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Speaker 1: Growing up, me and my sister had no love towards

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Speaker 1: storytime supparate it. So, when my sister got accepted into

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Speaker 1: But now I understand better and we're on good terms.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I feel like when you get older, you realize,

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Speaker 2: oh we were both in a bad situation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's like I also like the I saw

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Speaker 1: so his pension would almost double. But also you have

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Speaker 1: to act accordingly because in terms of speaking your military personnel. Now,

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm confused by that because it's like,

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Speaker 2: Well sometimes sometimes people have life near death experiences, change

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Speaker 1: Possibly, after nearly a year of staying at my sister's house,

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Speaker 2: Dang, he's got he's got some moves.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Levitt has cancer.

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Speaker 1: And is it's very of that successful or like Stephen

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Speaker 1: What was supposed to be a happy union turned into

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Speaker 2: Oh it's getting serious.

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Speaker 1: So to my bamboozlement, my father, his sister, my aunt,

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Speaker 1: Agreed. Yeah, I can't believe they're getting mad. They're getting

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Speaker 2: I'm no, I haven't a hoot. I don't see.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Riley got it.

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Speaker 2: So op was at their house, was talking to them

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so Ope was given this house and I think

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, but well, so what happened was Opie's

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Speaker 1: They gave it to op to kind of hold on to.

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Speaker 1: And now they're like coosing up to op to try

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Speaker 2: Is like, I have got a dastly plan.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, so and also now op has the land too.

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Speaker 1: So Opie has the house and the land from the grandmother,

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Speaker 3: I guess interesting, Yeah, because.

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Speaker 1: They wanted to sell his house and the mother is

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Speaker 2: No one's, no one's everyone's alive.

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Speaker 1: Everyone's alive.

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Speaker 3: I'm just saying, to get out of some taxes. And

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Speaker 3: then she set up a trust and then put the

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Speaker 1: Well, I think I don't think this is in the US.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not in the US. But also I think

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Speaker 2: they put it in Op's name because they knew that

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, so they were trying to do that. But

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Speaker 1: I honestly have no idea what the plan could be.

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Speaker 1: old folks. They could claim it's his life achievement. Because

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Speaker 1: I could ops receipts.

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Speaker 2: Get me took a phone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, remember the phone that my mother It was smashed

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Speaker 2: Nice being lazy pays off. Sometimes gotta be lazy to

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Speaker 1: To win, we got the execution now. So after weighing

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Speaker 1: He was eager to hear it. Upon my arrival, they

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Speaker 1: suddenly became vile and violence. I presented him with two options,

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Speaker 2: Riley, Can you look at what country that is?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, look at it. Look up the country. Why

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Speaker 2: Tell us you think that we're going to find you

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Come on, unless you're like your country's ten people.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe Vatican City. Maybe we could find you other

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Speaker 1: than that probably not.

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Speaker 2: This is actually the pope writing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, dude, Pope's got tea. All the confessions, the.

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Speaker 2: Pope is a queer man with tea, according to the story,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if he's queer man, but he definitely

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Speaker 3: India, Middle East, Asian cities, European cities.

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Speaker 1: Okay, man, that's too many. After a lot of screaming

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Speaker 2: So they're saying that the dad is ranting at the

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Speaker 1: Which honestly is kind of nice of op to let

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Speaker 2: Very considerate after how he treated it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like you could, you could like kick

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Speaker 1: and now the revenge, because that wasn't revenge enough. No,

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Speaker 2: That's what the military gives you, organization.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that it does.

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Speaker 1: So this was where my work started. First, my sister

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, well it seems like they're they're charging him

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, those sister is say goodbye to the wooden furniture,

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Speaker 1: Although the final amount was half to my mother under

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Speaker 2: No. I think what happened here is that the sister

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Speaker 2: That's what it sounds like to me.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, but I guess, like what, Yeah, but the

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Speaker 2: Behalf, Yes, to pay for the sister.

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00:20:56,920 --> 00:21:00,119
Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, the government is seizing on behalf of a

443
00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 1: sister because like I guess, I guess she but she

444
00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:05,920
Speaker 1: paid for all that stuff. But I guess because she

445
00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,680
Speaker 1: paid for it under the pretenses.

446
00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 2: She's basically like, yeah, she's billing him to Yeah.

447
00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:12,639
Speaker 1: Can confuse what that court case would be because she

448
00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:13,480
Speaker 1: willingly paid.

449
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:15,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, I also am confused. I don't know how she

450
00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:18,240
Speaker 2: would be able to get that money when she did young,

451
00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:19,359
Speaker 2: when she willingly played for it.

