> 01:00:36,400
Speaker 2: our room as we were quite uncomfortable with whatever happened.

1247
01:00:36,480 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I would be immediately like all right, this

1248
01:00:39,680 --> 01:00:40,320
Speaker 2: is too much.

1249
01:00:40,520 --> 01:00:42,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, like Sam, your.

1250
01:00:42,200 --> 01:00:48,280
Speaker 2: Girl, Sam, what's up with your girls? Girlfriend? Supposedly that

1251
01:00:48,280 --> 01:00:52,200
Speaker 2: you want to marry do something. The next day we

1252
01:00:52,240 --> 01:00:55,800
Speaker 2: went camping. I ever heard Sarah telling Sam how Mike

1253
01:00:56,000 --> 01:01:00,120
Speaker 2: was with his girlfriend, so she couldn't flirt with him

1254
01:01:00,160 --> 01:01:02,560
Speaker 2: and she needed to get a man's attention. What is

1255
01:01:02,640 --> 01:01:03,080
Speaker 2: going on?

1256
01:01:03,440 --> 01:01:08,640
Speaker 1: Hmmm mmm, hmmm. I'm trying to understand Miss Sarah here

1257
01:01:09,400 --> 01:01:12,280
Speaker 1: a hard time? Is Sarah really hard time?

1258
01:01:12,440 --> 01:01:14,400
Speaker 2: I don't. Do you think Sam lied about him and

1259
01:01:14,440 --> 01:01:15,160
Speaker 2: Sarah being together.

1260
01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:19,040
Speaker 1: I think Sam's just trying to do anything he can

1261
01:01:19,120 --> 01:01:22,880
Speaker 1: to be around Sarah. Okay, and Sarah. She trying to

1262
01:01:22,960 --> 01:01:27,480
Speaker 1: have a threesome with Opie and Mike. That's what I'm getting.

1263
01:01:27,600 --> 01:01:30,160
Speaker 2: I think I think at least she wants Mike ultimately,

1264
01:01:30,160 --> 01:01:33,240
Speaker 2: that's yea. But she wants a man's attention, and she's

1265
01:01:33,320 --> 01:01:35,720
Speaker 2: like Sam, I want your friend's attention.

1266
01:01:36,480 --> 01:01:37,920
Speaker 1: She doesn't respect Sam.

1267
01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:39,920
Speaker 2: She doesn't respect I don't think she respects anyone here

1268
01:01:39,960 --> 01:01:42,480
Speaker 2: other than Mike. And that's not even respecting Mike. She

1269
01:01:42,520 --> 01:01:45,520
Speaker 2: just wants Mike. I ignored it and didn't say anything,

1270
01:01:45,640 --> 01:01:48,160
Speaker 2: as I thought it was not my place. Why Opie.

1271
01:01:49,320 --> 01:01:51,080
Speaker 2: On the last day of the trip, we decided to

1272
01:01:51,080 --> 01:01:53,520
Speaker 2: go to a club. We decided to drink a little

1273
01:01:53,520 --> 01:01:57,720
Speaker 2: bit before we headed out. After two drinks, Sarah was wasted.

1274
01:01:58,160 --> 01:02:01,400
Speaker 2: She asked Mike if he would miss after the trip dude.

1275
01:02:01,960 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 2: Mike replied no. W Mike, just no. I changed the

1276
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:09,840
Speaker 2: topic before she could say anything. And told everyone to

1277
01:02:09,840 --> 01:02:12,560
Speaker 2: get ready to go outside. When Mike was wearing his shoes,

1278
01:02:12,760 --> 01:02:16,160
Speaker 2: Sarah stood in front of him, started singing and moved her.

1279
01:02:16,800 --> 01:02:18,800
Speaker 2: It would be an insult to call it twerking in

1280
01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:24,160
Speaker 2: his face lovely. Mike was shocked and moved away. He

1281
01:02:24,240 --> 01:02:27,360
Speaker 2: told Sam to keep her away from him. The trip

1282
01:02:27,480 --> 01:02:31,440
Speaker 2: ended with Mike and ME being highly uncomfortable with whatever happened.

1283
01:02:32,320 --> 01:02:35,040
Speaker 2: After returning home, Mike and I met his best friends.

1284
01:02:35,800 --> 01:02:38,840
Speaker 2: At first, I thought of not telling anybody about what

1285
01:02:38,920 --> 01:02:42,760
Speaker 2: happened because it was killing me. I was still confused

1286
01:02:42,760 --> 01:02:44,480
Speaker 2: if Sarah was trying to hit on Mike or if

1287
01:02:44,480 --> 01:02:46,440
Speaker 2: it was all in my head. You know she was

1288
01:02:46,520 --> 01:02:50,000
Speaker 2: hitting on Mike. What do you mean? Why do you

1289
01:02:50,000 --> 01:02:52,720
Speaker 2: try to mind? Don't defend her. I wanted to know

1290
01:02:52,800 --> 01:02:55,720
Speaker 2: their opinion, as they are also very close to Sam

1291
01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:58,360
Speaker 2: and knew better than I did. I told them all

1292
01:02:58,640 --> 01:03:01,160
Speaker 2: what happened. At this point, Mike told us something he

1293
01:03:01,240 --> 01:03:03,640
Speaker 2: kept from me during the trip because he knew I

1294
01:03:03,640 --> 01:03:06,720
Speaker 2: would have been furious with Sarah. Uh oh oh no,

1295
01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:10,080
Speaker 2: uh oh. During the bonfire, I went to the restroom,

1296
01:03:10,120 --> 01:03:13,280
Speaker 2: Sarah gave a flying kiss to Mike and said I

1297
01:03:13,360 --> 01:03:18,280
Speaker 2: love you. In front of Sam, just a I love you,

1298
01:03:18,320 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 2: Mike in front of me, in front of Sam. Oh, gosh,

1299
01:03:22,640 --> 01:03:24,720
Speaker 2: at this, I like how this is the point. At

1300
01:03:24,720 --> 01:03:29,680
Speaker 2: this point, I was done. Mike's friends were shocked after

1301
01:03:29,720 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 2: hearing all this and thought Sam was making a huge

1302
01:03:31,920 --> 01:03:36,120
Speaker 2: mistake dating her and thinking about marrying her. But you

1303
01:03:36,160 --> 01:03:39,960
Speaker 2: can marry us every weekday at three pm PSD. Just

1304
01:03:40,000 --> 01:03:40,880
Speaker 2: tap our profile.

