1 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:07,720 Speaker 1: Time now, guys for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If 2 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:12,000 Speaker 1: you need advice and relationships on dating, work, sex, parenting, 3 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey 4 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 1: FM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could 5 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:22,240 Speaker 1: be reading your letter live on the air, just like 6 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: we're gonna read this one right here, right now. Buggle 7 00:00:25,920 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: up and hold on tight. We got it for you. 8 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: Here it is Strawberry Letter. Okay, what say yeah? Take two. 9 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:38,199 Speaker 1: Please buggle up and hold on type. We got it 10 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 1: for you here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, Sir Williams. 11 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: That was you didn't hit it, coote forty five. You 12 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: didn't hear it. There you go, there you go. That's 13 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 1: the one. Yeah, all right, thank you, nephew. Subject he 14 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 1: really thinks I took advantage of him. Dear Stephen Shirley, 15 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:00,640 Speaker 1: I'm in my late thirties and I'm dating a man 16 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: that I met at church. I found out that he 17 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 1: talked to our pastor about me, and the pastor Hennett 18 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: that he might be ready to propose. I got excited 19 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: and decided it was time to take our relationship to 20 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 1: the next level, meaning it was time for sex. We 21 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: have been together for six months, and we were friends 22 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 1: for two years before we started dating. We haven't had sex, 23 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:26,320 Speaker 1: but we sleep in the same bed a lot, and 24 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: I like to sleep in my underwear. I must admit 25 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: that he is a strong willed man because I look 26 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:36,399 Speaker 1: great in my underwear and I am irresistible. We have 27 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: also taken a few showers together, and again he never 28 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: made a move on me. He says you ain't right, 29 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 1: or you play too much to let me know he's 30 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: turned on by me. This past weekend, he stayed at 31 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: my house and I slipped into some of my sexy 32 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: lingerie before we went to bed. I told him that 33 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: it was time for us to explore each other intimately, 34 00:01:57,600 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: and he said that in due time we would. But 35 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: when he lay next to me in the bed, his 36 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: body said something else. I initiated some pregame activities and 37 00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: we had the most romantic intimate experience ever. I was 38 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 1: relieved and very happy happy afterward because I wanted to 39 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 1: make sure he knew what he was doing in the bedroom. 40 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 1: The next morning, he woke me up and said we 41 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 1: needed to talk. He told me that I was too forward, 42 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:28,080 Speaker 1: and I seduced him after he told me needed to 43 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:31,080 Speaker 1: wait to have sex. Now the beautiful night I thought 44 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 1: we had was ruined. He told me that he thought 45 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 1: I was the one for him, but now he's not 46 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: sure if we're compatible. I reminded him that he never 47 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: said stop, and it takes two people to do what 48 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 1: we did. Do you think I took advantage of him? Please? Help? 49 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 1: All right? I don't necessarily know think you took advantage 50 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 1: of him. Of him, I think you took advantage of 51 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 1: the situation. And I'm going to go here. First, you 52 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: mentioned a few things in the letter. You mentioned that 53 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 1: first you met him at church, then you found out 54 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 1: that he had talked to the pastor about you, and 55 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 1: no matter how hard you've tried, he told you that 56 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: you guys need to wait. And what this kind of 57 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 1: says to me is that, as unusual as this seems 58 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:27,360 Speaker 1: in these sexually promiscuous times, that this man is trying 59 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 1: to do the right thing by God and not fornicate 60 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:33,680 Speaker 1: with you. I mean, I think he really wants to wait. 61 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 1: He's told you that he really wants to wait until 62 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: marriage to have sex with you. You guys are playing 63 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: with fire, though. I gotta tell you that he has 64 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: accused you of being too forward and seducing him, But 65 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: I don't understand what he thinks is going to happen 66 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 1: if you guys are sleeping in the same bed, if 67 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:56,480 Speaker 1: you're showering together, and if you're wearing sexy underwear. I mean, 68 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: all of that leads to sex, doesn't it. Yes, he does, 69 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 1: damn every time for me, every every time, right. I 70 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: mean he's strong willed, You're right about that to be 71 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: able to resist all of that most of the time. 72 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 1: But that's why I think you know that maybe he's 73 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:18,480 Speaker 1: trying to be right. By God. You guys have just 74 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: been together for about six months as a couple, so 75 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 1: I think you need to talk more and find out 76 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 1: what's going on with him before you push this any further. 