452
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:21,840
Speaker 1: Looking back, I should have taken the recliner because my

453
00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:24,520
Speaker 1: back hurts like a bee, even though I'm only in

454
00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:26,840
Speaker 1: my late twenties. But after that was done, I contacted

455
00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:30,360
Speaker 1: my local factory to file a report. Remember the sweet

456
00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:34,160
Speaker 1: pension he got with the condition that he behaved accordingly, Well,

457
00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,920
Speaker 1: clearly someone had been a bad boy and they let

458
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:39,479
Speaker 1: him go with it, even though it was a small

459
00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:43,359
Speaker 1: town and everyone knew everything, because nobody ever filed a report.

460
00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:46,040
Speaker 1: But that's not the case anymore. I gave them a

461
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 1: very detailed folder with pictures from his phone to say

462
00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:53,760
Speaker 1: they were spicy. Sleep yole was an understatement.

463
00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:56,919
Speaker 2: So there's kind of a morality clause ye. For the

464
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:57,919
Speaker 2: the military pension.

465
00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:00,560
Speaker 1: They immediately set up a hearing and he was of

466
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 1: his rank, making his pension down to just over half

467
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:08,240
Speaker 1: the original amounts. I know this because old folks gossip

468
00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:10,480
Speaker 1: like their lives depend on it, and my mother is

469
00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:13,160
Speaker 1: not excluded. She was very happy hearing about that. It's

470
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 1: all she talked about for a month. I was about

471
00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:18,040
Speaker 1: to be done here, but a week later, my sister

472
00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:20,639
Speaker 1: called to tell me that my aunt came to her

473
00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,679
Speaker 1: door to rate her and her children. My sister was

474
00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,440
Speaker 1: working from home. My mom also lived there but had

475
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 1: gone out for some reason. My sister just called security

476
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,680
Speaker 1: to kick her out and warn me she could go

477
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 1: for me next. I was seeing blood, not because of

478
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:40,000
Speaker 1: some lame booty Karen that could cause some inconvenience at most,

479
00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:42,880
Speaker 1: but because she was screaming at my niece and nephew.

480
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 1: As a gay man, I know full well the blood

481
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:47,439
Speaker 1: line ends with me. So I put all of my

482
00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:49,960
Speaker 1: love into those little guys, to the point that if

483
00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 1: I had been there, I would have bitten her head off.

484
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:54,879
Speaker 1: So I dug a little around and found out my

485
00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:58,280
Speaker 1: aunt was knees deep in debt. She was hoping, Yeah,

486
00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:00,639
Speaker 1: she was hoping she could lead some money off my father.

487
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:03,200
Speaker 1: It's not from the money he made selling the house

488
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:05,639
Speaker 1: and then from his big bank account, since neither of

489
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 1: those was available anymore. She was angry and thought she

490
00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:09,879
Speaker 1: could lay it on my sister. You want to know

491
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,440
Speaker 1: what a man could do with determination and raging hatred. Well,

492
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:15,640
Speaker 1: I'd never set up an online social presence, mainly because

493
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:17,679
Speaker 1: up to my eighteenth birthday I was too poor to

494
00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:19,800
Speaker 1: have a phone, and then the military taught me it

495
00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:22,680
Speaker 1: wasn't needed. But for a special occasion I made an exception.

496
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:25,680
Speaker 1: I created a Facebook account, befriended her, and didn't even

497
00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: have to pretend to be anyone, since old people apparently

498
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:32,199
Speaker 1: except friend with a question anyone. She's on this vibe

499
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:34,840
Speaker 1: where she'd throw off her money and her vacations and

500
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:37,359
Speaker 1: her items like a wealthy person from my mother and

501
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 1: her trusty gossip circle. I knew that she always told

502
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,159
Speaker 1: whoever she owed money that she was struggling, so I

503
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:45,520
Speaker 1: figured out she must be blocking them. The next part

504
00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:48,439
Speaker 1: was easy. I just send all the selfies to everyone

505
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:51,240
Speaker 1: she's owing to. I didn't have to declare myself since

506
00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 1: I was literally on a throwaway account. So it's just

507
00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: this really long line of messages that showed my aunt

508
00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:59,479
Speaker 1: spending her money lavishly. So the next following month she

509
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 1: was threatened, not with legal actions like I did, but

510
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:05,840
Speaker 1: with much more sinister actions. She would have thugs, not

511
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 1: the police, throw gifts at her door like paint, fish, sauce,

512
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 1: and sometimes literal craps.

513
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:15,600
Speaker 3: Dude, this chick is gonna end up on the squid Games.

514
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:22,080
Speaker 1: Oh my god, is Op going too far? Wow? Wow?

515
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,159
Speaker 2: Because we were like, oh, that's nice that, Like, you know,

516
00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,920
Speaker 2: OPI let his dad live in the house even though

517
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 2: he treat him so badly.

518
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:33,840
Speaker 1: He's trying to get this person like lived.

519
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 2: No, we don't stop here, we keep going.

520
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 1: I don't know.

521
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 2: How I feel about this. I don't know. I think

522
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 2: is systematically destroying everyone who messed with him.