1305
01:03:42,520 --> 01:03:47,840
Speaker 1: Just marry us, dude, I'm glad. Oh he's finally saying

1306
01:03:47,880 --> 01:03:50,800
Speaker 1: something mirror. I would have done the twerking for sure.

1307
01:03:51,160 --> 01:03:53,040
Speaker 2: I would have done it at the very beginning, when

1308
01:03:53,080 --> 01:03:55,919
Speaker 2: she's pulling Mike close to him and trying to dance

1309
01:03:55,960 --> 01:03:57,680
Speaker 2: for like, trying to dance with him.

1310
01:03:58,600 --> 01:04:00,680
Speaker 1: I don't even think she can get drunk with two drinks.

1311
01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 1: I think she just does two drinks he's trying to Yeah, oh,

1312
01:04:04,120 --> 01:04:06,840
Speaker 1: I'm always an excuse, like this is Clyke clockwork, two

1313
01:04:06,920 --> 01:04:09,640
Speaker 1: drinks every time? Weird actions?

1314
01:04:09,840 --> 01:04:14,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, towards Mike. Also, what is Sam doing? Does he

1315
01:04:14,120 --> 01:04:17,080
Speaker 2: not like realize that Opie and Mike are like yo.

1316
01:04:18,320 --> 01:04:21,240
Speaker 1: Sam doesn't have a backbone, man, I'm sorry.

1317
01:04:21,080 --> 01:04:25,480
Speaker 2: Does Sam I realize that samarai Sam is so scared

1318
01:04:25,720 --> 01:04:29,880
Speaker 2: of losing Sarah, which he doesn't realize has already happened,

1319
01:04:30,040 --> 01:04:33,200
Speaker 2: so he's doing whatever he can to keep that reality

1320
01:04:33,440 --> 01:04:36,360
Speaker 2: alive in his mind. No, I think I think he's

1321
01:04:36,440 --> 01:04:40,400
Speaker 2: just like, as long as Mike's here and Sarah's happy,

1322
01:04:40,520 --> 01:04:41,120
Speaker 2: I'm happy.

1323
01:04:42,040 --> 01:04:44,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. So he's using that to try to get closer

1324
01:04:44,160 --> 01:04:44,600
Speaker 1: to her.

1325
01:04:44,600 --> 01:04:52,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, and obviously failing at every single moment he can yep, Yeah,

1326
01:04:52,720 --> 01:04:55,800
Speaker 2: what what would you do here? If you're op Oh?

1327
01:04:55,880 --> 01:04:58,800
Speaker 1: I think what I would have done is the second

1328
01:04:58,920 --> 01:05:01,360
Speaker 1: this happened. If that was Mike, I'd probably go to

1329
01:05:01,400 --> 01:05:04,240
Speaker 1: Sam and be like, Hey, we're gonna spend the rest

1330
01:05:04,280 --> 01:05:06,680
Speaker 1: of this trip together. You guys are gonna stay together,

1331
01:05:06,720 --> 01:05:08,960
Speaker 1: but we do not want to hang out with you

1332
01:05:08,960 --> 01:05:12,240
Speaker 1: guys anymore. Respectfully. I don't think it would be wise

1333
01:05:12,280 --> 01:05:14,040
Speaker 1: of our time, and that's what we're gonna do.

1334
01:05:14,080 --> 01:05:16,360
Speaker 2: I would have done that, maybe like the second instance,

1335
01:05:16,400 --> 01:05:19,240
Speaker 2: but he was continuing. I would have been like, Sam,

1336
01:05:19,520 --> 01:05:23,200
Speaker 2: your girl is not your girl like your girl wants Mike.

1337
01:05:23,480 --> 01:05:24,640
Speaker 2: This is weird, we're leaving.

1338
01:05:24,760 --> 01:05:25,240
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1339
01:05:25,320 --> 01:05:28,040
Speaker 2: The next day, Sam asked Mike for his opinion on

1340
01:05:28,080 --> 01:05:31,840
Speaker 2: whether he thought Sarah was right for him. Mike truthfully

1341
01:05:31,920 --> 01:05:37,320
Speaker 2: said no and told Sam everything. Sam defended her by

1342
01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:40,000
Speaker 2: saying she was wasted and didn't mean it. Oh. No, Rather,

1343
01:05:40,800 --> 01:05:43,960
Speaker 2: he wouldn't listen to Mike. I don't know why he asked.

1344
01:05:44,360 --> 01:05:48,360
Speaker 2: Now Sam is talking badly about me, saying I broke

1345
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:51,240
Speaker 2: the promise and told everyone what happened, and then I

1346
01:05:51,360 --> 01:05:54,320
Speaker 2: manipulated Mike. Oh my god. It's sort of like, oh,

1347
01:05:54,560 --> 01:05:55,640
Speaker 2: he knew he was gonna happen.

1348
01:05:55,800 --> 01:05:58,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, whenever you say whatever happens here stays here, it's

1349
01:05:59,040 --> 01:06:03,520
Speaker 1: it's more of the lines of I like crashed my

1350
01:06:03,720 --> 01:06:05,680
Speaker 1: car here. We're not gonna tell anyone of this.

1351
01:06:05,840 --> 01:06:08,680
Speaker 2: The only time that's reasonable to say, like, whatever happens

1352
01:06:08,720 --> 01:06:11,120
Speaker 2: to your stays here is Vegas, because it's just like

1353
01:06:11,160 --> 01:06:14,000
Speaker 2: that's like the saying whatever happens to Vegas says a vis.

1354
01:06:14,120 --> 01:06:17,000
Speaker 2: It's still no one's gonna say that. No, it leaves.

1355
01:06:17,000 --> 01:06:17,600
Speaker 2: It always leaves you.