77 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:30,279 Speaker 1: It sounds to me like, you know, he might want 78 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 1: to take it slow and make you his first lady 79 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: one day, but right now he's just not ready. Steve, 80 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 1: That's what I think. I see so much mo in 81 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: this now. Of course you do. Yeah, let's go, let's 82 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 1: not let's not break this one down. Let's tat this 83 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: one down. Okay. I remember, late thirties, I'm dating a 84 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: man I met at church, found out he talked to 85 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:56,919 Speaker 1: your past about me in the past to hint it 86 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 1: that he might be ready to propose. So now you 87 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:04,400 Speaker 1: got excited and decided it was time to take the 88 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 1: relationship to the next level, meaning it was time for sex. 89 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: Let's just review this right here. You're dating a man 90 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:16,280 Speaker 1: that you met at church. This man goes to the pastor, 91 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: obviously saying something to the pastor. Your pastor heads to you, 92 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 1: this man might be ready to propose. You got excited, 93 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 1: and then you decided it was time to have sex. Well, 94 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:36,520 Speaker 1: what church y'all go to? What did the pastor say? 95 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:39,919 Speaker 1: I want to know the conversation you in the pastor 96 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:43,919 Speaker 1: had Right after that, you said it's time to have 97 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:50,800 Speaker 1: some sex. This is a great church. Now, you had 98 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:54,000 Speaker 1: been together for six months and y'all been friends with 99 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 1: two years for y'all start of dating, and you ain't 100 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: had no sex. But we sleep in the same bed 101 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:02,160 Speaker 1: a lot, and I like to sleep in my underwear. 102 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 1: I must admit that he's a strong willed man because 103 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:09,719 Speaker 1: I look great in my underwear and I'm irresistible. Now, 104 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 1: one of these statements can't be true. There, you're gonna 105 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:19,720 Speaker 1: got one of these statements ain't no way in hell 106 00:06:19,920 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 1: can be true. And which one do you think? You 107 00:06:23,120 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: sleeping your und You like sleeping your underwear? Okay, that's true. 108 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 1: I look great in my underwear and I'm irresistible. But 109 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:36,360 Speaker 1: he's sleeping the bed and he don't touch your he 110 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: what some of these statements ain't true? All right, we're 111 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:45,680 Speaker 1: gonna have part two of Steve's response at twenty three 112 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letters. Subject he one 113 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 1: of he thinks I took advantage of him. Uh, we'll 114 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 1: be back right after this. You're listening to show, right, Steve, 115 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:03,440 Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. He really thinks 116 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: I took advantage of him. That's a subject. Well, that 117 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:11,720 Speaker 1: ain't high I see it. You met dating the man 118 00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: the church, knowing him for two years, you all you 119 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:18,360 Speaker 1: found out that he went in there and talked to 120 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: the past about you and it Pastor came back and 121 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: told you he think he ready to propose. So right 122 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:27,040 Speaker 1: after the conversation with the past of y'all church members, 123 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 1: now this your spiritual leader, shepherd, you just got through 124 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 1: talking to him, and right after that conversation, you thought 125 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 1: we stand for us have some sick I don't know 126 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 1: what the pastor said to you. I don't know what 127 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:42,880 Speaker 1: he said to the past and I don't know what 128 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 1: church this is, but I would be very interested in 129 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 1: being a member. Just right off the dribble. Sounds like 130 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 1: a church I could easily just go to if y'all 131 00:07:54,840 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 1: whatever you want. Okay, we started dating. We haven't had sex, 132 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: but we're sleeping the same bed a lot. I like 133 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: to sleep in my underwear. I must admit he's a 134 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:10,960 Speaker 1: strong will man because I look great in my underwear 135 