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Speaker 1: Welcome to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour.

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Speaker 2: We're back. Thanks again for joining us.

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Speaker 3: If you have not listened to our episode from Wednesday yet,

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Speaker 3: you really missed out and you should go check it out.

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Speaker 3: We had Demi Burnette on with us, and oh my gosh,

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Speaker 3: Susan is she the most fun? She's Barbie, You're right, Barby.

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Speaker 1: I love that kid, and I know, but she was

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Speaker 1: very open about everything.

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Speaker 3: You know, you know her and I only had talked

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Speaker 3: with her on the phone a few times. But first

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Speaker 3: of all, I got to say it again. I said

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Speaker 3: it about.

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Speaker 1: Uh Kelsey, there you go.

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Speaker 3: The gorgeous hair they have.

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Speaker 2: Is this generation?

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Speaker 3: I'm telling you, I'm telling you, I don't know what's

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Speaker 3: in the water, but anyway, but no, she's so open about,

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Speaker 3: you know, talking about being celibate and not dating and

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Speaker 3: not any and sober. Any one of those things would

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Speaker 3: be incredibly life changing. But the fact that she has

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Speaker 3: so much energy and is so open to talking about

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Speaker 3: those things. What a great interesting person.

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Speaker 1: She is a twenty nine year old that went through

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Speaker 1: a lot and came out on top. And she knows

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Speaker 1: herself now, she knows her limits, you know, and really

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Speaker 1: she's not really open to exploring anybody else right now,

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Speaker 1: she's just doing her and yeah, she knows her.

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Speaker 3: And I was, I was amazed. She talked. I don't

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Speaker 3: know the background. I don't need to, but you know,

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Speaker 3: just rolled off her tongue. You know, well, my relationship

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Speaker 3: with my mother, now she got out of prison this time.

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Speaker 2: Just she's so she won't take advice for her.

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Speaker 3: That was funny. What did she says? She's just married.

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Speaker 3: She's been married four times and you know this guy

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Speaker 3: and that size just gets.

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Speaker 2: Been bad places when she's with us. Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Well, today we're answering more of our fan questions and

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Speaker 1: we're so excited to get into these.

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Speaker 3: Yes, and don't forget if you have a question for

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Speaker 3: Susan and may please send them in. All you have

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Speaker 3: to do is go to bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour.

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Speaker 3: We love answering these questions and we always have thought

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Speaker 3: or two, don't we, Susan?

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Speaker 2: Oh indeed we do, all right, Kathy.

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Speaker 1: Before we get into those questions, let's get started with

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Speaker 1: today's question of the day.

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Speaker 2: All right, So today's topic for discussion.

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Speaker 1: Do you think it's okay to have a serious celebrity

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Speaker 1: hall pass in a relationship.

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Speaker 3: What No, no, wow, I don't think you get a

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Speaker 3: hall pass in any relationship.

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Speaker 2: What does that even mean?

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Speaker 1: Oh? Okay, go have a ball today and I'll see

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Speaker 1: tomorrow and we'll go right back to normal. I don't

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Speaker 1: think so, I know, I don't mean, I don't I

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Speaker 1: really think hall past means what I think it means, right, well,

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Speaker 1: I think it means any behavior is okay, not just

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Speaker 1: sexual behavior. I think it means any kind of behavior

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Speaker 1: is okay because you get a haul past because you're

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Speaker 1: a celebrity.

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Speaker 3: And I'm like, no, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Not absolutely not deep bother, Wait.

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Speaker 3: A minute, is it scaring the scaring you that you

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Speaker 3: and I agree so much?

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Speaker 2: No, I don't get scared of that I like them

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Speaker 2: and you agree with me.

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Speaker 3: Oh gosh. All right, well, let's let's get onto our

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Speaker 3: fan questions, because we have some great ones here. Let's

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Speaker 3: start with Sydney. Sydney asks, Hi, Susan and Kathy absolutely

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Speaker 3: loving the podcast. Thank you for sharing your beautiful friendship

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Speaker 3: with all of us. I was wondering, when do you

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Speaker 3: think it is the appropriate time to discuss your dating

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Speaker 3: history with someone you are seeing, or do you have

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Speaker 3: to say anything at all. I'm in my mid twenties

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Speaker 3: and have had very limited dating experience because of personal

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Speaker 3: choices and putting my education first. There have been multiple

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Speaker 3: time job. Any advice is appreciated, Thanks so much.

