1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: All right, angel and Valdosta writes, my ex boyfriend and 2 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: his wife invited me to their baby shower. My husband 3 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 1: thinks it's a little strange, but I'm friends with my 4 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: ex and I'm thinking about going. What's wrong with celebrating 5 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:17,120 Speaker 1: with the mommy to be and my ex boyfriend? 6 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:18,439 Speaker 2: What's wrong with that? 7 00:00:18,680 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 3: I don't understand how y'all keep trying to keep these 8 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 3: relationships alive. And your husband then told you that seems 9 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 3: a little bit strange to him, but you're gonna go anywhere. 10 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 3: How important is that baby shower to you? How important 11 00:00:32,040 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 3: is it for him that you are there? You see 12 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 3: what I'm saying, y'all got too much importance and relevance 13 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:42,200 Speaker 3: put on each other at the expense of someone else. 14 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:45,519 Speaker 2: It don't make no sense. He ain't cho. Man? Is 15 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 2: your ex boyfriend? That ain't cho? Baby? And your husband. 16 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:55,760 Speaker 3: Said that seems a little strange because we're friends, really really, 17 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 3: so I guess y'all was friends for y'all start a date, 18 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 3: and then if y'all was dating, he was your friend, 19 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 3: and now y'all have broke up, y'all steal friend. 20 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 2: Well see how that sound crazy? You see how that. 21 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 4: Sounds all right, So she just wants to know what's 22 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:17,480 Speaker 4: wrong with it. You just laid it out for Yeah. 23 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 2: It doesn't make any sense your husband. It seems strange to. 24 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 4: Him, all right. 25 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:27,960 Speaker 1: Moving on to Nathaniel in the Bronx, Nathaniel writes, my 26 00:01:28,080 --> 00:01:30,120 Speaker 1: wife called when I was in a meeting with a 27 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: female co worker. I mentioned for my co I motioned 28 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:36,759 Speaker 1: for my co worker to be quiet. My coworker called 29 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,399 Speaker 1: me a sucker for telling her to be quiet when 30 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 1: my wife knows I'm at work. Did I handle that 31 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:44,479 Speaker 1: the right way or not? 32 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 3: Wait a minute, she called you a sucker? Why you 33 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 3: was on the phone. 34 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: Well, well, it doesn't say that. It doesn't say that. 35 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 4: She he motioned for his coworker to be quiet. 36 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: Then she called him a sucker for telling her to 37 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: be quiet when his wife knows that he's at work. 38 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 1: But she could have You're absolutely right, she could have. 39 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:09,919 Speaker 1: Sounds like she did it later. 40 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 3: Either way, your coworker is out of line. Yeah, that's 41 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 3: an out of line. You know, people that's not in 42 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 3: relationships and marriage don't really know the dynamics of it 43 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 3: all the time, and they always oh you, so you 44 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 3: can't have a you can't have a female friend exactly. 45 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 2: Oh so you ain't allowed to talk to nobody. No, no, 46 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 2: I'm not. 47 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 4: No, I wouldn't be in a relationship like that. Uh yeah, 48 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 4: Boddy tells me. 49 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 2: You can't have no female friends. No I can't. 50 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 4: No, she can't have male friends my wife, so no, no. 51 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 4: So yeah, well who. 52 00:02:46,360 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 5: Is it that don't know? That sign that that you 53 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 5: when you do that sign language and say I'm on 54 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:52,359 Speaker 5: the phone, I'm gonna take this call. 55 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, who over? They're talking, but she's gonna call you 56 00:02:58,160 --> 00:02:58,639 Speaker 4: a sucker. 57 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 2: You don't need You. 58 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 3: Don't need to have because you know, if your wife 59 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:07,920 Speaker 3: hears this voice, she gonna go, who is that? And 60 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 3: then you that's my coworker. They can't wait a minute. 61 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:13,360 Speaker 3: Where are you right now? 62 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 2: Then here we go. 63 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, the question you're right. 64 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:21,640 Speaker 4: Thing you're saying is right. 65 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 2: Watch she up on you? Where where she can hear 66 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:25,400 Speaker 2: your conversation? 67 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 4: That part all of that work to do? 68 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, maybe I need to come down there 69 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: and meet her. 70 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 2: Every time I call you, she in your office. 71 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 4: Right. 