WEBVTT - Second Date Update: I Got My Bullseye On You

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<v Speaker 1>Second date updated.

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<v Speaker 2>There's two types of people that you're gonna meet in

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<v Speaker 2>the dating world. The neurotic uptight over planners like Brook

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<v Speaker 2>who have to schedule out every minute of the entire

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<v Speaker 2>evening months in advance, or they won't even have a

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<v Speaker 2>good time.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that true?

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<v Speaker 3>I can't show up on time for anything, let alone

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<v Speaker 3>like over planet.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you not know me?

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<v Speaker 2>Brook was literally yelling at me to put it in

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<v Speaker 2>your schedule. Chap, put it in your schedule, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna forget.

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<v Speaker 4>You because we have to travel for work and you're

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<v Speaker 4>not gonna show up.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, neurotic and then there's the chill suave go with

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<v Speaker 2>the flow types like me. I knew that they can

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<v Speaker 2>make a good time happen with anyone in any bathroom

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<v Speaker 2>at any truck stop at any time.

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<v Speaker 1>That's my promise, has to be a truck stop.

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<v Speaker 2>And one of our listeners says he's also to go

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<v Speaker 2>with the flow type, but he's worried it may have

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<v Speaker 2>been his undoing on his date. His name is Russell,

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<v Speaker 2>but we're gonna call him Russ and he's not going

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<v Speaker 2>to fight us because he's chill with it.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, Russ?

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<v Speaker 5>Nothing much yes, I am gonna go with the flow, dude,

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<v Speaker 5>that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Guy, Ross is just like water what.

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<v Speaker 1>I got it? Okay, Ben to every need.

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<v Speaker 4>Container.

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<v Speaker 1>We have to turn this into like a physics lest

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<v Speaker 1>is the opposite of him. Yeah, let's let's let me

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<v Speaker 1>lead this conversation the chill type.

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<v Speaker 2>So, Russ, why don't you tell us about how you

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<v Speaker 2>how you met this person that you went out with.

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<v Speaker 1>What's her name by the way, her.

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<v Speaker 5>Name is Whitney, okay, and how did you meet her? Well,

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<v Speaker 5>we met at this place. I probably shouldn't say the name,

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<v Speaker 5>but it's one of those drinking and darts places.

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<v Speaker 1>A bar.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, well, I know that's what I was thinking.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, it's one of those newer places that electronically

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<v Speaker 5>keep score of the darts as you go, like you

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<v Speaker 5>know that place pop Golf. Yeah, yeah, it's like that,

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<v Speaker 5>but for dark.

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<v Speaker 4>So again, it's just taking like old bar games and

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<v Speaker 4>charging better, charging people more for able access.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, I met Whitney there.

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<v Speaker 5>I was there with coworkers and she was part of

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<v Speaker 5>the group next to us.

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<v Speaker 1>You just met her in the wild.

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<v Speaker 5>In the wild, how.

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<v Speaker 4>Did you approach her? Like, how did you guys strike

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<v Speaker 4>up a conversation.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm super totally naturally, Like, there's these tables between our

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<v Speaker 5>groups and we were sharing them to set drinks on

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<v Speaker 5>and she set hers down and I was just like

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<v Speaker 5>said to her, how's it going?

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<v Speaker 4>You know?

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<v Speaker 5>That's it?

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<v Speaker 4>Good pickup line?

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<v Speaker 1>Nice?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, And she just leaned in and said, I'm just

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<v Speaker 5>going really good. And she whispered to me, she said,

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<v Speaker 5>because I'm cheating.

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<v Speaker 4>How do you cheat at an electronic games?

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<v Speaker 2>You're talking about darts, not about like relationships, right, funny,

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<v Speaker 2>that's awesome.

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<v Speaker 3>Were you able to get a date out of that

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<v Speaker 3>meeting or is this your one hangout?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>I asked her as it was coming to a close,

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, hey, do you want to have Can

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<v Speaker 5>I get your phone ever? We want to hang out

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<v Speaker 5>sometime And she said.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, that's awesome. So you spun that into a date

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<v Speaker 2>a few days later?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that what happened?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah? The next week?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, what'd you guys do?

