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Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramas and this is the Street

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Speaker 1: Stoic Podcast, bring to your daily dose of timeless stoic

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Speaker 1: philosophy remix for the hip hop generation. And with that

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Speaker 1: in mind, let's get things started with your daily shot

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Speaker 1: of inspiration. Now. Today we'll be talking all about the

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Speaker 1: stoic idea of practicing resilience when faced with obstacles, failure,

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Speaker 1: and or tragedy. And today we're gonna be pulling a

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Speaker 1: lyric from the late Great Young Dolph on the song

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Speaker 1: everything Happens for a Reason, And in it, Doff says

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Speaker 1: heard that dude's nitcheen couldn't believe it. Everything happens for reason.

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Speaker 1: Two months ago, Dog, I quit fucking with him.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why. I just felt like I couldn't

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Speaker 2: trust that dude. Come to find out, her brother was

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Speaker 2: the plug. So everything happens for a reason.

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Speaker 1: And I think you know what's sort of being spoken

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Speaker 1: about here in this lyric, in the context of it

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Speaker 1: all is a first and foremost life is just wild.

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Speaker 2: It's full of all types of.

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Speaker 1: Twists and turns, and you have to a learn to

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Speaker 1: accept it, but be also trust yourself within that process

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Speaker 1: right and not getting too caught up on how you

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Speaker 1: want things to be, but rather allowing yourself to be

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Speaker 1: able to react in the moment to what things are,

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Speaker 1: if that makes sense. And again, that all just centers

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Speaker 1: around the idea of acceptance. And that's really all that

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Speaker 1: you can do when you're faced with some sort of

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Speaker 1: obstacle or or some sort of challenge, right, is accept

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Speaker 1: it for what it is, and then just react accordingly, right,

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Speaker 1: and take what you can into your hands. And that's

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Speaker 1: kind of what Dolf is talking about here, right. Somebody

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Speaker 1: that he used to be friends with, he used to

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Speaker 1: have around something told him dude was just a little

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Speaker 1: bit off, and luckily he did separate himself from that person, right.

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Speaker 1: And this leads perfectly to a quote from one of

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Speaker 1: the Stokes Marcus really is where he says, trust that

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Speaker 1: all is for the best, where we carry our fate

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Speaker 1: with us and it carries us.

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Speaker 2: And what he's saying is really accepting, like.

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Speaker 1: That age old quote that we've all heard, everything happens

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Speaker 1: for a reason, right, And life isn't happening to you,

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Speaker 1: it's happening for you. And once you can sort of

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Speaker 1: accept that and not view every situation that goes awry

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Speaker 1: as a negative, but instead understand that there's some sort

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Speaker 1: of potential opportunity here, or that it's leading you towards

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Speaker 1: something even better, or in Dolf's case, it's leading you

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Speaker 1: away from somebody who's going to negatively harm you. Right,

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Speaker 1: once you begin to sort of view unplanned obstacles or

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Speaker 1: disappointments through that lens, I think it makes life just

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Speaker 1: a hell a lot easier to live, right, And I

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Speaker 1: relate to this even just on this very simple level.

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Speaker 1: I had a meeting the other day, and it was

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Speaker 1: a really big meeting that I've been looking forward to

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Speaker 1: for a while and involved me traveling a little bit,

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Speaker 1: and on my way in there, I get in an

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Speaker 1: email alert saying that we're going to have to reschedule

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Speaker 1: the meeting right last minute. Of course, it'd be easy

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Speaker 1: to sit there and be annoyed, be frustrated, right, I

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Speaker 1: just prepped for this meeting. I just rushed out of

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Speaker 1: the house this morning, unnecessarily, I paid tolls.

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Speaker 2: I wasted. Guess whatever it might be, all of.

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Speaker 1: The prep work that goes into kind of doing something

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Speaker 1: outside of your normal, everyday routine. I could have been

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Speaker 1: really frustrated about it. I could have fixated on it.

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Speaker 1: I could have felt like people weren't valuing my time.

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Speaker 1: But I sort of quickly moved from beyond those sort

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Speaker 1: of feelings and just said, hey, this is happening for

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Speaker 1: a reason, for whatever reason.

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's meaning.

