Speaker 1: Second date updated.
Speaker 2: There's two types of people that you're gonna meet in
Speaker 2: the dating world. The neurotic uptight over planners like Brook
Speaker 2: who have to schedule out every minute of the entire
Speaker 2: evening months in advance, or they won't even have a
Speaker 2: good time.
Speaker 1: Is that true?
Speaker 3: I can't show up on time for anything, let alone
Speaker 3: like over planet.
Speaker 4: Do you not know me?
Speaker 2: Brook was literally yelling at me to put it in
Speaker 2: your schedule. Chap, put it in your schedule, and you're
Speaker 2: gonna forget.
Speaker 4: You because we have to travel for work and you're
Speaker 4: not gonna show up.
Speaker 2: Okay, neurotic and then there's the chill suave go with
Speaker 2: the flow types like me. I knew that they can
Speaker 2: make a good time happen with anyone in any bathroom
Speaker 2: at any truck stop at any time.
Speaker 1: That's my promise, has to be a truck stop.
Speaker 2: And one of our listeners says he's also to go
Speaker 2: with the flow type, but he's worried it may have
Speaker 2: been his undoing on his date. His name is Russell,
Speaker 2: but we're gonna call him Russ and he's not going
Speaker 2: to fight us because he's chill with it.
Speaker 1: What's up, Russ?
Speaker 5: Nothing much yes, I am gonna go with the flow, dude,
Speaker 5: that's for sure.
Speaker 3: Guy, Ross is just like water what.
Speaker 1: I got it? Okay, Ben to every need.
Speaker 4: Container.
Speaker 1: We have to turn this into like a physics lest
Speaker 1: is the opposite of him. Yeah, let's let's let me
Speaker 1: lead this conversation the chill type.
Speaker 2: So, Russ, why don't you tell us about how you
Speaker 2: how you met this person that you went out with.
Speaker 1: What's her name by the way, her.
Speaker 5: Name is Whitney, okay, and how did you meet her? Well,
Speaker 5: we met at this place. I probably shouldn't say the name,
Speaker 5: but it's one of those drinking and darts places.
Speaker 1: A bar.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I know that's what I was thinking.
Speaker 5: I mean, it's one of those newer places that electronically
Speaker 5: keep score of the darts as you go, like you
Speaker 5: know that place pop Golf. Yeah, yeah, it's like that,
Speaker 5: but for dark.
Speaker 4: So again, it's just taking like old bar games and
Speaker 4: charging better, charging people more for able access.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I met Whitney there.
Speaker 5: I was there with coworkers and she was part of
Speaker 5: the group next to us.
Speaker 1: You just met her in the wild.
Speaker 5: In the wild, how.
Speaker 4: Did you approach her? Like, how did you guys strike
Speaker 4: up a conversation.
Speaker 5: I'm super totally naturally, Like, there's these tables between our
Speaker 5: groups and we were sharing them to set drinks on
Speaker 5: and she set hers down and I was just like
Speaker 5: said to her, how's it going?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 5: That's it?
Speaker 4: Good pickup line?
Speaker 1: Nice?
Speaker 5: Yeah, And she just leaned in and said, I'm just
Speaker 5: going really good. And she whispered to me, she said,
Speaker 5: because I'm cheating.
Speaker 4: How do you cheat at an electronic games?
Speaker 2: You're talking about darts, not about like relationships, right, funny,
Speaker 2: that's awesome.
Speaker 3: Were you able to get a date out of that
Speaker 3: meeting or is this your one hangout?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I asked her as it was coming to a close,
Speaker 5: I was like, hey, do you want to have Can
Speaker 5: I get your phone ever? We want to hang out
Speaker 5: sometime And she said.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's awesome. So you spun that into a date
Speaker 2: a few days later?
Speaker 1: Is that what happened?
Speaker 5: Yeah? The next week?
Speaker 4: Okay, what'd you guys do?
