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Speaker 1: Who's my Name's jeff from the radio show Brooke and

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Speaker 1: the Morning, and we're doing something called a second date update.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever heard of that before? I haven't. That's okay,

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Speaker 1: going on, Luke, Well, you've clearly spoken her. What did

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Speaker 1: But here's what happened after she left. Okay, okay, that

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Speaker 1: Paxton will always come out on top. Remember, if you

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Speaker 1: and we'll call the person who wasn't calling you back.

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Speaker 1: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,