1 00:00:07,320 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for 2 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: joining us. We're so excited to be back. Another week, 3 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:17,680 Speaker 1: another podcast, some more fun. How are you doing today, Susan. 4 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 2: I'm doing fabulous and beautiful Saint Martin. It's absolutely gorgeous, 5 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 2: as you know. 6 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:25,439 Speaker 1: Yes, as I know, Susan spends most of her time 7 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:27,159 Speaker 1: now in Saint Martin. I never get to see my 8 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 1: friend anymore. 9 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:30,600 Speaker 3: Oh sure, you're a busy your girl anyhow. 10 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:33,880 Speaker 2: But today we are going to answer more of our 11 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:37,960 Speaker 2: fan questions and make sure everybody you're submitting. 12 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 3: Those because we love these. I mean, we wouldn't be 13 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:43,599 Speaker 3: able to give any advice if they didn't. 14 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 1: Send them in, right, That's exactly right. How do they 15 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 1: do it? Since? 16 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 3: Why do they do it? You remember what to do? 17 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 2: Just go to Bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour and 18 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 2: keep them coming. 19 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:59,959 Speaker 1: Okay, so send us everything, send us your questions, your updates, 20 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 1: it's all of it. I'm sure now you all know 21 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 1: about Susan and her love of her life Frederick. So 22 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: I'm sure you all have questions. We're going to give 23 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: you updates. You're going to send us questions. That's the 24 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: way it works. You can dm us on Instagram at 25 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: Bachelor Happy Hour. We definitely want to hear from you and. 26 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:18,760 Speaker 3: Definitely ask away. I'll tell you anything you want to know. 27 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 2: Okay, So now it's time to get into our episode. 28 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 3: Let's start Kathy with the question of the day. 29 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: Okay, question of the hour, Question of the day. Here 30 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: we go. How did you handle meeting your child's first 31 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 1: serious significant other, the person they thought they were going 32 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:42,400 Speaker 1: to marry, the person they did end up marrying, spending 33 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:46,200 Speaker 1: their life with, et cetera. Oh, how'd you do it? Susan? So? 34 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 3: I thought he was durable and I did. 35 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: Is this your daughter's boyfriend? 36 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 3: My daughter? Okay, her first, real, real, real love affair. 37 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 2: No. Yeah, And we met his family eventually, like we 38 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 2: were all close. I accepted it like no other. I 39 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 2: just thought everybody in his family was great. However, it 40 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 2: didn't work out after I guess it was about a 41 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 2: year and a half, two years maybe, And that was hard. 42 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 2: That was really hard for me. 43 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: Wow. Yeah, that was how old was she? 44 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:23,919 Speaker 3: Oh? About almost seventeen? 45 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 1: Wow? So min my daughter she had met a guy. 46 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: She was at a private school, played in the soccer academy. 47 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 1: So they had soccer players from other countries, and she 48 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: fell in love with a guy from Guatemala. To this day, 49 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: I am friends with him. His wife is two kids. 50 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:47,959 Speaker 1: But when they broke up, she started dating another soccer 51 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:52,920 Speaker 1: player and that kind of went on for years. But 52 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: the funny thing was when they broke up, she was like, mom, 53 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 1: my heart's broken. You don't understand. We were going to 54 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: get married. I was literally choking trying not to laugh. 55 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:05,359 Speaker 1: I mean, I didn't laugh, but she was like, seventeen, 56 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:06,799 Speaker 1: they were gonna get married. 57 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:08,359 Speaker 3: Yeah. I was upset too. 58 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. And then my son, my son, my other son's 59 00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 1: not married, but my son that is married as you 60 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:18,640 Speaker 1: married him. The second second go around the first the 61 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:22,920 Speaker 1: first one I was. I remember saying to my husband, 62 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 1: I don't think this is gonna work. And my husband 63 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 1: said to me, keep your mouth shut and welcome her 64 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:33,800 Speaker 1: to the family. Now. Unfortunately he was not alive when 65 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 1: the demise of their marriage came. But believe me, every 66 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 1: day I let a candle and say I told you so, Darryl, 67 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: I told you how that's true. 68 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 2: That's too funny for him to say, Cathy, stay out 69 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 2: of it. 70 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, what about your son when he got married. 71 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 2: So Christopher met jess They knew each other from school. 