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Speaker 2: Here we go three two one. Hi everybody, I'm Joe Gatta,

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Speaker 2: one of the Two Cool Moms, and sitting beside me

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Speaker 2: is Steve Vernon.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Steve vern is here. Welcome to another episode of Two.

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Speaker 2: Cool Moms podcast where we help you and you don't

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Speaker 2: need it by two guys who are.

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Speaker 1: In no position whatsoever. Oh, you look fresh and clean.

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Speaker 1: You're fresh off of two day cut.

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Speaker 3: Excuse me?

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Speaker 1: How old is that cut? Two days?

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Speaker 3: This cut cuts probably three three weeks.

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Speaker 2: That's not a three week Oh, so you'll let her go.

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Speaker 2: I see what happened. You get a nice swoops ski

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Speaker 2: when it's a little.

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Speaker 3: Bit longer up top. I love it. I love it,

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Speaker 3: a nice swoops ski. Here's the thing when you get

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Speaker 3: older right. Yeah, you know, every time I go, I'm like, boy,

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Speaker 3: I feel like I feel like my like it's getting bigger.

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Speaker 3: My forehead is getting bigger. We're gonna We're gonna premiere

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Speaker 3: this episode on my forehead.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's good. It's a screening room. You can just

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Speaker 2: go to home, your son a projector for the holiday.

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Speaker 3: Well, when they give you the squirts, they give you

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Speaker 3: the skirts, they wet it down, they smock it left right,

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Speaker 3: and you're like, whoa wait what and this just happened.

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Speaker 1: But it's not. It's gradual, right, It's always gradual.

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Speaker 3: But but then I look in the mirror, I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I had a good run.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. My my haadline was always doing creeping like creep.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I kept moving back since thirty four, says thirty.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you were just you were just moonwalking walking it back.

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Speaker 1: You wait, struck bat a bald and criminal.

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Speaker 3: So you had it you you had a full, nice,

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Speaker 3: thick headed.

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Speaker 1: Oh what locks this young this young buck.

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Speaker 3: Had yeah, Jean Italian, Italian, you guys thick dark hair.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I got the Saint Francis of ASSISSI. I got

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Speaker 2: the bold spot in the back there, okay, which is

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Speaker 2: a lot of fun. I think I've hit where I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna end up, though, I think this is pretty much

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Speaker 2: it is it?

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Speaker 3: You staved on?

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Speaker 1: I think I I think I've leveled out around.

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Speaker 3: Forty You're like like Billy crystalish. Yeah, is that for

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Speaker 3: her to say?

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Speaker 1: That's fair?

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Speaker 3: Billy Crystals just stopped at a certain point. It's like,

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Speaker 3: all right, that's the d that's it. Like Steve Martin

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Speaker 3: did it right, he was he had white hair in

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Speaker 3: his thirties. Oh, that's amazing. And he's been aged, he's

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Speaker 3: been he's been seventy for literally forty years.

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Speaker 1: Amazing, Right.

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Speaker 2: I got the whites though that I get the I

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Speaker 2: get the grays in the whites. My uncle's in my

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Speaker 2: family line, like my grandmother, my grandfather on my mom's side,

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Speaker 1: Well, was a white line in my uncles are. They

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Speaker 1: had that really white hair, you know, not like gray

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Speaker 1: like white. So I think I got a mix of that.

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Speaker 2: I got like salt and pepper here, you know, off

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Speaker 2: top a lot of nineties Pops references, But I do

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Speaker 2: have like the salt and pepper. But I've had that

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Speaker 2: since like thirty seven's thirty seven?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, around you were going great thirty seven about there. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: At a point where it's like, oh am I gonna

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Speaker 2: die And I was like, no, I'm not gonna wait

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Speaker 2: what Yeah, I was like thinking should I diet because

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Speaker 3: But you were were you locked.

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Speaker 1: Down by then?

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Speaker 3: Kind of like dating like certified me and you were good? Then?

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Speaker 1: No, Well I got a little I got a little

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Speaker 1: speckles before. Yeah, I was out there with this.

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Speaker 3: But she loves you for you, Like it's one thing

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Speaker 3: to be on the market, right.

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Speaker 1: Because another thing for being expired on the market. You're

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Speaker 1: expired milk carton throwing in the blue crate. I could

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Speaker 1: be a yogat. There's still a life to me. I'm kerdeled.

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Speaker 3: Let me ask you this.

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Speaker 1: You're you're father?

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Speaker 2: Was he and my father's exact hairdo and hair and well,

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Speaker 1: I knew it was kind of surprise.

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Speaker 3: It was a mirror.

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Speaker 1: I was looking at the man in the mirror. Try

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Speaker 1: to stop me. You can't, you can't. Can you didn't

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Speaker 1: make that change? Now I did it? I did right there.

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Speaker 2: I got the same belly and same hairline as my father,

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Speaker 2: except my dad was six foot three, so your dad

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Speaker 2: was six three three really, so my belly on a

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Speaker 2: five foot nine gentleman.

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Speaker 1: It's very different, a little more compact.

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Speaker 3: It goes.

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Speaker 2: It's like my father in the drya shrug off like

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Speaker 2: a wool sweater.

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Speaker 1: My dad.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think when you're young, you just look at

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Speaker 3: your dad and that's your dad, right. And my dad,

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Speaker 3: by the way, is riding his bike right now, listening

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Speaker 3: to this no way, because he always high Dad, love you.

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Speaker 3: He he always rides his bike and he calls me afterwards.

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Speaker 3: He's like, I just listened to the latest episode.

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Speaker 1: You guys are great. I'm like that he listens. When

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Speaker 3: I remember being in the back seat of the car

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Speaker 3: and looking at the old bald spot and just thinking, oh,

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Speaker 3: my dad's got a little bod, you know, just kind

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Speaker 3: of being a kid, make fum. Then I remember he

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Speaker 3: got the salt and pepper and I, you know, just

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Speaker 1: You're like, oh, you're getting old.

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Speaker 3: And I remember him saying, you guys are making me

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Speaker 3: get old, giving me give me great hair. Yeah, and

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Speaker 3: I didn't. It's again, you're a kid. You don't really

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Speaker 3: put those things together. And then you get older, you

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Speaker 2: You got it for a gentleman. And is can I

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Speaker 2: say it's fifties you are for young fifties.

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Speaker 1: Fifties you are like, you.

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Speaker 2: Look like good with the hair, Like you don't look

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Speaker 3: Hair of I have the mentality of a seventy eight

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Speaker 3: Like that's I love my flat jacks. But but yeah,

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Speaker 3: it's weird even saying that, right, Like, I feel weird

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Speaker 3: saying like, because when you're a kid and you're even

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Speaker 3: in your thirties or forties, you think fifty, my god,

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Speaker 3: that's so old. It's like it's fifteen years away from retirement,

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Speaker 3: but I've always felt I've always felt younger. Yeah, that

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Speaker 3: have you?