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't have a plan. I just said I'll come

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<v Speaker 5>pick you up if you're comfortable with that, and we

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<v Speaker 5>can just drive into the city and figure out something

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<v Speaker 5>to do.

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<v Speaker 1>Or there's a lot of truck stops outside of the city.

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<v Speaker 1>Which also.

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<v Speaker 4>Can guide you to that.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, the city is one way to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Where'd you go?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, so we drove in and I wasn't hungry, and

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<v Speaker 5>then I asked her if she wanted to get something

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<v Speaker 5>to eat, and she said she wasn't hungry either.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, never trust that you didn't You should have still

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<v Speaker 2>bought her food.

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<v Speaker 1>Bro, I've learned that mistake.

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<v Speaker 4>So what did you guys? Did you go get a

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<v Speaker 4>drink somewhere?

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, yeah, let's go get a drink. And

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<v Speaker 5>she's really not actually a big drinker. And it was

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<v Speaker 5>a week night and I was like, all right, so

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<v Speaker 5>no drinking, no food. I don't want to go sit

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<v Speaker 5>in a movie theater, you know. So we just drove around.

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<v Speaker 5>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, wait, you you did what?

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<v Speaker 5>We drove around? That's it.

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<v Speaker 4>That was the day, just driving for how long?

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<v Speaker 5>About an hour and less than an hour and a half.

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<v Speaker 4>What was on like a pretty road? Is this stop

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<v Speaker 4>like traffic?

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<v Speaker 1>Does that make a difference to you slightly?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean it was night and there were stop lights.

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<v Speaker 5>There was not some scenic drive in the country. No,

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<v Speaker 5>it was driving around in the city.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, So now do you regret not having a plan.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, honestly, she would admit it.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, how did that night end? Like? Was it just

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<v Speaker 1>driving the whole time?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, that's about it. But it wasn't as awkward as

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<v Speaker 5>it sounds like. That's the thing. We're talking about our family,

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<v Speaker 5>talking about our lives or work, and you know, she

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<v Speaker 5>was laughing. I was laughing, So it wasn't like as

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<v Speaker 5>painful as it sounds.

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<v Speaker 3>But I also I also wonder if it wasn't painful

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<v Speaker 3>for you because you had something else to do, like drive,

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<v Speaker 3>she's just sitting there.

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<v Speaker 2>If it suggests something at that point, maybe we ended

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<v Speaker 2>on a high note when they finished the evening.

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<v Speaker 1>How did you guys leave it?

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<v Speaker 5>I dropped her off and we said we would do

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<v Speaker 5>it again. Do that again, no, I said, I joked

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<v Speaker 5>and I said, you know, next time, we'll have a destination.

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<v Speaker 5>And she was into it, you know. I said, let's

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<v Speaker 5>get to dinner, let's be hungry. Maybe a weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>And since then, how many times have you driven by

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<v Speaker 1>her house quietly? Okay, I'm just kidding. How long has.

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<v Speaker 5>It been since since that night? It's been just over a.

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<v Speaker 4>Week, okay, and you've heard nothing or little bit?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I only text her twice. She responded to the

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<v Speaker 5>first text and not to the second one. I'm not

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<v Speaker 5>going to keep bugging her.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but you can.

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<v Speaker 4>We're gonna You're gonna let us bugger.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're gonna come back and we're going to try

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<v Speaker 2>and play it cool and suave, but we're going to

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<v Speaker 2>take a page out of Brooks dating life and have

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit of a plan and ask her questions.

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<v Speaker 2>Like we won't yell at her and demand that she

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<v Speaker 2>put it in the calendar, but.

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<v Speaker 4>More effective, well, gently.

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<v Speaker 2>Approach her and try and get you a second date

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<v Speaker 2>update right after this.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right, second date update.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what, I'm proud of our listener, Russell, because

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<v Speaker 2>he listens to his dates and gives them exactly what

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<v Speaker 2>they want. Whitney said she wasn't hungry, no food, She

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<v Speaker 2>said she wasn't thirsty, no drinks.