72 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:58,640 Speaker 2: He had some others, and both of my boys, nobody 73 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 2: was ever f real, had one that I thought would 74 00:04:01,880 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 2: last forever. And they were bad for each other. They 75 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 2: went through some terrible things. But when Chris came out 76 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 2: of rehab, he was living in Florida for three months 77 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 2: in a special place, so he got his things right. Yeah, 78 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 2: and Jessica is like, I just adore her. It was 79 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:23,600 Speaker 2: the best thing that ever happened. He said, Mom, she's 80 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 2: different than anybody, and that's what you want to hear. 81 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:28,040 Speaker 3: He's the one, She's the one. 82 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. And I will say to you when Caitlin marry 83 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 1: Johnny her husband now, she used to say she met 84 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:38,719 Speaker 1: when she was thirty or thirty one, and Kate, my 85 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:41,200 Speaker 1: daughter's beautiful and she's smart. And she kept saying, what's 86 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 1: wrong with me? What's wrong? Why can't I meet a guy? Well, 87 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: let me just tell you something she met. You know 88 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:48,719 Speaker 1: how people say, oh, I don't like my in laws, 89 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:52,240 Speaker 1: their son in laws or daughter in laws. I would 90 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:54,720 Speaker 1: walk on hot coals for my son in law and 91 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:57,039 Speaker 1: now for my daughter in law. I just feel so 92 00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 1: lucky that they got it right. 93 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,600 Speaker 3: They got it right, just definitely right. 94 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 1: I love it. Did you ever tell your kids like 95 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: you're dating the wrong guy or the wrong woman? Did 96 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:12,880 Speaker 1: you ever tell them? 97 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:15,720 Speaker 2: I'm not really in so many words, I didn't approve, 98 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 2: But I felt like when you say that, like when 99 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 2: I was a child, when my mother didn't like somebody. 100 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:29,239 Speaker 1: Yeah, right, yeah, yeah, I I I'm trying to think 101 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 1: I never did. No, that's not true. When when Kyle 102 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 1: was dating his first wife, I did. It's funny he 103 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: doesn't remember this, but I said to him she'd been 104 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: married before and had two kids from a previous marriage, 105 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 1: and I was I remember saying to him, Kyle, marriage 106 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 1: is so tough, marrying someone who has two children and 107 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: doesn't get along with the ex husband, Like you're signing 108 00:05:52,839 --> 00:05:56,239 Speaker 1: up for a lot, and you know it's it's hard. 109 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:58,800 Speaker 1: But I try to keep my mouth shut on that one. 110 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 3: But I mean, what can we do? 111 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 1: You got to let them learn? There isn't it. Would 112 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:08,480 Speaker 1: you say that youth is wasted on the young, like 113 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:11,440 Speaker 1: it takes so long for them to learn the life lessons? 114 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:15,000 Speaker 3: Yes, and I still learn at sixty plus. 115 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 1: You know, well when we stop learning, Susan, you know, 116 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 1: what happens we die. No, I'm still learning, she's still learning. 117 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:27,600 Speaker 1: I know. Well, I don't know. It's it's tough those 118 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:30,160 Speaker 1: of you who are dealing with it, and there are 119 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 1: a lot of people dealing with breakups. It's hard. It's 120 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 1: a delicate balance when to open your mouth and say 121 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 1: something and when to just let them suffer. We all 122 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:41,640 Speaker 1: hate to see our kids cry and have that that 123 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: first heartbreak. Do you remember your first heartbreak? 124 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:45,719 Speaker 3: Almost? Definitely? 125 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, I do too. I mean it was brutal, Yeah 126 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: it was. Yeah. 127 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 3: But anybody that is dealing with it. 128 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 2: I hope you love them, loved that the significant other, 129 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:02,719 Speaker 2: whoever it is that they're child is I hope everything 130 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 2: works out. 131 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, and there's marrying spending their life. 132 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 1: With right, it doesn't have to be marriage. But you 133 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 1: know that's the other thing. When when if my child 134 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 1: came to me and said, I'm very unhappily married, you 135 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: know what do I do? And you know, you know, Kathy, 136 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: I'm likely to say, if your miserable kick is asked 137 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: to the curb, or kick or asked to the curb, right, 138 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:27,560 Speaker 1: But you know what the problem with that is the 139 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 1: next week they're back together in love and you and 140 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:31,840 Speaker 1: your ass is kicked to the curb. 141 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 2: So that was always one to call my mom if 142 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 2: we had an argument or something. 143 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 3: And my friends and they're like, they don't like them anymore. 144 00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: You know. 145 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:41,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, things you better left unset. 146 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true. All right, are you ready to get 147 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 1: into our fan questions? Let's do this, all right, here 148 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: we go. I'm going to start off with the first one. 149 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 1: It is a question from Laura. Ladies, I need your help. 150 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 1: My mother in law seriously crossed the line and I'm pissed. Wait, Susan, 151 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: I think Laura and I had the same mother in law. Okay, 152 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:13,120 Speaker 1: she's always making Oh it really is my ex my 153 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 1: mother in law. May God rest her soul. Okay, she's 154 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:20,400 Speaker 1: always making snide comments, thinks I'm not good enough for 155 00:08:20,480 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 1: her son, the usual shit. Recently, she started coming between 156 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: my thirteen year old daughter and me. It started with 157 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:31,880 Speaker 1: her interfering in our quarrels, always going to her and 158 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:35,559 Speaker 1: blaming everything on me. My husband has always tried to 159 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: get her to chill out, but was ready for a 160 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 1: very serious conversation that he planned to have with her 161 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: after she spent the afternoon with our daughter. Well, that 162 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: plan changed when my thirteen year old walked in with 163 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:51,680 Speaker 1: are you ready for it? A belly button piercing? My 164 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:55,440 Speaker 1: mother in law got her. I just saw red. I 165 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: don't even know what I said to her. I kicked 166 00:08:57,640 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: her out of the house and she is blowing up 167 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:03,439 Speaker 1: my phone. Now my daughter has hell bent on keeping 168 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 1: the piercing and I want it out. How do I 169 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:10,880 Speaker 1: handle this? Can I legally keep her away from my daughter? Please? Help? 170 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: And thanks, ladies. 