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Speaker 1: Calling all my sweeties to the forefront.

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Speaker 2: I'm your host, christ and this is to keep it positive, Sweetie.

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Speaker 2: Show welcome to keep it positive, sweetye the place where

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Speaker 2: we he'll grow and learn together.

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Speaker 1: Today's guest is a comedian.

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Speaker 2: Creator and storyteller who has built his voice on truth,

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Speaker 2: using humor to reflect real life in a way that

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Speaker 2: resonates deeply with so many. I am so glad to

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Speaker 2: be sitting with keV on stage. keV on Stage is

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Speaker 2: known for his ability to take everyday moments, relationships, family, faith,

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Speaker 2: and culture and turn them into something both humorous and honest.

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Speaker 2: But beyond the laughter, he's also creating space for deeper conversations.

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Speaker 2: From his serious safe Space to his hit one man

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Speaker 2: show Grief Sucks, he's exploring what it looks like to

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Speaker 2: navigate love, lost, growth in real time without pretending that

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Speaker 2: you have to have it all figured out. Sweetie, please

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Speaker 2: give a very warm welcome to my keV on stay.

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Speaker 3: Praise the Lord, sweeties, Praise the Lord. We're here in

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Speaker 3: the room. We've been trying to make this happen for

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Speaker 3: a long time we have, and you're finally here, finally

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Speaker 3: here here.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited.

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Speaker 3: Great thank you for having me. No, thank you, of course,

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 1: I mean you're not. You don't live in Atlanta, so

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Speaker 1: thank you for.

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Speaker 3: Having in Atlanta. But when I come, I'll be like, man,

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Speaker 3: I should live here. I'm telling you it is so black. Yes,

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Speaker 3: everything black, Everything that's good about being black is here.

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Speaker 1: It is really creative.

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Speaker 3: Is the culture of the community regular black. It ain't

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Speaker 3: just just black people, Southern charm. Traffic I could do without.

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Speaker 3: You know, go out to mcdonna though. Traffic should not

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Speaker 3: go out to make and didn't used to go out

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Speaker 3: to McDonough.

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Speaker 4: But they go out mcdonna though. As far so, that's

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Speaker 4: the lucky I've been telling people. It's worse than LA here.

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Speaker 4: You think, so I do LA in the heart of

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Speaker 4: the city. It makes sense. Atlanta's traffic is further in

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Speaker 4: the hardest. It's like everywhere, and then the little back

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Speaker 4: roads ain't back road. Everybody knows that, lady, so are

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Speaker 4: we Yep, I've been using this for you.

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Speaker 3: Ain't no tricks, ain't no treat.

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Speaker 1: You are right, Yes, you're absolutely right. That's I didn't

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Speaker 1: think that. I feel like since twenty twenty.

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Speaker 4: It's gotten when i've been I come to Atlanta two

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Speaker 4: or three five times a year over the last six

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Speaker 3: It's crazy. And I live in l A. I know,

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Speaker 3: bad trapping. Yeah, Atlanta's worse.

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Speaker 1: Dang Atlanta, get it together.

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Speaker 3: Everybody moving here to chase they.

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Speaker 2: Drink, listen and say that money that money on Mary Camp,

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Speaker 2: thank you so much for coming today.

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Speaker 1: I remember we first officially.

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Speaker 2: I've been a fan of yours before we actually met,

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Speaker 2: but we met on the shops HBCU tour and TSU Yes,

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Speaker 2: And at that moment, I was like, man, he is

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Speaker 1: You meet people you've been a fan, but then can

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Speaker 1: beat me like he died, he said he is.

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Speaker 4: I really appreciate that compliment. I've been getting that compliment

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Speaker 4: a lot. And I work very hard to be who

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Speaker 3: And that doesn't mean I'm perfect like.

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Speaker 4: I but I but I genuinely try to be consistent,

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Speaker 4: you know what I mean. I don't have this like

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Speaker 4: because now you know, we live in a world of authenticity.

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Speaker 4: You if you aren't who you are, they will people

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Speaker 4: will find out anyway. So it's not like we ain't

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Speaker 4: wrestlers in the eighties and like there's too many stories,

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Speaker 4: too many people we act with that we don't know

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Speaker 4: who knows them, especially you. And now you be on set,

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Speaker 4: somebody gonna be on that set that knows somebody else,

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Speaker 3: You so exactly. So I don't.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 3: I don't do that.

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Speaker 1: I try not to do that.

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Speaker 3: That is, I don't do meet and greets. I don't

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Speaker 3: do meet greets for years.

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Speaker 4: But I'm gonna tell you why I stop. I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: tell you exactly why I realized. I always love the people,

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Speaker 4: but I can't keep up the the energy to make

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Speaker 3: If I've just done a show hard, it's hard.

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Speaker 4: I tell people I've been doing this joke on stage,

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Speaker 4: Like imagine you just worked your full shift and then

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Speaker 4: instead of doing that, you gotta shake three hundred hands

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Speaker 3: Three hundred That's the perfect analogy. You'd be like, man

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Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't want to use all my energy

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Speaker 4: because the people pay to see me.

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Speaker 3: You want to give them that, So I can't manage it.

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Speaker 3: So I can only do meet if it's if that's

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because I know, okay, for two hours, three hours,

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Speaker 4: But I just say that because I don't. I'm not

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Speaker 4: But that's really more because I don't want to disappoint

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Speaker 3: I love people. I wouldn't be where I am, wouldn't.

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Speaker 4: Be sitting here without the people, for sure, but I

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Speaker 4: don't want them to be like man, he was kind

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Speaker 4: of like he was tired, because I'm I am tired,

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Speaker 4: and I likely flew overnight to do this, Like here,

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Speaker 4: I took a red out last night.

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Speaker 3: Did you sweep it on plane? Ain't real?

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Speaker 1: It's not real.

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Speaker 3: It ain't real. I ain't got no private with everybody else,

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Speaker 3: so that ain't no bad. It is not. So I

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Speaker 3: just wanted to I'm not perfect, y'all. Don't don't. Don't

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Speaker 1: Nobody is perfect.

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Speaker 2: But you know what, I think comedians are in people's

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Speaker 2: a bad day, or they think that things is like

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Speaker 2: they want you to be on all the time. What

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Speaker 2: kind of pressure does that put on you when you

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Speaker 1: But they won't make me laugh.

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Speaker 4: I don't respond well to make me laugh or tell

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Speaker 4: see no red. No, you come to see me work.

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Speaker 3: I give you my show. But people are often surprised.

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Speaker 3: They'll be like, Liz, I bet you has you cracking

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Speaker 4: No, not really, because at home I don't be like

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Speaker 4: Lizen tell me about the time. So it's like I

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Speaker 4: got to take the trash out watching Love Overboard, like

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Speaker 4: I got to perform for her. But my wife, yeah

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Speaker 3: Tony Beaker or Tony Beker, Patrick Cloud.

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Speaker 4: But like I imagine, you know, like I take the

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Speaker 4: approach that once I leave my house, I am on. Yes,

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Speaker 4: So if I try to have good energy with anybody

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Speaker 3: I'd be at the house.

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Speaker 1: It's a recharge.

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Speaker 3: I recharged.

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Speaker 4: I enjoyed my home, I enjoyed my family. I enjoy

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Speaker 4: just chilling watching YouTube. I'm not like trying jokes out

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Speaker 4: like performative fun exactly that.

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 1: When did you realize that you were funny?

