Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 3: Yes, we are scrub a dub dumb so much has
Speaker 3: happened to talk about?
Speaker 4: Tell me well, first of all.
Speaker 3: We have an ethic new setup in.
Speaker 1: So if you're watching this, hey, fel if it feels
Speaker 1: a little fresher less pixelated, Yes, because we got some
Speaker 1: new gear in this.
Speaker 4: Dude, that's right.
Speaker 5: That's something problems says we can't cash and if you
Speaker 5: don't know, it's gonna be le mixilated.
Speaker 3: Yet that's true. That's true.
Speaker 6: This is scrubbing in what ten point zero or something.
Speaker 6: This is like a new era, that's what we.
Speaker 4: Were going for.
Speaker 6: We have a new producer era. Yes, new look, new lighting.
Speaker 4: Yes, my own lighting.
Speaker 2: Tanya has the Alex Earl light up. It's just in
Speaker 2: full force.
Speaker 6: Sure.
Speaker 1: The best part about it though, is that it's actually
Speaker 1: La Girl branded.
Speaker 4: I got it in a gifting suite, so it's like
Speaker 4: a branded light. Oh but.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there was just like a lot going on this
Speaker 2: weekend in terms of like football and whatnot.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, a lot of tailor slift.
Speaker 4: Just so much.
Speaker 1: I've never been more excited about a football Sunday than
Speaker 1: I was yesterday.
Speaker 3: What tell me about it? Tell me about your Sunday,
Speaker 3: because so.
Speaker 1: Well, first of all, started out with my favorite gluten
Speaker 1: free bagel in town. Shout out Pops Bagels. Oh my gosh, yes,
Speaker 1: thank you.
Speaker 3: Shout out to.
Speaker 4: I saw Hillary duffin there.
Speaker 5: Wow dream Yeah, I'm sorry, I need to know what time.
Speaker 4: I've never seen her there before.
Speaker 1: I think this was like a rarity, to be honest,
Speaker 1: but I literally was just like watching her like a
Speaker 1: I'm sure she probably felt my eyes.
Speaker 4: Was she wearing.
Speaker 1: She was wearing all black, like a black blouse, black pants,
Speaker 1: and sneakers. Got she so she she looked so I
Speaker 1: was like, Sunday, I looked so haggard, and she looked
Speaker 1: chet with like her hair and a ponytail.
Speaker 4: Like she looked so cute.
Speaker 1: And then they like she sat down and was waiting
Speaker 1: for her order, and then they were like Hillary's like,
Speaker 1: oh that's HER's she got it.
Speaker 6: You see what she got to you.
Speaker 1: I couldn't hear. I couldn't hear what she ordered. But
Speaker 1: that was really really started my day off strong. And
Speaker 1: then the the I actually don't know the names of
Speaker 1: the teams, but Kristin Harper's fiance Jared.
Speaker 3: Goff, Yeah, those are the Detroit Lions.
Speaker 1: Yes, so they were playing against Olivia Colpos. Yes, the
Speaker 1: friend Niners. So that was a thrill just because, like
Speaker 1: because I love both of.
Speaker 4: Them win, you know, like I was like, I can't
Speaker 4: lose this match.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's more of like I love Kristen and I
Speaker 2: love all of it. Like Olivia pops up on my
Speaker 2: TikTok and Instagram and I'm just in awe, just happy.
Speaker 4: She's so everything. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yes, it's uncom rule sometimes yeah, but anyway, so, yeah,
Speaker 2: the two girls were going against each other.
Speaker 1: Correct, and then you throw Taylor Swift in the mix,
Speaker 1: I mean, with the win and she's on the field.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just so much. Did you watch the game?
Speaker 1: Where were you at home? Haley's I was at home.
Speaker 1: I didn't watch the game. Yeah, I don't at any games.
Speaker 2: No, No, but I you know, was keeping up via
Speaker 2: social media to see who was winning and stuff.
Speaker 3: But that was the extent of my knowledge.
Speaker 2: But I loved all the footage of her on the
Speaker 2: field because that's a huge deal for her to go
Speaker 2: down on the field and amongst all those.
Speaker 1: People, right, all the normies, well, not the normal I mean,
Speaker 1: I think it's a very on the field.
Speaker 2: But I think going down and following his mom and
Speaker 2: her letting her have the first hug with him, like
Speaker 2: it was really cool and normalize her in this weird
Speaker 2: way where you're like, Wow, she was just stoked to
Speaker 2: be down there and like be a part I from.
Speaker 1: I felt the same way, Like I'm like, she is
Speaker 1: normally in charge, and like in this scenario, in this
Speaker 1: role in her life, she is the partner, do you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like she's she's the partner, She's
Speaker 1: not the leader, and so it's like kind of cool
Speaker 1: to see her be that role. Yeah, it was not
Speaker 1: used to it.
Speaker 2: There's some speculations about what they were saying to each
Speaker 2: other because they kind of covered. It was like she
Speaker 2: was whispering something to him, so she like had her
Speaker 2: hand over her face.
Speaker 3: But there's some speculation on what what was said. And uh,
Speaker 3: there was a kiss.
Speaker 4: The love you, there was no I heard it. I
Speaker 4: listened back to that video one hundred times.
Speaker 3: I listened to the sound. I thought, people are you
Speaker 3: know I see I miss things like that? You know
Speaker 3: how you miss things in.