171 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 4: Oh so much to unpack in this one, because the 172 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 4: kid is obviously going to be mad at her, her mother, 173 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 4: her mother because she wanted it and grandmom did it. 174 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:28,839 Speaker 1: Wait a second, wait what? First of all, I'm sorry, Laura, 175 00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:33,200 Speaker 1: your mother in law had no right. That is crossing 176 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 1: the line. She had no right to do it. But 177 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:37,680 Speaker 1: let me just give you a little other tidbit of 178 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 1: Kathy advice here. Unless your daughter has a trust fund 179 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 1: and is supporting you and her father, you are in 180 00:09:45,440 --> 00:09:49,560 Speaker 1: control of this household. You can tell her you have 181 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:52,920 Speaker 1: about two minutes to take that belly button piercing out. 182 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 1: And when you grow up and you're paying your own bills, 183 00:09:56,720 --> 00:09:59,200 Speaker 1: you can have a belly button piercing. But right now, 184 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 1: you live under my roof, and I paid for your groceries, 185 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:06,120 Speaker 1: and you're cheerleading and your prom dresses. Get it out, 186 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:07,720 Speaker 1: And that's honestly what I would do. 187 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:12,439 Speaker 2: Unfortunately, I don't know if she can legally keep her 188 00:10:12,520 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 2: away from her daughter. 189 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 1: No, no, no, what do you think about taking the 190 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 1: belly button? 191 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 2: Because she did it against without my approval and she's 192 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:26,320 Speaker 2: only thirteen. I probably would agree at sixteen, I did mine. 193 00:10:27,600 --> 00:10:29,520 Speaker 1: Well, Susan, you've broken every rule in the book, and 194 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:32,200 Speaker 1: anyone who knows you, who knows you break rules and 195 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: ask for forgiveness. 196 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:35,760 Speaker 2: Well, my boys wanted to get a tattoo. I said, yeah, 197 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 2: the weight you have the weight? Dick even say till 198 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:41,679 Speaker 2: they're eighteen, and I said, sixteen. It's something that they 199 00:10:41,760 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 2: really wanted. They sat me down. 200 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 3: But this sounds like she never asked her mother. 201 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: She anything, no, And that's and Laura, you're absolutely right 202 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:53,559 Speaker 1: your mother in law. I mean, I used my mother 203 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,199 Speaker 1: in law was a piece of work, But I mean 204 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,959 Speaker 1: the farthest she would go was letting them watch tea 205 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: V shows that I wouldn't let him watch, or giving 206 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:04,400 Speaker 1: them cookies ten minutes before they sat down for dinner. 207 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:08,640 Speaker 1: I mean I would have exploded. I would have exploded, 208 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:11,200 Speaker 1: and I would I'm not kidding you. If that were me, Laura, 209 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 1: I'd sit your daughter down and say I'm giving you 210 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 1: thirty seconds to get that piercing out, and if. 211 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 2: Not, also tell her that I'm going to restrict you 212 00:11:19,280 --> 00:11:21,400 Speaker 2: of not even seeing your grandmother. 213 00:11:21,120 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 3: If you keep this up. 214 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:22,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. 215 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 3: By the way, you have to get my permission. 216 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, but first, you know what you geese Susan. The 217 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:32,600 Speaker 1: one little detail here we haven't spoken about. What is 218 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:38,199 Speaker 1: it Daddykin's mama in law's son. So, Laura, you got 219 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:39,680 Speaker 1: to get your husband on board. 220 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:42,600 Speaker 2: And I was like, he was ready. Remember she said 221 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 2: he's ready to have to sit down with her. Yeah, 222 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,599 Speaker 2: well ready in doing it yesterday. 223 00:11:47,800 --> 00:11:51,920 Speaker 1: Yeah. So Laura, get with your husband, tackle your daughter, 224 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:55,000 Speaker 1: rip up the belly ring. Then give your husband, oh, 225 00:11:55,040 --> 00:11:57,080 Speaker 1: I don't know, twenty minutes to get on the phone 226 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:58,560 Speaker 1: and have a conversation with his mother. 227 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:01,959 Speaker 2: I mean, what could they possibly said, Oh, well, we 228 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:02,520 Speaker 2: did it. 229 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:04,080 Speaker 3: Oh well, I mean. 230 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:06,680 Speaker 1: Oh, I'm guessing this woman would probably say something like 231 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 1: your wife is you know, ridiculous? She don't you know, 232 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 1: who cares? 233 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 3: I don't care, Laura I feel bad for you. I 234 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:13,719 Speaker 3: really do that. 235 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:14,080 Speaker 1: Laura. 236 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 3: You call me. 237 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:17,280 Speaker 1: You call me and give me that mother in law's number. 238 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 1: I will take care of this for you. I promise 239 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 1: it is. You're you're well within your limits. You're well 240 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 1: within Just remember your your daughter's parent. You're not her friend. 