Speaker 5: I didn't have a plan. I just said I'll come
Speaker 5: pick you up if you're comfortable with that, and we
Speaker 5: can just drive into the city and figure out something
Speaker 5: to do.
Speaker 1: Or there's a lot of truck stops outside of the city.
Speaker 1: Which also.
Speaker 4: Can guide you to that.
Speaker 1: But you know, the city is one way to do it.
Speaker 1: Where'd you go?
Speaker 5: Well, so we drove in and I wasn't hungry, and
Speaker 5: then I asked her if she wanted to get something
Speaker 5: to eat, and she said she wasn't hungry either.
Speaker 2: Oh, never trust that you didn't You should have still
Speaker 2: bought her food.
Speaker 1: Bro, I've learned that mistake.
Speaker 4: So what did you guys? Did you go get a
Speaker 4: drink somewhere?
Speaker 5: I was like, yeah, let's go get a drink. And
Speaker 5: she's really not actually a big drinker. And it was
Speaker 5: a week night and I was like, all right, so
Speaker 5: no drinking, no food. I don't want to go sit
Speaker 5: in a movie theater, you know. So we just drove around.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 1: Sorry, wait, you you did what?
Speaker 5: We drove around? That's it.
Speaker 4: That was the day, just driving for how long?
Speaker 5: About an hour and less than an hour and a half.
Speaker 4: What was on like a pretty road? Is this stop
Speaker 4: like traffic?
Speaker 1: Does that make a difference to you slightly?
Speaker 5: I mean it was night and there were stop lights.
Speaker 5: There was not some scenic drive in the country. No,
Speaker 5: it was driving around in the city.
Speaker 4: Okay, So now do you regret not having a plan.
Speaker 5: Yes, honestly, she would admit it.
Speaker 1: Well, how did that night end? Like? Was it just
Speaker 1: driving the whole time?
Speaker 5: Yes, that's about it. But it wasn't as awkward as
Speaker 5: it sounds like. That's the thing. We're talking about our family,
Speaker 5: talking about our lives or work, and you know, she
Speaker 5: was laughing. I was laughing, So it wasn't like as
Speaker 5: painful as it sounds.
Speaker 3: But I also I also wonder if it wasn't painful
Speaker 3: for you because you had something else to do, like drive,
Speaker 3: she's just sitting there.
Speaker 2: If it suggests something at that point, maybe we ended
Speaker 2: on a high note when they finished the evening.
Speaker 1: How did you guys leave it?
Speaker 5: I dropped her off and we said we would do
Speaker 5: it again. Do that again, no, I said, I joked
Speaker 5: and I said, you know, next time, we'll have a destination.
Speaker 5: And she was into it, you know. I said, let's
Speaker 5: get to dinner, let's be hungry. Maybe a weekend.
Speaker 1: And since then, how many times have you driven by
Speaker 1: her house quietly? Okay, I'm just kidding. How long has.
Speaker 5: It been since since that night? It's been just over a.
Speaker 4: Week, okay, and you've heard nothing or little bit?
Speaker 5: Well, I only text her twice. She responded to the
Speaker 5: first text and not to the second one. I'm not
Speaker 5: going to keep bugging her.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you can.
Speaker 4: We're gonna You're gonna let us bugger.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So we're gonna come back and we're going to try
Speaker 2: and play it cool and suave, but we're going to
Speaker 2: take a page out of Brooks dating life and have
Speaker 2: a little bit of a plan and ask her questions.
Speaker 2: Like we won't yell at her and demand that she
Speaker 2: put it in the calendar, but.
Speaker 4: More effective, well, gently.
Speaker 2: Approach her and try and get you a second date
Speaker 2: update right after this.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, second date update.
Speaker 2: You know what, I'm proud of our listener, Russell, because
Speaker 2: he listens to his dates and gives them exactly what
Speaker 2: they want. Whitney said she wasn't hungry, no food, She
Speaker 2: said she wasn't thirsty, no drinks.