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Speaker 2: You always present yourself that way too. You do like

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Speaker 2: you have a very young, youthful vibe to you in

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Speaker 2: a good way.

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Speaker 3: Immature.

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Speaker 2: No, I wouldn't say you immature. I would say you're mature.

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Speaker 2: But I would say you're an idiot.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, I would say I would say you are.

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Speaker 1: I would say you're I would say im mature. I

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Speaker 1: you're youthful. Youthful. Youthful is okay? Energy, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. Whiskey helps. I want to well, that makes

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Speaker 1: it worse for you, actually, I think. But I want

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Speaker 1: to say something to you here.

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Speaker 2: I want to you touch on something when you said,

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Speaker 2: you know you give your father gray hair. What do

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Speaker 2: you think is one of the biggest things that you

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Speaker 2: did as a youngster that escalated them in years like that,

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Speaker 2: You're like, was there a standout moment?

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Speaker 1: Temper?

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Speaker 3: Temper was a big thing, just a short fuse, and

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Speaker 3: you know, even in my adult years, learning to control

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Speaker 3: also part of it comes with age. But I think

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Speaker 3: when you're young and immature, you just it's almost like

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Speaker 3: I think when you're like sixteen, you're hormonal. It's almost

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Speaker 3: being like two or three again, right where you're two

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Speaker 3: how to communicate, and your parents need to set you

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Speaker 3: straight right and pure hits, and it's almost kind of

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Speaker 3: like the same thing where it's like, I'm gonna last shout,

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Speaker 3: I'm hormonal, I'm gonna take this zero to sixty. And

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Speaker 3: it just takes a nice fucking fresh one from your dad,

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Speaker 3: nice Irish Catholic fresh one right across the gullet to

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Speaker 3: let you know, shut the hunt, temper it down, relax.

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Speaker 3: I'll never forget my father. He cracked me so hard.

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Speaker 3: I was in front of my friends. He's only made friends,

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Speaker 3: is the worst. He's only hit me maybe two or

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Speaker 3: three times in my life. Right, it's only needed to sparingly.

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Speaker 3: But I must have been fifteen or sixteen. I one

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Speaker 3: hundred percent earned it. I earned this, and I was

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Speaker 3: mouthing off to my father in front of my friends.

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Speaker 3: My dad cracked me so hard. I did the Jackie

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Speaker 3: Chan where I spun around. I spun He hit me

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Speaker 3: so hard. I spun around like a top and I

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Speaker 3: fell down in the front yard and I was so embarrassed.

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Speaker 3: I was punished for a week. It was It was

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Speaker 3: one of those things where I don't even remember what

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Speaker 3: it was about, right, but I remember getting crap.

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Speaker 1: You remember the hit? Yeah, how about you?

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Speaker 2: My everybody in neighborhood was afraid of my mother, which

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Speaker 2: is so funny because like she wouldn't be afraid to

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Speaker 2: like discipline another kids. You wouldn't him Mary, but she

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Speaker 2: would be like she would yell at like people. My

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Speaker 2: mother wasn't the ones like you know, you had the

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Speaker 2: volat you know what vallacci is, So Vallacchi's is like

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Speaker 2: when they're on the Stupe.

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Speaker 3: I've always seen the Godfather one and two, So.

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Speaker 2: When they're on the stupid Brooklyn and they're like, oh,

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Speaker 2: you know what your son did. I don't want to

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Speaker 2: you know, I don't want to study any trouble, but

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Speaker 2: your son. He was like the mothers that would go

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Speaker 2: tell the mother what.

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Speaker 1: The kid did. So like it's like a Volacchi. I

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Speaker 1: Vallacchi was a Vallacci was a guy.

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Speaker 2: I correct me if I'm wrong, but I think Vallacci

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Speaker 2: was somebody who rated in the mob. It was the

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Speaker 2: She would always handle it herself right, so like she

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Speaker 1: I've never heard Lachi Vallacci. Sorry, yeah, what's a valucci?

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Speaker 2: One of my favorites was when I got sixteen years

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Speaker 3: like back to back, Okay.

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Speaker 1: Don't need to break.

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Speaker 2: It was for work, yeah, okay, I did that time

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Speaker 3: What's that?

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Speaker 2: You know, for charity and put yourself out there. Don't

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Speaker 1: So you know, I've been to Soul doing good, do

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Speaker 3: But we had a lot of downtime because like when

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Speaker 3: you go to Joe, I've done multiple USO tours and

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Speaker 3: it's not it's not about me, it's about them.

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Speaker 1: They need the laugh, believe me. Sure, But when you

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Speaker 3: So when I when you go to like Afghanistan, Iraq

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Speaker 3: He smokes so much weed literally look Asian. Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: when I see like a hoppa is like You're like, oh,

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Speaker 3: And would you say that the Lebanese are a little

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Speaker 3: Yes, is that is that a boisterous boystreouses boisterous but

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Speaker 2: My my for my kids, grand you know, grandfather because

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Speaker 2: It's like huge families. The cousins lived with the Bessie

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Speaker 2: So it's like a huge family thing there too. I

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Speaker 2: They had to, like, hey, they have breaks built in

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Speaker 3: So I did this. So the more you talk about

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Speaker 1: Just dogs, there's just dogs, lots of dogs. Sure, sure, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: My Korean side, it was all I mean, my mom

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Speaker 1: Then they got their own business.

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Speaker 3: Pretty wild, and we we had actually written a show

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Speaker 3: It guts me that it never went but we pitched it.

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Speaker 3: And the one thing we pitched in the thing, which

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Speaker 3: There were so many Koreans. My father never had time

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Speaker 3: was getting you a driver's license, getting you situated for

439
00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:51,119
Speaker 3: the bank loan so you could start your He was

440
00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:54,399
Speaker 3: run ragged, but he did everything for everybody, right, and

441
00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:56,560
Speaker 3: so he set up a camera and he was gonna

442
00:19:56,760 --> 00:20:00,880
Speaker 3: take a family portrait. So he hits the button, runs back.

443
00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:04,840
Speaker 3: There's like fifteen Koreans and my dad is standing at

444
00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:06,920
Speaker 3: the back with his mom, with my mom and he's

445
00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:09,520
Speaker 3: literally cut off from here up. There's not even enough

446
00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:13,359
Speaker 3: room for him in the picture. And I remember one

447
00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:16,760
Speaker 3: time he came home, he was so run ragged. Again,

448
00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:18,840
Speaker 3: he was just dealing with everything, and they were like

449
00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:21,840
Speaker 3: fifteen pairs of shoes on the little landing and he

450
00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:24,440
Speaker 3: came home one day and there wasn't any room for

451
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:26,199
Speaker 3: his shoes and he just kicked all the shoes.

452
00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:27,120
Speaker 1: He lost it.

453
00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:29,920
Speaker 3: And it was one of those things where all the

454
00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:34,000
Speaker 3: relatives were like they knew what it was about. So

455
00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:38,800
Speaker 3: they sat him down and gave him like a proper

456
00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:40,359
Speaker 3: meal and like, you know, I'm.