241 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:30,839 Speaker 1: You're you know, the mother in law overstep. Your mother 242 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 1: in law overstepped big time. But I think you got 243 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:34,199 Speaker 1: to get your husband on board. 244 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 3: And also she didn't tell us whether the daughter asked 245 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:38,559 Speaker 3: if she. 246 00:12:38,679 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 1: Could, It doesn't matter. 247 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 3: If this done, who cares. 248 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 2: I mean, sometimes grandmoms can do that. But as long 249 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 2: as there was a conversation, she had no idea this 250 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 2: was happening. 251 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:51,080 Speaker 1: Oh, I thought I sudn't agree with her more Yeah, 252 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 1: I thought you said, we don't know if the grandmother 253 00:12:53,480 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: asked Laura. 254 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:57,240 Speaker 2: No, not the grandmother. The daughter asked her mother, had 255 00:12:57,400 --> 00:12:59,680 Speaker 2: she been talking about it? And the mom said no, 256 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:01,319 Speaker 2: and then grandmother took it. 257 00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:07,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, but to me, it doesn't matter. Stick to the facts, ma'am. 258 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 1: The facts are the mother in law took her overstepped. 259 00:13:11,559 --> 00:13:13,200 Speaker 1: Get it right. And Laura, I'm going to tell you 260 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:16,560 Speaker 1: something that I learned the hard way. If you try 261 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:21,200 Speaker 1: to soft soap it and don't really no if you do. 262 00:13:21,280 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 1: If you sidestep and say please, don't ever do that again, 263 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:27,559 Speaker 1: you're just inviting more trouble you and your husband. Let 264 00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 1: me repeat, Laura, you and your husband need to lay 265 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:34,600 Speaker 1: down the law. And if you need a third party, 266 00:13:34,679 --> 00:13:38,040 Speaker 1: impartial person, invite me. If you need Susan to come 267 00:13:38,080 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 1: with a baseball bat, invite her. We will be so 268 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:41,640 Speaker 1: happy to help you out with this. 269 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:45,040 Speaker 2: I really feel for you. I would be limited right now. 270 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:45,880 Speaker 2: I really would. 271 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 1: Okay, Susan truth time, would you make the daughter take 272 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:52,400 Speaker 1: it out at thirteen? 273 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:55,480 Speaker 2: Probably because I'd be so pissed because there was no 274 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:56,680 Speaker 2: conversation with me. 275 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 1: Yes, if she were, But so you do it by age. See, 276 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:02,400 Speaker 1: I wouldn't care if she's living in my house and 277 00:14:02,440 --> 00:14:05,440 Speaker 1: I'm paying her bills. You don't get to do that 278 00:14:05,480 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: stuff without having met having a conversation with your mother. 279 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:11,760 Speaker 1: And if I say no, When you turn eighteen and 280 00:14:11,800 --> 00:14:13,760 Speaker 1: you think you're so big and smart you can support 281 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:16,800 Speaker 1: about it, go move out and get any piercings you want, 282 00:14:17,080 --> 00:14:18,320 Speaker 1: just to make sure you can pay your rent. 283 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 2: Well, would you ever agree to one if you talk 284 00:14:21,160 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 2: to her about it at at older age. You just 285 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 2: don't like belly button piercing. 286 00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 1: No, no, no. If she were eighteen, I would say eighteen. 287 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 1: At eighteen, you're an adult. At eighteen you can do 288 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:34,560 Speaker 1: what you want to do. Kyle. I don't know how 289 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,560 Speaker 1: old my son was when he got his first tattoo. 290 00:14:37,560 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 1: And Caitlyn has a couple of sheep I think she 291 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: got her first one at eighteen. At that point they 292 00:14:42,440 --> 00:14:45,480 Speaker 1: were adults. They I didn't pay for it. I didn't 293 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 1: you know, they didn't ask my permission, and they were 294 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 1: not about sixteen. 295 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 2: I let them do some things at sixteen. But thank 296 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 2: you for your question, and gosh, I wish you luck. 297 00:14:56,240 --> 00:14:57,600 Speaker 3: I mean, let us. 298 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:00,440 Speaker 1: Let me know, Laura, I think everyone can tell my 299 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:03,080 Speaker 1: mother in law and I and my father in law. 300 00:15:03,720 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 1: As I said earlier, my mother and father in law 301 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:11,560 Speaker 1: are are deceased. Make you know, God rest their souls. 302 00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:15,960 Speaker 1: But we had a difficult relationship my entire forty six 303 00:15:16,040 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 1: years in my marriage. So get it under control now, Laura. 304 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:19,400 Speaker 3: Okay. 305 00:15:19,440 --> 00:15:23,760 Speaker 2: The next one, Kathy is from anonymous. Okay, ladies, I 306 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:27,520 Speaker 2: really need your help. My soon to be father in 307 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 2: law made a move on me the other night. Oh God, 308 00:15:30,960 --> 00:15:31,720 Speaker 2: And I don't. 309 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:32,240 Speaker 3: Know what to do. 310 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:36,920 Speaker 2: He's always been very friendly and compliments me a lot, 311 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:43,040 Speaker 2: but it never felt strange until now. Obviously, basically, he 312 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:47,400 Speaker 2: was helping me cut and serve his wife's birthday cake 313 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:51,600 Speaker 2: while she and my fiance were having a sweet chat together. 314 00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:56,200 Speaker 2: My father in law drunkenly touched my hand and asked 315 00:15:56,240 --> 00:15:56,600 Speaker 2: if I. 316 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 3: Wanted to get out of here? What the hell? 317 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:04,160 Speaker 2: I just laughed at all uncomfortably and ran outside with 318 00:16:04,240 --> 00:16:05,119 Speaker 2: cake slices. 319 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:09,400 Speaker 3: He then followed it up with no, one has to know. 320 00:16:09,960 --> 00:16:13,000 Speaker 2: I haven't spoke to him since, and I haven't told 321 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 2: my fiance yet. He's a surgeon and has been crazy 322 00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 2: busy since. What the hell do I do? How do 323 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:24,360 Speaker 2: I navigate this? I know, of course I have to 324 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 2: tell him, But how when all these question marks. 