WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Pals Before Gals

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<v Speaker 1>Second data to date. You know, it might be the

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<v Speaker 1>most important date of your entire life, but it's the

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<v Speaker 1>first date after you get out of a long term relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Und it's not important. It's just like, we'll lead to

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<v Speaker 1>the bedroom because that's the only way I'm getting over

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<v Speaker 1>out of it. You've been you know. Thing is if

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<v Speaker 1>that date ends up being a bad one, you could

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<v Speaker 1>end up swearing off romance forever. That's true. You're giving

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<v Speaker 1>it one date after a breakup, are you not? Patience?

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't have to be perfect, it doesn't even have

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<v Speaker 1>to be good. You just hope it doesn't go horribly,

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<v Speaker 1>horribly wrong and blow up in your face. But unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what happened to one of our listeners, Krista, And

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<v Speaker 1>before she makes the decision to give up on men forever,

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<v Speaker 1>she's reached out to us for a little bit of help.

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<v Speaker 1>So Christa, first of all, welcome to the show. Hi. Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>that is a heavy welcome, Christa. If you had such

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<v Speaker 1>a bad date, why do you want to call this

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<v Speaker 1>guy back? Okay, well I have to explain though it's

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<v Speaker 1>not really a bad date with this guy. Okay, give

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<v Speaker 1>us the rundown. Tell us what happened. Okay, So I

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<v Speaker 1>was in a two year relationship that's over. I'm newly single,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm on apps, like a few apps. Yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>I matched with this guy on Tinder. His name's Paxton.

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<v Speaker 1>We're like, okay, great, fine, And everybody had an image

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<v Speaker 1>in your head as soon as you said he was

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<v Speaker 1>definitely a prom king Yeah. Yeah, no, I could tell

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<v Speaker 1>right away, like he's super douchey. Okay is a good thing. No,

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<v Speaker 1>he talked about himself the whole time, like, oh when

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<v Speaker 1>he kept using the tree, keep going boy, oh god,

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<v Speaker 1>oh god, how long did it last? How long were

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<v Speaker 1>you on this date? For? It sounds terrible? I like it. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>he was talking about like these hot women he's hooked

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<v Speaker 1>up with. He's like, oh, but you're not like them.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's a good thing, like the hot part or

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<v Speaker 1>the hook up part, the hot part. Oh god, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're really like natural looking. What do you say to that?

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<v Speaker 1>I just stared at them. I was like, what the

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<v Speaker 1>you know? And then like he had some shots in

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<v Speaker 1>front of them, like oh, I'm gonna gonna went more

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<v Speaker 1>drinks and then he goes more drinks buddy or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>you like, did you know did you just leave? I mean, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not up for like ghosting somebody on a date.

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<v Speaker 1>But this guy sounds terrible. Yeah, yeah, So what happened next?

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<v Speaker 1>What he gets worse? I mean, so I watch him

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<v Speaker 1>go to the bar and he's hitting on this other girl.

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<v Speaker 1>He's talking to the other girl and he's laughing. Love that. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>He gets a wine, a white wine like it looks

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<v Speaker 1>like what I'm drinking, and he hands it to that girl. What,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my gosh, your drink? Tell me you left at

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<v Speaker 1>this point? Yeah? No, At that point, I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>do I leave or do I store a drink in

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<v Speaker 1>his face? Like? How dramatic do I want to hear? Yeah? Dramatic?

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be here too, pre dramatic. What'd you

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<v Speaker 1>go with? Well? I look over to him and he

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<v Speaker 1>just gives me the shrug like put his hands in

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<v Speaker 1>the air, like what am I gonna do? He's hot? Girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>So I saw this other guy my hand to the

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<v Speaker 1>bar and he's by himself, and I was like, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>he's cute that a girl, now, okay? Yeah, and I

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<v Speaker 1>chucked that glass of wine. So I'm like feeling kind

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<v Speaker 1>of loose or whatever. So what's his name Braxton, then

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<v Speaker 1>I would have run out the door. His name was Luke,

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<v Speaker 1>and it just sounds dumb. I mean, it's the time.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the best I could come up with. S

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<v Speaker 1>something like is your night going as bad as mine?