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Speaker 1: That today I was just meant to go into the

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Speaker 1: office and something good is going to come of it,

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Speaker 1: regardless of this meeting not happening. Or maybe it means

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Speaker 1: that when we reschedule the meeting, it's going to lead

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Speaker 1: to something even better than it would have had it

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Speaker 1: happened today. Right, whatever it might be, certain things again

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Speaker 1: I'm not in control of. But what I was in

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Speaker 1: control of was the attitude that I took towards it

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Speaker 1: and my level of acceptance. Like a lot of us

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Speaker 1: are living a far more stressful life than we need

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Speaker 1: I had scratched my windows still, like you know, scratched

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Speaker 2: But for him, it became this whole big thing about not.

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Speaker 1: Taking care of your stuff and blah blah blah, again

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Speaker 1: allowing it to negatively affect his day unnecessarily. But again,

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Speaker 1: we add extra stresses to our lives by not just

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Speaker 1: accepting things for how they are and finding any sort

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Speaker 1: of positive we can in that particular situation. Right, So

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Speaker 1: again we've heard from young Dolph, We've heard from Marcus

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Speaker 1: aureli Is. I've given you some insight into some very

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Speaker 1: silly examples in my own life about just maintaining this mindset.

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Speaker 1: Now let's talk about how you can make it your

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Speaker 1: mantra for today. But first let's take a quick break

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Speaker 1: and it.

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Speaker 2: Will be right back now.

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Speaker 1: Today talking all about the idea of practicing resilience when faced.

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Speaker 2: With obstacle's failure or tragedy.

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Speaker 1: Right, And we've heard the words of young do we

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Speaker 1: have heard when the stokes and markets are really is.

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Speaker 1: I'll give you some insight into my own sort of

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Speaker 1: just daily practice when it comes to trying not to

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Speaker 2: Now, let's talk about how you can make it your

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Speaker 1: And I think, as with most of the things we

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Speaker 1: talk about, I always go back to your mindset, right.

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Speaker 1: It's about developing routines, right, developing a reflex that sort

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Speaker 1: of kicks in when you find yourself going down a

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Speaker 1: path of anger or disappointment.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: These are little things that are difficult to implement at first,

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Speaker 1: but eventually when you develop enough awareness, right. And that's

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Speaker 1: kind of the idea of just calling these things out,

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Speaker 1: even something stupid like I was talking about my example

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Speaker 1: disappointed by a meeting being canceled. Little things like that

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Speaker 1: create an awareness so that your mind is automatically taking

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Speaker 1: note the next time those feelings come up for you, right,

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Speaker 1: or the next time a similar situation happens. And then

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Speaker 1: when you have that awareness, it's then applying the tool

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Speaker 1: the positive in this? How do I sort of just

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Speaker 1: find acceptance for it? How do I say it is

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Speaker 1: of the thing that you have to begin to train

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Speaker 1: your brain. Like, even when I was talking about that meeting,

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Speaker 1: it's like, all right, how can we've reframed this? What

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Speaker 1: can we do to make something of this day so

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Speaker 1: it's not a big disappointment, so that it is not.

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Speaker 1: And again, this is easier said than done when it

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Speaker 1: comes to really heavy moments. I completely get that, But

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Speaker 1: it is the same ideology, right, the same methodology that

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Speaker 1: will save you from adding unnecessary stress to your life.

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Speaker 1: Now to recap all we talked about today, you have

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Speaker 1: young Dolph sort of just recognizing that life is full

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Speaker 1: of surprises, right, talking about somebody that was a part

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Speaker 1: talking about how he intuitively just sort of separated himself

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Speaker 1: And I think this leads perfectly into what Marcus Aurelius

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: So Dolf, following his intuition, the part that he was

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Speaker 1: a bit by separating himself from said person.

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Speaker 2: Right, that's the part that we do control.

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Speaker 1: And even some of the more mundane examples that I

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Speaker 1: my life, accepting what is, taking into control what I can,

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Speaker 2: This trip into the office, whatever it.

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Speaker 1: Might be, and then accepting everything else for what it is,

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Speaker 1: you didn't plan on happens, develop the reflex to accept it,

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Speaker 1: do what you can, and then move on from anything

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Speaker 1: else that is beyond your control, with the understanding that

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Speaker 1: your partner in crime here, fate is going to take

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Speaker 1: care of the rest. It's doing what it's supposed to do,

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Speaker 1: and it's doing what's best for you, even if you

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Speaker 1: can't see the work that's being done right now. Now,

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Speaker 1: with that said, thank you so much for checking out

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Speaker 1: the Street Stoke Podcast. Do your best to apply these

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Speaker 1: concepts that we discussed today into your everyday life, and

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Speaker 1: I will catch you next time. The Street Stoke Podcast

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