457
00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:43,920
Speaker 1: Just something else, misoging doing his nails.

458
00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:50,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, hot rock, we got my grandma stopping on us

459
00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:51,320
Speaker 3: like that.

460
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:58,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, would you like to add the scalping foot. That's

461
00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:02,480
Speaker 1: great though, that your dad like that for everybody.

462
00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:05,919
Speaker 2: And because he because your mom, because he loved your mom, right,

463
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:07,639
Speaker 2: I mean that was like, yeah, he wouldn't have had

464
00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:10,200
Speaker 2: that life if he didn't marry your mom, you know

465
00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:11,800
Speaker 2: what I mean, Which is interesting to think about.

466
00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:14,119
Speaker 3: You, but I think that's that's kind of like I

467
00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:18,560
Speaker 3: think we're part of a generation where you know, New

468
00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:22,800
Speaker 3: York City was New York City like a less depicted

469
00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:24,639
Speaker 3: version of what you saw in like the fifties or

470
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:27,720
Speaker 3: sixties with Scorsese films, that it comes synonymous, like the

471
00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:29,679
Speaker 3: Italians had that part of the nagh. But the Irish

472
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:32,240
Speaker 3: had that part of it. But like, the reason I

473
00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:33,960
Speaker 3: bring it up is like we're part of like a

474
00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:36,760
Speaker 3: generation where, especially on the Eastern Seaboard, like here in

475
00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:41,640
Speaker 3: Jersey and New York, you still had relatives coming over right, Yeah,

476
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,440
Speaker 3: and it's it's not like that anymore. I don't get

477
00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:47,959
Speaker 3: the sense that people are still like funneling you know,

478
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:50,400
Speaker 3: Italians or Koreans or Asians over.

479
00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:52,760
Speaker 1: Here, like like we had back in the day where.

480
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:53,600
Speaker 3: That was somewhat normal.

481
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:55,199
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was something of our generation, I think.

482
00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:57,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, I think it's kind of like we tapped out.

483
00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:00,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've had enough with it. No, we're done. Enough

484
00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:04,120
Speaker 1: is enough Trump? You gotta build the wall.

485
00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:06,760
Speaker 3: So we built the wall. We're done. Yeah.

486
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:10,320
Speaker 1: I think would you ever go.

487
00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:13,359
Speaker 2: Live in like do you think you would enjoy yourself

488
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,879
Speaker 2: living in uh, Ireland or Korea?

489
00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've always been open to something like that. Yeah.

490
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:22,439
Speaker 3: But I I love America. I love living here. I

491
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:26,880
Speaker 3: love this country. I there's and again just traveling so much,

492
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,080
Speaker 3: there's so many aspects of it I love. And I

493
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:33,080
Speaker 3: love the fact that like like you can come here

494
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 3: right to New York City, or you could go now

495
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 3: to Idaho and in the last fifteen years, especial with Uberes,

496
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:41,400
Speaker 3: you can literally eat anything you want.

497
00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:43,640
Speaker 1: It's always about food with you, one percent about food.

498
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 3: But if you go to China, it's like you're eating

499
00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:49,720
Speaker 3: Chinese food, that's it. You go to Italy, it's like

500
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:52,879
Speaker 3: there's no Mexican I mean there are, but it's not

501
00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:53,960
Speaker 3: like here where it's like.

502
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:55,040
Speaker 1: The make tacos Palman.

503
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:01,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I got you, you know what I mean though,

504
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:03,600
Speaker 3: That's what I love about our country is that.

505
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 1: I mean, I truly like the I love that it

506
00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:22,720
Speaker 1: all comes down to a menu for you.

507
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:26,600
Speaker 3: It's like my whole day revolves. I get so excited

508
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:28,680
Speaker 3: about you had breakfast though, I had breakfast.

509
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

510
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:31,199
Speaker 3: My wife is getting on me, like you got to

511
00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 3: eat something in the morning, Yes, before you do anything.

512
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:34,640
Speaker 3: You just aren't having to do it.

513
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:37,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've been doing the I've been doing that intermittent fasting,

514
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:41,400
Speaker 2: you know when you only eat like in a window

515
00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 2: between between two and four I do. I do nine

516
00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 2: am to ten pm. I shut it down ten pm.

517
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,640
Speaker 3: It's yeah, yeah, what what are you doing right now?

518
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 1: No?

519
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 3: Hold on a second, are hold on?

520
00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 1: Hold on?

521
00:23:58,160 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 3: Are you doing to think?

522
00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:02,120
Speaker 1: What Mike Tyson. Was that real? No, that wasn't real.

523
00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:04,399
Speaker 1: Oh are you serious? I know, I kept you on

524
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:05,920
Speaker 1: the whole line the longest.

525
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:08,359
Speaker 2: You get Really somebody sent me an ai picture of

526
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,359
Speaker 2: Mike Tyson, of me and fighting Mike Tyson, and I

527
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:11,719
Speaker 2: was sitting on it for a couple of months, and

528
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, you know, I saw it and

529
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:14,160
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, it'll be funny if I posted

530
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:15,880
Speaker 2: this and just tried to make it believable.

531
00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 1: So I tagged Hulu. It was believable.

532
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,680
Speaker 2: It was believable. I got picked up by multiple news outlets.

533
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:26,919
Speaker 2: I got phone calls from my sisters, my cousins. Bessie

534
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 2: was like, you're fighting Mike. Like I think I would

535
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,159
Speaker 2: tell you I was fighting Mike Tyson.

536
00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 3: It's like, I was like, I think he I think

537
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:38,160
Speaker 3: he's like joking, like he's not gonna fight Mike type,

538
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 3: but he's fighting Mike Tyson to lose weight and get everybody.

539
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 1: Everybody came up with their own feel what it was. Yeah,

540
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:45,879
Speaker 1: it would be a great show. By the way, I

541
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,119
Speaker 1: wouldn't be surprised if it got picked up now I

542
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:48,920
Speaker 1: know it shouldn't.

543
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, I really believed it.

544
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 1: I fell for it. And then you I fed into

545
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 1: it yet? Really? Yeah?

546
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:55,360
Speaker 2: You text me, I said, and I said, go get

547
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,680
Speaker 2: him Champ. You text me like is this real?

548
00:24:57,720 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 3: I was like, I was like, I'm gonna come see

549
00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:02,400
Speaker 3: the thing. I'm so excited for you because I was like, Wow,

550
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 3: you're getting it, like you're gonna walk.

551
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 1: Yeah.

552
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 2: Well no, I waited into two twenty when I at

553
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 2: at New Year's and I was like, Oh, I'm gonna stop.

554
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:11,159
Speaker 1: You're doing a real thing.

555
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 2: I'm I'm just trying to. I'm doing what I always do.

556
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 2: I cut it in half, I stop eating late. So

557
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 2: I'm already down seven pounds. Are you going down to

558
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:17,879
Speaker 2: two thirteen right now?