325 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 3: As girl friends? I mean one thing I took Kathy first. 326 00:16:34,400 --> 00:16:36,800 Speaker 3: He was drinking. He was drunk. 327 00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 1: It is never an excuse, do not. 328 00:16:43,520 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 3: It makes people act way out of character. 329 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:51,040 Speaker 1: If I disagree, I think when people are drunk that's 330 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:52,760 Speaker 1: when their real character comes out. 331 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:55,920 Speaker 3: Well sometimes yes, but wow, and. 332 00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 1: Who is she going to tell the fiance. 333 00:17:00,520 --> 00:17:01,200 Speaker 3: Had his father? 334 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh, are you saying you wouldn't do that. Absolutely. 335 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 2: It would depend on if it's the only time it 336 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:10,000 Speaker 2: ever happened and it doesn't happen again. 337 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:19,000 Speaker 1: But I okay, that's going to start okay, and I 338 00:17:19,119 --> 00:17:20,800 Speaker 1: are not are not finished. 339 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:25,160 Speaker 2: I would have a conversation with that man and warn him, 340 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:30,639 Speaker 2: don't you dare. Hopefully he'll be begging for mercy and 341 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:33,320 Speaker 2: apologize I don't even know why I said it, and 342 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,240 Speaker 2: give him the benefit of the doubt. If not, and 343 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:40,480 Speaker 2: you open up this can of worms, the whole family's 344 00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:43,840 Speaker 2: going to get involved. It's going to be drama. I 345 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:46,560 Speaker 2: don't blame you for running away from the asshole. And 346 00:17:46,600 --> 00:17:49,720 Speaker 2: he is an asshole for doing it for his wife's 347 00:17:49,720 --> 00:17:51,760 Speaker 2: birthday party. You want to get out of here, I mean, 348 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 2: come hold. 349 00:17:52,960 --> 00:17:56,680 Speaker 1: Well, one thing you're not picking up on is her 350 00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:59,800 Speaker 1: fiance is a surgeon. We're not talking about two twenty 351 00:17:59,840 --> 00:18:02,920 Speaker 1: two or twenty two year olds here. They're in the thirties. 352 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:05,880 Speaker 1: I guarantee you if he's a surgeon, he's he's done 353 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 1: his residency, he's done a fellowship. He's thirty. It means 354 00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:13,639 Speaker 1: he's old enough to handle the truth and deal with 355 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:17,119 Speaker 1: his father and say, if you ever I would. I 356 00:18:17,119 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 1: would run to my fiance. 357 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 2: You wouldn't tell the have a conversation with the man 358 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 2: himself first. 359 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:25,480 Speaker 3: You would right to your field. 360 00:18:25,560 --> 00:18:28,359 Speaker 1: Absolutely, I would go right to my fiance and say, 361 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:31,840 Speaker 1: deal with this, because this can never happen again. I 362 00:18:31,840 --> 00:18:32,640 Speaker 1: would never die. 363 00:18:32,680 --> 00:18:33,960 Speaker 3: I would say that to the father. 364 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:38,640 Speaker 1: No, I will see to me, Susan that I mean, 365 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:40,240 Speaker 1: I see what you're saying. 366 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:45,520 Speaker 3: You're wrong people, everyone, I'm wrong. Yeah, you don't know 367 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:47,080 Speaker 3: at all, No way. 368 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 2: You're entitled to one mistake, and this was a big mistake. 369 00:18:51,480 --> 00:18:53,080 Speaker 2: And I'm going to give him the benefit of that 370 00:18:53,160 --> 00:18:57,879 Speaker 2: and say, listen, don't ever ever. Hopefully he'll be mortified 371 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 2: and said, I can't believe I did that. It depends 372 00:19:00,119 --> 00:19:03,560 Speaker 2: and what ally answers. And if he didn't answer properly, 373 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:05,200 Speaker 2: then of course you don't tell. 374 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:08,240 Speaker 1: You so let me. I mean, I I just play 375 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:10,600 Speaker 1: the what if game? Right? What if she doesn't tell 376 00:19:10,600 --> 00:19:13,959 Speaker 1: her fiance, they get married, and the guy attacks her 377 00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:18,119 Speaker 1: and then she goes through now whatever grabs her in 378 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:24,720 Speaker 1: the throes to whatever. For God's sake, Well, Susan, I 379 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 1: have a news slash for you. He did not want 380 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 1: to take her hand to go out and buy her 381 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:29,359 Speaker 1: cotton candy. 382 00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:32,560 Speaker 2: Let's he was pretty obviously what he was saying. Okay, 383 00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 2: so I'm saying drunk. Yeah, Well, being drunk is no 384 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:38,760 Speaker 2: excuse for bad behavior ever. 385 00:19:39,200 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 1: Ever. So and I told my kids that from the 386 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,880 Speaker 1: time they were had their first glass of beer, don't ever. 387 00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:47,159 Speaker 2: Tell them anything you want when you're drunk. It's a 388 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:47,919 Speaker 2: whole different. 389 00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:52,040 Speaker 1: And that's why when you're drunk, if you get caught 390 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:55,600 Speaker 1: for a d UI, you you did it. You knew 391 00:19:55,680 --> 00:20:00,120 Speaker 1: what the consequences were. This idiot got this. 392 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:03,840 Speaker 2: This is flirting from future father in law. That's disgusting. 393 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm going about fiance and I'm going to say, 394 00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:10,919 Speaker 1: you tell your father if he ever does that again, 395 00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:13,120 Speaker 1: he's not gonna like what happens to him. 396 00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:16,719 Speaker 2: Okay, all right, babe. So I know you're anonymous. I 397 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:18,040 Speaker 2: know you're listening to this. 398 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 3: Let me know how you because we want to know it. 399 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:27,840 Speaker 1: And by the way, Anonymous, you say, I know, of 400 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 1: course I have to tell him, but how and when 401 00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:34,000 Speaker 1: I think she is referring to her fiance, So Anonymous, 402 00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:36,200 Speaker 1: I'm on the same page with you. You do need 403 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 1: to tell him when, the sooner the better. By the way, 404 00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 1: and you know what, you don't have to go crying 405 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,720 Speaker 1: and say I can't just say I need to talk 406 00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:48,840 Speaker 1: to you calmly and patiently. I need to talk to 407 00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:52,280 Speaker 1: you about something that happened. I want you to I'm 408 00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:55,240 Speaker 1: telling you because it can never happen again. And I 409 00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:58,919 Speaker 1: want you to take your dad quietly aside and explain 410 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:02,000 Speaker 1: this detail to him so that I am never put 411 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:04,760 Speaker 1: in this position again. And then I give my fiance 412 00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:08,600 Speaker 1: a big kiss, love on him and say I'm so lucky. 