Speaker 2: Certain realms of pop culture where I'm like, how did
Speaker 2: you miss that? I do miss things where I'm I
Speaker 2: don't watch things like that over and over. I just
Speaker 2: see the photos and stuff and I'm like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: it's so fun.
Speaker 3: But that's yeah, So what what did she say there?
Speaker 4: And I love you.
Speaker 1: I've never seen anything like that in my life. Taylor
Speaker 1: said that, yeah, and then like he asked where they were,
Speaker 1: where they were sitting or something, so she was like
Speaker 1: showing him where they were sitting.
Speaker 4: It was kind of weird, honestly, but I thought it was.
Speaker 6: Sweet and normal. I felt like a fly on the
Speaker 6: wall and a normal conversation between them, don't you think.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I guess, but I think I would imagine, like.
Speaker 6: You're going to the super Bowl, You've been there for
Speaker 6: in the last five years whatever. Mark, I know, but
Speaker 6: I'm just saying it's not it's not life changing for him.
Speaker 6: He's been there many times.
Speaker 1: And then she had the TNT bracelet on. Wait, I
Speaker 1: need to ask you your thoughts on her nails.
Speaker 2: I don't care, no, Like I'm I don't understand. I
Speaker 2: didn't know that that was something to speculate. I just
Speaker 2: thought they were.
Speaker 1: Like for chiefs, like the color for the chiefs, and
Speaker 1: they were long. Did that not weird you out?
Speaker 3: She's not been playing her guitar.
Speaker 4: My god, when have we ever seen her with long nails?
Speaker 3: I don't think I pay attention.
Speaker 4: Do it. Do a little google right now and your
Speaker 4: nails are alone?
Speaker 2: When I saw her at the Grammy party, oh, because
Speaker 2: that was a whole speculation, it.
Speaker 3: Is, you know what.
Speaker 2: I had a moment thinking about that. The fact that
Speaker 2: I have a photo with her is like so epic,
Speaker 2: Like I can't believe that I've had conversations with her.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Haley and I were.
Speaker 2: Saying, and Haley's in her you need to calm down
Speaker 2: video and she's like, I can't believe that I will
Speaker 2: forever be in that music video.
Speaker 1: Right, it's like documented in history and performed with her
Speaker 1: on stage.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 3: It's really cool.
Speaker 4: It's really cool.
Speaker 2: But I just feel like she's When I saw the
Speaker 2: photos and stuff on the field and the fact that
Speaker 2: they won, it felt like you know when something really
Speaker 2: epic happens for your friend and you want to text
Speaker 2: him and be like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 4: I'm so happy for her.
Speaker 3: All this is so cool. I felt like I wanted
Speaker 3: to do that, you know, like that's how she makes.
Speaker 4: That's how I feel about her and Olivia like I'm
Speaker 4: so torn.
Speaker 3: Oh who are you going to root for?
Speaker 4: I think the forty nine ers?
Speaker 1: Wow, because they're getting married this year, and it's like,
Speaker 1: how cute would that be if they get married and
Speaker 1: he wins the Super Bowl in the same year?
Speaker 3: What if Taylor and Travis get engaged this year?
Speaker 4: Though?
Speaker 1: Well so no, Well, now I have a feeling that
Speaker 1: the Chiefs are gonna win because it's Super Bowl.
Speaker 4: What is LVIIII or whatever.
Speaker 1: So anyways, I first of all convent to that is
Speaker 1: so annoying. It definitely was a man because it's just annoying. Yes,
Speaker 1: but it's just so nice. Anyways, it's fifty eight Okay,
Speaker 1: five plus eight is thirteen.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I saw this. This is weird.
Speaker 1: The forty nine ers four plus nine is thirteen thirteen.
Speaker 1: This is going to be Taylor Swift's thirteenth game she's attended.
Speaker 1: The flight from Tokyo to Vegas is thirteen hours. And
Speaker 1: this I'm not sure about. Somebody just sent me this.
Speaker 1: I guess there's a quarterback on the forty nine Ers
Speaker 1: that has a number thirteen.
Speaker 3: Does that have anything to do with her?
Speaker 6: Remember?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so does have anything to do.
Speaker 3: There's always a number thirteen on teams most of the day.
Speaker 4: There's another thirteen on the Chiefs.
Speaker 6: Brock party is number thirteen.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, So all that's to say I think the
Speaker 1: Chiefs are gonna win.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, Okay, it's too much of cod.
Speaker 1: Oh and the super Bowl is on February eleventh, which
Speaker 1: is two and eleven, which is thirteen.
Speaker 3: Oh my god. It's really they really do be reaching.
Speaker 4: Were reaching.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm just saying.
Speaker 1: It's like the littless like that's not even a reach.
Speaker 1: It's like right next to us. It's like maple syrup
Speaker 1: on the pancake.
Speaker 4: Wow, it's not to reach at all.
Speaker 3: Actually, maple syrup on the pancake, like mayonnaise.
Speaker 6: And a pancake would be a reach, but mapup.
Speaker 2: Like a reach would be like comparing almond and saying
Speaker 2: it's nature's hamburger, which is what Tanya told me over
Speaker 2: the weekend.
Speaker 1: Yes, but I failed myself because what I meant to
Speaker 1: say was it's almonds are Nature's totsu rolls. It's still
Speaker 1: it's still like they're little, they're bite size.
Speaker 4: You can keep them in your pocket. They say, she
Speaker 4: ate you.