1356
01:06:17,880 --> 01:06:20,200
Speaker 1: You tell people sort of like if you won a

1357
01:06:20,240 --> 01:06:23,280
Speaker 1: lot of money, you don't say anything about it. Yeah, sure,

1358
01:06:23,920 --> 01:06:24,920
Speaker 1: but this doesn't apply.

1359
01:06:25,080 --> 01:06:28,120
Speaker 2: No, this is just Sam new things were gonna get

1360
01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:30,520
Speaker 2: very weird. I guarantee you. Sarah is like, I'm in

1361
01:06:30,520 --> 01:06:33,280
Speaker 2: the same I'm into Mike. Yeah, I'm into Mike. Like,

1362
01:06:33,320 --> 01:06:34,520
Speaker 2: I can't wait to hang out with Mike.

1363
01:06:34,920 --> 01:06:35,080
Speaker 4: Now.

1364
01:06:35,520 --> 01:06:37,880
Speaker 2: Sam is talking badly about me, saying I broke the

1365
01:06:37,880 --> 01:06:41,280
Speaker 2: promise and told everyone what happened and that I manipulated Mike.

1366
01:06:41,960 --> 01:06:44,320
Speaker 2: He also said I manipulated Mike into falling in love

1367
01:06:44,400 --> 01:06:47,160
Speaker 2: with me. That is one of my favorite among all

1368
01:06:47,160 --> 01:06:50,280
Speaker 2: the things he said about me. Yeah, this has also

1369
01:06:50,320 --> 01:06:54,760
Speaker 2: jeopardized Mike and Sam's friendship. So am I the a hole.

1370
01:06:54,720 --> 01:06:57,960
Speaker 1: Nog trying to keep your man. You're trying to fight

1371
01:06:58,000 --> 01:06:59,000
Speaker 1: for what you fought for.

1372
01:06:59,200 --> 01:07:03,439
Speaker 2: That's your man, and Mike like Mike wants you, you're

1373
01:07:03,520 --> 01:07:08,680
Speaker 2: his woman. Yeah, straight forward, Like if if my best

1374
01:07:08,680 --> 01:07:11,840
Speaker 2: friend was like quote yeah, pull the quote. But the

1375
01:07:11,880 --> 01:07:15,320
Speaker 2: fact that Sam, like Mike went up to Sam and like, hey,

1376
01:07:15,680 --> 01:07:18,760
Speaker 2: she sucks, Sarah, Sarah sucks. She's not right for you,

1377
01:07:18,960 --> 01:07:22,080
Speaker 2: she doesn't even like you, brother, and she's weird about me.

1378
01:07:23,440 --> 01:07:27,520
Speaker 2: And he's like, nah, she was just that's just her personality.

1379
01:07:27,720 --> 01:07:30,400
Speaker 2: That's so dumb. And then she's like, oh, yeah, uh

1380
01:07:30,440 --> 01:07:33,800
Speaker 2: your girlfriend. Ope, she's manipulating you to fall in love

1381
01:07:33,800 --> 01:07:43,520
Speaker 2: with her, bro, Sam, Sarah wants Mike. She didn't do

1382
01:07:43,560 --> 01:07:46,040
Speaker 2: that with you at all. Yeah, it was so glatly.

1383
01:07:46,080 --> 01:07:46,680
Speaker 2: She wasn't into you.

1384
01:07:46,760 --> 01:07:52,320
Speaker 1: I saw this quote. I throw out the one v

1385
01:07:52,440 --> 01:07:56,320
Speaker 1: one Like if someone's like, for example, Sarah wants Mike,

1386
01:07:56,400 --> 01:08:00,520
Speaker 1: you can fight, you can fight. Op try to like,

1387
01:08:00,640 --> 01:08:02,400
Speaker 1: just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score.

1388
01:08:02,840 --> 01:08:04,960
Speaker 1: And it's like a one v one, But you have

1389
01:08:05,040 --> 01:08:08,800
Speaker 1: to realize that the person that OPI has defeated the

1390
01:08:08,840 --> 01:08:11,120
Speaker 1: one hundred instead of being one v one hundred, they're

1391
01:08:11,160 --> 01:08:13,120
Speaker 1: the person that vieded the one hundred. Yes, that's what

1392
01:08:13,160 --> 01:08:17,639
Speaker 1: you're up against. Yeah, you're against the goalie that has

1393
01:08:17,960 --> 01:08:21,720
Speaker 1: blocked all the shows. So like girl, she she's going

1394
01:08:21,760 --> 01:08:24,920
Speaker 1: to be a goalie, like Sarah, stop stop it all star.

1395
01:08:25,320 --> 01:08:28,200
Speaker 1: She started, she started it, and OPI did what she

1396
01:08:28,200 --> 01:08:30,760
Speaker 1: had to do to stop it. And I and I

1397
01:08:30,800 --> 01:08:32,559
Speaker 1: am all for what Opie did.

1398
01:08:32,520 --> 01:08:35,960
Speaker 2: And good on Mike. That every like every little thing,

1399
01:08:36,000 --> 01:08:38,120
Speaker 2: and I mean every little instance. I guess they just

1400
01:08:38,160 --> 01:08:41,040
Speaker 2: didn't want to make the trip as awkward was awkward.

1401
01:08:41,120 --> 01:08:44,320
Speaker 1: So they're just like, no, deed to do some awful

1402
01:08:44,360 --> 01:08:45,200
Speaker 1: things and he did not.

1403
01:08:45,560 --> 01:08:49,360
Speaker 2: No. Yeah, like Mike could have done the worst thing possible,

1404
01:08:49,479 --> 01:08:53,800
Speaker 2: cheat cheat, No Mike at every innswert is like no, no, no,

1405
01:08:55,040 --> 01:08:55,640
Speaker 2: get away from me.

1406
01:08:56,040 --> 01:08:59,679
Speaker 1: Be gone every time the streets, every time a woman

1407
01:08:59,720 --> 01:09:01,559
Speaker 1: tries to talk to me, and like stop them. Scared

1408
01:09:01,560 --> 01:09:03,000
Speaker 1: of women, please stop talking to me.

1409
01:09:03,120 --> 01:09:07,120
Speaker 2: Yeah it works, it doesn't work for me.

1410
01:09:09,400 --> 01:09:10,599
Speaker 1: Ah, but that's that story.