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<v Speaker 1>Right now? And you know, we kind of joked about that,

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<v Speaker 1>and he was like, well not yet. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>it's a bad opener, you know. I mean, yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not the best opener, but you know what he responded

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<v Speaker 1>to it. He puts some humor in and there was

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<v Speaker 1>a connection and then like to like swoop in and

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<v Speaker 1>save the day. Good hook comes from an other guy

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<v Speaker 1>not being good, Like you know, it's like, oh he sucks,

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<v Speaker 1>let me show you. I don't. I don't think it's bad.

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<v Speaker 1>You should be treated. So we're able to keep a

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<v Speaker 1>connection going with Luke. Yeah, I mean we talked for

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<v Speaker 1>a lot. Like I pointed out packs, like I pointed

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<v Speaker 1>out the whole thing's like, yeah, when you're getting out there,

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<v Speaker 1>you got to sort through the bad ones to get

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<v Speaker 1>to the good ones. And it was like some good advice.

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<v Speaker 1>Like he just seemed like a genuine dude, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and I learned stuff about Like we had a conversation

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<v Speaker 1>like he's a runner and his jobs in science fields,

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<v Speaker 1>and I like cool science. He just sounds interesting, does he?

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<v Speaker 1>To be honest, I didn't really get it, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, science, but it was it sounded great.

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<v Speaker 1>It's definitely up great from the douchebag. Yeah, did he

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, did he reveal that he was single? It

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<v Speaker 1>seems like it. Well, he said he was there to

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<v Speaker 1>meet a friend and his friend couldn't make it, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and he had plenty of time, you know, when you

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<v Speaker 1>go like, oh, yeah, I'm just out. My girlfriend's out

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<v Speaker 1>with her friends to night. He had plenty of chances

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<v Speaker 1>to like yeah, throw that in. Yeah. But if he

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<v Speaker 1>liked you and he was flirting with you, even if

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't have any intention of doing anything, like man

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<v Speaker 1>also like the you know, totally totally even if even

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<v Speaker 1>if he has a girlfriend, he's like, well, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>going to do anything, so I'll just let her continue

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<v Speaker 1>to say. Yeah, so that's how'd you wrap things up

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<v Speaker 1>with Luke? Well, okay, so I'm the one to suggest.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like we should hang out again, and he

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<v Speaker 1>took my phone, he put his number in my phone. Okay, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I texted a couple of times. He didn't respond,

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<v Speaker 1>but like maybe he wasn't tracked to me, Like maybe

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<v Speaker 1>he thinks I'm desperate because I went from one guy

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<v Speaker 1>to like hanging out with him or whatever. But I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't like him, or he has a girlfriend. It's possible.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess we're gonna find out. We will. Okay, let's

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<v Speaker 1>play a song, we'll come back, we'll call Luke for you,

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<v Speaker 1>and we'll try and get you your second date update.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, boy, second, if you're just joining us for

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<v Speaker 1>the second date update. One of our listeners, Christa, called

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<v Speaker 1>for help. She just got out of a two year

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<v Speaker 1>relationship and the first guy she meets off tender turned

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<v Speaker 1>out to be a real winner. Ah and by winner,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean gold medal in the Douche Olympics, the Olympic game.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna spare you the details of it, but basically,

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<v Speaker 1>this guy, Paxton ended up hitting on another woman in

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<v Speaker 1>front of Christa and even handed that other woman her drink. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so Christa decided to get back at him by talking

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<v Speaker 1>to a different guy who was sitting alone at the bar.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean also because she didn't want to waste her

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<v Speaker 1>good makeup and hair. I don't think it was about

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<v Speaker 1>Paxton at all. I saw an opportunity and she took it. Jeffrey,

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<v Speaker 1>that's right. And so she met this new guy, Luke.