413 00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 2: To have that fiance is not ready for a big kiss. 414 00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:14,560 Speaker 2: After he hears this, it's starting something. He's going to 415 00:21:14,640 --> 00:21:15,919 Speaker 2: be pissed off as his spot. 416 00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:19,440 Speaker 1: You want a strong marriage or a marriage built on secrets. 417 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:24,800 Speaker 2: No, that's not kat, I think it's I think the 418 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,719 Speaker 2: man fucked up because he was drunk. 419 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:27,320 Speaker 3: I really do. 420 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:31,200 Speaker 1: So you are you are making an excuse because he 421 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:33,119 Speaker 1: was drunk. I don't make excuses. 422 00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 3: I'm giving them one one out. 423 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:39,640 Speaker 1: Nope, okay yet again, Susan and I are on different 424 00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:41,879 Speaker 1: uh sides of the table there, and you know what 425 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:45,199 Speaker 1: guy's way in. Let us know, let us know what 426 00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:47,600 Speaker 1: you think. I think there'll be people on both sides 427 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:49,840 Speaker 1: of the table, and frankly, there isn't a wrong or 428 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:54,160 Speaker 1: right answer. It's just what you would be comfortable doing. Yes, Okay, 429 00:21:54,280 --> 00:22:00,080 Speaker 1: now that's wrong. Now that let it be that we 430 00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 1: always think she's no. I don't no, I do not. 431 00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 1: We're moving just on question two from anonymous. Now we're 432 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:19,600 Speaker 1: moving to question three from anonymous. Okay, Hi, Kathy and Susan, 433 00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:22,960 Speaker 1: I need some advice on how to handle this situation 434 00:22:23,119 --> 00:22:25,959 Speaker 1: with my mother in law. Ever since we had our 435 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,800 Speaker 1: two kids, my in laws have always either come to 436 00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:31,960 Speaker 1: our house or met us in a different location, like 437 00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:35,640 Speaker 1: for family vacation, et cetera. Recently, we were in their 438 00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:42,159 Speaker 1: neighborhood and decided to pop over to surprise them. To 439 00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 1: our hearror, we realized that my mother in law is 440 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:48,480 Speaker 1: a total horner and my father in law has just 441 00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 1: grown complacent. She's really emotionally attached to all of her things, 442 00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:56,560 Speaker 1: and we'll have a panic attack if we even suggest storage, 443 00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:59,480 Speaker 1: let alone trash. How do we help her through this? 444 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:00,760 Speaker 1: Really simple? 445 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:03,520 Speaker 3: You don't professional help. 446 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:11,080 Speaker 2: That's a disease like that's big and some people I 447 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:12,520 Speaker 2: don't think they can do it. 448 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:16,639 Speaker 1: Honestly, I mean I would just not go to their house. 449 00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: It's pretty simple, Anonymous. You can't make her do anything 450 00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 1: she doesn't want to do. 451 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:27,159 Speaker 2: So she always met them at a different plays like 452 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:30,760 Speaker 2: family vacation, and there's a reason why she realizes she 453 00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:32,200 Speaker 2: has a problem. 454 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:33,680 Speaker 3: And keep inviting her to your house. 455 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:37,080 Speaker 1: Don't go. Yeah, it's anonymous, it's not your problem to solve. 456 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,600 Speaker 1: Invite her on the vacations, meet her at a restaurant, 457 00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,200 Speaker 1: meet her at a park, meet your father in law, 458 00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:47,000 Speaker 1: you know, meet them at public places, take them on vacation. 459 00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:50,600 Speaker 1: But you know what, it's clearly upsetting to you, Anonymous, 460 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,560 Speaker 1: that you're seeing this, you know, hoarding situation. So don't 461 00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:55,840 Speaker 1: put yourself in the situation. 462 00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,440 Speaker 3: Is it that simple, Yeah, it is that simple. That's 463 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:00,159 Speaker 3: an easy one. 464 00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:05,440 Speaker 1: Okay, you can all right, all right now, Oh boy, Susan. 465 00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:06,520 Speaker 3: What would you do? 466 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:09,840 Speaker 1: What would you do? This is Mother in Law Audition. 467 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:11,919 Speaker 1: I'm just can I just tell you this whole episode 468 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:17,080 Speaker 1: is triggering me because my in laws could not stand me. 469 00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:18,560 Speaker 3: It was awful. 470 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,640 Speaker 1: All Right, we're gonna play for a game segment. It's 471 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:25,720 Speaker 1: going to be it's mother in Law Audition. We're going 472 00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:30,480 Speaker 1: to switch off reading hypotheticals and we're gonna give her. Yeah, 473 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:34,040 Speaker 1: what would you do as to what we'd do as 474 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,399 Speaker 1: the in laws in the situation? Okay, so I'm going 475 00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: to start us off. So it's as if we're the 476 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,480 Speaker 1: in laws. Okay, all right, your daughter in law cooks 477 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:46,480 Speaker 1: dinner for the whole family, but it's barely edible. Do 478 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:50,879 Speaker 1: you pretend to love it? Quietly order takeout? Offer a 479 00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:53,760 Speaker 1: cooking class for her birthday? 