1411
01:09:12,160 --> 01:09:14,800
Speaker 2: I cut my friend off for her terrible behavior, but

1412
01:09:14,960 --> 01:09:17,200
Speaker 2: now everyone's cutting her off.

1413
01:09:17,760 --> 01:09:18,960
Speaker 1: Oh to the streets.

1414
01:09:19,240 --> 01:09:22,639
Speaker 2: Bye. This whole situation hopefully wrapped up just a few

1415
01:09:22,720 --> 01:09:25,559
Speaker 2: days ago, and I am officially left with no cares

1416
01:09:25,640 --> 01:09:28,559
Speaker 2: left to give. So I bring it all to you

1417
01:09:29,200 --> 01:09:34,280
Speaker 2: to judge. I eighteen female, just graduated high school and

1418
01:09:34,320 --> 01:09:35,759
Speaker 2: I'm getting ready to go to college.

1419
01:09:35,960 --> 01:09:36,320
Speaker 1: Ingrats.

1420
01:09:36,800 --> 01:09:41,639
Speaker 2: This whole incident involves my immediate friend group about six people. Okay,

1421
01:09:42,360 --> 01:09:45,560
Speaker 2: we all have mutual friends in our circles off and overlap,

1422
01:09:46,360 --> 01:09:49,720
Speaker 2: but it's us as a unit. Most of us were

1423
01:09:49,760 --> 01:09:53,240
Speaker 2: together in middle school or elementary and have remained friends since.

1424
01:09:54,080 --> 01:09:58,439
Speaker 2: The main aggressor in this is Emma eighteen female. By

1425
01:09:58,479 --> 01:10:01,599
Speaker 2: the way, this comes from user soft Joy eighty two

1426
01:10:01,840 --> 01:10:05,719
Speaker 2: on the r slash. Okay, story time suppered it. So

1427
01:10:05,800 --> 01:10:08,439
Speaker 2: Emma and I became friends in freshman year and quickly

1428
01:10:08,479 --> 01:10:12,920
Speaker 2: became close. Emma ended befriending my other close friends and

1429
01:10:12,960 --> 01:10:15,080
Speaker 2: we did a lot of the same clubs together.

1430
01:10:15,840 --> 01:10:16,160
Speaker 1: More time.

1431
01:10:16,240 --> 01:10:18,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, let me do it the one time. Emma and

1432
01:10:18,840 --> 01:10:21,799
Speaker 2: I became friends in freshman year and quickly became close.

1433
01:10:22,600 --> 01:10:25,120
Speaker 2: Emma ended up befriending my other close friends and we

1434
01:10:25,160 --> 01:10:28,200
Speaker 2: did a lot of the same clubs together. She was

1435
01:10:28,200 --> 01:10:32,080
Speaker 2: one of the people I considered my closest friends. We

1436
01:10:32,160 --> 01:10:36,360
Speaker 2: have very opposite personalities. I am non confrontational and try

1437
01:10:36,360 --> 01:10:39,800
Speaker 2: to avoid drama like the plague. Emma is either a

1438
01:10:39,880 --> 01:10:44,599
Speaker 2: drama magnet or more likely a potster, so I'd often

1439
01:10:44,720 --> 01:10:46,680
Speaker 2: end up being a person to vent to or a

1440
01:10:46,720 --> 01:10:50,960
Speaker 2: negotiator between her and other friends. Okay, those are not that. Yeah,

1441
01:10:51,000 --> 01:10:53,800
Speaker 2: you don't like that. The podst is the worst person

1442
01:10:53,800 --> 01:10:54,080
Speaker 2: to be with.

1443
01:10:54,320 --> 01:10:56,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, because there you don't want to be the middleman

1444
01:10:56,280 --> 01:10:58,240
Speaker 1: in that. Because you're a messenger and you know what

1445
01:10:58,280 --> 01:10:59,240
Speaker 1: happens to the messenger.

1446
01:11:00,040 --> 01:11:03,439
Speaker 2: Always shoot the messenger. And also potsters or are I'll

1447
01:11:03,840 --> 01:11:07,400
Speaker 2: always gonna throw you in the pot somehow, some way, somehow,

1448
01:11:07,400 --> 01:11:09,479
Speaker 2: some way, they're always gonna You're an agreed You're an

1449
01:11:09,520 --> 01:11:14,120
Speaker 2: ingredient through the pot stirring red flag number one. I

1450
01:11:14,120 --> 01:11:17,439
Speaker 2: couldn't celebrate my fifteenth and almost sixteenth birthday because of

1451
01:11:17,479 --> 01:11:18,719
Speaker 2: the drama she caused.

1452
01:11:18,880 --> 01:11:19,120
Speaker 1: Damn.

1453
01:11:19,840 --> 01:11:22,360
Speaker 2: The larger circle of friends was divided because of her,

1454
01:11:22,439 --> 01:11:24,320
Speaker 2: and it got to the point that it if I

1455
01:11:24,360 --> 01:11:27,080
Speaker 2: invited one group, the other wouldn't come, and if I

1456
01:11:27,120 --> 01:11:31,800
Speaker 2: invited both, neither would solution don't have one. So that's

1457
01:11:31,840 --> 01:11:35,800
Speaker 2: already I'm dang, that's already bad. The fact that Emma

1458
01:11:35,840 --> 01:11:41,320
Speaker 2: had beef with seemingly everyone should have been of red flag. Yeah.

1459
01:11:41,360 --> 01:11:44,000
Speaker 2: One day she's best friends with one person, the next

1460
01:11:44,080 --> 01:11:47,120
Speaker 2: they've committed some awful thing against her. I was never

1461
01:11:47,160 --> 01:11:52,800
Speaker 2: fully caught up on anything. Saya always stayed neutral, being

1462
01:11:52,800 --> 01:11:55,000
Speaker 2: the neutral party, because I've been that friend. Is being

1463
01:11:55,040 --> 01:11:58,360
Speaker 2: the neutral like yeah, everything's okay, Like no, okay, Like

1464
01:11:58,439 --> 01:12:02,120
Speaker 2: everyone like nobody wins. Point you'd especially you and the

1465
01:12:02,200 --> 01:12:03,880
Speaker 2: nutul party. You never win.