523
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:54,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, because the line here is getting justice for his

524
00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 3: mom getting cheated on. But now he's getting all the

525
00:24:56,840 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 3: justice that is available to him. If that makes sense.

526
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's a little bit too much. I

527
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 1: think it's a little bit too much. But I would

528
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:04,639
Speaker 1: love to know what you guys think. Yeah, but your

529
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 1: answers in the chat.

530
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 2: But just ins far as people, he's Yeah, Karina Krena

531
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 2: says he's going too far. He's putting her in danger.

532
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:15,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, she finally figured out what I was going to

533
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 1: do when I told her to find me a list

534
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:19,879
Speaker 1: of all the people she's going to. Oh my god,

535
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 1: And now there's the pro revenge.

536
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 2: That wasn't the pro revenge. I hope that I never

537
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 2: get on Op's bad side.

538
00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:31,840
Speaker 1: Oh my god. As much as I want to take

539
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 1: credit for this, the idea wasn't mine. Forgive me, for

540
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 1: I once again had to lay out a bigger background.

541
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,440
Speaker 1: So my father's side of the family is this very

542
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:42,440
Speaker 1: traditional family where you would have a person acting as

543
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 1: the head of the family, deciding things that matter. This

544
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 1: was way before the war, so obviously they don't do

545
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 1: such things anymore, I imagine the Vietnam War. But the

546
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 1: head of the family still has a certain voice. And

547
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:55,640
Speaker 1: there's this once in a year ceremony where we gather

548
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 1: together to pay tribute to our ancestors. During the ceremony.

549
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:00,159
Speaker 1: The head of the family will give a speech and

550
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 1: then some announcements like who died, who got married, who

551
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:06,280
Speaker 1: gave birth, etc. Then there will be a celebratory party

552
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 1: where we basically get wasted. My great grandfather was ahead.

553
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 1: He had three sons and two of them passed away

554
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:14,680
Speaker 1: during the war, so my grandfather took the mantle, then

555
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 1: my father and eventually me. The whole side of the

556
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 1: family is another town that's like three hours away, mainly

557
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 1: because my grandfather didn't expect to be the head, so

558
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:26,159
Speaker 1: he moved out seeking opportunities. I found these gatherings redundant

559
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 1: and unnecessary, but that year was actually looking forward to it,

560
00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:33,199
Speaker 1: probably for the revenge. My father tried to keep the

561
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 1: actual date hidden. It wasn't fixed, but generally somewhere between June.

562
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 1: But he seriously underestimated my mother. She doesn't have a

563
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 1: gossip circle, she has an infinite number of them. So

564
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:46,120
Speaker 1: my mother, me and my sister's family all head back

565
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: for it. The trip is fourteen hours in total, but

566
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 1: the result was so worth it we timed it so

567
00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 1: it'd come two days earlier than my father. Again thanks

568
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:54,880
Speaker 1: to her gossip circle. I guess getting all the information.

569
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,119
Speaker 2: She's like, she's got like a hole.

570
00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 1: She has the little buds throughout the city.

571
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 2: She's like a rat king she's collecting.

572
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, this side of the family had never heard the

573
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 1: full story, only the version my father gave them, which

574
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:10,679
Speaker 1: was that he had left my mother in good faith.

575
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: I actually gave my father some credits for not bowd

576
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 1: mouthing my mom. After weighing all the pros and cons,

577
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 1: we decided to let my mother a loose and she's

578
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 1: exceptional when it came to relaying details about her personal tragedies.

579
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:23,720
Speaker 1: I kid you not. If I posted her story word

580
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,199
Speaker 1: for word, by the time next week, there would be

581
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:30,400
Speaker 1: a global justice for thunder Kirk's Mother movement. It took

582
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 1: just one day for everyone to know what an a

583
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:35,480
Speaker 1: hole my father had been. The look on his face

584
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 1: when he arrived with my aunt my grandmother and saw

585
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 1: my family already there was priceless. He got the stink

586
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:44,199
Speaker 1: guy from everyone. For the rest of the day, nobody

587
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:47,160
Speaker 1: would initiate conversations with him. So he's just sitting there

588
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:50,360
Speaker 1: like a sad dog. Now. I know what they say

589
00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 1: about passing it passed away horses. But the idea was

590
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:55,359
Speaker 1: brilliant not to follow through.

591
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 2: I don't think op ever, wastes an opportunity to be

592
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 2: get revenge, to beat a passed away horse.

593
00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 1: Oh my god, my uncle, let's call him Oliver, came

594
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 1: up with this. And the hierarchy is equal to my father.

