Speaker 1: Second data to date. You know, it might be the
Speaker 1: most important date of your entire life, but it's the
Speaker 1: first date after you get out of a long term relationship.
Speaker 1: Und it's not important. It's just like, we'll lead to
Speaker 1: the bedroom because that's the only way I'm getting over
Speaker 1: out of it. You've been you know. Thing is if
Speaker 1: that date ends up being a bad one, you could
Speaker 1: end up swearing off romance forever. That's true. You're giving
Speaker 1: it one date after a breakup, are you not? Patience?
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be perfect, it doesn't even have
Speaker 1: to be good. You just hope it doesn't go horribly,
Speaker 1: horribly wrong and blow up in your face. But unfortunately,
Speaker 1: that's what happened to one of our listeners, Krista, And
Speaker 1: before she makes the decision to give up on men forever,
Speaker 1: she's reached out to us for a little bit of help.
Speaker 1: So Christa, first of all, welcome to the show. Hi. Hi,
Speaker 1: that is a heavy welcome, Christa. If you had such
Speaker 1: a bad date, why do you want to call this
Speaker 1: guy back? Okay, well I have to explain though it's
Speaker 1: not really a bad date with this guy. Okay, give
Speaker 1: us the rundown. Tell us what happened. Okay, So I
Speaker 1: was in a two year relationship that's over. I'm newly single,
Speaker 1: Like I'm on apps, like a few apps. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I matched with this guy on Tinder. His name's Paxton.
Speaker 1: We're like, okay, great, fine, And everybody had an image
Speaker 1: in your head as soon as you said he was
Speaker 1: definitely a prom king Yeah. Yeah, no, I could tell
Speaker 1: right away, like he's super douchey. Okay is a good thing. No,
Speaker 1: he talked about himself the whole time, like, oh when
Speaker 1: he kept using the tree, keep going boy, oh god,
Speaker 1: oh god, how long did it last? How long were
Speaker 1: you on this date? For? It sounds terrible? I like it. Well,
Speaker 1: he was talking about like these hot women he's hooked
Speaker 1: up with. He's like, oh, but you're not like them.
Speaker 1: But that's a good thing, like the hot part or
Speaker 1: the hook up part, the hot part. Oh god, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're really like natural looking. What do you say to that?
Speaker 1: I just stared at them. I was like, what the
Speaker 1: you know? And then like he had some shots in
Speaker 1: front of them, like oh, I'm gonna gonna went more
Speaker 1: drinks and then he goes more drinks buddy or whatever,
Speaker 1: you like, did you know did you just leave? I mean, like,
Speaker 1: I'm not up for like ghosting somebody on a date.
Speaker 1: But this guy sounds terrible. Yeah, yeah, So what happened next?
Speaker 1: What he gets worse? I mean, so I watch him
Speaker 1: go to the bar and he's hitting on this other girl.
Speaker 1: He's talking to the other girl and he's laughing. Love that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: He gets a wine, a white wine like it looks
Speaker 1: like what I'm drinking, and he hands it to that girl. What,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, your drink? Tell me you left at
Speaker 1: this point? Yeah? No, At that point, I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: do I leave or do I store a drink in
Speaker 1: his face? Like? How dramatic do I want to hear? Yeah? Dramatic?
Speaker 1: I want to be here too, pre dramatic. What'd you
Speaker 1: go with? Well? I look over to him and he
Speaker 1: just gives me the shrug like put his hands in
Speaker 1: the air, like what am I gonna do? He's hot? Girlfriend.
Speaker 1: So I saw this other guy my hand to the
Speaker 1: bar and he's by himself, and I was like, all right,
Speaker 1: he's cute that a girl, now, okay? Yeah, and I
Speaker 1: chucked that glass of wine. So I'm like feeling kind
Speaker 1: of loose or whatever. So what's his name Braxton, then
Speaker 1: I would have run out the door. His name was Luke,
Speaker 1: and it just sounds dumb. I mean, it's the time.
Speaker 1: It was the best I could come up with. S
Speaker 1: something like is your night going as bad as mine?