1466
01:12:04,120 --> 01:12:05,120
Speaker 1: Ah, that's so tough.

1467
01:12:05,920 --> 01:12:07,960
Speaker 2: You never win. You got to speak up for yourself

1468
01:12:08,000 --> 01:12:09,720
Speaker 2: and if you know this person is bad for you,

1469
01:12:10,320 --> 01:12:13,240
Speaker 2: get away from it. Yeah, get away from them, especially

1470
01:12:13,280 --> 01:12:15,120
Speaker 2: if everyone's like no, she sucks, or like they get

1471
01:12:15,120 --> 01:12:18,120
Speaker 2: away from her. Senior came around, and suddenly I am

1472
01:12:18,160 --> 01:12:20,960
Speaker 2: a target. I had never known Emma to be a bully,

1473
01:12:21,080 --> 01:12:23,800
Speaker 2: as she was always acting so sweet, and it's very

1474
01:12:23,800 --> 01:12:27,120
Speaker 2: popular because of that. However, at the very start of

1475
01:12:27,120 --> 01:12:29,800
Speaker 2: the year, she started getting aggressive towards me.

1476
01:12:30,360 --> 01:12:31,559
Speaker 1: Oh, getting put in the pot.

1477
01:12:31,840 --> 01:12:34,320
Speaker 2: I told you, you gotta be an ingredient. Either you're

1478
01:12:34,439 --> 01:12:36,679
Speaker 2: a base ingredient or you're gonna be the main ingredient.

1479
01:12:37,080 --> 01:12:39,439
Speaker 2: The first flight was when I had a whole period

1480
01:12:39,479 --> 01:12:42,719
Speaker 2: on my schedule missing and asked her for help during lunch.

1481
01:12:42,920 --> 01:12:45,439
Speaker 2: Since she's involved in school and her mom is a teacher,

1482
01:12:45,920 --> 01:12:50,200
Speaker 2: keep in mind for later, I have ADHD. Sometimes I

1483
01:12:50,200 --> 01:12:52,160
Speaker 2: need a moment to figure things out, and I ask

1484
01:12:52,200 --> 01:12:55,600
Speaker 2: a lot of questions because I just don't understand. I

1485
01:12:55,680 --> 01:12:57,880
Speaker 2: told her that her advice didn't make sense, and she

1486
01:12:58,000 --> 01:13:01,240
Speaker 2: snapped at me, asking why I couldn't get it through

1487
01:13:01,280 --> 01:13:04,519
Speaker 2: my thick head. I decided to take the advice she

1488
01:13:04,520 --> 01:13:07,080
Speaker 2: had given me to the principal, who asked who on

1489
01:13:07,120 --> 01:13:10,640
Speaker 2: earth gave me that. Every conversation afterwards, I felt like

1490
01:13:10,680 --> 01:13:13,880
Speaker 2: I was walking on eggshells around her. I could never

1491
01:13:13,960 --> 01:13:18,240
Speaker 2: have it bad because she had it worse. I can

1492
01:13:18,280 --> 01:13:20,280
Speaker 2: never do good because she did it better.

1493
01:13:20,640 --> 01:13:21,040
Speaker 1: Ah.

1494
01:13:21,439 --> 01:13:23,400
Speaker 2: I was incredibly proud of the amount of notes I

1495
01:13:23,439 --> 01:13:27,360
Speaker 2: was taking for the act. I'm never a good note taker,

1496
01:13:27,439 --> 01:13:29,760
Speaker 2: but I ended up filling a notebook with thirty four

1497
01:13:29,840 --> 01:13:33,200
Speaker 2: back to back pages of notes. Whoo, yeah, I remember that.

1498
01:13:33,720 --> 01:13:35,400
Speaker 2: I showed them to my friends and she told me

1499
01:13:35,640 --> 01:13:38,240
Speaker 2: that was nothing compared to all the notes she took

1500
01:13:38,439 --> 01:13:39,479
Speaker 2: for her AP classes.

1501
01:13:39,720 --> 01:13:42,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, just can't do enough.

1502
01:13:42,280 --> 01:13:45,519
Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, she's better, she just better. She wants

1503
01:13:45,560 --> 01:13:47,320
Speaker 2: to be better, and no wonder she has no friends

1504
01:13:47,400 --> 01:13:48,599
Speaker 2: and everyone's out to.

1505
01:13:48,600 --> 01:13:49,800
Speaker 1: Get her crazy.

1506
01:13:50,000 --> 01:13:52,639
Speaker 2: When I could find it about the overwhelming workload I had,

1507
01:13:52,760 --> 01:13:55,080
Speaker 2: she scoffed and said that I didn't get to complain

1508
01:13:55,320 --> 01:13:57,960
Speaker 2: because she had so much more work than me. Oh

1509
01:13:58,000 --> 01:14:01,080
Speaker 2: my gosh, dude, this is just especially your senior year.

1510
01:14:01,160 --> 01:14:03,559
Speaker 2: You're like, I don't need to hear this. She was

1511
01:14:03,600 --> 01:14:05,880
Speaker 2: always convinced she was right and would talk down to

1512
01:14:05,920 --> 01:14:10,559
Speaker 2: me if I disagreed, which sucks when we're in debate together.

1513
01:14:11,400 --> 01:14:13,880
Speaker 2: If I tried to correct her on anything, she'd get aggressive,

1514
01:14:14,040 --> 01:14:17,160
Speaker 2: so I stopped. She did all these things in front

1515
01:14:17,160 --> 01:14:19,360
Speaker 2: of our friends. We all brushed it off as her

1516
01:14:19,400 --> 01:14:23,000
Speaker 2: being brash and overly honest, but have recently all reflected

1517
01:14:23,040 --> 01:14:27,559
Speaker 2: and said she was just being mean, specifically towards me.

1518
01:14:28,439 --> 01:14:30,760
Speaker 2: She never did to any of our other friends, and

1519
01:14:30,800 --> 01:14:35,960
Speaker 2: I kept wondering what I did wrong. You're her closest person. Yeah,

1520
01:14:35,960 --> 01:14:38,479
Speaker 2: I'm the closest person. She's gonna dish it out the most.