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Speaker 1: What do you think people judged him because he put

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Speaker 1: his education first?

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Speaker 2: That would attract me even more.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: You have a good hole on your shoulders.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Sydney Cidy the city may be a girl. I

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Speaker 3: don't know that. I think that may be a girl.

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Speaker 3: But well, I don't know. It could be. It could

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Speaker 1: But I think, well that would make a difference, wouldn't it, Kathy.

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Speaker 1: I think because men would appreciate a woman that chose,

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Speaker 2: Right, Oh, thank god? I think who Sydney was?

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Speaker 3: Sydney let a female or for me? We need pronouns

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Speaker 3: now you know them? They We need a grown out here.

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Speaker 3: Here's what I think, though I have known people like

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Speaker 3: my sister. She'll kill me if she hears this. Was

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Speaker 3: she was married to a guy. They're now divorced and

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Speaker 3: she wanted to know about his dating history, and he

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Speaker 3: dating past. She really wanted to know his dating past.

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Speaker 3: So I kind of think it depends on the couple.

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Speaker 3: I'm not exactly sure why it matters. That's I guess

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Speaker 3: that's my question. Why does your dating history matter?

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Speaker 1: So I don't know that we need details of anyone's backstory,

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Speaker 1: but maybe you're having a conversation like when was your

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Speaker 1: so I would kind of want to know, did you

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Speaker 3: You know, I wish i'd asked that that's a lesson? Well, well,

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Speaker 3: but I but this almost sounds like the person is

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Speaker 3: you know, I don't want to get in this relationship

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Speaker 3: if you haven't had a like, is there something wrong

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Speaker 3: back which I don't like that. I don't like that.

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Speaker 1: The reason that they just told us was because they

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Speaker 1: were educated.

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Speaker 2: They were following their education.

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Speaker 3: Susan, I don't if they were sitting in a corner

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Speaker 3: sucking their thumb. What does it matter what they're doing.

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Speaker 1: They're you know that saying it's a red flag. Oh

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Speaker 1: there's a guy, he's sixty, he's never been married.

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Speaker 3: Red flag. They go, yeah, but this girl's twenty, she's

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Speaker 3: twenty three, or this guy, they're twenty three, twenty four.

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Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, I think that is absurd that anyone

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Speaker 3: But maybe it's because we're old, she said.

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Speaker 1: The response is not positive. It feels like looking for

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Speaker 3: But I wonder, why don't you want to know? Why

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Speaker 3: they're asking? I don't like it, And that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: It's like, you know, if you're a member of this club,

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Speaker 3: I don't want you know who wants to be a

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Speaker 3: thing like who cares? But I think I think I

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Speaker 3: think women want to know more than men. Do you

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Speaker 3: pasts more than men want to know women's past.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because men just want to pretend nothing happen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Men want to believe they're the first one you've

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Speaker 3: got in bed with age. You're a virgin. You're a

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Speaker 3: virgin at fifty. That's right. I've never dated anyone. I'm

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Speaker 3: so glad I met you. Please get a life, honey,

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Speaker 3: don't worry about it.

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Speaker 1: Be you, Be you, and the right person isn't going

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Speaker 1: one's probing Anonymous.

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Speaker 3: Hi.

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Speaker 2: I am sixty six years old.

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Speaker 1: I'm a widow and I met a seventy year old

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Speaker 1: We met when I was fifty five, and I felt

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Speaker 3: You are, and.

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Speaker 2: I'm happy for you.

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Speaker 1: I was a lot thinner than I have been trying

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Speaker 1: to lose weight, but found out I have a fatty

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Speaker 1: eating clean and working out, but I haven't been able

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Speaker 1: and I think I may need to end it. I

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Speaker 1: I do feel like I am still attracted to him

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Speaker 1: and I do care for him, but I want to

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Speaker 1: isn't getting there. Whenever I say I'm not happy, he says, well,

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Speaker 1: just that. He also developed throat cancer and is getting

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Speaker 2: I'm in a tough spot. What would you do? Thanks?