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: and I am irresistible. Man. Well, well, well, somebody ain't 136 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 1: staying all the damn facts. Why are you herping on that? 137 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: I'm just standing, you know, not checked it down or 138 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: it don't stop that. We've also taken a few showers together, 139 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:32,080 Speaker 1: and again, he never made a move on you. You 140 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:38,119 Speaker 1: just said you was irresistible. Now unless you're taking showers 141 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: in that same underwear you're sleeping in, I'm assuming y'all naked, Yes, 142 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:48,920 Speaker 1: And then he'll say to me, you ain't right. You 143 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 1: played too much to let me know he's turned on. Well, 144 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 1: this past weekend he stayed at your house. You slipped 145 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:58,319 Speaker 1: in some of your sexy laundry before you went to bed. 146 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 1: You told him it's time for us to explore each 147 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 1: other intimately, and he said it didn't do time. We 148 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:07,080 Speaker 1: would But what excuse me? But when he laid next 149 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 1: to me in the bed, his body said something else. 150 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 1: I knew it did. I did not mind is screaming 151 00:09:16,040 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: at this point, It's no longer talking. I'm I'm hauling 152 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:30,560 Speaker 1: at myself. Steve say, man, it's stupid, Steve. You see 153 00:09:30,600 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 1: what I'm dying? He did, Steve, Steve not the whistle blowing, 154 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 1: because he can whistle. You know, yeah, Steve. But when 155 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 1: he lay next to me in his bed, his body 156 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:52,720 Speaker 1: says something else. Then she initiated some pregame activities and 157 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 1: we had the most romantic intimate experience ever. I was 158 00:09:57,160 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 1: relieved and very happy afterwards, Coach, I wanted to make 159 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 1: sure he knew what he was doing in the bedroom. 160 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 1: This is a key line to what I'm about to 161 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:07,920 Speaker 1: get to. I wanted to make sure he knew what 162 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:11,560 Speaker 1: he was doing in the bedroom. The next morning, he 163 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: woke me up and said we need to talk. He 164 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:19,080 Speaker 1: told me I was too forward, and I seduced him. 165 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:23,040 Speaker 1: After he told me, we needed to wait to have sex. 166 00:10:24,160 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 1: Not a beautiful night I thought I had was ruined. 167 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:29,120 Speaker 1: He told me he thought I was the one for him, 168 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 1: But now I'm not sure if we're compatible. Right now, 169 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 1: let me tell you what happened. What happened. Shirley's absolutely correct. 170 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 1: The dude was on some straight spiritual stuff. He thought 171 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:45,600 Speaker 1: he was getting something a little bit more wholesome, a 172 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: little bit more pure than what he had last night. 173 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:54,840 Speaker 1: Because you was in there, you said, I wanted to 174 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:58,239 Speaker 1: make sure he knew what he was doing in the bedroom. 175 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 1: Might as well put in parenthe because I damn show dude. 176 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 1: See see see this how I read these letters. I 177 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:11,360 Speaker 1: wanted to make sure him knew what he was doing 178 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:15,760 Speaker 1: in the bedroom cause parentheses, I damn show dude. And 179 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 1: you showed him too. But she showed him too much. 180 00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 1: So now she in't here, just doing way too damn much. 181 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:29,440 Speaker 1: He can't even handle it. Oh, he trying to, he performing, 182 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:34,680 Speaker 1: But you're doing too damn much. You in't here, you you, 183 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: you in't here? Okay? You just good? What did you doing? 184 00:11:55,920 --> 00:11:59,640 Speaker 1: You're the scared demand? Now you too damn much for 185 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 1: him taking the noise. Wow for one man, but not 186 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 1: enough for two that gumming who is you and what 187 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 1: is she to you? You too damn much? All right? 188 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:20,199 Speaker 1: You told him I thought I was one for him, 189 00:12:20,200 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 1: but now he didn't show if you compatible. Yeah, I 190 00:12:23,679 --> 00:12:25,600 Speaker 1: told him. You didn't tell me to stop here. He 191 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:30,520 Speaker 1: couldn't use too much. He couldn't say, stopped you running 192 00:12:30,520 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 1: in here, playing tag by your dad, tasting r you tagging, 193 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:40,480 Speaker 1: bringing yourself in the rain, post your common time, Today's 194 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter put a mask on everything, he know who 195 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 1: you was, and Steve Harvey f slam. Please check out 196 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:53,920 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter podcast, tomand coming up in forty six 197 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:57,320 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour, jumped up on that chandelion, just 198 00:12:57,440 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 1: let go. 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