1521
01:14:38,640 --> 01:14:39,560
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1522
01:14:39,640 --> 01:14:43,000
Speaker 2: Crap hit the fan during homecoming. It started with Emma

1523
01:14:43,040 --> 01:14:45,600
Speaker 2: complaining about me not making plans with them that she

1524
01:14:45,680 --> 01:14:48,560
Speaker 2: added me to the group chat. I then proceeded to

1525
01:14:48,600 --> 01:14:51,240
Speaker 2: ask about the group chat. As I received no such thing,

1526
01:14:52,520 --> 01:14:54,679
Speaker 2: she called me stupid and walked away.

1527
01:14:54,880 --> 01:14:55,920
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

1528
01:14:55,960 --> 01:14:57,840
Speaker 2: When it was time for pictures, I tried to grab

1529
01:14:57,920 --> 01:15:01,240
Speaker 2: all my friends and heard them together. Emma really hates

1530
01:15:01,280 --> 01:15:04,280
Speaker 2: this girl, Lily. I'll be honest, Lily and I don't

1531
01:15:04,280 --> 01:15:07,479
Speaker 2: get along well either, but we're civil. I tried to

1532
01:15:07,520 --> 01:15:09,840
Speaker 2: grab a friend and nicely told Lily that we just

1533
01:15:09,920 --> 01:15:13,400
Speaker 2: needed this friend for the picture, but Lily could hop in.

1534
01:15:13,439 --> 01:15:16,839
Speaker 2: After Lily ignored me and got into the final picture,

1535
01:15:17,720 --> 01:15:20,400
Speaker 2: Emma was nowhere to be seen, even after I called

1536
01:15:20,400 --> 01:15:23,519
Speaker 2: and texted her it was time. She showed up just

1537
01:15:23,600 --> 01:15:27,280
Speaker 2: after the picture was taken and she went nuts. Emma

1538
01:15:27,360 --> 01:15:29,400
Speaker 2: then proceeded to yell at me in front of all

1539
01:15:29,439 --> 01:15:31,840
Speaker 2: of our friends for taking the picture without her and

1540
01:15:31,920 --> 01:15:36,519
Speaker 2: allowing Lillian. Oh boy, I followed her to apologize and

1541
01:15:36,560 --> 01:15:39,839
Speaker 2: found her with her mom, who was a teacher, venting.

1542
01:15:40,920 --> 01:15:43,599
Speaker 2: Her mom then told her f all of them and

1543
01:15:43,640 --> 01:15:46,960
Speaker 2: they left. Oh this is a teacher, Oh this mom

1544
01:15:47,000 --> 01:15:47,960
Speaker 2: first teacher second?

1545
01:15:48,160 --> 01:15:48,800
Speaker 1: Oh boy.

1546
01:15:49,640 --> 01:15:52,160
Speaker 2: I tried to apologize again, but her mom got between

1547
01:15:52,240 --> 01:15:55,160
Speaker 2: us and said, you need to back off. Emma's had

1548
01:15:55,200 --> 01:15:56,040
Speaker 2: a long night.

1549
01:15:56,720 --> 01:16:00,160
Speaker 1: Oh god, they were just making fun of me. They

1550
01:16:00,200 --> 01:16:01,320
Speaker 1: don't like me, they didn't want.

1551
01:16:01,160 --> 01:16:01,920
Speaker 2: To take the picture of me.

1552
01:16:02,040 --> 01:16:03,760
Speaker 1: Mom.

1553
01:16:04,040 --> 01:16:08,000
Speaker 2: When they all sie, I was so shocked that I

1554
01:16:08,040 --> 01:16:11,120
Speaker 2: stood there before breaking down and sobbing and calling my

1555
01:16:11,240 --> 01:16:14,639
Speaker 2: mom to get me. I never got an apology from Emma.

1556
01:16:15,280 --> 01:16:18,040
Speaker 2: In fact, I was the one who sent her countless apologies.

1557
01:16:18,840 --> 01:16:21,599
Speaker 2: This was also my first bit of girl drama, and

1558
01:16:21,640 --> 01:16:24,760
Speaker 2: it wrecked me. A few days later, I sent a

1559
01:16:24,800 --> 01:16:27,400
Speaker 2: picture to our group chat with baby bunnies we rescued

1560
01:16:27,439 --> 01:16:30,960
Speaker 2: and were taking to the shelter. Her only response was,

1561
01:16:31,240 --> 01:16:33,040
Speaker 2: you know, you probably just put them in a worse place.

1562
01:16:33,160 --> 01:16:33,320
Speaker 5: Right.

1563
01:16:34,520 --> 01:16:37,679
Speaker 2: Thankfully she was called out, but it made me cry.

1564
01:16:38,040 --> 01:16:39,760
Speaker 2: I would try to mend the bridge between us, but

1565
01:16:39,920 --> 01:16:42,800
Speaker 2: every time there would be a split thing where she

1566
01:16:42,880 --> 01:16:46,200
Speaker 2: ruined it. She called me stupid over something I was

1567
01:16:46,240 --> 01:16:49,200
Speaker 2: excited for She dismissed me when I tried to talk.

1568
01:16:49,840 --> 01:16:54,320
Speaker 2: It made me angry and hurt. Well, she stayed in

1569
01:16:54,320 --> 01:16:57,599
Speaker 2: her friend group. Okay, I just disan myself from her.

1570
01:16:57,720 --> 01:17:00,559
Speaker 2: When we were together, I said, I just wait it

1571
01:17:00,640 --> 01:17:04,759
Speaker 2: out till the end. Here is where I feel really petty.

1572
01:17:04,840 --> 01:17:07,480
Speaker 1: Oh, here we go, feel petty, game Tom.

1573
01:17:08,280 --> 01:17:10,920
Speaker 2: One of Emma's biggest brags was that she was smarter

1574
01:17:11,000 --> 01:17:13,360
Speaker 2: than me and better than me and did more work

1575
01:17:13,400 --> 01:17:17,639
Speaker 2: than me. Well, I walked the stage with high honors

1576
01:17:17,680 --> 01:17:20,760
Speaker 2: for an act of a thirty and got accepted to

1577
01:17:20,800 --> 01:17:24,960
Speaker 2: the University of Tennessee Evolves, second best in our state,

1578
01:17:25,000 --> 01:17:26,440
Speaker 2: below Vanderbilt University.