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Speaker 4: I remember very early and I, and not only did

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Speaker 3: And it was very simple. After church, I must have

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Speaker 4: Or six years old, I would mimic what happened in

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Speaker 3: In church was not like that. At home, my grandma.

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Speaker 4: Would be like, do sister Daniel shallcap or whatever Washington do?

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Speaker 4: And I realized when she let me do that, I

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Speaker 4: would like my bed at eight o'clock, it's eight fifteen, Like, if.

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Speaker 4: So I immediately knew I could do something that made

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Speaker 4: So, and it's so interesting that I was just telling

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Speaker 4: I remember we used to have like talent shows and

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Speaker 4: My brother would do like sketches in church, and we

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Speaker 4: And I've just been thinking about how much God puts

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Speaker 3: Luke Tilmeny's little kid. He was on Jenifferunson Show.

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Speaker 3: Does he does preaching it out. Yes, So we did.

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Speaker 4: American Idol invited us last night and he was like

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Speaker 4: the co host, Crystal, there's a we in a set

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Speaker 4: God put that in him early. And thankfully for him,

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Speaker 4: his family is nurturing the gift because I think a

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Speaker 4: lot of times our gift is there, but it's not

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Speaker 4: always nurtured by our family. And sometimes it's not because

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Speaker 4: they don't see it. Yeah, sometimes they just can't. Yes,

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Speaker 4: you know what I mean. But what a gift to

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Speaker 4: from seven eight years old.

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Speaker 3: This is a little kid on Instagram. He's like nine.

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Speaker 4: He's a fashion designer and his family has spent bread. Wow,

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Speaker 4: and he's cutting dresses and style and stuff, and it's like,

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Speaker 4: your gift is there. Yeah, he's a prodigy, but like

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Speaker 4: how many, especially Black people, we often aren't able to

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Speaker 3: You kid in Hollywood, your parents.

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Speaker 4: I couldn't take Isay and them the audition everything by Yeah,

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Speaker 4: We didn't even let me explain. That's the thing that

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Speaker 3: No, no, I want you to listen. Okay, you have

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Speaker 4: I got that little game. You wanted an apology.

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Speaker 2: At what point did you realize that humor wasn't just

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Speaker 3: Yeah, the grief suns the world sun.

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Speaker 4: But you know, we all sit in our driveway after

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Speaker 4: The crazy thing it turned into humor instantly. Really, I

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Speaker 3: It's not the only way.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but jokes come to me the way I imagine

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Speaker 4: but like it's funny, you know. And I remember when

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Speaker 4: I was calling the funeral home. I spoke to this

442
00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:33,080
Speaker 4: lady for like ten minutes. I said, hey, you know,

443
00:20:33,119 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 4: because my first time planning a funeral, said hey, you know,

444
00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,679
Speaker 4: how do you get the body to actually said, my

445
00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:41,520
Speaker 4: name is Kevin, my brother passed aways my first time.

446
00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:44,280
Speaker 4: How do you get the body from the hospital to

447
00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:46,960
Speaker 4: the morgue? And if he wants to get buried somewhere else?

448
00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:49,359
Speaker 4: Do you guys handle this? How do you you know

449
00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:51,800
Speaker 4: who does an autopsy on the body? Answer all these questions?

450
00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:56,160
Speaker 4: And she said, wait, are you the body? I said,

451
00:20:58,359 --> 00:21:01,280
Speaker 4: love body, my brother's body.

452
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:03,000
Speaker 3: Body can be the body if I'm talking to you.

453
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:06,440
Speaker 4: If I'm the body that I'm talking about right now, Dad,

454
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:08,280
Speaker 4: you should start praying.

455
00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:11,040
Speaker 3: Right because I could what that means for you if

456
00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:11,520
Speaker 3: the body is.

457
00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:14,919
Speaker 4: Making its own plans dead and a lot so I

458
00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,719
Speaker 4: made that video out of frustration and it went crazy.

459
00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:20,080
Speaker 3: People are like, I have struggled with that. I said,

460
00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:22,760
Speaker 3: I people in funeral homes to be good at their job.

461
00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:26,639
Speaker 3: If you had Chipota you forgetting my cheese, that's fine. Yeah,

462
00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:29,120
Speaker 3: if you don't know, you put the person that dead

463
00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:31,760
Speaker 3: is alive. The big problem is a big problem.

464
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Speaker 4: So so I think in that way, humor just iss.

465
00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:38,920
Speaker 4: It is my It's part of my process, but it's

466
00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:42,760
Speaker 4: not the only thing. I definitely cried and anger, frustration,

467
00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:43,840
Speaker 4: all the other parts of grief.

468
00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:49,200
Speaker 3: But I think humor is my mechanism for processing anything.

469
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:52,520
Speaker 4: And I definitely have to like keep it at bay

470
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 4: sometimes to make sure because a lot of comedy is timing.

471
00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:58,960
Speaker 3: Sometimes you're too early. People like, hey, it ain't yeah, yeah.

472
00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:04,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wasn't exactly for sure. Grandma would have definitely like, X,

473
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:07,720
Speaker 1: give me a minute exactly.

474
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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, sold out shows, so greefus you've had

475
00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 2: So how does that feel to know?

476
00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:19,119
Speaker 4: Then it's like, believe it or not. I am genuinely

477
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:20,920
Speaker 4: surprised every single time a show.

478
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:21,680
Speaker 1: So that's good.

479
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:25,160
Speaker 4: I am like, because none of this is given right

480
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 4: and you got to stay relevant stay interesting. You can't

481
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 4: control the economy, gas prices, all these things people's.

482
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:34,720
Speaker 1: And people's choices.

483
00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:37,240
Speaker 4: I can't control the things in your life. So to

484
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:40,920
Speaker 4: convince enough people to spend ten dollars thirty dollars, just

485
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:44,360
Speaker 4: start a ticket. And I'm well aware that it's never

486
00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:49,280
Speaker 4: just a ticket. Its ticket parking, babysitter, baby, dinner. Sometimes

487
00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:52,200
Speaker 4: you're flying or driving, so it's gas. Like a thirty

488
00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:54,399
Speaker 4: dollars ticket can cost you four five hundred.

489
00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:59,560
Speaker 3: Dollars off work. Yeah, yeah, everything I got to I

490
00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:00,360
Speaker 3: got to line.

491
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:04,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know. Uh, but.

492
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 4: It is genuinely surprising every time. For whatever reason, I

493
00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 4: always think I'm going to fall off.

494
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,399
Speaker 2: Really, you know, I feel like that may be like

495
00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:15,440
Speaker 2: a great place to kind of sit though, so like

496
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,119
Speaker 2: it shows you like you're not in control.

497
00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:20,520
Speaker 1: Like so every time it's like, you know what you did?

498
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:21,879
Speaker 3: That that's a good point.

499
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:24,119
Speaker 1: I feel like we get too ahead of ourselves.

500
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, because it's not a given, you know what, I

501
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 3: can come to.

502
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:30,320
Speaker 4: Like Atlanta's the city I do well and pretty much

503
00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:34,920
Speaker 4: every time, but that sometimes they jumps out early. Sometimes

504
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 4: it's closer to the end, yeah, sometimes, you know. So

505
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 4: it's it's always a fear of mind to and I

506
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 4: don't sell out every show, and I make it pretty

507
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:48,880
Speaker 4: obvious what I'm doing poorly because it's.

508
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 1: Just part of it.

509
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:50,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, the game.

510
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 4: But I am super grateful that people take their heart

511
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:58,560
Speaker 4: earned money and give it to me to make them laugh.