Speaker 1: She said she didn't.
Speaker 2: Really feel like doing anything.
Speaker 1: And her wish is his command. They're just gonna.
Speaker 2: Drive around the city and talk and talk until they
Speaker 2: bore themselves to tears.
Speaker 1: Your wish is his command.
Speaker 4: Until she said, Okay, I think it's time to drive me.
Speaker 1: Home, right home, exactly what he did.
Speaker 2: So why isn't our man getting a call back today?
Speaker 2: I just hope she doesn't complain that he didn't set
Speaker 2: anything up and plan out a date, because if he does,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to rush to his defense.
Speaker 1: Brook if that happens, Would that turn you on too much?
Speaker 2: Because I could dial back my natural heroic qualities.
Speaker 1: If that's going to be a problem.
Speaker 3: I see, I didn't know what you're ferring me to
Speaker 3: be turned on by my heroism?
Speaker 1: That oozes out of my.
Speaker 4: I feel safe, okay.
Speaker 1: Russell, do you feel safe?
Speaker 5: I feel safe?
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, Russell.
Speaker 3: I mean I think we know what we're gonna hear here,
Speaker 3: but I think it's going to.
Speaker 4: Be easy to get you another chick.
Speaker 1: What are we going to hear here?
Speaker 4: That she was bored? It was a boring date?
Speaker 1: Why do you always bring them down right before we do?
Speaker 1: Why do you always do that?
Speaker 2: I think she's gonna I think it's going to be
Speaker 2: a scheduling conflict and she wasn't bored at all, or
Speaker 2: she's married and you were just a side piece. Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm the one bringing the mine between there.
Speaker 1: There, we'll find it. Okay, let's hope there's somewhere.
Speaker 5: In between there.
Speaker 4: The part is actually kind of good news.
Speaker 3: It's not your fault that because they didn't kiss.
Speaker 1: I don't know, did you guys kiss?
Speaker 5: No, we didn't because.
Speaker 2: She didn't ask for a kiss. If she had asked
Speaker 2: for one, though, he would have planted one on her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's still cheating, like my husband drive for an
Speaker 3: hour with a random woman in a car that went.
Speaker 2: Michael, if you're listening, turn the car round. Now, we
Speaker 2: gotta get back to business.
Speaker 6: Here.
Speaker 2: We're gonna call Whitney. Let's dial her number and see
Speaker 2: if she picks up. Here we go, Hello, Hi, We're
Speaker 2: looking to speak to Whitney.
Speaker 6: Speaking Hello, Hi. Who's this?
Speaker 1: We like the sound of your voice. We're a radio show.
Speaker 2: What we're a morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey
Speaker 2: in the Morning.
Speaker 6: Are you serious?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Not all the time, but right now, okay, we're wack.
Speaker 2: We do try and do some fun stuff like Alexis
Speaker 2: tell him about it.
Speaker 4: We call people good good.
Speaker 1: Good question. Because we do.
Speaker 2: This segment is called a second date Update, and that's
Speaker 2: where we try and help listeners get another date after
Speaker 2: they went out with someone one time and want to
Speaker 2: see him again.
Speaker 6: Oh okay, that makes sense.
Speaker 2: So one of our listeners has asked us to reach
Speaker 2: out to you specifically.
Speaker 1: His name is Russell. Oh you remember Russell. You guys
Speaker 1: like drove around the city for a while.
Speaker 4: He asked you out after you guys met at that
Speaker 4: dart bar.
Speaker 6: Yeah, we did. I was out with my sister, my
Speaker 6: best friend, her husband, and you.
Speaker 2: Know, well that's great, but we want to talk about
Speaker 2: Russell a little bit.
Speaker 4: Because, yeah, but we do know your sister is probably great.
Speaker 1: She's awesome.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the whole family, I'm sure. But what did you
Speaker 2: think of Russell on your guys' date?