1579
01:17:26,520 --> 01:17:30,880
Speaker 1: Wow, okay, I know exactly what this is. I mean,

1580
01:17:30,920 --> 01:17:32,719
Speaker 1: I know where this is. I grew up in that area.

1581
01:17:32,800 --> 01:17:34,240
Speaker 2: Okay, this is this is a this is like you.

1582
01:17:34,320 --> 01:17:36,519
Speaker 1: This is big. Maybe you may happen near me.

1583
01:17:36,920 --> 01:17:40,240
Speaker 2: This definitely happened near you. Ironically, she acted surprise when

1584
01:17:40,280 --> 01:17:43,200
Speaker 2: I said I got to walk for high honors. She

1585
01:17:43,439 --> 01:17:47,679
Speaker 2: didn't oh boy mm in her face. She's also attending

1586
01:17:47,720 --> 01:17:50,800
Speaker 2: community college in our face. But community college is also good.

1587
01:17:50,880 --> 01:17:54,200
Speaker 1: Ye, No, community college is great. I went to community college.

1588
01:17:54,240 --> 01:17:57,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, community college is great. UTK is also the better

1589
01:17:57,600 --> 01:18:01,000
Speaker 2: branch of the Tennessee university she applied to. Okay, I

1590
01:18:01,040 --> 01:18:02,479
Speaker 2: don't know she got accepted or not.

1591
01:18:03,400 --> 01:18:04,479
Speaker 1: University of Knoxville.

1592
01:18:04,840 --> 01:18:06,720
Speaker 2: Was that University of Oxvilleyeah, it's like a UT but

1593
01:18:06,760 --> 01:18:10,639
Speaker 2: it's like University of Knoxville. Interesting or University of Tennessee

1594
01:18:10,680 --> 01:18:13,679
Speaker 2: in Knoxville. Ah, gotcha, gotcha? Okay, I didn't know u TK.

1595
01:18:14,080 --> 01:18:16,680
Speaker 2: I feel bad about celebrating her downfall. Is this is

1596
01:18:16,720 --> 01:18:20,519
Speaker 2: not really her down She was working for this. Yeah no,

1597
01:18:20,600 --> 01:18:24,559
Speaker 2: this is not your downfall. You just have a uprising. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

1598
01:18:24,600 --> 01:18:26,680
Speaker 2: that's it. Yeah you're good, dude, You're good.

1599
01:18:26,760 --> 01:18:29,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's okay. Still dwell on it. Just like be like, yes,

1600
01:18:29,800 --> 01:18:30,640
Speaker 1: your keeping you.

1601
01:18:30,800 --> 01:18:32,720
Speaker 2: You were literally off to bigger and better things. I

1602
01:18:32,720 --> 01:18:35,679
Speaker 2: feel bad about celebrating her downfall. Had things been different,

1603
01:18:35,760 --> 01:18:38,760
Speaker 2: I would have celebrated our victory together or felt bad

1604
01:18:38,760 --> 01:18:42,240
Speaker 2: for her. Now the real petty this is now, this

1605
01:18:42,320 --> 01:18:44,760
Speaker 2: is the real petty. Emma was still involved in our

1606
01:18:44,760 --> 01:18:48,080
Speaker 2: friend group after the incident. They were totally caught up

1607
01:18:48,120 --> 01:18:50,759
Speaker 2: on what happened. I and two friends from the original

1608
01:18:50,760 --> 01:18:53,439
Speaker 2: six drove home together after having a run in with her.

1609
01:18:54,000 --> 01:18:55,840
Speaker 2: We drove in loops for forty five minutes while I

1610
01:18:55,840 --> 01:18:58,800
Speaker 2: took the microphone to spill everything she had done, and

1611
01:18:58,840 --> 01:19:02,600
Speaker 2: they were shocked. So far, I had kept everything on

1612
01:19:02,640 --> 01:19:04,680
Speaker 2: the down low for the sake of being civil. But

1613
01:19:04,760 --> 01:19:09,120
Speaker 2: now we have graduated. And speaking of fun graduations, you

1614
01:19:09,120 --> 01:19:12,080
Speaker 2: can join us like a little graduation party every weekday

1615
01:19:12,200 --> 01:19:14,799
Speaker 2: live three pm PSD. Just tap our profile.

1616
01:19:15,560 --> 01:19:18,479
Speaker 1: Yikes. I I don't know what more steps you can

1617
01:19:18,520 --> 01:19:21,439
Speaker 1: do to be petty. This person was being a bad

1618
01:19:21,479 --> 01:19:25,280
Speaker 1: friend for a talent for entire entire life. Was telling

1619
01:19:25,320 --> 01:19:27,400
Speaker 1: you like, you can't do this, You're not good enough

1620
01:19:27,439 --> 01:19:29,720
Speaker 1: for that, and then you are, and then turns out

1621
01:19:29,760 --> 01:19:31,760
Speaker 1: they're not even good enough for the thing that you

1622
01:19:32,040 --> 01:19:32,400
Speaker 1: they said.

1623
01:19:32,560 --> 01:19:34,519
Speaker 2: They still don't, they still don't celebrate you.

1624
01:19:34,600 --> 01:19:37,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's not a friend, and you can you can

1625
01:19:37,200 --> 01:19:40,439
Speaker 1: be happy. You'd be happy that you told them wrong. Dude.

1626
01:19:40,439 --> 01:19:42,760
Speaker 1: There was someone that didn't like me and didn't think

1627
01:19:42,760 --> 01:19:44,760
Speaker 1: I was a good fit for their daughter. Said, you're

1628
01:19:44,800 --> 01:19:47,360
Speaker 1: never gonna earn x amount a year? What's up with

1629
01:19:47,479 --> 01:19:50,639
Speaker 1: so many people bring like and guess what, guess what, Kean,

1630
01:19:50,840 --> 01:19:53,599
Speaker 1: I am making that much a year now, So they

1631
01:19:53,640 --> 01:19:54,640
Speaker 1: can go suck it.