512
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 3: For an I don't take that for granted.

513
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 4: It's really a blessing to me and a blessing in

514
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 4: them in the in the sense of like entertainment, but

515
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:09,800
Speaker 4: it's not.

516
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 3: It's not guaranteed. You know.

517
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 4: We see artists, musicians, athletes, artists, entertainers canceling tours, canceling

518
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 4: shows because the ticket sales.

519
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's devastating, it is. You know, it's like, what

520
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 3: did I do?

521
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 4: I ain't funny no more, and it ain't to be

522
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:27,960
Speaker 4: all marriad reason maybe you ain't funny no more, maybe

523
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,440
Speaker 4: you ain't connecting. But yeah, it's also gonna be mad.

524
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:35,120
Speaker 4: I ain't got no job, child support up? Yeahs up everything.

525
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 3: Flights or flights out Atlanta crazy right now?

526
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 4: Listen what is happening at down to Hartsville Jackson.

527
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 3: Flights is out with a straight face, down to twelve hundred.

528
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, when for the regular listen.

529
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 3: Twelve hundred dollars for regular seat.

530
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: Thy whole budget for this next business?

531
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 3: I said, what listen, I have a production coming up

532
00:24:58,400 --> 00:24:58,920
Speaker 3: next week.

533
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 4: I had to cut back the amount of cast that

534
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 4: I could fly because I'm like, I can't. We budgeted

535
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 4: fifty a flight.

536
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 1: And that's a lot.

537
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 3: That's a lot that should.

538
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,720
Speaker 4: Be under every city in America for the most part,

539
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 4: if you're out far enough, that should be under budget. Yeah,

540
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:21,520
Speaker 4: Atlanta was like twelve thirteen hundred dollars for main cabin CS.

541
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 1: Crazy.

542
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:24,800
Speaker 4: I'm here in Atlanta by myself because I usually read

543
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 4: my team and it's like, at those prices.

544
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 3: I can't.

545
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 4: I can't afford to do. I got kids. I'm gonna

546
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 4: have two kids in college.

547
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 1: You know.

548
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:35,640
Speaker 3: My son said, Look.

549
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 4: My son ordered STK on on Uber eats STK. He

550
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:44,639
Speaker 4: said STK. I said, can you order that from me?

551
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:50,159
Speaker 4: I said maybe McDonald's, Mike Chick fil A. Then he

552
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 4: gonna say. I said, okay, man, because I was ordering

553
00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 4: it for myself, I said, how do you want your steak?

554
00:25:56,880 --> 00:26:00,879
Speaker 4: He said medium rare? I said medium rare? Why he

555
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 4: was like, you know, the time it travels from there

556
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:05,239
Speaker 4: to hear it cooks up to highlight it.

557
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 2: I said, I've ordered this before.

558
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 4: Hold up the time it travels.

559
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 3: How you even thinking?

560
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:20,159
Speaker 4: And he said, if I want to reheat it and

561
00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:25,800
Speaker 4: then it'll be well, I can't have Well that man,

562
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 4: look at God, because I never even thought to do that.

563
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 4: That never even got to pick dinner. Really once for dinner,

564
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 4: that's not even a question. I got to ask Hamburger Helper, right, Annie,

565
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 4: shut up, it's one of the two gonna be in there,

566
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 4: spaghetti from Thursday on Tuesday. And that man said medium

567
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,399
Speaker 4: rare because it finishes cooking while it sits.

568
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:56,120
Speaker 3: Wow, serve, what a mighty guy.

569
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:59,679
Speaker 1: What do you do? Listen? And that's what you do

570
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 1: it for so your son can order stk on.

571
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 4: And the funny thing about it is I said that

572
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 4: story because they both go to college and they want

573
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:09,919
Speaker 4: to stay at home, and.

574
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 1: They're like, it probably feels good.

575
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:14,919
Speaker 4: You know what, I ain't gonna hold you, Crystal. My

576
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 4: son went on a retreat. My son goes to private

577
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 4: Catholic school and they went on like a little retreat

578
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:23,920
Speaker 4: that was like Christianity based, Like because it's a private

579
00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:26,639
Speaker 4: Catholic school, you don't have to go, but it's like

580
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 4: a tradition and he was he was sharing with us

581
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 4: when he came back. You know, we used to go

582
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,399
Speaker 4: to like little revivals, team retreats. We used to come

583
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 4: back on fire for God, like I'm sorry God. I

584
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 4: was kissing before, I'm not gonna kiss no more. And

585
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 4: I did a little hunchy, but I ain't gonna hunch

586
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:42,640
Speaker 4: at the last locker and I did touch that girl,

587
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 4: but she said I could because that was locker. Was

588
00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,639
Speaker 4: a little bit of sin how I was raised. But

589
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 4: after that retreat, that revival of that team revival, I

590
00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:53,920
Speaker 4: came back on fire. I spoke in tongues God, I'm

591
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,920
Speaker 4: sorry for everything. So it was like the Catholic version

592
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 4: of that would know holy ghost in the sense that

593
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 4: we have. And he gave us the greatest compliment. He

594
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 4: was saying, like, you know, a lot of the kids

595
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 4: were sharing like their parents are abusive, or they are

596
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:12,720
Speaker 4: you know, drunk or not in their life. And he

597
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 4: said when he said he never realized when it was

598
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:20,400
Speaker 4: his turn, he was like, hey, my parents are.

599
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:21,880
Speaker 3: Nice, they are.

600
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:25,159
Speaker 4: You know, and he was like he didn't really like

601
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 4: He's like I knew I had good parents, but I

602
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,200
Speaker 4: never because all these kids were holding all their stuff

603
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 4: in It was like a real like they were all

604
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 4: breaking down their walls and stuff. We had like a

605
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 4: little ceremony where all the kids talked about it.

606
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 3: They crying and stuff. It was crazy. And he was like,

607
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 3: I didn't realize.

608
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 4: How much I appreciated you guys and how easy my

609
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 4: life has been because of what you've done.

610
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 3: And you're not talking about money.

611
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 4: He's talking about love, respect, treating him well, not being abusive.

612
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 4: And he's like, I don't you guys haven't even Yeah,

613
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 4: I never even heard you guys yell at each other.

614
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 4: He's heard us argue, and I think there's a difference.

615
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 4: A lot of times parents try not to have any

616
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 4: conflict in front of the kids.

617
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 3: You got realize how to do everything exactly. You have

618
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 3: to teach them how to even have conflict safely.

619
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 4: I never cussed that melicitia. You never cussed me. I

620
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 4: never threw no play. I don't talk crazy, nurse, she

621
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:15,959
Speaker 4: don't talk crazy to me. But we have had discussions, yes, amen,

622
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 4: in front of our kids, because that's also modeling that

623
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 4: behavior is. So that was the best compliment I was

624
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 4: telling my son. I checked with him a lot, like

625
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 4: how we doing his parents like, I don't want you

626
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 4: all to go therapy. And my oldest son said to

627
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 4: be like two days ago, He's like, you never noticed

628
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 4: how we always want to be at home. Wow, given

629
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 4: the choice to do other things, like we come home.

630
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 4: We didn't go away to college, even we be international,

631
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 4: like we prefer home. He was like, that's the proof

632
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 4: that you guys are doing a good job.

633
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 3: So I think that. I was like, will Smith to this,

634
00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 3: because that's that's eighteen nineteen years of doing the right thing.

635
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 3: You can't you can't just turn it in.