559
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 1: And you've been pretty good though lately. Anyways, Yeah, two

560
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 1: twenty is a big balloon for me.

561
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:22,119
Speaker 3: I try to get it.

562
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,400
Speaker 2: I try to have around two hundred if I can.

563
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,399
Speaker 2: So I started out some room to go, but the

564
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 2: road life's tough. When I get out there and you know,

565
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:30,880
Speaker 2: the burger king, you know, impossible. Wap is a stare

566
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:33,600
Speaker 2: at me right the gull at ten fifteen pm, Get off, stag.

567
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 1: Just one little something to get you.

568
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:38,560
Speaker 3: You know, do you want to get a bit happy?

569
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 1: You can go a bit sick.

570
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just signed up for the Mario Lemieux has

571
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 3: a fantasy camp every year in Pittsburgh. So it gets

572
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 3: like all these uh you know, retired all stars to

573
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 3: come and play and there's a few comedians. We go,

574
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 3: we do a show, we perform, and then part of

575
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:02,440
Speaker 3: it is like if you perform, you you can skate, right,

576
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:06,919
Speaker 3: So I'm going to skate for five days and I

577
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:10,680
Speaker 3: haven't skated in probably a year and a half, and so.

578
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 2: Perform on ice is like it's like Disney on ISO, Comedians.

579
00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 1: Scott Hamill, You're doing a triple lose and then you're like,

580
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 1: knock knock.

581
00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 3: But I have to because I was like, well, I

582
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,919
Speaker 3: could just phone it in, right, but why But I'm like,

583
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 3: if I'm gonna do this, I want to enjoy the experience,

584
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:34,359
Speaker 3: so torch myself. So I'm gonna I'm literally getting in shape,

585
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 3: so I'm jumping rope again. I'm gonna start skating as

586
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:40,120
Speaker 3: soon as I get home next week. And just like

587
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 3: you know, when is the camp, it's uh, mid February

588
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:46,200
Speaker 3: and Pittsburgh. So for five days it's like I skate,

589
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:48,360
Speaker 3: I think twice a day and it's it's an amazing

590
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 3: experience because obviously all the money with the Lumu Foundation

591
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:54,879
Speaker 3: always goes to to cancer research and to the children's

592
00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 3: wing at the Children's Hospital in Pittsburgh. A ton of

593
00:26:58,040 --> 00:26:59,080
Speaker 3: great things, very charitable.

594
00:26:59,160 --> 00:26:59,440
Speaker 1: You are.

595
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 3: I get to the troops, I get to the kids.

596
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 1: Are you sick if you're a military kid, I'm your

597
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: guy kids in the military by step Bird.

598
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:13,400
Speaker 3: But I I yeah, so it's one of the things

599
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:16,720
Speaker 3: where you skate. But these guys are still kind of

600
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 3: like competitive, right, I mean, they're professional athletes.

601
00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: I remember last time I played.

602
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:25,640
Speaker 3: Mark Reki, who's an unbelievable hockey player. I think three times.

603
00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,720
Speaker 3: Stanley cup Cham drilled me in the boards, like ran

604
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 3: me in the boards, and I remember being on the ground.

605
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:34,040
Speaker 3: I just I just remember him skating away, laughing, going

606
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 3: get up burns.

607
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 1: And I.

608
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,879
Speaker 3: Like Paul Coffee, who played with Gretzky, who played with me,

609
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 3: one of the greatest defensemen of all time, just chirping

610
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:44,439
Speaker 3: the whole time, making fun of me. And it's just

611
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 3: like it was just a fun experience. It was really

612
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:49,040
Speaker 3: so I'm like, all right, you know, even at my age,

613
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 3: I still want to do the best that I can

614
00:27:51,480 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 3: to enjoy.

615
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 1: You get to be in the mix, which is fun. Yeah,

616
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 1: you get to throw it around.

617
00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 2: And I'm sure you have zinger so like you if

618
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 2: you made something happen, I'm sure you could be like throwing.

619
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 1: Back a little bit at their way. Right. Yeah, oh,

620
00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 1: comedian just got one on you. But it was it

621
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:04,159
Speaker 1: was not even a professional.

622
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 3: It was interesting though, because I remember this one time

623
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 3: I got caught one of the defenseman got caught up

624
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 3: in the thing. So if you're a winger, you come

625
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:17,080
Speaker 3: back and take the place you d right. So I

626
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 3: saw the d going in, I understood I had to

627
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 3: swoop back. So I'm coming back and I'm coming back

628
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,399
Speaker 3: on defense and it's Mario Lemieux and one of the

629
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 3: campers and I'm literally skating backwards looking at Mario lemue

630
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 3: I grew up idolizing this guy. I mean, the second

631
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 3: to Gretzky in Pittsburgh.

632
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 1: He's the first, okay.

633
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 3: But but just an eight year old to ten year

634
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 3: old to twelve year old me is sitting there gone,

635
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 3: this is wild holy cow. And of course he beat

636
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 3: me in talking smack. As we're making the loop, and

637
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 3: a photographer happened to capture the moment of him coming

638
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 3: down and then us laughing as we're coming up, and uh,

639
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 3: just such a just one of those experiences that you

640
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 3: would only have because of our job. It's so crazy

641
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:04,600
Speaker 3: the things that we've gotten exposed to or the opportunities

642
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 3: we've had like that. Never no million years at sixteen,

643
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 3: when I was playing hockey in Hampton Township, did I

644
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 3: ever think one day you're gonna play You're you're gonna

645
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 3: hang out with that guy? Like what, that's crazy, that's

646
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 3: so cool.

647
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:20,400
Speaker 1: Well, you know what they say, meet your heroes.

648
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 3: Meet meet, well.

649
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 1: Most of them meet your hockey hero's.

650
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:26,880
Speaker 3: Who's Who's a hero you met that you loved mel Brooks?

651
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 1: Wow, it's real. Melbrooks was great. It was such a

652
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 1: great moment.

653
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 3: When did you meet melbrook He did?

654
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 1: He did? I snuck into a meet and greet that

655
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:34,680
Speaker 1: he had at Radio City Musical.

656
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 3: That's right.

657
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:35,719
Speaker 1: Yeah.

658
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Speaker 2: He did a screening of Blazing Saddles and I had

659
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Speaker 2: known the security there from.

660
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Speaker 1: H when we played it a couple of weeks before

661
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Speaker 1: the time.

662
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Speaker 2: We just worked out the guy was there there, recognized me,

663
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Speaker 2: said you go into the meet and greet?

664
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Speaker 1: I said yes, He said okay, and.

665
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 3: I went downstairs and one of my sisters. It was

666
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Speaker 3: like only his.

667
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Speaker 1: Family and me. Crazy. Yeah, really awesome. Yeah, So he

668
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 1: was on his way out right.

669
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Speaker 2: I got him for a minute, said hello, took a

670
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Speaker 2: picture of my sisters, which is still hanging on my wall.