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Speaker 2: Love you, gals. Oh good, A.

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Speaker 3: Lot to unpack there, you think again? You know so

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Speaker 3: many questions? I I mean a fat you know all

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Speaker 3: her health issues? I don't know. I know that you

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Speaker 3: can't and you shouldn't. No one should be fat shaming her.

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Speaker 2: So wait before we even get there.

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Speaker 1: He met, they love each other, and she put on weight,

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Speaker 1: so that's going to make him not love her anymore.

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Speaker 3: I have dated guys, Susan. I have dated men who

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Speaker 3: say they like dating me because I'm thin. They don't

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Speaker 3: want to date fat women. I've had a man tell

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Speaker 1: Well, that's funny. You're saying that it wasn't too long ago.

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Speaker 1: And I quote, you can never be too rich, too

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Speaker 3: Who said that.

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Speaker 2: I won't say a name, but yeah.

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Speaker 3: Okay, since I just had four things burned off my face,

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Speaker 3: trust me, you can be too tan. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I think I think that she's got some issues here.

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Speaker 3: I you know, forgive me anonymous, but I feel like

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Speaker 3: I get to weigh in on this. No pun intended,

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Speaker 3: because I used to weigh two hundred pounds, so I

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Speaker 3: know that I struggled with how I felt and other

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Speaker 3: people saw me. And I think you are struggling a

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Speaker 3: little bit with your weight yourself. And all I can

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Speaker 3: tell you is forget the guy for a minute. If

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Speaker 3: just you.

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Speaker 1: I don't see here what he has done. She's assuming

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Speaker 1: he is. No, That's why I said I practed.

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Speaker 3: I said, it's I think it's more about her, and

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Speaker 3: we don't know if their sex life has deteriorated, if

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Speaker 3: it was ever there. But having been in her shoes

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Speaker 3: for a different reason, I'm guessing that she she is

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Speaker 3: she's not herself. She's not happy with herself.

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Speaker 1: She says, whenever I say I'm not happy, he said,

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Speaker 1: well find someone else, So I guess I need to

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Speaker 1: do that. That was odd think, you know, well goes

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Speaker 1: find somebody else, but went around going I'm not happy.

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Speaker 1: I'm just not. You're not happy with yourself. That's what

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Speaker 1: I need to do. I self check because if you're

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Speaker 1: A man to want to take care of his wife,

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Speaker 3: Wait, see you're agreed that there should have been a prenup. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: And I think she redecorated. That's her home now, why, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't judge him for that.

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Speaker 3: But for you, it's centered around the money because you

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Speaker 3: but this guy, Anonymous, his dad. This is a different

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Speaker 3: But he is met this woman and says it's different.

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Speaker 3: I think she could do that. She did. The question

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Speaker 3: That's and so I'm thinking, well, if well, then that's fair.

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Speaker 3: Well, that's the question, not you, but.

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Speaker 2: Whether or not is none of her business.

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Speaker 2: And she's worried that her kids are going to get

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Speaker 1: I don't see here that she's getting everything and your

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Speaker 3: Is and that's what That's what I'm saying, Susan. If

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Speaker 3: it's not in the will that she gets everything, she's

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Speaker 3: It's hard money. I do want to play moral quandary

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Speaker 3: All right, But Susan, listen, sometimes you get mixed up

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Speaker 3: I always say, you always say what you would do.

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Speaker 1: No, No, Susan, I'm not saying what I'm doing. I

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Speaker 2: It's your friend.

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Speaker 1: You wouldn't tell you stay out of it.

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Speaker 3: Well, my wait a minute, my friend, there's a lot

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Speaker 3: I had just told you I was going to break

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Speaker 3: I think you would tell me Kathy or I tell

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Speaker 3: Oh, I see, I wouldn't I'd come to you.

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Speaker 1: Or either of them. Yeah, I would tell you as well,

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Speaker 3: Oh see, I guess that you would. I guess that

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Speaker 3: you would tell me. What did you think I would do?