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<v Speaker 1>She said she didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Really feel like doing anything.

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<v Speaker 1>And her wish is his command. They're just gonna.

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<v Speaker 2>Drive around the city and talk and talk until they

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<v Speaker 2>bore themselves to tears.

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<v Speaker 1>Your wish is his command.

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<v Speaker 4>Until she said, Okay, I think it's time to drive me.

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<v Speaker 1>Home, right home, exactly what he did.

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<v Speaker 2>So why isn't our man getting a call back today?

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<v Speaker 2>I just hope she doesn't complain that he didn't set

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<v Speaker 2>anything up and plan out a date, because if he does,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have to rush to his defense.

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<v Speaker 1>Brook if that happens, Would that turn you on too much?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I could dial back my natural heroic qualities.

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<v Speaker 1>If that's going to be a problem.

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<v Speaker 3>I see, I didn't know what you're ferring me to

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<v Speaker 3>be turned on by my heroism?

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<v Speaker 1>That oozes out of my.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel safe, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Russell, do you feel safe?

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<v Speaker 5>I feel safe?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, yeah, Russell.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean I think we know what we're gonna hear here,

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<v Speaker 3>but I think it's going to.

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<v Speaker 4>Be easy to get you another chick.

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<v Speaker 1>What are we going to hear here?

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<v Speaker 4>That she was bored? It was a boring date?

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<v Speaker 1>Why do you always bring them down right before we do?

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<v Speaker 1>Why do you always do that?

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<v Speaker 2>I think she's gonna I think it's going to be

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<v Speaker 2>a scheduling conflict and she wasn't bored at all, or

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<v Speaker 2>she's married and you were just a side piece. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the one bringing the mine between there.

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<v Speaker 1>There, we'll find it. Okay, let's hope there's somewhere.

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<v Speaker 5>In between there.

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<v Speaker 4>The part is actually kind of good news.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not your fault that because they didn't kiss.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, did you guys kiss?

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<v Speaker 5>No, we didn't because.

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<v Speaker 2>She didn't ask for a kiss. If she had asked

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<v Speaker 2>for one, though, he would have planted one on her.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's still cheating, like my husband drive for an

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<v Speaker 3>hour with a random woman in a car that went.

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<v Speaker 2>Michael, if you're listening, turn the car round. Now, we

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<v Speaker 2>gotta get back to business.

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<v Speaker 6>Here.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna call Whitney. Let's dial her number and see

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<v Speaker 2>if she picks up. Here we go, Hello, Hi, We're

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<v Speaker 2>looking to speak to Whitney.

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<v Speaker 6>Speaking Hello, Hi. Who's this?

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<v Speaker 1>We like the sound of your voice. We're a radio show.

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<v Speaker 2>What we're a morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey

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<v Speaker 2>in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 6>Are you serious?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Not all the time, but right now, okay, we're wack.

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<v Speaker 2>We do try and do some fun stuff like Alexis

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<v Speaker 2>tell him about it.

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<v Speaker 4>We call people good good.

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<v Speaker 1>Good question. Because we do.

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<v Speaker 2>This segment is called a second date Update, and that's

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<v Speaker 2>where we try and help listeners get another date after

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<v Speaker 2>they went out with someone one time and want to

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<v Speaker 2>see him again.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh okay, that makes sense.

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<v Speaker 2>So one of our listeners has asked us to reach

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<v Speaker 2>out to you specifically.

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<v Speaker 1>His name is Russell. Oh you remember Russell. You guys

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<v Speaker 1>like drove around the city for a while.

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<v Speaker 4>He asked you out after you guys met at that

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<v Speaker 4>dart bar.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, we did. I was out with my sister, my

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<v Speaker 6>best friend, her husband, and you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know, well that's great, but we want to talk about

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<v Speaker 2>Russell a little bit.

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<v Speaker 4>Because, yeah, but we do know your sister is probably great.

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<v Speaker 1>She's awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the whole family, I'm sure. But what did you

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<v Speaker 2>think of Russell on your guys' date?