671
00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 2: I told him I was there with my sisters. I

672
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,400
Speaker 2: mean me and my sisters grew up watching you. And

673
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 2: he goes your sister's where your sisters said, He goes,

674
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Speaker 2: bring him in and he kiss me, kiss me, and we.

675
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 1: Have a picture. My send is kissing him on the

676
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: cheeks and me like on the outside.

677
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Speaker 3: It's really funny. Wow, what a great dude.

678
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

679
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 2: And just to see him up there like he was

680
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 2: jumping up like I mean at that point, I think

681
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 2: he was eighty nine or ninety and he was jumping

682
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 2: up on jumping out of his seat on stage or

683
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 2: the Q and A and just acting out all this stuff.

684
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 2: It was right after Gen Wilder passed, so he was

685
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 2: like telling all these stories about Gen.

686
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was really cool, saying unbelievable.

687
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Speaker 1: Meet your hero, Stevie. People say that about me and

688
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:32,560
Speaker 1: meet and greets are available when I want toward Joe

689
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Speaker 1: Gattofficial dot com.

690
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 3: If you want to meet me, you can and you

691
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Speaker 3: can find me at punch dot up dot Live, Divide

692
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Speaker 3: Side Comma Joe Coyle slash Michael Strahand.

693
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Speaker 2: It's so weird that your website is not Joe coy

694
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Speaker 2: backslash Punch Up Live.

695
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 3: Stand that life in six thirty eight? Yeah, all right,

696
00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 3: should we get into that.

697
00:30:57,920 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 1: Let's get anyone. Let's solve some problems. As you know,

698
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: it's two cool moms and what we do here is

699
00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 1: try to help people.

700
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 2: We both have cool mothers. We try to give motherly advice.

701
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:07,440
Speaker 2: And you can submit your questions.

702
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:11,400
Speaker 3: By email too Cool Moms Pod at gmail dot com.

703
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 1: Yes, or on our Instagram at at two Cool Moms

704
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 1: Pod Pod. You got to put the pod on it.

705
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 1: We don't know those other moms. We don't know those

706
00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 1: two moms. No.

707
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 3: Look, I know there's a podcast out there about three moms.

708
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 1: We don't want to hear it. We don't want to

709
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 1: hear it. We don't need to. Oh you need is too.

710
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 1: That's right.

711
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 4: Let's there's a crowd, all right. This one comes from

712
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 4: Mary and she DM You guys, lose.

713
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 3: That gratitude right now. I don't know where that's comings going.

714
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 3: Thank you, what do I need to say? Start over

715
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:42,680
Speaker 3: with a nicer tone.

716
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 1: Of coursely the nicest person I know. Literally, I see.

717
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Speaker 4: All right, let's get into these bitches. What's one habit

718
00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:03,440
Speaker 4: or mindset that can make the biggest difference in your life?

719
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 3: Oh god, you've had multiple positive mindset, yes, one hundred percent,

720
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 3: and you're great at it. You are literally I'm not joking.

721
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 3: I'd love to shit on you, but I can't. You

722
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 3: are so good at keeping You're so positive.

723
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: That's why you're a great leader.

724
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 3: And no matter what situation you're in, no matter what

725
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 3: the dynamic is, no matter what happened before, I've seen

726
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 3: a thousand times like you'll be set with an adverse

727
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 3: set of circumstances and then you're going to do a show,

728
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 3: and you literally have a way to compartmentalize everything, stay positive,

729
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 3: understand what's important, maybe deal with things on your own, whatever,

730
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 3: But you have a way to flip a switch and

731
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Speaker 3: just you greet everybody, security, the you know, whoever's running

732
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 3: the thing, the staff. You just I've never seen anybody,

733
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 3: you know. I don't get too personal, but you know,

734
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 3: especially when you were dealing with some things like you

735
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 3: just have a way of just staying positive and it

736
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 3: permeates around you, and that effect is a lot more

737
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 3: powerful than people think. If anybody had an excuse in

738
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 3: the world to be dour or run down or woes

739
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 3: me or whatever it was, you for a period of

740
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 3: time and you never I literally I would like swear

741
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 3: about I've never seen it, like I've never seen it,

742
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 3: And it was so inspiring to see that. It's like,

743
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 3: you know, we'd be on the road and something that

744
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 3: would happen to be like, but we're getting a great meal.

745
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 3: Let's go get a great meal, you guys, right for

746
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 3: a great meal. It was like that, I would say,

747
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 3: is one of the things that I gleaned from our

748
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 3: friendship early on, and I was like, that's the way

749
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 3: to do it, and need just recalibrate it just a

750
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 3: little bit. And it's all about your mindset. So I

751
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 3: think like having that positive mindset is one of the

752
00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 3: greatest habits you could form.

753
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 2: I think positive is important mindset for sure, and I've

754
00:33:56,880 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 2: seen you grow to do that a little bit better.

755
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 2: I'll say something that I found a habit that's important

756
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:03,920
Speaker 2: is don't try to change it all at once, And

757
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:05,400
Speaker 2: that came from the same part of me. It was

758
00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 2: like I felt like I was like just covered by

759
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 2: a pile of rocks and we have the dudes move

760
00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 2: one at a time. I think you focus on how

761
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:13,279
Speaker 2: do I fix everything? And that was a big thing

762
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 2: for me. I was like a fix everything kind of person.

763
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 2: But I was like, this is take it once up

764
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:20,280
Speaker 2: at a time. You'll feel less overwhelmed and you'll actually get further.

765
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 2: And I think there's sometimes you have to accept there's

766
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:24,279
Speaker 2: not the things you can fix, you know, the right

767
00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:24,800
Speaker 2: of control.

768
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Speaker 1: So I think that part of it.

769
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Speaker 2: I think that's a good mindset to have, is like

770
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 2: all right, attached, you know, attack a problem piece by piece.

771
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 3: I think that's right.

772
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:34,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know.

773
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 2: There's so many great habits that people have that I

774
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 2: wish I had to, Like reading really yeah, like you're like,

775
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 2: well read, like you're so much smarter.

776
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,800
Speaker 3: I would not go that far. Yeah, you are beyond

777
00:34:45,840 --> 00:34:48,200
Speaker 3: street smart, oh for sure. And street smarts get you

778
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 3: a lot further. And books, well, I will say this,

779
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 3: that's for sure.

780
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 2: I've seen you, and I'll say this about you and

781
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:56,839
Speaker 2: Brian Quinn. These are two guys that I would say

782
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:58,879
Speaker 2: that are able to connect with people because you are

783
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,839
Speaker 2: so well read and to talk about almost anything. I

784
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 2: haven't seen Brian not be able to talk to someone

785
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 2: about anything in life. Q and I would say the

786
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 2: same thing about you. I put the two of you

787
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 2: probably in a class by themselves and my Tier one

788
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 2: friends that are the people that are able to connect

789
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 2: and talk to people on a subject, no matter what

790
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 2: it is. Like he'll people throw a name out. He'd

791
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 2: be like, oh, oh the guitarist, Like who know who

792
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:23,360
Speaker 2: that is? And I'll be like, oh, who's Frank Bennifield,

793
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like he would be like, oh, yeah,

794
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 2: he was a guy who invented the pick.