Speaker 1: They make you feel like yummy, and just keep it
Speaker 1: in your pocket at all times.
Speaker 4: Pop one in.
Speaker 3: Do ttsy rolls make you feel that way?
Speaker 4: I don't eat titsy rolls, but I imagine they would.
Speaker 3: Oh but if you just what you imagine, they would be.
Speaker 4: Yes, like small, bite sized little like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so not like a worther mint or something. Yeah,
Speaker 3: that feels more like that could have.
Speaker 2: Been a good analogys she started with almonds or Nature's hamburger.
Speaker 3: Which.
Speaker 4: Protein I was going with, like a high protein snack.
Speaker 2: I gasped, sneak snag. Okay, well that was interesting. I
Speaker 2: had a lot of responses to this. They were like,
Speaker 2: Tony's gonna be an almond mom, we must look Paulina
Speaker 2: wrote me and said no, and I was like, we
Speaker 2: must look out for.
Speaker 3: Her children, like it's important.
Speaker 4: This is this is true.
Speaker 2: Tonya will send me what she eats in a day,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, this is depressing. Her lunch will be
Speaker 2: like pieces of tur like sliced turkey, dulling me cheese
Speaker 2: and a piece of lettuce and it looks so sad.
Speaker 2: On the thing on the picture, and then she'll send
Speaker 2: me a handful of like four almonds and she's like, hm,
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm hungry.
Speaker 4: I eat a lot though, That's the thing. I eat
Speaker 4: a lot.
Speaker 1: I just eat small portions, like small things throughout the day.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that say, she ate?
Speaker 1: Yeah, like almonds. Almonds are a great thing to have
Speaker 1: in your pocket at all times.
Speaker 3: So they're just raw in the pocket.
Speaker 4: Raw, unsalted and unroasted.
Speaker 6: Oh, take an almond and make it as bland as
Speaker 6: humanly possible.
Speaker 2: There's so much delicious food in the world, and that
Speaker 2: just sounds so sad.
Speaker 4: Here's the thing.
Speaker 1: If you're leaving your house in the morning to go
Speaker 1: to work for the whole day, you have to pack something.
Speaker 4: What are you going to pack?
Speaker 3: I mean I would I would maybe have some salt
Speaker 3: on there if I'm gonna do almonds, or like a
Speaker 3: little nut packed with like good eminem in there here
Speaker 3: and there, so snaky trail. I love a trail mix.
Speaker 4: Okay, sure, so okay, what else would you take? It's
Speaker 4: a long day.
Speaker 3: I take a string cheese.
Speaker 4: Okay, what else would you take?
Speaker 3: Maybe some like uh?
Speaker 4: I do so easy?
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I feel like once you have like what
Speaker 2: you like though a bag of little Siette chips. Okay,
Speaker 2: I promise I could find snacks that that are more
Speaker 2: than raw raw dog almonds in the bogget. Okay, let's
Speaker 2: just it's a good argument, but it's not great.
Speaker 3: It's not a great argument, all right.
Speaker 4: Fine.
Speaker 2: Something significant that happened to me personally is so Jillian
Speaker 2: Dempsey is Patrick Dempsey's wife, and she's a celebrity hairstylist.
Speaker 2: I think that's how they met actually, And for his birthday,
Speaker 2: she posted a video of she'll post these like thirst
Speaker 2: trap videos of him. They're not supposed to be thirst
Speaker 2: traps what they are because he is just beautiful and
Speaker 2: she'll be like doing his hair and styling it.
Speaker 3: And it was like happy birthday.
Speaker 2: I thought it said Happy birthday, Daddy, but it said
Speaker 2: Happy birthday Patty, which the same same, right, And I
Speaker 2: commented and I was like, Jillian, we appreciate you. And
Speaker 2: there was like thousands of comments and she responded with
Speaker 2: like heart, like a little heart emoge.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, So this is your chance.
Speaker 6: So now you respond by saying podcast Yeah, but I
Speaker 6: was thinking.
Speaker 4: You know what, take one for the team.
Speaker 3: You don't either.
Speaker 2: You never ask anybody you're Heelena Gomez all the time,
Speaker 2: or she had let's get recalling here.
Speaker 6: That's a fine points, a really good point just made.
Speaker 1: Well, you never asked me to get Selena on the podcast.
Speaker 3: You never asked.
Speaker 2: I'll send you a list of the celebrities you're around
Speaker 2: me now let me know.
Speaker 6: Come on our show whenever she wants.
Speaker 4: That's true.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Haley Steinfeld.
Speaker 4: Why don't you shoot your shot with Jillian Depsy? I will.
Speaker 3: What are you gonna say, I'm gonna ask her to
Speaker 3: come on the podcast?
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's fine, great, I would love to.
Speaker 3: Talk to her about too. So that's gonna be where
Speaker 3: I start.
Speaker 4: Are you really going to I mean, do I ask
Speaker 4: her in a comment?
Speaker 2: What do you mean I'm gonna have to like we're
Speaker 2: gonna have to reach out to her team or something.
Speaker 4: Right, do it the professional way.
Speaker 2: But and she probably is someone who runs her social
Speaker 2: media that commented the emojis back to me.
Speaker 3: But I appreciated Yeah probably.
Speaker 4: Maybe yeah, no, no, I don't think so.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do you think it's like a scrubber who
Speaker 2: like I love when a scrubber is like running.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's gonna bet.
Speaker 3: I would love if it was a scrubber that he
Speaker 3: sent me heart for her.