636
00:29:58,640 --> 00:30:01,360
Speaker 4: Ain't no money gonna fix the like kids with money,

637
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 4: that money does not replace time. Like I had to

638
00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 4: go to my son's games. Yes, them soccer games these

639
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 4: last two seasons. Them boys getting blown out on clubs.

640
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 4: We're paying thousand dollars to go. Got y'all get smacked

641
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 4: around in San Diego. Now I got to drive back.

642
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 4: You sleep right and musty, and I got to drive back,

643
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 4: windows down.

644
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:31,800
Speaker 3: I can still smell you. Are your shoes off. Let's

645
00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 3: just stop by this little Marry'll take you a little shout.

646
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 4: Let's spend the night. And I was asking myself. I

647
00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 4: was like, he was like, I was like, have we

648
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 4: went to enough games. He was like, you guys have

649
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:41,840
Speaker 4: been to games my whole life. We're going away games.

650
00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 4: They getting smacked around in soccer, volleyball. His teams have

651
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 4: been losing a lot lately, but we being there, Yeah,

652
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 4: clapping it up because money doesn't replace that.

653
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 3: You can only earn that through time. And we have

654
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 3: spent the time with our.

655
00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 4: Kids to earn their love and respect and all that

656
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:01,480
Speaker 4: type of stuff. I think that might be one of

657
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 4: the things I'm most proud of, is like being a

658
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 4: good father to them. But if I can be honest, Christopher,

659
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:11,959
Speaker 4: they hazel it. Sometimes I was a better father than

660
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 4: a husband, and I was a better father at the

661
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 4: expense of being a good husband without knowing, Yes, because

662
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 4: I didn't have my real dad in my life. Yeah,

663
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 4: so I remember early on like i'n I'm gonna rectify that.

664
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 4: But what that unchecked?

665
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 3: Unchecked?

666
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:30,040
Speaker 4: I made my wife miss out on moments, right, Like,

667
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 4: for example, I travel a lot for work. She doesn't

668
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 4: travel that much. So when I travel for where she

669
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 4: stays at home. They might go to the movies, but

670
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 4: they don't do nothing.

671
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 3: Crazy.

672
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:39,320
Speaker 4: I remember one time, this must have been like ten

673
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 4: years ago, because I've learned. It took a long time.

674
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 4: I learned eighteen years ago. She went out of town

675
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 4: for something. I immediately took the boys to Vegas father

676
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 4: son trip, Mando lay Bay just had a great weekend.

677
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:55,800
Speaker 3: And she's like, why would you? We could have did

678
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:56,719
Speaker 3: that on any weekend.

679
00:31:56,880 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 4: Yes, And in my head, I'm not. I wasn't on purpose,

680
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:03,360
Speaker 4: like excluding her. I was just doing things that I

681
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:07,200
Speaker 4: thought I wish my dad had did for me. Got

682
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 4: our kids a PlayStation. My son's a PlayStation, terrible calf

683
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:16,240
Speaker 4: with a good heart. We agree to get to a PlayStation.

684
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 4: We go give it to them together. She's getting her

685
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 4: hair done. I can't wait, I said, surprised. Send her

686
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 4: the video. I don't see no laughing emojis, no heart.

687
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 4: Why would you do that before I got home? Because

688
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 4: my real dad wasn't in my life. I didn't even know.

689
00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 4: It took me going to therapy to realize. And here's

690
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:39,680
Speaker 4: the other part.

691
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 3: It's dangerous.

692
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 4: If you don't think you're doing bad, you're not aware

693
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 4: of what it looks like to other people. Unchecked, you

694
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:49,880
Speaker 4: can do. You can do hurt and harm with good intentions.

695
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 4: I just want to be a good father. But I realized, oh,

696
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 4: I'm I'm stealing moments from you to make sure I

697
00:32:56,960 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 4: have them. And my therapist, I remember, she was good.

698
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 4: I had a personal therapist, and we had a couple therapists,

699
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 4: and she was like, there's nothing wrong with what you're doing,

700
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 4: but if you're not doing it, if you don't even

701
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 4: know why you're doing it, you're trying to you're trying

702
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 4: to heal yourself, and your kids appreciate that, but you're

703
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,479
Speaker 4: doing at the expense of your wife. And I was like,

704
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 4: oh snap. But luckily for me, I was able to

705
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 4: stop that. You know, ten twelve years and two, and

706
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 4: it wasn't all the time. That was just like a

707
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 4: little period. It's like a little period. First ten years

708
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:28,600
Speaker 4: we were broke, ain't no joy. We're doing everything together

709
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 4: because it's all free. Park picnic, zoo, museum, fairy we

710
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 4: were on a boat, y'all. Yes, because it was free.

711
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 4: We went to Canada, y'all, and we came right back.

712
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 4: You don't know that there was a day trip. We

713
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 4: took the pictures like it was a lot. We came

714
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 4: right back home. But there was a little period. We're

715
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:49,239
Speaker 4: doing a little bit so I could do things, and

716
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 4: in that three to five year period, I did maybe

717
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:55,000
Speaker 4: five ten things like that, and in my mind, I'm like,

718
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 4: I'm doing a good job. And Melissa had to tell me, like, yo,

719
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:01,560
Speaker 4: you're like robbing me of these men. It's unfair. And

720
00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 4: I'm like, ego wise, I'm like nigga great father. She

721
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 4: was like, yeah, but I want to be a great mother.

722
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 4: And more importantly, I would not do that to you,

723
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:12,960
Speaker 4: and I have not done that to you, and I

724
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 4: actually have way more opportunities to do to do that

725
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:18,040
Speaker 4: because you're gone, but I don't do you like that.

726
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:19,240
Speaker 3: And I was like, dang.

727
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:23,080
Speaker 4: So I say all that to say, like, it's so

728
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 4: important to be open to hearing from people, because I

729
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 4: could have went online and you know, my wife tripping

730
00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 4: about this man, women could anybody, and I would have

731
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 4: got the and so I was looking for but it

732
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 4: wasn't the truth, because the truth is she was right

733
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:43,799
Speaker 4: and I was wrong even trying to be right.

734
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 1: Yeah. I love that.

735
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 2: I love that, and I love you and Melissa, she

736
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:51,439
Speaker 2: was supposed to come today.

737
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 3: Melissa, you know what, this is part of the thing.

738
00:34:57,000 --> 00:35:09,520
Speaker 4: She takes the the weight of safety and comfortability so

739
00:35:09,560 --> 00:35:12,440
Speaker 4: that I can do this because the boys, although nineteen

740
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:18,920
Speaker 4: and seventeen, they want a parent around a lot. Remember

741
00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:21,799
Speaker 4: early touring, Melissa used tour with me and we had

742
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,320
Speaker 4: like a babysitter and she would keep them for the weekend,

743
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 4: did this for full year. The second year, my youngest

744
00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:29,719
Speaker 4: was like, we had to go to therapy with him

745
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:31,160
Speaker 4: because it was like affecting him.

746
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:32,800
Speaker 3: And he was like, can at least one of you

747
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 3: guys be home?

748
00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 4: And Melissa was like, I'm out, I am done. I

749
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 4: can do this to this. So that's why I would

750
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 4: say it's our dream because she is taking the weight

751
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 4: of missing out on things like this because she wanted

752
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 4: to come. But you know, it's my son's senior year.

753
00:35:49,120 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 4: He got soccer and driving and all that type of stuff.