795
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:27,799
Speaker 1: What are you talking about? You know? Like that kind

796
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 1: of stuff.

797
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 2: But I think the biggest benefit of being well read

798
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 2: is that you're able to connect with people in conversation.

799
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 3: To some form of or or you you're you're hearing

800
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 3: about something for the first time, like but what is

801
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 3: that you know? And being intrigued enough to want to

802
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 3: learn about it for sure, which I like, but uh.

803
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,440
Speaker 1: So so, But reading is an easy one.

804
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 3: You could just yeah, read it.

805
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:52,359
Speaker 1: I mean, it's nothing. I don't like Swish with as

806
00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 1: much traveling as you do.

807
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 3: That's why I got into like like I made a

808
00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:00,440
Speaker 3: conscious decision, like this is the best thing to do,

809
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 3: like you can't be on your phone, put in an

810
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 3: airplane mode, and just I.

811
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 1: Did start, you'd be proud of me.

812
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 2: I started reading The Princess Bride, the book because I

813
00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:11,879
Speaker 2: want to write a screenplay about it. So I started

814
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:13,600
Speaker 2: reading the book version of it, which is good. I

815
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 2: thought of you when I bought a book and I

816
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 2: opened it and I started reading. I was on like

817
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 2: page forty, and I thought of me, was like, oh,

818
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 2: I'm reading a book.

819
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Speaker 3: Steve would be a book by William Goldman, whose book

820
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 3: Adventures in the screen Trade I read and learn about

821
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 3: the osmosis of that of that story, but yeah, that's

822
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Speaker 3: I mean, nobody better than him, and what a great

823
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 3: like a fantastic story, and the osmosis of that story too.

824
00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 3: You know how he was yeah, orating Adventures to his

825
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 3: kids and they're like, you got to write that down,

826
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 3: And it's unbelievable how you take something so personal like

827
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Speaker 3: that and then it turns into probably of all the

828
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Speaker 3: incredible screenplays that guy's written, that's the one that kind

829
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 3: of defines him. And it was about a connection with

830
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Speaker 3: his daughter it's.

831
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Speaker 1: So great, pretty wild.

832
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, say, and you're able to talk about all that.

833
00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 1: I wasn't taking.

834
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Speaker 3: Yeah, But is there is there a habit you you

835
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 3: personally would like to break?

836
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:08,400
Speaker 1: Though? I mean, how much time do we have?

837
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:09,360
Speaker 3: No?

838
00:37:09,719 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 2: I think I'm pretty I think I'm pretty well tuned

839
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,359
Speaker 2: with who I am. I don't think I have any

840
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,359
Speaker 2: I was pretty I was pretty good at like recognizing

841
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 2: habits and being like, this is something I shouldn't be doing.

842
00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: I don't think I had many.

843
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 2: Though that I was like felt were like bad habits

844
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:26,240
Speaker 2: besides like succumbing to my temper a little bit sometimes,

845
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 2: or like being too quick witted with my you know,

846
00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 2: two silver tongued with people, you know. I think that

847
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:33,440
Speaker 2: was probably the biggest habit I had to break. Was

848
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 2: I had to think it before I say.

849
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: It kind of deal.

850
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 2: But overall, No, I don't think it was like, you know,

851
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 2: I was never a drink or smoker, uh, you know,

852
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 2: a drug addict anything like that.

853
00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:45,839
Speaker 3: So it's basically like of all those things and you're

854
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:46,920
Speaker 3: still the most fun of all.

855
00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:53,399
Speaker 1: It's like, how how is that possible? Unbelievable? Yeah, I think,

856
00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 1: uh no, I never really had to do that. How

857
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 1: about you. Do you have something that's on your hit list?

858
00:37:57,080 --> 00:38:02,839
Speaker 3: I think, uh, I think you know, just boy, Like

859
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 3: to your point, it's like, boy, there's there's a lot

860
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 3: to comb through. But I think also there's a complacency

861
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 3: as you get older, you're like it's baked yeah, Like yeah,

862
00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 3: this is baked in, so you got to deal with it.

863
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 2: It's more managing instead of breaking, like knowing parts of personality.

864
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:19,960
Speaker 2: This part is so hard to you know, when you're

865
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 2: so far.

866
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 1: Down the hill.

867
00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:22,680
Speaker 2: It's like hard to like redirect you where you're going

868
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:24,359
Speaker 2: to land. So it's like, you know, you just want

869
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 2: to manage different pieces of it. You can lean a

870
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 2: little bit here and there.

871
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think especially in our line of business, right,

872
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 3: it's so easy to get frustrated.

873
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:34,440
Speaker 1: It's so easy.

874
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 3: To like look to your left and look to your

875
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 3: right and see X and Y and Z and she

876
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:42,920
Speaker 3: and he and but and I think early on I

877
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,719
Speaker 3: was somebody told me something that was so smart. It's

878
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 3: just like you're playing golf, you're not competing against them,

879
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,800
Speaker 3: you're competing against yourself. So that was like a healthy

880
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 3: dynamic of how to look at stand up. So I've

881
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 3: always done that and so for me, the frustrations have

882
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 3: been literally like ah, this flight's delayed, this thing's go

883
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 3: over here, I got to get to the hotel.

884
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:04,759
Speaker 1: I get, you know, just like.

885
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 3: The constant drain of being on the road. But what's

886
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 3: happened lately is I I've just I've tried to flip

887
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 3: the script and be like this is great, Like they

888
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 3: have to go somewhere, Like you're telling jokes, like calm down,

889
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 3: like is it that important?

890
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 1: And it's like you're getting to eat.

891
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 3: Like you could eat at any restaurant you want, So

892
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 3: I just get so excited. Yesterday I was I was, well,

893
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 3: you know, it was a horrible day of travel. We

894
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 3: were texting each other and I was stuck. Well I

895
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 3: shouldn't say stuck, but I was. I was in the

896
00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:41,279
Speaker 3: Nashville airport for four and a half hours waiting to

897
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:44,839
Speaker 3: get here because of this weather storm. And normally I'd

898
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 3: been like and I was just and this time, just

899
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 3: because that mindset of recalibrating that i'd say over the

900
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:54,000
Speaker 3: last two years, I was like, what are you complaining about?

901
00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 3: You got a great book, your favorite restaurant, reading, you're eating,

902
00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 3: you're reading, you're eating.

903
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, you stopped in the US office in Nashville. You know,

904
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 1: they were around a high five, like, I'm here, thanks,

905
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 1: thank you me? Yeah, yeah, all right, I love it. Sorry,

906
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 1: so it was a long winded one. No, but it's

907
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,280
Speaker 1: it's true. It's true. Like, and I think it's important

908
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,400
Speaker 1: to try to stay positive. People always say that too.

909
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, try to stay positive.

910
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,399
Speaker 2: But if you really put the work in to try

911
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 2: to stay positive, it definitely changed it.