595
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 1: And the event that my branch doesn't have a male

596
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:11,959
Speaker 1: successor one hundred percent, what's going to happen. His branch

597
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:14,199
Speaker 1: will be the head of the family. He told me

598
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 1: I should take up the mantle of the head. It

599
00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:18,639
Speaker 1: was very sudden. I didn't have a speech ready. My

600
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 1: father was supposed to do that, but Oliver told me

601
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:23,440
Speaker 1: I could just tell whatever I want because nobody really

602
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 1: paid attention to that thing anyway. All the other elders

603
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 1: were okay with it. The speech wasn't even the best thing.

604
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 1: At the celebratory party, people will be assigned tables based

605
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: on the family tree. Heads of each branch will sit together,

606
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,639
Speaker 1: their children sit together, the elders sit together, so on

607
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 1: and so forth. This sounds very like royal like. This

608
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 1: sounds intense like the familial dynamic. Because I was elevated

609
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 1: to the head of my branch, I would be sitting

610
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 1: at the big boy table. My father didn't even get

611
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: to sit at that supposed table because miraculously it was full,

612
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 1: even though I could have sworn there weren't twenty of

613
00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 1: us and each table can sit up to ten. He

614
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: had to sit at a regular table with my aunt

615
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 1: and a bunch of nasty widows who didn't hold back

616
00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: their snarky comments. So I was told, I didn't think

617
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 1: he'll ever come back to one of those anytime soon.

618
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 1: I I'm kind of so OPI was kind of promoted

619
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: in the family.

620
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 2: I do think it's funny, though, that that was the

621
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 2: pro revenge, because that does seem more tame than all

622
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 2: of the other revenge.

623
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, the other revenge was like catfishing everything.

624
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 2: So like the normal revenge, I catfished my aunt and

625
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 2: people might un alive for now. And like the you know,

626
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 2: pretty good revenge was getting the law to take all

627
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 2: of my dad's assets from him. But the pro revenge

628
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:45,719
Speaker 2: was making my father sit at a different table.

629
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that should reorganize it. Yeah, I

630
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 1: think we should reorganize that.

631
00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 3: But well, it might be a cultural thing.

632
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 1: I think it might be. That's true, babe, really important.

633
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:59,719
Speaker 1: Maybe he's getting threatened by the mafia. Is not as

634
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 1: bad is getting devoted in your familial dynamic.

635
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:06,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, because in the Southern Baptist church, if you don't

636
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:09,480
Speaker 3: sit where you usually sit, people get irritated. They're like, oh,

637
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 3: that's like my seat, but they don't say anything, and

638
00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 3: they kind of be past progressive.

639
00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 1: But we still got a little bit more to the story.

640
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 1: Let's run it the aftermath. My father is now just

641
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:20,600
Speaker 1: a miserable old man. His mistress left him because surprisingly

642
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 1: she was after his money. He's living in our old

643
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 1: house with next to nothing. His retirement money, though halved,

644
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 1: was good enough for him to live by. And last

645
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 1: I heard, his cancer has come back, and obviously this

646
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:33,560
Speaker 1: time my sister won't be paying for it anymore. He

647
00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 1: had tried to initiate contact with my mother, trying to

648
00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 1: make amends. We had to block his number and his

649
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,959
Speaker 1: profile on my mother's account because she actually considered it.

650
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 1: She has her soft side my aunt, which OPI definitely

651
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 1: does not have. My aunt has to sell her house

652
00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:49,440
Speaker 1: to pay all the debt or else they just continue

653
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 1: harassing her. She now lives in a small house she

654
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: bought off with the rest of her money. I felt

655
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: bad for her. Husband because she's because he's actually chill

656
00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 1: and quite nice, but he's not the most decisive, and

657
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 1: therefore he doesn't really confront her. I hope he's doing better.

658
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 1: I have no empathy for her only son, though. Damn.

659
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 1: Let's just say the apple doesn't far fall from the tree.

660
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 1: So how do I know all this my mother's gossip circle?

661
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:14,960
Speaker 1: Of course, I love my grandmother out of this because

662
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 1: she's very old. She's not demented in any way. She's

663
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 1: perfectly sane, but she loved her son too much to

664
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 1: admit he's in the wrong. Also, she was very nice

665
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 1: and sweet to me growing up. A lot of my

666
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 1: good memories are with her. I'm sad because he doesn't

667
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 1: see my mother the same. I also stopped talking to

668
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: her and would only visit once during Lunar New Year.

669
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 1: She's lived in the small house she and my grandfather

670
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 1: built on the land that's now in my name. When

671
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 1: she and my father are passed away, I will carry

672
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 1: out their wish to build an altar for her and

673
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 1: my grandfather. Whether or not my father will be included

674
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,960
Speaker 1: is still up for debate. Just to clarify, all this

675
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 1: wouldn't have happened if he acted in good faith. He

676
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 1: could have called all of us back and now said

677
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 1: he'd be leaving my mother, and I wouldn't have given

678
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,960
Speaker 1: a dang. Instead, he tried to scream and punch his

679
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 1: way through it, and I acted in response. Also, I

680
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 1: deleted that Facebook count. I'm crazy, but not that crazy.