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Speaker 2: I think you would tell me?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would tell you. I wouldn't go to the guy.

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Speaker 2: No brain?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay?

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Speaker 2: Who could keep that in and watch it unfold like

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Speaker 3: You know what's horrible is what she said. They say

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Speaker 3: What if you know the guy decided to propose tonight

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Speaker 1: Oh right, Okay, During a heated argument, your husband admits

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Speaker 2: It was right.

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Speaker 1: Around the time you were caring for your youngest when

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Speaker 2: How do you move forward?

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Speaker 3: Wait? Can I just go back to the last question? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Well, it's not asking us what we would do though

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Speaker 3: How do I move forward? How do you think I

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Speaker 2: I don't know. It was just an emotional one that

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Speaker 3: That was what would I do? Not you, Susan?

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Speaker 2: Now would you do?

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Speaker 3: You would.

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Speaker 2: Not be happy with it at all? You could do it?

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Speaker 3: You think I divorce it?

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Speaker 1: No, not divorce, but it would cause a strain and

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Speaker 3: Would I was just going to say you across the strength.

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Speaker 3: You know what I would do, I would say, thank

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Speaker 1: Can be emotional thoughts of somebody else, or you're just

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Speaker 3: I don't know, but Susan, emotional scars are much deeper than.

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Speaker 2: Physical scars, That's right.

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Speaker 3: So I think I think you would talk to him,

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Speaker 3: I hate to say it, but you know, the guy

440
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 3: probably wasn't getting enough attention right when they had a newborn. So,

441
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:49,679
Speaker 3: I mean that.

442
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 2: Happens a lot every day.

443
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 1: I know, Come on, God, because mommies are occupied with

444
00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:57,439
Speaker 1: the baby.

445
00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:00,120
Speaker 2: I know, don't do what mommies.

446
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 1: Do, Okay, but there's on dad's I get it.

447
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:07,359
Speaker 3: Men, listen up. It's not that we don't love you.

448
00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:12,439
Speaker 3: It's that we birth this child, we're feeding this child.

449
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:14,200
Speaker 2: We're responsible for it.

450
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 3: Well so's daddy. Daddy's responsible too, but literally that baby

451
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:22,159
Speaker 3: has come from us, and you just gotta put on

452
00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:25,880
Speaker 3: your big boy pants for a little bit. Why we're

453
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 3: figuring out how to be a mom because it's new

454
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 3: to us, it's new to you. You can't be number

455
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 3: one all the time, so.

456
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 2: Let's just do the opposite of this.

457
00:24:35,280 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 1: They're having a heated argument and he admits that he

458
00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 1: had an emotional affair. They're arguing, is it her that's

459
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,720
Speaker 1: making him so unhappy? And he had nowhere else to go?

460
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:50,720
Speaker 3: So I can't do I just hear that out of

461
00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,840
Speaker 3: your mouth? Did I just hear on your mouth? Probably

462
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 3: when I say why I do it? But you blame no, no, no,

463
00:24:56,800 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 3: you just blamed the woman for other side to it,

464
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 3: and the other side. You are going to blows on

465
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:09,679
Speaker 3: this with me. A man, I will never You should

466
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 3: never excuse a bad behavior by a man. A woman

467
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 3: never makes a man have an affair, physical or emotional.

468
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 3: A man chooses to, as does a You not.

469
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: Think there's a difference between a physical affair and an

470
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:23,719
Speaker 1: emotional affair?

471
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 3: Do you think that that's what I'm running. That's not

472
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. You said, maybe she was this and

473
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,679
Speaker 3: that and and so you forced him to have an affair,

474
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:35,479
Speaker 3: argument said, and forced him to have an affair. A

475
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 3: man is never forced to have an affair.

476
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 2: Forced.

477
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:39,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, like he chose to do it because she was

478
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 3: being a mean bitch, not forced.

479
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: But he had nowhere to go. He needed to talk

480
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,399
Speaker 1: to somebody quite possibly great, go get a therapist. But

481
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:50,720
Speaker 1: you don't need to be talking to a coworker. Oh, Susan, jesus.

482
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 2: I have admitted it. Ever.

483
00:25:53,400 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 4: Cheater, cheater, cheater, All right, all right, here's the next one.