Speaker 4: To be honest, I don't think she has somebody doing that.
Speaker 3: I do. I think everyone does.
Speaker 4: I don't what. I don't think that.
Speaker 3: Oh, you don't think that everyone has that.
Speaker 1: I don't think like, let's say, if somebody has somebody
Speaker 1: helping them with their socials or whatever, like maybe they're
Speaker 1: helping her post videos and stuff. I don't think they're
Speaker 1: responding to people.
Speaker 3: Yeah, a lot of people do.
Speaker 5: Yeah, five hundred thousand followers. I mean, it's a lot
Speaker 5: to manage. I think she has.
Speaker 2: Someone totally, and it could be a scrubber that's just like, Oh,
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna comment. I'm gonna like give her a
Speaker 2: little crumb here, a little crummy pass it.
Speaker 4: Did she respond to anybody else?
Speaker 2: I'm sure, Oh, I don't go down.
Speaker 4: I would do some serious investigating.
Speaker 3: Okay, did you ever talk to Christopher?
Speaker 4: I never managed to get ahold of Christopher.
Speaker 3: There was a lot of scrubbers who were on your side.
Speaker 4: You know, and I feel really validated.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to extend my thank you to everybody
Speaker 1: that listens and was in support of my.
Speaker 4: Whatever you call it, snapping my.
Speaker 1: Whiplash, because I it was very disgusting and the more
Speaker 1: I think about it, the more grossed out I get.
Speaker 1: And I just feel like my actions were validated, even
Speaker 1: though I regret them and I would still like to apologize.
Speaker 1: I do feel very validated from everybody listening well good.
Speaker 2: I still felt like Robbie stood his ground that it
Speaker 2: was out of character and that y'all will definitely not
Speaker 2: be going back to act.
Speaker 4: We will never help.
Speaker 1: Everybody all weekend because I was like posting my workouts
Speaker 1: and stuff and everybody's like, these look really spread out.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not going back to the same place.
Speaker 1: These are all different places.
Speaker 3: Oh they think that you were you were like over
Speaker 3: being right right, Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was like, no, this is this is where I'm
Speaker 1: going now because I can't go to right said other place.
Speaker 4: Said other said other place.
Speaker 2: Well, I do want to get an update on your wedding,
Speaker 2: because we haven't talked really about wedding stuff.
Speaker 3: But we're going to take a break before we get
Speaker 3: to that, all right, Tanya. The wedding year amongst us
Speaker 3: upon us, or is it that should have been the tease?
Speaker 3: We should have done next time, next time, how's wedding planning?
Speaker 1: You know, it's so different than I ever anticipated, because
Speaker 1: like there's so much I think for me, but I
Speaker 1: also think just in general a lot of people. Your
Speaker 1: wedding day has so much build up and so much hype, right,
Speaker 1: and so you want it to be what you want
Speaker 1: it to be. And then so you have all these hopes,
Speaker 1: you have all these dreams, you go down all these
Speaker 1: different avenues, and then when you're older, like I'm not
Speaker 1: in my twenties, there's kids involved, and then like you
Speaker 1: have to schedule around kids schooling.
Speaker 4: And so because we're now, we're really looking.
Speaker 1: To do it abroad, like outside of LA and kids'
Speaker 1: schedules are really hard.
Speaker 4: Because you don't want to take them out of school
Speaker 4: like we have our kids.
Speaker 1: My sister has kids, his brother has kids, you know,
Speaker 1: like so we kids take them out of school. So
Speaker 1: that really starts to kind of it's too early, summers,
Speaker 1: too early to do it this year.
Speaker 4: So now we're thinking Thanksgiving, Okay.
Speaker 1: But then I'm like, are we assholes if we ask
Speaker 1: people to come up to our wedding in Europe on
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving week? So toying around with that and like I
Speaker 1: have all these like people pleaser tendencies, is what I'm
Speaker 1: realizing in my head, and I'm feeling bad about all
Speaker 1: these things, and like every everyone that I've talked to
Speaker 1: is like, it's your day, do what you want. And
Speaker 1: I'm like I can't. I'm like I feel debilitated, like
Speaker 1: I can't. I just can't do it. So then we
Speaker 1: were talking about April twenty twenty five.
Speaker 6: Wow, yeah, like spring break or something.
Speaker 4: Yeah, spring break wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because after November it gets really cold where we
Speaker 1: want to do it, and so it's like then it
Speaker 1: kind of knocks out December, January, February, March, and so
Speaker 1: the April would be kind of the earliest.
Speaker 4: And twenty twenty five.
Speaker 6: And You've mentioned this before, but doing it in Europe,
Speaker 6: you have found is cheaper than doing it.
Speaker 4: In Los Angeles, like a third of the cock.
Speaker 6: Wow.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: No. I think people see and think about doing a
Speaker 2: wedding abroad and they're like, oh my gosh, that's so expensive.
Speaker 2: How are they able to afford that? But it's actually
Speaker 2: shockingly cheaper. I mean it's it's harder in the sense
Speaker 2: the guests have to travel and spend the money, but
Speaker 2: in terms of planning a wedding.