912
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 1: Just take a stop. Okay.

913
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 4: This next one comes from Sam.

914
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 1: That's all we are.

915
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 3: Time we have Sam.

916
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 4: Sam asks, is there such a thing as having problems

917
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:43,200
Speaker 4: too early in a relationship?

918
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:48,759
Speaker 5: Oh that's a great one, Sam, that's a very good

919
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 5: Well here's the thing. What is your threshold to pull

920
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 5: the ripcord?

921
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:57,840
Speaker 2: Like, because sometimes you could notice something early and be like, oh,

922
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 2: you know, all right, I can maybe tall about this,

923
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 2: maybe try to work on it together with them, you know,

924
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:04,760
Speaker 2: address it with them, being like, hey.

925
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 1: I don't like this party? Is there? You know? Can

926
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:08,320
Speaker 1: we talk this out and sure? Or is there parts where?

927
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 2: Like onto the next one, like if you're a weekend

928
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 2: and you find something bad, like you're like, oh.

929
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 1: You don't want to forget this? I don't. I don't

930
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 1: want to deal with this. I'm out. There's not that

931
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 1: much invested. You could cut you can know.

932
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:18,840
Speaker 2: You could, yeah, yeah, cut it out early, but you

933
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 2: might be walking away from your your forever.

934
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:24,840
Speaker 1: So it's a hard it's a tricky, a slippery slope,

935
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 1: if you will. Yeah.

936
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:28,799
Speaker 3: I think this is what some would call red flags, Yes,

937
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 3: red flight. Am I seeing enough red flags? But it's

938
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 3: also like or.

939
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 1: Good or a huge red flag? Huge? It could be

940
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:36,439
Speaker 1: one flag.

941
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:43,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, But every relationship is just it's it's all based

942
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 3: on almost like this algorithm of experiences you had from

943
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:52,240
Speaker 3: every prior relationship you've had. Right, So if you're twenty,

944
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:54,799
Speaker 3: it's like really, I mean, do you do you.

945
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 1: Know that many red flags?

946
00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 3: But if you're like thirty, that's a different set of circumstances, right,

947
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:02,319
Speaker 3: because it's like I've been through the gauntlet. I know

948
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 3: what I want, I know personally what I appreciate, what

949
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 3: I don't appreciate. And I think it also depends how

950
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:13,799
Speaker 3: old you are at that time. So I think if

951
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:16,919
Speaker 3: you're younger, you have a lot more tolerance for those things.

952
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:20,760
Speaker 3: If you're older, you have a shorter gap of tolerance.

953
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 3: So I would think that if you personally feel like, boy,

954
00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 3: I'm kind of overwhelmed with here, it's probably not worth it,

955
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 3: absolutely not worth it.

956
00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 1: Wow, Yeah, I mean I think every I mean, that's

957
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 1: a great question.

958
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 3: But she got a great ass. It's like you got

959
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,359
Speaker 3: to write it out, write a hot hand. You gotta

960
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:39,840
Speaker 3: see it. You gotta see those cheeks.

961
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 1: How about that.

962
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:41,920
Speaker 3: Let me see them once, give me a whiff.

963
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 1: You got them.

964
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 3: I need a one cheeks, I say, pop a cheek out,

965
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 3: see it, let me smack it.

966
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:49,439
Speaker 1: I would say people have said that's what your wife

967
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:50,760
Speaker 1: said about you. Actually the way.

968
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,880
Speaker 2: You needs to see a cheek. I think it's important

969
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:58,439
Speaker 2: to I think there. I think it is too early.

970
00:42:58,440 --> 00:42:59,840
Speaker 2: I think it's always too early to pull.

971
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 1: I would say, if.

972
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 2: You're a week in and like you run away because

973
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 2: you've seen something without even trying to like address it,

974
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:08,400
Speaker 2: I would say you should probably try to address it.

975
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 1: You probably should try to say something.

976
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:11,839
Speaker 2: So I would say the answer is, I think there

977
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 2: is such a thing of pulling, you know, pulling the.

978
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:14,800
Speaker 1: Book too early on something.

979
00:43:15,160 --> 00:43:17,800
Speaker 2: I would definitely give it a go if you feel

980
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 2: like you should, you know, and then if it doesn't correct,

981
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:23,799
Speaker 2: go Like if you say something and you don't get

982
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:26,560
Speaker 2: a response, or you know something you don't see potential

983
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 2: that it could work itself out.

984
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 1: Sure, go, but at.

985
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 2: Least say something. I would say, Yeah, I think it's

986
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:32,319
Speaker 2: try to communicate it.

987
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:37,680
Speaker 3: I think anytime there's issues, it's like they're pushing boundaries

988
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 3: that and it's up to you to communicate it or not.

989
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 1: Right.

990
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, And if you don't, then it builds resentment and

991
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 3: then one day it just comes out like an avalanche,

992
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,919
Speaker 3: like WHOA, where's all this coming from? Right? Since your point, yeah,

993
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 3: you absolutely want to nip it in the butt pretty quick.

994
00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:53,839
Speaker 2: Did you ever get to a point with your your

995
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:55,359
Speaker 2: current wife, not the other one?

996
00:43:56,480 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 1: The other one ever? Remember? Do you know something I don't?

997
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:04,840
Speaker 3: I was married to missus tyson, missus Tyson, and you're.

998
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 1: Gonna fight it the win.

999
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 2: Did you have a did you have a moment where

1000
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 2: you almost it was almost over?

1001
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:12,840
Speaker 1: Did you guys almost part ways were you were dating?

1002
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:17,239
Speaker 3: No? No, No, I just like with Jess, I just

1003
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 3: kind of knew it was just like all right, I'm done,

1004
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:22,399
Speaker 3: Like you know, especially at that time, I was so

1005
00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:23,360
Speaker 3: tired of dating.

1006
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 1: I was so run and and and being cold and

1007
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 1: run through old and run through.

1008
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:29,879
Speaker 3: And ragged and flabby.

1009
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 1: So you're like, thank god, I fooled this one.

1010
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 2: Yeah all right, no never you uh yeah, Bessie, You

1011
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:37,759
Speaker 2: and I, you know, I talked about it with the

1012
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 2: on the Q episode about you know, she packed her

1013
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 2: boxes and we were like, didn't think we're gonna be

1014
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,920
Speaker 2: able to work through, but thankfully we were able to.

1015
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:45,919
Speaker 1: But I think that was a part of like we were.

1016
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 2: That was a long time and we were you know,

1017
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 2: at that point, I think a year and a half dating.

1018
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 1: Or so. But I think that I.

1019
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 2: Think the big part is like communications, So we always

1020
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 2: talk about how important that is.

1021
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 1: So I would say, at least try to communicate it

1022
00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 1: and if it doesn't work out, then pack up and

1023
00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:01,720
Speaker 1: run absolutely.

1024
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, all right.

1025
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,279
Speaker 4: Okay this next for one more, Let's do one more.