681
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 1: By the way, if you want to be crazy about us,

682
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: you can listen to full episodes of this podcast anywhere

683
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 1: you get your podcasts on Apple, podcasts on Spotify. Could

684
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 1: listen while doing other things. I could hear our voices

685
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 1: at all times. So just look up Okay storytime wherever

686
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:20,920
Speaker 1: you get your podcasts. There's another relevant update. But dang

687
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 1: op is getting getting their revenge.

688
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm not surprised to see that eighty four

689
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 2: percent of Chat did not think that was too far.

690
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, of course, yeah, Chat, that's like, oh,

691
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:38,400
Speaker 1: they only got death threats, Like that's not enough, not enough,

692
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 1: that's not enough, man.

693
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:44,520
Speaker 2: I mean, like to be clear, obviously, the people that

694
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 2: received this you know, revenge or of this vengeance, they

695
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 2: weren't great, they weren't good people. They were bad people.

696
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 1: But yeah, it was a lot, Yeah, it was a

697
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 1: lot that Cassana says, I'm Vietnamese of origin but never

698
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,040
Speaker 1: lived there. Than goodness, all the bs they have to

699
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 1: deal with is toxic. Af I am not Vietnamese either,

700
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 1: but I did, I know, I know, surprising Sophia. But

701
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:11,240
Speaker 1: I did go on a solo travel through Vietnam and

702
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 1: I met this girl in a coffee shop that I

703
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 1: hung out with for a little bit while I was there,

704
00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 1: and she wanted to leave her town and like explore,

705
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 1: but she felt like she had to live with her

706
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 1: mother and take care of her and so like there's

707
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 1: just like an intense duty to family there. Fly, Yeah,

708
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 1: which I can understand why, like in the context of

709
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:35,920
Speaker 1: all that, why getting demoted might be pro revenge just

710
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:37,320
Speaker 1: rather than just revenge.

711
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:38,400
Speaker 2: Like getting excommunicated from the.

712
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 1: Church exactly exactly. But we got a little bit more

713
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 1: of this story. So also about the small court claim.

714
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 1: As I've mentioned, these kinds of claims are highly unethical

715
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 1: in my country. So the law is also very slippery.

716
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 1: You just have to prove that someone owes you money

717
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 1: or for something. It doesn't have to be big. I

718
00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:56,040
Speaker 1: made it sound easy, but in reality we had to

719
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 1: go through three different hearings. The judge invitis to settle

720
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 1: out of court the two. Since my father wasn't present,

721
00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 1: the whole thing took almost a year before a claim

722
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: was rewarded. My sister gave birth to my nephew around

723
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,640
Speaker 1: this time. In short, we found a loophole and utilized it. Also, yes,

724
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:14,879
Speaker 1: I'm Vietnamese, whoo in fidelity is definitely a crime here.

725
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 1: In fact, it's the first time I've heard it's not

726
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 1: a crime somewhere else, So thank you read it for

727
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 1: the newfound knowledge. Also, clearly this wasn't a spur of

728
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 1: moment thing. I had thought about it, like what we

729
00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 1: should do if things got messy, but nothing concrete Because

730
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 1: my mother's reproval everything. We didn't wake up and decide

731
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 1: to scorch the earth.

732
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 2: We planned, We planned, We planned and plotted to scorch

733
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 2: the earth.

734
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 1: Oh man, wow, that was intense. Op OPI went, Opie

735
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 1: went ham Yeah, Opie went Scorchedtrey. Yeah for sure. Shout

736
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,879
Speaker 1: out OPI forgiving us a good story.

737
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 2: Good story to start the stream of Yeah, man, man,

738
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 2: we got another story in this episode.

739
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 1: My father demanded I pay for the house he bought

740
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 1: for his stepdaughter, so I went on off on him.

741
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 2: If it's not your house. You don't have to pay.

742
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 1: So a few years ago, I posted about how my

743
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 1: father cheated on my mother coming out the gate strong

744
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: A little little cheating always hurt somebody, and how I

745
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:16,000
Speaker 1: retaliated to him financially and socially. Wait wait, what is

746
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: this is? This is this? Is this from the same person? Mmm? No,

747
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 1: this is from the same person.

748
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 2: It's from the same person.

749
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 1: This is an update. This is an update. What this

750
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:28,439
Speaker 1: is an update? So that last from a few years ago.

751
00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:29,800
Speaker 1: This is an update.

752
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:31,360
Speaker 3: It's about the house.

753
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 1: A few years ago I posted about how my father

754
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 1: cheated on my mother and how I retaliated against him

755
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 1: financially and socially. Again, this is related to that last story.

756
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,800
Speaker 1: This is an update from the last story. This will

757
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 1: serve as somewhat of an update, as there have been

758
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 1: developments ever since for those who want to go back

759
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 1: and read the post. I have some good news. But

760
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 1: five months after I posted the story, my cousin reached out.