754
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 4: And also she just wants to be able to cook

755
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:56,359
Speaker 4: meals so they're not ordering out even though we have

756
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:58,319
Speaker 4: access to those things. She wants to make sure they have,

757
00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 4: like because they'll be like when coming home for the time,

758
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 4: y'all be gone, you know what I'm saying. Like they

759
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 4: love her real nick, you know what I'm saying. Even

760
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 4: though my oldiest want to know for us to be home,

761
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 4: for him to be out till three, four, five in

762
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 4: the morning, but he wants us to.

763
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:13,480
Speaker 1: Be Oh, Christy, I remember you talking about that.

764
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,799
Speaker 4: Oh never nothing. We go to the family dinner, get

765
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,400
Speaker 4: home ten thirty. He's all right, see y'all later, what

766
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 4: are you doing to stay home?

767
00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 3: Love us?

768
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 4: But she takes those moments so that I can do

769
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:31,319
Speaker 4: this for myself, for us, and so the boys have

770
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 4: some semblance of tradition.

771
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 3: You know.

772
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 4: She doesn't do it all the time, but she does

773
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,400
Speaker 4: it a lot of the times. So we're slowly easing

774
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:40,800
Speaker 4: out of that as they are both be in college

775
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 4: this fall, and even though they'll be at home, it's like, okay, now, now,

776
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 4: hey you eighteen and twenty.

777
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 2: Yes, mama, I got to have a life.

778
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:56,399
Speaker 4: I got to go down to keep it positive because

779
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 4: I'm gonna be her armor bear when she comes down here.

780
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 4: But I love I love traveling with her, and she

781
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:03,399
Speaker 4: comes a lot. But she also had and sometimes it's

782
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,759
Speaker 4: just like she has her own podcasts, she has her

783
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 4: own things to shoot. That's something else I had to learn, Crystal. Yeah,

784
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 4: come on key, I wanted to kept a woman. I

785
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 4: did not realize it because I didn't have enough money

786
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 4: to keep her early.

787
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 3: She made more than me. I was kept, so I

788
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:21,479
Speaker 3: kept care.

789
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 4: I did not realize internally I always wanted to kept

790
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:27,800
Speaker 4: a woman. Yeah, but I did not marry a kept woman.

791
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 4: I married a girl who was ambitious, independent, had her

792
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 4: own money, had her own job always, and I love

793
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 4: those qualities.

794
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 3: But low key.

795
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 4: I always when I started getting little bread, I'm like,

796
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 4: why you ain't got to work? What she had the

797
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:42,600
Speaker 4: big cab have that little little aerospace job, Like, I

798
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 4: ain't got it.

799
00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 3: You do what's going to work?

800
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,799
Speaker 4: She liked her job, she was good at her job,

801
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 4: She had work friends, She enjoyed her own things, you

802
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:52,600
Speaker 4: know what I mean.

803
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 3: She had those things.

804
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 4: And I remember when she started her podcast way back

805
00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:57,320
Speaker 4: with her Homegirl.

806
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:58,640
Speaker 3: I remember coming home off.

807
00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 4: The road, want her to be at the door pod

808
00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:05,960
Speaker 4: roast because I'm a man and I'm went and sold

809
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 4: out these three shows. I want steak and potatoes on

810
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:10,399
Speaker 4: the table when I get home.

811
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 3: I came home.

812
00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:15,040
Speaker 4: This girl ain't ain't no fool. I don't spell nothing

813
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 4: but but but recording equipment Henson. She in the back

814
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 4: room shooting her podcast. I said, I want potatoes, and.

815
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 3: Your life is your life. My life is my life.

816
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:32,800
Speaker 3: And then there's our life.

817
00:38:33,239 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 4: I can't dominate your life and make you do everything

818
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:38,800
Speaker 4: that I want to do, because then you have no life,

819
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 4: and it's unfair to impress my hopes.

820
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 3: Dreams for you. I have to work within what you

821
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 3: want for your own life because you you've you've.

822
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:51,280
Speaker 4: We've committed ourselves to each other, but not our entire

823
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 4: everything like you you know, I don't. And and and

824
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:59,879
Speaker 4: resentment is one of the key tendants to divorce. Yes,

825
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 4: like and resentment is small, It's in the back, and

826
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 4: it gnaws on you.

827
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 3: It's like an erosion thing.

828
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:08,239
Speaker 4: It's like he gets to do his thing. I can't

829
00:39:08,280 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 4: do my thing. I'm always with the kids. You hearing

830
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:12,840
Speaker 4: them Michelle Obama, Like you always get little things like

831
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 4: you go to gym whenever you want, you know, things

832
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 4: like that. So I had to realize I'm trying to

833
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 4: craft her into the perfect woman for me and not

834
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:24,800
Speaker 4: allowing her to be the woman who lives her own life.

835
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 4: And that means sometimes she's not going to come with me.

836
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,280
Speaker 4: Sometimes she won't be at my show. I was holding

837
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 4: her to a low ki crystal, and I'm talking a lot.

838
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:32,839
Speaker 1: I love it.

839
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 3: Therapy made me realize I was.

840
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 4: Trying to replace my childhood where my parents weren't there

841
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:44,439
Speaker 4: with my wife in my adult life. Yes, I want

842
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 4: because Loki, my Melissa as my girlfriend, went to more

843
00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 4: basketball games in my high school last two years than

844
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 4: anybody in my family. My parents were at work or

845
00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 4: they just didn't come, you know, my brother's sister.

846
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 3: At school doing their own thing. But Melissa was in there.

847
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I look into the crowd, I'm seeing her

848
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 4: and it stands. So now I want you to be

849
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 4: at every show. And she was like I heard these jokes,

850
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 4: like She's like, I don't want to always like I

851
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 4: got stuff to do, you know what I'm saying. So

852
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 4: I had to again in therapy I found out I said,

853
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 4: I'm putting an unfair wait on you to.

854
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 3: Be my mom and dad and my real dad.

855
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:26,279
Speaker 4: You a fully realize adult who has her own idea

856
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:29,080
Speaker 4: of what that day should look like. So that sometimes

857
00:40:29,120 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 4: means that she's not there. So I appreciate her more

858
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:36,600
Speaker 4: when she is there, and and sometimes she has her

859
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 4: own thing and I support her, you know what I mean.

860
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 3: She gets booked to speak or whatever, I'll come out

861
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 3: to her her social media. I'm her armor bearer. But

862
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:44,320
Speaker 3: I can't be. I can't.

863
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 4: I can't require that for her, for me, for everything

864
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:49,680
Speaker 4: right and have her be happy.

865
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 1: Yes, exactly that.

866
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:52,680
Speaker 2: I love that, and I love that you all were

867
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:56,759
Speaker 2: able to communicate, even from parenting to relationship with what

868
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 2: you need as individuals.

869
00:40:58,560 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 1: That is so important.

870
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:04,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, twenty two years married, it'll be twenty two years

871
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 4: in Jane.

872
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, twenty seven years told? Is that correct? Yeah? We

873
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:11,760
Speaker 3: started doing no twenty six years told. I'm sorry.

874
00:41:11,800 --> 00:41:12,240
Speaker 1: Wow.

875
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:17,319
Speaker 4: And in that time she's changed, and I've changed every

876
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:18,280
Speaker 4: two or three years.

877
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:22,439
Speaker 2: Let's talk about evolution, like, oh my god, because people

878
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 2: thinking who are you now?

879
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:25,960
Speaker 1: Like you're gonna continue to evolve?

880
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:30,759
Speaker 3: Think about it like who you were at sixteen? What

881
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 3: you knew, what you thought you? Yeah, right, that's where

882
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 3: we started.

