Speaker 1: Second date of date.
Speaker 2: I don't like to call people out, but I am
Speaker 2: disappointed in each and every one of us.
Speaker 3: I feel like we go through this on a daily basis. Jeff,
Speaker 3: I don't know if you say you don't like to
Speaker 3: call it out.
Speaker 1: More disappointed in us than usual today?
Speaker 3: Becaukay, that's the difference.
Speaker 2: I feel like we're not doing a good job of
Speaker 2: getting to know our listeners. Okay, we're just rushing right
Speaker 2: into the details of the date.
Speaker 3: Isn't that kind of what the segment? We just want
Speaker 3: to know what's wrong with them?
Speaker 4: Really?
Speaker 2: But we need to be like getting to know them more,
Speaker 2: not just going like, okay, we get it. You're a person.
Speaker 2: Tell us where you went. Did you make out with
Speaker 2: one lip or two? That's selfish of us, How do
Speaker 2: you do with one?
Speaker 5: All?
Speaker 3: Right, let's go, what do you want to know?
Speaker 2: I want to like, get a chance to really get
Speaker 2: to know them so that we can really be on
Speaker 2: their side, really be pulling for them and understand where
Speaker 2: they're coming from.
Speaker 3: Right, let's go, Yeah, we like that.
Speaker 1: So let's try that out with Lance today.
Speaker 2: Lance, in three seconds or less, give us a snapshot
Speaker 2: of your life.
Speaker 1: Going, give us wait, a minute.
Speaker 4: I've divorced, I got no kids and I Okay, Lance.
Speaker 1: We don't need to hear every single detail about your
Speaker 1: entire existence. I think you wanted a snapshot.
Speaker 3: I think he said, teacher. Have you interrupted him?
Speaker 1: Jeff, I was on and I divorced?
Speaker 3: Wow, that's all you call? That's not all that defines you.
Speaker 4: Lance, No, I mean there's there's more than that.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: I'm just messing around with you, dude, So tell us more.
Speaker 4: All right? Cool? So you did get the right thing.
Speaker 4: I am divorced, all right.
Speaker 5: Are you new to the dating scene then, or have
Speaker 5: you been out there for a minute?
Speaker 4: Have been out there for a minute, but you know,
Speaker 4: it's been interesting, a lot of trial and error.
Speaker 5: Okay, I'm hearing mostly error from your voice.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 4: No, I've been trying really hard not to get shanked.
Speaker 4: Like online dating?
Speaker 3: Is that a concern of me?
Speaker 1: Well, you're meeting strangers online? I mean exactly, So where'd
Speaker 1: you meet her?
Speaker 4: I actually met her off of Instagram and her name
Speaker 4: is Jessica.
Speaker 5: Is she like a friend of a friend? Like, how
Speaker 5: did you come across your profile?
Speaker 4: I just kind of started looking and stuff in my area.
Speaker 4: I'm an it guy. You know, I'm not gonna reveal
Speaker 4: my secrets. Everybody would do it.
Speaker 3: Okay, So you're just trolling Instagram to find a hot.
Speaker 4: Got in a creepy way.
Speaker 2: That sounds very So my friends see people in dating
Speaker 2: apps and just DM them instead of messaging them on
Speaker 2: It's not any different than going to a bar like
Speaker 2: with the intent of meeting someone, trolling the bar like trying.
Speaker 1: To find someone.
Speaker 4: Doing it in a nicer way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're just doing it online.
Speaker 5: And if you don't want if you don't want people
Speaker 5: to see, you'd select private on your account.
Speaker 3: So Jessica's probably.
Speaker 4: Open to this, right it seemed like she was. I mean,
Speaker 4: at least she didn't block me after I first messenger
Speaker 4: big win.
Speaker 3: What was that first message?
Speaker 4: Well, it was like, hi, cutie buye. I love your energy.
Speaker 4: I'm kind of new to the dating single.
Speaker 1: W a ming golf is the cuti pie real cutie
Speaker 1: pie thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I mean I don't want to come across
Speaker 4: as like threatening, you know, like, hey, random guy out
Speaker 4: of the blue. How you do it?
Speaker 5: She responded, She liked it? Yeah, okay, how'd you turn
Speaker 5: it into a date?
Speaker 7: Well, I I just kind of told her that I
Speaker 7: was looking for a little bit of fun and I
Speaker 7: asked her if she'd like to go and get a
Speaker 7: steak a steak.
Speaker 3: Did she agree to that?
Speaker 4: Yeah, she did, and we had a really good time.
Speaker 4: We did a lot of talking. I got to know her.
Speaker 4: She's into some pretty interesting stuff. She likes ice fishing.