761
00:35:57,920 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 1: He had been fired from his job, but he had

762
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:02,800
Speaker 1: met a wonderful girl and that really changed his perspective.

763
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:04,759
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from thunder Kirk on the

764
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:08,799
Speaker 1: ar Slash Okay Storytime Subreddit. So growing up, he was

765
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 1: an only child and his parents were rich enough he

766
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,600
Speaker 1: didn't need to care about school. While I and my

767
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 1: sister thrived academically, he made no effort to even try

768
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:19,439
Speaker 1: to graduate from high school, as being a legacy meant

769
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 1: that he would always have a place in the local plants,

770
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:23,879
Speaker 1: the one that's big enough to support the entire town.

771
00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 1: That was until he found out how his family was

772
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 1: struggling financially. His mom had spent all their savings to

773
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: keep an unnecessary lavish lifestyle, and the local plant, after

774
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: three decades, decided to stop hiring people without a degree

775
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:38,719
Speaker 1: or a trade certific legacy or not. My cousin was

776
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:40,919
Speaker 1: working as a bus operator at the time, but got

777
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 1: let go and couldn't find a job. And that's when

778
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 1: this girl changed his life.

779
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 2: So this is the cousin that OPI said he didn't like.

780
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a cousin that was like, oh, like,

781
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 1: there doesn't fall far from the tree. Got you well,

782
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:58,280
Speaker 1: She pointed out how helpless he was being a golden child,

783
00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:00,719
Speaker 1: not having to do anything growing up up, and he

784
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:03,240
Speaker 1: listened to her. He reached out, trying to make amends,

785
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 1: and I and my sister accepted it. He went back

786
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 1: to community college, got a degree, and started working at

787
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 1: the plant late August. That's one relationship saved at his wedding.

788
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:14,279
Speaker 1: My aunt also wanted to make amends. She had a

789
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,879
Speaker 1: falling out with my father and perhaps her son had

790
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 1: talked some senses into her, so she reached out and

791
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:21,440
Speaker 1: wanted to talk. Now, we're much more reserved about this

792
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 1: one because knew her antics so well, but she was

793
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:27,319
Speaker 1: quite genuine and understanding when we said we couldn't let

794
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:30,479
Speaker 1: her back into the grace as easily as her son

795
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:32,839
Speaker 1: and the good graces. We went low contact for a while.

796
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 1: She's made efforts to be friendly to my niece and

797
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,719
Speaker 1: nephew and never showed signs of any malicious intent. So

798
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:40,839
Speaker 1: it seems like two for two. Relationships kind of getting better.

799
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 2: Op he's winning the revenge, turned around and bloomed flowers.

800
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:48,560
Speaker 1: We're still keeping a short leash, but I want to

801
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,319
Speaker 1: believe that people can change, and so far she's not

802
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 1: given me any reason to think otherwise. That's two for two.

803
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 1: The third is my grandmother. She's eighty five this April.

804
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:02,839
Speaker 1: Among and among the grandchildren, I am closest to her.

805
00:38:03,239 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 1: So it pained me to have to go low contact

806
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 1: with her since our last interaction. She had also had

807
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: a falling out with my father because he was trying

808
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 1: to get her to sign over her estates. Maybe a

809
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 1: story for another time, but she was having none of it,

810
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: so they fought. In the end, he went a wall.

811
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:19,920
Speaker 1: They did not see each other for over a year

812
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: until he showed up at my cousin's wedding. At said wedding,

813
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:25,280
Speaker 1: my father made an effort of avoiding me and my sister,

814
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:27,279
Speaker 1: but approaching my brother in law to brag that he

815
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 1: bought a house and that he has his mistress living

816
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:31,760
Speaker 1: in it. We did not think much of it because

817
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 1: his pension is hefty to those who read my previous post,

818
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 1: even though it went down forty percent, it's still almost

819
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 1: as double that of my aunt, so he can pretty

820
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:44,080
Speaker 1: much afford like anything. But then after we're on talking terms,

821
00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: my aunt let it slip that he had to take

822
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 1: a loan to pay for that. So maybe not as

823
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 1: much as he thought because he is going to the

824
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:54,400
Speaker 1: debt or alone debt get getting get.

825
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 2: In the house, but he was originally living in oh pease.

826
00:38:58,239 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 1: Or like yeah, but that was too small you want

827
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 1: to want something big well.

828
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 2: But also I don't think he's allowed to live in

829
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 2: with his mistress there.