883
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:36,759
Speaker 4: We didn't even know what we didn't know, ain't paid

884
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 4: a bill, I know how to be on my own.

885
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, right, sixteen?

886
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 4: So at sixteen living in their parents' house, no car,

887
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 4: no job, full time job, no responsibilities, college Melissa, And

888
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 4: these are just the big ones.

889
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:56,400
Speaker 3: These are not the small things. I'm just talking about.

890
00:41:57,040 --> 00:42:00,120
Speaker 4: When I first met her, she just finished puberty. Who

891
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:02,360
Speaker 4: were three years prior I met her? At sixteen puberty

892
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 4: what twelve thirteen.

893
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 3: Maybe up to fifteen sixteen?

894
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:07,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, still growing, not even as tall as she's supposed

895
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:11,920
Speaker 4: to be. Sixteen eighteen, we're in college. We get married

896
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 4: after our junior year of college. Wow. So now this

897
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 4: is married Melissa, right, who is a church girl who

898
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 4: only knows purity culture and what her mom taught her

899
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:24,000
Speaker 4: and what her pastors in first lead said, she hasn't

900
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:26,760
Speaker 4: you know at that age, we haven't had our own thoughts.

901
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 4: These are just the thoughts that were impressed upon us.

902
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 4: Then there's out of college Melissa, but married right. I

903
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 4: was the first person she lived with that wasn't you

904
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 4: know related to she was virgin. We got married first

905
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:48,600
Speaker 4: pen only pen amen, amen, shout out right. Now now

906
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:52,280
Speaker 4: there's Melissa the mother, right, we get she gets pregnant.

907
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 4: We're twenty three the mother now, mind you, Melissa was

908
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 4: a very career oriented woman.

909
00:42:57,600 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 3: I won't say that she didn't wantkids.

910
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 4: Because it wasn't that, but yeah, her dreams were like

911
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:02,279
Speaker 4: I want to go on Wall Street. I want to

912
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:04,320
Speaker 4: wear pencil skirt, have a briefcase, Like I want to

913
00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 4: be a lawyer, want to be a banker.

914
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 3: So now she's a mother. So now she's realized, oh

915
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 3: d my desires are changing.

916
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:14,720
Speaker 4: Now I desire to be a mother, like it's important

917
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:16,400
Speaker 4: for me to, you know, scrap book things like that.

918
00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 3: So zero kids, one kid's big change. One kid to

919
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 3: two kids, big change. Her parents got divorced.

920
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 4: That had a tremendous impact on us, on her because

921
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 4: she idolized that relationship. So now if my parents got divorced,

922
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 4: well that means anybody can get divorced.

923
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 3: R my parents, who were both saved in the church,

924
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 3: they got divorced.

925
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, easily, Kevin and I can get divorced.

926
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 2: That wasn't a thought, right now that's the reality that

927
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 2: it could.

928
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 3: Yes.

929
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 4: Then there's Kevin, the husband who I had always had

930
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 4: a job, kept a job.

931
00:43:56,600 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 3: That's one of the things she loved about me.

932
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 4: Now Kevin wants to be something more or I don't

933
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 4: really know how to do that, so I end up

934
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:03,800
Speaker 4: getting fired.

935
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 3: So now wait, hold up, you fired?

936
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:09,200
Speaker 4: And then I'm telling her, low key, I kind of

937
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:11,920
Speaker 4: want to do comedy for a living right from Tacoma.

938
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 4: That ain't even possible, right, like, and it really wasn't

939
00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 4: to her credit, I believe.

940
00:44:18,080 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 3: So now you got to stay at home husband. Yeah,

941
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 3: and with a huge ego that she was careful to manage.

942
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:29,319
Speaker 4: You know then I you know, I'm telling her I

943
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 4: want to move to La.

944
00:44:30,239 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 3: Later.

945
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:35,240
Speaker 4: Then there's Melissa, the new family in LA with no bread.

946
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,399
Speaker 4: We both worked at boring part of that when kids

947
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:39,279
Speaker 4: were in private school. There was eight kids in my

948
00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:42,919
Speaker 4: son's school and iPads like we were killing it, both

949
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:46,360
Speaker 4: making sixty grand a year to us. We over one

950
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 4: hundred grand as a household. Broke boy talking about these planes.

951
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:52,080
Speaker 4: We with the plane.

952
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 3: People, we out here with the plane. You feel me.

953
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 3: I gotta badge into my job. You just walking here.

954
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 3: He's a walker. I got a five.

955
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 4: I got a bad Listen had government clearance at her job,

956
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 4: security clearance. So that was a vision fresh and La,

957
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:14,720
Speaker 4: no money, married to a dreamer, and it ain't clicking

958
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:16,279
Speaker 4: right now.

959
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 3: I'm owe me twenty five dollars for acting.

960
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:20,759
Speaker 1: I need that run it.

961
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 3: I need that twenty five. You said Friday, which is Friday.

962
00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 3: I don't got no gas. Where's the twenty five?

963
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: Which is why you pay people on time today?

964
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 4: This is why I don't want nobody patting their pockets

965
00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:34,560
Speaker 4: for me.

966
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:37,800
Speaker 3: And here's the thing, I'm struggling because my company's growing.

967
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 4: I always pay people on time because I was selling

968
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 4: them cash up and them my finance team business managers.

969
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,560
Speaker 3: Like stop, hey man, you can't do that.

970
00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 4: No, But the thing is they're they're growing and big

971
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 4: company running payroll. There's things out of my control. But

972
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:57,280
Speaker 4: if they go on TikTok, they're not gonna say Kev's

973
00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 4: finance team transpots a number. It's gonna be keV on stage.

974
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:02,760
Speaker 3: Pay me. But that parts now.

975
00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:04,800
Speaker 1: Out of my control because you're a business.

976
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 3: Because now I'm a business, and I don't I don't

977
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:08,440
Speaker 3: want to get out of it. Yeah, you know.

978
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 4: My exactess manager was like, it's not a if you

979
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 4: get out of it when it's when, yeah, and what

980
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 4: the penalty is going to be.

981
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 3: So now I can't like my toes are like this

982
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:18,839
Speaker 3: because this person's check is late.

983
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 4: Because I remember twenty five, like I literally know. My

984
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 4: kids are like, where's wet? No pre seilings, and I'm

985
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:26,360
Speaker 4: like that twenty five is supposed to be here today.

986
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 4: I was going to get there suons. I had, y'all,

987
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:31,840
Speaker 4: but they didn't get me my twenty five, you know,

988
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 4: And it was never that bad, but it was closed,

989
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 4: like I need all my bread and still.

990
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 3: Nothing can be leid. So there's keV at that point.

991
00:46:41,120 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 4: Then there's keV at All Deaf, And then there's a

992
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 4: realization that when we started working together in this part

993
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 4: of the pandemic, she enjoyed her job. When I worked

994
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 4: at All Deaf and she worked at her aerospace company,

995
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:53,440
Speaker 4: we could come home and.

996
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:56,839
Speaker 3: Talk about our days. Yes, when we work together, we're

997
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:57,719
Speaker 3: having the same day.

998
00:46:57,920 --> 00:46:58,959
Speaker 1: It's nothing to talk about.

999
00:46:59,239 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 4: There's so now we're like, hey, why we ain't really

1000
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:04,319
Speaker 4: connect him because we've been in the house all day

1001
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 4: and that's just you know, the pandemic exacerbates that to

1002
00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 4: the nth degree, Like okay, it's not even on the road. Yeah,

1003
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 4: why is he going in this office and closing the

1004
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:14,720
Speaker 4: door and watching TV?