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<v Speaker 1>They had a great conversation, according to her, but now

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<v Speaker 1>after exchanging phone numbers, Luke is not responding to any

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<v Speaker 1>of her texts. Krista, did I miss anything there? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's convey it's depressing when you say it, though,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I think we should look at it

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<v Speaker 1>the other way. I think you're going to be just

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<v Speaker 1>fine in the dating world. I think Luke's gonna have

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<v Speaker 1>a girlfriend. That's what I think. But that's not on you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how the dating world is. Yeah, it doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 1>we still can't get her date. Yeah, and then we'll

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<v Speaker 1>have a silver medalist Luke. But let's find out for sure. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna call Luke's number and see what he has

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<v Speaker 1>to say. You're ready to do this, Christa, Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, here we go. Hello. Hi, is this Luke speaking.

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<v Speaker 1>Who's my Name's jeff from the radio show Brooke and

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<v Speaker 1>Jeffrey in the Morning. Okay, okay, yep. I was hoping

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<v Speaker 1>for a bigger response than always always Jeff. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>is this Jeff Jeffrey? I mean, Jeff is such a

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<v Speaker 1>famous name. I really need to lower my expectations anyway, Luke.

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<v Speaker 1>So we're from the radio show Brooke and Jeffrey in

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<v Speaker 1>the Morning, and we're doing something called a second date update.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever heard of that before? I haven't. That's okay,

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<v Speaker 1>the rest of us have low expectations, so, Jeffrey. The

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<v Speaker 1>way that it works is if one of our listeners

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<v Speaker 1>goes out on a date, and afterwards, if they're not

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<v Speaker 1>calling them back, you can email our show and we'll

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<v Speaker 1>help you get back in touch with your date to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out the reason why they've been ghosting. Gotcha, and

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't actually technically go on a date date but yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so this falls in the gray area. But recently you

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<v Speaker 1>met a woman who really liked you, and her name's Krista.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Christa. Yeah, she was super sweet. Oh yeah, that

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<v Speaker 1>is a positive response, Luke. I mean, yeah, normally we

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<v Speaker 1>don't get those types of responses. Maybe two percent of

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<v Speaker 1>the time they'll say something really happy and up looking. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>The rest of it's like people are dry heaving. Yeah

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<v Speaker 1>the other edge. So we're off to a really good

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<v Speaker 1>start with this phone call already. So you liked Krista

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<v Speaker 1>super sweet girl? Yeah? Absolutely, she said super sweet twice.

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<v Speaker 1>That's fine. Yeah, that's okay. So obviously Christa's confused because,

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<v Speaker 1>according to her, she's been trying to reach you after

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<v Speaker 1>you guys hung out and you have not been responding. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I just think maybe it's not going to

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<v Speaker 1>work out between us, Like I don't know, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>not sure, you know, So I didn't want to lead

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<v Speaker 1>her off? Is that because you're in a relationship, Luke?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm dating here and there, but nothing really

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<v Speaker 1>exclusive right now? Are you one of those people that

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<v Speaker 1>just keep thinking like suffing better is going to come along,

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<v Speaker 1>Like Brook, That's just what you think all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of people feel that way. What's

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<v Speaker 1>going on, Luke, Well, you've clearly spoken her. What did

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<v Speaker 1>she tell you, guys? I mean, she said that she

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<v Speaker 1>was at the bar on a date with a different guy.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like her first date out of a two

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<v Speaker 1>year relationship, right, and it didn't go well, and so

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<v Speaker 1>she went over and ended up sitting down next to

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<v Speaker 1>you and even told you about the guy and the

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<v Speaker 1>horrible date. That she was just on and you were

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<v Speaker 1>very supportive and very nice and had a great conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>You were super sweet. Yeah, and she says that you

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<v Speaker 1>gave her your number and you guys were talking about

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<v Speaker 1>hanging out again, like it seemed like there was chemistry

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<v Speaker 1>from her description. Is that not true? That's all true.

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<v Speaker 1>But here's what happened after she left. Okay, okay, that

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<v Speaker 1>guy that she was with, Paxton came over. Oh no,

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<v Speaker 1>came over to you. He came over to me, started

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<v Speaker 1>talking to me, and at first he was super confrontational

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<v Speaker 1>and he was just like stuff with that. Why are

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<v Speaker 1>you talking to her? I hate this guy so much?

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<v Speaker 1>What's he saying? What's up? Boy? Are you talking to her?