Speaker 4: I mean, I personally hate the cold, but you know,
Speaker 4: each their own, okay, oh yeah, But I kind of
Speaker 4: felt like halfway through it just you know when you're
Speaker 4: talking to somebody and they just kind of start nodding
Speaker 4: and trailing off a little bit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Rick does that to me all the time in
Speaker 1: the middle of the second.
Speaker 4: I mean, I've lived through four years of that. That's
Speaker 4: why I got divorced.
Speaker 3: Oh you didn't say that, right.
Speaker 4: But I kind of started getting the same feeling again,
Speaker 4: Like halfway through it just kind of turned into that.
Speaker 1: Well, that's interesting.
Speaker 2: Then, if that's how she treated you and you felt
Speaker 2: like she lost interest, why are you still wanting to go.
Speaker 1: Out with her?
Speaker 4: Well, I mean part of it is just the insecurity
Speaker 4: of being divorced and getting back into the dating.
Speaker 8: Scene, and initially over Instagram, it seemed like we had
Speaker 8: a lot in common and we really connected, and even
Speaker 8: at the start of the dat it was great. Yeah,
Speaker 8: and by the end, like I look, I was hoping
Speaker 8: to get maybe a good bye kiss, but it just
Speaker 8: kind of turned into one of those really awkward distant tugs.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, yeah, where your like upper body doesn't touch
Speaker 5: but only your arms do.
Speaker 4: Yeah. She wasn't feeling it, and I just got that
Speaker 4: huge sense of disconnect, and I'd kind of like to
Speaker 4: know why.
Speaker 5: Well, I don't blame you, because if this keeps happening
Speaker 5: with different women in your life, there're maybe one common
Speaker 5: denominator here to find out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, were you calling her cutie patuity to her face
Speaker 2: during the date?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 1: Okay, I mean.
Speaker 4: That's like a third date thing, you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you don't move put out until.
Speaker 1: Later, Yeah exactly.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, you know I think that that's good.
Speaker 5: That's like good growth for you to figure out what's
Speaker 5: going on and if if you did something wrong, and
Speaker 5: if you didn't, then maybe you get another shot.
Speaker 4: Maybe.
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I just kind of kind of like to find out why.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's what our job is. Yeah, you guys ready
Speaker 1: to work here.
Speaker 3: I feel like I know him so well.
Speaker 5: Lance, my new best friend, let's help him out, but
Speaker 5: that three seconds really changed my life.
Speaker 1: The sarcasm.
Speaker 3: I've tried to be enthusiastic.
Speaker 1: No, we got it right.
Speaker 2: So what we're gonna do is we're gonna come back.
Speaker 2: We'll call Jessica from Instagram for you, and we'll try
Speaker 2: and get you your second date update right after this.
Speaker 1: Okay, Lance, beautiful?
Speaker 4: Thank you? All right? Man?
Speaker 1: Hold on second date update.
Speaker 2: I feel like at this point we're closer to our listener,
Speaker 2: Lance than we are to our own family relase.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, because in the.
Speaker 2: Last break we learned he was divorced, he's on Instagram,
Speaker 2: he likes Steak. Don't know what else there is to
Speaker 2: find out about him?
Speaker 1: Lance?
Speaker 2: Is there anything else about you that we don't already know?
Speaker 2: What more could we possibly learn? Isn't that all of
Speaker 2: us in this room we like and have an Instagram.
Speaker 3: Nobody's been divorced, but Lance yet?
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, I do you can get her stuff?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 3: Told us that I already knew you were in it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess we already do know every single thing
Speaker 2: there is to know about you.
Speaker 5: Well, well, no, wonder the date got boring real quick.
Speaker 1: And then she soul.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you did meet a woman named Jessica online,
Speaker 2: took her out for dinner and noticed her energy change
Speaker 2: during the date, where she seemed to lose interest as
Speaker 2: the night went on.
Speaker 1: And that doesn't feel good no matter who you are.
Speaker 3: Totally and it reminded him of his ex wife, even.
Speaker 1: Which we are not gonna take.
Speaker 2: But he does want to know what happened, see if
Speaker 2: he did any thing wrong, and hopefully get another date here.
Speaker 1: So let's give her a call. What do you think, Lance, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: let's do it.
Speaker 3: Okay, we think you're very interesting, so let's go.
Speaker 4: Thanks. And I would appreciate it if you guys didn't
Speaker 4: mention the whole ex wife thing too.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, yes, we weren't going to do it, but
Speaker 2: now you owe us for not doing it.
Speaker 3: I kind of like it.
Speaker 1: Stick with it, jeff we're holding one over on you.
Speaker 1: But here we go. We're gonna call Jessica.
Speaker 6: Let's hello, Hey, we're looking for Jessica.
Speaker 9: This is Jessica.
Speaker 1: Hey Jessica. Okay, sound a little nervous.
Speaker 9: Who is this?