1632
01:19:54,880 --> 01:19:57,360
Speaker 2: They can suck it. I hope they see this, I

1633
01:19:57,400 --> 01:20:00,120
Speaker 2: really I think, I yeah, this is this is is

1634
01:20:00,120 --> 01:20:02,320
Speaker 2: this I was gonna say, I.

1635
01:20:02,479 --> 01:20:04,599
Speaker 1: Just trying to out here. I'm just trying to work hard.

1636
01:20:04,760 --> 01:20:06,040
Speaker 1: A lot of people.

1637
01:20:06,080 --> 01:20:07,000
Speaker 2: What do you do back home?

1638
01:20:07,439 --> 01:20:10,479
Speaker 1: This was? This was like in Georgia.

1639
01:20:10,000 --> 01:20:12,360
Speaker 2: I wasn't in Georgia. It seems like a lot of

1640
01:20:12,360 --> 01:20:16,200
Speaker 2: people back home have it out for you. Yeah yeah,

1641
01:20:16,439 --> 01:20:23,439
Speaker 2: but just like op here, I move on. There's nothing

1642
01:20:23,560 --> 01:20:26,360
Speaker 2: more you've said, You've honestly your actions speaked louder than

1643
01:20:26,400 --> 01:20:29,479
Speaker 2: words here. Oh yeah, you got the second highest on

1644
01:20:29,520 --> 01:20:31,360
Speaker 2: the act, or got the highest on the act. You

1645
01:20:31,640 --> 01:20:34,280
Speaker 2: worked hard on it. You showed Ema like you showed

1646
01:20:34,320 --> 01:20:38,040
Speaker 2: them up little easily and you shut her up. You

1647
01:20:38,040 --> 01:20:39,280
Speaker 2: showed her up and you shut her up.

1648
01:20:39,320 --> 01:20:40,439
Speaker 1: Boom.

1649
01:20:40,479 --> 01:20:43,640
Speaker 2: Back to the story, though, My friends admitted that they

1650
01:20:43,680 --> 01:20:46,360
Speaker 2: were confused when they noticed her being aggressive towards me,

1651
01:20:46,840 --> 01:20:50,160
Speaker 2: since I've never been mean towards any of them. Apparently

1652
01:20:50,200 --> 01:20:52,120
Speaker 2: all of us were cutting her off because of the

1653
01:20:52,120 --> 01:20:56,240
Speaker 2: way she treated op Oh, not just them, but yeah,

1654
01:20:56,280 --> 01:20:59,439
Speaker 2: she's like she sucks. They assured me that if they

1655
01:20:59,439 --> 01:21:03,439
Speaker 2: had to pick your emma, they'd pick me one hundred percent. No, yeah, no,

1656
01:21:03,520 --> 01:21:06,960
Speaker 2: doy and that I did nothing wrong. Emma doesn't know

1657
01:21:07,000 --> 01:21:09,200
Speaker 2: she's been cut off yet. We all plan to do

1658
01:21:09,240 --> 01:21:13,040
Speaker 2: it quietly, although I have been contemplating sending these incidents

1659
01:21:13,080 --> 01:21:15,840
Speaker 2: to some of the people I know she'll talk about

1660
01:21:15,880 --> 01:21:19,519
Speaker 2: me too and warning our mutual friends. She did it

1661
01:21:19,520 --> 01:21:21,200
Speaker 2: to me and she'll do it to them too.

1662
01:21:21,640 --> 01:21:22,040
Speaker 1: Hmmmm.

1663
01:21:23,120 --> 01:21:27,080
Speaker 2: Like I said, I said, my piece, Oh yeah, you're

1664
01:21:27,080 --> 01:21:30,120
Speaker 2: off to bigger, better things. You don't eat Emma again,

1665
01:21:31,479 --> 01:21:34,519
Speaker 2: distancing yourself, going no contact. She'll get the picture.

1666
01:21:34,560 --> 01:21:36,320
Speaker 1: They're trying to pull you down. It just means they're

1667
01:21:36,320 --> 01:21:37,120
Speaker 1: below Guess what.

1668
01:21:37,240 --> 01:21:40,639
Speaker 2: I thousand percent know this will happen when you cut

1669
01:21:40,640 --> 01:21:43,400
Speaker 2: her off. She said, come groveling for her. She's like,

1670
01:21:43,680 --> 01:21:46,000
Speaker 2: and where are you? I wanted, like, how's your life?

1671
01:21:46,040 --> 01:21:47,120
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I miss you.

1672
01:21:47,040 --> 01:21:50,439
Speaker 1: You're seeing in a bucket? No, they pulled each other down.

1673
01:21:50,520 --> 01:21:52,840
Speaker 2: Oh oh, I thought that's like a movie. But yeah,

1674
01:21:52,880 --> 01:21:54,920
Speaker 2: like actual crabs. Oh yeah, yeah, I've seen grabs in

1675
01:21:54,920 --> 01:21:58,360
Speaker 2: a bucket. Yeah yeah, and they're like ripping off limbs

1676
01:21:58,439 --> 01:21:58,799
Speaker 2: and stuff.

1677
01:21:58,840 --> 01:22:00,920
Speaker 1: It's kind of crazy, like eight and a look at

1678
01:22:00,960 --> 01:22:02,960
Speaker 1: one time, and like four of them came out dead.

1679
01:22:03,520 --> 01:22:05,920
Speaker 2: Yeah they would, they will, They will do whatever it's

1680
01:22:05,920 --> 01:22:10,200
Speaker 2: fit for survival and wild. Yeah, but like I said

1681
01:22:10,200 --> 01:22:14,360
Speaker 2: I you are onto bigger, better things. You don't need Emma,

1682
01:22:14,560 --> 01:22:17,240
Speaker 2: who is the A hole. You're good, So just move

1683
01:22:17,240 --> 01:22:18,200
Speaker 2: on and that's that's it.

1684
01:22:18,400 --> 01:22:20,240
Speaker 1: That's the end of the story again And if you

1685
01:22:20,280 --> 01:22:21,720
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1686
01:22:21,800 --> 01:22:23,880
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