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<v Speaker 1>Boy to use boy a lot? That a lot? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean the guy was literally hitting on another woman

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<v Speaker 1>during their first dage. Yeah, she had mentioned that, but

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<v Speaker 1>Paxson also mentioned that christ was kind of frosty and

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<v Speaker 1>cold towards him. Okay, so he's blaming her. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>wonder why she was frosty and cold. Yeah, exactly so.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was able to talk him down, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he calmed down, and then the more we talked. It's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna sound strange, but like we actually ended up becoming friends.

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<v Speaker 1>He's actually kind of cool. He's really supportive, Like he

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<v Speaker 1>told me to just go for the things that I

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<v Speaker 1>want to go for. I don't really have a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of like cool guy friends like that. So you in

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<v Speaker 1>Paxton ended up bonding and now the two of you

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<v Speaker 1>are friends. Yeah. In fact, he's actually texted me a

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<v Speaker 1>few times to even hang out this week, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, of course, man, like we've been bonding. Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>we've been bonding. So you you can't date her because

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<v Speaker 1>you're dating the why can't you also go out with her? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>so when Christa got in touch with me, she was

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<v Speaker 1>just ragging on him, and like, yeah, I get that

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<v Speaker 1>she had a really bad experience with him, but I

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<v Speaker 1>just thought, like, if I was dating her, she would

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<v Speaker 1>not be happy that mom buds with the guy that

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<v Speaker 1>she had such a bad experience with it, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and if I had to choose, I'm already friends with

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<v Speaker 1>him now we've been talking so much. But you're like

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<v Speaker 1>assuming what she would feel, you know, like any guy

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<v Speaker 1>that you date always has at least one or two

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<v Speaker 1>superche you know, like you're, well, you're right, let's not

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<v Speaker 1>assume how she would feel. Let's just ask Christa directly,

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<v Speaker 1>because I need to. You know, Luke, she's on the

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<v Speaker 1>other line listening and she wants to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 1>You could have told me that's in the beginning. Oh sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not very good at this, Chris. Are you there? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I know I'm here. I'm definitely here. Um, I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know you were on the line. Didn't tell me that.

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<v Speaker 1>I just hadn't responded because I figured you wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 1>happier the light of it, like, you know, me being

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<v Speaker 1>budged with Texan now, And that was, honestly, like the

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<v Speaker 1>main reason I hadn't gotten back to you. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>you were really pretty through super kind. You can stop

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<v Speaker 1>talking right now, Like you're friends with that guy. You

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<v Speaker 1>became friends with that guy? Well, he was really nice

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<v Speaker 1>to me. He was nice to Where are you a

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<v Speaker 1>puppy dogs? Some when is nice to you and you

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<v Speaker 1>like them automatically, Like that's not why the world works,

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<v Speaker 1>that's just not how Oh my god, I'm sorry. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what to tell you, but we just broke

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<v Speaker 1>out together. I'm supposed to be mean to people are

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<v Speaker 1>nice to me, Chris, I mean this is what happens

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<v Speaker 1>in the guy world. Nothing is more powerful than the

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<v Speaker 1>bro connection. It trumps everything else. And if you have

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<v Speaker 1>to choose between the bro connection and the girl connection,

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<v Speaker 1>you're going with the guy. I have to say, in

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<v Speaker 1>all honesty, there are guys out there that are the

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<v Speaker 1>coolest dude, super nice bro to bro. But then you

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<v Speaker 1>hear how they treat girls, and you're like, what You're like,

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<v Speaker 1>how you cheat on people? I mean, but that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the same in the world of women, like I have.

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<v Speaker 1>I have girlfriends who are amazing girlfriends and I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>you do too, Chris, that are or psycho in a relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like friends like Alexis maybe the psycho friend

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about that she's great with me. But why

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<v Speaker 1>does that affect you? Why are you upset about their bromance?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what, I probably wouldn't have been. But now

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<v Speaker 1>that it's his reason for not calling me back if

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<v Speaker 1>you're not texting me, like, it's almost like he's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to choose. And so it wasn't dramatic until

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<v Speaker 1>he made it dramatic. And now obviously it's the thing. Honestly, like,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're cool with me being passed and his friends.