1026
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 4: This one comes from Rebecca. Hey, moms, I'm a senior

1027
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 4: in high school and I'm scared about how my life

1028
00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:12,800
Speaker 4: will change after graduation.

1029
00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 1: First off, send me a picture, got that? What How

1030
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:22,359
Speaker 1: do you deal with change? How do deal with change? Oh?

1031
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:23,120
Speaker 3: In high school?

1032
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:24,439
Speaker 1: Everything's changed.

1033
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:25,320
Speaker 3: What's her name again?

1034
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 1: Rebecca Vacsy. We call it Besy.

1035
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:30,239
Speaker 3: We call it vacscy bechsy Beccy. Come on, you got

1036
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 3: so much road ahead of you.

1037
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 1: For sure, enjoy it. Yeah, it's definitely gonna be scary.

1038
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 2: I think also, you know, if you're going to college

1039
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 2: or not going to college, Like that's the first major thing, right,

1040
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 2: it's two totally different fears.

1041
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:42,040
Speaker 1: If you're not going to college, you have no idea

1042
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: what you're gonna do with yourself. If you're going to college,

1043
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 1: you don't know what you're doing yourself.

1044
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:46,759
Speaker 2: At least you have some structure, but then you're it's

1045
00:45:46,760 --> 00:45:48,440
Speaker 2: a whole new experience, right, it's going to be a

1046
00:45:48,480 --> 00:45:51,920
Speaker 2: college person. I will say that it is very important

1047
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 2: with who you select to surround yourself with.

1048
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 1: That's the biggest thing I can.

1049
00:45:57,040 --> 00:45:59,840
Speaker 2: Advise you to do right now correctly is surround yourself

1050
00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:01,839
Speaker 2: with people that either bring you up or you could

1051
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:04,799
Speaker 2: help bond in a good way with. I think that's

1052
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:07,799
Speaker 2: really important, and especially in these formative years of post

1053
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:10,840
Speaker 2: high school through early college, when you're really becoming the

1054
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:13,040
Speaker 2: person you're going to be. Yeah, to surround yourself with

1055
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 2: good people, people that make you better, push you, and

1056
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 2: just a group you could laugh and have I'm.

1057
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:20,000
Speaker 1: With, especially at that age. Yeah, for sure, especially at

1058
00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: that age, because it's.

1059
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:24,400
Speaker 3: Such a you know, eighteen nineteen twenty, that's where like

1060
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 3: you're really going to decide where the compass points.

1061
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 1: Sure, it's like you could be.

1062
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:33,439
Speaker 3: Those kids that just party and booze, and it's five

1063
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:37,080
Speaker 3: years later and people have degrees and then you're like, wait,

1064
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,839
Speaker 3: I shouldn't have been doing Oh, you know, you want

1065
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:42,799
Speaker 3: to surround yourself again to your point, bring you up

1066
00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 3: motivated people that are driven, people that have some foresight

1067
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 3: of something, even as ridiculous as something maybe if they

1068
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 3: want to accomplish or dream whatever. Yeah, these are one

1069
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:57,000
Speaker 3: hundred percent the best years of your life. When you're

1070
00:46:57,120 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 3: eighteen to like thirty, you.

1071
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:00,520
Speaker 1: Don't have money.

1072
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 3: Big window, big window, but you're not gonna have money,

1073
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 3: or even late twenties, I should say, you're not gonna

1074
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 3: have any money. You're gonna you're gonna be with people

1075
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 3: that are experiencing the same things you are, which is

1076
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 3: all your first your first job, your first real love,

1077
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 3: your first like interview, your first real like all these things.

1078
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 3: It's I think that is the most kind of like

1079
00:47:22,920 --> 00:47:26,359
Speaker 3: romantic period of anybody's life because you're dreaming of like

1080
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:30,880
Speaker 3: what can be. And eventually what you do is you

1081
00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 3: discover you're in your twenties or thirties and you're just

1082
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 3: living life in that fast lane.

1083
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:35,960
Speaker 1: You know.

1084
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:43,359
Speaker 3: But I'm talking to these guys, Yeah, living life.

1085
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:48,360
Speaker 1: Maybe I got time for the holiday, I'm allan. I

1086
00:47:54,760 --> 00:47:55,600
Speaker 1: would say, you're gonna.

1087
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:58,480
Speaker 2: If you're surrounding people, I would say the number one

1088
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 2: attribute that I look for somebody that at that time

1089
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:02,760
Speaker 2: I would think is ambition.

1090
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:04,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think if you're surround yourself with people with

1091
00:48:04,719 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: ambition even now.

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Speaker 2: In life, you know, people who weren't achieve stuff and

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Speaker 2: are working toward a goal, you know, I think that's

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Speaker 2: really important. Ambition is a very underrated personality trait of people.

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Speaker 2: I think people in your circle need ambition. If you

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Speaker 2: surround yourself with people who are trying to achieve things,

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Speaker 2: you'll just be.

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Speaker 3: Better, right right, Look, it makes you push yourself, right, Sure,

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Speaker 3: that's the benchmark.

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Speaker 2: There is a keeping up with the joneses a little bit,

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Speaker 2: which is good that way, Like you see what people

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Speaker 2: you look around, You're like, people are accomplishing these things, right,

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Speaker 2: you know, maybe I should be doing something or at

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Speaker 2: least have a goal or try to do something here.

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Speaker 1: You know, Look, you don't have to have it all

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Speaker 1: figured out.

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Speaker 2: You're not going to even what you think you have

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Speaker 2: figured out when I mean I was an accounting degree,

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Speaker 2: I was an accounting major thinking I was going to

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Speaker 2: work for a big six firm.

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Speaker 1: No, like, not at all.

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Speaker 2: You know, you have no idea what you're going to do.

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Speaker 2: You know you're just going to try to start. You

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Speaker 2: set yourself up for success by developing the person and

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Speaker 2: the human you are.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Becksy, you have who got you?

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Speaker 3: Becksy? Life is not a sprint, It's a marathon. Enjoy

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Speaker 3: every day. Enjoy every mistake, Enjoy every every horrible relationship.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna have your heart broken. You're gonna break hearts

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Speaker 3: all He's.

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Speaker 2: Gonna be out there on the streets breaking hearts all

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Speaker 2: over the place. You know, you know you are becks

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Speaker 2: But we love that about you.

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Speaker 1: We love you. Tailwinds, tail Winds. There you go, fly,

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Speaker 1: Birdie Fly, And that's so much.

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Speaker 2: Guys for joining us on this episode of Two Cool Moms.

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Speaker 1: We love you, We appreciate you.

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Speaker 2: Please subscribe, share, follow us on Instagram at Too Cool

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Speaker 2: Moms pod.

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Speaker 1: Yeah uh, and your tour dates.

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Speaker 2: My tour dates jog atofficial dot com your tour.

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Speaker 3: Dates punch Up dot live and you'll see me right

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Speaker 3: there there, Okay, steviee Bernie.

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Speaker 1: Love it baby. Good to see your mommy,