830
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 1: No either, no, So that's why I guess he had

831
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 1: to get a new new place. But his name is

832
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: not on the deed. It's the oldest son of the

833
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:15,240
Speaker 1: mistresses instead, so he's kind of using the mistress's son

834
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:18,719
Speaker 1: to get the loan. At this point, we figured that

835
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,279
Speaker 1: he's being scammed, but yeah, not our problem. Because of

836
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 1: a series of incidents at my job, I was offered

837
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 1: a much more secure and high paying position. I will

838
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 1: admit that this is truly an opportunity I thought I'd

839
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:32,480
Speaker 1: never have for at least another three years, but perhaps

840
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 1: one can only have so many tragedies. With the raised salary,

841
00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 1: my mom's money from divorce in my sister's help, I

842
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:40,400
Speaker 1: was able to put a down payment for a house

843
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 1: for me and my mother, even though the housing market

844
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 1: in my city was as crazy as ever. Even though

845
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:48,760
Speaker 1: I'm now eyeballs deep in debt, I'm proud of myself

846
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:51,479
Speaker 1: for having a house to my name. My father didn't

847
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 1: contribute anything, and frankly, I didn't want to take anything,

848
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,600
Speaker 1: even if he had asked. Around late November of last year,

849
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:01,319
Speaker 1: my childhood friend with whom my cousin and I are

850
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 1: very close, passed away from a car accident. It was

851
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: very sudden. My cousin called me at two in the night,

852
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:08,800
Speaker 1: and before I knew it, I was home for his funeral.

853
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 1: Leadless to say, I was in a bad place mentally

854
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 1: leading up and following his funeral, so I decided to

855
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:16,880
Speaker 1: move back home until after Lunar New Year, which is

856
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:19,200
Speaker 1: two weeks away, take care of my grandmother, but I

857
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 1: was also hoping the change of scenery would do me

858
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 1: some good. My mother stayed to look after the kids.

859
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 1: My sister's house is literally within walking distance from mine,

860
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:29,320
Speaker 1: so she'll be fine. And seven days after said funeral,

861
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 1: my father shows up at my doorstep. I was very

862
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 1: much still grieving, so I was in no mood to

863
00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 1: play games. I shut down any effort at pleasantries and

864
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 1: just stared at him while he mumbles about traveling or

865
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:45,959
Speaker 1: some crap. Then he told me that his mistress's second child,

866
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 1: a girl, is attending college in my city next summer,

867
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:54,240
Speaker 1: and suggested we meet and be friends. I just laughed

868
00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 1: and told him to have off. That's when he brought

869
00:40:57,360 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 1: up the house. Apparently, the precious little stepdaughter doesn't want

870
00:40:59,840 --> 00:41:02,719
Speaker 1: to stay in a college housing campus, nor does she

871
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:04,720
Speaker 1: want to share an apartment with friends or other renters.

872
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:07,799
Speaker 1: She wants a whole house for herself. That's crazy in

873
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: the middle of the worst housing economy in our country's history.

874
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 1: Of course, having taken a loan for the house he

875
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 1: bought for his stepson, he could never afford buying a

876
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,680
Speaker 1: house in the capital city, where prices go up by

877
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:21,359
Speaker 1: the hour. An attempt to please his mistress, he came

878
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: to me asking for money. I kid you not. This

879
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:26,399
Speaker 1: man literally dropped my sister off in a foreign city

880
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:28,359
Speaker 1: and told her to fend for herself when she went

881
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:30,319
Speaker 1: to go to college for the first time. And now

882
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:32,279
Speaker 1: he wanted to bend over backwards for a child that

883
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: isn't even his well, asking for money from his son,

884
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 1: who he loudly claimed that he'd rather see passed away.

885
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:43,480
Speaker 1: I truly can't comprehend the gears in his gee heead

886
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:46,440
Speaker 1: what little did he know? He poked me at the

887
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 1: worst moment possible. Oh you don't want to poke opop

888
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Speaker 1: will go?

889
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:51,440
Speaker 2: Oh.

890
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: I was still grieving from a lost friend, and I

891
00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:56,319
Speaker 1: ripped him a new one detailing things. I didn't even

892
00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:58,799
Speaker 1: know where it came from. I was mentally checked out

893
00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:01,879
Speaker 1: when my mouth did the work, and towards the end

894
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 1: I cracked my voice a little. He tried to argue

895
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 1: a bit, but after my aunt and cousin showed up

896
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 1: they lived nearby, he bolted last month. I haven't heard

897
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 1: from him since now that I care. Anyway, work is

898
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:13,799
Speaker 1: busy and I have Lunar New Year to prepare for.

899
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:17,400
Speaker 1: By the way, you can prepare for listening to us

900
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 1: every single second of every day by just going to

901
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:25,280
Speaker 1: our podcast and taping Okay Storytime wherever your podcast Spotify,

902
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 1: Apple podcasts. You can listen while doing other stuff. True, dad,

903
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 1: But there's a little relevant update that I'm just gonna

904
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: drive right into.

905
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Speaker 2: Oh. I was just gonna say really quick, kind of

906
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 2: shocking that the dad was like, I know my son

907
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 2: has crippled me, or tried to cripple me financially, cast

908
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 2: me out of the family. But I'm gonna go ask

909
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:44,920
Speaker 2: him for money. That don't work.