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to date you, but if you're not,

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<v Speaker 1>then you know, I just didn't want to send you

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<v Speaker 1>the wrong message and I didn't want to be the

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<v Speaker 1>bad guy in this. So like, if you're cool with it,

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to go out. Okay, So, Luke, you're

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<v Speaker 1>still interested in dating Chris Da If she's cool with

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<v Speaker 1>you and Paxton being bros being boys? Yeah, well, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I just think she might have read him wrong

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<v Speaker 1>that night. Maybe the three of us, if we hung out,

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<v Speaker 1>it might be kind of fun. No, no, no, no, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>you want me to hang out with you and that

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<v Speaker 1>bad Yeah? This could this actually could be the perfect

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<v Speaker 1>opportunity for me right here. I don't know that that

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<v Speaker 1>was an excited voice. I think really because she's there

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<v Speaker 1>was a lot of energy in it. Luke, I would

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<v Speaker 1>love to send you, Christa and Paxton out on a

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<v Speaker 1>date and we'll pay for it. I wouldn't on a

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<v Speaker 1>date with just you. But why do we? Why is

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<v Speaker 1>this guy? What is happenings happening? It's really cool After

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<v Speaker 1>a few shots, that guys even more fun than he

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<v Speaker 1>was like in the beginning. That's a good side of someone.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to hang out with. Yeah, Christy, you just

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<v Speaker 1>gotta take a few Yeager bombs and you're gonna love them.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to go on a date. Okay, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess we'll have to change all our plans. But

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<v Speaker 1>maybe there's a way that we can just get you

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<v Speaker 1>and Luke to go out just the two of you. Luke,

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<v Speaker 1>is that okay? That would be fine with me. I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to be upfront that, like Paxston is now

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<v Speaker 1>a friend, and you know, if I'm giving an ultimatum, someday,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna have to go with my friend. Okay, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's at We'll get that put down on paper and

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<v Speaker 1>notarized to make sure that it's legal. But Christa, what

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<v Speaker 1>do you say? One more date with just Luke? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even understand what, Like this whole thing has been

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<v Speaker 1>so weird. Yeah, but I don't really have anything else

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<v Speaker 1>going on right now. Yeah, okay, yeah, boy, it's a

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<v Speaker 1>successful second date update. You are not going to regret it. Christa,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so much more fun ever since I met Paxton.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna love it. Just stop, just stop, just stop

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<v Speaker 1>looking Jeffrey in the morning. Can you believe her? Luck?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, Christa's very first date after getting out of

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<v Speaker 1>a two year relationship is with a complete d bag

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<v Speaker 1>name Paxton. And then, to add insult to injury, she

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<v Speaker 1>actually finds a guy that she genuinely likes and the

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<v Speaker 1>d bag blocks her there too. I mean, at that point,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't the universe kind of giving you a sign that

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<v Speaker 1>maybe don't date for five years and then come back late.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was just settle for d bags. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that was not the side the universe was giving. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>that's the sign. Yeah. Anyway, Luke ended up becoming friends

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<v Speaker 1>and bros with Paxxton after Christa left the bar, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's why he wasn't calling her back. He was worried

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<v Speaker 1>she wouldn't want to have anything to do with him

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<v Speaker 1>now that him and Paxxton were tight. It was true,

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<v Speaker 1>it was she doesn't want to have anything to do

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<v Speaker 1>with Paxton, but it was interesting at the and he

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<v Speaker 1>likes like, oh, if there's an ultimatum, if you give

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<v Speaker 1>me an ultimatum, I'm gonna choose Paxton. I mean, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>if you give any one an ultimatum, nine times out

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<v Speaker 1>of ten, you're not going to be the winner of

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<v Speaker 1>that situation. I don't even think of an ultimatum. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>well that's a good lesson, I guess for everybody to

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<v Speaker 1>learn out there. Yeah, Paxton will always be the winner.

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<v Speaker 1>Paxton will always come out on top. Remember, if you

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<v Speaker 1>want a second date update, you can email the show

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<v Speaker 1>and we'll call the person who wasn't calling you back.

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<v Speaker 1>Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,