484
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 3: No, this is why we're both single. Okay, You and

485
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:15,359
Speaker 3: your current boyfriend of six months run into his ex.

486
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 3: The interaction doesn't go well, and you find out that

487
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 3: they broke up because your boyfriend was unfaithful during their relationship.

488
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 3: How do you proceed? Do you sit down and talk

489
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 3: about it to get the full picture? Or do you

490
00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:31,560
Speaker 3: forget about it? Oh Susan, what you would do? You

491
00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 3: know that guy's ask in a chair so fast, asking him, Yeah,

492
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 3: you're gonna we you're gonna have the talk? I wan? Yeah,

493
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:40,960
Speaker 3: she wants details.

494
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 2: I think I asked the same thing.

495
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 3: You know what? I have to say? It would depend

496
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:51,159
Speaker 3: how long ago the X was if it was you

497
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 3: know it was AE. Yeah, yeah, I could care less.

498
00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:57,120
Speaker 3: But if it was a recent X, I might want

499
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 3: to sit down, you're right, and and talk to him.

500
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 3: And I don't know that I would need the full picture.

501
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:08,480
Speaker 3: But you know you said one time on another podcast,

502
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 3: once unfaithful, always unfaithful, you know, once a cheater, always

503
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:12,359
Speaker 3: a cheater.

504
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 2: Not necessarily.

505
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:16,879
Speaker 3: Oh no, you said that before.

506
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:19,080
Speaker 2: I don't know think I said that.

507
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 3: So so men, you you think that man could cheat

508
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 3: and then never cheat again.

509
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 2: Yes, definitely.

510
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:27,400
Speaker 3: Okay, So so then you would send him.

511
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 1: Down because he learned from it, hopefully, But yeah, I

512
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:30,879
Speaker 1: would send him there.

513
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:31,400
Speaker 2: You're right.

514
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 3: You know I find interesting in these moral quandaries. It's

515
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 3: always the guy having the emotional fair's and we know

516
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 3: that's not the truth. We know that women do it too.

517
00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:45,760
Speaker 3: So those of you out there were not mann not

518
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 3: today attacking men.

519
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:48,359
Speaker 2: Okay, all right?

520
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 1: You met or you meet your boyfriend's friends for the

521
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 1: first time and realize they all have much livelier and

522
00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 1: more fun personalities, and they're all significantly, significantly more attractive

523
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,119
Speaker 1: than your boyfriend. It's so obvious that it makes you

524
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 1: a little uncomfortable and a little disappointed.

525
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 2: Wants you to leave the hangout. How do you proceed?

526
00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:17,920
Speaker 3: What would I do? What do you think I would do?

527
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 2: Nothing? I think you're fine.

528
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:23,680
Speaker 1: You're hair with him for a reason, and just because

529
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 1: some other ones were more fun, well the fun part.

530
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 2: It might hurt you, but more attractive.

531
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 3: I don't know, you know what, you know what I'm

532
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:38,720
Speaker 3: reading when I'm reading this. Yeah, this girl's not that

533
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 3: into him. The other guys are more attractive, They're more fun. There.

534
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 3: She's uncomfortable and disappointed in her boy. Yeah, she clearly. So.

535
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,920
Speaker 3: If this for me, it would be a wake up call,

536
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:54,760
Speaker 3: Like you know, I wasn't. I'm not as into him

537
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 3: as I thought I was. These other guys are more

538
00:28:56,800 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 3: appealing you you, on the other hand, and would walk

539
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 3: In my opinion, you would walk away and make the

540
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 3: best of the situation and just think whatever. You know,

541
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 3: they're that on this one.

542
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 1: Night when he wasn't around, I might go hanging up

543
00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 1: with the other guys.

544
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 3: Oh, so you're going to have the emotional affair, okay, or.

545
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 2: I'm there with him.

546
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 1: You're going to see nice looking, better looking, more fun

547
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:28,240
Speaker 1: people in the world every damn day. You used to

548
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 1: be with him. So she's not or not this isn't

549
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 1: a question.