Speaker 1: Right now? And you know, we kind of joked about that,
Speaker 1: and he was like, well not yet. I don't think
Speaker 1: it's a bad opener, you know. I mean, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: not the best opener, but you know what he responded
Speaker 1: to it. He puts some humor in and there was
Speaker 1: a connection and then like to like swoop in and
Speaker 1: save the day. Good hook comes from an other guy
Speaker 1: not being good, Like you know, it's like, oh he sucks,
Speaker 1: let me show you. I don't. I don't think it's bad.
Speaker 1: You should be treated. So we're able to keep a
Speaker 1: connection going with Luke. Yeah, I mean we talked for
Speaker 1: a lot. Like I pointed out packs, like I pointed
Speaker 1: out the whole thing's like, yeah, when you're getting out there,
Speaker 1: you got to sort through the bad ones to get
Speaker 1: to the good ones. And it was like some good advice.
Speaker 1: Like he just seemed like a genuine dude, you know,
Speaker 1: and I learned stuff about Like we had a conversation
Speaker 1: like he's a runner and his jobs in science fields,
Speaker 1: and I like cool science. He just sounds interesting, does he?
Speaker 1: To be honest, I didn't really get it, and so
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, science, but it was it sounded great.
Speaker 1: It's definitely up great from the douchebag. Yeah, did he
Speaker 1: I mean, did he reveal that he was single? It
Speaker 1: seems like it. Well, he said he was there to
Speaker 1: meet a friend and his friend couldn't make it, you know,
Speaker 1: and he had plenty of time, you know, when you
Speaker 1: go like, oh, yeah, I'm just out. My girlfriend's out
Speaker 1: with her friends to night. He had plenty of chances
Speaker 1: to like yeah, throw that in. Yeah. But if he
Speaker 1: liked you and he was flirting with you, even if
Speaker 1: he didn't have any intention of doing anything, like man
Speaker 1: also like the you know, totally totally even if even
Speaker 1: if he has a girlfriend, he's like, well, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to do anything, so I'll just let her continue
Speaker 1: to say. Yeah, so that's how'd you wrap things up
Speaker 1: with Luke? Well, okay, so I'm the one to suggest.
Speaker 1: I was like we should hang out again, and he
Speaker 1: took my phone, he put his number in my phone. Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I texted a couple of times. He didn't respond,
Speaker 1: but like maybe he wasn't tracked to me, Like maybe
Speaker 1: he thinks I'm desperate because I went from one guy
Speaker 1: to like hanging out with him or whatever. But I
Speaker 1: didn't like him, or he has a girlfriend. It's possible.
Speaker 1: I guess we're gonna find out. We will. Okay, let's
Speaker 1: play a song, we'll come back, we'll call Luke for you,
Speaker 1: and we'll try and get you your second date update.
Speaker 1: All right, boy, second, if you're just joining us for
Speaker 1: the second date update. One of our listeners, Christa, called
Speaker 1: for help. She just got out of a two year
Speaker 1: relationship and the first guy she meets off tender turned
Speaker 1: out to be a real winner. Ah and by winner,
Speaker 1: I mean gold medal in the Douche Olympics, the Olympic game.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna spare you the details of it, but basically,
Speaker 1: this guy, Paxton ended up hitting on another woman in
Speaker 1: front of Christa and even handed that other woman her drink. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so Christa decided to get back at him by talking
Speaker 1: to a different guy who was sitting alone at the bar.
Speaker 1: I mean also because she didn't want to waste her
Speaker 1: good makeup and hair. I don't think it was about
Speaker 1: Paxton at all. I saw an opportunity and she took it. Jeffrey,
Speaker 1: that's right. And so she met this new guy, Luke.
Speaker 1: They had a great conversation, according to her, but now
Speaker 1: after exchanging phone numbers, Luke is not responding to any
Speaker 1: of her texts. Krista, did I miss anything there? No,
Speaker 1: I mean that's convey it's depressing when you say it, though,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think we should look at it
Speaker 1: the other way. I think you're going to be just
Speaker 1: fine in the dating world. I think Luke's gonna have
Speaker 1: a girlfriend. That's what I think. But that's not on you.
