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Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back

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Speaker 1: on the air. Welcome back to yet another carefully Reckless

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Speaker 1: episode with your Girl just hilarious. Now listen, I'm by

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Speaker 1: myself today and I have something very important to express

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Speaker 1: and to talk about because this is actually going on

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Speaker 1: in a lot of people's lives, both men and women. Pride.

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Speaker 1: There is no story time. I just want to speak now.

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Speaker 1: There is nothing wrong with having pride, pride false hand

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Speaker 1: in hand with dignity as a woman. As a man, yes,

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Speaker 1: you need both of those. But too much pride can

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Speaker 1: hinder you from opportunities. It can hinder you from great relationships.

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Speaker 1: It can hinder you from um bonding with family, healthy relationships,

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Speaker 1: healthy friendships. It can hinder or you from job opportunities

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Speaker 1: as well, anything that requires you to have a humble mind.

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Speaker 1: And that just means open to everything. Honestly, if there's

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Speaker 1: no no significant definition of humble other than just being

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Speaker 1: open and down to earth, that's what humble is to me. However,

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Speaker 1: other people always getting sucked up, But that's exactly what

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Speaker 1: humble is to me, down the earth and open right

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Speaker 1: pride and humble usually don't mix. Listen. I was in

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Speaker 1: a position once where I was dating someone and I

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Speaker 1: just blew up like I had just gotten the Fox

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Speaker 1: Show and all of that ship. I was dating somebody.

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Speaker 1: You know, understand what I'm saying. He felt like, I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna treat you like a celebrity because you're on Fox.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna treat you differently because you are on

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Speaker 1: a Fox show. You're the same girl that I knew

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Speaker 1: when I was younger. You're the same blah blah blah,

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Speaker 1: blah blah. You're the same. So don't come around here

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Speaker 1: with that Hollywood ship. You're gonna be the same bitch

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Speaker 1: that I knew that I went to school with blah

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Speaker 1: blah blah. Now listen. And that event, his pride and

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Speaker 1: his ego would not let him see me as an

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Speaker 1: evolved woman from the hood. Now, I'm not gonna sit

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Speaker 1: here and say I came from nothing because my parents

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Speaker 1: worked damn hard to keep lights on, and me and

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Speaker 1: my brother had every single thing that we wanted if

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Speaker 1: we earned it. Even if my parents didn't have it,

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Speaker 1: which is something I found out when I was an adult,

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Speaker 1: they still scrounged up in and and and made it

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Speaker 1: happen for us. However, they didn't have it all the time,

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Speaker 1: but they ended up getting it for us. So I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna say I didn't come from nothing right because

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Speaker 1: my parents always made something out of there nothing. So

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say that. But one thing that I can

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Speaker 1: vouch for absolutely is no, I didn't have much. I

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Speaker 1: was still you know, urban, I was still raising the hood.

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Speaker 1: I still lived on a bloh where you know, you

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Speaker 1: have crag kids walking up in the street, People get

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Speaker 1: killed and and people are selling drugs right in front

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Speaker 1: of your face. As a kid, I've seen transactions and

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Speaker 1: I've seen ship then no kids should ever have to see.

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Speaker 1: But that all made me who I am today. Now.

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Speaker 1: Have I evolved from that? Hell? Yeah? Do I want

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Speaker 1: I am blessed enough not to have to put him

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Speaker 1: through that. You know, although I had a great life,

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Speaker 1: my childhood years were the best years of my life.

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Speaker 1: I can say that. But I didn't know that there

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Speaker 1: was raised. So you don't know anything but what you

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Speaker 1: being raised, except for how you're being raised. I didn't

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Speaker 1: I did not know that I didn't even know Beverly

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Speaker 1: That's so, I was gonna say dinner, but it wouldn't

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Speaker 1: even go out. This motherfucker was so hung up on

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Speaker 1: that I came back to this fucking hood to get you. Motherfucker. Now, listen,

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Speaker 1: that's low, that's dirty, but y'all have to understand something.

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Speaker 1: When you elevate, so does everything else in your life.

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Speaker 1: I knew. I didn't know how to elevate that ship

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Speaker 1: of your life or depict your life or dictate how

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Speaker 1: for yourself. Then you can start elevating everything else that

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Speaker 1: comes with I started getting money, I started shopping. I

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Speaker 1: started looking better. Now, when I say looking better, a

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Speaker 1: bitch ain't never been ugly. I'm gonna just sit here

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Speaker 1: A bitch ain't never been ugly. Okay. Always had full lips,

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Speaker 1: always had a nice little plump ass. Okay, I had

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Speaker 1: some little alterations done. But I never had hips. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I was Gina Waters from Martin. I never had hips.

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Speaker 1: I always had a nice little cuff in my ass.