Speaker 1: It's also harder to conceptualize because most of these places,
Speaker 1: like we don't really know you know, if we're getting
Speaker 1: married in LA, it'd be like, Okay, we're gonna get
Speaker 1: married here. We can have people stay. We know the area,
Speaker 1: so it's like people can say this hotel or they
Speaker 1: can say this hotel, and they can you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like we know what we're doing, we know vendors,
Speaker 1: we know flores, like we know hair and makeup people
Speaker 1: there I know nothing, So it's like I'm just on
Speaker 1: a whim. Just sure you sound good, like a good band,
Speaker 1: let's go, you know what I mean, Like I don't.
Speaker 4: Know, Like so it's there's just all these I.
Speaker 1: Mean, we're not even in that down that path yet,
Speaker 1: but the band, yeah, like band and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: But yeah, it's very So then I kind of flip
Speaker 1: flop and I'm like, well, do I really need the
Speaker 1: wedding that I've dreamed of? Like John Matters, do it
Speaker 1: like here? Make it easy on me, make it easy
Speaker 1: on everybody.
Speaker 4: So that's kind of where I'm at. So no, just
Speaker 4: basically nowhere.
Speaker 2: So to sum it up, nothing has moved forward. Yeah, basically, yeah,
Speaker 2: but you are looking at options. It is crazy to
Speaker 2: think about the kid thing because I wouldn't think you
Speaker 2: do have to think about their school schedule and stuff.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean if.
Speaker 2: You're doing a destination wedding, right, because if you're doing
Speaker 2: it here being.
Speaker 4: No problem do any weekend.
Speaker 1: But yeah, if you're doing destination, you can't like just
Speaker 1: take all these kids out of school for a week,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like.
Speaker 3: That'd be awesome for them.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So it's how do you.
Speaker 3: Feel about a twenty twenty five wedding.
Speaker 1: I don't love it. I mean, I'm like, it seems far.
Speaker 1: It's not even April twenty twenty four.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's a long time for now. But maybe that
Speaker 6: takes some of the pressure off because you have more
Speaker 6: time to plan it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And I was actually I was talking to Tony and
Speaker 1: one of our other friends about this, and she was like,
Speaker 1: this is your only time in your life that you're
Speaker 1: going to be engaged. She's like, it's April twenty twenty five,
Speaker 1: is going to be here before you know it, Like,
Speaker 1: just enjoy it, don't you know? Because I'm like, because
Speaker 1: everybody's saying just do it. This summer, hurry up, but
Speaker 1: just get it done. And I'm like that stresses me
Speaker 1: out thinking about that.
Speaker 3: It's like I'm saying that that's terrible advice.
Speaker 4: Oh, Pauline, I was like, I think summer would be great.
Speaker 4: I'm like, that seems so soon. So uh yeah, it's
Speaker 4: just like a lot.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it feels like a lot.
Speaker 4: Yeah, But I think the Thanksgiving thing is making me.
Speaker 1: I feel bad to ask people to come to my
Speaker 1: wedding on things like what if we do it on Thanksgiving?
Speaker 1: The wedding, Yeah, that's tough, like a big Thanksgiving tough?
Speaker 6: Is it to I would not be there.
Speaker 4: Thank you so much, thank you for that.
Speaker 6: That that's crucial, But I wouldn't And I think I
Speaker 6: pry a lot of people would be in that situation.
Speaker 1: But would they like so I thought about that too,
Speaker 1: Like I was like, maybe not on Thanksgiving, but maybe
Speaker 1: like either the Friday after Thanksgiving or the Wednesday before
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving and then people just spend the rest of their
Speaker 1: Giving break, you know in Europe. And all my friends
Speaker 1: that I've like floated it by were like, I'd be
Speaker 1: so down to go to Europe for Thanksgiving. So like
Speaker 1: people's reactions have been the opposite of what I expected.
Speaker 3: So there will be ten of us there attendance.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's just.
Speaker 4: Family. It would be like, yeah, it would be our family.
Speaker 1: And then I checked in on my bridal party and
Speaker 1: that's kind of where I landed.
Speaker 2: Well, this is exciting news, and we'll continue with updates
Speaker 2: as we get them.
Speaker 1: I do feel though, I'm feeling more like I'm really excited.
Speaker 1: I think that once I figure out the venue and
Speaker 1: the date, I think it's gonna be really really fun
Speaker 1: for me because I'm having a lot of fun with
Speaker 1: like my bridesmaid baskets and like making those and so like,
Speaker 1: I feel like the actual nitty gritty of the wedding
Speaker 1: stuff I think I'm gonna have fun with. I think
Speaker 1: it's like the nailing down when and wear that is
Speaker 1: like causing me a lot of stress.
Speaker 2: Speaking of bridesmaids, I saw this video of a polite
Speaker 2: way to decline being a bridesmaid, which is not going
Speaker 2: to be me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this feels very uh pointed.
Speaker 3: I just copy and paste.
Speaker 4: It just showed up in your algorithm. This had a say.
Speaker 2: Bridesmaceuf all the time, so it feels accurate that it
Speaker 2: would show up in my algorithm. Anyways, it was like
Speaker 2: a very plate way because sometimes people, especially now, it's
Speaker 2: like a lot of financial stress, it's traveling, it's a
Speaker 2: lot of commitment, time and energy, and I think people
Speaker 2: if they feel like they're not able to give that,
Speaker 2: they feel this guilt of like, Okay, it was an
Speaker 2: honor that they asked me, and it's so important, but
Speaker 2: I don't feel like I can be the part that
Speaker 2: they need me to be in it. And so it
Speaker 2: was like a really nice letter basically declined, just like
Speaker 2: coffee and paste it and it's donny after she gives
Speaker 2: me my basket.