480 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:58,000 Speaker 3: What would you do, Susan, Well, obviously you can't order 481 00:24:58,160 --> 00:24:58,720 Speaker 3: take out. 482 00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:03,520 Speaker 2: I would tried to help her learn how to cook, 483 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,840 Speaker 2: not for her birthday, but I would take her a side. 484 00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:12,240 Speaker 2: I mean, obviously, if you fairly edible, some everybody there 485 00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:15,199 Speaker 2: is going to be obvious. But I would never embarrass her. 486 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:17,680 Speaker 2: I would eat as much as I could. 487 00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:21,840 Speaker 1: Right, I would. I would not pretend to love it. 488 00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,240 Speaker 1: I would eat some of it, and then I would 489 00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 1: do what you said. I would take her aside and say, sweetie, 490 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:31,080 Speaker 1: I know you tried so hard on this meal, but 491 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:34,760 Speaker 1: you know what, maybe it's just let's look at the positive. 492 00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:40,000 Speaker 1: Maybe it's just one bad meal. I cooked a meal once. 493 00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,120 Speaker 1: Let me just tell you, for friends, this is this 494 00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:45,960 Speaker 1: is when my husband, actually my husband cooked this meal 495 00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,600 Speaker 1: I'm wrong. We invited friends over and she was a 496 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:53,440 Speaker 1: gourmet cook, unbelievable cook, and I was very nervous about 497 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:58,119 Speaker 1: having them over. Well, Daryl decided to grill chicken on 498 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:01,119 Speaker 1: our new barbecue. Well, and I tell you cooked. He 499 00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:05,040 Speaker 1: crucified this chicken. It was down to black. You know 500 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:11,000 Speaker 1: that's right. It was worse than that burger Susan. You hit. 501 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:12,879 Speaker 1: It went right to the bone, like the meat just 502 00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,680 Speaker 1: was gone. It was charred skin right to the But 503 00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:22,960 Speaker 1: so I was profusely apologizing. I was like, so embarrassed. 504 00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:24,720 Speaker 1: Do you know what she said? That's what made me 505 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,440 Speaker 1: think about when I read this question. Our friend said, 506 00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:32,000 Speaker 1: this is delicious. I love barbecued chicken. Thank you so 507 00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,520 Speaker 1: much for having us. We just love your company. She 508 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 1: that was a on the way home probably, But the 509 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:43,960 Speaker 1: point is we had fun. She didn't embarrass me. I was. 510 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:48,080 Speaker 1: I was mortified, But yeah, I don't. I don't think 511 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:50,840 Speaker 1: you pretend to love it. But I think you just eat. 512 00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:53,920 Speaker 1: And it might been my fat name. It might have 513 00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,479 Speaker 1: just been one meal at my barbecued chicken. Maybe it 514 00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 1: wasn't you know. 515 00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:58,840 Speaker 3: Maybe she's all right. 516 00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:02,200 Speaker 2: Your son and daughter and law announce they are moving 517 00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:08,359 Speaker 2: to another country. Do you plan monthly visits, immediately guilt 518 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:15,400 Speaker 2: trip them into staying, or act supportive while secretly sobbing 519 00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:16,440 Speaker 2: in your wine. 520 00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:18,960 Speaker 3: I'd be planning my trips. 521 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:25,159 Speaker 1: I was just gonna say. I would be planning my trips. 522 00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 2: I'd be happy and excited for their experience that they're 523 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:28,919 Speaker 2: going to have. 524 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:33,480 Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, and we agree, Kathy, I love it. Okay, 525 00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:34,800 Speaker 1: go do read the next one. 526 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:35,720 Speaker 3: Okay. 527 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:39,480 Speaker 2: You catch your future daughter in law sneaking a cigarette 528 00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:43,159 Speaker 2: behind the house before family dinner and she thinks no 529 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:46,560 Speaker 2: one saw. You know, this is something that really bothers 530 00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:51,200 Speaker 2: your son and has been discussed about it many times, 531 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,640 Speaker 2: especially now that they're trying to get pregnant. Oh god, 532 00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:59,880 Speaker 2: do you pretend you didn't see it? Casually drop off 533 00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:04,760 Speaker 2: a pamphlet about lung hell or sneak her a lighter 534 00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:06,120 Speaker 2: for smity? 535 00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:09,080 Speaker 1: What what. 536 00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:13,040 Speaker 3: I picked? None of those? 537 00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,920 Speaker 2: I would pick E and I whisper in her ear, 538 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,239 Speaker 2: hell nhealthy it is? 539 00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:19,359 Speaker 3: And something like that. 540 00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:23,920 Speaker 1: I would not do any of that. I would walk 541 00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:28,240 Speaker 1: up to her quietly, and maybe not even that night, 542 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:32,360 Speaker 1: but I would at some point quietly talk to her 543 00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:33,320 Speaker 1: and say. 544 00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:36,439 Speaker 3: To her, but she they're asking about when we go 545 00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:37,280 Speaker 3: to the sun. 546 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,840 Speaker 1: And I'm saying I would not go to him. I 547 00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:43,000 Speaker 1: would quietly at some other time, not right then and there. 548 00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:48,640 Speaker 1: Call call her up. Let's call her Susan. Susan. I saw, 549 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:53,400 Speaker 1: of course we do. I saw you smoking, and you 550 00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:59,760 Speaker 1: know that is between you and my son. However, I 551 00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:01,480 Speaker 1: think think it is not only are you trying to 552 00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:05,240 Speaker 1: get pregnant, but you're starting your marriage or relationship. It's 553 00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:08,200 Speaker 1: a lie. So you might want to think about that 554 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:10,840 Speaker 1: because I think if you could get her to look 555 00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:14,480 Speaker 1: at it in a different light, that it's it's creating 556 00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:17,360 Speaker 1: a lie. It's a lie between them, never mind the 557 00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,800 Speaker 1: health of the baby and all that stuff. That's that's 558 00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:20,360 Speaker 1: what I think. 