910
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:49,319
Speaker 1: You sometimes every shot you don't take is a shot missed.

911
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well, oh he's not missing any shots.

912
00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:54,279
Speaker 1: Oh he's not missing any shots. Neitherre's the dad that

913
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 1: the dad's taken every shot. He's missing a lot, but

914
00:42:57,719 --> 00:42:58,720
Speaker 1: he's taking every shot.

915
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 2: Oh, he's hitting all the shots. The dad is missing,

916
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 2: maybe every single one.

917
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 1: I'll admit that encounter didn't do me any good. It stings,

918
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:08,440
Speaker 1: to be honest, having your father prioritiz a child that's

919
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 1: not even his over his son and daughter. I've had

920
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 1: sleepless nights over it, trying to think of a good reason.

921
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:15,799
Speaker 1: Maybe something we did, or something in his life that

922
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 1: was so unsatisfying that he had to seek it elsewhere

923
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:21,080
Speaker 1: and not within his own family. I've come to accept that.

924
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 1: Even though I always say I'm over it, deep down,

925
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 1: I'm still hoping for Rian, hoping that one day he

926
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 1: will come to his sentences and try to make amends.

927
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 1: It's a long shot, but I hope for such a day.

928
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Speaker 1: I'm not letting my guard down for one second. If

929
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 1: anything happens, I'm more vindictive than ever.

930
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 2: Scared, but I have hopes. I'm frightened. I'm frightened for

931
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Speaker 2: the day God more happens because Opi, Oh my god,

932
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:47,719
Speaker 2: Oh Pi scares me. Opie scares me.

933
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 1: Opie is a little little little Cray Cray, a little

934
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 1: little Cray Cray.

935
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Speaker 2: But but if you had OPI on your side.

936
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Speaker 1: I mean, there's nothing that OPI wouldn't do for you,

937
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Speaker 1: you know. Here, question question for chat question. I kind

938
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Speaker 1: of have a policy of like if someone is super vindictive,

939
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:08,279
Speaker 1: I kind of like am a little scared to be

940
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 1: friends with them because and that was actually one of

941
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 1: the reasons that the last person I was like seeing,

942
00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 1: like I'm like, oh, I don't know if like I

943
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:18,320
Speaker 1: want to keep seeing them was because they were super vindictive.

944
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Speaker 1: Hella loyal and like super hard working, great in a

945
00:44:22,000 --> 00:44:25,399
Speaker 1: lot of ways, but like, like I feel like when

946
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:29,040
Speaker 1: you're too vindictive, I'm just worried that's going to be

947
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 1: be thrust upon me at some point, you know.

948
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Well it's like when you talk to people and

949
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 2: they're like, oh, I've dropped all of my friends and

950
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,920
Speaker 2: like or or they are always talking about this person

951
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 2: that they hate and they're really trying to you know,

952
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 2: it's just like it's.

953
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 1: All Yeah, I feel like I feel like vindictiveness is

954
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:50,799
Speaker 1: one of like I think it's like a not that

955
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:54,000
Speaker 1: great of equality because you never know when that that

956
00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 1: will flip around to you. Yeah, well and it will,

957
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 1: it will flip around to you because no one's perfect.

958
00:44:58,160 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 1: You probably, you know, make someone unhappy at some point,

959
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:04,279
Speaker 1: and if they're vindictive, like they're going, you know that

960
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 1: that power will be put to you. So yeah, I'm

961
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: a little wary of it. But I'm curious what you

962
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 1: guys think. Is vindictiveness a good quality or not? Yes,

963
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 1: Kaitl Van Campus says it's a character trait. It'll come

964
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Speaker 1: back to you no matter how good of friends you are.

965
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:20,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, it says it's valid to be concerned over that trait. However,

966
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 2: if you own up your own mistakes, then you should

967
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 2: be fine. I yes, but I do think with some

968
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:31,839
Speaker 2: people they aren't forget, like they hold grudges. So even

969
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 2: if you do own up to your mistake, they're not

970
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 2: going to forgive you. Like there's no like three strikes.

971
00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 2: It's just like one thing and you're like, oh go on.

972
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Speaker 2: Pinky Disslayer says, most people who have wronged me, no,

973
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Speaker 2: don't speak to me. I don't necessarily think I'm vindictive,

974
00:45:43,920 --> 00:45:46,839
Speaker 2: but I am very petty. And Nicole Lynn says, if

975
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Speaker 2: they are constantly vindicted forward to me, then one person,

976
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Speaker 2: yeah run. But if they speak vindictively about just one person,

977
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:55,760
Speaker 2: and only one person. They may be a nice person

978
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 2: who's finally pushed too far.

979
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Speaker 1: That is true. That is true.

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00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 2: It's just seeing they behave, just watching that behavior. Of course,