Speaker 1: I know, because we will be having family meetings. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: oh yes, yes, how often tbd, but it'll be me,
Speaker 1: you and Paulina, And yeah, family meetings.
Speaker 4: I'm giving you guys planners, personalized planners.
Speaker 3: Those mandatory meeting I'm just kidding. It'd be so cute.
Speaker 2: I knew what I was getting into when I committed
Speaker 2: to be your best friend.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So, switching topics, did you watch the Bachelor premiere?
Speaker 1: I did not because I'm very into another show. But
Speaker 1: let's talk about the Bachelor show.
Speaker 3: Get into another show.
Speaker 6: The rest of the doc whenever I got scheduled for
Speaker 6: this show. She can go off on the show for
Speaker 6: half an hour.
Speaker 2: Correct, Well, I'm just going to give a quick since
Speaker 2: no one else is watching The Bachelor in.
Speaker 1: Here anti the Bachelor, I'll give it a world because
Speaker 1: I like this Joey guy.
Speaker 3: He is so cute.
Speaker 2: I feel like he's the best Bachelor we've had in years.
Speaker 2: And I might be biased, but I would say since
Speaker 2: Ben Higgins, you know, I feel like he was exceptional
Speaker 2: and I feel like Joey is bringing back.
Speaker 3: The core audience of The Bachelor.
Speaker 4: I met him at the Jonas Brother show.
Speaker 3: That one right before he started filming.
Speaker 1: Yes, and like the I think the ABC Public City
Speaker 1: team was like around him, and so they wanted us
Speaker 1: to meet and we were having such a great conversation
Speaker 1: with him. We were like, oh my gosh, I like
Speaker 1: try to get Paulina to like talk and floor with
Speaker 1: him because.
Speaker 4: I was like, he's so cute, so cute, He's so charming,
Speaker 4: he said.
Speaker 1: They were like, oh, he's about to go be the Bachelor, Timlina.
Speaker 2: He looks like he could be a Jonas brother. He
Speaker 2: looks like he's like a joke Kevin Mix. Yeah, that's
Speaker 2: what Taylor Banks sent to me, and so now that's
Speaker 2: that's what I see. Yeah, but I just am so
Speaker 2: excited for this season. It's so cute, and I would
Speaker 2: I wouldn't hate if you watch it, so we could
Speaker 2: just chout about it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but tell me about the new show that you're watching.
Speaker 1: Because oh, it comes out once a week, so I
Speaker 1: do have some time to kill in between you do.
Speaker 2: But this was this is the crazy thing. There are
Speaker 2: two there's a two sisters on the show. So one
Speaker 2: of them is twenty eight and one of them is
Speaker 2: twenty six. So on bed season, we had the twins.
Speaker 4: Emily on The Bachelor.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, oh.
Speaker 2: Sorry, not we haven't moved on yet to what you're
Speaker 2: gonna say. So there's Lauren, she's the older sister. She's
Speaker 2: twenty eight, and Alison is twenty six, and so there's
Speaker 2: this like dynamic where it feels kind of funny and
Speaker 2: like not serious.
Speaker 4: Right now, I hate that. I would hate nothing more.
Speaker 4: I would hate to do it with a best friend.
Speaker 3: I think you would hate to do it period. Correct.
Speaker 1: I would not like my boyfriend dating multiple women. Call
Speaker 1: me crazy.
Speaker 2: Imagine Robbie was a bachelor and we meet you and
Speaker 2: Paulina Little, what would you do?
Speaker 4: I would hate it?
Speaker 1: Like, nothing sounds worse to me, honestly, but like, who
Speaker 1: wants their boyfriend dating other people?
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it's good. It's a good point.
Speaker 2: Much less your sister, especially for the older sister. I
Speaker 2: think that, Like, you know, I, when I met Haley,
Speaker 2: I my intention was to set her up with Hank,
Speaker 2: my youngest sister, and like, thank god, it never even
Speaker 2: got to a point where they hung out or anything.
Speaker 3: But I'm like, I'm so happy.
Speaker 4: That that you snatched her up, snatched her up when
Speaker 4: I did.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly the Anyways, I'm excited to see how that
Speaker 2: plays out.
Speaker 3: So maybe if you watch it, we can see it.
Speaker 3: Watch it. I'm pulled together.
Speaker 1: I'll watch it. I'll watch it, all right, because right
Speaker 1: now I'm deadlocked.
Speaker 3: Tell me about it.
Speaker 4: This is the best show that is on television right now.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, here we go, traders.
Speaker 3: Tell me what is it?
Speaker 4: So have you really not heard of it?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: Okay, it's like taking over the world.
Speaker 3: Oh it's huge.
Speaker 1: So basically, I want to say, it's kind of like
Speaker 1: a real life clue. It's kind of like a murder mystery. Okay,
Speaker 1: they put all these people in a house, right, and
Speaker 1: it's like mansion in Scotland or something. The best part
Speaker 1: is is like these people I know all of them
Speaker 1: because I used to watch The Challenge on MTV.
Speaker 4: So there's like old Challenge people. There's a girl Trischelle
Speaker 4: from Real World like in the show, Yes show, she's
Speaker 4: on it.
Speaker 3: Whoa.
Speaker 1: There's like housewives like Tamra and the House. There's like
Speaker 1: an Atlanta housewife. There's a New Jersey house. There's like
Speaker 1: all these different housewives on there. There's uh Pilot Pete
Speaker 1: is on there, my girl Achen Sue from Love Island UK.