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<v Speaker 6>He was okay, okay, okay looking Oh oh.

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<v Speaker 1>Just call him ugly.

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<v Speaker 3>It's better than okay, Okay, hold on, though, Like he

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<v Speaker 3>pulls up to your house. I mean, you'd already met

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<v Speaker 3>him in person and agreed to the date. It's not

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<v Speaker 3>like you didn't know what he looked like.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but I didn't know fully about him. But after

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<v Speaker 6>driving around for an hour, I really learned a lot.

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<v Speaker 6>And sometimes that's positive. Sometimes that can be.

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<v Speaker 3>Negative, okay, And it can't change the way you're attracted

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<v Speaker 3>to someone, that's for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>So what did you learn that changed your mind about him?

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<v Speaker 6>He lives with his parents.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh well that was okaytable he's co dependent on his parents.

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<v Speaker 4>Who wait, wait, wait, wait, go hold on. I think

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<v Speaker 4>it's pretty common.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean yeah, I mean we've definitely heard other listeners

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<v Speaker 2>come on the show that have said that they lived

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<v Speaker 2>with their parents and they're saving up a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>money so they could buy like a nice house, sures.

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<v Speaker 4>Live in between roommates.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, there's so many different reasons why you would

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<v Speaker 3>find yourself back in that position.

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<v Speaker 2>We thought it may have been something that he like

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<v Speaker 2>did wrong on the date, but he didn't do anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 6>It sounds like no, no, no, he didn't do anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 6>But he needs to have his own place. He needs

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<v Speaker 6>to be able to provide Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I know we've heard that as a deal

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<v Speaker 2>breaker and a hangar for certain people, but like, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I can understand why you wouldn't want to bring that

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<v Speaker 2>up to him during the date. You really think that's

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<v Speaker 2>something where you would not even consider seeing him anymore

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<v Speaker 2>because he lives.

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<v Speaker 1>With his parents.

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<v Speaker 6>It's a deal breaker.

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<v Speaker 4>How come? Like, why is it for you?

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<v Speaker 6>Because he needs to have his own money, he needs

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<v Speaker 6>to have this stuff together just a little bit more.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, you're like an independent woman who's out on your own,

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<v Speaker 3>making your own life, and you want somebody that matches

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<v Speaker 3>that energy.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I do wonder what Russell would have to say about that, because.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to let you know, Whitney. He is on

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<v Speaker 1>the other line listening.

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<v Speaker 3>He is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's another thing we do, right, But Russell is there.

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<v Speaker 5>I think, Yes, I am on the line, and I'm

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<v Speaker 5>just it blows me away to hear you say that

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<v Speaker 5>because one of the things I learned about Whitney is

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<v Speaker 5>that she also lives with her parents.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait what, Oh, yes, I do live with you parent?

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<v Speaker 2>You do?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, Yes, I do.

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<v Speaker 4>Hold on, you mean what do you mean you live

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<v Speaker 4>with your parents, Whitney.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean I live with my mom and my dad.

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<v Speaker 6>One of us needs to have our own planes.

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<v Speaker 4>I honestly kind of get her on that. It'd be

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<v Speaker 4>really hard to date if you both lived with your parents.

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<v Speaker 4>Judge somebody else for.

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<v Speaker 1>It, hypocritical.

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<v Speaker 6>I can and I do.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So what we're learning here is the reason that

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<v Speaker 2>you're not going out with Russell is because he lives

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<v Speaker 2>with his family, even though you also live with your family.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a deal breaker.

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<v Speaker 4>For you, exactly why, Okay, how are we going to

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<v Speaker 4>hang out?

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<v Speaker 6>How are we going to hang out?

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<v Speaker 3>You know?

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<v Speaker 6>Where am I gonna cook dinner for?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm at?

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<v Speaker 2>It's kind of sexy if you think about it, If

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<v Speaker 2>you're like, so, do you want to go back to

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<v Speaker 2>your mom's house or my mom's house?

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<v Speaker 3>I could see how that would really set in for you.