Speaker 1: That's how the dating world is. Yeah, it doesn't mean
Speaker 1: we still can't get her date. Yeah, and then we'll
Speaker 1: have a silver medalist Luke. But let's find out for sure. Okay,
Speaker 1: we're gonna call Luke's number and see what he has
Speaker 1: to say. You're ready to do this, Christa, Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: all right, here we go. Hello. Hi, is this Luke speaking.
Speaker 1: Who's my Name's jeff from the radio show Brooke and
Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the Morning. Okay, okay, yep. I was hoping
Speaker 1: for a bigger response than always always Jeff. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: is this Jeff Jeffrey? I mean, Jeff is such a
Speaker 1: famous name. I really need to lower my expectations anyway, Luke.
Speaker 1: So we're from the radio show Brooke and Jeffrey in
Speaker 1: the Morning, and we're doing something called a second date update.
Speaker 1: Have you ever heard of that before? I haven't. That's okay,
Speaker 1: the rest of us have low expectations, so, Jeffrey. The
Speaker 1: way that it works is if one of our listeners
Speaker 1: goes out on a date, and afterwards, if they're not
Speaker 1: calling them back, you can email our show and we'll
Speaker 1: help you get back in touch with your date to
Speaker 1: figure out the reason why they've been ghosting. Gotcha, and
Speaker 1: you didn't actually technically go on a date date but yeah,
Speaker 1: so this falls in the gray area. But recently you
Speaker 1: met a woman who really liked you, and her name's Krista.
Speaker 1: Oh Christa. Yeah, she was super sweet. Oh yeah, that
Speaker 1: is a positive response, Luke. I mean, yeah, normally we
Speaker 1: don't get those types of responses. Maybe two percent of
Speaker 1: the time they'll say something really happy and up looking. Yeah.
Speaker 1: The rest of it's like people are dry heaving. Yeah
Speaker 1: the other edge. So we're off to a really good
Speaker 1: start with this phone call already. So you liked Krista
Speaker 1: super sweet girl? Yeah? Absolutely, she said super sweet twice.
Speaker 1: That's fine. Yeah, that's okay. So obviously Christa's confused because,
Speaker 1: according to her, she's been trying to reach you after
Speaker 1: you guys hung out and you have not been responding. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I just I just think maybe it's not going to
Speaker 1: work out between us, Like I don't know, I'm just
Speaker 1: not sure, you know, So I didn't want to lead
Speaker 1: her off? Is that because you're in a relationship, Luke?
Speaker 1: You know, I'm dating here and there, but nothing really
Speaker 1: exclusive right now? Are you one of those people that
Speaker 1: just keep thinking like suffing better is going to come along,
Speaker 1: Like Brook, That's just what you think all the time.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people feel that way. What's
Speaker 1: going on, Luke, Well, you've clearly spoken her. What did
Speaker 1: she tell you, guys? I mean, she said that she
Speaker 1: was at the bar on a date with a different guy.
Speaker 1: It was like her first date out of a two
Speaker 1: year relationship, right, and it didn't go well, and so
Speaker 1: she went over and ended up sitting down next to
Speaker 1: you and even told you about the guy and the
Speaker 1: horrible date. That she was just on and you were
Speaker 1: very supportive and very nice and had a great conversation.
Speaker 1: You were super sweet. Yeah, and she says that you
Speaker 1: gave her your number and you guys were talking about
Speaker 1: hanging out again, like it seemed like there was chemistry
Speaker 1: from her description. Is that not true? That's all true.
Speaker 1: But here's what happened after she left. Okay, okay, that
Speaker 1: guy that she was with, Paxton came over. Oh no,
Speaker 1: came over to you. He came over to me, started
Speaker 1: talking to me, and at first he was super confrontational
Speaker 1: and he was just like stuff with that. Why are
Speaker 1: you talking to her? I hate this guy so much?
Speaker 1: What's he saying? What's up? Boy? Are you talking to her?
Speaker 1: Boy to use boy a lot? That a lot? Okay?