Speaker 4: There's just like all these random.
Speaker 1: Celebrities that like you don't know but you know, do
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like you recognize their faces.
Speaker 1: And so they get in this house and basically they're oh,
Speaker 1: the girl from Survivor Poverty, megal Poverty.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So they're in this house and basically the host selects
Speaker 1: trade people to be traders, and basically every night they
Speaker 1: go and they decide who they're.
Speaker 4: Going to kill off from the show.
Speaker 1: So so every night the traders get together with their
Speaker 1: cloaks and they kill somebody and then every morning they
Speaker 1: go in to get breakfast and somebody new has died.
Speaker 4: And then every night time.
Speaker 1: Before they do this, they have like a round table
Speaker 1: where they basically have to banish one person from the
Speaker 1: house and it's they have to try and catch the trader.
Speaker 4: Does that make sense?
Speaker 1: So they have to like they're all like, let's imagine
Speaker 1: us all in the thing, and let's say Easton is
Speaker 1: the trader and the rest of us are faithful, right,
Speaker 1: but so you have to like try and see who's lying,
Speaker 1: Like who's is it like mafia?
Speaker 2: Yes okay, yes, the glorified mafia with the old reality stars.
Speaker 1: Yes okay, and these people are just former former yes,
Speaker 1: correct form it is so I don't know what it is,
Speaker 1: but the show is so good.
Speaker 4: I binged it so fast and now I done. Well,
Speaker 4: I'm on.
Speaker 1: There's only five episodes out on Peacock right now, so
Speaker 1: I'm caught up and they only drop one a week.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I know, are you supposed to I'm
Speaker 1: gonna watch season one. I'm gonna go back and watch
Speaker 1: season one, and then there's like, okay, yes there's a
Speaker 1: season one. This is season two airing, and then there's
Speaker 1: a UK version and an Australian version.
Speaker 4: Wow, you're set up set. Yeah, that's great.
Speaker 2: I wonder if you're gonna like the UK version better
Speaker 2: because you always seem to lean towards the UK.
Speaker 4: I think I will if it's a bunch of Love
Speaker 4: Island UK people freak out.
Speaker 2: Well, that's exciting something to watch. I will try to
Speaker 2: watch that if please.
Speaker 3: Join in on The Bachelor.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it is great to and the host
Speaker 1: is like so weird, but like it works like it is.
Speaker 4: I don't know his name, Alan Comming, Yeah, Alan coming like.
Speaker 3: The famous actor actor.
Speaker 4: Oh, I don't know. He's like, are you a faithful
Speaker 4: or are you a twitter?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 4: He like he makes it.
Speaker 1: It's like you feel like you're watching like a movie,
Speaker 1: Like it's so good.
Speaker 4: Wow, and my girl Parvet's a trader like.
Speaker 1: The spoiler alert it's okay, yeah it's not really spoiler.
Speaker 1: But I think about like Rob and I were talking
Speaker 1: about if we were on it, like would we want
Speaker 1: to be a trader or a faithful? And I was like,
Speaker 1: I'd have to be a faithful. There's no way I could, like.
Speaker 6: Is it up to you? I thought it was up
Speaker 6: to Alan Allen picks.
Speaker 4: It's not up to you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, he picked it starts with the game of heads
Speaker 5: up seven out right kind.
Speaker 4: Of yeah on the shoulder, like you're the trader. It's
Speaker 4: so good.
Speaker 3: Right, something to try to get into. Yeah.
Speaker 1: To be able to watch it with Virginize again is
Speaker 1: just like what a gift I have?
Speaker 4: Yeah, gift you've been given a given.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, we are going to take a break and
Speaker 2: we'll be right back. I think we have one email,
Speaker 2: all right, before we get to the email. I noticed
Speaker 2: that last week when we were talking about not having
Speaker 2: a producer, there was a lot of scuttle in the
Speaker 2: Facebook group.
Speaker 6: They were like, I must have gotten me, Like, why
Speaker 6: isn't Mark the producer?
Speaker 2: Yeah, there was a lot of confusion because what is
Speaker 2: your title in this show?
Speaker 6: I don't have one. I don't think so it's weird.
Speaker 6: You know, producers a big category. A lot of people
Speaker 6: fall under the category of producer. Like even on the
Speaker 6: sequest show, I'm the executive producer, but there's one hundred
Speaker 6: other people for this show. I edit it, I contribute
Speaker 6: when needed. I would say I'm a producer on this show,
Speaker 6: but I'm not the producer on this show. Okay, And
Speaker 6: we didn't have that person, right, but now we do.
Speaker 2: It's basically what we what we were saying, we didn't
Speaker 2: have with someone who was giving us like a run
Speaker 2: of show.
Speaker 6: Basically, prepare the show, give you ideas, topics to talk about.
Speaker 3: Mark and Easton edit. Easton's our engineer.
Speaker 2: So for the sound, they're they're like, what makes the
Speaker 2: podcast sound and look the best, and they're like a
Speaker 2: produce and they chime in. But we didn't have anyone
Speaker 2: that was giving us like a rundown, right.
Speaker 1: So just the air, we were just talking out of
Speaker 1: a guiding force.
Speaker 4: Yeah, guiding force.
Speaker 5: I got a lot of d ms asking what's going
Speaker 5: on with Mark if there's no producer, and I said, sadly,
Speaker 5: he was fired. I told a lot of people that
Speaker 5: I'm sorry if I told you that information.