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<v Speaker 3>After you spend just an hour in his car together.

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<v Speaker 6>Exactly, you're going to spend a lot more.

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<v Speaker 4>Hours and cars together.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>I would have gone back with him his house, but

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<v Speaker 6>we didn't have anywhere to go.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Oh Russell, you're staying awfully quiet during this to.

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<v Speaker 5>Her, I think this is completely ridiculous, Like we should

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<v Speaker 5>be closer to one another because we have the same situation.

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<v Speaker 5>We're trying to get out of it. Things are crazy

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<v Speaker 5>now and I am saving towards a goal.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like, I just don't know why you put that

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<v Speaker 5>on me completely. It just seems really like a double standard.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>I put it on you because you're the man and

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<v Speaker 6>you need to get this done.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, okay, this nineteen fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, well, we're coming heading back a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>legal ways.

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<v Speaker 3>So if we get out of that conversation. I mean

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<v Speaker 3>maybe Russell, you just have a better like you have

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<v Speaker 3>a plan of how you guys would hang out, and

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<v Speaker 3>maybe that would change your mind.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a good idea. We can move forward from this.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like, how would you guys hang out if you

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<v Speaker 3>both live at your parents' house?

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<v Speaker 6>Really good question.

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<v Speaker 1>That is a good question.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, as the man, how would you step up

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<v Speaker 2>and provide a place to hang out for her?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean we could go on dates, get to know

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<v Speaker 5>one another, and then go to the coach. You know,

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<v Speaker 5>travel a lot. There's a lot of times where they're

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<v Speaker 5>not going to be home.

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<v Speaker 4>Get into a real solution. Two point zero.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I get the house to yourself one time, or

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<v Speaker 2>if they are home, tie up bandana around the doorknob

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<v Speaker 2>and tell mom and dad to go watch a movie.

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<v Speaker 4>That's probably a thing in Jeffrey's house is a sad part.

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<v Speaker 1>We've got a lot of colorful.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like his mom uses it more than he does.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to that room. What's happening in there?

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<v Speaker 2>It seems like you guys have this thing in common.

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<v Speaker 2>People die to find things that they have in common

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<v Speaker 2>with people in.

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<v Speaker 1>The dating world.

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<v Speaker 3>If you can leave an hour hanging out in the

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<v Speaker 3>car and still think that this is a fun person

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<v Speaker 3>you want to be with.

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<v Speaker 4>You may be miss it out.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want to throw that away.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why we'd love to offer to send you guys

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<v Speaker 2>out on another date, to somewhere outside of both of

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<v Speaker 2>your parents' homes, and we would pay for it. If

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<v Speaker 2>you're up for giving him another chance, Whitney, nothing has.

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<v Speaker 6>Changed since the start of this conversation. If he gets

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<v Speaker 6>out of his parents' house, maybe we can talk them.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry, Russell, it looks like we're not going to be

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<v Speaker 2>able to get you a second date here.

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<v Speaker 4>Parents ruined it again, jef.

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<v Speaker 6>Hey, if you have any cute friends that have their

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<v Speaker 6>own place, let no come.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Jose's got his own place, Freaking Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>What a disappointment, man.

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<v Speaker 2>I think she's really not seeing the benefits of this situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I remember hooking up at my parents' place when

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<v Speaker 1>I was fifteen.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't think it's going to be just as exciting

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<v Speaker 2>when you're thirty five.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not.

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, I mean the parents don't hear as well.

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<v Speaker 1>They can't run up the stairs as fast. You're able

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<v Speaker 1>to get away with a lot more.

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<v Speaker 4>Blo's your curfew. It's probably two hours later than not

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<v Speaker 4>to mention.

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<v Speaker 2>Free PB and jays as many as you can eat.

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<v Speaker 2>After you're done fooling around, you have to fuel up.

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<v Speaker 1>Plus parents always have a stock fridge. I'm always I.

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<v Speaker 3>Was actually like telling her not to be so judgy,

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<v Speaker 3>but after that, yeah, down.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually might move back in with my parents after this.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to make sure.

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