550
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 3: This is no, it's not a question, but exactly. But

551
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 3: I'm just saying for me, I would that would be

552
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 3: a wake up call to me, like, oh, maybe I'm

553
00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 3: not as invested as I thought. I yeah, all right,

554
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 3: here's our last one. You overhear your You overhear your

555
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 3: mother in law talking to her a fair partner, on

556
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 3: the phone confirming she's going to file for divorce at

557
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,959
Speaker 3: the end of the month. When she sees you and

558
00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 3: realizes you overheard, she begs you not to say anything

559
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,520
Speaker 3: your husband because she wants to tell him in a

560
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 3: few weeks once the process has started. Do you tell

561
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 3: him anyways? Or honor her wishes? Susan Knowles would be

562
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 3: to track to her husband to tell him. Am I right,

563
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 3: it's my mother in law? I just said, Would you

564
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 3: would not tell her tell your husband?

565
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 4: No?

566
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 2: She begged me not to say anything.

567
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 4: No.

568
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 2: I am not getting in the middle.

569
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 3: Of that, Okay, would I What would I do?

570
00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 2: It's your mother in law?

571
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 1: Well, you weren't crazy about your mother in law, forget

572
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 1: she was crazy about you. You know what?

573
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 3: I had trouble my husband, I swear to God was

574
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:49,840
Speaker 3: hatched from somewhere else, because he really was not anything

575
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 3: like his sisters. I'm just there to tell you.

576
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 2: To mind your own business.

577
00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 3: No, I'm going to tell my husband because I'm married.

578
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 1: Yes, I realize ID begs you not to say anything

579
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 1: to you your husband.

580
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 2: I beg your pardon. I heard it as her husband.

581
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 3: Oh your fellow though, Oh hell yeah, yeah I thought

582
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 3: I When you said you wouldn't, I was like, what yeah,

583
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 3: and I and and yeah and you and you're right.

584
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 3: I would tell my husband if you didn't say it.

585
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 3: I'm standing for you, Mike. That's that's the meaning of

586
00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 3: a relationship of a husband. You share everything with them

587
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 3: unless it to you and me, and then we share

588
00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 3: everything because we don't have husbands. WHOA.

589
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,480
Speaker 2: That was a lot. That really was a lot.

590
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 3: Okay, well that's it for this episode. Thank y'all so

591
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 3: much for writing in. And if you have questions for us,

592
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 3: submit them now. Just go to Bachelor's Happy Hour.

593
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Kathy. Can I interrupt for a second? There

594
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:51,480
Speaker 1: is one more?

595
00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 3: Where is it?

596
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 1: I have one? So how about if I just read this? Okay,

597
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:00,800
Speaker 1: I actually have another one for us?

598
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 3: Is it on here?

599
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 2: Work with me?

600
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 1: Hi, Kathy and Susan. This question is mainly for Kathy

601
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 1: for the moment, as she has mentioned on previous podcasts

602
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 1: that no one has taken her up on asking her

603
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 1: for a date. But Papulu, as you're known by Ki

604
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 1: Ki by your grand youngsters, wouldn't mind telling the world

605
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 1: that I'd like to at least try.

606
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

607
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,720
Speaker 1: I'll be sixteen nine in September, and I am a

608
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 1: widower since January twenty three. My wife and I were

609
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 1: married for forty three wonderful years and had no children

610
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 1: except for two wonderful pups, of which one passed of

611
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 1: old age at seventeen seventeen and a half years ago

612
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: last year as well, and I still have one Schnauzer

613
00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 1: mix that's twelve and a half years. I'd be happy

614
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 1: to send current photos and yes they're all on touch.

615
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:06,360
Speaker 2: It's really me.

616
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 1: I've slowly gotten back into the dating a little, but

617
00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:13,240
Speaker 1: I'm truly rusty at this, but feel confident enough to

618
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 1: get back into this. Oh my god, hugs are a

619
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 1: big thing, as I grew up with my parents doing

620
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 1: that for me.

621
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:22,120
Speaker 2: I have goosebumps, Oh my god, so do I.

622
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 1: I am a pianist organist for two churches with attendance

623
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:31,160
Speaker 1: most times between eight and twenty people in a small

624
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 1: town east of where I live, and a third one

625
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:38,720
Speaker 1: fifty miles away. I own my own my home outright

626
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 1: with no debt, but it's just too big for one person.