Speaker 1: I mean the guy was literally hitting on another woman
Speaker 1: during their first dage. Yeah, she had mentioned that, but
Speaker 1: Paxson also mentioned that christ was kind of frosty and
Speaker 1: cold towards him. Okay, so he's blaming her. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: wonder why she was frosty and cold. Yeah, exactly so.
Speaker 1: But I was able to talk him down, you know,
Speaker 1: he calmed down, and then the more we talked. It's
Speaker 1: gonna sound strange, but like we actually ended up becoming friends.
Speaker 1: He's actually kind of cool. He's really supportive, Like he
Speaker 1: told me to just go for the things that I
Speaker 1: want to go for. I don't really have a lot
Speaker 1: of like cool guy friends like that. So you in
Speaker 1: Paxton ended up bonding and now the two of you
Speaker 1: are friends. Yeah. In fact, he's actually texted me a
Speaker 1: few times to even hang out this week, and I
Speaker 1: was like, of course, man, like we've been bonding. Wow,
Speaker 1: we've been bonding. So you you can't date her because
Speaker 1: you're dating the why can't you also go out with her? Well,
Speaker 1: so when Christa got in touch with me, she was
Speaker 1: just ragging on him, and like, yeah, I get that
Speaker 1: she had a really bad experience with him, but I
Speaker 1: just thought, like, if I was dating her, she would
Speaker 1: not be happy that mom buds with the guy that
Speaker 1: she had such a bad experience with it, you know,
Speaker 1: and if I had to choose, I'm already friends with
Speaker 1: him now we've been talking so much. But you're like
Speaker 1: assuming what she would feel, you know, like any guy
Speaker 1: that you date always has at least one or two
Speaker 1: superche you know, like you're, well, you're right, let's not
Speaker 1: assume how she would feel. Let's just ask Christa directly,
Speaker 1: because I need to. You know, Luke, she's on the
Speaker 1: other line listening and she wants to talk to you.
Speaker 1: You could have told me that's in the beginning. Oh sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm not very good at this, Chris. Are you there? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know I'm here. I'm definitely here. Um, I didn't
Speaker 1: know you were on the line. Didn't tell me that.
Speaker 1: I just hadn't responded because I figured you wouldn't be
Speaker 1: happier the light of it, like, you know, me being
Speaker 1: budged with Texan now, And that was, honestly, like the
Speaker 1: main reason I hadn't gotten back to you. I thought
Speaker 1: you were really pretty through super kind. You can stop
Speaker 1: talking right now, Like you're friends with that guy. You
Speaker 1: became friends with that guy? Well, he was really nice
Speaker 1: to me. He was nice to Where are you a
Speaker 1: puppy dogs? Some when is nice to you and you
Speaker 1: like them automatically, Like that's not why the world works,
Speaker 1: that's just not how Oh my god, I'm sorry. I
Speaker 1: don't know what to tell you, but we just broke
Speaker 1: out together. I'm supposed to be mean to people are
Speaker 1: nice to me, Chris, I mean this is what happens
Speaker 1: in the guy world. Nothing is more powerful than the
Speaker 1: bro connection. It trumps everything else. And if you have
Speaker 1: to choose between the bro connection and the girl connection,
Speaker 1: you're going with the guy. I have to say, in
Speaker 1: all honesty, there are guys out there that are the
Speaker 1: coolest dude, super nice bro to bro. But then you
Speaker 1: hear how they treat girls, and you're like, what You're like,
Speaker 1: how you cheat on people? I mean, but that's it.
Speaker 1: That's the same in the world of women, like I have.
Speaker 1: I have girlfriends who are amazing girlfriends and I'm sure
Speaker 1: you do too, Chris, that are or psycho in a relationship,
Speaker 1: you know, like friends like Alexis maybe the psycho friend
Speaker 1: I'm talking about that she's great with me. But why
Speaker 1: does that affect you? Why are you upset about their bromance?
Speaker 1: You know what, I probably wouldn't have been. But now
Speaker 1: that it's his reason for not calling me back if
Speaker 1: you're not texting me, like, it's almost like he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I have to choose. And so it wasn't dramatic until
Speaker 1: he made it dramatic. And now obviously it's the thing. Honestly, like,
Speaker 1: if you're cool with me being passed and his friends.