1005
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:17,879
Speaker 3: And the boys are in their room watching TV. And

1006
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 3: we didn't realize.

1007
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 4: And she used to go get her hair done and

1008
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 4: get her nails done and stuff like that, and she realized, Oh,

1009
00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:23,439
Speaker 4: that was my me time.

1010
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 3: Now we don't have that.

1011
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:26,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, why do I feel weird that we're at home?

1012
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 4: We don't feel like we're at home. So I say,

1013
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 4: it's like I had a cell phone, you know, you

1014
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 4: probably did for twenty years. Think about the cell phone

1015
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:37,839
Speaker 4: you had, your first Nokia properly yep, with the little snake,

1016
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:40,959
Speaker 4: And think about the iPhone you have probably right now.

1017
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 4: Imagine if you went from that phone to the iPhone

1018
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 4: with nothing in between. Wow, And that's what happens in marriage. Yeah,

1019
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:51,839
Speaker 4: you gotta every phone, every update, You gotta learn this

1020
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:54,440
Speaker 4: new and just iPhone enough headphone jack o, dang, I

1021
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:55,880
Speaker 4: ain't got that, and I gotta get air pods. Now

1022
00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 4: I gotta charge this now this thing used to not

1023
00:47:58,040 --> 00:47:59,839
Speaker 4: be there, but from the Nokia Snake when.

1024
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 3: We used to out of dating to the iPhone seventeen.

1025
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, if I wasn't up to date on every and

1026
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:06,759
Speaker 4: think about how little the changes feel at the.

1027
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:09,400
Speaker 3: Time, it's just like, oh, dang, man, Yeah.

1028
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:11,560
Speaker 4: I used to be we used to take pictures. They

1029
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 4: used to be grainy, all that stuff. Now you can shoot.

1030
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:16,720
Speaker 4: There's a new app you can do a shot recorder.

1031
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 2: I just saw that black owed to man. I saw

1032
00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:22,880
Speaker 2: that that didn't exist, yeah.

1033
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:23,400
Speaker 3: Two weeks ago. Right.

1034
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:26,120
Speaker 4: So that's what I use as an example, is like

1035
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:28,839
Speaker 4: being married is like being up to date on your

1036
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 4: cell phone at all. Reading the terms of conditions learning

1037
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 4: how to use it at all times. You can't skip

1038
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 4: two or three phones. You definitely can't skip five or

1039
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 4: ten years. And a lot of times I think what

1040
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,600
Speaker 4: happens to people don't realize they haven't been paying attention.

1041
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:43,320
Speaker 4: And that's how I think. You look at a person

1042
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:46,280
Speaker 4: you recognize. I recognize the cell phone, but I actually

1043
00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 4: don't know how to use it. Yeah, it's like, this

1044
00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 4: is not an Android disc But but one time I

1045
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:57,239
Speaker 4: did a gig and they gave me a free Android

1046
00:48:57,480 --> 00:49:00,120
Speaker 4: like a phone to use, and I couldn't. It's not

1047
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:01,719
Speaker 4: that I couldn't use it, but it just felt so

1048
00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:05,759
Speaker 4: foreign because I haven't had an Android in years, and

1049
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:08,640
Speaker 4: I was like, wow, this feels really uncomfortable. But this

1050
00:49:08,719 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 4: feels like a phone. I know what a phone looks like,

1051
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 4: but I can't.

1052
00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:13,400
Speaker 3: How do you call it? How do you text?

1053
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:16,240
Speaker 4: I said, I can't do that, and I imagine Android

1054
00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:18,839
Speaker 4: iPhone the same thing. I'm not dissing, y'all. I don't

1055
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:22,879
Speaker 4: dis no more because my Android app uses and they

1056
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:25,440
Speaker 4: don't play listen. But I feel like that's what happens

1057
00:49:25,440 --> 00:49:27,960
Speaker 4: in a relationship. It just feels starts to feel foreign

1058
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 4: even though it looks familiar.

1059
00:49:29,160 --> 00:49:30,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh I killed that.

1060
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 1: You did, y'all give it?

1061
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 3: Clip it.

1062
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:35,879
Speaker 1: That was so good. That's a whole teaser right there.

1063
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 4: But I think people say marriage is work. They think

1064
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:42,040
Speaker 4: it means like hard. I hate It's not that. It's

1065
00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:45,120
Speaker 4: just like it's like gardening. Yes, you got to go

1066
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 4: out there until it and water it, protect it from

1067
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:50,919
Speaker 4: the sun. You gotta nurture it. And that's the work.

1068
00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 4: It's not. It's not like breaking rocks. But it's also

1069
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 4: you can't leave a garden unattended for weeks and months

1070
00:49:57,040 --> 00:49:57,960
Speaker 4: and expected.

1071
00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 3: To bear good fruit. You have to pay it.

1072
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 4: Good gardeners are out there every day, pulling bugs off,

1073
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:06,240
Speaker 4: whatever it takes to make sure this is always bearing

1074
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 4: good fruit. And that marriage is like a continual garden.

1075
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:10,480
Speaker 4: It's like working out and eating right.

1076
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 3: You can't.

1077
00:50:12,280 --> 00:50:14,839
Speaker 4: If you stop working out and eating right, the work

1078
00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:18,879
Speaker 4: also stops. You start getting back. It's the same thing.

1079
00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:23,640
Speaker 3: But I enjoy the fruit of this work, so.

1080
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 4: I don't mind doing it because although it's hard and

1081
00:50:26,920 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 4: you know, you know, tough, the benefits are amazing.

1082
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:32,160
Speaker 3: I can't imagine.

1083
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:36,200
Speaker 4: I can't imagine trying to date right now, but what

1084
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:37,040
Speaker 4: I see from people.

1085
00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:40,879
Speaker 3: It looks like the Thriller music video. That's what y'all.

1086
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 3: The way y'all talk you talk about. I mean, it

1087
00:50:44,520 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 3: seems scary out there.

1088
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:50,640
Speaker 4: I don't it's like zombie apocalypse, Like I don't want

1089
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:51,840
Speaker 4: to be out there with y'all.

1090
00:50:52,400 --> 00:50:57,520
Speaker 3: I like my house, you're.

1091
00:50:57,360 --> 00:50:58,120
Speaker 1: Gonna be running back.

1092
00:51:00,200 --> 00:51:01,520
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I'm coming on.

1093
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:09,520
Speaker 1: This has been amazing. Seriously, we gotta do this more often.

1094
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:14,399
Speaker 4: Melissa this Yeah, Melissa for sure wants to come back.

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00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 4: We'll be back in Atlanta two or three times in

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00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:20,319
Speaker 4: this month. Okay, so to have her next time, we can,

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Speaker 4: but thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely.

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00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:24,800
Speaker 4: Also, let me give you your flowers while we're here.

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00:51:25,520 --> 00:51:29,239
Speaker 4: You are so talented as a as a person. You

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00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:31,680
Speaker 4: read that Bible on your Instagram stories. You either really

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00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 4: read it or you spend so much time thinking you

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00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:33,879
Speaker 4: might as.

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00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 3: Well have read read you. You're so photogenic and fashion forward.

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00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 4: I'd be like your pos is being listen look, and

1106
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 4: she'd be like that, Crystal Rene done it again.

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00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 3: She went down to Paris and she did it again.