559 00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:22,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, you got the next one. 560 00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:26,880 Speaker 1: Okay, here's the next one. Your son and a soon 561 00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,680 Speaker 1: to be wife insist on getting you addressed for their 562 00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 1: wedding to make it special. When you get it, it's 563 00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:36,080 Speaker 1: absolutely hideous and does not work for you at all. 564 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,360 Speaker 1: Do you wear it proudly? Try to talk to them 565 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:42,080 Speaker 1: about it, or not say anything and just wear something else. 566 00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:43,920 Speaker 3: That's easy. 567 00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:47,120 Speaker 2: If they're insisting, I'm going to insist that they don't 568 00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:47,840 Speaker 2: do it without me. 569 00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:49,440 Speaker 3: Because I'm a picky one. 570 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:53,520 Speaker 1: I was just going to say, yeah, I can't imagine 571 00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:57,320 Speaker 1: my son first of all, shopping, let's start. 572 00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,160 Speaker 3: Does that does? 573 00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,200 Speaker 1: Actually I had a friend who just was telling me 574 00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:06,320 Speaker 1: that they did buy a gay couple that just got married, 575 00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:09,120 Speaker 1: and they did pick out the outfit for But that's 576 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,840 Speaker 1: a little different, you know. I mean, whatever I would, 577 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:13,720 Speaker 1: I would, I would have to talk to them about 578 00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:16,240 Speaker 1: it and say, no, I have to try it on. 579 00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:17,200 Speaker 1: I have to like it. 580 00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:18,360 Speaker 3: All right. 581 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:21,560 Speaker 2: You find out your daughter in law hates your famous 582 00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:26,960 Speaker 2: holiday cookies, do you switch recipes just for her, make 583 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:31,520 Speaker 2: an extra and joke about it, tell her lovingly that 584 00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:32,320 Speaker 2: she's wrong. 585 00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,280 Speaker 1: Oh I'm interested in your answer because I know exactly 586 00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,040 Speaker 1: what I would do. What would you do, Susan? 587 00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:40,000 Speaker 3: Oh, honey, you don't like this. That's a shame we 588 00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:41,240 Speaker 3: all do. 589 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:44,200 Speaker 1: See. I wouldn't. I would. I would make a joke 590 00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,760 Speaker 1: about it and say, you know, I uh, you know, 591 00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:51,600 Speaker 1: Susie Q over here didn't like my snicker doodles, so 592 00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,520 Speaker 1: I made so I made him. I know everyone else does, so. 593 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:56,080 Speaker 3: Susan, har try a different one. 594 00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:58,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I would make it. I would do it, 595 00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:02,120 Speaker 1: all right, Your son and daughter in law adopt a 596 00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:05,640 Speaker 1: giant dog that sheds everywhere. Well, can I just tell 597 00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:08,280 Speaker 1: you I'm never going to visit and invite you to 598 00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,600 Speaker 1: stay at their fur filled house. Do you pack a 599 00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,640 Speaker 1: lint roller and suck it up, make an excuse him 600 00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:17,600 Speaker 1: a hotel nearby, or confront them on the issue. Oh, 601 00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:18,959 Speaker 1: I know exactly what I would do. 602 00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,400 Speaker 2: I mean, it's their dog, and if I'm going to visit, 603 00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:23,479 Speaker 2: I'm going to pack it. 604 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:26,920 Speaker 1: You know what. You know what I do because my 605 00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,440 Speaker 1: daughter has and her husband have a boxer, and I 606 00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:32,480 Speaker 1: love that dog, but oh my god, it's hair everywhere. 607 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:34,880 Speaker 1: When I've stayed at their house, all I do is 608 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:38,000 Speaker 1: close the bedroom door so that dog cannot get in 609 00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:42,280 Speaker 1: and get on my clothes. Vacuuming, Yes, Susan would be 610 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:45,200 Speaker 1: sweeping it. She'd be She'd never mind, You'd be vacuuming 611 00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:50,200 Speaker 1: the dog. Oh god, all right, that was so much fun. 612 00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:54,200 Speaker 1: Thank you to all of our listeners. I've been traumatized 613 00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:56,560 Speaker 1: by all of this talk of mother in laws and 614 00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:59,720 Speaker 1: father in laws to all hair and dog hair, To 615 00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:03,440 Speaker 1: all all of you who are even contemplating getting married. 616 00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:05,960 Speaker 1: You will have a mother in law, You will have 617 00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 1: a father in law. Remember, you're not just marrying the guy, 618 00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,560 Speaker 1: you're marrying the family. You're not just marrying the woman. 619 00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 1: You're marrying the family. 620 00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:16,960 Speaker 2: Get it right right Sometimes you can't help it though, 621 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:20,680 Speaker 2: they call me back. But thank you everybody for joining us, 622 00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,719 Speaker 2: and be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we 623 00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,880 Speaker 2: have new episodes coming out every week, and I know 624 00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:28,120 Speaker 2: you don't want to miss anything. 625 00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:29,680 Speaker 1: No, I mean, why would they want to miss it? 626 00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:32,720 Speaker 1: Next week we're going to talk about son and daughter 627 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,080 Speaker 1: in laws, just see if we can traumatize everyone further. 628 00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:38,360 Speaker 1: But in the meantime, submit your questions to us. 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