Speaker 6: He was okay, okay, okay looking Oh oh.
Speaker 1: Just call him ugly.
Speaker 3: It's better than okay, Okay, hold on, though, Like he
Speaker 3: pulls up to your house. I mean, you'd already met
Speaker 3: him in person and agreed to the date. It's not
Speaker 3: like you didn't know what he looked like.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but I didn't know fully about him. But after
Speaker 6: driving around for an hour, I really learned a lot.
Speaker 6: And sometimes that's positive. Sometimes that can be.
Speaker 3: Negative, okay, And it can't change the way you're attracted
Speaker 3: to someone, that's for sure.
Speaker 1: So what did you learn that changed your mind about him?
Speaker 6: He lives with his parents.
Speaker 3: Oh well that was okaytable he's co dependent on his parents.
Speaker 4: Who wait, wait, wait, wait, go hold on. I think
Speaker 4: it's pretty common.
Speaker 2: I mean yeah, I mean we've definitely heard other listeners
Speaker 2: come on the show that have said that they lived
Speaker 2: with their parents and they're saving up a lot of
Speaker 2: money so they could buy like a nice house, sures.
Speaker 4: Live in between roommates.
Speaker 3: I mean, there's so many different reasons why you would
Speaker 3: find yourself back in that position.
Speaker 2: We thought it may have been something that he like
Speaker 2: did wrong on the date, but he didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 6: It sounds like no, no, no, he didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 6: But he needs to have his own place. He needs
Speaker 6: to be able to provide Okay.
Speaker 2: I mean, I know we've heard that as a deal
Speaker 2: breaker and a hangar for certain people, but like, I mean,
Speaker 2: I can understand why you wouldn't want to bring that
Speaker 2: up to him during the date. You really think that's
Speaker 2: something where you would not even consider seeing him anymore
Speaker 2: because he lives.
Speaker 1: With his parents.
Speaker 6: It's a deal breaker.
Speaker 4: How come? Like, why is it for you?
Speaker 6: Because he needs to have his own money, he needs
Speaker 6: to have this stuff together just a little bit more.
Speaker 3: Okay, you're like an independent woman who's out on your own,
Speaker 3: making your own life, and you want somebody that matches
Speaker 3: that energy.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I do wonder what Russell would have to say about that, because.
Speaker 1: I need to let you know, Whitney. He is on
Speaker 1: the other line listening.
Speaker 3: He is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's another thing we do, right, But Russell is there.
Speaker 5: I think, Yes, I am on the line, and I'm
Speaker 5: just it blows me away to hear you say that
Speaker 5: because one of the things I learned about Whitney is
Speaker 5: that she also lives with her parents.
Speaker 1: Wait what, Oh, yes, I do live with you parent?
Speaker 2: You do?
Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I do.
Speaker 4: Hold on, you mean what do you mean you live
Speaker 4: with your parents, Whitney.
Speaker 6: I mean I live with my mom and my dad.
Speaker 6: One of us needs to have our own planes.
Speaker 4: I honestly kind of get her on that. It'd be
Speaker 4: really hard to date if you both lived with your parents.
Speaker 4: Judge somebody else for.
Speaker 1: It, hypocritical.
Speaker 6: I can and I do.
Speaker 2: Okay, So what we're learning here is the reason that
Speaker 2: you're not going out with Russell is because he lives
Speaker 2: with his family, even though you also live with your family.
Speaker 1: That's a deal breaker.
Speaker 4: For you, exactly why, Okay, how are we going to
Speaker 4: hang out?
Speaker 6: How are we going to hang out?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 6: Where am I gonna cook dinner for?
Speaker 1: I'm at?
Speaker 2: It's kind of sexy if you think about it, If
Speaker 2: you're like, so, do you want to go back to
Speaker 2: your mom's house or my mom's house?
Speaker 3: I could see how that would really set in for you.
Speaker 3: After you spend just an hour in his car together.
Speaker 6: Exactly, you're going to spend a lot more.