1108
00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 4: But more importantly, your personality and your spirit is as

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00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 4: warm as you come across on screen in person, just

1110
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 4: like you said about me, it's true about you. Sometimes

1111
00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:01,360
Speaker 4: that is a facade. Sometimes the actor is is acting

1112
00:52:01,400 --> 00:52:05,480
Speaker 4: all the other time and Christal Renee is the character.

1113
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:08,399
Speaker 3: But you have the same character from the moment I.

1114
00:52:08,360 --> 00:52:10,960
Speaker 4: Met you at t s U to BT when you

1115
00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:13,920
Speaker 4: thought I said you was eating ham, I.

1116
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:22,400
Speaker 1: Said, you said, I said Lamb. I said, yeah, the

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00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 1: precious Lamb.

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00:52:24,920 --> 00:52:26,560
Speaker 3: But I love the community you built.

1119
00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 4: I love this this uh, this this podcast, and I

1120
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:31,680
Speaker 4: know that there's this. You created a space for women

1121
00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:34,759
Speaker 4: who need it, people who need it, and your team

1122
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:37,640
Speaker 4: has been amazing as well. Everybody was very kind, and

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00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:38,760
Speaker 4: it's it's You're just great.

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00:52:39,120 --> 00:52:42,080
Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you.

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00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:43,439
Speaker 1: That means a lot coming from you.

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00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you.

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00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:47,480
Speaker 2: Before we leave, is there anything that our community can

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00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 2: support you on.

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00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:51,480
Speaker 3: Yes, that we got coming up.

1130
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 4: There's no dates yet, but just follow me kem on stage.

1131
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 4: Everything I can talk about or I want to tell

1132
00:52:57,760 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 4: you about, just follow me out.

1133
00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:00,760
Speaker 3: I'll talk about it. Greef Sucks.

1134
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:08,040
Speaker 4: Larger tour coming this summer into the fall. Watch me

1135
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 4: on to B. I've got some stuff on to B

1136
00:53:10,239 --> 00:53:12,640
Speaker 4: that's out and some more will be coming out soon.

1137
00:53:12,880 --> 00:53:14,120
Speaker 4: I don't know the day, so I don't want to

1138
00:53:14,280 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 4: you know, just follow me, yes, Kep on stage. If

1139
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:19,239
Speaker 4: you follow me, you'll you'll I'll be able to tell you.

1140
00:53:19,280 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 2: Okay, awesome, thank you so much before we get out

1141
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,680
Speaker 2: of here. Are thinking for this season, we're leaning more

1142
00:53:24,719 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 2: into being unapologetic. So I want to know what is

1143
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:30,799
Speaker 2: keV being unapologetic about in this season of his life.

1144
00:53:30,880 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 3: Oh, that's a great question.

1145
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:40,480
Speaker 4: I am being unapologetically mean, and I think that means

1146
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:45,440
Speaker 4: I am finally accepting that you might not like me

1147
00:53:45,680 --> 00:53:48,680
Speaker 4: or what I say. And I'm okay with that because

1148
00:53:48,719 --> 00:53:52,000
Speaker 4: earlier in my life and earlier my content career career,

1149
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:55,400
Speaker 4: I was I was trying to make every single person

1150
00:53:55,440 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 4: happy and that was not.

1151
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:00,359
Speaker 3: Entertainable thing.

1152
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 4: So now I am realizing to be myself, I have

1153
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:07,839
Speaker 4: to accept that some people won't like that, and they'll

1154
00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 4: vocalize that, and they'll thread about it and tweet about

1155
00:54:11,080 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 4: it and TikTok about it. And also, like, at my

1156
00:54:13,719 --> 00:54:20,600
Speaker 4: level of awareness, it's advantageous for people to talk about

1157
00:54:20,600 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 4: me negatively because your video or your thread or tweet

1158
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:28,600
Speaker 4: or podcasts it will often do well. I don't like that.

1159
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:32,160
Speaker 4: I really hate that, but there's nothing I can do

1160
00:54:33,040 --> 00:54:38,360
Speaker 4: about that. And I certainly won't try to appease millions

1161
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:40,400
Speaker 4: of people because that have millions of followers who actually

1162
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 4: like me, multiple millions of people who don't follow me

1163
00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:46,040
Speaker 4: and may not like me, So I can't control all

1164
00:54:46,040 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 4: those variable I think it comes from a control. And

1165
00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:50,439
Speaker 4: as a comedian, if you have a thousand people laughing

1166
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:53,320
Speaker 4: but to not laughing, you focus on those two.

1167
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:59,239
Speaker 3: You perform live, you want to hit everybody. Yes I'm

1168
00:54:59,360 --> 00:54:59,959
Speaker 3: killing right.

1169
00:54:59,880 --> 00:55:02,920
Speaker 4: Now, and you just can't do that, and you'll be

1170
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:06,040
Speaker 4: racking your brain trying to. So I be having to

1171
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:08,839
Speaker 4: be quiet, and you know, meaningless. Have realized the other

1172
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:12,399
Speaker 4: week this phrase that we came up with, like not

1173
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:15,680
Speaker 4: saying anything is not the same as having nothing to say.

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00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:18,440
Speaker 3: I often choose not to say.

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00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 1: That's good.

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00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:21,560
Speaker 4: Sometimes I just don't say anything because I know if

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00:55:21,600 --> 00:55:24,560
Speaker 4: I address a thing, it's just gonna magnify it.

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00:55:24,640 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 1: Can't give everything energy.

1179
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:27,600
Speaker 4: Don't mean it, don't mean I aven't seeing it, don't

1180
00:55:27,640 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 4: mean I don't have thoughts. But my thoughts are for

1181
00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:32,400
Speaker 4: my family and friends and maybe sometimes even my actual

1182
00:55:32,440 --> 00:55:37,279
Speaker 4: audience who cares. But I'm also not gonna give negativity

1183
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:40,920
Speaker 4: what they want, which is more visibility. You're gonna die

1184
00:55:40,960 --> 00:55:43,600
Speaker 4: on that vine. I'm not gonna tell that guarded. Yes,

1185
00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:45,200
Speaker 4: you're gonna have to You're gonna have to keep the

1186
00:55:45,200 --> 00:55:48,600
Speaker 4: hate training. I ain't gonna help you talk about me,

1187
00:55:49,200 --> 00:55:49,880
Speaker 4: absolutely not.

1188
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Speaker 3: Thank you very much so much.

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Speaker 2: You know what says with me from this conversation is

1190
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 2: a reminder that growth doesn't always look like clarity. Sometimes

1191
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:08,720
Speaker 2: it looks like showing up honestly, even while you're still processing. Kevin,

1192
00:56:08,800 --> 00:56:11,759
Speaker 2: want to thank you for your honesty, your perspective, and

1193
00:56:11,840 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 2: willingness to hold both humor and heaviness at the same time,

1194
00:56:15,640 --> 00:56:19,399
Speaker 2: because sometimes healing isn't about having the right words, It's

1195
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:20,760
Speaker 2: about being present.

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00:56:20,840 --> 00:56:24,400
Speaker 1: Being real, and align yourself to keep going. Thank you

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00:56:24,480 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 1: so much for tuning in. Be sure to subscribe, share this.

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Speaker 2: Episode with someone who needs it, and if you ever

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00:56:29,719 --> 00:56:32,839
Speaker 2: need advice, positivity, or want to share what you're going through,

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00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:36,520
Speaker 2: email us at Keep it Positive Outcomes at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: It's always stay blessed, stay encouraged, and keep you positive.

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Speaker 2: Dy.

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Speaker 1: I'll see you guys next time.