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Speaker 1: Believe that never had titties. Okay, me and Trade Songs

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Speaker 1: had the same chest for years, but it's fine. It

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Speaker 1: was fine with me, but with money I same flaws.

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Speaker 1: I corrected. I started eating different, I started thinking different.

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Speaker 1: Now this does not mean that I elevated to be

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Speaker 1: That's just all that is. And that guy couldn't get

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Speaker 1: I've even grown since then. Another example of pride. I

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Speaker 1: a situation where he was in a relationship. His girlfriend

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Speaker 1: cheated on him badly, and she cheated with somebody who

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Speaker 1: about deals on the table here and there. No not

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Speaker 1: that money makes you know, it does not. Now, I'm

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Speaker 1: just telling all this ship for a reason. He makes money.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't come from money. He actually comes from the

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Speaker 1: street as well. But he turned legit hasn't sold a

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Speaker 1: him everything. He met this girl beautiful and she's from

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Speaker 1: talking about what he knows their family. They met each

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Speaker 1: other's families, like they bonded. They ended up being like

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Speaker 1: You know, she ended up cheating on him, Okay, she

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Speaker 1: ended up getting caught as well by him. Do you

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Speaker 1: know that it can either be pride and dignity or

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Speaker 1: pride and ego. Pride can hinder you from healthy relationships,

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Speaker 1: Pride can hinder you from your future. She was so

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Speaker 1: used to her previous relationships where niggas do nothing but

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Speaker 1: and and this, that and the other, and I've been

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Speaker 1: the bills? What then are you gonna say if I

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Speaker 1: put you in a predicament to to do what you

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Speaker 1: do even though it's not right. But that's the type

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Speaker 1: because a lot of guys are living off of women

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Speaker 1: You know, I've had a few myself. So that's the thing. Right,

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Speaker 1: that you fucking did. Yeah. Yeah, that's pride, that's ego.

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Speaker 1: That's when you think you're too big to get in trouble.

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Speaker 1: didn't do this? She did this? She did this? Why

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Speaker 1: of saying I'm sorry, I fucked up. I know what

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Speaker 1: if you click off of this podcast, I swear I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna beat your ass. Listen, I'm gonna give you another

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Speaker 1: example of pride. My aunt is raising my seventeen year

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Speaker 1: It's fine. His father's in jail. Fine. He's taller than

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Speaker 1: my aunt, so he feels like you can't beat me.

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Speaker 1: Beating him is out of the question. But you're still

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Speaker 1: living my fucking house. She's gonna follow my rules as

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Speaker 1: My aunt got a phone call from his school. He

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Speaker 1: He wouldn't give it to her. She was like, give

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Speaker 1: me your fucking phone. You have no business watching porn

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Speaker 1: but not in school. You gotta know. There's a time

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Speaker 1: in the place for everything. That the that the mother's speech,

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Speaker 1: pride hindered her. No, y'all getting it fucked up? No, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: what I'm telling you? I was crazy with it. People

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Speaker 1: They was like, yo, how much you charge? I was

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Speaker 1: Because I went home and I was still broke. I

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Speaker 1: the cancer cancers do that. Oh, that's what my fucking

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Speaker 1: areas like. No, that's the sagittary. No, nigga, No, I'm

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Speaker 1: lot of it comes from deep rooted issues. Why are

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Speaker 1: why what can you do to stop getting in your way?

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Speaker 1: the funk I am. I didn't even know I had

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be like this. I don't. I

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Speaker 1: don't I want her to be happy. No, I don't

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Speaker 1: to have her. No. No, you know, so you're throwing

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Speaker 1: is you let her go. You let her be happy.

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Speaker 1: Who knows what the the future gonna bring. And his

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Speaker 1: be aware of that ship. A lot of people got

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Speaker 1: That's why you're so cold to certain things. That's why

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Speaker 1: That's why you can't understand and certain ship, because your

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Speaker 1: you're only worried about yourself. A lot of people aren't

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Speaker 1: And I know a lot of pride can be built

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Speaker 1: off of constant hurt. People can hurt you and make

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Speaker 1: get to know yourself. Pride is not always bad, but

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Speaker 1: a little too much of it. It's always negative. It's

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Speaker 1: always bad. Nobody wants to be around you. You're unapproachable,

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Speaker 1: after this. Who would you rather have a conversation with,

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Speaker 1: prideful Trump or humble Obama. Let's take away the fact

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Speaker 1: We now know them. We don't know them personally, but

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Speaker 1: we now know them as much as we need to

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Speaker 1: know them to know. Who would you have a conversation with? Trump?

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Speaker 1: Who is as prideful as they come? Who is as

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Speaker 1: And just like that, I'm gonna end it on that

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