Speaker 1: Good question? This is Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 9: Yeah, and and that means.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we know it means.
Speaker 5: We are the number one rated morning show for the moment.
Speaker 1: But yeah, you're on the radio right now.
Speaker 9: Okay, and why you have.
Speaker 2: All the good questions, Jessica, I appreciate that. But we're
Speaker 2: doing a segment called a second Date Update. That's where
Speaker 2: we try and help out our listeners. We're having a
Speaker 2: little bit of trouble setting up a second date, okay.
Speaker 5: And I mean one of our listeners is basically our
Speaker 5: friend that you went out with.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like a bestie.
Speaker 9: What can you tell me who we're talking about?
Speaker 1: Are you sure? You just don't want to guess a
Speaker 1: bunch of names until we tell you?
Speaker 3: Okay, she's laughing, Jessica, We're yeah, no.
Speaker 1: I guess we'll just tell you. His name is Lance.
Speaker 3: Oh it's funny.
Speaker 1: You guys went to like a steak dinner.
Speaker 9: Yeah yeah, did you not?
Speaker 5: Well?
Speaker 9: I mean yeah, sure, I mean so yeah, yeah that happened.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: What did you think of him? He said that he
Speaker 3: hit you up on DM on Instagram?
Speaker 9: Yeah, you know, and that's I mean, it's hard not
Speaker 9: to be flattered, especially when it's not a catfish situation
Speaker 9: right like he was. He was a real person, and
Speaker 9: I did a little you know, research homework exactly. Homework
Speaker 9: is the right way to think of it, right, And
Speaker 9: so I really thought it was kind of a neat
Speaker 9: risk that he took to kind of slide into my
Speaker 9: DMS and so and so he's accepting a bad boy
Speaker 9: and you know, like a rich taker. Well, because that's
Speaker 9: a bold thing to do, right, I.
Speaker 3: Guess what you've got?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 9: No, he I mean he genuinely misrepresented himself, Like, oh really.
Speaker 5: He told us that his opening line was cutie patuti
Speaker 5: or cutie pile cutie?
Speaker 3: Is that what it was?
Speaker 9: It was all very I don't know, like fun until
Speaker 9: we're hanging out at whatever steak dinner we're at and
Speaker 9: he's like, well, it turns out that he's not married,
Speaker 9: and I was bummed.
Speaker 1: What what, Oh you got a divorce? I think she
Speaker 1: just said that wrong.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, so he mentioned to us that he was
Speaker 2: divorced a couple of years ago.
Speaker 1: Been trying to get back out to the dating, but
Speaker 1: she's not involved at all.
Speaker 9: Like, no, but I actually genuinely prefer to date married men.
Speaker 3: What are you're joking?
Speaker 4: What?
Speaker 9: Don't actually shocked? I cannot be the person who's ever
Speaker 9: said that to you.
Speaker 2: No, No, not a lot of listeners have come on
Speaker 2: the show and said that.
Speaker 3: I mean, you say it was like pride almost.
Speaker 9: Oh, absolutely, you refer to date married men. I'm not
Speaker 9: looking for anything serious, and there is no better way
Speaker 9: to guarantee that we are not going to get serious
Speaker 9: if he's already married.
Speaker 3: So there is plenty of people that will hook up
Speaker 3: with you that aren't married.
Speaker 2: Well, hold on a second, because I don't understand he
Speaker 2: was divorced, he said, two years ago. How did you
Speaker 2: not realize he was divorced?
Speaker 1: Why do you think he was married?
Speaker 9: Because when I was doing my homework, his Facebook relationship
Speaker 9: status says that he's married.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, my husband's relationship status on Facebook still says engaged.
Speaker 5: Oh I don't think people update those No, I mean,
Speaker 5: it's not a thing that is messed up every day.
Speaker 9: You're right, it is messed up that he lied to
Speaker 9: me about this, like.
Speaker 2: Glances jumping on the phone because he's been listening on
Speaker 2: the line right now.
Speaker 4: Oh, why are you saying that I lied? And what
Speaker 4: did I lie to you about.
Speaker 9: Your Facebook relationships? Is you're married? And I was looking forward.
Speaker 4: To Oh my god, like five years like I don't
Speaker 4: update it like at all.
Speaker 9: Well, you should update it because otherwise you're going out
Speaker 9: into the world lying you're being just honest.
Speaker 1: You could probably get more dates changing a single.
Speaker 3: Are you not mad? You're not mad that she just
Speaker 3: said she only goes after married men.
Speaker 4: No, I'm not mad. Like everybody's got one life to live,
Speaker 4: and I'm just basing everything off of our interaction together.
Speaker 9: It was fun.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's amazing.
Speaker 1: Able to be in a room, read her energy and vibe,
Speaker 1: so you would know more.