Speaker 4: Hours and cars together.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I would have gone back with him his house, but
Speaker 6: we didn't have anywhere to go.
Speaker 2: Okay, Oh Russell, you're staying awfully quiet during this to.
Speaker 5: Her, I think this is completely ridiculous, Like we should
Speaker 5: be closer to one another because we have the same situation.
Speaker 5: We're trying to get out of it. Things are crazy
Speaker 5: now and I am saving towards a goal.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 5: It's like, I just don't know why you put that
Speaker 5: on me completely. It just seems really like a double standard.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I put it on you because you're the man and
Speaker 6: you need to get this done.
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, this nineteen fifty.
Speaker 1: I mean, well, we're coming heading back a lot of
Speaker 1: legal ways.
Speaker 3: So if we get out of that conversation. I mean
Speaker 3: maybe Russell, you just have a better like you have
Speaker 3: a plan of how you guys would hang out, and
Speaker 3: maybe that would change your mind.
Speaker 1: It's a good idea. We can move forward from this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like, how would you guys hang out if you
Speaker 3: both live at your parents' house?
Speaker 6: Really good question.
Speaker 1: That is a good question.
Speaker 2: I mean, as the man, how would you step up
Speaker 2: and provide a place to hang out for her?
Speaker 5: I mean we could go on dates, get to know
Speaker 5: one another, and then go to the coach. You know,
Speaker 5: travel a lot. There's a lot of times where they're
Speaker 5: not going to be home.
Speaker 4: Get into a real solution. Two point zero.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I get the house to yourself one time, or
Speaker 2: if they are home, tie up bandana around the doorknob
Speaker 2: and tell mom and dad to go watch a movie.
Speaker 4: That's probably a thing in Jeffrey's house is a sad part.
Speaker 1: We've got a lot of colorful.
Speaker 4: I feel like his mom uses it more than he does.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to that room. What's happening in there?
Speaker 2: It seems like you guys have this thing in common.
Speaker 2: People die to find things that they have in common
Speaker 2: with people in.
Speaker 1: The dating world.
Speaker 3: If you can leave an hour hanging out in the
Speaker 3: car and still think that this is a fun person
Speaker 3: you want to be with.
Speaker 4: You may be miss it out.
Speaker 1: You don't want to throw that away.
Speaker 2: That's why we'd love to offer to send you guys
Speaker 2: out on another date, to somewhere outside of both of
Speaker 2: your parents' homes, and we would pay for it. If
Speaker 2: you're up for giving him another chance, Whitney, nothing has.
Speaker 6: Changed since the start of this conversation. If he gets
Speaker 6: out of his parents' house, maybe we can talk them.
Speaker 2: Sorry, Russell, it looks like we're not going to be
Speaker 2: able to get you a second date here.
Speaker 4: Parents ruined it again, jef.
Speaker 6: Hey, if you have any cute friends that have their
Speaker 6: own place, let no come.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Jose's got his own place, Freaking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: What a disappointment, man.
Speaker 2: I think she's really not seeing the benefits of this situation.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember hooking up at my parents' place when
Speaker 1: I was fifteen.
Speaker 2: You don't think it's going to be just as exciting
Speaker 2: when you're thirty five.
Speaker 4: It's not.
Speaker 2: No, No, I mean the parents don't hear as well.
Speaker 1: They can't run up the stairs as fast. You're able
Speaker 1: to get away with a lot more.
Speaker 4: Blo's your curfew. It's probably two hours later than not
Speaker 4: to mention.
Speaker 2: Free PB and jays as many as you can eat.
Speaker 2: After you're done fooling around, you have to fuel up.
Speaker 1: Plus parents always have a stock fridge. I'm always I.
Speaker 3: Was actually like telling her not to be so judgy,
Speaker 3: but after that, yeah, down.
Speaker 1: I actually might move back in with my parents after this.
Speaker 1: I want to make sure.
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