Speaker 4: No, but everybody welcome Sam.
Speaker 1: Welcome Sam, Sam.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Sam is part of the team now.
Speaker 4: So if you hate the podcast, please damn her.
Speaker 3: It's her fault. Dang, I'm joking.
Speaker 1: Okay, thought she'd pop in and say hi, but hire if.
Speaker 3: You hate it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we love I love Sam.
Speaker 3: We're very happy that she's she's our guiding force.
Speaker 4: So yes, So with that said Mark.
Speaker 6: Away, Sam, Is it okay if I still read the
Speaker 6: emails in this new era? Do you feel like that's
Speaker 6: been focus grouped enough and that people enjoy me reading
Speaker 6: emails or should we think outside the box on this?
Speaker 4: No, you can go ahead and read the email, k
Speaker 4: you very much like No.
Speaker 6: I want maybe fine. This is one of those emails.
Speaker 6: By the way, well, I feel like they know the
Speaker 6: answer to the question they're asking, but they had to
Speaker 6: get it out. Dear Beca and Tanya. I started listening
Speaker 6: to the podcast in twenty nineteen. Your episodess brought me
Speaker 6: through my season of singleness and kept the modern woman
Speaker 6: energy high while I navigated the dating world until I
Speaker 6: called in the one. This past October, I got engaged
Speaker 6: in my very own red Star, and it feels full
Speaker 6: circle to be engaged in the same year as Tanya
Speaker 6: and probably married before Tanya. I am in the early stage.
Speaker 6: That was me, by the way, I interjected that that
Speaker 6: was not literally. I am in the early stages of
Speaker 6: wedding planning, and I'm trying to decide if I want
Speaker 6: to have a bridal party or not. I've been a
Speaker 6: bridesmaid in two friends' weddings in the past year, and
Speaker 6: when I think about who I want to have my
Speaker 6: bridal party, neither of those girls would make the list.
Speaker 6: I feel guilty on asking them. I already have the
Speaker 6: five girls that I would ask, and my level of
Speaker 6: friendship with then runs much deeper. Should I consider not
Speaker 6: having a bridal party to avoid any conflict and just
Speaker 6: do a maid of honor? Or should I move ahead
Speaker 6: with the five friends that I know i'd have? That's
Speaker 6: from live.
Speaker 3: Do you can answer? Since you're going through this process
Speaker 3: of like having to think about bridal party, but I
Speaker 3: have an opinion on it as well, not having any Well,
Speaker 3: I'm eerious.
Speaker 1: I think you should move ahead with the five friends
Speaker 1: that you know and love and that you feel are
Speaker 1: your best representation of like your life.
Speaker 4: You know, Like, I think it's totally fine. I don't
Speaker 4: think you need to. I understand what you're saying.
Speaker 1: I've been bridesmaids in people's weddings that I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: ask to be my bridesmaids. But I also think too,
Speaker 1: like life happens, relationships change things, ebb and flow, and
Speaker 1: that's okay. I think it's okay, and that you should
Speaker 1: go with the five girls that you want.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I was gonna say, if you're planning to
Speaker 2: do a bachelorette party or any bridal showers, I think
Speaker 2: inviting those people that that if that makes you feel
Speaker 2: better to have them included in certain things. But I
Speaker 2: think when it comes to your wedding day and who
Speaker 2: you want standing up there with you, I think you
Speaker 2: choose the people that are represent that those positions for you.
Speaker 2: But I also think that you can just say, like,
Speaker 2: this is the amount that I'm able to have and
Speaker 2: I love you guys, I would love for you to
Speaker 2: be involved if we do a bachelorette party or any showers.
Speaker 2: But you know, and they probably won't even say anything.
Speaker 2: They'll probably like they most likely won't say like why
Speaker 2: didn't you invite me? If they think it, then let
Speaker 2: them think it. But it's your day, so don't.
Speaker 1: I know that's what everyone says, it's your day doing
Speaker 1: what you want. It's like that, it's like you just can't.
Speaker 3: You might have to hurt feelings.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's true, you're gonna hurt feelings.
Speaker 3: I don't accept that hurt feelings might be hurt.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But like Ali for her bachelorette were there's people
Speaker 2: that aren't part of her wedding party going.
Speaker 4: Right, such as myself.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's like you can include them in ways
Speaker 2: so that they don't feel like, wow, she doesn't care
Speaker 2: about us at all without needing to have them as.
Speaker 3: Part of your official bridal party. Yeah, so good luck.
Speaker 4: It does get very tricky.
Speaker 3: That was very funny.
Speaker 1: I was going through all that stuff, like actually with
Speaker 1: Paulina this weekend and she's like, who would you want,
Speaker 1: like who would become to your bacherette? And I was
Speaker 1: like my bridal party. Like I was literally just like
Speaker 1: that's it. She's like, you don't want to invite anyone else?
Speaker 6: And I'm like market.
Speaker 1: It was like kind of like, uh no, I don't
Speaker 1: think so, like I have no idea who else I
Speaker 1: would invite?
Speaker 4: Kind of dark.
Speaker 3: Well, I mean that's nice. That really clear is there
Speaker 3: for you there?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Makes it very easy. Yeah, all right, and we hope
Speaker 3: you have a wonderful week and we love you so much,
Speaker 3: Love you so much.
Speaker 2: Bye,