Speaker 3: Than I mean, I feel like you have a catch
Speaker 3: right now, Jessica.
Speaker 2: I mean he's saying that he's into you, regardless of red.
Speaker 5: Flags controversial likes.
Speaker 4: I mean, I do think it's a little bit weird,
Speaker 4: but I work in it, so I'm a little weird.
Speaker 5: Too, Okay, ID men and I work in it very similar.
Speaker 1: Look at that, Jessica.
Speaker 2: Wow, he's brushing aside a lot of stuff just because
Speaker 2: he says he likes you.
Speaker 1: And he thinks that you're cool. Chemistry. That's got to
Speaker 1: stand for something.
Speaker 3: If he still has his ring, he could just wear
Speaker 3: it for funies.
Speaker 1: Would that work, Jessica? Would that do it for you?
Speaker 8: You know?
Speaker 9: I like the way you think. But I'm just not
Speaker 9: into lands.
Speaker 3: He's he's too available, too faithful.
Speaker 9: Yeah, he's both available and faithful. That's way too easy.
Speaker 4: It's not okay. I could go out of town and
Speaker 4: turn off my phone.
Speaker 1: That makes them unavailable.
Speaker 5: I think she's saying, call me when you get into
Speaker 5: a relationship.
Speaker 9: Yeah, that's not exactly what I'm saying at all. I'm
Speaker 9: not looking for a cheater. I'm looking for someone who's
Speaker 9: in a stale mid relationship.
Speaker 3: In a stale already.
Speaker 5: So she doesn't want you to be in a happy
Speaker 5: relationship because that would be bad if she broke that up.
Speaker 4: I mean, well I could be bad. Oh bad. I've
Speaker 4: done a lot of bad things, Lance.
Speaker 2: I don't know if she's into that stuff. I think
Speaker 2: that ship has sailed. I think it really just comes
Speaker 2: down to your relationship status. That's the number one thing
Speaker 2: for her.
Speaker 4: I mean, you're better off, Lance, I mean, am I
Speaker 4: really better off? Though I've already said I'm trying not
Speaker 4: to get shanked on dates next time, I think I
Speaker 4: took a shank to the heart.
Speaker 3: Guys, that seems a little over dramatic.
Speaker 2: Yeah to this call isn't going like we thought it
Speaker 2: would go at all, But is there anything else you
Speaker 2: would like to say to Lance before we end this.
Speaker 9: I couldn't believe he could be any lamer than what
Speaker 9: he was on the day.
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, she just twisted. She twisted it.
Speaker 4: I mean, look, I don't know about you guys, but
Speaker 4: I'm kind of turned on and fire it up right now.
Speaker 8: Oh my god, my god, it's rookie Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: You know, we rarely do this.
Speaker 2: But after we recorded that segment, I got back on
Speaker 2: the phone and talked with Jessica a little bit about
Speaker 2: why she thinks the way that she.
Speaker 5: Thinks, you're going to act like her therapist.
Speaker 2: For I'm not going to try and tell her what
Speaker 2: to do. It's just because we've never had anyone ever
Speaker 2: say that on our show before and be so unashamed
Speaker 2: about it. But she had two main points, and the're
Speaker 2: kind of interesting. One she said, she's not looking for
Speaker 2: a long term, serious thing, and that's exactly what married
Speaker 2: men are going.
Speaker 1: For when they're going for Jeffrey.
Speaker 2: So it's actually less complicated to date a married guy
Speaker 2: than it is to date a single dude trying to
Speaker 2: lock you down.
Speaker 5: I will tell you right now, you come up and
Speaker 5: try to date my husband, it is going to be
Speaker 5: very complicated for you, okay.
Speaker 1: But your husband, it's going to be a great time.
Speaker 2: Plus point number two, She says, married guys are more
Speaker 2: fun when they go out because married men never get
Speaker 2: to have fun at all. So it is around stereotype.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I'm monitor my husband at all time.
Speaker 6: Say that.
Speaker 3: I did not say that marriage is fun. It really is.
Speaker 3: And like this lady sucks. This lady sucks. I hate her.
Speaker 2: I think a lot of people are with you. Broke
Speaker 2: no seriously, and no one, no one in this room
Speaker 2: is on her side.
Speaker 1: But it is interesting to hear.
Speaker 3: It's crazy logic, right, there's no logic.
Speaker 1: Hashtag single girl logic.
Speaker 3: How about that?
Speaker 2: Anyway, We can't say we're always going to agree with
Speaker 2: you or be on your side, but we will give
Speaker 2: it a chance and reach out to that person who
Speaker 2: isn't calling you back, just to see what they have
Speaker 2: to say.
Speaker 3: Jeff will listen. I'm not very good at that.
Speaker 1: It's broken. Jeffrey in the morning,