Speaker 1: I would love to date you, but if you're not,
Speaker 1: then you know, I just didn't want to send you
Speaker 1: the wrong message and I didn't want to be the
Speaker 1: bad guy in this. So like, if you're cool with it,
Speaker 1: I would love to go out. Okay, So, Luke, you're
Speaker 1: still interested in dating Chris Da If she's cool with
Speaker 1: you and Paxton being bros being boys? Yeah, well, you know,
Speaker 1: maybe I just think she might have read him wrong
Speaker 1: that night. Maybe the three of us, if we hung out,
Speaker 1: it might be kind of fun. No, no, no, no, wait,
Speaker 1: you want me to hang out with you and that
Speaker 1: bad Yeah? This could this actually could be the perfect
Speaker 1: opportunity for me right here. I don't know that that
Speaker 1: was an excited voice. I think really because she's there
Speaker 1: was a lot of energy in it. Luke, I would
Speaker 1: love to send you, Christa and Paxton out on a
Speaker 1: date and we'll pay for it. I wouldn't on a
Speaker 1: date with just you. But why do we? Why is
Speaker 1: this guy? What is happenings happening? It's really cool After
Speaker 1: a few shots, that guys even more fun than he
Speaker 1: was like in the beginning. That's a good side of someone.
Speaker 1: You want to hang out with. Yeah, Christy, you just
Speaker 1: gotta take a few Yeager bombs and you're gonna love them.
Speaker 1: I don't want to go on a date. Okay, well,
Speaker 1: I guess we'll have to change all our plans. But
Speaker 1: maybe there's a way that we can just get you
Speaker 1: and Luke to go out just the two of you. Luke,
Speaker 1: is that okay? That would be fine with me. I
Speaker 1: just want to be upfront that, like Paxston is now
Speaker 1: a friend, and you know, if I'm giving an ultimatum, someday,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to go with my friend. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's at We'll get that put down on paper and
Speaker 1: notarized to make sure that it's legal. But Christa, what
Speaker 1: do you say? One more date with just Luke? I
Speaker 1: don't even understand what, Like this whole thing has been
Speaker 1: so weird. Yeah, but I don't really have anything else
Speaker 1: going on right now. Yeah, okay, yeah, boy, it's a
Speaker 1: successful second date update. You are not going to regret it. Christa,
Speaker 1: I'm so much more fun ever since I met Paxton.
Speaker 1: You're gonna love it. Just stop, just stop, just stop
Speaker 1: looking Jeffrey in the morning. Can you believe her? Luck?
Speaker 1: I mean, Christa's very first date after getting out of
Speaker 1: a two year relationship is with a complete d bag
Speaker 1: name Paxton. And then, to add insult to injury, she
Speaker 1: actually finds a guy that she genuinely likes and the
Speaker 1: d bag blocks her there too. I mean, at that point,
Speaker 1: isn't the universe kind of giving you a sign that
Speaker 1: maybe don't date for five years and then come back late.
Speaker 1: I thought it was just settle for d bags. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was not the side the universe was giving. Maybe
Speaker 1: that's the sign. Yeah. Anyway, Luke ended up becoming friends
Speaker 1: and bros with Paxxton after Christa left the bar, and
Speaker 1: that's why he wasn't calling her back. He was worried
Speaker 1: she wouldn't want to have anything to do with him
Speaker 1: now that him and Paxxton were tight. It was true,
Speaker 1: it was she doesn't want to have anything to do
Speaker 1: with Paxton, but it was interesting at the and he
Speaker 1: likes like, oh, if there's an ultimatum, if you give
Speaker 1: me an ultimatum, I'm gonna choose Paxton. I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: if you give any one an ultimatum, nine times out
Speaker 1: of ten, you're not going to be the winner of
Speaker 1: that situation. I don't even think of an ultimatum. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: well that's a good lesson, I guess for everybody to
Speaker 1: learn out there. Yeah, Paxton will always be the winner.
Speaker 1: Paxton will always come out on top. Remember, if you
Speaker 1: want a second date update, you can email the show
Speaker 1: and we'll call the person who wasn't calling you back.
Speaker 1: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,