72 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: So to his question, did I handle it the right 73 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 1: way or not, you're saying. 74 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 3: You handled it the perfect way, and man and let 75 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 3: me tell you something, man, Don't keep trying to justify 76 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 3: nothing to your single coworker that's got nobody. 77 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 4: That's what I wanted you to say. You got it 78 00:03:59,200 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 4: with her? 79 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 2: Yeah? Man, Yeah, she's troubled. 80 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 4: For sure's messy. 81 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 2: I ain't a good work wife, you know what I'm saying. 82 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 2: Let me let me just. 83 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 1: Moving on to a mirr in Inglewood, A mirror writes, 84 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:17,680 Speaker 1: my seventeen year old son snuck his girlfriend and a 85 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: friend into my house. I found him and the girls 86 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 1: in his bed, but still fully clothed, still fully clothed. 87 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: I didn't embarrass him, but I wanted to. He swore 88 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,000 Speaker 1: he wasn't going to have sex with him. Why sneak 89 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:32,920 Speaker 1: around with them? Why sneak around? 90 00:04:32,960 --> 00:04:36,440 Speaker 4: Then? Huh, what's gonna happen at my house? 91 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:38,480 Speaker 2: Because he's seventeen? 92 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 3: I wish at seventeen I had the conversation to get 93 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 3: two girls to come in late on a sofa withness. 94 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 2: No, if I could go to the girls to come 95 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 2: and go to. 96 00:04:56,880 --> 00:05:02,040 Speaker 3: The park with me at seven, anything, brother, let me 97 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:07,839 Speaker 3: tell him if I had the verbal skills to able 98 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 3: to be able to talk. 99 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 2: In nineteen seventy four. In nineteen seventy four. 100 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 3: I was seventeen years old, because I went to college 101 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 3: at seventeen. If I had to skill sick to talk 102 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 3: two of them chicks into doing anything with me, i'd 103 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 3: of did. 104 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 2: Jude. 105 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:32,920 Speaker 4: All the guys. 106 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 3: Agree, Yes, Yes, I guess me two women, y'all gonna 107 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:40,920 Speaker 3: come lay down on my bed? 108 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:41,600 Speaker 1: Uh huh? 109 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 5: Now, but well, clearly he don't know what he doing 110 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:49,200 Speaker 5: in now all they club? 111 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 4: But what about the mother saying she didn't want to 112 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 4: embarrass him? 113 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:57,839 Speaker 5: Yell, do you know I would have. 114 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 3: Exactly we all got beat with the belt me and yeah, 115 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 3: and she ain't even got to know your mama. 116 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 2: You just in her house, right, ain't sitting up in 117 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 2: here with your. 118 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 4: Exactly bad tale. 119 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 2: Throws off and make chills in him. And I'm not cheer, 120 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 2: ain't grandma? Yeah? All right? 121 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: Last one, Steve, Last one. This is from Cassie and 122 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:34,960 Speaker 1: Saint Paul. Cassie writes, my husband wants to move his 123 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: mother in with us, and I'm all for it because 124 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:40,360 Speaker 1: she's a great cook. He said, his mom is not 125 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 1: going to lift a finger if she comes to live 126 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: with us. That's not going to work for me. That's 127 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 1: not going to work for me, why can't she contribute 128 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 1: to the household? 129 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 2: Wo see, listen to me, don't listen to. 130 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 3: Your hus because when you are already there and his 131 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 3: mama coming in and you want her to come in, 132 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:01,599 Speaker 3: he's not gonna run anything anyway. And all you got 133 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 3: to do is say it to his mother, you know, Mama, Mama, 134 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 3: Mama Williams. I show love your chicken and dumplings, or 135 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 3: mama to all the way you made that dressing, Thank 136 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 3: you so much. 137 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 2: Uh huh. 138 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 3: The woman is going to contribute. Most grown women want 139 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 3: to contribute. Yeah, so don't my mama ain't gonna lift 140 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 3: the finger. 141 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 4: Boy, Shut up, I know, why do we even say 142 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 4: that to his wife? 143 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 2: Shut up, lady, don't even worry about that. 144 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, all right, thank you, clo. 145 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 1: You're listening to Harvey Morning Show.