627
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of Barry Manilow and the Letterman

628
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 1: Trio singing group, and I even compos co compose the

629
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:55,960
Speaker 1: score for an Osage ballet from twelve years ago, but

630
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:57,080
Speaker 1: not limited to that.

631
00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:59,280
Speaker 2: Who knows I mean it.

632
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:02,040
Speaker 1: I might eat and know your favorite songs and play

633
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 1: them for you and your family. I've already accepted an

634
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: invitation from someone else. You may gently tell me to

635
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:15,400
Speaker 1: zip it lol, and let your sorority sisters from the

636
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: original Golden Bachelor know about me.

637
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:19,240
Speaker 2: You too, Susan.

638
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 1: Blessings to you both, and thanks for reading and listening.

639
00:34:23,440 --> 00:34:24,040
Speaker 2: Papolu.

640
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 1: Everything you have read here is true. No lies here.

641
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: Don't have time for that.

642
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, got me. You just got ans own.

643
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 2: Baby.

644
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:43,399
Speaker 3: Believe you did send your number, Papolu. So I'd love

645
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:46,360
Speaker 3: to hear from you, Love to have you send the pictures,

646
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 3: love to talk with you. I had no idea this

647
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:51,759
Speaker 3: was happening. I feel like I just walked into a

648
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:52,720
Speaker 3: surprise party.

649
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 2: Did you see her trying to say, wait, where's mine?

650
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:56,759
Speaker 2: I don't know. Well I'm looking.

651
00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:59,799
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't have surprise. Oh Susan, I'm going

652
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,799
Speaker 3: to at you for this. Uh yeah, Papoulou. I don't

653
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:04,719
Speaker 3: know anything about you other than what you said. But

654
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 3: I love Barry Manilow. My play them everywhere where does

655
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 3: he live?

656
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:11,319
Speaker 2: He doesn't say?

657
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 3: Popolo?

658
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 2: Okay?

659
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 3: Populu reached back out.

660
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 2: And when is this airing? So you're not waiting to.

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Speaker 5: Oh, pa, you are adorable your first time. I just say,

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Speaker 5: so far for your approach. He yeah, really, I'll give

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Speaker 5: you a ten. He was married forty three or so.

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Speaker 5: He definitely knows about love. Yes, And and can I

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Speaker 5: tell you, Papulu, I also had a terrier Schnauzer uh

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Speaker 5: for years and had to put her down.

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Speaker 3: When she was fifteen. Oh very yeah, I mean you

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Speaker 3: gotta have Okay.

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Speaker 2: Well, I want to run with this.

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Speaker 3: No, you're not running with it, Susan. He reached out

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Speaker 3: to me. In case you won't, let's start over here.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, and you too, Susan.

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Speaker 3: You know what? He could wait a minute, he could

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Speaker 3: DM me on Instagram.

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Speaker 2: There you go, you're listening. That's the first step.

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Speaker 3: How does he find me out?

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Speaker 2: Make sure she checks them every day?

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Speaker 3: What is my Instagram? KB Swartz? I think it is

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Speaker 3: KB Swartz.

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Speaker 2: My goodness. Exciting.

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Speaker 3: It's so exciting. It's like I feel like I just

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Speaker 3: want a lot of new ticket. There's hope. There's always hope, Popolo.

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Speaker 3: I love that. Okay, I'm very interested to talk with you, Papulu.

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Speaker 3: I really am so thank you for reaching out reach

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Speaker 3: out to me on Instagram and I would love to

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Speaker 3: chat with you. That is, and you know what, thank you.

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Speaker 3: It takes a lot of courage to do that. So

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Speaker 3: thank you, thank you, thank you for reaching out and

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Speaker 3: I can't wait to talk with you. Wow. Okay, well

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Speaker 3: that definitely does it for another episode, I know. Thank

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Speaker 3: y'all so much for writing in, particularly you Populu, And

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Speaker 3: if you have questions for us, please submit them now.

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Speaker 3: you Popolou, Yes Buffalo.

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